Being an infj is both amazing, sad and lonely at times- when someone is talking to you - you already figured out what that person is trying to say in seconds before they even finished speaking.
@@OAlem when I refer to loneliness I mean like someone who really gets you. Sometimes all you want is to be understood. I have no problem being on my own- it’s lonely in the sense of that no one around you will understand you or the type of emotions you experience. You appear calm on the surface while your turbulent on the inside.
@@mykulpierce Exactly😂.and wat actually happens wen u complete their sentence is dey r lyk "Oh so u dont lyk listening to me rit"🙄😤 Dat shit happens all the time🤧
@@g-force1699 this thing is lile extremely true. I like solitude and spending time with myself for reflection and putting together my own thoughts and mind battles. But I do feel lonely at times when I realise like not a single soul can actually get u the way that I have understood souls around me.
INFJs are also amazing at acting like listening. Like u just stand there physically but ur mind is somewhere else. The best thing about this is when ur mind comes back I am amazing at my replies which fits the topic they were actually talkinh about.
I wouldn't call it acting, so much as switching gears. I've noticed that I'll occasionally drift off into another though because I know my subconscious is still paying attention. The subconscious is our primary information gathering process as an INFJ (intuition), so it makes sense that you consciously focus on something else yet still have a good reply. It could also be that you heard enough to predict the underlying point in the conversation and you switch your conscious focus somewhere else while politely waiting for them to finish. I could also be entirely wrong, but this is just my personal INFJ experience.
Well, I’m certainly an INFJ, but throughout my life I’ve always wondered why complete strangers will approach me, and will tell me their life stories. It gets even more interesting. Everywhere I go, younger children and infants will initially look at me, and keep staring. It is very strange to say the least...
So I’m recently discovering I’m an INFJ personality,it was something that I’d never given much thought to in the past but it got to a point where it felt like I was all alone,like I was seeing things that were blatantly not right yet everyone seemed to either ignore it or not see it at all,I was like “I know I’m not THAT smart,like I can’t be the only 1 who sees this?”....the more I looked into different personality types the clearer it became......
"I was seeing things that were blatantly not right yet everyone seemed to either ignore it or not see it at all" - Never doubt your intuition, no matter what someone else says. Trust what you see and feel and take action based on those feelings. Never question your decision even if it was wrong. Your intuition will be right more often than wrong.
The ying yang ☯️ the light is in you the duality the intuitive an intuition you have master it by listen to yourself! The balance both side of u an learn all about you enjoy
That's okay bro. For me, I will just at least tolerate them for months or year and see if they've changed or not with all the help I provided. If they haven't changed, then they have just lost a good companion. That's where I learned to not give my energy/time to someone who treats shit and cannot change for the good.
I daydream in the middle of group conversations …and someone might say a phrase and I start thinking about (songs, commercials, books) where I’ve heard the phrase or word … but when I hear someone say something interesting , I come back to reality …when I’m daydreaming I guess I am staring …but not intentionally staring at anything inparticular. As a person who is INFJ, I find I’m good at technical support and fixing other peoples problems.
it really accurate. One of the easiest sign is the intense stare, I notice this in most of the infj on youtube and in myself too. Our gaze is really strong and intense and seem really focus. Seem cold and sad from distance and warm and bright when speaking. The infj seem more attractive than I thought. I'll try using these sign to spot other Infj, never met one around me.
We're also great at catching liars.... we do listen to each and every detail, so the next time you tell your story and the details change, we'll call you out on it!!
true. and thats why sometimes im losing my respect to others bc sometimes thats upset me very much when i found them not telling the truth or lies. and also thats hurt me as well.
My daughter always trips on how I can walk into a shop and come out 5 minutes later with another's life story. I still don't understand how but it never fails. Also on the subject of hanging around to see if someone may need help, I will linger around for an extra 30 seconds to see if someone is going to need a helping hand
@@PSYCH-O or ask you to stop makin videos only about infj. Looks like you are doing them cause "the rarest personality type". Well it shifted,it is ENTJ now. Why do so many videos only about infj? There are 15 more mbti types. Never saw you do a video about any extroverted type,btw
I definitely have issues stumbling over my words at times. Everything comes out all jumbled up when I am nervous talking about myself to people I don’t know very well. I much prefer to type things out. It takes me a while to arrive at what I really want to say and arrange it clearly for others to understand properly.
Yes. I must think about what my true ultimate position is on something too.. I like having notes when talking on the phone so I will remember to make all my points. Once I get comfortable with a person I can be spontaneous tho.
I doubted in the past that I was an INFJ but saw a video on one. So I hopped on the internet to take the test to my surprise I'm an INFJ. And ever since finding that out it has helped explain a fuck of a lot of things in my life. Great listener to others and not just often but always misunderstood. I'm definately unapproachable looking from the outside. I just figure if I'm worth it to you, you will be smart amd dig deeper, if not well, you probably weren't worth knowing anyway. To quote a movie line, "it is the glory of God to conceal a matter and the honor of Kings to search it out " I don't do it on purpose it just takes a lot for me to trust people anymore. Life lessons learned.
@@rupinderh01 ok I looked up the word enneogra. If they have a test online free I will take it. Now I gotta look up what shadow work is. Never heard of either of these.
Damn, this was spot on😬 Except the “not standing out” part, I definitely stand out, I’m just uncomfortable🤣 But I just looked at myself in the mirror like I do when I’m listening to someone and… I’m terrified🤣. Like I am so sorry to everyone to talks to me, I’m like, absorbing your soul through my stare🤣🤣🤣
Yes!! That’s me. Except my problem is that people always I’m hitting on them or flirting with them because of my stare. But it’s just rude to not pay attention to someone talking to me. 🤷🏽♀️
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There's definitely a time and place for small talk! Yet a relationship surrounding small talk such as that with a co-worker can get quite stale for most INTPs. 😅
Same here! Because I'm constantly thinking or analyzing. Why I look mad when I'm thinking, who's to say. It used to come up a lot when I was young, before I was able to realize how I project.
I finally tried to explain to my coworkers, “I’m not mad. I’m just. Always. THINKING.” I still don’t think they understood. As INFJ I have to constantly remind myself, Not everyone ruminates the way I do. It has helped me to have more patience with others’ thought processes.
Yes! On the solo travel instead of group travel. I solo traveled across country last year and the minute I let others know, they were horrified and concerned for my safety. That was so sweet and also annoying at the same time. My younger sibling just laughed and said he felt sorry for any idiots that would approach me threatening my safety. Can't judge a book by the cover, yet MOST people do. Btw, older INFJ here and have been dealing with this for a long, long time LOL
1 Figurative Language Yeaaah I've come to realise that I most likely have issues communicating ideas to others. When you encounter the same issue with people time & time again, the real problem is probably with you. So I make weird comparisons & try to simplify what I'm trying to get across. 2 Uncanny Listening Skills Yes. This is my skill. That one thing I know 110% I can do well & has been a common compliment throughout my life. Better in person than online, although I have made a few friends online because of it. Remembering every minor detail however....no. I'll remember some things. But unless I'm making notes a lot will be gone. Its a very in the moment thing.
3 The INFJ Stare Legitimately thought it was an autism thing until I heard about this. I've had comments & caught myself a few times due to my videos. 4 Always Wanting To Help To a fault sometimes. My day has been taken from me multiple times due to me distaste of saying no when I know I can help. I think a lot of it comes from guilt due to the help I have received in life. 5 Seemingly Cold Demeanour lol yeah if you caught me in public I'd either look angry or depressed. Its like when not in a conversation with a person I'm in my head. When someone gets my attention I snap from one to the other. 6 A Strong Sense Of Independence To the point I'm an absolute pain in the ass yes. I go with what my heart & head tell me is right & damn what anyone else thinks. Sure I'll listen. But if my head & heart disagree you ain't convincing me. 7 They Try Not To Stand Out Do not want to be the centre of attention at all. The irony is my clothing style is so basic & simple that I actually feel like I stand out where I live. But I point to number 6. A lot of INFJ traits are kind of contradictory. 8 Depth & Intensity I legit worry that I come across as insane or unhinged. & when I start I find it hard to shut up.
This is very accurate regarding the INFJ personality. I am able to read between the lines, outside the lines, behind the lines, in front of the lines, above the lines, below the lines, in and through the lines, all around the lines and even at an angle. So all I need do is listen for a moment and I generally get the gist of a conversation. It's so uncanny sometimes that it scares even me , so I try to stay away from people as much as I possibly can. Most times I scare them away any way because they most times can't take the truth and/or my blunt frankness.
So happy for these videos ! Truly help me feel less alone. I get so frustrated to see business working toward a “goal” by spending hours documenting the problem when they could fix it in 5 minutes. So we really need 40 man hours and 20 slide PowerPoint to talk about a 5 min repair🤦♀️?
I have never felt so understood in my life, this video just described me. It used to hurt me when people would say to me the first time they saw me they were afraid to talk to me cause I always look so unfriendly and uninteresting to people especially when I am walking alone.
Number 2 for me doesn't happen that often, because of number 3. I'm listening to someone and understanding everything, then my mind starts to work on a huge number of scenarios and a deep evaluation of each one of them, forgetting that I'm in the middle of a conversation, staring at the void and actually sometimes not even hearing what the person is saying anymore.
I don't linger in grocery aisles, but I do quickly pick up when an elderly individual needs help finding something. And..I help. It does give that sappy warm feeling inside as well as that silent slap on the back as you say inwardly, "BRILLIANT!!'
I am an INFJ and can really see myself here. There was a time when I was required to write a funny skit for a missionary conference as a missionary going to the field. I felt betrayed because I felt it was beyond my writing abilities. As it turned out, the people were so accepting of what I wrote and the speaker said “I am supposed to follow that? That is not fair” I went on to become a writer from there. But, at the time it was six sleepless weeks until we put it on. I do do stare! There are times when people assume I am not onboard with something when I might be. I do stumble over my words, and prefer texting to talking but have become a writer.
THANK YOU for this video! I have sent it to my colleague with whom I work 8 years and his reaction was simply "That's why!..." 😂 being an INFJ is such fun sometimes 😁
I usually have a sense, even with people I meet only online, of who might be an infj like me. I am retired now, but when I was working, I was very serious about my job and about doing it well and I was told more than once that I was difficult to approach or even "scary." Given that I am always the shortest person in the room, this is pretty funny to me but the speeches that the bigwigs gave at my retirement party certainly made it clear that they saw me as something of a tyrant. I had a boss toward the end of my career tell me that I cared too much. And I told him that I never knew that caring about how you did your job was a bad thing. But he was right, I did care too much and that is part of what made me so intimidating. I rarely get attention from people in public like if I'm grocery shopping or whatever and they seem sort of surprised when I speak to them. The part in this video about basically INFJs walking their own path is so incredibly true for me! I am originally from a small town in Ohio and getting married and having babies was a big deal and people started doing it at the end of high school or very soon after. I have never been married and never had children and I've had a really happy life but to most people it seems pitiful. I find it pitiful that people are unable to imagine or understand people who led a life different from them who made different choices than they did.
Great video. Even though I discovered I am INFJ a few months ago. This helps me to identify others and hope to find some to get to know. I do know an INFJ and dang she is just busy with her life and I can't seem to get much time with her to expand our friendship further. So this helps. Maybe I will find more by paying closer attention to those that are like me.
Thats awesome. Yes, self reflection and intentionally paying attention to your own tendencies can also be quite enlightening! Thank you for watching, my fellow INFJ 🙏
So easy to get lost in your thoughts, like the lass wondering down the street at the 5 min mark, that’s me and like you said we “awaken “ to another person when they intercept that thought process, when they are wanting advice etc. then we get into drive to do what is needed to help that person.
blessings and curses are sides of the same coin often. you can choose to let negativity stifle your success or you can use it to learn for next time. Defeat is necessary for victory. "Ask a question and be a fool for a minute, or never ask and remain a fool for a lifetime."
I think you mean it is hard to be as intense as we are. My friend says can you ever take it easy? Nope, I am always plotting, and planning, and imagining!
We should come up with at least an annual meetings of our similar minds somewhere! I've never met another infj in my life and I would love to see how we all would get along together! The best of the very best business partners as well!!
An infj who enjoys poetry and reading, loves learning about history, forensics and etc hits different I usually use more figurtive language and poetic elements in my sentences😅 people might not know what Im trying to say😅😅😅
Finally! Focus on well adjusted INFJs. Rather than all the interpersonal disconnects, which are more characteristic of other compounding issues, like mental health.
I was a cheerleader half my life, was always in the front, BUT HATED ATTENTION AND SPOTLIGHT. I simply enjoyed cheering, didn’t even know what was going on during the games 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly how I felt when I sang in church. I didn’t enjoy being looked at, I just love singing so much. It was especially hard when people would approach me after like “I love your singing!” My first internal reaction would be “it wasn’t for you, I don’t know what you want me to say” 😭
Knowing this info helps me to build on my weaknesses so i can be a mutually better person to those whom i can benefit in superficial or deep relationships. Helps to know who I am too! In recent years, I’ve lost all meaning. Thank you.
I love your videos, i wish being an INFJ wasn't so lonely and isolating, as it feels like whenever you try to get close to someone, they will often push away, as you delve too deeply into their minds, than most people are often comfortable with, without even trying at all.
The INFJ stare. As a male, I found I had to be careful talking with a woman. I tend to put all my concentration into a conversation, listening to, looking at the face and any body language. It can make a woman very uncomfortable. I have learned to look away from a woman who does not know me very well when having a one-on-one conversation. If you are a young, good looking INFJ male, be really careful of a woman's partner, he/she can misinterpret the attention you are giving their partner.
You know what, I wonder this all the time.. Because INFJ need people to open up in order to feel comfortable around them, yet INFJs are so reluctant to open up, I doubt it would be easy to get to know one another. However, if INFJs were to discuss similar interests it would make all the difference. I think it's situation-sensitive , not to mention a rare occurrence.
It's easy.. Look at the weird one.. Who are mostly alone but easily mingle if needed.. Sometimes you can't feel their presence but at another time they can have a strong presence.. 🙃🙃🙃
damn talk about feeling exposed ::laughing:: all i can say is i resemble these remarks. its one of the reasons why people either like or hate infjs. at least in my case. when they need me they like me for the very same traits that they can also hate. we see too much and its disconcerting
I could never take being told what to do at work. I’m afraid I looked on all the bosses as complete idiots who couldn’t run a bath never mind a company.
That’s a big problem for me. The bosses seem to always have motivations geared toward profits over people, which is incongruent with my personal values and makes it difficult to trust them or follow their leadership. I am working to change this viewpoint, so that I can at least find some way to work with them, rather than actively resisting their every initiative 🤣
@@kdkaboom55 Why change? From my perspective you have the correct world view. Stop working for them, be your own boss and spread good around your community.
Just too perfect, , they say I frown but strangers would prefer asking me questions. I hate to be centre of attraction. But in Nigeria and as a guy it's not easy.
I've learned over the years to take good care of myself and that I can't help everyone. I help those who really need my help and accept my help. I have discovered that I am a combination of an INFJ type A heyoka empath and I have never reincarnated. I was a seraph angel who came directly to earth to heal people. I feel everything and everyone well and read people like a book. I use my powers to do good things in the world. As a massage therapist I treat and heal people where needed. But the combination I own is very powerful and I am well aware of that.
Yes, we are amazing listeners because we care about others feelings. But with me, if I'm talking to someone and their eyes wonder away or they become distracted. I stop speaking immediately. It's so disrespectful to me.
I recently find out that I m infj and now I feel better. I past as a joke i always told my friends that some day , the spaceship from motherland will come for me to bring me back. Now I realized I am not alone in this planet. But how can I find infj friends? We should do something 🤔
I don't know how I can actually describe the accuracy of these videos. All recent thoughts as I'm successfuly figuring out how to organize my thoughts.
Well... This explains why I have always felt so alone and ostracized by my community. The rarest personality type. Go figure... Explains why I feel like I cannot fully connect with most people. I can understand them, but they can’t understand me and just think I’m weird. I made a self-portrait sculpture bust one time and my sculpture professor said it looked like the stare I usually give that looks right through people and said it was kind of creepy. Which made me feel embarrassed because he noticed it, but also oddly proud my intuitive gift was actually being recognized by another person.
I'm either all into it or completely out. If something spark my interest or I'm trying to decipher needs and wants. I've never been able to get comfortable with ongoing approached individual's. Either you really got something to say or you are just pulled in. I think people can sense without even knowing especially the one's that don't keep up with phycology or the latest improvement of life skills. If we do engage and attend to a person's chat we pretty much already know if they really got something to say. It's funny but I really never get approached unless its worth while. Our third eyes peripheral can usually spot a chatty mate from far off. If you want to talk about the weather with me I'm known to bring up alot More than the temperature lol
Just recently I came to know that I am an INFJ-T personality. It shocks me actually but most of the time I am misunderstood by the way I look and behave most especially in the public. Now this video shares a lot of ideas that made me realized how am I. Thanks for sharing. Just wanna ask if this personality is good or not? Thanks and be safe always
People see me I look vary stoic and cold. If I open up with a person. Its like I'm a completely different person. I don't know alot of times when it will happen. It has to be in a setting where it's me and them. I have shocked people in the past. The deep conversation we will have. I also make a extreme effort to to never stare at people. I really want too sometimes. I have become vary sneaky at it. I don't want them to catch me.
I enjoyed your vidio the ways to spot us! all 9 were spot on except i think theres at least 10 or, number 10 as to spoting one i think is talents for instance a i n f j, or us dont like titles, but our talents are many we may paint, or sketch , alot of talents . you seem to do a sertain talent alone. great way of enjoying alone time with a reason.. thankzz Mickalis j
That's me to a T. People think I'm either sad angry or plotting something!🤣 that's fine with me because they tend to leave me alone, that goes well with with my APD
My mom gets annoyed when i figure out what she was about to say and I have already blurted out: IK so now leave me alone. Then she gets mad and I get in trouble :(
Inherently honest people are always correcting even the most minor mistake they make verbally, they never make generalizations, they want to make sure you understand them perfectly so there are always qualifiers for any statement they make. I want to know if this is infj as well
I put all my thoughts on paper. I've written a book over the last month if you put it all together and have somebody edit it of course it wouldn't make much sense to anybody but me but I have written enough crap to fill a 500 page book. When I go back and look at it most of it I end up throwing away but some of it I save....not much but some...
I was happy when I discovered I am am infj-A type it made perfect sense! I am also a virgo I don't know which one is harder for humans to u understand 😅
Yes! Thank you! This comment right here☝️ I'm 29 and using only young and attractive people have always annoyed me (feels like subtle manipulation to attract young people), especially seeing as the INFJ mbti character is an older gentlemen. It doesn't matter what someone looks like, because at the end of the day, it's our minds and hearts that impact the world. Life's too short to give a dang about any of that other stuff. ♥️
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As an INFJ, I am a chameleon. Ask 20 different ppl who I am, and they will all describe someone different. I always draw my thoughts out in pictures. Works for me. That is if you can catch me outside. I am a reclusive enigma.
I get lost for words when some states I did a good deed and goes on about it or worse to others around them. Including family. I either say eh or tell my friends I wish it was the social norm.
Independence and not confining to gender roles are spot on. In my opinion gender has been used as a copout and does annoy me when done so. Does anyone think INFJs are made by life or just born different? Just curious
Gender is just a form of expression, you can express what you want until it imposes on others. This should rarely be a problem but some people either hate on it or with some semblance of intelligence accept it and move on (with a little room for inquiry or curiosity).
I think you’re born an infj , as a child I was very aware of the fact that I was different, more matured, more interested in understanding the counter parts of things, more organised, and just really invested in the future and possibilities. I only discovered what I am until recently, the emotions I felt was often very painful and will leave you numb…some would argue depression…but I think it’s because of getting too emotionally involved with other’s problems as its your nature to help others and make them feel happy , and seeing others unhappy hurts you, even if you don’t know them but that’s just your intuition. I don’t think you can become an infj over night, your mind is just so differently wired. You have experienced things and live very differently all your life.
I meet one a regular basis..seem him in the mirror everyday. With some of the traits you really have to learn to live with. When concentrated my face changes..doing things on my own. People say…are you angry. I try to give them a smile…nope..I am this way when concentrated. Sorry that won’t change. I have been hearing that ever since I can remember.
So an infj on the ASD spectrum is like a double up as both traits wire towards pattern orientated thinking. Lol also my inner language is abstract metaphors, as all things in life are subjective aside what is.
what a paradox sometimes especially when romantic relationships are involved. You love the person, but you can't get them past some of their incompatible traits ruining said relationship. How many chances do you give someone that just does not get it? i'm a turtle on my back and i can't get back up. Relationships are a paradox, or maybe i'm insane trying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results at this point?
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Being an infj is both amazing, sad and lonely at times- when someone is talking to you - you already figured out what that person is trying to say in seconds before they even finished speaking.
Haha it definitely takes practice refraining from completing people's sentences.
An essential aspect of INFJ is that we don't mind being alone so "loneliness" is never something we complain about. At least healthy INFJs.
@@OAlem when I refer to loneliness I mean like someone who really gets you. Sometimes all you want is to be understood. I have no problem being on my own- it’s lonely in the sense of that no one around you will understand you or the type of emotions you experience. You appear calm on the surface while your turbulent on the inside.
@@mykulpierce Exactly😂.and wat actually happens wen u complete their sentence is dey r lyk "Oh so u dont lyk listening to me rit"🙄😤
Dat shit happens all the time🤧
@@g-force1699 this thing is lile extremely true. I like solitude and spending time with myself for reflection and putting together my own thoughts and mind battles. But I do feel lonely at times when I realise like not a single soul can actually get u the way that I have understood souls around me.
INFJs are also amazing at acting like listening. Like u just stand there physically but ur mind is somewhere else. The best thing about this is when ur mind comes back I am amazing at my replies which fits the topic they were actually talkinh about.
I wouldn't call it acting, so much as switching gears. I've noticed that I'll occasionally drift off into another though because I know my subconscious is still paying attention. The subconscious is our primary information gathering process as an INFJ (intuition), so it makes sense that you consciously focus on something else yet still have a good reply. It could also be that you heard enough to predict the underlying point in the conversation and you switch your conscious focus somewhere else while politely waiting for them to finish. I could also be entirely wrong, but this is just my personal INFJ experience.
@@markiusmcc yea right..this is wat I was talking about.
@@G2Chanakya ah ok, my bad I misunderstood. We're on the same page then 👍
@@markiusmcc yea. Mostly my comeback talks will be crct. U just put it better with subconscious and consciousn mind.
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Well, I’m certainly an INFJ, but throughout my life I’ve always wondered why complete strangers will approach me, and will tell me their life stories. It gets even more interesting. Everywhere I go, younger children and infants will initially look at me, and keep staring. It is very strange to say the least...
😅😅😅💯🙌 you have the light in yourself yin yang ☯️ north south nodes duality! Not strange balance both sides!
this happens to me as well so i understand the strangeness.
Oh wow! Everything you said happens to me all the time.
You deadass had me at life story😭😭
Lol, it’s so creepy how this is all true.
My philosophy as an INFJ is "Tell me what it is, tell me why it isn't, I'll take it from there"
Love that.. thanks for sharing! 🙏
Ying yang ☯️ duality! North South nodes lmfao 🤣
Definitely exceptionally said!
Literally! Lmfao XD
I'm INFJ-A , I prefer reading comments than watching the Video but I'm listening at the same time.
So effin true lmfao 😂
So I’m recently discovering I’m an INFJ personality,it was something that I’d never given much thought to in the past but it got to a point where it felt like I was all alone,like I was seeing things that were blatantly not right yet everyone seemed to either ignore it or not see it at all,I was like “I know I’m not THAT smart,like I can’t be the only 1 who sees this?”....the more I looked into different personality types the clearer it became......
"I was seeing things that were blatantly not right yet everyone seemed to either ignore it or not see it at all" - Never doubt your intuition, no matter what someone else says. Trust what you see and feel and take action based on those feelings. Never question your decision even if it was wrong. Your intuition will be right more often than wrong.
The ying yang ☯️ the light is in you the duality the intuitive an intuition you have master it by listen to yourself! The balance both side of u an learn all about you enjoy
Apart for helping everyone INFJ sees its accurate.Idk how about other INFJ's but I dont waste my energy on helping those who treat me like shit
Same
I will see everything they could be doing wrong and not lift a damn finger to correct or help. Let them destroy themselves.
Learned this the hard way; don't waste your energy on someone who doesn't want to change.
That's okay bro. For me, I will just at least tolerate them for months or year and see if they've changed or not with all the help I provided. If they haven't changed, then they have just lost a good companion. That's where I learned to not give my energy/time to someone who treats shit and cannot change for the good.
@@Amanita._.Verosa._. especially to close-minded people 😁
I daydream in the middle of group conversations …and someone might say a phrase and I start thinking about (songs, commercials, books) where I’ve heard the phrase or word … but when I hear someone say something interesting , I come back to reality …when I’m daydreaming I guess I am staring …but not intentionally staring at anything inparticular. As a person who is INFJ, I find I’m good at technical support and fixing other peoples problems.
it really accurate. One of the easiest sign is the intense stare, I notice this in most of the infj on youtube and in myself too. Our gaze is really strong and intense and seem really focus. Seem cold and sad from distance and warm and bright when speaking. The infj seem more attractive than I thought. I'll try using these sign to spot other Infj, never met one around me.
Yes, exactly! Thank you for watching 🙌
Every asked why we never met another infj in the same area ?
I am an entp and agreed with most things he said except the solo wandering thing. And i also have that concentrated stare.
I’m an INFJ, and nearly everything you said about INFJ is accurate in my case!
Awesome! Thanks for the authentic feedback 🙏
INTJ here. Y'all are awesome, don't doubt yourself.
We're also great at catching liars.... we do listen to each and every detail, so the next time you tell your story and the details change, we'll call you out on it!!
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And even if we don’t bother pointing it out we always notice 😉
Totally tho I feel it if some1 is lying with there shifty energy.
@@claireokeeffe711 yup
true. and thats why sometimes im losing my respect to others bc sometimes thats upset me very much when i found them not telling the truth or lies. and also thats hurt me as well.
This video's content is very accurate. I got that a lot about my cold demeanor by people that don't know me, until they get to know me
My daughter always trips on how I can walk into a shop and come out 5 minutes later with another's life story. I still don't understand how but it never fails. Also on the subject of hanging around to see if someone may need help, I will linger around for an extra 30 seconds to see if someone is going to need a helping hand
Ahhh now we need to step up our blending in game or just stay inside indefinitely! ;-) thanks for the information!
Haha, thanks for watching! 🙏
Definitely! Ha, So well said i cant find any excuse to retest myself... 🤔
@@PSYCH-O or ask you to stop makin videos only about infj. Looks like you are doing them cause "the rarest personality type". Well it shifted,it is ENTJ now. Why do so many videos only about infj? There are 15 more mbti types. Never saw you do a video about any extroverted type,btw
I definitely have issues stumbling over my words at times. Everything comes out all jumbled up when I am nervous talking about myself to people I don’t know very well. I much prefer to type things out. It takes me a while to arrive at what I really want to say and arrange it clearly for others to understand properly.
Yes exactly!
Yes. I must think about what my true ultimate position is on something too.. I like having notes when talking on the phone so I will remember to make all my points. Once I get comfortable with a person I can be spontaneous tho.
I doubted in the past that I was an INFJ but saw a video on one. So I hopped on the internet to take the test to my surprise I'm an INFJ. And ever since finding that out it has helped explain a fuck of a lot of things in my life. Great listener to others and not just often but always misunderstood. I'm definately unapproachable looking from the outside. I just figure if I'm worth it to you, you will be smart amd dig deeper, if not well, you probably weren't worth knowing anyway. To quote a movie line, "it is the glory of God to conceal a matter and the honor of Kings to search it out " I don't do it on purpose it just takes a lot for me to trust people anymore. Life lessons learned.
Shadow work look up duliatiy Ying Ayan balance own it be your ture self see empath an initiative an intuition 👌
@@kim3982 sorry but I don't understand what you are trying to say. Language barrier.
@@theroaminggnomad do shadow work eg look up the Enneogram
@@rupinderh01 yet another comment I have no idea what you are trying to say.
@@rupinderh01 ok I looked up the word enneogra. If they have a test online free I will take it. Now I gotta look up what shadow work is. Never heard of either of these.
Damn, this was spot on😬 Except the “not standing out” part, I definitely stand out, I’m just uncomfortable🤣 But I just looked at myself in the mirror like I do when I’m listening to someone and… I’m terrified🤣. Like I am so sorry to everyone to talks to me, I’m like, absorbing your soul through my stare🤣🤣🤣
Haha 😂
Yes!! That’s me. Except my problem is that people always I’m hitting on them or flirting with them because of my stare. But it’s just rude to not pay attention to someone talking to me. 🤷🏽♀️
Relatable 💯.😂
I’ve gotten to the point where I try my hardest not to stare and even that makes me look more weird and uncomfortable 😭
💯🤦♀️ 🤣🤣 you ant lieing look up yin yang ☯️ duality an the intuitive intuition an yet also find an embrace both side an empaths, lightworker an such like it may help alot sincerely infj sigma
I will always jump in and help !!
yes she is definitely an INFJ (my crush). I am convinced. At first, i just thought it wouldn't be very accurate, I am shook. !!!
Never ceases to amazing me at just how accurately these describe me. Like I've been spied on.
Ive been asked a million times why im mad when im perfectly fine.
There's definitely a time and place for small talk! Yet a relationship surrounding small talk such as that with a co-worker can get quite stale for most INTPs. 😅
Same here!
Because I'm constantly thinking or analyzing.
Why I look mad when I'm thinking, who's to say. It used to come up a lot when I was young, before I was able to realize how I project.
I finally tried to explain to my coworkers, “I’m not mad. I’m just. Always. THINKING.” I still don’t think they understood. As INFJ I have to constantly remind myself, Not everyone ruminates the way I do. It has helped me to have more patience with others’ thought processes.
Yes! On the solo travel instead of group travel. I solo traveled across country last year and the minute I let others know, they were horrified and concerned for my safety. That was so sweet and also annoying at the same time. My younger sibling just laughed and said he felt sorry for any idiots that would approach me threatening my safety. Can't judge a book by the cover, yet MOST people do.
Btw, older INFJ here and have been dealing with this for a long, long time LOL
1 Figurative Language
Yeaaah I've come to realise that I most likely have issues communicating ideas to others.
When you encounter the same issue with people time & time again, the real problem is probably with you.
So I make weird comparisons & try to simplify what I'm trying to get across.
2 Uncanny Listening Skills
Yes. This is my skill. That one thing I know 110% I can do well & has been a common compliment throughout my life.
Better in person than online, although I have made a few friends online because of it.
Remembering every minor detail however....no. I'll remember some things. But unless I'm making notes a lot will be gone.
Its a very in the moment thing.
3 The INFJ Stare
Legitimately thought it was an autism thing until I heard about this.
I've had comments & caught myself a few times due to my videos.
4 Always Wanting To Help
To a fault sometimes. My day has been taken from me multiple times due to me distaste of saying no when I know I can help.
I think a lot of it comes from guilt due to the help I have received in life.
5 Seemingly Cold Demeanour
lol yeah if you caught me in public I'd either look angry or depressed.
Its like when not in a conversation with a person I'm in my head.
When someone gets my attention I snap from one to the other.
6 A Strong Sense Of Independence
To the point I'm an absolute pain in the ass yes.
I go with what my heart & head tell me is right & damn what anyone else thinks.
Sure I'll listen. But if my head & heart disagree you ain't convincing me.
7 They Try Not To Stand Out
Do not want to be the centre of attention at all.
The irony is my clothing style is so basic & simple that I actually feel like I stand out where I live.
But I point to number 6. A lot of INFJ traits are kind of contradictory.
8 Depth & Intensity
I legit worry that I come across as insane or unhinged.
& when I start I find it hard to shut up.
Since we hate the phrase "So, talk a little about yourself!", let's just show people this video from now on. 😅😅
then ill answer with "..ok im weird, deep thinker, and little things upset me.."
This is very accurate regarding the INFJ personality. I am able to read between the lines, outside the lines, behind the lines, in front of the lines, above the lines, below the lines, in and through the lines, all around the lines and even at an angle. So all I need do is listen for a moment and I generally get the gist of a conversation. It's so uncanny sometimes that it scares even me , so I try to stay away from people as much as I possibly can. Most times I scare them away any way because they most times can't take the truth and/or my blunt frankness.
So happy for these videos ! Truly help me feel less alone.
I get so frustrated to see business working toward a “goal” by spending hours documenting the problem when they could fix it in 5 minutes. So we really need 40 man hours and 20 slide PowerPoint to talk about a 5 min repair🤦♀️?
I have never felt so understood in my life, this video just described me. It used to hurt me when people would say to me the first time they saw me they were afraid to talk to me cause I always look so unfriendly and uninteresting to people especially when I am walking alone.
Yess! The most unapproachable - looking empathetic type there is 😅
Number 2 for me doesn't happen that often, because of number 3. I'm listening to someone and understanding everything, then my mind starts to work on a huge number of scenarios and a deep evaluation of each one of them, forgetting that I'm in the middle of a conversation, staring at the void and actually sometimes not even hearing what the person is saying anymore.
Eventually I "land" back into the conversation and pick up back again.
I don't linger in grocery aisles, but I do quickly pick up when an elderly individual needs help finding something. And..I help. It does give that sappy warm feeling inside as well as that silent slap on the back as you say inwardly, "BRILLIANT!!'
Nice to know I am not alone..
I am an INFJ and can really see myself here.
There was a time when I was required to write a funny skit for a missionary conference as a missionary going to the field. I felt betrayed because I felt it was beyond my writing abilities.
As it turned out, the people were so accepting of what I wrote and the speaker said “I am supposed to follow that? That is not fair”
I went on to become a writer from there. But, at the time it was six sleepless weeks until we put it on.
I do do stare! There are times when people assume I am not onboard with something when I might be.
I do stumble over my words, and prefer texting to talking but have become a writer.
THANK YOU for this video! I have sent it to my colleague with whom I work 8 years and his reaction was simply "That's why!..." 😂 being an INFJ is such fun sometimes 😁
Hahah love that - let the video speak for you 🙌😂
Lmfao I have done that too for my kids an they didn't even watch it 💀 🤣 buh still hard af ppl can't figure us out relly it sad 💯😇🙏🤣🤦♀️
I usually have a sense, even with people I meet only online, of who might be an infj like me. I am retired now, but when I was working, I was very serious about my job and about doing it well and I was told more than once that I was difficult to approach or even "scary." Given that I am always the shortest person in the room, this is pretty funny to me but the speeches that the bigwigs gave at my retirement party certainly made it clear that they saw me as something of a tyrant. I had a boss toward the end of my career tell me that I cared too much. And I told him that I never knew that caring about how you did your job was a bad thing. But he was right, I did care too much and that is part of what made me so intimidating. I rarely get attention from people in public like if I'm grocery shopping or whatever and they seem sort of surprised when I speak to them. The part in this video about basically INFJs walking their own path is so incredibly true for me! I am originally from a small town in Ohio and getting married and having babies was a big deal and people started doing it at the end of high school or very soon after. I have never been married and never had children and I've had a really happy life but to most people it seems pitiful. I find it pitiful that people are unable to imagine or understand people who led a life different from them who made different choices than they did.
Finding myself loving the music and completely tuning the narrator out 🔉
Great video. Even though I discovered I am INFJ a few months ago. This helps me to identify others and hope to find some to get to know. I do know an INFJ and dang she is just busy with her life and I can't seem to get much time with her to expand our friendship further. So this helps. Maybe I will find more by paying closer attention to those that are like me.
Thats awesome. Yes, self reflection and intentionally paying attention to your own tendencies can also be quite enlightening! Thank you for watching, my fellow INFJ 🙏
"There's not really any chance in stopping them." 🤣🤣🤣FACTS. 😎
This truly explains so much….I feel so understood.💕🦋
Amazing!! 🙌
Alot more for us search intuitive
So easy to get lost in your thoughts, like the lass wondering down the street at the 5 min mark, that’s me and like you said we “awaken “ to another person when they intercept that thought process, when they are wanting advice etc. then we get into drive to do what is needed to help that person.
Being one of the rarest type doesn't mean u are blessed lol.
blessings and curses are sides of the same coin often. you can choose to let negativity stifle your success or you can use it to learn for next time. Defeat is necessary for victory. "Ask a question and be a fool for a minute, or never ask and remain a fool for a lifetime."
I think you mean it is hard to be as intense as we are. My friend says can you ever take it easy? Nope, I am always plotting, and planning, and imagining!
We should come up with at least an annual meetings of our similar minds somewhere! I've never met another infj in my life and I would love to see how we all would get along together! The best of the very best business partners as well!!
An infj who enjoys poetry and reading, loves learning about history, forensics and etc hits different I usually use more figurtive language and poetic elements in my sentences😅 people might not know what Im trying to say😅😅😅
SO much real in this vid, thank you!
Wow, that's a good one, those are really the characteristics of an INFJ - well spotted!
Finally! Focus on well adjusted INFJs. Rather than all the interpersonal disconnects, which are more characteristic of other compounding issues, like mental health.
I was a cheerleader half my life, was always in the front, BUT HATED ATTENTION AND SPOTLIGHT. I simply enjoyed cheering, didn’t even know what was going on during the games 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly how I felt when I sang in church. I didn’t enjoy being looked at, I just love singing so much. It was especially hard when people would approach me after like “I love your singing!” My first internal reaction would be “it wasn’t for you, I don’t know what you want me to say” 😭
Lol
INTJ here. I'm looking for an INFJ cheerleader I can marry. 😊
Knowing this info helps me to build on my weaknesses so i can be a mutually better person to those whom i can benefit in superficial or deep relationships. Helps to know who I am too! In recent years, I’ve lost all meaning. Thank you.
Awaking see both side an search shadow work you in a daily darknight become your ture self!
Of course I usually spot trouble before it happens
I love your videos, i wish being an INFJ wasn't so lonely and isolating, as it feels like whenever you try to get close to someone, they will often push away, as you delve too deeply into their minds, than most people are often comfortable with, without even trying at all.
pretty accurate, but i don't like to watch people's eyes when talking or in general
The INFJ stare. As a male, I found I had to be careful talking with a woman. I tend to put all my concentration into a conversation, listening to, looking at the face and any body language. It can make a woman very uncomfortable. I have learned to look away from a woman who does not know me very well when having a one-on-one conversation. If you are a young, good looking INFJ male, be really careful of a woman's partner, he/she can misinterpret the attention you are giving their partner.
Yes. I'm an INFJ I doubt if I've ever met another of my species or if we'd even get along.
You know what, I wonder this all the time.. Because INFJ need people to open up in order to feel comfortable around them, yet INFJs are so reluctant to open up, I doubt it would be easy to get to know one another. However, if INFJs were to discuss similar interests it would make all the difference. I think it's situation-sensitive , not to mention a rare occurrence.
@@PSYCH-O If we know we're both INFJ we'd probably feel at ease. Like looking into a mirror. Nothing to hide.
2:13 they made me anxious when they stopped talking and looked at "me", as if wondering what I think of their idea, but I actually wasn't listening
Hahah that's good 😂
Damn. This is like being followed with a camera. Sums up my experience to a T. Many of these interactive experiences are just exhausting.
It's easy.. Look at the weird one.. Who are mostly alone but easily mingle if needed.. Sometimes you can't feel their presence but at another time they can have a strong presence.. 🙃🙃🙃
Haha totally 😆
Good video I'm an enfp and would love to get to know an infj but I don't know any
damn talk about feeling exposed ::laughing:: all i can say is i resemble these remarks. its one of the reasons why people either like or hate infjs. at least in my case. when they need me they like me for the very same traits that they can also hate. we see too much and its disconcerting
wow for which was discussed, spot on. That is all
I almost feel selfish when I go out of my way to help someone, the deep satisfaction I feel being so intense and greater than the help provided.
👏👏 bravo! You nail the infj thanks great video
Glad you liked it my friend, thank you for watching! 🙏
I could never take being told what to do at work. I’m afraid I looked on all the bosses as complete idiots who couldn’t run a bath never mind a company.
Lol I like that one 😆
That’s a big problem for me. The bosses seem to always have motivations geared toward profits over people, which is incongruent with my personal values and makes it difficult to trust them or follow their leadership. I am working to change this viewpoint, so that I can at least find some way to work with them, rather than actively resisting their every initiative 🤣
I've had more than one boss who was afraid of me! Seems strange but I know it was so. They sense they know less than we.
@@kdkaboom55 Why change? From my perspective you have the correct world view. Stop working for them, be your own boss and spread good around your community.
Just too perfect, , they say I frown but strangers would prefer asking me questions. I hate to be centre of attraction. But in Nigeria and as a guy it's not easy.
Awesome - thanks for the feedback, my fellow INFJ. 🙏
Unraveling the secrets. ...bringing out the elusive... Spot on at that....
I've learned over the years to take good care of myself and that I can't help everyone. I help those who really need my help and accept my help. I have discovered that I am a combination of an INFJ type A heyoka empath and I have never reincarnated. I was a seraph angel who came directly to earth to heal people. I feel everything and everyone well and read people like a book. I use my powers to do good things in the world. As a massage therapist I treat and heal people where needed. But the combination I own is very powerful and I am well aware of that.
Yes, we are amazing listeners because we care about others feelings. But with me, if I'm talking to someone and their eyes wonder away or they become distracted. I stop speaking immediately. It's so disrespectful to me.
I recently find out that I m infj and now I feel better. I past as a joke i always told my friends that some day , the spaceship from motherland will come for me to bring me back. Now I realized I am not alone in this planet. But how can I find infj friends? We should do something 🤔
After watching this the only person I got reminded of is... me 😂 and I'm actually an INFJ
Haha thats a sure sign! 😂
I can relate to this. And I can get gold medals in staering.
I don't know how I can actually describe the accuracy of these videos. All recent thoughts as I'm successfuly figuring out how to organize my thoughts.
Well... This explains why I have always felt so alone and ostracized by my community. The rarest personality type. Go figure... Explains why I feel like I cannot fully connect with most people. I can understand them, but they can’t understand me and just think I’m weird. I made a self-portrait sculpture bust one time and my sculpture professor said it looked like the stare I usually give that looks right through people and said it was kind of creepy. Which made me feel embarrassed because he noticed it, but also oddly proud my intuitive gift was actually being recognized by another person.
I am an INFJ lol. I think this is pretty accurate
I'm either all into it or completely out. If something spark my interest or I'm trying to decipher needs and wants. I've never been able to get comfortable with ongoing approached individual's. Either you really got something to say or you are just pulled in. I think people can sense without even knowing especially the one's that don't keep up with phycology or the latest improvement of life skills. If we do engage and attend to a person's chat we pretty much already know if they really got something to say. It's funny but I really never get approached unless its worth while. Our third eyes peripheral can usually spot a chatty mate from far off. If you want to talk about the weather with me I'm known to bring up alot More than the temperature lol
This is so spot on . Thank you.
I feel understood 😁
Love your channel!
Thank you so much! Welcome aboard 😊✊
Good listener, yes..
Also good interrupter.. I have to interject otherwise I'll forget what I was going to say.
like i was smiling and chuckling the whole time coz all are freakin TRUE!🥰
Let’s all just wear INFJ name tags so we can find each other in public
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Just recently I came to know that I am an INFJ-T personality. It shocks me actually but most of the time I am misunderstood by the way I look and behave most especially in the public. Now this video shares a lot of ideas that made me realized how am I. Thanks for sharing. Just wanna ask if this personality is good or not? Thanks and be safe always
With the Myer's-Briggs, it's about understanding and describing types.
People see me I look vary stoic and cold. If I open up with a person. Its like I'm a completely different person. I don't know alot of times when it will happen. It has to be in a setting where it's me and them. I have shocked people in the past. The deep conversation we will have. I also make a extreme effort to to never stare at people. I really want too sometimes. I have become vary sneaky at it. I don't want them to catch me.
I enjoyed your vidio the ways to spot us! all 9 were spot on except i think theres at least 10 or, number 10 as to spoting one i think is talents for instance a i n f j, or us dont like titles, but our talents are many we may paint, or sketch , alot of talents . you seem to do a sertain talent alone. great way of enjoying alone time with a reason.. thankzz Mickalis j
That's me to a T. People think I'm either sad angry or plotting something!🤣 that's fine with me because they tend to leave me alone, that goes well with with my APD
just shout "help" and see who comes running ?
thankyou
Haha exactly 😂
My mom gets annoyed when i figure out what she was about to say and I have already blurted out: IK so now leave me alone. Then she gets mad and I get in trouble :(
Inherently honest people are always correcting even the most minor mistake they make verbally, they never make generalizations, they want to make sure you understand them perfectly so there are always qualifiers for any statement they make. I want to know if this is infj as well
I put all my thoughts on paper.
I've written a book over the last month if you put it all together and have somebody edit it of course it wouldn't make much sense to anybody but me but I have written enough crap to fill a 500 page book.
When I go back and look at it most of it I end up throwing away but some of it I save....not much but some...
wow this describes me...dont know if thats a good or bad thing...thanks for the info.😊
Haha thank YOU for supporting! 🙏
it is what you make it.
I was happy when I discovered I am am infj-A type it made perfect sense! I am also a virgo I don't know which one is harder for humans to u understand 😅
Number 5 is so true
We are all young and attractive. No matter how old and ugly we are. Right? Maybe I should just listen and not look at the video.
Yes! Thank you! This comment right here☝️
I'm 29 and using only young and attractive people have always annoyed me (feels like subtle manipulation to attract young people), especially seeing as the INFJ mbti character is an older gentlemen. It doesn't matter what someone looks like, because at the end of the day, it's our minds and hearts that impact the world. Life's too short to give a dang about any of that other stuff. ♥️
Hi there! We truly appreciate your feedback, and we'll be notifying our editor of your input - of course we never had ill intentions, thanks for being honest 🙏
As an INFJ, I am a chameleon. Ask 20 different ppl who I am, and they will all describe someone different. I always draw my thoughts out in pictures. Works for me. That is if you can catch me outside. I am a reclusive enigma.
I get lost for words when some states I did a good deed and goes on about it or worse to others around them. Including family. I either say eh or tell my friends I wish it was the social norm.
Surprisingly accurate! (Please, next vdo, not this background music)
Yes. Me for one, also potentially my twin flame. 🔥 🎈🔵
Independence and not confining to gender roles are spot on. In my opinion gender has been used as a copout and does annoy me when done so. Does anyone think INFJs are made by life or just born different? Just curious
Thanks for watching - the INFJ nature vs nurture debate will actually be a future video topic.. so stay tuned! 👌
Born
I dont know 😕. Im Enfp so i cant really say for sure but im guessing that maybe its a bit of both nature and nuture, but who knows.
Gender is just a form of expression, you can express what you want until it imposes on others. This should rarely be a problem but some people either hate on it or with some semblance of intelligence accept it and move on (with a little room for inquiry or curiosity).
I think you’re born an infj , as a child I was very aware of the fact that I was different, more matured, more interested in understanding the counter parts of things, more organised, and just really invested in the future and possibilities.
I only discovered what I am until recently, the emotions I felt was often very painful and will leave you numb…some would argue depression…but I think it’s because of getting too emotionally involved with other’s problems as its your nature to help others and make them feel happy , and seeing others unhappy hurts you, even if you don’t know them but that’s just your intuition. I don’t think you can become an infj over night, your mind is just so differently wired. You have experienced things and live very differently all your life.
What about INFJ people with Asperger's?
I meet one a regular basis..seem him in the mirror everyday. With some of the traits you really have to learn to live with. When concentrated my face changes..doing things on my own. People say…are you angry. I try to give them a smile…nope..I am this way when concentrated. Sorry that won’t change. I have been hearing that ever since I can remember.
I really wish people would stop glorifying us like we're some mystical being. We're people just like everyone else.
So an infj on the ASD spectrum is like a double up as both traits wire towards pattern orientated thinking.
Lol also my inner language is abstract metaphors, as all things in life are subjective aside what is.
What INFJ wants, INFJ gets….
what a paradox sometimes especially when romantic relationships are involved. You love the person, but you can't get them past some of their incompatible traits ruining said relationship. How many chances do you give someone that just does not get it? i'm a turtle on my back and i can't get back up. Relationships are a paradox, or maybe i'm insane trying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results at this point?
"You're just going to do whatever you want anyway" - the wife
@@KeithMon 🤣🤣🤣👌👌
Amen!!!!!!!!!!!