When I'm around toxic people, I quietly ask myself " who's looking out my eyes?" I become very aware of my inner self and that keeps me in my stillness because it flips my mental state into becoming an observer vs taking in all the crazy
I get what you say completely, when im confronted with bad energy, ive started to remind myself that I am the one that is perceiving the negativity, not the one generating it, which seems to help not absorve the negativity. Ive also tried to evoke the opposite of the negative energy that i perceive.
Christ said behold your little ones. I completely agree that we can learn a lot from watching children who are meek, humble, and sponges for learning. (I pray that are taught wisdom and not just knowledge by their caregivers.)
I LOVE being alone. I prefer it actually. And if I cannot be alone, I prefer to be with others on the same vibrational frequency. I’m in a situation at the moment where I do not have to engage with a bunch of people so I AM very thankful for that. Those moments when I do have to be in the presence of those who are still ego driven, I find myself (more and more) not participating in the gossip or negativity. I will get up and walk out of the room. And when I can’t do that, I put in my headphones and watch videos on RUclips or music and will remove myself mentally.
Im in the same boat. When I used to join the gossip I was able to feel the discord in my gut, thankfully. Following these gut feelings is leading me into a more authentic life, with less friends of course, but still worth it.
@@erinsuzy613 most have fallen away naturally. There are still those who linger because of circumstances outside of my current realm of control. But we find ways to adapt. I have to constantly keep my headphones charged! Hahaha
@@futtsie2512 is it possible for someone who is very grounded in reality to feel the vibration of a very low vibrational person? Like a psychopath? Or is not affected
@@aimane3375 as an empath, you are sensitive to all vibrational frequencies. Raising your own vibration will render you immune to any potential effects it may otherwise have. The vibrational shift of Gaia is magnificent and she is bringing us with her if we choose. Remember that everything is energy and we are the ones who perceive it as good or bad. There is no good or bad outside of this simulation we have created for our soul evolution. 💚 Remain in your heart space and send love to everything. Nothing is more powerful.
Agreed, this was the best takeaway for me as well. If I react to the toxic energy, that is an indication of my resistance on some level, but really I should be focusing to resist nothing🙏
So very true. There is a certain "possession" of these energies that somehow seek to express themselves through us and into the world. Thank you for highlighting his comment.
Isn’t it the same old teaching of Jesus? About resisting nothing, embracing everything, because resisting or punishing evil makes you evil, but accepting dissolves it. In other words, you cannot defeat darkness with darkness, you can only make it disappear by bringing the light. “But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”
I think a better question is, "How do I maintain presence?" regardless of where you are and who you are with. If remaining present and aware is a spiritual practice that you employ all the time, then whether you are with unconscious people or not will not make a difference. In other words, practice presence all the time; whether you are alone, at work, with your spouse, with friends, working out, taking a shower, or in an extremely toxic situation. There really shouldn't be any circumstance where you aren't present. If you approach life this way, you will remain in this present state of awareness and not get easily swayed from other external energies. You will be very grounded in your state of being and very aware of your thoughts and emotions. You will have fine tuned your sense of awareness to such a high degree that being around toxic situations will bring out other higher responses from you. These higher responses include: stillness, acceptance of the present moment (not wanting to change it), compassion for the person that is suffering, and/or depending on the circumstance, helping the individual or removing oneself from the situation. There really is no perfect response, but if you do make presence an every moment spiritual practice, then being in uncomfortable situations doesn't really translate to being 'uncomfortable' anymore. You instead have increased your awareness and energetic capacity to remain still and aware to be firmly grounded and secure in your being. When you can weather any kind of storm you know that you have evolved into a higher state of consciousness altogether.
@@officialdamnmoodi3283 Yes. Please try meditation. There are various tools to help you (mantra, breath watching, pranayama, hatha yoga, etc) get into a relaxed body/mind state of being. Over time with consistent practice, you will enter a meditative state of consciousness without any aid/tool. 🙏🏻
@@officialdamnmoodi3283 It really takes a commitment to the process of staying present in this moment and then the next, etc. I started practicing stopping thinking whenever I remembered and was determined to make this my daily intention. I am so glad that after years of being determined to not let the negative ,repetitive and unnecessary thinking dominate my life, I am in a continual state of being present and when I want to think, I do so but I know what am thinking about and immediately stop thinking if it has no value. My life is soo much more peaceful and effective and effortless. It’s a very difficult thing to do. But I’m more determined now than ever to not let the unobserved mind run my life, given the horrible damage in peoples life when they are a victim of being lost in thought.
@@joeyondakeys Most people are so caught up with non stop thinking they don’t have a choice whether to be present or not, that is, they don’t know there is a choice. I can understand sometimes choosing to focus on what you are thinking, especially when it is a pleasant experience, instead of being present. I find I can be present and be aware of what I’m thinking at the same time. ET talks about the unobserved mind as being potentially problematic, not necessarily being present as a state of being, but choosing to have thoughts when necessary or maybe in your case when you are enjoying the thought process. I think the why though boils down to human nature, but the important thing is that you are able to make the choice in the first place. Cheers, Joey!
Just don't judge and critique unconscious people and create stories...and take anything they do personally (a story about "me")...etc, etc. Just be with them...fully aware and present...not story-telling to yourself.
I try not to. I do wonder why the great awakening is happening simultaneously with CERN experiments in switzerland. Everyone look up while they should all look into DAVOS. Regardless, I believe you are one of the kindest ppl I've heard. Thank you.
as Eckhart explained, after the shift, he was in the tube without having bad feelings. So as long as you have bad feelings, and you blame it on the people that you call "unconscious people", make sure, that it is not yourself, being unconscious in that very moment.
Depends on what it is and I'd be wary of saying this because women more than anyone are asked to suppress their natural reactions and feelings in order to accommodate other people. So for women I would rather say "make sure it isn't others before you blame yourself". Definitely agree for guys and non ethnic minorities though yeh.
@@ellie-tk4jy yes, I can see where you're coming from, although some might say that's some sexist bias. If I might give an example of a female perspective that might be acceptable: I was working in a nurturing profession but cut backs, poor management and staff shortages stopped me being able to do my job properly. I was constantly challenging management and felt increasingly out of step with the institution. Edit: I was in fact becoming part of the toxic situation, feeding into it as much as suffering from it...The cognitive dissonance over years led to me getting burn out, then cancer, then leaving. I was aware of the writing on the wall, right up until the wall fell on me, but felt utterly powerless to do anything about it. I love this video, and your comment is particularly appropriate. Just wish this material was available to me then, maybe I would have woken up and left the place before it nearly killed me. Best wishes to you ❤
Removed myself from a toxic work environment. it actually wasn't my choice, but my guardian angel was helping me, now I'm in a better place. No such thing as a coincidence❤
Thank you for this ❤ Message Eckhart Tolle! I know how it is to be in the Flow ❤ and I manage to stay calm in my Meditation even if there are worst noise pollution. After a while it stopped, because I didnt care. Last year I travelled a lot again in the flow. In case of the leaf blower or if they destroy Nature by cutting trees, its time to tell that this is not the right way! Cant accept that unconsious egos destroy the world! In six months travelling in Central America I found only one place where I felt that Nature was happy! Means where wilderness is real. My goal is that there ll be new expierience rooms in Nature, instead of schools, where the kids understand own feelings and needs and communicate them like in NVC - so they can understand each other and there ll be no more wars! The first rule must be that we have to contribute in each others luck ❤ in a true human way! Love this place with lucky beings❤ I want to live in harmony and that means to listen also if there is a conflict. To stay in a unpersonal condition is still challenching because these situation appear when I dont aspect them, because I thought people are more aware, but thats still an illusion. Not my brother not my sister but its ne o Lord staying in the need of prayer ❤! And if its to bad and there is no solution, because there is no way to communication I leave! Jesus told us" if you are not accepted leave the place" ! BUT ALL WHAT WE NEED IS LOVE❤❤❤
Yes, hw saved my life 4 years ago, but I still have to listen to music and ocean waves with earplugs every Day in order to keep Sane ! Sensitivity in a modern society is very difficult to live with, because there never was so much noise everywhere as in these last two centuries ! Right now I am disturbed by neighbours constantlt slamming doors, trying to sleep ! Consciousness does not help me here !!!
This is exactly what Putin is thinking too. The only difference is all he has to do is push a button and poof, we're gone! Just like that. Think about what you're saying here. Thanks
@Fred Carpenter Fred, can I call you Fred? Anyway Fred, Fred, Fred, Frederick, Frederick the Great, Freddy Boy, all I'm saying here is that Putin will push button you right out of existence. Is that the Legacy of Frederick the Great? NO!! Gotblam it. We need to push back against the push button man who wants you, and I to die. Do you wanna die??? Of course not!! You wanna LIVE!!!! Just not here in this world. I get it. I understand exactly how you feel and where you are coming from. You come from home. And you're ready to go back. I'm with ya on that one big feller. Big Freddy Boom Boom 💥. Now let us pray 🙏. Thanks F r Ed
It's a relief to hear that even Eckhart has "disturbing" noises around when he meditates and it's inspiring to see how he managed to switch from an unconscious being to one who can trascend the city noises.
doesn't what you decide is right or wrong. When you feel, think and act, it is not informed by your ideals, because your ideals are formed in a private way. No such privacy exists. To be amongst others is to influence and be influenced by others. Even aiming to be flexible is another way to become the opposite. No aim, no wrong, no right. Accepting what is, means to think about what is. No thought neccessary, but still thought arises whether neccessary or not. Nothing can be told how to be. All this should is what stop what is from being. And that is what is. Do you allow that? Do you accept that? I don't accept what is. And I accept that is what is.
When we become more and more centered, our center becomes so strong until the outside does not distract us or influence us. It takes one day at a time. Just like building a muscle.
I love her self awareness and willingness to ask questions leading to the management of her power. It gives us all permission to do the same. Life is becoming a satisfying journey.
Very helpful video for those who have to deal with a narcissist or a toxic person. It doesn’t help to feed into their unconsciousness with your own. Thank you for reminding us to practice responsibility and Presence 🙏
Ive heard narcissistic victim hood is a sort of contagious narcissism. Like the ego and pain body spreads to the “victim” causing more identification and density.
Bur for growing and ascention we need other to test our waters so to speak. I mean most are here to solve karmic issues and thats with orhers around us. Just a thought❤
She's so brave to put herself out there like that. I appreciate how patient Eckhart is and understanding as well. He is able to relate deeply and that's so refreshing. Much more to learn for me. Thank you!
@@Lizbeth36961 I'm sorry you've read or interpreted it that way. I'm more focused on her courage. I can see how one could read it that way but believe me that was NOT my intention.
I love interacting with people i still work full time at 71 and just love people and i genuinely believe we both take something from our interactions. I particularly enjoy interacting with difficult people, working on being non judgemental has been very useful , everyone has their story
My husband is still blind to everything. 22 years together 3 kids together. Awake for almost 3 years so gets hard cause he thinks I’m a conspiracy theory person. I see the truth. I’m always been outsider I love being alone gardening and in nature. I’m ready for my husband to see the truth. Our children see the truth. I knew I was Empath feel everything deeply to kind hearted in this world. Thanks for sharing💝
He is your teacher and mirror. Through him you see your state of consciousness. It doesn't matter how he is. How you fully accept the way it is, that matters.
Surrender yourself is the key. Realize that we are floating in the midst of negative energies all around us. Accept them whole heartedly without judgement as far as possible. And when judgment arises realize it’s arising and accept that’s part of us too. Over a number of years of practice at least for me, it becomes a habit and yes it DOES work! Spiritual life was never meant to be easy :( It’s a journey until our death beds never a destination.
My wife is unconscious. Recently, I tried to introduce her to these concepts hoping she would join me on the journey. Nothing but resistance. I guess I have "deep surrender" practice ahead.
@@thaddeus46 my mother, sister and ex girl all unaware , heavily programmed and firmly in the matrix. Thankfully my kids mother smart and aware , think Sarah Connor lol
@@thaddeus46 As you stated that you married your wife for money: As my mother used to say "Those who marry for money earn it" 🙂 Accepting her as she is will be a challenge and an opportunity for you to grow ♡ In time she may begin to follow your path but judging others always feeds our egos.
It's been a hard but incredibly valuable lesson for me to understand that whatever bothers me in other people is just a reflection of something in myself that I don't like or accept. Even if it is just at a small level. It is at the core of compassion and responsibility. And once you know it you can't go back. Doesn't mean you won't slip and fall though. Constantly observe and accept without judgment and it will become easier and easier to stay conscience and transcend this seemingly mad, unending cycle.
I had the same feeling some months ago and that itself provides evidence how we are evolving spiritually. Such a wholesome blissful feeling to gain awareness little by little
This is so hard, I can’t be around unconscious people for long without having to get away from them. I spent most of my life around these types, they drain you. Once you get away from them peace is possible I love being alone and present 💝
I removed myself from a Toxic job that I worked at for 10 years. It ended up being the best decision I could have ever made, love the power of now audio cds for road trips. Thank you Eckhart!
Exactly the question I asked God today and the video appeared. Eckart Tolle is great Guru, I know about him but never listened to him until today. I’m facing the same with my family, they are amazing beings but something is shifting in me and I do participate in the toxicity and then feel miserable. Now I know where my lesson is. Thank you dear lady for asking the question and Thank you Eckhart Sir for the answer.
When confronted by toxic energy, accept it as a manifestation of life. You get beyond it through deep surrender. You sense it as expression of human unconsciousness. You feel the negative energy without mental narrative. It is transcendence. Remove yourself if it is violent or extraordinarily toxic. Thanks Eckhart. 💯🌻💖👍🐘🍨🍌🤠
Alec, so true my friend. I found it rather easy to live in joy and harmony when i am off alone in nature. But i realize i am missing out on so many learning opportunities. Cheers.
Growing also means helping them the unconscious to see or become a little more conscious. Its your challange to find something that make them more aware. Or at least plant some seeds there❤
I deleted my previous comment here. It was two years and I changed my mind on it. Unconsciousness around will show you how good you can deal with life challenges that's true. Sometimes we are "forced" to be with people who are at low level of self development. (You have to go to work place for instance). When you are there - be there. Learn how to ignore what has to be ignored. How to accept what has to be accepted. How to leave situation when it has to be leaved. I am in special need right now for some work place which offers me a part time hours, because I need that for the school I just started. However, this place contains one of the greatest unconsciousness I have ever had to face. They are constantly asking you to work faster and very hard, and they are very nervous about it. it can be said that they are very future-oriented in their activities. Despite this, I don't get drawn into it - this crazy rush, I do my thing at my own pace and I don't consider it a bad thing, although I know that they see it differently, because they have already let me know. What's important is that I don't fight with them about it, I tell them that I'm trying, I'm doing what I can, etc., I don't offer resistance to what they are saying to me, because they are not my enemies. I don't know if they will fire me from that place at some point for not being fast enough, or will give me some other tasks to do, but I am sure that if my behaviour towards them was different, then it would be a matter of time when. Still I am sure but I may be wrong about it. The most important factor is how do I feel and I am feeling okay thanks to being in alignment with myself.
Tread carefully around toxic people. You can fall in the sticky tar and it's difficult to work your way out. Best advice "remove yourself" if you're ruminating and in emotional turmoil. Save yourself and send out a life raft from distance. Be careful.
What a vulnerable and helpful question!! And what a brave soul she is to reveal herself to this gentle, kind, funny wisdom keeper and all of us. Thank you both!!❤
Thank you Eckhart for ur words if wisdom. I'm suffering from PTSD and triggered often but I now understand I must accept what is and simply feel the panic and let t Be. Sounds easy 😊 but it's my homework . Very grateful 😘
I reached my ENLIGHTENMENT about a year ago. I struggled for 20 years trying to follow spiritual teachers' guides. But I was able to reverse engineer the process of stopping the advances from the DEFAULT MODE NETWORK (brain function responsible for the self-conversetions/Ego). I've written a book with instructions for the ENLIGHTENMENT OF THE MASSES. My techniques are fundamental with crystal clear instructions and no open concepts or parables to figure out. My book is now available in Amazon "ON THE EVOLUTION FROM THE PRIMITIVE EGOIC MIND BY MEANS OF PURE CONSCIOUSNESS" by Victor Berrios
"Accepting what is", "deep surrendering ", "completely ok with it"... "oh, that's what is", .... 💞👍🤗🙌🌸 That's what works, yes. And I very much feel love instead of anger with these practices we were taught on here. I've been practicing consciousness in these ways with toxic people for over 37 years. I am 58. So most of my adult life. And I would say even a lot as a child and teen. But definitely understood the concept of consciousness during toxic times only 37 years ago. Other than the list given on this channel today I would add that to remain conscious in toxic times I "step outside" of the person that I am, as if I'm a spectator only, and thereby not able to react. The toxic person or egoic person is not affecting me as I have stepped outside of the flesh so to speak, and have a place standing outside of my person. In that place outside of my person, it is calm and peaceful. And when I come back into my person, I am bringing the calm and peace with me to my flesh being. So the soul and the flesh match in the presence of peace and understanding and love. That's the best I can put it in words. And definitely what was taught here to "take home" with everyone today is that surrender is a power. Not a weakness. And when you learn that and understand that surrender and acceptance is your power card, you want to use it regularly, and daily and you'll feel love and peace as byproducts of surrender. Humility is just as similar. Remaining humble, taking the idea of acceptance and surrender is power . Use them. And feel love, peace, and freedom and tranquility as you maintain these powers. I'm not perfect at it at all times, but I enjoy practicing it daily over 37 years. And it works for me.
I think the answer is compassion .The "toxic" people are only harming themselves. By being peaceful and compassionate we can provide an example to show them a way out of their pain.
I was not prepared for thanksgiving with family after years that I was away and wasn’t able to travel to visit! Great experience in that I now know I can use more practice in staying centered!!
"the misery line"...so funny to have Eckhart describe his experience of the underground, back when he lived in London. Just listening to him relaxes me and allows me to just be. Thank you! 🙏
The point I get from here, if you cannot change it (except those extreme toxicant scenarios he mentioned), accept it, rather than feel frustrated / annoyed, once you accept it, you are at peace...Thanks for sharing.
I totally agree with you! I feel like spending time alone is spending time with my best friend. It's a happy place, a place of peace, calm and serenity, and I love it! 🕊
The more I become conscious the harder it is to deal with "normal human unconsciousness". Fortunately, those around me are somewhere along the line of growing consciousness. There is a temptation to withdraw from much of human interaction. That said, there is also pleasure in just being light-filled and calm during normal human interactions as well. Kind of "sharing" my contentment and calmness through my voice and posture. Disturbing interactions are decreasing as I grow more calm within myself. I am now able to sense the tension and anxiety often (not always) washing across me or even through me in situations that might once have been unsettling--or even a full clash of egos.
Nice statement Charlene ! We all have to come - and finally arrive - to OURSELF ! This is exactly the "coming home" so many wise teachers are talking about. See Osho for instance: Never been married, but oh SOOOO happy - surrounded by nice pupils anyway . . . And "Eckie" is a 100 % wonderful supplement to this indian kind of ZEN-master . . .
I like how she thanked him for asking the question. Made me realize how wonderful and beneficial questions are. I often see people getting annoyed and sometimes mad when being asked questions. The only time i hate being questioned is by the cops because i know their questions are only to incriminate me.
This is such great and practical advice. Especially for those of us who are more sensitive to external stimuli such as other people’s behavior, or even environmental conditions such as noise, light, smells, etc. Thank you for this video.
Yes, I sympathize with you. Sometimes I feel as if I was dropped into a war zone and told to just get on with it. I do find it hard to deal with other people's ego's and manners, there's so many to deal with, if they only knew how exhausting it is by the end of the day.
The distinction between normal unconscious relationships and extreme unconscious is key. It's a workout for our emotional presence as long as we apply the correct workout for the situation
Been doing this all my life…. Apply “Forgive them for they know not what they do” and make sure you meditate before during and afterwards 😂… if they irritate you, that’s so much more about you! ✨✨🙏🏻
Amid toxic people/situations, i do not react or even reply to their prodding questions, unless it is with "I don't know ", maybe, is that so". But always keep repeating silently my inner mantra to myself : FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY DO. And that keeps me out of ego storms❤
What arises «still is a manifestation of life". I loved that. Thanks to everything just the way it is. It is thought that way by something greater, like I am too. In all it's forms, it's always the expression of something greater.
I used to work in Houston Texas and it helped greatly to leave the city every weekend to a small town and walk the woods. I would feel so much release and healing and then when entering the city by car, again on Sunday night, you can really feel the city closing in on your person.
I am in trauma. And this explains part of why I can’t handle people right now!! I used to be able to do this and I can’t anymore. I feel too far gone from it as I disassociate. So this is literally saving me in a way? Seeing this video. Almost like my prayer has been answered in a way. And I can’t explain it other then, this is the beginning again, to finding my way back. I have had many experiences I can’t explain that have brought me to this.
A reminder to rewatch this video. And.. when the path is dark, remember that others have walked it before you and that they have left clues, signs, and other assistance for you on the path. Look for them. With love, your friend.
“By allowing urself to feel it, there is transcendence.” I am so glad he was able to tell us how to do it, and not give us fru fru jargon to do so. Sometimes spiritual teachers don’t give us the exact tools or language we need to move in this world. It was helpful to see regular daily interactions can be shifted simply by our thinking. We truly are the owners of how we see our world. Is the cup half full or half empty? You pick!
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ” ― Simone Weil ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜
It has been years of struggle and frustration.. I’ve finally realized I had to surrender and flow. Learning detachment is also a very large part of what’s helped me. Understanding we are all here on our own journey and souls not ready to awaken just aren’t ready yet! Part of it is ur still in ur ego if u allow it to bother u!!
Girl i feel your pain and sadness and i know what it is to be lonely i really do even if your surrounded by people at times i want you to know you are not alone there are many of us and i know you must have been nervous about reaching out to and i just wanna say bravo for doing so the universe will like that 😊☮️🙏
I listened to this to prepare myself for my narc coming home from work. We had an "enthusiastic" fight at 5am and haven't spoken all day, so there is the tension of unresolved conflict in the air. Add the weariness of a long hard day and the attention seeking dramatics the narc brings through the door with him, and i'm anxious there will be a blow up. I don't want to react in a way that is unacceptable, angry, and bitter, and i know watching this video can help me stay focused on regulating MY behavior. Thank you for your dedication to sharing this wisdom!
a lot of spiritual people want to fast forward through the uncomfortable situations but that is apart of the human experience, like he said, “resist nothing that arises.” We are constantly being asked to surrender and those bothersome moments are those unconscious triggers and are mirrors of our own subconscious mind
"The power of Knowledge is with you. The Presence is with you. But everything in the world that has dominated you in the past and that dominates you now is also with you. And these things are leading you in different directions. Therefore, during your time of preparation, particularly at the outset, you will have to limit your exposure to people, places and certain things. This will require great restraint and great discretion, things that most people do not possess, for they do not have the strength to exercise these things. Here even your hobbies or your recreation must be reconsidered. Is it truly beneficial for you mentally and physically? Does it really give you reprieve? Does it really give you rest? Does it support your engagement with Knowledge? Or is it a form of escape, a running away? Many things actually fit this category and serve this purpose. Refrain from going to the movies, as they imprint you and fill your mind with powerful images that will make it more difficult for you to still your mind and begin to explore your inner life. See what music does for you. Rather than playing it all the time, see what kind of emotions, thoughts and feelings it arouses. Is it truly beneficial for you? Or does it remind you of your suffering, your longing, your desires, your disappointments? All these things must be re-evaluated because everything is having an influence upon you, and that influence is either helpful or a hindrance. Understanding this, then, gives you the criteria to re-evaluate all the things, people, places and influences in your life in a more objective manner, with greater clarity and discernment. If you are to have the freedom to live a life of greater purpose and integrity, you must gain this freedom, which has been lost to so many things. You must re-evaluate who you are with and what you do, how you spend your time and where your mind tends to go, and the influence and the effect of your activities upon you. Here you will see that many things that before seemed innocuous, or even pleasurable, really are a hindrance. This is really about becoming truly honest with yourself. It is not about having one perspective versus another perspective. This is not about having one belief or set of beliefs versus other sets of beliefs. It is really about becoming honest with yourself, honest at a deeper level. What is really the truth about your involvement with this person or this activity or this form of engagement with the world? To be really honest, you will see if something is beneficial or not, and you will see how and even if you must be engaged with it. Taking the Steps to Knowledge is a process of becoming truly honest with yourself and as a result honest with others-honest in your pursuits, honest in your values, honest in your communication with others, honest in what goals you set for yourself and why you set them. Honest. Knowledge is deep and simple because it is wholly honest. You are complex and confused because you are not yet wholly honest. Knowledge is strong, focused and powerful. Your mind is diffused, confused and set in opposing directions because you are not yet fully honest. You have not really come to terms with what you most deeply know and your true direction in life, which is all the product of becoming truly honest. It is not about having a better belief system. It is not about perspective. It is not about opinions and ideas, for that is all at the surface of the mind. We are speaking of something that is far deeper than the surface of your mind, something that is intrinsic to your nature-that which has brought you into the world and that which you will reflect upon once you leave this world, that which is most elemental and fundamental to your being here. As you take the Steps to Knowledge, you will have [the] opportunity to extend your honesty into new areas and to reconsider things you have always assumed or believed in without question. It is a very deep evaluation. Here you will begin to see that which is harmful and that which is helpful. Here you will value simple pleasures. And you will see the danger and the hazard of giving your mind and life away to things that have no real promise or purpose for you. Let this be your understanding." An excerpt from *Harmful Influences* - a teaching from 'The New Message from God' - as revealed to Marshall Vian Summers.
Hello..🙏🏻 From one member of the greater community of worlds to another, thankyou for this posting and your time 🌎✨ I think it is comforting aswell as informative.
Jesus Christ dude it isn’t all that complicated to of written a book! I didn’t read your entire tread because it’s too long but it almost sounds like you’re saying avoid everything. If that’s the case, I disagree. I think you should practice presence with everything goin on around you AFTER you’ve practiced enough presence in your life.
The reality you face outside of yourself is that part of yourself that you have not understood. You create what’s outside because you need to face it, to know and understand it. So that your awareness will grow, and so will your consciousness.
I was confused by what it meant to let go and surrender until my recent Ayahuasca experience. I had a lot of physical pain. I had a choice in each moment to be consumed by the pain and complain incessantly in my head until it was over or I could stop resisting and just be in the moment with each breath with gratitude and humility. It’s always a choice IF we are conscious. And then forgiving ourselves when we catch ourselves complaining and no longer in the moment. She mentions a growing sensitivity to being aware when she’s not conscious. This is a good sign and an indicator of expanding awareness. I’m sending love to you all. The key to humanity lies with people like you…..
People often in their own egotistical contentious or combative issues often distract you away from yourself or being yourself. Presence and internal and external awareness is HUGE.
Loved that Elkhart understands awareness of being drawn into behaving as others in an ego trap . So true . I’m always cross without myself when I’ve let myself behave in this way ❤
Acceptance is key to keeping your peace This does not mean u put up injustice or agreeing with them. It means when you speak, think first and speak only from your heart. Otherwise just Be, (quiet) and accept them as you would want to be accepted. Namaste' 🙏
The universe is awesome. It has a way of transmuting a part of itself through you where the full manifestation of you and the universe is fully expressed. Now let us pray 🙏
So true, when your able to enjoy your own company you internally become stronger and from my own perspective, it actually draws people towards you especially when you remain free and quiet from those who seek attention. It’s also easier to observe peoples behavior and let go of those who are in lower vibrations. We all experience lower vibrations from time to time but if we remain aware we can improve.
Eckharts advice is a lot like the premise behind the very successful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This theorizes that some trigger happens (big city vibes / leaf blower / London Metro), then you start thinking about that (negatively / judging / revolting), and only then does it register emotionally and influence your state of mind. These emotions can then become a trigger themselves kicking you into a spiral of negativity (or euphoria if you were listening to music or observing a beautiful bird for example). The only ways to stop this is to remove / avoid the trigger or change your thinking. The second is the most universally effective way but requires training because its not what most of us are taught to do.
I have done this from living as a benefit to the others around me. I listen and be supportive. Speak only if they show interest to hear. Otherwise I'm just present at hand and content in myself.
What is an unconscious person really? Every-'one' has their own experience, perceptions, perspective from the whole. Consciousness is always present everywhere. From my vantage point I would look inward to alter an situation. ❤
Yes i think too, e everyone has some level of consciousnes. I think we should help others to , maybe help them to grow or become some more conscious. Nobody is perfect 😊
@@beavischrist5 But if I truly believed we are one, whom am I attempting to help? It's almost to say, don't interfere with, a so called another's karma.
@@wattaura7621 well if someone is in pain or trouble we could reach out to them with some knowledge they dont have maybe. Also were do we need teachers like tolle for if we all have to find out outselves because of karma. I believe we come to earth to solve for outselves and helping others growing. Its part of oneness.
What is so gentle, humble, and therefore, amazing to me are your questions and follow up questions in which you seem to see and treat a young student as a worthy equal.
This was a good reminder. He added to what he has said in his books and it was helpful. Love that waterfall scene at the end. So peaceful. Sometimes I bring a waterfall scene into my mind during very stressful situations or around unconscious people I am experiencing it from behind a waterfall. Part of the big problem around world situations or people is the resistance as he says. "This shouldn't be happening. I should be living on a different planet". I have survived much of my life just by knowing there are other planets and worlds where consciousness is more evolved. That helps long term LOL.
One of my ways to surrender to What Is... I sing and hum in harmony with things like lawnmowers and traffic, and by that way of incorporating them into my meditation, their discordant noise is transformed to a harmonious drone tone!🎶🍂
I used to think there was something with me that I loved to be alone and didn’t want to spend much time with others. Now I release that judgment to myself, I feel free and content by being alone.
When I'm around toxic people, I quietly ask myself " who's looking out my eyes?" I become very aware of my inner self and that keeps me in my stillness because it flips my mental state into becoming an observer vs taking in all the crazy
I get what you say completely, when im confronted with bad energy, ive started to remind myself that I am the one that is perceiving the negativity, not the one generating it, which seems to help not absorve the negativity. Ive also tried to evoke the opposite of the negative energy that i perceive.
Good point! Thanks
So that's your reaction to toxic energy is it? So, feeling a bit toxic are we?
I thought I had problem with people in general but the issue is me. I soak into crazy and sometimes gets weeks to find me again.
I find it helpful not to think of people as toxic. I think the toxic concept is toxic.
“One could say, when you react to the toxic energy you become part of the toxic energy. “
Knowledge of actual science, cures and healing under attack and highly forbidden.
Precision accuracy.
Absolutely needed this reminder thank you
It takes practice to stay in your heart and breath and not get pulled in
But once you master it
You master Heaven on Earth
Yes. Entanglement. It comes from Judgement I think. Ahh...the beauty and tragedy of life.
Spend more time with young children. Their innocence and energy is refreshing and their joy and love of life is food for the soul. God bless.
ET, phone home?
True that, they are closer to that deeper unconditioned i.. Good if parentes would cherish that
Christ said behold your little ones. I completely agree that we can learn a lot from watching children who are meek, humble, and sponges for learning.
(I pray that are taught wisdom and not just knowledge by their caregivers.)
I do ! Whenever its possble...!❤
Thats dangerous and political NOT correct ! It may be counted as paedophilia !!!
I LOVE being alone. I prefer it actually. And if I cannot be alone, I prefer to be with others on the same vibrational frequency. I’m in a situation at the moment where I do not have to engage with a bunch of people so I AM very thankful for that.
Those moments when I do have to be in the presence of those who are still ego driven, I find myself (more and more) not participating in the gossip or negativity. I will get up and walk out of the room. And when I can’t do that, I put in my headphones and watch videos on RUclips or music and will remove myself mentally.
Im in the same boat. When I used to join the gossip I was able to feel the discord in my gut, thankfully. Following these gut feelings is leading me into a more authentic life, with less friends of course, but still worth it.
@@erinsuzy613 most have fallen away naturally. There are still those who linger because of circumstances outside of my current realm of control. But we find ways to adapt. I have to constantly keep my headphones charged! Hahaha
@@futtsie2512 is it possible for someone who is very grounded in reality to feel the vibration of a very low vibrational person? Like a psychopath? Or is not affected
@@aimane3375 as an empath, you are sensitive to all vibrational frequencies. Raising your own vibration will render you immune to any potential effects it may otherwise have. The vibrational shift of Gaia is magnificent and she is bringing us with her if we choose. Remember that everything is energy and we are the ones who perceive it as good or bad. There is no good or bad outside of this simulation we have created for our soul evolution. 💚 Remain in your heart space and send love to everything. Nothing is more powerful.
@@futtsie2512 ❤️
“When you react to toxic energy you become a part of it” that’s all I needed to hear 🙃 I love his energy , like a fluffy warm hug💚
🌲🌵🌸🌺🏵☘Eckhart is a BLESSING and he is so full of Wisdom and Love and compassion and Truth !
Agreed, this was the best takeaway for me as well. If I react to the toxic energy, that is an indication of my resistance on some level, but really I should be focusing to resist nothing🙏
So very true. There is a certain "possession" of these energies that somehow seek to express themselves through us and into the world. Thank you for highlighting his comment.
Same
Isn’t it the same old teaching of Jesus? About resisting nothing, embracing everything, because resisting or punishing evil makes you evil, but accepting dissolves it. In other words, you cannot defeat darkness with darkness, you can only make it disappear by bringing the light.
“But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”
For me, the easiest way to remain present is to observe what's happening, as if you were reading a book. It's fascinating
That's really helpful, thank you!
thank you !!!
Oh boy thank you for this tip!
For me it’s like I am watching a movie , being thankful for the movie wether it’s a good movie or bad movie ❤
I think a better question is, "How do I maintain presence?" regardless of where you are and who you are with. If remaining present and aware is a spiritual practice that you employ all the time, then whether you are with unconscious people or not will not make a difference. In other words, practice presence all the time; whether you are alone, at work, with your spouse, with friends, working out, taking a shower, or in an extremely toxic situation. There really shouldn't be any circumstance where you aren't present.
If you approach life this way, you will remain in this present state of awareness and not get easily swayed from other external energies. You will be very grounded in your state of being and very aware of your thoughts and emotions. You will have fine tuned your sense of awareness to such a high degree that being around toxic situations will bring out other higher responses from you.
These higher responses include: stillness, acceptance of the present moment (not wanting to change it), compassion for the person that is suffering, and/or depending on the circumstance, helping the individual or removing oneself from the situation. There really is no perfect response, but if you do make presence an every moment spiritual practice, then being in uncomfortable situations doesn't really translate to being 'uncomfortable' anymore. You instead have increased your awareness and energetic capacity to remain still and aware to be firmly grounded and secure in your being.
When you can weather any kind of storm you know that you have evolved into a higher state of consciousness altogether.
its difficult to remain present i stray away without even knowing it,any tips ?
🙏🏻EH...Thankyou 🙏🏻❤️
@@officialdamnmoodi3283 Yes. Please try meditation. There are various tools to help you (mantra, breath watching, pranayama, hatha yoga, etc) get into a relaxed body/mind state of being. Over time with consistent practice, you will enter a meditative state of consciousness without any aid/tool. 🙏🏻
@@officialdamnmoodi3283 It really takes a commitment to the process of staying present in this moment and then the next, etc. I started practicing stopping thinking whenever I remembered and was determined to make this my daily intention. I am so glad that after years of being determined to not let the negative ,repetitive and unnecessary thinking dominate my life, I am in a continual state of being present and when I want to think, I do so but I know what am thinking about and immediately stop thinking if it has no value. My life is soo much more peaceful and effective and effortless. It’s a very difficult thing to do. But I’m more determined now than ever to not let the unobserved mind run my life, given the horrible damage in peoples life when they are a victim of being lost in thought.
@@joeyondakeys Most people are so caught up with non stop thinking they don’t have a choice whether to be present or not, that is, they don’t know there is a choice. I can understand sometimes choosing to focus on what you are thinking, especially when it is a pleasant experience, instead of being present. I find I can be present and be aware of what I’m thinking at the same time. ET talks about the unobserved mind as being potentially problematic, not necessarily being present as a state of being, but choosing to have thoughts when necessary or maybe in your case when you are enjoying the thought process. I think the why though boils down to human nature, but the important thing is that you are able to make the choice in the first place. Cheers, Joey!
Meditation is not absence of outer noise, but absence of inner noise.
Just don't judge and critique unconscious people and create stories...and take anything they do personally (a story about "me")...etc, etc. Just be with them...fully aware and present...not story-telling to yourself.
The first thing you wrote, what you are describing is in itself is quite unconscious :)
Thank you
@@victornilsson2816 Not at all. What he's describing is the self-monologue of "your life".
I try not to. I do wonder why the great awakening is happening simultaneously with CERN experiments in switzerland. Everyone look up while they should all look into DAVOS. Regardless, I believe you are one of the kindest ppl I've heard. Thank you.
Exactly
as Eckhart explained, after the shift, he was in the tube without having bad feelings. So as long as you have bad feelings, and you blame it on the people that you call "unconscious people", make sure, that it is not yourself, being unconscious in that very moment.
Quite so !🍀
Exactly. Don Miguel Ruiz books explain it so good. Recomended for this tema
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Depends on what it is and I'd be wary of saying this because women more than anyone are asked to suppress their natural reactions and feelings in order to accommodate other people. So for women I would rather say "make sure it isn't others before you blame yourself". Definitely agree for guys and non ethnic minorities though yeh.
@@ellie-tk4jy yes, I can see where you're coming from, although some might say that's some sexist bias. If I might give an example of a female perspective that might be acceptable: I was working in a nurturing profession but cut backs, poor management and staff shortages stopped me being able to do my job properly. I was constantly challenging management and felt increasingly out of step with the institution. Edit: I was in fact becoming part of the toxic situation, feeding into it as much as suffering from it...The cognitive dissonance over years led to me getting burn out, then cancer, then leaving. I was aware of the writing on the wall, right up until the wall fell on me, but felt utterly powerless to do anything about it. I love this video, and your comment is particularly appropriate. Just wish this material was available to me then, maybe I would have woken up and left the place before it nearly killed me. Best wishes to you ❤
What a wonderful time to be alive and have easy access to the spiritual wisdom of an amazing teacher like Eckhart - thank you sir!
How is Eckhart always so kind and attentive? Thank you for being so sweet, sir!
He´s got patience with poor humanity . . .
The key to a peaceful life (10:58): don't demand that anything that arises should not arise 😇
fundamental agreement of reality
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I need to tattoo this on myself so I never forget. What a beautiful thought.
Don’t wanting reality being reality is irrational.
« We can’t be right against reality » - Stoicism
Removed myself from a toxic work environment.
it actually wasn't my choice, but my guardian angel was helping me, now I'm in a better place.
No such thing as a coincidence❤
There are no ordinary moments.
Thank you for this ❤ Message Eckhart Tolle!
I know how it is to be in the Flow ❤ and I manage to stay calm in my Meditation even if there are worst noise pollution.
After a while it stopped, because I didnt care.
Last year I travelled a lot again in the flow. In case of the leaf blower or if they destroy Nature by cutting trees, its time to tell that this is not the right way!
Cant accept that unconsious egos destroy the world!
In six months travelling in Central America I found only one place where I felt that Nature was happy!
Means where wilderness is real.
My goal is that there ll be new
expierience rooms in Nature, instead of schools, where the kids understand own feelings and needs and communicate them like in NVC - so they can understand each other and there ll be no more wars!
The first rule must be that we have to contribute in each others luck ❤ in a true human way!
Love this place with lucky beings❤ I want to live in harmony and that means to listen also if there is a conflict. To stay in a unpersonal condition is still challenching because these situation appear when I dont aspect them, because I thought people are more aware, but thats still an illusion.
Not my brother not my sister but its ne o Lord staying in the need of prayer ❤!
And if its to bad and there is no solution, because there is no way to communication I leave! Jesus told us" if you are not accepted leave the place" !
BUT ALL WHAT WE NEED IS LOVE❤❤❤
When anyone asks, what are you grateful for ?…the answer is “ Eckhart Tolle”🙏
Yes, hw saved my life 4 years ago, but I still have to listen to music and ocean waves with earplugs every Day in order to keep Sane ! Sensitivity in a modern society is very difficult to live with, because there never was so much noise everywhere as in these last two centuries ! Right now I am disturbed by neighbours constantlt slamming doors, trying to sleep ! Consciousness does not help me here !!!
A great answer of meliocracy
Food.
This is exactly what Putin is thinking too. The only difference is all he has to do is push a button and poof, we're gone! Just like that. Think about what you're saying here. Thanks
@Fred Carpenter Fred, can I call you Fred? Anyway Fred, Fred, Fred, Frederick, Frederick the Great, Freddy Boy, all I'm saying here is that Putin will push button you right out of existence. Is that the Legacy of Frederick the Great? NO!! Gotblam it. We need to push back against the push button man who wants you, and I to die. Do you wanna die??? Of course not!! You wanna LIVE!!!! Just not here in this world. I get it. I understand exactly how you feel and where you are coming from. You come from home. And you're ready to go back. I'm with ya on that one big feller. Big Freddy Boom Boom 💥. Now let us pray 🙏.
Thanks F r Ed
It's a relief to hear that even Eckhart has "disturbing" noises around when he meditates and it's inspiring to see how he managed to switch from an unconscious being to one who can trascend the city noises.
Accepting what IS; unless it is abusive. Then change is needed.
doesn't what you decide is right or wrong. When you feel, think and act, it is not informed by your ideals, because your ideals are formed in a private way. No such privacy exists. To be amongst others is to influence and be influenced by others. Even aiming to be flexible is another way to become the opposite. No aim, no wrong, no right. Accepting what is, means to think about what is. No thought neccessary, but still thought arises whether neccessary or not. Nothing can be told how to be. All this should is what stop what is from being. And that is what is. Do you allow that? Do you accept that?
I don't accept what is. And I accept that is what is.
When we become more and more centered, our center becomes so strong until the outside does not distract us or influence us. It takes one day at a time. Just like building a muscle.
I like this....
I love her self awareness and willingness to ask questions leading to the management of her power.
It gives us all permission to do the same.
Life is becoming a satisfying journey.
Very helpful video for those who have to deal with a narcissist or a toxic person. It doesn’t help to feed into their unconsciousness with your own. Thank you for reminding us to practice responsibility and Presence 🙏
Ive heard narcissistic victim hood is a sort of contagious narcissism. Like the ego and pain body spreads to the “victim” causing more identification and density.
Is it helpful that they feed into our peace with their own unconsciousness?
Love the peaceful sound of the waterfall at the end of every talk by Eckhart! 🙂
"By allowing myself to feel it, there was transcendence." Thank you..
I'm disconnecting from people, living an independent life, and I've never been happier.
@@AL_THOMAS_777 So awesome! 🎨🌹🖌️♥️🖼️
Bur for growing and ascention we need other to test our waters so to speak. I mean most are here to solve karmic issues and thats with orhers around us. Just a thought❤
I love the way he genuinely asks questions while being gentle with her and analyzes the situation to answer her question❤❤
She's so brave to put herself out there like that. I appreciate how patient Eckhart is and understanding as well. He is able to relate deeply and that's so refreshing. Much more to learn for me. Thank you!
You're speaking as if she needs to hide? What would be a good reason to hide?
@@Lizbeth36961 I'm sorry you've read or interpreted it that way. I'm more focused on her courage. I can see how one could read it that way but believe me that was NOT my intention.
I love interacting with people i still work full time at 71 and just love people and i genuinely believe we both take something from our interactions. I particularly enjoy interacting with difficult people, working on being non judgemental has been very useful , everyone has their story
My husband is still blind to everything. 22 years together 3 kids together. Awake for almost 3 years so gets hard cause he thinks I’m a conspiracy theory person. I see the truth. I’m always been outsider I love being alone gardening and in nature. I’m ready for my husband to see the truth. Our children see the truth. I knew I was Empath feel everything deeply to kind hearted in this world. Thanks for sharing💝
Accepting him as he is will be a challenge and an opportunity for you to grow ♡ In time he may begin to follow your path.
He is your teacher and mirror. Through him you see your state of consciousness. It doesn't matter how he is. How you fully accept the way it is, that matters.
There's something called Quantum entanglement
do you know how many people thinks they are ampath and they are not?
@@Bibiana862 ok I believe I am have all signs but ok James
Consciousness is pure and infinite whether alone or with people.
Such lovely comments. Beautiful 🙏🏻🌹 Love to all of you. Thankyou for being here "now" ✨❤️✨
Surrender to Spirit for Spirit is all that is. This is the lesson I take from Echart’s talk. 🙏🏼
Surrender yourself is the key. Realize that we are floating in the midst of negative energies all around us. Accept them whole heartedly without judgement as far as possible. And when judgment arises realize it’s arising and accept that’s part of us too. Over a number of years of practice at least for me, it becomes a habit and yes it DOES work! Spiritual life was never meant to be easy :( It’s a journey until our death beds never a destination.
There is always a higher wisdom when hearing Eckhart speak of internal truth
This is what life is about - interacting with all types of people. If you're present, you'll know how to interact. That's it.
My wife is unconscious. Recently, I tried to introduce her to these concepts hoping she would join me on the journey. Nothing but resistance. I guess I have "deep surrender" practice ahead.
Whyd you marry her
@@Ellis_B money
@@thaddeus46 my mother, sister and ex girl all unaware , heavily programmed and firmly in the matrix. Thankfully my kids mother smart and aware , think Sarah Connor lol
I so sorry for your wife being asleep still. I pray right now that God lay a lantern at her feet. 🙏
@@thaddeus46 As you stated that you married your wife for money: As my mother used to say "Those who marry for money earn it" 🙂 Accepting her as she is will be a challenge and an opportunity for you to grow ♡ In time she may begin to follow your path but judging others always feeds our egos.
It's been a hard but incredibly valuable lesson for me to understand that whatever bothers me in other people is just a reflection of something in myself that I don't like or accept. Even if it is just at a small level. It is at the core of compassion and responsibility. And once you know it you can't go back. Doesn't mean you won't slip and fall though. Constantly observe and accept without judgment and it will become easier and easier to stay conscience and transcend this seemingly mad, unending cycle.
Thank you,nice...
I had the same feeling some months ago and that itself provides evidence how we are evolving spiritually. Such a wholesome blissful feeling to gain awareness little by little
The reflection you see in others if for your own emotional & spiritual growth to evolve as a soul
This is so hard, I can’t be around unconscious people for long without having to get away from them. I spent most of my life around these types, they drain you. Once you get away from them peace is possible I love being alone and present 💝
I removed myself from a Toxic job that I worked at for 10 years. It ended up being the best decision I could have ever made, love the power of now audio cds for road trips. Thank you Eckhart!
Congratulations on loving yourself.
I did the same, but only spent six days there. Function of age and bothering to learn.
@@wisconsinfarmer4742 ???????
@@lemurianchick oh sure, six days at a toxic work environment. No one who loves themselves will stay in that game.
Good for you!! Companies make you feel disposable even if you've been there for years. I hope you find what you're looking for 💙
Took you long time. Muffin
Exactly the question I asked God today and the video appeared. Eckart Tolle is great Guru, I know about him but never listened to him until today. I’m facing the same with my family, they are amazing beings but something is shifting in me and I do participate in the toxicity and then feel miserable. Now I know where my lesson is. Thank you dear lady for asking the question and Thank you Eckhart Sir for the answer.
When confronted by toxic energy, accept it as a manifestation of life. You get beyond it through deep surrender. You sense it as expression of human unconsciousness. You feel the negative energy without mental narrative. It is transcendence.
Remove yourself if it is violent or extraordinarily toxic.
Thanks Eckhart. 💯🌻💖👍🐘🍨🍌🤠
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Do boundaries have a place here as to how and till when to be present ? Can one guide .
yeah just move through it.
Yes boundaries if possible, but otherwise practice mastering unconditional love &acceptance
@Kelly Spear what do you mean?
Much love to everyone. We are one.
This is challenging but I know keeping calm around unconscious people will be a step closer to more awareness. 🙏.
Honestly being around unconsciousness is a great opportunity for growth
It really is the best test to gauge just how conscious you are.
Alec, so true my friend. I found it rather easy to live in joy and harmony when i am off alone in nature. But i realize i am missing out on so many learning opportunities. Cheers.
Growing also means helping them the unconscious to see or become a little more conscious. Its your challange to find something that make them more aware. Or at least plant some seeds there❤
@@kolarz2128 amen
I deleted my previous comment here. It was two years and I changed my mind on it. Unconsciousness around will show you how good you can deal with life challenges that's true.
Sometimes we are "forced" to be with people who are at low level of self development. (You have to go to work place for instance). When you are there - be there. Learn how to ignore what has to be ignored. How to accept what has to be accepted. How to leave situation when it has to be leaved.
I am in special need right now for some work place which offers me a part time hours, because I need that for the school I just started. However, this place contains one of the greatest unconsciousness I have ever had to face. They are constantly asking you to work faster and very hard, and they are very nervous about it. it can be said that they are very future-oriented in their activities.
Despite this, I don't get drawn into it - this crazy rush, I do my thing at my own pace and I don't consider it a bad thing, although I know that they see it differently, because they have already let me know.
What's important is that I don't fight with them about it, I tell them that I'm trying, I'm doing what I can, etc., I don't offer resistance to what they are saying to me, because they are not my enemies. I don't know if they will fire me from that place at some point for not being fast enough, or will give me some other tasks to do, but I am sure that if my behaviour towards them was different, then it would be a matter of time when. Still I am sure but I may be wrong about it. The most important factor is how do I feel and I am feeling okay thanks to being in alignment with myself.
Tread carefully around toxic people. You can fall in the sticky tar and it's difficult to work your way out. Best advice "remove yourself" if you're ruminating and in emotional turmoil. Save yourself and send out a life raft from distance. Be careful.
What a vulnerable and helpful question!! And what a brave soul she is to reveal herself to this gentle, kind, funny wisdom keeper and all of us. Thank you both!!❤
Don't react dont judge, sending a tone of love to me and everyone who across this lovely channel❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
We deserve all people we surrounded by. They our angels helping us get better.
Thank you Eckhart for ur words if wisdom. I'm suffering from PTSD and triggered often but I now understand I must accept what is and simply feel the panic and let t Be. Sounds easy 😊 but it's my homework . Very grateful 😘
I reached my ENLIGHTENMENT about a year ago. I struggled for 20 years trying to follow spiritual teachers' guides. But I was able to reverse engineer the process of stopping the advances from the DEFAULT MODE NETWORK (brain function responsible for the self-conversetions/Ego). I've written a book with instructions for the ENLIGHTENMENT OF THE MASSES.
My techniques are fundamental with crystal clear instructions and no open concepts or parables to figure out. My book is now available in Amazon "ON THE EVOLUTION FROM THE PRIMITIVE EGOIC MIND BY MEANS OF PURE CONSCIOUSNESS" by Victor Berrios
@@skycherrios5885This sounds wonderful! I will check it out! 😊😊😊
That was so good. Eckhart’s analogy and example of how to remain conscious and not fall back into unconsciousness.
"Accepting what is",
"deep surrendering ",
"completely ok with it"...
"oh, that's what is", ....
💞👍🤗🙌🌸
That's what works, yes.
And I very much feel love
instead of anger
with these practices
we were taught on here.
I've been practicing consciousness in these ways with toxic people
for over 37 years. I am 58. So most of my adult life. And I would say even a lot as a child and teen.
But definitely understood the concept of consciousness during toxic times only 37 years ago.
Other than the list given on this channel today I would add that to remain conscious in toxic times
I "step outside" of the person that I am, as if I'm a spectator only, and thereby not able to react. The toxic person or egoic person is not affecting me as I have stepped outside of the flesh so to speak, and have a place standing outside of my person. In that place outside of my person, it is calm and peaceful.
And when I come back into my person, I am bringing the calm and peace with me to my flesh being. So the soul and the flesh match in the presence of peace and understanding and love.
That's the best I can put it in words.
And definitely what was taught here to "take home" with everyone today is that surrender is a power. Not a weakness.
And when you learn that and understand that surrender and acceptance is your power card, you want to use it regularly, and daily and you'll feel love and peace as byproducts of surrender. Humility is just as similar. Remaining humble, taking the idea of acceptance and surrender is power . Use them. And feel love, peace, and freedom and tranquility as you maintain these powers. I'm not perfect at it at all times, but I enjoy practicing it daily over 37 years. And it works for me.
Amazing. Thank you so much.
@@morenaflor7310 You're welcome, it's my pleasure. I'm happy to help, and thankful for your comment. 🤗🌸
Interesting
Amazing Susan!
You can’t do this if you absorb negative energy verbal abuse gaslighting til u react
The feeling of having the VIBE with certain people who just have your same frequency is amazing 🤩 when you find it try never lose it
I think the answer is compassion .The "toxic" people are only harming themselves. By being peaceful and compassionate we can provide an example to show them a way out of their pain.
@Anthonyb - very insightful
I was not prepared for thanksgiving with family after years that I was away and wasn’t able to travel to visit! Great experience in that I now know I can use more practice in staying centered!!
"the misery line"...so funny to have Eckhart describe his experience of the underground, back when he lived in London. Just listening to him relaxes me and allows me to just be. Thank you! 🙏
The answer that came to me is remain compassionate and forgiving
The point I get from here, if you cannot change it (except those extreme toxicant scenarios he mentioned), accept it, rather than feel frustrated / annoyed, once you accept it, you are at peace...Thanks for sharing.
the answer comes at 10 min:40 sec into the video - onwards ❤ wow thanks
I love sitting alone by myself. It’s my favourite thing. And everyone thought I was depressed Sad what our society thinks of “being alone”
I totally agree with you! I feel like spending time alone is spending time with my best friend. It's a happy place, a place of peace, calm and serenity, and I love it! 🕊
Transcending the Northern Line is quite the accomplishment ❤
The more I become conscious the harder it is to deal with "normal human unconsciousness". Fortunately, those around me are somewhere along the line of growing consciousness. There is a temptation to withdraw from much of human interaction. That said, there is also pleasure in just being light-filled and calm during normal human interactions as well. Kind of "sharing" my contentment and calmness through my voice and posture. Disturbing interactions are decreasing as I grow more calm within myself. I am now able to sense the tension and anxiety often (not always) washing across me or even through me in situations that might once have been unsettling--or even a full clash of egos.
Nice statement Charlene ! We all have to come - and finally arrive - to OURSELF ! This is exactly the "coming home" so many wise teachers are talking about. See Osho for instance: Never been married, but oh SOOOO happy - surrounded by nice pupils anyway . . . And "Eckie" is a 100 % wonderful supplement to this indian kind of ZEN-master . . .
I like how she thanked him for asking the question. Made me realize how wonderful and beneficial questions are. I often see people getting annoyed and sometimes mad when being asked questions. The only time i hate being questioned is by the cops because i know their questions are only to incriminate me.
This is such great and practical advice. Especially for those of us who are more sensitive to external stimuli such as other people’s behavior, or even environmental conditions such as noise, light, smells, etc. Thank you for this video.
Yes, I sympathize with you. Sometimes I feel as if I was dropped into a war zone and told to just get on with it. I do find it hard to deal with other people's ego's and manners, there's so many to deal with, if they only knew how exhausting it is by the end of the day.
The distinction between normal unconscious relationships and extreme unconscious is key. It's a workout for our emotional presence as long as we apply the correct workout for the situation
Been doing this all my life…. Apply “Forgive them for they know not what they do” and make sure you meditate before during and afterwards 😂… if they irritate you, that’s so much more about you! ✨✨🙏🏻
Amid toxic people/situations, i do not react or even reply to their prodding questions, unless it is with "I don't know ", maybe, is that so". But always keep repeating silently my inner mantra to myself : FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY DO. And that keeps me out of ego storms❤
What arises «still is a manifestation of life". I loved that. Thanks to everything just the way it is. It is thought that way by something greater, like I am too. In all it's forms, it's always the expression of something greater.
I used to work in Houston Texas and it helped greatly to leave the city every weekend to a small town and walk the woods. I would feel so much release and healing and then when entering the city by car, again on Sunday night, you can really feel the city closing in on your person.
I am in trauma. And this explains part of why I can’t handle people right now!! I used to be able to do this and I can’t anymore. I feel too far gone from it as I disassociate. So this is literally saving me in a way? Seeing this video. Almost like my prayer has been answered in a way. And I can’t explain it other then, this is the beginning again, to finding my way back. I have had many experiences I can’t explain that have brought me to this.
A reminder to rewatch this video.
And.. when the path is dark, remember that others have walked it before you and that they have left clues, signs, and other assistance for you on the path. Look for them. With love, your friend.
“By allowing urself to feel it, there is transcendence.” I am so glad he was able to tell us how to do it, and not give us fru fru jargon to do so. Sometimes spiritual teachers don’t give us the exact tools or language we need to move in this world. It was helpful to see regular daily interactions can be shifted simply by our thinking. We truly are the owners of how we see our world. Is the cup half full or half empty? You pick!
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ”
― Simone Weil
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜
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reality is not in the field of vision of loa preachers though.
It has been years of struggle and frustration.. I’ve finally realized I had to surrender and flow. Learning detachment is also a very large part of what’s helped me. Understanding we are all here on our own journey and souls not ready to awaken just aren’t ready yet! Part of it is ur still in ur ego if u allow it to bother u!!
The more presence you cultivate before going into situations it acts as a protective barrier in an energetic way.
Thank you for thé question and the answer!
Girl i feel your pain and sadness and i know what it is to be lonely i really do even if your surrounded by people at times i want you to know you are not alone there are many of us and i know you must have been nervous about reaching out to and i just wanna say bravo for doing so the universe will like that 😊☮️🙏
I listened to this to prepare myself for my narc coming home from work. We had an "enthusiastic" fight at 5am and haven't spoken all day, so there is the tension of unresolved conflict in the air. Add the weariness of a long hard day and the attention seeking dramatics the narc brings through the door with him, and i'm anxious there will be a blow up. I don't want to react in a way that is unacceptable, angry, and bitter, and i know watching this video can help me stay focused on regulating MY behavior. Thank you for your dedication to sharing this wisdom!
This was absolute wonderful! What a privileged she was 🙂
Adding to the noise during meditation: "Every sound is helping me to relax more deeply."
Was meant to come across this video this morning reminding not to resist the things that come up that lead me to feel upset, stressed etc. thank you
a lot of spiritual people want to fast forward through the uncomfortable situations but that is apart of the human experience, like he said, “resist nothing that arises.” We are constantly being asked to surrender and those bothersome moments are those unconscious triggers and are mirrors of our own subconscious mind
"The power of Knowledge is with you. The Presence is with you. But everything in the world that has dominated you in the past and that dominates you now is also with you. And these things are leading you in different directions.
Therefore, during your time of preparation, particularly at the outset, you will have to limit your exposure to people, places and certain things. This will require great restraint and great discretion, things that most people do not possess, for they do not have the strength to exercise these things.
Here even your hobbies or your recreation must be reconsidered. Is it truly beneficial for you mentally and physically? Does it really give you reprieve? Does it really give you rest? Does it support your engagement with Knowledge? Or is it a form of escape, a running away? Many things actually fit this category and serve this purpose.
Refrain from going to the movies, as they imprint you and fill your mind with powerful images that will make it more difficult for you to still your mind and begin to explore your inner life.
See what music does for you. Rather than playing it all the time, see what kind of emotions, thoughts and feelings it arouses. Is it truly beneficial for you? Or does it remind you of your suffering, your longing, your desires, your disappointments?
All these things must be re-evaluated because everything is having an influence upon you, and that influence is either helpful or a hindrance. Understanding this, then, gives you the criteria to re-evaluate all the things, people, places and influences in your life in a more objective manner, with greater clarity and discernment.
If you are to have the freedom to live a life of greater purpose and integrity, you must gain this freedom, which has been lost to so many things. You must re-evaluate who you are with and what you do, how you spend your time and where your mind tends to go, and the influence and the effect of your activities upon you. Here you will see that many things that before seemed innocuous, or even pleasurable, really are a hindrance.
This is really about becoming truly honest with yourself. It is not about having one perspective versus another perspective. This is not about having one belief or set of beliefs versus other sets of beliefs. It is really about becoming honest with yourself, honest at a deeper level.
What is really the truth about your involvement with this person or this activity or this form of engagement with the world? To be really honest, you will see if something is beneficial or not, and you will see how and even if you must be engaged with it.
Taking the Steps to Knowledge is a process of becoming truly honest with yourself and as a result honest with others-honest in your pursuits, honest in your values, honest in your communication with others, honest in what goals you set for yourself and why you set them. Honest.
Knowledge is deep and simple because it is wholly honest. You are complex and confused because you are not yet wholly honest. Knowledge is strong, focused and powerful. Your mind is diffused, confused and set in opposing directions because you are not yet fully honest. You have not really come to terms with what you most deeply know and your true direction in life, which is all the product of becoming truly honest.
It is not about having a better belief system. It is not about perspective. It is not about opinions and ideas, for that is all at the surface of the mind.
We are speaking of something that is far deeper than the surface of your mind, something that is intrinsic to your nature-that which has brought you into the world and that which you will reflect upon once you leave this world, that which is most elemental and fundamental to your being here.
As you take the Steps to Knowledge, you will have [the] opportunity to extend your honesty into new areas and to reconsider things you have always assumed or believed in without question. It is a very deep evaluation.
Here you will begin to see that which is harmful and that which is helpful. Here you will value simple pleasures. And you will see the danger and the hazard of giving your mind and life away to things that have no real promise or purpose for you.
Let this be your understanding."
An excerpt from *Harmful Influences* - a teaching from 'The New Message from God' - as revealed to Marshall Vian Summers.
Hello..🙏🏻 From one member of the greater community of worlds to another, thankyou for this posting and your time 🌎✨ I think it is comforting aswell as informative.
Wow! SO long thread
Jesus Christ dude it isn’t all that complicated to of written a book! I didn’t read your entire tread because it’s too long but it almost sounds like you’re saying avoid everything. If that’s the case, I disagree. I think you should practice presence with everything goin on around you AFTER you’ve practiced enough presence in your life.
@@sky.9 No doubt! 🤣
TLDR
The reality you face outside of yourself is that part of yourself that you have not understood. You create what’s outside because you need to face it, to know and understand it. So that your awareness will grow, and so will your consciousness.
I was confused by what it meant to let go and surrender until my recent Ayahuasca experience. I had a lot of physical pain. I had a choice in each moment to be consumed by the pain and complain incessantly in my head until it was over or I could stop resisting and just be in the moment with each breath with gratitude and humility. It’s always a choice IF we are conscious. And then forgiving ourselves when we catch ourselves complaining and no longer in the moment. She mentions a growing sensitivity to being aware when she’s not conscious. This is a good sign and an indicator of expanding awareness. I’m sending love to you all. The key to humanity lies with people like you…..
People often in their own egotistical contentious or combative issues often distract you away from yourself or being yourself. Presence and internal and external awareness is HUGE.
By allowing my self to feel it, there was transcends. So simple life can be but we inflict suffering on ourselves. Thanks for all your insights ❤️
Loved that Elkhart understands awareness of being drawn into behaving as others in an ego trap . So true . I’m always cross without myself when I’ve let myself behave in this way ❤
Acceptance is key to keeping your peace
This does not mean u put up injustice or
agreeing with them.
It means when you speak, think first
and speak only from your heart.
Otherwise just Be, (quiet)
and accept them as you would want to be accepted.
Namaste' 🙏
A great gift for the humanity, Eckhart Tolle.
Wow I'm going through that exact situation right now... I thank the Universe for showing me this video! Much love for all of you people 💜
The universe is awesome. It has a way of transmuting a part of itself through you where the full manifestation of you and the universe is fully expressed. Now let us pray 🙏
So true, when your able to enjoy your own company you internally become stronger and from my own perspective, it actually draws people towards you especially when you remain free and quiet from those who seek attention. It’s also easier to observe peoples behavior and let go of those who are in lower vibrations. We all experience lower vibrations from time to time but if we remain aware we can improve.
For me, a high sensitive woman, a very interesting video! Especially 'if you resist tou become part of the toxic energy'. Thank you.
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Eckharts advice is a lot like the premise behind the very successful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This theorizes that some trigger happens (big city vibes / leaf blower / London Metro), then you start thinking about that (negatively / judging / revolting), and only then does it register emotionally and influence your state of mind. These emotions can then become a trigger themselves kicking you into a spiral of negativity (or euphoria if you were listening to music or observing a beautiful bird for example). The only ways to stop this is to remove / avoid the trigger or change your thinking. The second is the most universally effective way but requires training because its not what most of us are taught to do.
Your beautiful energy lifts up people. I am grateful.
I have done this from living as a benefit to the others around me. I listen and be supportive. Speak only if they show interest to hear. Otherwise I'm just present at hand and content in myself.
What is an unconscious person really? Every-'one' has their own experience, perceptions, perspective from the whole. Consciousness is always present everywhere. From my vantage point I would look inward to alter an situation. ❤
Yes i think too, e everyone has some level of consciousnes.
I think we should help others to , maybe help them to grow or become some more conscious. Nobody is perfect 😊
@@beavischrist5 But if I truly believed we are one, whom am I attempting to help? It's almost to say, don't interfere with, a so called another's karma.
@@wattaura7621 well if someone is in pain or trouble we could reach out to them with some knowledge they dont have maybe.
Also were do we need teachers like tolle for if we all have to find out outselves because of karma.
I believe we come to earth to solve for outselves and helping others growing. Its part of oneness.
What is so gentle, humble, and therefore, amazing to me are your questions and follow up questions in which you seem to see and treat a young student as a worthy equal.
This was a good reminder. He added to what he has said in his books and it was helpful. Love that waterfall scene at the end. So peaceful. Sometimes I bring a waterfall scene into my mind during very stressful situations or around unconscious people I am experiencing it from behind a waterfall. Part of the big problem around world situations or people is the resistance as he says. "This shouldn't be happening. I should be living on a different planet". I have survived much of my life just by knowing there are other planets and worlds where consciousness is more evolved. That helps long term LOL.
One of my ways to surrender to What Is...
I sing and hum in harmony with things like lawnmowers and traffic, and by that way of incorporating them into my meditation, their discordant noise is transformed to a harmonious drone tone!🎶🍂
Thank you Eckhart it is so wonderful to hear your voice … gentleness expressed … gratitude.
I used to think there was something with me that I loved to be alone and didn’t want to spend much time with others. Now I release that judgment to myself, I feel free and content by being alone.
Thank you very much, Eckhart, and thank you also to the girl for asking these questions because we are going through the same experiences