Just when I was feeling discouraged about my decision to wait until marriage I seen that ya'll had started a RUclips channel about it! This video came at perfect timing and confirmed that I'm making the right choice! This is something our generation needs to see! Ya'll are amazing!
Yessss this is very good. I love both the analogies. We have to be whole before God brings our spouses. I met my husband when I was focused on God 100%...keep it up!!
Idk how I found this channel but thank God I did. I am watching ever video from the beginning and so far I love it and God sent you guys to me for a reason
I love this!! My youngest of 19 is now in her 2 semester of college. As a single mom I was committed to raising my children. ! I’ve been single and celibate for 7 years and wanting a relationship. . However, I know realize I wasn’t celebrating, enjoying or dating myself. Now that I realize this, I’m enjoying my space and time. I’m also getting out and meeting people. My outlook is different and life is enjoyable. Thank you.
Say that girl!! I love it! Its such a strong message to promote especially to our young ladies who are growing up in this messed up society. Stay strong and beautiful my love xoxo
I like the fish analogy... I’m setting goals fir myself and I’m saving myself for marriage and I am focus on God 100% as of November 1st , 2019 and I will be getting myself together all the way
You guys really inspire me. Im 15 and from day I always wanted to wait until marriage bc i always wanted to feel like if I can be happy with another person I should be able to be happy alone. I guess that's why im an introvert and always limite my friendship bc that goes for that as well and vise versa.. In my life,it always comes in 7's . I was born in 7 months on January the 7th at 7:07. My name is JaMiracle and the word Miracle. And 1 thing about #7 it means Complete and the Truth.It's all about being a better person .Thankyou for this . I can wait to see ur other videosss💘💘💘
Hey Mira! Thank you so much for sharing that with us! That is amazing that you have already made the decision to wait! Super proud of you and I think that you will grow so much as a person just by focusing on yourself and your future and when the time is right, you will meet the right person :) Keep that mindset, be confident in yourself and continue to share with us!
On Point👍🏾👌🏽 have no objections to what u all are saying But what I realize is that women feel if they don't have a man, they life is at a lost just to wait on a good man.
Awww, you guys are adorable. I just became a new subscriber.... yay!! Amen and thank you so so much for putting yourselves out there like that. We heard about “celibacy “ and how it was a trend a few years ago, then it was a “90 days rule, make him wait a few months, yada yada yada, “waiting is too difficult..” and all these mixed messages and opinions coming from left and right; up and down. Now you all and the Franklins are celebrating “Waiting for Marriage “ and courting and standing firmly on your faith and @ Bre “finding our Boaz” or “lobster.” Loved that metaphor and loved how your fiancé supported on you this and also added on by saying, “Dont settle or come into a relationship unwhole.” Powerful. And thank you Bre for addressing the “absent father,” same here. Being cheated on... yes that is my story too. Much continued success to y’all and I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Please subscribe to my page as well. I’m going to share this in Facebook and Instagram. Thank you so so much and congratulations on finding each other any being led by God to each other. ja4real23
Hey Joy!!!! Sorry for the late reply! We subscribed to your channel and love that you loved the video!! We look forward to sharing our journey with you and are here for advice! Make sure you follow us on IG we are doing a Q & A soon would love to see what questions you have!
Hi, I actually liked the fish and lobster analogy! Dre was preaching towards the end. I also used the same analogy with my lobster as we both continue to be completely open about our past (rather platonic or romantic relationships) and future together.
Love love loved this! I’m 21 years old and single. Just starting to fully understand the importance of waiting and getting myself together first! But how do you balance building and growing yourself while not confusing that with trying to be 100% perfect to feel like you’re ready?
That is a GREAT question! Personally speaking, (this is Bre lol) I think its important to first understand you are not perfect and no matter how hard you try, you will never be perfect. Which is great because perfect is too high of a standard. First acknowledging that you want to grow and build as a person will allow you to work on you. I wasn't "ready" when I met Dre but he played whatever role he needed to until the only role that was left was my "man" He was a friend, a shoulder to cry on, a punching bag, a sound board, a mirror. He helped me grow and build on my own because he was helping to be a better bre not a better girlfriend. Once I was able to be balanced on my own, he asked me to be in a relationship with him. So I think the right man will see your potential and he will know when your ready. I hope this helped girly! xoxo
Listen I’m a new subscriber!! This is amazing. Thank you I needed this . In fact I related to this so much because that’s exactly how I found my soulmate. He was the lobster and I was still a fish. But I’m becoming a lobster more and more as these months are coming and I feel great. I CAN wait for my lobster only because I know there is still more I need to get done but it’s coming!! 😊
Very nice first episode!!! I am happy to see young couples expressing their knowledge of relationships and love. I am proud of yall!! I found my lobster 18-years ago and we married 11-year ago. "Dre", What you spoke about how marriage is a permanent situation are facts. As Dre could tell you Bre, (we are his cousins) I have cancer and my husband has remained strong and by my side without hesitation, but before cancer, growing up together from age 15 years old we have been through lots of life transitions. It takes Lobsters to swin all over the sea together vs fish who stay in one location and swim with other flocks of fish. Growing together is key and you guys deciding to wait is awesome!! Also a side fact about Lobster (Im in medicine), they are so heart healthy with lots of omega 3 fatty acids. So Lobsters taste good, are high quality, and are great for your heart :) Ill be watching this series.
Shonte, thank you so much for sharing some of your story with us. You and your husband seem like amazing people and we will both keep you in our prayers. Continue to connect with us! Much love - Dre & Bre xoxo
I just found this channel...you two are super dope and beautiful. I go back and forth about waiting. When I dabble in meeting those fish desires lol it's like a brick wall in between me and the fish. It's quite odd but clear as day. WAIT.. BE PATIENT....That fish is NOT your Boaz. Period. Thanks for being a positive inspiration.
I am so in love with you guys videos ! I am going through a rough time right now & you guys videos are really helping me a lot to understand myself & being single !! starting with 2020 I am going to commit myself to God and have faith that he will provide everything I need :) love you guys !!
Yaaaaaaaaaaasssss 👏👏👏 thank you Dre. You hit it spot with the men wanting a woman to follow them thing. I say that all the time I love hearing it coming from a man!!
I am sooo thankful that God allowed me to run across yall video last night. I needed confirmation & the lobster/fish analogy was it!! I pray God will continue to bless each of you in ALL areas of yall lives!! ❤❤❤
This video is something I was needing. Literally have been single for the last 6 months and I’ve been thinking of starting the year 2020 off by not having sex because I agree that it fills a void and I’m wanting to wait for my husband.
Am a Muslim and my religion also teaches me to wait till after marriage which not everyone likes to talk about but I am happy I waited(still waiting) till after marriage hopefully next year. I pray we would be able to achieve our goals. God bless you.
Love you guys and your story! And I'm so happy I found your videos, they really help me!! I resonate a lot with Bre when she was in her singleness, going through those bad fish and realizing I'm not a lobster yet... lol that analogy was great, wish your big sis/little sis was in Florida or online, cuz I would've loved to go!
I believe that is true when your not looking that lobster comes in your life. Waiting for the right man or woman does take time and never settle or you will be miserable.
Definitely a inspirational video. This just motivated me even more to become whole. You guys are so powerful together, beautiful couple 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I wish you guys the best in any challenge in life ☺️
How do we get to that place tho of being whole and comfortable in our singleness? I’ve been struggle for some time now with being alone and whenever I see an old fling, I get all these urges and temptations to hit them up (and I don’t hit them up but the urges are SUPER STRONG and I end up doing things pleasing myself which is wrong☹️) what should I do to get to that place of wholeness and being okay with being single?
Regine A you can look up for a book called the triumphant church, you can get it via PDF drive for free it has a chapter that explains the body in reference to the Bible, you will get a more understanding about the body and how to deal with the urges
Hello🙌🏾🙌🏾 I love your video , it’s so touching 😭 I wanted to ask please , was you able to solve your daddy issues please ? Because I’m going through it and I want to put it to rest but it’s hard
I am 23, waiting for marriage but I have never been in a relationship. Also, I currently in college. How do you know “you got yourself together” even though you never been in a relationship
Hey Robin! Thanks for your comment! We definitely feel that "having yourself together" has nothing to do with whether or not you have been in a relationship before. Having yourself together is about your mindset and knowing what you want. The questions you have to ask yourself is, Who am I? What do I want out of life? What are my goals? What type of person do I want to spend my life with? What morals and characteristics do I want them to have? If you know these answers then you will be able to go about a relationship the right way. You never being in a relationship just means that you have the emotional baggage or trust issues that most people have when they come out of a relationship. You are in a great place to make sure when the time comes for you to be in a relationship, that you go about it the right way! Thats super dope!! Stay in school!!!! lol - Hope this helps
To the Mrs., You mentioned that your last relationship cheated on you. Was it difficult to trust your new relationship? I believe that it has a lot to do with your partner. If he would’ve done things that were similar to your ex, it would’ve triggered you. Do you Agree?
Hi me and my boyfriend we are going on a year now in October and I’m so happy Breanna followed me on Instagram cause me and my boyfriend was saying they need more couples to talk about this type of stuff, but my question is.... So me and my bf kinda rushed into getting together we kinda had both just got out of a relationship we talk about everything so we both agreed we did but we watch couples like u and we even have are own. RUclips channel we read books and we know where we need help at individually will I really don’t honestly (Carly). I don’t know who my dad is but it doesn’t bother me that much well I don’t think it dose , so my question is do u think we should stay together and work together threw are issues or do u think it’s best we just kinda brake up and work them out cause we talk about marriage everyday we are dating to be married and we are trynna to wait to have sex no we haven’t been perfect but we are trying are hardest cause my sister is always saying we need to be emotionally healed and we can’t be together while that is happening So what do you suggest?
Strength comes from healing on your own, depending on a person for healing causes more damage than you know, for you to fully give love you must be whole
Hi Bre, I was wondering if you could read my message in your Instagram DMs? I didn't want to put everything on the public comments. I know you must have tons of people asking for advice, so it's totally fine if you don't get the chance. Much love to you both!
when you realize you've been settling for all these fishes and you need to be the lobster that you desire to attract.
Fish*
Just when I was feeling discouraged about my decision to wait until marriage I seen that ya'll had started a RUclips channel about it! This video came at perfect timing and confirmed that I'm making the right choice! This is something our generation needs to see! Ya'll are amazing!
Hey Jazman! You are such a beautiful girl! (Yesssssss hair colo) love it lol Stay patient hunny it will be worth THEE wait xoxo
I love that you learned from the past. You take the time to get to know yourself and become a woman of values.
Yessss this is very good. I love both the analogies. We have to be whole before God brings our spouses. I met my husband when I was focused on God 100%...keep it up!!
Yea we definitely believe that 100% Thanks so much for watching!
Idk how I found this channel but thank God I did. I am watching ever video from the beginning and so far I love it and God sent you guys to me for a reason
I love this!! My youngest of 19 is now in her 2 semester of college. As a single mom I was committed to raising my children. ! I’ve been single and celibate for 7 years and wanting a relationship. . However, I know realize I wasn’t celebrating, enjoying or dating myself. Now that I realize this, I’m enjoying my space and time. I’m also getting out and meeting people. My outlook is different and life is enjoyable. Thank you.
Love what you all are saying, thats where Im at now. I know what I'm want and who I am . I will never compromise my standards.
Say that girl!! I love it! Its such a strong message to promote especially to our young ladies who are growing up in this messed up society. Stay strong and beautiful my love xoxo
I like the fish analogy... I’m setting goals fir myself and I’m saving myself for marriage and I am focus on God 100% as of November 1st , 2019 and I will be getting myself together all the way
Stumbled on this and just realized how much of a fish I am... No kidding God I need you
This video was a word!!! I felt this in my soul
You guys really inspire me. Im 15 and from day I always wanted to wait until marriage bc i always wanted to feel like if I can be happy with another person I should be able to be happy alone. I guess that's why im an introvert and always limite my friendship bc that goes for that as well and vise versa.. In my life,it always comes in 7's . I was born in 7 months on January the 7th at 7:07. My name is JaMiracle and the word Miracle. And 1 thing about #7 it means Complete and the Truth.It's all about being a better person .Thankyou for this . I can wait to see ur other videosss💘💘💘
Hey Mira! Thank you so much for sharing that with us! That is amazing that you have already made the decision to wait! Super proud of you and I think that you will grow so much as a person just by focusing on yourself and your future and when the time is right, you will meet the right person :) Keep that mindset, be confident in yourself and continue to share with us!
Dre and Bre - Worth Thee Wait thankyou so much i love you soooo much
On Point👍🏾👌🏽 have no objections to what u all are saying But what I realize is that women feel if they don't have a man, they life is at a lost just to wait on a good man.
I'm so glad I came across this video at this stage of my life. Really needed to hear this
Awww, you guys are adorable. I just became a new subscriber.... yay!! Amen and thank you so so much for putting yourselves out there like that. We heard about “celibacy “ and how it was a trend a few years ago, then it was a “90 days rule, make him wait a few months, yada yada yada, “waiting is too difficult..” and all these mixed messages and opinions coming from left and right; up and down. Now you all and the Franklins are celebrating “Waiting for Marriage “ and courting and standing firmly on your faith and @ Bre “finding our Boaz” or “lobster.” Loved that metaphor and loved how your fiancé supported on you this and also added on by saying, “Dont settle or come into a relationship unwhole.” Powerful. And thank you Bre for addressing the “absent father,” same here. Being cheated on... yes that is my story too. Much continued success to y’all and I look forward to seeing more of your videos.
Please subscribe to my page as well.
I’m going to share this in Facebook and Instagram. Thank you so so much and congratulations on finding each other any being led by God to each other.
ja4real23
Hey Joy!!!! Sorry for the late reply! We subscribed to your channel and love that you loved the video!! We look forward to sharing our journey with you and are here for advice! Make sure you follow us on IG we are doing a Q & A soon would love to see what questions you have!
Hi, I actually liked the fish and lobster analogy! Dre was preaching towards the end. I also used the same analogy with my lobster as we both continue to be completely open about our past (rather platonic or romantic relationships) and future together.
Yes! thats super important! Nothing to hide from the person who your going to spend your life with : )
Girl that analogy was everything✨✨✨
eKleKtiKartby K Thank You! 😁
Love love loved this! I’m 21 years old and single. Just starting to fully understand the importance of waiting and getting myself together first! But how do you balance building and growing yourself while not confusing that with trying to be 100% perfect to feel like you’re ready?
That is a GREAT question! Personally speaking, (this is Bre lol) I think its important to first understand you are not perfect and no matter how hard you try, you will never be perfect. Which is great because perfect is too high of a standard. First acknowledging that you want to grow and build as a person will allow you to work on you. I wasn't "ready" when I met Dre but he played whatever role he needed to until the only role that was left was my "man" He was a friend, a shoulder to cry on, a punching bag, a sound board, a mirror. He helped me grow and build on my own because he was helping to be a better bre not a better girlfriend. Once I was able to be balanced on my own, he asked me to be in a relationship with him. So I think the right man will see your potential and he will know when your ready. I hope this helped girly! xoxo
This is so good. Thank you Bre and Dre; much love from South Africa.
Sifiso Ngcobo Thank You! 😌
Woow, I'm impressed! You added value to other people life's. Great Advice. Thank you!!
Listen I’m a new subscriber!! This is amazing. Thank you I needed this . In fact I related to this so much because that’s exactly how I found my soulmate. He was the lobster and I was still a fish. But I’m becoming a lobster more and more as these months are coming and I feel great. I CAN wait for my lobster only because I know there is still more I need to get done but it’s coming!! 😊
Very nice first episode!!! I am happy to see young couples expressing their knowledge of relationships and love. I am proud of yall!! I found my lobster 18-years ago and we married 11-year ago. "Dre", What you spoke about how marriage is a permanent situation are facts. As Dre could tell you Bre, (we are his cousins) I have cancer and my husband has remained strong and by my side without hesitation, but before cancer, growing up together from age 15 years old we have been through lots of life transitions. It takes Lobsters to swin all over the sea together vs fish who stay in one location and swim with other flocks of fish. Growing together is key and you guys deciding to wait is awesome!! Also a side fact about Lobster (Im in medicine), they are so heart healthy with lots of omega 3 fatty acids. So Lobsters taste good, are high quality, and are great for your heart :) Ill be watching this series.
Shonte, thank you so much for sharing some of your story with us. You and your husband seem like amazing people and we will both keep you in our prayers. Continue to connect with us! Much love - Dre & Bre xoxo
I just found this channel...you two are super dope and beautiful. I go back and forth about waiting. When I dabble in meeting those fish desires lol it's like a brick wall in between me and the fish. It's quite odd but clear as day. WAIT.. BE PATIENT....That fish is NOT your Boaz. Period. Thanks for being a positive inspiration.
I am so in love with you guys videos ! I am going through a rough time right now & you guys videos are really helping me a lot to understand myself & being single !! starting with 2020 I am going to commit myself to God and have faith that he will provide everything I need :) love you guys !!
Just when I thought I had no hope
Theres lots of hope girl! Stay strong and patient. Good things are worth waiting for.
Yaaaaaaaaaaasssss 👏👏👏 thank you Dre. You hit it spot with the men wanting a woman to follow them thing. I say that all the time I love hearing it coming from a man!!
I’m honestly obsessed and needed this today.... so Thank You Both!
SO happy to help! thank you for the love and support! xoxo
I am sooo thankful that God allowed me to run across yall video last night. I needed confirmation & the lobster/fish analogy was it!! I pray God will continue to bless each of you in ALL areas of yall lives!! ❤❤❤
I love that lobster and fish analogy!!!
thanks girl, idk how I thought of it lol - Bre
Me too
This video is something I was needing. Literally have been single for the last 6 months and I’ve been thinking of starting the year 2020 off by not having sex because I agree that it fills a void and I’m wanting to wait for my husband.
I. Love. Your. Testimony! I'm so glad I stumbled acrossed your vlogs. Definitely living my best life while a lady in waiting. Blessings to you both!
Dre be dropping them nuggets :-)..... You betta go Man!!
New subscriber here! Absolutely loved that illustration Bre with the lobster and fish it was spot on 💯🔥 blessings to you both and God bless ❤️❤️
He is so gorgeous healthy hair beautiful smile nice teeth...your blessed girly
This is amazing! I’m definitely not a lobster yet and I pray that God will help me mature into one and then send me my lobster
YOU ARE GORGEOUS HUNNY. CURLS ON FLEEK
Second video that I'm watching from you guys and I just want to talk to Bre privately. This was really good.
Am a Muslim and my religion also teaches me to wait till after marriage which not everyone likes to talk about but I am happy I waited(still waiting) till after marriage hopefully next year. I pray we would be able to achieve our goals. God bless you.
Love you guys and your story! And I'm so happy I found your videos, they really help me!! I resonate a lot with Bre when she was in her singleness, going through those bad fish and realizing I'm not a lobster yet... lol that analogy was great, wish your big sis/little sis was in Florida or online, cuz I would've loved to go!
Beautifully stated 💜
I believe that is true when your not looking that lobster comes in your life. Waiting for the right man or woman does take time and never settle or you will be miserable.
Yesss Rochelle! Its really common sense but we lose sight of it when we get caught up in sexual relationships and emotions.
Definitely a inspirational video. This just motivated me even more to become whole. You guys are so powerful together, beautiful couple 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I wish you guys the best in any challenge in life ☺️
I’m loving your Chanel right now . I can relate to you guys so much honestly God led you guys . God bless yall xx
I’m loving your Chanel right now . I can relate to you guys so much honestly God led me you guys . God bless yall xx
This couldn’t have came at a better time!
Love that lobster example. Thank you.
Yes men like their name to come first. I learned that after getting married
This was so great, love all the advice!!
SO happy to hear that!! Thats why we made the channel : )
Those analogies were on point.
Thanks Tasia !!
Thanks guys you do inspire me
How do we get to that place tho of being whole and comfortable in our singleness? I’ve been struggle for some time now with being alone and whenever I see an old fling, I get all these urges and temptations to hit them up (and I don’t hit them up but the urges are SUPER STRONG and I end up doing things pleasing myself which is wrong☹️) what should I do to get to that place of wholeness and being okay with being single?
Regine A you can look up for a book called the triumphant church, you can get it via PDF drive for free it has a chapter that explains the body in reference to the Bible, you will get a more understanding about the body and how to deal with the urges
Mature and intelligent.. Love you guys
Hello🙌🏾🙌🏾 I love your video , it’s so touching 😭 I wanted to ask please , was you able to solve your daddy issues please ? Because I’m going through it and I want to put it to rest but it’s hard
Hahaha I've been craving lobster mac and cheese so I think this is so perfect
This was so beautiful!
Thank you so much! Really appreciate the support!
I am 23, waiting for marriage but I have never been in a relationship. Also, I currently in college.
How do you know “you got yourself together” even though you never been in a relationship
Hey Robin! Thanks for your comment! We definitely feel that "having yourself together" has nothing to do with whether or not you have been in a relationship before. Having yourself together is about your mindset and knowing what you want. The questions you have to ask yourself is, Who am I? What do I want out of life? What are my goals? What type of person do I want to spend my life with? What morals and characteristics do I want them to have? If you know these answers then you will be able to go about a relationship the right way. You never being in a relationship just means that you have the emotional baggage or trust issues that most people have when they come out of a relationship. You are in a great place to make sure when the time comes for you to be in a relationship, that you go about it the right way! Thats super dope!! Stay in school!!!! lol - Hope this helps
Bless you guys union ❤❤❤❤
Man y’all are dope. Both of y’all from Ohio?
1. Date yourself
2. Don’t settle
3. Don’t look for someone else to complete you
Preaching!!!
On point
*takes notes*
To the Mrs., You mentioned that your last relationship cheated on you. Was it difficult to trust your new relationship? I believe that it has a lot to do with your partner. If he would’ve done things that were similar to your ex, it would’ve triggered you. Do you Agree?
This is so directed to what l am struggling doing all this while because l am so hungry n l keep getting fish n keep eating the fish #so help me God
I still feel like a fish!! Lol!
Preach!
Hi me and my boyfriend we are going on a year now in October and I’m so happy Breanna followed me on Instagram cause me and my boyfriend was saying they need more couples to talk about this type of stuff, but my question is....
So me and my bf kinda rushed into getting together we kinda had both just got out of a relationship we talk about everything so we both agreed we did but we watch couples like u and we even have are own. RUclips channel we read books and we know where we need help at individually will I really don’t honestly (Carly). I don’t know who my dad is but it doesn’t bother me that much well I don’t think it dose ,
so my question is do u think we should stay together and work together threw are issues or do u think it’s best we just kinda brake up and work them out cause we talk about marriage everyday we are dating to be married and we are trynna to wait to have sex no we haven’t been perfect but we are trying are hardest cause my sister is always saying we need to be emotionally healed and we can’t be together while that is happening So what do you suggest?
Strength comes from healing on your own, depending on a person for healing causes more damage than you know, for you to fully give love you must be whole
Twinning 💞
Hi Bre, I was wondering if you could read my message in your Instagram DMs? I didn't want to put everything on the public comments. I know you must have tons of people asking for advice, so it's totally fine if you don't get the chance. Much love to you both!
Great Speaking with you Emma :) Glad I could help and hear you out!
Nice
I think I am looking to much for a lobster when I am still a fish
What's the name of the song in your intro?
How long was she single???
Am 44 n still single im giving up to tired of this shit
what was the name of that intro song.
LuLu Moore Masego- Love be like
Thank you. also you guys make a good couple
Bre are you and Dre Christians? If so, you don't reference many biblical values during your show.