How To Get Past Social Anxiety - 5 Effective Strategies
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
- HOW TO MANAGE SOCIAL ANXIETY // HOW TO GET PAST SOCIAL ANXIETY. Do you ever feel weird, awkward, uncomfortable, anxious, worried, self-conscious when going into social situations or ] even just thinking about going into one? If so, this is social anxiety - and different people experience it to greater or lesser extents. In this video I'm going to teach you about how to deal with social anxiety, how to go through anxiety, and how to not let these feelings of anxiety stop you or prevent you from showing up and doing things that you might actually really want to be doing.
So, if you ever struggle with getting anxious about any kind of social situation, watch this video for some key tips and strategies to keep this one from getting in your way.
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Which one of the 6 strategies are you going to try first?
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Keep it simple and easy Kate - set yourself up for success instead of overwhelm - and don't forget to be KIND to yourself! Any little step outside of your comfort zone is a big success.
The first six are pretty difficult, so I thought I’d start with #7. Love your content
I find it helpful to just sit or stand tall(from a more slouched posture for example)! I noticed when I change a posture, how I see things and feel changes too!:) hope it helps.
Love this video, especially the reality check that "it takes two to tango" and that awkwardness in social situations is not all one person's "fault."
Right Katharine? We put so much pressure and blame on ourselves if a conversation with a stranger isn't magical - but why do we think that's all on us? Many of us need to learn to be a lot easier on ourselves!
Great advice! I really liked your advice to just make it there, and then "allow yourself" to leave after a certain amount of time. Just convince yourself to go for 10 minutes, or 20 minutes. I have a tough time with social anxiety, and often times if I can just stick it out through the first 15, I realize I'm not going to die and I may actually enjoy myself ;-) Or I realize it isn't the place for me and I really should head home. Great video!
Yes! Love this so much. Take the pressure off and do what you can do - no more, no less.
Sometimes the "fake it until you make it" strategy helps me. I pretend like i'm not nervous or feeling awkward/uncomfortable. I take on this role as a confident "normal" person and act it out, and it works sometimes. But, it only takes someone/thing to do something that throws me off and i'm back to anxiety mode.
Yellie same 😂
Hi Julia, I really liked the video! I am a licensed therapist, and often tell my clients the same thing; they have the answers! It just involves some self-reflection and awareness to realize what has worked for them so they can continue implementing it to tackle the social anxiety. I appreciate you sharing videos, mental health awareness is definitely needed. I just began doing youtube videos as well. Hopefully us mental health professionals can continue sharing and helping out or community!
Your personality and positive attitude is just as powerfull as your councel, as a matter of fact it helps to open the door for you to be listened to. Thank you very much.
Such an amazing channel!! Thanks so much for all the valuable information! The story about the guy who volunteers before he gets called out is sooooo familiar! I used to sit in the front of the class just so I wouldn’t have to have the whole class stare back at me and if there were / are introductions to do I’ll be the first or second to do it. I just can’t stomach the anxiety of having to do it and not feeling ready
I am so glad to found your channel!🙏🏾🙏🏾 truly appreciating your content 😌
Great advices Julia! Also for all of you struggling I would like to share my personal story: had really bad social anxiety but then I decided that I want learn German and I actually moved to Austria to study and work without knowing anything or anyone there. That was a HUGE step and it was really hard and frightening at the beginning (was a really rough rocky road) but now I became so relaxed and made so much friends that I think about staying here permanently. Hope my experience will help someone to get over anxiety! It feels really good to be just relaxed and always yourself. Wish you all luck and success in overcoming this problem! Peace
Hi Julia. You are doing a great job by spreading the most precious knowledge to us. So much love from India
Briefly introducing myself to and chatting with someone in leadership before a meeting starts has helped at times in the past.
I wonder how could this wonderful channel have such a small number of subscribers
Something I found helpful was that anxiety and worrying about something that may happen is like living through the trauma twice.
Thank you!!!
What I do that sometimes works is I pick one of "my people" (I go with at least one, but most of the time it's more than that) and spend all or most of the time looking at them. I warn them before hand of my staring if I know I'll be triggered. If not they find out quickly.
I have not been able to find any advice on what to do if your mind goes numb in a social situation. This quite often happens to me, especially where there are intellectual extroverts around. I have a family weekend away coming up soon and I am not looking forward to being amongst people who are confident and articulate. I find my mind freezes through fear of not saying the right thing. It is almost like it happens automatically in the company of certain people. When I start to talk I find I cannot find the correct words I want to use quick enough and end up stuttering or shutting off the sentence quick followed by a numb, empty mind with nothing further to say. This is embarassing and frustrating because I would love to able to hold my own in a discussion, but cannot access the right words to do so. Is this a mental problem? Being a painter I have always been more comfortable expressing myself visually rather than verbally.
Is argue that trying to rely on going places that your uncomfortable with a person is just a safety blanket. The more you push to do stuff on your own is far far more beneficial.
Yes! And sometimes we need a little bit of a crutch first before we are strong enough to walk on our own.
Your so great 😁 and brilliant BRAVO 👏 for anther video your the best your so helpful and brilliant I solute to you xxxxxxxxxxxxx
I have phone anxiety, (talking) monday I had a couple of phone calls I needed to pick up and omg at the end of the day I was so stressed and low
What is it about phone calls that you find stressful Chantelle?
I guess it like not knowing whos on the otherside of the phone? like this was people from a crisis center and other people I do not know
I hate making phone calls. I always think that I will be bothering them and I hate that I can't see their face so I can read their reactions. Huge anxiety and I know it's a big obstacle for building friendships. OTOH, I question why the onus is on me to make the call, such as when I make a beginning connection with someone and they tell me to call them and I've given them my number, I think they are being "nice" to me, but not truly interested.
I also get phone anxiety. I often text when it would be better to call because I worry about saying the wrong thing. The worst is if I’ve forgotten an appointment and I’m feeling really guilty and stupid about it. Some people, such as the receptionist at my Doctor’s practice feel the need to politely reprimand me every time. I have memory problems which are probably a side effect of anxiety, depression and the medications that I take to treat my disorders. I understand that it is necessary to remind patients that it causes inconvenience to them when you forget an appointment but it adds to my anxiety because I feel so bad about it already.
I think those of us with a lot of social anxiety are hypervigilant of the non-verbal cues in a face to face conversation, constantly gauging the other person’s reactions to check whether we are saying “the right thing” which is why we can be extra uncomfortable on the phone.
I think Julia’s tips are probably useful in both face to face and telephone conversations. It can be reassuring sometimes to know that the other person can’t see me either and probably can’t tell that much about what I’m feeling. They can’t see me blushing and cowering on the other end! 😂
Hi I like your RUclips videos that's very very nice of you and I don't suffer for this illness or have you call it it's a question cuz my girlfriend has anxiety and I just want to know if Crystal met Works?
There is no way I could walk into a room like that with everyone looking at me back when I had social anxiety. I know what it is like to have really bad social anxiety, for most of my life. It can be painful for me when people say, "oh you're just shy." Or, "you should come out of your shell." No, no I'm not just shy, and if I could talk more I would. This was me for well more than 30 years, do you have any advice for guys in their 40s who lack social skills due to being, so called "shy", for decades?
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Hello, I came across your channel looking for some answers on something weird that happened to me yesterday and honestly I don't know what it is. But I felt like my mind was racing and it was hard to control. That something bad would happen, and I cry for the stupidest things. I don't know what is going on with me and I don't know how to deal with it again it was so scary to me. Sorry for ranting ma'am but I hope you maybe know what it is maybe?
Hi. I'm sorry for what you've been experiencing. I don't know how old you are, but I know when I was younger I felt that way during PMS. I'm now 58. Sometimes we can't control our emotions. PMS put me through hell, especially during my 40s. I never sought help and probably should have. I now experience times where I feel overwhelmed at the littlest things and feel like crying. It may be depression. If you continue to have these feelings, you might want to check with your doctor. There may be something going on that you're unaware of. Depression doesn't always mean sadness. Just a suggestion. I wish you the best.
@@sydludwig1826 I'm sorry you dealt with that for some long that sounds like hell ): but yeah it was close to my cycle I'm 17, but those negative thoughts go through my head every day now gotta go find a psychiatrist, and maybe it could have pmdd what you have? I mean it could be a lot of things us humans are so complicated
Aw, you're just a young thing. Thanks for your reply. I'm glad to hear that you are considering getting help. If you're experiencing negative thoughts so often, it could be more than PMDD, but I'm no doctor. I have a son with OCD, which is also associated with negative thoughts. I hope you're discussing this problem with your parents, because they can be a source of great support. They can help find a doctor for you. If you were my daughter I'd be on it right now. You shouldn't have to suffer. You're right, we humans are complicated. I hope you get well soon, honey. I'd love to hear about your progress in the near future. Good luck and get on it. Best wishes.
@@sydludwig1826 thank you ma'am!, I told my parents and they are helping me find one as we speak, drinking green tea and listening to these kinds of videos help me cope with whatever this is, but thank you for replying to my comment and helping me get out of my shell and finally tell my parents 🖤 you are really kind and I hope you are feeling good and have a wonderful day
I'm so glad you told your parents. I hope you've found a doctor, so you can begin healing. Thank you for your kind words. If I was any help to you, that makes me happy. It's so weird in this day and age that people from anywhere can connect with each other. I'm glad we connected. It's a wonderful thing. One never knows how reaching out to one person can really make an impact. You've melted my heart. You sound like a girl I'd like to know. I wish you happiness and well being always. Never stop reaching out when you feel helpless. I'm proud of you! Xo
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The best strategy: avoid all people
Sorry i must ask, your voice , does it shake ? When you speek