To admit I can enjoy every podcast y’all do. And this discussion on Gay dating is just so fascinating. I’m Tony’s crush tho from TIKTOK based in Liberia 🇱🇷 😊 thanks for the lesson and am a gay and I mean a proud gay man wish Tony was around for us to give it a try😍 you know one thing I always tell my gay friends is, be happy for who you’re truly are cause nothing can change it. It was God who made you so he knew who you were gonna become as in the “sexuality” and stuffs.
Thank you from listening/watching our show all the way from Liberia! We love hearing your perspective and who knows, maybe one day you and Tony's paths will cross haha ;)
This is absolutely facts . Being genuine in the black gay community scares men. But I understand why. Everybody is so fake and superficial, when they meet someone “normal” they don’t know what to do with themselves. THIS has been my experience as an adult and I’m 41 now and it still has not changed. People run from real shit. Gay and straight people both.
Okay, I've watched this episode probably too many times now. 😀 It was such a fun video, and the dating coach provided some very useful information.👍🏽 👍🏽
21:38 Personally, at the moment, I don’t invest much in my love life because I’ve found it to be a waste of time. You can’t really meet someone on “gay dating apps” because though some of them are designed for dating, most people use them for hook-ups. I’m not really comfortable meeting people in night clubs because people often go there to have a good time and find someone for 1 night stand. And lastly, I don’t feel comfortable approaching a guy in real life and asking him if he’s gay and potentially revealing my sexuality, partially because I might be afraid of rejection but also because I don’t know if they will take offence to it and it might end up in a physical altercation. And in that case, I will definitely lose because I’m not a fighter 😂 However, an additional factor is, I live in Toronto and I feel like the kind of guys I’m interested in don’t live here. So I’ve decided to invest my time in other facets of my life until I’m able to develop a better plan for meeting someone that can result in a relationship.
So much to unpack here. Sounds like you’re thinking about a lot and it’s perfectly normal. Thank you for sharing and we hope that over time things evolve for you, we know it will!
u could relocate...also seems like you are not that sociable. Go out and flirt without being blunt and without a goal in mind. I'd say go out, talk to cute guys and make it your life's purpose to get rejected by as many guys thats humanly possible for the next few months....Once u find a way to desensitize yourself and take rejection less personally, u will automatically be seen as more attractive.
only reason i know jackd exists is this guy i met on adam4adam thought we met there. asking for my screen name, trying to send me pictures (didnt have a smartphone back then so no pics and no apps), etc etc. i have no idea what its "for" but since i've been on multiple gay dating sites and apps: its bogus to say "this app is for this and this app is for that" cause yall all looking sex, pretending to look for love but looking for sex, lying to yourself that you want a relationship but you just want a fuck buddy, etc etc etc on all of them. its the same people, same profiles, same verbage, same shallow grossness cause its still the gay "community" and yall white wash and sexualize EVERYTHING for no reason. sigh oshun give me strength
I am a 63 yo gay black male who enjoys being alone, I would love to meet Mr Right, but I am more selective than ever before. I have been alone for a very long time but I am not lonely. I don't have a list of musts, but when I am meeting someone, I do expect honesty upfront. Most potentials I meet now are less than trustworthy, they don't want to talk about themselves, nor really anything else. For me, this is a no no, I must feel good and feel this is an honest conversation in order for me to move forward.
Yes, totally agree that the more transparent and honest upfront the less time waisted. You will either figure out you’re not compatible or build trust in a healthy way and get to know each other better, earlier on. People are guarded and it’s understandable, however when you’re too guarded it can really block something potentially good from happening.
Us as men....come in all SHAPES AND SIZES......true indeed ? U guys agree..... Ummm just wanna say that i wish diversity can be embraced more than it has already been accepted and tolerated. Alot of ppl that are not mainstreams 'ideal' standards are like put off to the side....u guys are handsome....fabulous....and funny....but do u have friends that struggle with body positivity and self esteem ? BTW #TEAMVERS
jordan is so my style. well spoken, fem, seemingly intelligent. too bad he is around those bad influences. he would never give a good man a try. our lost
I got this brotha mixed up with another matchmaker brotha who charged me 15k. This brotha actually charged me 75 dollars to match me in CA. While he did match me, the outcome of the match was not successful. I am single still to this day.
so sad that you think a romantic partner shouldnt be your friend........just proves you dont know what love is or what a relationship is........he should be your best friend. he should make you want to be a better person. you should learn and grow from each other. the only thing that separates a platonic friendship and a romantic one is sex but yall have taken that line and destroyed so you forgot this truth. friends dont have sex (a truth you have destroyed), partners have sex. if i am sexually attracted to you, we will never be friends. if i am not sexually attracted to you, we will only ever be friends aka dont get mad at me for "not making a move". i agreed to be your friend before we met, not to have sex with you. learn to know the definition of words before you use them instead of putting everything thing through the gay slang lens..........BOOP!
why are yall conforming to the white man's courtship rituals? we have our own. never heard dating outside of tv until i moved to whiteland. 1.talking 2. courting. thats all that existed in my all black community that i grew up in. so i just thought white people's dating is just another word for courting. but to qoute a brother i matched with on tinder "you are on tinder for a relationship?!" "yeah, it is a dating app" "yeah, dating, not a relationship" so now i have NO idea what that word means, it and whiteland make no sense and i refuse to engage in the tomfoolery. im going to keep it afro asian and ill find my prince one day the right way, the real way or not at all. cause i want an epic real true love, not these gays you code switching conformers are up to.
Awesome constructive conversation, Lamont's advice is spot on 👏🏽
Thank you! We need to have Lamont back for a part 2.
The people (I) need a part two. And Lamont White is what this needed. Great pod
We’ll keep that in mind, thank you! And yes, Lamon did what needed to be done!
lamont starts at 18:40
This was a great conversation! Great advice ! Yoooooo - SINGLE over here 🤷🏾♂️🤍🤍🤍lol
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So glad I came across this & definitely will be applying the things he’s said. It’s time to change it up‼️
Glad you found some value in the discussion!
This really got me baffled… they all single. Like how and why. Dam this makes me sacred as I age.
My last LTR was from a jackd hook up and it lasted 5-6years so do dont knock it. It’s all about the chemistry and compatibility.
Completely agree with you! We are believers that it can happen.
And it ended because? Because he went back on those gross sex apps and cheated on you 200x.
@@TheChosen217 infidelity wasn’t a factor at all, sorry if that’s the case for you but not all breakups end dramatically. Don’t hate
Great conversation! I'm officially a fan and subscriber now. Congrats, guys!
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My my my I just looovvveeddd everyone here. I listened through it entirely and it was very helpful and insightful as well.
Am really enjoying and learning at the same time
Thank you!!
To admit I can enjoy every podcast y’all do. And this discussion on Gay dating is just so fascinating. I’m Tony’s crush tho from TIKTOK based in Liberia 🇱🇷 😊 thanks for the lesson and am a gay and I mean a proud gay man wish Tony was around for us to give it a try😍 you know one thing I always tell my gay friends is, be happy for who you’re truly are cause nothing can change it. It was God who made you so he knew who you were gonna become as in the “sexuality” and stuffs.
Thank you from listening/watching our show all the way from Liberia! We love hearing your perspective and who knows, maybe one day you and Tony's paths will cross haha ;)
Most guys are not aware of someone who cares for them genuinely , those are the people they avoid or ghost .
Facts!!!!
This is absolutely facts . Being genuine in the black gay community scares men. But I understand why. Everybody is so fake and superficial, when they meet someone “normal” they don’t know what to do with themselves. THIS has been my experience as an adult and I’m 41 now and it still has not changed. People run from real shit. Gay and straight people both.
Okay, I've watched this episode probably too many times now. 😀 It was such a fun video, and the dating coach provided some very useful information.👍🏽 👍🏽
Lamont was an incredible guest!
This was a great conversation about gay dating and finding love.
We're so glad you enjoyed it!
21:38 Personally, at the moment, I don’t invest much in my love life because I’ve found it to be a waste of time. You can’t really meet someone on “gay dating apps” because though some of them are designed for dating, most people use them for hook-ups. I’m not really comfortable meeting people in night clubs because people often go there to have a good time and find someone for 1 night stand. And lastly, I don’t feel comfortable approaching a guy in real life and asking him if he’s gay and potentially revealing my sexuality, partially because I might be afraid of rejection but also because I don’t know if they will take offence to it and it might end up in a physical altercation. And in that case, I will definitely lose because I’m not a fighter 😂
However, an additional factor is, I live in Toronto and I feel like the kind of guys I’m interested in don’t live here.
So I’ve decided to invest my time in other facets of my life until I’m able to develop a better plan for meeting someone that can result in a relationship.
So much to unpack here. Sounds like you’re thinking about a lot and it’s perfectly normal. Thank you for sharing and we hope that over time things evolve for you, we know it will!
u could relocate...also seems like you are not that sociable. Go out and flirt without being blunt and without a goal in mind. I'd say go out, talk to cute guys and make it your life's purpose to get rejected by as many guys thats humanly possible for the next few months....Once u find a way to desensitize yourself and take rejection less personally, u will automatically be seen as more attractive.
@@supertenor561 You're 1000% right. I feel like you know me just from reading my comment. I'm gonna try this. Thanks for the advice.
I love you guys! 😍
Thank you so much for watching!
only reason i know jackd exists is this guy i met on adam4adam thought we met there. asking for my screen name, trying to send me pictures (didnt have a smartphone back then so no pics and no apps), etc etc. i have no idea what its "for" but since i've been on multiple gay dating sites and apps: its bogus to say "this app is for this and this app is for that" cause yall all looking sex, pretending to look for love but looking for sex, lying to yourself that you want a relationship but you just want a fuck buddy, etc etc etc on all of them. its the same people, same profiles, same verbage, same shallow grossness cause its still the gay "community" and yall white wash and sexualize EVERYTHING for no reason. sigh oshun give me strength
I am a 63 yo gay black male who enjoys being alone, I would love to meet Mr Right, but I am more selective than ever before. I have been alone for a very long time but I am not lonely. I don't have a list of musts, but when I am meeting someone, I do expect honesty upfront. Most potentials I meet now are less than trustworthy, they don't want to talk about themselves, nor really anything else. For me, this is a no no, I must feel good and feel this is an honest conversation in order for me to move forward.
Yes, totally agree that the more transparent and honest upfront the less time waisted. You will either figure out you’re not compatible or build trust in a healthy way and get to know each other better, earlier on. People are guarded and it’s understandable, however when you’re too guarded it can really block something potentially good from happening.
Jordan is funny af ☺️ and handsome
Wish you were in Australia 🇦🇺 with love from down under
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Us as men....come in all SHAPES AND SIZES......true indeed ? U guys agree.....
Ummm just wanna say that i wish diversity can be embraced more than it has already been accepted and tolerated.
Alot of ppl that are not mainstreams 'ideal' standards are like put off to the side....u guys are handsome....fabulous....and funny....but do u have friends that struggle with body positivity and self esteem ? BTW #TEAMVERS
jordan is so my style. well spoken, fem, seemingly intelligent. too bad he is around those bad influences. he would never give a good man a try. our lost
I got this brotha mixed up with another matchmaker brotha who charged me 15k. This brotha actually charged me 75 dollars to match me in CA. While he did match me, the outcome of the match was not successful. I am single still to this day.
was it successful?
so sad that you think a romantic partner shouldnt be your friend........just proves you dont know what love is or what a relationship is........he should be your best friend. he should make you want to be a better person. you should learn and grow from each other. the only thing that separates a platonic friendship and a romantic one is sex but yall have taken that line and destroyed so you forgot this truth. friends dont have sex (a truth you have destroyed), partners have sex. if i am sexually attracted to you, we will never be friends. if i am not sexually attracted to you, we will only ever be friends aka dont get mad at me for "not making a move". i agreed to be your friend before we met, not to have sex with you. learn to know the definition of words before you use them instead of putting everything thing through the gay slang lens..........BOOP!
why are yall conforming to the white man's courtship rituals? we have our own. never heard dating outside of tv until i moved to whiteland. 1.talking 2. courting. thats all that existed in my all black community that i grew up in. so i just thought white people's dating is just another word for courting. but to qoute a brother i matched with on tinder "you are on tinder for a relationship?!" "yeah, it is a dating app" "yeah, dating, not a relationship" so now i have NO idea what that word means, it and whiteland make no sense and i refuse to engage in the tomfoolery. im going to keep it afro asian and ill find my prince one day the right way, the real way or not at all. cause i want an epic real true love, not these gays you code switching conformers are up to.
……. What?!?