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Another truthful video Pea on a very difficult topic, I am very close to my Filipinas 2 older children, it's very sad she wants our 2 young children to grow up without me, luckily the older siblings are helping the little ones (mine) understand that I'm not the terrible person she wants them to think I am...😥 Well done Pea!
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My experience with western single mothers is you start off in 3rd place. Never give you the alone time with her to bond or really get to know them, kid is always joined at the hip. You're just starting from somebody else's saved game. If anything you get more attached to the kid and she'll try to hold that over your head to keep you around once you realize it'll never work. That's not even bringing up the ex's drama.
Ms Pea your assessment is spot on. A few years ago I dated a Filipina who had three young kids and it was as disaster. I visited she and her kids twice in the Philippines. She treated me like an ATM machine (and she got mad when I closed my checkbook). I found out the hard way that she was just looking for a sugar daddy. Even if she didn't have any children I am sure she would have treated me the same way. I'm currently with a Filipina who does not have any children and the relationship is awesome.
@@TheFilipinaPea Your association and level of acceptance, admiration, and, dare I say it, Love and admiration you received from MTR and his primarily Black Male audience has earned you the status of a SAINT, a GODDESS among us.
I’ve been surporting a Filipino kid for the last 17 years even thought me and the mother broke up years ago. I sent him to pvt schools and he just graduated with honors from high school. He starts college this year. He knows and I know I changed his life . The little amount of money was well spent.
@John Grigg most likely he didn't care to try and do..... Like I said in another post....a pH woman will sleep with a pH man even if he's broke...but a broke foreigner will not be tolerated.
Kamusta Pea, An excellent informative video as always. I have been married to a Filipina for 10 years. I realized that for me dating a woman with children would be a huge mistake and I am very happy that I never fell in love with a woman who already had children. To be honest, you pointed out even more reasons than I knew of and realized, I was totally shocked!! Even after 10 years of marriage to a Filipina and living in the Philippines 3 years before meeting my wife, I realize that you are so good and very more informative about women in the Philippines than anyone I have ever met. Heck, I never knew that taking someone's child to the mall is illegal, OMG!!! Can't even imagine the problems that alone causes every year!!! Pea, you deserve the success you have and I truly wish you the best and hope your channel grows further along with your success. It would be an honor to meet you the next time my wife and I are in the Philippines. God Bless and be safe, Jason & Maria
Wife was a single Mom. Great mom. Wonderful step daughter. She is in final year at silliman for physical therapy. Wife did an amazing job raising her and providing
I'm just chatting online and am finding great Filipinas who have been great wives and mothers. I stick to no kids, grown kids or widows. I'm finding accomplished women, dentists, doctors and landowners with homes as nice as my home in the US. Single already married moms are not the only option.
@@TheFilipinaPea She was 12. I have two children of my own from a previous marriage (non filipina but asian) Due to logistics we have only been able to be all together once. Both my kids are on their own now graduated and have jobs. She is the final and we will have empty nest. But as you said, due to the things being cheaper especially in Dumaguete and with the wife having a good job, there really was no impact. I am one of the lucky ones in that aspect.
Same for me, I got a single mom but it's not a bad one as the video outlined. Mine is a widow with a bright and sweet13yo daughter and having 1 teenager boy myself, it's not a problem for me supporting.
I absolutely LOVE the little girl I adopted when I married her mother. I had a heart becoming a father to the fatherless, and I have not regretted my decision for one second!
That's great, I think adopting a child is different, because it didn't come from either you or your wife. But if you date a single mother she will procreate while you won't, and that's unfair.
I’m dating a single Filipina mom with 2 young children. My parents were Filipinos who emigrated and met in the US. They married and had me and two younger brothers. They divorced when I was quite young. My mother met then married an American who adopted me and my brothers. So I can relate to my girlfriend’s children and treat them as my own.
OK. I know this won't register but I'll give it a try...you are creating a fantasy world for yourself. I get it, she is a great woman. But you treating her and her husband's (assuming still married) kids as your own doesn't make it true. It's a fantasy. If you want to rationalize away the many Philippine laws you would be breaking as no big deal then I hope your luck holds up. There are millions of women to choose from. Breaking laws really isn't required. You're not hearing what Pea is trying to explain to you.
@@MrWaterbugdesign Not everyone lives a dictatorship life, some men have the balls to love a lonely little heart that certainly deserves it. But then again some just don't give a $hit that's more like your angle.😜😉🤔
@@MrWaterbugdesign I don’t live in a fantasy world. I live in real life. My girlfriend isn’t married, it’s not hard to verify. I’m an example of what Pea was referring to. My mother was a single Filipina with three kids. Although we were in the US, she dated an American, married him and he adopted us. I have no blood relation to my adoptive father, yet he acknowledges me to this day as his son. Nothing wrong about that. As far as breaking any laws, you can get the Republic Act 7610 and read the provision. Taking care of my girlfriend’s children falls within that Act so I’m not breaking any laws. The US has similar laws, was my father breaking any laws taking care of me and my brothers who at the time prior to our adoption wasn’t his? I have real life experience with the subject of this video. It isn’t a “fantasy”.
@@tattie278 most guys that do this sort of thing have a problem with relationships in general...so they do things like he's doing. He gets attention....but he also gets walked on.
My late wife had two children from two different fathers when we met. We brought them to Hawaii and today they are doing great. They gave us 5 grandsons to add to our own five grandchildren. My beautiful late wife gave me a wonderful 41 years of marriage and a loving family. I would defiantly do it all over again.
But why did you have to pay such a high price....when other two got it for damn near nothing. They didn't have to marry her. You accepted her with someone else's kids.....
I have and LDR for 1 year now with a single mom and let me tell you I never felt better in my life than now even if is long distance . October I'll fly to her ...I know there will be some of you who say that ldr is bs and more but how I see her is simply amazing.
I have been married to a former single Filipina mother for 10 years now. It has been a great experience. However, I have experienced EVERYTHING you described at one time or another. Starting with a 9 year old trying to get his stubby little nose under our bedroom door crying to sleep with mom. That dog don't hunt here! He also seemed to think he was in charge, perhaps based on his being the oldest Filipino male child in the household. One threat that seemed to work for a while was offering to send him back to Kuya and give Filipino discipline a chance to work. That was my first hint he really liked it in the USA.
A good video as always Pea. My beautiful fiancée was completely honest with me about her two children and her ex who is useless. She told me this right at the start of us chatting as she didn’t want any secrets. I’m happy to accept her children as my own. Her honesty is such a great trait. I’ve met many western women who were far from honest.
i am from the philippines and sadly, this is going to be a problem. a lot of people know the formula of "be honest about a little secret now, so you can hide the big secret later."
Very sound advice Pea! Dating a single mum is a minefield, dating someone who is still married - potentially a battlefield. I made the mistake of dating someone single in western terms, but “married” in Philippine terms. Here’s an idea for another video - ‘Single, married or Separated?” Danger lurks within for the lovelorn and naive. Trust someone who knows!
I'm petrified of being accused of something I didn't do to a child over there or anywhere really. If someone wanted to extort money or just get revenge it's their word against yours and your word is useless in a foreign country. I say stay away and let someone else handle it. Also make sure you are never ever left alone with a kid. And that goes for your home country too. Too many women over there to take risks. Such a shame that society has come to this because children crave real men in their lives, but I'm not going to be around them if there is a risk of me getting thrown in prison.
Some of you crack me up. Your fears rule you. Use fucking common sense. I have lived their and visited over 15 times. I have had not such fears of anything you indicatre. I've been alone with kids, women, single women, single women with kids, etc, etc. READ THE ENVIORMENT.
100 percent On Point. I am married to what was a single filipina mother, for me I enjoy getting to be a daddy again, and I have learned to accept all the curves that I get thrown, but I would definitely not encourage it, as it definitely does interfere with enjoying a new life together in what should be retirement, new beginning, ect. I had dreams of marrying a beautiful lady and traveling together, exploring many places here in the Philippines as well as many other Asian countries, living life to its fullest. But instead we are full time parents, and the only time we have alone is when we go to get my Visa extension every 60 days, we stay in a hotel for a night and leave the children with their grandparents. Although I would never change the life I have now, i could definitely see where most expats would not be happy with a single mother. Great topic Pea, thank you for your truthful content.
After marrying a single mother, I found out how deceptive she had been. But it got worse. Time, money and attention to my kids or anything other than her children were seen as threats. The deception, control, and vindictiveness only got worse with time. And that's your solution; time. Slow down your rush to marriage and watch her over time. She won't be able to hide her need for control, how she views you as nothing but a source. Time. Eyes wide open.
Agreed. Women's favorite strategy is love bombing, pretending to be broke or weak... Guys, check your ego when interacting with girls. If it's too good to be true, it usually is. Women have no control over their emotions and TIME is NOT on their side.
The only time to have a relationship with a single mother is... 1. When the child's father is not in their lives. 2. If you're ready to accept her kids in your life. 3. Accept that her kids come first. 4. No matter what the outcome is, accept the fact that the mom will always take her kid's side over yours. 5. When you know the real reason why she was separated from her kid's father.
7:38 or simply take her back home, and never have to face this problem again ;-) (I have only mentioned this Pea because I saw your video where you were encouraging guys to stay with their wives in the Philippines).
Very Important information my first girlfriend was a single mum and many of the issues you mentioned occurred I have to say on the plus side that kids bring so much joy and laughter into the home 😊
Well Pea that’s another great and informational video. The one I’m interested in has children and I always ask her how they are. I’m ready for an instant family, and I don’t mind supporting them all. Call me crazy but I love who I love and the children do come with her so I have to love them too. Salamat for this video and the information that came with it.
Hey Pea...I agree with most of what you've said on here..Pinays are not perfect but are definitely better than most options an average man will find here in the U.S...99% of expats are average people who are trying to live their best life. An honest, caring, and family oriented Pinay is a bonus to a more affordable, healthier life in the Philippines.
I’m dating a single mother and I’m one of the lucky guys her son is wonderful his biological father has visited him only once and so far it’s been great. Again thank you for the great information.very cute outfits
Single moms are the same everywhere. Talking to one recently near Taytay ... i ask her to close her eyes and imagine the perfect man for her. Tears come to her eyes and she tells me she was thinking of her childs' father. They will always have that bond. 10 years of your marriage can pass, he can text her once, and her bags will be packed before you get home from work. Protect yourself men.
Single moms are different in different countries. Just go to Thailand or even Cambodia for example. Only problem there is that quite often they don't care about their own children if their father was bad.
Father's absolutely beyond a shadow of a doubt love their children... it's the woman that they couldn't handle if the man leaves he doesn't leave the children he leaves the woman. 🙏
I had my late American partner who loves my only son so much more than his father. I was asking him if his okay living with me because I'm still married his answered was "yes as long as we live together and my ex doesn't bother us and we lived happy and contented unfortunately he passed but the important was he died happy.
@@78swats we don't have any issue at all I have only son. My ex husband doesn't have right to bother us because he was the one who cheated me with his cousin and they have a child. He can't sue me at all.
I love my Filipino Daughter. Her name is Princess Rhian.she is 12 and a daddies girl. She will never hear the word step Daughter out of my mouth. Once I get her to the U.S.A. she wants to be adopted. So Rhian can have the same last name as her mom and I. That will be such a honor to are Family last name.
One thing about picking a mother as a partner is that her baby is part of her body and no matter what you do for her or how many years you do it for her she'll love that baby more than you.. If you do absolutely everything to make her happy and the baby ends up being a burglar and a drug addict you are in second place. If she has 9 children , you are in 10th place.
2:13 I'm running from single mother's in America like that 😆. I know it's common for women my age (38) to already have kids. I know I shouldn't be picky but that's the problem I have in the US. Some of the women I dated have issues with their baby daddies and it never ends well with me. That's why I'm still single and not a father yet. not sure how well my luck will be in the Philippines but I may want to give it a try.
Thank you so much, for breaking this romantic illusion for all of us lonely Western men looking for a Filipina partner. In deep loneliness you often think that you could anything to be with someone, and this is dangerous.
My partner had just come out of abusive relationship many years prior to meeting me. She was offered a baby by a homeless lady. My partner agreed to take the child as long as the family agreed to sign all relevant paperwork to allow my partner to fully adopt the child. When I met my partner her adopted daughter was 10 years old. She is now 17 and I have joint custody of her. I have paid for her schooling and give her the things she needs for daily life. As far as I am concerned she is mine and my partners true daughter. She knows of her true families identity and I have the address of them should she ever want to meet them. But as present she is not wanting to even consider it. People often ask me if I had been in the same position as my partner would I have don’t the same thing. My answer is always 100% yes. I love my partner and my daughter so much. To anyone dating a Filipino with a child. If you are careful, stick to the laws and commit to your partner and her child it can be amazing for all parties.
I am in a 2 year (so far) long distance relationship with a Filipina widow with 4 adorable girls ranging in age from 7 to 16. She is OFW in Taiwan while her mom is in the Philippines raising her kids. Her husband passed away from cancer 7 years ago forcing her to find employment offshore where she could make more money. I am a father of 5 kids of my own and have no problem taking on her 4 girls. They already call me daddy and we do group video chats with mom regularly. Sometimes the oldest 3 girls will chat with at random and always greet me every morning and evening with a hello daddy! We have already bonded and I can't wait to meet my gf and the girls! I'll be coming to the Philippines as soon as my PRA agent obtains my EED and clears the way for my temporary visa so I can complete my SRRV in Manila around the end of 2021. I actually sought out a single mom because after my 5th child in my previous marriage, I decided to get fixed and thought it would be a deal-breaker to most single Filipinas that never had kids.
@@TheFilipinaPea you are correct, the EED is eliminated for existing SRRV holders wishing to return to the Philippines from another country but it's still a requirement for those of us applying for our SRRV for the very first time. We need an EED in order to obtain a temporary tourist visa to come to Manilla and complete the SRRV application process.
Bet she is cheating on you, and her kids don't really like you. The kids show disrespect to their real father to call you daddy, very strange. Wouldmyou like your own kids calling another man, daddy. I doubt it.
Wow Pea that's a very strong video , I agree with you, . I met my jawa 6 years ago she had an 11 year old son , we're still together and although we've had our problems the son has grown to be a wonderful person an now going to university . No regrets
Every one is different you can meet a filipina who is single but a gold digger you can meet a single mum filipina but she is a faithful and wonderful woman. Depends upon the situation
Mymy has a college age daughter who I interact with pretty regularly. She is a good kid and very smart. Mymy made sure I was aware of Marde strait away. She has a lot to be proud of.
I'm not really interested in dating advice or information. But I watched this whole video simply staring at your ear jewelry. Always good to see/hear you Pea.
When I first arrived in country, I met and dated a woman who was a single mom. It did not matter to me that she had a young daughter. We lived together for about two years. My girlfriend was a responsible and caring daughter. I tried to be a good step father to her daughter, but no matter what I did, we never had any connection. This was my first time dating a lady who had a child. It was a good overall learning experience for me, but in the end things did not work out. Lastly, I too felt like others have stated about being treated like a walking ATM. I moved on after several other relations and have a nice wife a two children.
Thank you for the sound advice. Before I thought I'd be okay with meeting a Filipina that had children, and becoming a family. But now I realize that's a hard way to go and that is not for me. Not with having just as many opportunities of getting with a single Filipina that has no kids. I don't want the baggage and drama that comes with kids that aren't mine. Thank you for letting me see the light and clearing this up for me.
Right on Pea. Gents, don't be too eager. I have these rules when meeting a Filipina online or offline. No kids. No I love you's. No labels. No drama. Set expectations early and you will be just fine. There are thousands of single Filipinas out there. Choose well and good luck!
Make sure you stick to that. I had it said to me by a 27 year old that never knew his biological father and had brought up as my own since he was 11. Like a knife to the heart and ended the relationship with his mother as she refused to back me up.
@@erniebell1858 Try throwing one of these bastards out without his mother backing them up. She wouldn't be a good mother if she didn't leave right behind them. Now you're back to square one. Best NOT TO INDULGE IN SINGLE MOMS AT ALL. Send a message to young women: MARRY BEFORE YOU CARRY.
@@spacecoasttactical I am so sorry. I don't know what to say, other than you kept your dignity. I hope you've found love (or at least happiness) again.
Well, regardless of the "single mom, good or bad?" discussion, the more the children are further from age 3, the more potential for that kind of response being used. At age 11... well, that's a total deal-breaker for me.
Yes, I’m afraid that most Filipinas don’t like me very much, because the culture here requires that I “be nice” instead of telling you the truth. I’d rather tell you the truth 😊
My partner has a girl, she has never met her father and alas he died several years back, it is with the greatest pleasure that at the age of 13, l took her under my wing, she is 17 now calls me Pa and l consider her my daughter, she is a an Honours Student and l am so proud of her. Tried to adopt her but Covid prolonged action, so we will change her name when she is 18 next year, I am truly blessed with Filipino Wife and Daughter.
Your most informative vid yet. Getting involved seriously with a single mother there sounds like too much trouble. If kids are going to keep me awake and interrupt time with mummy, they better be my own 😆
Yes,mdomt be a simp. I made that mistake in my early twenties... guess what happened - Most the single moms in the Philippines are broken, and chose to be single moms.
I actually want to date a single mom. I find it fair since I already have a daughter and grandson of my own and no longer want any more children. I was a single dad for many years and am more than willing to help a filipina with her children.
I raised two Philippino girls who adore me. They are grown up and my philippina wife left me. I would do it all again I love kids. My one rule is if the biological father is gone I am your dad now. The way to think about it is God has given you these kids so be grateful.
The dad is gone then I am the dad fine. Bringing kids to the UK was a killer the next time we stay in the Philippines. Take the yaya to the mall. I used to carry my girls around on my shoulders. Kids need fathers my two girls thrived on it on is a civil engineer in the UK and the other is graduating with her law degree in the uk this year. Responsibility gives life meaning lift a load.
All good points! An extremely important point (IMO) is that is the USA - NO ONE comes before the husband !! Not even the child!! and definitely not the wife's parents!! My Mother would always side with my Father in all issues - in the end. I didn't like it sometimes, but in retrospect I understand it and agree with it. The husband and wife's relationship is supposed to last, even when the kids move out. In a marriage of a single Mom and American man, the Mom has, of course, been with the child longer than with him - and so their devotion to the child is understandable. But no American man wants to be second to his step=child. Especially considering he is supporting everyone. This is a huge cultural difference and a land mine for future problems....... especially when the infatuation wears off! I appreciate this video. You can contact me if you want to speak to the man who has been scammed MORE than ANY other guy - by Filipinas (and people playing the part of a female.!!!) My bad but OUCH!
I'm currently talking to a single mom of four her husband left her five years for her childhood best friend ...she used to come over there house all the time and drink and have conversations with her only to have an affair with her ex husband... once she told me that story it definitely woke me up about the Philippines when I knew nothing about it...but we're having a great relationship so far I'm very careful I'm not jumping in nothin too crazy because I know most guys would run but I'm still trying to figure things out ... Because she's truly a good person
The older children of hers are in high school and I'm already attached to all three of the kids since we've been together 4 years. I have no issues with buying the electronic products the kids need since my girlfriend isn't working much because of the lock down in the Philippines.
Hi Mike, totally agree, my Fiancee has 3 kids, youngest is 15, these ladies are overlooked for a younger model often, for me these are the best chance for a long lasting natural relationship for life, not just arm candy for the older generations whom many have grandchildren of the same age
Same, my Filipina fiance has 3 kids eldest being 15, youngest is 5 years. The ex with freaking idiot, acheater. Hiding from her whole family. I buy her and her kids the things they need and upgrades. She such a sweet heart and her little one calls me all the time lmao. I love kids, and they deserve a father so kids isn't a disturbance to me. I taught catechism for children and have my associates for k-6 teaching education, I see children as blessings.
We have a LDR, her kids are older, why men need to have younger women who want kids, accept a ready made family with older children, I just put her daughter in a private Uni, she wanted to be a lawyer, now she study tourism, she is happy that she can do what she wants not feel pressured into a job she did not want to do but felt obliged.
Wow what timing! Right before this video I watched the video of the 5 -bedroom house for rent in Valencia! It had alot of space and I was thinking who would I have live with me? A place that big and open would kinda make me feel lonely at times! Another great video explaining Culture and possible situations with a single mother! My opinion and beliefs are that all children are gifts and blessings to us from God! Also with place like that you still be able to find some privacy and one bedroom could be kid's playroom especially on and for rainy days !
I'm 47 years old and married a woman with 3 kids. I'm divorcing her at the moment. I want to visit the Philippines for a nice 2 week vacation. Not looking for a new relationship or mess around with the bar girls. Would be nice to find a nice woman who I could with and go do fun things with but on a platonic level.
In the PI, there are a lot of kids, but remember the kids go to bed first and that will leave plenty of time for mom and the new dad. Take care of grandma and she will take care of the kids and you. Don't ask me how I know, but there is always a way :)
From my experience, its not worth it, raised 3 from a young age just to have them become Americanize and turn on me. I was told, you aren't our blood and you don't matter. I hope anyone else that will experience this, will have better luck. :)
That's not 'Americanized', that's nationalist. At the end, you are a white dude, you aren't blood, you aren't real family. You paid the price for thinking the grass was greener.
Never take care of another mans seed. No matter the race never get involved with single mothers. Unless you have the goals of being an instant minimalist.
Great advice ....... it's like buying a house at a bargain price ......buyer beware because you are going to encounter serious problems unless you know what you are doing and most guys haven't a clue !
6:49 Understand society has to protect children, however if you are in a relationship with a woman with children and live together… this is quite impossible to achieve. There will be times when woman is unavailable, like in bathroom and a child runs into kitchen where you are. The fact that this law exists and could be used by a woman or her ex against me is a deal breaker.
Thanks Pea for a great eye opening video. I was lucky to find a wife that had no children, I don’t know how things would have turned out if she had. We have our own children now which are grown up and gone now. Living in Dipolog part time I’ve picked up my wife’s nieces and nephews from school many times and never had a problem. Believe it or not the school says I’m the only one they trust to pick up the kids besides their mother or father.
11:03 I did, I did, and I did, thank you. And it's not lost on me how lucky I was. It could've gone south in a hurry at any point. But to my wife's credit, she was up front with me about her daughter the day we met. She was 5 y/o at the time. And she laid out all the details about who the father was and that he skipped out and hadn't heard from him in years. His loss. I fell in love with my stepdaughter almost as quickly as I fell in love with my wife. Nothing in this world is "happy ever after;" but we were happier than either of us probably expected -- for 42 years. My stepdaughter is quite successful and as far as I'm concerned she is my daughter. And I still have her even though my wife was called home to The Lord. She lives through my daughter and that gives me comfort.
Wow ,my daugther also is 5 when he first met my daughter and he treated my daughter like his own and talking about adoption but we will ask my daughter if she want it 😇😇 my daughter is very good daughter and respectful he calls him daddy too ,i hope my daughter and husband will have close relationship same as yours
This is definitely a "your mileage may vary" situation. It isn't fair to lump all single mothers into the category "more red flags than a Chinese parade" since I'm sure some are transparent about themselves while others are not. A guy must be very mindful and aware of the big picture if he's considering getting involved with a single mom. If she has been open about everything and he has vetted her thoroughly over the course of 6-12 months, then it will likely work out just fine for both. Unfortunately, there are many men who fail to see (or worse, disregard) the warning signs and fall into a trap they will later regret. Maintain an abundance mindset, exercise your options, and don't be so quick to 'wife up' someone who possess an ulterior motive.
This was very enlightning indeed! It is already not easy to date a single mom in our culture, because the child is always first choice, of course. But you told some aspects, I didn't was aware of: That you are not allowed to be alone with your gf's child. And that they really sleep together in one bed soooo long time. Thank you very much! Moreover I begin to think that your society does everything not to allow single mother's to have a second chance. Very sad..
@@TheFilipinaPea i can imagine why. Single moms want to find someone else to keep them accountable for their actions. They still want that alpha they desire but wants someone to take care of them. Had a single mom tell me she wants a baby with me. 🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea It's absolutely shameful that so many males are allowed to get away with saddling a woman with the complete financial responsibility for raising their children... Add the fact that it's EXTREMELY RARE that another Filipino MAN, is going to accept her and the child.. Praying that We can All find a GoOD solution to this Cultural problem.. Excellent subject matter As Always.. You have such a beautiful heart .. Ingat SiStar 💯🙏💯🕊💯❤👌😇
well, you could just say NO to the in bed thing my bro did to his pinoy wife when they had kids it made sense when she was nursing them as babies but after the boys were 18 mos ? IN THE BLOODY CRIB
Thank you Pea, I appreciate your wisdom. As you stated there are many moralistic dilemmas in dating a Fllipina single with or without kids, married women, etc... however, I am in the USA and my experiences with them are very loving, caring and generous relationships which means I have to be a big spender or provider. They can be gold diggers. The moment the generosity stops, the wonderful relationship weakens. Life and love will be a dream world, but generally ends in disaster when the man stops the big spending. As long as you fulfill her life with her expectations, the love never ends. The moment the love and giving changes, so will the commitments. I had several heart breaking Fillipina relationships. I had to go back to Asian-Chinese since I am Chinese. As most Chinese are frugal, and money hoarders, the mix with big spenders can be difficult. I do miss the beauty and charm of Fillipinas. Thank you for the reflections. Perhaps, there should be a Vlog on the mentality of the Fillipina women and their gold digging demands and how to survive living with them.
Brilliant Pea. The younger Philipinas are single mothers, but with wonderfully beautiful hearts... Thank you for the truth... 👏👏👏Greetings from South Africa
Important factor is how old the child(ren) is (are) and gender important too. Older boys are likely not to listen to a stepdad: 'you are not my father'.
Very true was married to a Colombiana and her son who came into my life when he was 11, caused our divorce about 6 years later because he did not want to listen to me , and constantly complained to his mom.
your ending always make me laugh, great video Pea. So much to think about, some of your points I never even considered. Thanks for keeping us informed on the Filipino perspective.
I met 'my Filipina' back in 1982 in the States. Yes, she had a 7-year-old daughter at the time. I at the time had no particular problem with her being a mom, nor did I have any problem raising someone who wasn't 'mine'. We ultimately got married, and are still together now some nearly 40 years later. Oh, and it was my salary that largely paid for her college education from 1991-1995 but hey--family helps family, diba?
My friends in the Philippines are having a close race with my friends in Mexico. Girls start here at 17 having babies, they end up with 4-5 children, and most of the time, the children have different fathers. 90% of the time.
I met a single Filipina mom online. We got married 14 years ago and adopted her son. He was 9 at the time. One of the best decisions I've ever made. During our visit in 2018i sat with my niece at the mall while her mom and my wife got a mesage. I did get strange looks and people stood close into they heard enough to know I wasn't abducting her. They would leave once she called me tito. Lol
My first question for the single mother is: What do YOU have to offer me? I can tell you the answers are usually not satisfactory. I am open to single mothers but the burden is on THEM to convince me how this relationship would be good for ME as a man.
Pea You Are Too Truthful To Be Good ! Always a Good Ending With You , So Clever ! Anyways , Many Thanks For All These Wonderful Tips About Single Moms With Baggage ! ! ! Yikes ! Not at All What I Will Be Looking For if I Come to The Philippines ! Not Worth it To Me ! Stay Blessed Pea
Your honesty is a lesson that the entire world would benefit from. I know you are sharing from your experience in your homeland, but there is a lot of good advice for every day life any where in this world. Thanks.
Oh my.. You cannot be alone with someone else's child just walking or going to the store. You definitely put a dent on dating a single mother. I have a good question for you Ms. Pea. You previously talked about "Common Law" marriage their when you are living with a Fililipina and "her child". So, on top of the bad situation.. It just got worse than ever. Thank you for your information.
If she is an independent single mother, her child is her first priority in life then you. Meaning... You need to love her child first or the child to like you in order to get into her life.
I'm 58, I'm not really interested to raise another child. But if she has one, it would be better than a girl who wanted me to give her a 'blue eyed' baby.
I was raised by my mother and my stepfather and my stepbrother . You're right and everything you've said I feel like I'm competing with the kids and it's killing me inside I feel like I want to give up
Thank you for your videos, you always give a helpful information about the Filipino way of life and understand better the traditions, I have a Filipina girlfriend and is helping me to understand her better.
I married a girl who was born in Vietnam, I met her in the the US and we lived in California, she was 10 years younger than me and we had 3 children together. One day I asked her why I was always third behind the kids and her family, she Immediately, without hestation replied "I was not her blood relative!" I think it must be an asian dynamic. So if you think you are going to be #1 after you get married... Good Luck!
I met my Filipina in 2014 and married in 2017. Three fantastic children from her past and all I can say is they are 100% a HUGE benefit to me as their father. Not only do I have no regrets, I feel the children have added an important type of love that only they can give. I have children from my past and they are all the same in my eyes. I can't imagine life without my little "monsters".
I've got the notification bell on and CAN'T WAIT for that one! The fact that Ms.Pea has prior experience with the place I would most likely call home is doubly amazing. Imagine having Ms Pea take you on a personal highland fling to the "City of Pines" OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG
Love the videos. I married and have been married for 5 years to a Filipina and we have 2 kids a 2 and a 4 year old with a 3rd on the way. Its comforting to learn the process I used for the most part is the same as the advice you have given others even though it has been years removed since finding her and marrying her. I'm happily learning mire about her culture through your videos and Old Dog's. You do compliment each other's channels very well. I do have some questions but will save them for another day. Until then we are praying for you, God's blessings be upon you, your loved ones and your work
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Another truthful video Pea on a very difficult topic, I am very close to my Filipinas 2 older children, it's very sad she wants our 2 young children to grow up without me, luckily the older siblings are helping the little ones (mine) understand that I'm not the terrible person she wants them to think I am...😥
Well done Pea!
Opppps
I am a handsome, tall and successful American man with blue eyes and good family values. If you ever decide you want to start a family and make strong healthy babies with a white American man, let's meet up. I'm Derek and YOU are a very unique woman
@@eternal_napalm6442 she dosent want u
I wanna know are you married???
My experience with western single mothers is you start off in 3rd place. Never give you the alone time with her to bond or really get to know them, kid is always joined at the hip. You're just starting from somebody else's saved game. If anything you get more attached to the kid and she'll try to hold that over your head to keep you around once you realize it'll never work.
That's not even bringing up the ex's drama.
From that experience....what has changed about you now?
I'd definitely be worried about that ex drama unless he's dead.
Ms Pea your assessment is spot on. A few years ago I dated a Filipina who had three young kids and it was as disaster. I visited she and her kids twice in the Philippines. She treated me like an ATM machine (and she got mad when I closed my checkbook). I found out the hard way that she was just looking for a sugar daddy. Even if she didn't have any children I am sure she would have treated me the same way. I'm currently with a Filipina who does not have any children and the relationship is awesome.
this is one GOOFY woman
Good Luck
Wowwwwww
That's single moms everywhere
Pea, you’re becoming famous in the Red Pill RUclips arena :-)
I love the way you care for Western men by telling the naked truth! You have integrity 🙏
Wow, thanks Andrew - I didn’t know that! 👍😊
@@TheFilipinaPea I second that😉😇
AGREED!!!
I guess She is telling All men.
@@TheFilipinaPea Your association and level of acceptance, admiration, and, dare I say it, Love and admiration you received from MTR and his primarily Black Male audience has earned you the status of a SAINT, a GODDESS among us.
I’ve been surporting a Filipino kid for the last 17 years even thought me and the mother broke up years ago. I sent him to pvt schools and he just graduated with honors from high school. He starts college this year. He knows and I know I changed his life . The little amount of money was well spent.
Should have let the father do his job.....
Better to do this than take it to the grave with you. Good job, hopefully he pays it forward
@John Grigg most likely he didn't care to try and do..... Like I said in another post....a pH woman will sleep with a pH man even if he's broke...but a broke foreigner will not be tolerated.
That was an honorable thing to do.
Empathy is one thing but guilt is another. Raising another mans seed is not normal unless you marry the mom.
Kamusta Pea, An excellent informative video as always. I have been married to a Filipina for 10 years. I realized that for me dating a woman with children would be a huge mistake and I am very happy that I never fell in love with a woman who already had children. To be honest, you pointed out even more reasons than I knew of and realized, I was totally shocked!! Even after 10 years of marriage to a Filipina and living in the Philippines 3 years before meeting my wife, I realize that you are so good and very more informative about women in the Philippines than anyone I have ever met. Heck, I never knew that taking someone's child to the mall is illegal, OMG!!! Can't even imagine the problems that alone causes every year!!! Pea, you deserve the success you have and I truly wish you the best and hope your channel grows further along with your success. It would be an honor to meet you the next time my wife and I are in the Philippines. God Bless and be safe, Jason & Maria
Wife was a single Mom. Great mom. Wonderful step daughter. She is in final year at silliman for physical therapy. Wife did an amazing job raising her and providing
I'm just chatting online and am finding great Filipinas who have been great wives and mothers. I stick to no kids, grown kids or widows. I'm finding accomplished women, dentists, doctors and landowners with homes as nice as my home in the US. Single already married moms are not the only option.
What age was her child when you two got together? Did it affect your living situation?
@@TheFilipinaPea She was 12. I have two children of my own from a previous marriage (non filipina but asian) Due to logistics we have only been able to be all together once. Both my kids are on their own now graduated and have jobs. She is the final and we will have empty nest. But as you said, due to the things being cheaper especially in Dumaguete and with the wife having a good job, there really was no impact. I am one of the lucky ones in that aspect.
@@MrWaterbugdesign Of all the expat remarks, yours makes the most sense.
Same for me, I got a single mom but it's not a bad one as the video outlined. Mine is a widow with a bright and sweet13yo daughter and having 1 teenager boy myself, it's not a problem for me supporting.
I absolutely LOVE the little girl I adopted when I married her mother. I had a heart becoming a father to the fatherless, and I have not regretted my decision for one second!
You are a wonderful person and the Lord will bless you for it
Congratulations
no risk no reward.
That's great, I think adopting a child is different, because it didn't come from either you or your wife. But if you date a single mother she will procreate while you won't, and that's unfair.
I’m dating a single Filipina mom with 2 young children. My parents were Filipinos who emigrated and met in the US. They married and had me and two younger brothers. They divorced when I was quite young. My mother met then married an American who adopted me and my brothers. So I can relate to my girlfriend’s children and treat them as my own.
A fascinating story, Richard 👍😊
OK. I know this won't register but I'll give it a try...you are creating a fantasy world for yourself. I get it, she is a great woman. But you treating her and her husband's (assuming still married) kids as your own doesn't make it true. It's a fantasy. If you want to rationalize away the many Philippine laws you would be breaking as no big deal then I hope your luck holds up. There are millions of women to choose from. Breaking laws really isn't required. You're not hearing what Pea is trying to explain to you.
@@MrWaterbugdesign Not everyone lives a dictatorship life, some men have the balls to love a lonely little heart that certainly deserves it. But then again some just don't give a $hit that's more like your angle.😜😉🤔
@@MrWaterbugdesign I don’t live in a fantasy world. I live in real life. My girlfriend isn’t married, it’s not hard to verify. I’m an example of what Pea was referring to. My mother was a single Filipina with three kids. Although we were in the US, she dated an American, married him and he adopted us. I have no blood relation to my adoptive father, yet he acknowledges me to this day as his son. Nothing wrong about that. As far as breaking any laws, you can get the Republic Act 7610 and read the provision. Taking care of my girlfriend’s children falls within that Act so I’m not breaking any laws. The US has similar laws, was my father breaking any laws taking care of me and my brothers who at the time prior to our adoption wasn’t his? I have real life experience with the subject of this video. It isn’t a “fantasy”.
Everything Pea just said is %100 spot on.I experienced dating a single mom of four, and let me tell ya single moms require a lot of financial support.
Lol 😂 it took you dating one to find that out. Glad u found out though.
Four???? 😂
John Grigg, I may be missing something, but why have you put yourself in this situation 🤦.
@@tattie278 most guys that do this sort of thing have a problem with relationships in general...so they do things like he's doing. He gets attention....but he also gets walked on.
@John Grigg Do your self a favor and Cut them loose, Let them see how much you help them out.
My late wife had two children from two different fathers when we met. We brought them to Hawaii and today they are doing great. They gave us 5 grandsons to add to our own five grandchildren. My beautiful late wife gave me a wonderful 41 years of marriage and a loving family. I would defiantly do it all over again.
But why did you have to pay such a high price....when other two got it for damn near nothing. They didn't have to marry her. You accepted her with someone else's kids.....
@@Shaolin91z yeah, but he's saying he's glad he did. Granted he may be an exception, but nevertheless it worked for him.
Rare today.
Yes exceedingly rare....
@@drj3604 I know what he's saying....but I just was asking the obvious question
This was an eye opener, Pea! Good episode.
Thanks much, Andrew - opening eyes is my specialty 😂
@@TheFilipinaPea Especially that final scene, when you pretend to take off your bikini top! My 70 year old eyes were wide open :)
Shocking !
And take note there are some Pinays who did an abortion just to say they are single and has no children.
I have and LDR for 1 year now with a single mom and let me tell you I never felt better in my life than now even if is long distance . October I'll fly to her ...I know there will be some of you who say that ldr is bs and more but how I see her is simply amazing.
I am hoping sir,u meet ur gurlfrend,,godbless,,
I wish you a life time of happiness.
Adding an echo effect to your voice. Taking it to another level Pea. You really are one of the most talented people on RUclips.
I feel like you have saved me from making many dangerous or bad decisions in my future endeavors in the Philippines. Thank you Pea
I have been married to a former single Filipina mother for 10 years now. It has been a great experience. However, I have experienced EVERYTHING you described at one time or another. Starting with a 9 year old trying to get his stubby little nose under our bedroom door crying to sleep with mom. That dog don't hunt here! He also seemed to think he was in charge, perhaps based on his being the oldest Filipino male child in the household. One threat that seemed to work for a while was offering to send him back to Kuya and give Filipino discipline a chance to work. That was my first hint he really liked it in the USA.
What is a former Filipina mom
Respect for laying down the law early on. Men that are true leaders in the home are in shortage at the moment.
A good video as always Pea. My beautiful fiancée was completely honest with me about her two children and her ex who is useless. She told me this right at the start of us chatting as she didn’t want any secrets. I’m happy to accept her children as my own. Her honesty is such a great trait. I’ve met many western women who were far from honest.
Finding a Filipina who doesn’t keep secrets is GOLDEN! ❤️👍
How do you solve the legal issues that Pea mentioned? You can not be with the kids when their mom is not around. Isn't it a huge risk?
@@TheFilipinaPea My Filipina is definitely a keeper
i am from the philippines and sadly, this is going to be a problem. a lot of people know the formula of "be honest about a little secret now, so you can hide the big secret later."
The big secret... lol 😂...a secret like she's only separated...but still married....or still sleeping with her husband occasionally.
Very sound advice Pea! Dating a single mum is a minefield, dating someone who is still married - potentially a battlefield. I made the mistake of dating someone single in western terms, but “married” in Philippine terms. Here’s an idea for another video - ‘Single, married or Separated?” Danger lurks within for the lovelorn and naive. Trust someone who knows!
I'm petrified of being accused of something I didn't do to a child over there or anywhere really. If someone wanted to extort money or just get revenge it's their word against yours and your word is useless in a foreign country. I say stay away and let someone else handle it. Also make sure you are never ever left alone with a kid. And that goes for your home country too. Too many women over there to take risks. Such a shame that society has come to this because children crave real men in their lives, but I'm not going to be around them if there is a risk of me getting thrown in prison.
yeah i agree,this stupid law is very descriminatory
Some of you crack me up. Your fears rule you. Use fucking common sense. I have lived their and visited over 15 times. I have had not such fears of anything you indicatre. I've been alone with kids, women, single women, single women with kids, etc, etc. READ THE ENVIORMENT.
@@BP7BlackPearl KKK YOU CAN GUESS THE FUTURE,ACUSATOON COMES REPENT!!!
@Nomen Nescio worst case you get extorted and jail...
@Nomen Nescio sometimes it is. Know the law. Plus these other men are talking about “FALSE” accusations that’s why they won’t be alone with a kid.
100 percent On Point. I am married to what was a single filipina mother, for me I enjoy getting to be a daddy again, and I have learned to accept all the curves that I get thrown, but I would definitely not encourage it, as it definitely does interfere with enjoying a new life together in what should be retirement, new beginning, ect. I had dreams of marrying a beautiful lady and traveling together, exploring many places here in the Philippines as well as many other Asian countries, living life to its fullest. But instead we are full time parents, and the only time we have alone is when we go to get my Visa extension every 60 days, we stay in a hotel for a night and leave the children with their grandparents. Although I would never change the life I have now, i could definitely see where most expats would not be happy with a single mother. Great topic Pea, thank you for your truthful content.
I’m a single dad. And I’m a great catch. Love happiness and a future doesn’t end once you become a parent.
A great catch in your dreams.
True
@@0bob0cya I’m tall dark handsome and a multi millionaire you figure it out and you’re a great catch because?
After marrying a single mother, I found out how deceptive she had been. But it got worse. Time, money and attention to my kids or anything other than her children were seen as threats. The deception, control, and vindictiveness only got worse with time. And that's your solution; time. Slow down your rush to marriage and watch her over time. She won't be able to hide her need for control, how she views you as nothing but a source. Time. Eyes wide open.
Agreed. Women's favorite strategy is love bombing, pretending to be broke or weak... Guys, check your ego when interacting with girls. If it's too good to be true, it usually is. Women have no control over their emotions and TIME is NOT on their side.
The only time to have a relationship with a single mother is...
1. When the child's father is not in their lives.
2. If you're ready to accept her kids in your life.
3. Accept that her kids come first.
4. No matter what the outcome is, accept the fact that the mom will always take her kid's side over yours.
5. When you know the real reason why she was separated from her kid's father.
7:38 or simply take her back home, and never have to face this problem again ;-) (I have only mentioned this Pea because I saw your video where you were encouraging guys to stay with their wives in the Philippines).
Very Important information my first girlfriend was a single mum and many of the issues you mentioned occurred
I have to say on the plus side that kids bring so much joy and laughter into the home 😊
Well Pea that’s another great and informational video.
The one I’m interested in has children and I always ask her how they are. I’m ready for an instant family, and I don’t mind supporting them all. Call me crazy but I love who I love and the children do come with her so I have to love them too. Salamat for this video and the information that came with it.
Hey Pea...I agree with most of what you've said on here..Pinays are not perfect but are definitely better than most options an average man will find here in the U.S...99% of expats are average people who are trying to live their best life. An honest, caring, and family oriented Pinay is a bonus to a more affordable, healthier life in the Philippines.
Thank you for telling us the whole story, the good and the bad. No sugar or spice. That's just another reason you are so beautiful
I’ll give it to ya raw, Frank 👍😊
I’m dating a single mother and I’m one of the lucky guys her son is wonderful his biological father has visited him only once and so far it’s been great. Again thank you for the great information.very cute outfits
why date a single mom ? bad choice ! you will never be #1
Lol 😂. You don't know if he's only visited once....he could be staying the night once a week for some "family time".
thanks for opening my eyes. I was thinking of dating and marrying a single mom but not any more. Thanks a million
Single moms are the same everywhere.
Talking to one recently near Taytay ... i ask her to close her eyes and imagine the perfect man for her. Tears come to her eyes and she tells me she was thinking of her childs' father.
They will always have that bond. 10 years of your marriage can pass, he can text her once, and her bags will be packed before you get home from work.
Protect yourself men.
Fortunately, you can just sidestep the problem by looking elsewhere 👍
Single moms are different in different countries. Just go to Thailand or even Cambodia for example. Only problem there is that quite often they don't care about their own children if their father was bad.
Single moms are just that, single moms... situations and their experiences will dictate their actions...
Father's absolutely beyond a shadow of a doubt love their children...
it's the woman that they couldn't handle if the man leaves he doesn't leave the children he leaves the woman. 🙏
Doesn't have to be a single mom to be in a relationship for years and all of a sudden leaves because the ex she really wanted calls her.
I had my late American partner who loves my only son so much more than his father. I was asking him if his okay living with me because I'm still married his answered was "yes as long as we live together and my ex doesn't bother us and we lived happy and contented unfortunately he passed but the important was he died happy.
I’m very sorry for your loss - he sounded like an amazing man ❤️
Blessings.
Sorry about your partner passing away. But what about the legal issues him staying with you and the kids?
I'm happy for you your so lucky sorry for your loss
@@78swats we don't have any issue at all I have only son. My ex husband doesn't have right to bother us because he was the one who cheated me with his cousin and they have a child. He can't sue me at all.
I love my Filipino Daughter. Her name is Princess Rhian.she is 12 and a daddies girl. She will never hear the word step Daughter out of my mouth. Once I get her to the U.S.A. she wants to be adopted. So Rhian can have the same last name as her mom and I. That will be such a honor to are Family last name.
Me, too! I don't use the word "step-daughter." She gets jealous when people other than her mother want my attention.
One thing about picking a mother as a partner is that her baby is part of her body and no matter what you do for her or how many years you do it for her she'll love that baby more than you.. If you do absolutely everything to make her happy and the baby ends up being a burglar and a drug addict you are in second place. If she has 9 children , you are in 10th place.
2:13 I'm running from single mother's in America like that 😆. I know it's common for women my age (38) to already have kids. I know I shouldn't be picky but that's the problem I have in the US. Some of the women I dated have issues with their baby daddies and it never ends well with me.
That's why I'm still single and not a father yet. not sure how well my luck will be in the Philippines but I may want to give it a try.
Thank you so much, for breaking this romantic illusion for all of us lonely Western men looking for a Filipina partner. In deep loneliness you often think that you could anything to be with someone, and this is dangerous.
My partner had just come out of abusive relationship many years prior to meeting me. She was offered a baby by a homeless lady. My partner agreed to take the child as long as the family agreed to sign all relevant paperwork to allow my partner to fully adopt the child. When I met my partner her adopted daughter was 10 years old. She is now 17 and I have joint custody of her. I have paid for her schooling and give her the things she needs for daily life. As far as I am concerned she is mine and my partners true daughter. She knows of her true families identity and I have the address of them should she ever want to meet them. But as present she is not wanting to even consider it. People often ask me if I had been in the same position as my partner would I have don’t the same thing. My answer is always 100% yes. I love my partner and my daughter so much.
To anyone dating a Filipino with a child. If you are careful, stick to the laws and commit to your partner and her child it can be amazing for all parties.
I am in a 2 year (so far) long distance relationship with a Filipina widow with 4 adorable girls ranging in age from 7 to 16. She is OFW in Taiwan while her mom is in the Philippines raising her kids. Her husband passed away from cancer 7 years ago forcing her to find employment offshore where she could make more money.
I am a father of 5 kids of my own and have no problem taking on her 4 girls. They already call me daddy and we do group video chats with mom regularly. Sometimes the oldest 3 girls will chat with at random and always greet me every morning and evening with a hello daddy! We have already bonded and I can't wait to meet my gf and the girls! I'll be coming to the Philippines as soon as my PRA agent obtains my EED and clears the way for my temporary visa so I can complete my SRRV in Manila around the end of 2021.
I actually sought out a single mom because after my 5th child in my previous marriage, I decided to get fixed and thought it would be a deal-breaker to most single Filipinas that never had kids.
Good news! The EED has just been eliminated - it’s no longer necessary!!
@@TheFilipinaPea I'll ask my agent and see what's next then. Thanks Pea, always a fountain of knowlege.
@@TheFilipinaPea you are correct, the EED is eliminated for existing SRRV holders wishing to return to the Philippines from another country but it's still a requirement for those of us applying for our SRRV for the very first time. We need an EED in order to obtain a temporary tourist visa to come to Manilla and complete the SRRV application process.
Bet she is cheating on you, and her kids don't really like you.
The kids show disrespect to their real father to call you daddy, very strange.
Wouldmyou like your own kids calling another man, daddy. I doubt it.
Saying it how it is, brilliant & with a GREAT ending.
Well done Miss Pea !
Your cultural insights are impressive. You also organize your points succinctly and provide a lot examples and content.
Wow Pea that's a very strong video , I agree with you, . I met my jawa 6 years ago she had an 11 year old son , we're still together and although we've had our problems the son has grown to be a wonderful person an now going to university . No regrets
Every one is different you can meet a filipina who is single but a gold digger you can meet a single mum filipina but she is a faithful and wonderful woman. Depends upon the situation
Wow, don't sound good to get in a relationship in the Philippines! 3rd person on the Totem pole isn't good! Whatever!
Mymy has a college age daughter who I interact with pretty regularly. She is a good kid and very smart. Mymy made sure I was aware of Marde strait away. She has a lot to be proud of.
Thanks for the "happy ending" Pea. The Fast Times at Ridgemont & Caddy Shack cut aways were hilarious!
Thanks! And I’ve got some new ones on the way 😂😉
@@TheFilipinaPeaHow about recreating Ursula Andress's entrance in Dr. No from 1962?
@@TheFilipinaPea the only thing that is missing is the dancing gopher! LOL
She knows American culture better than Americans.
She must have lived in the States. :)
BTW....philipinas swim in their clothes. They don't wear sexy bikinis. There you go breaking the rules again. Hahaha (mahal kita)
Thanks Pea for info. I now have a different perspective of dating a single Filipino mom..complicated is understatement.
I'm not really interested in dating advice or information. But I watched this whole video simply staring at your ear jewelry. Always good to see/hear you Pea.
"call it white knighting or call it stupidity" Pea, you are too funny!
It's called "simping".
The ending was hilarious! I love your honesty about subjects and how you pull any punches.
When I first arrived in country, I met and dated a woman who was a single mom. It did not matter to me that she had a young daughter. We lived together for about two years. My girlfriend was a responsible and caring daughter. I tried to be a good step father to her daughter, but no matter what I did, we never had any connection. This was my first time dating a lady who had a child. It was a good overall learning experience for me, but in the end things did not work out. Lastly, I too felt like others have stated about being treated like a walking ATM. I moved on after several other relations and have a nice wife a two children.
I am happy that you have learned from your experiences. I, unfortunately am in a situation like your former.
What I like the most in your videos, is that you always try to show the good and the bad in everything.
Thank you for the sound advice. Before I thought I'd be okay with meeting a Filipina that had children, and becoming a family. But now I realize that's a hard way to go and that is not for me. Not with having just as many opportunities of getting with a single Filipina that has no kids. I don't want the baggage and drama that comes with kids that aren't mine. Thank you for letting me see the light and clearing this up for me.
Thanks John - that’s what I’m here for 👍😊
@@TheFilipinaPea Yes you.are, Miss Pea. And you do an A+ Outstanding job every single time!! You are a treasure.
Right on Pea. Gents, don't be too eager. I have these rules when meeting a Filipina online or offline. No kids. No I love you's. No labels. No drama. Set expectations early and you will be just fine. There are thousands of single Filipinas out there. Choose well and good luck!
I would NEVER.
I will never give any one the power to use the “you aren’t my father” line on me.
Make sure you stick to that. I had it said to me by a 27 year old that never knew his biological father and had brought up as my own since he was 11. Like a knife to the heart and ended the relationship with his mother as she refused to back me up.
Why not? Just say, "You are right. However, remember who pays for everything and if you don't like it; the door is waiting for you."
@@erniebell1858 Try throwing one of these bastards out without his mother backing them up.
She wouldn't be a good mother if she didn't leave right behind them.
Now you're back to square one.
Best NOT TO INDULGE IN SINGLE MOMS AT ALL.
Send a message to young women: MARRY BEFORE YOU CARRY.
@@spacecoasttactical I am so sorry.
I don't know what to say, other than you kept your dignity. I hope you've found love (or at least happiness) again.
Well, regardless of the "single mom, good or bad?" discussion, the more the children are further from age 3, the more potential for that kind of response being used. At age 11... well, that's a total deal-breaker for me.
The Filipina I have been chatting with sent me a link about you being unfair to filipina...I said I follow her and trust you 💯
Yes, I’m afraid that most Filipinas don’t like me very much, because the culture here requires that I “be nice” instead of telling you the truth. I’d rather tell you the truth 😊
My partner has a girl, she has never met her father and alas he died several years back, it is with the greatest pleasure that at the age of 13, l took her under my wing, she is 17 now calls me Pa and l consider her my daughter, she is a an Honours Student and l am so proud of her. Tried to adopt her but Covid prolonged action, so we will change her name when she is 18 next year, I am truly blessed with Filipino Wife and Daughter.
I must take your advice very very seriously. Clear facts presented with no colored shadows...
Your most informative vid yet. Getting involved seriously with a single mother there sounds like too much trouble. If kids are going to keep me awake and interrupt time with mummy, they better be my own 😆
Yes,mdomt be a simp. I made that mistake in my early twenties... guess what happened -
Most the single moms in the Philippines are broken, and chose to be single moms.
I actually want to date a single mom. I find it fair since I already have a daughter and grandson of my own and no longer want any more children. I was a single dad for many years and am more than willing to help a filipina with her children.
Oh,really are you real ⁉️
Shouldn't be hard to find a 36 year old with kids. Good luck
You shouldn't have any problem Frank finding a single mummy that will love your assistance.
I raised two Philippino girls who adore me. They are grown up and my philippina wife left me. I would do it all again I love kids. My one rule is if the biological father is gone I am your dad now.
The way to think about it is God has given you these kids so be grateful.
Ahh..you have a good heart
The dad is gone then I am the dad fine. Bringing kids to the UK was a killer the next time we stay in the Philippines. Take the yaya to the mall. I used to carry my girls around on my shoulders. Kids need fathers my two girls thrived on it on is a civil engineer in the UK and the other is graduating with her law degree in the uk this year. Responsibility gives life meaning lift a load.
All good points! An extremely important point (IMO) is that is the USA - NO ONE comes before the husband !! Not even the child!! and definitely not the wife's parents!!
My Mother would always side with my Father in all issues - in the end. I didn't like it sometimes, but in retrospect I understand it and agree with it. The husband and wife's
relationship is supposed to last, even when the kids move out. In a marriage of a single Mom and American man, the Mom has, of course, been with the child longer than
with him - and so their devotion to the child is understandable. But no American man wants to be second to his step=child. Especially considering he is supporting everyone. This is a huge cultural difference and a land mine for future problems....... especially when the infatuation wears off! I appreciate this video. You can contact me if you want to speak
to the man who has been scammed MORE than ANY other guy - by Filipinas (and people playing the part of a female.!!!) My bad but OUCH!
A much needed video, Miss Pea. It seems like at least 90% of Filipinas I have met online or in person while in Asia were single moms.
Pea there's an old counseling method
"If you can talk someone out of marriage, they probably shouldn't be"
Good job, looking good,
I'm currently talking to a single mom of four her husband left her five years for her childhood best friend ...she used to come over there house all the time and drink and have conversations with her only to have an affair with her ex husband... once she told me that story it definitely woke me up about the Philippines when I knew nothing about it...but we're having a great relationship so far I'm very careful I'm not jumping in nothin too crazy because I know most guys would run but I'm still trying to figure things out ... Because she's truly a good person
The older children of hers are in high school and I'm already attached to all three of the kids since we've been together 4 years. I have no issues with buying the electronic products the kids need since my girlfriend isn't working much because of the lock down in the Philippines.
Hi Mike, totally agree, my Fiancee has 3 kids, youngest is 15, these ladies are overlooked for a younger model often, for me these are the best chance for a long lasting natural relationship for life, not just arm candy for the older generations whom many have grandchildren of the same age
Same, my Filipina fiance has 3 kids eldest being 15, youngest is 5 years. The ex with freaking idiot, acheater. Hiding from her whole family.
I buy her and her kids the things they need and upgrades. She such a sweet heart and her little one calls me all the time lmao. I love kids, and they deserve a father so kids isn't a disturbance to me. I taught catechism for children and have my associates for k-6 teaching education, I see children as blessings.
@@steveford2626 How do you solve the legal issues that Pea mentioned? You can not be with the kids when their mom is not around. Isn't it a huge risk?
We have a LDR, her kids are older, why men need to have younger women who want kids, accept a ready made family with older children, I just put her daughter in a private Uni, she wanted to be a lawyer, now she study tourism, she is happy that she can do what she wants not feel pressured into a job she did not want to do but felt obliged.
I don't want to finish someone else's job. I want to invest in my own legacy.
Wow what timing! Right before this video I watched the video of the 5 -bedroom house for rent in Valencia! It had alot of space and I was thinking who would I have live with me? A place that big and open would kinda make me feel lonely at times! Another great video explaining Culture and possible situations with a single mother! My opinion and beliefs are that all children are gifts and blessings to us from God! Also with place like that you still be able to find some privacy and one bedroom could be kid's playroom especially on and for rainy days !
I'm 47 years old and married a woman with 3 kids. I'm divorcing her at the moment. I want to visit the Philippines for a nice 2 week vacation. Not looking for a new relationship or mess around with the bar girls. Would be nice to find a nice woman who I could with and go do fun things with but on a platonic level.
In the PI, there are a lot of kids, but remember the kids go to bed first and that will leave plenty of time for mom and the new dad. Take care of grandma and she will take care of the kids and you. Don't ask me how I know, but there is always a way :)
One way is not to choose a lady with kids🤖
From my experience, its not worth it, raised 3 from a young age just to have them become Americanize and turn on me. I was told, you aren't our blood and you don't matter. I hope anyone else that will experience this, will have better luck. :)
I’ve had wonderful step kids. You had a bad marriage I can tell
Sad to hear!! Maybe thy will wise up
I’m so sorry, and I hope they regret their attitudes when they grow up (but I bet they won’t)
That's not 'Americanized', that's nationalist.
At the end, you are a white dude, you aren't blood, you aren't real family. You paid the price for thinking the grass was greener.
I would NEVER.
I will never give any one the power to use the “you aren’t my father” line on me.
Never take care of another mans seed. No matter the race never get involved with single mothers. Unless you have the goals of being an instant minimalist.
Great advice ....... it's like buying a house at a bargain price ......buyer beware because you are going to encounter serious problems unless you know what you are doing and most guys haven't a clue !
Napaka-Apt na Paksa, Pea ~ Ito ay Tunay na Suliranin o hindi bababa sa Ay Noong tumira ako Doon ~
Mahal Kita, Mahal Ko ~
6:49 Understand society has to protect children, however if you are in a relationship with a woman with children and live together… this is quite impossible to achieve. There will be times when woman is unavailable, like in bathroom and a child runs into kitchen where you are. The fact that this law exists and could be used by a woman or her ex against me is a deal breaker.
Thanks Pea for a great eye opening video. I was lucky to find a wife that had no children, I don’t know how things would have turned out if she had. We have our own children now which are grown up and gone now. Living in Dipolog part time I’ve picked up my wife’s nieces and nephews from school many times and never had a problem. Believe it or not the school says I’m the only one they trust to pick up the kids besides their mother or father.
You’re a very responsible man! Kudos 👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea thanks pea, just trying to do the right thing…plus I really enjoy it!
11:03 I did, I did, and I did, thank you. And it's not lost on me how lucky I was. It could've gone south in a hurry at any point. But to my wife's credit, she was up front with me about her daughter the day we met. She was 5 y/o at the time. And she laid out all the details about who the father was and that he skipped out and hadn't heard from him in years. His loss. I fell in love with my stepdaughter almost as quickly as I fell in love with my wife. Nothing in this world is "happy ever after;" but we were happier than either of us probably expected -- for 42 years. My stepdaughter is quite successful and as far as I'm concerned she is my daughter. And I still have her even though my wife was called home to The Lord. She lives through my daughter and that gives me comfort.
Wow ,my daugther also is 5 when he first met my daughter and he treated my daughter like his own and talking about adoption but we will ask my daughter if she want it 😇😇 my daughter is very good daughter and respectful he calls him daddy too ,i hope my daughter and husband will have close relationship same as yours
Great advice and you equally explain the dynamics of dating in the East VS. WEST ..
Thank you again Pea.As an Australianized Career minded Filipina.I really e joy your Vlogs.It is both honest and humorous. More power to you Sister.👍👍👍
This is definitely a "your mileage may vary" situation. It isn't fair to lump all single mothers into the category "more red flags than a Chinese parade" since I'm sure some are transparent about themselves while others are not. A guy must be very mindful and aware of the big picture if he's considering getting involved with a single mom. If she has been open about everything and he has vetted her thoroughly over the course of 6-12 months, then it will likely work out just fine for both. Unfortunately, there are many men who fail to see (or worse, disregard) the warning signs and fall into a trap they will later regret. Maintain an abundance mindset, exercise your options, and don't be so quick to 'wife up' someone who possess an ulterior motive.
Very enlightening and definitely worth my time, Thanks Pea. ( Your Hair is Mesmerizing)
Thanks so much, Donald 👍👍👍
This was very enlightning indeed! It is already not easy to date a single mom in our culture, because the child is always first choice, of course. But you told some aspects, I didn't was aware of: That you are not allowed to be alone with your gf's child.
And that they really sleep together in one bed soooo long time.
Thank you very much!
Moreover I begin to think that your society does everything not to allow single mother's to have a second chance. Very sad..
That’s true - there’s almost no support for single moms here
its exactly thee same in thailand too
@@TheFilipinaPea i can imagine why. Single moms want to find someone else to keep them accountable for their actions. They still want that alpha they desire but wants someone to take care of them. Had a single mom tell me she wants a baby with me. 🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea
It's absolutely shameful that so many males are allowed to get away with saddling a woman with the complete financial responsibility for raising their children...
Add the fact that it's EXTREMELY RARE that another Filipino MAN, is going to accept her and the child..
Praying that We can All find a GoOD solution to this Cultural problem..
Excellent subject matter As Always..
You have such a beautiful heart ..
Ingat SiStar 💯🙏💯🕊💯❤👌😇
well, you could just say NO to the in bed thing my bro did to his pinoy wife when they had kids it made sense when she was nursing them as babies but after the boys were 18 mos ? IN THE BLOODY CRIB
Thank you Pea, I appreciate your wisdom. As you stated there are many moralistic dilemmas in dating a Fllipina single with or without kids, married women, etc... however, I am in the USA and my experiences with them are very loving, caring and generous relationships which means I have to be a big spender or provider. They can be gold diggers. The moment the generosity stops, the wonderful relationship weakens. Life and love will be a dream world, but generally ends in disaster when the man stops the big spending. As long as you fulfill her life with her expectations, the love never ends. The moment the love and giving changes, so will the commitments. I had several heart breaking Fillipina relationships. I had to go back to Asian-Chinese since I am Chinese. As most Chinese are frugal, and money hoarders, the mix with big spenders can be difficult. I do miss the beauty and charm of Fillipinas. Thank you for the reflections. Perhaps, there should be a Vlog on the mentality of the Fillipina women and their gold digging demands and how to survive living with them.
Brilliant Pea. The younger Philipinas are single mothers, but with wonderfully beautiful hearts... Thank you for the truth... 👏👏👏Greetings from South Africa
Important factor is how old the child(ren) is (are) and gender important too. Older boys are likely not to listen to a stepdad: 'you are not my father'.
Very true was married to a Colombiana and her son who came into my life when he was 11, caused our divorce about 6 years later because he did not want to listen to me , and constantly complained to his mom.
your ending always make me laugh, great video Pea. So much to think about, some of your points I never even considered. Thanks for keeping us informed on the Filipino perspective.
I met 'my Filipina' back in 1982 in the States. Yes, she had a 7-year-old daughter at the time. I at the time had no particular problem with her being a mom, nor did I have any problem raising someone who wasn't 'mine'. We ultimately got married, and are still together now some nearly 40 years later. Oh, and it was my salary that largely paid for her college education from 1991-1995 but hey--family helps family, diba?
Correct.. Thats pilipino culture, hindi yata na explain😂😂
Your warnings are spot on and I will add one for the naive Westerners.. when it comes to dating in the Philippines.. don't shop online.
My friends in the Philippines are having a close race with my friends in Mexico. Girls start here at 17 having babies, they end up with 4-5 children, and most of the time, the children have different fathers. 90% of the time.
I met a single Filipina mom online. We got married 14 years ago and adopted her son. He was 9 at the time. One of the best decisions I've ever made.
During our visit in 2018i sat with my niece at the mall while her mom and my wife got a mesage. I did get strange looks and people stood close into they heard enough to know I wasn't abducting her. They would leave once she called me tito.
Lol
East or West, a guy really can't win dating and marrying a single mom. Thanks Pea, I hope you helped a bunch of guys from a life of misery.
My first question for the single mother is: What do YOU have to offer me? I can tell you the answers are usually not satisfactory. I am open to single mothers but the burden is on THEM to convince me how this relationship would be good for ME as a man.
Red Pill!!!!!
Pea You Are Too Truthful To Be Good ! Always a Good Ending With You , So Clever ! Anyways , Many Thanks For All These Wonderful Tips About
Single Moms With Baggage ! ! ! Yikes ! Not at All What I Will Be Looking For if I Come to The Philippines ! Not Worth it To Me ! Stay Blessed Pea
Your honesty is a lesson that the entire world would benefit from. I know you are sharing from your experience in your homeland, but there is a lot of good advice for every day life any where in this world. Thanks.
Oh my.. You cannot be alone with someone else's child just walking or going to the store. You definitely put a dent on dating a single mother. I have a good question for you Ms. Pea. You previously talked about "Common Law" marriage their when you are living with a Fililipina and "her child". So, on top of the bad situation.. It just got worse than ever. Thank you for your information.
I misunderstood that law - watch today’s video, where I ask Gracey about it 👍😊
If she is an independent single mother, her child is her first priority in life then you. Meaning... You need to love her child first or the child to like you in order to get into her life.
FTB in Jesus name..where the single ones no kids at
Don't be a Simp. You can do better.
I'm 58, I'm not really interested to raise another child. But if she has one, it would be better than a girl who wanted me to give her a 'blue eyed' baby.
Yes, there is that advantage 👍😊
I was raised by my mother and my stepfather and my stepbrother . You're right and everything you've said I feel like I'm competing with the kids and it's killing me inside I feel like I want to give up
Thank you for your videos, you always give a helpful information about the Filipino way of life and understand better the traditions, I have a Filipina girlfriend and is helping me to understand her better.
I married a girl who was born in Vietnam, I met her in the the US and we lived in California, she was 10 years younger than me and we had 3 children together. One day I asked her why I was always third behind the kids and her family, she Immediately, without hestation replied "I was not her blood relative!" I think it must be an asian dynamic. So if you think you are going to be #1 after you get married... Good Luck!
Sucks
Yet, she expects you to prioritize her first, I suppose.
😖
I met my Filipina in 2014 and married in 2017. Three fantastic children from her past and all I can say is they are 100% a HUGE benefit to me as their father. Not only do I have no regrets, I feel the children have added an important type of love that only they can give.
I have children from my past and they are all the same in my eyes. I can't imagine life without my little "monsters".
Copium.
I'd love to see you do a video about Baguio.
As soon as I can travel 👍
(I used to live there)
That’s where I want to move to as well.
I've got the notification bell on and CAN'T WAIT for that one!
The fact that Ms.Pea has prior experience with the place I would most likely call home is doubly amazing.
Imagine having Ms Pea take you on a personal highland fling to the "City of Pines"
OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG
Love the videos. I married and have been married for 5 years to a Filipina and we have 2 kids a 2 and a 4 year old with a 3rd on the way. Its comforting to learn the process I used for the most part is the same as the advice you have given others even though it has been years removed since finding her and marrying her. I'm happily learning mire about her culture through your videos and Old Dog's. You do compliment each other's channels very well. I do have some questions but will save them for another day. Until then we are praying for you, God's blessings be upon you, your loved ones and your work
Thanks so much for your support, Jon, and I’m so happy that you find my videos to be useful 👍👍👍❤️
Thanks for all you do! I know a lot of these topics are tough and it takes the right person to talk about them. You just so happen to be the right person!
Thanks again you provide an invaluable service.