Society has us so brainwashed to please others that either we don't know what we love or we're too ashamed to pursue what we know we love. And that only leaves one thing-- the discipline to pursue things we don't love. Thank you, Rick.
Rick, thanks so much for this video. I’m really glad I watched it because it really resonated for me. I’m about 5 years into my BJJ journey and lately I’ve been not enjoying it as much as I did before. After seeing this I realize it’s because instead of just showing up and doing what I love I have become obsessed with the “right” way to learn it. The optimal amounts of drilling vs rolling. The most high percentage techniques to learn. All of these things that have completely distracted me from what I loved about it originally. When I think about it I’ve done this with many things in my life because I’m a perfectionist by nature and I end up sucking the life out of things I enjoy by trying to perfect them.
Rick, this is one of the best motivational talks that I've ever heard. Truly master class! Well done! I hope that you are feeling better, from how you look and sound it appears that you are.
I am exactly the same way. I get hyper focused on learning one thing, and I achieve a moderate to high level in that one thing and then I may set it down for a while and focus on something else, but I always go back to it and maintain a decent skill level. I think of it as a thirst for understanding the nature of experiential existence. I'm 38, I've published two books, written an album, I can play several instruments, I own a Dojo and teach Parkour and Martial Arts, I recently took up BJJ, I own an off grid homestead and have lived off grid in the forest for 7 years with my wife and three kids. I graduated electronics engineering, I used to breed and run a team of sled dogs, I hold several ranks in several martial arts and the only reason I have been able to achieve all of this things at my age is because I just keep doing what I love to do.
@@janeygenraam7923 not really? There are people out there who have achieved a lot more than me, and I'm always a little envious of people who stick with just one thing and master it. Since I'm always trying new things to get good at, I've never really mastered anything.
That’s incredible. I’ve always had many interests as well but would be struck by the thought “when I’m gonna find the one thing?” Now I realize “the one thing” simply does not exist, there’s only curiosity. Same goes for relationships, either you invest time and effort or you’re just not interested. There is no soulmate or “the one”. “The one” is always yourself.
I truly enjoy the way you communicate. The message is clear and delivered in a way makes me think. Today’s message was one I Really Really Needed to Hear. Thank You.
Great video. I am just getting back into BJJ, and switching careers at 33, all as a new father. I hope I can teach my daughter how to find joy in life’s endeavors. Thanks man for all the great videos and hope you are enjoying your new journey in So Cal!
Recommend looking into Niklas Luhman and his Zettelkasten approach to academic scholarship; similarly underlying philosophy. Could be worth incorporating into how you talk about this topic in the future.
It's funny, I've friends who started a year ago with me - obviously still white belts - they are focused on who they tapped today. I'm focused on improving a skill. I like going, don't care about tapping, do care about whether I can retain guard. They're outcome focused, can't happen fast enough. I'm focused on the process. There's is not sustainable. I want to do this in parallel with my kids from 6 to 16.......
Rick, I think this is the only video where I really disagree with you. Your advice works perfectly fine for you, your son and people who are born wired that way. Your son, for example, showed interest in computers and coding very early in his life. That innate curiosity drove his habits and helped him stay on the course in something that is both interesting for him and what marketplace needs. However, what would you do with a son who doesn't show interest in anything productive, that can eventually benefit him and a society? There are lot of children like that. And what do you do with a son like that? You have two options: Let them be who he is and ensure guaranteed failure in life, or teach them how to build good habits, develop discipline and learn some skill that will be valuable for them and that marketplace needs. I opt for the latter one. Don't forget what the great Carl Jung said: "Laziness is the greatest passion of mankind, even greater than power or sex or anything.” You need a discipline to overcome that or your life will be a miserable experience.
Hey Rick, thanks for the video. I started jiu-jitsu 3 months ago and absolutely love it. Last Monday I sprained my knee and I feel sad (a bit depressed, honestly) by being forced to stay away from an activity I really love doing. Any tips on how to deal with injuries in jiu-jitsu?
My 1st year was filled with injuries. Looking back I noticed that heavier opponents, new white belts, young with Ego problem, all caused me injuries. So I stay away from them. I would rather roll slow with someone who cares about not injuring me. From my 2nd year, I haven’t been sidelined by injury. The answer to, “how do I get a black belt?” Don’t get injured.
@@magcitrate First and foremost, you cannot always avoid an injury. Second, a black belt by itself has no meaning at all. I wipe my ass on that. If you practice a martial art for the color of your belt, I think it's pretty pathetic. This just shows to me that you have a big ego and like to be in the spotlight. A bit childish, but also many adults are so pathetic.🙄
I think this is survivorship biases. For the vast majority of people having a plan, and intentions will be beneficial. This is akin to listening to a lottery winner say sell your stuff but lottery tickets because it worked for them.
The new generation sees that working hard, having dedication and going after it does not get you much. The system is too rigged towards the ones with money and power. You can get an education, work your arse off and never really get past being just a mere employee with shattered dreams that has to work for a trouser stain arsehole who just happened to get the $$$ from daddy.
This man is the real deal. no bull shit, no ego. Just pure positive observations.
Society has us so brainwashed to please others that either we don't know what we love or we're too ashamed to pursue what we know we love. And that only leaves one thing-- the discipline to pursue things we don't love. Thank you, Rick.
I hear the love of a mentor a father and the power of good parenthood.
A good person making good people better. 🙏🙏🙏
Rick, thanks so much for this video. I’m really glad I watched it because it really resonated for me. I’m about 5 years into my BJJ journey and lately I’ve been not enjoying it as much as I did before. After seeing this I realize it’s because instead of just showing up and doing what I love I have become obsessed with the “right” way to learn it. The optimal amounts of drilling vs rolling. The most high percentage techniques to learn. All of these things that have completely distracted me from what I loved about it originally. When I think about it I’ve done this with many things in my life because I’m a perfectionist by nature and I end up sucking the life out of things I enjoy by trying to perfect them.
Rick, this is one of the best motivational talks that I've ever heard. Truly master class! Well done! I hope that you are feeling better, from how you look and sound it appears that you are.
I am exactly the same way. I get hyper focused on learning one thing, and I achieve a moderate to high level in that one thing and then I may set it down for a while and focus on something else, but I always go back to it and maintain a decent skill level. I think of it as a thirst for understanding the nature of experiential existence. I'm 38, I've published two books, written an album, I can play several instruments, I own a Dojo and teach Parkour and Martial Arts, I recently took up BJJ, I own an off grid homestead and have lived off grid in the forest for 7 years with my wife and three kids. I graduated electronics engineering, I used to breed and run a team of sled dogs, I hold several ranks in several martial arts and the only reason I have been able to achieve all of this things at my age is because I just keep doing what I love to do.
Wow you are a tough one. 👏And do you feel good now to share this with us. Surely this strokes your ego?
@@janeygenraam7923 not really? There are people out there who have achieved a lot more than me, and I'm always a little envious of people who stick with just one thing and master it. Since I'm always trying new things to get good at, I've never really mastered anything.
That’s incredible. I’ve always had many interests as well but would be struck by the thought “when I’m gonna find the one thing?” Now I realize “the one thing” simply does not exist, there’s only curiosity. Same goes for relationships, either you invest time and effort or you’re just not interested. There is no soulmate or “the one”. “The one” is always yourself.
Thanks for taking that time to make deeper content - I’ve got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my heart!
Been quietly following your videos, coach, but this one is your finest. Thank you.
I think it's time to reassess my current life situation, thank you for sharing!
I enjoy these Rick moments. Him and Roy are wise individuals.
Hello Rick! Congratulations on your journey. you’re an inspiration. A hug from Brazil!
"(The joy of) persistence trumps talent every time."
Because of your video, I have updated my favorite motivational mantra :)
I truly enjoy the way you communicate. The message is clear and delivered in a way makes me think. Today’s message was one I Really Really Needed to Hear. Thank You.
Your wisdom shared is greatly appreciated, Mr. Ellis
Dude this is so true, the laziness to things I don't care about but hyper dedication to areas that fascinate me.. for better or worse 🤔
Fantastic video. I was surprised how much I got out of this 🙏
Great video and message thank you 😊
Thank you Rick.
Good advice Professor, plain and simple, and, completely true.
Bravo, well done sir. Thanks for this amazing piece of wisdom! It explains a lot of things when I look at my own life's successes.
Great video. I am just getting back into BJJ, and switching careers at 33, all as a new father. I hope I can teach my daughter how to find joy in life’s endeavors. Thanks man for all the great videos and hope you are enjoying your new journey in So Cal!
What a lovely, lovely video. We’ve trained with a lot of the same guys, Rick. Perhaps one day we can cross paths.
Great video sir. This channel rules
As always, solid advise professor. 🙌🏼
Thank you Sensei..! Makes Sense.
Great Advice!
Thank you Rick for sharing your wisdom and insights.
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great video
Awesome, subscribed
Pure gold. Thanks so much.🙏🍻
the journey is the reward
Recommend looking into Niklas Luhman and his Zettelkasten approach to academic scholarship; similarly underlying philosophy. Could be worth incorporating into how you talk about this topic in the future.
Thankyou sir
Good stuff 👍🏽
😀🙏💪🥋 thank you for the knowledge
It's funny, I've friends who started a year ago with me - obviously still white belts - they are focused on who they tapped today. I'm focused on improving a skill. I like going, don't care about tapping, do care about whether I can retain guard. They're outcome focused, can't happen fast enough. I'm focused on the process. There's is not sustainable. I want to do this in parallel with my kids from 6 to 16.......
Rick, I think this is the only video where I really disagree with you.
Your advice works perfectly fine for you, your son and people who are born wired that way. Your son, for example, showed interest in computers and coding very early in his life. That innate curiosity drove his habits and helped him stay on the course in something that is both interesting for him and what marketplace needs.
However, what would you do with a son who doesn't show interest in anything productive, that can eventually benefit him and a society? There are lot of children like that. And what do you do with a son like that? You have two options: Let them be who he is and ensure guaranteed failure in life, or teach them how to build good habits, develop discipline and learn some skill that will be valuable for them and that marketplace needs. I opt for the latter one.
Don't forget what the great Carl Jung said: "Laziness is the greatest passion of mankind, even greater than power or sex or anything.” You need a discipline to overcome that or your life will be a miserable experience.
Shoutout to all the BJJ players who are Software Developers.
This Explains Everything 100%. " THE PALE BLUE DOT" Carl Sagan....
Hey Rick, thanks for the video. I started jiu-jitsu 3 months ago and absolutely love it. Last Monday I sprained my knee and I feel sad (a bit depressed, honestly) by being forced to stay away from an activity I really love doing. Any tips on how to deal with injuries in jiu-jitsu?
Don’t stay away! Go to class, even if you just sit and watch.
My 1st year was filled with injuries. Looking back I noticed that heavier opponents, new white belts, young with Ego problem, all caused me injuries.
So I stay away from them. I would rather roll slow with someone who cares about not injuring me.
From my 2nd year, I haven’t been sidelined by injury.
The answer to, “how do I get a black belt?” Don’t get injured.
@@magcitrate First and foremost, you cannot always avoid an injury. Second, a black belt by itself has no meaning at all. I wipe my ass on that. If you practice a martial art for the color of your belt, I think it's pretty pathetic. This just shows to me that you have a big ego and like to be in the spotlight. A bit childish, but also many adults are so pathetic.🙄
@@magcitrate Yes, I got injured mainly rolling with bigger guys. I think it was me trying too hard to get them off me. Nowadays I tap early and often.
@@josephr2766 thanks and I will!
I think this is survivorship biases. For the vast majority of people having a plan, and intentions will be beneficial. This is akin to listening to a lottery winner say sell your stuff but lottery tickets because it worked for them.
The new generation sees that working hard, having dedication and going after it does not get you much. The system is too rigged towards the ones with money and power. You can get an education, work your arse off and never really get past being just a mere employee with shattered dreams that has to work for a trouser stain arsehole who just happened to get the $$$ from daddy.
Doesn't garuantee making any cash at it. Life is not fair or equal
Is this the BJJ philosophy and therapy channel?🙉
Thanks Rick - you just inspired me to sign up for LinkedIn Premium. 😆