What's your "A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth" story?

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  • @roxanne1762
    @roxanne1762 4 месяца назад +581

    Im the child- when I spoke up about the abuse of my stepfather, one of my teachers went to cps on behalf and permission. A case was filed and a case worker came to our house and interviewed Everyone. My mother was very angry… not at my stepfather. At me. Cause I aired dirty laundry and there was a chance of him getting arrested and then deported back to Mexico. She didn’t care of how her kids were treated, didn’t care how I cried, didn’t care about what case worker said about the safety and well being of her children… she only cared (at the time) of how the rest of the family and clients would know and see him for what he was… monster. After I turned 18, I escaped from there and slowly healed. I became somewhat normal and a functional person. I would visit home just to see how my younger sister and brother were doing and found out that the abuse moved on to them. I was upset. I told my mom if she didn’t do anything about it I would go to CPS and the cops about it. The threat sort of worked as she began to see how my stepfather was tear up the family and causing her kids to practically go NC with her cause of him. I try not to hate people as that just hurting me more- but he was the exception. I HATED HIM. I prayed for God to give him the punishment he deserves… and one day he did. He was diagnosed with cancer in his liver due to his poor health and lifestyle. He lost his ability to walk properly, he refused chemotherapy, and my mom got tired of him treating her like a dog after all her kids left and it was only just her in the house. She left him and my little brother went back to care for him (he felt pity and bad) after 2months he finally died. After the funeral and legal things were handled… i took a solo trip to his grave site, dug a hole, took the BIGGEST SHIT and PiSS on his grave planted a protected species of Cactus on his grave…

    • @kimhohlmayer7018
      @kimhohlmayer7018 4 месяца назад +44

      @@roxanne1762 I’m glad you were able to help your siblings and push your mother to dump him. I’m sorry you were not treated and raised the way you should have been. You managed to become a hell of a great adult in spite of your mom and stepdad. You are more than a survivor. You became essentially your own hero and the person who would help your siblings. You are awesome!

    • @wileycoyote7481
      @wileycoyote7481 4 месяца назад +53

      I'm so glad you were able to escape, and planting that protected species of cactus was genius, preventing you from being caught by making it illegal to search for the defecation.

    • @Imaih048
      @Imaih048 4 месяца назад +58

      While I am glad you got out and managed to help your siblings, Do Not let your mother off the hook: She brought The Monster, She prioritized it's presence over the health and well being of her children, she is just as guilty and bad.
      You have done away to move on from the abuse, but your mother cannot be trusted not to bring some other monster into your family life - don't let her.

    • @roxanne1762
      @roxanne1762 4 месяца назад +46

      @@Imaih048 oh trust me… she is being reminded of that. We are healing. Slowly but steadily I am holding her accountable in her transgressions

    • @HasufelyArod
      @HasufelyArod 4 месяца назад +8

      I'm so narrating this on my channel, lol

  • @Zazazafggt
    @Zazazafggt 4 месяца назад +1110

    The ultimate example is large groups of people who start revolution, usually young people with no hope of prosperity.

    • @tp2005
      @tp2005 4 месяца назад +101

      In other words, the US in another few years with the track we're on

    • @kos2919
      @kos2919 4 месяца назад +50

      @@tp2005 And it still not happened because the economy barely able to keep these people survive. But one economic misstep will break the country. 2008 doesn't count because it's not as bad as 1930s depression era.

    • @Jay-hu3ol
      @Jay-hu3ol 4 месяца назад +28

      They usually don't burn their village though. They protect it. Just look at Ireland and Vietnam.

    • @Aesos3429
      @Aesos3429 4 месяца назад +9

      @@Jay-hu3ol that’s true, but then there are also countries like the US

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      @aceman6861 4 месяца назад

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  • @DraevynLilaste
    @DraevynLilaste 4 месяца назад +432

    34:35 As a product of r*** and a failed abortion, I completely understand where the guy was coming from, being treated as nothing more than a living reminder of what happened to my mother. It's not a great existence, and while I don't think i turned out remotely as bad as some of these stories, I can completely understand why some of these people went off the deep end.

    • @VEL0S
      @VEL0S 4 месяца назад +67

      My mom was r8ped, but was convinced by my *father* to keep me with the usual religious bullcrap that "god wanted you to have this child."
      she tells me it was by her own choice, but it's still heartbreaking to think my very name is the cause of her pain.
      she reported him for woman and child abuse, and he offed himself in prison. im grateful i never have to look at him.

    • @longshucksgaming
      @longshucksgaming 4 месяца назад +32

      This was a reddit story. Lots of details were missed. For starters, the rapist was truly a footnote in the story. Merely set up the context never to be heard about again. OP in that story was gay and tormented for it as well as being a rape baby and was hassled relentlessly by the religious zealots in the town. Went off to college out of town and became a government inspector for food manufacturing facilities. One day he got an assignment to visit the factory of his old hometown. Nobody remembered how they treated him or cared assuming he would give them a glowing review being a hometown boy.OP commented that it was entirely a factory town and the whole town economy revolved around that factory but that people that moved up in that factory did so not because of competence but because of perceived religious devotion. As a result there were many glaring shut this place down immediately issues. OP wrote his report and had the factory shut down and killed the town. Pretty sure it's in r/nuclear revenge

    • @owlcat59
      @owlcat59 4 месяца назад +2

      I hope u found ur good place n peace in life @DraevynLilaste .

    • @whateverwhatever4476
      @whateverwhatever4476 4 месяца назад +2

      @@longshucksgamingcan't blame him

    • @Seven_Red_Suns.
      @Seven_Red_Suns. 4 месяца назад +1

      @@longshucksgaming i'm starting to think the story is fake, since i remember this exact story, but instead of being gay, op was just black.

  • @yeahyeahyeah3724
    @yeahyeahyeah3724 4 месяца назад +483

    I feel bad for most of these stories, but I think the saying "a child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel it's warmth" does not apply to some of these stories.

    • @jessik1810
      @jessik1810 4 месяца назад +66

      Yeah, it's not really revenge more "I won't let the system that hurt me hurt anyone else."

    • @yeahyeahyeah3724
      @yeahyeahyeah3724 4 месяца назад +55

      @jessik1810 and in some of the stories, the "child" "burned" themselves at the end, not the "village."

    • @destinygalearies7382
      @destinygalearies7382 4 месяца назад

      Yeah, half of these people were wusses that didn't even report their massive abuse or do anything to get it prosecuted at all, they literally just resigned and called it "burning the village" lol

    • @Aki-kh2qe-StreetKidZZZ
      @Aki-kh2qe-StreetKidZZZ 4 месяца назад +12

      ​​​@@yeahyeahyeah3724depends on how you see it. We have a saying in my country that goes " the one who's drenched isn't afraid of the rain" meaning some people got Hurt so much and bad that few more losses mean nothing to them. Also the whole be the bigger person is a lie from those who didn't have the stomach to go through it and try to make an excuse to feel better about themselves and the aggressors who are afraid the consequences of their actions.
      There's honour in revenge as long as you don't hurt the innocents however the number of the "innocents" nowadays is almost none existent. In fact if victims weren't as much pu$$ified from the societies and fought back and the aggressors were held accountable instead of enabling them even more by not facing the consequences of their actions the world would have been a better place with more respect to each other and if anyone tells you the otherwise then they are trying to avoid their consequences

    • @rai4119
      @rai4119 3 месяца назад +6

      A lot of them, even.
      I think a lot of people don't understand the meaning of the phrase, including OP

  • @haven_unfound
    @haven_unfound 4 месяца назад +98

    Regarding store number 42: I am an ex-Jehovah’s Witness. What OP did was the most loving thing that they could’ve done for their parents. I have seen far too many lives be ruined by that group and it is in anyone’s best interest to not be a part of it exposing their parent's hypocrisy & essentially forcing them to realize how they would be treated by the group is the most loving thing that they could’ve done for them.

    • @mostnown5489
      @mostnown5489 2 месяца назад +3

      I absolutely applaud OP, for their decision, I only wished I had gotten my mother to finally open her eyes before she passed believing she will return to inherit the earth

  • @lindybarnes641
    @lindybarnes641 4 месяца назад +70

    Gotta agree with the “Moved to Georgia OP”. Our public school system here is hell. I’m not black, but I am autistic, and that’s lead to its own issues. The school psychologist refused to diagnose me because I was a girl. My mom knew that was bullshit, so she took me to get privately diagnosed by someone who actually specialized in autism. Then the school was mad at us for “undermining their authority” and refused to follow my IEP (which is illegal). My mom could have sued at this point, but instead used the money to send me to private schools for kids with learning disabilities and homeschool me for the rest of my education. If she hadn’t done that, I would have been crushed by Georgia public schools. I’ve heard of at least one other person from my county that experienced something similar, so this is not just a one-off thing.

    • @devincetee5335
      @devincetee5335 4 месяца назад +4

      My mother would have sued, and then moved.

    • @portagegal
      @portagegal 3 месяца назад

      People on

    • @ryanclemons1
      @ryanclemons1 3 месяца назад +2

      No, it was not about you being a girl. That is what was said but really, it was really about it is a lot cheaper if they say you had no disabilities.

    • @lindybarnes641
      @lindybarnes641 3 месяца назад +1

      @@ryanclemons1 That’s what I suspect as well. They either don’t have or aren’t willing to spend the money necessary to accommodate everyone the way they’re legally required to, so they just do whatever they can to make sure that none of the disabled kids get diagnosed so they don’t have to.

  • @gokuxsephiroth4505
    @gokuxsephiroth4505 4 месяца назад +281

    "I burned down the village by getting my parents out of the Jehovah's Witnesses"
    Burning down the village is meant to be destroying their lives. You probably saved them

    • @catbatrat1760
      @catbatrat1760 4 месяца назад +20

      Yeah... At least half of these left me thinking "That's not what that saying means, I don't think?" I thought it might just be because I'm not too familiar with that saying, so maybe I wouldn't be able to discern it in any way situation other than literal, but a lot of other comments are saying the same thing, so maybe it's not me.

    • @romecottrell6444
      @romecottrell6444 4 месяца назад +12

      Wow ! Getting someone out of a controlling religion group is hard to do sometimes 😪. Good for you for trying to get your parents out of that religion relationship.

    • @Blakenew127
      @Blakenew127 4 месяца назад +9

      I think that “village” in this case would be the local institution of the JW

    • @darkstarr984
      @darkstarr984 2 месяца назад +1

      I think the people making posts like that are traumatized in a way that skews their perception of what constitutes a disaster. I’ve been in and out of therapy enough to know that my brain tells me things are worse than they are a lot of the time but it can still take a lot of work to acknowledge or even to recognize that certain things were worse than they seem and others weren’t so bad

  • @skylerlightning4620
    @skylerlightning4620 4 месяца назад +62

    One thing I learn growing up is that kindness is not same caring. I had plenty people who kind to me when I was kid but very few would actually care about me. As result I expect worst from world and away hoping for best but honestly with how things been recently my hope has been getting weaker.
    Edit: I will never give up on hope as long as I have some freedom but once that taken away I would have nothing to live for as no longer as any hope for a future.

    • @philipcheung63
      @philipcheung63 4 месяца назад +4

      I hope you can find help and people who love you.

    • @brAZEN-Conduct
      @brAZEN-Conduct 4 месяца назад +4

      this feels like semantics bullshit of me to bring up and I’m sorry if this comes off in a bad way, but that’s not kindness they are showing you if you were led to believe those two things are not related. And as someone who has had very successful DBT I know reframing and word usage can be really important in the road to healing, so-
      The term I believe you’re looking for is “nice”. Being nice means politeness and surface level/superficial goodness intended to make yourself look better for your ‘good deeds’, but it does not necessitate kindness or actual care underneath. Kindness is something that you *know* is genuine and self-less, as it’s done for the sake of others and often is a sacrifice of the other person’s time/resources/energy/etc to put towards the recipient’s well-being. Someone that cares WILL be kind. Caring IS being kind. And anyone telling you that kindness is anything less than what I’ve described here has tried to sour you to the world in ways you don’t deserve to be limited by.
      Again, I apologize in advance if this ends up having a different impact than I hope it will, but I’m optimistic :’D I wish you luck in your journey 🙇

  • @mileyscool97
    @mileyscool97 4 месяца назад +70

    23:10 I think the distinction of “school friend” or “work friend” helps give an idea of the relationship. If they don’t I feel like more people would be like “you’re friends and you didn’t know this” or “you didn’t do this for your friend”. It implies you may be tight at school but you really don’t see each other or make an effort to past that. Saying friend can sometimes mean anything in a convo but so I think it helps

    • @Akakikukaku
      @Akakikukaku 4 месяца назад +7

      I usually call this "acquaintance"
      You know each other, but not caring and mingling that much

    • @JoshSweetvale
      @JoshSweetvale 4 месяца назад +4

      Colleagues are not friends.
      Jamie Hyneman always emphasized that.

    • @mileyscool97
      @mileyscool97 4 месяца назад +1

      @@JoshSweetvale Respectfully disagree. Everyone’s experiences and workplaces are different

    • @mileyscool97
      @mileyscool97 4 месяца назад +3

      @@Akakikukaku my idea of acquaintance is different from a school or work friend. You do tend to care for them and you may even know quite a lot about them but you don’t see each other often or at all outside of work/school. Of course it’s a spectrum that can verge more on acquaintance but I think in a general sense it is a bit more than an acquaintance

  • @Eddiember
    @Eddiember 4 месяца назад +30

    Story 29: I actually remember this specific story, it was in r/nuclearrevenge. OP was in a town full of Christian nutjobs, and when it was revealed the whole town reviled him. Everyday was a struggle and he had no one to go to. When he left the town he got a job at the headoffice of the Factory that was in his hometown, and tasked with choosing between 1 of 3 factories to close down. When he returned home the town treated him as a hero, but never apologized for the shit they put him thru.
    If he recieved a single apology he was going to spare the town, but they never acknowledged it so he choose that one to close down.

  • @nicholashernandez4611
    @nicholashernandez4611 4 месяца назад +20

    53:13
    Trump had five businesses to his name that failed. Five. He was connected significantly to over five hundred businesses. That’s a success rate of 99%. The man conned the IRS by using the exact same tax code that every American must obey to his advantage. He was the biggest name in social circles in the 80s and 90s alongside the true powerhouses like Oprah and Letterman, people who were asking for him to appear on their shows. The Apprentice was an insanely popular show when it aired - and there’s even a current year version that is out. What is it now, 14 years running? As far as being a racist, the man pushed for historically black colleges to have their federal funding guaranteed for a decade at a time when they had to beg for funding yearly. He stood alongside Ben Carson in 2016 when the Republican debate announcers skipped him and refused to appear on stage until Carson went first - a man that even Trump would admit was smarter than him. The man was ADORED for over two decades by black culture and by most of the world until he ran for office - then he became public enemy number one.
    Seriously, you can hate Trump without lying. I’m not even a Trump fan and I know better. Seriously, people need to do better.

    • @jamesTBurke
      @jamesTBurke 3 месяца назад

      The accusations of trump being a racist stem from a woman falsely accusing 5 black men of raping her and him wanting justice. And for wanting to build a border wall. That's the ONLY reason the democrats keep claiming him and his voters are racist especially since democrats keep making racist claims nonstop

    • @Dumbphobia-dr9qj
      @Dumbphobia-dr9qj 14 дней назад

      Least he didn’t destroy the economy like sleepy joe and his super sidekick Kamala!

  • @rosebearcat
    @rosebearcat 4 месяца назад +51

    On story 42 and he did burn down the village he burned it down so hot you rejected it he went for the one part of the household that was keeping them together - religion- so yeah Questionably justified but very accurate

  • @AlexRising_
    @AlexRising_ 4 месяца назад +33

    Story 39: I was treated similarly due to being bright, but having dyscalculia. I ended up having the motivation beaten out of me by fourth grade, and my first black teacher fought for me to get it back.

  • @AliceinOverwatch
    @AliceinOverwatch 4 месяца назад +11

    wait i know the story in story 29 you were talking about -> should find the full story cause that one is absolute GOLD. So yes his mum was treated poorly and if I recall correctly (dont quote me) they lived in a trailer park. The town itself relied on a SINGLE company for their livelyhoods->think something like toyota/other large manufacturer or it was a power company, i honestly forget. But OP through his work was having to inspect something like 5 locations and shut down 2 or 3. Ofc the people there thought "good ol town boy will save our a**es" and OP made SURE they were on the chopping block. The town almost doesnt exist anymore since the company closed that location and the only people remaining are the drugies

  • @Lampe2020
    @Lampe2020 4 месяца назад +16

    1:05:09 Didn't you ask for stories where the victim of abuse/love "burns the village down"? He did exactly that, he absolutely annihilated his parents' lives. I think that that story fir the prompt very well.

  • @pingidjit
    @pingidjit 4 месяца назад +54

    1:05:15 Nope Nope Nope. If you are going to preach a bunch of bullshit and prevent others from living the lives the way they want to (sports in this example) because of your 'faith', you get no protection from your hypocrisy being revealed. You don't get to control others lives with certain rules and then break those rules yourself. Nope. Those parents got exactly what they deserved and what many people of faith deserve. Have your beliefs, just don't try to force them on others, lest you reap the consequences.

    • @sunflower9611
      @sunflower9611 4 месяца назад +2

      ;) preach!

    • @myrmesuwu607
      @myrmesuwu607 4 месяца назад +6

      In a way their parent got a chance to start over by being kicked out of the cult anyway, so OP shouldn't have to feel the least bit of remorse over it

    • @theothesir
      @theothesir 3 месяца назад +1

      That's my main issue with my mom.
      I don't care if folks are religious, but don't be a blatant freaking hypocrite.

    • @Berniej.Janinsky
      @Berniej.Janinsky Месяц назад

      ​​@@theothesirThere's a BIG Difference between True Religion (which opens you up to others & seeing their link to you) & 'Religiosity' ( pseudo-pious hypocrisy that closes you down to others.)

  • @Th3G4m3F4n
    @Th3G4m3F4n 4 месяца назад +18

    Story 29 may be one I know - I don't recall all of the details but I think it was one of those small Midwest town because it ticks so many of the boxes.
    The town only had 1 real source of outside income flow - a factory. Most of the kids' plans for the future were a job in the factory, and most of life in town revolved around the factory and the people that run it. Part of the reason I think it was a town in the Midwest was that it followed the tilypical structure that "X is important for our society, so if you are important for X, you are important to society"; managers were treated exceptionally well, the children of managers had power and influence, etcetera.
    The child that left eventually got work in the company that owns the factory, and one day they were told that the company was going to have to close down 1 factory because the profits were not keeping up with the cost of operating all of the factories - they presented 3 options as the factories with the worst profit-to-cost ratio and the hometown was included.
    Ok, inspections were going to be made. Every one of them would have their fair shot at keeping their factory.
    The person was received as a hero who would save the town, inspections were made, interviews... but the person could easily tell that nothing had really changed since they were a kid, with the same abuses and all.
    The factory was closed, and the town was ruined.
    And yes the mom was not treated well either.

    • @jorgefreitas5983
      @jorgefreitas5983 4 месяца назад +4

      I remember this story. The mother drank herself to death if I recall correctly, and OP's uncle had a lot to do with his birth. As a last 'F U' to him, he vowed to go back to his old town once he passed to dessecrate his grave - I'm afraid telling exactly how can get this comment flagged, so use your immagination ;)

  • @The_Slammy_Jammy
    @The_Slammy_Jammy 4 месяца назад +35

    neglect is abuse

    • @darkstarr984
      @darkstarr984 2 месяца назад

      I used to not think it was but I’m past the denial stage now

  • @BeeWhistler
    @BeeWhistler 4 месяца назад +35

    These are pretty danged enjoyable. The most I managed was to turn down any attempts to renew contact by the people I knew growing up. My sister wanted me to visit one when I came to visit and I couldn’t believe it. I don’t want anything to do with anyone who used to consider me a charity case. I did much the same thing when they had a ten year high school reunion. Sent the invitation back telling them I wouldn’t be coming and why. That I’d sooner drop dead than spend any time with the people who destroyed my self-esteem as a kid and they had a lot of nerve asking.

  • @DeltaDragon79
    @DeltaDragon79 4 месяца назад +77

    All I seem to see are horror HOA stories. I wonder if the real question is, "Have HOA's actually helped anyone, or are they what they seem to look like from the outside: scams to make money?""

    • @nyotamwuaji6484
      @nyotamwuaji6484 4 месяца назад +8

      they are supposed to. and some do, unfortunately power hungry karens move into these nice neighborhoods and then go to take over the HOA, which, until that point, was just doing its thing. collecting some dues and using that to say, pay a company to come through and do everyones lawns so people didnt have to worry about it.

    • @TheEnmineer
      @TheEnmineer 4 месяца назад

      The original purpose of HOAs was also to keep a particular ethnic profile of the neighborhood, AKA racial discrimination. A historic part of White Flight. They *can* do good, but largely speaking they're garbage.

    • @filthycasual6118
      @filthycasual6118 4 месяца назад

      HOA's are ran by people who _wanted_ to get into politics, but didn't have any connections.

    • @sfsin3380
      @sfsin3380 4 месяца назад +9

      HOA make sense in theory shared spaces need manage after all but in the USA they have way too much power to make and enforced rules with almost no oversight and that's a dangerous combination.
      All it takes one board election gone wrong for a corrupt board to do alot of damage and the only recourse is often a lawsuit. Which the board are usually allowed pay for with members fees.
      Simple laws limiting a HOA power or an Ombudsman overseeing them could fixed (solution that other countries have used and are why you almost never hear nightmare Hoa stories from outside the US) but apparently that would be government overreach 🙄

    • @patriciamccormick9321
      @patriciamccormick9321 4 месяца назад +2

      Living in apartments at the mercy of a landlord is worse. My MIL and friends organized and took control of their community board and changed the culture so a decade after she resigned it still running well.

  • @lindybarnes641
    @lindybarnes641 4 месяца назад +23

    How on earth is over a decade of child abuse only punishable by JAIL TIME!?

    • @TraeTrae-t8o
      @TraeTrae-t8o 4 месяца назад +8

      You never notice how some poeple dont see other people as "people"?

  • @aghststlemygndr
    @aghststlemygndr 4 месяца назад +11

    I... was one of these kids. after 3:50, when the descriptions of the kids and what they became, i just.. broke. damn. I never even realised that was why i changed...

    • @sunflower9611
      @sunflower9611 4 месяца назад +3

      My heart goes out to you. I wish you healing.

  • @Lampe2020
    @Lampe2020 4 месяца назад +18

    The title reminds me of the book and film "The Hate You Give", in which "THUG LIFE" is the "topic", which is an abbreviation for "The Hate You Give Little Infants F's Everyone".

  • @Yamuii
    @Yamuii 4 месяца назад +11

    the PARENTS "blew up" their lives by being hypocrites, lying and only following their religion for reputation, while not following behind closed doors. more people should be called out like that. these people cant just scare people into submission while not following their own rules. bad take... its not as much revenge as holding them accountable.

    • @cock_sauce8336
      @cock_sauce8336 4 месяца назад

      As TheramineTrees put it:
      Why follow rules and be kind to people when every week is a day when everything is forgiven?
      Aka. as long as people can't publicly see to judge, the abuse is going to be forgiven (by god).
      At least that was for christianity.
      Not sure which religion your parents "followed".
      Also, most financially motivated preachers do not believe in their religion or are completely deluded into thinking their god wants them to have all that stuff.
      It's funny how bad people like that make me want hell to be real.
      Sadly it's not... We all end the same, worm soup.

  • @ShortStoriesHubn
    @ShortStoriesHubn 4 месяца назад +3

    In the East Midlands, UK, an adult instructor in Army Cadets introduced us to amateur radio and gave away tech he no longer needed. Though socially anxious and a bit odd, he was kind and never inappropriate with kids, embodying the idea that someone not embraced by the village can still find ways to connect and contribute.

  • @takahashi2852
    @takahashi2852 4 месяца назад +7

    49:15 This is why I despise people who let their nanny/housemaid raise their kids instead of them, the kids will end up loving the nanny more than the parents who sometimes spend little time with them and they'll treat them as their own parent, heck the nanny in this story even considers the kids to be her children
    Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming the nanny for considering them to be her children or faulting that decision, I'm blaming and faulting the parents for outsourcing their job to an outsider who isn't even part of the family
    If it was possible the father should be the only one working to provide for the basic necessities and the mother should stay with the children but if that's not possible and you needed someone to help you then ask for help from a family member if you wanted help with the children, their grandparents are your best option

  • @DeathMetalDerf
    @DeathMetalDerf 3 месяца назад +1

    At 42 years old my mom and dad still refuse to accept that it was their fault a lot of what happened to me ended up happening to me. I was forced to stay at a Catholic school where I was mocked, bullied, and eventually SAed by both the adults and a couple of the other kids there too. According to them I'm just making it all up. I lashed out quite a bit as a kid, and I still have a real chip on my shoulder. I don't like like anyone, I don't trust ANYONE, except my wife who has been the only one to ever try to help me work through my stuff. I'm doing a little better today, but I'm still and emotionally and mentally damaged man and I have an extreme sense of injustice and I will WILL NOT keep my mouth shut. I've lost jobs standing up for coworkers against customers bullying and belittling them. I got into A TON of fights in high school because at the time I had decided to start taking out my anger and depression on the bullies at school and in the neighborhood because I had always been the big fat kid anyway. I was 6'1" and 390 pounds as a freshman and I used every inch and pound of myself to go after anyone I felt wasn't acting right. Overall I'm a miserable person who's just begging for it all to finally be over so maybe I can get some rest or at least a little peace and quiet. A respite from feeling worthless and weak, and unwanted and uncared for, except for by one person. I really hope if anyone actually reads this that they're having a better go of life than I have. And if you were going to pray for me, don't. Don't pray for me. Pray for everyone else.

  • @danietchart
    @danietchart 4 месяца назад +6

    Most of these are less “Burn the Village” and more “Public Humiliation to the Village Council.”

  • @Imprettyghoul
    @Imprettyghoul 4 месяца назад +3

    I never burned down the village but due to bullying and forever being treated like crap I’ve struggled to have a good view of the people around me and the place I came from. Everyone around me is proud of where they come from, it’s home. To me it’s not home. It was just a place I lived. I Never fit in, never felt like I had a connection. It had a lot of bad memories and still living here everyday I come face to face with the people who did me wrong and it leaves a bitterness within me. Whenever I attend villiage events with my family where people parade around about how it’s a “community” I almost laugh. It’s strange as well I know most people in my villiage are probably not that bad but the stuff I went through as a kid has poisoned my mind and refuses to let me view anyone here as different from those who did me wrong. I left my hometown through university and even in that place I couldn’t develop a connection to and due to more problems became another place that held bad memories. Instead of burning down the villiage for me I just wanted to leave and Persue my passions. Even if I wasn’t accepted by the villiage or even the world the least I wanted was to live a life that was least free of financial problems and in a career that felt fulfilling.

  • @anitacrumbly
    @anitacrumbly 4 месяца назад +13

    I was abused i am queer and disabled family who didn't try to shut down my voice actively ignored me i was bullied throughout school some teachers tried to also take my voice bosses fired me due to my disability (i have epilepsy) and finally the last job was both bullied and let go due to favoritism and ableism at a nonprofit mind you but I let it be known who and what happened to me while there before I left. Throughout my whole life i never shut up about what was happening to me no one was going to or will ever take my voice from me and my achievements are mine and those kind people who had no reason to but helped me anyway. Blood means nothing when it actively poisons you. Your voice is the one thing that abusers want to take but you have the power to keep it may seem scary but it's so important you keep it.

    • @sunflower9611
      @sunflower9611 4 месяца назад +1

      My voice was taken. I believed others had the right to take it. Now that I understand no one has that right, I wish I could go back and speak for the me who could not. I’m glad you speak up!

    • @Berniej.Janinsky
      @Berniej.Janinsky Месяц назад

      You're stuck with who's your blood family, But You Can CHOOSE Your Friends (& they you!)

  • @WardenWolf
    @WardenWolf 4 месяца назад +9

    Undersparked, you do such an excellent job with these, unlike other people who take stuff off of Reddit. The only thing I wish is that you'd credit your sources. As for that first story, I really feel bad for the guy. Especially as someone on the spectrum myself. But, I'll say this: getting rid of the lone expert *_always_* comes back to bite you. My supervisor fired me for objecting to his plan to sacrifice a $60,000 part just to satisfy his curiosity (because he wouldn't trust his own techs) when I had already implemented a plan to avoid it happening in the future. I wiped my laptop and walked out, wiping out my personal documentation I had written on these custom servers and taking all my learned knowledge. From what I heard, my former supervisor wound up being reassigned shortly after that.
    #27, not all psychopaths necessarily go bad. Some still have self-imposed morals or rules. He sounds like he mostly just does bad things to bad people.

  • @HyperWolf
    @HyperWolf 4 месяца назад +2

    School friends and work friends are friends that you don’t really see outside of those situations, so not close friends but closer than an acquaintance. My school friends were people that I’d only hang out with at school or if they all planned something for us outside of school together. Same with work friends. Friend-friends I’d see also outside of school, we’d hang out, text, watch movies, play video games together. Stuff I’d never do with school/work only friends.
    I think the distinction works to let people know they weren’t close and he didn’t usually talk to the friend outside of school situations, therefore you already know he wasn’t super informed about his family life, as you would be with a closer friend.

  • @BeeWhistler
    @BeeWhistler 4 месяца назад +4

    These are pretty danged enjoyable. The most I managed was to turn down any attempts to renew contact by the people I knew growing up. My sister wanted me to visit one when I came to visit and I couldn’t believe it. I don’t want anything to do with anyone who used to consider me a charity case. I did much the same thing when they had a ten year high school reunion. Sent the invitation back telling them I wouldn’t be coming and why. That I’d sooner drop dead than spend any time with the people who destroyed my self-esteem as a kid and they had a lot of nerve asking.
    Edit: Obligatory response to the ice cream shop story… as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, if your boss was really a “conservative Mormon” then she wasn’t living her religion. She was using it to bully people. We’re working on being saints, sure, but it’s a work in progress. Not everyone gets that the idea is to try and be a better person every day. So yeah, you’ll meet members who do bad things because people do sometimes. If all she did was have a problem with tats and piercings I’d still say she needed to work on loving her neighbor. As it is, though, she needs to have a talk with her bishop about her financial obligations, unkindness and dishonesty.
    Final edit: They were enjoyable at first. They, uh… got pretty heavy at some point and never let up after that.

  • @extraram896
    @extraram896 4 месяца назад +4

    I was the sole dishwasher at one of the busiest restaurants in town; I put up with a lot of bullshit, like incompetent front of housers who wouldn't clear plates of foodscraps and tossed them in the sink I was washing up in, had to deal with some barstaff being rude and disrespectful to me and had to be asked several times to stay back late, because of a function they couldn't bus on time finally clearing out by the time we're meant to be closing. All this time, I've been begging for an extra kitchenhand to help me pick up the slack, all with my requests being either denied or being told 'it's not that easy.'
    The boiling point was when the upcoming Christmas holiday break we were expecting got drastically changed; originally, our last day of business would be on December 24, then closing up the restaurant for 2 weeks and opening back up for the new year. However, after 2 of the restaurants that the owner also owned ended up needing to be sold due to Covid, he banked all our business onto us and told us that we wouldn't be getting that break until well into January. To make up for the business lost, we were expected to work all throughout the Christmas holidays. We all got employees from the other restaurants in to help out, but they actively decided to let the kitchenhands go, because they felt 'they weren't needed'.
    I put in a week's notice that December, moved to the city and now work a much more quieter job. I was in my old hometown where I used to work at this restaurant and, as it turned out, that very restaurant is now under completely new management. The old guys struggled during Christmas, because their old dishie (me) left.
    Don't disrespect your dishies, barstaff.

    • @HasufelyArod
      @HasufelyArod 4 месяца назад +1

      @@extraram896 never mess with the people handling food
      I'll narrate your story

    • @Berniej.Janinsky
      @Berniej.Janinsky Месяц назад

      The 'Top Brass' just strut, It's The 'FOOT SOLDIERS' That Win The War!

  • @mikukurisaki3413
    @mikukurisaki3413 4 месяца назад +19

    Story 5 is more of a "you started this fire, I'm just letting it burn" story.

  • @DaRealHanLacroix
    @DaRealHanLacroix 4 месяца назад +4

    there was a boy i knew on discord that was an example of this, ill call him K. I was in a relatively small server, abt less than 10 ppl, and everyone there for some reason would belittle him. there were exceptions like me and my cousin, but the rest just treated him as the laughing stock. I wasnt active there since i had my own main server, but one day he kinda just snapped. How? well they made fun of K's trauma again, but just a few minutes ago, he was alone in comforting the only active server mod, "jen" (the vent was about running out to buy water for a few minutes and how apperently it was dreadful, they live in a rich suburban neighbourhood and go on vacay atleast 4 times a year internationally btw lol). They started clowning on his (K) parents divorce and he just pastes the ip and full name of two of the server members bc he knew them irl, but they didnt know him irl. He then makes fun of everyone bullying him since he had access to a few of their gaming accs and changed the passwords, adds me, my cousin, and another boy who wasnt involved in the bullying, and leaves. We dont chat but hes a madlad frfr.

  • @badcreations9527
    @badcreations9527 4 месяца назад +4

    23:10 it’s because you only see and talk to these people at school, and once school is over you know those people will never talk to you or really think of you again. And this can go both ways of course

  • @TheOmegaXicor
    @TheOmegaXicor 4 месяца назад +22

    Story 42: Yep, 100% flack for that, I 100000% disagree with you on that. Those parents ruined (well tried to ruin) OP's life, you can't do anything YOU want because WE want to be part of this church, we don't actually believe anything we're saying or we wouldn't be hypocrites but WE want to appear to be part of the church and so you HAVE to do as we say, yea burn it to the ground.
    On a side note I kinda respect the dad, he knows he doesn't live up to the church's expectations of a Christian and doesn't blame OP for calling him out, he's definitely not a Christian and is deluding himself if he thinks he's getting into Heaven if it exists but he accepts other people feel differently about it and is just living his own life. I respect that.

    • @The_New_IKB
      @The_New_IKB 4 месяца назад +3

      Also to hell with the jolly witnesses!

  • @jenniferbailey1580
    @jenniferbailey1580 4 месяца назад +18

    2:07 the percentage of amateur radio users on the spectrum (it legally requires testing involving knowledge of physics, my father was a chemistry professor and that was fairly new material for him) is high. Transmitting as this person did eliminates rather large swaths of the legally allowed bands. One use for this is emergency communication outside one’s region in an emergency, it’s random directions where the signal bounces. He doesn’t need to be at his radio to be continuing his wide range block of usable signal if something happens

  • @larrywitcher8283
    @larrywitcher8283 4 месяца назад +3

    Wish there were follow ups for a lot of these, feels a lot like I'm missing the best part of these stories: the aftermath.

  • @shadesofjade
    @shadesofjade 4 месяца назад +2

    You know what, I never thought I’d say this, but, a really good example of what a battle like this would look like, is Stayed Gone from Hazbin Hotel (I know, I know!) however both ‘Sinners’ use frequencies, and are constantly going to a higher wattage to get one over on the other.

  • @gentleboy4943
    @gentleboy4943 3 месяца назад

    School friends don't often last outside of school. It's an important distinction because it outlines the circumstances in which they meet, also because they're friends made at a younger age when one isn't as capable at recognizing personality types compatible with one's own.
    I had quite a few friends in school, both high school and college, but steadily dropped almost every single one over the years. Partly my fault for having high standards and bad social skills, but the friendships I have now are much much tighter and are with people I actually get along with.

  • @thedinkster2163
    @thedinkster2163 3 месяца назад +1

    I was a higher up member of management. I always told people if I'm being a jerk, tell me. I wont be pissed. I may not notice it, or I could be and I need to be checked. I'd rather my employees be honest and up front even if they think it may hurt my feelings.

  • @joshuagee6717
    @joshuagee6717 4 месяца назад +4

    I was that example....do I regret it; yes. Did I know better, yes. Did I care? No.

  • @17nero44
    @17nero44 4 месяца назад +1

    Story 42: love how our dear narrator chooses this to be the line lol. Great performance though!

  • @johnconner8437
    @johnconner8437 4 месяца назад +9

    Story 38 a classic case of TDS. He lives rent free in peoples heads which is weird

    • @catbatrat1760
      @catbatrat1760 4 месяца назад +2

      What does TDS mean?

    • @superduperangelgod
      @superduperangelgod 4 месяца назад

      ​@@catbatrat1760Trump Derangement Syndrome.

    • @kazekamiha
      @kazekamiha 3 месяца назад +1

      @@catbatrat1760 Trump Derangement Syndrome

    • @jamesTBurke
      @jamesTBurke 3 месяца назад

      ​@@catbatrat1760trump derangement syndrome

    • @havanadaurcy1321
      @havanadaurcy1321 3 месяца назад

      Same with you having Biden derangement Syndrome. By the way, Mossad wants him as president

  • @Evamme534
    @Evamme534 3 месяца назад +1

    Got abused by the teachers in my first college, even the higher ups, it was because I was bisexualand trans and it wasnt subtle. Upon leaving i caused their downfall by leaking every incident they caused me to the local newspaper. It got a much lower attendance the next year and they haven't really fully recovered yet.

  • @belladonna8747
    @belladonna8747 4 месяца назад +6

    Story 43, 1:05:50. I never thought I would personally know someone in one of these videos. Devin was married to my cousin's daughter The Sutherland Springs Baptist Church was my cousin's family church. My 1st thought when hearing what has happened and that my Aunt Lou (Lula White who was my cousin's mom) had been killed was "to pray for the killer's family". I had no idea that WE were the killer's family by marriage. My Aunt Lou was murdered while covering the pastor's teenaged daughter to try to protect her. The young girl was also one of the 26 killed. My cousin's daughter told me afterwards of the emotional and mental health issues that Devin had, such as abandonment and attachment issues among others. It was tragic and horrific for so many families. The person it was hardest on was Devin's widow (my cousin's daughter). She still grapples with loving who Devin had been and hating the Devin who murdered her Grandmother and friends. I still feel sad that Devin's life led him to this ending. However, I'm glad he did not make it into a "name someone you know who became a monster" type video. Please continue to keep all those impacted by this mass shooting in your thoughts and prayers.

  • @fissshy7
    @fissshy7 4 месяца назад +1

    school friends are people you like when you're forced to be in the same place
    friends are people you keep meeting after you leave it
    It isn't that they are bad friends, they just weren't great enough to stay in contact, in either direction. Maybe that changes later on, but that's the idea of School Friends VS Friends
    I can see what separating the word means

  • @UltimateHalG
    @UltimateHalG 3 месяца назад +2

    I like most of these stories, but I gotta admit, it seems like only a few of these are actually “burning the village”.

  • @3adgamd3r
    @3adgamd3r 3 месяца назад +1

    The full story of story 29 is incredibly satisfying to listen to if you can find it lol, it’s from a Reddit post at least five years old now

  • @draconicdusk5911
    @draconicdusk5911 4 месяца назад +71

    Your writers don't understand what that saying means. Half of these are just petty theft or workplace stories...

    • @Roadent1241
      @Roadent1241 4 месяца назад +24

      It's not his writers lol, it's normal people on the internet. We all understand things differently.

    • @SJrad
      @SJrad 4 месяца назад +8

      @@Roadent1241yeah just typical r/askreddit moment where the users’ comments don’t apply to the topic

    • @DanksterPaws
      @DanksterPaws 4 месяца назад +7

      ⁠@@Roadent1241Perhaps OP thought that UnderSparked has people who find these specific stories in the reddit threads for him. Though writers would be a weird term from that

    • @Roadent1241
      @Roadent1241 4 месяца назад +6

      @@DanksterPaws That kind of makes sense, and you're right that writers would be the incorrect term.

  • @jessik1810
    @jessik1810 4 месяца назад +1

    23:10 because they're not really friends, more like acquaintances. It's not "I'm nice to these people because I like them" more "I'm nice to these people so they don't make me miserable." My mother always told me that from the outside it looked like I was having a good time in school, was well integrated in my class and had a lot of friends. I hated them, I never spend anymore time with them than i had too, I had insomnia because going to sleep meant the next day would come faster. My teachers apparently though the same thing as my mom. I changed schools in the middle of the year because I couldn't take it anymore.

  • @lindybarnes641
    @lindybarnes641 4 месяца назад +4

    Wait, how tf do you even convince the DA to drop serious charges on someone like that!? How is that legal!?

  • @cayde-6452
    @cayde-6452 3 месяца назад +2

    story 29 is one i know. some stuff was left out because it was either forgotten or just not added so i'll add it now. from what i remember the uncle of the mother was the rapist and he was either a chaplin or a priest on the church, he turned the entire town on OP's mom and made her out to be a whore who tempted an innocent man of faith into sexual sin and just generally did everything he could to make OP's mom out to be the bad guy which eventually ended with the mother taking her own life some time after OP was born. OP lived in a smokestack town and that was really the only form of income that the town had and OP was the one to review his "home" town and he took full advantage of that by giving everybody hope that "oh, OP will save us, we just have to remind him of the good memories and all that" only for it to come crashing down when OP got the smokestacks shut down. the town died after that and most people moved away and the ones who didn't, i don't know.

  • @unitedrepublicofnations3853
    @unitedrepublicofnations3853 4 месяца назад +2

    "video may play in between your scheduled ads"

  • @Drave_Jr.
    @Drave_Jr. 4 месяца назад +4

    23:10 Most likely, the idea that you're willing to hang out with them at school, but you wouldn't want to or honestly don't outside of school mandated activities. Whereas other people you may play with at a park or their house, you wouldn't go just for them.

  • @HunterSentinel
    @HunterSentinel 4 месяца назад

    23:12 it’s cause so many people are mistreated by highschool friends that you later learn they either weren’t really your friends or were bad friends .
    Because so many of us are mistreated by “friends” that it’s hard to place your trust in real friends or even identify real friends.

  • @mrs.w5539
    @mrs.w5539 4 месяца назад +8

    Was 38 really necessary? Calling people who vote differently than you just "idiots" is uncalled for. Not just that but people loved Trump before he ran as a Republican. Hes mentioned in music, he was in movies as the sucessful rich guy. He had politicians begging him for money. He was commonly seen with celebrities and high profile politicians.
    So... why interject politics into these stories? What was the point?

    • @catbatrat1760
      @catbatrat1760 4 месяца назад +7

      THIS!!!!!!!! These are supposed to be _personal_ stories, not this crap. If I wanted political bashing, I would go _literally anywhere else._

    • @seankraus5246
      @seankraus5246 4 месяца назад +4

      same. one more reason to not sub and skip the like. save that for the channels i want to auto play.

    • @jamesTBurke
      @jamesTBurke 3 месяца назад

      Unfortunately that's what democrats do all the time

    • @havanadaurcy1321
      @havanadaurcy1321 3 месяца назад

      Look at the question again. Then realise why it's there

    • @jamesTBurke
      @jamesTBurke 3 месяца назад

      @havanadaurcy1321 the ONLY reason 38 is there is because a DEMOCRAT put antitrust rhetoric there. That's what they do. They ALWAYS put antirepublican rhetoric EVERYWHERE in an attempt to make the Republicans look like the evil nazis that democrats truly are

  • @Zeakthecat
    @Zeakthecat 4 месяца назад +2

    i have a couple of stories:
    story 1: a friend of mine actually had been with parents who were not the best, and would sometimes get into trouble and sometimes be too busy for him. he did a LOT of shit, from losing his virginity to a prositute at 14, to literally fucking in the church bathroom. he had no cares and was a nonconformist. he also convinced the manager of the local mcdonalds to let him work more than was legally allowed in my state.
    never stayed up to date on what hes doing now, but he was playing guitar and graduated, going to the local tech school last i checked.
    story 2: my parents and i never got along, but i eventually found my path. when my father died last year, my mom started to show a lot more of her true colors to me, knowing that i have noplace else to go, the gaslighting intensified, so did the manipulation. she did both me and my brother this way, she spoiled us with gifts and clothes as kids, but once we turned 18, she did a complete 180, regardless if we graduated school or not.
    my mom is the most toxic bitch that ive ever seen in person. she started fights with my dad, which she manipulated him into fighting her, basically setting him off, and he developed a drinking habit because of her.
    she start fights with my brothers father constantly till he literally drank and smoked himself to death.
    my mom is also smart, she don't text so she knows theres not much of a papertrail, and she often cusses me out and only listens to just a small portion of what ive said before she goes on a tangent. anger problems as well are in a lot of her arguments. pointing the most basic shit out about herself sets her off.
    last month i texted her about a cleanup job i did, noting the cat shit and piss i found. she berates me before i even explain that some of her important documents were ruined, and i had to throw them out. she starts calling me a liar and cussing me out, then she shuts me down before i explained to her that i put what could be salvaged in a tote that rolls under the bed.
    she threatens to arrest me because of it, and i ignored her threat, because im the only one in the house that can take care of 3 cats.
    my plan to "burn the village" is this:
    1. promote positivity.
    2. raise my own family of non-hostile and non-abusive fucks.
    3. and keep evidence of abusive behavior should she sue me for making her life a living hell.
    my brothers plan is to do this:
    1. murder her and let her respawn later.
    keep in mind we are both on the spectrum, my brother seems like hes on the opposite end of the spectrum, im high functioning while he seems to be moderate functioning but i suspect because the schools actively failed him and never tried to push him to do better.

    • @HasufelyArod
      @HasufelyArod 4 месяца назад

      @@Zeakthecat brilliant.
      I'll narrate this in a video. 😄😃

  • @frankmayer559
    @frankmayer559 4 месяца назад +2

    1:05:43 I understand both sides…
    I also think OP knows it wasn’t necessary, but to be honest, in his situation I probably would have done the same. So I definitely can’t blame OP for that and I respect OP for doing so, since it requires a lot of strength and/or anger to pull that off…

  • @Veneziamore
    @Veneziamore 4 месяца назад

    23:09 To give an answer to your question, from what I know, oftentimes people are only friends with some people because they see them every day in school. The moment they go their separate ways it quickly becomes clear that you don't actually have anything in common and/or even needed others as social crutches to have semi to full conversations with them. Friends who you get to know in school and who you stay friends with are called ''friends'', people you went to school with but weren't actually friends with are called ''school friends''. At least that's how I see it

  • @heypatk
    @heypatk 2 месяца назад

    The "GIFTED" program near my part of Georgia is just leaving structured classes for "ENRICHMENT" experiences that are to slow down the gifted children to make them have to work harder to catch up.

  • @The_Slammy_Jammy
    @The_Slammy_Jammy 4 месяца назад +3

    16:25 all children deserve is love, yet they are met with hate for being new on earth. protect children and speak up for the voiceless

  • @chivescat1231
    @chivescat1231 19 дней назад +1

    bro i fucking love hotwheels unleashed and dawg your gameplay is hurting me

  • @twindragsofwot7805
    @twindragsofwot7805 4 месяца назад +5

    First story in as someone with Asperger who has been abandoned by pretty much every person I've seen and only been able to befriend people through videogames since those are a great way to meet someone with a mutual interest making that process somewhat easier I can already relate to the first one a lot more than I feel comfortable with. Not sure if I should keep watching because of it or click away to spare my mental state from that level of relatability...

  • @ChemicalBio
    @ChemicalBio 4 месяца назад +3

    will be a nice video man love the content

  • @sakrablaa649
    @sakrablaa649 4 месяца назад +1

    I absolutely LOVE the OP of story 42 ❤ what boss moves 😎

  • @pinowlgi4946
    @pinowlgi4946 4 месяца назад +2

    I disagree on story 42.
    They didn't ruin their parents' lives. They simply exposed them, and they were ebooted from their churches... no other consequences.
    The story where the woman quit on Christmas eve and also put everyone on blast at her F500 company? That had real world consequences of jobs lost and families ruined but you either didn't comment or commended her for it (I can't remember)

  • @Wildoutness
    @Wildoutness 4 месяца назад

    I swear I could have wrote story 31.
    That is verbatim everything in my recent life, word for word.

  • @carbeepbeep7749
    @carbeepbeep7749 4 месяца назад +1

    I pretty sure people call them school friends cause you only see or talk to them in school [-the occasional times you see them]

  • @extremefalcon
    @extremefalcon 2 месяца назад

    Story 29, I remember hearing that story a year or two back. I think a lot of the town either moved away or turned to alcohol and drugs.

  • @sanneoi6323
    @sanneoi6323 3 месяца назад

    I literally need people to keep in mind my mind is very... unique... but I'd rather be called a failure than have my siblings pushed aside in favour of me.

  • @codm22712
    @codm22712 4 месяца назад +5

    Hello everyone mostly undersparked guy wow I’ll love this video

  • @aegisgolem6817
    @aegisgolem6817 4 месяца назад +1

    So, story 42, the one where op went to the congregations of their parents to humiliate them…I understand that narrator isn’t “on board” with op’s choice, but I’m confused what they expected with this prompt? Most of the stories either weren’t a true burn down(the op either didn’t meet the meaning of the phrase, or “killed them with kindness” by escaping and living their best life away and free) for the few that were true “burn down the village” moments, it was simply people speaking the truth and those that hurt them were punished. But the heart of this saying is more or less revenge oriented, and in my best guess most burn down the village stories would be severe oversteps of normal moral thinking…that’s kinda the point? “Burn down the village to feel it’s warmth” is meant to express the extremity of the described comeuppance because it describes a drastic resolution to what could be seen as a problem that shouldn’t have existed. I don’t disagree with the narrator that OP definitely over stepped, but I’m not sure why they seemed so surprised that they read a story like this. If this video lived up to the title/prompt, then my expectations would be more stories like 42, with like 1/3 or less being the “I spoke the truth and it destroyed my family/company/community”

  • @nobodyatall9999
    @nobodyatall9999 4 месяца назад

    With story 3, I feel the whole murder thing was him snapping and trying to get revenge. He did not know he shouldn't use violence, and did it much more extreme to get back to all the times he was hurt.

  • @badjer4328
    @badjer4328 4 месяца назад +2

    Too many of these didn't follow the prompt. They didnt bu4n it down. They just retreated, submitted, or ran from the village.

  • @Ceser1999
    @Ceser1999 3 месяца назад

    Story 1. I think our poor outcast is actually nore clever than people think. 30W is the transmission power limit for certain classes of licence, meaning he might actually be 100% compliant.

  • @Kinsfire
    @Kinsfire 4 месяца назад +1

    With story 5, if you consider his family 'the village', then he did burn it down, by basically politely informing them all that they lit their own fire, he wasn't going to supply any water to put it out. (I can see where you're coming from, though, but think that it just barely fits the prompt.)

  • @The_Slammy_Jammy
    @The_Slammy_Jammy 4 месяца назад +1

    13:27 an internalized vs externalized personality

  • @jipsileigh4903
    @jipsileigh4903 4 месяца назад +1

    Ok, I'm a child who honestly I thought was normal, but now I'm 28yrs old I see my fam was toxic AF, could name a few things wrong, a lot I can't point a finger at one thing or even explain it, it's like what they call now covert narcissism and gaslighting more in the sense of dog whistling. Outside the fam I was SA'd and groomed by multiple people, by other children no less, male and female from 5yrs til 11yrs old. I have people pleased and been the carer of the family and carer of people in need and all I've had is crap from others cos of their dramas or I'm the scapegoat, not just cos I seem to be a vulnerable target but cos I'm also female and my cultural background (maternal fam majority from British gypsies, Pavee and Zingari, some French. Paternal Yiddish, which is Jewish German.) I started to feel angry and rebellious and I was still never in the right or did right and I became more of a 'weirdo' and considered crazy. I was sick of the crap, I still am but cos I tell the truth and I'm straight blunt with anything and fight my own battles I'm still in the wrong in the eyes of my fam. However I have acted has impacted on my close relationships negatively, I've questioned myself if it's just me but there are people out there that think themselves to be unicorns and identify as a flipping surf board or something and I think ok normal is not real, what is normal?.I have to be happy but whatever I've tried to make me happy I'm always wrong. I've isolated so much (which I'm also wrong for obviously) I've made my own language and alphabet with its own grammar rules of writing, learned what nature can do and how to survive in the worst case scenarios, my own rules and laws in my journey through spirituality and Paganism, literally all I'd need to be a cult leader is money for land to create a self sustaining society with their own rites and laws and language. Isolating a child cos they seem 'weird' even if all they ever wanted was love and care and want to love and care for others is the making of killers, cult leaders (good or bad, depending on perspective cos sure no such thing as normal), abusers and/or people who just become addicts with no way out of it other than death (and I've had many addictions I've had to pull myself through, I'm lucky to be self aware cos I've studied so much psychology and done so much reflecting, not many do, I've had to cos no one else would and by the time I got to counselling I already knew what they were trying to tell me or help me through, it was just pointless when I knew the answers, putting it into practice is hard when the environment is crap and not understanding.) Strength comes from inside it really does, me and a person I know have tried to commit suicide a fair few times and we've lived, we both kinds figured ugh we'll just fight on then looks like we have no choice, that in itself is strong cos we could give up in other ways as in do pe ourselves up every day til the day we die or try killing ourselves again. Some people turn bad, I don't want to be bad but I no longer want to be the centre of others dramas and neglect, I ask nothing in return for kind acts and help even something simple like making a cup of tea when a friend is ill but don't treat me like crap, no one deserves that unless they treat majority of people like crap.

    • @HasufelyArod
      @HasufelyArod 4 месяца назад

      @@jipsileigh4903 these stories need to be known by more people
      I'll narrate this later

  • @Mocita
    @Mocita 4 месяца назад +3

    In regards to Story 29: It’s actually a lot worse than you think. The story was posted in the NulcearRevenge subreddit, and if I remember correctly, the one that SA’d OP’s mother was her own uncle. After learning she was pregnant the heavily religious community shunned her as a harlot, and treated OP no better. And no, the assaulter got away with due to his position in the community.

  • @colleens1107
    @colleens1107 4 месяца назад

    As a nanny, that story pissed me off. They took such advantage of her and them tried to fearmonger to get her to quit doing her outside work EVEN THOUGH THEYVE ONLY PAID HER MINIMUM WAGE FOR FOUR KIDS. I get paid $20/hr for one kid. Four? I’d charge $40/hr EASY. She should have quit years earlier

  • @ch3rry.c0k3.13
    @ch3rry.c0k3.13 4 месяца назад +1

    omg im so early today!! love the video!! this prompt looks interesting, cant wait to watch!

  • @sky1luv793
    @sky1luv793 3 месяца назад +2

    For story 42: He was correct to let the congregation know about his parent's hypocritical behavior. That are the rules of the Jehovah's Witness religion. You're supposed to report bad behavior to the elders. 😅

  • @aredape
    @aredape 4 месяца назад +2

    Most of these stories identified revenge, that is what burning refers to- revenge. It does not matter if we agree or not, we were listening for the revenge. I do not understand why you made a comment about the last one when several stories had nothing written about the metaphorical burning. They did not write on the topic, they did not receive a comment about not being on topic; yet, the last story which was on topic was very much on topic of burning down the village.

  • @TheSignificantHarassment2
    @TheSignificantHarassment2 3 месяца назад

    Okay I did NOT expect that ended I feel bad for laughing

  • @acesandjacks7241
    @acesandjacks7241 4 месяца назад

    23:13 school friends I wouldn’t really hang out with out of school. Normal friends I’d hang out with anywhere

  • @sunflower9611
    @sunflower9611 4 месяца назад

    Story 30 my heart goes out to you. I wish you the best.

  • @sandyhenderson441
    @sandyhenderson441 4 месяца назад

    In that last story OP didn't say how much the father's side gave the DA to drop the charges. Karma, gentlemen, karma...

  • @TheNotSoRandomDude
    @TheNotSoRandomDude 4 месяца назад

    I immediately think of Killmonger in Black Panther.

  • @llamawalrushybrid
    @llamawalrushybrid Месяц назад

    23:10 I agree with the overall sentiment but 'school friends' means that you're only friends out of convenience and wouldn't actually seek out the person's friendship outside of the school environment

  • @alphalimaindia9638
    @alphalimaindia9638 3 месяца назад

    G went out like a G.

  • @Ghibbles123
    @Ghibbles123 4 месяца назад +2

    So through out high school I did theater and we had this awful director. He was racist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic, just an awful person to be around in general. My first play I did with him he decided he hated me (totally not because I called him an egotistical a-hole to his face) after that I never got good roles and always was stuck as basically a backstage hand. So I planned and waited because I knew I couldn’t do much at that time but I started by getting other people’s stories. The school’s administrators didn’t care that he treated us horribly because he would make big donations to the school board but the college director and the schools superintendent cared. He’s now shunned by every other director in my town, the school didn’t hire him on this year, people aren’t auditioning for his shows, and his company is also starting to fail because it wasn’t enough for me to just ruin his chances of doing theatre for my school

  • @tntsdaughter1298
    @tntsdaughter1298 4 месяца назад +2

    Story 3, not a lot of abused children kill their parents, but I'll say from experience that thoughts like that can be extreme when you are being abused frequently enough, physically, or even emotionally

  • @TheMuffinManGT
    @TheMuffinManGT 2 месяца назад

    12 years ago the nine tailed fox attack the hidden leaf village it was sealed inside of a boy named Naruto Uzumaki all of his classmates and teachers hated him. That’s my favorite example of that.

    • @Berniej.Janinsky
      @Berniej.Janinsky Месяц назад

      You gonna have to point us to the source. That Story Sounds FASCINATING!
      (Japanese? The Nine-Tail Fox was the image use in an episode of NEW TRICKS: The Shape Shifter who was elusive & unstoppable.

  • @nataliarowley2115
    @nataliarowley2115 4 месяца назад

    Story 31 sounds suspiciously like someone in my life and that makes me so sad for them

  • @kielmcgettigan5192
    @kielmcgettigan5192 2 месяца назад

    Story 29 the op's male DNA donor was their uncle and a member of the church. The came back to their home town to evaluate the only plant in town should be closed or not. They pretended they were on the towns side but reported how awful the plant was. Completely destroyed the town since it's was the only big job in town.

  • @r7ahtesham885
    @r7ahtesham885 3 месяца назад

    The woman in the second story literally pulled a Kendrick Lamar 😭

  • @plazima
    @plazima 4 месяца назад

    Nice and short titles over here at pretty sparked