No one thinks about the little things. Everyone assumes the worst thing about being divorced is the lack of a spouse 😑 Home maintenance was my biggest achievement after my divorce.
I learned home maintenance when I was married (divorced over 20 years now). My then husband had a bad habit of starting to fix things but never finish them. I learned quick that if I wanted anything finished being fixed I had to do it. Lol....I even used to strap my daughter on my back in a backpack kids hiking frame thing to cut the grass. It was the only way the grass would get cut aside from buying a goat which the city would not allow 😁
My husband came in to the room while I was watching this one and asks: is there any particular reason you watching this? Do you plan to use any od this knowledge soon?,😂😂😂
Jack Linde i can do home repairs,it’s the “building your own website”. I had to have my daughter show me how to use my I phone. I am lost with all the new tech. Stuff.
Thank you for this video. I am recently alone after a 28 year marriage. My two boys are grown and have their own lives to live and I am adjusting. I have a nice plunger and a sturdy step stool but will definitely get a drain unclogged thingy. lol I also recommend single women to learn how to use a screw driver, pliers, change a tire, check the fluid levels in your vehicle, among other things. My grandpa taught me how to do most of these things from the time I was a young girl. He wouldn't let me get my license until I could change a tire and the oil in my car. I've actually had to change a tire on my own at 1 a.m. in the morning until a State Highway Patrol officer came along and finished it for me. Also learn self defense. Great video.
Divorced after 20 years, kids grown and living on their own. I am loving it. I refuse to call my son or any other man for repairs needed. If a man can do it, surely to fuck I can too!
Love your Grandpa! My Dad did the same thing with me before I could get my license. Me AND my best friend!!! Such an embarrassing annoyance at the time. Such a show of love now xx
Our situation is so similar Mayim! Just me and my boys 7 years after divorce. I've loved you since Blossom, yes I'm aging myself lol who cares! Love you, Shalom! 😘
*How 'Similar?'* *Did you ruin a show you were making a million+ per episode for by getting such a fat ass and gut that you looked like 'Sheldon's mother' instead of his wife?* Which show were you on?
I totally agree. As a single mom, I have fixed many broken things in the house. Also every time we buy new furniture from Ikea, the boys and myself act as if we are solving a puzzle. Working around the house, doing things that normally the husband would do, is also a very good example for the boys. The only difficulty i have, is when strength is needed to lift heavy furniture etc.
I've been living alone off grid in the Rockies for 4 years now; after, leaving my wife of 30 years. I believe I'll live the rest of my life alone. Its better than walking on eggshells all the time.
This woman is so wildly eloquent and pleasant. I’d love to be friends with her as she seems to be the kindest and smartest person on the planet. Big love for you, Mayim! Thanks for sharing yourself with us here!!!!
Thanks, I WAS wondering! fyi: you can also use a plunger to unclog sink and tub drains. It's just kind of messy when you get that gunk up, so I want to give the zip it a try, especially for the bathroom sink... yukko! Also, if you need a plumber in for anything, have him or her also snake your bathtub drain. As long as they're there, it will cost very little more and it's such good general maintenance.
I'm all about that ! I seem to lose myself in a relationship and i settle for things that shouldn't. The cost is too high for me. I have found that there is a freedom in living alone, you can be yourself without criticism. It's scary at first but we'll worth it. I'm not anti-relationship I just attract the wrong people. I'm sure that it's my fault but I just can't deal with b.s. anymore
A power tool for drilling and putting up shelves and drapes etc with a good drill and screw bit collection as well as a good toolbox is not a bad idea either.
I agree with this! My dad got me my own tool kit when I moved into my first place. that was 13 years ago. I still have it and have added to it. He also bought me a drill a couple year later. I still need to get some drill bits though.
A good set of tools is essential for any household, no matter who lives there. Even more tools if you have a car (so you don't have to call someone because your battery died).
I was always with somebody until the past two years. I've learned really quick that a drill and tape measure are my best friends as a single mom. I've used those two things more than anything else. 😂
It's sound advice for widows too, living alone is scary when you are used to someone knowing just what to do. I love my step stool, and you are right, don't be cheap, go ahead and spend $60 for the good ones, they will outlast the cheap ones.
It isn't so much about outlasting cheap step stools, but a sturdy platform is safer. I have leaned out while on a cheap step ladder, only to have it move. It wasn't a good feeling.
I was raised by a single dad who actively taught me the basics about taking care of myself, living alone. Later on, I was stunned at how my college roomie literally didn’t know how to boil an egg or do her own laundry and then later, how my ex-hubby didn’t know anything about how health insurance worked, how to write a check, how to follow “cooking” instructions on a freaking Lean Cuisine, etc. Their parents really did them a disservice. C’mon, parents - teach your kids a little self-reliance and common sense! It’s not a laughing matter sending ppl out into the world who cannot take care of themselves. Don’t set them up for failure like that.
It must be a thing with the design of US loos that they clog. I'm in Australia and the only time I've known people to have problems with toilets backing up because multiple people use one is when people flush things down that they're not supposed to, there are tree roots growing into the pipes or they're old and silted, when there's been a flood (silting again) or if you have problems with a septic system. I have noticed that the outlet on US loos seem much narrower than those over here and the water level is much higher so that may explain it.
I became curious and found out why US loos clog so easily compared to loos in Australia, which rarely, if ever, clog. Here's a video of a comparison between standard Australian loos and US loos. ruclips.net/video/ryIQYYogQ8A/видео.html
It's so great hearing how you like doing stuff yourself, whether it's because you're cheap or because you get satisfaction or, ... Having DIY skills is invaluable in life. I was fortunate that when I was a kid, my dad let me "help" when he was fixing or building things. Now I am teaching my daughter these life skills so that she someday may be able to proudly post her victories on RUclips, in addition to keeping her household functioning well.
Love it Mayim!! I am not divorced, but I am the still-single woman in her mid-30's that never imagined she'd have to still be this independent... Great list of things to live alone!! Cheers and thanks for your awesome videos!!!
Now I'm depressed. I'm married and I'm the one that does the plunging, the unclogging, and use the step stool. Oh and I'm the designated spider killer. 😕
As long as you don't do everything else, you're fine. It's been a while since roles were that rigid. It's best if you both know how to do everything that needs to be done, though.
I’ve been huge on DIY...and my daughter is far better than my son at DIY...even better than her husband. Just look it up on RUclips and have a go. RTFM! 👍
@PilotVBall "chocolate cleanse"... I love it! Gonna use that. 😁 Here's one for you -- I'm middle-aged and sometimes people say "How do you look so good?" Meanwhile fyi I'm average: a little chubby, a little wrinkly etc. I do walk a lot and generally eat well but I still love my snacks & beer too. So my reply is: Gluten. 😀
I’ve been married for nineteen years. I do all those things (and much more) myself. Why? Because my husband is at work. If anything needs worked on in the house, that’s my job. I’m not expecting him to do it after he gets home from a 10-12 hour work day. This isn’t a single lady “problem”. It’s life.
My best "take away" from my divorce was the tool box. He never asked for it back, so I assume he had plenty of everything stashed elsewhere. Besides impressing the heck out of potential boyfriends, the hammer, screwdriver, Philips head and pliers are essential devices.
I was going to suggest a good basic tool kit as well. Some fixings, a bottle of wood (PVA) glue, contact glue and an expoxy (2 part) glue are always handy too.
As a divorced woman for 20 yrs. I have all three! Yeah! If you are as thrifty as I am here's a tip to make a sink unclogger...they usually sell for about $10.00. Buy a package of extra large zip ties, cut angles up the sides of it, kind of like a leaf or feathers. You can make a bunch of sink uncloggers for much less than an actual one and you can toss it out with all the gunk attached.
I joined the "handyman club of America" and the tools they send you are so fun! The instructions are easy too. I love living alone, for the first time in my life as well. After 32 married years out of my life, I finally have my own room. Clean, beautiful and decorated the way I wanted! It's a wonderful thing. Thanks Mayim. You are wonderful!
I would not _quite_ agree with the structure of your argument that a plunger is something you need _if you live alone._ I would argue, instead, that a plunger is necessary _if you have a toilet._ Maybe you happen to live alone. Maybe you happen to live with other people. Either way, you never know when a plunger will be necessary, and you will be very glad to have one in the event that your toilet gets clogged. I would also argue that using a plunger is not exactly a _difficult_ task. It can be kind of messy, but your sink is right there. Just wash your hands when you're done.
Here's a little tidbit... There are classes held at Lowe's and at home Depot for people to learn how to use tools, Make small home repairs as well as a project. Usually they will low-cost or even free
I love this video! I got divorced for the 1st time when I was 19. I started then making a list of the "obvious" things to be sure you have and do for a divorce. I have added to it quite a lot in the last 30 years, and 2 more divorces. I share it to anyone who is going from a cohabitation set up to living on their own. I still update it as things come up or change. I have friends tell me I should sell it or do a consulting for soon to be "single/divorced" people because they have found it invaluable in their process. Learning new things and finding out you can do so much more than what you thought you were capable of when faced with going it alone for me was a huge ego boost and help to my self esteem. Friends have told me that they found this helped also. Love Love Love this video! Just a suggestion maybe a video that goes through the jobs that you never did before your divorce, i.e. taking out the trash or whatever, and how you incorporated them into your new "normal" after the split.
@@EMunaBee My go-to trap is a sheet of cellophane smeared with honey, hung in front of a doorway. When the bandit walks into the hanging cellophane, it triggers a fan set in front of a pile of feathers, that is then blown into his face as he slides the honey coated cellophane off of it. It's my favorite because once he has escaped all of that, he can still be easily spotted tip toeing away.
Single, home owner, 5'1; buying a $50 industrial step stool from home depot was probably my greatest new home owner purchase. (even tho cheap me thought I was crazy at the time) I am also "frugal" and will not hire someone to just do things for me. Yay for living alone- truly, no kids to mess up my house after I clean it, so I suppose I am at an advantage there.
Should have added that nowadays you can diy almost anything, I have fixed my car and various things around the house solely off of youtube tutorials. Saved a ton of $$.
Me and my daughter have been living alone for a couple of years after my divorce, thank you for making life not seem so bad and strangely comical, you are hilarious Mayim :)
I’m not divorced but I’m home alone with the kids almost all the time due to my husbands work schedule. I agree on these tools! Thanks for your videos they are always informative and entertaining.
Mayim, as someone who has pretty much spent their entire adult life single, Here are things I recommend that EVERYONE (Note: Not just men or women, but EVERYONE) should know as an adult: 1. Basic home repair and maintenance. Plumbing, electrical, roofing, drywall, etc. There are many things the average homeowner (of either gender and of any height) can do on their own.\ 2. Personal Finance. Everyone should have a basic understanding of credit cards, loans, checking and savings accounts. 3. Self Care. Not enough people know this. Also, take a basic first aid course. 4. Basic Home Skills. Again, everyone should have some rudimentary knowledge of how to cook, clean, darn, etc. 5. Basic auto repair and maintenance. This one isn't as important if you don't have a car or ever plan on owning one. But if you do drive, THIS IS MANDATORY. Know how to check fluids, charge a battery, how to safely jumpstart a vehicle, how to safely change a tire, how to change lights, how to change a battery, etc. Also, every adult should have a basic tool kit for home, a fire extinguisher, a step ladder (not just a stool), a larger ladder, a toolkit for the car, etc. Also, there are simple "How To" books that can help with a majority of these tasks.
After being divorced for almost 20 years, I love living alone. Your video brought back some memories from a long time ago. When I wasn't to keen in being alone. And I do remember being glad there was a plunger in dah house.
I have one of those sink unclogger things. Total life saver! Plus, I’ve never been married and love living alone and have had those things for years. Thanks for another fun video 😊
Bottom line - get over being afraid of getting dirty. Learn to take care of the things you can handle on your own. The plumbing items are a great start. Build a small tool kit; hammer, screw drivers, pliers. They will save you in the long run -- Particularly if you learn to use them.
as a tall guy[6ft4in] i can tell u the only 2 good reasons to be tall are that im the first to know if its raining and the last to know if someone farted. other than that its just ducking ceiling fans
@@Athena-xp4lt and we tall guys need yall tiny girls to get the stuff off the bottom shelf ,,,every year they put the floor farther and farther away for us old tall guys
@@rdvaughan70 Lol. No one has ever had to ask me to do that. I have been asked to read a label more than once, but not by someone who was tall. I have my uses, but I would've liked to be a good 6 or 7 inches taller.
@@Athena-xp4lt i need a short person lol...part of being tall is bad back problems so ducking down is a pain...u know ur getting old when before you bend down to pick up money off the ground it better be a 5$ bill or bigger to make me bend down to get it
You should also have a basic tool kit too, something with a hammer, screwdriver (with multi heads) pliers ect. doesn't have to have a ton of things, just some basics. You might not even need to use it often, but when you need it its great. As a very short girl (5ft 1) I love my step ladder. Wont have a home without one.
I'm a plumber. So the first 2 were amusing. And yes, the things that come out of drains are foul. Instead of a plunger, get a closet auger. RIGID makes one. Its roughly $40. It works better, is actually the correct tool for the job, and is cleaner. The zip stick is a good choice for your bathroom sink, and your bathtub.
It seems so sad to me that women aren't just naturally assured of their own ability to care for their own surroundings. Can you drive? Then you can hang a picture! It takes less ability. I promise.
For me its more that someone else has already done it for me. When im around someone that can do it they just do because their quick. Then when that person isnt there anymore its hard to know where to start and it can seem overwhelming especially when something is busted and youre trying to fix it but have no idea if youll be successful or break it.
We give away power in massive amounts,,, till we are completely dry and small and the sorrow of being single has become the major THING in our life We live alone..... so?
I'm actually happily married. I can still build a garden bed, hang a shelf, use the lawn mower and the stud finder. These are skills every single human being needs. The ability to care for your surroundings is crucial and beings swiftly lost.
My parents were awesome. They basically told me it was my responsibility to learn how to drive a manual and automatic transmission, use tools, change a tire, plunge a toilet, manage vehicle maintenance, assemble furniture, do laundry and cook for myself. Self reliance is a gift we give to our children.
If your house has forced warm air heat (the air vents in every room)(also usually also combined with air conditioning) the system has a filter that needs to be changed regularly, usually monthly, but some will let you go three months. Failure to change the filter regularly will decrease system efficiency and cost you more money to run it, but also can cause damage to the system requiring expensive repairs or replacement of the system. Really, the filters are cheap and need to be changed.
Personally, I like Jeff Foxxworthy's take. "Some people tell me, 'Jeff, I'm not married and I'm not single. I'm divorced.' Now to me, being _divorced_ is the same as being _single,_ except you _don't_ have as much _furniture."_
I learned to restart my furnace myself last year after we ran out of heating oil on a 9° night in January and the oil company told me they couldn’t get here for 36+ hours... yet expected that I would have stayed here to wait for them so I could let them in to restart the furnace. Actually, they never told me about needing to stay here until after they got around to delivering it and left. 1- Yes, we have “guaranteed” auto-delivery. 2- Handicapped attorney homeowner SO without hypothalamus function regulating his body temperature. 3- Little town, no hotel. 4- There’s only so many hours anyone can spend inside Wal-Mart. Thank you to Google and RUclips who helped me save us.
Totally agree with things you need. Honestly, being divorced and living alone, haven’t been so terrible. Love having the remote control and watching what I want to; cooking if you want to or not; cleaning up right after eating or leaving it to sit until the next day or two; being a bum and staying in your pj’s all day......so many little perks to doing YOU! Plus, nowadays, you can find how to fix almost anything on RUclips! I’ve learned how to do a lot of things and it feels great!
I'm with you. If I don't feel like cooking, I don't. It is really nice not to have someone ask, what are we having for dinner. Sometimes I would say, whatever you are going to cook. Best to you.
Congrats on the plunging. My advice on plunging is that the pull is more important than the push. If something won’t go down, bring it slightly up, so that it shifts and can break apart. Don’t pull so far as to break the seal between the plunger and the bowl. Shower drains are another story.
My dad taught us all some odd things growing up, and some more now that I'm an adult. How to unclog a shower drain with a wire coat hanger. How to change a washer on a tap. How to install a washing machine and/or dishwasher. How to fix a toilet where the water is no longer running into the cistern. Changing a fuse. And when we moved out of home, he gave us each a toolbox full of tools. Might seem odd, but having those tools has made a whole lot of problems go away. Biggest thing may have been to have some A.I. gloves handy, because they are useful for a lot of things, like when someone breaks a limb and you need to cover the cast so they can bathe, for sticking your arm in the toilet to retrieve the two rolls of toilet paper the toddler put in there, for sticking your arm down the kitchen drain pipe to remove sticks, empty cans and generalised debris that the kids have stuffed down there. A.I. gloves and tools would have to be my tips for living alone.
Thanks. I'm fighting big gripper making corporations one rubber band at a time. This easy life hack is brought to you by photographers who tried to figure out how to unscrew stuck filter from a camera lens.
Other possibilities : - Pour hot water on the lid for few seconds. The metal expands more than the glass. Works for most of the cases. - Put a butter knife under the rim and with a slight twisting motion, make it loose. Do not use force, do it gently. Do it al over the rim. It will release the grip from where it is stuck. - if the lid is soft, just cut into it with a proper tool, do an x cut and pour it out.
A Woman that is so down to earth! Thank you from the depths of my heart. I could of used this video after my divorce. But Holly M hit it on the head, Dad taught me how before I was 18.
The one thing my late wife hated was unclogging the sink. She was very disturbed about all the hair that went down there. I understand this is not uncommon amongst most people. So it is a good survival tip. I would recommend that you become familiar with the mechanisms in the back of the toilet. Especially if you flush, and discover nothing is going down. It is important to be able to take the top of the tank off, and push down the plunger that allows the water to go into the bowl. This will prevent a bathroom flood. This is not recondite information, but vital if your kid decides to see what happens if the security blanket gets caught in a swirly.
We have 2 long haired people using one bathroom and there is a way to avoid any need for cleaning hair from the pipes. Just use shower/sink hair catcher (filter for the drain).
In my house the rule is: you plug it, you plunge it! Although when it comes to sinks, I'm always the one that gets stuck unclogging them. :-/ The plastic doohickey you show here is very useful but before you use it..... dump a 1/2 cup of baking soda into the drain, then a cup or so of plain white vinegar. Let it foam and bubble and just walk away. Leave it for about an hour. Then run scalding hot water down the drain. This method breaks up many clogs on its own but you may still have to use the plastic doohickey too. However, it will be a far less stinky job afterwards. :-)
Great idea!! I use baking soda/white vinegar to clean my kitchen sink drains but never thought of doing it in the bathroom before using the plastic doohickey.
@@SonshineLady7 The bathroom is where most of the hair clogs are so I always use the vinegar/baking soda method first, followed by the drain unclogger. I also find it easier to use the unclogger while the water is running to keep the gunk from flying all over the sink and me. :-/
I love living alone; no more worries about what's going to piss her off next. I can make a decision without getting flack from someone else. This can go, that can stay, see, no arguments. Life is so much easier alone; than, to have someone that doesn't have your back in all things.
Hi Mayim..Love the video. I'll check out the Wix website. I love your Jumper. Is that an Avengers illustration ? I'm an introvert so I'm used to living alone. ♥️
As a single, divorced Nanna, one thing stood out to me.....your tuxedo tomcat is very similar to mine. They are the best reason to stay single, ever. ❤️
I am impressed with how ordinary a life you live. I am sure you are well able to afford a plumber or handy “man” the fact you do things yourself teaches your sons to be strong and independent and you are an encouragement to women in similar circumstances.
Thanks for this great video! I’m heading to buy 2 of those 3 items. Thankfully, I have at least one of the 3... you can guess which one it is . Lol 😂 I genuinely appreciate this type of informational video. Maybe, you can make more of these for us? Please...😊
I love my company, appreciate my cooking, my taste in music,.I live in the mountains and nature is my mistress. Somebody like Mayim gets my motor going.
Mayim, I finally got around to cleaning out my shower drain this weekend. It was draining slowly, you know, long hair problems. And up came a formerly pink toothbrush and a green bendy straw. Neither are mine, and I cannot for the life of me figure out how they got there! There are neither kids nor pets living in my apartment, just me. Baffling and also a bit funny. And thanks again for getting real and practical about living alone.
As a single woman who lives alone (and already owns a solid step stool! #5ft3)... I need to find that Sink Unclogger Thingy in the UK asap, omg. People never think about the simple things.
Kerison Leigh I live in the UK, and have just looked online to see where I can get them from. They are called Drain Snakes, and Amazon do a lack of 10 for £6.99. If not, both Homebase and The Range seem to sell them.
@Karen Thank you! You're a gem ❤️ I'm absolutely going to pick up a pack from Amazon, my hair's currently shedding like crazy from stress and I need them in my life!
Mayim I'm married but my spouse is usually at work when something like a clogged toliet or screeching smoke alarm is happening. I have those very three items at our house as well and I can take care of the problem without waiting for him to come home. These items are essential for any home or apartment. If you can get a plunger and sink declogger for every bathroom if you have more then one. Also get the tapered plunger because the flat plunger won't do the job as well.
Love this video, and love your channel in general. Love your personality too. I live with my two kids. It's hard doing it on own, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm ok with being single. :)
You know, I am a 62 year old man. I like watching you talk about household stuff. I did handyman stuff for a year on my own. Anyway, I think you are adorable. Enjoy what you are doing.
I recommend having 2 plungers; one for toilets and one for sinks. I keep the large black accordion plunger in the bathroom. And the small, red flat plunge under the kitchen sink.
Just remembered this - When I was newly divorced I lived for several more years in our house that was built in the 1930's. (Talk about things that can go wrong.) One Thanksgiving I heard water running and discovered something in the hot water heater had broken and water was shooting out the top like a geyser, creating a small river that was slowly rising and making its way from the laundry area to the rest of the house. I turned off the hot & cold water by the heater but the water kept on flowing. Out of the blue I remembered having seen the water meter reader or someone from the department pulling up an iron lid in our front yard. No idea what it was but, with nothing left to lose, I went to that iron lid, pulled it up, and there was apparently the main water shut-off for the house. Whew!!! Realllly glad I have lived in apartments with maintenance people since I sold the house.
@@joeytribbianicore It is way to long of a conversation for a post like this but I will try to sum it up. First know that I am 50, divorced from a 27 year marriage, have two kids 8 & 14 so my perspective us vastly different than yours. Also know that because of the BS I have been through, though I was once a traditional two parent family guy I know longer care for that way of thinking, for lack of a better way to phrase it. I have long heard stories of divorce rape in family courts, my mom was divorced twice & I never met my real dad. Then at 26 years in my wife did it to me. There is no way I could ever marry again but I don't hate women. I have forgiven my ex & told her so but when trust is destroyed to duch an extent it is difficult to ever regain. I could tell you stories for days about this type of stuff. What I have noticed at 50 versus 21 when I got married is that there seems to be a huge divide between tbe sexes. I lean mgtow because I most just want to be left alone in peace not because I am a woman hater. I don't bash women. The problem is men & women were designed to complement each other not compete with each other. Feminists don't make very good wives. I that will piss of the majority of women reading this but it is how most if not all men feel. ( allow to interject here that I am speaking in generalities from my experiences there are always exceptions to the rule). I don't mean that I want a woman in subjection as some men want. I in fact like a woman who is intelligent as well as intellectual & even independent. I don't feel any desire to be a baby sitter. I want a woman for a companion. The problem is feminism tells women they don't need men & beta men can't handle an independent woman & thus a divide between the sexes grows deeper & deeper. I don't need a woman to support me, I am not looking to start another family at 50, I am a grown man I don't need a woman to tell me how to live my life& I certainly don't need a woman to drag me through divorce court again & I certainly have no desire to inflict any of that on a woman. Relationships go south in my opinion because of sex & communication. Women marry because they want to be taken care of financially & men marry because they want to be taken care of sexually. When couples compete rather than complement all the sex & communication comes to a halt. Most of the happiest couples I know are not married & some don't even cohabitate. It does break my traditional heart to know that my children may never know the happiness that a healthy martiage can bring but the truth is with the growing division in the sexes the odds are against them. Men may mot need women & women may not need men but a society in a downward spiral needs division between the sexes. Two people ( this is an example ) who still want companionship but find it hard to live together because of all of lifes bullshit.......well that would make a woman like you the perfect woman.
hmmm... I have lived alone most of my adult life except for a short stint when I had room-mates. The step-stool I definitely agree with, but I've managed maybe by luck or .... or luck... to so far never need a toilet plunger or sink unclogger. I would suggest getting those strainer things that fit over the sink hole. My essential tools are a screwdriver set, a flashlight and a pair of scissors for the kitchen. Invariably screwdrivers are needed to open tins, put doors back on cabinets when they're loose, etc. Flashlights for obvious reasons. And scissors in the kitchen for cutting things like plastic and paper, and other things that are difficult to tear. Opening jars also - the screwdriver (Break the air seal, jar opens easily).
Ani McCormick, that's normal! Marriage is a learning experience! We are being refined in the fire! If you can, hang in there! Year #7 was my toughest... going on #13 :) definitely getting better with time!
Ive have lived alone ever since i was 18, today im now 45. Ive lived alone for a very long time. What i love the most about that every room in my house is mine, im very proud to have lived a independant life, if when i die i die alone then i will say that i leave this world proud, independant, and free.
I am divorced (x3 - let's just say their warranties ran out) and widowed x 1. (Had I stayed in the "divorced marriages" My total would be widowed x 4). After each one I added to my such necessities, cordless drill, leaf blower, the plunger and a metal snake, step ladder. Love that you are teaching your boys these survival skills too! Can't wait to see your new website!
Slight regrets on watching this during breakfast.... But that's our Thursday morning tradition! Anyway, good basics for anyone living alone. I've seen cute gift baskets given to college kids living alone for the first time. They always include things like paper towels and laundry detergent in a laundry basket. But dude, plunger! That's basic. And I don't mean that in a millennial way 🙄😒
I am 64..single and plan on staying that way...but I cannot argue with this list. A good sturdy stepstool is a life saver..and a good plunger is not to be laughed at.seriously.
Yup, I was single for 8 years after being married for 26 yrs. to a handyman. I have to learn everything. I have fixed a couple of washing machines, and dryers and a frig. I have used that drain thingy more times than I can count on both the bathroom sink and the tub. I have learned to check my own oil and pick up dead things in my yard. I the only good thing about being single was learning how strong I was... I have been married for 6 months now and he is not only a handyman but he know lawn care, plumbing, and is organized! About the only thing he doesn’t do is electricity. Here’s to all the single women not only making it but thriving! 🥂
Mayim, I can tell just by the way you say you're divorced that you don't like it. I understand that, I'm divorced also and I prefer being married. Living alone feels like an unwelcome consequence of being " different " after divorce. A lot of people can just bounce back and date everyone and then eventually will just " settle " with what is simply ok. But you and I are people who want real intimacy and authenticity and dare I say it, love. It's harder to find in this world than you think it will be. When I was younger I had no idea how isolating getting older seems to be once you get past the age that everyone pairs off and starts raising families and things like that, about 30 usually. I have actually felt rather lonely since then and it's been many years ago that I turned 30. I married to " fix " the loneliness and have a partner in life and that created problems I never, ever thought I would experience, and I am glad to be out of now post divorce. I've observed in this world that a lot of people just settle for having " someone " and just because others are married doesn't mean they are happily so. I think the best gift we can give ourselves post divorce is learning to embrace living alone. And like you said doing our own DIY tasks, and not thinking of ourselves as living in this strange state. Society tries to make us feel defective for not just getting another mate as though you can go to the store and buy them easily on sale. It's really tough to find a match, that is good for both people and healthy so that it can last. So if we " have to " be single perhaps we can find the grace in that state we live in. It is definitely a healthier state than remaining in a dead or toxic marriage just because we don't want to be alone. I think seeing how you struggle with the feeling of I " have to " live alone makes me feel better. As we all do when we realize we aren't alone in being alone, to reference that line from the Police song " Message in a Bottle " I'm so relating to this topic. I recently had to buy a mower after researching them and then mow my own lawn after my divorce. Now this isn't the first time I've mowed a lawn, but it has been a long time since I've done that. And yes, I find out that fixing the things that need repair in an older house that is now mine falls either to me, or if I can't do it to save money then I have to pay someone else. So that is a good incentive to do it myself because all of those " specialists " cost a lot per hour. We are in good company, there are a lot of women who live alone these days. Thanks for sharing your fun and helpful tips on how to survive, it made me smile.
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No one thinks about the little things. Everyone assumes the worst thing about being divorced is the lack of a spouse 😑 Home maintenance was my biggest achievement after my divorce.
I learned home maintenance when I was married (divorced over 20 years now). My then husband had a bad habit of starting to fix things but never finish them. I learned quick that if I wanted anything finished being fixed I had to do it. Lol....I even used to strap my daughter on my back in a backpack kids hiking frame thing to cut the grass. It was the only way the grass would get cut aside from buying a goat which the city would not allow 😁
Mine is art! Just got out of a 5 year relationship, the only long term l have had at 38.
I'm learning 'how to guy' as my oldest puts it. Can't wait to feel more confident with being able to handle things like that.
I’ve been divorced for 8 months and thank god my mum is the best dad I’ll ever need 😂 💪🏻💪🏻
You are a sad person 😅😅😅
My husband came in to the room while I was watching this one and asks: is there any particular reason you watching this? Do you plan to use any od this knowledge soon?,😂😂😂
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Yeh it’s funny because I remembered I was married for one month I was watching divorce court show. My husband’s reaction was almost same😃
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“If I can do it,anyone can” says the Neuroscientist!!😂🤣
You don't have to be a neuroscientist to do basic home repair... but it helps.
Actually I'm pretty sure building website is harder than building a rocket. Hahaha
Seriously!
Jack Linde i can do home repairs,it’s the “building your own website”. I had to have my daughter show me how to use my I phone. I am lost with all the new tech. Stuff.
Exactly
Thank you for this video. I am recently alone after a 28 year marriage. My two boys are grown and have their own lives to live and I am adjusting. I have a nice plunger and a sturdy step stool but will definitely get a drain unclogged thingy. lol I also recommend single women to learn how to use a screw driver, pliers, change a tire, check the fluid levels in your vehicle, among other things. My grandpa taught me how to do most of these things from the time I was a young girl. He wouldn't let me get my license until I could change a tire and the oil in my car. I've actually had to change a tire on my own at 1 a.m. in the morning until a State Highway Patrol officer came along and finished it for me. Also learn self defense. Great video.
FWLIW: Divorced in 2014 after a 30+ year marriage.
{Sort of...} Been That, Done There.
[In case that helps even a wee bit.]
Divorced after 20 years, kids grown and living on their own. I am loving it. I refuse to call my son or any other man for repairs needed. If a man can do it, surely to fuck I can too!
Love your Grandpa! My Dad did the same thing with me before I could get my license. Me AND my best friend!!! Such an embarrassing annoyance at the time. Such a show of love now xx
The only time I don't love living alone is when I'm sick. Canned soup tastes so much better when someone else serves it.
Ha!
Kamarca I say this every time I’m sick. It’s so true.
I've delivered Chalet chicken soup to a sick person living alone (it's a Canadian thing).
So true!
Absolutely! And the sink seems like a marathon walk when all you want is a glass of water!
Our situation is so similar Mayim! Just me and my boys 7 years after divorce. I've loved you since Blossom, yes I'm aging myself lol who cares! Love you, Shalom! 😘
*How 'Similar?'* *Did you ruin a show you were making a million+ per episode for by getting such a fat ass and gut that you looked like 'Sheldon's mother' instead of his wife?* Which show were you on?
@@gerrynightingale9045 I hope you get better...
I totally agree. As a single mom, I have fixed many broken things in the house. Also every time we buy new furniture from Ikea, the boys and myself act as if we are solving a puzzle. Working around the house, doing things that normally the husband would do, is also a very good example for the boys. The only difficulty i have, is when strength is needed to lift heavy furniture etc.
I wholeheartedly agree with each one of these recommendations. I would also add a JarKey for opening lids on jars.
Agreed. This even for those who are still married 😅.
I've been living alone off grid in the Rockies for 4 years now; after, leaving my wife of 30 years. I believe I'll live the rest of my life alone. Its better than walking on eggshells all the time.
This woman is so wildly eloquent and pleasant. I’d love to be friends with her as she seems to be the kindest and smartest person on the planet. Big love for you, Mayim! Thanks for sharing yourself with us here!!!!
For anyone wondering what the sink unclogger thing is called it's a Zip-it.
If you do a search on Amazon for drain augers (I believe it's an entire category) there's a ton of multi-packs of the things in various brand names.
Good point! I actually just make my own from zip ties. Not that they're expensive really it's just something I've gotten into the habit of.
Thanks! :)
Thanks, I WAS wondering!
fyi: you can also use a plunger to unclog sink and tub drains. It's just kind of messy when you get that gunk up, so I want to give the zip it a try, especially for the bathroom sink... yukko!
Also, if you need a plumber in for anything, have him or her also snake your bathtub drain. As long as they're there, it will cost very little more and it's such good general maintenance.
I'm all about that ! I seem to lose myself in a relationship and i settle for things that shouldn't. The cost is too high for me. I have found that there is a freedom in living alone, you can be yourself without criticism. It's scary at first but we'll worth it. I'm not anti-relationship I just attract the wrong people. I'm sure that it's my fault but I just can't deal with b.s. anymore
That's right. Have it your way and the wrong people can't own you. I want to say: You go girl!
@Laurel Dell Same.
A power tool for drilling and putting up shelves and drapes etc with a good drill and screw bit collection as well as a good toolbox is not a bad idea either.
I agree with this! My dad got me my own tool kit when I moved into my first place. that was 13 years ago. I still have it and have added to it. He also bought me a drill a couple year later. I still need to get some drill bits though.
A good set of tools is essential for any household, no matter who lives there. Even more tools if you have a car (so you don't have to call someone because your battery died).
I agree you need a good set of tools, and I even have a set in my car as well as a battery charger, You need to be self reliant.
Pernilla Helder yes!
I was always with somebody until the past two years. I've learned really quick that a drill and tape measure are my best friends as a single mom. I've used those two things more than anything else. 😂
It's sound advice for widows too, living alone is scary when you are used to someone knowing just what to do. I love my step stool, and you are right, don't be cheap, go ahead and spend $60 for the good ones, they will outlast the cheap ones.
It isn't so much about outlasting cheap step stools, but a sturdy platform is safer. I have leaned out while on a cheap step ladder, only to have it move. It wasn't a good feeling.
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I was raised by a single dad who actively taught me the basics about taking care of myself, living alone. Later on, I was stunned at how my college roomie literally didn’t know how to boil an egg or do her own laundry and then later, how my ex-hubby didn’t know anything about how health insurance worked, how to write a check, how to follow “cooking” instructions on a freaking Lean Cuisine, etc. Their parents really did them a disservice. C’mon, parents - teach your kids a little self-reliance and common sense! It’s not a laughing matter sending ppl out into the world who cannot take care of themselves. Don’t set them up for failure like that.
I love how honest, genuine and down-to-earth you are. You're keeping it REAL and I'm all here for it! ❤
Never had a plunger when I was living alone. Never needed it. I‘m not living alone anymore. We are three now. 2 people and the plunger.
It must be a thing with the design of US loos that they clog.
I'm in Australia and the only time I've known people to have problems with toilets backing up because multiple people use one is when people flush things down that they're not supposed to, there are tree roots growing into the pipes or they're old and silted, when there's been a flood (silting again) or if you have problems with a septic system.
I have noticed that the outlet on US loos seem much narrower than those over here and the water level is much higher so that may explain it.
I became curious and found out why US loos clog so easily compared to loos in Australia, which rarely, if ever, clog. Here's a video of a comparison between standard Australian loos and US loos.
ruclips.net/video/ryIQYYogQ8A/видео.html
It's so great hearing how you like doing stuff yourself, whether it's because you're cheap or because you get satisfaction or, ... Having DIY skills is invaluable in life. I was fortunate that when I was a kid, my dad let me "help" when he was fixing or building things. Now I am teaching my daughter these life skills so that she someday may be able to proudly post her victories on RUclips, in addition to keeping her household functioning well.
You also need bravery, competence and resilience, I think. Thanks Dr. Bialik.
Love it Mayim!! I am not divorced, but I am the still-single woman in her mid-30's that never imagined she'd have to still be this independent... Great list of things to live alone!! Cheers and thanks for your awesome videos!!!
Now I'm depressed. I'm married and I'm the one that does the plunging, the unclogging, and use the step stool. Oh and I'm the designated spider killer. 😕
As long as you don't do everything else, you're fine. It's been a while since roles were that rigid. It's best if you both know how to do everything that needs to be done, though.
Brigette Elliott AWESOME
I do almost all plumbing, painting and bug killing. But a good result is my sons learned to do plumbing by helping me.
I’ve been huge on DIY...and my daughter is far better than my son at DIY...even better than her husband. Just look it up on RUclips and have a go. RTFM! 👍
I’m doing a chocolate cleanse....because I’m single and I love it!
You funny, enjoy !
You funny, enjoy ,
@PilotVBall "chocolate cleanse"... I love it! Gonna use that. 😁
Here's one for you -- I'm middle-aged and sometimes people say "How do you look so good?" Meanwhile fyi I'm average: a little chubby, a little wrinkly etc. I do walk a lot and generally eat well but I still love my snacks & beer too.
So my reply is: Gluten. 😀
I’ve been married for nineteen years. I do all those things (and much more) myself. Why? Because my husband is at work. If anything needs worked on in the house, that’s my job. I’m not expecting him to do it after he gets home from a 10-12 hour work day. This isn’t a single lady “problem”. It’s life.
My best "take away" from my divorce was the tool box. He never asked for it back, so I assume he had plenty of everything stashed elsewhere. Besides impressing the heck out of potential boyfriends, the hammer, screwdriver, Philips head and pliers are essential devices.
I just typed about this! My girls and I came to that same realization in the middle of Ikea. We own at least the basics now.
Sarah Hamner, I saw your name as "hammer" and immediately fell in love. ;)
I was going to suggest a good basic tool kit as well. Some fixings, a bottle of wood (PVA) glue, contact glue and an expoxy (2 part) glue are always handy too.
As a divorced woman for 20 yrs. I have all three! Yeah! If you are as thrifty as I am here's a tip to make a sink unclogger...they usually sell for about $10.00.
Buy a package of extra large zip ties, cut angles up the sides of it, kind of like a leaf or feathers. You can make a bunch of sink uncloggers for much less than an actual one and you can toss it out with all the gunk attached.
OMG GENIUS
I did that.. because my budget was extremely tight at the time.
Great tip!
Love, love, love this idea! Thanks a million. I would not like trying to clean a reusable one at all.
I bought a sink unclogger at the dollar store...
@@Andrea-ed8pg you can also buy a whole package of large zip ties at the dollar store.
I joined the "handyman club of America" and the tools they send you are so fun! The instructions are easy too. I love living alone, for the first time in my life as well. After 32 married years out of my life, I finally have my own room. Clean, beautiful and decorated the way I wanted! It's a wonderful thing. Thanks Mayim. You are wonderful!
I would not _quite_ agree with the structure of your argument that a plunger is something you need _if you live alone._ I would argue, instead, that a plunger is necessary _if you have a toilet._ Maybe you happen to live alone. Maybe you happen to live with other people. Either way, you never know when a plunger will be necessary, and you will be very glad to have one in the event that your toilet gets clogged.
I would also argue that using a plunger is not exactly a _difficult_ task. It can be kind of messy, but your sink is right there. Just wash your hands when you're done.
Here's a little tidbit...
There are classes held at Lowe's and at home Depot for people to learn how to use tools, Make small home repairs as well as a project. Usually they will low-cost or even free
Great tip - thank you!
Regular use of baking soda with vinegar down the drains keep them open.
Tub was slow. I violated and baking soda that baby. Now it is great!
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@@elizabethharttley4073 I'm guessing she meant vinegar-ed and got auto-corrected. Lol
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Yes i figured as much. And still i was amused (autocorrect tried abused, hahah)
Lol! Aye yi yi. 🤪
I love this video! I got divorced for the 1st time when I was 19. I started then making a list of the "obvious" things to be sure you have and do for a divorce. I have added to it quite a lot in the last 30 years, and 2 more divorces. I share it to anyone who is going from a cohabitation set up to living on their own. I still update it as things come up or change. I have friends tell me I should sell it or do a consulting for soon to be "single/divorced" people because they have found it invaluable in their process. Learning new things and finding out you can do so much more than what you thought you were capable of when faced with going it alone for me was a huge ego boost and help to my self esteem. Friends have told me that they found this helped also. Love Love Love this video! Just a suggestion maybe a video that goes through the jobs that you never did before your divorce, i.e. taking out the trash or whatever, and how you incorporated them into your new "normal" after the split.
Setting out traps for incompetent burglars is how i survive being home alone
skijumpnose that mac n cheese dinner is going to have to wait. 😆
What kind of traps?
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@@EMunaBee My go-to trap is a sheet of cellophane smeared with honey, hung in front of a doorway. When the bandit walks into the hanging cellophane, it triggers a fan set in front of a pile of feathers, that is then blown into his face as he slides the honey coated cellophane off of it. It's my favorite because once he has escaped all of that, he can still be easily spotted tip toeing away.
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Single, home owner, 5'1; buying a $50 industrial step stool from home depot was probably my greatest new home owner purchase. (even tho cheap me thought I was crazy at the time) I am also "frugal" and will not hire someone to just do things for me. Yay for living alone- truly, no kids to mess up my house after I clean it, so I suppose I am at an advantage there.
Should have added that nowadays you can diy almost anything, I have fixed my car and various things around the house solely off of youtube tutorials. Saved a ton of $$.
Me and my daughter have been living alone for a couple of years after my divorce, thank you for making life not seem so bad and strangely comical, you are hilarious Mayim :)
I’m not divorced but I’m home alone with the kids almost all the time due to my husbands work schedule. I agree on these tools! Thanks for your videos they are always informative and entertaining.
Mayim, as someone who has pretty much spent their entire adult life single, Here are things I recommend that EVERYONE (Note: Not just men or women, but EVERYONE) should know as an adult:
1. Basic home repair and maintenance. Plumbing, electrical, roofing, drywall, etc. There are many things the average homeowner (of either gender and of any height) can do on their own.\
2. Personal Finance. Everyone should have a basic understanding of credit cards, loans, checking and savings accounts.
3. Self Care. Not enough people know this. Also, take a basic first aid course.
4. Basic Home Skills. Again, everyone should have some rudimentary knowledge of how to cook, clean, darn, etc.
5. Basic auto repair and maintenance. This one isn't as important if you don't have a car or ever plan on owning one. But if you do drive, THIS IS MANDATORY. Know how to check fluids, charge a battery, how to safely jumpstart a vehicle, how to safely change a tire, how to change lights, how to change a battery, etc.
Also, every adult should have a basic tool kit for home, a fire extinguisher, a step ladder (not just a stool), a larger ladder, a toolkit for the car, etc. Also, there are simple "How To" books that can help with a majority of these tasks.
Or be a memmber of an extended vibrant community who pool responsibilities and each person helps the other and there is trust and mutual respect.
After being divorced for almost 20 years, I love living alone. Your video brought back some memories from a long time ago. When I wasn't to keen in being alone. And I do remember being glad there was a plunger in dah house.
I have one of those sink unclogger things. Total life saver!
Plus, I’ve never been married and love living alone and have had those things for years. Thanks for another fun video 😊
Bottom line - get over being afraid of getting dirty. Learn to take care of the things you can handle on your own. The plumbing items are a great start. Build a small tool kit; hammer, screw drivers, pliers. They will save you in the long run -- Particularly if you learn to use them.
as a tall guy[6ft4in] i can tell u the only 2 good reasons to be tall are that im the first to know if its raining and the last to know if someone farted. other than that its just ducking ceiling fans
Not the only good things. When was the last time you had to ask someone to reach something for you at the grocery store? (5'2")
@@Athena-xp4lt and we tall guys need yall tiny girls to get the stuff off the bottom shelf ,,,every year they put the floor farther and farther away for us old tall guys
@@rdvaughan70 Lol. No one has ever had to ask me to do that. I have been asked to read a label more than once, but not by someone who was tall. I have my uses, but I would've liked to be a good 6 or 7 inches taller.
@@Athena-xp4lt i need a short person lol...part of being tall is bad back problems so ducking down is a pain...u know ur getting old when before you bend down to pick up money off the ground it better be a 5$ bill or bigger to make me bend down to get it
I've been divorced for a long time now, and I just learned to clear my own sink thanks to you! Thank you so much!!!
You should also have a basic tool kit too, something with a hammer, screwdriver (with multi heads) pliers ect. doesn't have to have a ton of things, just some basics. You might not even need to use it often, but when you need it its great.
As a very short girl (5ft 1) I love my step ladder. Wont have a home without one.
Ha! My wife had FIVE, yes five hammers. What did I catch her using to sink a nail? The rolling pin. SMH
I'm a plumber. So the first 2 were amusing. And yes, the things that come out of drains are foul. Instead of a plunger, get a closet auger. RIGID makes one. Its roughly $40. It works better, is actually the correct tool for the job, and is cleaner. The zip stick is a good choice for your bathroom sink, and your bathtub.
It seems so sad to me that women aren't just naturally assured of their own ability to care for their own surroundings.
Can you drive?
Then you can hang a picture!
It takes less ability.
I promise.
For me its more that someone else has already done it for me. When im around someone that can do it they just do because their quick. Then when that person isnt there anymore its hard to know where to start and it can seem overwhelming especially when something is busted and youre trying to fix it but have no idea if youll be successful or break it.
We give away power in massive amounts,,, till we are completely dry and small and the sorrow of being single has become the major THING in our life
We live alone..... so?
I'm actually happily married.
I can still build a garden bed, hang a shelf, use the lawn mower and the stud finder.
These are skills every single human being needs. The ability to care for your surroundings is crucial and beings swiftly lost.
My parents were awesome. They basically told me it was my responsibility to learn how to drive a manual and automatic transmission, use tools, change a tire, plunge a toilet, manage vehicle maintenance, assemble furniture, do laundry and cook for myself. Self reliance is a gift we give to our children.
not this woman. this video is sad to me. why are these revelations?
How i love her confidence in talking about her conditions and being happy with it !!!
living alone wouldn't bother me one bit, it's awesome
I've done it for 45 years now and loved every day of it. Total freedom and control.
If your house has forced warm air heat (the air vents in every room)(also usually also combined with air conditioning) the system has a filter that needs to be changed regularly, usually monthly, but some will let you go three months. Failure to change the filter regularly will decrease system efficiency and cost you more money to run it, but also can cause damage to the system requiring expensive repairs or replacement of the system. Really, the filters are cheap and need to be changed.
Personally, I like Jeff Foxxworthy's take.
"Some people tell me, 'Jeff, I'm not married and I'm not single. I'm divorced.' Now to me, being _divorced_ is the same as being _single,_ except you _don't_ have as much _furniture."_
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Jeff Foxworthy's version of : "Sensuous".
Sens-u-ous "up" can you grab me a beer? One of my all time favorites! LOL
I learned to restart my furnace myself last year after we ran out of heating oil on a 9° night in January and the oil company told me they couldn’t get here for 36+ hours... yet expected that I would have stayed here to wait for them so I could let them in to restart the furnace. Actually, they never told me about needing to stay here until after they got around to delivering it and left. 1- Yes, we have “guaranteed” auto-delivery. 2- Handicapped attorney homeowner SO without hypothalamus function regulating his body temperature. 3- Little town, no hotel. 4- There’s only so many hours anyone can spend inside Wal-Mart. Thank you to Google and RUclips who helped me save us.
Totally agree with things you need. Honestly, being divorced and living alone, haven’t been so terrible. Love having the remote control and watching what I want to; cooking if you want to or not; cleaning up right after eating or leaving it to sit until the next day or two; being a bum and staying in your pj’s all day......so many little perks to doing YOU! Plus, nowadays, you can find how to fix almost anything on RUclips! I’ve learned how to do a lot of things and it feels great!
I'm with you. If I don't feel like cooking, I don't. It is really nice not to have someone ask, what are we having for dinner. Sometimes I would say, whatever you are going to cook. Best to you.
Congrats on the plunging. My advice on plunging is that the pull is more important than the push. If something won’t go down, bring it slightly up, so that it shifts and can break apart. Don’t pull so far as to break the seal between the plunger and the bowl. Shower drains are another story.
The sink unclovver thing we always called a snake. It is so useful for unclogging the sink, even for tubs and shower drains too.
My dad taught us all some odd things growing up, and some more now that I'm an adult. How to unclog a shower drain with a wire coat hanger. How to change a washer on a tap. How to install a washing machine and/or dishwasher. How to fix a toilet where the water is no longer running into the cistern. Changing a fuse. And when we moved out of home, he gave us each a toolbox full of tools. Might seem odd, but having those tools has made a whole lot of problems go away. Biggest thing may have been to have some A.I. gloves handy, because they are useful for a lot of things, like when someone breaks a limb and you need to cover the cast so they can bathe, for sticking your arm in the toilet to retrieve the two rolls of toilet paper the toddler put in there, for sticking your arm down the kitchen drain pipe to remove sticks, empty cans and generalised debris that the kids have stuffed down there. A.I. gloves and tools would have to be my tips for living alone.
You are so amazing! You did forget one thingy...the gripper to open those pesky jars 🤗
No need. Use a rubber band instead. Put it around the lid, grab and watch the miracle.
I use the handle of a butter knife and hit the lid all around and I can open it
@@petrmaly9087 ok. I just did that with a sauerkraut lid I was trying to open for the last week and it worked! Your advice is a God send!!!
Thanks. I'm fighting big gripper making corporations one rubber band at a time. This easy life hack is brought to you by photographers who tried to figure out how to unscrew stuck filter from a camera lens.
Other possibilities :
- Pour hot water on the lid for few seconds. The metal expands more than the glass. Works for most of the cases.
- Put a butter knife under the rim and with a slight twisting motion, make it loose. Do not use force, do it gently. Do it al over the rim. It will release the grip from where it is stuck.
- if the lid is soft, just cut into it with a proper tool, do an x cut and pour it out.
A Woman that is so down to earth! Thank you from the depths of my heart. I could of used this video after my divorce. But Holly M hit it on the head, Dad taught me how before I was 18.
I have them all. Also boiling hot water down the sink help keep it clog free and clean
As someone going through a divorce currently, it brings me hope to see someone who has gone through it and become to positive and strong!
College is near and I am about to live alone. Your videos are really timely and helpful. Thanks for sharing nice content. 😍
The one thing my late wife hated was unclogging the sink. She was very disturbed about all the hair that went down there. I understand this is not uncommon amongst most people. So it is a good survival tip. I would recommend that you become familiar with the mechanisms in the back of the toilet. Especially if you flush, and discover nothing is going down. It is important to be able to take the top of the tank off, and push down the plunger that allows the water to go into the bowl. This will prevent a bathroom flood. This is not recondite information, but vital if your kid decides to see what happens if the security blanket gets caught in a swirly.
I was given a sink unclogger thingy last year. Never knew they existed but it is THE BEST!
It's called a snake and hers is terrible.
Love your videos. People seem to forget that actors are real people with real issues. I'm so glad that you keep it real.
The sink unclogger thingy is amazing! Works great in the shower too. You got this. Rock on!
We have 2 long haired people using one bathroom and there is a way to avoid any need for cleaning hair from the pipes. Just use shower/sink hair catcher (filter for the drain).
In my house the rule is: you plug it, you plunge it! Although when it comes to sinks, I'm always the one that gets stuck unclogging them. :-/ The plastic doohickey you show here is very useful but before you use it..... dump a 1/2 cup of baking soda into the drain, then a cup or so of plain white vinegar. Let it foam and bubble and just walk away. Leave it for about an hour. Then run scalding hot water down the drain. This method breaks up many clogs on its own but you may still have to use the plastic doohickey too. However, it will be a far less stinky job afterwards. :-)
Great idea!! I use baking soda/white vinegar to clean my kitchen sink drains but never thought of doing it in the bathroom before using the plastic doohickey.
@@SonshineLady7 The bathroom is where most of the hair clogs are so I always use the vinegar/baking soda method first, followed by the drain unclogger. I also find it easier to use the unclogger while the water is running to keep the gunk from flying all over the sink and me. :-/
I am divorced as well. I love the content on your channel.
I love living alone; no more worries about what's going to piss her off next. I can make a decision without getting flack from someone else. This can go, that can stay, see, no arguments. Life is so much easier alone; than, to have someone that doesn't have your back in all things.
Hi Mayim..Love the video. I'll check out the Wix website. I love your Jumper. Is that an Avengers illustration ? I'm an introvert so I'm used to living alone. ♥️
As a single, divorced Nanna, one thing stood out to me.....your tuxedo tomcat is very similar to mine. They are the best reason to stay single, ever. ❤️
This is so accurate! Lol. I would also add some type of bug killer... bug killer that can kill from a distance 😂
Cats are good at that.
Mayim Bialik yes! I have one of those too lol
My cats don’t help me with that. And I don’t want to kill living things so it puts me in a bind 😕
Cause I’m vegan I don’t wanna kill the bugs. My cats just stare at them lol
I am impressed with how ordinary a life you live. I am sure you are well able to afford a plumber or handy “man” the fact you do things yourself teaches your sons to be strong and independent and you are an encouragement to women in similar circumstances.
Thanks for this great video! I’m heading to buy 2 of those 3 items. Thankfully, I have at least one of the 3... you can guess which one it is . Lol 😂 I genuinely appreciate this type of informational video. Maybe, you can make more of these for us? Please...😊
I love my company, appreciate my cooking, my taste in music,.I live in the mountains and nature is my mistress. Somebody like Mayim gets my motor going.
Mayim all do respect your not really alone you have your children.
Plus, you have a cat to hug when you feel stressed.
Mayim, I finally got around to cleaning out my shower drain this weekend. It was draining slowly, you know, long hair problems. And up came a formerly pink toothbrush and a green bendy straw. Neither are mine, and I cannot for the life of me figure out how they got there! There are neither kids nor pets living in my apartment, just me. Baffling and also a bit funny. And thanks again for getting real and practical about living alone.
As a single woman who lives alone (and already owns a solid step stool! #5ft3)... I need to find that Sink Unclogger Thingy in the UK asap, omg. People never think about the simple things.
Kerison Leigh I live in the UK, and have just looked online to see where I can get them from. They are called Drain Snakes, and Amazon do a lack of 10 for £6.99. If not, both Homebase and The Range seem to sell them.
*pack
@Karen Thank you! You're a gem ❤️ I'm absolutely going to pick up a pack from Amazon, my hair's currently shedding like crazy from stress and I need them in my life!
Kerison Leigh That’s exactly why I need them! My hair falls out like crazy. Am about to place an Amazon order myself 😃
Wilko do a stainless steel drain spring so you can disinfect it after using less than £10 too
Mayim I'm married but my spouse is usually at work when something like a clogged toliet or screeching smoke alarm is happening. I have those very three items at our house as well and I can take care of the problem without waiting for him to come home. These items are essential for any home or apartment. If you can get a plunger and sink declogger for every bathroom if you have more then one. Also get the tapered plunger because the flat plunger won't do the job as well.
Love this video, and love your channel in general. Love your personality too. I live with my two kids. It's hard doing it on own, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm ok with being single. :)
You know, I am a 62 year old man. I like watching you talk about household stuff. I did handyman stuff for a year on my own.
Anyway, I think you are adorable. Enjoy what you are doing.
lol you are awesome!
But I must say, it is a good idea to have all of these things even if you are not living alone!
Indeed, those things and many more. A complete tool box is nice.
I recommend having 2 plungers; one for toilets and one for sinks. I keep the large black accordion plunger in the bathroom. And the small, red flat plunge under the kitchen sink.
Technical term for #2 is a drain snake. If you have teenagers but a multi pack you will need them
Boiling water and vinger also works great ,especially if you dont want to use chemicals pr spend a lot of money
Or living with a man who has no idea how unclog a toilet 🚽😑 Thank you Mayim! You’re the best!
Just remembered this - When I was newly divorced I lived for several more years in our house that was built in the 1930's. (Talk about things that can go wrong.) One Thanksgiving I heard water running and discovered something in the hot water heater had broken and water was shooting out the top like a geyser, creating a small river that was slowly rising and making its way from the laundry area to the rest of the house. I turned off the hot & cold water by the heater but the water kept on flowing. Out of the blue I remembered having seen the water meter reader or someone from the department pulling up an iron lid in our front yard. No idea what it was but, with nothing left to lose, I went to that iron lid, pulled it up, and there was apparently the main water shut-off for the house. Whew!!! Realllly glad I have lived in apartments with maintenance people since I sold the house.
I'm 25 years old, single, and live alone. I dunno how I'll stand living with someone ever again 😢
@ Alysha you sound like the perfect woman
I will say that it's a harder change the longer you've lived that way.
@@rickhammar1636 I'm genuinely curious as to why you say that 😂😂
@@Athena-xp4lt I bet! I'd have to have a big place to be able to handle it I think.
@@joeytribbianicore It is way to long of a conversation for a post like this but I will try to sum it up. First know that I am 50, divorced from a 27 year marriage, have two kids 8 & 14 so my perspective us vastly different than yours. Also know that because of the BS I have been through, though I was once a traditional two parent family guy I know longer care for that way of thinking, for lack of a better way to phrase it. I have long heard stories of divorce rape in family courts, my mom was divorced twice & I never met my real dad. Then at 26 years in my wife did it to me. There is no way I could ever marry again but I don't hate women. I have forgiven my ex & told her so but when trust is destroyed to duch an extent it is difficult to ever regain. I could tell you stories for days about this type of stuff. What I have noticed at 50 versus 21 when I got married is that there seems to be a huge divide between tbe sexes. I lean mgtow because I most just want to be left alone in peace not because I am a woman hater. I don't bash women. The problem is men & women were designed to complement each other not compete with each other. Feminists don't make very good wives. I that will piss of the majority of women reading this but it is how most if not all men feel. ( allow to interject here that I am speaking in generalities from my experiences there are always exceptions to the rule). I don't mean that I want a woman in subjection as some men want. I in fact like a woman who is intelligent as well as intellectual & even independent. I don't feel any desire to be a baby sitter. I want a woman for a companion. The problem is feminism tells women they don't need men & beta men can't handle an independent woman & thus a divide between the sexes grows deeper & deeper. I don't need a woman to support me, I am not looking to start another family at 50, I am a grown man I don't need a woman to tell me how to live my life& I certainly don't need a woman to drag me through divorce court again & I certainly have no desire to inflict any of that on a woman. Relationships go south in my opinion because of sex & communication. Women marry because they want to be taken care of financially & men marry because they want to be taken care of sexually. When couples compete rather than complement all the sex & communication comes to a halt. Most of the happiest couples I know are not married & some don't even cohabitate. It does break my traditional heart to know that my children may never know the happiness that a healthy martiage can bring but the truth is with the growing division in the sexes the odds are against them. Men may mot need women & women may not need men but a society in a downward spiral needs division between the sexes. Two people ( this is an example ) who still want companionship but find it hard to live together because of all of lifes bullshit.......well that would make a woman like you the perfect woman.
hmmm... I have lived alone most of my adult life except for a short stint when I had room-mates. The step-stool I definitely agree with, but I've managed maybe by luck or .... or luck... to so far never need a toilet plunger or sink unclogger. I would suggest getting those strainer things that fit over the sink hole. My essential tools are a screwdriver set, a flashlight and a pair of scissors for the kitchen. Invariably screwdrivers are needed to open tins, put doors back on cabinets when they're loose, etc. Flashlights for obvious reasons. And scissors in the kitchen for cutting things like plastic and paper, and other things that are difficult to tear. Opening jars also - the screwdriver (Break the air seal, jar opens easily).
Been married for 7 years and sometimes I dream about living alone 😂
Pretty sure that was on her list of things NOT to say to a divorced person.
I have been married 20 years. My husband once had to go on a 6 week business trip and it was amazing. I know how you feel. lol
@Chandler Bing he knows 😂
@@MyStylist.Naomi12 I'm sure that logic goes both ways
Ani McCormick, that's normal! Marriage is a learning experience! We are being refined in the fire! If you can, hang in there! Year #7 was my toughest... going on #13 :) definitely getting better with time!
Very good advice cause it’s sooo true!! I’ve lived alone for 9 years and you learn to do what you can to fix things. It’s a great accomplishment! 👍👍
For jobs that exceed a plunger and trap cleaner, try a product called Green Gobbler. It saved my main drain from needing a professional.
And the 3-pack comes with a sink unclogger thingy.
Ive have lived alone ever since i was 18, today im now 45. Ive lived alone for a very long time. What i love the most about that every room in my house is mine, im very proud to have lived a independant life, if when i die i die alone then i will say that i leave this world proud, independant, and free.
I've had a huge crush on you since the blossom days 😍 I live 30min south of Kalamazoo mi
wtf
I am divorced (x3 - let's just say their warranties ran out) and widowed x 1. (Had I stayed in the "divorced marriages" My total would be widowed x 4). After each one I added to my such necessities, cordless drill, leaf blower, the plunger and a metal snake, step ladder. Love that you are teaching your boys these survival skills too! Can't wait to see your new website!
I'd love to live alone you're lucky! :P I still can't afford to move out of my parents' house and I'm 26.
I'm dying!!! Literally, after my very first night living in LA the first thing I HAD TO BUY is a plunger. It's been 6 years and has served me well.
Slight regrets on watching this during breakfast.... But that's our Thursday morning tradition!
Anyway, good basics for anyone living alone. I've seen cute gift baskets given to college kids living alone for the first time. They always include things like paper towels and laundry detergent in a laundry basket. But dude, plunger! That's basic. And I don't mean that in a millennial way 🙄😒
I am 64..single and plan on staying that way...but I cannot argue with this list. A good sturdy stepstool is a life saver..and a good plunger is not to be laughed at.seriously.
“It will be covered with what looks like bile from the demon that lives at the core of the earth” 😂
Yup, I was single for 8 years after being married for 26 yrs. to a handyman. I have to learn everything. I have fixed a couple of washing machines, and dryers and a frig. I have used that drain thingy more times than I can count on both the bathroom sink and the tub. I have learned to check my own oil and pick up dead things in my yard. I the only good thing about being single was learning how strong I was... I have been married for 6 months now and he is not only a handyman but he know lawn care, plumbing, and is organized! About the only thing he doesn’t do is electricity. Here’s to all the single women not only making it but thriving! 🥂
I became very handy when I got divorced and I am still that way!
Mayim, I can tell just by the way you say you're divorced that you don't like it. I understand that, I'm divorced also and I prefer being married. Living alone feels like an unwelcome consequence of being " different " after divorce. A lot of people can just bounce back and date everyone and then eventually will just " settle " with what is simply ok. But you and I are people who want real intimacy and authenticity and dare I say it, love. It's harder to find in this world than you think it will be. When I was younger I had no idea how isolating getting older seems to be once you get past the age that everyone pairs off and starts raising families and things like that, about 30 usually. I have actually felt rather lonely since then and it's been many years ago that I turned 30. I married to " fix " the loneliness and have a partner in life and that created problems I never, ever thought I would experience, and I am glad to be out of now post divorce. I've observed in this world that a lot of people just settle for having " someone " and just because others are married doesn't mean they are happily so.
I think the best gift we can give ourselves post divorce is learning to embrace living alone. And like you said doing our own DIY tasks, and not thinking of ourselves as living in this strange state. Society tries to make us feel defective for not just getting another mate as though you can go to the store and buy them easily on sale. It's really tough to find a match, that is good for both people and healthy so that it can last. So if we " have to " be single perhaps we can find the grace in that state we live in. It is definitely a healthier state than remaining in a dead or toxic marriage just because we don't want to be alone. I think seeing how you struggle with the feeling of I " have to " live alone makes me feel better. As we all do when we realize we aren't alone in being alone, to reference that line from the Police song " Message in a Bottle "
I'm so relating to this topic. I recently had to buy a mower after researching them and then mow my own lawn after my divorce. Now this isn't the first time I've mowed a lawn, but it has been a long time since I've done that. And yes, I find out that fixing the things that need repair in an older house that is now mine falls either to me, or if I can't do it to save money then I have to pay someone else. So that is a good incentive to do it myself because all of those " specialists " cost a lot per hour. We are in good company, there are a lot of women who live alone these days. Thanks for sharing your fun and helpful tips on how to survive, it made me smile.