Do You Obsess About Your Sexual Orientation?
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- Опубликовано: 8 июн 2023
- People with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) have unrelenting, invasive thoughts (obsessions) and can act in ways they feel unable to control (compulsions).. In the United States, around 2 to 3 percent of people have this condition. NOCD provides effective, affordable, convenient therapy for OCD including those struggling with Sexual Orientation OCD.Getting started is easy, go to nocd.com and book a free 15 minute call.
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I am a lesbian and in a relationship. But I get a lot of intusive thoughts about men and that i will eventually end up with a man. It feels horrible and stressful. And it uses my past because when I was young, I used to force crushes on boys. And my ocd is saying things like: it's just a phase. You're not gay, you have to be bisexual or straight so you have to leave your partner. And i always have to check if im not feeling attracted to men.. It's really hard...
I was happy and comfortable as an heteroromantic asexual woman. I was so sure of my sexuality and it was so specific. I was sexually assaulted by another woman (I was 15) and that’s when the thoughts started. Thanks for this video!
I was assaulted by a male co-worker and my life hasn't been the same since. The sad part is I feel so alone and I never asked for this disease. No matter who I tell what has happened to me they never understand unless they themselves have OCD. This is true hell on earth and those that don't have OCD just brush it off as a quirk!
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@@MetalForLife1970how r u now
@haydensmith-se3ii Terrible...nothing really works for me (meds, erp, etc...) I had a great week at the beginning of the month with no symptoms and back to my old self. It was temporary though😮💨my ocd decides when to come or go...I never have control over it
@@MetalForLife1970 well how did u get back to your hold self at the start of the month?
I didn't even thought I was straight, but 'cause my ambient tought me that I should be straight, I thought I should act this way. So I "felt in love" with girls, not like we usually felt in love but as an idealization that I got inside to belong with the people around. Then my adolescense came and I got my first sexual atraction and it was with a boy, I got so scared and confused that was the first time I felt like that. I started to stay in denial and try to convince myself I was not gay, but the boys in my class were making jokes and playing between them and what was a play for them, to me was nice and I really liked it, but I couldn't tell them. Then with the pass of the time I get informed (but myself of course) about sexuality and finally accepted myself and stayed happy with me. But after my TOC which I'd had since I was a kido and I didn't even noticed, became harder than ever, and at a point took my sexuality and started to disturb me with it. Now I have intrusive thoughts and feelings in my body, that doesn't identify me, and sometimes I even thought "what If I was just confused and I'm not gay".
But I know one thing, sexuality is not discovered from one day to another; and does not make you feel uncomfortable at the hard anxiety level constantly when you have the things clear (I mean when you know there's no problem being straight, bisexual or another sexuality), I think if those are your really feelings you know deep inside you that you like them otherwise you just feel not identify that way, and they don't make you do compulsions like think about it for minutes, stay repeating you are not something and doing patterns. I wrote these lines based in my experience, hope you all can have better days, it's hard to deal with this, don't give up, and keep your faith alive, there are days and days, but we can stay here for a long time.
Thank you so much for making this inclusive of gay people with sexual orientation ocd 🙏
SO-OCD is far more common in straight people than gay people, and maybe they decided to stick with the latter as an example to avoid backlash, because some people believe that HOCD has to do with homophobia but it does NOT. I struggle with HOCD and it doesn't go over well for people who don't understand what OCD is because they think I'm anti-gay and it's NOT true.
@@deadbeatjack2307 I don't think that everyone with HOCD is homophobic. I'm a lesbian who suffers from sexual orientation OCD, and I appreciated that they included gay people. Most resources I find focus on straight people who have SOOCD which I understand given that most people who have it are straight. However, it is nice when I find things that are more inclusive of gay people. I don't have the ability to go to therapy right now, and it is very rare for me to find anything on the internet from the perspective of gay people who have it. It can just feel a little isolating sometimes, so I appreciated that he acknowledged that people like me exist when there are already so many videos online about straight people with HOCD.
@@scoutstrong372You ever experience false atraction to the opposite sex? Does it feel real for you too? Have you ever felt it without anxiety? ( I just wanna know to relate)
@@nicolas19676 It definitely always comes with a feeling of anxiety and worry that I'm attracted to men. I wouldn't say that it feels real for me. Deep down I know that it doesn't feel like actual attraction, but that doesn't stop my mind from spiraling and wondering if I'm wrong. Sometimes I will avoid videos that show men in a sexualized context because all I can do is try to test myself to see if I'm attracted to them. If I'm having a moment of doubting my sexuality I will look at pictures of men and pictures of women and compare my feelings for each so that I can "prove" my sexuality to myself. Sometimes I will also get anxiety if I'm not attracted to a woman that I feel I should be attracted to even though I know she just isn't really my type. I think that for me it personally stems from hearing others make comments about people being gay because it's "trendy" or "they just want attention". I've internalized these view points and worry that deep down I am just lying to myself about being gay even though it doesn't logically make sense.
@@scoutstrong372 How long have you been dealing with this?
I have no clue what my sexuality is right now (or for the last 10 years). I settled on bi, but I’m also not sure. I feel I might be gay or asexual, but I don’t know how to know for sure. Like, there’s no litmus test for sexual orientation. And don’t get me start about trying to figure out my gender sheesh. That’s another ball game. I have to get comfortable with not knowing. But how do I know what attractions are real? How do I know what attraction feels like? Does it feel different with different genders?
I'm a gay man suffering from this horrible disorder for 3 years now and it's driving me insane. This is the very vid on YT that talks SO-OCD from a gay person's perspective, everywhere else mainly talks about straight people suffering from it. Thank you *tears running down my cheeks
It must horrible to fear that change of sexuality. I have allways been on asexual spectrum. I used to identify as demisexual and bisexual, but I am now identify as asexual (aegosexual and adexsexual to be specific) and demiromantic and biromantic/panromantic, so I experiencing my sexuality have changed abit, but it was that much. I didnt fear that change, even if I start to feel sexual attractions I will not fear it, then it will just become a part of me, just like asexuality is part of me now.
If you have those fears, I hope you will seek help from a psychologist or a psychiatrist.
How can I tell if I don't like the intrusive sexual thoughts or if I just feel guilty for liking them? I cry when I think I might be gay, does that mean I'm not?
That means there is a lot of internalized homophobia and you're afraid you might be the thing that you don't like, that means you're aware that if you are, you will be shunned for it, abused, maybe even abandoned. You wanna know why we still have Pride Month? This is why. So we don't hate ourselves the way other people do. Weather you are or not, I think the most important thing is to learn to be more compassionate with yourself. Self hate is deep, deep rabbit hole. Find a way to love what you look at in the mirror. Being gay it's not the end of the world. When you surround yourself with loving, supportive people who accept you for you, it's actually pretty awesome to be proud of who you are.
@@angelicamanjarres3179 sorry but i don't want to be gay.
@@angelicamanjarres3179This is HOCD, not internalized homophobia. Those are two different things.
@@angelicamanjarres3179But the only reason I didn’t want to be gay was because I was so sure and comfortable about my self before. My family said they love me if I’m gay, straight, or bright blue. But it doesn’t feel right to me. That’s how I know I have SO-OCD. Sexuality doesn’t change overnight. Plus I had OCD diagnosed in childhood. (Not trying to be rude.)
It’s probably just doubting. Doubting is the nature of OCD. All the “what ifs” can be super troublesome. I hope you feel better soon.
I'm man same thing happened with me
Did you recovered brother
@@saranshpandey1132r u going through HOCD