Even if u start as a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur sexual arousement around girl hope that help you out see her as a guy and u will feel no sexual desires to woman ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it trought and get help u start caring about her personality im trying to help u guys so please analyze
It also has the potential to blunt you too. A lot of guys hide behind their friends, and use them as a support mechanism, rather than breaking free and standing on their own two feet. Support groups are for insecure people who need that support. Real people will develop their confidence, their courage, their self esteem, to the point where they don't need a group. The simple reality is, you wont always have your parents, or your siblings, or your friends etc, to watch your back, so we all need to learn to be self sufficient and stop being dependent on other people. Carry your own bags, pull your weight etc. And when you achieve that level of self sufficiency, when you achieve that level of confidence and power, your body language will radiate it subconsciously, and people will notice (especially women, they love men who radiate confidence and power).
This is so true, the moment a woman feel superior to you she will lose the interest in you as partner, they look for men that are more successful than them
I had the experience to felt how my ex gf flew away because she was had already an medical speciality spot and then i had to watch how she got a man then again above her
@@alehodr Actually, that might be something worth looking into more. Some studies have shown that thing like that aren't so universally true in societies/countries that aren't as influence by Jude-Christian values. Here's an article on that that might be of interest to you. www.businessinsider.com/the-caveman-dating-mentality-would-change-if-both-sexes-were-equal-2012-9
This is not necessarily true..... my woman has 2 degrees and is a high earning professional.... she has control of the house to a certain extent.... decorating/kids/small stuff but anything big she very much still looks to me for my approval.... anything financial.... I’m nothing special either regular job, average looks etc.... but the dynamic is there very much.... me man her woman.... 15 years this year... oh and she is actually older than me by a year too.... I would say in the beginning tho I wowed her by protecting her a few times and I think this shocked and excited her and she has always said she feels safe with me..... which I think is very important.....
Here is a tip that I've seen working everytime: If she tests you just walk away. If she nags walk away. If she tries to create drama walk away. Silence speak louder then any words. If people try to get a reaction, and don't receive any it will haunt them. Like he says here the moment you show people you don't need them they will need you.
100% agreed. This girl I used to date about 6 months ago wanted to break it off, I disagreed with her but respected her decision and walked away, and never hit her up. Tonight, she just contacted me...
Just got a job and I’m noticing it with a coworker. I’m trying to learn the job so I’m always asking for help from a female coworker in my vicinity. She helps but is very cold towards me in contrast to the other male coworkers.
Try a slightly commanding tone. Tell her to do something for you but in a slightly commanding way. Start carefully then expand. The target is to make her do anything you tell her to do, of course in the acceptable range. Just experiment. Put here updates if any.
Jose Santana I agree with you. I have no desire to really get that type of attention from her so I haven’t pushed the issue at all. It was just an observation.
I don’t have to watch this any further. I realised this after coming out of a 17 year old marriage. Once you have this in your head life is easy. I will be teaching my young son this when he comes of age. Basically look after yourself, improve yourself and women will be attracted to you.
It's kind of like food, there is a big difference between "living to eat" and "eating to live". The first leads to obesity and dissatisfaction, the second leads to fitness and strength.
@@orbitingsentientsatellite4361 i was taught by a woman that "Women feel first, think second." Simple but profound truth that helped me out as a younger man
@@jabrams6759 yep. 1st person to acknowledge, admit/accept and then apply, wins. Wins ownership of their lives because they're working in harmony with their own nature. (IMO)
This is definitely true. Never tell her you need her. Make it known you have options. That will just attract her to you more. And Alex is right, it works in all social settings including work and friendships. Always be conscious of your self-presentation and how others will perceive you.
As a man, you always want a woman to depend on you for survival more than you depend on her for it. It shows dominance, confidence, and overall masculinity, and she will definitely see you as a high value male.
I could see why you might feel that way from a religious perspective. I mean, if you think that you are "sinning against God" by not having things that way, that makes sense. From a secular perspective though, that doesn't make much sense to me. In fact, several studies have demonstrated that in parts of the world that aren't as influenced by Judeo-Christian values, those things are exactly true for most men and women.
@@cantoprak7428 And that is? Don't get me wrong: God found me a few months back, so I had to rethink my positions on many things, relationships/marriages was one of those things. When you disagree with the most High, then one has to change his mind, and it won't be Him... Though, knowing that God is right does not always help in the understanding of how or why. I guess I am just one of those that were not meant for marriage, but the subject is still interesting.
I agree. This is also the reason one of the easiest way to get women interested in you is being in a relationship. You dont need the other women so they hold no power over you, and theres the added bonus of social proof.
And here lies the problem. If you can only be strong, can't be "needy" in any way with her and you generally don't need her then what is the point? If you only expect from a woman sex and giving birth to your kids, then again, what is the point? You can need her only for that two reasons. You can't be too emotional with her, you can't show your weekness. For fu$k sake, you said that we should seek help in specialists and not in the persons that supposed to be close to us. If I need to pretend that always everything is good and I am never weaker, then what is the point? What connection I will have with her besides sex and providing resources? And who we really need when everything goes good? It's hard times that shows us who likes and love us. Sex is pretty easy to obtain in our times, what else will make me to choose and stay with one girl, if she's primarly interested only when I'm up, no depression or weker time?
You can be emotional. You shouldn't be weak. And it shouldn't be a pretense. Relationships can be as intimate as you want them to be, and you won't have to pretend at confidence if you improve yourself. Your job as a man is to become genuinely high value and ethical. Work on yourself, king.
Read 'Brave New World' and identify the socially engineered sickness around you. Once you do, you will recognise that you're one of the sane ones 👍 Your disgust reaction to this propaganda is *healthy*
@@dukemosby5552 I don't think you understand me correctly. I am pretty confident in my abilities as well as in my moral spine. I do not pretend confidence. But we are only humans, and sooner or later we have our lower times when we are physically or mentally weker. We may got sick, lost a job or someone in family. I have seen in my ex as well as in many woman this expectation, that you should be ok in a week or two. It's like "there, there... it's ok now, now off you go". They just wait for you to get better, not really listening you.
I'm an attractive, emotionally secure guy currently traveling the world on my own terms. I've basically decided that long term relationships are pointless for the reasons you lay out Magik Hat. The only relationships that have worked have been ones where I haven't really been too bothered, therefore I've had the power in the relationship, meaning the girl is like putty in my hands and emotionally destroyed when I inevitably move on. It's just pointless. I'm really not sure we are genetically wired for "equal" relationships. Maybe in the past men were so busy fighting wars, hunting, building etc that a wife really was a side issue given an hour or two a day. And maybe women are on a very deep level just more attracted to men who put them in that position?
It isn't that hard You just showed huge neediness.... Don't be needy at all, almost ever. It's a radical change from the feminists that is the OPPOSITE OF NATURE Get back to nature, YOU ARE THE HUNTER, you have resources. You are fine, almost no matter what
@@davidturner1641 I know i'm fine, i'm a high quality guy and i know what i deserve. I showed neediness by insulting and generalizing women?? I just find all this, playing it cool act, a little primal, and retarded, clearly if i'm talking to the girl i'm interested in her and she knows that, we should be more genuine with our intent. If I never chased women I would never meet women because I work nights and I don't enjoy parties or bars.
@@dirtydan351 You should only talk to girls you really like. If you just try it with every woman that messes your mind up internally. Initially you don't do that by being needy, but you become inherently needy by doing that over time.
@@dirtydan351 yes, i also find this games "we need to play" dishonest and ridiculous. But I also experienced, that this seems to be true. Never let her feel irreplaceable.
@@youngloenoe What i mean is that if there is something or someone you like but can easily walk away from it because it will only be a bonus to your life, than it's a good deal because now you have more leverage during the negotiation
@@youngloenoe You're thinking it backwards. However precious the commodity or interesting the person, you shouldn't become too invested in it not being able to walk out. You don't let the other party know that this is absolutely the thing you want and nothing else will do. If you leave yourself an out, you have the leverage.
This is my system. Working towards achieving my goals are always #1. Family and Friends are #2. Women are #3. I love women, but.... I love myself, fam & friends MORE.
I feel like in the beginning he was talking about the Halo effect? Good looking people are assumed to also be kind, smart and wealthy. Ugly people (relax I’m ugly I can use this word) are assumed to be mean, stupid and poor.
It's partially true But no totally true... Putting out there that you are NOT needy CREATES attraction, no matter what. In another video he says women feel threatened by confident ugly men. In reality, you can see in the comments in that video that MANY guys over came that and the women they have.... Are INSANE about them. If you ignore their rejection, it will bother them at first .. But many women will become VERY curious. Also, you may need to spend more time with beautiful women.... Because being with beautiful women automatically creates SMV. Hugh Hefner was RICH, but many guys are rich...... He was always with beautiful women and they always were attracted. It's a half stupid example, I admit that.... But it's super true. I am 46 and Absolutely beautiful women are still VERY attracted to me. Yet, I am BROKE from helping my family, so that kills it. (Hence it's my time now, to build wealth). Even so, their curiosity is HIGH, AND I know if I lied I could date all sorts of women. I am NOT that physically attractive anymore. I just dance extremely welllll. And I know it. And I don't need women anymore m....
PS I was NOT in good shape for new years Eve. And kind of depressed I simply decided to NOT be that way and just go dancing and have fun. I got the number of the hottest girl in the bar. She hugged me and didn't want to let go when I left. It is far more about your presence and lack of need for her. I Didn't need her at ALLLL, so she knew she NEEDED me. (She was a train wreck so I moved on FAST)
I am a little bit sceptical, David. Forgive me. I feel if you were really successful with women and in happy relationships, you wouldn’t be watching Alexander’s videos. And at 46, you would not be hanging around in skeezy bars. No 46 year old guy really wants to be doing that unless he has run out of options. Also would be interested in your definition of ‘beautiful’ women...sorry to sound negative. I am not trying to be hostile. Its just from what you said, I am not really buying it.
My one buddy has everyone desiring his attention because he’s been around the block quite a bit. Knows a lot of people, and doesn’t feel he needs a single one of them for a bit.
And for a women it will be a hell of a game to see if she can get that guy to commit to her ...hence.....you will see the effect of some girls chasing him....
That smug female , probably was thinking. Oh no. Men are not supposed to know these things. I'll just throw him off and treat it like a stupid question ,and not answer.
This is a great message. I tried to date coming out of my divorce. I was a broken, tired man and had little play. I took off almost 2 years from the dating scene. I worked on myself and now I have so much better responses and options.
So what's the point of dating women if all she cares about is how I can help her. A man is a loser if he's codependent but a woman is not?? Doesn't sound like equality
Actual and factual @alexandergrace. I tell guys I do not want to be needed. I want to be CHOSEN. There's a big difference between the two. Need is work and expectations, while chosen is freedom and provides options. I do feel need comes when the two are invested, emotionally and physically. Being chosen is extremely attractive. Thank you again for your amazing counsel.
I have experienced this in workplace. I have shared it with my friend too. When you internally walk off from a situation, that situation is bound to become your slave. This is some kind of natural law or something. Like gravity, it is just the way it is. I realized it when i quit my job one day. Everyone started behaving differently, ppl who were supposed to be authorities, became weak in their legs.
Yeah I messed this up before. I spent some time becoming a better person and not long after a very attractive girl fell for me but it was hard not to think she was better than me a catch that I wasn't going to be able to replicate. Now I am more at peace with the fact that beautiful woman will be attracted to me.
So I'm actively moving away from women at this point as in physically avoiding touch and also avoiding talking to them so is it safe to say they need me a lot now????
Finally. This is one of the most important videos. It needed to be done. Great work. It's a 💎gem💎so listen carefully fellas, it's the truth everyone needs (though nobody wants to hear? )
Never ask a women if she loves you. The more you ask, the more she'll pity you. Likewise, don't always tell her you love her. The more you say it, the less she'll try and seek validation, or be as attentive in the relationship.
bro but if she doesn't even want me wtf im suposed to do, ignore her? men should be the ones taking action but also men should be the ones ignoring the woman? i'm so lost in this world of today
Don't be needy. State what you want and if she can't give it, then walk away. Don't try to grab her attention at every chance. You have to show that you want her but if you don't get her then it doesn't really matter (which is the way it should be anyway)
Even if u start as a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur sexual arousement around girl hope that help you out see her as a guy and u will feel no sexual desires to woman ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it trought and get help u start caring about her personality im trying to help u guys so please analyze
RUclips Viewer Exactly... when you’re married... the man is disposable no matter what his status or income is because she keeps the security and provisioning through the divorce.
Hey Alexander awesome video as always can you make a video on autistic people relationship problems because as an autistic guy it's impossible to date someone or even talk .
That makes a lot of sense now. I remember as a teenager when I would ask someone if they were seeing anyone and they said 'yes' I would say 'no problem' and walk away. They always looked confused, now I know why.
Another gem... man are the territory king with a kingdom to build. Run and repair... Women are the honarable subjects giving a helping hand to run YOUR kingdom...
Wow this video made me have an AHA moment. Thank you. I think this has been my issue with women for awhile now. I check most of their "boxs' of requirements, looks, job, height etc. But u think some base level of neediness has been like a polarized magnet pushing them away even despite initial interest. Thanks again
I strongly feel like this type of advice can be used for the opposite sex as well. Of course not to the extent of the mindset of a “I don’t need no man” feminist , but for a woman to be confident in herself, , like truly confident and independent can be seen attractive to men. But accompanied with this confidence and independent is a sense of gracefulness and kindness, that can be seen as attractive to men.
@@tyesha7389 you have no idea what men want. If anything it's actually perceived as a negative trait if shes too independent as shes more likey to be disloyal.
Simple truths - treat her equally as she treats you (nothing wrong to show more affection and attention from time to time but keep it even) and be in your masculine frame.
The only aspects I'm missing are that I don't have experiences that validate I'm desirable by women and that I probably treat them too mean, as in I don't show enough interest (because I'm evidencing that I don't need them too strongly) and they probably presume I don't like them. I also expect them to be more direct with me in telling me that they like me because I'd rather not waste my time on a girl that doesn't actually like me for who I am, instead of my money, etc
Think about when you see a puppy. It’s totally fine (and recommended) to show interest and pet her. It’s not normal to pull a long face and pretend to be not interested. But you’re definitely not going to rely on the puppy for emotional support, or trust the puppy to be the leader in the dynamic between you two.
That's why the double standard of having masculine females and feminine males doesn't work in a practical day. Society is flexible with women acting masculine but will shun men for being emotional (maybe except when it's for his children/family).
My mom told me this as a kid. Been using this since and it def works. Whoever cares less has more power. My mom put me onto women as a kid. Even crazier is as a man I see she still has some generic woman mentality towards some things. That'll never change even for women on the up and up
I agree with the video when it comes to most women. One portion of women are looking for and like being a mommy for their bfs in an affectionate way; but again, that's not a big portion of women.
its hilarious watching them try to act badly, to be socially correct, while they clearly know the correct answer to the question in the first second after hearing it. the fake "im thinking real hard" eye movement. i just hear crickets. i love those parts of these videos.
Most men come to relationship with this mindset that couple support each other. Truth is, it is only half part true. Men should supoort their women, it is an obligation. But if the men expect her to support him, it will only made her feel repulsive. Men have to correct that perspective of mutual support. The only possible way you can ask her for support is to not standing on your way, dragging you from reaching your dream/goal. That already the maximum. Because even that is already too hard since most women are clingy and needy. That's why the first task is to find the high quality woman first.
There is not one of your videos i've not got something or many important things from. Thanks so much for your insights. Good to hear an Aussie accent on Y/tube ;)
This comes up in my recommendations a month after my break up. "The less you need her, the more she will want you." That's true. At the beginning i kept her at arma length emotionally but i got imvested over time.During quarantine we broke up and she got with another guy. I miss her. I dont want to miss her. I know it makes me weak and i want to get rid of this weakness. Get rid of this neediness. At least my friends tell me "good riddance" and "you dont need her. you are better off without her.". Logically,I know they are correct but my darn emotions STILL feel sad despite my mind knowing better.
Hi Alex, I appreciate the video. I buy into the evolutionary biology perspective, and I think you present strong arguments within the framework. However, we draw wildly different conclusions. You often conclude by saying something along the lines of "now that you know how the system works, you can change your behavior to take advantage." But my reaction tends toward "now that I know how the system works, I'm disgusted and no longer plan to validate people who behave this way. I don't plan to work to become valuable to someone who will provide so little value to me." Would you say that I'm missing part of your argument?
If there is no reciprocal empathy in a relationship, this seems one-sided. It's because they look like they're providing nothing to the relationship and makes it worthless.
Truer words have never been spoken... The moment your gf loses any measure of admiration towards you you're screwed. I know this cuz I experienced it myself... So Alex tells but the truth, never put a woman onto a pedestal, they're human beings as flawed as we are, therefore treat them as such
I know that I am a very good Spirit with a cool, fun loving, easy going personality and I believe I have MANY great qualities about me, however, I have absolutely NO verification of that from ANY female, (except for my Mom of course! Lol!), because NO girl has EVER found me attractive in any way, as far as I know, so I literally have ZERO options or "proof that women like me"... It has been this way from Junior High/Middle School all the way through my entire adult life to this point, (I'm 47), and I'm still a total virgin as a result. I've never even touched a woman before, much less gone on a date, been kissed, or anything else beyond that... not that I don't want to either, but the circumstances have never been right for me to ever get to know any girl I ever liked, so I'm kinda at a loss now in my life, not knowing how or what to change about me to fix it... I'd basically have to change every single little thing about myself internally AND externally, so I don't know if having a relationship with someone is really worth that, as then I prob. wouldn't feel like "myself" anymore!... So, basically, this video is just further proof that I'll most likely never have a GF, wife, family, or ANY kind of a relationship with a female... And I can't afford a therapist either. Oh well... I'm just single for life I guess. "It is what it is." :/
I was dating and sleeping around a lot in my mid-twenties, I no longer have an interest in dating or in a relationship. I kind of just want to chill and do what I want when I want to
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"Her opinion [of you] should mean less to you than your own"
Words to live by for any man.
Everyone should feel that way, not just men!
Even if u start as a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur sexual arousement around girl
hope that help you out see her as a guy and u will feel no sexual desires to woman
ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it trought and get help
u start caring about her personality
im trying to help u guys so please analyze
"It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.” - Marcus Aurelius
Your own opinion of yourself also should not matter. You are trying your best, that’s enough.
Don't ever seek approval. Seek respect! Always!
This is why I’m a big proponent of having good male friends as a support system. Iron sharpens iron.
Don't sharpen your irons against each other with your friends too much :)
@@blitzchips8109 I'd still support my friends even if they were double sharp tou
It also has the potential to blunt you too. A lot of guys hide behind their friends, and use them as a support mechanism, rather than breaking free and standing on their own two feet. Support groups are for insecure people who need that support. Real people will develop their confidence, their courage, their self esteem, to the point where they don't need a group. The simple reality is, you wont always have your parents, or your siblings, or your friends etc, to watch your back, so we all need to learn to be self sufficient and stop being dependent on other people. Carry your own bags, pull your weight etc. And when you achieve that level of self sufficiency, when you achieve that level of confidence and power, your body language will radiate it subconsciously, and people will notice (especially women, they love men who radiate confidence and power).
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True that! Mad Lads are best lol
This is so true, the moment a woman feel superior to you she will lose the interest in you as partner, they look for men that are more successful than them
I had the experience to felt how my ex gf flew away because she was had already an medical speciality spot and then i had to watch how she got a man then again above her
@@alehodr
Actually, that might be something worth looking into more. Some studies have shown that thing like that aren't so universally true in societies/countries that aren't as influence by Jude-Christian values. Here's an article on that that might be of interest to you.
www.businessinsider.com/the-caveman-dating-mentality-would-change-if-both-sexes-were-equal-2012-9
This is not necessarily true..... my woman has 2 degrees and is a high earning professional.... she has control of the house to a certain extent.... decorating/kids/small stuff but anything big she very much still looks to me for my approval.... anything financial.... I’m nothing special either regular job, average looks etc.... but the dynamic is there very much.... me man her woman.... 15 years this year... oh and she is actually older than me by a year too.... I would say in the beginning tho I wowed her by protecting her a few times and I think this shocked and excited her and she has always said she feels safe with me..... which I think is very important.....
@@user-lb3jm7ul7x stupid
@@user-lb3jm7ul7x Lol with a picture and name like that...
Alexander is not the hero we deserved, but the hero we needed
True words!
@Dan G wtf is that for a question?
Alexander is our dating Batman! Great insights from this channel. 💪🏽💪🏽🔥🔥🔥
Here is a tip that I've seen working everytime: If she tests you just walk away. If she nags walk away. If she tries to create drama walk away. Silence speak louder then any words. If people try to get a reaction, and don't receive any it will haunt them. Like he says here the moment you show people you don't need them they will need you.
Every man needs to read this comment here. There’s no time for bs. Well spoken JoakimBB.
lol this is my style of life, whenever women look for drama i just walk away, they are just immature af
100% agreed. This girl I used to date about 6 months ago wanted to break it off, I disagreed with her but respected her decision and walked away, and never hit her up. Tonight, she just contacted me...
@@spartangreg1 don't be beta orbiting, or be the second guy, or the main guy or trow her away...
@@perenidavid5901 Huh?
Just got a job and I’m noticing it with a coworker. I’m trying to learn the job so I’m always asking for help from a female coworker in my vicinity. She helps but is very cold towards me in contrast to the other male coworkers.
Imagine if it's turn around. If you're the girl asking for help at work. Usually they get a longer break from coldness, more attention and time.
Try a slightly commanding tone. Tell her to do something for you but in a slightly commanding way. Start carefully then expand. The target is to make her do anything you tell her to do, of course in the acceptable range. Just experiment. Put here updates if any.
Jose Santana I agree with you. I have no desire to really get that type of attention from her so I haven’t pushed the issue at all. It was just an observation.
Operation Black Bishop experimentation is something I would consider. I need to practice interactions with women to build confidence which I lack.
nlpjohn this is what I have been doing. I just match her energy to show her that I don’t care if she’s cold to me or not.
The brutal truth. It is what it is.
Brutal indeed
Max holloway!
I've heard that all before.... In fact, just recently.
We will make it dawg. Good luck boys
What is
I don’t have to watch this any further. I realised this after coming out of a 17 year old marriage. Once you have this in your head life is easy. I will be teaching my young son this when he comes of age. Basically look after yourself, improve yourself and women will be attracted to you.
Teach me
Beast Haven PM me.
Men chase women.
Women chase success/money.
Invest in yourself and women will chase you.
There wont be divorces because us men dont marry anymore 😌👌
Unless you have below average looks, which can't be changed.
I agree. There's always a person in the relationship that has more power over another.
True thats why I really don't bother with relationships. I don't want to control someone or someone to control me. Makes me happy
Which is why explicit Dom/Sub relationships are the way to go. Makes everything simple.
And the woman will try to make it be herself.
@@stub4488 Which is why, ultimately, it's men's fault for any situation they find themselves in. If your woman has the power, you failed.
@@stub4488 Funny thing is once they get themselves into that position, they usually resent the man and, a little bit, themselves.
The moment you chase she will loose attraction
Well it depends........if a young, attractive movie star chases her, do really think that will make her lose attraction??
True. The phone is for setting dates and not chit chatting.
@@wernergansert6377 Who knows?
@@abstract0407 Common sense knows....
Chase or stalk? Lol
It's kind of like food, there is a big difference between "living to eat" and "eating to live". The first leads to obesity and dissatisfaction, the second leads to fitness and strength.
You clearly live up to your name, kind sir
Marcus Aurelius wow that's true
@@iJuanGutierrez wow
Men want women more than we need them. Women need men more than they want them.-Me
1st to admit this and act accordingly, wins!
Brilliant. Stay blessed
You mean the first woman to admit this wins, 99% wouldnt because they think through emotion.
@@orbitingsentientsatellite4361 i was taught by a woman that "Women feel first, think second." Simple but profound truth that helped me out as a younger man
@@fan-i-am it's not just the first woman to admit this right? It's the first person to admit this
@@jabrams6759 yep. 1st person to acknowledge, admit/accept and then apply, wins. Wins ownership of their lives because they're working in harmony with their own nature. (IMO)
the first lady got a blue screen after the question
Her brain was completely torn between the rational truth and her blue pill worldview
The CPU is still screaming in pain over the usage
VanFelo He could have asked her to solve a set of differential equations as well.
@@latinumbavariae Simple math would do tho :))
"Dat das not compute". 😂
This is definitely true. Never tell her you need her. Make it known you have options. That will just attract her to you more. And Alex is right, it works in all social settings including work and friendships. Always be conscious of your self-presentation and how others will perceive you.
self-penetration!
As a man, you always want a woman to depend on you for survival more than you depend on her for it. It shows dominance, confidence, and overall masculinity, and she will definitely see you as a high value male.
The biggest question then is, what use is she to you when you already are self sufficient? Offspring perhaps, but besides that?
How do you manage that when women are more than capable of depending on themselves in today's societies?
I could see why you might feel that way from a religious perspective. I mean, if you think that you are "sinning against God" by not having things that way, that makes sense. From a secular perspective though, that doesn't make much sense to me. In fact, several studies have demonstrated that in parts of the world that aren't as influenced by Judeo-Christian values, those things are exactly true for most men and women.
@@kundetjenesten Appreciation of a woman what she can offer
@@cantoprak7428 And that is? Don't get me wrong: God found me a few months back, so I had to rethink my positions on many things, relationships/marriages was one of those things. When you disagree with the most High, then one has to change his mind, and it won't be Him...
Though, knowing that God is right does not always help in the understanding of how or why. I guess I am just one of those that were not meant for marriage, but the subject is still interesting.
I really wish I had this information in my youth.
I've seen something similar near PUA.
At least The Blueprint from RSD had that info 15 or so years ago.
I agree. This is also the reason one of the easiest way to get women interested in you is being in a relationship. You dont need the other women so they hold no power over you, and theres the added bonus of social proof.
And here lies the problem. If you can only be strong, can't be "needy" in any way with her and you generally don't need her then what is the point? If you only expect from a woman sex and giving birth to your kids, then again, what is the point? You can need her only for that two reasons. You can't be too emotional with her, you can't show your weekness. For fu$k sake, you said that we should seek help in specialists and not in the persons that supposed to be close to us. If I need to pretend that always everything is good and I am never weaker, then what is the point? What connection I will have with her besides sex and providing resources? And who we really need when everything goes good? It's hard times that shows us who likes and love us. Sex is pretty easy to obtain in our times, what else will make me to choose and stay with one girl, if she's primarly interested only when I'm up, no depression or weker time?
You can be emotional. You shouldn't be weak. And it shouldn't be a pretense. Relationships can be as intimate as you want them to be, and you won't have to pretend at confidence if you improve yourself. Your job as a man is to become genuinely high value and ethical. Work on yourself, king.
Read 'Brave New World' and identify the socially engineered sickness around you.
Once you do, you will recognise that you're one of the sane ones 👍 Your disgust reaction to this propaganda is *healthy*
@@dukemosby5552
I don't think you understand me correctly. I am pretty confident in my abilities as well as in my moral spine. I do not pretend confidence. But we are only humans, and sooner or later we have our lower times when we are physically or mentally weker. We may got sick, lost a job or someone in family. I have seen in my ex as well as in many woman this expectation, that you should be ok in a week or two. It's like "there, there... it's ok now, now off you go". They just wait for you to get better, not really listening you.
From my understanding most women don't actually care about the guy. They care more for his ability to do than him as a person.
I'm an attractive, emotionally secure guy currently traveling the world on my own terms. I've basically decided that long term relationships are pointless for the reasons you lay out Magik Hat. The only relationships that have worked have been ones where I haven't really been too bothered, therefore I've had the power in the relationship, meaning the girl is like putty in my hands and emotionally destroyed when I inevitably move on. It's just pointless. I'm really not sure we are genetically wired for "equal" relationships. Maybe in the past men were so busy fighting wars, hunting, building etc that a wife really was a side issue given an hour or two a day. And maybe women are on a very deep level just more attracted to men who put them in that position?
kinda hard to have options when women have sky high expectations and inflated egos
It isn't that hard
You just showed huge neediness....
Don't be needy at all, almost ever.
It's a radical change from the feminists that is the OPPOSITE OF NATURE
Get back to nature, YOU ARE THE HUNTER, you have resources.
You are fine, almost no matter what
@@davidturner1641 I know i'm fine, i'm a high quality guy and i know what i deserve. I showed neediness by insulting and generalizing women?? I just find all this, playing it cool act, a little primal, and retarded, clearly if i'm talking to the girl i'm interested in her and she knows that, we should be more genuine with our intent. If I never chased women I would never meet women because I work nights and I don't enjoy parties or bars.
@@dirtydan351 You should only talk to girls you really like. If you just try it with every woman that messes your mind up internally. Initially you don't do that by being needy, but you become inherently needy by doing that over time.
@@dirtydan351 yes, i also find this games "we need to play" dishonest and ridiculous.
But I also experienced, that this seems to be true. Never let her feel irreplaceable.
Is you meet one like you mentioned, she's not worth it
if a become this high quality man that doesn't need her and i can't be emotional with her why would i want her in my life anyway?
As a groupie...
Thank you!!!!
It should be because she improves your life in some way.
She has to bring some sort of value to your life. Otherwise, it really is pointless
What it comes down to is that you're supposed to accept that you have to pretend and be on your toes around a pseudo prostitute.
This makes perfect sense...
The best deals are the one you can easily walk away from.
That makes no sense. Are you telling me a crackhead with 5 kids is the best deal? Anyone can easily walk away from that.
@@youngloenoe What i mean is that if there is something or someone you like but can easily walk away from it because it will only be a bonus to your life, than it's a good deal because now you have more leverage during the negotiation
@@youngloenoe You're thinking it backwards. However precious the commodity or interesting the person, you shouldn't become too invested in it not being able to walk out. You don't let the other party know that this is absolutely the thing you want and nothing else will do. If you leave yourself an out, you have the leverage.
This is my system.
Working towards achieving
my goals are always #1.
Family and Friends are #2.
Women are #3.
I love women, but.... I love myself, fam & friends MORE.
Three? Too high
Bro's before hoes.
I feel like in the beginning he was talking about the Halo effect?
Good looking people are assumed to also be kind, smart and wealthy.
Ugly people (relax I’m ugly I can use this word) are assumed to be mean, stupid and poor.
It's partially true
But no totally true...
Putting out there that you are NOT needy CREATES attraction, no matter what.
In another video he says women feel threatened by confident ugly men. In reality, you can see in the comments in that video that MANY guys over came that and the women they have.... Are INSANE about them.
If you ignore their rejection, it will bother them at first ..
But many women will become VERY curious.
Also, you may need to spend more time with beautiful women....
Because being with beautiful women automatically creates SMV.
Hugh Hefner was RICH, but many guys are rich......
He was always with beautiful women and they always were attracted.
It's a half stupid example, I admit that....
But it's super true.
I am 46 and Absolutely beautiful women are still VERY attracted to me.
Yet, I am BROKE from helping my family, so that kills it.
(Hence it's my time now, to build wealth).
Even so, their curiosity is HIGH, AND
I know if I lied I could date all sorts of women.
I am NOT that physically attractive anymore.
I just dance extremely welllll.
And I know it. And I don't need women anymore m....
PS I was NOT in good shape for new years Eve. And kind of depressed
I simply decided to NOT be that way and just go dancing and have fun.
I got the number of the hottest girl in the bar. She hugged me and didn't want to let go when I left.
It is far more about your presence and lack of need for her.
I Didn't need her at ALLLL, so she knew she NEEDED me.
(She was a train wreck so I moved on FAST)
I am a little bit sceptical, David. Forgive me. I feel if you were really successful with women and in happy relationships, you wouldn’t be watching Alexander’s videos. And at 46, you would not be hanging around in skeezy bars. No 46 year old guy really wants to be doing that unless he has run out of options. Also would be interested in your definition of ‘beautiful’ women...sorry to sound negative. I am not trying to be hostile. Its just from what you said, I am not really buying it.
As a very good looking man I approve I am totally an a******
So a broke Danny DeVito lookalike will attract more women by being 'confident' and having 'options'? Sure.....
Chasing somebody only leads to disrespect and heartbreak
My one buddy has everyone desiring his attention because he’s been around the block quite a bit. Knows a lot of people, and doesn’t feel he needs a single one of them for a bit.
In hindsight this was an extreme way of formulating it.
And for a women it will be a hell of a game to see if she can get that guy to commit to her ...hence.....you will see the effect of some girls chasing him....
@@wernergansert6377 funny how people are more interested in playing games instead of just winning at real life?
We had the right idea as boys, hiding our crush, even from our closest friends. I guess its a an unconscious evolutionary adaptation.
The feeling of vulnerability
Wrong! confident and independent men show show their interest but in a non needy way. If she is not I interested back then we move on.
That smug female , probably was thinking. Oh no. Men are not supposed to know these things. I'll just throw him off and treat it like a stupid question ,and not answer.
Bro every time!!😂😂 it's funny how clueless they think we are / they want us to be
Never let her see your need.
Never let her see your pain.
It only takes 0.0052 seconds to notice the crazy.
What craz-
*Gouging her own eyes out*
Oh..
We live in a Time where being with someone is not just a feeling anymore, it'a more of a product, a trade
The way you put words, its like a piece of a puzzle that you had gave me to fit into my knowledge, it just clicks. Thank you as always Alexander
All about being yourself and over coming your fears and doubts.
love your content.. Supper facinating , makes me feel better about so many things throughout my life
This is a great message. I tried to date coming out of my divorce. I was a broken, tired man and had little play. I took off almost 2 years from the dating scene. I worked on myself and now I have so much better responses and options.
"He who cares least controls most." -grandpa cat with the cat
So what's the point of dating women if all she cares about is how I can help her. A man is a loser if he's codependent but a woman is not?? Doesn't sound like equality
There is no equality in nature. Only dumb feminism is propaganding it.
2:34 Your translations are really helpful. Thanks a lot.
yes! a video about translations alone would be awesome
Masculine
Goals
Thriving
Opportunities
Wealth
Translation: women need this as there meal ticket from men.
Alex this video hits the nail on the head.
Being in a couple with someone that gonna disapear when you need her, because...you need her.
Love your channel. You've taught me so much VALUABLE info about women.
Her face frickin' cracks me up
Actual and factual @alexandergrace. I tell guys I do not want to be needed. I want to be CHOSEN. There's a big difference between the two. Need is work and expectations, while chosen is freedom and provides options. I do feel need comes when the two are invested, emotionally and physically. Being chosen is extremely attractive. Thank you again for your amazing counsel.
Let her be there for you just don’t be needy
If I don't need her, then why would I want her?
This video is amazingly good. I went to a therapist once. And they point blank told me I didn't need therapy. 😑
Name Withheld 😂 that's a good thing.
I have experienced this in workplace. I have shared it with my friend too. When you internally walk off from a situation, that situation is bound to become your slave. This is some kind of natural law or something. Like gravity, it is just the way it is.
I realized it when i quit my job one day. Everyone started behaving differently, ppl who were supposed to be authorities, became weak in their legs.
I wished my father told me these stuff when i was a teenager! But it's not to late. Now that I learn much about life. It's a lot easier to be happy!
True and Simple fact, Amazing videos always Alex
Yeah I messed this up before. I spent some time becoming a better person and not long after a very attractive girl fell for me but it was hard not to think she was better than me a catch that I wasn't going to be able to replicate. Now I am more at peace with the fact that beautiful woman will be attracted to me.
YOU ATTRACT beautiful woman. that is the next firmware update for you. not a big update but major bugs will be fixed.
It's like applying for your first job where you need experience to get experience. In this case you need options to get options. Blimey.
@@Totenglocke42 lol
Not only is it having options, it's also being able to say no just because.
So I'm actively moving away from women at this point as in physically avoiding touch and also avoiding talking to them so is it safe to say they need me a lot now????
Slight correction:
The more you use her. The more she will want you!
Finally. This is one of the most important videos. It needed to be done. Great work.
It's a 💎gem💎so listen carefully fellas, it's the truth everyone needs (though nobody wants to hear? )
Doesn't work for me. They decide they don't need me either on first glance, so nothing ever starts.
Never ask a women if she loves you. The more you ask, the more she'll pity you. Likewise, don't always tell her you love her. The more you say it, the less she'll try and seek validation, or be as attentive in the relationship.
bro but if she doesn't even want me wtf im suposed to do, ignore her? men should be the ones taking action but also men should be the ones ignoring the woman? i'm so lost in this world of today
Don't be needy. State what you want and if she can't give it, then walk away. Don't try to grab her attention at every chance. You have to show that you want her but if you don't get her then it doesn't really matter (which is the way it should be anyway)
Even if u start as a nice guys ur brain is wired to be horny around girl so u need to fully control ur sexual arousement around girl
hope that help you out see her as a guy and u will feel no sexual desires to woman
ya im just copy pasting this helpful comment here so people see it trought and get help
u start caring about her personality
im trying to help u guys so please analyze
Married woman don’t wanna do more!
I think they will want you MORE if they know they NEED you more...
@@davidturner1641 The point is married women don't need their husbands because they could just divorce him and take his resources any time they want.
RUclips Viewer Exactly... when you’re married... the man is disposable no matter what his status or income is because she keeps the security and provisioning through the divorce.
Hey Alexander awesome video as always can you make a video on autistic people relationship problems because as an autistic guy it's impossible to date someone or even talk .
That makes a lot of sense now. I remember as a teenager when I would ask someone if they were seeing anyone and they said 'yes' I would say 'no problem' and walk away. They always looked confused, now I know why.
Another gem... man are the territory king with a kingdom to build. Run and repair... Women are the honarable subjects giving a helping hand to run YOUR kingdom...
Wow this video made me have an AHA moment. Thank you. I think this has been my issue with women for awhile now. I check most of their "boxs' of requirements, looks, job, height etc. But u think some base level of neediness has been like a polarized magnet pushing them away even despite initial interest. Thanks again
Another jewel truth. Amazing. So clear, so useful and so needed to be understood properly.
My boy.
I strongly feel like this type of advice can be used for the opposite sex as well. Of course not to the extent of the mindset of a “I don’t need no man” feminist , but for a woman to be confident in herself, , like truly confident and independent can be seen attractive to men. But accompanied with this confidence and independent is a sense of gracefulness and kindness, that can be seen as attractive to men.
b while some do, I believe a vast majority of men find a sense of independence in a woman attractive.
b anecdotal examples aren’t sufficient
@@tyesha7389 you have no idea what men want. If anything it's actually perceived as a negative trait if shes too independent as shes more likey to be disloyal.
G Mann haha ok
@b you are correct
The less I need her the less I want her.
Tbh, most of us want to be with someone not to be with someone but to not be lonely.
👍
@@soulless6804 "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company." -Oscar Wilde
Simple truths - treat her equally as she treats you (nothing wrong to show more affection and attention from time to time but keep it even) and be in your masculine frame.
Appreciate this guy for real never felt better in my life
Desperation is a great propulsion system.
The only aspects I'm missing are that I don't have experiences that validate I'm desirable by women and that I probably treat them too mean, as in I don't show enough interest (because I'm evidencing that I don't need them too strongly) and they probably presume I don't like them. I also expect them to be more direct with me in telling me that they like me because I'd rather not waste my time on a girl that doesn't actually like me for who I am, instead of my money, etc
Think about when you see a puppy. It’s totally fine (and recommended) to show interest and pet her. It’s not normal to pull a long face and pretend to be not interested.
But you’re definitely not going to rely on the puppy for emotional support, or trust the puppy to be the leader in the dynamic between you two.
holy crap... its an eye opener video
Abundance mindset
more quality content
That's why the double standard of having masculine females and feminine males doesn't work in a practical day. Society is flexible with women acting masculine but will shun men for being emotional (maybe except when it's for his children/family).
I started watching your videos and I don't understand how to feel about them
My mom told me this as a kid. Been using this since and it def works. Whoever cares less has more power. My mom put me onto women as a kid. Even crazier is as a man I see she still has some generic woman mentality towards some things. That'll never change even for women on the up and up
Some people just have more options than others.
Focus on yourself and share your island with your girl. She'll like the island you've built and stick around.
I agree with the video when it comes to most women. One portion of women are looking for and like being a mommy for their bfs in an affectionate way; but again, that's not a big portion of women.
Thank you for your content, man. You're awesome. 😊🙏🏼
The moment a lion starts chasing, the prey will flee.
its hilarious watching them try to act badly, to be socially correct, while they clearly know the correct answer to the question in the first second after hearing it. the fake "im thinking real hard" eye movement. i just hear crickets. i love those parts of these videos.
It works....as long she thinks that you get it from other women.
Most men come to relationship with this mindset that couple support each other. Truth is, it is only half part true. Men should supoort their women, it is an obligation. But if the men expect her to support him, it will only made her feel repulsive.
Men have to correct that perspective of mutual support. The only possible way you can ask her for support is to not standing on your way, dragging you from reaching your dream/goal. That already the maximum.
Because even that is already too hard since most women are clingy and needy.
That's why the first task is to find the high quality woman first.
Save this man at any costs 💯
There is not one of your videos i've not got something or many important things from. Thanks so much for your insights. Good to hear an Aussie accent on Y/tube ;)
This is ABSOLUTELY true. It's always the women who I'm just sorta interested in but really more consider a fwb that end up really, REALLY wanting me.
A saying from my youth "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen." Did not mean treat them badly. It just mean don't be super nice to them all the time.
Well said! Spot on advice here.
Yeah I always noticed this
This comes up in my recommendations a month after my break up. "The less you need her, the more she will want you."
That's true. At the beginning i kept her at arma length emotionally but i got imvested over time.During quarantine we broke up and she got with another guy. I miss her. I dont want to miss her. I know it makes me weak and i want to get rid of this weakness. Get rid of this neediness. At least my friends tell me "good riddance" and "you dont need her. you are better off without her.". Logically,I know they are correct but my darn emotions STILL feel sad despite my mind knowing better.
Hi Alex, I appreciate the video. I buy into the evolutionary biology perspective, and I think you present strong arguments within the framework. However, we draw wildly different conclusions. You often conclude by saying something along the lines of "now that you know how the system works, you can change your behavior to take advantage." But my reaction tends toward "now that I know how the system works, I'm disgusted and no longer plan to validate people who behave this way. I don't plan to work to become valuable to someone who will provide so little value to me." Would you say that I'm missing part of your argument?
If you want something but can't afford it...
Very well articulated!
If there is no reciprocal empathy in a relationship, this seems one-sided. It's because they look like they're providing nothing to the relationship and makes it worthless.
Truer words have never been spoken...
The moment your gf loses any measure of admiration towards you you're screwed. I know this cuz I experienced it myself...
So Alex tells but the truth, never put a woman onto a pedestal, they're human beings as flawed as we are, therefore treat them as such
I know that I am a very good Spirit with a cool, fun loving, easy going personality and I believe I have MANY great qualities about me, however, I have absolutely NO verification of that from ANY female, (except for my Mom of course! Lol!), because NO girl has EVER found me attractive in any way, as far as I know, so I literally have ZERO options or "proof that women like me"...
It has been this way from Junior High/Middle School all the way through my entire adult life to this point, (I'm 47), and I'm still a total virgin as a result. I've never even touched a woman before, much less gone on a date, been kissed, or anything else beyond that... not that I don't want to either, but the circumstances have never been right for me to ever get to know any girl I ever liked, so I'm kinda at a loss now in my life, not knowing how or what to change about me to fix it... I'd basically have to change every single little thing about myself internally AND externally, so I don't know if having a relationship with someone is really worth that, as then I prob. wouldn't feel like "myself" anymore!...
So, basically, this video is just further proof that I'll most likely never have a GF, wife, family, or ANY kind of a relationship with a female...
And I can't afford a therapist either. Oh well... I'm just single for life I guess. "It is what it is." :/
This is that ultimate *Chad* mentality
I was dating and sleeping around a lot in my mid-twenties, I no longer have an interest in dating or in a relationship. I kind of just want to chill and do what I want when I want to
24 carat solid gold Alexander. Cheers