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What about avoidance of mirrors, not using social media and not taking personal pictures, because any reminder of what you actually look like makes you physically sick and can ruin your mood for days/weeks?
It isn't something you do with thinking. At some point it becomes a habit and you have to look or otherwise you'll be frustrated. It's more of "doing it impulsively" and the disorder is a impulsive one. You do not do it by yourself it's something like breathing- you don't really think should i breathe or no? Because you are used to breathing the same way dysphoric people are used to having to check their reflection.
@Cassie, exactly! What you described is how my body dysmorphia manifests! I can easily spiral into a severe depression with suicidal ideation over catching a glimpse of my reflection or seeing pictures of myself that someone else took. I avoid being in pictures with friends and I'm sure they think I'm weird for it, but I'm adamant and just remind them I have body dysmorphia and I'll obsess over how awful I look in the pic for weeks and the anxiety will even keep me up at night, it's bad.
Same, at this point i'm trying to train myself to not get moody and anxious whenever I look at myself because I feel stuck for years and I don't want to avoid myself my whole life even if it's hard to do so.
1. 0:25 - You have frequent critical thoughts about your physical appearance when it's not noticeable by others 2. 0:53 - You perform repetitive behaviors or mental acts 3. 1:22 - Your obsessions and compulsions cause you significant distress 4. 2:00 - You think that other people mock for how you look 5. 2:24 - You don't meet the criteria for an eating disorder
Lmfao, I Have Both Gender And Body Dysphoria And It Honestly Sucks When I Have A Mental Breakdown Because Of It. I Had To Punch Or Hurt Myself In Some Ways To Calm Myself
as someone who is both . It doesn’t matter if we are ugly realistically the body dysmorphia just makes us care too much I thought it was social anxiety for all these years
I'm not saying you're ugly, to be clear, but you can be both. Body dysmorphia just means you obsess and are emotionally impacted more by it in that case. Although I will note that basically everyone with body dysmorphia doesn't know if they only think they're ugly or are really ugly. It's a pretty common part of the disorder.
My mom has this, and well it's just a friendly reminder that mental health does not just take a toll on you as a young adult, it can grow into older ages, but is good as it shows people should not feel weird or different.
More importantly that it's also okay to acknowledge that you have flaws, even with the wisdom of growing older there are still flaws, but those flaws could be solved or adapted to.
I've never clicked on a notification so fast before. I was diagnosed at 18 and still suffer now at 25. I want cosmetic surgery as I feel ugly with my face, my body and just my overall look. I wear baggy clothes to hide my imperfections, I can't leave the house without wearing makeup to cover up my ugly face, if anyone sees my face without makeup they're very special. I honestly hate myself.
It's gonna be alright, just practice self-love slowly but surely. It's gonna be hard, but you're going to love yourself. We all find flaws in our body sometimes, and most people get obsessions over fixing them, but trust me, a slow process is going to be the fastest.
As someone who is going through Facial Dysmorphia I need to say thank you for talking about this topic. Many pepole find it stupid and make fun of this topic, but I'm' glad this video was made. ❤
got to the point where I was measuring my face and comparing it to the golden ratio because I just can't comprehend what I really look like or if im pretty or not before I started to realize there was an issue
It’s sad to see how many people relate to this but I’m so happy you guys are committed to spreading awareness and breaking down the stigmas with mental illness. You’re helping so many people ❤
I have had BDD since age 14, because I was sexually assaulted +5 times at that year. I was also bullied at school etc. Now I’m 28 and still have BDD. I haven’t been able to do any work after 19 years old. I have used drugs, tried to kill myself etc, didn’t go outside for +2 years at all. But even I still feel I can’t live without having to have plastic surgery, I promise you can get better and have a better life if you seek help. I am diagnosed as BDD and BPD, social anxiety and depression, but therapy (DKT, CBT) has helped me a lot! Dancing has been the most healing thing for me. Also psychophysical therapy was very helpful. I wish you all reading this suffering BDD so much strenght, please don’t give up until you have tried everything! This life is precious and it can feel better I promise ✨
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Man this really fucked up my mood. Keep going you'll and you will feel better. Don't give up when things aren't going the right way and always remember that you can't fail if you keep trying.
Wow. I got bullied so much in high school that I developed BD, but only now, thanks to this video, I can finally give a name to that inmense anxiety I felt and hated. Thank you for explaining this concept so well! My teenage years were honestly a nightmare, but I slowly climbed back up by focusing on everything (and everyone) I loved. Including myself, I actually learnt how to love myself :')
It must been really heart, but I think you still have control of changing the things you don't want about yourself, like...about your height, good posture & stretching really helps, for months of stretching can increase an inch to your height... And about your looks, lists everything you don't like about your likes, for example: you don't like your hair, your face is oily or you have acne, your brows isn't thick enough, your nose is not too small or big, your teeth is damaged, your lips is so thin or too thick... And work on every each, like you start taking care of your hair, combing it 3-5 times a day, have a hair care, like argan oil is really good for hair. For your face skin, try to search a skin care for acne or oily face or dry skin.. for your nose, some exercise will do if you're only just consistent.. for your lips, scrub it with sugar & put some oil.. for your teeth, go see a dentist, and so on...
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Dear person reading this, you are perfect the way you are, you are the best person in this world, so smile wide, this pain is temporary, you are strong that you can overcome it and fighting with it till now. Have a lovely day :)
So glad you uploaded this video. I feel like body dysmorphic disorder is becoming more commonly misused in day-to-day language. Hopefully this will educate those that feel they have BDD because of something they saw on social media and/or help those who may have it and not realize it yet :)
i was topper in maths and chemistry in school but i wasnt able to complete my graduation becausd of bdd. I would get countless thoughts because of this and i used to spent atleaat 10 hour/day infront of mirror. It affectsd me for 6 years and then i recovered on my own. Once i recovered i graduated and then I execled in everything. Now i am in senior position in the biggest company. This is one of the dangerous sickness its a ghost that can not easily leave your body. My suggestion is found someone you trust and is like family to you, could be a friend or sibling and tell them everything and only they can help you believe and help you understand how beautiful you are.
I’m lonely in my city, so I might as well be lonely in a beautiful countryside. I’d probably feel less lonely. It’s horrible when you’re surrounded by people but have no friends, and the one person you want to spend time with never has the time. 😢
Cities feel lonelier in my opinion; so many people but it’s always seemingly just you. I’d prefer my solitude in a countryside. The air would be cleaner and easier to breath. I’d miss my family, though.
I am quite happy you've made a video on this big thanks to the person who suggested it. And yes i do personally suffer from body dysmorphia. I've noticed not too long ago that i was worrying over anything when it comes to my body like: will people talk about me behind my back because my hair looks terrible? What do they think about my hand? What could they think when they look at my legs? Are they all judging me? It stopped me from wearing a ton of clothes because they show off the parts that i feel most insecure about. And stopped me from going out with people. Because i felt like they would judge me. Even when I'm home and having a harder time not taking care of myself i wonder: will my family judge me for how i look? And yes I've been told that im beautiful or pretty by others friends and family. And i did try only looking at the parts that looked better than others. But it didn't help i can't just stop examining how i look. And it's not something someone would want. And even when the pandemic "ended" i was still wearing a mask around. Because I didn't have to see a large portion of my face. And it's not just at home. If i ever see a surface i can observe myself in i will go and do that. And i wear glasses my body dysmorphia is a big reason i hate them. Because when I don't have them on I don't see myself as clearly: my hair looks fluffy, my eyes look nice and that stuff. But when i put them on i suddenly look terrible have dark circles, my hair looks stringy ect. I do wish that people that don't have it to never have it. Because it limits you from doing so much. You focus on your appearance so much you start to loose focus on other more important to you things.
I have the same exact situation. I can relate to what you go through everyday. (PS, I allso have glasses and without them I also look better to myself but as soon as I wear them, BAAMM, instant ugliness)
@@HyperNovva yeah sorry autocorrect and i was in a bit of a hurry writing this thanks for pointing it out I'll correct it. Though i do have both yea i was talking about dysmorphia not dysphoria.
I experienced this a lot when I was younger and I know a lot of young women do. I've come to appreciate myself completely and I now realize how beautiful I was back then.
Since the COVID pandemic started I started to grow insecure about my face, over the span of like 2 years I would not go anywhere (like school or shopping) without wearing a mask. I eventually started not eating or drinking at school because I didn't ever want to take my mask off. I started covering my face with my hair I wanted to make sure nobody could see my face. I constantly check mirrors to make sure I'm covered up, but I still feel disgusted when I look at myself. I agree that when my hair is on my forehead and have my mask on it looks bad, but I just want to cover it up anyways. I started working out to make me feel better about myself, but my face hasn't really changed much. And I don't want to self diagnose anything so that's why I made this comment!! I'm not sure what to do because I don't have enough courage to make any changes to be better, and when I saw this video I could somewhat relate to it, so if anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. Have a lovely day
I don't know if I might have body dysmorphia but here are some signs that I think relate to body dysmorphia -overly checking myself in mirrors -comparing myself to everyone else -thinking people are all Judging me for my looks - always focused on my flaws
This is me! I often can only go out when I have to. The rest of the time my absolute hatred of part of my body it keeps me in. Alone. I know this and how it feels! Zero self confidence and constantly putting self down. In a sense I’ve had this all my life! Know it’s wrong but can’t stop it. Sad really!
Thank you so much for this video - I think BDD is a much maligned mental health disorder, and very often misunderstood by others because others cannot see the same flaws as the sufferer, and so put it down to 'attention-seeking' or just failing to understand. I used to suffer incredibly with BDD from being a teenager right up until my 30s, but I wasn't formally diagnosed and treated until about 27. These days, I don't suffer anywhere near as much - sometimes I have bad days, but they're just that. I took up the gym to help combat my thoughts and feelings, and it was the best thing I ever did. To anyone suffering, you're not alone. ❤
This is a matter that a whole lot of people can relate to and I wish we all know that we are beautiful just the way we are. Thank you for raising this awareness and for the information you have provided in this video.
I haven’t been diagnosed with this but there are points I relate. Like for example, I look at the pictures taken of me and immediately see my flaws. My bulbous nose, my weird eyes that are big and yet I have one lazy, my face is extremely round and ugly to the point I find it absolutely disgusting and it makes me wish I can just wear a mask all day because people do look at me and think I’m ugly, and my gross disgusting acne. Like I’m a hideous woman. But I have been diagnosed with an eating disorder in the past. Binge eating etc. However, now I’m barely eating in hopes I’m skinny with less acne and a less rounder face.
I’d love to see a video delving into binge eating disorder and stress eating ❤️ the usual causes, physical and psychological effects, misconceptions, how being judged for it also makes it worse… I think delving more info eating disorders as a whole would really help inform people c:
I’m 15 but for the past year my fixation has been on looking perfect and it is heavily influenced by K-pop because the celebrities always look so beautiful, I noticed the signs that I was getting consumed about my appearance but it never caused anything harm other than my bank account. But two months ago I had an allergic reaction and my skin drastically changed overnight, I think because I was so fixated in being perfect the sudden shift caused me so much distress, I hid away from people and cancelled plans because I felt and still do feel deformed. Watching this video shocked me because I myself had called myself deformed and the exact same word was used in this video. It was improving but my self confidence was still rock bottom, I avoided mirrors and still cancelled plans and avoided eye contact with everybody as well as walking around with my head turned to the floor. Around a week ago I used a product that made the reaction flare back up, this caused me so much self loathing, I resorted to attempting self harm because I felt worthless due to my skin not being ‘perfect’ like it usually appears. Even now I’ve cried twice today and once yesterday because I’m terrified that my skin will never recover and that every time I wake up the reaction will of worsened or came back. I missed a week of school last week and I’m not going tomorrow because my mum wants me to talk to somebody about my emotional wellbeing. Ever since it happened I’ve felt hideous and like nobody understands the stress it’s causing me because it’s ‘just skin’ and ‘it will be fine in a month or two’ but to me it’s crushed everything I cared about and after watching this video I admit that I may be suffering from body dystrophies because everyone around me doesn’t notice what I see.
i feel you i’m 16 and i literally avoid going out because of my look’s. my family say i look "fine" but i don’t believe them. i feel deformed, i also have a breakout on my forehead and that triggers me even more, i stopped going to school altogether because of it and now try to do my school work online, it’s ruining everything
@@mxsjshs777 mhm, my skins still struggling and im staying off school until the summer currently. But honestly one of my ‘friends’ has been going round school telling everyone im ‘milking it’ and it’s just over ‘a few spots’ and basically comparing all her issues that she lies abt with mine. It rlly bugs me that nobody believes what I say because they can’t see it themselves. I hope you can find a good talking therapist or something that helps you :) that’s what I’ve done this week so I’m praying everything gets better from here 🫶🏼
My younger self... MY 5 YEAR OLD SELF. Would look into the mirror and be like "maybe I only look like this at a specific time?" Come back a while later and... Say it again.. i didn't wanna accept how I looked
@@GNicknames1533 body dysmorphia is similar to body dysphoria in the way you can self diagnose before getting an actual diagnosis through seeing a doctor, especially since it's expensive in america just to get diagnosed for things like that and some people cant afford it
@@sxmxndthx still, at least ask someone who knows a thing or two about it before you identify as someone with body dysmorphia. You can only see you problem from one perspective, which is in your own head, so you might be seeing it differently from how it is. I didn't know that I had depression since I saw my own feelings differently and automatically invalidated them, but when I talked to a therapist she immediately recognized that I had very obvious depression.
Honestly hate obsessing over my weight/acne/if my hair looks greasy/body proportions looking off etc on a daily basis it’s slowing ruining my life 🫠 lots of love to other people going through similar experiences ❤️
can u please tell me how u overcame it, my gf has it and idk what to do she left me bc she thinks she is completely unattractive and idk how to overcome it
@@cup9516- thanks for the question ... and I'll do my best. Firstly, there wasn't a 'moment of understanding ', more of a gradual process of realising that there were people who genuinely cared for me, but also people who just didn't like me for whatever reason. And eventually stopped caring about the opinions of people who didn't like me. And then there was the slow realisation that most people weren't in either category - they didn't even bother to care one way or another about me. Those people - most people - have plenty of other things to worry about besides me. So I suppose I could say it was the kindness and support of the people who really cared for me that made all the difference. Now that I'm in my 50s I can look back and see the changes, and they did take a long time. I'm not sure if that helps you?
So I realized I was struggling with thisba few years ago, before I thought it was just a joke or people over exaggerating. We did a biggest loser competition at work, I went from 200 to 150 in 3 months, everytime I looked in the mirror I still saw a fat person, I literally could not see what everyone else saw. When I turned sideways and realized my arms were thin as bone I realized I had a problem.
For me it kind of comes in different stages or maybe types. 'Go away' stage: Trying to separate yourself from your body completely, doing anything to avoid having to see yourself and feel like you do. Baggy clothes, aboiding pictures, avoiding mirrors, avoiding social interactions because ypu fear being perceived in any way. 'Fix it' stage. Trying to 'fix' what's wrong with your body. When you can't ignore or just can't bear your physical self any more you might resort to doing everything to 'fix' how you look. Obsessing over reflection, not eating properly, trying on an endless amount of clothes and thinking you should fit them rather tham they should fit you. These are often mixed, and body dysmorphia is probably very different for everyone; based on personality and lifestyle. Some might start eating a lot as a comfort, while others lose their apetite completely and just stop eating. (Some also alternate between these two every week or so). Some resort to exercising excessively (their anxiety enough to drive them) while some avoid exercising or going out altogether (out of shame 'how dare I try to love myself?, Im ridiculous for even trying' and maybe because thinking that starving yourself is easier.) Some might also start to put on a lot of makeup or groom themselves excessively while others don't even try, convinced its no idea and that it wouldn't work anyways- or maybe just too tired, to exhausted from obsessing that they just leave it and wallow in their ugliness.
I suffered this (it never fully goes away) from 13 to 17 years old. I even spent two whole years without looking at myself in the mirror. My entire self esteem depended on how I perceived I looked like. I remember having meltdowns when I caught any glimpse of my face on any reflective surface. Mental illness is scary stuff.
…And the worst part is, I can’t tell my parents. I’m afraid they’ll make fun of me, saying that it’s all in my head. They’ve done it before, and so I really can’t do anything about it. Thank you for reading this. I’m trying my best to keep up with school work, and life outside of it. It’s really hard living with disorders at the age of 11-12. But I’m making it through. I love you all❤
For the part of thinking people mock you, you can't run away from because it's everyone that will like and it's not everyone that will not like you and we can't control people's thoughts so let's not think too much about what people think about us cause we can never control that no matter what
It is EXTREMELY difficult when everywhere you turn growing up you are made fun of from my father to the kids at school to the kids in my neighborhood etc. I am a much older woman now and suffer the same way as I did as a child, nothing changes because it is drummed inyour subsconcious for sooooo many years!!!
I wanted to mention that everyone will probably experience this at least once in there life. More or less they have a high chance as a teenager. Maybe not to the fullest extreme like this video but somewhere along it. Alongside outside influences can make you feel not yourself, like social media, and the people you hang around, etc. Make sure to watch near the end of the video before making irrational discussions about who are you are.
I actually avoid mirrors. It's a habit I'm trying to break. I started getting dressed in the mirror, earlier this year. Months later and I'm still uncomfortable doing so...
I think my mom passed this on to me. She is constantly talking negatively about her body. Now I can't help to do the same with mine. I want to break the cycle but it is like my body was programmed to hate itself.
You know, I just took five body dysmorphia tests made by actual doctors, and they all said I most likely have body dysmorphia. Then I looked at this video, and now I think I probably have body dysmorphia.
I was discussing with my psychiatrist how Miyako from Wataten is different from Futaba from My Senpai Is Annoying. I was saying that, while Futaba clearly is unhappy with her body, she doesn’t have the same kampf as Miyako. Miyako thinks poorly of herself but not so much her physical appearance.
I have body dysmorphia, I used to be fat when I was younger and when I became a teenager I loss weight because of stress in school. My family says that I’m very skinny compared to my younger self which they said does not look good on me, I didn’t believe them because I still saw myself as a fat person even when looking in the mirror. I also have a face that is asymmetrical, I look normal in the mirror but my face is clearly asymmetrical when I take a picture on my phone. I asked other people if my face is asymmetrical but they said it’s not really noticeable, I am very conscious about my asymmetrical face and body shape and it’s stressing me so much. I’m starting to become more confident now but my mind still drifts back to when I was very conscious about my physical appearance. I hope nobody else should perceive themselves as imperfect, because truely nobody is. Those perfect bodies we see in social media requires patience and consistency, but it does not mean we should harm our bodies for the sake of ‘perfection’. Take it easy on yourself.
i never suspected myself of having this until last night i had the worst experience and never want to look at myself again. why do i feel so terrible and hate myself so deeply when i put in so much work to love myself? my friends took some photos of me in the pool and i looked unrecognizable. instantly my mood went from confident to an all time low. i’ve always struggled with this, ive always hated pictures of myself but i thought i had grown from that from my teen years. i’ve suffered from acne and some mornings just cry not wanting to go to school, so i would’ve be made fun of and feel ugly. it’s truly terrible, some days i feel like i’m not ugly but others i’m the most hideous creature to exist. learning about this it might make more sense and help but i hate it soo much, i hope this goes away one day.
So I have social anxiety…but I can relate to many of these signs. But I only feel them when I’m out in public. I feel like I have to hide myself from people even though I looked at my face in the mirror at my home and I felt ok then 🤷🏾♀️
I seem to be mixing up Dysmorphia with Dysphoria. I guess they come from similar Latin routes. Then again I do feel like there is some overlap. The idea that the mind doesn't match up with the body, as well as the way it can effect day to day life. As always another well done video.
Can you do a follow up video explaining the differences between body dismorphia and eating disorders. I thought it was having the perceived flaws that led someone to developing an eating disorder? Thank you for the education!
Thanks so much for the video! I relate quite a lot to some of the points discussed, and while I'm thankful that it hasn't impacted other aspects of my life too strongly, I certainly think negatively about very specific aspects of my appearance...a little too much for my liking. It feels like I'm being dramatic about these concerns because nobody else voices concern about these flaws. It's very strange- it's like I can't quite see what they see. My heart goes out to those with this or related disorders because it CANNOT be easy. You all look incredible today!
the mirrors and other reflective stuff is what i avoid so much but when i unintentionally look at the mirror or other reflective objects i cant stop looking anymore and i look at myself for minutes to hours...MIRRORS RUIN MY DAY!!!
I feel so ugly sometimes. I never wanna look at a mirror in public because I'm scared of how ugly I've probably been looking the whole day, I wanna look perfect but for some reasons the other girls around me are so pretty. I wish I had some sort of pretty privilege, I wish I actually looked normal, I feel so horrible wearing makeup. It's ruining my mental health:(
Hey everyone. This has nothing to do with the video but I need to get this off my chest. A very good friend of mine passed away a couple days ago from Stomach cancer at 71. His name was Dwayne but his friends called him “Dewwie”. I met him when I was 11 at our campground and I thought he was an old angry coot but I was very wrong. The first time I met him we when the chain on my bicycle broke, he gave me a ride back on his golf cart and invited me back to have lunch. I wasn’t going to go but I went back a day later and we just clicked. He loved cars like I do and he would tell his stories about his younger days and his time in the Vietnam war and I really loved to hear his stories. Not only that but he was there to talk when something was wrong and we’ve had plenty conversations. When I was 19, I did something that I regret and went to jail for 3 months and lost everything. I lost my car, my job, my girlfriend, and most of all I lost my family’s trust in me all in one day. The only thing I didn’t loose is my friend. I was at the lowest point of my life and I was about to just “give up” if you know what I mean. When I got out of jail, I was very broken and didn’t want to live anymore but the next time I saw my friend he told me “you look like something’s on your mind. Is something wrong”. I told him everything about what I did and what I lost and when I told him I was ready to give up, he put his arm on my shoulder and said “I know it may not seem like it now but life is going to get better. I know you will get everything back. All you’re going to do is put a permanent solution to temporary problem”. I didn’t believe him at first but he was right. I got me a 2019 Chevy Colorado I bought with my own money, I got a part time job, also have my dream job (working at a car museum), and I got my family back. I believe when he said that he saved my life and I never thanked him for it. That just really eats me up that I never thanked him and I wish I could’ve helped him in the way he helped me.
He sounds wonderful, and I'm so glad you're in a better place now. It might take a while for your guilt to go away, and that's normal but remind yourself that he would understand, he didn't do it for praise or a returning favor, he did it because he wanted to help you and get you back on your feet. Instead of blaming yourself for everything, appreciate the wonderful person he was and the great things he did.
This was interesting. I was walking down the street with a friend when some heavy-set women told us to stop making fun of them when we hadn't said anything or even looked at them. I think this is what they were going through & shouldn't have been so worried about the way they look. If it made them feel that bad, they could have done something about it.
I think my girlfriend suffers from this. She is gorgeous (objectively) but she thinks she is too ugly. She also fits most of this criteria. All I want is for her to feel good about herself and love her body. But I fear if I show this video to her, she may think I'm attacking her. How can I help her? How can she help herself? I think this is so sad because even is she was ugly (subjective constructed concept) I think we should love our bodies, because it's thanks to our bodies that we can walk, smile, eat, hear and live, basically.
I pretty sure I have body dysmorphia because I am insanely self conscious about my stomach and other flaws this causes me to be in a deep state of depression
Lets focus on some ways to rid this mental disorder and learn to at least like yourself, youre not as bad as you may think. More people would see the good qualitys rather than the small bad ones.
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Male 24 here. I walked that path before I know it's not easy. Don't visit any therapists you won't believe whatever they'll say to you. Just look around and answer this question: "Is every successful people hot?"
The main thing that makes it more difficult and confusing to me is that some people(mostly men) randomly commented negatively on my appearance without me asking or that being the topic of discussion on connected in any way.(Especially on my nose) But on the contrary some people(mostly women, mostly very attractive women) found me astonishing and the most attractive man in the room, even while being in the places where conventionally very attractive males were present. I wrote down an issue but here are my thoughts on that topic, it's easier for men to present themselves better then they actually are. That ilvolves style paired with distinctive features(that some people find unattractive) your confidence (you can honeslty dislike your appearance, but at the same time be comfortable with it) The same goes for females, but men have too much standards, but at the same time these standards give men the chance to stand out more and compensate for their flaws.
I feel like people just say that I look nice because it’s the polite thing to do. Everyone says that anyone is beautiful when it’s to their face. This makes me not believe someone when they say anything nice about me. I feel ugly, I think I look ugly, and I don’t have people lining up to just talk to me. I feel like I’m just ugly to everyone, but they also pity me for not knowing, so they just say I look good. Anyone that says otherwise in chat is lying because they don’t know know what I look like Anyone else get this feeling, and what’s a good way to prove to yourself that you’re not ugly?
I recently feel like this is how I’m feeling like now. Not long ago I was in a small accident where i hit my head which did leave a little dent on my head and now I can’t stop staring at it. I tell my mom and sister abt how weird my head looks but they said I look normal. Even with them reassuring me that it’s not even noticeable I felt as if they were just trying to make me feel better. I kept waking up and looking in the bathroom mirror and taking pictures and videos of my head. I hate how my head looks. I started looking at other people head thinking how mine doesn’t look like theirs and crying in bed thinking why did this happen to me. Im feeling more depressed than ever. I struggle so much trying not to look at it and as much as people tell it’s not noticeable i just feel gaslit. Im not even the type to cry especially since I’ve been through a lot but this is really hitting me hard. I really hope I get through this and focus on loving myself more.
Right now it’s really hard with myself in school I always fake wanting to go pee just to check in the mirror of how I look and I don’t even show my face because I wear a mask but I’m constantly checking I just wanna stop caring but I can’t.
I love looking at myself and looking at the mirror, but everytime I look at myself I look like another person, I look at pictures and I'm ugly, I look at the mirror and I think I'm ugly
I used to not like my face, I thought it was ugly. Several years ago I've got used to it. It is still not as good as it could have been, but it's better than I thought it was. It is average.
Honestly I don’t really know if I do have it but I don’t look in the mirror nor do I like being recorded or being in photos because then I see what I actually look like and I always look bad and I hate it and even at one point I wanted to lose weight so badly I started to starve myself and really only slept for hours and then I realized what I was doing to myself so I started eating again but every time I look at myself I hate it because I’m more chubby and I won’t lie i do have hair like everywhere on my body and I absolutely hate that, the only body part I got used to other people seeing is my arms and face everything else is being covered by clothing 😅
I relate to all of the signs. I struggle alot with this condition for awhile... It is so tiring... It's like my toughts and compulsions about my flaws are 24/7 with me... I can't focus on studying or anything else... This disorder ruined my summer
Exactly sorry to reply u so late but u know what I'm going through same stuff and nobody understands me my exams are near and I can't focus on anything other then my damn body.😢
I understand the way you feel. Can’t focus on learning by rushing to the mirror from 3 to 3 mins sometimes, looking into it more, or taking hundreds of pics and deleting them after. I am mentally tired
@George RPG same how are u now? what's sad is that it has caused me so much depression and its just to much to bear sometimes I get tired like u it goes months and months I don't get out of my house even if I do I feel like people are judging me the worst part is that bdd makes you hate your own body and compare yourselves with others all the time
Yea that's me. I always knew I had it because as I was bullied more and more as a young child about being chunky I eventually developed this obsessive behavior with staring in the mirror and picking myself apart. everything I notice my man doesn't notice, my friends, etc. everyone says i look like a 20 something super model and i'm almost 40. iwork super hard on caring for my skin and body, I respect what it does for me now, whereas before I couldn't see past those flaws. before I used to translate my OCD behavior to "Well if I lose 1 inch off my waist, two inches off my thighs I'll be the PERFECT proportional figure." my main obsession if proportions of my body. It drives me INSANE to look in the mirror and see that I don't fit what I think my proportions should be given my height and low BMI. I'm about 22% body fat. athlete level for endurance sports. i've done all types of physical activities except your typical sports. i was more into martial arts, rock climbing, back packing etc. when I developed "overly large quads" aka 24 inch thighs on a 6ft woman, I cycled every day thinking it would deteriorate the muscle so they'd be slimmer. I never cut calories or stopped eating foods, certain foods, I just focused on 90% healthy and well balance 10% treats. but no matter what I am still unsatisfied with my body because after taking on dreaded running and getting my thighs down to 20.5 inches, I lost my bum then was obsessing over that. So did getting my body to "do what I wanted" make me stop obsessing? no. I just found something else to be unhappy about. I've never been hapy in my own skin. never. not once. no matter how much people think I'm gorgeous at any age. So, how did I get to the point I am today, and ahve been for many years, where i can misdirect this negative energy investment into something positive about myself? I just had a rock bottom point where I realized I was never going to be happy at all, which in turn would make everyone around me sad for me, sad because nothing they said would help me, and bottom line, it just isn't good to base your self worth and confidence on your looks. no matter what age you are. you should value who you are for who you are as a being on this earth. yes. taking care of your body is of the utmost importance-respect your body--but do not base all of your best qualities on it. I trained myself to think of my body as something amazing that allows me to do things I love in life. that made fitness, and healthy eating, FUN. prior my motivations for daily workouts and daily healthy eating was fueled by my OCD about looking a certain way. I didn't want to be skinny fat. I wanted this hourglass figure with toned lean muscle, about 19% body fat, popping booty and tiny waist. and every time I'd look in the mirror and not see THOSE PROPORTIONS. I just obsessed over my regime more and more until I had NO TIME for anything else. Even though I made progress I could NOT SEE IT. Even if I measured myself in the mirror I LOOKED THE SAME. you literally being delusional. you do not see that you achieved your goal........you still see the old you. literally hallucinating. When I forced myself to focus on what my body enables me to do, I started to see those changes. while I can't fully see them, i appreciate my body and that's allowed me to love my body in a different and better way. being attractive is good, sure, we can't deny you get more opportunities being a hot young woman vs. not being one, but having amazing skin, and being lean, toned and proportional neve made me happy even though I have worked hard to get here FINALLY at the age of 36. I am happy with myself because I feel strong, I feel like i can move mountains. I feel unstoppable because of how healthy I feel. Not because I've achieved my dream body that I still can't see in the mirror, but the measurements and my body fat percentage tell me I have I met as a goal.
1 You have frequent critical thoughts about your physical appearance when it's not visible? No. 2 You perform repetitive behaviors or mental acts? Yeah, to enjoy it. 3 Your obsessions and compulsions cause you significant stress? No. 4 You think that other people mock you for how you look? yes. 5 You do not meet the criteria for an eating disorder? No, I think binge eating fits. Do you know someone who is suffering from body dysmorphia? Yes (gender independent)
fact 2, 3 and 4, but 4 is normal when you have permanent social anxiety, but glad I don't spend hours in front of a mirror, I already know what my flaws are
The worst part is somebody points it out like someday literally told me "wow your really confident with your arms" another way to say "wow you can show off that big arms now" literally i skip meals after that lol
Knees up when sitting, pull shirt away from stomach, Fix posture so face doesn't look fat when leaning, not wanting to change in same room as others , constantly working out
Slow down, show some signs you have a crush on them, like through showing you care about them... Earn your courage and say it, if they didn't like you back, try again the second time after some time, and if they reject you, that's the time you should stop, it'll be hard at first but having the courage to tell your feelings make your heart feel lighten & less heavy.. I've been through that lately, I liked a guy and it takes so much courage to tell him, but after that I don't get an answer, it hurt me so bad and I started to distance myself & learn to put myself first, met new nice people, and now I'm over him. But we're still talking, coz he doesn't want to lose our communication, but I don't have my feelings for him anymore...
I don’t think I have body dysmorphia but gosh I’m exhausted of checking myself constantly in mirrors and my camera. I’m also obsessed about my face looking weird or my eyes being too small. It feels like my face is constantly changing and for a few seconds my face looks pretty depending on lighting etc. then I think I don’t look flawless and I’m not as pretty as I thought. Also even with minimal makeup I feel like it transforms my whole face and without it I want to cry as I think people are judging me. I can’t go a day without obsessing over my appearance.
Finally confessed my feelings to my doctor today after years of anguish and he told me I probably have this. Thought it was crazy but I watched a video on it and I’ve never felt so seen (well not really if u catch my drift😆) This is my second video and I just can’t believe I’m not the only. I feel hopeful for the first time in a long time. Going to start going to therapy as soon as possible. If you feel like you have body dysmorphia I urge you to go to a doctor or therapist. I have a long way to go but I wish I would’ve came clean earlier with my doctor earlier.
Thanks Unicorn Lover requesting this important topic! Comment below if there are any topics you want us to cover more on. Just note, this video is made for educational purposes and is not intended to substitute a professional diagnosis. If you suspect you may have body dysmorphic disorder or any mental health condition, we highly advise you to seek help from a qualified mental health professional.
I don't know if they have anything to do with psychology, but can you make a video about better time-management or "how to stop procrastinating"?
0:22 4.68M subscribers?
Oh my gosh! You did the video I asked for!😭❤️ Love you!
Do something about love
Numbers four and five. My mom judges me for how I look and I’m a bit of a glutton (out of stress, maybe), but it’s not about the body
What about avoidance of mirrors, not using social media and not taking personal pictures, because any reminder of what you actually look like makes you physically sick and can ruin your mood for days/weeks?
It isn't something you do with thinking. At some point it becomes a habit and you have to look or otherwise you'll be frustrated. It's more of "doing it impulsively" and the disorder is a impulsive one. You do not do it by yourself it's something like breathing- you don't really think should i breathe or no? Because you are used to breathing the same way dysphoric people are used to having to check their reflection.
@Cassie, exactly! What you described is how my body dysmorphia manifests! I can easily spiral into a severe depression with suicidal ideation over catching a glimpse of my reflection or seeing pictures of myself that someone else took. I avoid being in pictures with friends and I'm sure they think I'm weird for it, but I'm adamant and just remind them I have body dysmorphia and I'll obsess over how awful I look in the pic for weeks and the anxiety will even keep me up at night, it's bad.
@@ParadoxalDebacle exactly what I go through too! It can literally ruin my entire day if I accidentally get a glimpse of myself.
Well im glad you guys feel that you aren't alone with things im happy:]
Same, at this point i'm trying to train myself to not get moody and anxious whenever I look at myself because I feel stuck for years and I don't want to avoid myself my whole life even if it's hard to do so.
1. 0:25 - You have frequent critical thoughts about your physical appearance when it's not noticeable by others
2. 0:53 - You perform repetitive behaviors or mental acts
3. 1:22 - Your obsessions and compulsions cause you significant distress
4. 2:00 - You think that other people mock for how you look
5. 2:24 - You don't meet the criteria for an eating disorder
Thank :>
What is your username. how??
@@Unexperiencedguy magic
It LoOkS wOrSe If YoU cLiCk On It
Lmfao, I Have Both Gender And Body Dysphoria
And It Honestly Sucks When I Have A Mental Breakdown Because Of It. I Had To Punch Or Hurt Myself In Some Ways To Calm Myself
Me questioning myself all the time if I have body dysmorphia or I'm just in fact really ugly
same gurl
as someone who is both . It doesn’t matter if we are ugly realistically the body dysmorphia just makes us care too much I thought it was social anxiety for all these years
I'm not saying you're ugly, to be clear, but you can be both. Body dysmorphia just means you obsess and are emotionally impacted more by it in that case. Although I will note that basically everyone with body dysmorphia doesn't know if they only think they're ugly or are really ugly. It's a pretty common part of the disorder.
same-
The most pretty mfs see the most tiny thing about themselves as bad because it “doesn’t fit” with the rest
My mom has this, and well it's just a friendly reminder that mental health does not just take a toll on you as a young adult, it can grow into older ages, but is good as it shows people should not feel weird or different.
my mum also has this and because of that I have this.
Thank you for spreading awareness about this fact too 🥺💜
More importantly that it's also okay to acknowledge that you have flaws, even with the wisdom of growing older there are still flaws, but those flaws could be solved or adapted to.
@@ell13_ same situation 😔
I think I have this, I wanna kill myself because of this, I can't take it anymore...
I've never clicked on a notification so fast before. I was diagnosed at 18 and still suffer now at 25. I want cosmetic surgery as I feel ugly with my face, my body and just my overall look. I wear baggy clothes to hide my imperfections, I can't leave the house without wearing makeup to cover up my ugly face, if anyone sees my face without makeup they're very special. I honestly hate myself.
It's gonna be alright, just practice self-love slowly but surely. It's gonna be hard, but you're going to love yourself. We all find flaws in our body sometimes, and most people get obsessions over fixing them, but trust me, a slow process is going to be the fastest.
Listen. You're amazing, you'll get through this You are beautiful. If anyone tells you otherwise, they're wrong.
We just need to separate our sense of self worth from our looks
As someone who is going through Facial Dysmorphia I need to say thank you for talking about this topic. Many pepole find it stupid and make fun of this topic, but I'm' glad this video was made. ❤
Hurts when others think you're vain, but actually you just want to feel comfortable in your skin.
@@viktoriatodorova4846 Exactly
@@viktoriatodorova4846 this is too true
got to the point where I was measuring my face and comparing it to the golden ratio because I just can't comprehend what I really look like or if im pretty or not before I started to realize there was an issue
me too i can’t bear how i look when i smile or how i look from the side 🤮🤮🤮
It’s sad to see how many people relate to this but I’m so happy you guys are committed to spreading awareness and breaking down the stigmas with mental illness. You’re helping so many people ❤
I hope you have found some form of help, I found Caldwell Ramseys work to be so beneficial to my healing journey.
I have had BDD since age 14, because I was sexually assaulted +5 times at that year. I was also bullied at school etc. Now I’m 28 and still have BDD. I haven’t been able to do any work after 19 years old. I have used drugs, tried to kill myself etc, didn’t go outside for +2 years at all. But even I still feel I can’t live without having to have plastic surgery, I promise you can get better and have a better life if you seek help. I am diagnosed as BDD and BPD, social anxiety and depression, but therapy (DKT, CBT) has helped me a lot! Dancing has been the most healing thing for me. Also psychophysical therapy was very helpful. I wish you all reading this suffering BDD so much strenght, please don’t give up until you have tried everything! This life is precious and it can feel better I promise ✨
I’m so sorry that you had to go through all of that nothing was your fault, I’m glad your still here with us today 💕
Remember u beautiful person experiencing bully is like a life time trauma.. I wish nobody goes with bully experience.. god is always with us.. And because of god grace you have overcome with all your life scars and you have came here in this stage of your life queen.. U did it and future is waiting for your better versions.. ! ♥️♥️
Man this really fucked up my mood. Keep going you'll and you will feel better. Don't give up when things aren't going the right way and always remember that you can't fail if you keep trying.
Wow. I got bullied so much in high school that I developed BD, but only now, thanks to this video, I can finally give a name to that inmense anxiety I felt and hated.
Thank you for explaining this concept so well! My teenage years were honestly a nightmare, but I slowly climbed back up by focusing on everything (and everyone) I loved. Including myself, I actually learnt how to love myself :')
Same here 😢 more power to you 😀🤝
YES
The insecurity for height and looks hits hard. Even at 25 it never got better and created a sense of skepticism and social anxiety.
It must been really heart, but I think you still have control of changing the things you don't want about yourself, like...about your height, good posture & stretching really helps, for months of stretching can increase an inch to your height... And about your looks, lists everything you don't like about your likes, for example: you don't like your hair, your face is oily or you have acne, your brows isn't thick enough, your nose is not too small or big, your teeth is damaged, your lips is so thin or too thick... And work on every each, like you start taking care of your hair, combing it 3-5 times a day, have a hair care, like argan oil is really good for hair. For your face skin, try to search a skin care for acne or oily face or dry skin.. for your nose, some exercise will do if you're only just consistent.. for your lips, scrub it with sugar & put some oil.. for your teeth, go see a dentist, and so on...
I'm 20 years old, and I really have a lot of insecurities, and I'm still working on every each of them
Same with me. I’m now 33 and I thought it was going to get better the older I got but nope…
I feel that every day it sucks
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0:00 intro
0:24 1.You have frequent critical thoughts about your physical appearance when it's not noticeable by others
0:52 2.You perform repetitive behaviors or mental acts
1:21 3.Your obsessions and compulsions cause you significant distress
1:59 4.You think that other people mock for how you look
2:23 5.You don't meet the criteria for an eating disorder
2:57 outro
Dear person reading this, you are perfect the way you are, you are the best person in this world, so smile wide, this pain is temporary, you are strong that you can overcome it and fighting with it till now. Have a lovely day :)
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No,I'm not really pretty.i just need to get more skinny and ignore my anxiety and depression and I'll be okay!
This makes me genuinely happy. The only way I believe this isn't a bot is because it is on a psych2go video
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Thanks, you too
So glad you uploaded this video. I feel like body dysmorphic disorder is becoming more commonly misused in day-to-day language. Hopefully this will educate those that feel they have BDD because of something they saw on social media and/or help those who may have it and not realize it yet :)
i was topper in maths and chemistry in school but i wasnt able to complete my graduation becausd of bdd. I would get countless thoughts because of this and i used to spent atleaat 10 hour/day infront of mirror. It affectsd me for 6 years and then i recovered on my own. Once i recovered i graduated and then I execled in everything. Now i am in senior position in the biggest company. This is one of the dangerous sickness its a ghost that can not easily leave your body. My suggestion is found someone you trust and is like family to you, could be a friend or sibling and tell them everything and only they can help you believe and help you understand how beautiful you are.
Would you rather live alone in a beautiful countryside or work hard and live in the city around the people you love? Why?
City because of my loved ones. But some days access to remote countryside would be nice
I’m lonely in my city, so I might as well be lonely in a beautiful countryside. I’d probably feel less lonely. It’s horrible when you’re surrounded by people but have no friends, and the one person you want to spend time with never has the time. 😢
Cities feel lonelier in my opinion; so many people but it’s always seemingly just you. I’d prefer my solitude in a countryside. The air would be cleaner and easier to breath. I’d miss my family, though.
I already live in the countryside & I'm happier than when I lived in the city full of snobby antisocial stuck up people.
I'd choose a beautiful comtryside, people are strange.
Needed this rn. I have always been very insecure about how I look and have been feeling pretty bad about myself lately.
I am quite happy you've made a video on this big thanks to the person who suggested it. And yes i do personally suffer from body dysmorphia. I've noticed not too long ago that i was worrying over anything when it comes to my body like: will people talk about me behind my back because my hair looks terrible? What do they think about my hand? What could they think when they look at my legs? Are they all judging me?
It stopped me from wearing a ton of clothes because they show off the parts that i feel most insecure about. And stopped me from going out with people. Because i felt like they would judge me.
Even when I'm home and having a harder time not taking care of myself i wonder: will my family judge me for how i look?
And yes I've been told that im beautiful or pretty by others friends and family. And i did try only looking at the parts that looked better than others. But it didn't help i can't just stop examining how i look.
And it's not something someone would want. And even when the pandemic "ended" i was still wearing a mask around. Because I didn't have to see a large portion of my face.
And it's not just at home. If i ever see a surface i can observe myself in i will go and do that. And i wear glasses my body dysmorphia is a big reason i hate them. Because when I don't have them on I don't see myself as clearly: my hair looks fluffy, my eyes look nice and that stuff. But when i put them on i suddenly look terrible have dark circles, my hair looks stringy ect.
I do wish that people that don't have it to never have it. Because it limits you from doing so much. You focus on your appearance so much you start to loose focus on other more important to you things.
I can relate wholeheartedly.
I have the same exact situation. I can relate to what you go through everyday.
(PS, I allso have glasses and without them I also look better to myself but as soon as I wear them, BAAMM, instant ugliness)
you said "dysphoria", did you mean "dysmorphia" ? Because they're too separate things
@@HyperNovva yeah sorry autocorrect and i was in a bit of a hurry writing this thanks for pointing it out I'll correct it.
Though i do have both yea i was talking about dysmorphia not dysphoria.
@@binnie2656 makes sense, and yes autocorrect is pain sometimes lol. You're welcome btw
I experienced this a lot when I was younger and I know a lot of young women do. I've come to appreciate myself completely and I now realize how beautiful I was back then.
Whoever’s reading this I pray that whatever your struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day!
Since the COVID pandemic started I started to grow insecure about my face, over the span of like 2 years I would not go anywhere (like school or shopping) without wearing a mask. I eventually started not eating or drinking at school because I didn't ever want to take my mask off. I started covering my face with my hair I wanted to make sure nobody could see my face. I constantly check mirrors to make sure I'm covered up, but I still feel disgusted when I look at myself. I agree that when my hair is on my forehead and have my mask on it looks bad, but I just want to cover it up anyways. I started working out to make me feel better about myself, but my face hasn't really changed much. And I don't want to self diagnose anything so that's why I made this comment!!
I'm not sure what to do because I don't have enough courage to make any changes to be better, and when I saw this video I could somewhat relate to it, so if anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. Have a lovely day
Omg same... I'm really sorryyyyy😢
i am going through this disease please pray for me to overcome fighting hard long time😖💪🏽🤲🏼
I don't know if I might have body dysmorphia but here are some signs that I think relate to body dysmorphia
-overly checking myself in mirrors
-comparing myself to everyone else
-thinking people are all Judging me for my looks
- always focused on my flaws
This is me! I often can only go out when I have to. The rest of the time my absolute hatred of part of my body it keeps me in. Alone. I know this and how it feels! Zero self confidence and constantly putting self down. In a sense I’ve had this all my life! Know it’s wrong but can’t stop it. Sad really!
Thank you so much for this video - I think BDD is a much maligned mental health disorder, and very often misunderstood by others because others cannot see the same flaws as the sufferer, and so put it down to 'attention-seeking' or just failing to understand. I used to suffer incredibly with BDD from being a teenager right up until my 30s, but I wasn't formally diagnosed and treated until about 27. These days, I don't suffer anywhere near as much - sometimes I have bad days, but they're just that. I took up the gym to help combat my thoughts and feelings, and it was the best thing I ever did. To anyone suffering, you're not alone. ❤
This is a matter that a whole lot of people can relate to and I wish we all know that we are beautiful just the way we are. Thank you for raising this awareness and for the information you have provided in this video.
We hope this video helps! Did you relate to it too?
I haven’t been diagnosed with this but there are points I relate. Like for example, I look at the pictures taken of me and immediately see my flaws. My bulbous nose, my weird eyes that are big and yet I have one lazy, my face is extremely round and ugly to the point I find it absolutely disgusting and it makes me wish I can just wear a mask all day because people do look at me and think I’m ugly, and my gross disgusting acne. Like I’m a hideous woman. But I have been diagnosed with an eating disorder in the past. Binge eating etc. However, now I’m barely eating in hopes I’m skinny with less acne and a less rounder face.
I’d love to see a video delving into binge eating disorder and stress eating ❤️ the usual causes, physical and psychological effects, misconceptions, how being judged for it also makes it worse… I think delving more info eating disorders as a whole would really help inform people c:
I’m 15 but for the past year my fixation has been on looking perfect and it is heavily influenced by K-pop because the celebrities always look so beautiful, I noticed the signs that I was getting consumed about my appearance but it never caused anything harm other than my bank account. But two months ago I had an allergic reaction and my skin drastically changed overnight, I think because I was so fixated in being perfect the sudden shift caused me so much distress, I hid away from people and cancelled plans because I felt and still do feel deformed. Watching this video shocked me because I myself had called myself deformed and the exact same word was used in this video. It was improving but my self confidence was still rock bottom, I avoided mirrors and still cancelled plans and avoided eye contact with everybody as well as walking around with my head turned to the floor. Around a week ago I used a product that made the reaction flare back up, this caused me so much self loathing, I resorted to attempting self harm because I felt worthless due to my skin not being ‘perfect’ like it usually appears. Even now I’ve cried twice today and once yesterday because I’m terrified that my skin will never recover and that every time I wake up the reaction will of worsened or came back. I missed a week of school last week and I’m not going tomorrow because my mum wants me to talk to somebody about my emotional wellbeing. Ever since it happened I’ve felt hideous and like nobody understands the stress it’s causing me because it’s ‘just skin’ and ‘it will be fine in a month or two’ but to me it’s crushed everything I cared about and after watching this video I admit that I may be suffering from body dystrophies because everyone around me doesn’t notice what I see.
i feel you i’m 16 and i literally avoid going out because of my look’s. my family say i look "fine" but i don’t believe them. i feel deformed, i also have a breakout on my forehead and that triggers me even more, i stopped going to school altogether because of it and now try to do my school work online, it’s ruining everything
@@mxsjshs777 mhm, my skins still struggling and im staying off school until the summer currently. But honestly one of my ‘friends’ has been going round school telling everyone im ‘milking it’ and it’s just over ‘a few spots’ and basically comparing all her issues that she lies abt with mine. It rlly bugs me that nobody believes what I say because they can’t see it themselves. I hope you can find a good talking therapist or something that helps you :) that’s what I’ve done this week so I’m praying everything gets better from here 🫶🏼
My younger self... MY 5 YEAR OLD SELF.
Would look into the mirror and be like "maybe I only look like this at a specific time?" Come back a while later and... Say it again.. i didn't wanna accept how I looked
I literally feel like this all the time
as a person who has been diagnosed with body dysmorphia, ty. And ty for spreading awareness about it.
Dang I can’t believe I can relate to 4 of these signs it’s genuinely kinda scaring me-
Really? Don't self-diagnose, though, ask a proffesional first :DD
@@GNicknames1533 body dysmorphia is similar to body dysphoria in the way you can self diagnose before getting an actual diagnosis through seeing a doctor, especially since it's expensive in america just to get diagnosed for things like that and some people cant afford it
@@sxmxndthx still, at least ask someone who knows a thing or two about it before you identify as someone with body dysmorphia. You can only see you problem from one perspective, which is in your own head, so you might be seeing it differently from how it is. I didn't know that I had depression since I saw my own feelings differently and automatically invalidated them, but when I talked to a therapist she immediately recognized that I had very obvious depression.
@@gianna526 Of course! I just mean that it's okay to think you have a disorder even if you're not diagnosed yet! :)
Honestly hate obsessing over my weight/acne/if my hair looks greasy/body proportions looking off etc on a daily basis it’s slowing ruining my life 🫠 lots of love to other people going through similar experiences ❤️
This sounds just like me, throughout most of my teenage years and into my early 20s.
I'm glad I finally got over it! 😊
can u please tell me how u overcame it, my gf has it and idk what to do she left me bc she thinks she is completely unattractive and idk how to overcome it
@@cup9516- thanks for the question ... and I'll do my best.
Firstly, there wasn't a 'moment of understanding ', more of a gradual process of realising that there were people who genuinely cared for me, but also people who just didn't like me for whatever reason.
And eventually stopped caring about the opinions of people who didn't like me.
And then there was the slow realisation that most people weren't in either category - they didn't even bother to care one way or another about me. Those people - most people - have plenty of other things to worry about besides me.
So I suppose I could say it was the kindness and support of the people who really cared for me that made all the difference.
Now that I'm in my 50s I can look back and see the changes, and they did take a long time.
I'm not sure if that helps you?
Me, weighting myself every day, never going out without makeup, watching it and taking notes to an appointment.
this is by far the scariest thing I've been through.
So I realized I was struggling with thisba few years ago, before I thought it was just a joke or people over exaggerating. We did a biggest loser competition at work, I went from 200 to 150 in 3 months, everytime I looked in the mirror I still saw a fat person, I literally could not see what everyone else saw. When I turned sideways and realized my arms were thin as bone I realized I had a problem.
For me it kind of comes in different stages or maybe types.
'Go away' stage:
Trying to separate yourself from your body completely, doing anything to avoid having to see yourself and feel like you do. Baggy clothes, aboiding pictures, avoiding mirrors, avoiding social interactions because ypu fear being perceived in any way.
'Fix it' stage.
Trying to 'fix' what's wrong with your body. When you can't ignore or just can't bear your physical self any more you might resort to doing everything to 'fix' how you look. Obsessing over reflection, not eating properly, trying on an endless amount of clothes and thinking you should fit them rather tham they should fit you.
These are often mixed, and body dysmorphia is probably very different for everyone; based on personality and lifestyle.
Some might start eating a lot as a comfort, while others lose their apetite completely and just stop eating. (Some also alternate between these two every week or so). Some resort to exercising excessively (their anxiety enough to drive them) while some avoid exercising or going out altogether (out of shame 'how dare I try to love myself?, Im ridiculous for even trying' and maybe because thinking that starving yourself is easier.) Some might also start to put on a lot of makeup or groom themselves excessively while others don't even try, convinced its no idea and that it wouldn't work anyways- or maybe just too tired, to exhausted from obsessing that they just leave it and wallow in their ugliness.
I suffered this (it never fully goes away) from 13 to 17 years old. I even spent two whole years without looking at myself in the mirror. My entire self esteem depended on how I perceived I looked like. I remember having meltdowns when I caught any glimpse of my face on any reflective surface. Mental illness is scary stuff.
I’m so tired of obsessing over it. But I’m afraid that when I stop I’ll let myself go .
it´s so sad, this world is obsessed with appearance and almost everyone thinks they will never be good enough.
…And the worst part is, I can’t tell my parents. I’m afraid they’ll make fun of me, saying that it’s all in my head. They’ve done it before, and so I really can’t do anything about it. Thank you for reading this. I’m trying my best to keep up with school work, and life outside of it. It’s really hard living with disorders at the age of 11-12. But I’m making it through. I love you all❤
For the part of thinking people mock you, you can't run away from because it's everyone that will like and it's not everyone that will not like you and we can't control people's thoughts so let's not think too much about what people think about us cause we can never control that no matter what
It is EXTREMELY difficult when everywhere you turn growing up you are made fun of from my father to the kids at school to the kids in my neighborhood etc. I am a much older woman now and suffer the same way as I did as a child, nothing changes because it is drummed inyour subsconcious for sooooo many years!!!
I must add that I was made fun and bullied about both my face and my body!!!
My Body Dysmorphia: **exists**
Me: **wears hoodie**
My Body Dysmorphia: “aight, ima head out”
my mum booked me in for therapy and now that i know i relate to these i could talk about it, thank you Psych2Go
I wanted to mention that everyone will probably experience this at least once in there life. More or less they have a high chance as a teenager. Maybe not to the fullest extreme like this video but somewhere along it. Alongside outside influences can make you feel not yourself, like social media, and the people you hang around, etc. Make sure to watch near the end of the video before making irrational discussions about who are you are.
This is very true I first experienced this at 15 that was 5 years ago
I actually avoid mirrors. It's a habit I'm trying to break. I started getting dressed in the mirror, earlier this year. Months later and I'm still uncomfortable doing so...
Thx for this even though I'm a teenager, I don't worry as much on my physical appearance, I practice some self love, I should be fine.
I think my mom passed this on to me. She is constantly talking negatively about her body. Now I can't help to do the same with mine. I want to break the cycle but it is like my body was programmed to hate itself.
You know, I just took five body dysmorphia tests made by actual doctors, and they all said I most likely have body dysmorphia. Then I looked at this video, and now I think I probably have body dysmorphia.
I was discussing with my psychiatrist how Miyako from Wataten is different from Futaba from My Senpai Is Annoying. I was saying that, while Futaba clearly is unhappy with her body, she doesn’t have the same kampf as Miyako. Miyako thinks poorly of herself but not so much her physical appearance.
I have body dysmorphia, I used to be fat when I was younger and when I became a teenager I loss weight because of stress in school. My family says that I’m very skinny compared to my younger self which they said does not look good on me, I didn’t believe them because I still saw myself as a fat person even when looking in the mirror. I also have a face that is asymmetrical, I look normal in the mirror but my face is clearly asymmetrical when I take a picture on my phone. I asked other people if my face is asymmetrical but they said it’s not really noticeable, I am very conscious about my asymmetrical face and body shape and it’s stressing me so much. I’m starting to become more confident now but my mind still drifts back to when I was very conscious about my physical appearance.
I hope nobody else should perceive themselves as imperfect, because truely nobody is. Those perfect bodies we see in social media requires patience and consistency, but it does not mean we should harm our bodies for the sake of ‘perfection’. Take it easy on yourself.
i never suspected myself of having this until last night i had the worst experience and never want to look at myself again. why do i feel so terrible and hate myself so deeply when i put in so much work to love myself? my friends took some photos of me in the pool and i looked unrecognizable. instantly my mood went from confident to an all time low. i’ve always struggled with this, ive always hated pictures of myself but i thought i had grown from that from my teen years. i’ve suffered from acne and some mornings just cry not wanting to go to school, so i would’ve be made fun of and feel ugly. it’s truly terrible, some days i feel like i’m not ugly but others i’m the most hideous creature to exist. learning about this it might make more sense and help but i hate it soo much, i hope this goes away one day.
So I have social anxiety…but I can relate to many of these signs. But I only feel them when I’m out in public. I feel like I have to hide myself from people even though I looked at my face in the mirror at my home and I felt ok then 🤷🏾♀️
this channel is reading my mind and worries in a way that it's even scary wth
I seem to be mixing up Dysmorphia with Dysphoria. I guess they come from similar Latin routes. Then again I do feel like there is some overlap. The idea that the mind doesn't match up with the body, as well as the way it can effect day to day life. As always another well done video.
Can you do a follow up video explaining the differences between body dismorphia and eating disorders. I thought it was having the perceived flaws that led someone to developing an eating disorder? Thank you for the education!
IMO this shows how detrimental our society is
Thanks so much for the video! I relate quite a lot to some of the points discussed, and while I'm thankful that it hasn't impacted other aspects of my life too strongly, I certainly think negatively about very specific aspects of my appearance...a little too much for my liking. It feels like I'm being dramatic about these concerns because nobody else voices concern about these flaws. It's very strange- it's like I can't quite see what they see. My heart goes out to those with this or related disorders because it CANNOT be easy. You all look incredible today!
"your body is imperfectly perfect"
- Melanie Martinez
the mirrors and other reflective stuff is what i avoid so much but when i unintentionally look at the mirror or other reflective objects i cant stop looking anymore and i look at myself for minutes to hours...MIRRORS RUIN MY DAY!!!
I feel so ugly sometimes. I never wanna look at a mirror in public because I'm scared of how ugly I've probably been looking the whole day, I wanna look perfect but for some reasons the other girls around me are so pretty. I wish I had some sort of pretty privilege, I wish I actually looked normal, I feel so horrible wearing makeup. It's ruining my mental health:(
Same I'm sorry😢😢
watching this even tho I know full well I have body dysmorphia
Hey everyone. This has nothing to do with the video but I need to get this off my chest. A very good friend of mine passed away a couple days ago from Stomach cancer at 71. His name was Dwayne but his friends called him “Dewwie”. I met him when I was 11 at our campground and I thought he was an old angry coot but I was very wrong. The first time I met him we when the chain on my bicycle broke, he gave me a ride back on his golf cart and invited me back to have lunch. I wasn’t going to go but I went back a day later and we just clicked. He loved cars like I do and he would tell his stories about his younger days and his time in the Vietnam war and I really loved to hear his stories. Not only that but he was there to talk when something was wrong and we’ve had plenty conversations.
When I was 19, I did something that I regret and went to jail for 3 months and lost everything. I lost my car, my job, my girlfriend, and most of all I lost my family’s trust in me all in one day. The only thing I didn’t loose is my friend. I was at the lowest point of my life and I was about to just “give up” if you know what I mean. When I got out of jail, I was very broken and didn’t want to live anymore but the next time I saw my friend he told me “you look like something’s on your mind. Is something wrong”. I told him everything about what I did and what I lost and when I told him I was ready to give up, he put his arm on my shoulder and said “I know it may not seem like it now but life is going to get better. I know you will get everything back. All you’re going to do is put a permanent solution to temporary problem”. I didn’t believe him at first but he was right. I got me a 2019 Chevy Colorado I bought with my own money, I got a part time job, also have my dream job (working at a car museum), and I got my family back. I believe when he said that he saved my life and I never thanked him for it. That just really eats me up that I never thanked him and I wish I could’ve helped him in the way he helped me.
He sounds wonderful, and I'm so glad you're in a better place now. It might take a while for your guilt to go away, and that's normal but remind yourself that he would understand, he didn't do it for praise or a returning favor, he did it because he wanted to help you and get you back on your feet. Instead of blaming yourself for everything, appreciate the wonderful person he was and the great things he did.
This was interesting. I was walking down the street with a friend when some heavy-set women told us to stop making fun of them when we hadn't said anything or even looked at them. I think this is what they were going through & shouldn't have been so worried about the way they look. If it made them feel that bad, they could have done something about it.
I think my girlfriend suffers from this. She is gorgeous (objectively) but she thinks she is too ugly. She also fits most of this criteria. All I want is for her to feel good about herself and love her body. But I fear if I show this video to her, she may think I'm attacking her. How can I help her? How can she help herself?
I think this is so sad because even is she was ugly (subjective constructed concept) I think we should love our bodies, because it's thanks to our bodies that we can walk, smile, eat, hear and live, basically.
I pretty sure I have body dysmorphia because I am insanely self conscious about my stomach and other flaws this causes me to be in a deep state of depression
Me on the other hand: I’M UGLY AND I’M PROUD, I’M UGLY AND I’M PROUD
Lets focus on some ways to rid this mental disorder and learn to at least like yourself, youre not as bad as you may think. More people would see the good qualitys rather than the small bad ones.
thank you psych to go for taking our suggestions and uploading so frequently you are helping a lot of people so i hope you see this comment and know that we thank you because you are awesome, also avo3adorable music thank you for the comment, they are right
im have bulimia and my body dysmorphia is no joke i dont know how i truly look because of it…
Male 24 here.
I walked that path before I know it's not easy. Don't visit any therapists you won't believe whatever they'll say to you. Just look around and answer this question: "Is every successful people hot?"
The main thing that makes it more difficult and confusing to me is that some people(mostly men) randomly commented negatively on my appearance without me asking or that being the topic of discussion on connected in any way.(Especially on my nose) But on the contrary some people(mostly women, mostly very attractive women) found me astonishing and the most attractive man in the room, even while being in the places where conventionally very attractive males were present. I wrote down an issue but here are my thoughts on that topic, it's easier for men to present themselves better then they actually are. That ilvolves style paired with distinctive features(that some people find unattractive) your confidence (you can honeslty dislike your appearance, but at the same time be comfortable with it)
The same goes for females, but men have too much standards, but at the same time these standards give men the chance to stand out more and compensate for their flaws.
The first time it started was when i started going into a Diet and a fitness routine and strength workouts.
I feel like people just say that I look nice because it’s the polite thing to do. Everyone says that anyone is beautiful when it’s to their face. This makes me not believe someone when they say anything nice about me. I feel ugly, I think I look ugly, and I don’t have people lining up to just talk to me. I feel like I’m just ugly to everyone, but they also pity me for not knowing, so they just say I look good. Anyone that says otherwise in chat is lying because they don’t know know what I look like
Anyone else get this feeling, and what’s a good way to prove to yourself that you’re not ugly?
I recently feel like this is how I’m feeling like now. Not long ago I was in a small accident where i hit my head which did leave a little dent on my head and now I can’t stop staring at it. I tell my mom and sister abt how weird my head looks but they said I look normal. Even with them reassuring me that it’s not even noticeable I felt as if they were just trying to make me feel better. I kept waking up and looking in the bathroom mirror and taking pictures and videos of my head. I hate how my head looks. I started looking at other people head thinking how mine doesn’t look like theirs and crying in bed thinking why did this happen to me. Im feeling more depressed than ever. I struggle so much trying not to look at it and as much as people tell it’s not noticeable i just feel gaslit. Im not even the type to cry especially since I’ve been through a lot but this is really hitting me hard. I really hope I get through this and focus on loving myself more.
We need eating disorders now and how to combat the unhealthy actions and thoughts. 🙏
Right now it’s really hard with myself in school I always fake wanting to go pee just to check in the mirror of how I look and I don’t even show my face because I wear a mask but I’m constantly checking I just wanna stop caring but I can’t.
I love looking at myself and looking at the mirror, but everytime I look at myself I look like another person, I look at pictures and I'm ugly, I look at the mirror and I think I'm ugly
You look awesome
almost 3 years living like this trying to convince myself i’m just overreacting and overthinking so much
I used to not like my face, I thought it was ugly. Several years ago I've got used to it. It is still not as good as it could have been, but it's better than I thought it was. It is average.
I think i have body dysmorphia.
Same
Honestly I don’t really know if I do have it but I don’t look in the mirror nor do I like being recorded or being in photos because then I see what I actually look like and I always look bad and I hate it and even at one point I wanted to lose weight so badly I started to starve myself and really only slept for hours and then I realized what I was doing to myself so I started eating again but every time I look at myself I hate it because I’m more chubby and I won’t lie i do have hair like everywhere on my body and I absolutely hate that, the only body part I got used to other people seeing is my arms and face everything else is being covered by clothing 😅
I honestly want an answer to this question too... I'm in the same boat...with like...all of what you listed. 😥
I relate to all of the signs. I struggle alot with this condition for awhile... It is so tiring... It's like my toughts and compulsions about my flaws are 24/7 with me... I can't focus on studying or anything else... This disorder ruined my summer
Exactly sorry to reply u so late but u know what I'm going through same stuff and nobody understands me my exams are near and I can't focus on anything other then my damn body.😢
I understand the way you feel. Can’t focus on learning by rushing to the mirror from 3 to 3 mins sometimes, looking into it more, or taking hundreds of pics and deleting them after. I am mentally tired
@George RPG same how are u now? what's sad is that it has caused me so much depression and its just to much to bear sometimes I get tired like u it goes months and months I don't get out of my house even if I do I feel like people are judging me the worst part is that bdd makes you hate your own body and compare yourselves with others all the time
Having it at the age 14 is struggle and the fact that its not cureable
I don't worry about what others think of me, but I personally cannot stand to look at my eyes.
Yea that's me. I always knew I had it because as I was bullied more and more as a young child about being chunky I eventually developed this obsessive behavior with staring in the mirror and picking myself apart. everything I notice my man doesn't notice, my friends, etc. everyone says i look like a 20 something super model and i'm almost 40. iwork super hard on caring for my skin and body, I respect what it does for me now, whereas before I couldn't see past those flaws. before I used to translate my OCD behavior to "Well if I lose 1 inch off my waist, two inches off my thighs I'll be the PERFECT proportional figure." my main obsession if proportions of my body. It drives me INSANE to look in the mirror and see that I don't fit what I think my proportions should be given my height and low BMI. I'm about 22% body fat. athlete level for endurance sports. i've done all types of physical activities except your typical sports. i was more into martial arts, rock climbing, back packing etc. when I developed "overly large quads" aka 24 inch thighs on a 6ft woman, I cycled every day thinking it would deteriorate the muscle so they'd be slimmer. I never cut calories or stopped eating foods, certain foods, I just focused on 90% healthy and well balance 10% treats. but no matter what I am still unsatisfied with my body because after taking on dreaded running and getting my thighs down to 20.5 inches, I lost my bum then was obsessing over that.
So did getting my body to "do what I wanted" make me stop obsessing? no. I just found something else to be unhappy about. I've never been hapy in my own skin. never. not once. no matter how much people think I'm gorgeous at any age.
So, how did I get to the point I am today, and ahve been for many years, where i can misdirect this negative energy investment into something positive about myself?
I just had a rock bottom point where I realized I was never going to be happy at all, which in turn would make everyone around me sad for me, sad because nothing they said would help me, and bottom line, it just isn't good to base your self worth and confidence on your looks. no matter what age you are. you should value who you are for who you are as a being on this earth. yes. taking care of your body is of the utmost importance-respect your body--but do not base all of your best qualities on it.
I trained myself to think of my body as something amazing that allows me to do things I love in life. that made fitness, and healthy eating, FUN. prior my motivations for daily workouts and daily healthy eating was fueled by my OCD about looking a certain way. I didn't want to be skinny fat. I wanted this hourglass figure with toned lean muscle, about 19% body fat, popping booty and tiny waist. and every time I'd look in the mirror and not see THOSE PROPORTIONS. I just obsessed over my regime more and more until I had NO TIME for anything else. Even though I made progress I could NOT SEE IT. Even if I measured myself in the mirror I LOOKED THE SAME. you literally being delusional. you do not see that you achieved your goal........you still see the old you. literally hallucinating.
When I forced myself to focus on what my body enables me to do, I started to see those changes. while I can't fully see them, i appreciate my body and that's allowed me to love my body in a different and better way.
being attractive is good, sure, we can't deny you get more opportunities being a hot young woman vs. not being one, but having amazing skin, and being lean, toned and proportional neve made me happy even though I have worked hard to get here FINALLY at the age of 36. I am happy with myself because I feel strong, I feel like i can move mountains. I feel unstoppable because of how healthy I feel. Not because I've achieved my dream body that I still can't see in the mirror, but the measurements and my body fat percentage tell me I have I met as a goal.
1 You have frequent critical thoughts about your physical appearance when it's not visible? No.
2 You perform repetitive behaviors or mental acts? Yeah, to enjoy it.
3 Your obsessions and compulsions cause you significant stress? No.
4 You think that other people mock you for how you look? yes.
5 You do not meet the criteria for an eating disorder? No, I think binge eating fits.
Do you know someone who is suffering from body dysmorphia? Yes (gender independent)
fact 2, 3 and 4, but 4 is normal when you have permanent social anxiety, but glad I don't spend hours in front of a mirror, I already know what my flaws are
The worst part is somebody points it out like someday literally told me "wow your really confident with your arms" another way to say "wow you can show off that big arms now" literally i skip meals after that lol
Knees up when sitting, pull shirt away from stomach, Fix posture so face doesn't look fat when leaning, not wanting to change in same room as others , constantly working out
Can you make a video on how to tell your crush you have feelings for them? I'm dealing with this right now, and I really want to tell them soon.
Psych2Go has a lot of videos like that, fortunately! If I can link one, I'll edit this comment :DD
@@GNicknames1533 awesome! try to link as soon as possible.
Slow down, show some signs you have a crush on them, like through showing you care about them... Earn your courage and say it, if they didn't like you back, try again the second time after some time, and if they reject you, that's the time you should stop, it'll be hard at first but having the courage to tell your feelings make your heart feel lighten & less heavy.. I've been through that lately, I liked a guy and it takes so much courage to tell him, but after that I don't get an answer, it hurt me so bad and I started to distance myself & learn to put myself first, met new nice people, and now I'm over him. But we're still talking, coz he doesn't want to lose our communication, but I don't have my feelings for him anymore...
Hardest thing to deal with i hate it anyways thx for the video
I don’t think I have body dysmorphia but gosh I’m exhausted of checking myself constantly in mirrors and my camera. I’m also obsessed about my face looking weird or my eyes being too small. It feels like my face is constantly changing and for a few seconds my face looks pretty depending on lighting etc. then I think I don’t look flawless and I’m not as pretty as I thought. Also even with minimal makeup I feel like it transforms my whole face and without it I want to cry as I think people are judging me.
I can’t go a day without obsessing over my appearance.
Thank you for this video ❤❤❤😊
I think everyone has this to some degree. It's just a question of whether it's so severe that it's causing a problem.
Finally confessed my feelings to my doctor today after years of anguish and he told me I probably have this. Thought it was crazy but I watched a video on it and I’ve never felt so seen (well not really if u catch my drift😆) This is my second video and I just can’t believe I’m not the only. I feel hopeful for the first time in a long time.
Going to start going to therapy as soon as possible. If you feel like you have body dysmorphia I urge you to go to a doctor or therapist. I have a long way to go but I wish I would’ve came clean earlier with my doctor earlier.
I do look in the mirror excessively because I think I'm so pretty and cute ... I hope every other people feel the same everyday ❤️