Whenever I'm feeling unbalanced and I need to ground myself, I go back and watch your videos. I've been watching you for YEARS, and watching how much you've grown and the changes you've made in your life have helped me so much in my own life
I love how vulnerable and courageous you have been in your content recently. Very relatable and motivating. I feel like we’re able to grow & process everything alongside you. 🌻
Soooo genuine! You're dropping truth and introspection in this one! I love it because these are the same circles I run in my head all day, every day, so it's refreshing hearing someone else doing this "thinking out loud" type of discussion
Adding the judgement part of the conversation, I think there’s a difference between judgement and condemnation… we all judge to survive and to decide who we want to become. I think its more important to be more aware of when you’re condemning someone else for doing something you don’t agree with verses just judging and deciding maybe you don’t agree with that thing.
My Friday routine has slowly started to include doing the cinnamon girl yoga video at 6pm..followed by making dinner, listening to a koze coffee talk on spotify. I started right from the beginning, the first two coffee talks are what I use to reprogram my brain everyday. Sending you lots of light and love✨
Your dressing gown is so cosy🤩☕, your topics in coffee talks have been beyond relatable recently. Pay no attention to anybody who judges you harshly your a beautiful human and don't let them tell you otherwise💛✨!
THANK YOU for this❤️ we can be so hard both with ourselves and others when it comes to judgement! I think sometimes we just need to relax and be human. Let ourselves be human. Love this quote from a woman here in sweden ”Embrace your own mediocrity” to let go of the pressure to do more, be more and always evolving.
Id just like to say I really appreciate that you talk about political and social issues so much. I’m Canadian, and all I can think about lately is what’s been going on politically in our country and I also have almost no one to talk to about it with. At least no one who really sees eye to eye with me. Its not that I’m even fully sure what I believe and think and I do that whole flip-flop thing all the time as well. Which is why I love seeing you work through all these issues. It really makes me feel less alone and it feels like I have a friend to talk about these things with. Sending love from a fellow Canadian girl❤️🤍
Wow, thank you for this ♥️ We often forget, that not everything is black and white and we, humans, are not for sure. And when you make a mistake, it is not an end of the word, it's just another step. But we don't have to tell this to ourselves ocasionally, but know it with our core. Just like haw we know that it's ok how baby explores the world.
Love this video Kalyn💕✨ thank you for being so open and vulnerable and RELATABLE. When you were talking about how often the world changes it reminded me of this verse that says, “do not conform to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” And that’s come to my mind a lot recently because as I’m starting to dive into making a channel again, it’s overwhelmed me for a multitude of reasons. A few of them being, what if I mess up, what if I’m too much, what if I offend someone, how much do I keep private and how much do I share. But that verse has reminded me that yes, the world is always changing but as long as we are willing to grow and learn, to be patient and gracious with ourselves and others then that’s all that really matters, right? On a side note - thank you for reminding me I’m not the only one who gets anxious while filming. I’m so proud of you for pushing through it 💪🏻 ♥️
Kalyn, I love how you have changed over the years; you have truly blossomed. You are a philosophical person and my type of girl❤️🔥 I think a lot like you do and it’s amazing to see another deep thinker sharing their brain with the world. I have the same kind of thought process where I can easily see both sides of a situation and sometimes it confuses the crap out of me because I have trouble accepting that two or more things can be true at once. Hope this makes sense. I just wanted to tell you that I love these deep and honest chats ❣️🥰
I loved this! I also think about this, about cancel culture, what's wrong? what's right? how do we approach it? And I just loved that we went from 0 to 100 in a couple of minutes haha. Like, "just woke up"...everything cozy and then BAM, tricky topics! haha And this is a very important topic! thanks so much for sharing, Kalyn! I appreciate it a lot!
Balance is always the most important thing - hold people accountable while also giving them a chance to redeem themselves. Accountability is 50% of it and forgiveness is the other 50%. Yin and Yang
I can also go back and look at ok’d videos when I was having anxiety and panic and remember exactly how I was feeling in those moments and what I was thinking.
Using our good judgement to navigate life is vastly different from binge judgemental. They both start with "judge" but do not mean the same thing. At all. The first: having good judgement keeps us alive, protect us from harm and keep unbalanced and dangerous people out of our private sphere. Being judgemental is an attitude to people around you that is very negative: always so ready to see their flaws and mistakes and making sport out of pointing them out. So different. Good judgement shows a real and healthy self respect. A need dot to please everyone and a realistic view on the world that even if you are a good and balanced person with good intentions this is not the case for everyone you meet. You have to use judgment to protect yourself. Listen to that gut feeling. I have had many relationships in my past that where bad because I didn't listen to my good judgement ❤️❤️
This is middle of the night reply and I didn’t mean to sound condescending if that’s the way it came across. Your content is valuable and super thoughtful . Thank you for it ❤️
If you're interested in human evolution and how it relates to our modern lives, then you may want to read The Story of the Human Body. It's written by a Harvard evolutionary biologist and he spends a lot of time talking about our evolutionary history and how our bodies are maladapted for modern life.
Society has always been quite toxic from my experience and understanding. Sure we have progressed a lot since the medieval times but even in present modern times there's a lot that could be worked upon. First of all the idea of a human being who often times can go through much struggle and trauma to be perfect is ridiculous. Second of all just because you're not perfect doesn't mean you aren't a good or perhaps very loving person which we should value more. And last but not least we need the authenticity, depth and vulnerability to create real bonds and meaning in life. Everybody seems so shallow and caring only about superficial stuff or is too focused with themselves or busy with achieving goals and people appear cold, detached and insensitive to others.. So as an hsp it's been hurting me for a long time especially because I feel and notice a lot but it's hard to talk about these things openly (which I think it shouldn't because I honestly feel like our humanity is at stake here). I sense a need for much collective healing and love, hopefully we can reconnect in better ways with those we love and care about us too without the one sidedness or projecting our pain or sense of lack on other people even if unconsciously we just don't want to continue these cycles and cause more pain at least not any good person with empathy would want that. I know this is a long message but I need to share these thoughts too. I've struggled with a lot of things and have been strong even if on my own at times but at some point I couldn't help but make a mistake of saying something I shouldn't have said although I wasn't aware how bad it was affecting others whether it was real or not I can't tell because it happened online but most people are capable of growing and learning from their mistakes even if painful and perhaps with help sure but canceling well intentioned but imperfect people forever without forgiveness to me has showed to be really terrible and it doesn't feel like anything gets resolved. On the other hand if let's say we're dealing with extreme criminals and psychopaths who commit horrible crimes etc then of course justice is needed but sadly even that department is lacking nowadays and I hope we will improve and learn from all this.
I also think about things from too many angles and try to find all sides in an argument, it's just been me my whole life, until that "argument/action" hurts unsuspecting people. That is typically my line. An ye harm none, do what ye will.
What you talk about truly is a difficult topic to grasp for yourself. I do think cancel culture is a bad example though, because cancelling isn't accountability, it's online harrassment and unhealthily channeled anger based on overly rigid boundaries that people have as a group or generation. Especially on twitter you'll be able to see early20girls never state their morals but attack and harrass others that went half a meter outside of their unstated boundaries that they assume anyone like them has. I spent extended amounts of time psychologically taking apart this behavior since I have friends that are harrassed to this day for a sentence or post they dropped months before that was taken out of context. I think when someone is repeatedly doing bad things, accountability is necessary but the way people define accountability online and sometimes offline now too, is incredibly vile and anti-growth. Judgment is totally normal, it's when you channel it unhealthily and as if you are the executive part of a justice system, when it gets bad on a psychological level. Playing cops on each other online is pretty much just online vigilantism. Now, general judgment, like you said, can be handled with non-attachment and compassion very well. It's basically the place that the idea of modern abolitionism (in regards to imprisonment/criminality) comes from. The believe that anyone can grow in the right environment. Idk, I have so many thoughts on this and all my analogies fit into how our system currently works, so it's hard to explain that without it. This video definitely made me think more about my personal definitions of things like accountability. Also, you mention anxiety as an epidemic. I think there are so many factors. A lot of issues compounded generationally. Then we have a fast paced world due to capitalism and a dying planet due to...capitalism. Combine that with attachment wounds and childhood trauma as well as an easier way to diagnose it and tadaaa you get an anxious mob lol. I think the issue isn't fully adapting, I think it's the fact that we grew up in a system ignoring mental health entirely and now we're trying to grasp for stuff grounding us. I say this as someone that had six years of anxiety healed with one professional hypnosis session. Tools like that as well as psychoeducation and grounding aren't given where they should be given. And let me not start with the fact that we live indivuality based while mental health needs community based living. Such a layered issue, I think this feeling of catching up is such a small part of it. But all of it is so based in being defined by our productivity and work. Amen on admitting when you're wrong. I feel many haven't learned this in life and it's starting to show in our society.
ahhh a fellow deep thinker ♥️ this was so saturated in honest processing and open opinion; it was lovely to read. Thank you for responding to my chat with so much depth. You've now given my more to think about in terms of my own definitions of accountability and the reasons the world has become so anxious. And I agree with you whole-heartedly about your thoughts on judgment and playing cops to one another as if we don't make mistakes ourselves. Or taking things out of context to paint it another way after the passage of time.
We equate thinking something wrong with being, as a person wrong. Then I guess you either shrink or go into defence mode - and that's how we don't change. We get so stuck in binary thinking - people either have to be Good or Bad and that filters down into wrong or right. Living in the grey is hard and complicated and messy but I think you're right that that's probably where the progress lies.
Don’t take life too seriously- judge but be open to judgement of you too, be accountable for mistakes made, cancel culture is toxic; it’s also useful to canceling REALLY deserving people to be muted, on the greater scale of bad deeds done. But, if someone has done things wrong, owns it and fixes it, then no, cancel culture isn’t applied there- but honestly, don’t even think about anybody else’s life if it does affect your world. Idk, sorry for my tangent reply ✨
Random, completely unrelated, but was thinking it, so typing it: These holistic vitamin patches they have out now…is it possible to absorb nutrients this way or should I stick to my piles of horse pills…? 🤔Kalyn, would you consider chiming in or doing a video series on these kinds of things? Maybe experiment series? Ooooh. 🤩 the nerd-alien armchair scientist within me is thrilling-out right now at the thought of an experiment series! The possibilities! 😳
I love the Darkhorse Podcast! I've been listening to them often lately, even if I don't 100% agree with everything they say, I find their dialogue so lovely to consume and process, and the topics they cover are ones I'm constantly rummaging on.
It's not just survival, it's just that hate crimes should be punished imho. Why should someone be given a platform, wealth and success FOR committing hate crimes which are universally and objectively held? Why should they continue to have more freedom than anyone else just because they are a celebrity?
Leave in all the things (something on your face, a crack in your voice, a braless moment) bc we all can relate and I’m so sick of perfection tearing down us all just existing.
No just finished editing the 2nd last!! They are just my 'for fun' videos so I edit them in my spare time which as been a bit dwindled these last two weeks. But they're coming ♥️♥️
Babe you are a woman, we have boobs - it's normal. It's the patriarchy teaching us to sexualize and be ashamed of our bodies. We are your family, you are accepted here, I LOVE YOU
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Whenever I'm feeling unbalanced and I need to ground myself, I go back and watch your videos. I've been watching you for YEARS, and watching how much you've grown and the changes you've made in your life have helped me so much in my own life
Yes. SAME!
This totally resonates w/ me!❤️
💜🌸💜Omg yes! Same here. 💜🌸💜
I love how vulnerable and courageous you have been in your content recently. Very relatable and motivating. I feel like we’re able to grow & process everything alongside you. 🌻
Thank you so much!!
Soooo genuine! You're dropping truth and introspection in this one! I love it because these are the same circles I run in my head all day, every day, so it's refreshing hearing someone else doing this "thinking out loud" type of discussion
Adding the judgement part of the conversation, I think there’s a difference between judgement and condemnation… we all judge to survive and to decide who we want to become. I think its more important to be more aware of when you’re condemning someone else for doing something you don’t agree with verses just judging and deciding maybe you don’t agree with that thing.
My Friday routine has slowly started to include doing the cinnamon girl yoga video at 6pm..followed by making dinner, listening to a koze coffee talk on spotify. I started right from the beginning, the first two coffee talks are what I use to reprogram my brain everyday. Sending you lots of light and love✨
This sounds like a lovely routine, I'm glad that flow is keeping you company ♥️ Sending love and light back to you!
Your dressing gown is so cosy🤩☕, your topics in coffee talks have been beyond relatable recently. Pay no attention to anybody who judges you harshly your a beautiful human and don't let them tell you otherwise💛✨!
THANK YOU for this❤️ we can be so hard both with ourselves and others when it comes to judgement!
I think sometimes we just need to relax and be human. Let ourselves be human. Love this quote from a woman here in sweden ”Embrace your own mediocrity” to let go of the pressure to do more, be more and always evolving.
Glad I'm not alone in feeling weirdly anxious right now!
I hear the same message! Enjoy the now before it is gone, even if you're sure there is a tomorrow 🧡
I totally feel you on this!
Id just like to say I really appreciate that you talk about political and social issues so much. I’m Canadian, and all I can think about lately is what’s been going on politically in our country and I also have almost no one to talk to about it with. At least no one who really sees eye to eye with me. Its not that I’m even fully sure what I believe and think and I do that whole flip-flop thing all the time as well. Which is why I love seeing you work through all these issues. It really makes me feel less alone and it feels like I have a friend to talk about these things with. Sending love from a fellow Canadian girl❤️🤍
Wow, thank you for this ♥️
We often forget, that not everything is black and white and we, humans, are not for sure. And when you make a mistake, it is not an end of the word, it's just another step.
But we don't have to tell this to ourselves ocasionally, but know it with our core. Just like haw we know that it's ok how baby explores the world.
Love this video Kalyn💕✨ thank you for being so open and vulnerable and RELATABLE. When you were talking about how often the world changes it reminded me of this verse that says, “do not conform to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” And that’s come to my mind a lot recently because as I’m starting to dive into making a channel again, it’s overwhelmed me for a multitude of reasons. A few of them being, what if I mess up, what if I’m too much, what if I offend someone, how much do I keep private and how much do I share. But that verse has reminded me that yes, the world is always changing but as long as we are willing to grow and learn, to be patient and gracious with ourselves and others then that’s all that really matters, right?
On a side note - thank you for reminding me I’m not the only one who gets anxious while filming. I’m so proud of you for pushing through it 💪🏻 ♥️
Kalyn, I love how you have changed over the years; you have truly blossomed. You are a philosophical person and my type of girl❤️🔥 I think a lot like you do and it’s amazing to see another deep thinker sharing their brain with the world. I have the same kind of thought process where I can easily see both sides of a situation and sometimes it confuses the crap out of me because I have trouble accepting that two or more things can be true at once. Hope this makes sense. I just wanted to tell you that I love these deep and honest chats ❣️🥰
I loved this! I also think about this, about cancel culture, what's wrong? what's right? how do we approach it? And I just loved that we went from 0 to 100 in a couple of minutes haha. Like, "just woke up"...everything cozy and then BAM, tricky topics! haha And this is a very important topic! thanks so much for sharing, Kalyn! I appreciate it a lot!
I just found this channel through pinterest and I'm so glad I did!
Thank you for sharing and being so open.
Love you K ! Please never leave RUclips. You’re my inspiration as a sensitive vegan girl !!
This talk was so important for so many of us... Thanks kalyn! You always help me feel like it's going to be okay. 💓
Absolutely love hearing your perspective on life , makes me feel a cozy safe vibe 🤍
I feel like you spoke all of my thoughts. Down to every single word. Thank you ❤️
Balance is always the most important thing - hold people accountable while also giving them a chance to redeem themselves. Accountability is 50% of it and forgiveness is the other 50%. Yin and Yang
This is so enneagram point 1! I can relate. Compassion is key.
I love love love your coffee talks
Excited for this one💖
Sending lots of love 😊
years of wisdom!! thanks so much!!
I can also go back and look at ok’d videos when I was having anxiety and panic and remember exactly how I was feeling in those moments and what I was thinking.
Using our good judgement to navigate life is vastly different from binge judgemental. They both start with "judge" but do not mean the same thing. At all. The first: having good judgement keeps us alive, protect us from harm and keep unbalanced and dangerous people out of our private sphere. Being judgemental is an attitude to people around you that is very negative: always so ready to see their flaws and mistakes and making sport out of pointing them out. So different. Good judgement shows a real and healthy self respect. A need dot to please everyone and a realistic view on the world that even if you are a good and balanced person with good intentions this is not the case for everyone you meet. You have to use judgment to protect yourself. Listen to that gut feeling. I have had many relationships in my past that where bad because I didn't listen to my good judgement ❤️❤️
First comment! Thanks for sharing, Kalyn!!
ughh you’re the best! Thanks for being you!
You are such a sweet person. We all judge because I believe it’s part of the human condition. The quest should be to just be aware.
This is middle of the night reply and I didn’t mean to sound condescending if that’s the way it came across. Your content is valuable and super thoughtful . Thank you for it ❤️
Almost done with work, very excited to see this!!! Happy Friday 💕
Wow I needed this right now, so excited to watch. 😍
you literally speak to my soul.
Love the kettle in the beginning where did you get it ?
If you're interested in human evolution and how it relates to our modern lives, then you may want to read The Story of the Human Body. It's written by a Harvard evolutionary biologist and he spends a lot of time talking about our evolutionary history and how our bodies are maladapted for modern life.
Added it to my reading list, thank you ♥️
Just went to add this and it was already on my reading list 😂 Thank you for the reminder! 🙏
Society has always been quite toxic from my experience and understanding.
Sure we have progressed a lot since the medieval times but even in present modern times there's a lot that could be worked upon.
First of all the idea of a human being who often times can go through much struggle and trauma to be perfect is ridiculous.
Second of all just because you're not perfect doesn't mean you aren't a good or perhaps very loving person which we should value more.
And last but not least we need the authenticity, depth and vulnerability to create real bonds and meaning in life.
Everybody seems so shallow and caring only about superficial stuff or is too focused with themselves or busy with achieving goals and
people appear cold, detached and insensitive to others..
So as an hsp it's been hurting me for a long time especially because I feel and notice a lot but it's hard to talk about these things openly
(which I think it shouldn't because I honestly feel like our humanity is at stake here).
I sense a need for much collective healing and love, hopefully we can reconnect in better ways with those we love and care about us too
without the one sidedness or projecting our pain or sense of lack on other people even if unconsciously we just don't want to continue these
cycles and cause more pain at least not any good person with empathy would want that.
I know this is a long message but I need to share these thoughts too. I've struggled with a lot of things and have been strong even if on my own at times
but at some point I couldn't help but make a mistake of saying something I shouldn't have said although I wasn't aware how bad it was
affecting others whether it was real or not I can't tell because it happened online but most people are capable of growing and learning from
their mistakes even if painful and perhaps with help sure but canceling well intentioned but imperfect people forever without forgiveness
to me has showed to be really terrible and it doesn't feel like anything gets resolved. On the other hand if let's say we're dealing
with extreme criminals and psychopaths who commit horrible crimes etc then of course justice is needed but sadly
even that department is lacking nowadays and I hope we will improve and learn from all this.
I also think about things from too many angles and try to find all sides in an argument, it's just been me my whole life, until that "argument/action" hurts unsuspecting people. That is typically my line. An ye harm none, do what ye will.
Thank you
What you talk about truly is a difficult topic to grasp for yourself.
I do think cancel culture is a bad example though, because cancelling isn't accountability, it's online harrassment and unhealthily channeled anger based on overly rigid boundaries that people have as a group or generation. Especially on twitter you'll be able to see early20girls never state their morals but attack and harrass others that went half a meter outside of their unstated boundaries that they assume anyone like them has. I spent extended amounts of time psychologically taking apart this behavior since I have friends that are harrassed to this day for a sentence or post they dropped months before that was taken out of context.
I think when someone is repeatedly doing bad things, accountability is necessary but the way people define accountability online and sometimes offline now too, is incredibly vile and anti-growth.
Judgment is totally normal, it's when you channel it unhealthily and as if you are the executive part of a justice system, when it gets bad on a psychological level. Playing cops on each other online is pretty much just online vigilantism.
Now, general judgment, like you said, can be handled with non-attachment and compassion very well. It's basically the place that the idea of modern abolitionism (in regards to imprisonment/criminality) comes from. The believe that anyone can grow in the right environment. Idk, I have so many thoughts on this and all my analogies fit into how our system currently works, so it's hard to explain that without it.
This video definitely made me think more about my personal definitions of things like accountability.
Also, you mention anxiety as an epidemic. I think there are so many factors. A lot of issues compounded generationally. Then we have a fast paced world due to capitalism and a dying planet due to...capitalism. Combine that with attachment wounds and childhood trauma as well as an easier way to diagnose it and tadaaa you get an anxious mob lol. I think the issue isn't fully adapting, I think it's the fact that we grew up in a system ignoring mental health entirely and now we're trying to grasp for stuff grounding us. I say this as someone that had six years of anxiety healed with one professional hypnosis session. Tools like that as well as psychoeducation and grounding aren't given where they should be given. And let me not start with the fact that we live indivuality based while mental health needs community based living. Such a layered issue, I think this feeling of catching up is such a small part of it. But all of it is so based in being defined by our productivity and work.
Amen on admitting when you're wrong. I feel many haven't learned this in life and it's starting to show in our society.
ahhh a fellow deep thinker ♥️ this was so saturated in honest processing and open opinion; it was lovely to read. Thank you for responding to my chat with so much depth. You've now given my more to think about in terms of my own definitions of accountability and the reasons the world has become so anxious. And I agree with you whole-heartedly about your thoughts on judgment and playing cops to one another as if we don't make mistakes ourselves. Or taking things out of context to paint it another way after the passage of time.
all of this ✨🌻
We equate thinking something wrong with being, as a person wrong. Then I guess you either shrink or go into defence mode - and that's how we don't change. We get so stuck in binary thinking - people either have to be Good or Bad and that filters down into wrong or right. Living in the grey is hard and complicated and messy but I think you're right that that's probably where the progress lies.
Don’t take life too seriously- judge but be open to judgement of you too, be accountable for mistakes made, cancel culture is toxic; it’s also useful to canceling REALLY deserving people to be muted, on the greater scale of bad deeds done. But, if someone has done things wrong, owns it and fixes it, then no, cancel culture isn’t applied there- but honestly, don’t even think about anybody else’s life if it does affect your world. Idk, sorry for my tangent reply ✨
Random, completely unrelated, but was thinking it, so typing it: These holistic vitamin patches they have out now…is it possible to absorb nutrients this way or should I stick to my piles of horse pills…? 🤔Kalyn, would you consider chiming in or doing a video series on these kinds of things? Maybe experiment series? Ooooh. 🤩 the nerd-alien armchair scientist within me is thrilling-out right now at the thought of an experiment series! The possibilities! 😳
You might enjoy the Darkhorse Podcast - it's a married couple of Evolutionary Biologists and they also get into a bunch of random topics too
I love the Darkhorse Podcast! I've been listening to them often lately, even if I don't 100% agree with everything they say, I find their dialogue so lovely to consume and process, and the topics they cover are ones I'm constantly rummaging on.
@@KalynsCoffeeTalk And Brets dad jokes and Heathers "...ok" reactions cracks me up they're adorable and they make me want to expand my vocabulary
Thanks for the suggestion.
It's not just survival, it's just that hate crimes should be punished imho. Why should someone be given a platform, wealth and success FOR committing hate crimes which are universally and objectively held? Why should they continue to have more freedom than anyone else just because they are a celebrity?
Does anyone know if we will have YOUTOBER this year? 🥺
I love this comment section
Could you do a video about human design? I’d love to hear your views on it. 🌙
Leave in all the things (something on your face, a crack in your voice, a braless moment) bc we all can relate and I’m so sick of perfection tearing down us all just existing.
Kalyn, are you quitting the Kalyien channel? I loved your gaming videos, I'm so sad there are no updates. :(
No just finished editing the 2nd last!! They are just my 'for fun' videos so I edit them in my spare time which as been a bit dwindled these last two weeks. But they're coming ♥️♥️
Babe you are a woman, we have boobs - it's normal. It's the patriarchy teaching us to sexualize and be ashamed of our bodies. We are your family, you are accepted here, I LOVE YOU