Hi, a friend showed me this video and there's something fundamentally wrong with it. It'll probably be buried with all the comments going on, but I figured I'd write it anyways. About 99.9% of the circumstances for the background of the story are about me 'OP' and 'Aurora.' -How I met her in a previous FC with the same exact scenario "bidding on a house" -My personal background (Age was wrong though, and it's almost Eastern European but it's complciated so whatever) -'Aurora' being mute and her subsequent health issues - being in the same static raid group, PS3 being where there was a clear shift in what Mr. Raid Leader wanted to do -'Aurora's'current rank in the FC, and her housing being auto-demoed I did not submit this story though. I have no proof, but I suspect it was 'Mr. Raid-leader' who did so, trying to make up a story about how he and 'Aurora' were an item with each other and to slander me. Or something, I don't know. I know this channel is meant for entertainment, and everyone has already made their thoughts regarding it and gotten their entertainment. Just wanted to state: if my suspicion is correct, this is 'Mr. Raid Leader' writing a story as if he was me. I saw in a comment that it seems like OP is an unreliable narrator; this is spot on. I didn't write this, and the story is framed as me writing it. @Alessiaalderan1 It's S.N writing here. We all miss "Aurora" @Pathra I don't know if you do updates or anything like that, but feel free to contact me for any verifications you want. Everyone, hope you enjoyed the popcorn :)
@@holy9781 I would be more than happy to provide verification for @pathra if she chooses to request it for an update or whatever she'd like to do. Or if she doesn't, it's cool. I don't mind. I just don't want it broadcasted for 'Aurora''s sake. But those other commenters are not alts, I can assure you of that.
@@holy9781 Hey, IDK about other supposed "OP" posts, but this post here is legit. I know all three individuals involved, and for RL to have submitted this story is 1- sadly not surprising and 2- super fucked up. As one of "Aurora"s close friends, this whole thing is super fucking screwed up, especially exposing for the sake of??? what, clout??? some of Aurora's health issues.
For being an anonymous story. Calling slander is extremely weird. No one knows in general who anyone is. This comment reinforces the feeling of a weird individual who does match this story
Calling Mr. Raid Leader joining clear parties an "Incident" definitely makes the OP seem unreliable, and getting upset about Aurora and Mr. Raid Leader spending time together was definitely off-putting, since OP wasn't even dating Aurora, OP comes across as possessive there!
To me, this whole story was him imagining he's in a relationship with Aurora and getting very possessive over a person he met in game where she can't enjoy her own time intereacting with whoever she wants. OP needs a reality check and to touch a little grass here and there.
We have 3 situations here that can be look at since we got a very... "sensitive" story, based on OP's text. 1) After reading some comments I must agree with the majority that mentioned that OP created this "relationship" between him and Aurora. They were good friends, OP wanted more from it, but unfortunately to her it wasn't meant to be. More communication could've been involved in this case, but both sides didn't communicated properly or enough. At the same time she could've voiced her status to OP, he should also be more gentle and less pushy. (Pathra and other comments said that, I think everyone got that part.) Also, it's common friends to bond in game for the items and convenience of the TP depending on their activities (hunts, gathering, etc...). And* we have bonds available for free so people can do that as much as they want. 2) Mr. Raid Leader and Aurora's situation was clearly getting closer, but there is nothing OP could do about it or even be upset about it since they (op and Aurora) were not official (I know it's hard but, yeah). First, because is Aurora's life and she decides who she wants as partner (this is applicable for OP too, if the situation was inversed). Second, was part of Mr. Raid Leader's will to be with her for a while too, and even if OP informed of his feelings about Aurora, if Mr. Raid Leader and her clicked, why would he give up on his wishes? Maybe, considering that Mr. Raid Leader didn't called her for a next group and also disbanded the first, their relationship fizzled out at some point, and she didn't mentioned to OP to not give high hopes. Still, keeping contact in a civil break up is common and that could be their case. 3) Suspicions aside, Aurora's diagnose and her distancing from the game in general could be a real thing. Specially because he mentioned that she allowed her house to demolish, something that people that love housing would make them confront others to keep it instead of losing it with absence. She stopped logging for months, lost both House and FC and in the end of the day the character is still there. Usually catfishes take the valuables before disappearing (house, gil, items). If she took OP out of her private house and kicked him from the FC I'd believe more in the catfish story. So... I guess we will never know. I won't repeat what others already said about OP having to move on (which is a thing) or the tips that he should take it easy with girls in the future. But something that I'd would say is, despite all the stories we hear out there about catfishes it's fair to give the benefit of the doubt others at first. So don't be suspicious about everyone all the time. I know that the math usually shows us more the "bad actors" but those are the vocal minority. Real people with real conditions don't have their story spread to others as fast and noisy as people faking it. Bad news travel faster than people like to admit and gossip is gold for our community, everyone loves it and shares it all the time. (This is not me defending her or any other catfishes, it's just me entertaining the possibility in this case, specially because we just know OP's story. There are always 3 sides: his, hers and the truth.) [[ sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language ]]
I don't know if Auroras story is true or not but sorry, OP should get it together. He is mad because the woman he was or is in love with enjoyed the company of someone else. Did he ever tell Mr. Raid Leader that he has feelings for Aurora? Probably not. Did he tell Aurora? Probably not. There is no good reason to be mad at Mr. Raid Leader in my opinion. He didn't do anything wrong. At least not from what OP is telling us and I am sorry to say it but this "he didn't deserve her" and the "he stole the time I could have had with her" sounds more like a jealous little child. Aurora wasn't and isn't your property, OP. And if SHE felt like hanging out with someone else for a time then this is something that should be respected. Just saying.
I agree, Aurora doesn't owe OP her time or company, she has the right to spend time with whoever she wants! It rubbed me wrong how OP was upset at them for spending time alone together when OP and Aurora aren't even dating! Definitely seems like OP's jealousy was the main issue here!
I'm standing in limsa RIGHT NOW and someone is basically having this same issue and conversation with people in shout chat. It's either a crazy coincidence or they saw this video lol!
OP sounds like one of the people from r/niceguys. It sounds like a one-sided love from someone who what clearly friend-zoned but never admitted it. I wouldn't be surprised if Aurora felt suffocated by OP. Also, it seems to me like Mr. Raid-leader only wanted to raid. Dude was out there helping people clear outside of designated clear times. And then he straight up dropped Aurora because she clearly didn't want to raid as hard as he did.
19:00 is so true, so many guys that are terminally online don't understand that a girl does not like to be bombarded with love and affection the moment you meet her, it comes across as super weird especially tons of compliments and stuff like that. also he hadn't even met her in irl or even knows if it's a girl. all the signs here lead to it most defiantly being a guy lol. excuses after excuses then a random cancer diagnosis yea sounds fake asf to me. this is why I avoid guys in games a lot especially when they start acting super clingy and weird, i will tell them I have a bf irl and they continue to act this way with no boundaries is an instant block for me. for example recently I met a perosn in some ranked games on lol and played a few games with them, only spoke in messages about basic things and he started telling me how special i was to him and that he wanted to gift me games and stuff like bro chill out, I know you for a week and only had basic small chats only in message, you don't even know if I'm a girl or not(I am but so many fake online)??????? they think they're being nice but it comes across as too forward and desperate, which a lot of women don't like... it is also typical behavior from incels i see, they bombard you with pushy love and then if you get weirded out they will say all women are bad and call you names. (this happened to me where a guy called me a whore because I stopped responding to him when he got weird)
"Hey, Mr. Raider, Mr. Raid Leader Tell me where you're going, tell us where you're headed I'm on my way to Dawntrail Mr. Raider, can we tag along? Can we take the journey?" 8:56
Tell me some of your combats, tell us of your trials Mr. Raider (Oh-oh-oh-oh) Tell me where you're going, tell us where you're headed I'm on my way to Dawntrail Mr. Raider, can we tag along? Can we get that carry? hahah!
I think I know you OP, and I had the pleasure of meeting Aurora, she was my friend, and one of the best in ff14. thanks to her, I meet so many amazing ppl that have the pleasure of still call friends, yourself included. I had my differences with her but still miss her too, I think a lot that knew her does still... But as someone that also meet someone in the game, thinking that was my true soulmate, only to find he had someone else besides me... I think I can tell you that you should try to move on.... she will always be an important part of your life, but there's always someone out there waiting...believe me, I once thought that I wouldn't find someone else, but as they say and is super true... the ocean is full of fishes, and I'm sure you can be a great fisher, don't forget her ever... but don't close your heart.
Preach Pathra! 🙌 Your advice at the end was spot on. I feel bad for OP, but I think this is a standard case of someone in FFXIV falling way too hard for someone they meet in the game and who is friendly to them. It's so easy to get swept up in it all, and only see what you want to see vs what the reality is. As a neutral third party looking at the situation from the outside - I think Aurora was just not that into OP. I think OP read a little too much into their interactions while Aurora seemed to just think of them as friends. I have been in a similar situation and its easy for a kind gesture or speaking with someone to cause certain feelings to arise from 1 party. Aurora can not help that OP feels that way for her, but he didn't seem to read the subtle signs she was giving off. I feel like with some communication between the two would have helped clear things up. Hopefully OP can move on and eventually find who/what he is looking for. And hopefully Aurora is doing well despite her issues. ❤
OP sounds really obsessive and borderline stalkerish. It's very creepy and this story is a self report. Aurora probably made a new character just to avoid OP lol.
Welcome back fromyour trip yay another story! That was really nice of ya to befriend a new girl in high school. I'm too shy to befriend people even in college lol
Some serious and real advice. If you really wanna get with someone, 100% face time them. That's the only way to guarantee it's serious and has a chance. If they don't voice chat, instantly forget about dating them.
Hello folks, quick question, how/where do i submit drama stories? Cuz I think I have some real juice on this one, and it all happened without any erp, which is mindblowing
Agreed, it seems like they imagine themselves already in a relationship with Aurora even though OP never expressed their feeling to her, and then getting upset about her having a friend that isn't him!
@@Naoto-kun1085 I've had some1 do the same thing.its was just like this.alot of guys who play this are lonely and any lil acknowledgement some1 gives them,they take it the wrong way.i feel bad for him actually.he doesn't even know how he comes off probably,just like the guy who was harassing me
I mean was anything established before hand? Like were they officially dating? If no then there is no reason why op is acting this way. And if they were official then communication goes a long way
I'm sorry but ffxiv relationships will always be full of drama. Yeah, maybe 1 relationship every 10 years is going to be successful, but other than that i really do not recommend looking for a partner in this game... stay safe out there. Take care of yourself and your mental health.
Obviously because it isn't real, it goes for most mmos. What issues I see is people being delulus. They don't even question if maybe they are already taken, how old they, how they identify as, if they are a girl or a boy. Therea just too many desperate lonely people to manipulate
Hmm probably a liar and she made a new character. However tho if she is telling the truth , she is probably not coming back, at all or any time soon. Tho I can understand, I think someone catfished themselves on my miqote gal.
Part of me is kind of envious of these "falling in love with random game people" folks. Like yeah they're dumb and they're not going to win the figurative jackpot, but at least they're having fun with the slot machine.
I can sort of understand it. I think there's a decent chance that some people who do this are trans and have voices that don't really pass. I imagine that getting to have an avatar in a game like this could be pretty intoxicating for a person like that. That doesn't quite excuse it, though, since it's still lying about having a disability, but I can at least sympathize with it.
I hope that the OP can move on from this, and don't live his live with nothing but ''ahhh I will die alone''. Come on, you've got a whole planet for you to explore. There are so many ways to make yourself a better person, healthier person etc.
I just remember that you should just keep making friends in the game. Don't care if they are female or male and don't expect the relationship to go beyond friends. Also never go for married people, people that have a bf/gf/other to try to win them over/look like the better person for them to be with or try to slide into DMs after they break up with someone to hook up because that is gross behaviour. 😂
Okay I'm gonna be honest i really wish ppl wouldnt automatically associate anyone mentioning health issues with lying in these stories. This chick might be dead for all we know any all ppl can think of is doubting someones health issues bc it suits their narrative. I know I cant control others and these are drama stories but this is an MMO and for people too sick to leave the house a game like this is a healthy outlet. Just uh, take care you aren't judging people in game in the same way. Edit: again, not telling people to not trust their gut, but just be gracious when there aren't other red flags in a relationship. Didn't know that was controversial, I have trust issues as well but it serves nobody assuming things. Cheers
Pathra did say it's because there are people who use these as excuses, i for one had people lie to me that they had cancer and serious problems to gain sympathy from me to do things for them only to turn around and admit they lied or outright ghost me until i hear they never had that issue they told me they had. Sadly, i want to believe people when they told me their problems but after being fooled multiple times i cant be blamed for being a bit cautious or not believing them at first
A lot of people have, once again, just lied to catfish people and take advantage of them. No one said that's always the case but it happens often enough that it makes sense to be wary.
I dont want to be cynical but 100% of mute girls I've been in an FC with or friends have fallen for have been guys. Ita fine if that doesn't bother you but you're still starting a friendship/relationship out with a lie.
This kinda makes me sad. It's hard to know whether "Aurora" was being honest or not but if she wasn't, it's kinda sad to just leave OP hanging after all that without nay closure or anything.
A lot of guys that act like this op get offended when women don't like them but they act super weird and clingy which pushes them away. they then get mad if you like anyone else because how dare you not have feelings for him lol
I know these people personally, very very close friends. I know "OP", I know "Aurora" , I know "Mr. Raid Leader". I also would like to say that "OP" is not who sent this, "Mr. Raid Leader" is likely who sent this in pretending to know OP's perspective. This is one sided, and just plain weird. Also to "Aurora", we miss and love you.
@@holy9781 I didn't need to make "raid leader" look bad, but I will defend my friends when someone pretends to be them. Why would ANYONE post this video about THEMSELVES? Like who purposely makes themselves look like a crazy person.
If this was some AITA story, then OP would probably be the asshole of the story. Seriously, he just rage at some guy that probably dont even knew about him, he don't dialogue at all with "Aurora" about what have been bothering him and the cherry on top, the amount of simping he shows towards "Aurora" is kinda creepy...
Speaking as a trans person, those sort of "finkle = einhorn" or "if she won't speak she's a man" comments are textbook transphobia or rooted in transphobia. I know you can't control what people say but I just wanted to point that out because I feel like those comments shouldn't be given attention.
Literally nobody cares...the whole world isnt going to wrap itself in bubble wrap to keep from offending you. Especially when so easy to do so. People lie about their gender online thats a fact and you warping peoples aknowledgement of that fact into some slight against you or others is weird and painfully insecure...
But why are u hiding being trans?a guy should know that so they can make the choice,its not transphobic if u dnt like penis.i find it very convenient that alot of ff14 players who are trans look like men and happen to to still like girls,what are the chances.its a bunch of dudes using the lgbtq community to get close to girls
yeah. my gf is pre transition and she has a hard time communicating with some people because of it. people would never know how debilitating it could be until they have experienced crippling dysphoria themselves. im genderfluid myself and sometimes i avoid voice chats like the plague unless i know im surrounded by people who would not assume that im a "girl" based on my voice alone.
This has nothing to do with anything trans. It's catfishing and trust me, more men play women online than there are trans people playing the game. The Trans people I know sometimes avoid chats, but are open about their reasoning.
@@Shadow666_ i think those two points can coexist together.. some people lie to catfish yes, but to immediately call someone out as insecure about that is weird. rooted in transphobia =/ youre automatically transphobic because of it. transphobia still exists and if the shoe fits... well
Hi, a friend showed me this video and there's something fundamentally wrong with it. It'll probably be buried with all the comments going on, but I figured I'd write it anyways.
About 99.9% of the circumstances for the background of the story are about me 'OP' and 'Aurora.'
-How I met her in a previous FC with the same exact scenario "bidding on a house"
-My personal background (Age was wrong though, and it's almost Eastern European but it's complciated so whatever)
-'Aurora' being mute and her subsequent health issues
- being in the same static raid group, PS3 being where there was a clear shift in what Mr. Raid Leader wanted to do
-'Aurora's'current rank in the FC, and her housing being auto-demoed
I did not submit this story though. I have no proof, but I suspect it was 'Mr. Raid-leader' who did so, trying to make up a story about how he and 'Aurora' were an item with each other and to slander me. Or something, I don't know.
I know this channel is meant for entertainment, and everyone has already made their thoughts regarding it and gotten their entertainment. Just wanted to state: if my suspicion is correct, this is 'Mr. Raid Leader' writing a story as if he was me. I saw in a comment that it seems like OP is an unreliable narrator; this is spot on. I didn't write this, and the story is framed as me writing it.
@Alessiaalderan1 It's S.N writing here. We all miss "Aurora"
@Pathra I don't know if you do updates or anything like that, but feel free to contact me for any verifications you want.
Everyone, hope you enjoyed the popcorn :)
Wow.. I’m glad I waited a few hours to watch this video so I could catch this comment, and the ones made by the people who know you two. This is wild.
@@vriksi no,this is like the 3rd comment where they are blaming mr raider.op is using multiple accounts to make mr.raider look bad.
@@holy9781 I would be more than happy to provide verification for @pathra if she chooses to request it for an update or whatever she'd like to do. Or if she doesn't, it's cool. I don't mind. I just don't want it broadcasted for 'Aurora''s sake. But those other commenters are not alts, I can assure you of that.
@@holy9781 Hey, IDK about other supposed "OP" posts, but this post here is legit. I know all three individuals involved, and for RL to have submitted this story is 1- sadly not surprising and 2- super fucked up. As one of "Aurora"s close friends, this whole thing is super fucking screwed up, especially exposing for the sake of??? what, clout??? some of Aurora's health issues.
For being an anonymous story. Calling slander is extremely weird. No one knows in general who anyone is. This comment reinforces the feeling of a weird individual who does match this story
She probably just made a new character to get away from op.
Yeah, she probably got creeped out by OP's jealousy and possessiveness!
hearing OP's train of thoughts feels like reading a book with an unreliable narrator omg
Definitely lol
Calling Mr. Raid Leader joining clear parties an "Incident" definitely makes the OP seem unreliable, and getting upset about Aurora and Mr. Raid Leader spending time together was definitely off-putting, since OP wasn't even dating Aurora, OP comes across as possessive there!
I don't think being mute is a personal secret for real mute people lol, such a red flag for someone to be hesistant to even talk about it
To me, this whole story was him imagining he's in a relationship with Aurora and getting very possessive over a person he met in game where she can't enjoy her own time intereacting with whoever she wants. OP needs a reality check and to touch a little grass here and there.
I agree, why didn't OP just ask her out if he felt like she was the one? Mr. Raid Leader did nothing wrong here
OP needs to get some air.
Sorry OP, another classic catfishing.
This is some astronomical simping.
I'm completely lost as to what Mr.Raid Leader did wrong here, he was just a dude who hung out with a girl
He hanged with a person OP had a crush on.
I agree, OP is just being jealous! They weren't even dating, so why should OP be mad at them for spending time together?
We have 3 situations here that can be look at since we got a very... "sensitive" story, based on OP's text.
1) After reading some comments I must agree with the majority that mentioned that OP created this "relationship" between him and Aurora. They were good friends, OP wanted more from it, but unfortunately to her it wasn't meant to be. More communication could've been involved in this case, but both sides didn't communicated properly or enough. At the same time she could've voiced her status to OP, he should also be more gentle and less pushy. (Pathra and other comments said that, I think everyone got that part.) Also, it's common friends to bond in game for the items and convenience of the TP depending on their activities (hunts, gathering, etc...). And* we have bonds available for free so people can do that as much as they want.
2) Mr. Raid Leader and Aurora's situation was clearly getting closer, but there is nothing OP could do about it or even be upset about it since they (op and Aurora) were not official (I know it's hard but, yeah). First, because is Aurora's life and she decides who she wants as partner (this is applicable for OP too, if the situation was inversed). Second, was part of Mr. Raid Leader's will to be with her for a while too, and even if OP informed of his feelings about Aurora, if Mr. Raid Leader and her clicked, why would he give up on his wishes? Maybe, considering that Mr. Raid Leader didn't called her for a next group and also disbanded the first, their relationship fizzled out at some point, and she didn't mentioned to OP to not give high hopes. Still, keeping contact in a civil break up is common and that could be their case.
3) Suspicions aside, Aurora's diagnose and her distancing from the game in general could be a real thing. Specially because he mentioned that she allowed her house to demolish, something that people that love housing would make them confront others to keep it instead of losing it with absence. She stopped logging for months, lost both House and FC and in the end of the day the character is still there. Usually catfishes take the valuables before disappearing (house, gil, items). If she took OP out of her private house and kicked him from the FC I'd believe more in the catfish story. So... I guess we will never know.
I won't repeat what others already said about OP having to move on (which is a thing) or the tips that he should take it easy with girls in the future. But something that I'd would say is, despite all the stories we hear out there about catfishes it's fair to give the benefit of the doubt others at first. So don't be suspicious about everyone all the time. I know that the math usually shows us more the "bad actors" but those are the vocal minority. Real people with real conditions don't have their story spread to others as fast and noisy as people faking it. Bad news travel faster than people like to admit and gossip is gold for our community, everyone loves it and shares it all the time.
(This is not me defending her or any other catfishes, it's just me entertaining the possibility in this case, specially because we just know OP's story. There are always 3 sides: his, hers and the truth.)
[[ sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language ]]
Was looking for something to listen while on treadmill. BAM, Pathra delivers
I don't know if Auroras story is true or not but sorry, OP should get it together. He is mad because the woman he was or is in love with enjoyed the company of someone else. Did he ever tell Mr. Raid Leader that he has feelings for Aurora? Probably not. Did he tell Aurora? Probably not. There is no good reason to be mad at Mr. Raid Leader in my opinion. He didn't do anything wrong. At least not from what OP is telling us and I am sorry to say it but this "he didn't deserve her" and the "he stole the time I could have had with her" sounds more like a jealous little child. Aurora wasn't and isn't your property, OP. And if SHE felt like hanging out with someone else for a time then this is something that should be respected. Just saying.
I agree, Aurora doesn't owe OP her time or company, she has the right to spend time with whoever she wants! It rubbed me wrong how OP was upset at them for spending time alone together when OP and Aurora aren't even dating! Definitely seems like OP's jealousy was the main issue here!
I'm standing in limsa RIGHT NOW and someone is basically having this same issue and conversation with people in shout chat. It's either a crazy coincidence or they saw this video lol!
OP sounds like one of the people from r/niceguys. It sounds like a one-sided love from someone who what clearly friend-zoned but never admitted it. I wouldn't be surprised if Aurora felt suffocated by OP. Also, it seems to me like Mr. Raid-leader only wanted to raid. Dude was out there helping people clear outside of designated clear times. And then he straight up dropped Aurora because she clearly didn't want to raid as hard as he did.
You called it. r/niceguy all the way.
OP doesn't communicate, then rages at some dude.
I literally know these people LMAOOOO
SPIIIIIILLLLL
thanks i missed the drama
19:00 is so true, so many guys that are terminally online don't understand that a girl does not like to be bombarded with love and affection the moment you meet her, it comes across as super weird especially tons of compliments and stuff like that. also he hadn't even met her in irl or even knows if it's a girl. all the signs here lead to it most defiantly being a guy lol. excuses after excuses then a random cancer diagnosis yea sounds fake asf to me. this is why I avoid guys in games a lot especially when they start acting super clingy and weird, i will tell them I have a bf irl and they continue to act this way with no boundaries is an instant block for me. for example recently I met a perosn in some ranked games on lol and played a few games with them, only spoke in messages about basic things and he started telling me how special i was to him and that he wanted to gift me games and stuff like bro chill out, I know you for a week and only had basic small chats only in message, you don't even know if I'm a girl or not(I am but so many fake online)??????? they think they're being nice but it comes across as too forward and desperate, which a lot of women don't like... it is also typical behavior from incels i see, they bombard you with pushy love and then if you get weirded out they will say all women are bad and call you names. (this happened to me where a guy called me a whore because I stopped responding to him when he got weird)
"Hey, Mr. Raider, Mr. Raid Leader
Tell me where you're going, tell us where you're headed
I'm on my way to Dawntrail
Mr. Raider, can we tag along? Can we take the journey?"
8:56
Tell me some of your combats, tell us of your trials
Mr. Raider (Oh-oh-oh-oh)
Tell me where you're going, tell us where you're headed
I'm on my way to Dawntrail
Mr. Raider, can we tag along? Can we get that carry?
hahah!
You have to know if a girl doesnt want to voice with you, she isnt a she or she isnt into you. Be honest with your friends about who you are
I think I know you OP, and I had the pleasure of meeting Aurora, she was my friend, and one of the best in ff14. thanks to her, I meet so many amazing ppl that have the pleasure of still call friends, yourself included. I had my differences with her but still miss her too, I think a lot that knew her does still... But as someone that also meet someone in the game, thinking that was my true soulmate, only to find he had someone else besides me... I think I can tell you that you should try to move on.... she will always be an important part of your life, but there's always someone out there waiting...believe me, I once thought that I wouldn't find someone else, but as they say and is super true... the ocean is full of fishes, and I'm sure you can be a great fisher, don't forget her ever... but don't close your heart.
Gives you the biggest hugs and all the pancakes you could ever eat 💙
This OP sounds down Horrendous lmao
look at the pin comment
Preach Pathra! 🙌 Your advice at the end was spot on. I feel bad for OP, but I think this is a standard case of someone in FFXIV falling way too hard for someone they meet in the game and who is friendly to them. It's so easy to get swept up in it all, and only see what you want to see vs what the reality is. As a neutral third party looking at the situation from the outside - I think Aurora was just not that into OP. I think OP read a little too much into their interactions while Aurora seemed to just think of them as friends. I have been in a similar situation and its easy for a kind gesture or speaking with someone to cause certain feelings to arise from 1 party. Aurora can not help that OP feels that way for her, but he didn't seem to read the subtle signs she was giving off. I feel like with some communication between the two would have helped clear things up.
Hopefully OP can move on and eventually find who/what he is looking for. And hopefully Aurora is doing well despite her issues. ❤
OP sounds really obsessive and borderline stalkerish. It's very creepy and this story is a self report. Aurora probably made a new character just to avoid OP lol.
Welcome back fromyour trip yay another story! That was really nice of ya to befriend a new girl in high school. I'm too shy to befriend people even in college lol
I never knew people actually find love in MMOs until i played this game. Some people use it as a dating service 😅
Long distance relationship on ff14 is sometimes nuts on here. I don’t really risk it. Already have problems at home.
Thank you pathra ❤
Some serious and real advice. If you really wanna get with someone, 100% face time them. That's the only way to guarantee it's serious and has a chance.
If they don't voice chat, instantly forget about dating them.
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS OUR QUEEN HAS BLESSED US ON THIS MEMORIAL DAY
THANK YOU AS ALWAYS PATHRA ENJOY YOUR WEEK
its important to dictate the pace of a static before the tier so its not a surprise when a group is hardcore mid-core etc.
Hello folks, quick question, how/where do i submit drama stories? Cuz I think I have some real juice on this one, and it all happened without any erp, which is mindblowing
Stories get submitted to me in my discord: discord.gg/pathra all the info is posted in there
O.p kinda crazy lmaoo
Agreed, it seems like they imagine themselves already in a relationship with Aurora even though OP never expressed their feeling to her, and then getting upset about her having a friend that isn't him!
@@Naoto-kun1085 I've had some1 do the same thing.its was just like this.alot of guys who play this are lonely and any lil acknowledgement some1 gives them,they take it the wrong way.i feel bad for him actually.he doesn't even know how he comes off probably,just like the guy who was harassing me
More drama lets go
Bro is in his mid 40s and doesn't understand he got catfished lol.
Here early for once, I’ll watch when I’m actually awake and can process information
uhh, the raid leader isnt even the problem. op is blind and doesnt realise she doesnt like him as much as he likes her oof.
OP, don't date on the game for one thing. Another thing? Don't put your happiness in other people?? And you're 40? GIRL????? This is WACK.
I mean was anything established before hand? Like were they officially dating? If no then there is no reason why op is acting this way. And if they were official then communication goes a long way
Part 3 of the story... is very immature for mid-40 year old or is it me?
So blessed to be a leader in a drama free FC
OP sounds creepy af..... And obsessive.
I'm sorry but ffxiv relationships will always be full of drama. Yeah, maybe 1 relationship every 10 years is going to be successful, but other than that i really do not recommend looking for a partner in this game... stay safe out there. Take care of yourself and your mental health.
Obviously because it isn't real, it goes for most mmos. What issues I see is people being delulus. They don't even question if maybe they are already taken, how old they, how they identify as, if they are a girl or a boy. Therea just too many desperate lonely people to manipulate
Hmm probably a liar and she made a new character. However tho if she is telling the truth , she is probably not coming back, at all or any time soon.
Tho I can understand, I think someone catfished themselves on my miqote gal.
if the raid leader didn't appear then another person would have taken that spot, it was very obvious she was not into op, and op is in denial lol
Part of me is kind of envious of these "falling in love with random game people" folks. Like yeah they're dumb and they're not going to win the figurative jackpot, but at least they're having fun with the slot machine.
It always makes me really sad when folks say they are mute just to disguise themselves. So not cool to pretend to live with a disability.😢
I can sort of understand it. I think there's a decent chance that some people who do this are trans and have voices that don't really pass. I imagine that getting to have an avatar in a game like this could be pretty intoxicating for a person like that. That doesn't quite excuse it, though, since it's still lying about having a disability, but I can at least sympathize with it.
I hope that the OP can move on from this, and don't live his live with nothing but ''ahhh I will die alone''. Come on, you've got a whole planet for you to explore. There are so many ways to make yourself a better person, healthier person etc.
Yay new story!!! ❤
I just remember that you should just keep making friends in the game. Don't care if they are female or male and don't expect the relationship to go beyond friends. Also never go for married people, people that have a bf/gf/other to try to win them over/look like the better person for them to be with or try to slide into DMs after they break up with someone to hook up because that is gross behaviour. 😂
Mr. Raid Leader had better parses
lol ptsd from p3s. thats been known to break statics
I don't know why but these drama stories are entertaining. What server are u guys at? I want to sit there too
I mainly read at Aether Jenova ^^
How can I send in my own drama story. You guys are gonna love it because it’s true story from Cactuar
Okay I'm gonna be honest i really wish ppl wouldnt automatically associate anyone mentioning health issues with lying in these stories. This chick might be dead for all we know any all ppl can think of is doubting someones health issues bc it suits their narrative. I know I cant control others and these are drama stories but this is an MMO and for people too sick to leave the house a game like this is a healthy outlet. Just uh, take care you aren't judging people in game in the same way.
Edit: again, not telling people to not trust their gut, but just be gracious when there aren't other red flags in a relationship. Didn't know that was controversial, I have trust issues as well but it serves nobody assuming things. Cheers
Pathra did say it's because there are people who use these as excuses, i for one had people lie to me that they had cancer and serious problems to gain sympathy from me to do things for them only to turn around and admit they lied or outright ghost me until i hear they never had that issue they told me they had.
Sadly, i want to believe people when they told me their problems but after being fooled multiple times i cant be blamed for being a bit cautious or not believing them at first
Lots of professionally offended people in these comments...
If you have a serious illness, telling a semi-random, semi-total-stranger on the internet should the least thing you should do. Period.
A lot of people have, once again, just lied to catfish people and take advantage of them. No one said that's always the case but it happens often enough that it makes sense to be wary.
@@markup6394didn't know hanging out with someone for months meant I was a stranger
as someone named Aurora, this was so weird to listen to. I also had raid drama and P3s almost killed my static LMAO
"I'm mute" is the best way to expose yourself as a guy playing a girl character.
idk, getting that jealous about a bunch of pixels is a big red flag imo
Unrelated but Happy Dragon Quest day!!
It’s giving lala energy
I dont want to be cynical but 100% of mute girls I've been in an FC with or friends have fallen for have been guys. Ita fine if that doesn't bother you but you're still starting a friendship/relationship out with a lie.
Boomer gets catfished 😭
This kinda makes me sad.
It's hard to know whether "Aurora" was being honest or not but if she wasn't, it's kinda sad to just leave OP hanging after all that without nay closure or anything.
Poor Op. I get him. Lol
A lot of guys that act like this op get offended when women don't like them but they act super weird and clingy which pushes them away. they then get mad if you like anyone else because how dare you not have feelings for him lol
Never trust a fart 🤪
I know these people personally, very very close friends. I know "OP", I know "Aurora" , I know "Mr. Raid Leader". I also would like to say that "OP" is not who sent this, "Mr. Raid Leader" is likely who sent this in pretending to know OP's perspective. This is one sided, and just plain weird. Also to "Aurora", we miss and love you.
How do we know ur not op trying make "raid leader" look even worse than ur crazy ass already did
@@holy9781 I didn't need to make "raid leader" look bad, but I will defend my friends when someone pretends to be them. Why would ANYONE post this video about THEMSELVES? Like who purposely makes themselves look like a crazy person.
press X to doubt
OP has the audacity to give advice? That’s like taking advice from Chris Chan.
He's a victim😂
If this was some AITA story, then OP would probably be the asshole of the story. Seriously, he just rage at some guy that probably dont even knew about him, he don't dialogue at all with "Aurora" about what have been bothering him and the cherry on top, the amount of simping he shows towards "Aurora" is kinda creepy...
wait, dude is in his mid 40's, talking about some random online as his sleeping beauty, creating discord roles....jeez
Different life my bro, you never know what’s going in with other people and why they do stuff
Every person in the history of MMOs that has a broken headset or is mute is a dude being a girl. 100.99% of the time
Mr Raid Leader = sus
Speaking as a trans person, those sort of "finkle = einhorn" or "if she won't speak she's a man" comments are textbook transphobia or rooted in transphobia. I know you can't control what people say but I just wanted to point that out because I feel like those comments shouldn't be given attention.
Literally nobody cares...the whole world isnt going to wrap itself in bubble wrap to keep from offending you. Especially when so easy to do so.
People lie about their gender online thats a fact and you warping peoples aknowledgement of that fact into some slight against you or others is weird and painfully insecure...
But why are u hiding being trans?a guy should know that so they can make the choice,its not transphobic if u dnt like penis.i find it very convenient that alot of ff14 players who are trans look like men and happen to to still like girls,what are the chances.its a bunch of dudes using the lgbtq community to get close to girls
yeah. my gf is pre transition and she has a hard time communicating with some people because of it. people would never know how debilitating it could be until they have experienced crippling dysphoria themselves. im genderfluid myself and sometimes i avoid voice chats like the plague unless i know im surrounded by people who would not assume that im a "girl" based on my voice alone.
This has nothing to do with anything trans. It's catfishing and trust me, more men play women online than there are trans people playing the game. The Trans people I know sometimes avoid chats, but are open about their reasoning.
@@Shadow666_ i think those two points can coexist together.. some people lie to catfish yes, but to immediately call someone out as insecure about that is weird. rooted in transphobia =/ youre automatically transphobic because of it. transphobia still exists and if the shoe fits... well