Top 10 Red Flags in a Relationship | The Cimorelli Podcast - S4 E 9
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- Опубликовано: 15 янв 2025
- Podcast Friday is here and this week’s episode is a bit heavier. While it is very hard to talk about such a painful topic, we feel it is important to share these things with you guys so you can protect yourselves. If someone is treating you in any of the ways outlined in this video, the relationship is most likely toxic and we urge you to protect yourself and leave the relationship as quickly as possible.
In this episode, we’ll go over the top 10 red flags in a relationship, going into detail for each one. Our goal is to give you useful information so you can make your own informed choices! Any healthy relationship will have challenges, but there is no need to put yourself through the wringer in a relationship as outlined in this episode.
Stay safe, stay strong, and choose to LOVE yourself as you deserve!
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Another red flag, you are NOT your partner’s parent. Don’t be in a relationship just to take care of the other person or try to fix them
wait what?
@@auroraborealisgreen07 it's not your job to babysit your partner and do everything for them is basically what their saying. There's a difference between both people taking care of each other and being in the relationship just to fix a person
@@emillee-raine ah,shoot,why do i always want to make people better or basically stitch them?rip me.HAHA,but tysm for explaining it.
100th like 😌 but really really true but “babe wear a hoodie it’s cold outside your gonna get sick” is different tho it’s you showing your love for them and you are still taking care of them but they also take care of you
Everyone’s talking about Lisa and her food but every video christina has her iconic cups!!
As She Is Pregnant she Has to keep Hydrated and loves to drink water. its good for there sons health
🚩red flags🚩
1)if you have to change your core identity and beliefs.
2) breaking into constant conflict in the beginning of the relationship .
3)fear of doing things the wrong way.
4)constantly having to prove that your feelings matter because they don't understand it.
5)controlling behavior[consciously or subconsciously].
6)constantly moderating.
7)isolating you from friends and family.
8)controlling what you wear.
9)crossing boundaries.
10)over the top jealousy.
11)you are constantly making excuses for their behavior.
12)coming on super strong from the beginning
13)violence.
✨If someone is treating you in any of the ways outlined, the relationship is most likely toxic and please protect yourself and leave the relationship as quickly as possible. ✨
I wonder how many of these red flags the girls think pertain to Dani's relationship.
Screenshot but bured your name out sent it to a friend. Yep They thanked me but i said it was someone on youtube lol
Carla Crispin why do people want danis relationship to be toxic? Wtf
@@levanaclegg6995 aw haha glad to know i could be of help!
Hello Moto ikr she seems soooo happy. I think people are too hard on Emmyn
Lisa eating over there is literally a whole mood and I’m here for it
That is such a pretty color on you Katherine!
Katherine we need a hair routine! Your hair looks so healthy and soft omg
Im so not used to “and lauren”
I'm slowly getting used to it now
I always say "and Dani!"🤦💔
We will eventually get used to it
Go watch dani’s channel, ‘conscious calleiro’ it’s amazing and you will notice how much she’s grown.
Yasmin Jamal YES I love her channel.. I do wish she was still in the band though
It’s so predictable that only Lisa eats while doing a podcast😂
True😂😂
But she's still awesome
Wizards Cociak always!
idk why but i started crying when i saw she was drinking a caprison. 😂
will you stop saying stuff about Lisa .some people want Food That is all
“ ... welcome back tooooo... ThE CImORElLi POdCasT” MY FAVORITE PART 😂😭💕
Today we are double lucky: automatic love and the podcast!
YES YES YES!!! 4 years of toxicity and i could never expressed how i felt! always being blamed for things and y'all dissected it and articulated it in every way i was trying to scream out but couldn't.
nobody:
not a single soul:
lisa: *eats in a video*
lol i had to
she literally said she doesn't like this trend lmao
Elena Gilbert i know loll
😂😂😂
I would consider this a 🚩 from you missy
I have been following y’all’s journey since just before the Party In The US cover and I am so happy to still be around for these fun and entertaining podcasts. Thank you for still being around and sticking to what you guys are so good at, it’s so wonderful. And thank you especially for speaking out for the BLM movement and including black trans lives in your post. I know people often ask your stance on the lgbtq+ community and I can admit that I have asked you on it before, but I am very happy to see that black trans lives also are in your thoughts. I am not black, but I am a part of the lgbtq+ community. Thank you for being yourselves and for still putting so much of your time and effort into your channel 🥰 with all the love from good ol‘ Germany ✨
Lol I love when Kath talks because she's got so many wise things to say! Makes me feel like a padawan XD
These podcasts are so genuine that it seems you’re sitting at the table with them... I even started doing the spotlight gesture with them😂😂
I'd forgotten about this !!! What a great way to end my week!
Cath is the sappiest sap ever which is why I love her so much!! I’m the resident sap in my family. You’re an inspiration to all saps around the world. We love you CATH😁💙
I don't think getting upset over another person's boundaries is a bad thing because you can't help what upsets you. It's when you weaponize your feelings to make the person feel bad about having boundaries that's bad and manipulative.
I was friends with a girl who got in a super toxic relationship with this man who was so crazy, I'm fairly certain he was legitimately a psychopath. I was talking to her, and helped convince her to leave him, but then a couple weeks later she went back to him and I got blocked from her life. Months later she did finally leave him and she has another boyfriend now. He seems like a lot better person than the other guy, but I still never talk to her.
Everyone’s talking about Lisa eating but I’m more distracted by Katherine and Christina’s water bottles. They match!
My ex was absolutely SHOCKED when he told me he had a standing games night on Saturday night with the boys and I said "Okay cool! I'll use that night as "my" time. You're always welcome over when you're done". He was shocked because the others had warned him of girls getting angry about it, entitled to ALL his time, etc. I said "babe, I'd love to meet your friends and chill one one when you're ready - but they're YOUR friends. You need that time with them to decompress and talk about stuff so that you don't just depend on me". and yeah...
Also - as the girl best friend, I hate girls who demand that my friend stop talking to me. Like, if the genders were reversed everyone would be SCREAMING about the controlling boyfriend stopping a girl from seeing her friend and isolating her - but literally everyone I talk to says "Look, Em, you're gonna have to get ready for the fact that one day they're going to pick another woman over you and you'll have no friends". GIRL BEST FRIENDS ARE NOT A THREAT, EVEN IF THEY HAVE A HISTORY!!! They are only a threat if they TELL you they are a threat. If I say "Yeah, we made out when we were both super depressed/drunk a few times, but like there's no emotional chemistry there. It was as weird as making out with my teacher" please take that and accept it. If I wanted him, I would have him, I don't want him, I DON'T WANT HIM. I just want to not lose a friend of 12+ years because of somebody else's assumptions.
Also - same friend who I LIVE with. He once had a girl demand I stop going grocery shopping with him because it was too "couple like". I have physical disabilities, and I don't have a car. He NEEDS to come to help carry stuff. But yeah - apparently even though I should buy the food for the house (as he wasn't working at the time) and cook it (because it was a 'woman's job') this girl thought I was trying to 'steal her man' by taking him to Aldi's!
THE INTROO IS BACKK!!!! 🥰🥰💗💗
Lisa's high: i went on a beautiful walk... Katherine: sHe StoLe MiNe ahahahaha
I don’t know why but at 5:46 when Lauren was like: Give birth to it and then Christiana was like: uhm relate made me laugh soo hard because Christina is pregnant 😂😂
You guys deserve more views, love from Morocco
They "mmm" in harmony too 😂
kath’s section at the end was HILARIOUS
the recommendations of Kath's segment:
winter, ['hibernation'] - song: Winter Hymns (Charlie Simpson), book: In the Land of White Death (Valerian Albanov)
spring, ['new life'] - song: Bloom (The Paper Kites), book: The Dance of Anger (Harriet Lerner)
summer, ['adventure, freedom'] - song: Passion Fashion (Judah & The Lion), book: Cold Tangerines: Celebrating the Extraordinary Nature of Everyday Life (Shauna Niequist)
fall, ['transformation'] - song: Warm With You (Hayden Calnin), book: The Language of Flowers (Vanessa Diffenbaugh)
xoxo
Thank you for the summary!
Thank you so much for this! I really need to work on improving myself!
when i saw lisa eating it reminded me of when the party's over cover and lisa left to get pretzels
Growing is also different than changing completely for a relationship.
Kath: “i’m gonna tell my favorite thing for each season, so winter ... hybernation”
WHAT😂😂😂😂
Honestlylylyl I think Sappy thoughts with Kath might be my favorite segment, shes just an angel and it makes my heart happyyyyhahaha
A lot of these red flags applies to the way my friend treated me and how her boyfriend treated her. He was very violent and always blamed his bad behavior on her OR ME AND I AM NOT EVEN THE ONE DATING HIM. He would pull her away from me and she would try to tell me to pretend to not be friends with her so that he wouldn't be mad at us. If you want me to pretent to hate you, why would I want to be friends with you.
thank you girls who always manage to snatch a smile from me even in the most difficult moments 👍👍👍
OMG I needed this today wow
omgg earlyy, i love all of you're outfits btw its like chilly haha!
Who thinks Cimorelli sings like an angel?!?!?!?
Lisa is such a mood :D
Absolutely need this!! You girls are wise beyond your years
I really love how Christina is talkative in this episode! I have been missing this 🥰
God it really isn’t a cimorelli video if Lisa isn’t eating 😂
I dont have money to follow you on patreon. 😢 how do you deal with anxiety though. Love you guys.
Please consider putting, at least some Episodes, on Spotify
yessss!!
LISA HAS FOOD IN FRONT OF HER YESSSS
I loved this so much. could you please make a video about journaling? I'd love to hear you talk about it
welcome back to the The Cimorelli Podcast!! :D
Yay! I love listening to podcasts and this is my favorite podcast😍😍😍😍😍
Love your new shall Katherine!
Yess early, love you guys so much 😍❤️
Lol I was just waiting on the I love me cover premiere and I realised it’s not cimorelli Saturday :/
You know what that's true me too.....😂😂😂
@@je.rgl_28 Same 😂 :'c
You guys are always coming up with great ideas for this podcast and I am so glad you guys are doing it
Lol! I love Amy's movie quotes & I also do that with my friends as well. It's so fun 😂 LOVED this episode. I learned recently that a lot of people have been through or seen their loved ones go through a toxic relationship but we don't talk about the nuance of it all!!! So, thank you for dropping these gems to your audience! 💜
Amy and Lauren are a whole mood during this entire thing
I love your podcasts!!!😍😍😍
These podcasts help me to understand the English language more😍 I'm from Germany.
Love Lisa's english accent! I'm english so I know what we really sound like but nvm!!!! Love you guys!
These Podcasts are refreshing! Thanks
I love lisa imitating the podcast voice
you guys need to put your podcast on apple music and Spotify
love that you mentioned how great it is to have friends with different beliefs!
Time stamp?
Sunjana Das it’s from the patreon question at 10:10!
I need this!! Tonight i will have a great night with the podcast beside me!! TQ
nobody:
no one:
not a single soul:
cimorelli: *pAtReOn*
Naomi OMelzi lisa cimorelli dislikes this comment 😂
Thankyou so much and love hearing all your podcasts
You guys are amazing. Amazing sisterly advice.
I LIVE for these podcasts
I really believe that people are in toxic relationships because of inner child wounds that never were resolved. People are attracted to what they are comfortable with and what’s familiar to them, even if it’s trauma from their past.
i can't wait to see this
LOOK AT CHRISTINAS FACE WHILE CATHREN IS TALKING ABOUT HER HIGHS AND LOWS OF THE WEEK LOL 😂 It made me laugh so hard ! Thanks for the Good Content NO HATE love you guys , you probably won’t see this comment but I just want to let it in the universe that your content is so professional and I see how much work is put into it love you guys 💗 I’m only 12 and have watched you videos since 2016 ! Love all five of you + Dani ~ Gemma C. Corrigan Xx
Hi girls! I was just watchig this and you said you were gonna put some domestic violence hotlines in the description, but you didn't :( I think it is really important for people to know so I just wanted to remind you in case you had forgot✨ I love u💖
I wish this video was out a year ago it would have saved me from a lot of heartache
y’all give the best advice thank you so much for making a podcast love you girls so much 💗
I loved this episode, it is so necessary to talk about this
love katherine's advice omgggg
ooooo new podcast ep!!
never knew half of these you are liffe Saving Thank You! 😊😊
One thing I experienced was him always saying "You should just leave me already, I'm too broken and horrible to you. Just leave me alone like everyone else in my life". I got that one alllll the time. Might classify under guilt tripping?
Hey it’s Ava and I just want to say thank you so much, because I have been some rough patches lately and you guys just inspire me and make me feel good about myself, all you guys are great at singing I can’t tell u guys how much u make me feel good and happy. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
😊🙏🏻😀❤️
I SO wish this was on spotify so I could listen while running easier!
Can you talk about how to do well in school with out having a bunch of stress and having the feeling that you need to help everybody
54:53 - Did you notice that Katherine said THIS?!
😂😂😂
we don´t have seasons where I live, but I really want to see them some day
I’m still warming up to the intro it’s not the same with out Dani but also they literally kill me with their looks THEIR SO PRETTY!
Some of these, I feel we are all guilty of in relationships. And doesn't mean that the relationship is doomed. As a girl, I'm sure we have all pulled the passive-aggressive "I'm fine", and things similar, more than a couple of times. Doing that can be seen as controlling, but it don't mean you should breakup because it happened.
That part in 37:53 when they ALL said "ughhhh!" And then Katherine goes, don't trust the"Feminist" shirt" 🤣🙌🏽🙋🏽♀️
I needed to re watch this I'm so sad my relationship now literally has all of this red flags and ugh I feel terrible
You guys should link your Patreon in the description so it's easier to find. Love the podcast!
Tanks Lisa for the subtitle my Brazilian brain immediately thought about memes not about memories kkkkkkk
Truth, primeira coisa que pensei foi em memes
Né kkkk
you guys should include the domestic hotlines in the description! I think you forgot to :)
One of another red flag is when u just started dating during the first 3 months which is the (Honeymoon Phase) and the guy suddenly start to reply slower back to your text and is not as fast like it use to in fact he texted you 9 hours later, he will use excuses like 'Hey sorry, that I've been busy with work the entire day' and is not just once but a few times. This shouldn't even happen during the first 3 months and it is not normal at all.
It's okay to be busy but if he doesn't take the time to talk to u even if is just a simple convo in the middle of the day, like showing u some concern and instead he message you 9 hours later that is a total red flag!
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Love this podcast honestly. Very useful . Felt like I learnt a lot aha, you girls are so amazing , I love each of you so much ❤️❤️xoxo
Soooo exiteddd! Wasn't expecting ittt!
Kath I have listened to Bloom by Paper Kites. I love, love this song, it's beautiful, chill and it has a slow tempo❤❤❤❤ I recommend this song to anyone who likes Indie music.
I'm a fan of Kath's segment gosh
Amy’s face gets photoshopped on a plastic bag is something that should happen
woahh i’m so early. also someone please tell me where lauren shops for clothes omg
idk for sure but she's mentioned that she shops at thrift stores on her insta story a few times
Thank you girls, really good synopsis of narcissistic and sociopathic behaviour in men!.
Where was this podcast 4 years ago? 🥺
Woah that was unexpected but I love surprises❤️😂😂😂
But what do I do if something he does makes me feel sad? Like linking arms with a girl kind of a friend and ask what’s up. I know he isn’t flirting, but it seems flirty and I don’t know, maybe that girl thinks he is flirting.. I don’t want to controll him and tell him: I don’t like when you do that, stop! I want to be okay with it or it to not happen. But it’s a feeling I get.. I don’t know what to do.