Ive been taking notes since i found your channel in 2020. I suscribed & Did the work and has upgraded my Single Mom life to being Kept, soon to be married. Do the Work if you want to attract the Man you want.
I think society today has traditional wives misconstrued, and not the other way around. Women are creatives and so since the dawn of time we have monetized our passions, from home economics (selling cookies, beauty products, clothes, etc.) to now influencing. The key is to have a husband who can provide the essentials so your monetized passions are supplemental income and not a demanding requirement to keep the household afloat.
Yeah I remember on Twitter this woman who does hair for a living, heavily pregnant herself, calling women "bums" for not working while pregnant. She got absolutely flamed on that app, they told her she's just mad because the man who knocked her up doesn't take care of her.
I'm no longer in the business of apologizing for my blessings. I used to be shamed for being favored by those who wanted to shower me with gifts, advice, compliments, a helpful hand, opportunities etc and i took on that shame. But I've realized it came from jealous ppl. Women who wanted what i had/ have and men who knew they couldn't provide let alone afford to. So let's just call these ppl what they are.. Jealous
I had to make this journey as well and can imagine God being so confused as to why I’m ashamed for my blessings. I wasted so much time not enjoying my blessings to the fullest until I realized how insidious jealousy is. Now I make sure to enjoy all my blessings to the fullest.
@@Devi_SeonaThe soft life DOES exist. I’m not younger and my life is the most peaceful and relaxed (for the most part) than it’s ever been. Self care and relaxation are daily things for me.
I think Nara doesn’t abide by the unwritten rule of “SLEATH” bc a) she’s famous in her own right and b) hypergamy is not something she needed to be taught. I think Nara and Jasmine Tookes are perfect examples of black women who consider hypergamy simply to be common sense. Meaning they didn’t have to work out of a poverty mindset nor be intentional about tapping into their femininity. You can somewhat tell that this is completely natural for them and they’re just being their authentic selves. No reformation, no course correction, no unlearning. I don’t think they even consider themselves as living “hypergamously” they’re just living
True. Not everyone has to heal from their childhood. Not every woman has to shed their feminist programming or masculine energy because they were never masculine or raised to be like men to begin with.
No one should idolize or be jealous of another woman's relationship or life. You don't know what happens behind closed doors or what people are doing to maintain their lifestyle. Spend your time and energy on self improvement and self care. This society, as a collective, only wants to see Black women laboring and struggling. It makes a lot of people, including other women, uncomfortable to see a Black woman happy, joyful, not stressed out,and enjoying leisurely things. Girl on girl forms of violence is jealousy and Mean Girl Culture that we don't talk about. I'm happy for women who are living a life that makes them genuinely happy.
My husband works so hard and barely gets time off because he has not only his family to support but his employees would also have families....The pressure is stressful...As the wife, I have to be OK with him working so much and I would have to step up to holding the house and kids down most of the time without him...Ppl see the resolves but never the hard work...Are there alot of benefits? Yes, but it's not for everyone, especially the put in hard work part....
This is why as a kept wife who just quit being an engineer because corporate America is for rough and cut throat energy that i do not have anymore..... This is why i keep my business to myself.... Women are jealous of a woman that moves as she pleases. Because the truth is they feel like why you but not them. Moving in silence is a super power.
@@Mya-sui those people you mentioned are upper Middle class. I'm not 🤷🏾♀️ I don't have trouble acquiring more assets even after resigning... On one income. And every asset is in my name. That's why I said that's your opinion. Not facts
They’d be sick if they knew how many women in Texas lived like this!! I found out once I entered the crunchy mom lifestyle. We have conventions and all kinds of events dedicated to the lifestyle.
I had a doctor’s appointment and the nurse asked where my 3-month old was and I said he’s with the babysitter. She comes 3 days a week. My husband works from home and I’m a stay at home. The nurse was speechless.
well my mom and dad's hypergamous marriage ended in my mom's death they were married for 50 years I hope to have a provider husband like my father one day
I worked since I was 18, at times two jobs... when my husband and I had our son I became a stay at home mom... I love cooking homemade meals, baking, bread etc... our son drains me mentally most days and my husband comes homes every day and takes over caring for our son and weekends are my time to truly relax. I am grateful and I pray all women have a great provider, husband and father. being a stay at home mom is the hardest responsibility I have and I'm so blessed and grateful to truly raise our child and future children. all women deserve the soft life.
@@Mya-sui lol girly you don't know my life. like how my husband spends two hours with our son when he gets home, as I cook dinner. he's a great father so he wants to spend time with his son since he's gone all day 5 days a week. and he loves me so much he loves giving me breaks. spending time with our son isn't a job to him. our family is blessed with a God fearing man that will carry his family on his back to make sure we are all happy. I could go on for days but I'll just say thank you Lord for my husband who doesn't complain and loves to see his family happy.. and I love to make my husband happy. we're good over here :)
I am an older mom and and my husband and I decided I would cut back on work and stay home with my daughter . I work two days or if the week and and stay home with my daughter most days. I love it . I l no longer feel tired or worn out . I can enjoy being a mom
As a forever feminine single woman BY CHOICE, the clips from the women/families at the beginning had me smiling from ear to ear with joy. I love to see it. Although, marriage is not for me I get so much joy from seeing Black women married, being loved on, staying home and living such an amazing life.
Why would anyone be upset over a woman who chooses to prioritise catering to her husband and kids, over working a job? The reality is, most women would choose a softer life if they could, myself included.
Just be quiet. I am learning the hard way. And if you are around an older black woman working her butt off. Take your wedding ring off. She will set up these women are vicious. They don't say they are in pain, but their actions show it
How did we get from, ‘Black women need luxury’ to all this vitriol when a lot of women actually achieve that? Jealousy is at an all time high. You spoke no lies, Chloe!
It’s called jealousy ladies that causes one woman who is taken care well by their husband. These women who attacks other women have very low self esteem. I’m 63 years old and my mother told me not tell many people my business now social media is the SAME as telling everyone your business. Be smart ladies.
You literally see them crying and whining all over Tik Tok and RUclips in those "I'm sick of working" and "The economy is making me broke" videos, even though they're claiming to love being a boss chick. I saw statistics a year ago that over 75% of Americans hated their jobs, so somebody's lying. These same women will be quick to verbally abuse a homemaker though (unprovoked).
Lord please be safe if you let people see a glimpse of your hypergamous life. When I was newly married and tried to be nice to women in my children's extra curriculars, at school meetings, even at some community events, the jealousy was ridiculous. Seeing my car, my fine husband, our children winning awards and scholarships, just me coming and being fit, well spoken and polite, may as well been an all out attack on single working women. Being 15 years in our marriage now, I've been blessed with about 2 excellent friends in similar situations as far as being a pretty well off and married stay at home moms, 😊 and my family is very respectful of our relationship. Please be safe out here. I find that being private about all the things I'm blessed to do and receive perserves my peace ✌
I definitely understand jealousy from other women, but the way a lot of you talk, you definitely also do think you're better than other women. Being nice doesn't hide the fact that your words and energy are giving extremely condescending, even if you're not meaning to be. Humility around other women who have been used, abused and hurt wouldn't kill any of us. Take care.
@@chorizoramen93 Her speaking of her achievements and bragging are two different things. It seems to be that anytime a woman in her circumstances speaks of their achievements AT ALL, the eyes start rolling from other women. Now some homemakers are arrogant, but many of us are also seen that way for simply existing at times; especially in this modern political climate.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 it was the my fine husband and me being fit, blah blah blah. Her husband being handsome isn't an accomplishment, please stop telling me about what is obvious. Her being fit is great, but she clearly felt better than other women who don't have the time and funds to keep up their appearance. The whole thing was condescending as hell, even a lot of jealous women will like you eventually a lot of the time if you're actually humble and gracious. Also, if that's hubby in there thumbnail, he isn't that handsome at all, just a regular looking dude. This was arrogance, full stop
She treats her family like her life’s work… what’s the problem? Honestly I see a lot of myself in her. And I have no problem admitting that my vision is to be a a stay at home wife… and if I admit that to people it’s only WOMEN that have a negative response and it’s so interesting lol
I think it’s best to be discreet about these things, even to family. You can start internalizing their own beliefs around money and worthiness (ie. “You have to work very hard for money!”) and slowly end up believing that living a soft life is lazy etc. Best not to tell them and keep your concepts around these things unaffected.
Honey is the best life! Welcome to the normal way of life! A woman should live and live beautifully and elegantly and our body and voice was not made soft and plumb for nothing! Nature is never wrong!
I'm never going to take notes on what another woman is doing with her man. There's no relationship that's going to be replicated. Each and every relationship is unique just like every single person on this earth is unique. Stop looking to other people to make your life better and focus on what makes you happy
I am divorced from my provider ex-husband and guess what he still has to do??? PROVIDE!!! They don’t get to get away with not providing even after divorce. I am also very relaxed 🤷🏾♀️
I was a corporate woman/wife & eventually left to be a stay at home wife and my lifestyle didn’t change but got better and we were a family of 10 with a Black man! I kept it private & cute cuz my biggest haters were white women smh…unfortunately the black that knew never seen it so they never noticed sadly!! I was blessed however I did the work, came from a two parent household & came from a family where everybody was married & my husband saw that I was his wife at 18.5…at the end of the day this is not all black women goals so be honest with yourself but I would like to see a world where it’s a choice & option for my fellow Black women. Be blessed ❤
A lot of women watch Nara with the comparison lens which breeds jealousy. I have seen mums say she makes them feel inadequate and women say she is unrealistic. Why not watch and get inspired? She receives so much hate especially from X(Twitter). They'll say she'll end up broke after divorce then when they hear she's a model,the goal post shifts to her religion-like they even care about her lol I think people realise she has what they have failed to get at a young age and that makes them bitter . If she wasn't pretty, or didn't have a good looking husband , they'd pick on that.
I am beyond my marriage years as I am close to 60 years old. I married a dusty and it was a hard life. However, I got rid of all of the dusties, learned from my mistakes and have moved forward with my life. In the present day, I'm living my best life as a vocalist whose goal is to sing in a professional choir. That dream is slowly becoming a reality as I am receiving professional training to do it. It is something that I've always wanted to do since I was a child. The point is, why be jealous of the women living the hypergamous life? Instead of being jealous of someone else's life, go out and live your best life as a single person. Life is meant to be enjoyed, so enjoy 🥂❤
My mother has always been a provided for women. Even now, when my father is retired, she's still being provided for. We have always had help growing up, even now in retirement they have hired help, so you are absolutely right, provided for Black women is not a unicorn that people think it is, it's quite common.
Just for Clarity Purposes, I don’t believe that Nara’s Husband Lucky is the Provider because clearly she is the breadwinner and the face of her Performative Trad Wife Brand.💄💅🏽
To be honest, I get happy for women who are winning at life, especially black women. Have I ever had the mentality “why not me” or “when will it be my turn”? Absolutely! But I know that's an internal me thing, not me hating on women winning. I've learned to understand that type of mentality is a result of a SCARCITY mindset and that's dangerous for growth and obtaining abundance. I've prayed for the gift of getting happy for others bc it doesn't make sense not to.
For me it’s really scary depending on a man for financial matters . It sounds nice but I really enjoy my own money and independence. My man does make more than me and that’s okay! He makes it so I don’t have to worry about things which is nice. I don’t find it to be outrageous to be a “kept woman” I just know everything still comes with a price.
It's soo insane seeing the vitriol and think pieces that people make on Nara. She has her own career, a family with a skillset that amazes many (cooking) something wholesome that all should welcome. The reality is many expect women to be miserable in order to relate married or not. When some people see me and always ask where my daughter is and are shocked that her father has her or is taking care of her so I can live my best life, they are SHOCKED! Almost salty. It's very bizarre.
This is a sad and old truth. My mother was a stay at home wife and ALL of the women in our neighborhood (with the exception of 3 non-Black women) and at our terrible church were insanely jealous of her, often making her cry.
My goal is to be a SAHW. I don’t understand the hate that SAHW’s get. If you are a career woman, focus on you and stop hating on SAHW’s. As long as they aren’t coming for career women unprovoked, you shouldn’t have an issue with them. Women should have the right to choose if they want to be career women or SAHW’s.
I wholeheartedly agree privacy is key for me. I was a trad wife for almost 3 decades now a divorced housewife. I mind my own business and know that not every woman is going to appreciate or understand my life. I love my lifestyle and that’s all that matters.
The kept wife (the person you mentioned that sounds arrogant) is the only trad wife I’m not the biggest fan of. She’s very condescending, rude, and like you said, arrogant. Also claimed her and her man have a perfect relationship yet ppl found out she’s been to jail a few times for dv.
@@SoftWifeLifewow I’m so sorry. She comes off so cruel for no reason and you’re a fellow provided for woman so I don’t understand what issue she’d have with you?? Every time I watch her videos I feel like she was talking down to me like I’m some loser peasant. 😂 She’s the only soft life creator that I’ve ever felt that way when watching because I love hypergamy/soft life creators, they’re my favorite influencers to follow except for her.
I'm learning to move in silence and to keep things to myself, not because I;m afraid of being bullied but because I don't want to waste time defending my lifestyle. I understand that it's harder to keep things quiet with family but I am learning boundaries on what I share NOW...I've learned so much from this channel. Thank you Chloe.
I've said this ! misery loves compagny ! these women who insult her are projecting their lack on her. they wish they had her lifestyle, they want to be at her place and they would do it if they could in the blink of an eye ! If I'm blessed like her in the future with a husband who is a full provider I'm going to be very private and secretive, only my little sister shall be allowed in my house ! No friends or extended family like cousins or else. the more I grow up I realise that not everybody want to see you happy ! be careful Ladies
That's what I see as well. I love baking because it's so relaxing for me, but not all have a romance with baking and cooking. Find your joy, but don't be rude to others.
I just don’t understand how there can be hate on a woman who is doing/ showing an example of love for her family, especially her babies….It’s so beautiful to watch her.
Unfortunately the “kept wife” (1st video) was just in the (Social media) news. Sometimes I wonder whom can one really believe when it comes to these stories. However, I love the whole concept of these men providing & protecting. It’s sad that “we” keep attacking each other because of one’s lack. I believe the “private life” is the best life. I’ve learned from a lot of them❤ (Do Men act like this)… Chloë, thank you for this amazing platform & others💫 #PrivateWifeLife
Nara smith reminds me of my grandmother. My grandmother had so many hobbies but when I examine them. Her hobbies always elevated her family. Nara is being loved properly & she returns it back into her family. It’s truly inspiring!!!
As an HR Executive who is currently nursing the flu from a business trip and trying to rearrange my meetings this week to recover, I get it. Im extremely proud of my accomplishments, but I also love Nara's content. I find it beautiful and soothing. Would I give up my career right now to marry hypergamously? No! I have invested too much of myself at this point. However, I can see why some women have and do, and I don't see anything wrong with either. They both have their pros and cons for sure.
I have a house keeper i get allowance i stay at the spa all the time .... I had to stop telling people. Ive had one bark at me but then when i realized she is with a bum and has babies with a bum so i get it
I love her. I'm a single, never married, never pregnant 51 year old woman and I absolutely love watching her take care of her man and family. I surely would welcome such an experience but I don't resent others that have it. My singleness has nothing to do with what the manosphere suggests or what the feminine community would suggest--relative to chasing a career or being a masculina. I get asked why I'm single so much that I made a video sharing my theory on why--which is rooted in my faith. Lest I digress. But a clue that a single woman is really content as a single is how she responds or NOT to women who are WEARING their happy marriage on their face. You are so right women hate to see women winning in this way. I love to see it. It's just not the lot God has chosen for me to this point and I don't resent anyone who has been so BLESSED. For I'm old and wise enough to know that coveting another's life is a waste of time. Jesus is NOT my consolation prize because I've not, yet, been pursued by a man.
The difference between her and stay at home mothers is that SHE HAS A JOB! Social media is her job. She makes money independently from this. A traditional stay at home mothers do not have jobs and rely on their spouses money to manage the house hold.going into a marriage without a way to protect and provide for you and your children is dangerous. I hope for women to be taken care of but be smart about it.
Hi 👋 Chloe have you ever seen the movie Malena? It's an old school femmfatale story about a kept woman the whole town is jealous of and the women of the town are itching to tear her down. When her husband is suspected dead the town destroys her. I ask if you've seen the movie cause everything you have said in the video is 1-to-1 what happens in the movie! Incredible work!
We have a modern-day lesson with that of Falynn and Simon. She let those women in her home, although Dusty Simon was a protector, and Porsha plotted to get her man. Even though Simon ain’t worth two pennies, we saw all of this play out in real time. Women want what you have so watch who you let into your private life ladies!
People are just jealous. Nara isn’t a traditional wife. She works as a model, met her husband that way, can cook really well (learned how to cook to combat her acne/ skin problems) and is clearly well loved and taken care of. I don’t understand the hate. Maybe because of her Christian beliefs but that’s none of our business. She gets hate because we’re not used to see women in the feminine, relaxed and well taken care and believe that having that type of life scarce.
Jealous women are very dangerous,my friend who use to tell me to only date within our race is now 41 and single while I’m truly spoiled loved protected and provided for over here by my not from our race husband. With 3 children traveling the world. Ladies do you enjoy your lives.
As a stay at home wife with a amazing husband and two children i love it ! I was a working woman too and i loved it as well but now im taking care more of myself my home and children i love kove it ! Anything a woman chooses for herself i love it for her !!! If i have to pick being a sahw wins !!! ❤😂
I just think we all were handed different cards in this life and I’m not going to get mad because my cards are different than the next woman’s I do love seeing black women being loved and taken care of…. Ladies just play your cards
I’m gorgeous, successful, provided for and living a dream life. I might throw out a little hint every now and again but the major stuff I keep quiet and under wraps. I will never forget getting flowers sent to my job and the low vibrational comments I received from women.
People scream about unrelatable content, yet they stay watching it. They then either bash relatable content because they think they aren't exactly the same, or they simply dont watch because it's not aesthetic enough. Exhausting 😩
Isn't the entire point of a woman's choice, letting women CHOOSE what kind of lives they want to live? And yet, it's women who are being the most hateful towards her. We should be happy that one of us gets to be peaceful with a husband who appears to be gentle and caring and live a soft life. Instead, we're complaining about someone we don't even know. We are literally our own worst enemies sometimes.
This is not a life I would every have, I'm older, 19 year away from retirement, and I don't want to get married. However, I can't wait to retire so that I can beautify my house and cook like a Trad-Wife. I think if any women can live this life that it is great and a beautiful thing. The day I can sit down and read a book, or research something and not for course or homework will be amazing. Ladies what for you is for you, no one can take it away from you, but you can only delay it. Not every man will make enough money to make this happen, so what. Partner with someone and make the best of it. Good Luck Ladies, I will keep you uplifted in prayer.
I’ve never ever understood the saying, “people hate someone’s light because it irritates their demons”, till I came across this gorgeous, talented woman. The hate is just absolutely astonishing, I’ve decoded to actually not read her comments (even though i love reading comments). I absolutely adore her, and admire the effort she puts into her husband and children. It doesn’t feel like show off to me, or like she’s trying to be perfect. To me, It just feels like she’s sharing what she loves doing. We never hear anyone say this about women who constantly share their perfect gym bodies, or fashion. But when it comes to doing this for your husband and children it’s now show off? It really says a lot a about these masculinas.
Before the pandemic and working from home wasn't a thing...I use to get(from women in my family) > "what do you do all day" I couldn't be home all day" I need to go out and be sociable" etc. etc.....Always trying to downplay my position within my home...Fast-forward to 2020 everyone one is loving the working from home and is having a FIT going back out there...even lying to their bosses to get the opportunity to continue working from home because they love what comes with being at home...Ladies please dont give up your position to make others feel better about their lives...9/10 they would trade place with you in a heartbeat❤
Trad wives are honorable. I realized I’m more of a hybrid woman. I do own a company that caters to my feminine side and prefer to keep my career. However I still attract full providers who value my career, but are not concerned with my money. I believe you need to know what kind of woman you desire to be. I maintain my softness and give back to my community and I do let men know for the right person (husband only) I don’t mind staying home but I will always have my own personal income coming in. DV survivor from a man that was a high earner . Never again will I solely rely on just his income. And I know it’s not all men. But, I work with tons of Trad wives/ who go through financial abuse. The numbers are about 80% and are black women. These women did everything right. Cooked/cleaned/took care the kids/and had sex often and still. People can change at any time. If you stay home make sure he gives you an allowance and pay yourself with that money. And prenuptial agreement is well. But I love all women and I see nothing wrong with trad women.
The women who are provided for in every way are the luckiest women in the world. They live a dream life with an amazing husband and beautiful home and tons of money. They are so blessed. ❤
I think two things can be true at once. Its not about women being jealous of nara, I believe more women are inspired by her than we think. I see women who just want to be good mothers, society pressures women to be the BEST AT EVERYTHING. So when moms see nara make cereal from scratch, women will naturally analyze herself and think damn. Am I doing enough for my kids? I think women WANT TO HAVE that freee time. Majority of us will never have that opportunity. Many of us are born into proverty and cant relax. This is not nara’s problem to bare. She’s become a form of escape for most of us women. Almost like a dream. Its not the same as hate. I think women just feel enoough pressure as it is to be “good enough”. Lets face it. Many of us don’t have the pretty privilege or lightskin privilege, or access to be able to rest. So I suggest for working moms to NOT INTERNALIZE any mom guilt. Just do your best. You’re babies love u. And don’t compare your life to hers. Everyone have a blessed day
I appreciate your insight on this, I couldn't agree more. Women just need to focus on themselves and not let outside distractions take away from their growth- its journey not a race ✨️
Crazy that other women will be mad at sisters that live a hypergamous lifestyle~ I am an almost 50 year old woman that never had it easy, and I am SO HAPPY for sisters that I see are able to rest in their femininity and live a nice life. ❤💯
*As soon as I saw her post, I gave the vultures until April. I always make sure I'm ambiguous about what's really going on in my life because, jealousy has multiplied since the age of social media. When you have a resource that everyone wants, you do not apologize for having it but, be prepared for the vultures to attempt to swoop in.*
Nara and her husband are stunning so some people might be hating on their model looks update: I just found out that the husband is an international model and I think she's a model also lol
Why hate? Why project? We all don't wear the same shoe size, and our lives are the same way. I personally would love to be able to stay at home and raise my children, but another women may want to be a ceo we should be congratulating and supporting one another vs tearing the other down.
I do tell people when I'm jealous/inspired, only because I don't think that jealousy is a bad thing; I just take it as an indication of the direction that my soul wants to go and that I must work towards it.
Crossed your page by accident…. I caught small portion of your discourse, and may I say that you are outright impressive, dignified, articulate, with a precipitous verse that sets your peers a standard worthy of attaining. I’m thinking about entering the content creator space and seeing how skillfully you attenuate your speech, the dynamism with which you approach your subject matter; with point of fact direct and deliberate word choice is both refreshing and inspiring. Many times it seems as though we “dumb down” our individual parlance in order to pacify individuals whose lexicon could use “some work” Thank you for allowing your brilliance to speak for you, not your face as visually perceived.
Yeah I just keep my business to myself. I thought originally others would be happy for me but no…. It was a lot of passive aggressive comments and shade throwing.
People need to stop taking tik toks seriously, She is a pretty model, doing what she does for the camera, not her husband. LOL. She dresses up while doing it to trigger people and go viral, they don't live like that. its an AESTHETIC. this is literally her career path.
Exactly! I could care less that she’s making Oreos and peanut butter jelly sandwiches from scratch. She’s aesthetically pleasing to look at. Thats the only reason I started following her
@@honeydove_4844 Her content is curated to "trigger" people and go viral, thats how she monetizes and sets herself apart from the millions of others doing the same stuff for fun...
Nara don't care what none of us have to say. She's just existing. And I HIGHLY doubt she cooks some of that stuff on site. I'm sure she preps and creates content simultaneously. And ruffles the internet's feathers by saying she's making it in the moment. Also a lot of her meals really don't take as long as you think it would. I love seeing how mad she makes folks though. 😊😂
Ive been taking notes since i found your channel in 2020. I suscribed & Did the work and has upgraded my Single Mom life to being Kept, soon to be married. Do the Work if you want to attract the Man you want.
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A lot of true wealthy people don’t really publicize their wealth. Just saying. When I marry my wealthy partner, I will move in silence.
Amen 🙏🏾
Smart
Yes privacy etiquette is key
Yessssss🎯🎯 why have the wicked prying and knocking on the door (metaphorically)
Yes!
I think society today has traditional wives misconstrued, and not the other way around. Women are creatives and so since the dawn of time we have monetized our passions, from home economics (selling cookies, beauty products, clothes, etc.) to now influencing.
The key is to have a husband who can provide the essentials so your monetized passions are supplemental income and not a demanding requirement to keep the household afloat.
Bingo.♟️
🗣️Say it again for the people in the back!
Brilliant
Exactly!
Many women are very jealous when they see you relaxed and comfortable with a husband who loves you and provides for you.
Yeah I remember on Twitter this woman who does hair for a living, heavily pregnant herself, calling women "bums" for not working while pregnant. She got absolutely flamed on that app, they told her she's just mad because the man who knocked her up doesn't take care of her.
You are going to have huge désappointement in life, you aren’t prepared.
They sleep better by believing you’re being beaten and abused.
@@omowhanre This! Because that’s the first insult they love to hurl at married women enjoying their lives.
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I think the best thing to do is to remain private if you are living a soft life.
Being private is a must to leveling up. I agree with this video
I'm no longer in the business of apologizing for my blessings. I used to be shamed for being favored by those who wanted to shower me with gifts, advice, compliments, a helpful hand, opportunities etc and i took on that shame. But I've realized it came from jealous ppl. Women who wanted what i had/ have and men who knew they couldn't provide let alone afford to. So let's just call these ppl what they are.. Jealous
I had to make this journey as well and can imagine God being so confused as to why I’m ashamed for my blessings. I wasted so much time not enjoying my blessings to the fullest until I realized how insidious jealousy is. Now I make sure to enjoy all my blessings to the fullest.
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This is what needs to be my mantra… because I recently found myself apologizing for what I truly want. Thank you 💯
Like why aren't people happy to see that the soft life is possible for black women? There's no need for venom
Soft life in any way possible for all women, and they can live their lives how they want as long as it’s what THEY want.
The soft life doesn’t exist, you may be too young to realize.
@@Devi_Seona I love your name. I named my deer that. I think the soft life only exists if you know how the system works and learn the tricks
She’s biracial not black
@@Devi_SeonaThe soft life DOES exist. I’m not younger and my life is the most peaceful and relaxed (for the most part) than it’s ever been. Self care and relaxation are daily things for me.
I think Nara doesn’t abide by the unwritten rule of “SLEATH” bc a) she’s famous in her own right and b) hypergamy is not something she needed to be taught. I think Nara and Jasmine Tookes are perfect examples of black women who consider hypergamy simply to be common sense. Meaning they didn’t have to work out of a poverty mindset nor be intentional about tapping into their femininity. You can somewhat tell that this is completely natural for them and they’re just being their authentic selves. No reformation, no course correction, no unlearning. I don’t think they even consider themselves as living “hypergamously” they’re just living
This is a great point.
True. Not everyone has to heal from their childhood. Not every woman has to shed their feminist programming or masculine energy because they were never masculine or raised to be like men to begin with.
Isn’t her family wealthy? That could play apart in that.
No one should idolize or be jealous of another woman's relationship or life. You don't know what happens behind closed doors or what people are doing to maintain their lifestyle. Spend your time and energy on self improvement and self care.
This society, as a collective, only wants to see Black women laboring and struggling.
It makes a lot of people, including other women, uncomfortable to see a Black woman happy, joyful, not stressed out,and enjoying leisurely things. Girl on girl forms of violence is jealousy and Mean Girl Culture that we don't talk about. I'm happy for women who are living a life that makes them genuinely happy.
Beautiful well said!!!
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I have the same sentiments as you no need to hate IMPROVE YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF, EMPOWER YOURSELF💯💯
My husband works so hard and barely gets time off because he has not only his family to support but his employees would also have families....The pressure is stressful...As the wife, I have to be OK with him working so much and I would have to step up to holding the house and kids down most of the time without him...Ppl see the resolves but never the hard work...Are there alot of benefits? Yes, but it's not for everyone, especially the put in hard work part....
This is why as a kept wife who just quit being an engineer because corporate America is for rough and cut throat energy that i do not have anymore..... This is why i keep my business to myself.... Women are jealous of a woman that moves as she pleases. Because the truth is they feel like why you but not them. Moving in silence is a super power.
It’s Very cut throat with masculine women wanting promotion and putting down feminine women .. waiting on God to bless me too now in my old age !
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@@Mya-sui that's your opinion. Doesn't make it facts
@@Mya-sui those people you mentioned are upper Middle class. I'm not 🤷🏾♀️ I don't have trouble acquiring more assets even after resigning... On one income. And every asset is in my name. That's why I said that's your opinion. Not facts
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They’d be sick if they knew how many women in Texas lived like this!!
I found out once I entered the crunchy mom lifestyle. We have conventions and all kinds of events dedicated to the lifestyle.
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I had a doctor’s appointment and the nurse asked where my 3-month old was and I said he’s with the babysitter. She comes 3 days a week. My husband works from home and I’m a stay at home. The nurse was speechless.
well my mom and dad's hypergamous marriage ended in my mom's death they were married for 50 years I hope to have a provider husband like my father one day
I worked since I was 18, at times two jobs... when my husband and I had our son I became a stay at home mom... I love cooking homemade meals, baking, bread etc... our son drains me mentally most days and my husband comes homes every day and takes over caring for our son and weekends are my time to truly relax. I am grateful and I pray all women have a great provider, husband and father. being a stay at home mom is the hardest responsibility I have and I'm so blessed and grateful to truly raise our child and future children. all women deserve the soft life.
@@Mya-sui lol girly you don't know my life. like how my husband spends two hours with our son when he gets home, as I cook dinner. he's a great father so he wants to spend time with his son since he's gone all day 5 days a week. and he loves me so much he loves giving me breaks. spending time with our son isn't a job to him. our family is blessed with a God fearing man that will carry his family on his back to make sure we are all happy. I could go on for days but I'll just say thank you Lord for my husband who doesn't complain and loves to see his family happy.. and I love to make my husband happy. we're good over here :)
I am an older mom and and my husband and I decided I would cut back on work and stay home with my daughter . I work two days or if the week and and stay home with my daughter most days. I love it . I l no longer feel tired or worn out . I can enjoy being a mom
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As a forever feminine single woman BY CHOICE, the clips from the women/families at the beginning had me smiling from ear to ear with joy. I love to see it. Although, marriage is not for me I get so much joy from seeing Black women married, being loved on, staying home and living such an amazing life.
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If you want to be a sahm go get it, if you want to be a bachelorette kid free 4 life do that. Girls the world is yours.
Why would anyone be upset over a woman who chooses to prioritise catering to her husband and kids, over working a job? The reality is, most women would choose a softer life if they could, myself included.
@@Age_Of_Aquarius84 I'm sorry ma'am 🥲😅😅I just wanted to add my experience
Because we know that women like this often end up getting shitted on by that very husband
Just be quiet. I am learning the hard way. And if you are around an older black woman working her butt off. Take your wedding ring off. She will set up these women are vicious. They don't say they are in pain, but their actions show it
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@MrsFefe32 Thank you! Good advice! I know what to do going forward. Manifesting trad wife for those who want such!
How did we get from, ‘Black women need luxury’ to all this vitriol when a lot of women actually achieve that? Jealousy is at an all time high. You spoke no lies, Chloe!
It’s called jealousy ladies that causes one woman who is taken care well by their husband. These women who attacks other women have very low self esteem. I’m 63 years old and my mother told me not tell many people my business now social media is the SAME as telling everyone your business. Be smart ladies.
I'm tired of being insulted and disrespected because I'm not a boss babe yet those women are suffering
And aging like milk, willingly stressed out, it’s insane.
You literally see them crying and whining all over Tik Tok and RUclips in those "I'm sick of working" and "The economy is making me broke" videos, even though they're claiming to love being a boss chick. I saw statistics a year ago that over 75% of Americans hated their jobs, so somebody's lying. These same women will be quick to verbally abuse a homemaker though (unprovoked).
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Lord please be safe if you let people see a glimpse of your hypergamous life. When I was newly married and tried to be nice to women in my children's extra curriculars, at school meetings, even at some community events, the jealousy was ridiculous. Seeing my car, my fine husband, our children winning awards and scholarships, just me coming and being fit, well spoken and polite, may as well been an all out attack on single working women. Being 15 years in our marriage now, I've been blessed with about 2 excellent friends in similar situations as far as being a pretty well off and married stay at home moms, 😊 and my family is very respectful of our relationship. Please be safe out here. I find that being private about all the things I'm blessed to do and receive perserves my peace ✌
I definitely understand jealousy from other women, but the way a lot of you talk, you definitely also do think you're better than other women. Being nice doesn't hide the fact that your words and energy are giving extremely condescending, even if you're not meaning to be. Humility around other women who have been used, abused and hurt wouldn't kill any of us. Take care.
@@chorizoramen93 Her speaking of her achievements and bragging are two different things. It seems to be that anytime a woman in her circumstances speaks of their achievements AT ALL, the eyes start rolling from other women. Now some homemakers are arrogant, but many of us are also seen that way for simply existing at times; especially in this modern political climate.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 it was the my fine husband and me being fit, blah blah blah. Her husband being handsome isn't an accomplishment, please stop telling me about what is obvious. Her being fit is great, but she clearly felt better than other women who don't have the time and funds to keep up their appearance. The whole thing was condescending as hell, even a lot of jealous women will like you eventually a lot of the time if you're actually humble and gracious.
Also, if that's hubby in there thumbnail, he isn't that handsome at all, just a regular looking dude. This was arrogance, full stop
My husband has always told me when we have our finances together…he wants me to be home and I am ok with that 😂
Right. My husband said give him 5 years and I'll never have to work again. I'm patiently waiting...❤
Ladiiiiieeess!! I love this🥰
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She treats her family like her life’s work… what’s the problem? Honestly I see a lot of myself in her. And I have no problem admitting that my vision is to be a a stay at home wife… and if I admit that to people it’s only WOMEN that have a negative response and it’s so interesting lol
I think it’s best to be discreet about these things, even to family. You can start internalizing their own beliefs around money and worthiness (ie. “You have to work very hard for money!”) and slowly end up believing that living a soft life is lazy etc. Best not to tell them and keep your concepts around these things unaffected.
Yeah lol they literally call SAHMs lazy as if it isn't a full time job.
@Priority_Love I agree! This is why I keep that part of my desires PRIVATE. Too many women will shame and hate you for it!
I’ve even seen dusty men get mad at women being stay at home moms / housewives 😂 even they are jealous
Honey is the best life! Welcome to the normal way of life! A woman should live and live beautifully and elegantly and our body and voice was not made soft and plumb for nothing! Nature is never wrong!
The fact that people hate on her tells you what kind of unhinged world we live in!
I'm never going to take notes on what another woman is doing with her man. There's no relationship that's going to be replicated. Each and every relationship is unique just like every single person on this earth is unique. Stop looking to other people to make your life better and focus on what makes you happy
I wish many more women knew and understood this.
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This! Let everyone live their life as they want. They key thing is moving in silence.
I’m a 100% provided for SAHW and I agree with this message. It’s mostly women not just whyt women but blk ones too. The bullying is real 💯
Agreed!
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I get the most hate deom blk women 😅
@@exoticchocolatecaribbean_q5624 same!!!!
@@exoticchocolatecaribbean_q5624 Same.
Privacy in hypergamy is a must. Thank you, Chloe.
I am divorced from my provider ex-husband and guess what he still has to do??? PROVIDE!!! They don’t get to get away with not providing even after divorce. I am also very relaxed 🤷🏾♀️
Same here!
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I knew it, provision is a scam for men
I was a corporate woman/wife & eventually left to be a stay at home wife and my lifestyle didn’t change but got better and we were a family of 10 with a Black man! I kept it private & cute cuz my biggest haters were white women smh…unfortunately the black that knew never seen it so they never noticed sadly!! I was blessed however I did the work, came from a two parent household & came from a family where everybody was married & my husband saw that I was his wife at 18.5…at the end of the day this is not all black women goals so be honest with yourself but I would like to see a world where it’s a choice & option for my fellow Black women. Be blessed ❤
A lot of women watch Nara with the comparison lens which breeds jealousy.
I have seen mums say she makes them feel inadequate and women say she is unrealistic. Why not watch and get inspired?
She receives so much hate especially from X(Twitter).
They'll say she'll end up broke after divorce then when they hear she's a model,the goal post shifts to her religion-like they even care about her lol
I think people realise she has what they have failed to get at a young age and that makes them bitter .
If she wasn't pretty, or didn't have a good looking husband , they'd pick on that.
I am beyond my marriage years as I am close to 60 years old. I married a dusty and it was a hard life. However, I got rid of all of the dusties, learned from my mistakes and have moved forward with my life. In the present day, I'm living my best life as a vocalist whose goal is to sing in a professional choir. That dream is slowly becoming a reality as I am receiving professional training to do it. It is something that I've always wanted to do since I was a child. The point is, why be jealous of the women living the hypergamous life? Instead of being jealous of someone else's life, go out and live your best life as a single person.
Life is meant to be enjoyed, so enjoy 🥂❤
My mother has always been a provided for women. Even now, when my father is retired, she's still being provided for. We have always had help growing up, even now in retirement they have hired help, so you are absolutely right, provided for Black women is not a unicorn that people think it is, it's quite common.
My best friend met her provider husband from Nigeria at a historical black college!!! Yes, it’s possible to be educated and a hypergamous wife.
Just for Clarity Purposes, I don’t believe that Nara’s Husband Lucky is the Provider because clearly she is the breadwinner and the face of her Performative Trad Wife Brand.💄💅🏽
I would love to be a traditional wife. It’s not ever everyone. Everyone needs to figure out what they want & then find someone with similar values
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The worst is from the struggle masculinas in your own family.
Facts
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This!
I just don't understand why people got to be upset about a lifestyle that they aren't living. It's okay to be rooting for your sisters to win
To be honest, I get happy for women who are winning at life, especially black women. Have I ever had the mentality “why not me” or “when will it be my turn”? Absolutely! But I know that's an internal me thing, not me hating on women winning.
I've learned to understand that type of mentality is a result of a SCARCITY mindset and that's dangerous for growth and obtaining abundance.
I've prayed for the gift of getting happy for others bc it doesn't make sense not to.
For me it’s really scary depending on a man for financial matters . It sounds nice but I really enjoy my own money and independence. My man does make more than me and that’s okay! He makes it so I don’t have to worry about things which is nice. I don’t find it to be outrageous to be a “kept woman” I just know everything still comes with a price.
It's soo insane seeing the vitriol and think pieces that people make on Nara. She has her own career, a family with a skillset that amazes many (cooking) something wholesome that all should welcome.
The reality is many expect women to be miserable in order to relate married or not.
When some people see me and always ask where my daughter is and are shocked that her father has her or is taking care of her so I can live my best life, they are SHOCKED! Almost salty. It's very bizarre.
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This is a sad and old truth. My mother was a stay at home wife and ALL of the women in our neighborhood (with the exception of 3 non-Black women) and at our terrible church were insanely jealous of her, often making her cry.
They didn't have to violate Winnie The Pooh like that 😂
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My goal is to be a SAHW. I don’t understand the hate that SAHW’s get. If you are a career woman, focus on you and stop hating on SAHW’s. As long as they aren’t coming for career women unprovoked, you shouldn’t have an issue with them. Women should have the right to choose if they want to be career women or SAHW’s.
I wholeheartedly agree privacy is key for me. I was a trad wife for almost 3 decades now a divorced housewife. I mind my own business and know that not every woman is going to appreciate or understand my life. I love my lifestyle and that’s all that matters.
The kept wife (the person you mentioned that sounds arrogant) is the only trad wife I’m not the biggest fan of. She’s very condescending, rude, and like you said, arrogant. Also claimed her and her man have a perfect relationship yet ppl found out she’s been to jail a few times for dv.
So interesting bc she attacked me on TT. Made 4-5 videos about me but since then deleted them bc ppl were not having it on my behalf 💅🏾…
@@SoftWifeLifewow I’m so sorry. She comes off so cruel for no reason and you’re a fellow provided for woman so I don’t understand what issue she’d have with you?? Every time I watch her videos I feel like she was talking down to me like I’m some loser peasant. 😂 She’s the only soft life creator that I’ve ever felt that way when watching because I love hypergamy/soft life creators, they’re my favorite influencers to follow except for her.
I'm learning to move in silence and to keep things to myself, not because I;m afraid of being bullied but because I don't want to waste time defending my lifestyle. I understand that it's harder to keep things quiet with family but I am learning boundaries on what I share NOW...I've learned so much from this channel. Thank you Chloe.
I've said this ! misery loves compagny ! these women who insult her are projecting their lack on her. they wish they had her lifestyle, they want to be at her place and they would do it if they could in the blink of an eye ! If I'm blessed like her in the future with a husband who is a full provider I'm going to be very private and secretive, only my little sister shall be allowed in my house ! No friends or extended family like cousins or else. the more I grow up I realise that not everybody want to see you happy ! be careful Ladies
No wonder happy women stay private and silent...Good for them
Nara isn’t a trad wife. She just likes baking. Lol
That's what I see as well. I love baking because it's so relaxing for me, but not all have a romance with baking and cooking. Find your joy, but don't be rude to others.
The woman in the first clip was recently exposed for being a fraud , that’s why she was so arrogant about it. It was all a lie *karlie redd voice*
@jamaicancewtie5 Big fraud at that!
Whaaaat? Really?
I just don’t understand how there can be hate on a woman who is doing/ showing an example of love for her family, especially her babies….It’s so beautiful to watch her.
Unfortunately the “kept wife” (1st video) was just in the (Social media) news.
Sometimes I wonder whom can one really believe when it comes to these stories. However, I love the whole concept of these men providing & protecting. It’s sad that “we” keep attacking each other because of one’s lack. I believe the “private life” is the best life. I’ve learned from a lot of them❤
(Do Men act like this)…
Chloë, thank you for this amazing platform & others💫
#PrivateWifeLife
Nara smith reminds me of my grandmother. My grandmother had so many hobbies but when I examine them. Her hobbies always elevated her family. Nara is being loved properly & she returns it back into her family. It’s truly inspiring!!!
As an HR Executive who is currently nursing the flu from a business trip and trying to rearrange my meetings this week to recover, I get it. Im extremely proud of my accomplishments, but I also love Nara's content. I find it beautiful and soothing. Would I give up my career right now to marry hypergamously? No! I have invested too much of myself at this point. However, I can see why some women have and do, and I don't see anything wrong with either. They both have their pros and cons for sure.
thank you for sharing beautiful.❤️
I stay out of other people's marriages and relationships. if they are consenting adults, kudos to them.
Nara just cooks and minds her own business, people get angry because they can’t get a reaction out of her
People will turn on you like a corner 🤯 your word play is elite!!
When a person is committed to misunderstanding you don’t even bother . I agree completely.
They don’t like her cause they want what she has
Not her job to be relatable but her job to be magical ✨Periodt. I'm going to live my like that too
I have a house keeper i get allowance i stay at the spa all the time .... I had to stop telling people. Ive had one bark at me but then when i realized she is with a bum and has babies with a bum so i get it
I tried being a traditional wife but my ex husband was not a traditional man. So sadly, it did not work at all.
Not Link up like.. Voltron!! 😂
Chloe.. Your ad-lib commentaries are the best! 👏🏾
I love her. I'm a single, never married, never pregnant 51 year old woman and I absolutely love watching her take care of her man and family. I surely would welcome such an experience but I don't resent others that have it. My singleness has nothing to do with what the manosphere suggests or what the feminine community would suggest--relative to chasing a career or being a masculina. I get asked why I'm single so much that I made a video sharing my theory on why--which is rooted in my faith. Lest I digress. But a clue that a single woman is really content as a single is how she responds or NOT to women who are WEARING their happy marriage on their face. You are so right women hate to see women winning in this way. I love to see it. It's just not the lot God has chosen for me to this point and I don't resent anyone who has been so BLESSED. For I'm old and wise enough to know that coveting another's life is a waste of time. Jesus is NOT my consolation prize because I've not, yet, been pursued by a man.
The difference between her and stay at home mothers is that SHE HAS A JOB! Social media is her job. She makes money independently from this. A traditional stay at home mothers do not have jobs and rely on their spouses money to manage the house hold.going into a marriage without a way to protect and provide for you and your children is dangerous. I hope for women to be taken care of but be smart about it.
Hi 👋 Chloe have you ever seen the movie Malena? It's an old school femmfatale story about a kept woman the whole town is jealous of and the women of the town are itching to tear her down. When her husband is suspected dead the town destroys her. I ask if you've seen the movie cause everything you have said in the video is 1-to-1 what happens in the movie! Incredible work!
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I saw that movie years ago and I loved it! It is very true to how a lot of people are when they can't stand to see someone winning.
We have a modern-day lesson with that of Falynn and Simon. She let those women in her home, although Dusty Simon was a protector, and Porsha plotted to get her man. Even though Simon ain’t worth two pennies, we saw all of this play out in real time. Women want what you have so watch who you let into your private life ladies!
Oops, I meant Simon WAS NOT a provider!
Definitely women will steal a man that they believe is a provider and winner. 😂
People are just jealous. Nara isn’t a traditional wife. She works as a model, met her husband that way, can cook really well (learned how to cook to combat her acne/ skin problems) and is clearly well loved and taken care of. I don’t understand the hate. Maybe because of her Christian beliefs but that’s none of our business. She gets hate because we’re not used to see women in the feminine, relaxed and well taken care and believe that having that type of life scarce.
Jealous women are very dangerous,my friend who use to tell me to only date within our race is now 41 and single while I’m truly spoiled loved protected and provided for over here by my not from our race husband.
With 3 children traveling the world.
Ladies do you enjoy your lives.
As a stay at home wife with a amazing husband and two children i love it ! I was a working woman too and i loved it as well but now im taking care more of myself my home and children i love kove it ! Anything a woman chooses for herself i love it for her !!! If i have to pick being a sahw wins !!! ❤😂
@lifeisall488 That’s my ultimate goal! Love that for you!! 💅🏾💅🏾
I just think we all were handed different cards in this life and I’m not going to get mad because my cards are different than the next woman’s I do love seeing black women being loved and taken care of…. Ladies just play your cards
I’m gorgeous, successful, provided for and living a dream life. I might throw out a little hint every now and again but the major stuff I keep quiet and under wraps.
I will never forget getting flowers sent to my job and the low vibrational comments I received from women.
People scream about unrelatable content, yet they stay watching it. They then either bash relatable content because they think they aren't exactly the same, or they simply dont watch because it's not aesthetic enough. Exhausting 😩
Isn't the entire point of a woman's choice, letting women CHOOSE what kind of lives they want to live? And yet, it's women who are being the most hateful towards her. We should be happy that one of us gets to be peaceful with a husband who appears to be gentle and caring and live a soft life. Instead, we're complaining about someone we don't even know. We are literally our own worst enemies sometimes.
This is not a life I would every have, I'm older, 19 year away from retirement, and I don't want to get married. However, I can't wait to retire so that I can beautify my house and cook like a Trad-Wife. I think if any women can live this life that it is great and a beautiful thing. The day I can sit down and read a book, or research something and not for course or homework will be amazing. Ladies what for you is for you, no one can take it away from you, but you can only delay it. Not every man will make enough money to make this happen, so what. Partner with someone and make the best of it. Good Luck Ladies, I will keep you uplifted in prayer.
I’ve never ever understood the saying, “people hate someone’s light because it irritates their demons”, till I came across this gorgeous, talented woman. The hate is just absolutely astonishing, I’ve decoded to actually not read her comments (even though i love reading comments). I absolutely adore her, and admire the effort she puts into her husband and children. It doesn’t feel like show off to me, or like she’s trying to be perfect. To me, It just feels like she’s sharing what she loves doing. We never hear anyone say this about women who constantly share their perfect gym bodies, or fashion. But when it comes to doing this for your husband and children it’s now show off? It really says a lot a about these masculinas.
Go ahead Nara. She's beautiful and her husband is gorgeous. I had to rewind and pause at how aesthetically pleasing they both are to view.
Before the pandemic and working from home wasn't a thing...I use to get(from women in my family) > "what do you do all day" I couldn't be home all day" I need to go out and be sociable" etc. etc.....Always trying to downplay my position within my home...Fast-forward to 2020 everyone one is loving the working from home and is having a FIT going back out there...even lying to their bosses to get the opportunity to continue working from home because they love what comes with being at home...Ladies please dont give up your position to make others feel better about their lives...9/10 they would trade place with you in a heartbeat❤
To be clear, actual feminists have no issue with what Nara does because she’s actually embodying the fundamental idea of feminism. More power to her
Trad wives are honorable. I realized I’m more of a hybrid woman. I do own a company that caters to my feminine side and prefer to keep my career. However I still attract full providers who value my career, but are not concerned with my money. I believe you need to know what kind of woman you desire to be. I maintain my softness and give back to my community and I do let men know for the right person (husband only) I don’t mind staying home but I will always have my own personal income coming in. DV survivor from a man that was a high earner . Never again will I solely rely on just his income. And I know it’s not all men. But, I work with tons of Trad wives/ who go through financial abuse. The numbers are about 80% and are black women. These women did everything right. Cooked/cleaned/took care the kids/and had sex often and still. People can change at any time. If you stay home make sure he gives you an allowance and pay yourself with that money. And prenuptial agreement is well. But I love all women and I see nothing wrong with trad women.
Women need to be HONEST about intrasexual competition, mate choice copying, and mate poaching.
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Can you explain what this means, I've never heard of this
The women who are provided for in every way are the luckiest women in the world. They live a dream life with an amazing husband and beautiful home and tons of money. They are so blessed. ❤
I think two things can be true at once.
Its not about women being jealous of nara, I believe more women are inspired by her than we think.
I see women who just want to be good mothers, society pressures women to be the BEST AT EVERYTHING. So when moms see nara make cereal from scratch, women will naturally analyze herself and think damn. Am I doing enough for my kids?
I think women WANT TO HAVE that freee time. Majority of us will never have that opportunity. Many of us are born into proverty and cant relax.
This is not nara’s problem to bare. She’s become a form of escape for most of us women. Almost like a dream. Its not the same as hate.
I think women just feel enoough pressure as it is to be “good enough”.
Lets face it. Many of us don’t have the pretty privilege or lightskin privilege, or access to be able to rest.
So I suggest for working moms to NOT INTERNALIZE any mom guilt. Just do your best. You’re babies love u. And don’t compare your life to hers.
Everyone have a blessed day
I appreciate your insight on this, I couldn't agree more. Women just need to focus on themselves and not let outside distractions take away from their growth- its journey not a race ✨️
Crazy that other women will be mad at sisters that live a hypergamous lifestyle~ I am an almost 50 year old woman that never had it easy, and I am SO HAPPY for sisters that I see are able to rest in their femininity and live a nice life. ❤💯
*As soon as I saw her post, I gave the vultures until April. I always make sure I'm ambiguous about what's really going on in my life because, jealousy has multiplied since the age of social media. When you have a resource that everyone wants, you do not apologize for having it but, be prepared for the vultures to attempt to swoop in.*
Nara and her husband are stunning so some people might be hating on their model looks
update: I just found out that the husband is an international model and I think she's a model also lol
Why hate? Why project? We all don't wear the same shoe size, and our lives are the same way. I personally would love to be able to stay at home and raise my children, but another women may want to be a ceo we should be congratulating and supporting one another vs tearing the other down.
I do tell people when I'm jealous/inspired, only because I don't think that jealousy is a bad thing; I just take it as an indication of the direction that my soul wants to go and that I must work towards it.
Crossed your page by accident…. I caught small portion of your discourse, and may I say that you are outright impressive, dignified, articulate, with a precipitous verse that sets your peers a standard worthy of attaining. I’m thinking about entering the content creator space and seeing how skillfully you attenuate your speech, the dynamism with which you approach your subject matter; with point of fact direct and deliberate word choice is both refreshing and inspiring. Many times it seems as though we “dumb down” our individual parlance in order to pacify individuals whose lexicon could use “some work” Thank you for allowing your brilliance to speak for you, not your face as visually perceived.
Yeah I just keep my business to myself. I thought originally others would be happy for me but no…. It was a lot of passive aggressive comments and shade throwing.
People need to stop taking tik toks seriously, She is a pretty model, doing what she does for the camera, not her husband. LOL. She dresses up while doing it to trigger people and go viral, they don't live like that. its an AESTHETIC. this is literally her career path.
Agreed!!! It's not so deep 😊
Even if she does live like that…it shouldn’t be an issue for anyone
Exactly! I could care less that she’s making Oreos and peanut butter jelly sandwiches from scratch. She’s aesthetically pleasing to look at. Thats the only reason I started following her
@@honeydove_4844 Her content is curated to "trigger" people and go viral, thats how she monetizes and sets herself apart from the millions of others doing the same stuff for fun...
I love EVERYTHING about your content. You say things that sting me but have grown me into a better women ❤
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So well said! I pride myself on encouraging women to unapologetically require provision (no matter how much they earn themselves).
Privacy is key 🎉
Im definitely ready and waiting for my soft life and im keeping it all to myself ❤
I Like that lil girl (Nara)😂🤷🏾♀️ She is DELIGHTFUL ☺️😂She seems like she is truly savoring her life, and I love that for her
Nara don't care what none of us have to say. She's just existing. And I HIGHLY doubt she cooks some of that stuff on site. I'm sure she preps and creates content simultaneously. And ruffles the internet's feathers by saying she's making it in the moment. Also a lot of her meals really don't take as long as you think it would. I love seeing how mad she makes folks though. 😊😂