Hi .I have watched Tom n M, before n had stopped watching later as I found they were going no where. Now I just decided to watch this new girl with Tom and have found that Tom is a totally changed person. There is some stability.Praying,they marry, settle down n have a family.
Here in Canada 🇨🇦 we have a lot of OFW. I speak to many at my workplace and they miss home but they came here for better wages and medical/health benefits from the jobs. They are all really great people !
@@Tom-LayLay just a suggestion if you can minimize using the word “like.” It needs to be a conscious plan and intent. Your conversation and delivery will become more delightful to the viewers.
Just love how you carry yourself Lay! I Love how comfortable you are in your own skin! . Smart , knowledgeable and no pretentions! You’re a breath of fresh air. You both are lucky to have each other. You bring out the best of each other! Bravo team Tom and Lay!❤❤❤
Hey guys, great Vlog again. My Filipino girlfriend works as a caregiver in Qatar. She’s been there on contract for two years so this coming Christmas I’m meeting her for the first time in the Philippines and she will see her family for the first time in two years physically. So I imagine the loneliness of being away from your kids and family. You have to be a strong willed person. Just wanted to point that out as well and wanted to make the point that Filipino people are hard-working people. They work long hours when they are abroad to send money back home. Once again, thank you for a great video. Looking forward to seeing more. Greetings from Canada. 🇨🇦
This was such a great vlog. People who do not work abroad have no idea how challenging it can really be. So much pressure on the family member who is going thru it. Thank you for sharing your opinion Lay..btw, cutest dress ever!
Here is a true but funny story. I play a game called Second-Life and I met a girl from the Philippines. We laughed a lot told jokes yes I have seen her many times on cam and we would chat while playing Second-life. One day we was talking and i could hear a lot of noise so I said that the H is that and she said oh they are setting up a food stand by the house. Then as we were chatting she said the food smells so good and now she is hungry. I said well go eat she said I can't there is no food in the house yet she had to wait till her father got home. I said well go buy something from the food stand she said she can't she had no money. She did not ask me for a dime. Now I am from Florida and I was drinking and it was late at night for me. We are 12 hours apart. As we was talking I could hear her belly rumble and said go get something to eat she said I can't I said ok how much is it to buy something from the food stand? She said about 150 Peso. Remember I was drinking and not thinking and I said ok fine got her info and sent her 200 from Western Union . I told her to go collect it. She got on cam and said she can't take the money I said you need to eat. She said but not this much. I said it is only 50 more and she said no 150 peso is not USD I started laughing I forgot it was in Peso. She demanded me to give her the info to send the money back and I told her I forgot where I lived and to keep the money and go buy what she needs for the house. She told her mom while on cam and her mom cried and didn't want the money I made it clear I do not want it back. They did go shopping and when they came back they had all the food laid out and showed me everything they bought. I was very impressed and they could not stop thanking me then when the Father came home he got on cam to personally thank me . The girls dad is a Police officer. Still to this day when I think about it or tell the story about the Peso and USD I still LMMFAO. It was the best 200 I have ever spent.
@@Lacohs80 All true but let's be honest Tom would look hot and sexy in a hot pink dress with a bright yellow thong with Purple nail polish and ruby red lipstick with Lavender Eye liner. OMG I just came up with an Idea for Tom and Lay's YT channel . We tell Tom how we want to see him dress up in a Video and Lay makes sure she does him real good and Tom has no choice but to keep that look for a full 24 hours each and we can do this 4 times a week .
The majority of Filipinos who are working in Europe , USA, and Canada colder countries are doing well. It's difficult in the Middle East because you can not be a permanent or become a citizen , and bring your family.
Lay is very natural the way she answers Tom questions.You speak genuinely Lay about ofw life... As an ofw, that is real talk...Some ofw's always think family back home first but some aren't.Proud OFW here but I know my limits.
Wow interesting topic. I know someone who was an OFW for many years. She was the sole supporter for a family of 6. She worked in Honk Kong then Singapore and now living in Canada. Extremely tough person. Now she's a nurse and just recently bought her own house, became a Canadian citizen and sponsored all her kids. But when she told me all the stories of the hard ship she went through it's amazing. How she did it I don't know and still was able to support her kids and still manage to buy a house. The only bad thing is this broke up her marriage because whilst away her husband took someone and abandoned the kids. Yes lots of them get abused sexually and physically especially in the middle eastern countries. Choose a good country if you want to do it.
Hello Tom, From the moment I met my wife in the Philippines online I told her to stop working. I paid her then in 2010. 6000 pesos, Now 8n 2012 she landed in Belgium , every month the standard was 120 euro, thrue the years until now the mother gets 200 euro every month, I pay also medical costs from the kids, all the party's in the year every time I give an extra 400 euro each time.
It's in the Constitution of the Philippines "Article XV, The Family." I understand why my filipina wife sends money to her family members. She is the first born and look to suppose her mom, because her father past away several years ago. My heart goes out for the OFW's, because I understand the struggle. I thank God my wife doesn't have too work overseas, and I don't mind contributing to her family. I am still blessed.
@@jetPower1960 Section 15. The State shall protect and promote the right to health of the people and instill health consciousness among them. You mean section 12 Section 12. The State recognizes the sanctity of family life and shall protect and strengthen the family as a basic autonomous social institution. It shall equally protect the life of the mother and the life of the unborn from conception. The natural and primary right and duty of parents in the rearing of the youth for civic efficiency and the development of moral character shall receive the support of the Government. Nothing to do with sending money home though
Yes, it’s difficult working abroad especially sending money, supporting now nephews and nieces for their college. Hopefully will end soon! But we are just lucky working here in Ireland since we are treated nicely by the Irish Government and enjoyed the benefits and good salary❤❤❤ can’t complain… living here for 23 years😊😊😊
The part about languages was interesting. Love learning different languages! I’m trying to teach my little Floridian Tagalog, Kapampangan and what little bit I know of Bisaya. I have tons of Pinoy relatives that are OFWs. Most of my relatives studied nursing or tourism. I love how the ofw’s have their own lounging space at the airports. I’ve seen that in some vlogs and Philippine news programs. Seems like they do have perks for moving abroad which is a good thing. As a half breed I’ve always felt a bit disconnected from that part of Philippine life. I’ve always felt like maybe I was missing something, especially since moving away from the islands at a young age. I always felt like I wanted to be more close to my family and relatives there but never really got a chance to. That part is heartbreaking. I guess one of the reasons why I love watching Filipino related vlogs. 🌞🫶🏼
Some or most Filipinos struggle with homesickness. Philippines is a very sociable country where the support system is deeply rooted in family, friends and community...and the lack of interaction or language barrier when you go to other countries can be a hurdle. Even when I go abroad for a short vacation, for some reason, after just a week. I'm eager to pack my bags, yearning to go back home. It just feels.....different. Hoping the PH economy would prosper enough to provide jobs for all so Filipinos wouldnt have to leave. ✅ *** i also wish foreigners would also refrain from judging people from less developed countries. You know nothing about the struggles and hardships they have to endure out of love for their families.
@@JohnBoyle-er2kk We are a work in progress, John. Remember how the Philippines is stricken with the deadly, super typhoons each year? But look at us, we're still thriving! NOTHING IS PERMANENT. At some point, corruption and evil will end. It will happen. i have strong faith in my God and in my people.
What a beautiful content from you two 👤❤️👤... Lay is looking humbly gorgeous with her yellow dress, presentably celebrity alike, keep shining bright ☀️ Lay with handsome Tom. ( Honestly Tom reminds me of Tom Cruise during Tom Cruise younger years. ) Nice segments of topics! 👌❤️❤️
Filipinos get along with all race. A lot of Middle East countries love their hard work and dedication. OFW’s raise Kuwaitis families and other Middle East kids. Even if they have their own kids and families at home (Philippines 🇵🇭). ❤❤❤
Great of you to bring awareness and spread the word on the courage, trials and tribulation of what many do to survive and sustain beyond a simple 9 to 5 and commute Tom and Lay. Touching segment of thoughtful advice and even assurance to understanding such a major step towards survival.
I know exactly what Tom is talking about the family back in the Philippines becoming lazy when one member goes to work overseas. I was friends with a 22 year old woman in Manila and her brother was working in Dubai for $15/hr and she refused to get a job, because she said her brother sends the family money and she just sat at home all day and listened to music and played on social media.
HI Tom & Lay great video and subject I have known many OFWs and one subject I know is the treatment these girls receive from their employers. I know of a few in Singapore that have been mistreated and abused by their Ch,,,,,,se employers and as Lay said these girls have many pressures on them and just have to except whats happening. These OFWs need bloody medals.take care guys & God Bless!🙏
I know two Filipinos who work as nurses for the NHS, so they earn a good wage. But due to pressure to send money home they don't enjoy life here and just live like Filipinos here in the UK. They share a room (designed for one) in a shared house and just eat rice and chicken or pork like at home (I met them shopping in Lidl). They don't drink or date as that would mean they can't send as much money home.
My GF had a horrendous time while working in HK. First of all the employer threw her brand new luggage away that she arrived with. She had to share a room with children. She would be working from 5am until 11pm 6 days a week. Even on her day off she was on curfew to be home by 8pm. Then she had work to do when she got home. She was doing domestic work but expected to be a Nanny to the kids too. The kids would physically hit her and Parents did nothing about it. Every room had a CCTV camera with audio so she had no privacy. They terminated her contract 3 weeks ago for no reason. She suspects because they found out she was attending school on her day off. When they terminated her contract they gave her a big shopping bag for her things. They did not replace her expensive luggage that they threw away. This is the second HK employer she has had and they have both been bad employers. Both breaking the HK employment laws. She is now back in Manila recovering from the physical and mental trauma. This time it really took it's toll on her body.
Hey Lay- you look gorgeous in yellow black and yellow- perfect combination Tom and Lay❤ Thank you for talking about OFW's struggles and challenges i used to be one of them, it wasn't an easy life thou.
Opinion only, if Philippines makes the necessary changes and re-evaluate their pay structure to support living expenses, Filipinos wouldn’t have to go to another country. Also I believe it will lessen the squatter areas that you see all over Philippines. Suggestion you both should do a blog of what squatter areas of Philippines look like. To me that is the result of low pay and possibly no government assistance. If there is any government support it’s not enough. Squatter areas are all over the world not just in the Philippines.
@@tilapiadave3234 obviously the issues are not easy to fix if they were these issues wouldn’t exists. I don’t recall making a statement it’s an easy fix
@@Emotionalintel582 Why not start with something easy ,,, "work ethic" , have you travelled? I often tell same story ,, I went to a Vietnamese restaurant in Saigon ,, 15 table small restaurant , sat down had menu in hand within 3 minutes ,, ONE worker serving ,,, I went to a Thai restaurant in Bangkok ,, similar 12 table small restaurant ,, 2 servers ,had menu in hand within 5 minutes ,,,,, went to small 15 table restaurant in Manila , sat and waited more than half an hour while FIVE servers stood around in a circle face in phone on face-book ,,, stood up and left. IF a country has near half it's working population continually on social media when they are suppose to be doing a job then how the heck can that country ever fix the problems.
@@tilapiadave3234 However, I stated my thoughts no where in my statement I said easy fix. So I still don’t get what you are pointing out. In reality you are making an assumption. Again no where in my statement I said it’s an easy fix only a moron would think that.
@@Emotionalintel582 Nowhere is a single word but I guess English is your second or third language. I do thank you on behalf , NOT be half , of all readers that you keep your your thoughts to yourself , NOT your self. It would seem you are assisting us all by saying nothing ,, NOT noth thing :)
It's a cultural thing. As an English guy if I was working abroad my family would say go and enjoy your self have a blast. I know Filipino people in Malaysia who are scared to go home because they going to get tapped up for money
There are also many breadwinners in the Philippines itself who as the oldest child will be expected to sacrifice their twenties to help fund the education of younger siblings and relatives. And then they can either cut the cord and establish their own financial independence or they end up being the pension scheme of their parents.
I know each Country is different and to be fair most people know this. But the cost of living is also different in each Country as well. Depending on where you live in the U.S. a one bedroom apt could coast you about 2800 USD a month. Then the light bill is about 300 a month and if you need to heat that home add another 1200 or more a month just for the heat. Then the food. We all know the food cost has gone up but it is at a breaking point when you pay 12 dollars for a pound of Bacon. 4 dollars for one pound of chicken.27 dollars for a prime rib and 6 dollars for a pound of Hamburg. If one was to add up the cost to live in each state it could be from 5000 a month to 2000 a month depending on what state you live in. I live in Florida and it is not cheap and granted I don't have to heat my house I do have to use my A/C 24 hours a day every day .
From Canada, I lived in Malaysia and Australia for 8 months. I missed the cool refreshing weather of my Canada. .. I missed the beautiful snow. Also, In Canada, I was an engineer. :: In Australia, I could only get a job mowing lawns.
Sorry, off topic question here for Tom. I watched your episode where you said you take spirulina first thing in the morning. I also started taking it and would like to know your personal thoughts and experiences about it. Thank you!!
I've seen alot of married Filipinas work as domestic, on their off day they hang around with their Filipina friends some with guys. Why don't their husband go and work instead the wife. Some agency are con they promise the job is not expectation.
@Tom & Lay i had a friend who is Filipina and she was working in Saudi i think and she was treated badly and so was her friends aswell,so it's always good to be 💯 sure if that's what you want.
Tom, I know dozens of Filipinas who are OFW's, family back home often raising the kids for them increasing expectations of money being sent back to Philippines.
Hello. American in South Korea. I've been trying hard to heve an interview with OFW's in Korea about their experiences here. Many of them are reluctant to talk on camera about their bad experiences. Some young flipinas are promised a gig as a singer in a bar, just to end up being a bar girl. Others work to the grind in factories and only get 2 days off a month. They also get a different wage compared to workers from other countries.
I'm surprised you didn't mention Scandinavia when referring to the cold weather, a lot of Filipinos move to Sweden and Norway and it's much colder than Poland
My fiancé wants to see what it's like in the US working and experience snowfall and see what winter is like where I live. We live in Cebu City currently, but I go back to US a lot because I can't relocate permanently with my company. We secured her tourist visa and she'll come here in Dec to see what winter is like. She's in for the biggest shock of her life with how cold it gets here. I live in Duluth, MN and we get -40 with wind chill and we average around 8-9 feet of snow per season. I'm sure she'll reconsider her decision after a couple days! Haha
As a Filipino, as Lay has said, WE ARE SUPER PROUD OF OUR OFWs! Not because thet bring in the money, but bec they are SLAYING AS PROFESSIONALS all around the world! 🇵🇭😎🤟 Even the household helpers, the welders, caregivers, seamen, cruise ship singers --they are receiving a LOT of praises and admiration from their co-worker abroads on F/B. They are complimented for their hardwork and attitude. 🇵🇭❣️
Yes for me its a bit pressure to send money to my family coz its in our culture and feel like I’m obligated to send it every month. then I feel guilty if I can’t send money to them. It's true life abroad is not easy, in my situation i pay rent, council tax,bills etc. although we share my husband still hard though. To save money its really hard i been here 13yrs in 🇬🇧 but just like i work to lived.
Lay looks so young and pretty, you just feel like a big hug she so sweet, its been very warm in uk. Too warm lol i dont do hot! When its cool tom tell mum to make irish stew! Make some chips "beef dripping" then pour stew on to chips, thickly buttered bread and put chips on and some stew then dip "butty" lol bread in stew gravy omg sheer heaven in a dish or plate? (Ive just fainted the thought) 😂 she must try chips and stew before home its sheer heaven on the taste buds. ❤🍲🍟real chips tho✨✨✨✨✨
If you bring a Philippine spouse to a western country can the two of you put a limit on the money you will send back to the family. In other words put conditions on where the money goes and to whom. Can you not even be obligated to send any money? What do the laws say?
We Canadians have. Lot of respect for the workers I just visited there in my small home town in Newfoundland Canada and many are there working in fishing processing plants..I was quite surprised really how many was there..and Newfoundlands that work with them have. Lot of respect for them as hard workers the employer built houses and rooms to provide for them to stay in ..I was asked if I wanted to rent my house there to the plant employers ..
@@marilyncoish9117I am a Newfoundlander, now an expat living in the Philippines. I manage on my OAS and a reduced CPP, both taxed by CRA at 25% to support myself, my Filipina wife and our 8 year old boy, but it's tough. With other benefits in Canada such a GIS, GST rebate, and Canada Child Benefit (CCB), my income would be more than doubled, but still not nearly enough to support myself and family. I really do miss Newfoundland and my Canadian family and culture, and due to our subsistence income, I simply don't have the means to visit Canada.
Tom and Lay thank you for your video. I noticed When I talk with my Filipina girlfriend she always speaks Cebuano with family and I do not understand why they do not use their English. I am fluent in Spanish. Is it polite to ask to them to speak in English at times; not 100%
I understand that some take advantage and become lazy, do not want to help or improve themselves. They are just relying on the OFW, and the OFW have no choice or will feel guilty for not helping.
I know a lot about this subject , and the girls going overseas to work unfair hours get paid unfair wages not seeing there children ... who are left with there grandparents , its a very difficult life just to send your children to school needs money ... .
Of course Philippines compared to Ireland. There’s not much comparison when you want to get outside. But the Philippines is tropical. It has heat waves and typhoons and a rainy season. I think it’s got a lot to do with lifestyle. What makes you more happy.
One thing more, some OFW happens their family ,example theres emergency needed and the OFW wiil do something to provide even they are not ready for emergency esp. financially needed thats the hard thing to provide .
i had a wife china that i suported there brought her to canada then here family wanted dubble what i gave her i said no dam way . i`m single now becouse i will not work to pay for there life
On point my wife had a GF that worked in qatar nightmare they held the passport for 3 months she was a private nurse and as you say beware that wolf in sheep clothing tom put a ring on her finger fast 🎉🎉🎉
Hello Tom and ate Lay, in my experiences it’s a bit pressure to send money to my family. Because once you work abroad I’m obligated to send money every month, If can’t send the money i feel sad and guilty of course thinking I’m eating a good food here abroad then my family is nothing. 😢 But I’d always telling them living in abroad it’s no so easy too. Thanks Tom & Lay love you both
Imagine working 7am to 11pm every day. 7days a week. Not allow to have a day off. That is 7hours sleep a night. 2 years. The wage is about 300usa a month... my freind ask for 1 day off a month.. but her boss say no.. this job is to clean a 3 story house. House keeping.. being a nanny.. hard work.. this is in the middle east.
i was dating a Filipino woman here in Melbourne Australia and she was so loving so kind but because of her lazy family back home she had to work 14hrs a day 7 days a week 365 days a year and it broke us up because there was no time for each other i even paid for her family to come here but caught her father stealing money from me a number of times, she always had a excuse for his bad behaviour so in the end we split up she went home and our future plans and dreams never come true sad thing is she now selling herself to pay for her families new way of living, no child should ever have to support a parent in my eyes its a form of emotional child abuse
gosh girl, you sound like a gossiper than a concerned partner in your narration. 😢 its as if you gave money and thats it! why dont you edit this and add the most important part - how did you emotionally support her as your ex girlfriend and acted like A MAN through all of this.... just to redeem yourself
yes true, I had a GF and she was working but still she thought I was earning a lot of money and said, send me money and chocolate package, she lives in Germany and I in Canada and to send a package to Europe its very expensive, and its not my job to support you, we are not married yet, so I will not support you to send my money to your kids back home in Romania, these are not my children and not my problem.
My daughter shes a ED nurse in Dublin she dont need to support me i can afford more than her its her choice for her future she loved her work,she complained the rentals in dublin too expensive and her taxes i want her to have her own rental business someday.
Great video, good life lessons, OFW’s excited to go abroad and earn the big money but get huge shock went they realise the cost of living, my other half is 25 years in Ireland and hated it for the first year, now she loves it and is more Irish than me 😂😂
I heard healthcare in the Philippines. They sucks unless you are rich, not like here in the USA or some other country. You have choice to get your insurance provider. Everybody should had one here but in the Philippines if you don’t have cash, you don’t get help us the rich people does , what I’ve heard unless you go to the public hospitals I guess but you have to go there and go on the line 1st thing in the morning like before Dawn so you can get in .that is not good.😢
Many OFWs get there passport taken off them when they arrive by there employer so they cant just take off if they dont like it.Also never ever even if you do know anyone in the country you work in tell your employer because they will turn on you.I know many true horror stories especially girls who go abroad and been given a very hard time by there employer and locked away in rooms,slept on a floor with 10 other girls,beaten with a stick,the list goes on...
very interesting topic, and yeah beware moving abroad lots of bad people out there, just after a slave. Do not forget all the male workers that also gets killed on the seas and in construction abroad with horrible working conditions
Hi .I have watched Tom n M, before n had stopped watching later as I found they were going no where. Now I just decided to watch this new girl with Tom and have found that Tom is a totally changed person. There is some stability.Praying,they marry, settle down n have a family.
The more I see you,Tom with Lay, the more I know how lucky you are. She’s such a sweet lady.
Please, please KEEP HER for good ❤
Oh my, yellow is one of her colors! Oh she looks so beautiful in yellow dress! Very natural beauty Tom, don't let her escape!😊😊😊
Here in Canada 🇨🇦 we have a lot of OFW. I speak to many at my workplace and they miss home but they came here for better wages and medical/health benefits from the jobs. They are all really great people !
Tom you hit the jackpot ❤ Lay has a graceful attitude ❤❤ the way she talks sense she has wisdom and knowledge ❤❤. Lay your beautiful inside out❤❤
thanks
Definitely agree with you @paris5950 👌❤️
@@Tom-LayLay just a suggestion if you can minimize using the word “like.” It needs to be a conscious plan and intent. Your conversation and delivery will become more delightful to the viewers.
Just love how you carry yourself Lay! I Love how comfortable you are in your own skin! . Smart , knowledgeable and no pretentions! You’re a breath of fresh air. You both are lucky to have each other. You bring out the best of each other! Bravo team Tom and Lay!❤❤❤
She seems to be a wonderful woman Tom. So happy for you !
Hey guys, great Vlog again. My Filipino girlfriend works as a caregiver in Qatar. She’s been there on contract for two years so this coming Christmas I’m meeting her for the first time in the Philippines and she will see her family for the first time in two years physically. So I imagine the loneliness of being away from your kids and family. You have to be a strong willed person.
Just wanted to point that out as well and wanted to make the point that Filipino people are hard-working people. They work long hours when they are abroad to send money back home. Once again, thank you for a great video. Looking forward to seeing more. Greetings from Canada. 🇨🇦
yes true thanks for the comment
@@Tom-LayIt is very hard to save any money now . Life has gotten very expensive for anyone . How can they even saving any money to send home.
Love the yellow dress Lay.💕 Getting up to the sun really does lift the mood.Sunny and warm now in the West Midlands.👍
This was such a great vlog. People who do not work abroad have no idea how challenging it can really be. So much pressure on the family member who is going thru it. Thank you for sharing your opinion Lay..btw, cutest dress ever!
Here is a true but funny story. I play a game called Second-Life and I met a girl from the Philippines. We laughed a lot told jokes yes I have seen her many times on cam and we would chat while playing Second-life. One day we was talking and i could hear a lot of noise so I said that the H is that and she said oh they are setting up a food stand by the house. Then as we were chatting she said the food smells so good and now she is hungry. I said well go eat she said I can't there is no food in the house yet she had to wait till her father got home. I said well go buy something from the food stand she said she can't she had no money. She did not ask me for a dime.
Now I am from Florida and I was drinking and it was late at night for me. We are 12 hours apart. As we was talking I could hear her belly rumble and said go get something to eat she said I can't I said ok how much is it to buy something from the food stand? She said about 150 Peso. Remember I was drinking and not thinking and I said ok fine got her info and sent her 200 from Western Union . I told her to go collect it. She got on cam and said she can't take the money I said you need to eat. She said but not this much. I said it is only 50 more and she said no 150 peso is not USD I started laughing I forgot it was in Peso.
She demanded me to give her the info to send the money back and I told her I forgot where I lived and to keep the money and go buy what she needs for the house. She told her mom while on cam and her mom cried and didn't want the money I made it clear I do not want it back. They did go shopping and when they came back they had all the food laid out and showed me everything they bought. I was very impressed and they could not stop thanking me then when the Father came home he got on cam to personally thank me . The girls dad is a Police officer. Still to this day when I think about it or tell the story about the Peso and USD I still LMMFAO. It was the best 200 I have ever spent.
Aww this is awesome story😊
@@Lacohs80 All true but let's be honest Tom would look hot and sexy in a hot pink dress with a bright yellow thong with Purple nail polish and ruby red lipstick with Lavender Eye liner. OMG I just came up with an Idea for Tom and Lay's YT channel . We tell Tom how we want to see him dress up in a Video and Lay makes sure she does him real good and Tom has no choice but to keep that look for a full 24 hours each and we can do this 4 times a week .
The majority of Filipinos who are working in Europe , USA, and Canada colder countries are doing well. It's difficult in the Middle East because you can not be a permanent or become a citizen , and bring your family.
True!
Good point
Loved the q and a guys. Lay truely a star 💫
Love it. Some people need to know and learn what life is living abroad . Great vlog!
Thanks 🙏
Lai is intelligent,funny,and a cutie pie 🥧
She speaks good english too.
Finally have time to watch...been busy with my cousins. What a great topic! 💛 Lay’s dress!
Lay is very natural the way she answers Tom questions.You speak genuinely Lay about ofw life...
As an ofw, that is real talk...Some ofw's always think family back home first but some aren't.Proud OFW here but I know my limits.
Wow interesting topic. I know someone who was an OFW for many years. She was the sole supporter for a family of 6. She worked in Honk Kong then Singapore and now living in Canada. Extremely tough person. Now she's a nurse and just recently bought her own house, became a Canadian citizen and sponsored all her kids. But when she told me all the stories of the hard ship she went through it's amazing. How she did it I don't know and still was able to support her kids and still manage to buy a house. The only bad thing is this broke up her marriage because whilst away her husband took someone and abandoned the kids. Yes lots of them get abused sexually and physically especially in the middle eastern countries. Choose a good country if you want to do it.
Hello Tom, From the moment I met my wife in the Philippines online I told her to stop working. I paid her then in 2010. 6000 pesos, Now 8n 2012 she landed in Belgium , every month the standard was 120 euro, thrue the years until now the mother gets 200 euro every month, I pay also medical costs from the kids, all the party's in the year every time I give an extra 400 euro each time.
A cheerful giver is a blessings😊❤
Yes thats true we OFW have put lots of pressure to send money home,,,
It's in the Constitution of the Philippines "Article XV, The Family." I understand why my filipina wife sends money to her family members. She is the first born and look to suppose her mom, because her father past away several years ago. My heart goes out for the OFW's, because I understand the struggle. I thank God my wife doesn't have too work overseas, and I don't mind contributing to her family. I am still blessed.
@@jetPower1960 Section 15. The State shall protect and promote the right to health of the people and instill health consciousness among them.
You mean section 12
Section 12. The State recognizes the sanctity of family life and shall protect and strengthen the family as a basic autonomous social institution. It shall equally protect the life of the mother and the life of the unborn from conception. The natural and primary right and duty of parents in the rearing of the youth for civic efficiency and the development of moral character shall receive the support of the Government.
Nothing to do with sending money home though
Yes, it’s difficult working abroad especially sending money, supporting now nephews and nieces for their college. Hopefully will end soon! But we are just lucky working here in Ireland since we are treated nicely by the Irish Government and enjoyed the benefits and good salary❤❤❤ can’t complain… living here for 23 years😊😊😊
When the weather is nice in Ireland, it is one of the most beautiful places on earth. Cheers from SC
Yes 🙌
2 or 3 days a year
@@tilapiadave3234 LOL
The part about languages was interesting. Love learning different languages! I’m trying to teach my little Floridian Tagalog, Kapampangan and what little bit I know of Bisaya. I have tons of Pinoy relatives that are OFWs. Most of my relatives studied nursing or tourism. I love how the ofw’s have their own lounging space at the airports. I’ve seen that in some vlogs and Philippine news programs. Seems like they do have perks for moving abroad which is a good thing. As a half breed I’ve always felt a bit disconnected from that part of Philippine life. I’ve always felt like maybe I was missing something, especially since moving away from the islands at a young age. I always felt like I wanted to be more close to my family and relatives there but never really got a chance to. That part is heartbreaking. I guess one of the reasons why I love watching Filipino related vlogs. 🌞🫶🏼
Waow LAY has gotten an upgrade. Looking Good G'al ..... go for it 🎉❤
Some or most Filipinos struggle with homesickness. Philippines is a very sociable country where the support system is deeply rooted in family, friends and community...and the lack of interaction or language barrier when you go to other countries can be a hurdle. Even when I go abroad for a short vacation, for some reason, after just a week. I'm eager to pack my bags, yearning to go back home.
It just feels.....different.
Hoping the PH economy would prosper enough to provide jobs for all so Filipinos wouldnt have to leave. ✅
*** i also wish foreigners would also refrain from judging people from less developed countries. You know nothing about the struggles and hardships they have to endure out of love for their families.
@@yella_c2 that cant and wont happen till all corruption rooted out thats a big ask now
@@JohnBoyle-er2kk We are a work in progress, John. Remember how the Philippines is stricken with the deadly, super typhoons each year? But look at us, we're still thriving! NOTHING IS PERMANENT. At some point, corruption and evil will end. It will happen. i have strong faith in my God and in my people.
@@JohnBoyle-er2kkcorruption exists everywhere, bruh. Tell me it does not exist in your government so I can laugh.
What a beautiful content from you two 👤❤️👤... Lay is looking humbly gorgeous with her yellow dress, presentably celebrity alike, keep shining bright ☀️ Lay with handsome Tom. ( Honestly Tom reminds me of Tom Cruise during Tom Cruise younger years. ) Nice segments of topics! 👌❤️❤️
Filipinos get along with all race. A lot of Middle East countries love their hard work and dedication. OFW’s raise Kuwaitis families and other Middle East kids. Even if they have their own kids and families at home (Philippines 🇵🇭). ❤❤❤
I live in Australia and never have the need to send money to my family in Malaysia
Great of you to bring awareness and spread the word on the courage, trials and tribulation of what many do to survive and sustain beyond a simple 9 to 5 and commute Tom and Lay. Touching segment of thoughtful advice and even assurance to understanding such a major step towards survival.
I know exactly what Tom is talking about the family back in the Philippines becoming lazy when one member goes to work overseas. I was friends with a 22 year old woman in Manila and her brother was working in Dubai for $15/hr and she refused to get a job, because she said her brother sends the family money and she just sat at home all day and listened to music and played on social media.
Yep sad story but it happens
Yes that I'd true Tom ofw is a lot of pressure to send money home family relying on them
HI Tom & Lay great video and subject I have known many OFWs and one subject I know is the treatment these girls receive from their employers. I know of a few in Singapore that have been mistreated and abused by their Ch,,,,,,se employers and as Lay said these girls have many pressures on them and just have to except whats happening. These OFWs need bloody medals.take care guys & God Bless!🙏
exactly
thoroughly enjoyed this conversation.... thanks you two !!
Our pleasure!
I know two Filipinos who work as nurses for the NHS, so they earn a good wage. But due to pressure to send money home they don't enjoy life here and just live like Filipinos here in the UK. They share a room (designed for one) in a shared house and just eat rice and chicken or pork like at home (I met them shopping in Lidl). They don't drink or date as that would mean they can't send as much money home.
Lov😮e your views and points of handling the do’s and dont’s keep it up. My past experience has shattered me and have lost 3 years of effort .😢
My GF had a horrendous time while working in HK. First of all the employer threw her brand new luggage away that she arrived with.
She had to share a room with children.
She would be working from 5am until 11pm 6 days a week.
Even on her day off she was on curfew to be home by 8pm. Then she had work to do when she got home.
She was doing domestic work but expected to be a Nanny to the kids too.
The kids would physically hit her and Parents did nothing about it.
Every room had a CCTV camera with audio so she had no privacy.
They terminated her contract 3 weeks ago for no reason. She suspects because they found out she was attending school on her day off.
When they terminated her contract they gave her a big shopping bag for her things. They did not replace her expensive luggage that they threw away.
This is the second HK employer she has had and they have both been bad employers. Both breaking the HK employment laws.
She is now back in Manila recovering from the physical and mental trauma. This time it really took it's toll on her body.
thats terrible
So sad to hear that.I am working here in Hk for 20 years serving couples and 1 daughter but my employers treat me so good.
Hey Lay- you look gorgeous in yellow
black and yellow- perfect combination Tom and Lay❤
Thank you for talking about OFW's struggles and challenges
i used to be one of them,
it wasn't an easy life thou.
Opinion only, if Philippines makes the necessary changes and re-evaluate their pay structure to support living expenses, Filipinos wouldn’t have to go to another country. Also I believe it will lessen the squatter areas that you see all over Philippines. Suggestion you both should do a blog of what squatter areas of Philippines look like. To me that is the result of low pay and possibly no government assistance. If there is any government support it’s not enough. Squatter areas are all over the world not just in the Philippines.
LMAO ,,, quick go fix everything it is EASY
@@tilapiadave3234 obviously the issues are not easy to fix if they were these issues wouldn’t exists. I don’t recall making a statement it’s an easy fix
@@Emotionalintel582 Why not start with something easy ,,, "work ethic" , have you travelled? I often tell same story ,, I went to a Vietnamese restaurant in Saigon ,, 15 table small restaurant , sat down had menu in hand within 3 minutes ,, ONE worker serving ,,, I went to a Thai restaurant in Bangkok ,, similar 12 table small restaurant ,, 2 servers ,had menu in hand within 5 minutes ,,,,, went to small 15 table restaurant in Manila , sat and waited more than half an hour while FIVE servers stood around in a circle face in phone on face-book ,,, stood up and left. IF a country has near half it's working population continually on social media when they are suppose to be doing a job then how the heck can that country ever fix the problems.
@@tilapiadave3234 However, I stated my thoughts no where in my statement I said easy fix. So I still don’t get what you are pointing out. In reality you are making an assumption. Again no where in my statement I said it’s an easy fix only a moron would think that.
@@Emotionalintel582 Nowhere is a single word but I guess English is your second or third language. I do thank you on behalf , NOT be half , of all readers that you keep your your thoughts to yourself , NOT your self. It would seem you are assisting us all by saying nothing ,, NOT noth thing :)
I love living in SE Asia .. love the warm climate and the warmth of the people 🙏🙏
It's a cultural thing. As an English guy if I was working abroad my family would say go and enjoy your self have a blast. I know Filipino people in Malaysia who are scared to go home because they going to get tapped up for money
There are also many breadwinners in the Philippines itself who as the oldest child will be expected to sacrifice their twenties to help fund the education of younger siblings and relatives.
And then they can either cut the cord and establish their own financial independence or they end up being the pension scheme of their parents.
I know each Country is different and to be fair most people know this. But the cost of living is also different in each Country as well. Depending on where you live in the U.S. a one bedroom apt could coast you about 2800 USD a month. Then the light bill is about 300 a month and if you need to heat that home add another 1200 or more a month just for the heat. Then the food. We all know the food cost has gone up but it is at a breaking point when you pay 12 dollars for a pound of Bacon. 4 dollars for one pound of chicken.27 dollars for a prime rib and 6 dollars for a pound of Hamburg. If one was to add up the cost to live in each state it could be from 5000 a month to 2000 a month depending on what state you live in. I live in Florida and it is not cheap and granted I don't have to heat my house I do have to use my A/C 24 hours a day every day .
From Canada, I lived in Malaysia and Australia for 8 months.
I missed the cool refreshing weather of my Canada. .. I missed the beautiful snow.
Also, In Canada, I was an engineer. :: In Australia, I could only get a job mowing lawns.
Should stay in Canada
I wish someday i could go to canada to experience snow ❤
Great discussion Tom and Lay
Thanks 🙏
Wow great content, lay ur beautiful as always❤❤❤
Sorry, off topic question here for Tom. I watched your episode where you said you take spirulina first thing in the morning. I also started taking it and would like to know your personal thoughts and experiences about it. Thank you!!
So far so good
Moving to europe is not a mistake if your educated can be done , theres one pay check for all by law .
I've seen alot of married Filipinas work as domestic, on their off day they hang around with their Filipina friends some with guys. Why don't their husband go and work instead the wife. Some agency are con they promise the job is not expectation.
Good morning Tom & Lay Have a beautiful day 💛☘️🇺🇸🙃❤️
@Tom & Lay i had a friend who is Filipina and she was working in Saudi i think and she was treated badly and so was her friends aswell,so it's always good to be 💯 sure if that's what you want.
Tom, I know dozens of Filipinas who are OFW's, family back home often raising the kids for them increasing expectations of money being sent back to Philippines.
We live in a sad world now when you find happiness hold on tight god bless❤
Enjoyed this one, different content for a change…podcast type video. Tom, you can be a broadcaster 😂
😁😁
Thanks
Hello. American in South Korea. I've been trying hard to heve an interview with OFW's in Korea about their experiences here. Many of them are reluctant to talk on camera about their bad experiences. Some young flipinas are promised a gig as a singer in a bar, just to end up being a bar girl. Others work to the grind in factories and only get 2 days off a month. They also get a different wage compared to workers from other countries.
Thanks guys a great video as always
thanks :)
I'm surprised you didn't mention Scandinavia when referring to the cold weather, a lot of Filipinos move to Sweden and Norway and it's much colder than Poland
My fiancé wants to see what it's like in the US working and experience snowfall and see what winter is like where I live. We live in Cebu City currently, but I go back to US a lot because I can't relocate permanently with my company. We secured her tourist visa and she'll come here in Dec to see what winter is like. She's in for the biggest shock of her life with how cold it gets here. I live in Duluth, MN and we get -40 with wind chill and we average around 8-9 feet of snow per season. I'm sure she'll reconsider her decision after a couple days! Haha
Yes for sure 😅
As a Filipino, as Lay has said, WE ARE SUPER PROUD OF OUR OFWs!
Not because thet bring in the money, but bec they are SLAYING AS PROFESSIONALS all around the world! 🇵🇭😎🤟
Even the household helpers, the welders, caregivers, seamen, cruise ship singers --they are receiving a LOT of praises and admiration from their co-worker abroads on F/B. They are complimented for their hardwork and attitude. 🇵🇭❣️
And the free peso for the family always helps
@@jaydrummer333 for a selfish individual, its tough to understand 🙄
If you want to know some of ofw in Taiwan watch some of they vlog how they budget they salary every month for they rent and back home
Yes for me its a bit pressure to send money to my family coz its in our culture and feel like I’m obligated to send it every month. then I feel guilty if I can’t send money to them. It's true life abroad is not easy, in my situation i pay rent, council tax,bills etc. although we share my husband still hard though. To save money its really hard i been here 13yrs in 🇬🇧 but just like i work to lived.
yes its hard to live in uk as cost of living is so high
Lay looks so young and pretty, you just feel like a big hug she so sweet, its been very warm in uk. Too warm lol i dont do hot! When its cool tom tell mum to make irish stew! Make some chips "beef dripping" then pour stew on to chips, thickly buttered bread and put chips on and some stew then dip "butty" lol bread in stew gravy omg sheer heaven in a dish or plate? (Ive just fainted the thought) 😂 she must try chips and stew before home its sheer heaven on the taste buds. ❤🍲🍟real chips tho✨✨✨✨✨
If you bring a Philippine spouse to a western country can the two of you put a limit on the money you will send back to the family. In other words put conditions on where the money goes and to whom. Can you not even be obligated to send any money? What do the laws say?
Yes not easy to adjust in any other factors.
Hello Ms. Pretty Lay & Handsome Tom😍😍😍
Thanks 🙏
OFW in Canada has the best opportunities. There's is law in order best pay .my opinion only
yes i know a few filipinos in canada
We Canadians have. Lot of respect for the workers I just visited there in my small home town in Newfoundland Canada and many are there working in fishing processing plants..I was quite surprised really how many was there..and Newfoundlands that work with them have. Lot of respect for them as hard workers the employer built houses and rooms to provide for them to stay in ..I was asked if I wanted to rent my house there to the plant employers ..
@@marilyncoish9117I am a Newfoundlander, now an expat living in the Philippines. I manage on my OAS and a reduced CPP, both taxed by CRA at 25% to support myself, my Filipina wife and our 8 year old boy, but it's tough. With other benefits in Canada such a GIS, GST rebate, and Canada Child Benefit (CCB), my income would be more than doubled, but still not nearly enough to support myself and family. I really do miss Newfoundland and my Canadian family and culture, and due to our subsistence income, I simply don't have the means to visit Canada.
Tom and Lay thank you for your video. I noticed When I talk with my Filipina girlfriend she always speaks Cebuano with family and I do not understand why they do not use their English. I am fluent in Spanish. Is it polite to ask to them to speak in English at times; not 100%
I understand that some take advantage and become lazy, do not want to help or improve themselves. They are just relying on the OFW, and the OFW have no choice or will feel guilty for not helping.
I know a lot about this subject , and the girls going overseas to work unfair hours get paid unfair wages not seeing there children ... who are left with there grandparents , its a very difficult life just to send your children to school needs money ... .
Of course Philippines compared to Ireland. There’s not much comparison when you want to get outside. But the Philippines is tropical. It has heat waves and typhoons and a rainy season. I think it’s got a lot to do with lifestyle. What makes you more happy.
Good evening from here Tom and Lay ❤😊
One thing more, some OFW happens their family ,example theres emergency needed and the OFW wiil do something to provide even they are not ready for emergency esp. financially needed thats the hard thing to provide .
i had a wife china that i suported there brought her to canada then here family wanted dubble what i gave her i said no dam way . i`m single now becouse i will not work to pay for there life
Wow crazy
Pohon means someday , my choice of translation from visayan language to english ❤️
Thank you Tom & Lay West coast USA - time 601 pm 💛☘️🇺🇸🙃❤️
Philippines Airlines dont pay much and for Lay to be there in Ireland that's not much at all
Air Asia not Phill.Airlines
Pne of your better blogs really enjoyed it 😉 other than always eating all the time sorry 🤔
Thanks
On point my wife had a GF that worked in qatar nightmare they held the passport for 3 months she was a private nurse and as you say beware that wolf in sheep clothing tom put a ring on her finger fast 🎉🎉🎉
Hello Tom and ate Lay, in my experiences it’s a bit pressure to send money to my family. Because once you work abroad I’m obligated to send money every month, If can’t send the money i feel sad and guilty of course thinking I’m eating a good food here abroad then my family is nothing. 😢 But I’d always telling them living in abroad it’s no so easy too. Thanks Tom & Lay love you both
Good day Tom and Lay
A good share video tho
SOO SAD
Imagine working 7am to 11pm every day. 7days a week. Not allow to have a day off. That is 7hours sleep a night. 2 years. The wage is about 300usa a month... my freind ask for 1 day off a month.. but her boss say no.. this job is to clean a 3 story house. House keeping.. being a nanny.. hard work.. this is in the middle east.
Wow that’s hard
i was dating a Filipino woman here in Melbourne Australia and she was so loving so kind but because of her lazy family back home she had to work 14hrs a day 7 days a week 365 days a year and it broke us up because there was no time for each other i even paid for her family to come here but caught her father stealing money from me a number of times, she always had a excuse for his bad behaviour so in the end we split up she went home and our future plans and dreams never come true sad thing is she now selling herself to pay for her families new way of living, no child should ever have to support a parent in my eyes its a form of emotional child abuse
I watch a lot of vlogs it appears parents love daughters because they can pay for familys that way thus the boys becoming lady boys good investment.
@@Maryhilton-ws6ol disgusting way to treat a child
gosh girl, you sound like a gossiper than a concerned partner in your narration. 😢 its as if you gave money and thats it!
why dont you edit this and add the most important part - how did you emotionally support her as your ex girlfriend and acted like A MAN through all of this.... just to redeem yourself
Yes a lot of pressure of working abroad to sent money to our family back home. 😊
Come on Thomas, get back on the road to making travel vlogs! Lay is great but miss your travelling vlogs!
1st like of the show
thank you
yes true, I had a GF and she was working but still she thought I was earning a lot of money and said, send me money and chocolate package, she lives in Germany and I in Canada and to send a package to Europe its very expensive, and its not my job to support you, we are not married yet, so I will not support you to send my money to your kids back home in Romania, these are not my children and not my problem.
Do agencies that get you employment take part of your salary?
Yes, they do
every agency is different
Yes they do, not dependent on which agency Tom, all of them screw you over unfortunately 😔
My wife and I cruise alot and there are alot of Filipinos working in the Cruise Ships.
My daughter shes a ED nurse in Dublin she dont need to support me i can afford more than her its her choice for her future she loved her work,she complained the rentals in dublin too expensive and her taxes i want her to have her own rental business someday.
Nice 👌
Lay is classy and dignified.
😁
Great video, good life lessons, OFW’s excited to go abroad and earn the big money but get huge shock went they realise the cost of living, my other half is 25 years in Ireland and hated it for the first year, now she loves it and is more Irish than me 😂😂
Nice 😂
I heard healthcare in the Philippines. They sucks unless you are rich, not like here in the USA or some other country. You have choice to get your insurance provider. Everybody should had one here but in the Philippines if you don’t have cash, you don’t get help us the rich people does , what I’ve heard unless you go to the public hospitals I guess but you have to go there and go on the line 1st thing in the morning like before Dawn so you can get in .that is not good.😢
Yeh I went to a normal local family hospital never again
Many OFWs get there passport taken off them when they arrive by there employer so they cant just take off if they dont like it.Also never ever even if you do know anyone in the country you work in tell your employer because they will turn on you.I know many true horror stories especially girls who go abroad and been given a very hard time by there employer and locked away in rooms,slept on a floor with 10 other girls,beaten with a stick,the list goes on...
very interesting topic, and yeah beware moving abroad lots of bad people out there, just after a slave. Do not forget all the male workers that also gets killed on the seas and in construction abroad with horrible working conditions
Filipinos are hard workers and are family oriented 😎
The women are.
Your girlfriend is physical attractiveness ❤
Your correct
Lovely couple 😍😊
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