Charles Vollmar - successful chef…married, 2 kids; wife discovers he's gay...outed him to everyone
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Charles Vollmer, a successful California chef, shares his journey of coming out later in life and the challenges he faced. After being outed by his wife, he left his possessions behind and started a new life in San Miguel, Mexico. He is rebuilding his career as a culinary teacher and started sharing his story on social media. Charles discusses the unique challenges faced by men who come out later in life, the impact on their families, and the need for support and understanding. He emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and finding a community of like-minded individuals.
Hi Charles. I watch your clips on Threads. I came out at 40. I was ready at 29, but my older brother beat me to it and he had HIV and was dying, so I stayed in the closet. I always knew I was gay at a very young age before I knew what it was - I just knew I liked boys more than girls - although, I liked girls as friends (always have).
After I came out, I was happier living my authentic life.
I wish you all the best.
Hi David
Thank you for this. The RUclips algorithm just found you.
There a couple of things. I live in the UK and, I guess, like a lot of people US poilitics was not much more than knowing who the president was. That all changed in 2016, when I had so many "why" questions. I am much better informed now but there are just as many questions, they're just different. One of the things that has really shocked me about American life is the state of public discourse. It's all talking at rather than listening and responding to someone else's POV. Considering the astonishing contributions that country had made to virtually any area of human endeavour, I find this sad and v disappointing. It is so refreshing to find a channel where people from the US talk like the adults in the room.
The second thing I wanted to say relates to later life change. I am 63 and am currently 12 months in to training as a counselor. It is something I have wanted to do since for over 20 years, mostly as a result of the 7 years it took to get over a 10 year gay relationship that ended when I was 40. I had very little money at the time, so recovery was mostly self-guided plus a few sessions of CBT. Afterwards I wanted to find a way to train so that I could help other people in need of professional help.
Nothing about my life now is what I thought it would be 30 years ago. Most of it is better, some of it isn't. Some days I leap out of bed, a few days I have to talk myself into moving at all. Really I just wanted to acknowledge the quietness with which you had the conversation I just watched. It was inspiring.
I'm glad you found OLWD. Like you, my life is not what I thought it would be 30 year ago. It appears we're both extending ourselves to others to help them in their personal journeys. Thank you for noticing the "quietness" of these important conversations about life. I honor the courage of each person who bravely shares their story and a bit of their life with others. Beautiful people.
BRAVO for telling how you eventually acknowledged your authenticity that was suppressed for so long. What I have learned is the range of reactions when people's 'world' fundamentally alters. Disappointments & accusations are always present, but vindictiveness is NOT. Consequently, while experiencing the uncertainty involved in honouring your authentic self, you have had to process what you didn't expect of others. Who said that CHAOS can never invite to to grow your wisdom? BRAVO