1. Intimate details of your relationships especially with your partner(sex details, shows respect for privacy) 2. Income and financial situation ( income/bank account status; create negative intentions) 3. Future goals( sharing your goals without starting can allow others to taint your vision) move in silence until you succeed 4. Arguments and fights( keep any disagreements between the parties involved) Give respect and wish that person well. 5. Family problems ( no one is perfect and we all have flaws, but there’s no need to tell others about these issues) 6. Medical condition (do share medical issues unless it’s family or your doctor. 7. Acts of kindness (don’t help others to get something in return) 8. Therapy sessions( don’t share the details of your therapy session; it should only be said in your sessions) 9.Secrets about others( private conversation you have with others. They trust you with this information so keep it secretive) 10. Mistakes and regrets( they don’t define us; there apart of are past and not the present. You learned from it and moved on. Constantly talking about it can damage your image. Don’t share was went wrong in your past relationships; you have moved on from it.
There is a saying in my culture, your left hand should not know what your right hand is holding. Privacy even from your family members is key. In a culture where oversharing has been normalized, having a sense of integrity over your personal and professional life is key to ones successes. Let your achievements and happiness speak for you.
Thank you!! Even my friends especially when they keep asking like now you're doing too much and I'll have to lie to you.. I only tell anyone even my parents something after it has happened
in india, we that for charity, as in if you help someone with left hand don't even let your right hand know about it let alone boast about it to others or like these days, social media.
@@myown2730 I say something elusive like since I teach, I’ll say “I work with young people” or “I work in healthcare” or simply “I’m employed” and if he digs further just nicely say that for personal privacy, you don’t share details with new ppl until you’ve gotten to know them due to negative experiences. 😉 some fools will pop up on the job after arguments or try to use you for money.
If someone asks you don't say the specific job you can say "I work in the _____ industry." If he presses for more information your response is to playfully say "you'll find out soon." Also don't be afraid to lie if you're not legally obligated to tell the truth
I notice that I overshare so much when I’m at work. I think it’s because I have this desire to relate and connect to people, so if I share personal things about myself, I feel like they will feel more comfortable and connect to me more. But I always regret doing this because I end up feeling so exposed. In my family we call it “diarrhea of the mouth” LOL it’s something that I’m definitely working on and I’m getting better! Ugh I’m even over sharing right now😂 but since we’re on the topic….🤣
Good advice here. However,Its good to share family problems when you may need help. With someone you trust.Too much secrecy can hurt you. Especially young people. Not everyone can afford therapist.
I just realized I've shared almost all these things with people who don't deserve my friendship. And I'm so sad about my mistakes but I'm glad I found this video 💜💜💜 thank you!
Both my grandmother's would say move in silence. I had no idea what that meant until I turned 30. Then it all made since. There is 3 sides to a story theirs, yours, and the truth. Sometimes people can over exaggerate or add something that never happened. If I'm on a date and they ask why my last relationship ended I have no problem saying "We evolved".
It's been my mantra since I cut off FB out of my life and never went back. I no longer have social media. No one even knows I recently bought a house last month lol they'll just find out if I invite them to my future housewarming party.
I’m 19, and I’m already watching your videos from a young age even though I don’t intend on dating or having a life-partner yet. I’m more focused on my education and career, but I’m still educating myself on how to be an affluent and elegant, feminine woman in all areas of my life. Thank you so much. I’m glad I found your channel. I’ve already been told by many (including family members) that I’m mysterious and quite difficult to understand, because I do not share much. Watching this video confirmed to me that I have every right to my own privacy as a young lady. I hope I could meet successful, feminine and affluent ladies like you and be friends or network with them. Gratitude and Love from Dubai x
I also have this issue. I dont want to tell me that I live alone right away. What would u say if they ask you who you live with and then if you say you have a room mate and they found out u live alone, are they not going to ask u why u lied?
This one guy got my address and showed up at my house the same day sneaking around in my yard. My daughter caught him but I didn't think he would be that crazy. ... after dating him for awhile, I realized ....yeah, he did.
In Egypt there’s a saying “ hide your candle it will lit “ which means keep your stuff private to succeed. And in Islam the prophet Mohammed “peace and prayers be upon him” said : “and do your things in silence “
This came at the right time! Just read proverbs 13v3 ‘Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.’ Thank you 🙏🏾 x
I overshare in my core circle because I've moved in silence for 10+ years and suffered from depression and emotional loneliness. Balance and discerning who and when to share is key. As for salary... that's only important in the job to share (with trusted colleagues) for income equity and growth potential. As for medical conditions... we should share with those who are impacted directly or indirectly. Our wellness doesn't flourish in isolation. Our loved ones contribute to our care.
Yes!! I agree with all wot every point except the salary and medical condition points. Not discussing your salary doesn’t benefit anyone but the company. I disagree with the medical one because, I have a fairly common but taboo health condition, and I spent years never talking about it to anyone. It wasn’t until I found a Facebook group for it and saw so many other people talk about it, and kind of drop the stigma of it. I feel like talking about it to people brings awareness, so I don’t mind disclosing that I have it. Which is HUGE for me, as like I said, I was so self conscious and wouldn’t even tell my own mother about it.
I've learned this the hardway, specially the "how much money you have in the bank or how much you earn" part. People, even your closest friends can be very shitty sometimes.
Warmest welcome! Your content is wonderful 💓 Ladies, it's not being secretive but private and protective of yourself, information, goals, dreams, and relationships. Don't blindly open up or trust people who have not established they have your best interest at heart. Great video, Urania! 💓💓
The fact that witchcraft is real is best enough reason not to share. lol. But greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. So the best is relationship with God/Jesus. I've learnt discretion in this beautiful relationship. Excellent points girl! I've had to learn some of these the hard way.
People often admire and idolize me and there is no reason for that. I too, am a sinner. So yes am not gonna put up a facade of perfection and invulnerability. I share my mistakes because I am authentic and don't need to hide. I don't deserve a pedestal. I can't inspire others if I'm flawless and unrelatable. 😡 so I agree that ppl don't deserve to know everything BUT I inspire others BECAUSE I share my story, strengths, mistakes, disabilities etc. Ppl know they are not alone and they can overcome.
Number 1 I learned the hard way. Not about intimate details, but rather when we were having difficulties. I later received wise advice from an elder about what to share and with who. A great lesson.
Wonderful tips! I definitely needs to work on not speaking on drama and disagreements with others. In the moment it feels good to vent because you may have felt slighted but it’s completely inappropriate.
I agree but sometimes it is best to let people know what’s going on if you don’t want what happened to you to happen to them with the same person. in personal life this doesn’t hold as much weight but in a professional setting it could really make a difference in how you handle business with them
I can’t understand for the life of me why certain people are that nosy. I had a friend like that yrs ago. Hence one of the reasons we’re no longer friends.
It’s true: if you listen long enough to what someone has to say negative (or even when you listen too much to your own thoughts-overthinking-you’ll start believing that ALL your fears will become reality). So don’t do that
You decide how people see you based on the information you give them! This seems so simple, but people will also judge through their own lens of life, but that’s none of your business.
That’s why bad therapists and bad coaches can be so dangerous. Bad family and friends can be so dangerous too. Talking to online support groups where it is a public setting that is organized and people have to be polite and respectful and you don’t know the people in person and don’t talk to them one on one is the best option.
@@welikelethabo a bad human being who chooses to be a therapist or a coach so they can hurt, fool, confuse, insult, mess with the minds of people when they are opening up which makes them mentally vulnerable, and when they are in very difficult circumstances, sick, impressionable because they are desperate to heal. Those bad hack therapists and hack coaches are everywhere. It’s very important to avoid them and avoid their mind games that hurt people’s mental health. Sometimes, they paraphrase the words of other good coaches or therapists and add to them shocking words such as “if you are raised to be a prostitute, you still shouldn’t do it”, say you have “a victim mindset” to insult you in an indirect way pretending in front of others that they are only trying to help you find men who are not “womanizers” but they are trying to make you feel like prostitutes who hangs out with male a prostitute since she was born. That’s what they make you feel when you open up about a past lover who was kind to you but cheating on you because he made a mistake and had commitment issues because his dad has a mistress or you open up about childhood sexual abuse and trauma you had.They tell you you are “well-spoken” or give you other compliments, say God saved you, then mirror videos or books you like and then say you have no self-esteem, hurt your sense of self-identity, pretend they are superior financially, mentally, socially, marital, in terms of confidence... They are in fact despicable people who have nothing to do but to hurt others.
@@welikelethabo Therapists shouldn’t be judgmental, tell you they have a better life, make their lives, spouses, parents, kids, or families examples for you, tell you about their private lives all the time to tell you you should be like them or their family or spouse, give you all sorts of diagnosis and laugh about your issues or trauma and tell you it’s fun to talk to you about it pretending they only want to make you feel better about it. You are not a diagnosis. They are there to listen to you, and not tell you so much their analysis. Within a month, you should be doing better in terms of your work, studies, relationships, friendships, hobbies, spirituality, mental health... Within three months, you should have have improved a lot. You analyze yourself and they shouldn’t be telling you what they think as if you don’t know how to understand your own life, and don’t have your own voice and personality. Bad therapy can make you go crazy, insane literally give you all sorts of long term damage and mental illnesses, and good therapy can help you so much. These links help decide how to decide whether the therapist is good : www.theferentzinstitute.com › ...Web sonuçlarıWhen Therapists Do Harm | The Ferentz Institute www.decision-making-confidence.com › ...Stop mind control - How to spot it. - Decision Making Confidence crappychildhoodfairy.com › ...If You Had Just ONE YEAR to HEAL CPTSD ... - The Crappy Childhood Fairy
Though I agree that it’s important not to flaunt your income, it’s actually illegal in the US for your work to try to suppress employees from sharing their income. This is because typically this will lead to employees demanding to get paid fairly. Just a little heads up to anyone who reads this.
Yes sharing your salary is crucial for fair pay, this only benefits employers, share your salaries actively with colleagues. But don't share in dating, as it's not relevant there and can be used against you
In Sweden it is public information how much you income you make. Consequently, you can just check how much your date is making. So this is also a cultural thing.
Raised in a culture where transparency is pushed and not having the proper guidance, I’ve made all of these mistakes. However, I don’t regret any of it because I can guide my nieces on what not to do. I can also start over!! ❤️🩹💖
I can understand why she said don't share income information but historically employers have used privacy to place gaps in income and placing certain people based on race or gender in lower income brackets just like hospitals don't have privacy laws to protect you it's to protect the hospitals from medical malpractice so everyone should think about when someone is actually being hurt by other people being quiet
Agreed. This is the only one I disagreed with. Men have no problem discussing salary/money. We seem to keep passing around the idea to not discuss it and it is hurting us.
Things that are obvious, but wonderful to hear all together in a video as a reminder, since we all slip sometimes with at least one of these! I am grateful for this video, thank you!
I overshare a LOT on my social medias due to my autism & sensory overload and cpstd but these tips are definitely going to be useful to put into practice more from here on!
Ladies, elegance is a social conduct and it is important to uphold it as much as you can, because it will help, but do not hold this as the ultimate goal, being human, kind, and listening to your intuition is very important. People’s life have been changes by others speaking of their mistakes, sharing their struggle with a medical condition and so on. Being socially attractive and being human are 2 very different things. Always keep that in mind, because truth be told, people may be mesmerized by elegance, but being human is ultimately what our life experience is about and that’s how people truly connect to you.
As a younger woman, we tend to overshare alott especially intimately, if it's someone your dating or married to, they deserve sexual respect, your whole friendship circle doesn't need to know what type of game he is running in the bedroom! Younger ladies tend to be very vulgar and very detailed, I've lost friends because of this, this is sometimes the reason why girlfriends will date your ex, because you gave her the run down, she doesn't have to guess what he's packing, she's knows. Less is more.
I think that there is a balance to this. A lot of this things should be shared because you never know where God lies waiting in someone to help you. Everything that you’re saying has an air of truth bc not all people are good, on the other side of equilibrium is that there is a world of people out there who can support you. Not sharing can also lead to people taking advantage of you
I get what you’re saying and I agree but I think in order to form genuine connections with others you need to be vulnerable and let people in. Suppressing all these details, ultimately due to fear of judgment keeps people at a distance. Intimate relationships are important and healthy for many reasons but when you don’t trust people they don’t trust you.
Do you want the intimate details of your relationship spread all over the internet or gossiped about with strangers? How would your partner feel about that? When IS it appropriate to share details? Never. Vultures swarm over your relationship waiting for it to die. Remember that.
In general, i agree about money, but if you don't talk about it, that also helps cover up unfair business practices. So maybe compare notes with someone who works in direct competition to you, at a different company, to find the workplace with the best conditions for you. And that doesn't have to be just money. It can be the simplest thing like another employer offering fresh fruit in the company kitchen every day.
Great things to reflect upon. However, i don’t think they need to be hard rules. For example, with my partner, we have openly talked about our past issues in relationships at the beginning of ours. It has helped us understand each other and especially understanding how we want to create our healthy happy relationship together.
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Using discernment is definitely key when discussing anything u consider private or personal with either family or friends! However keeping everything private can be detrimental to your mental health. I completely understand and agree with keeping you and your partners sex life private, and your finances out of certain conversations however there has to be someone you can trust that you don’t have to keep your entire life a secret! I don’t believe that to be healthy! U should be able to trust certain people with information based on their past history of being trustworthy! Discernment is so important when trusting people! But to move completely in silence about everything is not realistic to me.
Thank you for these valuable tips!💖 I would like to share my thought on one point, if violence happens within the family, you should definitely share it with other people.
You are a classy lady in true sense.💯 Really guides in a world where overexposure is the trend. And I really like how you explain each point with attention to the details.
I worked at a place years ago where the manager was a real jerk. Shady practices, employee abuse and so on. I ended up moving on in short order to a job that he also applied for and didn't get. A co-worker at the new job was a friend of my old manager, and he said he had been asked repeatedly if I had told stories. He was able to say that I had said not one word. I think I earned a lot of respect in the industry by doing that. That being said, as a single person living alone, sometimes I am just dying for someone to talk to, especially now. I love seeing so many young ladies here improving themselves, the internet has some good sides :)
Hello Urania! You are absolutely gorgeous, elegant, and classy. I love you inspirational positive videos. I shared my goals with my best friend about an idea that I wanted to create. Later I found out that she stole my idea, and did exactly what I had shared with her. Then she acted like she came up with the idea on her own. She did this to me many times! I am happy to share I'm no longer in contact with her. I agree that we need to keep our goals to ourselves. Sending you happiness and good vibes. Keep up the good work beauty! 😊
Looks like I'm good on all these fronts. I am a very private person but past few days I tried opening up more and yes it wasn't productive. When I told my friend and family about a certain goal they said I wouldn't or shouldn't do that. When I shared about a personal problem I felt uncomfortable and I think my friends did too. Going back to what I was before. ✌
So true about sharing goals , people will always shout you down 😔 happened to me but I did them in the end and now I won’t share them and even if I slip I won’t listen to them. But I won’t share them! As this is best to protect you 🌸 🌙 thanks for reminding me this 🙏
What if you are seizure prone and dating? Should the guy know, just in case? What if a family member just did something to you and you call a friend? What if you need reasonable accomodations at work due to a disability? You even need a form filled out by your doctors for that approval You are right, but it just seems like nowadays almost everybody tells their business. And shouldn't.....
We HAVE to know what our colleagues earn because it pertains to fair and equal pay. In the workplace, we HAVE to know what our coworkers are making and to try and force us not to talk about it is literally in violation of labour laws here in the US. This one is a major disagreement. They don't want us discussing our salaries because they dont want us to advocate for equal and equitable pay.
This makes sense. But if it is in the perspective of asking for help or you need guidance, there are exceptions. Like if one is getting financial coaching, one must share his or her salary or at least an estimate orf your earnings. If you have sexual or emotional problems, then sharing about sex or your relationships are necessary. Of course, within the confines of someone who is trusted.
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Relationship Money Future Goal (even who knows may insult you or limit you ignore them) Fights and arguments (don't give people to enjoy drama) I wish him well on his healing. Family problems. Tell in such a way that they feel like they know a lot but don't know much . Donations. Therapy . Other's secrets.
I share my goals , it doesn't matter if others believe in them or not, because am so determined to get them done and I believe in myself whether or not hiccups come along the way as I strive towards them..People will come with doubts but I have appreciation in those doubts because I get to prove them wrong.
I partially disagree. On day a friend shared a family problem with me. It happens that my knowledge about laws and justice helped him solve it. Some people car really help you sometimes. You just have to choose your friends well. A tip : never share on social media those informations, nor share on internet things you'd be inconfortable sharing face to face if you were with this person irl.
I disagree with not sharing medical conditions. I'm not saying tell all and sundry, but it is important that some people know certain things about your health so that they can support you if something goes wrong. For example, diabetics and epilepsy sufferers. It's important that people around you know what to do it you start to hypo or you have a seizure. I've been saved three times by colleagues that knew what to do when I hypo'd.
My mom will ask me tons of questions to try to find out the kind of money I make and will often make remarks like “if you can afford that” to force a omission. I don’t tell my family about dating unless I see it going on for long term. I don’t talk about my health unless I it’s major, life threatening or I need assistance. These are all good rules of advice but can also work against you at times.
This is interesting. I was raised by a Psychologist. I am a therapist and story teller. I share my life with others as a means if encouragement. We all have different missions in life and we should live our lives accordingly. I'm married. Still, the idea of the feminine is different for every woman.
While you shouldn't tell just everyone and their mom about these things, it is indeed important to share goal, arguments, family issues and medical issues with you closest people. I share such things with my sister, my mum, my partner and my best friend. Those are not random small talk topics though. Sharing income is important to achieve fair pay.
So true, be discreet, trustworthy and decent. However, where abuse is involved, seek help. Not everyone recognises emotional and psychological abuse, so check a list of safe vs unsafe behaviours to know whether its appropriate to tell a trusted person or not. Sometimes it is false shame or self blame that keeps us quiet.
Thank you so much for all of your videos, Urania!! You are truly an amazing woman! I don't mean to be sarcastic at all. There are a lot of topics that are not appropriate to share with others. What can we talk about with others? I have trouble keeping conversations with new people.
This is actually a very good question. And you just gave me an idea for a future video, so thank you for that💕. Here are some idea’s of topics you can discuss and there are plenty more. -Current situation/ News -Job/work -Hobbies -Travels -Food/restaurants -Accomplishments
Why your past relationship ended, I believe should be shared when you and your partner have an intention of getting married. It helps one see the transformation in a person and see if the person has done something to improve themselves ever since the relationship ended. 😊Our past is our testimony and our present is hope and an inspiration to someone who wants to change but hasn't seen someone who walked in their shoes change.
I've been watching you and keeping your advice in mind at all times n I love the woman I have become. A mystery. A woman everyone wants to converse with 🥰🥰
Bot, did I need to find.you! All my life I've been an 'Open Book', sharing way too much with others; and it has come back to bite me in the behind!! Looking forward to watching all of your videos.
I agree with these points but I don’t think you should hide your salary from coworkers, everyone else fine but in America there is a long history of companies banning people from talking about their salaries so they can pay people less. And it’s usually women and black people who suffer from that
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family problems 😭
Yes. Argument and fight.
Pretty much all of the above 😓
Dating history 📜
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1. Intimate details of your relationships especially with your partner(sex details, shows respect for privacy)
2. Income and financial situation ( income/bank account status; create negative intentions)
3. Future goals( sharing your goals without starting can allow others to taint your vision) move in silence until you succeed
4. Arguments and fights( keep any disagreements between the parties involved) Give respect and wish that person well.
5. Family problems ( no one is perfect and we all have flaws, but there’s no need to tell others about these issues)
6. Medical condition (do share medical issues unless it’s family or your doctor.
7. Acts of kindness (don’t help others to get something in return)
8. Therapy sessions( don’t share the details of your therapy session; it should only be said in your sessions)
9.Secrets about others( private conversation you have with others. They trust you with this information so keep it secretive)
10. Mistakes and regrets( they don’t define us; there apart of are past and not the present. You learned from it and moved on. Constantly talking about it can damage your image. Don’t share was went wrong in your past relationships; you have moved on from it.
Thank you, that was very kind of you to go into details and to take the time out to type the list....Good Night
OMG YES!!! So good. People in my life always tell me I am too private, but my life is very drama free unlike people that share too much. Love this!
Thanks you, you saved me 11 minuets of my life
@@ssssharkkkk Right!
Thank you so much for this! I love your notes! You got the important info. v well!
There is a saying in my culture, your left hand should not know what your right hand is holding. Privacy even from your family members is key. In a culture where oversharing has been normalized, having a sense of integrity over your personal and professional life is key to ones successes. Let your achievements and happiness speak for you.
My Mother taught us this as well. My mom was and still is right about EVERYTHING! Thank God!
Thank you!! Even my friends especially when they keep asking like now you're doing too much and I'll have to lie to you..
I only tell anyone even my parents something after it has happened
in india, we that for charity, as in if you help someone with left hand don't even let your right hand know about it let alone boast about it to others or like these days, social media.
That saying is actually in the Bible. I've learned the value of that saying over the years.
We have the same saying in my country!
I’ve learned to stop telling men my salary or what I do for a living in initial dating
What do you say when they ask?
I wonder what can I say without sounding rude
@@myown2730 I say something elusive like since I teach, I’ll say “I work with young people” or “I work in healthcare” or simply “I’m employed” and if he digs further just nicely say that for personal privacy, you don’t share details with new ppl until you’ve gotten to know them due to negative experiences. 😉 some fools will pop up on the job after arguments or try to use you for money.
@@Amorantasia1 Ohh, thank you! Such a polite answer!
If someone asks you don't say the specific job you can say "I work in the _____ industry." If he presses for more information your response is to playfully say "you'll find out soon." Also don't be afraid to lie if you're not legally obligated to tell the truth
Yes I've learned that lesson too
I notice that I overshare so much when I’m at work. I think it’s because I have this desire to relate and connect to people, so if I share personal things about myself, I feel like they will feel more comfortable and connect to me more. But I always regret doing this because I end up feeling so exposed. In my family we call it “diarrhea of the mouth” LOL it’s something that I’m definitely working on and I’m getting better! Ugh I’m even over sharing right now😂 but since we’re on the topic….🤣
Same!!!
#2 is so true. Hidden enemies are everywhere😑
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Even friends and family members😒
Good advice here. However,Its good to share family problems when you may need help. With someone you trust.Too much secrecy can hurt you. Especially young people. Not everyone can afford therapist.
YES!!
True you must have balance
I'm all for this advocacy!!
@@QueenOfPrinciple Yes!
Yes
The bedroom is a sacred place never kiss and tell. Even if it's just someone you're dating
Yes!
Exactly!
I just realized I've shared almost all these things with people who don't deserve my friendship. And I'm so sad about my mistakes but I'm glad I found this video 💜💜💜 thank you!
Thank you so match. You had my lesson ☺️☺️
Many do we kean only by mistakes sadly shouldisyen to mums or nans they know been there 🌹
Me too! Luckily, I'm aware of it now and stopped with such behaviour.
Same here, but we are improving =)
Lol yep so true
Both my grandmother's would say move in silence. I had no idea what that meant until I turned 30. Then it all made since. There is 3 sides to a story theirs, yours, and the truth. Sometimes people can over exaggerate or add something that never happened. If I'm on a date and they ask why my last relationship ended I have no problem saying "We evolved".
I need to start moving in silence
It's been my mantra since I cut off FB out of my life and never went back. I no longer have social media. No one even knows I recently bought a house last month lol they'll just find out if I invite them to my future housewarming party.
Learning this now.
This makes so much sense 😮
I need to start acting like you. I have this issue of over sharing 🙍♀️🤦♂️
Yes! Don’t share inventions, business ideas etc!
I regret doing this to my fake friend and now we no longer speak
I’m 19, and I’m already watching your videos from a young age even though I don’t intend on dating or having a life-partner yet. I’m more focused on my education and career, but I’m still educating myself on how to be an affluent and elegant, feminine woman in all areas of my life. Thank you so much. I’m glad I found your channel. I’ve already been told by many (including family members) that I’m mysterious and quite difficult to understand, because I do not share much. Watching this video confirmed to me that I have every right to my own privacy as a young lady. I hope I could meet successful, feminine and affluent ladies like you and be friends or network with them. Gratitude and Love from Dubai x
Same 19 years old here with never dating and etc I’m in the University.
Swt hrt....am gr8ful u are stl young en hv got such info at ur age, enjoy ur life responsibly en grow to glow.
Me too
I don’t tell men where I live until after a while.. if ever lol
I also have this issue. I dont want to tell me that I live alone right away. What would u say if they ask you who you live with and then if you say you have a room mate and they found out u live alone, are they not going to ask u why u lied?
@@emabella1000 you could then tell them you said what you said for safety reasons. If he can’t respect that then run.
How to properly respond when they ask where do we live?
I've learned this the hard way.
This one guy got my address and showed up at my house the same day sneaking around in my yard. My daughter caught him but I didn't think he would be that crazy. ... after dating him for awhile, I realized ....yeah, he did.
In Egypt there’s a saying “ hide your candle it will lit “ which means keep your stuff private to succeed.
And in Islam the prophet Mohammed “peace and prayers be upon him” said : “and do your things in silence “
This came at the right time! Just read proverbs 13v3
‘Those who control their tongue will have a long life;
opening your mouth can ruin everything.’
Thank you 🙏🏾 x
Amen and thank you
Amen
Amen, thanks sis
Amen
I look back on my life and wish I had kept my mouth closed .
I overshare in my core circle because I've moved in silence for 10+ years and suffered from depression and emotional loneliness. Balance and discerning who and when to share is key.
As for salary... that's only important in the job to share (with trusted colleagues) for income equity and growth potential.
As for medical conditions... we should share with those who are impacted directly or indirectly. Our wellness doesn't flourish in isolation. Our loved ones contribute to our care.
Amen
FACTS
Yes definitely share your salary with colleagues, companies underpay women and people of color all the time
Yes!! I agree with all wot every point except the salary and medical condition points. Not discussing your salary doesn’t benefit anyone but the company. I disagree with the medical one because, I have a fairly common but taboo health condition, and I spent years never talking about it to anyone. It wasn’t until I found a Facebook group for it and saw so many other people talk about it, and kind of drop the stigma of it. I feel like talking about it to people brings awareness, so I don’t mind disclosing that I have it. Which is HUGE for me, as like I said, I was so self conscious and wouldn’t even tell my own mother about it.
Yes, obviously depends on work culture but sharing my income with trusted colleagues led to them advocating for me getting a raise
I’ve done this naturally growing up. I’ve slipped a bit due to comfortability, but sharing my business or others has never been my thing
I've learned this the hardway, specially the "how much money you have in the bank or how much you earn" part. People, even your closest friends can be very shitty sometimes.
not even close friends.even your family members! the toxic ones !
Not related but your skin really looks amazing 😍
Thank you dear💕. I promised to do a makeup routine and I will in the near future 🌷.
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@@Myfemmedaily ohhhh you have 2 channels. KK!!.
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Warmest welcome! Your content is wonderful 💓 Ladies, it's not being secretive but private and protective of yourself, information, goals, dreams, and relationships. Don't blindly open up or trust people who have not established they have your best interest at heart. Great video, Urania! 💓💓
Great words dear. Thank you 💕🌷
@La Feminine Allure Such truth!✊🏾👏🏽💯
I needed this
The fact that witchcraft is real is best enough reason not to share. lol. But greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. So the best is relationship with God/Jesus. I've learnt discretion in this beautiful relationship. Excellent points girl! I've had to learn some of these the hard way.
Yes this is unfortunately true and very at large very few people know.
I don't believe in witchcraft
Amen
People often admire and idolize me and there is no reason for that. I too, am a sinner. So yes am not gonna put up a facade of perfection and invulnerability. I share my mistakes because I am authentic and don't need to hide. I don't deserve a pedestal. I can't inspire others if I'm flawless and unrelatable. 😡 so I agree that ppl don't deserve to know everything BUT I inspire others BECAUSE I share my story, strengths, mistakes, disabilities etc. Ppl know they are not alone and they can overcome.
Number 1 I learned the hard way. Not about intimate details, but rather when we were having difficulties. I later received wise advice from an elder about what to share and with who. A great lesson.
Wonderful tips!
I definitely needs to work on not speaking on drama and disagreements with others. In the moment it feels good to vent because you may have felt slighted but it’s completely inappropriate.
@Utajiri Y it is and thank you 💕
Journaling is the best for this.
I agree but sometimes it is best to let people know what’s going on if you don’t want what happened to you to happen to them with the same person. in personal life this doesn’t hold as much weight but in a professional setting it could really make a difference in how you handle business with them
If someone asks how much money do you make , just say “I like to keep that private.
Or you can say I make enough to pay the bills or take care of myself. They don’t need to know the exact number.
Ask "What is your need to know?"
I can’t understand for the life of me why certain people are that nosy. I had a friend like that yrs ago. Hence one of the reasons we’re no longer friends.
Not even your partner sometimes you have to learn how to keep things to your self.
This is so true.
It’s true: if you listen long enough to what someone has to say negative (or even when you listen too much to your own thoughts-overthinking-you’ll start believing that ALL your fears will become reality). So don’t do that
You decide how people see you based on the information you give them! This seems so simple, but people will also judge through their own lens of life, but that’s none of your business.
I’ve learnt to shush 🤫 because of the evil eye around me 🙏🏾 Lord protect me
That’s why bad therapists and bad coaches can be so dangerous. Bad family and friends can be so dangerous too. Talking to online support groups where it is a public setting that is organized and people have to be polite and respectful and you don’t know the people in person and don’t talk to them one on one is the best option.
What’s your definition of a bad therapist
@@welikelethabo a bad human being who chooses to be a therapist or a coach so they can hurt, fool, confuse, insult, mess with the minds of people when they are opening up which makes them mentally vulnerable, and when they are in very difficult circumstances, sick, impressionable because they are desperate to heal. Those bad hack therapists and hack coaches are everywhere. It’s very important to avoid them and avoid their mind games that hurt people’s mental health. Sometimes, they paraphrase the words of other good coaches or therapists and add to them shocking words such as “if you are raised to be a prostitute, you still shouldn’t do it”, say you have “a victim mindset” to insult you in an indirect way pretending in front of others that they are only trying to help you find men who are not “womanizers” but they are trying to make you feel like prostitutes who hangs out with male a prostitute since she was born. That’s what they make you feel when you open up about a past lover who was kind to you but cheating on you because he made a mistake and had commitment issues because his dad has a mistress or you open up about childhood sexual abuse and trauma you had.They tell you you are “well-spoken” or give you other compliments, say God saved you, then mirror videos or books you like and then say you have no self-esteem, hurt your sense of self-identity, pretend they are superior financially, mentally, socially, marital, in terms of confidence... They are in fact despicable people who have nothing to do but to hurt others.
@@welikelethabo good coaches and good therapists are very helpful though
@@welikelethabo Therapists shouldn’t be judgmental, tell you they have a better life, make their lives, spouses, parents, kids, or families examples for you, tell you about their private lives all the time to tell you you should be like them or their family or spouse, give you all sorts of diagnosis and laugh about your issues or trauma and tell you it’s fun to talk to you about it pretending they only want to make you feel better about it. You are not a diagnosis. They are there to listen to you, and not tell you so much their analysis. Within a month, you should be doing better in terms of your work, studies, relationships, friendships, hobbies, spirituality, mental health... Within three months, you should have have improved a lot. You analyze yourself and they shouldn’t be telling you what they think as if you don’t know how to understand your own life, and don’t have your own voice and personality. Bad therapy can make you go crazy, insane literally give you all sorts of long term damage and mental illnesses, and good therapy can help you so much.
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Though I agree that it’s important not to flaunt your income, it’s actually illegal in the US for your work to try to suppress employees from sharing their income. This is because typically this will lead to employees demanding to get paid fairly. Just a little heads up to anyone who reads this.
Thank you for sharing this 💕.
Yes sharing your salary is crucial for fair pay, this only benefits employers, share your salaries actively with colleagues. But don't share in dating, as it's not relevant there and can be used against you
In Sweden it is public information how much you income you make. Consequently, you can just check how much your date is making.
So this is also a cultural thing.
There are agencies in America where your income is public knowledge.
? Actually it is a fireable offense with some American healthcare companies to share your salary or hourly wage with coworkers.
🌷 "Don't be easy to define. Let them wonder about you" 🌷
As long as you repent for your sins and pray about situations there’s no need to stress or worry you should move forward period.
Raised in a culture where transparency is pushed and not having the proper guidance, I’ve made all of these mistakes. However, I don’t regret any of it because I can guide my nieces on what not to do. I can also start over!! ❤️🩹💖
Simply, there are many jealous people in this world. Not all have your best interests. That is why I withdrew from being open.
I love your speaking voice and calm aura, Urania. This was a beautifully done video on a very important conversation. 👏🏽
I can understand why she said don't share income information but historically employers have used privacy to place gaps in income and placing certain people based on race or gender in lower income brackets just like hospitals don't have privacy laws to protect you it's to protect the hospitals from medical malpractice so everyone should think about when someone is actually being hurt by other people being quiet
I work for a unionized hospital and pay scales must be disclosed. Income discrepancies continues to affect minorities and these gaps must be closed.
Agreed. This is the only one I disagreed with. Men have no problem discussing salary/money. We seem to keep passing around the idea to not discuss it and it is hurting us.
@@Ktavonne it's levels to this
@@Ktavonne I wish those men discussed it with me, no problem Lol
Things that are obvious, but wonderful to hear all together in a video as a reminder, since we all slip sometimes with at least one of these! I am grateful for this video, thank you!
I overshare a LOT on my social medias due to my autism & sensory overload and cpstd but these tips are definitely going to be useful to put into practice more from here on!
My dad told me this. I shared some stuff with his girlfriend. So my dad said don't tell everyone my business. Thanks
Ladies, elegance is a social conduct and it is important to uphold it as much as you can, because it will help, but do not hold this as the ultimate goal, being human, kind, and listening to your intuition is very important. People’s life have been changes by others speaking of their mistakes, sharing their struggle with a medical condition and so on. Being socially attractive and being human are 2 very different things. Always keep that in mind, because truth be told, people may be mesmerized by elegance, but being human is ultimately what our life experience is about and that’s how people truly connect to you.
Indeed! 👏👏👏
As a younger woman, we tend to overshare alott especially intimately, if it's someone your dating or married to, they deserve sexual respect, your whole friendship circle doesn't need to know what type of game he is running in the bedroom! Younger ladies tend to be very vulgar and very detailed, I've lost friends because of this, this is sometimes the reason why girlfriends will date your ex, because you gave her the run down, she doesn't have to guess what he's packing, she's knows.
Less is more.
I think that there is a balance to this. A lot of this things should be shared because you never know where God lies waiting in someone to help you. Everything that you’re saying has an air of truth bc not all people are good, on the other side of equilibrium is that there is a world of people out there who can support you. Not sharing can also lead to people taking advantage of you
I get what you’re saying and I agree but I think in order to form genuine connections with others you need to be vulnerable and let people in. Suppressing all these details, ultimately due to fear of judgment keeps people at a distance. Intimate relationships are important and healthy for many reasons but when you don’t trust people they don’t trust you.
Do you want the intimate details of your relationship spread all over the internet or gossiped about with strangers? How would your partner feel about that? When IS it appropriate to share details? Never. Vultures swarm over your relationship waiting for it to die. Remember that.
I get what you mean. I think its about being selective with what you share and not revealing information that is too personal.
God commanded us to love, not trust
In general, i agree about money, but if you don't talk about it, that also helps cover up unfair business practices. So maybe compare notes with someone who works in direct competition to you, at a different company, to find the workplace with the best conditions for you. And that doesn't have to be just money. It can be the simplest thing like another employer offering fresh fruit in the company kitchen every day.
Great things to reflect upon. However, i don’t think they need to be hard rules. For example, with my partner, we have openly talked about our past issues in relationships at the beginning of ours. It has helped us understand each other and especially understanding how we want to create our healthy happy relationship together.
Job transparency has helped people improve their pay at work. That detail varies.
No need of no longer talking about my pasts and regrets. This is the one thing I'm ending💕
Congratulations on 20K subscribers! Very well deserved, you bring us nothing but valuable content and it is highly appreciated. Upwards and onwards beautiful ❤️
🥳🥳 I am someone that always never sharing myself doing only sharing myself doing with God.❤️✌️
Using discernment is definitely key when discussing anything u consider private or personal with either family or friends! However keeping everything private can be detrimental to your mental health. I completely understand and agree with keeping you and your partners sex life private, and your finances out of certain conversations however there has to be someone you can trust that you don’t have to keep your entire life a secret! I don’t believe that to be healthy! U should be able to trust certain people with information based on their past history of being trustworthy! Discernment is so important when trusting people! But to move completely in silence about everything is not realistic to me.
Thank you for these valuable tips!💖
I would like to share my thought on one point, if violence happens within the family, you should definitely share it with other people.
Yes! Abuse loves silence!
I will practice these 10 tips and I will keep everything private
Awesome video queen. I agree that it takes a certain level of maturity to keep some things private. You're beauty shines.
You are a classy lady in true sense.💯
Really guides in a world where overexposure is the trend. And I really like how you explain each point with attention to the details.
I worked at a place years ago where the manager was a real jerk. Shady practices, employee abuse and so on. I ended up moving on in short order to a job that he also applied for and didn't get. A co-worker at the new job was a friend of my old manager, and he said he had been asked repeatedly if I had told stories. He was able to say that I had said not one word. I think I earned a lot of respect in the industry by doing that.
That being said, as a single person living alone, sometimes I am just dying for someone to talk to, especially now.
I love seeing so many young ladies here improving themselves, the internet has some good sides :)
Hello Urania! You are absolutely gorgeous, elegant, and classy. I love you inspirational positive videos.
I shared my goals with my best friend about an idea that I wanted to create. Later I found out that she stole my idea, and did exactly what I had shared with her. Then she acted like she came up with the idea on her own. She did this to me many times! I am happy to share I'm no longer in contact with her. I agree that we need to keep our goals to ourselves.
Sending you happiness and good vibes. Keep up the good work beauty! 😊
As private as I try to be, some wicked people try to find out my business. 🌹
Looks like I'm good on all these fronts. I am a very private person but past few days I tried opening up more and yes it wasn't productive. When I told my friend and family about a certain goal they said I wouldn't or shouldn't do that. When I shared about a personal problem I felt uncomfortable and I think my friends did too. Going back to what I was before. ✌
So true about sharing goals , people will always shout you down 😔 happened to me but I did them in the end and now I won’t share them and even if I slip I won’t listen to them. But I won’t share them! As this is best to protect you 🌸 🌙 thanks for reminding me this 🙏
What if you are seizure prone and dating? Should the guy know, just in case? What if a family member just did something to you and you call a friend? What if you need reasonable accomodations at work due to a disability? You even need a form filled out by your doctors for that approval
You are right, but it just seems like nowadays almost everybody tells their business. And shouldn't.....
We HAVE to know what our colleagues earn because it pertains to fair and equal pay. In the workplace, we HAVE to know what our coworkers are making and to try and force us not to talk about it is literally in violation of labour laws here in the US. This one is a major disagreement. They don't want us discussing our salaries because they dont want us to advocate for equal and equitable pay.
This makes sense. But if it is in the perspective of asking for help or you need guidance, there are exceptions. Like if one is getting financial coaching, one must share his or her salary or at least an estimate orf your earnings. If you have sexual or emotional problems, then sharing about sex or your relationships are necessary. Of course, within the confines of someone who is trusted.
It seems you missed the parts where she said when and with whom it’s safe to share.
I’m subscribing to you simply because you showed appreciation for all of your current subscribers instead of jumping out of the gate asking for likes and subscriptions.
Thanking us for 20k but I’m watching this at 100k wow 👏🏾❤️
I feel guilty #10 🤫thanks Urania . Great advice. 🌸🤍
Thank you for sharing💕. We live and we learn.
Bless you dear for sharing your knowledge moving in silence is true I have learned the hard way. There are some wicked folk out there ☺️
I'm a guy. Not lost. Just looking into the female perspective
Bruh
I found a channel that's going to make me an elegant and mysterious woman...I see I've been doing a lot wrong.
Relationship Money Future Goal (even who knows may insult you or limit you ignore them) Fights and arguments (don't give people to enjoy drama) I wish him well on his healing. Family problems. Tell in such a way that they feel like they know a lot but don't know much . Donations. Therapy . Other's secrets.
Instant subscriber-just because you’re GORGEOUS! 😩😍😍🙏🏾❤️ that’s it that’s all
I share my goals , it doesn't matter if others believe in them or not, because am so determined to get them done and I believe in myself whether or not hiccups come along the way as I strive towards them..People will come with doubts but I have appreciation in those doubts because I get to prove them wrong.
I partially disagree. On day a friend shared a family problem with me. It happens that my knowledge about laws and justice helped him solve it. Some people car really help you sometimes. You just have to choose your friends well.
A tip : never share on social media those informations, nor share on internet things you'd be inconfortable sharing face to face if you were with this person irl.
Thank you for these nuggets Sis!🎓knowledge is power!
You are very welcome 💕.
I disagree with not sharing medical conditions. I'm not saying tell all and sundry, but it is important that some people know certain things about your health so that they can support you if something goes wrong. For example, diabetics and epilepsy sufferers. It's important that people around you know what to do it you start to hypo or you have a seizure. I've been saved three times by colleagues that knew what to do when I hypo'd.
I am honestly blown away by the wisdom in this video.
My mom will ask me tons of questions to try to find out the kind of money I make and will often make remarks like “if you can afford that” to force a omission. I don’t tell my family about dating unless I see it going on for long term. I don’t talk about my health unless I it’s major, life threatening or I need assistance. These are all good rules of advice but can also work against you at times.
Ur information is an awesome reminder to stay feminine in spite of the pressures we R forced to face daily. Men seem to want us to do both
I need to pinch my self all the time to remember not to talk about my past mistakes and my weaknesses Urania!!
Your face alone describes how you are you are really beautiful and kind
This is interesting. I was raised by a Psychologist. I am a therapist and story teller. I share my life with others as a means if encouragement. We all have different missions in life and we should live our lives accordingly. I'm married. Still, the idea of the feminine is different for every woman.
Recently found you, and loving every video I’ve seen so far . Keep it up love ❤️ can’t wait to watch this one. 😊
That is so kind, lovely to have you here💕😊.
While you shouldn't tell just everyone and their mom about these things, it is indeed important to share goal, arguments, family issues and medical issues with you closest people. I share such things with my sister, my mum, my partner and my best friend. Those are not random small talk topics though. Sharing income is important to achieve fair pay.
So true, be discreet, trustworthy and decent. However, where abuse is involved, seek help. Not everyone recognises emotional and psychological abuse, so check a list of safe vs unsafe behaviours to know whether its appropriate to tell a trusted person or not. Sometimes it is false shame or self blame that keeps us quiet.
I admire your wisdom, thank you so much for these significant life lessons
I do not agree with all 10, but I appreciate your list. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for all of your videos, Urania!! You are truly an amazing woman! I don't mean to be sarcastic at all. There are a lot of topics that are not appropriate to share with others. What can we talk about with others? I have trouble keeping conversations with new people.
This is actually a very good question. And you just gave me an idea for a future video, so thank you for that💕. Here are some idea’s of topics you can discuss and there are plenty more.
-Current situation/ News
-Job/work
-Hobbies
-Travels
-Food/restaurants
-Accomplishments
Why your past relationship ended, I believe should be shared when you and your partner have an intention of getting married. It helps one see the transformation in a person and see if the person has done something to improve themselves ever since the relationship ended. 😊Our past is our testimony and our present is hope and an inspiration to someone who wants to change but hasn't seen someone who walked in their shoes change.
I've been watching you and keeping your advice in mind at all times n I love the woman I have become. A mystery. A woman everyone wants to converse with 🥰🥰
Great advices. Thank you for sharing ❤️
I have been here way before you were at a thousand subscribers I knew you were a lady I could learn something from 💕
Greetings from Berlin.
Oh Urania great video... I’m guilty of most of these things
At this point some of us need you to make a video of what to talk about please
Bot, did I need to find.you! All my life I've been an 'Open Book', sharing way too much with others; and it has come back to bite me in the behind!! Looking forward to watching all of your videos.
Thank u so much my golden heart daughter ,u lead me to the right path ,god bless u
I agree with these points but I don’t think you should hide your salary from coworkers, everyone else fine but in America there is a long history of companies banning people from talking about their salaries so they can pay people less. And it’s usually women and black people who suffer from that
Congratulations! You are looking good Urania.
How insightful! Thank you.
Family problems can kill you.A toxic family can destroy.
Queen.this colour is suitable for your skin.thank you for your inspiring videos.You are my level up mentor.love from Java island
Thank you! 💕💕
Great advice Urania. Love from Ireland 💕
Much love back from the Netherlands 💕.