@@chadhagan6626 i did and even know first christmas woth chosen family i feel quality and so bad and yuck and i could not stop crying today and no idea why
I think another reason that I have such a hard time in January is that I get so excited for Christmas and I look forward to it for so long and then it’s over and I feel so sad that it’s over.
This year was the first time I've not gone to my toxic family on Christmas day. It's odd because I should've felt better but instead I felt this odd disconnect, which led to being depressed because my brain was expecting all the stress and toxicity but didn't get it. Family can be hard to navigate especially at the holidays. Hope you're all still fighting
As a person who has also started purposely spending holidays alone, I recommend finding new traditions like watching YOUR favorite movie that nobody else would want to see, or making YOUR favorite meal, etc. The first year is hard, but you have an opportunity to reshape the day however you want! That can be very empowering 💚💙💜
It can be hard at first because it's like you're in "combat mode" ready for a fight that never will come. The best thing I've found for this is to focus on what you want to do. If you have hobbies, engage in them more fully, if you like movies, pick out a number of them to watch, maybe even do some solo traveling to get you out of your routine. I grew up in a family where holidays were everything and we were always together no matter how annoyed we were with others. First time not participating in a holiday was stressful and I felt odd. Now, years later, I FRIGGIN LOVE IT!! I can do what I want, when I want with whomever I want. No more of this "OH? You're not coming to another holiday dysfunctional dinner? Well, ok, too bad you're going to miss out!!"
I always feel depressed and anxious from October to December, because I dread the holidays and family dynamics. Then after New Year I am able to get rid of all expectations and feel like my life is more my own without guilt or pressure. Winter Solstice reminds us that from December 22nd onward, each day *literally* gets brighter. Hope everyone hangs in there 💚💙💜
I do to, but I only really have to deal with that on Christmas eve and day. For this reason, I enjoy the time leading up to Christmas much more than Christmas itself.
God put it on my heart to tell you that He’s got His hand over all this right now and HE WILL take care of you. we’re all here for you. Great days are coming ahead!
I can relate to this on a low-intensity level. I don't really get depressed after the holidays, but I do kinda feel like I'm deflated once it's all said and done. It's a big month (or more) long buildup of decorating and planning and shopping and traveling into a packed intense few days of high interaction with people I love (and some I'm just ok with) that I don't see often. And then it's all just...over. It's like I was training to run a marathon and the day after my body doesn't want to do anything but veg out. And then there's the added humor of everyone being excited for the new year but knowing that the calendar changing over doesn't actually change anything. I nearly always need a day or two to just recuperate and get back in the swing of things. I'm so familiar with this feeling I've actually developed a tradition around it. I call it my last Christmas tradition. When the holidays are over the very last thing I do in relation to them is listen to the song "Christmas" by Blues Traveler. (fortunately, it doesn't get a lot of radio play lol). It's a bit of a melancholy song about wanting to get into the spirit of the season but struggling with it and eventually appreciating it for what it was. My experience usually isn't a direct 1:1 with the lyrics, but the buildup and gradual tapering off really mirrors how I feel this time of year and is my signal that Christmas is over and I can think about something else now.
Word. I listen to "Why Can't Every Day Be Like Christmas" by Elvis Presley and "Thanks For Christmas" by The Three Wise Men (aka XTC). I love the Christmas music that I own so it's helpful to go out on a couple of gems. Also, I try to remind myself that it's all gonna happen again in eleven months (which seems to go by in a heartbeat the older I get). 🙏
I know it sounds crazy, but I generally listen to Christmas music throughout the year to make me happy until next Christmas. Not 24/7, but at least 3 or 4 times a week for a few hours.
I never feel sad after the holidays are over. Quite the opposite in fact. I"m THRILLED after the holidays are over because now I can once again do what I want to do. No family expectations, no parties where I try to talk to boring people who have nothing to talk about but their work, none of this stupid pressure to "give money to some cause because it's the holidays and we'll spend 99% OR MORE of your donations on employees, sending 1% or less to those you really think you're helping" and more. Yeah I often feel like a Scrooge but honestly, the holidays are annoying to me and I can't wait for them to be OVER!
I am glad I have no expectations for the holidays, other than survive. As for the season it is towards the end of January into February, that I think is worst, when it is still cold and grey and it seems the days are not getting any longer.
To the person reading this. Life is amazing, be grateful for everything you have done and built, being grateful propelled me in my purpose beyond my wildest dreams. The moment I chose positive thoughts over negative and made positive thinking (autosuggestion - affirmations) part of my personality I transformed everything because it pushed me to stay optimistic while taking actions.
The post holiday blues are real!! hope you had a great new years though everyone. Christmas was the rare time that I was social with lots of people and New years too, now its back to normal life now.
I've avoided the slump by setting a very clear goals for myself, i was eager for the new year to start. I know setting goals is often not possible as it can be difficult to have any kind of clarity on what you should even be doing, but I recommend trying. Something that will challenge you.
This video came at the perfect time! I’ve been so anxious and stressed since the holiday season has started. I’m very glad that this video was uploaded when it was :) thank you
The holidays for me used to bring me dread for years until I realised I had the entire holidays to look at how far I had come, and figure out what I was going to do with the next 365 opportunities ahead of me. I stopped looking back and regretting I learned to look at my past mistakes as lessons.
I like to share that my depression was very bad over Christmas. and on new year s Eve watching the new year s count down. on tv because I couldn't go out because I spent all Christmas being unwell. and I was very emotional and my moods was bad I didn't even care about anything .over Christmas still feeling my depression now after new year. trying my best to mange it January is a start of a New year. I can only hope this new year brings some good to all of us thank. you kati for this important video you shared with us much ❤️
I've had the post Christmas blues since as far back as I can remember. In my family the festive season starts in October with multiple birthdays and Halloween in the same month, not to forget the weather finally starts to cool off here in the midwest and you can go outside without feeling like you're being suffocated by satan's jock strap. And in November there's more birthdays and of course Turkey day which kicks off to the Christmas season. And with all that going on there's usually a few get togethers for football games and whatnot. And then all too quickly it's over and there's months of not much of anything going on. Now I actually enjoy the winter time with the cold and the snow but there's rarely anything of note going on. And while I appreciate the spring it's really like a week maybe 2 of nice weather then it's months of hot and humid weather and before I go outside I have to slap on a ton of sunscreen and bug spray to keep from being burned to crisp and eaten alive by bugs out here in the country!
I didn't watch any of the happy merry holly jolly Christmas shows this year. They don't cheer me up, instead they feel like unreal expectations and I don't need any more of those, thank you! Something like Gremlins is more to my holiday liking. I am taking a vitamin D + calcium supplement. Another reason to take vitamin D is that your body needs it for absorbing calcium. Seems to help with the SAD.
Hi Kati! I hope you are doing well/better. I usually get post Christmas blues. I love the anticipation of Christmas more than the actual Christmas day. But for some reason this past Christmas season didn't really feel like Christmas. We had a decently holiday, I decorated my room for Christmas more than ever. I suppose for me, I love the Christmas lights. That may be one of my favorite things about it...so of course come January, it is all taken down and nothing else to look forward to. To anyone reading this, remember you are a worthy and valued person. You are worthy and deserving of love and belonging. ❤
I needed to hear this, now it all makes sense. My family members passed in 2014 & 2015 and it just feels empty. I decorate & try to reflect on the current situation in a positive light. "Let Heaven & Nature Sing", All is calm, all is bright, etc.I then visualize the good times & years we had. I've been focusing on the family & friends are now together in heaven and that would make them happy. You have to retrain your brain.
I always feel extreme loneliness and depression during and after the holidays because I work abroad on a different calender, so my holidays never overlap with holidays back home... Usually I can just suck it up and wait for my annual trip home, but due to the pandemic, I haven't been home in over 3 years, and thanks to this new variant, I don't see international travel restrictions being lifted in time for me to make the trip this year either. It just sucks watching children grow up and parents grow old through a screen...
I wish I watched this video sooner. I had been feeling so down after the holidays that I couldn’t get out of bed to go to work for about a week. This was very helpful
This is the first November-january period I haven't been depressed or full of anxiety in about 10 years. This is a difficult time of year for so many of us (we in the southern hemisphere can't attribute it to lack of sunshine). Another great video. Thanks Kati and Sean.
The family thing is the biggest issue for me. I live with my parents but during the holidays Im forced to see and spend more time with them when I d rather be using that time to get away
There has to be some advantages to living in southern hemisphere, January being middle of summer definitely helps. Viktor Frankl's work is extraordinary, thanks for this wonderful analysis Kati.
Taking time off during Christmas week is a trigger for this. It's a matter of not having enough things to fill my time. I spent the last 3 months prepping for winter, raking and cleaning up leaves, winterizing the house, then family gatherings at Thanksgiving, decorating, shopping, attending parties, cooking, Christmas eve/Day family events........and then suddenly nothing - it all stops. It all screeches to a halt and I'm faced with the reality of putting all the Christmas stuff away and a long winter ahead shadowed by the workload at my job.
Yup, I enjoyed Christmas very much with my family with my in laws and out laws lol. I hated to see everyone go home.but now Iam sad. Plus a lot of uncertainty in this crazy ass world, and the new year ahead.
This seasonal blues is not something I experience much, but for me it’s just kind of sad after Christmas, because all the Christmas lights are gone, and there is no fun holiday to look forward to anymore. Then it’s just cold, desolate winter for another three months (I live in Wisconsin, and it’s essentially still winter in March). To somewhat combat this, my husband and I have gone to the Wisconsin Dells in February or early March, to an indoor waterpark, as something to look forward to near the end of winter. We didn’t go last year because of the pandemic, and in 2020, it was just around the surge of the pandemic, so we didn’t go then either. This year it’s still a pandemic, and our baby is due next month anyway, so we have that to look forward to.
Note to self I need to accept & tolerate the chaotic challenging period of the Xmas/New Year festive season to appreciate the more quieter days that follow afterwards because I have given up trying to question why we even need the festive season particularly Christmas day
Thank you so much Kati!! This really helps. Me and my older brother are dealing with this seasonal depression ourselves. Even tho I'm helping myself one day at a time by getting more sunlight/working out/being productive. My older brother is dealing with his moods as well now that he working etc. Wishing you and your family a great year ❤
Thank you for these videos Kati, it's good to have these experiences normalized. I don't comment much but I have to say that the video quality and warm color grading is really nice on this one!
Yes it is real!! Thank you for doing this topic!! I really hate the way I feel right now.. Yes without 2 loved ones mom and wife died within 3 months of each other.
I hope everyone is doing OK! This is something that it’s helping because we have something in common. I hope everyone is doing better ❤❤ sad feelings are temporary and we can build ourselves up. It’s the hardest time of year for me after Christmas and each year I need to remind myself that it’s going to be okay. I hope each and everyone reads this message . It’s temporary feelings of sadness or despair but it’s good to get out in the sunshine 😊 I hope each and everybody knows how important they are and sad feelings are temporary. Much love to each and everyone. ❤❤
Back to January 2004 the January Blues hit me when Christmas decorations packed away and going back to college in Macclesfield UK, but got worse 2 weeks later
small rant but i do have an answer for "why do you feel sad after the holidays" imagine that your favorite content creator that you looked up to as inspiration gets exposed for some awful things (groomer, toxic person, etc) and now you feel your heart shatter in pieces. and imagine it happens right on christmas day too!
This is part of why I'm very wary of putting anyone with any kind of fame on a pedestal. You don't know them personally so you have no idea who they really are as a person.
Kati knows the lack of styling and colouring that made her feel drab during lockdown has allowed her hair to grow thicker. She has even applied blusher and a lovely red nail polish. This lady knows she looks good hence taking the time to achieve the sleek straightness of her hair and extra attention to make up. I don't know why I've said this considering the worthy subject matter. I guess it's because there will be complimentary comments saying "Kati,your hair looks great!" as if the lady doesn't know. She feels happier and more content, hence the bloopers at the end, She knows her mistakes won't diminish her, she's beautiful so no one will care. I wish you would address this subject matter in a video Kati, about how ppl who are perceived to be more physically attractive have the "halo effect" and an easier more enjoyable life than ppl who are considered to be less commercially attractive. I feel the standards for female beauty as depicted in the media are racistx without ppl realising, white ladies are generally depicted as the love interest in films. Also these standards are getting ever higher, girls feel they need to look like the airbrushed pictures of their favourite celebrities which means not eating enough. The statistics for eating disorders are rising for teenage boys aswell as girls. I feel social media has contributed entirely to this as teenagex girls are expected to take perfect selfies ( with the help of filters ) and the pressure put on young women to meet an idealised stereotypical standard of "beauty " is now out of control. The BBL (Brazilian butt lift) is now the most requested surgical procedure which is highly dangerous. Older teenagers are expected not just to be slimmer than is healthy but to somehow have a full booty and big but pert b**bs . This body type does not exist. It even defies gravity. It is a construct created by plastic surgery that is pleasing to the male eye. It makes me angry that other cultures of women are excluded from what is universally considered to be what is commercially beautiful. Women of all ethnicities are stunning but what are young girls of other ethnicities supposed to think of themselves when their image is conspicuous by its absence in the superficial arena of Instagram influencers? Young girls who fit the mould are praised and those who don't aesthetically fit the required mould are bullied constantly or ignored completely. How are they meant to feel happy and secure in their own skin? What's social media and media in general telling today's young women? What about their personality, heritage, intelligence, their dreams? I just wonder how far these toxic beauty standards will continue to get more flawless and therefore more removed from what real young women actually look like. Why aren't young girls allowed to just be thenselves? I would really like to see all video in this the future when you have time please Kati 👍🌷 xx
I had a long reply but erased it all after seeing your photo and seeing your channel, where you apparently only have your body in underwear to offer. Sorry but you are a part of the problem you are talking about. Anyway have a nice day
Hi Kati! The most annoying part about Christmas was my mom saying “this is supposed to me a happy time “ All together we had 11 people in our house and that was overwhelming
thank you sm for this❤️ it feels way better to understand these kinda things, you’re such an underrated RUclipsr !! Hope you have a great and safe new year :)
@@candacedawn357 true but that doesn’t mean she isn’t underrated, some tiktokers do the bare minimum and get millions of subscribers and views. Ppl like Kati deserve more as she’s giving us really helpful/educational information.
I was depressed before, during and after. I have no idea why, I try my best for my kids but I couldn’t muster up any real enthusiasm! The new year sucked though, my dad died 💔
I always get really depressed now after Christmas is over and I think just getting through holidays has burned me out. My mom’s birthday was in January and now it’s coming up. I need to remember how lucky I am and it’s just different for everyone
Its summer right now, and I'm anxious about the winter returning. I've realised that my mental health is generally allways worse in the winter months, and while I used to enjoy cozying up by the fire, I am now dreading the thought of feeling trapped at home. I was in Florida recently and ideally I would spend some time there every fall and every winter after Christmas ends. I don't think anything will cure post Christmas seasonal depression, and I think everyone up north goes through it to a degree. Those old churches should have made Christmas a month later
I usually feel down on holidays because I don't have any friends, I'm single, and my family is broken beyond repair. My parents are divorced, most of my immediate family aren't nice people and some of them I haven't even met before nd they all live within a couple miles from me. Most of the time I end up spending holidays alone or just with 1 parent and my siblings. Listening to music definitely helps me forget how lonely it is when you know you used to have people to spend time with
I feel really depressed after the holidays. It's Dec 31st and my seasonal depression is bad. I got a Happy Light and have been supplementing with Vitamin D and St Johns Wort every day but I definitely am feeling disappointment. I miss my family and friends. I moved this year to a new town ❤And it's been hard.
I mean, I'm pretty sure I'm depressed after the holidays because I've been deadnamed and misgendered a lot at my families home and people were a lot like "You do you but don't expect me to change" after me coming out as non-binary. Now where I formerly was still holding it together at work where my chef has been deadnaming me as well, I now dread going back so much. And that all just makes me really sad.
That’s very upsetting, I’m sorry. They may come to understand how to not do that over time, or they may not. I hope the rest of the time of the year you are able to surround yourself with people who support you and your journey💚💙💜
This Christmas I really didn’t get into the spirit as much because my grandma passed away in July and it was a different Christmas for my family and I😰. But my mom,sister and myself including went to the cemetery and had a cry together so we could get it all out and enjoy the evening. I probably shouldn’t have laughed when you said “maybe you have to spend the holidays with you’re alcoholic uncle” 🤦🏽♀️😅. I understand that! This video was really helpful! I loved the bloopers at the end of the video btw😜😂!
The holiday day season doesn't end until January is over for me, but I am still depressed if everyone else wants to end it and take down the decorations for Valentines day.
My husband and I live in Germany and the rest of our family and friends are in the US so there was no pressure to get together on the holidays, which was nice. It was depressing though because my husband has multiple chronic illnesses and he felt especially bad (he hasn't been able to leave our apartment in months) so it was more like just another Saturday. Being a caregiver can be a very isolating experience.
This is such incredible insight. Thank you for normalizing this experience and bringing awareness to it 🙏🏼♥️
You're welcome and I'm glad you enjoyed it! xoxox
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Yeah I stressed about the holiday depression back in November
Did you do the same thing
@@chadhagan6626 i did and even know first christmas woth chosen family i feel quality and so bad and yuck and i could not stop crying today and no idea why
@@allywatson1555 is anything alright
Not me, I’m SO HAPPY that stupid circus is over. Holidays suck.
I think another reason that I have such a hard time in January is that I get so excited for Christmas and I look forward to it for so long and then it’s over and I feel so sad that it’s over.
Exactly
I’m crying right now
Man, I appreciate this video. I've been feeling terrible.
Hi Stephen I'm glad this video could help a little bit. :)
This year was the first time I've not gone to my toxic family on Christmas day. It's odd because I should've felt better but instead I felt this odd disconnect, which led to being depressed because my brain was expecting all the stress and toxicity but didn't get it. Family can be hard to navigate especially at the holidays. Hope you're all still fighting
I was solo for Christmas. I didn't want to be around my toxic mother. Having less chaos in your life is a good thing!
As a person who has also started purposely spending holidays alone, I recommend finding new traditions like watching YOUR favorite movie that nobody else would want to see, or making YOUR favorite meal, etc. The first year is hard, but you have an opportunity to reshape the day however you want! That can be very empowering 💚💙💜
It can be hard at first because it's like you're in "combat mode" ready for a fight that never will come. The best thing I've found for this is to focus on what you want to do. If you have hobbies, engage in them more fully, if you like movies, pick out a number of them to watch, maybe even do some solo traveling to get you out of your routine.
I grew up in a family where holidays were everything and we were always together no matter how annoyed we were with others. First time not participating in a holiday was stressful and I felt odd. Now, years later, I FRIGGIN LOVE IT!! I can do what I want, when I want with whomever I want. No more of this "OH? You're not coming to another holiday dysfunctional dinner? Well, ok, too bad you're going to miss out!!"
I always feel depressed and anxious from October to December, because I dread the holidays and family dynamics. Then after New Year I am able to get rid of all expectations and feel like my life is more my own without guilt or pressure. Winter Solstice reminds us that from December 22nd onward, each day *literally* gets brighter. Hope everyone hangs in there 💚💙💜
That’s a really helpful way of looking at it. I dread family dynamics with such fear
I do to, but I only really have to deal with that on Christmas eve and day. For this reason, I enjoy the time leading up to Christmas much more than Christmas itself.
I usually feel a little down after the holidays, but I have a new job that I'm starting in January that's keeping me going.
Good luck!
God put it on my heart to tell you that He’s got His hand over all this right now and HE WILL take care of you. we’re all here for you. Great days are coming ahead!
Cuddling pets and having nurturing routines helps. Sending hugs out to anyone who is struggling as a new year begins 💖
The thing for me is the pressure of interaction. Being an introvert person that in itself is enough to bring on stress.
So relative right and on point. This week has been so hard. Thank you Kati and Sean!
You are so welcome!
I can relate to this on a low-intensity level. I don't really get depressed after the holidays, but I do kinda feel like I'm deflated once it's all said and done. It's a big month (or more) long buildup of decorating and planning and shopping and traveling into a packed intense few days of high interaction with people I love (and some I'm just ok with) that I don't see often. And then it's all just...over. It's like I was training to run a marathon and the day after my body doesn't want to do anything but veg out. And then there's the added humor of everyone being excited for the new year but knowing that the calendar changing over doesn't actually change anything. I nearly always need a day or two to just recuperate and get back in the swing of things.
I'm so familiar with this feeling I've actually developed a tradition around it. I call it my last Christmas tradition. When the holidays are over the very last thing I do in relation to them is listen to the song "Christmas" by Blues Traveler. (fortunately, it doesn't get a lot of radio play lol). It's a bit of a melancholy song about wanting to get into the spirit of the season but struggling with it and eventually appreciating it for what it was. My experience usually isn't a direct 1:1 with the lyrics, but the buildup and gradual tapering off really mirrors how I feel this time of year and is my signal that Christmas is over and I can think about something else now.
I like your last Christmas ritual with the song. I'll try it. Thanks 👍
@@vivsgm7538 Hope you like it!
Word. I listen to "Why Can't Every Day Be Like Christmas" by Elvis Presley and "Thanks For Christmas" by The Three Wise Men (aka XTC). I love the Christmas music that I own so it's helpful to go out on a couple of gems. Also, I try to remind myself that it's all gonna happen again in eleven months (which seems to go by in a heartbeat the older I get). 🙏
I know it sounds crazy, but I generally listen to Christmas music throughout the year to make me happy until next Christmas. Not 24/7, but at least 3 or 4 times a week for a few hours.
Immediately clicked. This is how I feel.
Omg same
Same
I am so sorry you're going through this.. and I hope the video is helpful!! xoxo
@@Katimorton thank you Kati! You always make great videos! I’m so glad I found you!
I never feel sad after the holidays are over. Quite the opposite in fact. I"m THRILLED after the holidays are over because now I can once again do what I want to do. No family expectations, no parties where I try to talk to boring people who have nothing to talk about but their work, none of this stupid pressure to "give money to some cause because it's the holidays and we'll spend 99% OR MORE of your donations on employees, sending 1% or less to those you really think you're helping" and more. Yeah I often feel like a Scrooge but honestly, the holidays are annoying to me and I can't wait for them to be OVER!
Man your the definition of Scrooge!
I am glad I have no expectations for the holidays, other than survive. As for the season it is towards the end of January into February, that I think is worst, when it is still cold and grey and it seems the days are not getting any longer.
To the person reading this. Life is amazing, be grateful for everything you have done and built, being grateful propelled me in my purpose beyond my wildest dreams. The moment I chose positive thoughts over negative and made positive thinking (autosuggestion - affirmations) part of my personality I transformed everything because it pushed me to stay optimistic while taking actions.
The post holiday blues are real!! hope you had a great new years though everyone. Christmas was the rare time that I was social with lots of people and New years too, now its back to normal life now.
I've avoided the slump by setting a very clear goals for myself, i was eager for the new year to start. I know setting goals is often not possible as it can be difficult to have any kind of clarity on what you should even be doing, but I recommend trying. Something that will challenge you.
I like this!
I'm most depressed DURING the holidays. After the holidays is kind of a relief.
I am so happy you came out with this video, I was thinking about this a lot!
I hope it's helpful!! xoxo
This makes so much sense I needed this. I’ve been going through this for years. It dives deep into the human psyche that believe or not, we all share.
This video came at the perfect time! I’ve been so anxious and stressed since the holiday season has started. I’m very glad that this video was uploaded when it was :) thank you
I'm so glad! Thank you for leaving your comment Gabi :)
Thanks Kati, I fight depression during the holidays from childhood trauma. I always hoped for happy holidays as a child but it was always opposite.
What is your favourite holiday? How do you fight with depression??
Ever since I moved to south Florida I have never felt depressed or down after the holidays. The sun has amazing powers!
Exactly. Most of people's depression is because winter in the north simply sucks after the Christmas season is over.
Had all this and Covid. So my holiday week was incredibly disrupted. Taking an extra week from work just to mentally get balanced.
I had covid for Christmas last year! My husband didn't so we spent it separated and both isolated. I know the feeling. Hope you are doing well now!
Thank you Kati. January is always hard for me. This is very helpful.
You're so welcome Christy :) Hope that this week is off to a good start :) :)
If you're alone during the holidays, depression may not wait until after, especially if you never had a proper family in the first place.
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I'm sorry, sending you digital hugs of you want them.
Thank you for your insights Kati. You always seem to know just when to put up the right video at the right time.
Glad it was helpful!
The holidays for me used to bring me dread for years until I realised I had the entire holidays to look at how far I had come, and figure out what I was going to do with the next 365 opportunities ahead of me. I stopped looking back and regretting I learned to look at my past mistakes as lessons.
That's a great way to think about it!
I was just asking myself that same question last couple days. Thanks Kati. Happy New Year to you and yours 🙏🏽😀💯🌠
Of course! I hope it's helpful!! Happy New Year to you and yours too!! xoxo
I like to share that my depression was very bad over Christmas. and on new year s Eve watching the new year s count down. on tv because I couldn't go out because I spent all Christmas being unwell. and I was very emotional and my moods was bad I didn't even care about anything .over Christmas still feeling my depression now after new year. trying my best to mange it January is a start of a New year. I can only hope this new year brings some good to all of us thank. you kati for this important video you shared with us much ❤️
I've had the post Christmas blues since as far back as I can remember. In my family the festive season starts in October with multiple birthdays and Halloween in the same month, not to forget the weather finally starts to cool off here in the midwest and you can go outside without feeling like you're being suffocated by satan's jock strap. And in November there's more birthdays and of course Turkey day which kicks off to the Christmas season. And with all that going on there's usually a few get togethers for football games and whatnot. And then all too quickly it's over and there's months of not much of anything going on. Now I actually enjoy the winter time with the cold and the snow but there's rarely anything of note going on. And while I appreciate the spring it's really like a week maybe 2 of nice weather then it's months of hot and humid weather and before I go outside I have to slap on a ton of sunscreen and bug spray to keep from being burned to crisp and eaten alive by bugs out here in the country!
I didn't watch any of the happy merry holly jolly Christmas shows this year. They don't cheer me up, instead they feel like unreal expectations and I don't need any more of those, thank you! Something like Gremlins is more to my holiday liking.
I am taking a vitamin D + calcium supplement. Another reason to take vitamin D is that your body needs it for absorbing calcium. Seems to help with the SAD.
Omg I love Gremlins and support that decision :) Also thank you so much for mentioning another role vitamin D plays!! So important!! xoxo
Die Hard is my favorite Christmas movie LOL
Hi Kati!
I hope you are doing well/better.
I usually get post Christmas blues. I love the anticipation of Christmas more than the actual Christmas day. But for some reason this past Christmas season didn't really feel like Christmas. We had a decently holiday, I decorated my room for Christmas more than ever. I suppose for me, I love the Christmas lights. That may be one of my favorite things about it...so of course come January, it is all taken down and nothing else to look forward to.
To anyone reading this, remember you are a worthy and valued person.
You are worthy and deserving of love and belonging. ❤
I needed to hear this, now it all makes sense. My family members passed in 2014 & 2015 and it just feels empty. I decorate & try to reflect on the current situation in a positive light. "Let Heaven & Nature Sing", All is calm, all is bright, etc.I then visualize the good times & years we had. I've been focusing on the family & friends are now together in heaven and that would make them happy. You have to retrain your brain.
Thanks for sharing. The vitamin D is a good advice. Keep up the good work. Happy New Year from the Netherlands.
How do you deal with the feelings of sadness?
I always feel extreme loneliness and depression during and after the holidays because I work abroad on a different calender, so my holidays never overlap with holidays back home...
Usually I can just suck it up and wait for my annual trip home, but due to the pandemic, I haven't been home in over 3 years, and thanks to this new variant, I don't see international travel restrictions being lifted in time for me to make the trip this year either.
It just sucks watching children grow up and parents grow old through a screen...
You’re so practical and helpful!
Thanks for this video. I was wondering why I felt this inner emptiness in this period after the celebrations 😢
I wish I watched this video sooner. I had been feeling so down after the holidays that I couldn’t get out of bed to go to work for about a week. This was very helpful
This is the first November-january period I haven't been depressed or full of anxiety in about 10 years. This is a difficult time of year for so many of us (we in the southern hemisphere can't attribute it to lack of sunshine). Another great video. Thanks Kati and Sean.
The family thing is the biggest issue for me. I live with my parents but during the holidays Im forced to see and spend more time with them when I d rather be using that time to get away
You are a true gift to this world, Kait. The "bloopers" made me smile :) Thank you for being amazing! May God bless you always!
There has to be some advantages to living in southern hemisphere, January being middle of summer definitely helps. Viktor Frankl's work is extraordinary, thanks for this wonderful analysis Kati.
Thanks, so much, for this excellent and very timely video, Kati! Hope you have a fantastic new year!
Taking time off during Christmas week is a trigger for this. It's a matter of not having enough things to fill my time. I spent the last 3 months prepping for winter, raking and cleaning up leaves, winterizing the house, then family gatherings at Thanksgiving, decorating, shopping, attending parties, cooking, Christmas eve/Day family events........and then suddenly nothing - it all stops. It all screeches to a halt and I'm faced with the reality of putting all the Christmas stuff away and a long winter ahead shadowed by the workload at my job.
All of this. Thank you so much Kati! This video came at exactly the right time. Great insight and practical tools to help. ❤️
Hi Karlie :) Glad it was helpful!
Yup, I enjoyed Christmas very much with my family with my in laws and out laws lol. I hated to see everyone go home.but now Iam sad. Plus a lot of uncertainty in this crazy ass world, and the new year ahead.
Hi Kati. Would it be possible for you to do a video about the long lasting side effects of going through major trauma during times like the Pandemic?
This seasonal blues is not something I experience much, but for me it’s just kind of sad after Christmas, because all the Christmas lights are gone, and there is no fun holiday to look forward to anymore. Then it’s just cold, desolate winter for another three months (I live in Wisconsin, and it’s essentially still winter in March).
To somewhat combat this, my husband and I have gone to the Wisconsin Dells in February or early March, to an indoor waterpark, as something to look forward to near the end of winter. We didn’t go last year because of the pandemic, and in 2020, it was just around the surge of the pandemic, so we didn’t go then either. This year it’s still a pandemic, and our baby is due next month anyway, so we have that to look forward to.
Note to self I need to accept & tolerate the chaotic challenging period of the Xmas/New Year festive season to appreciate the more quieter days that follow afterwards because I have given up trying to question why we even need the festive season particularly Christmas day
Thank you so much Kati!! This really helps. Me and my older brother are dealing with this seasonal depression ourselves. Even tho I'm helping myself one day at a time by getting more sunlight/working out/being productive. My older brother is dealing with his moods as well now that he working etc. Wishing you and your family a great year ❤
Thank you for these videos Kati, it's good to have these experiences normalized. I don't comment much but I have to say that the video quality and warm color grading is really nice on this one!
Yes it is real!! Thank you for doing this topic!! I really hate the way I feel right now.. Yes without 2 loved ones mom and wife died within 3 months of each other.
Jez, that's hard. Sending digital hugs if you want them!
This is actually great. I'm going to send this to a friend who has seemed down lately.
Thanks for sharing Adrian :)
I hope everyone is doing OK! This is something that it’s helping because we have something in common. I hope everyone is doing better ❤❤ sad feelings are temporary and we can build ourselves up. It’s the hardest time of year for me after Christmas and each year I need to remind myself that it’s going to be okay. I hope each and everyone reads this message . It’s temporary feelings of sadness or despair but it’s good to get out in the sunshine 😊 I hope each and everybody knows how important they are and sad feelings are temporary. Much love to each and everyone. ❤❤
“and you’re uncle is an alcoholic” i bursted laughing when she said that because it’s true in my case
This is so helpful. Thank you, Kati ❤️
You're so welcome!
Thank you! For everything!
Thanks for your sincerety!
Back to January 2004 the January Blues hit me when Christmas decorations packed away and going back to college in Macclesfield UK, but got worse 2 weeks later
The weather can kill. Figuratively speaking. Winter hibernation
What's your definition of bad weather?
small rant but i do have an answer for "why do you feel sad after the holidays"
imagine that your favorite content creator that you looked up to as inspiration gets exposed for some awful things (groomer, toxic person, etc) and now you feel your heart shatter in pieces. and imagine it happens right on christmas day too!
This is part of why I'm very wary of putting anyone with any kind of fame on a pedestal. You don't know them personally so you have no idea who they really are as a person.
Hair looks great Kati! Love the lighter blonde! :) Thanks for the helpful video as always!
why do i feel depressed after the holidays? and also during and before the holidays and any other time of year?
Thank you Kati! The "bloopers" at the end made me smile too. :) Happy New Year!
Kati knows the lack of styling and colouring that made her feel drab during lockdown has allowed her hair to grow thicker. She has even applied blusher and a lovely red nail polish.
This lady knows she looks good hence taking the time to achieve the sleek straightness of her hair and extra attention to make up.
I don't know why I've said this considering the worthy subject matter. I guess it's because there will be complimentary comments saying "Kati,your hair looks great!" as if the lady doesn't know.
She feels happier and more content, hence the bloopers at the end, She knows her mistakes won't diminish her, she's beautiful so no one will care.
I wish you would address this subject matter in a video Kati, about how ppl who are perceived to be more physically attractive have the "halo effect" and an easier more enjoyable life than ppl who are considered to be less commercially attractive.
I feel the standards for female beauty as depicted in the media are racistx without ppl realising, white ladies are generally depicted as the love interest in films.
Also these standards are getting ever higher, girls feel they need to look like the airbrushed pictures of their favourite celebrities which means not eating enough. The statistics for eating disorders are rising for teenage boys aswell as girls.
I feel social media has contributed entirely to this as teenagex girls are expected to take perfect selfies ( with the help of filters ) and the pressure put on young women to meet an idealised stereotypical standard of "beauty " is now out of control.
The BBL (Brazilian butt lift) is now the most requested surgical procedure which is highly dangerous. Older teenagers are expected not just to be slimmer than is healthy but to somehow have a full booty and big but pert b**bs .
This body type does not exist. It even defies gravity. It is a construct created by plastic surgery that is pleasing to the male eye.
It makes me angry that other cultures of women are excluded from what is universally considered to be what is commercially beautiful. Women of all ethnicities are stunning but what are young girls of other ethnicities supposed to think of themselves when their image is conspicuous by its absence in the superficial arena of Instagram influencers?
Young girls who fit the mould are praised and those who don't aesthetically fit the required mould are bullied constantly or ignored completely. How are they meant to feel happy and secure in their own skin?
What's social media and media in general telling today's young women? What about their personality, heritage, intelligence, their dreams? I just wonder how far these toxic beauty standards will continue to get more flawless and therefore more removed from what real young women actually look like.
Why aren't young girls allowed to just be thenselves? I would really like to see all video in this the future when you have time please Kati 👍🌷 xx
I had a long reply but erased it all after seeing your photo and seeing your channel, where you apparently only have your body in underwear to offer. Sorry but you are a part of the problem you are talking about. Anyway have a nice day
well said ❤️
@@siakifretton6655 Thankyou xx
Hi Kati!
The most annoying part about Christmas was my mom saying “this is supposed to me a happy time “
All together we had 11 people in our house and that was overwhelming
Thank you Kati. It's very tough right now. I will try to implement some of these options. I really like your hair in this video. 🌸
thank you sm for this❤️ it feels way better to understand these kinda things, you’re such an underrated RUclipsr !! Hope you have a great and safe new year :)
She has over a million subscribers!
@@candacedawn357 true but that doesn’t mean she isn’t underrated, some tiktokers do the bare minimum and get millions of subscribers and views. Ppl like Kati deserve more as she’s giving us really helpful/educational information.
@@spam-ws2pc May I ask if that was Chucky displayed as your profile pic, lol?
Thank you Kati
Happy new year.
Same to you!
Great video :) this was my first year having the holidays living alone!
All your videos always come in handy, useful big time, thankss
Aww yay.. so glad I could be there when you need :) xoxo
@@Katimorton thankss so much for answering. Tickled pink now lol
I hope everyone is feeling better and just know that sad feelings are temporary!! ❤
I was depressed before, during and after. I have no idea why, I try my best for my kids but I couldn’t muster up any real enthusiasm! The new year sucked though, my dad died 💔
Thank you for this video! very calming. ❤
your hair looks amazing by the way 😍
I always get really depressed now after Christmas is over and I think just getting through holidays has burned me out. My mom’s birthday was in January and now it’s coming up. I need to remember how lucky I am and it’s just different for everyone
You really have a video for everything! Thank you 😊
Thanks for this Kati! Super relevant and helpful ❤️
Its summer right now, and I'm anxious about the winter returning. I've realised that my mental health is generally allways worse in the winter months, and while I used to enjoy cozying up by the fire, I am now dreading the thought of feeling trapped at home.
I was in Florida recently and ideally I would spend some time there every fall and every winter after Christmas ends.
I don't think anything will cure post Christmas seasonal depression, and I think everyone up north goes through it to a degree. Those old churches should have made Christmas a month later
I usually feel down on holidays because I don't have any friends, I'm single, and my family is broken beyond repair. My parents are divorced, most of my immediate family aren't nice people and some of them I haven't even met before nd they all live within a couple miles from me. Most of the time I end up spending holidays alone or just with 1 parent and my siblings. Listening to music definitely helps me forget how lonely it is when you know you used to have people to spend time with
I feel depressed before the holidays and better after. I've had a lot more motivation since the holidays ended.
I feel really depressed after the holidays. It's Dec 31st and my seasonal depression is bad. I got a Happy Light and have been supplementing with Vitamin D and St Johns Wort every day but I definitely am feeling disappointment. I miss my family and friends. I moved this year to a new town ❤And it's been hard.
I too had low D3 levels. I'm on the same supplements until February. I can't tell yet if it's gonna be different than last winter.
Hello Kati nice to see you again looking lovely with your straight hair and bit of make up also I like your jumper very nice 🙂
I mean, I'm pretty sure I'm depressed after the holidays because I've been deadnamed and misgendered a lot at my families home and people were a lot like "You do you but don't expect me to change" after me coming out as non-binary. Now where I formerly was still holding it together at work where my chef has been deadnaming me as well, I now dread going back so much. And that all just makes me really sad.
Eh. As long as you're happy.
@@mignonalverson655 I...dom't get it. I'm not?
@@mignonalverson655 I think you need to go back and read the comment again.
That’s very upsetting, I’m sorry. They may come to understand how to not do that over time, or they may not. I hope the rest of the time of the year you are able to surround yourself with people who support you and your journey💚💙💜
i didn’t think this was real and i was over reacting
Definitely real and not overreacting!!! xoxo
Thanks for this video, now I don't feel so alone ❤
Also after the holidays there is little to look forward to, no time off work anytime soon, and missing family
This Christmas I really didn’t get into the spirit as much because my grandma passed away in July and it was a different Christmas for my family and I😰. But my mom,sister and myself including went to the cemetery and had a cry together so we could get it all out and enjoy the evening.
I probably shouldn’t have laughed when you said “maybe you have to spend the holidays with you’re alcoholic uncle” 🤦🏽♀️😅. I understand that!
This video was really helpful! I loved the bloopers at the end of the video btw😜😂!
I just want to say I love what you did with your hair!
Thank you Kati. & You look amazing! The video quality looks great too.
Wow, thank YOU! :)
I'm in holiday blues and It normally last till mid February
And yes it's expectation that didn't happen. Plus truama and grief that I had.
Kati your hair looks amazing!
Aww thank you!! I got a new blow dryer and straightened it :) xoxo
Yes! And her make up too but she doesn't even need any of that 😊
Post holiday blues are real. We will be watching Christmas movies until the new year but it still sucks!
The holiday day season doesn't end until January is over for me, but I am still depressed if everyone else wants to end it and take down the decorations for Valentines day.
Family has a way of doing that to you...
I live in Portland, Oregon… and during this time of year it’s all rain , no sun. 🙄
My husband and I live in Germany and the rest of our family and friends are in the US so there was no pressure to get together on the holidays, which was nice. It was depressing though because my husband has multiple chronic illnesses and he felt especially bad (he hasn't been able to leave our apartment in months) so it was more like just another Saturday. Being a caregiver can be a very isolating experience.
All of this applies to me. I am having a terrible time right now.