Stop trying to control your students, give them choices
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2020
- Classroom management is about offering students choices, not about forcing them to do what you want.
If it becomes a battle of wills, it will sap your strength and make teaching a nightmare.
Instead give students options so that they choose what they want to do.
Either they do the work which is great, or they misbehave and get punished.
It is not a situation of you versus them. You only enforce the rules, they decide what they want to do.
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I had most students decline to participate in the assignment and instead they took the option of telling me to piss off, threw a party in the classroom, and then complained that I had not told them the instructions when I read the one sentence instructions which were on the projector and typed for them at the top of the page. I also prepared step-by-step slides explaining in detail how to complete the rather simple and straightforward assignment.
School should be an option. If they don’t want to participate in the classroom, let them work unskilled labor in a factory or other outdoor space, cleaning up the roadway or such, so they can se the option of not learning in school.
More and more. I'm starting to feel like the kids these days need a specific class to just how to act. How to be human? How to participate in the world?
@@SunflowerKidAugust and here we thought that was the guardians job. Wait is their job! When parents need parenting classes…. 😕
@@SunflowerKidAugustit’s not your imagination. I’m a substitute teacher, and I’ve noticed this across the board. Social skills are lacking at every single grade level. While it does decrease in high school, students still aren’t where they could be.
School should be an option. Either go and participate, or go to work. If they won’t work send them to prison.
@@SunflowerKidAugust that is called wellness class. And it's mad hard to teach depending on the school lol
Yep, today I asked a student if he wanted to speak on front of the class like the rest did for an activity. He refused. I said, "ok, I can't force you to do anything you don't want" and left it at that. It's his choice, but it will come out of his participation grade.
Yea true
All student are not the same but really bad students will regret not having taken their teachers advice.
Good advice not taken is a real loss for the listener. 😊
Not true
Most bad kids won't regret a dam thing
@@skate-life9858There are no bad kids. Just kids with maladaptive behaviors.
THIS WORKS SO WELL!!! Thank you for the reminder! I left the profession for three years and forgot the golden rule of classroom management
This is not applicable to all… What if the student is disruptive and loud. You can’t just leave him that way because it his choice😢
True. So what do you do? What "choice" would one give him?
What I normally do is to start seeing the good side of him and make him feel that I have faith in him and that he can be better than that, citing some examples of great things he did in the past few days or weeks, some appreciation stuff. If it doesn't work, I then lay down consequences as reminders which I tell him I don't want to impose as long he is not gonna force my hand to do so. If it still doesn't work, I show him how serious I am in imposing the rules that I established, that I just don't bluff, that I will not bend them. I do it by jotting down a lesser mark or a zero on participation or classwork which I physically show, and even ask him if he really wants it. Then write a report for parents to know, I also show this to him and make him feel the gravity of his action.@@roberttippett3733
Yeah... because it's our job to raise them, not their parents. A student who THINKS they have some kind of choice in what they will and won't do at school has parents who have made them think that.
When I was going to school I had to do whatever work my teachers put in front of me! Whether or not I "liked" the work. It wasn't about my feelings, it was about my education. And through that I learned that life isn't always a bed of roses and sometimes you have to do something because it must be done and it will benefit you (and/or others) in the long run.
If my parents found out I refused to do perfectly reasonable school work, they'd be repercussions for me! But that's not how it is anymore.
I've had to use that choice tactic before, but we shouldn't have to and it doesn't always work. Especially with kids who's parents act like their child is an angel. My teachers never needed to use such methods on me. But I was born in the 1900s...
Thanks for watching and your comment, sorry for the late response.
you trying to win longest reply on a short?
haven't seen valuable content in a whike. ran into your channel. great tips,very clear...thank you
Thank you so much, Julia! ^^
That student probably finds the tasks too hard to complete and this is why they deny. Thank you for this video Eric. Students always need both options and rules, not just rules.
Example: a pupil refuses to change his seat after being disruptive, and ignoring the first warning.
What to do?! Let him have this choice of staying? You’ll lose leadership
I think that's not quite the point of the video. It's about tasks during the teaching process. He does say, that you should enforce the rules. Option a would be to change the seat, option b would be another consequence. If they choose option b you have to have a consequence in hand (They are choosing the consequence when choosing an option and it should be clear to them)
"When you are right nobody will keep in mind (remember), when (if) you make mistake nobody will forget". Eric, please, correct the mistakes.
When you are right, nobody cares. But when you make a mistake, no one will forget.
A sad but very true quote Vahid!! 😅
Give example of choices
This makes sense! Thank you!
Hello teacher I am a novice teacher today I start with new classes they are very noisy from the beginning until the end of the session they show no respect, I couldn't make the lesson, please any advices for me?, (English is a foreign language for them)
They just refuse every option from you.
Refusing an option is still a choice in itself. At that point, you need to follow through and follow the schools behaviour management policy
Indeed we should battle against students. Keep it up teacher.
Thanks for watching! When we control the class we help both the good and the bad students. Sometimes the wild one, turns out to appreciate the one good teacher in their life. Blessings
Options such as "Would you like to choose the option of not being disruptive and interfering with the learning of everyone else in the room?" Why didn't I think of that genius approach?
Great advice for parents also, I will implement this.
How do you handle a class full of 3 year olds climbing on tables, throwing your flashcards you laid out, screaming, running, pulling on your clothes, biting your clothes, trying to remove your socks as you are teaching and just generally bring chaotic??? Coz I'm out of ideas
Ok, what if we're talking about private courses, where no marks or opportunity to get a student out. You're supposed to provide friendly atmosphere, and do your best, but some students just don't care, they want only fun, no hw, no serious work
Thanks❤
My kids in 4th grade she's a straight A, A+ student, helps her friends n classmates but she seems to be getting into trouble with her teacher these days. From what we heard the teacher blames kids(4th grade) and the school district all the time...she uses words like dumb, stupid , lazy mostly. I'm sure my kid must have spoken during class. Iv always told both my kids to be respectful to teachers/elders, pay attention to the teacher, focus on their work, complete whatever the teacher gives., to be polite and kind. Wonder what else we can do?
Let the student battle with his own demons of procastination, totally right! Excellent video Eric, good luck in your classes, glad to see you in school again at last.
I also think is useful to offer options of homework or even ask the students to come up with one so that once they choose it's on them.
That's a great idea, to give learners the option of what homework they want to do! It sounds difficult but by giving students the choice of topic or activity it will help them take ownership of their learning. 🥰
I know they have choices. They choose nothing 😂
Great ❤
Hi teacher, Thanks for ur suggestions... I wanted know that’s in future would u show us in classroom, how to teach the students and not only by telling as story 😜 If u can that’s will be great and wonderful.... can’t wait ur videos. Thanks again!
Hi Frank! That's actually the whole purpose of my channel. ❤
I'm planning on making a whole series on teacher situations. It will take a lot of time to plan and write it out so in the mean time I am working on other videos to practice my skill.
Once I am done I will be so happy to share it.
Can you explain what that would look like?
"If you do that, I can give you a star"
"If you do that, I have to take away a star"
I am a dam student and every morning my eardrums hurt like shi-
Sorry to hear that, Mr.Rabbit. 😥
Wow.
Nobody else noticing the sweat??😊😅😅
This is a terrible way of looking at students, they are not just at school to learn but to also make their mistakes in a safe environment. It’s the responsibility of teachers to help students get on the right path and learn from these mistakes. Ignoring students who are unmotivated will only serve to demotivate them more in the future and I fear that with teachers treating them as such it will only further send them down the wrong path. I’m a student so I know my opinion means nothing, but when I struggled in my classes it was because my teachers didn’t want to teach me. That is mostly conjecture but I feel this way because not a single one even attempted to talk to me, had they did they would know I failed because I wasn’t a participant in my learning, I had many of complaints about how they taught, if one would have attempted to prompted me to speak up for my self I would have been able to fix the issue much sooner. It doesn’t mean teachers should spend everyday priding at me to do their work sheets but rather they should have just attempted to talk to all students who struggled and come to understand them. If students don’t have anyone who wants to help them then how can they fix there problems with the lessons or class work. This not necessarily true of all unmotivated students but getting treated like this by teachers encouaged my suicidal tendencies. When I was finally able to work things out for myself I didn’t have the ability to fix my grades treatment by the teachers. All I could ask of teachers is to talk to students so that when their able to fix there problems they have a platform to fix their grades and knowledge.
As a student, your opinion definitely matters. Im a teacher. I do believe that sometimes we need a little pushing outside of ourselves because we dont quite have the volition to do it ourselves. No, we cant force student's, but i believe students do need pushing or nudging to do things.
Would this apply to pre-school or Kindergarten aged kids as well?
Great question! I have a class of Threes that ALL of them say No or cry when they can't get their way. I've redirected and all. They sit in time out but still unruly. Parents are no help either. They are the way ALL of the kids are like this. Please help I don't want to give up but at this point… please help
@@originalcreation36 I really understand. It is especially difficult when the parents show no interest or concern.
Sir i am a patrol/prefect in school and i usually control and look over grade 3 4 students. The problem i face alot in school assembly is they keep talking. When i go to one student ,other talks when i go to other one then another student starts talking. The age difference between them and me is around 3 to 5 years . Kindly briefly define what should be my behavior with each individual student in a way they shouldnt talk the next time. The problem i think they talk is they aren't interested in assembly as its hell boring but yet they've to be quiet. Kindly anyone help me out if they have some knowledge about it
Hi!
Thank you for your question. You are a good leader for asking for help.
I understand it's a difficult situation. You are under pressure to keep them organized.
Your best strategy is to talk to them and explain the reason why they have to behave.
Rather befriend them. You are not a teacher so you don't have to feel like it's your job. Be friendly with them and ask them to behave. If they continue, ask to speak to one or 2 of them after assembly. Don't talk to all of them at once, because it can be difficult. In stead, talk to 1 or 2 privately and ask them to cooperate with you.
They should be examples for the other classes. They can talk during break, but in assembly, it's you and their duty to be good students.
Good luck!
@@etacude thanks I'll implement it and tell you my further problems if i face any
Be strick And enforce the rules that's all
Spare the rod and spoil the child
Well said
Today's kids are definitely different. It's a team effort the parents and school need to be on the same page
Thanks a lot! Great to see you in a physical classroom😂
Take care!!😘
So fun being back! Hope your doing great Belen! :D
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thanks 4 advicing
I hope it helps Natheer 🙏 😊
I love your videos ! 🙏🏻❤️ I hope I can talk to you can i ? 🙊
Hey there. I think this question isnt related to this video but i think you understood psychology and may be helpful. Sir i am very bad at handling pressure and i want help witb that. If i am standing infront of a elder person(principal or teacher) and he's insulting me i am literally shaking. I am not saying that its not my fault its my fault sometimes and sometimes its not but still i should not be trembling. When i am standing at a shop thats exposed to many peope i dont know what to do and there as well my inner self is shaking. Once i was on the ground talking to a student after assembly (I am a patrol) and the assembly went back to their clases. The pricipal was watching me and literally i was shaking and sweating (in winter around 15C)
I have a lot to learn ❤
I offer options they say no to both. Then I take points away on class dojo and they have a fit. It disrupts the other students. I’m in another country and wow am I shocked.
Good man
Ima send this to my bad teacher. Thanks bro!
Haha! My pleasure! 😊
Still m not getting the choices u r talking about..... choice between fun games and real work... or anything else
If you make rules, you give the student a choice. Either he can participate in the lesson and do the work, or he can argue and ignore you and get punished. It's his choice.
You see, right now you feel like you have to push him to do work. It's you versus him.
That's the wrong way of thinking about it. Stop arguing and fighting. Tell him the rules, the he can choose to join the class and cooperate, or he gets left out.
It's not you versus him. It's him versus himself.
If he argued, tell him to talk about it after class. Whatever punishment there is he gets it because of his choice.
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I take every given advice let him be elder or younger then me. "The more you listen the more you will get"
You're a wise man Vahid. I'm grateful that you are here to share your ideas with us. 👍
Thank you Eric for everything you have done and doing.
There's a bee in my house welp💀
I'm naughty at school and whenever they say are u doing if work now or tommorow break I say never so that they call for the 'school headteacher ' when they come I just hit them so they get one of the men to help them they literally carried me out the classroom as I kept hitting them ( i started being naughty this year ) and they say me in the corner next to my old teachers room (i was an angel in class then) they came out and eat next to me and talked to me gently as the man taught the class while she did that I tried running of but they grabbed my arm before I could and took me to the calm room ( where people go if they be naughty) and she sat there while the headteacher did her job its great being naughty
I wish I could be naughty but I have strict parents
An ultimatum is still a choice!
Exactly! I might have to get that as a tattoo one day. lol
I tried. 😩
Well this advice is obvious .. but doesn't actually chance the fact or the behaviour the child would simply choose option b .. not listening .. than what? ... I think the person inquiring was meaning this ... Your response is either cut short or only states the obvious with no feasible result
Hi Whar , you're right. It's just a bit of quick advice. I've made other videos that try and explain consequences more exactly.
@@etacude good to know .. I just re-read my original post and I thought, wow I sounded like a bit of a jerk the way I worded it. It wasn't intended, my true intention was ... To say .. omg that's obvious but an actual end result would have been good. In a snarky type tone but not an offensive one. Thanks for your wholesome response, it shows you have more self control than I do ... Shame on me.
Hi I'm a student how to represent something to impress my teacher?
Be diligent in you work Wilmay Dacay!
ok what is choices. A is party in the class. B is what ? we cant give B actually. what is our force?
Wow look at the eye lift on this dude.
😂😂
This is not all the way right
Examble please
Who wondered kids would act like this
Fvck ppl who cheat. It’s so disgraceful
LOL it seems to me you've just got into this business. Young people today discovering what we knew in the past. History repeats itself oh, you're a teacher you know that