If you go unmarried SAHM at least keep updating skills or take a part-time job asap. Also, have a retirement fund for both partners and inquire about other ways of securing livelihood. I read the post on Reddit and it killed me. 😢 My mom stayed at home until we were 12 years old or so and my mom always got limited time contracts. She amassed 16 contracts in 4 years, which is illegal in my country, working for court lol. They didnt renew the contract after my mom's divorce, when she was at rock bottom. She was almost 50 and basically companies treated her like she's a leper.
Waif so she hasn't worked for her entire life and she's like fifty looking for her first job... with what experience, did she finish school or go to college... judging by the fact she kept throwing around the mom title I don't think so, I mean ya bad for a boyfriend to wait 30 years before proposing but she acted like she had a choice, but judging by the title this post may be rage bate
Doesn't this make her a Common Law Wife??! I know in some areas, even if not, but just a supporting partner, would get monetary support of some kind. She has prob been his tax dependent, and gave up her life to be house wife and mother. That does hold ground legally. And lets face it, kids usually have to list parents and such on college apps. Even if dad covered tuition. But considering he's teaching them "survival" mode, poss not.... A little bit of leverage, with the kids. I hate to think of the 16yo staying with him, but A. she's old enough to ride out her childhood without much more affects, and B. if she moves in with mom, he HAS to pay child support.
@@TH-cw6wb Some states don't consider this. I think NC is one of them where Common Law spouses aren't a thing. I know they do not consider domestic partners.
GD this was brutal. THIS is why modern messaging tells women to have back-up plans, educations, to focus on their careers. Not every woman is going to end up with a good man, and not every man is going to end up with a good woman.
Then that man did NOT have a good woman, considering the fact that she REJECTED THE PROPOSAL AFTER 30 YEARS OF BEING TOGETHER. That woman is a red flag, it's her fault for rejecting him, if she truly loved him all those 30 yrs she would've accepted, her fault she has to deal with all that.
Imagine being a literal leech for 30 years and being pissy about getting kicked out over saying no to the one actual thing that was asked of you. Women are mentally ill level of entitled nowadays
What kind of back up plan could she have??? She had 30 years of living the high life, not wanting for anything but at 58 years old she is ready for something better?!?!? Come on Jadester, you gotta admit, this is pretty delusional!!!
@@fogflame2289 Did you not watch the video? He's terrible and she doesn't deserve it. Everything she did was for him you piece of sht! He's a living demon and she's going to die on the street alone because she loved the wrong man. She gave him a family! And he tossed her aside.
You stayed 30 years with someone that would not marry you and had 4 children with him? And endured the indignities you named but just suffered on through? Umph…
I’m not gonna lie, I feel bad for her but she feels insanely entitled. The BF isn’t being really kind, but she absolutely allowed it to happen and acted in a way where what happened sounded kind of deserved.
@@Izaiahdokpa It's crazy that no one really want the woman to take any accountability she knew that most like she was never going to get married and she waited 30 years to now leave when he proposed she loves everything because of her ego
I don't get why she's fighting I don't get why she's trying to stay in the house it's obvious to judge the boyfriend owns the house he pays for the house they're not even married there's no way to judge will let her stay I love the positivity though
A commenter on the 2nd update called OP out on that, too. She should have married him at this point because at least she'd have some level of security. At age 50 with no job, degree, skills, and an empty resume she's gonna have a bad time.
And continue being unhappy when she finally realized how miserable she actually was? He's only marrying her to lock her down and expected her to leap with joy and sing his praises as soon as he pulled out the ring. Oh, and he seems like he kinda treats her like she's a spoiled dog he has to train.
@akitkat-1225 it's better after being on a homeless shelter I like that she's standing up for herself but it doesn't matter she's homeless anyway so what if she's unhappy at least she'll have a roof over her head
@@akitkat-1225 I get what you're saying. Trust me, I would rather OP walk away and live the rest of her life with whatever integrity she has left. But she waited too long for that day to happen and with nothing to fall back on. This is why I tell everyone, men and women, to always work towards establishing themselves instead of being very dependent on others. Just never know when shit like this can happen.
@@w.j4050 Yeah, she obviously waited too long, I'm not saying she didn't, but she can't really change that now. I mean, what was she supposed to do now, marry him just to divorce him or something? Then she really would be a gold digger like he was accusing her of.
To be honest, this woman sounds entitled and in a bubble. He took care of you for 30 years and you accepted staying with him without the paper. She is the one who brought up his status in life. I would assume she’s a Golddigger, too, and I made a huge mistake.
True, she stayed with him 25 years after she said she wanted marriage. Now she’s getting it. If she said yes, nothing would change, yet she doesn’t want it?
Oh you really think that nothing would change? Do you think he was not having affairs at the office? Do you really think he wanted to get married? The only thing he was going to do was make sure she didn't leave him so that he would have his live in made. That there would be someone there when he got too old to screw around behind her. Not only that there's no bank accounts in her name Hi there? There is nothing in her name is there? Oh by the way the kids are going to loan her clothes so he kept all of her clothes what about jewelry Where is the jewelry usually the women can at least walk away with some jewelry but I don't see that do you No this a****** even asked for the engagement ring back yeah he is a creep She stayed because she had children with him and she wanted the kids to have the benefit of that because why She knew he wouldn't give her any money for them She knew he was a creep but she was how do they call it emotionally abused. I love it I love it when there's no physical abuse scene you guys will just treat the woman like dirt but when a woman gets herself in a situation where she doesn't really know how to walk out well she did it to herself yeah she did She should have walked out the minute that guy said no I'm not going to marry you and believe me there's a lot of us who are stupid and we get ourselves in this situation and there's a lot of men who get themselves in that kind of situation too with a woman that she has kids and he doesn't know how to get himself unentangled from that kind of person but they give her bank accounts they give her things they give her stuff because they don't want to leave her hanging if that something happens to them This guy has made sure that if anything happens to him she is still left without a thing if he were killed in the car accident. I can guarantee you there isn't a will with her name on it at all. I love how you all think she's a gold digger No she honestly wasn't love and thought that it would come back that she was showing him she loved him but narcissist nothing you do shows them teaches them or retrains them You can't change them but there's millions of these women out there and men. They just don't have it within them to be cruel.
@@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678 If he’s having an affair at the office, it won’t change after marriage, he’s already having it! 😂 And marriage won’t keep her from leaving, that’s a dumb thing to say. It’ll allow her to take his assets if they ever divorce though. If she’s being abused in anyway, a proposal wouldn’t be the thing to make her want to leave. I’m not saying she’s a gold digger, just that If they got married, NOTHING would change in the negative sense. So it’s very odd that a proposal of all things would trigger her.
I just love the guy.Sounds like a very intelligent man and that he wasn't going to commit to her until he knew She wouldn't leave him and take everything he was worth since He was going up in the world and then when he wanted to settle down and live the rest of his life in retirement and traveling with her she said no😅
I remember this story and it's sad. She played the role of wife and homemaker for 30+ years. I say played because HE refused to marry her because HE thought being an executives girlfriend (his words) was enough and she should be lucky to have that. Stupidly, she stayed, gave him 4 kids, raised them, and was for all intents and purposes his wife despite being criticized heavily in their small southern town. It was ONLY after his career ended in scandal and he was forced to retire that he proposed out of convenience to him. When she expressed hurt he basically said take it or leave it, as a matter of fact keep the ring and GTFO. There was more but the upshot was he revealed how little he loved and valued OP and as of the latest update OP was kicked to the curb, no home, no money, no rights to ANYTHING because common law is not a thing where she is scrambling to find work and shelter,her kids can't really help her because they don't want to be cut off by their dad. Sad.
So many people in the comments need to learn basic emotional intelligence. Reading this comment made me feel like I hadn't suddenly lost my marbles. Thank you for summarizing it so nicely!
@@kris.strelchenko If she was married she would've had Alimony at a minimum being a SAHM if they separated. She would of had protections to stay in the house. She would of had a lot more time during the divorce finalizing to find a place and a job. she would of received alimony after the divorce as to provide until she could find a job. There is NO scenario she was better off not being married to the man. Let it be a lesson to every woman, stop having kids without being married, 99% of the time you will have a better time for it.
@@pilodrou4213yes and men haven't been known to mysteriously loosing their jobs or making significantly less when they have to pay😂🤔there is no guarantee that she'll get taken care of and you still have no experience working if you've been a sahm for years, noone will hire you for a livable wage
I remember this post. The ex clearly doesn't seem well liked by anyone in his life. Company and coworkers basically couldn't wait for him to go, kids want to help mom but it seems like they are hesitant to draw any ire from their father. Just seems like the whole situation/relationship was really toxic as a whole.
Absolutely 50 yrs old with No Job experience and her attitude just reeks entitlement I mean keep your options open for anything can happen in this day and age both parties earning is good for any household
Bro is acting like she is the victim but she put herself under the bus nobody pushed her under the bus like why did you reject him 🤬 you also broke his heart you did not love him 💔 clearly you didn't marry him because he took to long and wasn't an executive now maybe he was right you are a gold digger you monster (the girl not you) and yes that does sound like a you problem
As if being a mother makes her special. Opening your legs (willingly) and popping out kids doesn’t make you special nor should you deserve special treatment.
BRO wants to marry bf when he was a exec. Doesnt want to marry bf when he is not an exec. Complains about jobs, then says i didnt reply out of frustration Complains about how a world can treat a mom like this. calls bf bad guy after she says she wants to leave because she doesnt know what respect is. calls ex bf a alley cat that is taking away his stuff from her
"I just made the mistake of loving a man and hoping he'd value that" She loved him when he was an exec and had tons of money coming in, then suddenly when that's gone she's too good to marry him. And when he decides he doesn't want to be with someone who clearly was a fair-weather partner he's the bad guy. Womp Womp, lady.
2:19 But the thing is she thinks now is the time marry after I think like 30 50 years of begging I mean she felt like now she's good enough but really the husband knew even if they were married that she could take 50% of his stuff so when he was close to retirement he married her but also we not gonna talk about how when the girl was being independent like he said she could be he got mad 4:20 also who raised kids who don't care about there mother just like that is crazy tbh but yh have a good day
@@Doomscroller_30Because even a phone with no service provider can connect to Wi-Fi almost anywhere. And you can get a free phone from the government if you're poor or homeless
She sounds really entitled. A rich home maker complaining about how retail jobs have criminals and she’s “scared for her safety”. Talking down about those in the shelter like she’s not in the same boat now. Then too lazy to download zoom for an interview. The naivety thinking people are going to feel sorry and get her out of this situation. Sorry lady you did this
I feel like she’s kind of the AH between listening to the short it seems like that she wanted marriage all this time since they were five years into it but now that he’s not an executive and wants to downsize a little bit, she kinda got upset about it I understand where she’s coming from “now you want to marry” but at the same time if you really love somebody marriage shouldn’t be so important to you that it’s an issue to go to therapy over some people just want to wait and if you’re in a committed relationship relationship you’re in a committed relationship. It was kind of stupid of her to leave after 30 years being 53 and having no job experience I mean if she really feels like she doesn’t love him anymore then that’s absolutely what she should do but if not, she’s just doing it out of spite and she never gonna make it unless she wants to tbh Edit also she says he said take it or leave it but you want him to pay for your collage so you can leave him and not even go with him ?? Delusional Edit 2: I do feel for her because of the way she was made fun of at the shelter , and not seeing kids as well she’s trying and has never lived in the real world both of them are wrong but also never should’ve listened to someone on Reddit “refuse to leave” when she could’ve made an agreement “I’ll leave if we can agree and some payments for some hotel till I can get a job and possibly pay back as well” would’ve gone over so much better probably
She should’ve left early on, considering that op told her bf 5 years into their relationship that she wanted to be married, yet he continued to stall. They have 4 kids and never got married. I feel a bit bad because she wasted 3 decades of her life for a man who never intended to marry her, even though he knew she wanted to be married. She should’ve left him years ago. This is exactly why you should be married before you have kids.
This is actually typical, she doesn’t care about all the things he did for her and their children, she care about the one thing he didn’t do!!! Seems like she was envious of his success and secretly competed with him. I’m still floored at how a life long dependent can talk about a power imbalance, this proves she has been listening to feminist propaganda, but she was living the high life due to that imbalance!!! Did anyone else notice how she was trying to get white collar jobs at retirement age with no experience?!?! That man sheltered her too much, she thinks all she has to do is show up and she’ll be an executive just like her and she’ll probably make more than him!!! This woman ruined her life listening to the delusional brigade and now she bouncing from shelter to shelter while she could be traveling the world FOR FREE AS A MARRIED WOMAN!!! Her envy and jealousy got her here and there is no accountability in sight!!!
She stayed and never tried to fuck with him because he never gave her committment and security. And oh surprise surprise the gold digger wants out now that he doesn't have as much money.
Why would you turn down a man because he waited to propose? She had been there 30 years! She is a fool. You can’t start from nowhere at 52. Better to have accepted the marriage proposal. It’s odd to find your backbone after so long. Also, judges are there to uphold the law. Not fairness and kindness. She has been living in an ivory tower
I'm midway through part 3 and rn the OP is seeming to be a complete jerk. The boyfriend proposed (like you wanted him to) but you shunned him away very rudely. So he kicked you out and now your expecting the whole world to just go in your favor when you haven't worked for 30 years and all family expenses were paid by your boyfriend.
Geez I’ve been with my partner nearly 15 years now and he’s proposed (without a ring cu we’re LDR) and I have always stressed what pre/post marriage steps would need to be taken before even considering kids (if we want them)
Do you all know why he put her out ASAP??? How would you feel if someone broke up with you and wanted to audition for your replacement in your home!!! She said she was looking for something better, where do you think that “looking” was going to take place??? In his home!!!
Have i underatood it right she got bullied over the years cause she wasn't married to him and just cause rolled her eyes you say she deserves to live on the street i think both of them are not the smartest or the best people bit to ruin her live is a bit too much bit she is propaply not a good person cause her kids and her friends are not really helping her
Should have just married him and then divorced him to get half his assets. Woman gave up her life and prospects to play a support role for her family, in turn, he was able to work much more and worry less about home matters and able to make a better career. She is a partner in that, even if he borderline screwed it up at the end of his career. Divorce is usually a terrible answer. But when it comes to someone who still hasn't reached manhood in his fifties, yeah, she should have been forward thinking about it.
U spent too many years being stepped on in comfort and now their all turning on u and the world is not nice. Barley anyone will help u. Everyone is too concerned with their own self preservation
If you've been with him for 30 years most countries and states have what is called a common law marriage. Where you've been together for a certain amount of years you are essentially married and required to receive half of all assets. If you found a lawyer who would work on that then you would be ok.
If we are talking about the US strictly there are only 8 states with common law and out of all them a stage The only place that it's very easy to prove common laws is California
Well she got hit by the biggest reality check of her life yet she's nagging about absolutely anything He made a point that you're nothing without him and your delusions doesn't change that fact
I thought if it as a him just wanting to settle down now that he’s not all cought up with work and wants to live the last bit of his life enjoying time with her but then again I do know that he was harsh and pretty controlling but his intent behind it was most likely nice
From a legal perspective, a person who is not a lawyer yet is aware of at least my local laws op is fucked. Child support would only be for those under 18 (that doesn't seem like that will last long) due to OP being unmarried to him you are not entitled to any of his assets since Op was quite well off seemingly before this all happened it is likely she does not know how to save money, due to the ex not being abusive to the child (under 18) there is little chance op would get primary custody most likely meaning its split.
…at anytime during this 30 years you could of gotten a job or went to school…like you said… instead you enjoy doing nothing and reaping the benefits of your husband…. and now you’re paying for it because you were lazy and entitled and it shows with those applications and you talking about jobs you have no idea about the real world its sad…
So she wanted to get married, he was making bank and she never worked a day, now he doesn't have a job and wants to downsize, mow she doesn't want to marry and thinks there is someone better out there in her 50 lol
I’m spilt but I kinda think she’s is the a-hole,hear me out she only wanted too marry him when he was an executive and when he didn’t want to downsize but I understand that she had been begging him to propose to her for 25 years.So yea I’m spilt.
Bruh she is crazy Iam glad men are understanding that being married just means you are losing your conteol ,I swear if it wasn't for the money she would have just leave him with half of his stuff
Gosh I'm sorry for what I said I think op is just quite old and ignorant, the way people who have been out of the work force so long will find it so hard to.find a job , let a lone a white collar, like she thought, with no education, no solid work experience, let alone recent work experience, don't believe what you see online, it's so much harder than they tend to lead people on.
Technically you don’t have value in the relationship and for you to assume you do while disrespecting the person who provides for you shows your character.
So they didn’t think about their kids at all so they’re just fighting about money and how they’re being treated not their kids just money and how each other are being affected by this
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I listened to the Full Story, and this makes me understand more, why it's so important to be married before having kids.
And reading this... it is why it's so important to make a prenup before marrying.
Guess we all got different take aways here 😂
If you go unmarried SAHM at least keep updating skills or take a part-time job asap. Also, have a retirement fund for both partners and inquire about other ways of securing livelihood.
I read the post on Reddit and it killed me. 😢 My mom stayed at home until we were 12 years old or so and my mom always got limited time contracts. She amassed 16 contracts in 4 years, which is illegal in my country, working for court lol.
They didnt renew the contract after my mom's divorce, when she was at rock bottom. She was almost 50 and basically companies treated her like she's a leper.
Waif so she hasn't worked for her entire life and she's like fifty looking for her first job... with what experience, did she finish school or go to college... judging by the fact she kept throwing around the mom title I don't think so, I mean ya bad for a boyfriend to wait 30 years before proposing but she acted like she had a choice, but judging by the title this post may be rage bate
I agree, she never mentioned what she did during that 30 years, this woman is 6 years away from retirement age and just wants her first job.
@@Reggy2000 She was a stay at home Mom, their youngest is still in school, so she didn't work during those 30 years.
@@Reggy2000it’s like yall didn’t even watch the video
Doesn't this make her a Common Law Wife??! I know in some areas, even if not, but just a supporting partner, would get monetary support of some kind.
She has prob been his tax dependent, and gave up her life to be house wife and mother. That does hold ground legally.
And lets face it, kids usually have to list parents and such on college apps. Even if dad covered tuition. But considering he's teaching them "survival" mode, poss not.... A little bit of leverage, with the kids.
I hate to think of the 16yo staying with him, but A. she's old enough to ride out her childhood without much more affects, and B. if she moves in with mom, he HAS to pay child support.
@@TH-cw6wb Some states don't consider this. I think NC is one of them where Common Law spouses aren't a thing. I know they do not consider domestic partners.
Who would hire someone with a 30 year hole in their resume?
@FreddyBoi32lmao. Caught me off guard there 😂
Walmart.
@@lindah3803 Here we don't have these
There are some out there. r/antiwork
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It’s like he waited until he lived all he wanted and didn’t want to settle until he was sure she wouldn’t leave him
wauted?
I could be reading this wrong, But need I remind you that he himself said that she could leave anytime.
@@Itzme2486 and yet he got mad at her and taunted her when she did
@@spleens4200cuz it’s been 30 years. at that point
@@kingdfy766 25 of which she gave him to marry before now, and all of a sudden he’s downsizing and wants to marry her now
"How can society treat a MOM like that?? 😱😱"
Society didn't get you pregnant ma'am!!
GD this was brutal. THIS is why modern messaging tells women to have back-up plans, educations, to focus on their careers. Not every woman is going to end up with a good man, and not every man is going to end up with a good woman.
Then that man did NOT have a good woman, considering the fact that she REJECTED THE PROPOSAL AFTER 30 YEARS OF BEING TOGETHER. That woman is a red flag, it's her fault for rejecting him, if she truly loved him all those 30 yrs she would've accepted, her fault she has to deal with all that.
Imagine being a literal leech for 30 years and being pissy about getting kicked out over saying no to the one actual thing that was asked of you.
Women are mentally ill level of entitled nowadays
What kind of back up plan could she have??? She had 30 years of living the high life, not wanting for anything but at 58 years old she is ready for something better?!?!? Come on Jadester, you gotta admit, this is pretty delusional!!!
@@fogflame2289 Did you not watch the video? He's terrible and she doesn't deserve it. Everything she did was for him you piece of sht! He's a living demon and she's going to die on the street alone because she loved the wrong man. She gave him a family! And he tossed her aside.
@@Reggy2000 She was very clearly gullible and expected the best of others, Reggie.
She sounds bloody entitled
And fumble the bag; there's no way this is real. Oh well that's life
You stayed 30 years with someone that would not marry you and had 4 children with him? And endured the indignities you named but just suffered on through? Umph…
Ye, it's her own damn fault
I’m not gonna lie, I feel bad for her but she feels insanely entitled. The BF isn’t being really kind, but she absolutely allowed it to happen and acted in a way where what happened sounded kind of deserved.
There both wrong the boyfriend for waiting thirty years and hear expecting everything to be ok at being 50 years old and trying to get a job
You waited 30 years? You either should’ve left earlier or accepted his proposal
He was wrong
@@Izaiahdokpaand she was stupid
@@Izaiahdokpathat's not the point of this comment
@@Izaiahdokpaand she is still the one who lost everything.
How does being right feel while sleeping in a shelter?
@@Izaiahdokpa
It's crazy that no one really want the woman to take any accountability she knew that most like she was never going to get married and she waited 30 years to now leave when he proposed she loves everything because of her ego
Her: "I'll just go out and find a real relationship since I don't know what respect is anymore."
BF: "Bet"
9:37 no. The judge is to uphold the LAW Not your feelings.
I don't get why she's fighting I don't get why she's trying to stay in the house it's obvious to judge the boyfriend owns the house he pays for the house they're not even married there's no way to judge will let her stay I love the positivity though
We gotta hear the BF side of this now
30 year gap? Marketing jobs require a degree. She’s toast.
Sorry but if you got rejected for a job at the gas station you are screwed lol
should have just settled with marrying him
A commenter on the 2nd update called OP out on that, too. She should have married him at this point because at least she'd have some level of security. At age 50 with no job, degree, skills, and an empty resume she's gonna have a bad time.
And continue being unhappy when she finally realized how miserable she actually was? He's only marrying her to lock her down and expected her to leap with joy and sing his praises as soon as he pulled out the ring. Oh, and he seems like he kinda treats her like she's a spoiled dog he has to train.
@akitkat-1225 it's better after being on a homeless shelter I like that she's standing up for herself but it doesn't matter she's homeless anyway so what if she's unhappy at least she'll have a roof over her head
@@akitkat-1225 I get what you're saying. Trust me, I would rather OP walk away and live the rest of her life with whatever integrity she has left. But she waited too long for that day to happen and with nothing to fall back on. This is why I tell everyone, men and women, to always work towards establishing themselves instead of being very dependent on others. Just never know when shit like this can happen.
@@w.j4050 Yeah, she obviously waited too long, I'm not saying she didn't, but she can't really change that now. I mean, what was she supposed to do now, marry him just to divorce him or something? Then she really would be a gold digger like he was accusing her of.
To be honest, this woman sounds entitled and in a bubble. He took care of you for 30 years and you accepted staying with him without the paper. She is the one who brought up his status in life. I would assume she’s a Golddigger, too, and I made a huge mistake.
Agreed
True, she stayed with him 25 years after she said she wanted marriage. Now she’s getting it. If she said yes, nothing would change, yet she doesn’t want it?
Oh you really think that nothing would change? Do you think he was not having affairs at the office? Do you really think he wanted to get married? The only thing he was going to do was make sure she didn't leave him so that he would have his live in made. That there would be someone there when he got too old to screw around behind her. Not only that there's no bank accounts in her name Hi there? There is nothing in her name is there? Oh by the way the kids are going to loan her clothes so he kept all of her clothes what about jewelry Where is the jewelry usually the women can at least walk away with some jewelry but I don't see that do you No this a****** even asked for the engagement ring back yeah he is a creep She stayed because she had children with him and she wanted the kids to have the benefit of that because why She knew he wouldn't give her any money for them She knew he was a creep but she was how do they call it emotionally abused. I love it I love it when there's no physical abuse scene you guys will just treat the woman like dirt but when a woman gets herself in a situation where she doesn't really know how to walk out well she did it to herself yeah she did She should have walked out the minute that guy said no I'm not going to marry you and believe me there's a lot of us who are stupid and we get ourselves in this situation and there's a lot of men who get themselves in that kind of situation too with a woman that she has kids and he doesn't know how to get himself unentangled from that kind of person but they give her bank accounts they give her things they give her stuff because they don't want to leave her hanging if that something happens to them This guy has made sure that if anything happens to him she is still left without a thing if he were killed in the car accident. I can guarantee you there isn't a will with her name on it at all. I love how you all think she's a gold digger No she honestly wasn't love and thought that it would come back that she was showing him she loved him but narcissist nothing you do shows them teaches them or retrains them You can't change them but there's millions of these women out there and men. They just don't have it within them to be cruel.
@@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678 If he’s having an affair at the office, it won’t change after marriage, he’s already having it! 😂 And marriage won’t keep her from leaving, that’s a dumb thing to say. It’ll allow her to take his assets if they ever divorce though. If she’s being abused in anyway, a proposal wouldn’t be the thing to make her want to leave. I’m not saying she’s a gold digger, just that If they got married, NOTHING would change in the negative sense. So it’s very odd that a proposal of all things would trigger her.
I just love the guy.Sounds like a very intelligent man and that he wasn't going to commit to her until he knew She wouldn't leave him and take everything he was worth since He was going up in the world and then when he wanted to settle down and live the rest of his life in retirement and traveling with her she said no😅
I remember this story and it's sad. She played the role of wife and homemaker for 30+ years. I say played because HE refused to marry her because HE thought being an executives girlfriend (his words) was enough and she should be lucky to have that. Stupidly, she stayed, gave him 4 kids, raised them, and was for all intents and purposes his wife despite being criticized heavily in their small southern town. It was ONLY after his career ended in scandal and he was forced to retire that he proposed out of convenience to him. When she expressed hurt he basically said take it or leave it, as a matter of fact keep the ring and GTFO. There was more but the upshot was he revealed how little he loved and valued OP and as of the latest update OP was kicked to the curb, no home, no money, no rights to ANYTHING because common law is not a thing where she is scrambling to find work and shelter,her kids can't really help her because they don't want to be cut off by their dad. Sad.
So many people in the comments need to learn basic emotional intelligence. Reading this comment made me feel like I hadn't suddenly lost my marbles. Thank you for summarizing it so nicely!
“Seeing a lawyer” 😂 6:19
And this is exactly why women need to go to college and get jobs
No... This is why you need to be married before having kids.
@@pilodrou4213 if she wasn’t married but had a job, she’d at least have money for living
@@kris.strelchenko If she was married she would've had Alimony at a minimum being a SAHM if they separated. She would of had protections to stay in the house. She would of had a lot more time during the divorce finalizing to find a place and a job. she would of received alimony after the divorce as to provide until she could find a job. There is NO scenario she was better off not being married to the man.
Let it be a lesson to every woman, stop having kids without being married, 99% of the time you will have a better time for it.
@@pilodrou4213yes and men haven't been known to mysteriously loosing their jobs or making significantly less when they have to pay😂🤔there is no guarantee that she'll get taken care of and you still have no experience working if you've been a sahm for years, noone will hire you for a livable wage
Womp womp😂
*womp to the fucking womp
I remember this post. The ex clearly doesn't seem well liked by anyone in his life. Company and coworkers basically couldn't wait for him to go, kids want to help mom but it seems like they are hesitant to draw any ire from their father. Just seems like the whole situation/relationship was really toxic as a whole.
This is a story that is how real life works out.
If a gas station rejects you you are truly done for lol😂
You are the proplem
He shows how well he takes care of his. The kids will eventually turn in him.
she seems kinda entitled and narcissistic.
Yes.
exactly what I was thinking
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Trust me she is
0:57 for Shorts viewers!
Thank 😂
She deserves it big time, she was in love with her status not with his man
Ayyy, someone gets it!
"I'm too good to work retail with POSSIBLE CRIMINALS" 😂
You have no empathy. Shame on you.
@@marie-zb5bh shame on you she does deserve it
@@marie-zb5bh shes entitled asf
@@marie-zb5bhshame on you for having empathy for an entitled gold digger
She created all of her problems
Sounds like a you problem
How
@@BreaHinton-iv8lo SHE was the one who declined to get married
Ok nvm I get it
Absolutely 50 yrs old with No Job experience and her attitude just reeks entitlement I mean keep your options open for anything can happen in this day and age both parties earning is good for any household
Bro is acting like she is the victim but she put herself under the bus nobody pushed her under the bus like why did you reject him 🤬 you also broke his heart you did not love him 💔 clearly you didn't marry him because he took to long and wasn't an executive now maybe he was right you are a gold digger you monster (the girl not you) and yes that does sound like a you problem
He dodged a tactical nuke
womp to the wompiest fucking womp.
I think this was the dictionary’s new definition for useless
The audacity to ask "how can the world do this to a mother"
🤣🤣🤣
As if being a mother makes her special. Opening your legs (willingly) and popping out kids doesn’t make you special nor should you deserve special treatment.
This is your problem
You brought this on yourself and its his house so what right do you have to it
She just cleaned the house and she felt entitled
That was one expensive eyeroll.......
I get a feeling this woman only have herself to thank for the situation she is in.
BRO
wants to marry bf when he was a exec.
Doesnt want to marry bf when he is not an exec.
Complains about jobs, then says i didnt reply out of frustration
Complains about how a world can treat a mom like this.
calls bf bad guy after she says she wants to leave because she doesnt know what respect is.
calls ex bf a alley cat that is taking away his stuff from her
A woman in her 50s is crying to the internet because of her actions is weird… you ain’t gen-z so don’t act like it (/hj for the last part)
"I just made the mistake of loving a man and hoping he'd value that" She loved him when he was an exec and had tons of money coming in, then suddenly when that's gone she's too good to marry him. And when he decides he doesn't want to be with someone who clearly was a fair-weather partner he's the bad guy. Womp Womp, lady.
Jit tbh I don't care about what she did because how are you posting Reddit while homeless💀
2:19 But the thing is she thinks now is the time marry after I think like 30 50 years of begging I mean she felt like now she's good enough but really the husband knew even if they were married that she could take 50% of his stuff so when he was close to retirement he married her but also we not gonna talk about how when the girl was being independent like he said she could be he got mad 4:20 also who raised kids who don't care about there mother just like that is crazy tbh but yh have a good day
@@Doomscroller_30Because even a phone with no service provider can connect to Wi-Fi almost anywhere. And you can get a free phone from the government if you're poor or homeless
That’s on you girlie pops
you reap what you sow! OP didn't give a fuck if her ex was ready, only when she was! So OP gets NOTHING! You made your bed, now lay in it!
She sounds really entitled. A rich home maker complaining about how retail jobs have criminals and she’s “scared for her safety”. Talking down about those in the shelter like she’s not in the same boat now. Then too lazy to download zoom for an interview. The naivety thinking people are going to feel sorry and get her out of this situation. Sorry lady you did this
I feel like she’s kind of the AH between listening to the short it seems like that she wanted marriage all this time since they were five years into it but now that he’s not an executive and wants to downsize a little bit, she kinda got upset about it I understand where she’s coming from “now you want to marry” but at the same time if you really love somebody marriage shouldn’t be so important to you that it’s an issue to go to therapy over some people just want to wait and if you’re in a committed relationship relationship you’re in a committed relationship. It was kind of stupid of her to leave after 30 years being 53 and having no job experience I mean if she really feels like she doesn’t love him anymore then that’s absolutely what she should do but if not, she’s just doing it out of spite and she never gonna make it unless she wants to tbh
Edit also she says he said take it or leave it but you want him to pay for your collage so you can leave him and not even go with him ?? Delusional
Edit 2: I do feel for her because of the way she was made fun of at the shelter , and not seeing kids as well she’s trying and has never lived in the real world both of them are wrong but also never should’ve listened to someone on Reddit “refuse to leave” when she could’ve made an agreement “I’ll leave if we can agree and some payments for some hotel till I can get a job and possibly pay back as well” would’ve gone over so much better probably
She should’ve left early on, considering that op told her bf 5 years into their relationship that she wanted to be married, yet he continued to stall. They have 4 kids and never got married. I feel a bit bad because she wasted 3 decades of her life for a man who never intended to marry her, even though he knew she wanted to be married. She should’ve left him years ago. This is exactly why you should be married before you have kids.
Womp fuking womp
A five year old comment
@@HarmonyOC ?? WDYM
@@HarmonyOC i dont give a shit
@HarmonyOC Bro is saying that with a huggy wuggy pfp, ain't no way
@@HarmonyOC You look like a 12 year old 💀
This is actually typical, she doesn’t care about all the things he did for her and their children, she care about the one thing he didn’t do!!! Seems like she was envious of his success and secretly competed with him. I’m still floored at how a life long dependent can talk about a power imbalance, this proves she has been listening to feminist propaganda, but she was living the high life due to that imbalance!!! Did anyone else notice how she was trying to get white collar jobs at retirement age with no experience?!?! That man sheltered her too much, she thinks all she has to do is show up and she’ll be an executive just like her and she’ll probably make more than him!!! This woman ruined her life listening to the delusional brigade and now she bouncing from shelter to shelter while she could be traveling the world FOR FREE AS A MARRIED WOMAN!!! Her envy and jealousy got her here and there is no accountability in sight!!!
She stayed and never tried to fuck with him because he never gave her committment and security.
And oh surprise surprise the gold digger wants out now that he doesn't have as much money.
Why would you turn down a man because he waited to propose? She had been there 30 years! She is a fool. You can’t start from nowhere at 52. Better to have accepted the marriage proposal. It’s odd to find your backbone after so long. Also, judges are there to uphold the law. Not fairness and kindness. She has been living in an ivory tower
boyfriend dodged a bullet there tbh
keep crying
You are being very mean to him because he pays the bills and everything you need and you don’t do anything you stay home and do nothing
There are a lot of stay at home moms. Maybe even yours so none of them deserve respect like what?
@@opentoopen stay at home moms do nothing fool
@@alphtjodo9919 you are right.
@@alphtjodo9919 bro your mom stays at home all day to help you with your videos.
@@alphtjodo9919 how old are you?
I'm midway through part 3 and rn the OP is seeming to be a complete jerk. The boyfriend proposed (like you wanted him to) but you shunned him away very rudely. So he kicked you out and now your expecting the whole world to just go in your favor when you haven't worked for 30 years and all family expenses were paid by your boyfriend.
Geez I’ve been with my partner nearly 15 years now and he’s proposed (without a ring cu we’re LDR) and I have always stressed what pre/post marriage steps would need to be taken before even considering kids (if we want them)
Do you all know why he put her out ASAP??? How would you feel if someone broke up with you and wanted to audition for your replacement in your home!!! She said she was looking for something better, where do you think that “looking” was going to take place??? In his home!!!
Frankly I don’t see the point of marrying now. Based on the length of your relationship, you’re married thru common law anyway.
Have i underatood it right she got bullied over the years cause she wasn't married to him and just cause rolled her eyes you say she deserves to live on the street i think both of them are not the smartest or the best people bit to ruin her live is a bit too much bit she is propaply not a good person cause her kids and her friends are not really helping her
She insulted him after he wanted to down size so he kicked her out of his house she Is lucky he let her keep her devices
Marry before you carry. Is hard to feel for her, if she had self respect she would not be in this situation 🤷
Should have just married him and then divorced him to get half his assets. Woman gave up her life and prospects to play a support role for her family, in turn, he was able to work much more and worry less about home matters and able to make a better career. She is a partner in that, even if he borderline screwed it up at the end of his career.
Divorce is usually a terrible answer. But when it comes to someone who still hasn't reached manhood in his fifties, yeah, she should have been forward thinking about it.
Let’s be honest here he probably would of made her sign a prenup
Should have married him, got a divorce and took half!!! 4 kids plus 30 years equals commom law wife.
He probably would of made her sign a pernup
She gives me the girl who threw a bracelet because of Ryan when she said she will sell the ring if he disrespects her even tho he said she could
U spent too many years being stepped on in comfort and now their all turning on u and the world is not nice. Barley anyone will help u. Everyone is too concerned with their own self preservation
There are so many gaps in this story either this is fake or some lies or facts have been left out
If you've been with him for 30 years most countries and states have what is called a common law marriage. Where you've been together for a certain amount of years you are essentially married and required to receive half of all assets. If you found a lawyer who would work on that then you would be ok.
If we are talking about the US strictly there are only 8 states with common law and out of all them a stage The only place that it's very easy to prove common laws is California
Well she got hit by the biggest reality check of her life yet she's nagging about absolutely anything
He made a point that you're nothing without him and your delusions doesn't change that fact
I thought if it as a him just wanting to settle down now that he’s not all cought up with work and wants to live the last bit of his life enjoying time with her but then again I do know that he was harsh and pretty controlling but his intent behind it was most likely nice
Is it just me or do I feel bad for that dude I don't think she knows it but I think she is a gold digger unintentionally
Jesus this reeks of nothing but entitlement from both parties but she basically shot herself in the foot and complained about being handed a gun imo
Bruuuu this is horrible.... I pray she gets better 🙏🏿🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️😞🫢
She stupid thinking everything is going to be fine
Common law wife?
From a legal perspective, a person who is not a lawyer yet is aware of at least my local laws op is fucked. Child support would only be for those under 18 (that doesn't seem like that will last long) due to OP being unmarried to him you are not entitled to any of his assets since Op was quite well off seemingly before this all happened it is likely she does not know how to save money, due to the ex not being abusive to the child (under 18) there is little chance op would get primary custody most likely meaning its split.
Your the problem
…at anytime during this 30 years you could of gotten a job or went to school…like you said… instead you enjoy doing nothing and reaping the benefits of your husband…. and now you’re paying for it because you were lazy and entitled and it shows with those applications and you talking about jobs you have no idea about the real world its sad…
8:46 Fortnite ramps
You played yourself.
She is so entitled
Womp womp deserved
Flip you your wrong why be with him for 30 years just to say no
So she wanted to get married, he was making bank and she never worked a day, now he doesn't have a job and wants to downsize, mow she doesn't want to marry and thinks there is someone better out there in her 50 lol
I’m spilt but I kinda think she’s is the a-hole,hear me out she only wanted too marry him when he was an executive and when he didn’t want to downsize but I understand that she had been begging him to propose to her for 25 years.So yea I’m spilt.
Bruh she is crazy Iam glad men are understanding that being married just means you are losing your conteol ,I swear if it wasn't for the money she would have just leave him with half of his stuff
no he only wanted to marry her cuz he was no longer an executive and he needed someone to fuck as he traveled
Why didn’t she work when she was younger? Can’t waste your life then cry to the internet
Why wait for 25 years to not even accept the proposal. You are just being entitled because it didn’t happen when you wanted it to😂
First of all why would you say no are you slow?
It’s her fault
Gosh I'm sorry for what I said I think op is just quite old and ignorant, the way people who have been out of the work force so long will find it so hard to.find a job , let a lone a white collar, like she thought, with no education, no solid work experience, let alone recent work experience, don't believe what you see online, it's so much harder than they tend to lead people on.
Yta.
Damn woman
Your in the wrong not him
Whomp whomp
HAHA TOO BAD SO SADD HAHAHAHAHAHAH SO SAD NO GOOD SO BAD HAHA TOO BAD
Technically you don’t have value in the relationship and for you to assume you do while disrespecting the person who provides for you shows your character.
You should 6:20
YATA
So she didn't protect her child from the narcissistic father.
Protect from what? He will be a good influence on his child
Tf she is clearly a Gold digger and left her kids behind! Why do you blame the father?
I think we watched two different things here bud
So they didn’t think about their kids at all so they’re just fighting about money and how they’re being treated not their kids just money and how each other are being affected by this
Plus she doesn’t regard her children wishes
Also she's lucky he let her keep her phone and stuff like that since he paid for it
Shes definitely entitled to half. Married or not