I will add two more to the list: 1) "Aww you're too young to be disabled." It can happen at any point for any reason. 2) "You can walk just like the rest of us." No, that's why I use my wheelchair/cane/whatever else I need. Loved the video! Thank you for the info. :)
"You don't look disabled." Yeah honey the only reason you're still standing is that I'm running on about 10% of the energy you have and need my spoons for better things than punching you.
We need to politely but firmly ask them if they’d like being grabbed without warning; as a wheelchair is an extension of us, what they’re doing is essentially assault. This is also why I got foldable handles for mine!
That happened to me at a supermarket checkout recently. I've only recently started using a wheelchair, so I was completely taken off guard when the woman behind me pushed me through. It took a great deal of restraint to not get angry.
I have autism. One time I told one of my teachers after I got diagnosed and her reaction was “Oh! I’m so sorry!” As if I told her I had a terminal illness. It was more confusing than anything honestly.
Not long ago I had "YOU have kids?!" Erm, yep, parent, married, business owner. No-one needs to do any or all of these things, but many disabled people absolutely do too.
Number 3 is simular to blind or visually impaired people, because it happens a lot when stranger "want to help" and just pull you in a direction without asking
I think that people say we are faking, because they have no concept of what it is like to be disabled. It is good that they don’t know what it feels like, but they also need to take our word about how our disabilities affect us.
I think it also comes from the fact that a lot of people have a stereotype or very specific idea of what a disability may look like. Eg: all blind people have 0% vision, all people in a wheelchair are paraplegic & can't walk at all, etc. Most people don't understand that disabilities exist on a spectrum & that 2 people with the same disability can have very different experiences based on the extent of their disability. And don't even get me started on the lack of awareness around invisible disabilities. I've had several instances of people telling me I can't use an accommodation I need because I don't look disabled or I'm too young to have a disability.
The worst is when they BELIEVE they know what it's like, because they've had an experience that in THEIR mind is the same as our disability. I once talked with a girl about not being kind to oneself and pressuring yourself too much, and she said she knew exactly what I was talking about. She was healthy, had never been diagnosed with anything or missed school. She talked about studying too hard. However, I talked about my severe anorexia that led me to being sectioned to psychiatric hospital care over and over again, and how I almost died and was nowhere near being able to go to school for 6 years. Um, no. We were NOT talking about the same thing. She did NOT know what it was like for me. I just stopped seeing her after that. I often feel it's a culture clash to socialise with healthy people. I feel like I come from a completely different land and life than people who can work, study, have partners and kids. I can hardly take care of myself and my cat. My successful is being able to wash my hair twice a week, or going an entire day without anxiety. Not being depressed for three days in a row. When you live with chronic illnesses you feel like an alien around healthy people. Around other disabled people and spoonies, no matter if it's physical or mental, I feel like I can be myself.
@@SamirCCat yea, she should’ve said something like “I agree with the not being kind to yourself part, I’ve had experiences like that before, but I can’t compare it to yours, as yours is far too different from mine” then that way, she is not invalidating your experience by acting like studying was just as bad as what you went through and instead realizing that they are not the same thing as yours had different consequences than hers, while still addressing that studying can be hard on people.
My favourites are is "yeah but that's not DISABLED disabled" and "oh everyone forgets words sometimes/is tired after a long day!". Yes, you are correct. However I'm talking about my MS symptoms and maaaaaybe we're not talking about the same things?
OMG yesss this one is SOO frustrating! Before I became a wheelchair user and got my IBD diagnosis someone told me that wasn’t ’disabled disabled’ and I was baffled!!! All disabled people are valid wheelchair or not!
This is so true! I have POTS and I’ve been told that I’m not “sick enough” for a mobility aid or that I’m “just tired” when I feel lightheaded and in pain from walking for a long time. It sucks that some of these experiences are universal for those with disabilities.
I’m autistic Random idiot: We’re all a little bit autistic Me: Okay so do we all have a little pinch of diabetes, a smidge of cancer, perhaps a dash of Idiopathic Aplastic Anemia.
@@GeekChicPolitiqor those that say "Im a little ocd"like no.Its so disrespectful to people that are dealing with ocd or any other mental illness.You either have ocd or dont have it.
When people asked me “what happened?” I will happily go into graphic details. One of my disabilities relates to my intimate parts, and it tends to gross people out when I talk about it. The lesson here is, be careful what you ask, because you may not want to hear about it.
@@Jelly_Jay_15 There was one time I was hanging with some friends who were familiar with my condition, another person joined the group, and asked me about my disabilities. Everyone told him not to ask, as he would regret it. I said, "do you still want to know?" He said that he did. Afterwards, he said that he wished that he had listened to the others.
oh god yes it's always hilarious the way they react once a group of grannies asked me hey what happened what happened? and I said I have a degenerative and non curable illness. They all cried and apologised because they thought I have cancer or something that's going to kill me. I'm very grateful that my illness isn't one of them, but nonetheless, it's still not curable and degenerative. I was just very fed up with the way they asked that. We do NOT owe ANYONE our medical records.
I've been blind since birth and I swear the ignorance is rampant! At least once a month, someone will take my white cane out of my hand or try to use it as a pointer for me so that I can see where to go I guess, I don't know. Pretty much every item on this list that can apply to blindness has been said or done to me and just this morning, one of my Blind friends texted me that her professor asked her a sign language question. Honestly that one makes me laugh because just wow. But yeah anyway, thank you for making this video and bringing these things to light.
My husband and daughter say that about my disability benefit payments. They say I get 'free' money but I think I'd rather be working than have to suffer constant pain, tiredness (for no reason), stress and anxiety. The money I receive is to help with daily tasks, like cleaning, travel, getting dressed, eating, hygiene. I have to pay someone to help clean my house as I am no longer able to get down on the floor or scrub surfaces hard to clean them. I ask people how they would feel if they couldn't reach a spot on their body that needs to be cleaned and how embarrassing it is to acknowledge this to people.
10(don't pray for us without our permission) This is also very annoying for me as a trans person, for entirely different reasons though! I hate how often I'll be told I'm a sinner, and how other people will try to say we need to pray or they'll pray for us. It SUCKS, we are not sinners for being who we are
ill pray for you is meant to be for when youre sick or in pain to lighten the load and help get you in better shape and heal its also to just help people feel better knowing someone cares about them and takes time out of their day to pray for them. not to make you a non-sinner (which isnt possible). it should be "ill pray for you" to a trans person meaning "ill pray that god sends people that love you and helps those around you learn about and accept you for who you are" not "im going to ask god to make you a cissy and not a sinner"
@@Jacob-kx8go yes i understand, i was agreeing with you. its not meant to be used to cure the "sickness of trans-ness." its stupid. i totally get what youre saying and that use of it is bullshit. stay safe
Yes! I’m also disabled and trans. And happen to be an atheist Jew (this is thing as Judaism is an ethnic religion). Like not only do I not want their prayers but the implication that they also hate everything about my identity is awful.
The one thing that gets me is the famous '''you don't look disabled, or ''why can't you walk'' when I tell people that I am disabled and have learning difficulties. It beats me to wonder why people say that. There are different types of disability, hidden ones too and it it isn't just restrictive to lack of leg use.
I have several conditions affecting my mobilty and my whole body, I use a walking stick all the time and sometimes need a wheelchair, but everyone always asks "what's wrong with your leg?" One: it's not just my leg and Two: none of your business. Why strangers feel they have a right to know your detailed medocal history I will never understand. Great channel by the way.
this may be a more specific one but, "Get well soon / i hope you feel better! " for context i live in australia and am a teenager who uses a crutch, in australia (idk about other parts of the world) crutches ((especially for teens)) and often associated with a temporary sports injury like a broken foot or smthing... Due to this i get alot of "get well soons" this this annoying af because im not gonna get better, this is a permanant disability !!! ima be living with this for the rest of my life !!! + its also really annoying because they normally dont have bad intentions, they just dont think im disabled cuz mobility aids arent normalized for the young at all !!!
16. Don't act like you know everything about something you've never experienced! So many people will act like they know everything about being disabled, about another country or culture, about lgbt, about religions, when in actuality, they know nothing and probably haven't even done any research whatsoever! These people are the worst!!!!!
So true!! Being disabled due to mental illnesses means many people will give me "good advice" about how to "cure" my conditions. Apparently anxiety ceases to exist if you breathe a certain way with your nose?? And adhd is cured by "just focusing"?? And then when you mention bipolar disorder people just get scared of you because they see you as "crazy for real"... Haha, healthy people are so clueless!
#3 drives me insane. I once had some young men grab my chair and start racing me down a hill. I screamed at the top of my lungs and they stopped shocked whereupon they received Kat’s Lecture on the Care and Feeding of Others.
You're a more forgiving person than me. I would've gone for a demonstration on what a lifelong martial artist can do to a person, regardless of Parkinson's.
I'm autistic and struggle a lot with esp. social anxiety, and I wish that people who don't need priority seats just didn't use them at all. I can't be on public transport if I can't sit down, but I'm usually not able to ask someone to get up and let me sit down. (where I live we don't have those "please offer me a seat" badges, or anything else that would make people aware of not or less visible disabilities)
hey if u need them you could possibly try make them. you can get a bottle cap and glue a piece of paper onto cardboard of your desired badge size, write the "please offer me a seat" badge thingy and put it on the cap, then get a safety pin and glue it on. than kaboom home made badge !!! May not look as nice but it gets the job done.
I had someone tell me I'm not disabled because I can walk. Ironically I legit have trouble walking it can be very painful and sometimes I am unable to or limp quite a bit. I simply just cannot afford mobility aids.
Is there some way we can help you afford those? I'm lucky/privileged enough to have been able to get myself a walker and if I can chip in to help you with your needs to I'd love to!
@@Jelly_Jay_15 Heck, that sucks! A physical therapist can usually say what could help (both exercises and what kind of mobility aids could be a good fit) but seeing one of them can be even more expensive than the mobility aids. Frustrating that your mom isn't in your corner - can relate, my parents did a lot of denying obvious disability shit too 😵💫
Are you able to see a doctor without informing your mother? Where I live if you're 16 or older, health care workers can't share info with anyone but you without your permission, including family.
I have 2 physical disabilities (Hypermobility and Dyspraxia) and 1 mental disability (autism) and unfortunately I get treated horrible by people that think I just cant run or I can't do anything.
I personally perceive the prayer thing a little bit diffrent than you. I'm Christian, but had once had a Muslim friend on the internet. One day he asked how I've been, I told him that I've been good, but then he asked about my family, something like 'Is your family okay\healthy', and I told him that my grandma had just been diagnosed with cancer. He told me he was gonna pray for her - to a god, that I, obviously, don't and didn't believe in. I felt a little bit awkward because I didn't know exactly how to respond, but I didn't perceive it as something negative or troublesome at all. I ended up saying 'Thanks for your concern' - because I didn't believe his prayer would do anything, but I was grateful for his good intentions. Of course, that was different than coming up to a stranger, *touching them* and praying for them aloud - that, I think, would be uncomfortable for most believers, let alone atheists\agnostics\people of a a different religion than the praying one. Doing such a thing without consent is super weird and wrong. However I think there's nothing wrong in just saying that you'll pray for someone or just praying for them silently. I think that people who don't hate religion or have religious trauma won't have a problem with something that they see as ineffective but costs them nothing. I think if someone says that they'll pray for you while you're an atheist or don't believe what they believe, it's best to see their words as a sign of kind thoughts and general 'good energy' being sent to you (not necessarily like in some Wicca\New Age stuff, more like just some good vibes and care).
I too am a Christian and if a friend asked to pray for me I would thank them. For a stranger to come up and touch and start praying is totally rude. Or someone praying that I'll get up and be cured instantly is not okay. Some people look at a person with a disability and seem to see a pet dog or cat and want to treat you as a pet. Please use common sense.
@@westzed23 Yeah I agree, coming up to strangers and touching them without their permission is super rude and weird. I think that's what I said in my previous comment
Early this year I was a first time camp counselor at a camp I’ve been a camper for a few years at my camper used a wheelchair sometimes like I do I got excited because I can relate to my camper with using a wheelchair but a counselor told me I can’t talk about the camper using a wheelchair at camp i wasn’t even talking about the disability the camper has I just was talking about the wheelchair I got upset because I’ve grown up in the wheelchair community because of my disability since I was 6 years old but I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to get sent home I was using my walker at the time later we were heading to the camp gym and me and the camper were talking about wheelchair sports
@@DisabledEliza Thank you so much for having subtitles, but can you please use the correct punctuations in your subtitles? I'm disabled with difficulties in concentrating, that's why I need subtitles as well as hearing what's said, but the lack of punctuation makes it very hard for me to follow the meaning. I get very confused and have to rewind many parts. I'm not an English native speaker, and I'm very happy that you HAVE subtitles, it means a lot to me and many others ❤ But please, punctuation makes it so much easier to follow along!!
I’m a full time wheelchair user and my husband is able bodied. Sometimes he will sit in a disability friendly seat on a bus to keep it in reserve for someone who needs it. He gets up immediately when someone needs it. That way it would not be used by an able bodied person who doesn’t have the decency to move.
I live with a disability all my life . And I hate when people ask y do I need my walker if I can walk . Yes I can walk in a good day but someday my leg hurts so much I can’t walk walker or no walker
I haven't done any of these things (I think). And most of these things wouldn't be something I would do, except maybe sitting at a specific seat, but then if someone asked I would stand up.
I love that show. They lacked a bit in the representation of more higher support needs autistic people (at least ones that can't be in a class with neurotipical student), but it was still great!
@@PrincessAcornHair they really did didn’t they. I am currently being assessed for adhd and asd which is why this show is cool as it helps my family and me understand me
people.. pee in elevators?? what???? that is just. very weird... who would do that? is it just in london or something? for a little bit of context i live in america and i have never experienced that
sadly they do. I used to live in London for 10 years and even though I don't now it seems to be a feature of rail station lifts across the UK! (Probably worldwide I'm guessing)
@@DisabledElizathe smell of it wouldn't bother me as much, but for me personally I hate water on hard floors as I walk with crutches and the thought of slipping in pee, when I am trying to use something that should be safe and accessible for everyone is just ...😖😱.
My Nan was a wheelchair user since she was about 30 (rheumatoid arthritis and unable to stand) - her pet peeve was when someone would ask the person she was with "does she take sugar" or similar, rather than asking her directly.
5:47 The prayer thing can be annoying. I had it happen to me 5 times in 2019. Since I was early for work, I went to the park nearby and had bible thumpers come to me saying they ''were sent'' to help me, and then do a long random ramble of sorts with prayers and goodness knows what else. It was damn awkward.
Also don't say: “you're so brave for coming out!” or “ (person with me) is such an angel for spending time with you!” or you're too young to be like that” I can give an explanationion to anyone who asks about any of these.
I love this video I'm disabled i have tremors in my right leg where sometimes I have to use a walker or a wheelchair plus I have a feeding tube cuz I have a lot of GI issues that make it hard for me to swallow and I have gotten that you showed on the channel play my dog in my cat will tell me before I have a seizure and I've had where somebody would push me in my wheelchair when I didn't want to be pushed
I can't tell you how many times people ask 'what's wrong with you?'. My reply is always 'nothing' because I don't see that my illnesses are 'wrong'. Also, maybe because I don't get out much, I don't see many disabled people, like 1 or 2 maximum, so I feel very secluded and alone.
"Why did you even come here if you're disabled/sick" ok I'm not like disabled but I have marfans and I can't do any kind of sports, and I'm in almost constant pain, even walking bothers me. I went to a church camp just like every year (I just love it) but I wasn't participating to every single activity and some people from my team/age came up and just asked why are you even here if you're sick? Just stay home. I was sooo mad! I had so many other things to do and enjoyed that camp a lot!
Warning! ⚠️ If you ask me if I am able to have sex, I will answer your question graphically. I had this happen recently, and after I answered the woman said, “I don’t need to know that.” I replied, “well you did ask, what did you expect me to say?” They said, “that’s fair.”
With number 11, it doesn't goes for just people with disabilities, it's just gross, like just find where a toilet is. This might add to the disgust but I can just imagine kids in a hotel with a pool and then them just standing on a pee soaked elevator floor without shoes when they try to go for a swim
The amount of times I've been told I just have a superpower is stupid. Like my disability isn't your superpower Debra piss off. I have Audhd not laser eyes.
dont get me fuckin started on the SPED teachers saying oh we should change Special Ed to calling the students "students with exceptionality" i am disabled these students are disabled. why is that word seen by non disabled people as so horrible. its not a curse word...
Great video I would never thing someone is faking it but I do appreciate that you educated and experienced it to people because it can be helpful and more understanding hopefully and also as someone who has a disability as much as I like who am I let me honest no one wants to pretend to have medical problems or anything like that in their well mind because going to the doctor and that isn’t exactly fun
When people say your "lucky" Im an only child. People say im "lucky" or "omg! Your super lucky" Im not. Im alone EVERYTIME IM AT HOME. its always boring. Nothings good! (I just wanted to rant- sorry!)
Yes lying about access 😭 in my case i have a digestive disorder and eat mostly vegan bc of what i can properly process. I honestly stopped asking what people have for food at events. I invested in a cooler and I bring my own food now. So i also have to make sure at events theyll allow me in with food (i have to eat every 2-3 hours). So many times I go somewhere and people are like “you can eat mac and cheese right” 😩 im so allergic to dairy i cant even have milk powder or anything that even touches butter
I sustained a bad knee injury a few months ago which has resulted in stiffness and can be painful when I walk, climb steps or turn. I'm due to go on holiday soon which will involve a short flight. I have just purchased a collapsible walking stick, which I think will be useful for me. I'm in two minds about using it, as I don't want to draw attention to myself (I deliberately picked a stick in a plain, dark colour), but I'm too scared to go without one either. 😕
use one, most people are nice, ive recently started using a mobility aid ((single crutch)) too and i had your concerns too!!! so i got some things to help reassure you ((hope it works)) !!! -most people are nice about it, the rude people are very much the minority. -mobility aids are the most freeing thing in the world, youll be able to so much more !!! its amazing trust me its WORTH IT !!! -Youll be able to do things like getting accomadation without fear of judgement. -If you have a limp (or other more visible symptom, eg slow af walking) think about it like this; youll A, be judged and have to suffer through the pain in silence, Or B be judged and have a nicer time walking. -((In my experience)) mobility aids are great, they reduce exhaustion, pain, and limp ((if u have one)), whilst drastically increasing speed !!! -mobility aids ((and other visable dissabilites)) really let you see whats inside a person, how they are like, and by consequence; who to avoid... i put most people in 4 major camps; Unknown, kind, judgemental bitches, and saviour complex... in my experience 90% of people are in the unknown and or kind camps, the other two are the vast minority ... the other two more happens to me when im at school, in public these type of people are much rarer... - One of the best things (imo); it boosts your confidence BY SO MUCH !!! who knew that not stumbling and limping around everywhere would do this !!! when i use my mobility aid i feel like im top of the world lmfao. - I cant stress this enough mobility aids are so freeing !!! If you wish to get used to it and built up confidence step by step ((pun intended)) is to practice at home, then tiny walks around the neighbourhood, then parks and finally more busy locations ... i find the most nerve racking is your frequent locations like school and or work...
One of the great things I love about the U.S is that there's more access for disabled people than in other countries. All public places have ramps or drops in the pavement surrounding the building. If there are stairs an elevator is available. All these are because of the American Disabilities Act. I hope other countries will put something like that in place in the future.
Hi Eliza - just saw one of your shorts. I think they are great. I work in Accessibility standards in the UK and internationally (ISO). This ID is a pseudonym - is there some way I can email you to discuss ideas ?
I'm dyspraxic & my balance is so bad that I managed to fall downstairs trying to turn off my landing light. I've had 2 bad falls in the space of 18 months which have affected my mobility & my confidence. I have difficulty standing on public transport. I have to sometimes sit in the priority seats. The amount of elderly people who automatically give them my seat is staggering. I would if I wasn't at risk of injury. I also have to use disabled toilets as I need to pull myself up. I get filthy looks all the time.
I am blind and autistic this is so relevant. I have had people when using my white cane actually pick me up and put me on the bus freaked me out that was before I got my guide dog now I get the oh what your blind like blind blind no glasses which for some blind they due use glasses and are still considered blind
I am disabled and I get sick to the back teeth when people tell me that I am faking it. I have ankolosing spondylitis, dentinogenisis imperfecta, ADHD, PTSD, plus I am a recovering heroin and cocaine addict
i once had an uber driver laugh at me because i was young and using a walking stick. i have also been been given dirty looks by older ladies when coming out of the disabled toilets when i wasnt using a stick. Just because someone is young doesnt mean they arent disabled enough, please stop giving young people dirty looks and comments about what they should be able to do just because they are young.
Great video. Please can I have your permission to share it with a few people who really need to hear the message? The ones I get all the time are people telling me to ‘get over it’ or to ‘stop using it as an excuse’. As if being autistic and ADHD with urgent toilet needs is suddenly going to vanish. And I’ll stop using it as an ‘excuse’ when people listen and make the environment inclusive. Then I won’t need to bring it up.
at a buffet, i personally sneak corndogs into the buffet so others can enjoy them. I hide 6 corndogs in my jacket pockets. it then, is a joy for me to see other patrons of the establishment eat my corndogs thinking they were part of the buffet.
I must admit I do pray for people who need it, but I wouldn't put my hands on someone or pray in front of them, or even tell them I'm praying for them, that's disrespectful. It would be like a Muslim sending me prayers from Mohammed or a Hindu from one of their gods. No one should ever push their religion, agenda or thought-process onto other people. My daughter is not religious but she respects that I do and vice-versa.
I disagree with the prayer one. If the person is a believer and has actively asked for prayer, that's great. You do you. But it is dehumanising and disrespectful to approach complete strangers and offer to pray for them. It just gives the message that they aren't 'good enough' as they are and also that the only thing of interest is their disability. It is actually making the prayer person the centre of attention, making them feel good about themselves. It's crass, rude, degrading and ignorant.
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I will add two more to the list:
1) "Aww you're too young to be disabled." It can happen at any point for any reason.
2) "You can walk just like the rest of us." No, that's why I use my wheelchair/cane/whatever else I need.
Loved the video! Thank you for the info. :)
"You don't look disabled." Yeah honey the only reason you're still standing is that I'm running on about 10% of the energy you have and need my spoons for better things than punching you.
It freaks me out when strangers grab my wheelchair, I feel violated and vulnerable when this happens.
We need to politely but firmly ask them if they’d like being grabbed without warning; as a wheelchair is an extension of us, what they’re doing is essentially assault. This is also why I got foldable handles for mine!
That happened to me at a supermarket checkout recently. I've only recently started using a wheelchair, so I was completely taken off guard when the woman behind me pushed me through. It took a great deal of restraint to not get angry.
@@Cailus3542 It sure does.
I know they mean well, but it is very unsettling for us.
So sorry that happens it’s always so horrible!
@@DisabledEliza Thank you Eliza!
I have autism. One time I told one of my teachers after I got diagnosed and her reaction was “Oh! I’m so sorry!” As if I told her I had a terminal illness. It was more confusing than anything honestly.
She was genuinely very sweet though, just a little confused.
Not long ago I had "YOU have kids?!" Erm, yep, parent, married, business owner. No-one needs to do any or all of these things, but many disabled people absolutely do too.
Yesss so many people think we don’t have kids or simply won’t have them 😅
Number 3 is simular to blind or visually impaired people, because it happens a lot when stranger "want to help" and just pull you in a direction without asking
i can’t even imagine someone pushing you without permission that must be so annoying and im sure it makes u angry.
I think that people say we are faking, because they have no concept of what it is like to be disabled.
It is good that they don’t know what it feels like, but they also need to take our word about how our disabilities affect us.
I think it also comes from the fact that a lot of people have a stereotype or very specific idea of what a disability may look like. Eg: all blind people have 0% vision, all people in a wheelchair are paraplegic & can't walk at all, etc.
Most people don't understand that disabilities exist on a spectrum & that 2 people with the same disability can have very different experiences based on the extent of their disability.
And don't even get me started on the lack of awareness around invisible disabilities. I've had several instances of people telling me I can't use an accommodation I need because I don't look disabled or I'm too young to have a disability.
It's because they have no idea how much of a full time job it is just to be a disabled person navigating society and the social wellfare states
The worst is when they BELIEVE they know what it's like, because they've had an experience that in THEIR mind is the same as our disability.
I once talked with a girl about not being kind to oneself and pressuring yourself too much, and she said she knew exactly what I was talking about. She was healthy, had never been diagnosed with anything or missed school. She talked about studying too hard. However, I talked about my severe anorexia that led me to being sectioned to psychiatric hospital care over and over again, and how I almost died and was nowhere near being able to go to school for 6 years.
Um, no. We were NOT talking about the same thing. She did NOT know what it was like for me. I just stopped seeing her after that.
I often feel it's a culture clash to socialise with healthy people. I feel like I come from a completely different land and life than people who can work, study, have partners and kids. I can hardly take care of myself and my cat. My successful is being able to wash my hair twice a week, or going an entire day without anxiety. Not being depressed for three days in a row.
When you live with chronic illnesses you feel like an alien around healthy people. Around other disabled people and spoonies, no matter if it's physical or mental, I feel like I can be myself.
@@SamirCCat I totally relate to what you are saying.
@@SamirCCat yea, she should’ve said something like “I agree with the not being kind to yourself part, I’ve had experiences like that before, but I can’t compare it to yours, as yours is far too different from mine” then that way, she is not invalidating your experience by acting like studying was just as bad as what you went through and instead realizing that they are not the same thing as yours had different consequences than hers, while still addressing that studying can be hard on people.
My favourites are is "yeah but that's not DISABLED disabled" and "oh everyone forgets words sometimes/is tired after a long day!". Yes, you are correct. However I'm talking about my MS symptoms and maaaaaybe we're not talking about the same things?
What's MS? Not trying to be rude, but I haven't heard of that before
OMG yesss this one is SOO frustrating! Before I became a wheelchair user and got my IBD diagnosis someone told me that wasn’t ’disabled disabled’ and I was baffled!!! All disabled people are valid wheelchair or not!
This is so true! I have POTS and I’ve been told that I’m not “sick enough” for a mobility aid or that I’m “just tired” when I feel lightheaded and in pain from walking for a long time. It sucks that some of these experiences are universal for those with disabilities.
@@Jacob-kx8goMultiple Sclerosis
That's ridiculous, MS is what they would call "disabled disabled" it can be very serious
"we're all a little bit [insert disability here]"
Omg yes! 😡 Like I'm not on the highest dose available of dexamphetamine just because 'we're all a little bit ADHD', pal.
I’m autistic
Random idiot: We’re all a little bit autistic
Me: Okay so do we all have a little pinch of diabetes, a smidge of cancer, perhaps a dash of Idiopathic Aplastic Anemia.
Oh gosh, this all the time. Hate it so much.
@@Elodie-xi3pp And they think it's a compliment "we're all a little bit autistic, though, aren't we?" smug grin. No!
@@GeekChicPolitiqor those that say "Im a little ocd"like no.Its so disrespectful to people that are dealing with ocd or any other mental illness.You either have ocd or dont have it.
As an autistic person the worst thing I've gotten is "you can thank vaccines for that"
ewww ew ew ew ew thats like ew thank my dad not vaccines
People saying vaccines cause autism are the same ones thinking lgbt is a choice or illness or something
And they are dumb
people are so rude! i cant ever imagine saying anything like that to someone!!
Those people are stupid, vaccines don't cause Autism, the ignorance of people I swear
(this comes from another Autistic person)
That's disgusting! I got "that's everywhere these days" and "isn't everyone on the spectrum somewhere?"
When people asked me “what happened?”
I will happily go into graphic details.
One of my disabilities relates to my intimate parts, and it tends to gross people out when I talk about it.
The lesson here is, be careful what you ask, because you may not want to hear about it.
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r/traumatizethemback
Oh my gosh I love that they will never ask again
@@Jelly_Jay_15 There was one time I was hanging with some friends who were familiar with my condition, another person joined the group, and asked me about my disabilities.
Everyone told him not to ask, as he would regret it.
I said, "do you still want to know?"
He said that he did.
Afterwards, he said that he wished that he had listened to the others.
oh god yes it's always hilarious the way they react
once a group of grannies asked me hey what happened what happened? and I said I have a degenerative and non curable illness.
They all cried and apologised because they thought I have cancer or something that's going to kill me. I'm very grateful that my illness isn't one of them, but nonetheless, it's still not curable and degenerative. I was just very fed up with the way they asked that.
We do NOT owe ANYONE our medical records.
I've been blind since birth and I swear the ignorance is rampant! At least once a month, someone will take my white cane out of my hand or try to use it as a pointer for me so that I can see where to go I guess, I don't know. Pretty much every item on this list that can apply to blindness has been said or done to me and just this morning, one of my Blind friends texted me that her professor asked her a sign language question. Honestly that one makes me laugh because just wow. But yeah anyway, thank you for making this video and bringing these things to light.
I can't wrap my head around accusing someone of faking.
My husband and daughter say that about my disability benefit payments. They say I get 'free' money but I think I'd rather be working than have to suffer constant pain, tiredness (for no reason), stress and anxiety. The money I receive is to help with daily tasks, like cleaning, travel, getting dressed, eating, hygiene. I have to pay someone to help clean my house as I am no longer able to get down on the floor or scrub surfaces hard to clean them. I ask people how they would feel if they couldn't reach a spot on their body that needs to be cleaned and how embarrassing it is to acknowledge this to people.
I am sorry that this is something you're getting from your own family. I hope they learn and give you the support you need and deserve. ❤
10(don't pray for us without our permission) This is also very annoying for me as a trans person, for entirely different reasons though!
I hate how often I'll be told I'm a sinner, and how other people will try to say we need to pray or they'll pray for us. It SUCKS, we are not sinners for being who we are
ill pray for you is meant to be for when youre sick or in pain to lighten the load and help get you in better shape and heal its also to just help people feel better knowing someone cares about them and takes time out of their day to pray for them. not to make you a non-sinner (which isnt possible). it should be "ill pray for you" to a trans person meaning "ill pray that god sends people that love you and helps those around you learn about and accept you for who you are" not "im going to ask god to make you a cissy and not a sinner"
@ambrosesky
Usually though they see being lgbt as some kind of illness and pray to "cure" us of being lgbt
@ambrosesky
They also say that they'll pray to save us from our sin or whatever.
@@Jacob-kx8go yes i understand, i was agreeing with you. its not meant to be used to cure the "sickness of trans-ness." its stupid. i totally get what youre saying and that use of it is bullshit. stay safe
Yes! I’m also disabled and trans. And happen to be an atheist Jew (this is thing as Judaism is an ethnic religion). Like not only do I not want their prayers but the implication that they also hate everything about my identity is awful.
The one thing that gets me is the famous '''you don't look disabled, or ''why can't you walk'' when I tell people that I am disabled and have learning difficulties. It beats me to wonder why people say that. There are different types of disability, hidden ones too and it it isn't just restrictive to lack of leg use.
Faking disability is one that gets me. My mom could walk a couple of steps before she needs her cane.
16: Treat us like a human being.
I have several conditions affecting my mobilty and my whole body, I use a walking stick all the time and sometimes need a wheelchair, but everyone always asks "what's wrong with your leg?" One: it's not just my leg and Two: none of your business. Why strangers feel they have a right to know your detailed medocal history I will never understand.
Great channel by the way.
this may be a more specific one but, "Get well soon / i hope you feel better! "
for context i live in australia and am a teenager who uses a crutch, in australia (idk about other parts of the world) crutches ((especially for teens)) and often associated with a temporary sports injury like a broken foot or smthing... Due to this i get alot of "get well soons" this this annoying af because im not gonna get better, this is a permanant disability !!! ima be living with this for the rest of my life !!! + its also really annoying because they normally dont have bad intentions, they just dont think im disabled cuz mobility aids arent normalized for the young at all !!!
16. Don't act like you know everything about something you've never experienced!
So many people will act like they know everything about being disabled, about another country or culture, about lgbt, about religions, when in actuality, they know nothing and probably haven't even done any research whatsoever!
These people are the worst!!!!!
So true!! Being disabled due to mental illnesses means many people will give me "good advice" about how to "cure" my conditions. Apparently anxiety ceases to exist if you breathe a certain way with your nose?? And adhd is cured by "just focusing"?? And then when you mention bipolar disorder people just get scared of you because they see you as "crazy for real"... Haha, healthy people are so clueless!
#3 drives me insane. I once had some young men grab my chair and start racing me down a hill. I screamed at the top of my lungs and they stopped shocked whereupon they received Kat’s Lecture on the Care and Feeding of Others.
You're a more forgiving person than me. I would've gone for a demonstration on what a lifelong martial artist can do to a person, regardless of Parkinson's.
I'm glad you stood up for yourself ❤️🔥
@@Cailus3542 can’t say I haven’t done that as well ::whistles innocently whilst staring at the ceiling::
I'm autistic and struggle a lot with esp. social anxiety, and I wish that people who don't need priority seats just didn't use them at all. I can't be on public transport if I can't sit down, but I'm usually not able to ask someone to get up and let me sit down. (where I live we don't have those "please offer me a seat" badges, or anything else that would make people aware of not or less visible disabilities)
hey if u need them you could possibly try make them. you can get a bottle cap and glue a piece of paper onto cardboard of your desired badge size, write the "please offer me a seat" badge thingy and put it on the cap, then get a safety pin and glue it on. than kaboom home made badge !!! May not look as nice but it gets the job done.
As a person will mental health issues, i am somewhat happy that I got to see your wonderful videos.
I had someone tell me I'm not disabled because I can walk. Ironically I legit have trouble walking it can be very painful and sometimes I am unable to or limp quite a bit. I simply just cannot afford mobility aids.
Is there some way we can help you afford those? I'm lucky/privileged enough to have been able to get myself a walker and if I can chip in to help you with your needs to I'd love to!
@@FreshAlacrity that's sweet of you but my mom won't let me get mobility aids unless the doctor says I need it but she won't bring me to the doctor
@@Jelly_Jay_15 Heck, that sucks! A physical therapist can usually say what could help (both exercises and what kind of mobility aids could be a good fit) but seeing one of them can be even more expensive than the mobility aids. Frustrating that your mom isn't in your corner - can relate, my parents did a lot of denying obvious disability shit too 😵💫
@@FreshAlacrity yeah it's annoying
Are you able to see a doctor without informing your mother? Where I live if you're 16 or older, health care workers can't share info with anyone but you without your permission, including family.
I have an invisible disability and people think there is nothing.wrong with me.
“You don’t look disabled” is another thing you should never say, but unfortunately, I’ve heard people say it a lot.
I have 2 physical disabilities (Hypermobility and Dyspraxia) and 1 mental disability (autism) and unfortunately I get treated horrible by people that think I just cant run or I can't do anything.
I personally perceive the prayer thing a little bit diffrent than you. I'm Christian, but had once had a Muslim friend on the internet. One day he asked how I've been, I told him that I've been good, but then he asked about my family, something like 'Is your family okay\healthy', and I told him that my grandma had just been diagnosed with cancer. He told me he was gonna pray for her - to a god, that I, obviously, don't and didn't believe in. I felt a little bit awkward because I didn't know exactly how to respond, but I didn't perceive it as something negative or troublesome at all. I ended up saying 'Thanks for your concern' - because I didn't believe his prayer would do anything, but I was grateful for his good intentions. Of course, that was different than coming up to a stranger, *touching them* and praying for them aloud - that, I think, would be uncomfortable for most believers, let alone atheists\agnostics\people of a a different religion than the praying one. Doing such a thing without consent is super weird and wrong. However I think there's nothing wrong in just saying that you'll pray for someone or just praying for them silently. I think that people who don't hate religion or have religious trauma won't have a problem with something that they see as ineffective but costs them nothing. I think if someone says that they'll pray for you while you're an atheist or don't believe what they believe, it's best to see their words as a sign of kind thoughts and general 'good energy' being sent to you (not necessarily like in some Wicca\New Age stuff, more like just some good vibes and care).
I too am a Christian and if a friend asked to pray for me I would thank them. For a stranger to come up and touch and start praying is totally rude. Or someone praying that I'll get up and be cured instantly is not okay. Some people look at a person with a disability and seem to see a pet dog or cat and want to treat you as a pet. Please use common sense.
@@westzed23 Yeah I agree, coming up to strangers and touching them without their permission is super rude and weird. I think that's what I said in my previous comment
Early this year I was a first time camp counselor at a camp I’ve been a camper for a few years at my camper used a wheelchair sometimes like I do I got excited because I can relate to my camper with using a wheelchair but a counselor told me I can’t talk about the camper using a wheelchair at camp i wasn’t even talking about the disability the camper has I just was talking about the wheelchair I got upset because I’ve grown up in the wheelchair community because of my disability since I was 6 years old but I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to get sent home I was using my walker at the time later we were heading to the camp gym and me and the camper were talking about wheelchair sports
The lying about access. Grrrrrrrrr
Hate it!!
Thank you so much for all the information. Also, Pam is absolutely adorable!
Thank you!
@@DisabledEliza Thank you so much for having subtitles, but can you please use the correct punctuations in your subtitles? I'm disabled with difficulties in concentrating, that's why I need subtitles as well as hearing what's said, but the lack of punctuation makes it very hard for me to follow the meaning. I get very confused and have to rewind many parts. I'm not an English native speaker, and I'm very happy that you HAVE subtitles, it means a lot to me and many others ❤ But please, punctuation makes it so much easier to follow along!!
Number 13(don't ask about s3x) I personally can't relate to this one, but so many people in lgbt community will get asked about s3x which is... Yeaaa.
I’m a full time wheelchair user and my husband is able bodied.
Sometimes he will sit in a disability friendly seat on a bus to keep it in reserve for someone who needs it.
He gets up immediately when someone needs it.
That way it would not be used by an able bodied person who doesn’t have the decency to move.
I live with a disability all my life . And I hate when people ask y do I need my walker if I can walk . Yes I can walk in a good day but someday my leg hurts so much I can’t walk walker or no walker
I haven't done any of these things (I think). And most of these things wouldn't be something I would do, except maybe sitting at a specific seat, but then if someone asked I would stand up.
You are just like addie in a kind of spark with how you love sharks
I love that show. They lacked a bit in the representation of more higher support needs autistic people (at least ones that can't be in a class with neurotipical student), but it was still great!
@@PrincessAcornHair they really did didn’t they. I am currently being assessed for adhd and asd which is why this show is cool as it helps my family and me understand me
Yay, being disabled, back of the net! 🎉
Seriously though, being disabled gives us a lot of challenges.
people.. pee in elevators?? what???? that is just. very weird... who would do that? is it just in london or something? for a little bit of context i live in america and i have never experienced that
In London it’s pretty common! I’d say maybe in every 5 lifts I go in there is pee on the floor or it smells of it 😅
sadly they do. I used to live in London for 10 years and even though I don't now it seems to be a feature of rail station lifts across the UK! (Probably worldwide I'm guessing)
@@DisabledEliza or it smells of the cleaning fluids used to clean it up!
Unfortunately it happens in Denver quite a bit
@@DisabledElizathe smell of it wouldn't bother me as much, but for me personally I hate water on hard floors as I walk with crutches and the thought of slipping in pee, when I am trying to use something that should be safe and accessible for everyone is just ...😖😱.
5:53 WTF, PEOPLE ARE CRAZY. People actually do that? That's so low. It's disgusting.
Great video Eliza!
Thanks!
My Nan was a wheelchair user since she was about 30 (rheumatoid arthritis and unable to stand) - her pet peeve was when someone would ask the person she was with "does she take sugar" or similar, rather than asking her directly.
5:47 The prayer thing can be annoying. I had it happen to me 5 times in 2019. Since I was early for work, I went to the park nearby and had bible thumpers come to me saying they ''were sent'' to help me, and then do a long random ramble of sorts with prayers and goodness knows what else. It was damn awkward.
Really enjoyed the way this video was presented as well as its content some of which I hadn't realised the importance of. I will share. Thank you.
Also don't say: “you're so brave for coming out!” or “ (person with me) is such an angel for spending time with you!” or you're too young to be like that” I can give an explanationion to anyone who asks about any of these.
I love this video I'm disabled i have tremors in my right leg where sometimes I have to use a walker or a wheelchair plus I have a feeding tube cuz I have a lot of GI issues that make it hard for me to swallow and I have gotten that you showed on the channel play my dog in my cat will tell me before I have a seizure and I've had where somebody would push me in my wheelchair when I didn't want to be pushed
I can't tell you how many times people ask 'what's wrong with you?'. My reply is always 'nothing' because I don't see that my illnesses are 'wrong'. Also, maybe because I don't get out much, I don't see many disabled people, like 1 or 2 maximum, so I feel very secluded and alone.
I would answer the same. My disability is my normal so therefore nothing is wrong.
Great advice Eliza & I love London, England ❤have a Happy Thursday!
Happy Thursday!
@@DisabledEliza Same to you too!
"Why did you even come here if you're disabled/sick" ok I'm not like disabled but I have marfans and I can't do any kind of sports, and I'm in almost constant pain, even walking bothers me. I went to a church camp just like every year (I just love it) but I wasn't participating to every single activity and some people from my team/age came up and just asked why are you even here if you're sick? Just stay home. I was sooo mad! I had so many other things to do and enjoyed that camp a lot!
Warning! ⚠️
If you ask me if I am able to have sex, I will answer your question graphically.
I had this happen recently, and after I answered the woman said, “I don’t need to know that.”
I replied, “well you did ask, what did you expect me to say?”
They said, “that’s fair.”
With number 11, it doesn't goes for just people with disabilities, it's just gross, like just find where a toilet is. This might add to the disgust but I can just imagine kids in a hotel with a pool and then them just standing on a pee soaked elevator floor without shoes when they try to go for a swim
The amount of times I've been told I just have a superpower is stupid. Like my disability isn't your superpower Debra piss off. I have Audhd not laser eyes.
I have a different disability but I agree with you.
@@susanscott8653 yeah it sucks
#13 is so underrated
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dont get me fuckin started on the SPED teachers saying oh we should change Special Ed to calling the students "students with exceptionality" i am disabled these students are disabled. why is that word seen by non disabled people as so horrible. its not a curse word...
I genuinely have no idea why some are like that
I have austim and sometimes i get the its not a real thing or the r word.
Love this video I had all this said and done to me why it’s so frustrating
Great video I would never thing someone is faking it but I do appreciate that you educated and experienced it to people because it can be helpful and more understanding hopefully and also as someone who has a disability as much as I like who am I let me honest no one wants to pretend to have medical problems or anything like that in their well mind because going to the doctor and that isn’t exactly fun
When people say your "lucky"
Im an only child. People say im "lucky" or "omg! Your super lucky"
Im not. Im alone EVERYTIME IM AT HOME. its always boring. Nothings good!
(I just wanted to rant- sorry!)
Yes lying about access 😭 in my case i have a digestive disorder and eat mostly vegan bc of what i can properly process. I honestly stopped asking what people have for food at events. I invested in a cooler and I bring my own food now. So i also have to make sure at events theyll allow me in with food (i have to eat every 2-3 hours). So many times I go somewhere and people are like “you can eat mac and cheese right” 😩 im so allergic to dairy i cant even have milk powder or anything that even touches butter
😩😩😩 number 5 makes me so mad
Same!!
also for #11, it’s not only disabled people who use elevators. so if u pee in the elevator ur just inconveniencing everyone
I sustained a bad knee injury a few months ago which has resulted in stiffness and can be painful when I walk, climb steps or turn. I'm due to go on holiday soon which will involve a short flight. I have just purchased a collapsible walking stick, which I think will be useful for me. I'm in two minds about using it, as I don't want to draw attention to myself (I deliberately picked a stick in a plain, dark colour), but I'm too scared to go without one either. 😕
use one, most people are nice, ive recently started using a mobility aid ((single crutch)) too and i had your concerns too!!! so i got some things to help reassure you ((hope it works)) !!!
-most people are nice about it, the rude people are very much the minority.
-mobility aids are the most freeing thing in the world, youll be able to so much more !!! its amazing trust me its WORTH IT !!!
-Youll be able to do things like getting accomadation without fear of judgement.
-If you have a limp (or other more visible symptom, eg slow af walking) think about it like this; youll A, be judged and have to suffer through the pain in silence, Or B be judged and have a nicer time walking.
-((In my experience)) mobility aids are great, they reduce exhaustion, pain, and limp ((if u have one)), whilst drastically increasing speed !!!
-mobility aids ((and other visable dissabilites)) really let you see whats inside a person, how they are like, and by consequence; who to avoid... i put most people in 4 major camps; Unknown, kind, judgemental bitches, and saviour complex... in my experience 90% of people are in the unknown and or kind camps, the other two are the vast minority ... the other two more happens to me when im at school, in public these type of people are much rarer...
- One of the best things (imo); it boosts your confidence BY SO MUCH !!! who knew that not stumbling and limping around everywhere would do this !!! when i use my mobility aid i feel like im top of the world lmfao.
- I cant stress this enough mobility aids are so freeing !!!
If you wish to get used to it and built up confidence step by step ((pun intended)) is to practice at home, then tiny walks around the neighbourhood, then parks and finally more busy locations ... i find the most nerve racking is your frequent locations like school and or work...
3:48 this one hurts. Especially from loved ones.
One of the great things I love about the U.S is that there's more access for disabled people than in other countries. All public places have ramps or drops in the pavement surrounding the building. If there are stairs an elevator is available. All these are because of the American Disabilities Act. I hope other countries will put something like that in place in the future.
That's not entirely true but it is certainly better than other countries which is pretty sad
I've moved customers canes but only because they kept knocking them over. So I pick it up and move it within reach or lay it on the counter.
2:42 It is accurate, I'm a disabled person with a condition called Muscle dystrophy (DMD).
Hi Eliza - just saw one of your shorts. I think they are great. I work in Accessibility standards in the UK and internationally (ISO). This ID is a pseudonym - is there some way I can email you to discuss ideas ?
I'm dyspraxic & my balance is so bad that I managed to fall downstairs trying to turn off my landing light. I've had 2 bad falls in the space of 18 months which have affected my mobility & my confidence. I have difficulty standing on public transport. I have to sometimes sit in the priority seats. The amount of elderly people who automatically give them my seat is staggering. I would if I wasn't at risk of injury. I also have to use disabled toilets as I need to pull myself up. I get filthy looks all the time.
Oh, Sharks are my favourite animal too!
I am blind and autistic this is so relevant. I have had people when using my white cane actually pick me up and put me on the bus freaked me out that was before I got my guide dog now I get the oh what your blind like blind blind no glasses which for some blind they due use glasses and are still considered blind
I am disabled and I get sick to the back teeth when people tell me that I am faking it. I have ankolosing spondylitis, dentinogenisis imperfecta, ADHD, PTSD, plus I am a recovering heroin and cocaine addict
Are you finally out of your flare up? Hope this is ok and feel free to comment if you want me to delete this if not
Slowly getting there! Taken a good few weeks this time! Feeling some what more myself again thanks for checking in!
@@DisabledEliza that’s awesome to hear
i once had an uber driver laugh at me because i was young and using a walking stick. i have also been been given dirty looks by older ladies when coming out of the disabled toilets when i wasnt using a stick. Just because someone is young doesnt mean they arent disabled enough, please stop giving young people dirty looks and comments about what they should be able to do just because they are young.
Great video. Please can I have your permission to share it with a few people who really need to hear the message?
The ones I get all the time are people telling me to ‘get over it’ or to ‘stop using it as an excuse’.
As if being autistic and ADHD with urgent toilet needs is suddenly going to vanish. And I’ll stop using it as an ‘excuse’ when people listen and make the environment inclusive. Then I won’t need to bring it up.
Did I misunderstand you or did you say that PEOPLE PEE IN ELEVATORS? At around 5:53??
I thought that was odd too, but no, you heard correctly. Apparently people do it.
Wait.... what I'm from UK Gloucestershire 😅😂😂
Do people actually pee in the lifts ?
Yes unfortunately very very common!
@@DisabledEliza are yall ukay in the uk??? ((-from an aussie))
I've never come across that before, but given how ignorant society is becoming, it doesn't surprise me.
don't tell us that you would kill yourself in that situation
at a buffet, i personally sneak corndogs into the buffet so others can enjoy them. I hide 6 corndogs in my jacket pockets. it then, is a joy for me to see other patrons of the establishment eat my corndogs thinking they were part of the buffet.
ok im going to watch the video and see if this relates to it at all, but this is so kind and just so silly (positive) 😭
Number 1 is at 50 seconds in
It's an 8 minute video my dude
Holy shit please dont wee in lifts omg london what is wrong with you!?!
I have brittle bones diseas
I must admit I do pray for people who need it, but I wouldn't put my hands on someone or pray in front of them, or even tell them I'm praying for them, that's disrespectful. It would be like a Muslim sending me prayers from Mohammed or a Hindu from one of their gods. No one should ever push their religion, agenda or thought-process onto other people. My daughter is not religious but she respects that I do and vice-versa.
Do not pray for anyone who doesn't ask for it. It's incredibly disrespectful.
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I disagree with the prayer one. If the person is a believer and has actively asked for prayer, that's great. You do you. But it is dehumanising and disrespectful to approach complete strangers and offer to pray for them. It just gives the message that they aren't 'good enough' as they are and also that the only thing of interest is their disability. It is actually making the prayer person the centre of attention, making them feel good about themselves. It's crass, rude, degrading and ignorant.