Man. I’ll ghost a man so fast for being disrespected. I don’t have time. I’m a good woman and I know it. I will NEVER allow a man to mistreat me. I don’t mind being single. If that’s GOD’s will for me to be single forever than I know I’ll be just fine. Wherever GOD is, is exactly where I wanna be.
I cancelled a first date and blocked a man after he got snippy because I did not reply to his last text. I wasn’t ignoring him, I just didn’t have anything to say. I wondered if I went too far but when a man is pursuing you and wants to impress you, he is not going to do dumb things like catch an attitude, BEFORE the first date.
I’m listening! Tony speaks the truth. When I tell you.. my ex husband hated me. I lost myself for 10 years chasing that man’s validation. It was the power of Christ that set me free to where I learned my worth and I’m so very thankful. I left and never looked back!
I'm going through the grieving stage now. You sharing a bit of your testimony has blessed me greatly...it gives me hope that I too can be healed from this heartbreak and find my worth in Christ. Thank you
@@breonnaw7708 I never thought I would see the day that I would get out of the grieving cycle. It takes work, nurturing yourself back to life. I prayed and fasted alot, joined the gym, learned to enjoy my own company by doting on myself, took myself to nice restaurants, weekend trips, bought myself flowers, mani and pedi, read books, therapy. Then when I got stronger, I volunteered to help ppl in need because the only way to overcome grief is to build a bigger life around it. Grief decreases as your life increases! I pray that God removes the grief and allows you to walk into the life and love you so deserve❤️ Blessings to you sis!
Britt!!!!! I be feeling the same way, Tony be on my toes with the truth, but it’s growing pains for me, imma sit here and listen until my thoughts and actions change for the better. Tony is like the cool uncle that I never had
You're still here!! Learn, trust God, seek His face- your later years will be better because now you know- you're able to discern. Adjust your crown Queen be intentional and keep moving forward!!!
Everything you said about the “hate” is 100% true. Was with my ex husband married 3 years and knew him 10 years…best thing that ever happened was him cheating and me leaving bc I never knew he hated me until I saw how he tried to destroy me. I’m much happier and better off me and my 4 children. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and being transparent Mr Tony
God Bless you Breanna my ex husband hated me because I was on Disability and couldn't help him pay bills the best thing that ever happened to me is him cheating and lying and getting caught I left and Divorced and haven't looked back. 🙏🏾
@@denisedean8503 blessings to you! That’s awful but also I’m sure you learned so much! Divorce is hard! Im almost at the end of the whole process just a few more weeks! Some things we may never fathom but I’m just grateful for the healing, happiness and peace I now have
Preach Tony! You cannot be passive and overly forgiving with a man. These dudes out here will try to run you through the ground if you let them. You HAVE to be TOUGH on these dudes to be respected. It's a fact
The devil sends in decoys to divert you from your blessings. Don't deny the red flags ladies. I spent so many of my years bending my standards and values and almost destroyed me in the end :(. So strong now, laying at the foot of God gave me so much strength. Walked away and have spent the last 5 years building myself on so many levels. The blessings have been flowing in so abundantly.
I told my mom that I though that I deserved an abusing relationship.... SHE DIDNT REACTED. BLACK WOMAN PLEASE TELL YOU DAUGHTERS SHE DESERVE AN LOVING MAN NOT A BASTARD!!!!
My movers will be here on Saturday at 9:00 am. I am moving into my new home and moving on with my life. Tony, you are a huge part of this next step of my life, and I’m so excited about what’s to come!
LISTEN!!! Get a therapist! Get a life coach! Heal YOUR life! Take care of you! Stop worrying about what other people will think or say. It's okay to take care of you mentally. Self love is the best love. ❤💞 Women we are POWERFUL! 👑
Had some very choice words when I recently held a grown boy accountable for his slimy actions. I can tell his ego won’t allow him to admit that I’m right and that he’s not used to women holding him accountable, but I’m glad I stood my ground.
I cut him off 7 days ago.. I just knew it was time to stop the madness. I left him a text message that i was done. I didn't even explain why this time. I Had Enough of telling him why in the pass.. I blocked 🚫 his number, deactivated my FB and Deleted all our text messages. Had to Stop Tortoring myself. No i can breathe again. His family wants me to stay with him untill he is ready to get married. Its been 3 years on and off with the Marriage thing. My Mom said don't beg a man to Marry you.. Your to cute for that, lol.. The truth is, if i stayed i would be doing just that.. Constantly dancing around the Subject and getting my feelings hurt are we there yet, lol.. Now im Bing watching Tony's Video's, Walking and working out, budgeting my Bills and in Prayer for a Stress free Life.. Thank You God!!
@@lashawnward340 God bless and enjoy your peace and sanity. Seek God. Besides, any sexual sin will put you on the road to hell, and must be repented of. There is no once saved always saved.
Hi Tony, you probably don’t remember me but I am the same girl that left a comment on one of your videos about a year ago, I was 17, now 18, turning 19 this year. I just wanted to thank you for your videos once again. Your videos hit deeper for me because my father abruptly passed away when I was 9, and you have really really really had an amazing influence on my life and guided me toward the right direction as the only male figure in my life I can even listen to speak. You have been guiding me since I was a junior in high school, and I am now entering college. Thank you to God, you, and your family. God bless you and please continue posting videos, I listen to every single one of them just to keep staying on the right path. Thank you!!:)
Your story is very similar to mine. I discovered his channel during my junior year, too. And am now going into my first year of college. I wish you nothing but blessings and prosperity 🙏🏾.
Reina, God ordered your steps and connected you with Mr. Tony. Wishing you much success in college. Please stay focused on God and your academics" and watch how God is going to bless you!!! Keep listening.
My so call bf complained and said I used him when I asked him for a plate of 18.⁰⁰ food. New boo offered to pave my drive way for free. Some men don't do right. Leave!
Whew this was right on time I literally packed my bags 💼 and left a toxic 21 years marriage. It hasn’t been easy but Lord knows it’s been worth it 🙌🏽 . It’s getting better ❤️🩹 day by day and the best is yet to come….stay tuned
The “hate” is straight facts Tony. My ex had been abused by his father and his brothers as a kid and his mother never intervened and the crazy thing is he never confronted his family about what he endured. Instead he used me as his emotional punching bag. The verbal abuse was crazy. Literally stuff I would never say to my worst enemy. At the time I was scared to leave but now a year and a half later, I’m so glad I did. I’m in a much happier place mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Actions never lie ladies! As much as we want the people we love to love is back, sometimes they don’t. I wasted 8 years in a toxic marriage with a narcissist. I allowed him to destroy my peace, confidence and self- esteem. I finally got the courage to leave with my children. I stayed so long because I truly didn’t love myself. It’s a totally different story now! I love me some of me, and I will never lose myself again for anyone. This what I teach on my RUclips channel. Thank you brother Tony.💕
Girl yes im struggling to leave mine. Completely invalidated. Gas lighting turning it on you bc you ask a question. I didn't love myself to know its not ok to be treated that way. He brought up a plate of 18.⁰⁰ food and said I used him. I see the good in him and he's upstanding. Just emotionally defective. So when you see the great its hard to let go. But the key is he don't see no wrong care to listen or talk. But will cut you off and say don't answer questions w/ a question but he do it. It was cute at first but I found out its way beyond me. He said I have to earn him? But you AWOL don't call cancel so how do I earn you. Contradiction when its for his benefit. Circles.. can't talk anger..... I left 4 months ago.. its hard to leave the D (that was too big & wack) sad but slowly started talking to him bc I see and love the effort but its only short lived and I have a lifetime. For me.. full of good creams lotions perfumes. Just buy stuff for me and set a president. Yes jts material but im hurting inside and after this storm my hearts in God so thr new boo would have to find me thereThanks for sharing
Yes this is so common...men in a relationship saying they love a woman when they actually hate her and using her as a punching bag emotionally and sometimes physically... it's so twisted😫😫
I think “Manhood” & “Womanhood” should be a mandatory course in high school & college (I & II). Many are so confused & are just out here running amuck. The new generation needs a textbook (or a video series b/c they don’t read anymore either)to respect & follow the rules.
Yesss. We Teaching all the wrong stuff in these schools. I have a video scheduled in two weeks on my RUclips about defining womanhood. I teach on my channel.
I took 4 sessions of boxing classes and when I tell you it ain’t no joke. I quit too. When Tony said he quit, I said to myself, I know that’s right. Lol
Loved this message! Treat others the way you want to be treated, but also don’t allow others to mistreat you as a reflection of themselves. Needed this, time to level up! God bless
Ohhhh My God, you done did it for me, if I don't hear nothing else from you Sir... I thought it was me, " in a relationship with a man that hates you"... that's deep.
I'll confirm what you said. I do understand now why my dad hates my mum that much. She's tried to hold him accountable for years, but he's never been in love with her. He's suffered a lot in his youth and tried to make my mum pay for his past. She has suffered all kinds of abuse with him. My mum has always been wondering why my dad was so abusive. I got the answer now. Men use women as Teddy bears instead of going on therapy. So sad! He's still full of hatred because she left him. She had no other option, anyway. Thanks Tony, for opening our eyes!
This made me humble with listening and being approached by men. The key is women can't take it all for any and from everybody. Keep a poker face and exit the side door.
Great speech Tony, most men will never change because they find women who will always put up with them! I was the third woman my son father got with have a child with live together and he still wanted to do whatever, I moved out got my own place, car and a great job. It’s been 3 years since we broke up our son will be 5 years old in December, he move in with the 4th woman he got pregnant a few months ago smh!!!
One thing I see as a common theme in the chat is this: we all have a flood of peace, health, clarity, financial gain, walk in purpose and overall wonderful lives when we finally rid our lives of toxic men.☝🏾🤣🤣🤣 Lord, help us all NOT to see all men as trash. Help us love ourselves, protect our relationship with God and our peace at ALL costs and LORD help us not to become hard and bitter, but instead, learn from our mistakes, forgive, change our mindset, seek therapy and deliverance from literal demons and family curses and help us keep our sense of wonder 🦋 and appreciation for the beautiful people and creations in the world.
Hmmmm. .". Don't let a man see you cry?" I really don't care to turn myself into a psychopath or fake person in order to be in a relationship. My 30 year marriage of deception and chaos gave me a strength I didnt know I had (and 3 amazing kids) but I refuse to become hardened and bitter. I cry... and if a man can't respect me for having normal human emotions then me and my tears and my love and devotion have no problem going elsewhere.
I think he’s saying you can cry just not in-front of them because they don’t process us crying they same way we do. Men have been conditioned to think crying is weakness.
Just my guess, I’m thinking that statement depends on the context, caveats and nuances. That said, I agree with not hardening the heart 💜 There is a balance and even with a good man we need to manage our emotions. We expect people to manage their anger, so we need to manage out sadness and hurt too.
When I started seriously holding my now ex husband in check, the way he treated me was 360. He still has a way to go before I’d ever take him back, but he know I’m serious about the way I expect to be treated.
Tony you’re right about the poker face. I’ve learned over 18 years of marriage that silence is Golden with my husband. He doesn’t know what I’m thinking when I’m silent. It may be eating me up inside but I don’t let him see me sweat. Tony you’re being blessed by God because the Bible tells us that we shall know the truth and the truth shall make us free.
🥺 I wish I had this message 8 months ago! Got emotional, got dumped, but it turned out to be the best thing for me and my mental health because looking back on it, I know he would have taken me through it. So glad that his rejection was God’s Protection! 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Yes my most recent ex.. absolutely hated me. I forgave him because 1) I have to take accountability for ignoring the red flags 2) the kind of help he needs he needs to find himself. It hurts, it sucks but let go and let GOD! 🤲🏾💗
Tony you are so right about alot of men giving too much power to the vajay. I am a caregiver and I’ve had men in their 80s and 90s still talking about sex; trying to get me in the hospital bed. Unreal. Also, My ex boyfriend told me once( he is a good man! ) that men love food but don’t want to eat all the time, and just because men like sex don’t mean they want it all the time. That made alot of sense. I never bit my tongue with him, i was very direct with my communication 🙌
Preach!!! Since I’ve started listening to you, RC Blake’s and Coach Rod, my life has been better. I got out of my toxic relationship and will no longer allow anyone to mistreat me. I will seek only God and allow him to direct my path and my focus. Being single has been such a wonderful blessing. I’m more plentiful than I’ve EVER been before and I achieved it alone. All that “I can do bad by myself” stuff? No honey, I can do BETTER by myself!
THANK YOU!! the poker face. RBF. I didnt know i had one til i had a cell phone! You make me grateful that NO ONE is trying to Call Me!! Thank you Holy Spirit! I will abstain until the Lord appoints a husband!!
Wowww!! Thank you for keeping it real, you done kicked plenty doors down with this message. HA!!! The devil got two black eyes today. Yesss sirrrreeee. 💎💎💎🔥🔥🔥
So true! I was with a man that took his hate out on me so I was taking me hate out on some of my family at times. It really disturbs me to know that so many think this way. I can’t even articulate how horrible it is.
I used to cry soooooo much Infront of boyfriends. And they Never cared about my pain . I would profusely be in so much pain wailing out. And it's almost like he enjoying my suffering.
I keep meeting guys who tell me that I'm "too deep", when I call them out on something "I'm tripping ". I don't even bother anymore. I let you do you and slowing remove myself with no explanation or warnings signs. I asked one guy what is something that he learned about himself within a year? His response "that's too personal & deep". I'm so mentally over guys it's not even funny. In the mist of it all I know God has his daughter best intrest, completely trusting him. How do u change your profile pic?
I’m sorry but I started cracking up reading this because this a really how men out here act. It’s so pathetic you just have to laugh.Its like we’re all meeting the same guys in a different body.😂
I can’t be in a relationship with a man waging spiritual warfare against me, that’s totally what a relationship shouldn’t be about. I have integrity and if a man doesn’t, then we are wrong for each other.
dang tony. I haven't watched your videos in a minute, and something pushed me to watch this video. I really needed this, thank you for your wise words and wisdom. These are things I've known but needed to hear for reassurance.
A womans heart should be so hidden in GOD that a man has to seek HIM just to find her ~Maya Angelou
Amen amen!!!!
Wow and Amen!
Absolutely well said ! 🎯💯
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Man. I’ll ghost a man so fast for being disrespected. I don’t have time. I’m a good woman and I know it. I will NEVER allow a man to mistreat me. I don’t mind being single. If that’s GOD’s will for me to be single forever than I know I’ll be just fine. Wherever GOD is, is exactly where I wanna be.
Yes sis!
I cancelled a first date and blocked a man after he got snippy because I did not reply to his last text. I wasn’t ignoring him, I just didn’t have anything to say. I wondered if I went too far but when a man is pursuing you and wants to impress you, he is not going to do dumb things like catch an attitude, BEFORE the first date.
I'm right there with you on this!
@Alicia
Yes ma’am. Me too, will drop them quickly. 👌🏽
Me too sis.
I love when Tony allows us to peak into a man's mind.
Facts
peak? he has literally done brain surgery so we can see the men's brain! he has gave us sooooo much game! he is the goat
@@chowbay-la4248 correct.
Honestly
It's my favorite
I’m listening! Tony speaks the truth. When I tell you.. my ex husband hated me. I lost myself for 10 years chasing that man’s validation. It was the power of Christ that set me free to where I learned my worth and I’m so very thankful. I left and never looked back!
Good for you Kenya so did I God Bless you and me. 🙏🏾
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I always say that God got me out of the relationship that I did not have the courage to get myself out off.
I'm going through the grieving stage now. You sharing a bit of your testimony has blessed me greatly...it gives me hope that I too can be healed from this heartbreak and find my worth in Christ. Thank you
@@breonnaw7708 I never thought I would see the day that I would get out of the grieving cycle. It takes work, nurturing yourself back to life. I prayed and fasted alot, joined the gym, learned to enjoy my own company by doting on myself, took myself to nice restaurants, weekend trips, bought myself flowers, mani and pedi, read books, therapy. Then when I got stronger, I volunteered to help ppl in need because the only way to overcome grief is to build a bigger life around it. Grief decreases as your life increases! I pray that God removes the grief and allows you to walk into the life and love you so deserve❤️ Blessings to you sis!
"Men will play you till they break you"...had to pause right there..ok, keep going Tony! 💯💯
Sometimes I cry watching these videos wishing I had these 15 years ago thinking about how different my life would have been
You are not alone. Better now than never.🤗
Britt!!!!! I be feeling the same way, Tony be on my toes with the truth, but it’s growing pains for me, imma sit here and listen until my thoughts and actions change for the better. Tony is like the cool uncle that I never had
You're still here!! Learn, trust God, seek His face- your later years will be better because now you know- you're able to discern. Adjust your crown Queen be intentional and keep moving forward!!!
Everything you said about the “hate” is 100% true. Was with my ex husband married 3 years and knew him 10 years…best thing that ever happened was him cheating and me leaving bc I never knew he hated me until I saw how he tried to destroy me. I’m much happier and better off me and my 4 children. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and being transparent Mr Tony
@@shenika1979 wow that’s very unfortunate. All we can do is pray she will see before she’s to invested and that she will be ok
@@breannasharisse2008 right! And that I have done 🙏🏽
@@shenika1979 maybe you should share some of Tony’s videos with her and hearing his wisdom she may see some red flags
God Bless you Breanna my ex husband hated me because I was on Disability and couldn't help him pay bills the best thing that ever happened to me is him cheating and lying and getting caught I left and Divorced and haven't looked back. 🙏🏾
@@denisedean8503 blessings to you! That’s awful but also I’m sure you learned so much! Divorce is hard! Im almost at the end of the whole process just a few more weeks! Some things we may never fathom but I’m just grateful for the healing, happiness and peace I now have
Preach Tony! You cannot be passive and overly forgiving with a man. These dudes out here will try to run you through the ground if you let them. You HAVE to be TOUGH on these dudes to be respected. It's a fact
Soooo true!!
Fact
Yep
I agree 100%! It’s ridiculous because we basically have to be on guard, you can’t be too nice bc they’ll take advantage of you smh
The devil sends in decoys to divert you from your blessings. Don't deny the red flags ladies. I spent so many of my years bending my standards and values and almost destroyed me in the end :(. So strong now, laying at the foot of God gave me so much strength. Walked away and have spent the last 5 years building myself on so many levels. The blessings have been flowing in so abundantly.
Amen Hallelujah. 🙏🏾
God is shifting. A lot of people are single because he is doing individual work on his people.
I am in total agreement with you that men are crazy without Christ.
Ikr. Bc I am. I been itching to read the Quran but be scared bc I'm not living 😢right
I told my mom that I though that I deserved an abusing relationship.... SHE DIDNT REACTED. BLACK WOMAN PLEASE TELL YOU DAUGHTERS SHE DESERVE AN LOVING MAN NOT A BASTARD!!!!
My movers will be here on Saturday at 9:00 am. I am moving into my new home and moving on with my life. Tony, you are a huge part of this next step of my life, and I’m so excited about what’s to come!
@@ohheynoella thank you! 🤗
YES QUEEN! Amen! 🙌🏽
Right on sweetie, I feel u. And I'm doing the same. Moving out of NC. So I can hve reassurance of a new beginning without looking bck. Amen🙌💃
@@innocentlife2346 awesome!! Congratulations, and best wishes on everything!
@@theharmonypill4516 💕🙏🏾🤗 thank you Queen!
LISTEN!!! Get a therapist! Get a life coach! Heal YOUR life! Take care of you! Stop worrying about what other people will think or say. It's okay to take care of you mentally. Self love is the best love. ❤💞 Women we are POWERFUL! 👑
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It’s a demon spirit, no real man loves attacking a woman. & a woman can only help a man that wants to be helped he also has to love a woman.❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾
@@tijuanajohnson2297 Cleary you need to go back to school or work on this sense of humour because I guarantee no one knows what you’re on about.
Had some very choice words when I recently held a grown boy accountable for his slimy actions. I can tell his ego won’t allow him to admit that I’m right and that he’s not used to women holding him accountable, but I’m glad I stood my ground.
I know that's right!
Me too girl.🤦
I cut him off 7 days ago.. I just knew it was time to stop the madness. I left him a text message that i was done. I didn't even explain why this time. I Had Enough of telling him why in the pass.. I blocked 🚫 his number, deactivated my FB and Deleted all our text messages. Had to Stop Tortoring myself. No i can breathe again. His family wants me to stay with him untill he is ready to get married. Its been 3 years on and off with the Marriage thing. My Mom said don't beg a man to Marry you.. Your to cute for that, lol.. The truth is, if i stayed i would be doing just that.. Constantly dancing around the Subject and getting my feelings hurt are we there yet, lol.. Now im Bing watching Tony's Video's, Walking and working out, budgeting my Bills and in Prayer for a Stress free Life.. Thank You God!!
@@lashawnward340 Good for you, sis!
@@lashawnward340 God bless and enjoy your peace and sanity. Seek God. Besides, any sexual sin will put you on the road to hell, and must be repented of. There is no once saved always saved.
Hi Tony, you probably don’t remember me but I am the same girl that left a comment on one of your videos about a year ago, I was 17, now 18, turning 19 this year. I just wanted to thank you for your videos once again. Your videos hit deeper for me because my father abruptly passed away when I was 9, and you have really really really had an amazing influence on my life and guided me toward the right direction as the only male figure in my life I can even listen to speak. You have been guiding me since I was a junior in high school, and I am now entering college. Thank you to God, you, and your family. God bless you and please continue posting videos, I listen to every single one of them just to keep staying on the right path. Thank you!!:)
Your story is very similar to mine. I discovered his channel during my junior year, too. And am now going into my first year of college. I wish you nothing but blessings and prosperity 🙏🏾.
@@kilimanjaro5537 You are Blessed to have found Tony Gaskins at such a tender age. Heed his advice and you can’t go wrong. I wish I did.
Reina, I’m glad you found Tony Gaskins at this time in your life. Stay strong and continue to listen. The man knows what he’s talking about.
Reina, God ordered your steps and connected you with Mr. Tony. Wishing you much success in college. Please stay focused on God and your academics" and watch how God is going to bless you!!! Keep listening.
A man will play you until, he breaks you!!!!.Whatever they give I return!!! THE GLOVES ARE OFF!!!!
My so call bf complained and said I used him when I asked him for a plate of 18.⁰⁰ food. New boo offered to pave my drive way for free. Some men don't do right. Leave!
“And it told me something about men…WE CRAZY” cracked me all the way up…I concur sir. 😂
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Whew this was right on time I literally packed my bags 💼 and left a toxic 21 years marriage. It hasn’t been easy but Lord knows it’s been worth it 🙌🏽 . It’s getting better ❤️🩹 day by day and the best is yet to come….stay tuned
After 22 years and 3 kids, I'm now living my best life at 50.
Blessings to you sis!! It will get better!! 🙏🏽
Okay Pamela be strong keep God first place been there myself almost two years Divorce still healing. 🙏🏾
@@denisedean8503 yes 🙌🏽 thanks 🙏🏽
Very good. Stay strong..heal you
Tony: "I'm doing boxing🥊 training"
Next sentence: "And I already quit."
I hollered!
😂😂😂 ikr!
😬😬😬🤣
Lol.. I laughed so hard.. Thks 😂🤣
Me too sis!!! 😂😂😂
🤣😂. I respect his honesty though.
The “hate” is straight facts Tony. My ex had been abused by his father and his brothers as a kid and his mother never intervened and the crazy thing is he never confronted his family about what he endured. Instead he used me as his emotional punching bag. The verbal abuse was crazy. Literally stuff I would never say to my worst enemy. At the time I was scared to leave but now a year and a half later, I’m so glad I did. I’m in a much happier place mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
@Jessica
Happy for you. Don’t ever look back.
Blessings to you Queen 🙏🏾❤
@@cherh thank you 😊💕 blessings to you too!
@@5Luckyducky thank you. Never looked back 🙌🏾😊✨💕
@@VintageAfro91 thank you!
Actions never lie ladies! As much as we want the people we love to love is back, sometimes they don’t. I wasted 8 years in a toxic marriage with a narcissist. I allowed him to destroy my peace, confidence and self- esteem. I finally got the courage to leave with my children. I stayed so long because I truly didn’t love myself. It’s a totally different story now! I love me some of me, and I will never lose myself again for anyone. This what I teach on my RUclips channel. Thank you brother Tony.💕
Girl yes im struggling to leave mine. Completely invalidated. Gas lighting turning it on you bc you ask a question. I didn't love myself to know its not ok to be treated that way. He brought up a plate of 18.⁰⁰ food and said I used him. I see the good in him and he's upstanding. Just emotionally defective. So when you see the great its hard to let go. But the key is he don't see no wrong care to listen or talk. But will cut you off and say don't answer questions w/ a question but he do it. It was cute at first but I found out its way beyond me. He said I have to earn him? But you AWOL don't call cancel so how do I earn you. Contradiction when its for his benefit. Circles.. can't talk anger..... I left 4 months ago.. its hard to leave the D (that was too big & wack) sad but slowly started talking to him bc I see and love the effort but its only short lived and I have a lifetime. For me.. full of good creams lotions perfumes. Just buy stuff for me and set a president. Yes jts material but im hurting inside and after this storm my hearts in God so thr new boo would have to find me thereThanks for sharing
Love your channel Krystle!
K Michelle said it best " you can't raise a man" Keisha Cole said "it ain't about where he's at its where he wants to be"
Amen
Yes this is so common...men in a relationship saying they love a woman when they actually hate her and using her as a punching bag emotionally and sometimes physically... it's so twisted😫😫
Lawd i had to pause this and block him. you are the truth! thank you
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I understand! 😌
“He’s taking his pain out on you!” TG
My Dad told me when I was 16, never let people see you cry.
A man told me he would never put his young son in football. He said it is brutal on the body and the mind.
I think “Manhood” & “Womanhood” should be a mandatory course in high school & college
(I & II). Many are so confused & are just out here running amuck. The new generation needs a textbook (or a video series b/c they don’t read anymore either)to respect & follow the rules.
I agree! It should be mandatory. Like, no receiving a diploma or any degree until you take those courses and pass with an A! Couldn't agree more!
Yesss. We Teaching all the wrong stuff in these schools. I have a video scheduled in two weeks on my RUclips about defining womanhood. I teach on my channel.
Tony: i been taking boxing lessons. I done already quit 😂😂😂😂 i burst out laughing he was dead serious
I took 4 sessions of boxing classes and when I tell you it ain’t no joke. I quit too. When Tony said he quit, I said to myself, I know that’s right. Lol
Your good man should be the proper place to CRY. It shouldn't trigger his sympathy, it should trigger his PROTECTION instinct.
Loved this message! Treat others the way you want to be treated, but also don’t allow others to mistreat you as a reflection of themselves. Needed this, time to level up! God bless
Yes. Time to LEVEL UPPPP. But these women have to raise their standards. If they man can't meet them. Goodbye. I teach on my channel
Use your powers wisely ladies, know your worth. Your real power starts in the MIND 💎
Whew!🔥💯
Stay positive and prayed up
Stay discerning.
Ohhhh My God, you done did it for me, if I don't hear nothing else from you Sir... I thought it was me, " in a relationship with a man that hates you"... that's deep.
I'll confirm what you said. I do understand now why my dad hates my mum that much. She's tried to hold him accountable for years, but he's never been in love with her. He's suffered a lot in his youth and tried to make my mum pay for his past. She has suffered all kinds of abuse with him. My mum has always been wondering why my dad was so abusive. I got the answer now. Men use women as Teddy bears instead of going on therapy. So sad! He's still full of hatred because she left him. She had no other option, anyway. Thanks Tony, for opening our eyes!
This made me humble with listening and being approached by men. The key is women can't take it all for any and from everybody. Keep a poker face and exit the side door.
Ladies you have to have self love for yourself. When you do a man will either shape up or ship out.
Great speech Tony, most men will never change because they find women who will always put up with them! I was the third woman my son father got with have a child with live together and he still wanted to do whatever, I moved out got my own place, car and a great job. It’s been 3 years since we broke up our son will be 5 years old in December, he move in with the 4th woman he got pregnant a few months ago smh!!!
Sad. Listen to RC Blake’s. He’s another speaker about women empowerment
Tony been doing the vids like crazy lately … I enjoy them all tho … great info!😃
You don't need a toxic person 2 be happy 😁😁😁❤️💜🙌🏼🙌🕊️🔥🔥🔥
And I'm grateful 🙏 because I need something to throw on while I'm working or driving
“Until we are renewed by Christ, every man know that we crazy.”
Thank you, Tony. I heard it all in this 🌰
Yes sir it's true... Ask yourself if you love yourself? ... That's a standard that's nonegobiale. Don't let anyone drain and drag you Queens!
Thank you for educating us women on the mind of a Man.
Thank you tony. A lot of women need to hear this message, I know I did.
One thing I see as a common theme in the chat is this: we all have a flood of peace, health, clarity, financial gain, walk in purpose and overall wonderful lives when we finally rid our lives of toxic men.☝🏾🤣🤣🤣
Lord, help us all NOT to see all men as trash. Help us love ourselves, protect our relationship with God and our peace at ALL costs and LORD help us not to become hard and bitter, but instead, learn from our mistakes, forgive, change our mindset, seek therapy and deliverance from literal demons and family curses and
help us keep our sense of wonder 🦋 and appreciation for the beautiful people and creations in the world.
I wish he will 📌 this comment..wow! Amen..🥰🥰
😭😭😭"You need to talk to me better"😂😂😂😂
“ Women you got to wake up and smell the Folgers, Ayyy Folgers sent me a check” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you for this excellent teaching Mr.Tony Gaskins...blessings
Hmmmm. .". Don't let a man see you cry?" I really don't care to turn myself into a psychopath or fake person in order to be in a relationship. My 30 year marriage of deception and chaos gave me a strength I didnt know I had (and 3 amazing kids) but I refuse to become hardened and bitter. I cry... and if a man can't respect me for having normal human emotions then me and my tears and my love and devotion have no problem going elsewhere.
YUP...I was thinking the same thing
I think he’s saying you can cry just not in-front of them because they don’t process us crying they same way we do. Men have been conditioned to think crying is weakness.
Just my guess, I’m thinking that statement depends on the context, caveats and nuances. That said, I agree with not hardening the heart 💜 There is a balance and even with a good man we need to manage our emotions. We expect people to manage their anger, so we need to manage out sadness and hurt too.
When I started seriously holding my now ex husband in check, the way he treated me was 360. He still has a way to go before I’d ever take him back, but he know I’m serious about the way I expect to be treated.
Hey Sista, it's a 180°
A 360° takes you back to the same, while a 180° is the change, the difference.
As soon as he said “you gotta wake up and smell the Folders in the morning “ I knew he was about to hit us with the “Folders send me a check” lol
Tony you’re right about the poker face. I’ve learned over 18 years of marriage that silence is Golden with my husband. He doesn’t know what I’m thinking when I’m silent. It may be eating me up inside but I don’t let him see me sweat. Tony you’re being blessed by God because the Bible tells us that we shall know the truth and the truth shall make us free.
🥺 I wish I had this message 8 months ago! Got emotional, got dumped, but it turned out to be the best thing for me and my mental health because looking back on it, I know he would have taken me through it. So glad that his rejection was God’s Protection! 🙌🏽🙏🏽
I love you Tony! When you said I know something about men. We 🤪 crazy!
Just blocked someone …after a few dates…thank you for this….this confirms my action.
😂😂😂 I had to laugh at that one. Good for you!!! Leave and block after third date.
Continue to Aspire to Inspire Before you Expire… I appreciate your words OG. ✊🏾
He’s speaking facts y’all!! 💯💯💯
God bless you, Tony.
“Folgers send me a check.” 😂😅😂
Yes my most recent ex.. absolutely hated me. I forgave him because 1) I have to take accountability for ignoring the red flags 2) the kind of help he needs he needs to find himself. It hurts, it sucks but let go and let GOD! 🤲🏾💗
Honestly they push things too far and then are upset when women walk away
Thank the heavenly Father for you and your wisdom....
Tony you are so right about alot of men giving too much power to the vajay. I am a caregiver and I’ve had men in their 80s and 90s still talking about sex; trying to get me in the hospital bed. Unreal.
Also, My ex boyfriend told me once( he is a good man! ) that men love food but don’t want to eat all the time, and just because men like sex don’t mean they want it all the time. That made alot of sense. I never bit my tongue with him, i was very direct with my communication 🙌
“Stauboooks” 😂 I love his accent
YOU ARE SO SO RIGHT ON POINT...🤔🤔🤔🤔
Preach!!! Since I’ve started listening to you, RC Blake’s and Coach Rod, my life has been better. I got out of my toxic relationship and will no longer allow anyone to mistreat me. I will seek only God and allow him to direct my path and my focus. Being single has been such a wonderful blessing. I’m more plentiful than I’ve EVER been before and I achieved it alone. All that “I can do bad by myself” stuff? No honey, I can do BETTER by myself!
I love this video! Hearing it the way you just said it, just broke something off of my heart💛 You and Sheri give me so much hope!
THANK YOU!! the poker face. RBF. I didnt know i had one til i had a cell phone! You make me grateful that NO ONE is trying to Call Me!! Thank you Holy Spirit! I will abstain until the Lord appoints a husband!!
Why Tony look like he in a plane That's a fly-ass car then
♥️. This information is so empowering.
Wowww!! Thank you for keeping it real, you done kicked plenty doors down with this message. HA!!! The devil got two black eyes today. Yesss sirrrreeee. 💎💎💎🔥🔥🔥
LOL tony said folgers send him a check!!!🤣🤣
Unsolicited advertisement for FOLGER'S COFFEE. Send me a CHECK! 🤣🤣🤣
I watch this video and it totally change my mind. Thank you so much! I have learned so many thing from this video.
Brilliant & Well Said 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Brother Tony be dropping those 💎!
Tony this message really hit home deep. I dated several boys out here on what u jus describe. Amen🤦
Tony you just confirmed all I had I'm my mind but I was doubting myself. Thank you very much!
Whooooaaa! One of the most powerful videos BY FAR!! Just went through this…. Thank you for this very timely message Mr. Gaskins. 🙏🏾
Preach sir!!! Remembering constantly to Seek Ye the Kingdom Of God Most High!!....We have to 🔴 stop idolizing relationships, sex, marriage and etc...
So true! I was with a man that took his hate out on me so I was taking me hate out on some of my family at times. It really disturbs me to know that so many think this way. I can’t even articulate how horrible it is.
Wow, this is so good.
Happy Thursday blessed tribe. Keep your head up😊
TEACH IT 2 US WOMAN, MOTHERS & GRANDMOTHERS Tony🙏
Tony, brother from another mother thank you for this message.. I so needed this at this very moment!!!
I used to cry soooooo much Infront of boyfriends. And they Never cared about my pain . I would profusely be in so much pain wailing out. And it's almost like he enjoying my suffering.
@Priscilla I know right
If you want to be my King you have to serve The King of Kings, the Lord of Lords.
👑✝️💖
I like this saying!!!
I packed my stuff and left. Not working out for him
"MEN WILL PUSH YOU UNTIL THEY BREAK YOU" ....TG
I keep meeting guys who tell me that I'm "too deep", when I call them out on something "I'm tripping ". I don't even bother anymore. I let you do you and slowing remove myself with no explanation or warnings signs.
I asked one guy what is something that he learned about himself within a year? His response "that's too personal & deep".
I'm so mentally over guys it's not even funny. In the mist of it all I know God has his daughter best intrest, completely trusting him.
How do u change your profile pic?
I’m sorry but I started cracking up reading this because this a really how men out here act. It’s so pathetic you just have to laugh.Its like we’re all meeting the same guys in a different body.😂
this message was so good, I rewinded& heard it back to back
Thank you so much I needed to hear this today. Wish there were more men like you. One in a million! 🤗🤗
I had to pause to laugh when you said “guaddle”
Sis..and in the very next sentence he defined "guaddle"...sent me..🤣🤣
@@ThisIzKena I swear he be playing too much sometimes 😂
You are so right.
Thank you for helping me with my Soul tie !
May God continue to bless you and your beautiful family. My auntie and I watch you all the time!
I can’t be in a relationship with a man waging spiritual warfare against me, that’s totally what a relationship shouldn’t be about. I have integrity and if a man doesn’t, then we are wrong for each other.
Dag.... They with you, but they HATE you!
Sadly too true.
TG that use to be me but this knowledge has gotten me together. I know he’s toxic hurt fir a min but life will get better
dang tony. I haven't watched your videos in a minute, and something pushed me to watch this video. I really needed this, thank you for your wise words and wisdom. These are things I've known but needed to hear for reassurance.