January Habits & January Cohabiting | S2 E16
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- Опубликовано: 29 янв 2023
- What is it like living with my boyfriend now that he’s moved in? How do we make our January habits stick and make sure old habits don’t creep back in? And what do we do when New Year motivation starts to run out?
I'm not your usual viewer lol. I'm a 70 year old woman in Canada who is a member of Joel's youtube channel. Had to check you out, of course lol, make sure you're good enough for our Joel haha. Just kidding, you guys are great together. Anyway, even though I'm old and retired, I still have goals; to travel the world taking photographs. I'm usually pretty good at focusing on goals and working toward them but sometimes I get distracted. Now I'm watching you for your great coaching and mental-health approach. its helped me to keep my eyes on what I want from the months and years to come, and not make it a catastrophe if I slip up. I believe in habits. they allow you to accept a new behaviour into your live and then allow it to become ingrained.
Yes, Joel finally found a good one.
Drink Small Beer instead of Beer/larger
I’m also a Joel subscriber, also Canadian. Can’t wait to dive into this channel.
Suzanne, your not so old. I am 67, soon to be 68, and I think like someone in my 20s. Anyway, yes, Keegan, is a good solid, dependable guy. And cute too. Don't worry!
Did you really lol?
It's funny, I've enjoyed watching Keegan and Joel and Lia for the past 3-4 years. Never thought that their paths would collide. I think it's a fabulous match!!!
Love how emotional you get when you talk about Joel hope you have a long happy life together
Well done Keegan straight forward constructive help No waffling ! Congratulations to you and Joel on your new life together you are a great team with positive values
My heart literally melted when you said “my other half” the Awwwwwwwww that escaped out of me.
So cute huh?!❤
I appreciate your aim to help gay men, but the topics you covered were helpful to me and probably lots of other people. Thank you ❤✌️
I'm soo glad you and Joel found each other !! You balance each other perfectly. Your help center Joel and he brings out your playfulness .
Unless I have an injury I cannot walk off. I am always with in 6-8 weeks of being in top notch shape. I have been genetically gifted in that sense. I have only refined my diet and exercise lifestyles. no alcohol, no smokes and no drugs. Thanks to you keegan I got the baby fat to go away by diet. always thought I was not doing enough cardio, but that was absolutely wrong. even though I did not have much, I fought that little bit for almost 30 years.
Your take on habits was pretty helpful because I lack structure in my life. I have a lot of things in my life I need to change, but I have never wanted to make the time commitment. The way you describe habit makes it sound easier. I am not gay, but this is good information for everyone. I am in the US.
One of my other favorite YT content creators also likes the book Atomic Habits intensely and often quotes from it.
Excellent podcast! I absolutely love the level of respect you show for others. Relationships aren't perfect and they are messy, but approaching those relationships with respect makes all the difference in the world. And I am so happy for you and Joel.
Hello Keegan My opinion is that good habits are like walking at the bottom of the canyon. On the one hand, you can't see everything. On the other hand, the things you cannot see are things that you don't want to see. It's good to adjust your life in order to get rid of visual triggers that lead to distraction.
Keegan I enjoyed hearing about your experiences with Joel, I have been a long time subscriber of Joel and Lia and I am glad that you are part of his life. I am trying to get into some new habits this podcast was motivational for trying new things and doing them constantly.
Keegan, can you address procrastination in one of your podcasts...I think that's a big hurdle for a lot of adults esp with adult ADHD...being a middle to upper aged gay man, there is no manual or many self help books on how to age without a partner and how not to fall victim to body shaming since our 'culture' seems to be so centered on looks but the reality is we all age even as vain gay men we are not immune. These issues should have some light shed on them. Cheers mate, have a wonderful week! From Mebane, NC USA
Forgive me for being so shallow. But you're GORGEOUS😍
Congratulations on being sober curious and participating in dry January. I hope you get many benefits from it.
It is a good idea to step back and evaluate your relationship to alcohol.
Ha ha nice to hear you waffling 🙂I do like the discussion about habits give you freedom. Something to work with. Quite often habits are seen as something negativ, but the freedom aspect was good. Must say that Joel has his hands full 😂😂 You are a nice voice in the community so keep up the good work!
Thank you for sharing...
Love your words on habits about breakfast/lunch/dinner and gym!
Keegan, I have had a lifetime, of going up and down on my weight. Now, that my health is at stake, my back, I have been sticking to my food plan for over 5 months. I still eat everything, but I try to include more protein, and less sodium. So far, I have lost about 25 pounds. I only weigh myself about once a month. I am not focused on the weight as much as my health! I think this time, its going to stick. Like you, I like my sweets, and will not deprive myself. But, I don't eat them, as much as I use to, and not in the amount I use to. I like your philosophy in life, about your health. And the one thing that cracked me up, was how you said. "Its just a body" This was when Joel couldn't believe how you came to the door, scantily dressed. Lol, as I get older, I go to the door in my nightgown, with my boobs hanging down. I really don't care what other people think anymore. I just care what I think about how I feel about myself, and my health! My opinion is the only one that matters when it comes to my body! Anyway, I hope you and Joel get married, because I think you are good for him! Love you, and that deep sexy voice. Take care. Catherine.
Great advice! Love your insights.
Welcome back Keegan. Good to hear your blog. Looking forward to your 2023 journey
was awesome...thanks for this...have a good day...thanks for what you do!
Great advice! Thanks Keegan
Love your outlook!❤❤
Shared! Bless yours & Joel’s fidelity for each other.
Love watching your podcasts and the life and motivation tips, plus getting to know you more 🙂
Good advice Keegan. 🙂
enjoyed it Keegan. Particularly liked the fact that communication is really good between you and Joel. Have a great week!
I find you to be very inspirational and your story is one for the books. You really have your head on straight and hope to one day achieve the body that I want so your advice is truly appreciated. On a side note, do take care of our Joel. You two are precious.
I love your podcast, I love this format and your advice is spot on. I really need to break some habits and reset my life. Thanks for giving me the impetus that I needed to retake control and stop feeling crappy about letting me get to where I am physically. Just watched Joel’s vlog and I must say you two have a healthy relationship.
Thanks Keegan, I've never given habits much thought but when you lay it out like that I realize a lot of my stresses probably stem from not having healthy habits such as social and financial! I keep telling myself to get a journal to keep track of my routine, this has given me the push I needed.
Keegan I followed your advice from your last vlog about regulating in January. 💯percent ready for my February goals on through 2023‼Thank you and hi to Joel❣. Great content today 👍Congratulations on a dry January. I do have a 99% sober lifestyle for decades now. Works for me.
I connect to your way of thinking, Keegan. What a sensible, honest man you are. I hope you and Joel have joint-habits.
Absolutely love your podcast! The advice was spot on and encouraging. Passing this on to my son’s who are at a critical time in their lives. Thank you so much for sharing your personal insightful knowledge. Looking forward to the next one.
Compromise is key in relationships!! Great work brother 👏 ✌
Thank you what great advice going to take this up as have had health issues for a few years and what to get my body and mind straight and listening to you has made me think as have seen and heard overs but you say it as it is looking forward to next one ❤
You're a wonderful role model, Keegan. Love seeing you and Joel, and love your positive channel. You are very witty, intelligent, and funny. Keep up the good work, mate.
Great Talk! You have reminded me of what I used to do. Gratitude always works. Habits do help keep things flowing. I've learn to streamline a few over the years and they still work. I have made it to 69years and hopeful many more. Congrats to you and Joel. All the best.
"Come back next week and I might have throttled him" HA!!
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Good advice on making gym easier. Use one you like being in, use one that's on the way to and from something else you have to visit, keep your kit where you will see it when getting dressed and leaving home.
I loved what you said about the mindset of setting habits. What can I stick to on my worst days rather than what can I do on my best days. Love that & I’m keeping it. I also gave up alcohol and went all of 2022 dry and honestly didn’t miss it. I’ve had one cocktail this year & found it very easy to stop after that.
The thing I've found though is how hard it can be to make the 28 day consistently to make a habit ...and how easy it is how quick it is to break a habit. Love the episode post regularly friend...share that wisdom 👏 🙌 🥰❤️🔥
I find it really interesting that you're such a realist in life, but portray the perfect body must. Doesn't quite add up, but I get it. You're amazing. Not all of us can live up to those standards.
I don’t really know what you mean there Jonathan
Enjoyed this, Keegan!
Always interesting listening to you Keegan
I know I am not your target. I'm a 59 Year Old Woman. But I want to say thanks to you ! I get at least one thing out of your videos. Thanks for putting yourself out there.
Yes that’s The truth, I agree what you are saying 👍
Amazing content Keegan - you guys are both a hoot - and you are hilarious. Thanks for sharing your lives together with us. Change like this must be difficult getting used to. But ever soo rewarding. Grats to you and Joel and more power ot you both!! :)
You seem totally sincere and honest. I want my son to have a relationship like you have with Joel. Thank you for relating that relationship is a relationship between any two people
You and Joel are impressive young men. Good luck to you both.
Looking good, Keegan!! Communication is definitely number one in a healthy relationship, followed closely by respect & honesty/trust, IMO of course. I bet putting the biscuit & sweets tins in the garage went over like a lead balloon with you-know-who. LOL ;-)
Finally read Atomic Habits this month. Fantastic book and really helpful for setting up new successful habits. 👍
I’m like a lot of others on here not in your usual client base as a hetro woman, but what you say and more importantly how you explain it was really helpful to me. I’m exactly as you described, don’t like my body, never in photos, don’t like how clothes look and hate having to buy “fat people clothes”.
I’m going to try and pick habits that I can stick to on my worst days and see how this goes.
You should branch out with your client base your ideals and straight talking are good for all walks of life, great podcast and congrats on you and Joel you guys together are so nice and normal to watch.
OMG - your back!!! 🎉😊❤
I’m really enjoying your podcasts and learning from them too. Your positive attitude motivates me.
I'm so glad!
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Am quite impressed with your maturity and insight. Thank you! I learned much. By the way, I am very happy for you and Joel and I wish you both well.
Keegan. You are incredible! What a role model. S many men, [gay and straight] have so much to learn from You. The journey you have been on, all your adult life is a beacon to us all. [And speaking as a gay bloke about to enter his 6th decade....do the maths.... your proper Northern bloke advice resonates so clearly. [Yep, a 'northern' bloke too.] Habits: absolutely. Embrace and use them to your advantage. I for one would be impossible to live with! 2 of everything, facing in the same direction etc... you get the picture. However, with You and Joel we all find inspiration to hope to find 'the one'. Beginning of 2023, Spring and summer ahead. For us all get outside and experience fresh air and the simple pleasures in life. Nature is a natural healer.
Good luck to you both. Joel, life up't north is far better! Cheers Keegan. Excellent advice.
It's your podcast and you can do what you like!
I find time management is very important in creating good habits. I also find if you manage your time, you can break bad habits like waiting until the end of the day to exercise knowing you will be less likely to exercise due to you being too tired. If you make the time in the morning, you will have more energy and are more likely to have energy throughout the day.
My dad always used to say “lack of communication causes wars” so deffo agree people need to talk more !!! I wish I could do more but unfortunately I’m disabled n can’t do much 😢 but I’m alive ❤
Great podcast Keegan! Made me laugh when you said you talk with your hands, I recently went on a date and said the samw thing to them that I talk with my hands too 😂Joking aside very thought provoking and great ideas that you talked about and things to really think about and doing simple things to change.
Good video 👌
Absolutely loved watching your vlog . Had the sound quality been better , that would have added cherry to the cake !
Please don't throttle Joel, LOL, too funny. I like the say no to everything so you don't spread yourself to thin. Personal time, so important.😜
"Talk with my hands"; you're Italian, right?
Love your approach of looking at what you can do on your worse day and building from there.
Joel has been neglecting his januavlog but you come to rescue 😂
Keegan you are inspiring! We’ve been following Joel for many years and truly feel you two are so good for each other.
Our secret; We will always face conversations that are uncomfortable, hard, BUT we always remember that the person (my husband or me) is coming from a place of love and adores you more than anything else in the world. This eliminates the defense that can come up.
We don’t fight we listen to each other truly try to understand each other and remember the love.
That’s the way we see it.
So happy we’ve gotten to know you thanks for your wisdom. ~Cara 😊
I’ve got 2 words to say to you Keegan Hirst- HELLO GORGEOUS!!!!! Va-va- va-Voom😅 I like the philosophy “Treat your body like a Temple”…
I’m trying intermittent fasting (extreme version, 1 meal a day) and after the first week, where I struggled with energy levels in the morning, I have reached my goal of losing 4 & half kilos and I’m continuing fasting to try losing another kilo. I will add more weight training so it will probably take longer (maybe two weeks). I’m also going to add a protein supplement as I’m vegetarian. Which I will have after my training sessions. Do you suggest adding more brisk walks to my regimen would be beneficial?
I suggest a regime that you’ll be able to sustain for life. Unfortunately, this does not sound like it is
@@keeganandjoel - I’ve been able to maintain this for a month. I’ve always in the past had trouble gaining weight. It wasn’t until I hit my fifties that I noticed clothes starting to not fit. I’m 189cms tall & back down to 76 kilograms. So I’ll see how long I can continue as I would like to lose 1 or 2 more kilos, then get back into my serious weight training. I do my 10 k steps a day. But was just wondering if you think once I’ve finished this fast. Whether adding a 20 or 30 minute walk as well as the 10k steps would benefit weight maintenance.
Com-mu-ni-cation. Got it. 😅 LOL
Could you please put camera a bit further away, so we could see your hands all the time. I think I could understand everything even on mute then. 😊
"My other half, I wouldn't say my better half" OUCH
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Joel is your better half 😂😂
Keagan! I'm waiting for Turkish translation. 🧿♥️
I can see why people hire you as a "life coach?" Is that what you call it? You're very inspiring. I feel like I should try the gratitude journal and see if it helps. But maybe I'll set my habit at the lowest bar and do it one day a week, so if it happens more often, that's great but not the expectation.
Please excuse the fact that I didn't know who you were until Joel started dating you. I've been a follower of his for a while. I'm grateful that I've come across you. You are inspiring and obviously a good life coach as well. I've hit dark times and watching this video took my depression away and had a light bulb moment and I thank you for that. I'm definitely going to put your words into action within my own life. I appreciate your content so much and again I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Lv from America.
Just let me say that I love your hands.
total different subject for just a moment... I love the length of your hair - it really suits you.... back to the podcast - love it (this is even relevant for heterosexual people) Im not gay... but I've been a lgbtq-supporter since early '80s when life was really difficult
Your a nice looking man ! Is that an Australian accent? Outside of that, I love your mind set.
He has a Yorkshire accent.
Would you consider a podcast concerning senior gay men and their challenges. a 75 yr old gay man
I can't imagine the pressure of dating a person with your looks and smarts, I'm sure must challenging for your boyfriend too. Is like having a Porsche as your first car, where does one goes from there. I've seen his videos he seems a good guy ( a bit of a ditz), the important thing is if he makes you happy i think worth navigating the challenges of living together. Relationships are work, there's always the one who controls and demands and then the one who gives in and nods. Is human nature to be territorial . On the other hand, I don't know the first thing about gyms, or sports or how to be perfect like you are. I never been that perfect gay guy. I think is weird taking advice from a perfect person when we know for sure that you wouldn't be where you are if u didn't look the way you do, and certainly an average guy even applying such advice wouldn't achieve what you had. You are a good person, i give you that, but you don't have the first idea of what is to struggle as gay person, you were embraced and praised from day one. Look at you, you look like something that Mattel and Tom of Finland joined forces to build in some lab. By all means, get real.
You sound so envious and depressed that you should consider mental health counseling
Just let Joel do what ever he wants. Happy wife is a happy life ;)
Happy husband.
I,m 70 help me
How about learning how to eat Breakfast in Bed? 😂
Not your “better” half!
This was a bunch of rambling and nothing about JOEL!
What????
Exactly.
Great talk coach.
✳️ very clear, very effective, and true #datswatsup