I read 100 self-help books. Here’s what I learned…

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  • Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024

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  • @mattdavella
    @mattdavella  2 года назад +2698

    I’m just here for the comments about my new sweater.

  • @indestructible8111
    @indestructible8111 День назад +2676

    Awesome learnings! For additional hidden strategies that could take your growth to the next level, Nixorus has some must-read books.

  • @OriginalBalkanShop
    @OriginalBalkanShop Месяц назад +2192

    it’s kinda crazy how nobody’s talking about Antozent, they are selling 150 self help books for the price of one

  • @Vibevignettes
    @Vibevignettes 2 года назад +4728

    One of the lines that I've always liked from book 'Atomic Habits' is "You should be far more concentrated with your current trajectory than with your current results"

    • @majorpeg8534
      @majorpeg8534 2 года назад +134

      As someone deeply in self help that’s one of the most useful things I’ve read.

    • @mattdavella
      @mattdavella  2 года назад +196

      Love that one!

    • @basictoglamchictravels
      @basictoglamchictravels 2 года назад +20

      This is eye opening, thanks

    • @Vibevignettes
      @Vibevignettes 2 года назад +7

      @@basictoglamchictravels don't mention it, glad to help

    • @dumbdoggie21
      @dumbdoggie21 2 года назад +15

      hey...I dont quite get it can someone please explain it to me

  • @WalkinChristum
    @WalkinChristum 2 года назад +4642

    "most people don't finish the books that they start" ... why you gotta attack me like that

    • @anapauladelima2376
      @anapauladelima2376 2 года назад +33

      Hahahaha 🤣😂🤣
      We all have been there, my friend. Eventually, it is just a phase. ;)
      Once you figure out what you like reading, you will never give up a book again.

    • @testtest-wy8mz
      @testtest-wy8mz 2 года назад +13

      @@anapauladelima2376 absolutely believe in that! I’m still in the ‘Idk what I like to read’ phase…

    • @radicaldreamersteve5743
      @radicaldreamersteve5743 2 года назад +19

      @@anapauladelima2376 I dunno, I finish a lot of books, and I still stop in the middle here and there. Sometimes it just isn't the right time for a particular book, even if you like it.

    • @masterzeek21
      @masterzeek21 2 года назад

      😂😂😂 that’s what made me like the video.

    • @duncanrathband5492
      @duncanrathband5492 2 года назад +4

      That stat actually made me feel better. Thought it was just me being lame! Clearly not!

  • @patrickt.6492
    @patrickt.6492 2 года назад +2697

    I feel like a lot of self-help books can be summarized in one sentence: "The secret to happiness is that there is no secret." I've read a few self-help books, but for me, real self-help comes from good stories. Whether fiction or nonfiction, learning about someone else's life and how they overcame obstacles is what really helps me improve my own life.

    • @andre_bastos
      @andre_bastos 2 года назад +7

      feel the same

    •  2 года назад +31

      I feel the same. Watching a really impactful film/TV show can sometimes have a far bigger impact than a self-help book. That being said, I do think self-help can get me into a certain mindset that might help in some aspect of my life. For example, reading 'Deep Work' gave me a stronger appreciation of work ethic and focus. While I didn't apply any hard rules from the book, I did find myself really considering focus and work ethic every time I sat down to study or write.

    • @alflorrio
      @alflorrio 2 года назад +46

      Some people need stories, some people need systems. A good book has both.

    • @bhsprinkle
      @bhsprinkle 2 года назад

      💯

    • @swayx3657
      @swayx3657 2 года назад

      no there is, read on stoicism

  • @ryan_s94
    @ryan_s94 2 года назад +1145

    I've always liked these lines from Thoreau which I keep by my bookcase: "A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting."

    • @the.bonsai.samurai
      @the.bonsai.samurai 2 года назад +6

      That sums self-help up perfectly! This is going on the white board! Thank you sir!

    • @hnnhml
      @hnnhml Год назад +1

      Thats very well said

  • @johncstory
    @johncstory 2 года назад +1876

    Summarized points
    - take action
    * take 3 most important points from a book and just do it
    - take better notes
    * read and takes notes, highlight, underline, or have sticky notes, just annotate
    - One size fit all will not work
    * the best books will make you think critically, so it fits for your life

    • @sj4267
      @sj4267 2 года назад +2

      Thanks!

    • @johncstory
      @johncstory 2 года назад +2

      @@sj4267 no problem bro

    • @basictoglamchictravels
      @basictoglamchictravels 2 года назад +1

      Thanks

    • @johncstory
      @johncstory 2 года назад +2

      @@basictoglamchictravels you’re welcome

    • @zeekaywalker9232
      @zeekaywalker9232 2 года назад +5

      Remember to take action and take action now(!) - Brian Tracy (Self Help Mentor and book writer)
      This summary you posted by the way actually reads like a Brian Tracy Video and Brian Tracy Videos do actually come along with far less distractions like the background music and cutscenes and are more clear and precise then here in Matt's Video which is ironic since Matt is the actual minimalist.

  • @lailaalfaddil7389
    @lailaalfaddil7389 Год назад +209

    Thanks for this amazing information !! If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realize that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key, I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

    • @lailaalfaddil7389
      @lailaalfaddil7389 Год назад

      Very true, I started investing before the pandemic and that same year I pulled a profit of about $750k with no prior investing experience, basically all I was doing was seeking guidance from *ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER* who's a guru in the game, you can be passively involved with the aid of a professional.

    • @susannnico
      @susannnico Год назад

      It took me 3 years to stop trying to predict what's about to happen in the market based on charts studying because you never know. Please, i need the help of your Investment advisor.

    • @susannnico
      @susannnico Год назад

      God bless you for sharing!

  • @RichPlusHappy
    @RichPlusHappy 2 года назад +541

    "Slow Growth" soon on bookshelves, written by Matt D'Avella, edited by Mark Manson, foreword by Ryan Holiday, afterword by Tony Robbins, blessed by Dale Carnegie

    • @_Just_Some1
      @_Just_Some1 2 года назад +90

      The Rock on the cover. Would buy in 5 seconds.

    • @mattdavella
      @mattdavella  2 года назад +64

      Lolol

    • @tabbywarrior
      @tabbywarrior 2 года назад +26

      @@mattdavella if you actually make this, I will buy 5. 1 for myself and the others for my family and friends.

    • @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa7963
      @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa7963 2 года назад +4

      I wish i was rich+happy like you😭😭😭😭😭

    • @the.bonsai.samurai
      @the.bonsai.samurai 2 года назад +1

      😆😆

  • @EvolveNowYoga
    @EvolveNowYoga 2 года назад +606

    "How to win friends and influence people" is the first book I bought by myself! It really got me into reading and made me realize that books are such a cool way to learn new things!

    • @raganick
      @raganick 2 года назад +3

      Me too

    • @sunyalam4538
      @sunyalam4538 2 года назад

      same

    • @anapauladelima2376
      @anapauladelima2376 2 года назад

      Good memory! I tried to remember which book I bought for the first time.... 😅😅😅😅 and I have NO IDEA whatsoever 🤣😂🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @greenerpastures1000
      @greenerpastures1000 2 года назад +1

      In the 1980s, Dale Carnegie books were promoted in corporations as a way to improve your life and contributions.

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 2 года назад +2

      if it made you buy another book then it means you learned nothing or you have way too much money.

  • @JacobAndJamal
    @JacobAndJamal 2 года назад +266

    There was a point when I read and listened to ALOT of self help books and podcast . In the years of mid 2000s to early 2015ish … But after a while so much of it became overlap and repeating the same message. “Face your fears, never quit on things you are passionate about, life is short” . A paragraph could summarize most these books … And the advice and “action steps” of many of these books was so vague and esoteric.
    Also I got tired of self help books from people , who’s only life experience was, self help .

    • @JacobAndJamal
      @JacobAndJamal 2 года назад +11

      @Munaim Kayani My personal favorite book that impacted my life was Neil Straus “Rules of the Game” . It’s a social dynamics book that provides 30 days of challenges to go out and be comfortable socializing. I’m aware some will call it “PUA” and critique it for just talking to women . But if you’re someone who is an introvert, or awkward and want to meet people ; you need some tangible baseline task . “Be yourself” and flowery talk won’t cut it , IMO.
      Dave Ramsey “debt snowball” is a good book, As well as “richest man in Babylon” . Those are books that shine to me .

    • @serirayna2789
      @serirayna2789 2 года назад +5

      Then I lost it when they curse words to their titles....WT...

    • @aishahshamsul8642
      @aishahshamsul8642 2 года назад +23

      Right? Especially when self help RUclipsrs made morning routines taking up 3 hours...they didn't work full time like most people do. Makes it not relatable.

    • @thistree9028
      @thistree9028 2 года назад +12

      I agree! Self help books can be useful, certainly self awareness is a positive attribute, but also can be addictive. They can promote self-absorption. How many of these books does one need to read? Seems like it can be an obsession. Also, the more messed up and dysfunctional an author of some of them can convince readers that they are, the more profit for the next book in the works..it also makes for a profitable industry to repackage each other’s concepts over and over. I pulled back from reading these books awhile ago, after sensing a hamster wheel of sorts, and now I feel less anxious, more peaceful. A few key ideas were helpful I’ll admit and to maybe even hear repeated, but with a limit. It’s human nature to think ‘this is good more is better’ when it’s not..

    • @shuki1
      @shuki1 2 года назад +4

      @Sapiens I find that many good self-help gurus and consultants in general are the ones who failed at something(s) and then turned that into a profession. They are not talking theory rather actual from learning experience.

  • @PsicologiaBenessereOnline
    @PsicologiaBenessereOnline 2 года назад +113

    SOME IMPORTANT NOTES:
    1) Taking Action, non matter how small, is the Key to making progress
    2) A good rule of thumb: pick at least 3 concepts from every (self-help) book and put them into practice immediately.
    3) Take notes and put bookmars when you read (probably actual books are better)
    4) We often flinch in the face of fear, BUT if we embrace the flinch (instead of suffering it and getting blocked): when we repeatedly expose ourselves at different kind of flinches, both big and smalles, we can start to overcome fear and build the life what we want.
    5) Avoid the mistake of blindy follow whatever advice is being shared (in self-help books): find what work for YOU
    6) If you ask yourself what will stood in the way of progress, and than you develop targeted strategies to change beahvior, the results will be far better
    7) The best self-help book ask you to think critical, the worst ask you to blindly follow a step by step plan: it's your responsability to question everything and ask yourself "how can I adapt this work for my life?". What's important is to be able to go in with an open mind, find 3 things that you can test, and hopefully find one thing that'll stick for the long run.
    CONCLUSION: Is important to remember that ultimately self-help is about the self, that's YOU: whatever piece of content you consume, consider how you can be an active participant in your own journey, by questioning, implementing and taking action in your own life (see #1): while it's great to take inspiration, you need to become your own "guru".

    • @tonyedgecombe6631
      @tonyedgecombe6631 2 года назад +1

      >Taking Action, non matter how small, is the Key to making progress
      You don't really need a book to tell you that though do you.

    • @alii514
      @alii514 2 года назад +1

      tysm

    • @hnnhml
      @hnnhml Год назад +1

      Wow thank you!

    • @gsc113
      @gsc113 Год назад +1

      Thanks a lot😊

    • @coursedatabase3790
      @coursedatabase3790 Год назад +1

      Thanks

  • @MrsKuhliMuhli
    @MrsKuhliMuhli 2 года назад +69

    For all who didn´t finish the books: don´t worry. I started a lot of them, never did the exercises, almost never finished one. But I loved to get into new self helping books and got more of them. And slowley my thinking changed. Maybe it took longer time, but it changed. And also my hole life changed.

    • @shuki1
      @shuki1 2 года назад +4

      I agree. Even if the person does not take the important action, the tendency is that the general mindset will change. I see this in a colleague who loves Ted talks. While they've not really acted on the ideas, they have become a much more positive person over the years, (and do have some good advice sometimes).

  • @matthewthompson0
    @matthewthompson0 5 месяцев назад +106

    Such an amazing video, kudos! If you want self-improvement and you haven't read - the hidden truths of wealth ebook, stop everything you're doing now and find the book. You'll thank me later

    • @ryan-patel
      @ryan-patel 5 месяцев назад

      Where can i find it? it's banned from all sites.

    • @burmakara
      @burmakara 5 месяцев назад

      where did you find the book

    • @matthewthompson0
      @matthewthompson0 5 месяцев назад

      borlest - thank me later

  • @theacademicfix2210
    @theacademicfix2210 2 года назад +5

    Always remember:
    “Suffer the pain of self-discipline or suffer the pain of self-regret”
    -Love from a small RUclipsr

  • @Phenomenal268
    @Phenomenal268 2 года назад +38

    I have to agree. Started reading physical books again and I have a greater appreciation for them now compared to my ebooks and audio books. Being able to physically leave notes and mark pages is so much more satisfying.

  • @starklelight5085
    @starklelight5085 2 года назад +32

    One of the most influential books in my life was „Bullet journal“ which is essentially based around the idea of building system that works for YOU specifically. Two years later not only i now have a consistent journaling and notetaking practice but also a principle to live by.

  • @aerka0s760
    @aerka0s760 2 года назад +26

    "And Surprisingly handsome RUclipsrs" with Matt smiling at us, it made me smile even more than him. Every time there is a simple and great joke that makes it worth it. Thank you Matt.

  • @Lousysuperior
    @Lousysuperior 2 года назад +259

    I've started reading philosophy and honestly it's much better than any self help book I've read. I think it just puts me in a better frame of mind and helps me identity faults in my logic and ultimately helping me understand the world around me.

    • @MeinungMann
      @MeinungMann 2 года назад

      What philosophers did you begin with? Niztche?

    • @Omar-ot8sz
      @Omar-ot8sz 2 года назад +6

      Any good books you could recommend?

    • @5tegaysaurus
      @5tegaysaurus 2 года назад +15

      in general i recommend to not instantly pick up books from philosphers themself, but a book from other authors, who expand on the background and other cirumstances about the philosophers idea to put things into perspective.
      Which book to to choose depends on what are u looking for. You can divide philosophy in 2 bigger categories: theoretical philosophy (for ex. what's truth, what's the purpose of life) and practical philosophy (for ex. what is the right thing to do, virtues)

    • @can3491
      @can3491 2 года назад +6

      @@Omar-ot8sz I recommend Seneca and Epictetus ( in Dutch there is a selection of essays Freedom which is good, don’t know whether it is in English, but you can take the whole collection and read ones that interest you to start with)

    • @Lousysuperior
      @Lousysuperior 2 года назад +6

      I'm currently reading "the ethics of ambiguity" and although ethics themselves aren't THAT interesting. I think the larger point being made is that too often us humans fall into absoluteist thinking. I'm completely right and your completely wrong. I'm (X) religion so i cant entertain the idea of evolution. Even atheism is a form of absolutism. I've found that most truth lies between two extremes.
      Anyways. Simone de Beauvoir. She's super cool. First wave feminist, philosopher of sorts. And very intelligent.
      Also manufacturing consent by noam Chomsky.

  • @hannahbarber4752
    @hannahbarber4752 2 года назад +11

    For those E-book enthusiasts. I keep a journal of everybook I read now and note page and paragraph of an idea quote etc. I enjoy. So hopefully by the end of my 20's I will have a journal full of info that essentially is my very own self-authored self-help for dummies.

    • @aniaveblog
      @aniaveblog 2 года назад

      Thinking about something similar. Do you use an app or something?

  • @toowavyydotbiz
    @toowavyydotbiz 2 года назад +27

    I can totally relate when you said that books became your mentor. I feel the same way because there aren't too many ambitious enough people in my real life in which I could share ideas and have a edificial conversation.

  • @ogie86
    @ogie86 2 года назад +26

    Self-help books saved me from depression. The best lesson I learned is setting boundaries or just simply saying no to do certain tasks. I noticed more people (especially bosses) have given me respect and completely stopped effing around with me.

    • @frostyheaven8612
      @frostyheaven8612 2 года назад

      Hi! I struggle with setting boundaries. Do you have any self-help books that you would recommend?

    • @11Renee11
      @11Renee11 2 года назад

      @@frostyheaven8612 Boundaries by Henry Cloud

  • @thechancellor-
    @thechancellor- 2 года назад +6

    To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

  • @gigielizabeth5636
    @gigielizabeth5636 Год назад +4

    ‘Self Help’ is an old fashioned term. We call this personal development these days. I’ve read 1000’s of these type of books and LOVE them. I take what resonates and leave what doesn’t!

  • @theannareich
    @theannareich 2 года назад +88

    My unoriginal yet effective 5 cents for finishing the books you start:
    1. Always pick a book that jumps out to you right at that moment (not one you think you should read)
    2. Don't be shy to skim through boring sections (don't force yourself to read them word for word)
    3. Attach reading to something you're already doing (for me that's drinking tea in the morning & commuting - I now read at least 1 book/week)

    • @11Renee11
      @11Renee11 2 года назад

      🤔📖🖊

    • @goodfornothings
      @goodfornothings 2 года назад +2

      I really like number 1, it's so critical 👍🏻

    • @BillPigg
      @BillPigg Год назад

      *All the good stuff is usually at the end of the book. The first several chapters are usually introduction and background.*

  • @jaggae9
    @jaggae9 2 года назад +17

    My favourite self-help quote I think is from The Minimalists: (paraphrased) Nothing changes if you don't change anything. Basically, don't expect a different result if you keep doing the same thing.

    • @GjaP_242
      @GjaP_242 Год назад

      One disadvantage of self-help books and motivational talks by certain gurus is that, routinely, many of the claims made do not have adequate scientific backing. More advantageous, for example, would be to read books by the philosopher Nietzsche, the writers Goethe and Shakespeare and watch films by the filmmakers Kurosawa, Bergman, Fellini and Godard. Don't fall into the trap of trying to lead an unattainable lifestyle in the short to medium term. Plan your self-development and become a mentor to yourself. 0:15

  • @vaibhavi.singh.
    @vaibhavi.singh. Год назад +5

    I had watched your FLINCH video a while back and I actually tried it. Turned out to be the bestest advice I've ever taken

  • @maherhasan4517
    @maherhasan4517 2 года назад +34

    Great Video Matt. and I absolutely agree with this one. I'm lucky that I started highlighting and taking notes after only reading 3 books without doing so because I felt like I was not able to recall any info from them. Now I highlight the key ideas in every chapter, and every Section or so I copy these highlights and try to rewrite them in my own words. It lets me recall the ideas and keep a small summary of the book to refer for later when needed.
    I'm not doing my best at taking action but I'm definitely trying to.

    • @pbear49
      @pbear49 2 года назад +1

      I do the same thing Maher.

  • @kelly3824
    @kelly3824 2 года назад +28

    ‘The four agreements’ is one that changed me as well! ‘Don’t take things personally and don’t make assumptions’

  • @danacagen9876
    @danacagen9876 2 года назад +7

    LOVED “How to Win Friends and Influence People". I was expecting it to be corny and cheesy but that book honestly changed my life.

  • @howtosteve
    @howtosteve 2 года назад +15

    I just realized exactly the same what you have explained. I like to read self-development books every morning for 10-20 minutes, but sometimes I forget things, so I'm getting serious about taking notes. What else what I have noticed, that not all the time you should take actions immediately after reading books like these. Maybe, you are already on the right path, but these self-development books will strengthen your belief, that you do the right thing already.

  • @FinancialShinanigan
    @FinancialShinanigan 2 года назад +12

    Matt is the only self-help channel I need

  • @santoseducacionaleinformac4740
    @santoseducacionaleinformac4740 2 года назад +1

    Good work, brother! God bless you!

  • @garamvolgyiandi
    @garamvolgyiandi 2 года назад +21

    While I was translating Deep Work into Hungarian, I was mesmerized, started implementing many of its advice, but then it all started to fade away, despite the fact that I literally went through each and every sentence, so totally agree about note taking and relearning. :)

    • @nanivt1902
      @nanivt1902 2 года назад +2

      Hi from another Hungarian!

    • @r.m5883
      @r.m5883 2 года назад +1

      Koszonom!!!

  • @kartikverma8389
    @kartikverma8389 2 года назад +7

    I don't know how this happens but everytime I am struggling with something, I try to put it off by watching youtube and everytime I do this, something relevant shows up in the feed. Today I was struggling with taking actions towards my goal and as an avid self help reader, this thumbnail got my attention. Absolutely loved the video, by far the best one on this channel. Thank you Matt !

  • @jrgenespolinjohnson2469
    @jrgenespolinjohnson2469 2 года назад +409

    Lately I’ve found that fiction can be just a good source for inspiration to improve myself:
    I get inspired to do well at university while reading The Name of The Wind, more focused on paying attention to my conversations when I read Norwegian Wood and so on.
    Point is, I think fiction is an underrated source of self-help.

    • @_Just_Some1
      @_Just_Some1 2 года назад +3

      Agreed.

    • @pjfreeman4789
      @pjfreeman4789 2 года назад +2

      Definitely.

    • @booksandroses5307
      @booksandroses5307 2 года назад +33

      Yeah, it’s really annoying that he implied that reading fiction is not as useful as self help. If you ask me, most self help books don’t even take into account the material condition of most people and are riddled with toxic positivity that shames people for no taking action with phrases like “there’s no excuse” I usually like his content, but that was very disappointing and will not be finishing the video.

    • @victoriahill7218
      @victoriahill7218 2 года назад +8

      Agree, one is able to view life from a different perspective. All fiction comes from life experience and has truth hidden in the mix!

    • @revelations2044
      @revelations2044 2 года назад +1

      @@booksandroses5307 stay mad xD

  • @lindadawson902
    @lindadawson902 Год назад +68

    I use productivity tools like Tammy AI to help me learn anything faster on RUclips. Why spend more time than needed?

  • @femmenutritionau
    @femmenutritionau 2 года назад +2

    The way you articulate the experiences with self help books… is just brilliant! Thank you for your thorough work and style of delivery about what we all have been thinking about the self help world 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼

  • @WiWillemijn
    @WiWillemijn 2 года назад +109

    I don't know if you will be positive or negative about self help books because I haven't watched the video yet, but the best self help book about recovering from mental ilness is 'You are not a rock' by Mark Freeman. It's not a book to read and feel good about yourself, it actually provides really practical steps to fully recover from mental illness. (I sound like I am paid to say this but it just saved my life so I want to share about it)

    • @melmelexplores
      @melmelexplores 2 года назад +8

      So happy that you got through it and I hope happiness comes your way! 💛💛

    • @bethmcmullan9872
      @bethmcmullan9872 2 года назад +7

      Glad you're here. Thanks for the recommendation.

    • @yunabrooks
      @yunabrooks 2 года назад +2

      I‘m happy you’re here and tysm for the recommendation. I just ordered it and hope it helps me aswell 💗 I wish you all the best! ✨

    • @WiWillemijn
      @WiWillemijn 2 года назад

      @@yunabrooks I am sure it will! If you have questions about the book, you can ask the writer on instagram. He is very helpful! ♥️

    • @mitzyannalee3942
      @mitzyannalee3942 2 года назад +5

      I'm going to look this one up! I suffer from depression and my little brother took his life last year. Mental illness is so hard to recover from so I'm always looking for new strategies.

  • @nafixer
    @nafixer 2 года назад +32

    I have been experimenting alot with summaries lately and I think they are really worth it . You read more books and then the books you love you read the whole thing

    • @SJ-zv3jf
      @SJ-zv3jf 2 года назад +3

      I have watched your Atomic Habits insights videos and it was really good along with Hell yeah or no summary on what's worth doing .

  • @samcorey7468
    @samcorey7468 2 года назад +2

    I can always expect no BS from your videos, Matt. Thanks for all of the value you are providing.

  • @travisbalthasar9544
    @travisbalthasar9544 2 года назад +2

    Great insights. Def value note taking in order to get from the books

  • @Daeven1
    @Daeven1 2 года назад +12

    I think it’s important to note: Everyone learns differently, so for some audiobooks can be just as good or better than physical books. When I listen to an audiobook I’ll glean most of the information, And I keep notes on my Google Keep when I hear something super important.

  • @prismonthethehorizon5793
    @prismonthethehorizon5793 2 года назад +7

    1) Taking Action is the key to making progress. It's essential to take even the smallest steps.
    a) Embrace the flinch so we can overcome the fear and build the life we want! F**k the excuses just do it!
    b) Pick 3 concepts from each book that you read. Track the information. Take notes, highlight the best ideas, underline quotes, use post it notes.
    c)

  • @tylerhawley2106
    @tylerhawley2106 2 года назад +75

    I strongly agree! I used to be obsessed with learning as much self-help and personal improvement as possible, especially going from video to video. But eventually realized that I wasn't seeing much benefit because I couldn't recall much of what I had "learned" and didn't put it into practice. Overall, if you aren't first covering the essentials (enough sleep, eating right, exercise, have a planner), then you'll see minimal benefits from other tips like email management techniques. First though, grapple with why and whether you should be pursuing self-help. In what way do you want it to improve your life? To what end does being hyper-efficient matter if it just means you can now do more work? What do we lose by trying to turn our imperfect selves into unreachable perfection?

    • @hnnhml
      @hnnhml Год назад +1

      I totally agree!

    • @farismalik580
      @farismalik580 Год назад +1

      The fact that reading many self help books didn't even made me sleep on time. And one day, walking in park, one of my old friend called me and i saw him, we talked, he was going to gym, he took me with him, i did workout, i came next day and going to this day and eventually my diet, sleep schedule, discipline, motivation, power to do boring and hard things, it all came out of nowhere from that call of my friend while walking, and not from dozens of self help books

  • @hieunguyen_design
    @hieunguyen_design 2 года назад +1

    Hi Matt, i stopped reading self-help book for years since I knew your channel. Now your videos are my audio self-help books

  • @malalalalalala
    @malalalalalala 2 года назад +73

    Interesting that you mention the thing i found out about self-help books within the first minute - taking action! You can read 100s of these books and become the greatest expert on the topic, but if you never take action it doesn't matter.
    And most people will read these books and continue to not take action. That is why this industry is so successful. People have all the needed tools in their hands but when it comes to action they rather quit and read the next book hoping for the secret formula that will change their life.

    • @soundscape26
      @soundscape26 2 года назад +2

      Agree yes, most people basically _read_ those books as an end, rarely as a means that leads to acting. And besides, most of the information contained in them is available for free online in a ton of different shapes and forms.

  • @intentional_nourishment
    @intentional_nourishment 2 года назад +9

    Definitely the reminder I needed to take notes as I read! I always think I'm going to end up lending the books to someone so I always hesitate to write in them, but it really does add to the experience!

  • @iambinitadey
    @iambinitadey 2 года назад +3

    1. take action, don't just theorize.
    2. pick three concepts from every self help book and put them into practice immediately.
    3. act to your flinch and just DO IT.
    4. take better notes while reading.
    5. don't blindly follow what worked for the author, question and adapt in your own unique way.
    6. from every book find 3 things that you can test, and 1 thing that will stick to you in long run.
    7. be your own guru.

  • @_peterlawson
    @_peterlawson 2 года назад +9

    Really great advice. Taking notes has been the game changer for me. I personally like to keep it simple and I put a pencil like either side of a key thought or lesson from a book. After I finish the book, I’ll type them all up.

  • @lka8735
    @lka8735 Год назад +6

    - 2:17 flinch
    - 2:33 restrain
    - 4:01 brim with
    - 4:20 glean
    - 4:33 diligently
    - 4:34 stand out
    - 5:26 tactile : xúc giác
    - 7:24 hardball: bóng chày

  • @yazeedfallatah6941
    @yazeedfallatah6941 2 года назад +3

    ''sure , the tactile feeling of reading a book is nice '' . That's not just nice , it is The beauty of reading .

  • @antikotsi7080
    @antikotsi7080 2 года назад +2

    I have been reading/listening some self-help books and you are right, they offer valuable knowledge on how to improve yourself and your life. what I have understood from those books is that " inaction kills dreams" For different reasons some people stop trying or stop dreaming and stay in their comfort zone for many years as a result when they get older they get ever more miserable in their life. One of the best pieces of advice that I received was " every 2 years do something significant in your life: change house, change job, study something, move somewhere else etc , this will be a major aspect to sharper your skills and to get out of the comfortable zone.

  • @nemekSI
    @nemekSI 2 года назад +13

    *I didn't think I would enjoy reading but I started about 6 months ago and now I cant stop! It is super fun to learn new things especially self help books. My current favs are dont believe everything you think, never split the difference, and atomic habits!*

  • @kerryfoster1
    @kerryfoster1 2 года назад +11

    I still have Dale Carnegie's book - read many years ago! The points made are still as valid today as then. Its all about human nature and perception. Brilliant book. Recommend you read it.

  • @miguelpoky2
    @miguelpoky2 2 года назад +2

    Quick implementation of the lessons you learn are the key. Like you know it's good advice even if you only take away one thing from the book but, people don't normally even put the effort in to do what they just learned.

  • @officialcalvinwayman
    @officialcalvinwayman 2 года назад +2

    Matt, the storytelling in this video is insane. So good! And concise. Thank you from the all of us.

  • @bhsprinkle
    @bhsprinkle 2 года назад +36

    Agreed. If you read all these self-help books without putting it into practice, it doesn't help much. It still put you in the right mindset but action is the most crucial place to start once mindset in in place.
    I'm the same about not wanting to ruin my books with earing pages and highlights. I am open to taking notes though.

    • @bjwilliams
      @bjwilliams 2 года назад +2

      Self help books are more about changing your mindset. How you think determines how you will live your life. Its your life, not anyone else's. All about me.😘

    • @bhsprinkle
      @bhsprinkle 2 года назад +1

      @@bjwilliams Yes. Mindset is a certainly a key factor in moving yourself into action.

  • @mrxgamer7567
    @mrxgamer7567 2 года назад +3

    I started "The Power of your subconscious mind" as my first book, and literally I've completed 8 Chapters in three days and i implemented whatever the author suggested and it really changed my mindset.

  • @and_vizion8945
    @and_vizion8945 2 года назад +1

    Simply fantastic video Matt!

  • @nathanielpeton516
    @nathanielpeton516 Год назад +1

    1. Take Action - Take 3 concepts and put them into action from each book
    2. Take Notes
    3. Author's become Mentors
    4. Think Critical - going with an open mind. Find three things to test and hopefully one thing that will stick.
    5. Ultimately be your own guru!

  • @imperial-gamer
    @imperial-gamer 2 года назад +4

    Man you look awesome with the new sweater!

  • @Verah___
    @Verah___ 2 года назад +3

    I love that point where you said not everything in self help books is true. I realized that some of the things said in some books didn’t feel right with my spirit. If it doesn’t feel right for you leave it alone. Authors are not perfect. They also still have a lot to learn and grow from.

    • @HannahMarieee
      @HannahMarieee 2 года назад +2

      yeah i loved that too! hey btw verah, i recently started my own channel where i talk a lot about well-being, self growth and a healthy lifestyle, if you wanna check it out☺️

    • @Verah___
      @Verah___ 2 года назад +2

      @@HannahMarieee okay.. let me check it out

    • @HannahMarieee
      @HannahMarieee 2 года назад +1

      @@Verah___ cool thank you🥰

  • @itsmevruu
    @itsmevruu 2 года назад +1

    Your content is like a therapy. Be the sight, be it the script, be the "you". Presentation ofcourse matters in every sort and aspect. Indeed, you aced it!! Kudos 👍❤️

  • @PatrickIrvinemusic
    @PatrickIrvinemusic Год назад +1

    Thank you Matt. Keep creating 🙏

  • @oscarbull
    @oscarbull 2 года назад +3

    Some very true points. I've had to start reading all of my favourite books again just to take notes and fully consume their insights, would have saved a lot of time had I read them that way the first time round.

  • @Gruso57
    @Gruso57 2 года назад +4

    I changed my life drastically by reading and implementing Atomic Habits. If anyone is new to Self Help I would absolutely start with that book as it will lay a foundation for you with everything in life.

  • @mohamed96091
    @mohamed96091 Год назад +1

    Its very rare for me to search for an uplifting and self-develpoment videos, and I'm glad I found yours honestly. I'm actually surprisingly motivated, and hopefully will start reading books again. Thanks.

  • @shuki1
    @shuki1 2 года назад +1

    The paperback book might be the best technology for a deep dive on a subject. Screens are convenient, but I most enjoy reading something on paper in my hands.

  • @joshmiller8130
    @joshmiller8130 2 года назад +21

    Analogy of the transition to adulthood (my perspective)
    All your life as a kid you're nurtured and taken care of, hidden from a lot of the struggles that you may face when older. The transition of being a kid and becoming an adult is so quick and rough, you’re taught a few things here and there to help the transition but it’s not enough. One day you’re on top of the mountain, the next you're pushed off the cliff into adulthood and you try to stop yourself from hitting the bottom with the tools you have. You pull out your umbrella to slow the fall but it breaks and you keep plummeting and hit the bottom. You then have to pick yourself up and figure out how you can get back up the mountain and develop the tools needed to rise back up, you come across many problems along the way but you have to show adversity to get over these problems you get help along the way but at the end of the day you mostly face these problems by yourself. Many people spend all their life climbing this mountain to find no peak, some make it to the top, some are so badly hurt from the fall they don’t begin the climb.

    • @dannymoore6635
      @dannymoore6635 2 года назад +2

      I can relate to this in a lot of ways. Well said good sir.

    • @joshmiller8130
      @joshmiller8130 2 года назад

      @@dannymoore6635 Appreciate it brother!

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  • @RB-yt6rx
    @RB-yt6rx 2 года назад +1

    I listen to your videos when I'm working or cleaning my house. Thank you for breaking things down in such a compassionate and real way. No one has ever spoken to 'me' in a way I can relate to. So thank you. Keep doing what you do!

  • @thehomemakersblog23
    @thehomemakersblog23 2 года назад

    Thank you for this video. I'm going back through all my self help books to take notes properly from them rather than reading and trying to remember!

  • @dreamergirl1140
    @dreamergirl1140 2 года назад +18

    I started struggling with memory retention issues last year, so I've started underlining in my precious books--something that my younger self would have found unforgivable. It's actually been so much easier to flip back through and read the underlined portions to remind myself of my biggest personal takeaways from the book.

  • @YungLev
    @YungLev 2 года назад +3

    I like the new format of your videos! Keep it up!

  • @agustinbadariotto
    @agustinbadariotto 2 года назад +2

    The direction of this video is insane, great production guys! Really a solid work of direction and investigation

  • @hailhydra5061
    @hailhydra5061 2 года назад +2

    I suffered in college until I came up with the underlining, highlighting, and post-it tricks you highlighted here. Whatever I did that for is what I studied for before the test. It worked like a charm.

  • @VxThrasherxV
    @VxThrasherxV 2 года назад +3

    1000% Agree to either practice some of what they are saying as you are reading it or annotate your books. The self help book that really "opened my eyes" was How to UnF*ck Yourself. There is a line in there that really stuck with me about him bashing self help books (in a sense people are not putting them into practice) stating something along the lines of:
    What are you going to do? Buy a new self help book, read it, feel productive for a week and then spiral back into your old habits and buy a new one and restart the cycle. You know what you need to do so start acting and stop "pretending" you are fixing it.
    At the time I had read 15 or so books back to back no applying or practicing anything. I read less of the books now but do so with more intention to practice what I'm doing to actually help myself instead of putting a bandaid over it

  • @LuLu-mi2zu
    @LuLu-mi2zu 2 года назад +5

    Would love to see the book list of the 100 books you've read !!

  • @emarosegumaru
    @emarosegumaru 2 года назад +1

    This is my most favorite video (as of today) of all of your videoes, Matt. ☺️❤️

  • @Kelson01
    @Kelson01 2 года назад

    I liked the transition at 1:52 - Things like that go unappreciated, but it's the small things that make a good video into a great one.

  • @ErikStenbakken
    @ErikStenbakken 2 года назад +35

    100.00% percent bullseye. I’ve read almost every one of the books shown in this video. And I was introduced to many of those authors via Matt’s previous RUclips work: The Ground Up Show. If you haven’t gone through those interviews, I highly recommend them. But even there, you have to take action ;-)

  • @arthurnunes2010
    @arthurnunes2010 2 года назад +13

    Do not read a book. Study it.

  • @betterechoes
    @betterechoes 2 года назад

    Seriously, go take action NOW! I have binged probably THOUSANDS of hours self help content, but nothing feels better or means more than ACTUALLY TAKING ACTION. GO!

  • @tspencer661
    @tspencer661 2 года назад

    I love the authors who will tell you which books they read on their journey, so I can read those books, too.

  • @Goose61422
    @Goose61422 2 года назад +3

    Love the videos Matt!! Thanks for all you do sir.

  • @heyheyvicky1498
    @heyheyvicky1498 2 года назад +11

    Some famous books I found to be of no use for me (like power of now or TSAONGAF) and some were almost life changing like atomic habits. One that is still one of my favourites is The Upward Spiral - it helped me more with my depression than my therapist...says a lot about her....

    • @hithere2426
      @hithere2426 2 года назад

      What do you have to say about atomic habits. I'd love your opinion on that one! Also about The Now Habit, if you've read that perhaps

    • @heyheyvicky1498
      @heyheyvicky1498 2 года назад +1

      @@hithere2426 Well the major thing I took for me from this book was to be patient and not just trust, but fall in love with the process. As an perfectionist and someone struggeling with happiness in the daily tasks I managed to reframe a lot of things and even when I failed at sonething I still See it now as getting a step closer to a Goal because I learned from it. Basically those things always stuck better in my head when I see the science behind it :) I didn't read the other book, maybe I'll look into it

  • @030Lizz030
    @030Lizz030 2 года назад +2

    0:27 “Suprisingly handsome youtubers” that line and your face just made my day 🤣🤣🤣.
    Loved it!

  • @fairlyfrugalph845
    @fairlyfrugalph845 2 года назад +2

    8:00 "Ultimately, self-help is about the self. That's you. With every piece of content that you consume, consider how you could be an active participant in your own journey, by questioning, implementing and taking action in your own life. Because while it's great to take inspiration from some of this brilliant thinkers who came before you, you need to your own guru." - love this. 🙌

  • @linedpaper5374
    @linedpaper5374 2 года назад +3

    fantastic video concept, beautifully crafted, and great utility. would love to see you share your list of the 100 SH books on goodreads or something. and/or a follow up video on your top 10 or so and why? great content as usual, matt! ty!

  • @mrgrumpy888
    @mrgrumpy888 2 года назад +12

    "If you're looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by someone else? That's not self-help, that's help"
    George Carlin

  • @laventillelady9733
    @laventillelady9733 2 года назад +1

    I tried the super cold shower for 2 straight days. It is enormously stressfull and frightening before you hop in but once you are in there you feel invigorated! The cold shower is a great driver to get the day started and focus on those goals (for the day). I intend to try it again tomorrow ...🤗

  • @jdschramm2
    @jdschramm2 2 года назад

    This was surfed up to me while I was supposed to be grading my students' final projects. I'm glad the algorithm at RUclips thought I needed this. It was a welcome and fascinating short diversion. And...yes...I like the sweater.

  • @TheDoomerGoGetter
    @TheDoomerGoGetter 2 года назад +7

    What are some good books on growing an online business?
    I want to find some books that will give me good advice on growing my RUclips channel.
    Also do you have any tips on being able to pay attention to reading, I'm brand new to it and my zoomer brain can't pay attention, I need to do a dopamine detox soon

    • @Zeon7510
      @Zeon7510 2 года назад

      Blue ocean strategy. Find your niche; don't copy exactly what another youtuber does.
      ruclips.net/video/VAAh4OKyQVc/видео.html

  • @shivenpatel694
    @shivenpatel694 2 года назад +8

    Can youu share the list of 100 books please!!!

  • @Foreignmonk34
    @Foreignmonk34 2 года назад +1

    Good video. Daily meditation is maybe the best method at least for me, even though it feels sometimes boring, annoying, waste of time etc. At least twice a day (morning & night), sometimes more, the duration changes depending on other factors.

  • @sangameshmetre5057
    @sangameshmetre5057 Год назад +1

    The main aim of education is not knowledge but it is action

  • @HannahMarieee
    @HannahMarieee 2 года назад +4

    from cringe to binge 😄 very true & great video, thank you matt!

  • @aaronmhacker
    @aaronmhacker 2 года назад +3

    Thanks matt, couldn’t wait to see if 12 rules for life was mentioned nice to see it pop up in one of the clips