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  • @Tao_Tology
    @Tao_Tology Год назад +2598

    Grief becomes less 'present' in your day to day, but then you mention that person in passing and you find your throat tightening and you remember that they aren't here.

    • @christinecremen4151
      @christinecremen4151 Год назад +29

      Yes.

    • @nektekket852
      @nektekket852 Год назад +39

      Absolutely. Big hugs all. 💗

    • @mothratemporalradio517
      @mothratemporalradio517 Год назад +56

      When you lose someone, it isn't ever this once only thing where you grieve at the funeral and then that's it. You continue to relate to the memory pf that person as you grow and change. This is why i love the concept of the Mexican tradition of the "Day of the Dead" because it actually represents a regular occasion and opportunity to celebrate the people that you've lost that you still keep in your heart, remember and hold love for. We do have the tradition of visiting a grave to pay respects but increasingly people may not be interred in cemeteries with headstones and so that aspect of the catharsis of a ritual of remembrance may remain somewhat at arm's length in our culture. (Ie British or Western.)
      Of course, there's no reason you can't create your own rituals of remembrance. 🍃🤲
      Also, f cancer. A thief of love.

    • @chadtopia
      @chadtopia Год назад +34

      Very much so. It never leaves you, just fades from the forefront of your mind until such moments recover it.

    • @christinejackson3922
      @christinejackson3922 Год назад +14

      So true

  • @brendaguy8747
    @brendaguy8747 Год назад +2107

    His death was 21 years ago and she still finds it hard to discuss. What love and devotion that shows.

    • @kirk93814
      @kirk93814 Год назад +9

      Just like Queen Victoria 😢

    • @SamSam-xb1ur
      @SamSam-xb1ur Год назад +8

      She's an incredible actress who is playing a role for the camera even in that interview. She knew what she was doing and how she wants to be perceived in that moment. It was calculated but with good execution.

    • @aioloswind
      @aioloswind Год назад +125

      @@SamSam-xb1ur or she's just a person who lost someone she loved and mourns them. not everything is calculated.

    • @SamSam-xb1ur
      @SamSam-xb1ur Год назад +1

      @@aioloswind He died by stool in his blood. I just wish they didn't have to tell any1. What did you think about that (respecting the deads wishes) but it raises awareness atleast can we agree on that what do you think it was a few minutes in I thing thats when she was really calculations

    • @patricelockertanthony7630
      @patricelockertanthony7630 Год назад +45

      @@SamSam-xb1ur I think you're terribly lacking in understanding and compassion for what it means to love and suffer the loss of the relationship that that love can build. And @aiolos is correct, too.

  • @thevenerablekev1
    @thevenerablekev1 Год назад +1236

    I love how Louis gave Judi time and space to talk about her husband dying. She said she didn’t want to talk about it, but the space gave her time to compose herself.

    • @Rubylove48
      @Rubylove48 Год назад +70

      She didn’t say she didn’t want to talk about it, she said she wasn’t good at talking about it.

    • @nartarlyiatremaynne1239
      @nartarlyiatremaynne1239 Год назад +4

      I concur with your sentiment 100%♡
      Australia.

    • @BooRadleyTube
      @BooRadleyTube Год назад +6

      Laughing Lucy has already said this, but it's important: She didn't say she didn’t want to talk about it. I she did, he would have respected that, not just give her space and wait for her to change her mind.

    • @ksc743
      @ksc743 Год назад +34

      @@BooRadleyTube in Britain, by saying "I'm not good at talking about it" is a polite way of saying "I'd rather not talk about it." One could see how much effort it took for her to remain the consummate professional and not ruin his interview with a silence that became increasingly awkward.

    • @CommunitySage
      @CommunitySage Год назад +9

      I agree, he witnessed and allowed us all to witness-without trying to “fix” or look away from her grief. I appreciated that.

  • @Lordy08
    @Lordy08 Год назад +600

    To see a woman of such grace and poise, stammer and lose composure is truly heart wrenching.
    Sharing what she could was truly valuable. What an amazing human.

    • @jm7804
      @jm7804 8 месяцев назад +2

      More people should handle themselves in this fashion. You don't need to be a celebrity to do so either. Have class in everything you do and say. People will notice and you will be remembered for it long after your passing.

  • @tfgrrl2042
    @tfgrrl2042 Год назад +373

    Admire Louis for respecting her emotion and not stepping into the uncomfortable pauses with a followup. Interviewing is as much about listening deeply as is it about asking good questions.

  • @stephenconway2468
    @stephenconway2468 Год назад +697

    This beautiful and sensitive couple were at a wedding in Ireland where my close relative met them. They were (in her words) so sweet, caring and aware that their fame might overwhelm the bride and groom. So, they just were as wallflower like as possible. As I was told, there was a simple and lovely warmth between them. I am sad that Judi Dench lost her friend and husband, but I am happy that they had their time together as it seems to have been so special.

    • @eshaibraheem4218
      @eshaibraheem4218 Год назад +27

      @Stephen Conway: A lovely comment, for a special couple. Thank you.

    • @glennoc8585
      @glennoc8585 Год назад +9

      A long relationship or marriage is worth more than and fortune. Many people never find a soul mate for a long life. All is not lost though as many live great lives with a person they just like enough or even as single people.

    • @toniannebarry9831
      @toniannebarry9831 Год назад +5

      Beautifully said thank you for sharing this with us!

    • @angelacarleton9575
      @angelacarleton9575 Год назад +9

      Judi and her husband were friends and then husband and wive which they were fortunate to succeed in their marriage to last 30 plus years. How lucky for her to have so many memories of those early years and not have regrets. They were fortunate to have found each other.

  • @shannonrussell7151
    @shannonrussell7151 Год назад +233

    Broke my heart watching this. You could see her recollecting the memory of his passing, like it was yesterday. Grieving a loved one never leaves you.

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq Год назад +347

    I really enjoyed being privy to the home life of the honourable Dame Judi Dench. Louis was very gentle in speaking to her about her late husband. I can't believe that she's almost 88 years old!

  • @leethomasedwards7526
    @leethomasedwards7526 Год назад +540

    Shes an absolute treasure, we must protect her at all costs

    • @laar8267
      @laar8267 Год назад +12

      Protect her from what? And how?

    • @christianeduardo1
      @christianeduardo1 Год назад +20

      From people asking questions like yours 😅

    • @sweetestaphrodite
      @sweetestaphrodite Год назад +3

      @@laar8267 from everything, and how? Human shield

    • @maureenackerley8024
      @maureenackerley8024 Год назад +13

      She is a national treasure!

    • @jonc3295
      @jonc3295 Год назад

      Wtf are you on about? Is she being threatened by someone, or are you just a naturally, cliche-ridden, over-dramatic knob?

  • @pitbullsandcalicos
    @pitbullsandcalicos Год назад +207

    I lost my husband in 2006 and still miss him everyday. This made me cry. She is a lovely lady ❤️

    • @PHlophe
      @PHlophe Год назад +9

      aww Glyn. my condolences, honey. It never matter how long . As a Swazi ( that's in southern africa ) in my Phuti language we have a word for it when love is intertwined with grief . we call it Mahua because it is continuous loop I feel your pain. How long were you married for.

    • @komorebi3055
      @komorebi3055 Год назад +6

      @@PHlophe that's lovely, love the word Mahau. Thanks for sharing.

    • @pitbullsandcalicos
      @pitbullsandcalicos Год назад +4

      @@PHlophe 20 years ❤️

    • @meco4068
      @meco4068 Год назад +7

      This whole exchange was so beautiful to read. Rare to see kind, generous people exchange kind words online these days! ❤️ 🙏

    • @Walperion_Music
      @Walperion_Music Год назад +4

      @@meco4068 I love you for noticing that.

  • @AniWatX
    @AniWatX Год назад +197

    Her grief is so heartbreaking. It is the one thing I dread most in my life too. I love my husband so much. 40 years together. RIP the lovely Michael Williams.X

    • @jamiestewart48
      @jamiestewart48 6 месяцев назад +3

      Don't live dreading the possible, love the time you have together.

  • @milano5050
    @milano5050 Год назад +47

    My husband died of lung cancer nearly 6 yrs ago. Still seems like yesterday. He was only 44. Diagnosed out of the blue and died 11 wks later leaving a 6,10 and 15 Yr old behind. It is the most horrific thing to see the love of your life being eaten by this evil disease. My heart goes out to anyone who has had to face this x

  • @susanbrennan5511
    @susanbrennan5511 Год назад +92

    I lost my soulmate of 24 years 12 years ago. The pain doesn’t lessen over the years. You think it does but it does not.

    • @knitwit7082
      @knitwit7082 Год назад +8

      Susan Brennan • My.husband of 32 years fell off a ladder, breaking his shoulder, pelvis in 3 places, and sustaining a crush fracture in his lumbar spine. He has been in hospital and rehab now for 3 weeks. I have been alone to take care of everything. You don't appreciate how many things the other person does until you have all the responsibility yourself.
      The loneliness for them is agony. I miss him so much. His smell, his touch, his voice, his kisses and hugs. He will make a good recovery, and I believe he will be home in the next 3 weeks. This gave me a taste of widowhood, and I never want it! I have always told him he can't die because I don't want to be a widow. Now I know how true those words were! My heart goes out to all of you, men and women, who have been widowed. I don't know if I could bear up as well as so many of you have. 💔

    • @austinhowland300gmail.
      @austinhowland300gmail. Год назад +1

      Hi Susan how are you doing today

    • @leendecanck4723
      @leendecanck4723 Год назад +3

      @@knitwit7082 that really means a lot. I’ve been one for almost 7 years. Being a widow is really such a permanent thing. My baby girl was only 1 when my husband passed, our son 8. The pain for my kids is what keeps my heart broken. I can go on only because of them.

  • @BugLoveOG
    @BugLoveOG Год назад +297

    I'm not even in the UK, but I love her. What a talented, loving, witty, beautiful in and out, true Lady.

    • @Ooth9999
      @Ooth9999 Год назад +4

      Since when do you have to be in the uk to love someone who’s from the uk lol? Why’d you preface your comment by saying your not in the uk?

    • @tfgrrl2042
      @tfgrrl2042 Год назад +1

      I wonder if she would laugh at being called a lady. She is definitely unforgettable and her sense of humor is delightful

    • @BugLoveOG
      @BugLoveOG Год назад +5

      @@Ooth9999 - simple really. She's usually referred to across the pond as someone wonderful and talented in the UK. She's loved across the pond too!! It was meant kindly and positively. Sheesh.

    • @robbymitchell805
      @robbymitchell805 Год назад +4

      @@BugLoveOG I love her and I'm in Australia 😁👍🇦🇺

    • @BugLoveOG
      @BugLoveOG Год назад +2

      @@robbymitchell805 ❤

  • @spaceo8568
    @spaceo8568 Год назад +281

    Louis is one of the absolute BEST documentarians ever. He's so patient, open, respectful and has a genuine curiosity for people and their lives. He's amazing.

    • @fredmichaels418
      @fredmichaels418 Год назад +2

      Skavlan has that Ability as well .
      We Yanks haven't had an interviewer
      with comparable abilities since the Me Too'ed
      Charlie Rose . We will have to appreciate
      the Brit and Norwegian talents , I guess .

    • @rachellereeve494
      @rachellereeve494 Год назад +6

      Australia's Andrew Denton is a similarly brilliant interviewer.
      There are a few recordings of his old series 'Enough Rope' floating around on RUclips.

    • @kezzaobee1462
      @kezzaobee1462 Год назад +1

      Agree love him

    • @fredmichaels418
      @fredmichaels418 Год назад +2

      @@rachellereeve494 Thanks , I'll check it out .

    • @streetsoundselectro124
      @streetsoundselectro124 Год назад

      He's also a little tyke!

  • @mickaka
    @mickaka Год назад +454

    It’s hard to explain how harrowing it is watching someone die of lung cancer, it’s painful and undignified.
    I’ve been there at the end for a number of people in my life, but watching my step dad go like that, even all these years later it’s so fresh in my mind.
    Wouldn’t wish it on my most hated enemy.

    • @fredmichaels418
      @fredmichaels418 Год назад +24

      " There's one thing that's real clear to me: No one dies with dignity
      We just try to ignore the elephant somehow " Jason Isbell

    •  Год назад +23

      I know exactly what you mean, having lost my father to lung cancer in July this year. It will take a while to get to a point where I don't think of those final days.

    • @adamw7340
      @adamw7340 Год назад +4

      I must have a worse enemy than you

    • @bblake5116
      @bblake5116 Год назад +30

      My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lunch cancer at the end of 2011, but she refused to die from cancer. She already had pulmonary fibrosis, and she said that’s what I will die off. My mums mum battled cancer for 20 odd years, and mum said no, not cancer, not like my mum. The drs gave her 4 rounds of extremely strong chemo, to give her a year with us. At the end of treatment the drs ( who were so amazed) told her all the cancers gone. Mum said to him, I know, I told you I’m getting rid of it. Sadly the pulmonary fibrosis took her life 5 years later. She slapped the cancer back for all the people it takes.

    • @ksc743
      @ksc743 Год назад +19

      That's why I think there should be voluntary euthanasia in cases like this. I've never allowed my beloved pets to suffer prolonged pain at the very end. I know and understand the arguments against voluntary euthanasia, but it is successfully implemented in several countries. It is so professionally run one never hears anything bad about it.

  • @ChivyDCom
    @ChivyDCom Год назад +48

    In 2001 he died the pain in her voice feels like it happened yesterday. That was the love of her life a piece of her went with him . And she has just learned to live without him. oh, I can feel her grief.

    • @fiona4423
      @fiona4423 Год назад +4

      You’re absolutely right. I lost my husband and a part of me went with him. I’m not the same person anymore and yes, I’m learning to live without him but at times it’s difficult.

    • @MoonSpinners
      @MoonSpinners Год назад +3

      @@fiona4423 …. When someone dies, people say you’ll get over it, you’ll feel better at some point, but you never get over it, you just learn to live along side it, and go through the motions of living with a smile on your faces for everyone else’s sake. After a certain period passes, people don’t ask how you are anymore, and for me, I’ve found this year harder to get through and it’s been six years since losing my loved one. Grief is strange, it can creep up on you when you’re not looking. I hope you’re doing ok, and being kind to yourself. 🤗

    • @MoonSpinners
      @MoonSpinners Год назад

      @@melianna999 …I don’t think there’s such a thing as “normal” when it comes to grief, everyone goes through it differently, but I do believe some thing’s aren’t healthy for our mental well-being, and I think sleeping with your dead loved ones ashes may be a step in the unhealthy direction. I have a friend who’s husband died of sepsis in hospital last year, and she’s still got the pyjama top he was wearing and it’s covered in his blood. She keeps it in the dining room! This is not healthy, and she’s now suffering from nightmares and can’t go into that room. I’ve told her gently that she needs to dispose of it, but she’s not listening to me. It’s like keeping his dead body in the front room. This is only my opinion though, like I said, everyone is different 😐

    • @melianna999
      @melianna999 Год назад

      @@MoonSpinners We should farawell
      our loved one who died ,on cemetary.
      Sadly people learn about the souls
      suffering when they die.
      I understand pain of separation but
      totally against keeping the ashes
      in bed or being distress or in sorrow for
      the rest of the life.. WE ALL have to die
      some day.

  • @Missjunebugfreak
    @Missjunebugfreak Год назад +97

    I started tearing up listening to Judi talk about Michael. You can tell it wasn't easy for her to relive those painful memories but she has so much strength to keep a joyful spirit even after such a tragedy. And I liked that Louis gave her time to talk without pressing her about it. A very sweet, heartfelt moment.

  • @KoniB.
    @KoniB. Год назад +55

    And over 20 years since that passing, it still is devastating. A "Fine Romance", indeed!

    • @direfranchement
      @direfranchement Год назад

      Maybe you misunderstood the lyrics to the song…or you have never heard it. This was no “fine romance”.

  • @sharon339
    @sharon339 Год назад +45

    Her grief is still very palpable.

  • @MsCuriousturtle
    @MsCuriousturtle Год назад +18

    When she started crying, I wanted to give her a big hug.

  • @claudettetillier4318
    @claudettetillier4318 Год назад +31

    Bless, still so raw for her.

  • @AnnieNYC1
    @AnnieNYC1 Год назад +29

    She's a lady, and it shows. My heart goes out to her, and I hope she's been surrounded with love before and since and will always be.

  • @rdgist
    @rdgist Год назад +30

    Beautiful, wise, warm, hilarious and sensitive. She's a gem! Much respect!

  • @nicinaude6189
    @nicinaude6189 Год назад +2

    Judi Dench is such a darling.
    I enjoy interviews with her so, so much.

  • @johnrider3749
    @johnrider3749 Год назад +17

    I love dame Judi she's not only a brilliant actor but also a lovely person and a national treasure,

  • @carolinireland1684
    @carolinireland1684 Год назад +146

    Thank you, Dame Judi, for being willing to share your loss and show your emotion. In this day of quick fixes one gets the impression that we should be “all better” in no time. Losing someone you truly love may take a lifetime.

  • @marisapaola9010
    @marisapaola9010 Год назад +22

    When my mum passed three years ago, it changed my life, our loved ones are truely, irreplaceable. I keep looking for in others, some tiny part of my mum's humour, courage, kindness, in sync mindset, and I see crumbs of these in others, but they leave me flat. People are mere shells, me included. In my home town, places mum went, I find myself scanning people's faces, a habit in old familiar spots of looking for her beautiful open smiling face. Still we walk on. Love that Judi was honest, no Hollywood sage word salad. Peace and love everyone.💓

  • @hangin-in-thereawesome4245
    @hangin-in-thereawesome4245 4 месяца назад +1

    No one better than Dame Judy Dench! Much love and prayers for her!

  • @jbrewer2652
    @jbrewer2652 Год назад +2

    I've been lucky to have met her. She was with her beloved grandson, Sam, who looks a lot like Michael. She is surrounded by love and obviously still loves Michael.

  • @ursulageorgeson7086
    @ursulageorgeson7086 Год назад +85

    She is a magnificent sensetive. The source of her talent is her ability to feel. She could read a script from Neighbours and make you weep.

    • @MoonSpinners
      @MoonSpinners Год назад +7

      I still miss Neighbours, how dare you take it’s name in vain 😂

    • @mothratemporalradio517
      @mothratemporalradio517 Год назад +4

      @@MoonSpinners agree! Blasphemy! My favourite part was the era in which Harold crossed over to the dark side.

    • @MoonSpinners
      @MoonSpinners Год назад +2

      @@mothratemporalradio517 …I’m still traumatised 🤣

    • @KitKatToeBeans
      @KitKatToeBeans Год назад +2

      Being a sensitive is a real thing. It’s entirely different from being sensitive.

    • @MoonSpinners
      @MoonSpinners Год назад +3

      @@KitKatToeBeans …I don’t think anyone has questioned that, but as a sensitive myself, I thank you for explaining it for others who aren’t familiar with the term.

  • @DeliaLee8
    @DeliaLee8 Год назад +78

    I am so touched by her. She is just a truly amazing person. So sorry that she lost her husband. They deserve to have had so many more years together.

    • @Pea_Green
      @Pea_Green Год назад +4

      They certainly did. Kind of makes you (sic) think we should be kinder. Best wishes. 🙂

    • @lisamarieashby2523
      @lisamarieashby2523 Год назад +1

      What someone "deserves" has nothing to do with why things are or are not what we want to see happen. That comment is your personal sentiment. Not a statement of fact in any sense of the word. Think about that when making such a claim. A lot of decent people have crappy things happen to them. And a lot of crappy people have great things happen for them. So where does the "deserve" play into that?

    • @DeliaLee8
      @DeliaLee8 Год назад

      @@lisamarieashby2523 Phew - I hit a trigger for you. Of course no one deserves bad things. It was a loose turn of phrase. I was expressing my wish that they (and everybody) could have good things happen or continue to happen for example their wonderful relationship.

    • @barbarapoulden9235
      @barbarapoulden9235 Год назад

      @@lisamarieashby2523 I totally agree with you xx

  • @stephenmcconnell6384
    @stephenmcconnell6384 6 месяцев назад +4

    i've watched this interview in full and so admire louis and dame judi for the connection they had while doing it. the scene where they walk thru her garden is so sweet. grief knows no time.

  • @BaldursPicketFence
    @BaldursPicketFence Год назад +27

    My word, the level of poise and dignity in this interview.

  • @FLRSKLVR
    @FLRSKLVR Год назад +15

    I can listen to Judi for hours. She's so charming yet utterly ruthless at the same time.

  • @TomMaxwell756
    @TomMaxwell756 Год назад +2

    How can you not just love her?

  • @terenceayer337
    @terenceayer337 Год назад +19

    The world today needs role models like her to comprehend the real meaning of love & marriage....❤❤

  • @janw491
    @janw491 Год назад +3

    They were such a wonderful couple and she is a grand lady.

  • @callumbarrington898
    @callumbarrington898 Год назад +18

    This is very similar to how my Nan reacts when my Granddad is mentioned. The raw grief never goes away. Dame Judi was one of his favourites- what an icon she is.

  • @gigidodson
    @gigidodson Год назад +8

    My husband died in 2008. It not something you ever get over.
    Its part of the fabric of my life ,that grief. You go on simply because you have to. But you never get over it. The grief is just as profound today is it was that February 14th when he died.
    I dont wander around in my wedding gown or any such nonsense but its still a shadow on my heart.

    • @gigidodson
      @gigidodson Год назад

      @ohforfoxsake hugs back to you. ❤️

  • @ddraigmafon4725
    @ddraigmafon4725 Год назад +20

    I was blessed to meet Dame Judi, actually at a memorial service for a mutual friend (I had no idea she’d known Judi). She was such a warm and lovely lady, the true embodiment of a national treasure. It’s heartbreaking to hear her still fresh grief at losing her beloved husband, what a special bond they obviously had.

  • @tonray9395
    @tonray9395 Год назад +3

    LOVE Judi Dench !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! One of the best actresses ever

  • @martinboulden4388
    @martinboulden4388 Год назад +22

    She’s amazing and so was her hubby.

  • @nonni139
    @nonni139 Год назад +75

    I loved Judi and Michaels sitcom "A fine romance".Although it was made around 40 years ago its still fun to watch, Judi and Michael complemented each other so well.

    • @schwarjm100
      @schwarjm100 Год назад +5

      Greetings from Maryland USA! Thanks so much for including the name of Judi & husband’s sitcom so I can search for it.

    • @rogerdogger6969
      @rogerdogger6969 Год назад +3

      yes that is a hilarious show you're the only person in this feed that's even said his first name let alone last.. Even though this is about him his name is not mentioned I'm finding more fault with that then I probably should but I do because I feel like in spite of the fact this is about him he's actually kind of being ignored in a weird way.

    • @rogerdogger6969
      @rogerdogger6969 Год назад +5

      When I was first watching that show I had no idea that they knew each other other than for work but always thought to myself that they seemed like they would be a good couple LOL. Only in recent years have I found out that they actually were at the time which makes the show even more special.

  • @pupp5092
    @pupp5092 Месяц назад +1

    I just love this woman. What an actress! I’m so sorry for her loss. I’m happy that she knew such a love. She and he deserved to have that.

  • @merlinstwin7373
    @merlinstwin7373 Год назад +15

    They were a lovely couple, both national treasures. I adored their sitcom A Fine Romance. It was so apparent the romance was for real, offscreen as well as on. RIP Michael Williams. You are still missed, and I adore Dame Judi.

  • @davidmargetts78
    @davidmargetts78 Год назад +3

    She’s so beautiful.

    • @frasierfreak92
      @frasierfreak92 3 месяца назад

      She really is, she was absolutely stunning as a young woman and she’s aged brilliantly too! Her eyes are still so full of life and strength, they were always her best feature.

  • @christianeduardo1
    @christianeduardo1 Год назад +28

    This interview was raw, honest and all together beautiful. I cried and laughed and came to the very easy realization that we humans were honored with Dame’s Judy Dench presence.

  • @nicki66
    @nicki66 Год назад +23

    I now understand that look and that pain. I lost my mother last year and I will never be the same. I can’t imagine losing the man I have spent most of my life waking up beside and raising our children with. I don’t think a 100 years would make that easier to endure. Lovely, authentic and unpretentious woman.

    • @lekoman
      @lekoman 9 месяцев назад +2

      Yeah, I relate. I lost my mom a few years ago, myself. She was only 60. She had so much more time left. It's so hard to feel like all of the things I still wanted for our relationship are now never to be. It's still weird - disorienting - to think that she's gone... and it's absolutely true that life's high points are a little lower since. Someone else in the thread was talking about how grief takes up less of your day to day, but every time you mention someone in passing you still feel your throat tightening at the reminder that they're not around.
      Anyway, maybe there's some comfort in knowing that this is everyone's experience of grief, more or less... and so here's to Dame Judi for being brave enough to show it to us on camera, and inspire the really beautiful conversations that are happening on this thread.

    • @nicki66
      @nicki66 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@lekoman you described that feeling so eloquently. It is exactly that, I hear a song, someone says something, I see a picture or I have an experience that I would have liked to share with her and that triggers that overwhelming feeling…it is always just lurking in the wings. Hang in there and know you are not alone in that club you never wanted to be a member of.

    • @Donna-cc1kt
      @Donna-cc1kt 8 месяцев назад

      No you won’t be the same, you will be better. She is with you and her perfect love comes through God to you. It’s bigger, stronger, changes us and we are all the better.

  • @matwakenshaw6841
    @matwakenshaw6841 Год назад +32

    Aside from her talking to her parrot, this was the best moment in the documentary. Real emotion.

  • @oldsoul3576
    @oldsoul3576 Год назад +11

    not a Brit, but if ever there was a gem to and treasure of the universe, its Dame Judy Dench.....just love her to bits and have since i first saw her shows on afternoon tea back in the 80's!

  • @LiquidSpiral
    @LiquidSpiral Год назад +10

    After my grandmother died Dame Judy became my favourite woman, not least because she reminds me so much of her. Articulate, charming, wickedly talented and funny, effortlessly stylish, a truly remarkable woman. Long may she live.

  • @DougiePlaysSoccer
    @DougiePlaysSoccer Год назад +16

    She reminds me of my mum. So precious . Would’ve preferred to hear about anything else beside her husband’s passing. It still appears to pain her…

    • @fiona4423
      @fiona4423 Год назад +2

      Nicholas, it will always pain her. It never leaves you.

  • @popswerks7915
    @popswerks7915 5 месяцев назад +1

    She is one of my favorite human beings of all time. A beautiful beautiful human being.

  • @jillosler9353
    @jillosler9353 Год назад +13

    My own darling husband also died of lung cancer in 2001. Twenty one years later I still miss my best friend and soulmate. 💕

    • @wayneperry7413
      @wayneperry7413 Год назад +1

      Condolences to you, hope life has treated you well since then, greetings from Australia

  • @lynpinto
    @lynpinto Год назад +2

    I just love you Judy Dench you’re what I call a broad and I bet you and your sweet husband had the most beautiful marriage keep on keeping on

  • @norahsearle7237
    @norahsearle7237 Год назад +17

    Bless her ..she’s a real Treasure 🙏🏻

  • @Studycase3000
    @Studycase3000 Год назад +7

    That kind of love and the loss of all that goes with it, never leaves you when taken away. Bless you Dame Judi Dench, it was truly kind of you to share a piece of that with us.

    • @knitwit7082
      @knitwit7082 Год назад +1

      Study Case • My best friend's parents were married 70 years or so. Her father died of cancer in his 90's. After he died, her mother commented to friends, "You know, I don't recommend these long marriages. It is just too hard when they die." It was so cute. She was getting dementia, and had been married to a wonderful, sweet man who had defied his family to marry her. A true love story. ❤️ She lived for about another 15 years after he died. My friend took wonderful care of her mother until she died at 104. My friend is now being cared for by her family as she has developed dementia too. 😭

  • @rogan_se
    @rogan_se Год назад +17

    Such a wonderful woman. She's brought me so much pleasure over the decades, with her incredible acting prowess. She also wears her title with such grace and humility. I absolutely love her to bits and hope she lasts forever ❤

  • @user-tt5xj5ib1e
    @user-tt5xj5ib1e Год назад +9

    Not often, but some of us are lucky enough in life to find their soul mate. I'm happy that Judi got to find hers :)

  • @tracy4343
    @tracy4343 11 месяцев назад +2

    I have always loved her. I dread the day she leaves us.

  • @carls.1000
    @carls.1000 Год назад +12

    What a lovely interview. Louis is so kind and Dame Judi so honest...she has nothing to sell and he simply seems interested in having a respectful conversation...so refreshing!

  • @dingopisscreek
    @dingopisscreek Год назад +1

    If anyone is a national treasure, it is Dame Judy Dench 😊

  • @gbuddah
    @gbuddah 6 месяцев назад +2

    Oh I just want to wrap my arms around her and give her the biggest hug.

  • @yhwhtlc9217
    @yhwhtlc9217 Год назад +5

    I haven't had the pleasure of spending decades with someone but would imagine it be the most difficult thing to go through, loving someone for so long, and still care about them twenty years after they were gone. Love Dame Judy , RIP Michael.

  • @deb9711
    @deb9711 Год назад +1

    Grief, You never get over it you just manage to suppress it better.
    God bless her, It was a big downer for a lighthearted interview.

    • @martinswells1987
      @martinswells1987 Год назад

      Hello Deb, I hope my comment wasn't taken as a form of invasion of your comments privacy. I'm here to make friends, how are you? Where are you from?

  • @gillianmaynard4468
    @gillianmaynard4468 Год назад +5

    I’m going to watch dear Judi and her Michael right now. 💙💙

  • @havingalook2
    @havingalook2 Год назад +4

    If she is not a national treasure - then no one is and nothing is. She just radiates goodness. Is it OK to love someone you have never met? Then I think I do.

  • @adelaferreira4575
    @adelaferreira4575 Год назад +8

    Dame Judy Dench,an extraordinary actress and wonderful lady !

  • @madeleine7411
    @madeleine7411 Год назад +1

    Judy Dench is a peach. I love her and her early sit com with her husband Michael is wonderful if you get a chance to watch it. My husband died 13 years ago and I shed tears often. That's what happens when you loved someone and miss them everyday.

  • @mynameisjoejeans
    @mynameisjoejeans Год назад +7

    what a pure soul

  • @nowthenzen
    @nowthenzen Год назад +15

    I saw their sitcom years ago and I recall it as charming and funny.

  • @miotony5937
    @miotony5937 Год назад +3

    he had the same sense of humor as me, michael was a exceptional actor and married a brilliant lady, loved watching you both

  • @mrsoz8661
    @mrsoz8661 Год назад +35

    I feel Judi's pain. Louis is just so good with his interview style especially regarding in particular anything of a sensitive nature. My husband passed 17 years ago and I have found that my grief gradually softened over a long period of time even though it never went away. I have found that time is a great panacea; I catch myself having periods of time where I don't think of my husband very often and yet can suddenly (usually at night in the dark) yearn to be held by him and see what he would look like 17 years down the track. Do I feel guilty when I don't think about him every day? no, not anymore. I came across something Nigella Lawson once said about grief and I think that's how my grief has evolved over the years: "You don't go around grieving all the time, but the grief is still there and always will be".
    A lovely interview Louis, thank you.

    • @Claudia-up6hr
      @Claudia-up6hr Год назад +5

      Thank you so much for this thoughtful comment. My dear husband of almost 50 years died a cruel death from Parkinson's Disease, dementia, & bipolar disorder on May 24. His last days were hideous. I had to fight constantly for decent care & medication for him in this horrible nursing home. Understaffed, falling apart, dysfunctional in every way. One doctor (who doesn't bother to show up for his 1 morning per week visit) for 100 eldery people suffering the full range of diseases, most with some form of dementia, many stroke victims, a few young people with Down Syndrome, unending chaos with wandering, weeping, raging people, multiple TVs & radios blaring, disgusting food, the stench of dirty diapers & urine, bitter, overworked , underpaid staff are burnning out & quitting after working here for decades because the absent, rich owner just don't care, no where to escape for a moment of peace. Before he died my husband told me this place had broken his spirit. He blamed me for leaving him in this hell for 3 years. He couldn't remember the misery it was when I broke after caring for him at home for 10 years. But he was right. I tried, I complained, but it did nothing, then COVID made me so sick I ended up here. We had a few months together when I got to help care for him. In his last few days I didn't sleep, I held him, bathed him, played his favorite Bach & Beethoven, recited his favorite Wordsworth poem, Daffodils. I saw him draw his last breath just after midnight. But the truth is, I failed him and I will take that guilt to my grave. Six months on, I struggle to process this grief much as you have. I know it will never go away. Depression, shame, anger, then a bit of hope. I am stuck here in this place I hate. No money to move, no family or friends left. Trapped by a broken health care system. I do all the things we know to do to fight our demons-art, music, watching the birds outside my window, crocheting a lap throw Christmas present for the lovely man down the hall paralyzed from stroke (Toronto Maple Leafs hockey fan so I'm doing it in their iconic blue; his wife will sew a Leaf's patch on it as a nice touch😁) but I'm tired & age is weighing on me. I try to help a few near my bed who are much worse off, which does give one some perspective. And I distract myself with RUclips😂. I apologize for this rambling, bitter rant. Again, thank you & my best wishes to you 🙋💕🇨🇦!

    • @paulh5295
      @paulh5295 Год назад +3

      @@Claudia-up6hr I don’t want to tell you how you feel, but that isn’t your fault at all. It is the fault of the institutions that are allowed to operate in this disgusting way in the 21st century. I’m 36 and for me modern life, for the most part, is like covering up a dysfunctional toilet’s odour with air freshener.

    • @sandydouglas3799
      @sandydouglas3799 Год назад +2

      @@Claudia-up6hr So sorry.

    • @knitwit7082
      @knitwit7082 Год назад

      @@Claudia-up6hr God bless you. I am sorry about the horrible place you are in. I have been fighting for better care for my husband who is injured and in rehab. He will be home in 3 weeks they say. I hope so. We have been very blessed because of his military medical care. We may end up in the assisted living part of the Air Force Retirement home in Florida before long. That is supposed to be a really nice place. We have 3 rescue dogs we can't bear to give up, so we are hanging on as long as we can.
      But please don't blame yourself for the condition.of the place he went. Sadly there are some terrible places out there that should be shut down. But we all do the best we can for our loved ones, and I am sure you did too. I am sorry you are there now too. I wish you had alternatives, like family who could have you live with them, or a good assisted living place. God bless you for all the good you do from where you are. It reminds me of an old saying: Bloom where you are planted. It sounds like you are blooming there despite being in some very rocky, poor soil. That takes real character. I respect you for that. God bless you. I hope things improve for you.

    • @myamdane6895
      @myamdane6895 8 месяцев назад

      Sorry to hear about your loss I hope you’re doing well

  • @todaynow1563
    @todaynow1563 Год назад +1

    She is a brilliant actor.

  • @laurajenney6368
    @laurajenney6368 Год назад +5

    My favorite actress. I just love her.

  • @memeishere1
    @memeishere1 Год назад +3

    I LOVE HER SO MUCH , WHAT A SWEETHEART AND WHAT A ACTRESS,, AMAZING AND SHE JUST SHINES, BLESS HER HEART SHE LOVES HIM SO MUCH YOU CAN HEAR THE PAIN AND LOVE IN HER VOICE TALKING ABOUT HER HUSBAND

  • @FacheChanteDeux
    @FacheChanteDeux Год назад +6

    This really broke my heart. I remember the night Judy left New York. I had tickets to see her on Broadway. I bought them for myself and my mother. We were so excited to see her on stage. We got to the theater and the announcement was made. Nobody stayed to see the poor understudy. I felt so sad when I heard why she had not been there that night.

  • @TheHandleOnYoutube
    @TheHandleOnYoutube Год назад +1

    I love hearing her talk, it sets me at ease for some reason.

  • @Bensinat
    @Bensinat Год назад +9

    What a lovely soul ❤️

  • @lorettanericcio-bohlman567
    @lorettanericcio-bohlman567 Год назад +4

    You are the absolute best Dame Judi! I’m so glad you found such a gem, you deserve it 💕

  • @marilynroberts9490
    @marilynroberts9490 Год назад +3

    My parents died together in a car crash, 1999. Yes, I miss them, but when I need to see my mother, I just go to the Graham Norton shows and watch Judy. Her face, her voice, and the way she will cover her mouth sometimes when she laughs, brings me close to my mother.

  • @ruthlester-scott7572
    @ruthlester-scott7572 Год назад +1

    Absolutely love Dame Judy..... just the pinnacle of charm, elegance, fun... heart breaking that she lost her beloved husband. Louis handled that interview beautifully.... he's got such empathy. Great chemistry there. Thank you for these insights into some of our most loved celebrities. 😘

  • @janew4690
    @janew4690 8 месяцев назад +1

    I love that Judi says what she wants. She has earned it. She was married a long time. I was married 54 years when my husband passed. I feel her pain.

  • @whitleybayman123
    @whitleybayman123 Год назад +4

    Dame Judi is one of our treasures, beautiful person, great actor and Louis is a great interviewer

  • @luisbolanos5816
    @luisbolanos5816 Год назад +4

    Bless her heart!!! Amazing actress but even more importantly an amazing human being ❤

  • @jeffnettleton3858
    @jeffnettleton3858 6 месяцев назад +2

    The passing of time doesn't necessarily reduce the feeling of loss; as rev Richard Coles said in a clip I recently saw, you get better coping methods or distractions, but you still feel the loss. My wife and I had a difficult relationship, due, in part to mental illness; but, I still feel the loss. If anything, it taught me how much I truly loved her, even when things were at their worst between us. So, I can only imagine the feeling of loss between two people who truly and deeply loved each other and knew it, no matter how much time has passed.

  • @carlosa.v.5278
    @carlosa.v.5278 Год назад +1

    So happy that the lady found love again

  • @knitwit7082
    @knitwit7082 Год назад +2

    Sad that she lost her love. I just love her! A tremendous actress and human being.
    RIP to her husband. Pray that they will be reunited when her time comes. ❤️

  • @julieriley1059
    @julieriley1059 Год назад

    She is a class act when you love someone deeply the finest thing is to be with them when they pass GOD BLESS YOU JUDI DENCH

  • @marlenaforbes-reidy9876
    @marlenaforbes-reidy9876 Год назад

    This beautiful elegant lady is a legend. I’ve loved watching her movies over the years. Bless her.

  • @tanyat8862
    @tanyat8862 Год назад

    She’s such a wonderful woman! I hope she knows how much she’s LOVED, by EVERYBODY ❤️!

  • @frankpaquet295
    @frankpaquet295 Год назад

    She's such a treasure. Love her acting. So sorry to hear about her husband's death. It still affects her; he must have been very special and she had years with him, which is wonderful. (from Sandi)

  • @pmpk-gy4cu
    @pmpk-gy4cu Год назад +3

    Dame Judi is simply wonderful.

  • @bernadetteawad475
    @bernadetteawad475 Год назад

    Ah, darling Judi. What did HM QE11 say? " Grief is the Price we pay for Love" & your love for Michael will never die, that's why even after many many years, we are still brought to tears at the mention of their name. I lost Bob 26yrs ago & I still come unstuck. It's called LOVE. You are an amazing woman Judi. God Bless You.❤

  • @jenduck5520
    @jenduck5520 Год назад

    My heart is in my throat watching this. Grief touches us all.

  • @marysmyth8288
    @marysmyth8288 Год назад +1

    Dame Judy Dench , beautiful a beautiful , great actress, I didn’t know anything on her personal life
    I can relate to her sorrow , I was married for 51yrs , my own husband passed from Lung Cancer
    Back in the day , smoking was all the rage , in movies and at home
    Mary Canada ❤

    • @martinswells1987
      @martinswells1987 Год назад

      Hello Mary, how are you doing
      where are you from?

  • @lindaweigel8572
    @lindaweigel8572 Год назад +1

    I adore, absolutely adore Dame Judi Dench. She is a treasure for all, not only in the UK but elsewhere as well.

  • @victorianidetch
    @victorianidetch Год назад

    What a lovely couple, may his memory always bring a blessing.

  • @DelosFive
    @DelosFive Год назад +1

    What a beautiful, talented, funny, gifted, charismatic and adorable woman Dame Judi is.