It is the same exactly, very hard in both cases. i think when you are open to abundence maybe it's different you have full confidence in yourself so it's less important what you say it more important how you say it
The difference is food. That's really it. Both is a discovery process as well as a weeding out one. On a date though you have the ability to make yourself more unique by paying attention to the other prospects around you. For example if you are a guy pick a place where you have an opportunity to pull her chair out or a day and time when you have the opportunity to walk her home instead of drive so when you put your coat around her she remembers the smell of your incredible cologne. Ladies he made the first move here is a strange idea. Pick up the check. Not fake offer. Actually do it and explain why. Let him know that he can pay for the next day or drinks later. That will setup two things. One it will tell you if he is more traditional at his core or more modern while showing him you appreciate his efforts of making the first move. Second thing it severely limits the will he/won't he call question.
I both cases, dates and job interviews, you are doing the choosing as much or more than they are. You are being sought in both cases, how do THEY measure up to your expectations? If it was the last single guy in the world and the last employer, that might be cause enough to be a little more concerned about their choice. The man already has expressed approval or he would not have risked asking you out. It is not easy to ask out a stranger, but he overcame his fear of rejection to ask you.
Melissa well to be fair she wasnt even nearly mediocre, she was the worst... First date : -hey what do you like -children -um ok, so where your favorit place -disney land because I want children -....k... Um your best character trait? -I WANT CHILDREN I mean, you just CANNOT go worst expect adding "weewee" after the word children in each answer... As much as a man MIGHT want a family in the future I think nothing turn a man off more than a woman that seems EXTREMLY stressing about having kids in the closest amount of time possible and in any meaning possible
To be fair, this was really fast paced and rushed so I don’t blame her not being able to think of something deeply that quickly when she’s put on the spot. Lots of pressure.
That is the point. You come across as boring and indecisive because you don’t even know yourself well, how do you then expect someone to want to get to know you?
I think Rachel was wrong about her criticism of the woman’s “children” comments. The woman’s answer was raw, honest, and valid, and genuinely showed part of her character. As did Rachel’s... Thank you.
It was genuine sure. No problem cause it was on live. But if you gave that answer on the first date it feels as if youe rushing to settle down. That puts pressure on the other person. So hes gonna be thinking you are dating for marriage to get children. No one likes that much pressure. Let it pan out.
I am very open in range of topics and views of others but have to admit if a woman started off on the first date focusing on children I would be put off a bit.
There are a lot of vids like this, and so much of it seems more appropriate for speed-dating than a real date. On a real date, these are almost all out-of-the-blue inorganic questions that I guess are okay if your date is only expected to last 20-30 minutes and you're having a tough time keeping the conversation going, but if you're able to set up a proper first date you can go on all sorts of tangents just by slowing down and asking a little more regarding the standard questions.One standard question: How many siblings do you have? A follow-up as simple as "Where do they live" opens the door for a story of a time you were in that city/area, any number of travel-related questions (which lead to MORE avenues of conversation) and none of it involves shifting straight from "How big of a family to you have" to "What is your favorite movie and why? Why! WHY GODDAMN YOU, WHY?!"
missmelodies52 That reminds me of another vid. I think it's a Buzzfeed one about things the drive women crazy (or attract them, or whatever). One of the things is when a guy sort of puts his thumb on his lower lip like he's deep in thought - a move I have never known to be naturally occurring ... EVER.
OMG, I'm from Montreal and I love the guys description of the weather: "I love the brutal harsh cold weather, because it drives away the people that aren't supposed to be here!"
Thanks for this Matthew. I sense your enthusiasm and how you want to help people. I love how you're honest. This is something I need to develop in my life as I always find it hard to open up especially if I like a guy xx
He's always hired to do seminars for large, live audiences. He's speaking at the volume for the audience, except the sound engineer is recording for television... whoops!
Anne-Sophie D. Well she gave the worst possible answers in a date ever, the worst she could have done is plainly saying "fuck you" on each answer. I think myself as a beginner but her answer were extremly awful
@@Jane-vw5om No one 'beat her down'. She took a test, was graded and coached on how to give correct or better answers. She did come across as uninteresting and without much personality. All of these questions where about herself and she really struggled with some of them.
Love this!! Matthew Hussey is absolutely THE GURU of dating advice!! Does he know how many women wish there were thousands of men like him out there in the dating combat field???
There are millions of such men but you filter them out because they are not 6'3", or not driving a $150k car, or are not a doctor. Women have very long lists of requirements, pages of them and any one of them is the deal breaker. Men have a list also that can be printed on a postage stamp: Fit, attractive and nice. We do not care your career or income because we will never have access to your income. We do not care about your degree other than it makes you less attractive and narrows your worldview. A broadly educated person is far more interesting and attractive than a specialist who focuses on a narrow field. We care if you are kind in speech and actions, to us or anyone we see you interact with. A woman who is critical of waitstaff for example, or changes their attitude when dealing with "lessers" will not get another date with a serious man. We can't say this but men will agree in their silence: Women under 50 yo who are overweight reveal they lack self-control Men will accept wide ranges of traits in women but still would have preferred that they be fit and feminine, terms banned from any public utterance. We naturally gravitate to opposites and if there was a choice, masculine women would not be considered as a mate. These long lists of qualifiers that woman make today did not exist in your mothers time. Most marriages were between people who knew each other from the same school or a very small pool of options who saw themselves as on the same level socially and culturally. Income was not a factor because most couples got together every early before careers were developed. There were low expectations for mate selection outside of their social and economic class. Normal people bonded with normal people. The idea that an average girl would have high expectations of holding out for the rich guy in the gated estate was not even thought about, and that was why almost everyone did get married and raised a new generation of successful family creators. The bottom 40% of men are never going to get a real date now, 35% of men age 30 are virgins and less than 5% of women that age are. Major changes in society has taken place within our lifetime, changes that lead to societal collapse. The current rate of birth is 0.8% births per woman, which means the current generation will be the end of millions of years of uninterrupted success in your ancestors raising a child that successfully reproduced. The only population with a reproducing level of offspring are first-generation immigrants in the North American and Northern European societies. For generations, overpopulation was a concern after sanitation and antibiotics caused an exponential population growth after about 1870 but now the concern is whole populations in demographic collapse. The people who are alive in your area 50 years from now, will have no genetic connection to you or anyone you ever knew. Dating customs and mate selection now, which are new trends unknown in history, assure demographic collapse. Is dating for you a social function or a biological imperative? Depending on your answer, the odds are high of not succeeding. The ugly truth is most women now have set their sights on the same small group of men who have no incentive to settle down since so many women make themselves available to them. The larger majority of men will never get a partner. By creating criteria for mate selection that eliminate most women from the only men they will accept, a lot of very lonely middle and advanced age women are going to be left out of family creation. That great mass of men in the middle has realized they will never be selected and are giving up any contact with women. Great civilizations in history died out, for this reason, more often than being conqoured.
You know what I think? I think she should continue talking about what she loves on the first date (children in this case) and the right man for her will say "me too".
MiaLens sorry but it wont happen. No man wants to have kids on the first date with a woman theyy dont know. Some men wants kids in the future but not with a random girl they just meet, its that simple. I love boobs and I dont say out loud on the first date "I really love boobs" simply because its innapropriate in a first date if you dont want to turn off totaly the vast majority of the people. MOST women wont like to get talked about sex on first date just like men dont want to talk about forming a family in the first date. Its just different depending on gender. You can be who you want to be but there is some things that you need to bring with finest or avoid on first date and keep them for later dates thats all
That's like saying, " I think a man should just continuing talking about how much he loves blowjobs on the first date and the right woman for him will say "me too!".
Katherine Cruz I don't see a lack of personality at all. He asked her questions that can be answered with one Word and he asks them in a very rushed and intimidating, loud voice. It is absolutely understandable that she gives short answers, because of him being so hectic and in a hurry.
From the audience, it might appear to be a fun exercise but getting up on stage, bright lights, a few hundred eyes in the audience and a hundred thousand across the country and thinking fast is just not something easily done on the spot. So her lack of any answer on some questions was excusable. What would have concerned me were the answers to the questions she did answer. I agree with the other hosts, two of the answers focused on children and even a man who loves kids would be wary. The questions were to project herself, her experiences, and her personality. The first time I had a mic shoved in my face with cameras, despite being comfortable speaking to groups, was undermined by the focus on my, and my answers were hesitant, confused and came off badly. I got used to it later and felt more comfortable with practice. In the girl's case we know so little about her from that exchange that it is not far to judge her personality. Her conversation sitting across the dinner table after a glass of wine, I would predict would be much more impressive.
Character revealing item: have a story that reveals part of your character, preferably something that makes you look impressive In demand: say something that makes you look in demand. for example: if the guy approached you in an impressive way and that's why you're on the date, you could say "You know what I love? I love the way you approached me because the way guys always normally approach me is ____"
That’s basically how every guy sees dating a woman. The first date isn’t fun, it’s the woman asking a bunch of questions basically going “so, how can you entertain me and do you meet my checklist. Also, I’ll shut this down on a whim.” He’s just trying to get the woman to participate.
@@anonymousinternetuserfawke3295 Every guy? I would wager you have not polled very many men but first dates ARE fun and it they are not for your dates, maybe you should exercise some self reflection: "what is the common element of all my un-fun dates?" You. The checklist is not an instruction, it is something to think about if one is not used to dating and comfortable when first conversing with someone who is essentially a stranger. I would never prepare such a list because I am usually comfortable in any direction a conversation leads to. In fact, I have to check myself to assure she feels comfortable enough to do 2/3rds of the talking, otherwise, I could end up dominating the conversation.
thanks it given me something to think about, the movies , i liked alice in wonderland , its like being in a kind hood dream the contrast is great its like a painting as well. and ground hog day ,how a man changes him self and his life.
Fav movie n why? Something new I learned recently... Bucketlist... Character revealing item....With a story. In demand.... The way guys normally approach me...
I do not think that is the goal here. A first date can be intimidating so however interesting the girl is, some are not comfortable on the first date, particularly if she is just returning to or beginning dating. How to get through the first 30minutes until it becomes more comfortable can use some planning. If she is used to it, and socializes often she would not be on that show. Part of my job is to make her feel comfortable enough to be herself so we both fail if she never lets her spontaneous thoughts flow by the end of the evening.
It's really difficult to find great men when u deliberately go around looking for em... N when u do find one out of the blue... n u love that person, n u date..: n u break up, N ur left shattered again... n then again u gotta be on a journey of finding the right one... oh God when will this end. Dating sites are full of shit
That is ridicolous,I mean first date and dates in general are not a schedule!You have to be yourself and don't think about what you are gonna say,cause if it works everything will be free and spontaneous!
Matthew! You just about landed in my doorstep! I am a retired electronic technician, aged 72 and live in the Greater Montreal area. But more important is what you said about those who choose to live here and why. The winter is, at time bitterly cold, the economy is one of the poorest provinces in Canada, corruption is sordidly all-a-plenty, but yes, oit does discourage those who value other things more. In my case, I am trilingual and love languages. On the streets of Montreal you can foind some 80 languages in a day, and don't expect just one dialect from each. Montrealers don't have to fly the world at great expense, ect. the world comes to us - and for more than just money. If we do need to get to another major city there are plenty of transportation infrastructures, although distances in Canada are long. (Having had over 1 million Km. in my time on the road, I could surely tell you all the details! I have been married for coming up 34 years, no children (medical reasons both sides), but if I were young and single again with so much I have learned the roughest and most independent way in a lot more than all the technology i have seen, done, and yes, survived (many were the type of jobs you do it right or you simple don't come bacK alive!), i think some young lady who theoretically might be interested, would have a big challenge to catch more than "the friend zone" from me, yet the "friend zone os aloways open to those who show the mettle (and remind North Americans that mettle has NOTHING to do with aluminum or steel!). When I was young and single, I was far from popular, so many women I might have had a crush on, in retrosepct, I am glad, as much for their sake as mine that nothing got serious (and will that be in English, French or Spanish?) It has been well shown that in spite of a history of a lot of emotional issues, I end up being a real one of a kind, as a result oif many underlying factors. I am not an Aspergers case, but have the high intelligence (Mensa tested), and also have had many of the social difficulties that can plgue Aspergers' cases, but there are also marked differences that do not fit Aspergers. (Complicated medical explanation sided here). I once at random, in public on a commuter train had the chance to personally interview an Aspergers case. Poor fellow but also I don't think he will ever understand what he will lose from that in life. His conversation to most people would have been so abosolutely inscrutable that they would hve been lost, but yet, with efforve been lost, but yet, with effort and concentration, I could understand the main lines of what he was telling me. A published example of an Aspergers case is in the Indian Movie "My Name is Khan". it was offocially written in (I think it was Hindi) but with English subtitles. But actually most of the movis is truly in englsh because after a short time oin India, Khan was sent to a clinic in San Francisco and the rest of it is all in the U.S. during the Bush regime. The play time is about 2 1/2 hours, so it is somewhat longer than many movies made for North American audiences, but it,in its own way is a downright humanitarian thriller. When in the U.S. Khan got married amd his wife had a son,.but what so tragically happened to not only the son but the marriage is enough to make us take a far more serious look on life and the long term! What made the differences? 1) Necessity is the mother of invention" 2) where there's a will, there's a way! (But that will is born of the aforementioned necessity, so the two are even closer than hand in hand!) 3) ¡ Haber compasión es la hija de han sida sofrie ! As one who LOVES his public Speaking, no unilingual person would need to understand one word of Spanish to realize there's MORE THAN THE WORDS in that! After a moment of rhetoric pause, the translation: "To have compassion is the dsughter of having suffered! But when I tell the story so many times to younger generations, I also make it explicitly clear why I am telling it! I am 72 years old, I am not going to live forever, but what I hav3e learned IN THE ROUGHEST WAY possible over most of a lifetime, I do not want that learning to die with me, so I am passing it to you as you are the ones who will have to "fight the good fight" long after I am gone. The principle is the same as the passing of the Olympic torch! Hence for all the rancour and strife, I cannot regret, as in my last day I will have the true and inalienable altruism of knowing I have done my best in spite of all,. ...And that Altruism is the highest level in Mazlow's hierarchy of human needs! So how many of your younger following would want to meet that size of challenge (let them see by the depiction of Khan's wife!, it is loosely comparable!)
... P.S.: I have liked your video, but as much to get the shareable link so I can use it to refer others to both the video and the comments. time will tell if this is able to spawn a "peanut gallery discussion" on this area of human relations!
Montréal était mon endroit préféré quand je suis allé en décembre dernier! Je n'ai vu que quatre personnes en visitant les jardins botaniques. Je vous remercie!
I'm 23, so these questions seem more for the "advanced" individual in life. I don't know what my favorite place in the whole wide world is, I haven't had the opportunity to broaden that horizon yet. I haven't been to Disney World.
P Sok you can try to think about places you’ve been to, maybe in your home town, places which bring you harmony, f.e. Not everyone was in Paris, LA and so on, it’s ok. Just go deeper into your soul and dream a little:)
Maybe the answer is your favorite restaurant, maybe it's your grandmother's house. It doesn't matter where it is, as he says, as long as the reason why is interesting. "I love being at my grandmother's house because it transports me back in time reminds me when family was important in society. She is so loving and caring and I love spending time with her"
Ignore the woman who said don't mention liking children. It's one of the few good qualities women have these days what with them putting career over family, 'furbabies', feminism and all that crap. Liking children means you at least have some interest in raising a family and a man who wants a family will appreciate it.
If a Guy tells you "he Loves being around Children" in today's world, that'll start setting off alarm bells and makes anyone who overhears it start to wonder about him, (and probably scare off the female dater).
People saying it was rushed! That's the point either you have done the work and you know yourself or not! Clearly she is very shallow and pretty boring
Why were they making this poor woman feel so awkward and treating her as if it’s her fault she’s single. Smh this guy is so freaking frustrating. He’s making money off women’s insecurities.
Who's fault is it if not hers? She sees guys she would like to meet, she should approach them. She will find it is a lot harder than just sitting back and waiting for the right guys comes along. Does to go out to participate in activities where she is around men doing the same thing she is? What are her interests for her own enjoyment, and does she do things that places herself into social situations around men who enjoy the same activities? If she seeks something she has to know she needs to go get it. Dating apps do not work, she needs to be out in the world and meet people she wants to meet.
It was revealing how desperate she was to have children. That's the reason they all cringed at the "I love children" answer. Most women do, but to answer that right away screams "I'm desperate to have children yesterday" and will turn many men away.
On a first date? Just possibly. He asked you out because he thought you could be attracted to him as much as he already is to you. You are already given the benefit of the doubt and he wants to know more about your personality, and preferred way of communicating your thoughts and interests but save any answers that entail commitment and responsibilities for later when you are both more in turn with each other. You WILL scare him away if too early. You are in the Sacramento area, I grew up there, and still have a duplex in Citrus Heights but lived in Marin where I have a home leased out most of my life and now in St Petersburg Russia. I saw one of your videos, with the outgoing personality and being very attractive I think that might scare some guys off if they are not very self-confident. Good luck in your sales and your dating life, you are really cute....
also...if you are a dullard...dating won't go well for you. That's the moral of the story. You'll need to hook up with another dullard and then be happy.
Mat is a lovely sexy smart PRO guy that teaches reality..that woman is empty...common lady! why Greece...? you dont know it was one of the milestone civilizations in the world that brought great contribution to the human existence...."just to know the culture to compare our culture.."..what is that???...i will run away if i was your date!!! i always heard people say Americans are so silly, they never travel, only inside their US land..and so on.. but every time i confirmed....oh God..save America please!!!!
We never travel....?? I guess I have to go tear out pages of my last 4 passports, that show 91 countries visited and living outside the US for 20 years. I meet a lot of ex-pats living all over the world some much be traveling. But I will admit that culture is not a high priority for the vast majority of Americans. Kids grow up in a cultural void and probably are not within 700 miles of a decent museum or art gallery, and only about 1 in 10,000 have attended opera or world-class ballet.
Yeah, he once said that he also prepares for an each date and makes up a list of abstract questions and answers to discuss on a date. If it’s true i think it takes him not more than 2 minutes:) he’s too hot and experienced;)
Let’s not judge the poor girls character based on a bunch of superficial questions asked on the spot on tv. I’m sure she has tonnes of substance, but not everyone is so comfortable being on tv that they can open up like that on the spot ..
alot of beige pplz on this here planet fo sure... and I assure you now if your date was to hear you loved da bambinos ??!!he would be running faster than that Bolt dude in a hundred meter race... don't be beige!!. be awesome!!
Wow That poor woman. All he displayed here was the reason why he remains single and why I wouldn’t place any value in anything he says. He’s Pushy and clearly shuts down women for being inadequate. That’s exactly how he made this woman feel in front of the audience.
Basically "don't be basic". lol
More like: "have some substance".
YES! You said it perfectly and so true.
what an embarrassing segment
what is wrong about being basic? are you better?
Lately i've been going on Job interviews and dates and honestly i cant tell whats the difference between both. So much pressure to be the chosen one.
It is the same exactly, very hard in both cases. i think when you are open to abundence maybe it's different you have full confidence in yourself so it's less important what you say it more important how you say it
Priscila Garcia no one wants to date a basic girl . Be interesting and interested . Period .
The difference is food. That's really it. Both is a discovery process as well as a weeding out one. On a date though you have the ability to make yourself more unique by paying attention to the other prospects around you. For example if you are a guy pick a place where you have an opportunity to pull her chair out or a day and time when you have the opportunity to walk her home instead of drive so when you put your coat around her she remembers the smell of your incredible cologne.
Ladies he made the first move here is a strange idea. Pick up the check. Not fake offer. Actually do it and explain why. Let him know that he can pay for the next day or drinks later. That will setup two things. One it will tell you if he is more traditional at his core or more modern while showing him you appreciate his efforts of making the first move. Second thing it severely limits the will he/won't he call question.
I both cases, dates and job interviews, you are doing the choosing as much or more than they are. You are being sought in both cases, how do THEY measure up to your expectations? If it was the last single guy in the world and the last employer, that might be cause enough to be a little more concerned about their choice. The man already has expressed approval or he would not have risked asking you out. It is not easy to ask out a stranger, but he overcame his fear of rejection to ask you.
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she got nervous that she was failing and shut down in the communication from my view
yep, self conscious and wanted everyone to like her.... instead of enjoying the questions and talking about herself
I love how Matthew Hussey shift everything back to positive 😊.
Great advice BUT he didn't have to put that much pressure on her to be perfect! It was kind of unenjoyable to watch because of this.
Melissa well to be fair she wasnt even nearly mediocre, she was the worst... First date :
-hey what do you like
-children
-um ok, so where your favorit place
-disney land because I want children
-....k... Um your best character trait?
-I WANT CHILDREN
I mean, you just CANNOT go worst expect adding "weewee" after the word children in each answer...
As much as a man MIGHT want a family in the future I think nothing turn a man off more than a woman that seems EXTREMLY stressing about having kids in the closest amount of time possible and in any meaning possible
@@tonytouchzz That is a guys issue, they are jerks.
He was asking basic questions though. Favourite movie, place etc. She just froze
To be fair, this was really fast paced and rushed so I don’t blame her not being able to think of something deeply that quickly when she’s put on the spot. Lots of pressure.
I think that’s the whole point (he even said this!!): be prepared because it IS hard to come up with something interesting in the moment.
That is the point. You come across as boring and indecisive because you don’t even know yourself well, how do you then expect someone to want to get to know you?
dating or job interview? we'll never know
thanks I love this
It's normally natural but nowadays some folks need these courses, trust me!
lmao yes
i think these tips are for insecure people, when you are ata good place in life this stuff flows naturally
@@MsJerrySparkle you mean everybody?
I think Rachel was wrong about her criticism of the woman’s “children” comments. The woman’s answer was raw, honest, and valid, and genuinely showed part of her character.
As did Rachel’s...
Thank you.
It was genuine sure. No problem cause it was on live. But if you gave that answer on the first date it feels as if youe rushing to settle down. That puts pressure on the other person. So hes gonna be thinking you are dating for marriage to get children. No one likes that much pressure. Let it pan out.
I am very open in range of topics and views of others but have to admit if a woman started off on the first date focusing on children I would be put off a bit.
I felt the same way
matthew made her realize she even knows nothing about herself...
impressive
She dus not expected that she will have an interviu......👎
He exposed that she truly knows little about herself and has little if anything to offer . Exposed her in just a few questions
It's hard to think fast for some of us. Okay?
А ты можешь сразу без запинки ответить на любой вопрос о себе? Молодец. Далеко не все так могут.
The average woman is a TERRIBLE conversationalist
she was so rushed lol.....thats not fair poor girl
Lanae tae show airtime
Yes aw, Talk about being ripped out on public tv poor thing.
Lanae tae it was the great point he was making! COME ARMED W A STORY & ANSWERS
Dont women speak more words then men yet she cant get her thoughts together cause women expect men to do everything!
This is what men have to go through all the time. Now the pressure to attract has shifted. Women have to start chasing and not being passing.
Omg imagine your date fires all these questions to you , shouting out like that and all speedy... what a delightful first date !
There are a lot of vids like this, and so much of it seems more appropriate for speed-dating than a real date. On a real date, these are almost all out-of-the-blue inorganic questions that I guess are okay if your date is only expected to last 20-30 minutes and you're having a tough time keeping the conversation going, but if you're able to set up a proper first date you can go on all sorts of tangents just by slowing down and asking a little more regarding the standard questions.One standard question: How many siblings do you have? A follow-up as simple as "Where do they live" opens the door for a story of a time you were in that city/area, any number of travel-related questions (which lead to MORE avenues of conversation) and none of it involves shifting straight from "How big of a family to you have" to "What is your favorite movie and why? Why! WHY GODDAMN YOU, WHY?!"
Lol. Yes, working these in subtly is a skill for sure.
missmelodies52 That reminds me of another vid. I think it's a Buzzfeed one about things the drive women crazy (or attract them, or whatever).
One of the things is when a guy sort of puts his thumb on his lower lip like he's deep in thought - a move I have never known to be naturally occurring ... EVER.
OMG, I'm from Montreal and I love the guys description of the weather: "I love the brutal harsh cold weather, because it drives away the people that aren't supposed to be here!"
Thanks for this Matthew. I sense your enthusiasm and how you want to help people. I love how you're honest. This is something I need to develop in my life as I always find it hard to open up especially if I like a guy xx
WHY IS HE YELLING
HelloHarvardYo? Because his portion is limited on time and wants everyone to hear him
He is excited to explain
Because yelling makes everything more true, more believable, more genuine. /s
He's always hired to do seminars for large, live audiences. He's speaking at the volume for the audience, except the sound engineer is recording for television... whoops!
He's not yelling. He's being passionate about the subject.
i don't like how they put her down!
Anne-Sophie D. Well she gave the worst possible answers in a date ever, the worst she could have done is plainly saying "fuck you" on each answer. I think myself as a beginner but her answer were extremly awful
😭
They are building her up.
Beating her down so badly. I am sure this did nothing for her self esteem and confidence
@@Jane-vw5om No one 'beat her down'. She took a test, was graded and coached on how to give correct or better answers. She did come across as uninteresting and without much personality. All of these questions where about herself and she really struggled with some of them.
😓 Dating is exhausting!!!!
June Moone right 🙄 so much technique!
You should see how much more complicated it is for guys lol
Tell me about it🙄 why can't we be just ourselves?
It's horrible
Same here
Love this!! Matthew Hussey is absolutely THE GURU of dating advice!! Does he know how many women wish there were thousands of men like him out there in the dating combat field???
There are millions of such men but you filter them out because they are not 6'3", or not driving a $150k car, or are not a doctor. Women have very long lists of requirements, pages of them and any one of them is the deal breaker. Men have a list also that can be printed on a postage stamp: Fit, attractive and nice. We do not care your career or income because we will never have access to your income. We do not care about your degree other than it makes you less attractive and narrows your worldview. A broadly educated person is far more interesting and attractive than a specialist who focuses on a narrow field. We care if you are kind in speech and actions, to us or anyone we see you interact with. A woman who is critical of waitstaff for example, or changes their attitude when dealing with "lessers" will not get another date with a serious man.
We can't say this but men will agree in their silence: Women under 50 yo who are overweight reveal they lack self-control
Men will accept wide ranges of traits in women but still would have preferred that they be fit and feminine, terms banned from any public utterance. We naturally gravitate to opposites and if there was a choice, masculine women would not be considered as a mate.
These long lists of qualifiers that woman make today did not exist in your mothers time. Most marriages were between people who knew each other from the same school or a very small pool of options who saw themselves as on the same level socially and culturally. Income was not a factor because most couples got together every early before careers were developed. There were low expectations for mate selection outside of their social and economic class. Normal people bonded with normal people. The idea that an average girl would have high expectations of holding out for the rich guy in the gated estate was not even thought about, and that was why almost everyone did get married and raised a new generation of successful family creators. The bottom 40% of men are never going to get a real date now, 35% of men age 30 are virgins and less than 5% of women that age are. Major changes in society has taken place within our lifetime, changes that lead to societal collapse. The current rate of birth is 0.8% births per woman, which means the current generation will be the end of millions of years of uninterrupted success in your ancestors raising a child that successfully reproduced. The only population with a reproducing level of offspring are first-generation immigrants in the North American and Northern European societies. For generations, overpopulation was a concern after sanitation and antibiotics caused an exponential population growth after about 1870 but now the concern is whole populations in demographic collapse. The people who are alive in your area 50 years from now, will have no genetic connection to you or anyone you ever knew. Dating customs and mate selection now, which are new trends unknown in history, assure demographic collapse.
Is dating for you a social function or a biological imperative? Depending on your answer, the odds are high of not succeeding. The ugly truth is most women now have set their sights on the same small group of men who have no incentive to settle down since so many women make themselves available to them. The larger majority of men will never get a partner. By creating criteria for mate selection that eliminate most women from the only men they will accept, a lot of very lonely middle and advanced age women are going to be left out of family creation. That great mass of men in the middle has realized they will never be selected and are giving up any contact with women. Great civilizations in history died out, for this reason, more often than being conqoured.
Love Matthew Hussey's advice
His advice is terrible. He’s young and immature and needs more years of experience because most of his advice is bs
Ahhh I'm so happy you said 'Montreal', Matthew!! It's my hometown :)
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I was lucky to attend one of his seminars some years ago this dude know what is talking about ladies and gent take notes
You know what I think? I think she should continue talking about what she loves on the first date (children in this case) and the right man for her will say "me too".
MiaLens sorry but it wont happen. No man wants to have kids on the first date with a woman theyy dont know. Some men wants kids in the future but not with a random girl they just meet, its that simple. I love boobs and I dont say out loud on the first date "I really love boobs" simply because its innapropriate in a first date if you dont want to turn off totaly the vast majority of the people. MOST women wont like to get talked about sex on first date just like men dont want to talk about forming a family in the first date. Its just different depending on gender.
You can be who you want to be but there is some things that you need to bring with finest or avoid on first date and keep them for later dates thats all
Saying she loved children but not being able to explain why made it seem super creepy. Almost everyone would be put off by that.
Its a huge turnoff for men,whether they wann have kids in the future or not.Not even on the second or third date.Thats the reality.
That's like saying, " I think a man should just continuing talking about how much he loves blowjobs on the first date and the right woman for him will say "me too!".
try finding your self through music or poems, reading ect
also consider what thoughs who know you have said
Poor woman. I'm hoping her lack of personality is just about having such a public spotlight on her.
Katherine Cruz I don't see a lack of personality at all. He asked her questions that can be answered with one Word and he asks them in a very rushed and intimidating, loud voice. It is absolutely understandable that she gives short answers, because of him being so hectic and in a hurry.
agreed with Katherine.. so embarrassing
From the audience, it might appear to be a fun exercise but getting up on stage, bright lights, a few hundred eyes in the audience and a hundred thousand across the country and thinking fast is just not something easily done on the spot. So her lack of any answer on some questions was excusable. What would have concerned me were the answers to the questions she did answer. I agree with the other hosts, two of the answers focused on children and even a man who loves kids would be wary. The questions were to project herself, her experiences, and her personality.
The first time I had a mic shoved in my face with cameras, despite being comfortable speaking to groups, was undermined by the focus on my, and my answers were hesitant, confused and came off badly. I got used to it later and felt more comfortable with practice.
In the girl's case we know so little about her from that exchange that it is not far to judge her personality. Her conversation sitting across the dinner table after a glass of wine, I would predict would be much more impressive.
The story: "Once when I backpacked in the South America..." (c) lol
Yeah, Matthew!! Popping up on daytime tv, looking so good xD
Character revealing item: have a story that reveals part of your character, preferably something that makes you look impressive
In demand: say something that makes you look in demand. for example: if the guy approached you in an impressive way and that's why you're on the date, you could say "You know what I love? I love the way you approached me because the way guys always normally approach me is ____"
Matthew are these questions for a date or for a job interview ?
You can't fix boring with a technique.
misstigermilk yeah I know from my ex bf
I disagree, where there is a will there is a way.
SWIFTzTrigger but if you have a “will” enough to do something like this, you’re probably not too boring
but i think you can, students applying to US colleges do it all the time? like, the essay writing part is mostly technique
He's making it sounds like a job interview that one needs to do endless prep for...
That’s basically how every guy sees dating a woman. The first date isn’t fun, it’s the woman asking a bunch of questions basically going “so, how can you entertain me and do you meet my checklist. Also, I’ll shut this down on a whim.” He’s just trying to get the woman to participate.
@@anonymousinternetuserfawke3295 Every guy? I would wager you have not polled very many men but first dates ARE fun and it they are not for your dates, maybe you should exercise some self reflection: "what is the common element of all my un-fun dates?" You.
The checklist is not an instruction, it is something to think about if one is not used to dating and comfortable when first conversing with someone who is essentially a stranger. I would never prepare such a list because I am usually comfortable in any direction a conversation leads to. In fact, I have to check myself to assure she feels comfortable enough to do 2/3rds of the talking, otherwise, I could end up dominating the conversation.
that was so surreal I was just thinking Montreal and for essentially the same reasons he listed
Why does Rachael sound like she smokes 10 packs a day lmao
Haha I thought the same thing
#montreal represent
thanks it given me something to think about, the movies , i liked alice in wonderland , its like being in a kind hood dream the contrast is great its like a painting as well.
and ground hog day ,how a man changes him self and his life.
Fav movie n why?
Something new I learned recently...
Bucketlist...
Character revealing item....With a story.
In demand....
The way guys normally approach me...
Rachael was totally right---don't say the word "children"!
they should have asked him the questions too! wait, no Matthew is over-prepared anyhow
Teaching women to be interesting. More time than needed than 5 min. More like an hour, three times a week for 2 or 3 semesters.
I do not think that is the goal here. A first date can be intimidating so however interesting the girl is, some are not comfortable on the first date, particularly if she is just returning to or beginning dating. How to get through the first 30minutes until it becomes more comfortable can use some planning. If she is used to it, and socializes often she would not be on that show. Part of my job is to make her feel comfortable enough to be herself so we both fail if she never lets her spontaneous thoughts flow by the end of the evening.
First thing on my list. A box that you check off if anyone brings a list of things they expect from you.
It's really difficult to find great men when u deliberately go around looking for em...
N when u do find one out of the blue... n u love that person, n u date..: n u break up,
N ur left shattered again...
n then again u gotta be on a journey of finding the right one... oh God when will this end.
Dating sites are full of shit
That is ridicolous,I mean first date and dates in general are not a schedule!You have to be yourself and don't think about what you are gonna say,cause if it works everything will be free and spontaneous!
Matthew is so good in this 😊
Matthew! You just about landed in my doorstep!
I am a retired electronic technician, aged 72 and live in the Greater Montreal area.
But more important is what you said about those who choose to live here and why.
The winter is, at time bitterly cold, the economy is one of the poorest provinces in Canada, corruption is sordidly all-a-plenty, but yes, oit does discourage those who value other things more.
In my case, I am trilingual and love languages. On the streets of Montreal you can foind some 80 languages in a day, and don't expect just one dialect from each. Montrealers don't have to fly the world at great expense, ect. the world comes to us - and for more than just money.
If we do need to get to another major city there are plenty of transportation infrastructures, although distances in Canada are long. (Having had over 1 million Km. in my time on the road, I could surely tell you all the details!
I have been married for coming up 34 years, no children (medical reasons both sides), but if I were young and single again with so much I have learned the roughest and most independent way in a lot more than all the technology i have seen, done, and yes, survived (many were the type of jobs you do it right or you simple don't come bacK alive!), i think some young lady who theoretically might be interested, would have a big challenge to catch more than "the friend zone" from me, yet the "friend zone os aloways open to those who show the mettle (and remind North Americans that mettle has NOTHING to do with aluminum or steel!).
When I was young and single, I was far from popular, so many women I might have had a crush on, in retrosepct, I am glad, as much for their sake as mine that nothing got serious (and will that be in English, French or Spanish?)
It has been well shown that in spite of a history of a lot of emotional issues, I end up being a real one of a kind, as a result oif many underlying factors.
I am not an Aspergers case, but have the high intelligence (Mensa tested), and also have had many of the social difficulties that can plgue Aspergers' cases, but there are also marked differences that do not fit Aspergers. (Complicated medical explanation sided here). I once at random, in public on a commuter train had the chance to personally interview an Aspergers case.
Poor fellow but also I don't think he will ever understand what he will lose from that in life. His conversation to most people would have been so abosolutely inscrutable that they would hve been lost, but yet, with efforve been lost, but yet, with effort and concentration, I could understand the main lines of what he was telling me.
A published example of an Aspergers case is in the Indian Movie "My Name is Khan". it was offocially written in (I think it was Hindi) but with English subtitles.
But actually most of the movis is truly in englsh because after a short time oin India, Khan was sent to a clinic in San Francisco and the rest of it is all in the U.S. during the Bush regime. The play time is about 2 1/2 hours, so it is somewhat longer than many movies made for North American audiences, but it,in its own way is a downright humanitarian thriller.
When in the U.S. Khan got married amd his wife had a son,.but what so tragically happened to not only the son but the marriage is enough to make us take a far more serious look on life and the long term!
What made the differences?
1) Necessity is the mother of invention"
2) where there's a will, there's a way! (But that will is born of the aforementioned necessity, so the two are even closer than hand in hand!)
3) ¡ Haber compasión es la hija de han sida sofrie !
As one who LOVES his public Speaking, no unilingual person would need to understand one word of Spanish to realize there's MORE THAN THE WORDS in that!
After a moment of rhetoric pause, the translation:
"To have compassion is the dsughter of having suffered!
But when I tell the story so many times to younger generations, I also make it explicitly clear why I am telling it!
I am 72 years old, I am not going to live forever, but what I hav3e learned IN THE ROUGHEST WAY possible over most of a lifetime, I do not want that learning to die with me, so I am passing it to you as you are the ones who will have to "fight the good fight" long after I am gone. The principle is the same as the passing of the Olympic torch!
Hence for all the rancour and strife, I cannot regret, as in my last day I will have the true and inalienable altruism of knowing I have done my best in spite of all,.
...And that Altruism is the highest level in Mazlow's hierarchy of human needs!
So how many of your younger following would want to meet that size of challenge (let them see by the depiction of Khan's wife!, it is loosely comparable!)
... P.S.:
I have liked your video, but as much to get the shareable link so I can use it to refer others to both the video and the comments. time will tell if this is able to spawn a "peanut gallery discussion" on this area of human relations!
Goddamn I feel like I'm goin on an interview lol
Montréal était mon endroit préféré quand je suis allé en décembre dernier! Je n'ai vu que quatre personnes en visitant les jardins botaniques. Je vous remercie!
He’s rocking those jeans 😍🤪😛
Montreal is awesome come in the summer 🙌🏽
was no one else wondering why Rachael is SO red?!
Michelle M She probably has rosacea
"Disneyland" .. FACEPALM
Jolene Gralow Yes! I’m sorry but adults who profess a love of Disney theme parks freak me out...I shudder to think of those who get married in one!
This is really stressing me out to watch 😂
belle was a great movie ,its about over coming the odds
I feel lucky to be in Montreal lol
god this is like preparing for an interview ugh
Lol...why would potential partner even want you when you can't explain why you find yourself interesting?
Matthew hussey’s advert was on this video😂😂
Watching from Montréal ;)
I'm 23, so these questions seem more for the "advanced" individual in life. I don't know what my favorite place in the whole wide world is, I haven't had the opportunity to broaden that horizon yet. I haven't been to Disney World.
P Sok you can try to think about places you’ve been to, maybe in your home town, places which bring you harmony, f.e. Not everyone was in Paris, LA and so on, it’s ok. Just go deeper into your soul and dream a little:)
Maybe the answer is your favorite restaurant, maybe it's your grandmother's house. It doesn't matter where it is, as he says, as long as the reason why is interesting. "I love being at my grandmother's house because it transports me back in time reminds me when family was important in society. She is so loving and caring and I love spending time with her"
the movie belle its about a woman fighting the freedom of her people and her place in society
lets go Montreal!!!
Bottomline is most women do not have a conversation and personality on a date. And when they have they don't let the guy speak.
That was really good! Esp: in demand. :)
In demand is good advice for a man, don't think it's good advice for a woman. Unless she's dating players.
I like some of his advice but to me he seems to make the dating game exactly that - one big game and over analysis
i once told off a criminal when i work in security , he towered above me and i told him off like a kid
Ignore the woman who said don't mention liking children. It's one of the few good qualities women have these days what with them putting career over family, 'furbabies', feminism and all that crap. Liking children means you at least have some interest in raising a family and a man who wants a family will appreciate it.
Man, I feel like they just kept pushing her down. Poor girl was just getting shit on the whole time.
The first time I heard Chil.... I passed out..
Please save the woman
I would surely fail this date..
Man I just want someone that’s ok with me being basic.
Damn, she got flamed lol but she had to be in spirit
If a Guy tells you "he Loves being around Children" in today's world, that'll start setting off alarm bells and makes anyone who overhears it start to wonder about him, (and probably scare off the female dater).
Why is he yelling and talking down to her? Poor woman.
Because her answers are stupid...she is dumb....this guy is a PRO asking basic questions for god sake!
He’s extremely annoying and rude
I agree. Poor woman
People saying it was rushed! That's the point either you have done the work and you know yourself or not! Clearly she is very shallow and pretty boring
Why is Matthew single? Can I have him please ❤️
Thats my favoriter movie too hahaha
Why were they making this poor woman feel so awkward and treating her as if it’s her fault she’s single. Smh this guy is so freaking frustrating. He’s making money off women’s insecurities.
Who's fault is it if not hers? She sees guys she would like to meet, she should approach them. She will find it is a lot harder than just sitting back and waiting for the right guys comes along. Does to go out to participate in activities where she is around men doing the same thing she is? What are her interests for her own enjoyment, and does she do things that places herself into social situations around men who enjoy the same activities? If she seeks something she has to know she needs to go get it. Dating apps do not work, she needs to be out in the world and meet people she wants to meet.
matthew has a nice basket.
It was revealing how desperate she was to have children. That's the reason they all cringed at the "I love children" answer. Most women do, but to answer that right away screams "I'm desperate to have children yesterday" and will turn many men away.
standing up to folk who are in the wrong
so in other word, do your hw before you go on a date.
just like you prepare for a job interview lol
nice
If the gay put so many question..........i stand up and go.....
They were SO hard on this woman. I’d love to see them put on the spot and how they perform on a date. They all just seemed annoying
i hate the song that never ends because it dose,nt end .
So sorry for the guest audience she was soo vague... I love children omg will scare every man lol
On a first date? Just possibly. He asked you out because he thought you could be attracted to him as much as he already is to you. You are already given the benefit of the doubt and he wants to know more about your personality, and preferred way of communicating your thoughts and interests but save any answers that entail commitment and responsibilities for later when you are both more in turn with each other. You WILL scare him away if too early.
You are in the Sacramento area, I grew up there, and still have a duplex in Citrus Heights but lived in Marin where I have a home leased out most of my life and now in St Petersburg Russia. I saw one of your videos, with the outgoing personality and being very attractive I think that might scare some guys off if they are not very self-confident. Good luck in your sales and your dating life, you are really cute....
lol I don't have the `answers to all those questions... too many answers
I pitty her... she was caught off guard...
also...if you are a dullard...dating won't go well for you. That's the moral of the story. You'll need to hook up with another dullard and then be happy.
Or... I have never been on a real date..
Mat is a lovely sexy smart PRO guy that teaches reality..that woman is empty...common lady! why Greece...? you dont know it was one of the milestone civilizations in the world that brought great contribution to the human existence...."just to know the culture to compare our culture.."..what is that???...i will run away if i was your date!!! i always heard people say Americans are so silly, they never travel, only inside their US land..and so on.. but every time i confirmed....oh God..save America please!!!!
We never travel....?? I guess I have to go tear out pages of my last 4 passports, that show 91 countries visited and living outside the US for 20 years. I meet a lot of ex-pats living all over the world some much be traveling. But I will admit that culture is not a high priority for the vast majority of Americans. Kids grow up in a cultural void and probably are not within 700 miles of a decent museum or art gallery, and only about 1 in 10,000 have attended opera or world-class ballet.
It'slive tv and he has a certain amount of minutes, he has a timer in the bacground that we cannot see. He is never like that in hisother videos
I wonder whether this guy dates some woman he tries all these things on :)
Yeah, he once said that he also prepares for an each date and makes up a list of abstract questions and answers to discuss on a date. If it’s true i think it takes him not more than 2 minutes:) he’s too hot and experienced;)
He dates camila cabello:)
good!!▲♧☆
She's wrong about saying "children". Do not hide having children. If that is a deal breaker, better to get it done and over with on the first date.
i helped stray animals
Let’s not judge the poor girls character based on a bunch of superficial questions asked on the spot on tv. I’m sure she has tonnes of substance, but not everyone is so comfortable being on tv that they can open up like that on the spot ..
alot of beige pplz on this here planet fo sure... and I assure you now if your date was to hear you loved da bambinos ??!!he would be running faster than that Bolt dude in a hundred meter race...
don't be beige!!. be awesome!!
Wow That poor woman. All he displayed here was the reason why he remains single and why I wouldn’t place any value in anything he says. He’s Pushy and clearly shuts down women for being inadequate. That’s exactly how he made this woman feel in front of the audience.
And that Rachael woman made things worse. So judgmental.
woah if this is how boring these women are on dates, ghosting seems absolutely acceptable
She's a bit boring or maybe nervous yeah let's hope for the best maybe nervous🤷🏽♀️
why is he yelling and talking way too fast? lmaooo
I guess i failed lol