We need to talk about how “self care” became associated with eating a pint of ice cream, and needs to be about healthier things like taking time for yourself to do yoga, go on a walk, have a swim each morning, seeing a dietician or doctor, going on a healthy eating plan, watching the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and removing toxic people from your life. Oh, and if possible, quitting a toxic job where the place is run with dysfunction.
Or going out and spending time in nature. That doesn't do much for physical health, but when not paired with abuse or a feeling you don't belong there, can do a lot for your mental health. And if there is a "don't belong" feeling, a lot of that time that would be because of other prejudices - especially something like racism where folks are systemically excluded, which can make them feel on some level that being surrounded by nature is "for rich folk", which is the result of society cutting many of us off from nature but particularly poor folks of marginalized races (perhaps especially black people in the USA) in cities and towns.
@@jackmackenzie8912 Just want to note here that racism as it's understood in terms of marginalization isn't simply "prejudice against others of a different race than you", it's prejudice against certain races on the basis that they are "lesser" than other races, societally speaking. If you aren't receiving messages that your race is inherently "lesser" than other races, you are not experiencing racism.
@@jackmackenzie8912 The thing is, though, someone who tries to kill you for being white, and/or for a religion assumed to be the default which in our society is Christianity (of which I assume you fall under both categories), is more or less in our society akin to killing someone just for being from a "higher" caste. And I don't think killing someone just for actually being from a "higher" caste, or even royal, is right, either. People can't control being from a "higher" caste or royal any more than they can control being born into a poor family, and people can't control what race they are, either, whether society considers it "lesser" or "superior". And so it isn't right to treat someone poorly solely on that basis, any more than it is to treat someone poorly because they come from a "lower" caste, or equivalent thereof. But at the same time, the places said deeds come from are not equivalent, and need to be handled differently, - this doesn't apply to you, mind you, you are not at a place in society where delicacy is required in handling the idea of murder (that place is reserved for royals and their equivalent alone, because they alone are inherently treated like politicians just for being born), but you are at a place where acts less serious than that may not need to be handled directly by you, but the person who does handle it needs to come from a place of understanding.
Well, duh. We live in a society where people work and work and work and work and don't make any money and can't get ahead of the bills. Student loans ... medical debt ... kids ... housework ... People don't want to do anything that requires any more effort or feels like yet more work. People want to have some time to themselves that feels like fun and not effort, more messes to clean, etc. and it's so much easier to order out and have someone else do the work. The few times in my life I lost weight, I actually had a.) enough money, and b.) enough time, at the same time. I felt like I had freedom and lightness in my life. They were also times when I was happy and felt like I had a hope for the future. If we want people to take care of themselves we need to UNcreate this society that overworks, underpays, and generally makes it as difficult as it can possibly be to have any time left over after taking care of what we owe our corporate overlords, taking care of our living space, taking care of our kids and elders, and personal body care. Everything in life is "work to take care of something or someone else." People are tired and often don't have any support themselves.
@@jackmackenzie8912 What I gather from this is that you can't tell the difference between an analogy and something literal. Me comparing murdering someone for being white to murdering someone for being royal is an analogy. It's saying both those things are wrong for the same reason, not that they both are the same thing. And I know that neither you nor I are royal. None of the current British royals are named Jack, after all, and all the other royals' names aren't English. And I also know that you REALLY are in many ways better off not being royal, because the scrutiny royals can be subjected to is insane. So if Jesus offered to make me royal, I'd turn it down, and ask him to please help us find the way to end the existence of hell altogether if at all possible. Assuming, of course, that hell actually existed and as more than just a mechanism used to control people through fear, was eternal (especially if it was eternal), and there was ANY way whatsoever to ensure that the existence of hell could be ended permanently. And if it wasn't possible to erase hell, I'd ask him to do whatever he can to retroactively erase my existence after my death, or else to spread the energy particles of my soul among the consciousnesses of the many living beings across the Earth so it can continue in a more natural way, more akin to how the parts of your body end up in more living beings down the line long after your death. Then again, it seems far more likely that if there was an afterlife, it would consist of the particles of your soul ending up in the brains of other living beings anyway, because that's consistent with how the physics of your body works in the first place. Heaven and hell, on the other hand, is not.
A little explanation, of why we can't stop eating sweet and sugary foods. The secret is our adrenals. When we are stressed, our adrenals produce adrenaline as a natural protective measure. This however is only sustainable for short amounts of time and I'm talking minutes here. For us CPTSD folks, minutes are nothing compared to what we go through. We are chronically stressed for years or even decades. That completely burns out and destroys our adrenals. What do they need to recover? Glucose! So we crave sugar and reach for sweets. These treats are actually engineered to be addictive (the more addictive, the more people will buy them and so the more profitable they are) but they only satisfy the body for a short amount of time because even though they taste like it, they don't actually contain the kind of glucose our body and adrenals need. And that glucose is found in fruit. I love how you mention 'grazing' here. It's the body's natural desire to stabilize it's blood sugar, which is very smart. But it's also super important what you graze on. Again, fruit and vegetables is the answer. They give you the right balance of glucose and minerals to stabilize the adrenal glands and help you relax and calm down. Snack ideas could be: - apples, dates and celery sticks - oranges, avocado and spinach - cucumber, avocado and lemon - apple, cauliflower and cucumbers - berries, cucumbers and honey Try grazing on them every 90 to 120 minutes. Hope it helps!
Im with you. Dessert was as close to any kind of affection as we ever got in our house. Mostly we were hungry and negelected and terrified of the next violent rage, but when he was handing out cake after dinner, it felt like there was a kind of acceptance of us. The rest of the time we were relentlessly bullied and demeaned at home.
As someone who developed cPTSD in part due to a mother who withheld affection, acceptance and support, and who, beginning at the age of 8, told me I was chubby and to watch what I ate, it is no wonder I find my comfort in food. It is both a source of comfort where I had none, as well as a source of rebellion as I was forced to eat in secret for fear of ridicule. I’ve been in no contact with my mom for several years but still eat like a child when her mother is gone for the day, only to hate myself for the lack of self discipline each night. I’m 59. It’s time to end this cycle of self abuse 😢
My mother did the same. She was built to be thin, some people are like that. I have my dad's family's German peasant build. I was 5'5" and 135 and she made comments about how fat I was. My sister has mom's build and would never say anything like that -- but I stopped telling her about my weight loss achievements, as she's a buzzkill. "I lost 5 pounds" isn't met with "Good job!" but "Ok! What's your next goal?" She can't let me have the win without ruining it.
And I thought that I was the only one who experienced that special hell....exactly the same...mom is built skinny and I got the short end of the stick of genetics and got the shorter, more muscular stuff from my dad instead. I think I was 6 when she first told me that I was chubby, it was the reason why she wouldn't sign me up for ballet, and instead got ballroom dancing (it was rubbed in that I wasn't "light as a feather" to go do ballet). I've come to realize that I punish myself through my body, not sticking to healthy eating, because "I'm not good enough". Also feeling like enough is enough.
I've beaten myself up for years because of my overeating, and what it's turned my body into. But it was (and continues to be) my primary coping strategy for anxiety, depression and loneliness. Very hard for me to find a healthy replacement that soothes me in a similar way 🙁
I have lived through this, but I now see so much anxiety is BECAUSE of the overeating. I invite you to use our Daily Practice techniques, along with Bright Line Eating. Links below the video.
Low carb worked wonders for me in that same situation, and I made it feel so unhealthy. I would make Parmesan coated zucchini wedges, covered in cheese, bacon bits, Jalepeno, and chives. It tastes just like smothered potato wedges from a bar. I suggest looking into it ^^. Keep shining. You got this!
Start small in both your diet and exercise. If you start exercising, the first couple of days will be rough. But after 1 week, you'll start to notice a reduced appetite, more energy, and all the dopamine being released can even help with anxiety and depression. I have faith in you.
For the 'stress/anxiety/unhappiness eating'...may I recommend breathing exercises? Easy to do just about everywhere and very efficient at regulating difficult emotional states. They can make you feel both calmer or more energized... depending on how you do them. But if you feel, that you're also a 'sugar/carb addict, because these things specifically make you overeat...even when you don't feel bad, really....well. A keto diet does, indeed, provide relief from that. It's a weird thing, where you become downright indifferent to sweets and high carb foods, after a while and naturally gravitate towards savory stuff and real food. That does require a complete overhaul of your eating habits, though and it's damn hard to do, if you live/eat with other people. On the other hand, if your weight is also already causing you health issues...maybe keep it in mind as an option, if you can't get a grip on your eating habits with other means. Good luck in any case!
I’ve been chubby all my life. Now at 43 I would consider myself obese at 40-50lbs overweight. Sometimes I don’t even recognize myself in pictures. I didn’t get a good breakfast or lunch most days but a nice dinner. So when there’s food, I eat til I’m full so I don’t “starve”. It’s a habit that’s stuck with me all my life. I’m like you in that I love sugar and baked goods and carbs. This sounds like a silver lining , thank you!
Yes I was a latch key kid from 7 years old and was told to make my own brekky and school lunch but mum never showed me how to make a proper lunch (I'm autistic and needed the instruction). I was hungry all day every day and developed a food hoarding & fear of hunger issue & it feels impossible to lose weight because I can't seem to fix that food related trauma.
I had an AHA moment while talking to my best friend. I shared with her how I was feeling and my food craving disappeared almost instantly. That made me realize how important it was to process my emotions in a healthy way and to stay connected to others. It has taken some time since then to develop healthy and consistent eating habits (such as eating three meals a day and eating when I'm hungry/stopping when I feel satisfied). Another factor in this is stress. Reducing my stress is really helping my eating habits. When I sleep better, I make better decisions around food. When I exercise, I sleep better and I also want foods that are better for me.
For most of my life, I was skinny and never had to worry about my weight. My mom was a great cook and baker, and, even though we were poor when it came to material goods, there was always enough to eat. I didn’t know I used food for comfort until I started gaining weight in my 50s and discovered that I had been binge eating for years. When I eat sugar or carbs, it’s like a switch gets turned on, and I literally cannot stop. I’m slim again, but it’s a constant battle not to binge.
I'm so glad you're addressing this. Not only did abuse give me CPTSD (which has been greatly lessened and healed, for which I am so grateful to God), but the abuse was about my weight and I heard about it daily almost my entire 20 years of life. It was always so incredibly painful and frustrating. Your videos have helped me make sense of the things that happened in my childhood. Thank you!
As an individual with an eating disorder stemming from food being one of my main comforts from childhood, I found a way around it. I learned that the act of eating was comfort, so I changed what I ate. I delved into how to lose weight without starving or cutting down portions because the pain of my sides from indulging helped me focus the pain from my mind. I learned that carbs are the absolute enemy, carbs in the sense of processed or unnaturally occurring, (fries, breads, pasta, candy, etc). I learned that you can eat as much as you desire as long as it didn't have too many carbs. I changed my diet to almonds for the crunch, meat and cheese for the salty desires, and for serious sweet cravings, I turned to home made keto fat bombs (cream cheese, peanut butter, and chocolate chips) in moderation. I didn't work out one bit, had a sedentary lab job, and ate every 2 hours, 2-300 cal a meal. I dropped 184 lbs in 1.5 years. This gave me the energy and love of moving my body, and now I can have carbs regularly and work them off physically. I hope this helps someone who has the same coping mechanism I did. Low carb saved my life. 30-60g of carbs a day will drop your weight and give you the energy to truly enjoy moving, which is one of the main reasons we exist in this lifetime. I hope you all are loving yourselves, and that includes what you use to fuel yourselves! Keep shining beautiful people!
Whooooo man this just goes to show everyone is so different. If I was to follow this it would be extremely harmful for me as looking at any food as "bad/enemy" could lead to unbridled restriction or avoidance of food groups.
@@priscillareviews4847 I understand how you feel. I see carbs as the enemy of weight loss when they're eaten to fill the void of holding space for our emotions. I don't think of carbs as the enemy now that I've lost my weight, but without that restriction, I would still be close to 400 lbs, if not over that. Keep shining your authentic self! I love the input.
Carbs are NOT the enemy. Eating processed foods like cupcakes, cookies, processed foods from a box are bad. Eating a diet rich of oils, sugars, processed flours is what causes weight gain. You should be eating rice, beans, all vegetables, fruits, potatoes, whole grains, and meat, if that is your preference. The Blue Zone diet and Mediterranean diet are recommended diets of the American Heart Association.
I was put on SSRIs instead of having talk therapy when I was a depressed teen. It was the standard of care (and in my parents best interest) to assume that depression was caused by a “chemical imbalance” instead of actually getting to the heart of what might be causing the depression and actually having to come to terms with some major family dysfunction. I also realized later that becoming a vegetarian without having any knowledge of how to do that in a healthy way (eating too many carbs, which we now know is related to gut health/depression,) while also having mood swings related to my period, contributed to my depression. Like Anna, I also smoked for years - but secretly. Nicotine was the only thing that really helped my mood. Nobody wants to talk about that. Anyway, I never addressed the various reasons causing my anxiety and depression - abuse and neglect at home, period related mood swings, and a terrible diet. As a result of being on SSRIs I also gained a LOT of weight. I became morbidly obese. A condition that my older sister mocked mercilessly. I’m finally off the SSRIs, losing weight, eating better, exercising, and getting a lot of various healthy treatments - including watching the Crappy Childhood Fairy - for what I’ve come to realize is PTSD.
You go! Yes, I was the same way, put on anti depressants. And yes, I can relate to the when vegetarian thing. I couldn't do it, bc you have to add all these extra carbs, dairy, and it only made me puffy and more dysregulated. The meds make you crave carbs.
My Doctor recommended that I lose weight slowly because people that lose weight quickly tend to put the weight back on and in some cases become more obese than when they started trying to lose weight..
This made so much sense. Thank you for being brave, and speaking up. I've had another member tell me about it and encourage me to try it too. I felt the same way with making up little reasons to keep eating the flour and sugar and treats, but let's get real, all the stresses of life aren't going away. And all the extra weight isn't making it easier for me to deal with it. I'm sure my story is like many. Had a baby, realized I had an emotionally unavailable partner and family, so no help. I often felt lonely, and food is how I coped with being ignored and unseen. I'm excited to know I'm not alone, and there's an other avenue to surround myself with supportive lovely people who care and who are trying to kick the sugary habits too. I'm rooting for you Anna! I will be using your link and going to Brightline Eating too. Looking forward to hearing more about the foods and how they helped you. Doing your course has already changed my life sooooo much for the better. I'm feeling ready to take the next step too.
I am so excited to see you talking about Bright Line Eating.. For the first time in my life, after many attempts and up and downs with weight, I've found this program. I have lost 36 pounds in 125 days and I am sure I will lose all my weight. This is happening at the same time as I am healing myself and healing my relationship. The boundaries it provides around food help me stay food sober. Thank you so much for sharing this life changing approach.
Thank you for making this video. I had some serious childhood trauma. I thought I was healed. When I married somehow the trauma was triggered again. In the seven years Ive been married I put on 110lbs. Im 300 now. Ive tried everything and I believe a lot of the unresolved trauma leads us to seek comfort in food. This gave me hope. So many people think its just diet and exercise. I just want to be healthy. There is hope for me now.
Thank you for talking about how eating habits and nutrition affect our wellbeing. Two years ago I hit a wall and made some big changes - I cut out all refined grains and sugars, oils, alcohol, and salt. Within a few days my mind felt calm. It took many months to get free from the cravings but I continued to abstain and now two years later I've lost 120 lbs (and still losing) and have zero desire for highly refined foods. The peace of mind is the best thing of eating this way. I'm a life-long vegetarian and chose a vegan/plant-based diet without refined products. Works for me and I pray everyone else finds their own freedom around food too.
Same!!! I recently lost 30lbs. but I fell off the "eatting correctly wagon "during vacation this summer and am dragging my feet to jump back on. I jumped on the scale this morning and I've gained 6lbs back 😫 🤔 I'm taking this video as a nudge from the universe to get my behind back in gear! Thank you!✌️💜
Just because you forget to brush your teeth one night, you wouldn't say you're done brushing forever and giving up, just get back to it the next day and keep grinding! You got this
I am in my mid 60s and have been working all my adult life to overcome my reactions to early childhood trauma with small successes. Not enough success. You are keyed in exactly to how my overeating plays out ( and bouts of uncontrolled weeping). This is enormously promising! Thank you. 💚🌈🕊🦋💖😇
Isn’t it interesting that Anna is addressing this and the majority of books by psychologists or psychiatrists makes no mention. I have read every book on childhood abuse/neglect/abandonment that I could find, not really finding answers. It’s the women who experienced CPTSD who are aware of eating problems.
I tried Bright Line and found it helpful, but it IS very restrictive, and often made me feel "too different" from "normal" people, so stopping sugar altogether has been problematic. I wish there was some sort of halfway point, or that we could have a Tx plan that addressed the sugar addiction other than cold turkey. I've wobbled around 250 for a long time and trying to repair my brain so I can have just _one_ cookie has been a crazy ride. The eat only at mealtimes thing is also REALLY difficult.
Stopping sugar altogether, does that include natural sweet things like dates, agave syrup, stevia, etc? If not, it's fully possible to make low-carb versions of cookies and cakes. I have not looked into the Bright Line system yet. Thank you for sharing something descriptive about the method.
@@kikki2012 it allows fruits, but requires you stop artificial sweeteners like Stevia as well. I get the science - I have a Master's degree in Biology - but we need better ways to treat brain pathway problems/addiction than cold turkey, IMHO. I will say that it DOES work, until you inevitably fall off the wagon. Susan herself has a snippet where she talks about being able to think of frosting as paint, all over her fingers... up until she tastes it. But her research into the brain chemistry of addiction seems spot on. Still, there's so much we don't understand about the human brain. It may be that psychotropic drugs can help reset us, or something else. If the pandemic showed us anything as a species, it's that we need a reliable and effective treatment for addiction
I haven't looked into Brightline but finally discovered something kinda neat a year ago last November. I've always had food issues. Eating was one of the few things ( only thing ?) my Mom thought I did well. So I ate, everything. With seconds or thirds. My weight was yoyo. My clothes were never comfortable. I was always on high alert near a dinner table , vending machine, coat pocket with a stale cookie. I was reading online The Psychology of Eating. A facebook page I think. It mentioned being mindful and tasting the food. Stopping between shovel fulls and just paying attention to feelings. Flavours. Textures. Kindness to oneself. I ate like a greyhound on a racetrack. There was no flavour. I was stuffing a pillow as I ran out the door to work. Toast in both hands. Constantly in a hurry . So I sat once or twice to pay attention . I ate something I liked because I was actually hungry and did it deliberately. Slowly. I wasn't deprived. I told myself I could eat anything I wanted I just had to be completely present and mindful. Taste it, enjoy it.Tiny bites I could taste, no front end loader. I was 58 years old and that worked. The only thing that ever worked in my life where food was concerned. Brightline sounds like an awesome answer as well. There is always hope. We deserve to celebrate
mine was different. whenever im nervous or stressed out, my appetite is absent. i tend to sleep instead. whenever i could eat a lot, thats already an achievement. a voracious appetite meant a healthy constitution. but now im cured mentally. i control my appetite. i eat because im hungry and being anxious or nervous is no longer there. i fast whenever i feel like it.
I’m within 5 lbs of goal and so excited to start the Maintenance II course with Bright Line Eating. The finish line anxiety is my struggle at the moment. Thank you for this and for sharing your journey. Your work has helped me immensely. Wishing you a bright day ❤🎉
Omg! I have childhood trauma and I’ve been healing myself I have been struggling with my weight since the age of 16 years old and I am turning 60 in a few days. 10/15. I have try every thing on the market to loss weight. Now I am on intermittent fasting and I struggle with that. 😢 oh I forgot and doing keto on top of IF
Everybody's body is so different intermittent fasting was harmful for me as it was too restrictive and can put the body in "survival mode" because food intake seems scarce.
Did BLE-got to a good weight. Started binging again. I’ve realized I have childhood trauma that had affected my ability to stay bright. Somehow, I found you. Although bright again, I feel the effects of unhealed trauma. Just started the daily practice. I do feel relief from it.
I love your content. I have been watching you on youtube for a few years now. I thank you so much for all you do for this community, I also try to share your work/links with others as I know there is a shortage out there. Lastly, you & your hair are looking extra fabulous these days
I think the reason Weight Watchers is the most effective way if weight loss for me is the fact that you don't deprive yourself and track what you eat and keep track...
BLE is the way!!! I’ve done it with my CPTSD and it worked! I stopped and need to get back in. I asked for a sign today and here you are. I watch you and love BLE.
Thank you so much for your supportive, practical messages like this. Thank you for your powerful, authentic vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your experience that helps you and can help others. You’re such a special soul.
CCF has helped me see the trauma I experienced and how that made me seek out comfort. Comfort in the form of food. yes! sugar and flour. When you experience trauma espeically as a very young child, you have 3 choices: 1) you try to rationalize it and become an adult- child, which is so unfair 2) you want to flee, but at age 4 or 5 or 6, you can't go anywhere and/or 3) you seek out comfort. And food is the answer - sweet floury food. As I finally understood trauma, and that I had CPTSD (i answered yes to nearly all your questions on your CPSTD questionnaire), and now when i seek comfort, I try to discern where it's coming from. Am i really hungry, do I really want a glass of wine or am i trying to comfort the trauma. 90% of the time, it's trauma. I'm slowly losing the weight as I focus on what is really happening in my brain. Thank you CCF!!
Thank you so much for your honesty. You have described my experience almost exactly. 14 years ago, when I had been off of sugar and flour for one month I felt so pain free that I compared it to an out-of-body experience. ...am fighting my way back there again...
I’m 56 years old and just started working on my CPTSD issues last year. I’ve been under weight all my life and I’m stuck in fight flight mode. I have no appetite and even though I realize I need to sleep, I feel like I’m wasting time doing so. I stream your videos all day, Anna. Thank you so much for your help!
Thank you for being a part of our community here! If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
Love this print u are wearing,You look really pretty today! Thank you for being so down to earth and speaking plain and being easy to understand, you are an answer to prayer. Now I understand so much more about my mother.
Thanks Anna, will follow your link. You're right we seek the small instant gratification of something comforting in the mouth. I'm not overweight but know my horrendous processed diet is killing not healing. I need to be here to raise my little ones. I've been in tears over this addiction to junk food, thank you for addressing it. GBY 🙏
I found BLE in June of 2021 and fully embraced it for about 8 months. Lost 40+ lbs and felt good! Then some work and personal responsibilities became so "big" that I didn't feel I had the will power reserve to stick with it. I, too convinced myself it would just be for a little while. I've gained most of the weight back and am working to get back on plan consistently. BLE works. Congratulations on 30 days!
Thank you for this video. I m not ready to quit sugar and flour. I already quit cigarettes, alcohol and a very toxic relationship😊. One day at the time. 💫
Same here!! You just described me to the tee with the sugar addiction. I am definitely an emotional eater. I learned in my 50s while healing my body from Type 2 Diabetes that sugar is how I cope. I lost 70 pounds and gained some weight back. I eat healthy cause I’m now 6 years Free from T2D, but in 2017 I started working on healing through Childhood Trauma, and I returned to sugar. I got married when I was 16 years old to a mentally and physically abusive young man. I always get back on track, but I am definitely big on Self-sabotage. The you for sharing. ❤
A few years ago I hit rock bottom with chronic physical illness, depression, and extreme lethargy and I started following a similar eating plan out of absolute desperation. Because of my personal beliefs I chose a whole foods only vegetarian plan with an aim to go vegan. The main thing is, no flour no sugar - both of which I was addicted to. Within a month my health was markedly better, but more amazing was that I had buckets of energy again - and my severe depression had lifted! Nothing had really touched that in my life until I changed my eating. Also important, the cravings for sugar/ unhealthy food stopped. A few years in and I easily turn down sweets, etc. even at celebrations because I don't want to feel bad again like that. Along with CPTSD I've suffered since I was 7 with eating disorders, so this is a true revolution for me. I firmly believe this was the key to the accelerated healing I've experienced since, in part because I have the energy and stamina now to be truly active in my recovery. But a significant part must be the body chemistry itself. It's common sense, you need to put fresh, healthy things into your body if you want it to run well. My tip: be gentle and forgiving with yourself in the beginning. Every small step is a step forward, don't fall prey to the self-defeating mindset that if you eat one "bad" thing the whole day is ruined. Every healthy meal you eat is healing for your body and eventually you will find it easier to eat that way consistently. Work your way up to it.
Thanks for your honesty! It helps us see that we are not alone in our struggles and there are more people out there who struggle with the same things. Your video’s have opened my eyes and helped me understand so many things. I really appreciate all your help and the wonderful wisdom that you share with us. ❤
This couldn’t have come at a better time, I literally stopped eating sugar two days ago because I’ve noticed it makes me extra dysregulated and I sabotage everything, (not to mention the feeling of helplessness about weight that comes about after i eat it). I just can’t bear to let this cycle happen anymore! So far, no-sugar has really improved my regulation, but I’m nervous about keeping it up...
In my mid-40’s、I realized that in some respects I felt as if the body fat I had was a kind of armor, protecting the core me. It wasn't working, and it was too weighty of course. So mentally, I wasn't "losing weight" (suffering loss), I was taking off the armor that didn't work. If changing your mental image of what you're doing helps you, you might try it.
Yes. The weight is armor. For me it’s my personal FU to the diet culture, eating disorders, body shaming, and fat phobia that I was surrounded by for most of my life and the trauma bonds that family members have formed over disordered eating. There is freedom in not having to be criticized for everything you put in your mouth, but with that freedom comes the biological realities of living long term in an overweight body and genetic predisposition to conditions that weight makes more difficult (ie osteoarthritis, fibromyalgia, and autoimmune disorders). Yes I need to lose weight, but I still can’t shake the feeling that in doing so I give the abusers who fat shamed me (“for my health”) for most of my life more power and control over my body and image.
WAIT I NEED THIS!!! Thank you!! I focus so much on the emotional healing but forget it’s so important to also eat hahahha and eat healthy and when I do eat not to overeat. Another blessing❤
So glad to hear you’ve had a good experience with Bright Line Eating! I recently saw an interview with Dr Susan and was looking into it....your positive endorsement feels like the affirmation I needed to give it a try. Thank you!
I have aspergers and lots of childhood trauma so the one thing I found I could control was my diet. I had anorexia and orthorexia, avoided eating in general. Eventually I trained myself to eat a restrictive and controlled diet. As a vegan it was very very strict. Then I was hospitalized for kidney stones. I realized my diet was causing it. So I researched and came to carnivore diet. Meat. Raw dairy. Raw honey. Organic fruit. After switching I felt amazingly good. I lost the bloating from vegan lifestyle. I lost weight. And I now feel healthy and very content with my diet. No sugars/no breads. And I don’t miss them.
Okay so I started this diet after watching your video. I got the audiobook. I've been on it for 3 days and I have lost 5 pounds already. I have been stuck at my weight for a long time going to the gym, eating healthy haven't been working for me. You made some good points with emotional eating and the book helped me realize my issue is grazing and not having regular meal times. Thank you. This is one of the easiest diets I've ever tried too.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy no thank you. I deeply appreciate your videos and all the therapy talk you do. You have been a huge help in a lot of areas in my life. ♥️ PS. I send a lot of my friends working through their own CPTSD to your channel.
Such an educational video! This is great stuff. Question... have you ever tried Next Level Diet? I got a weight-loss meal plan from them and I love it.
Thank you for this video. If possible, I would love for you to talk about TV addiction (Netflix, Prime video). It is my greatest problem at the moment and I cannot get out of the loop.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you so much for saying that. I have not always struggled with my weight. Just in the last few years and then menopause. Now about 50lbs more than I’m comfortable carrying. Definitely trauma related. But I’m continuing to work on it! I’m not typically a huge sugar or flour pasta fan. I eat pretty healthy. But since I’ve been in this healing journey - oh boy those things are at times so soothing. 😂🤷🏽♀️ I will definitely look into this!
Thank you for sharing this! I know how to eat I just forget how much better I feel off sugar and flour. The short-term high is so compelling, but it feels so much worse when it wears off.
I hope this encourages others to take the path I'm taking through Weight Watchers.... I started Weight Watchers in April and have so far lost 33 pounds!!!. I find Weight Watchers and tracking all of the food I take in the most workable way to eat, diet and maintain a healthy lifestyle ..
This could not have come at a better time. Thank you very much for your vulnerability and sharing this with us. I have struggled with body image issues for as long as I can remember. I've gained 100+ lbs since high school and have lost and regained 20-30lbs multiple times since then. I'm terrified to be skinny yet miserable being fat. My body feels horrible eating badly but content being comfortable. It's a war I am so deeply sick of yet so deeply attached to. Nothing has really helped, but I hope this does!
Omg what a great video! I was always athletic.. gymnast. Was told I was fat at home and in my sport. Plus the abuse trauma at home...I am 54. 12years to 35 years old had bulimia and major body hate- distortion. Binge ate mainly ice cream and like cake..it was my binge and go to feel better food. I am 35 pounds overweight right now. 5 foot 2 in. Anyhow.. I'm healing.. this video is so great along with all of them. Thank you Anna!
Im sorry that happened to you. I was sporty and fit as a young person, too- I won all sorts of trophies and medals- but was also bullied at home for being 'fat'! It makes you feel like you're the crazy one.
Im sure this is true but also, this channel has really already helped me get myself together to lose 50 pounds this past year, and sort out my health generally, just by clearing my head of the things that were keeping me in a bad place, and handing me back the keys to my own life
I got disreglated this morning, in a sad and upsetting way. I wanted to cry. When I got home, I reached for food. I am overweight. I realized I was disreglated and needed a different plan. Your video is right on time.
It’s the dopamine. That’s why the cigarettes make it easier to not binge eat etc. Foods with refined carbs (sugar/flour) give us the dopamine too. I quit smoking about 4 months ago and have been eating too much of the sugar stuff lately, compulsively, and I’ve noticed I also have the same cigarette craving feelings. I’ve heard of BLE before and it seems to work for those of us with extra layers to our relationship to food.
Anna, the plan you mention did originally help me, too, but the overlooked thing is that it doesn’t help people in the long term to keep it off unless they can keep it up for years. It’s so hard because it really is induces a lot of shame when I couldn’t keep the weight off, way too restrictive. It wasn’t something that I could do in the long run or wanted to do for life. I do feel like sugar and flour are dysregulating, though. Just saying my own experience-it made me a whole lot worse following this.
THANK YOU. I just watched her video on eating and everything she said about BLE set off alarm bells for me - the creator may be a neuroscientist, but it doesn’t appear to be anything other than a shiny new crash diet/eating disorder. Any diet that has no room for leeway is not sustainable - no wonder people gain the weight back! It’s also generally not good to lose weight super quickly, as that can lead to health issues (a friend of mine actually experienced this recently). 1200 calories is not sustainable or reasonable for any adult!
I did BLE in 2018-19 and lost 40 pounds and when covid hit I thought well if I'm gonna die I want a brownie first. So I gained it all back and have just not been able to jump back in. Today I asked the universe for a sign and here you are on my TV telling me about BLE. Dammit! Headed over there to sign up. Thank you for being my sign. I have no accountability partners. This is hard.
I've been eating this way for a few months. I have lost some weight but I still feel fat. In my youth, my father told me I was fat and my mother told me to suck in my gut. Sugar therapy was my go to;; icing, ice cream, chocolate and baking, I loved it all. Now I have none of it. But I did find sugar free chocolate chips. I do have one handful a day and I can stick with that along with a handful of pecans. I don't even put sugar or honey in my tea. I do feel better for this. It's hard not to turn to food when I'm disregulated. I have found other strategies, I guess I'm getting to know myself. I just wish my voice in my head putting myself down would stop.
I know when, where and why I had my first babyhood trauma. I was between 3 or 4 years old and my father would hit, spank me for not eating all the food put before me. I’m talking about pulling my panties down putting me across his lap and spanking the crap out of me. This behavior was repeated all my growing years. After I was to big for his lap, then the belt would be used next. And worst of all my mother was a lousy cook. No one rescued me from his abuse. I remember my mother beating us like Hebrew Slaves. So I ate to please my father whether hungry or not. I learned to get rid of food without anyone noticing. I raked my plate of food behind the radiator. Being overweight as a child I told my father how the kids at school called me fat. And my father said: “All your fat belongs to me.” I wasn’t a person I was his property. During puberty I intentionally kept weight on because of the male attention that I was receiving. I was afraid of that attention; and didn’t know how to protect myself from unwanted admiration. I used food for all the wrong reasons, mainly sweets, pastries, candy 🍭 ice cream. I would be rewarded with food or punished by food. Food was my enemy for many, many years. Plus I was bulimic. Go figure. 😑
That's really horrific! I am so sorry someone did this to you; especially the people that were supposed to love & protect you. I am familiar with the belt, so I know how much it hurts emotionally besides physically. I hope you know that none of this was ever deserved and that you are amazing for being on a channel like this, trying to do the work besides such a difficult start. Sending lots of good thoughts your way!
I was skinny my whole life until the doctors began medicating me at age 20. I ballooned after they put me on Asendin, which made me sleep most of the day away. I have struggled off and on with weight ever since. The odd thing is, my body has two opposite reactions to stress. Sometimes I binge and crave sugary foods. Other times food sounds completely unappealing and I've been known to rapidly lose 50 pounds or more. I also have ADHD and anxiety in addition to PTSD so perhaps that explains the occasional differences. When my anxiety and ADHD get triggered in addition to my PTSD I tend to lose my appetite and pace or exercise or do long walks to self-comfort. I'm currently down probably at least 50 pounds since my father passed away almost two years ago, and I have been struggling without a home since. This is the second time I've lost that much weight without actively trying due to stressful life situations.
I went from two extremes in about 2 years. All started at the start of covid. I was sick for several months and became emaciated. Then I healed and went back to a normal weight. Then I went through a traumatic event and developed depression. Once I had depression the weight kept on creeping up gradually until I got to the point where I looked at myself in the mirror and said to myself, "I've let myself go." While I lost about 50 lbs before through diet change a lone, I would come to find trying to lose weight now with the depression would be much harder. I've started and then stopped a new diet so many times, but I plan to make the change for good this time. Eating all of this junk food is not worth it because all it's made me do is feel sluggish all the time.
I grew up with a narcissistic sociopath for a mother, and got married to escape the situation. Things were fine for a lot of years, then suddenly I found myself going through a divorce to escape a marriage that had become violent, and going through menopause at the same time. Within 9 months of signing the divorce papers, I'd gained 90 lb; my psyche was not going to let me anywhere near men ever again. I still have no desire to be in a relationship because men are dangerous. But I've got to lose the weight or I'm going to wind up diabetic with heart problems, and I don't have a family to take care of me!
I have the opposite problem, I find myself having a lot of anxiety around eating and consequently I don’t eat. Then I lose weight and I’m already a petite girl. So I really can’t afford to lose weight because I don’t have reserves. Then I start to feel light headed and dizzy on a daily basis. This happens for months at a time.
Maybe we are looking for that feeling that we got addicted: Disappointed in ourselves. It’s familiar. It’s how we used to make our caretakers. It’s sort of safe place to be because it’s familiar and even there was abuse we survived.
I started BLE just last month! I've done it before in the 2000s (just didn't eat any flour or sugar, BLE want an official thing yet). I'm so excited for these videos! I hope there might be a promo code coming to become a BLE member?
That's great! There are links below my BLE video (and I've got two more coming out on Friday and Sunday), and these are to webinars Susan is offering, and I'm sure at the end the option to become a members will be offered. THIS link, however, is to a series of videos you can access right away, and the option to be a member is at the end of the video list: tuneclick.brightlineeating.com/aff_c?offer_id=13&aff_id=1117
I am happy to watch this video and will be researching the doctor that you are recommending. However, if someone has an underactive thyroid, like myself, it's not as easy as limiting sugar and flour. I have Hashimoto's and it's extremely difficult to lose even one pound. My husband sees what I eat every single day and he cannot believe how difficult it is for me. He is always saying how it's so unfair lol!
Eating is often a "binging" habbit we use to avoid emotions instead of facing them. It's a coping mechanism really. Everyone has those instincts, not just people with anxiety disorders. The trick is to substitute your anxiety related binging habits for something more healthy. There are tons of binges, books, drugs (including legal stuff), TV, food, sleep, exercise.... anything to take your mind off things really. Now ideally you learn to face and deal with those emotions as they come and disentangle the bad learnings you made around traumas but that's not always the right timing. In those time snacking on let's say celeri instead of sugar and fat helps in the mean time.
1200 cals a day is really restrictive and not something I believe is healthy and maintainable long term, I know once you reach your ideal weight more cal introduced. I can understand the breaking sugar and flour craving/addiction part. I find for myself extreme restrictions put me in a position of failure. It also feels like some of the trauma from my childhood. Rather than being kind to my body, eating more proteins, veggies etc to assist me with having cravings, drinking more water and getting joyful movement.
We need to talk about how “self care” became associated with eating a pint of ice cream, and needs to be about healthier things like taking time for yourself to do yoga, go on a walk, have a swim each morning, seeing a dietician or doctor, going on a healthy eating plan, watching the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and removing toxic people from your life. Oh, and if possible, quitting a toxic job where the place is run with dysfunction.
Or going out and spending time in nature. That doesn't do much for physical health, but when not paired with abuse or a feeling you don't belong there, can do a lot for your mental health. And if there is a "don't belong" feeling, a lot of that time that would be because of other prejudices - especially something like racism where folks are systemically excluded, which can make them feel on some level that being surrounded by nature is "for rich folk", which is the result of society cutting many of us off from nature but particularly poor folks of marginalized races (perhaps especially black people in the USA) in cities and towns.
@@jackmackenzie8912 Just want to note here that racism as it's understood in terms of marginalization isn't simply "prejudice against others of a different race than you", it's prejudice against certain races on the basis that they are "lesser" than other races, societally speaking. If you aren't receiving messages that your race is inherently "lesser" than other races, you are not experiencing racism.
@@jackmackenzie8912 The thing is, though, someone who tries to kill you for being white, and/or for a religion assumed to be the default which in our society is Christianity (of which I assume you fall under both categories), is more or less in our society akin to killing someone just for being from a "higher" caste. And I don't think killing someone just for actually being from a "higher" caste, or even royal, is right, either. People can't control being from a "higher" caste or royal any more than they can control being born into a poor family, and people can't control what race they are, either, whether society considers it "lesser" or "superior".
And so it isn't right to treat someone poorly solely on that basis, any more than it is to treat someone poorly because they come from a "lower" caste, or equivalent thereof. But at the same time, the places said deeds come from are not equivalent, and need to be handled differently, - this doesn't apply to you, mind you, you are not at a place in society where delicacy is required in handling the idea of murder (that place is reserved for royals and their equivalent alone, because they alone are inherently treated like politicians just for being born), but you are at a place where acts less serious than that may not need to be handled directly by you, but the person who does handle it needs to come from a place of understanding.
Well, duh. We live in a society where people work and work and work and work and don't make any money and can't get ahead of the bills. Student loans ... medical debt ... kids ... housework ... People don't want to do anything that requires any more effort or feels like yet more work. People want to have some time to themselves that feels like fun and not effort, more messes to clean, etc. and it's so much easier to order out and have someone else do the work.
The few times in my life I lost weight, I actually had a.) enough money, and b.) enough time, at the same time. I felt like I had freedom and lightness in my life. They were also times when I was happy and felt like I had a hope for the future. If we want people to take care of themselves we need to UNcreate this society that overworks, underpays, and generally makes it as difficult as it can possibly be to have any time left over after taking care of what we owe our corporate overlords, taking care of our living space, taking care of our kids and elders, and personal body care. Everything in life is "work to take care of something or someone else." People are tired and often don't have any support themselves.
@@jackmackenzie8912 What I gather from this is that you can't tell the difference between an analogy and something literal. Me comparing murdering someone for being white to murdering someone for being royal is an analogy. It's saying both those things are wrong for the same reason, not that they both are the same thing. And I know that neither you nor I are royal. None of the current British royals are named Jack, after all, and all the other royals' names aren't English. And I also know that you REALLY are in many ways better off not being royal, because the scrutiny royals can be subjected to is insane.
So if Jesus offered to make me royal, I'd turn it down, and ask him to please help us find the way to end the existence of hell altogether if at all possible. Assuming, of course, that hell actually existed and as more than just a mechanism used to control people through fear, was eternal (especially if it was eternal), and there was ANY way whatsoever to ensure that the existence of hell could be ended permanently.
And if it wasn't possible to erase hell, I'd ask him to do whatever he can to retroactively erase my existence after my death, or else to spread the energy particles of my soul among the consciousnesses of the many living beings across the Earth so it can continue in a more natural way, more akin to how the parts of your body end up in more living beings down the line long after your death.
Then again, it seems far more likely that if there was an afterlife, it would consist of the particles of your soul ending up in the brains of other living beings anyway, because that's consistent with how the physics of your body works in the first place. Heaven and hell, on the other hand, is not.
Dealing with this same issue. The weight keeps me "safe" by keeping others away, but also part of my self sabotage, inner hate, etc.
I relate to this so much ❤️
We understand and are sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
I wanna cry....I'm dealing with this 💔
A little explanation, of why we can't stop eating sweet and sugary foods. The secret is our adrenals. When we are stressed, our adrenals produce adrenaline as a natural protective measure. This however is only sustainable for short amounts of time and I'm talking minutes here. For us CPTSD folks, minutes are nothing compared to what we go through. We are chronically stressed for years or even decades. That completely burns out and destroys our adrenals. What do they need to recover? Glucose! So we crave sugar and reach for sweets. These treats are actually engineered to be addictive (the more addictive, the more people will buy them and so the more profitable they are) but they only satisfy the body for a short amount of time because even though they taste like it, they don't actually contain the kind of glucose our body and adrenals need. And that glucose is found in fruit.
I love how you mention 'grazing' here. It's the body's natural desire to stabilize it's blood sugar, which is very smart. But it's also super important what you graze on. Again, fruit and vegetables is the answer. They give you the right balance of glucose and minerals to stabilize the adrenal glands and help you relax and calm down. Snack ideas could be:
- apples, dates and celery sticks
- oranges, avocado and spinach
- cucumber, avocado and lemon
- apple, cauliflower and cucumbers
- berries, cucumbers and honey
Try grazing on them every 90 to 120 minutes. Hope it helps!
Well, I can relate to this. When we were kids, sugar was the only drug we had access to. It gave us a way to escape.
Im with you. Dessert was as close to any kind of affection as we ever got in our house. Mostly we were hungry and negelected and terrified of the next violent rage, but when he was handing out cake after dinner, it felt like there was a kind of acceptance of us. The rest of the time we were relentlessly bullied and demeaned at home.
As someone who developed cPTSD in part due to a mother who withheld affection, acceptance and support, and who, beginning at the age of 8, told me I was chubby and to watch what I ate, it is no wonder I find my comfort in food. It is both a source of comfort where I had none, as well as a source of rebellion as I was forced to eat in secret for fear of ridicule. I’ve been in no contact with my mom for several years but still eat like a child when her mother is gone for the day, only to hate myself for the lack of self discipline each night. I’m 59. It’s time to end this cycle of self abuse 😢
Sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
Hey. It's rough. I'm the same age. I'm so glad this video popped up in my feed.
My mother did the same. She was built to be thin, some people are like that. I have my dad's family's German peasant build. I was 5'5" and 135 and she made comments about how fat I was. My sister has mom's build and would never say anything like that -- but I stopped telling her about my weight loss achievements, as she's a buzzkill. "I lost 5 pounds" isn't met with "Good job!" but "Ok! What's your next goal?" She can't let me have the win without ruining it.
I also have CPSTD and am 52 what you are describing is exactly what is going on with me. Just wanted to say I can relate
And I thought that I was the only one who experienced that special hell....exactly the same...mom is built skinny and I got the short end of the stick of genetics and got the shorter, more muscular stuff from my dad instead. I think I was 6 when she first told me that I was chubby, it was the reason why she wouldn't sign me up for ballet, and instead got ballroom dancing (it was rubbed in that I wasn't "light as a feather" to go do ballet). I've come to realize that I punish myself through my body, not sticking to healthy eating, because "I'm not good enough". Also feeling like enough is enough.
I've beaten myself up for years because of my overeating, and what it's turned my body into. But it was (and continues to be) my primary coping strategy for anxiety, depression and loneliness. Very hard for me to find a healthy replacement that soothes me in a similar way 🙁
I have lived through this, but I now see so much anxiety is BECAUSE of the overeating. I invite you to use our Daily Practice techniques, along with Bright Line Eating. Links below the video.
Low carb worked wonders for me in that same situation, and I made it feel so unhealthy. I would make Parmesan coated zucchini wedges, covered in cheese, bacon bits, Jalepeno, and chives. It tastes just like smothered potato wedges from a bar. I suggest looking into it ^^. Keep shining. You got this!
I can relate to the fight against "comfort foods"..
Start small in both your diet and exercise. If you start exercising, the first couple of days will be rough. But after 1 week, you'll start to notice a reduced appetite, more energy, and all the dopamine being released can even help with anxiety and depression. I have faith in you.
For the 'stress/anxiety/unhappiness eating'...may I recommend breathing exercises? Easy to do just about everywhere and very efficient at regulating difficult emotional states. They can make you feel both calmer or more energized... depending on how you do them.
But if you feel, that you're also a 'sugar/carb addict, because these things specifically make you overeat...even when you don't feel bad, really....well.
A keto diet does, indeed, provide relief from that. It's a weird thing, where you become downright indifferent to sweets and high carb foods, after a while and naturally gravitate towards savory stuff and real food.
That does require a complete overhaul of your eating habits, though and it's damn hard to do, if you live/eat with other people. On the other hand, if your weight is also already causing you health issues...maybe keep it in mind as an option, if you can't get a grip on your eating habits with other means.
Good luck in any case!
I’ve been chubby all my life. Now at 43 I would consider myself obese at 40-50lbs overweight. Sometimes I don’t even recognize myself in pictures. I didn’t get a good breakfast or lunch most days but a nice dinner. So when there’s food, I eat til I’m full so I don’t “starve”. It’s a habit that’s stuck with me all my life. I’m like you in that I love sugar and baked goods and carbs. This sounds like a silver lining , thank you!
i can relate
Yes I was a latch key kid from 7 years old and was told to make my own brekky and school lunch but mum never showed me how to make a proper lunch (I'm autistic and needed the instruction). I was hungry all day every day and developed a food hoarding & fear of hunger issue & it feels impossible to lose weight because I can't seem to fix that food related trauma.
I had an AHA moment while talking to my best friend. I shared with her how I was feeling and my food craving disappeared almost instantly.
That made me realize how important it was to process my emotions in a healthy way and to stay connected to others.
It has taken some time since then to develop healthy and consistent eating habits (such as eating three meals a day and eating when I'm hungry/stopping when I feel satisfied).
Another factor in this is stress. Reducing my stress is really helping my eating habits. When I sleep better, I make better decisions around food. When I exercise, I sleep better and I also want foods that are better for me.
Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy
For most of my life, I was skinny and never had to worry about my weight. My mom was a great cook and baker, and, even though we were poor when it came to material goods, there was always enough to eat. I didn’t know I used food for comfort until I started gaining weight in my 50s and discovered that I had been binge eating for years. When I eat sugar or carbs, it’s like a switch gets turned on, and I literally cannot stop. I’m slim again, but it’s a constant battle not to binge.
Thanks for sharing!!
-Cara@TeamFairy
I'm so glad you're addressing this. Not only did abuse give me CPTSD (which has been greatly lessened and healed, for which I am so grateful to God), but the abuse was about my weight and I heard about it daily almost my entire 20 years of life. It was always so incredibly painful and frustrating. Your videos have helped me make sense of the things that happened in my childhood. Thank you!
So happy to hear that the videos have been helpful, thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
As an individual with an eating disorder stemming from food being one of my main comforts from childhood, I found a way around it. I learned that the act of eating was comfort, so I changed what I ate. I delved into how to lose weight without starving or cutting down portions because the pain of my sides from indulging helped me focus the pain from my mind.
I learned that carbs are the absolute enemy, carbs in the sense of processed or unnaturally occurring, (fries, breads, pasta, candy, etc). I learned that you can eat as much as you desire as long as it didn't have too many carbs.
I changed my diet to almonds for the crunch, meat and cheese for the salty desires, and for serious sweet cravings, I turned to home made keto fat bombs (cream cheese, peanut butter, and chocolate chips) in moderation.
I didn't work out one bit, had a sedentary lab job, and ate every 2 hours, 2-300 cal a meal. I dropped 184 lbs in 1.5 years. This gave me the energy and love of moving my body, and now I can have carbs regularly and work them off physically.
I hope this helps someone who has the same coping mechanism I did. Low carb saved my life. 30-60g of carbs a day will drop your weight and give you the energy to truly enjoy moving, which is one of the main reasons we exist in this lifetime.
I hope you all are loving yourselves, and that includes what you use to fuel yourselves! Keep shining beautiful people!
Whooooo man this just goes to show everyone is so different.
If I was to follow this it would be extremely harmful for me as looking at any food as "bad/enemy" could lead to unbridled restriction or avoidance of food groups.
@@priscillareviews4847 I understand how you feel. I see carbs as the enemy of weight loss when they're eaten to fill the void of holding space for our emotions.
I don't think of carbs as the enemy now that I've lost my weight, but without that restriction, I would still be close to 400 lbs, if not over that. Keep shining your authentic self! I love the input.
Very correct for a ton of people. Wheat is also terrible for emotions. I lost a lot of weight & healed so much while low carb, keto
Carbs are NOT the enemy. Eating processed foods like cupcakes, cookies, processed foods from a box are bad. Eating a diet rich of oils, sugars, processed flours is what causes weight gain. You should be eating rice, beans, all vegetables, fruits, potatoes, whole grains, and meat, if that is your preference. The Blue Zone diet and Mediterranean diet are recommended diets of the American Heart Association.
@@azsunburns congratulations! You must feel amazing having overcome so much! You must be so proud of yourself!
I was put on SSRIs instead of having talk therapy when I was a depressed teen. It was the standard of care (and in my parents best interest) to assume that depression was caused by a “chemical imbalance” instead of actually getting to the heart of what might be causing the depression and actually having to come to terms with some major family dysfunction. I also realized later that becoming a vegetarian without having any knowledge of how to do that in a healthy way (eating too many carbs, which we now know is related to gut health/depression,) while also having mood swings related to my period, contributed to my depression.
Like Anna, I also smoked for years - but secretly. Nicotine was the only thing that really helped my mood. Nobody wants to talk about that.
Anyway, I never addressed the various reasons causing my anxiety and depression - abuse and neglect at home, period related mood swings, and a terrible diet.
As a result of being on SSRIs I also gained a LOT of weight. I became morbidly obese. A condition that my older sister mocked mercilessly.
I’m finally off the SSRIs, losing weight, eating better, exercising, and getting a lot of various healthy treatments - including watching the Crappy Childhood Fairy - for what I’ve come to realize is PTSD.
You are doing it!!! Yay for you!!! ❤
@@juliagriego7693 thanks 🙏
You go! Yes, I was the same way, put on anti depressants. And yes, I can relate to the when vegetarian thing. I couldn't do it, bc you have to add all these extra carbs, dairy, and it only made me puffy and more dysregulated. The meds make you crave carbs.
My Doctor recommended that I lose weight slowly because people that lose weight quickly tend to put the weight back on and in some cases become more obese than when they started trying to lose weight..
This made so much sense. Thank you for being brave, and speaking up. I've had another member tell me about it and encourage me to try it too. I felt the same way with making up little reasons to keep eating the flour and sugar and treats, but let's get real, all the stresses of life aren't going away. And all the extra weight isn't making it easier for me to deal with it. I'm sure my story is like many. Had a baby, realized I had an emotionally unavailable partner and family, so no help. I often felt lonely, and food is how I coped with being ignored and unseen. I'm excited to know I'm not alone, and there's an other avenue to surround myself with supportive lovely people who care and who are trying to kick the sugary habits too. I'm rooting for you Anna! I will be using your link and going to Brightline Eating too. Looking forward to hearing more about the foods and how they helped you. Doing your course has already changed my life sooooo much for the better. I'm feeling ready to take the next step too.
Thanks so much Liz. Good to see you here!
Smoker here too and still haven't been under 200 since high-school and I'm 35 years old now.
I hear you. There really is hope!
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I believe that
Update: I've lost 30 pounds on this diet! I've gone from borderline obese to normal/healthy BMI. Thank you so much for introducing me to the diet.
What a happy feeling! Have you found it helpful for emotional or nervous system dysregulation?
I am so excited to see you talking about Bright Line Eating.. For the first time in my life, after many attempts and up and downs with weight, I've found this program. I have lost 36 pounds in 125 days and I am sure I will lose all my weight. This is happening at the same time as I am healing myself and healing my relationship. The boundaries it provides around food help me stay food sober. Thank you so much for sharing this life changing approach.
Thank you for making this video. I had some serious childhood trauma. I thought I was healed. When I married somehow the trauma was triggered again. In the seven years Ive been married I put on 110lbs. Im 300 now. Ive tried everything and I believe a lot of the unresolved trauma leads us to seek comfort in food. This gave me hope. So many people think its just diet and exercise. I just want to be healthy. There is hope for me now.
Thank you for talking about how eating habits and nutrition affect our wellbeing. Two years ago I hit a wall and made some big changes - I cut out all refined grains and sugars, oils, alcohol, and salt. Within a few days my mind felt calm. It took many months to get free from the cravings but I continued to abstain and now two years later I've lost 120 lbs (and still losing) and have zero desire for highly refined foods. The peace of mind is the best thing of eating this way. I'm a life-long vegetarian and chose a vegan/plant-based diet without refined products. Works for me and I pray everyone else finds their own freedom around food too.
Happy for you🎉🎉🎉❤Yay🙏🙏🙏💜🎉
You inspired me, thank you
Glad to hear you found habits that work for you! Thanks for sharing. -Calista@TeamFairy
@@UknowBo22 There's actually nutrition in meat, so yeah, no need to give it up anyway. Those substitutes are really awful and awful for you.
Same!!! I recently lost 30lbs. but I fell off the "eatting correctly wagon "during vacation this summer and am dragging my feet to jump back on. I jumped on the scale this morning and I've gained 6lbs back 😫
🤔 I'm taking this video as a nudge from the universe to get my behind back in gear! Thank you!✌️💜
Just because you forget to brush your teeth one night, you wouldn't say you're done brushing forever and giving up, just get back to it the next day and keep grinding! You got this
Your tips are very helpful but what helps the most is how soothing and sincere you are and what a nice calming presence you have.
I am in my mid 60s and have been working all my adult life to overcome my reactions to early childhood trauma with small successes. Not enough success. You are keyed in exactly to how my overeating plays out ( and bouts of uncontrolled weeping). This is enormously promising! Thank you. 💚🌈🕊🦋💖😇
Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you Anna for addressing this! 🙂
Isn’t it interesting that Anna is addressing this and the majority of books by psychologists or psychiatrists makes no mention. I have read every book on childhood abuse/neglect/abandonment that I could find, not really finding answers. It’s the women who experienced CPTSD who are aware of eating problems.
This is right where I am at 47. Thank you for sharing. It was just what I needed 🙏🧡
Sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
I tried Bright Line and found it helpful, but it IS very restrictive, and often made me feel "too different" from "normal" people, so stopping sugar altogether has been problematic. I wish there was some sort of halfway point, or that we could have a Tx plan that addressed the sugar addiction other than cold turkey. I've wobbled around 250 for a long time and trying to repair my brain so I can have just _one_ cookie has been a crazy ride. The eat only at mealtimes thing is also REALLY difficult.
Stopping sugar altogether, does that include natural sweet things like dates, agave syrup, stevia, etc? If not, it's fully possible to make low-carb versions of cookies and cakes. I have not looked into the Bright Line system yet. Thank you for sharing something descriptive about the method.
It also seems like it could cause issues for people with eating disorders since it’s deeming flour and sugar as “bad”.
@@kikki2012 it allows fruits, but requires you stop artificial sweeteners like Stevia as well. I get the science - I have a Master's degree in Biology - but we need better ways to treat brain pathway problems/addiction than cold turkey, IMHO. I will say that it DOES work, until you inevitably fall off the wagon. Susan herself has a snippet where she talks about being able to think of frosting as paint, all over her fingers... up until she tastes it. But her research into the brain chemistry of addiction seems spot on. Still, there's so much we don't understand about the human brain. It may be that psychotropic drugs can help reset us, or something else. If the pandemic showed us anything as a species, it's that we need a reliable and effective treatment for addiction
I haven't looked into Brightline but finally discovered something kinda neat a year ago last November. I've always had food issues. Eating was one of the few things ( only thing ?) my Mom thought I did well. So I ate, everything. With seconds or thirds. My weight was yoyo. My clothes were never comfortable. I was always on high alert near a dinner table , vending machine, coat pocket with a stale cookie.
I was reading online The Psychology of Eating. A facebook page I think. It mentioned being mindful and tasting the food. Stopping between shovel fulls and just paying attention to feelings. Flavours. Textures. Kindness to oneself. I ate like a greyhound on a racetrack. There was no flavour. I was stuffing a pillow as I ran out the door to work. Toast in both hands. Constantly in a hurry . So I sat once or twice to pay attention . I ate something I liked because I was actually hungry and did it deliberately. Slowly. I wasn't deprived. I told myself I could eat anything I wanted I just had to be completely present and mindful. Taste it, enjoy it.Tiny bites I could taste, no front end loader. I was 58 years old and that worked. The only thing that ever worked in my life where food was concerned. Brightline sounds like an awesome answer as well. There is always hope. We deserve to celebrate
mine was different. whenever im nervous or stressed out, my appetite is absent. i tend to sleep instead.
whenever i could eat a lot, thats already an achievement.
a voracious appetite meant a healthy constitution.
but now im cured mentally. i control my appetite. i eat because im hungry and being anxious or nervous is no longer there. i fast whenever i feel like it.
I’m within 5 lbs of goal and so excited to start the Maintenance II course with Bright Line Eating. The finish line anxiety is my struggle at the moment. Thank you for this and for sharing your journey. Your work has helped me immensely. Wishing you a bright day ❤🎉
Thanks for watching! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Omg! I have childhood trauma and I’ve been healing myself I have been struggling with my weight since the age of 16 years old and I am turning 60 in a few days. 10/15. I have try every thing on the market to loss weight. Now I am on intermittent fasting and I struggle with that. 😢 oh I forgot and doing keto on top of IF
I've found intermittent fasting pretty helpful. But so was Bright Line.
Everybody's body is so different intermittent fasting was harmful for me as it was too restrictive and can put the body in "survival mode" because food intake seems scarce.
Just LOVE your body no matter what it looks like. Selflove is the key to losing the weight.
Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy
Did BLE-got to a good weight. Started binging again. I’ve realized I have childhood trauma that had affected my ability to stay bright. Somehow, I found you. Although bright again, I feel the effects of unhealed trauma. Just started the daily practice. I do feel relief from it.
I love your content. I have been watching you on youtube for a few years now. I thank you so much for all you do for this community, I also try to share your work/links with others as I know there is a shortage out there. Lastly, you & your hair are looking extra fabulous these days
Thank you for the support & kind words. Grateful you're here. - Ashley, Team Fairy
I think the reason Weight Watchers is the most effective way if weight loss for me is the fact that you don't deprive yourself and track what you eat and keep track...
BLE is the way!!! I’ve done it with my CPTSD and it worked! I stopped and need to get back in. I asked for a sign today and here you are. I watch you and love BLE.
Amazing! So glad you found the video today. -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you so much for your supportive, practical messages like this. Thank you for your powerful, authentic vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your experience that helps you and can help others. You’re such a special soul.
Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy
CCF has helped me see the trauma I experienced and how that made me seek out comfort. Comfort in the form of food. yes! sugar and flour. When you experience trauma espeically as a very young child, you have 3 choices: 1) you try to rationalize it and become an adult- child, which is so unfair 2) you want to flee, but at age 4 or 5 or 6, you can't go anywhere and/or 3) you seek out comfort. And food is the answer - sweet floury food. As I finally understood trauma, and that I had CPTSD (i answered yes to nearly all your questions on your CPSTD questionnaire), and now when i seek comfort, I try to discern where it's coming from. Am i really hungry, do I really want a glass of wine or am i trying to comfort the trauma. 90% of the time, it's trauma. I'm slowly losing the weight as I focus on what is really happening in my brain. Thank you CCF!!
Thank you so much for your honesty. You have described my experience almost exactly. 14 years ago, when I had been off of sugar and flour for one month I felt so pain free that I compared it to an out-of-body experience. ...am fighting my way back there again...
Thanks for watching! You got this! -Calista@TeamFairy
I’m 56 years old and just started working on my CPTSD issues last year. I’ve been under weight all my life and I’m stuck in fight flight mode. I have no appetite and even though I realize I need to sleep, I feel like I’m wasting time doing so.
I stream your videos all day, Anna. Thank you so much for your help!
Thank you for being a part of our community here! If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
thank you so much.. coming across this channel was a miracle. i’ve felt validated for the first time in 22 years
Wow! Thank you for your kind words, so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Love this print u are wearing,You look really pretty today! Thank you for being so down to earth and speaking plain and being easy to understand, you are an answer to prayer. Now I understand so much more about my mother.
Thanks Anna, will follow your link. You're right we seek the small instant gratification of something comforting in the mouth. I'm not overweight but know my horrendous processed diet is killing not healing. I need to be here to raise my little ones. I've been in tears over this addiction to junk food, thank you for addressing it. GBY 🙏
I found BLE in June of 2021 and fully embraced it for about 8 months. Lost 40+ lbs and felt good! Then some work and personal responsibilities became so "big" that I didn't feel I had the will power reserve to stick with it. I, too convinced myself it would just be for a little while. I've gained most of the weight back and am working to get back on plan consistently. BLE works. Congratulations on 30 days!
Thanks for sharing!!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you for this video. I m not ready to quit sugar and flour. I already quit cigarettes, alcohol and a very toxic relationship😊. One day at the time. 💫
Thanks for listening! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thanks🙏🌻🍀
Same here!! You just described me to the tee with the sugar addiction. I am definitely an emotional eater. I learned in my 50s while healing my body from Type 2 Diabetes that sugar is how I cope. I lost 70 pounds and gained some weight back.
I eat healthy cause I’m now 6 years Free from T2D, but in 2017 I started working on healing through Childhood Trauma, and I returned to sugar. I got married when I was 16 years old to a mentally and physically abusive young man.
I always get back on track, but I am definitely big on Self-sabotage. The you for sharing. ❤
Thanks for watching! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy ❤️❤️❤️
My cptsd turned into me using anorexia for 18 years as a coping mechanism. I don't even care if I'm thin or how I look.
A few years ago I hit rock bottom with chronic physical illness, depression, and extreme lethargy and I started following a similar eating plan out of absolute desperation. Because of my personal beliefs I chose a whole foods only vegetarian plan with an aim to go vegan. The main thing is, no flour no sugar - both of which I was addicted to.
Within a month my health was markedly better, but more amazing was that I had buckets of energy again - and my severe depression had lifted! Nothing had really touched that in my life until I changed my eating. Also important, the cravings for sugar/ unhealthy food stopped. A few years in and I easily turn down sweets, etc. even at celebrations because I don't want to feel bad again like that. Along with CPTSD I've suffered since I was 7 with eating disorders, so this is a true revolution for me. I firmly believe this was the key to the accelerated
healing I've experienced since, in part because I have the energy and stamina now to be truly active in my recovery. But a significant part must be the body chemistry itself. It's common sense, you need to put fresh, healthy things into your body if you want it to run well.
My tip: be gentle and forgiving with yourself in the beginning. Every small step is a step forward, don't fall prey to the self-defeating mindset that if you eat one "bad" thing the whole day is ruined. Every healthy meal you eat is healing for your body and eventually you will find it easier to eat that way consistently. Work your way up to it.
Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thanks for your honesty! It helps us see that we are not alone in our struggles and there are more people out there who struggle with the same things. Your video’s have opened my eyes and helped me understand so many things. I really appreciate all your help and the wonderful wisdom that you share with us. ❤
This couldn’t have come at a better time, I literally stopped eating sugar two days ago because I’ve noticed it makes me extra dysregulated and I sabotage everything, (not to mention the feeling of helplessness about weight that comes about after i eat it). I just can’t bear to let this cycle happen anymore! So far, no-sugar has really improved my regulation, but I’m nervous about keeping it up...
I had a gastric bypass 12 weeks ago. Struggled with my weight for a very long time x
You may want to check this program out.
@@questioneverything1776 I reported them x
That's what I want .
Planning on it now .x x
Oh boy. You're going to knock me off my chair today.
In my mid-40’s、I realized that in some respects I felt as if the body fat I had was a kind of armor, protecting the core me. It wasn't working, and it was too weighty of course. So mentally, I wasn't "losing weight" (suffering loss), I was taking off the armor that didn't work. If changing your mental image of what you're doing helps you, you might try it.
Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy
Yes. The weight is armor. For me it’s my personal FU to the diet culture, eating disorders, body shaming, and fat phobia that I was surrounded by for most of my life and the trauma bonds that family members have formed over disordered eating. There is freedom in not having to be criticized for everything you put in your mouth, but with that freedom comes the biological realities of living long term in an overweight body and genetic predisposition to conditions that weight makes more difficult (ie osteoarthritis, fibromyalgia, and autoimmune disorders). Yes I need to lose weight, but I still can’t shake the feeling that in doing so I give the abusers who fat shamed me (“for my health”) for most of my life more power and control over my body and image.
Crohn’s is one of those illnesses that happens to people with CPTSD. I have sooo many of the illnesses that happen to people with C-PTSD.
Hi
I have multiple auto immune illnesses and fibromyalgia and colitis ...and I had multiple trauma as a child ...
Maybe we’re sisters 👯♀️
WAIT I NEED THIS!!! Thank you!! I focus so much on the emotional healing but forget it’s so important to also eat hahahha and eat healthy and when I do eat not to overeat. Another blessing❤
Glad you're here! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
So glad to hear you’ve had a good experience with Bright Line Eating! I recently saw an interview with Dr Susan and was looking into it....your positive endorsement feels like the affirmation I needed to give it a try. Thank you!
Thanks for listening! -Calista@TeamFairy
I have aspergers and lots of childhood trauma so the one thing I found I could control was my diet. I had anorexia and orthorexia, avoided eating in general. Eventually I trained myself to eat a restrictive and controlled diet. As a vegan it was very very strict. Then I was hospitalized for kidney stones. I realized my diet was causing it. So I researched and came to carnivore diet. Meat. Raw dairy. Raw honey. Organic fruit. After switching I felt amazingly good. I lost the bloating from vegan lifestyle. I lost weight. And I now feel healthy and very content with my diet. No sugars/no breads. And I don’t miss them.
Thank you, I need this!!!! ✔️
Food has always been my best friend. A piece of joy that doesn’t let me down and gives me a good feeling. Til I get on the scale
Okay so I started this diet after watching your video. I got the audiobook. I've been on it for 3 days and I have lost 5 pounds already. I have been stuck at my weight for a long time going to the gym, eating healthy haven't been working for me. You made some good points with emotional eating and the book helped me realize my issue is grazing and not having regular meal times. Thank you. This is one of the easiest diets I've ever tried too.
So happy to hear it's been helpful for you! Thanks for sharing. -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy no thank you. I deeply appreciate your videos and all the therapy talk you do. You have been a huge help in a lot of areas in my life. ♥️ PS. I send a lot of my friends working through their own CPTSD to your channel.
THE VIDEOS GET BETTER AND BETTER I LOVE YOU
Such an educational video! This is great stuff. Question... have you ever tried Next Level Diet? I got a weight-loss meal plan from them and I love it.
I’ve been bright for 23 days now. Yes, after the sugar detox, my brain and body have calmed down.
So glad it's helped you! Thanks for sharing. -Calista@TeamFairy
I really needed this video today. Thank you!
Thanks for watching! -Calista@TeamFairy
Oh Anna this video is very encouraging, Thank you for this and all your Wisdom and compassion,🤗👍👍
You're welcome! I'm delighted you're encouraged. Please consider registering for the webinar linked below the video.
Thank you for this video. If possible, I would love for you to talk about TV addiction (Netflix, Prime video). It is my greatest problem at the moment and I cannot get out of the loop.
Oh my goodness!!! You are so right!! I’m going through this right now!❤👍🏽💯
It is SO common for traumatized people.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you so much for saying that. I have not always struggled with my weight. Just in the last few years and then menopause. Now about 50lbs more than I’m comfortable carrying. Definitely trauma related. But I’m continuing to work on it! I’m not typically a huge sugar or flour pasta fan. I eat pretty healthy. But since I’ve been in this healing journey - oh boy those things are at times so soothing. 😂🤷🏽♀️
I will definitely look into this!
Thank you for sharing this! I know how to eat I just forget how much better I feel off sugar and flour. The short-term high is so compelling, but it feels so much worse when it wears off.
So timely. Thank you so much!
Thanks for listening! -Calista@TeamFairy
Wanted to find this for years! Thank you!
I hope this encourages others to take the path I'm taking through Weight Watchers.... I started Weight Watchers in April and have so far lost 33 pounds!!!. I find Weight Watchers and tracking all of the food I take in the most workable way to eat, diet and maintain a healthy lifestyle ..
This could not have come at a better time. Thank you very much for your vulnerability and sharing this with us. I have struggled with body image issues for as long as I can remember. I've gained 100+ lbs since high school and have lost and regained 20-30lbs multiple times since then. I'm terrified to be skinny yet miserable being fat. My body feels horrible eating badly but content being comfortable. It's a war I am so deeply sick of yet so deeply attached to. Nothing has really helped, but I hope this does!
Sending you encouragement as you try this approach. We're rooting for you! - Ashley, Team Fairy
Omg what a great video! I was always athletic.. gymnast. Was told I was fat at home and in my sport. Plus the abuse trauma at home...I am 54. 12years to 35 years old had bulimia and major body hate- distortion. Binge ate mainly ice cream and like cake..it was my binge and go to feel better food. I am 35 pounds overweight right now. 5 foot 2 in. Anyhow.. I'm healing.. this video is so great along with all of them. Thank you Anna!
Glad you're here! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Im sorry that happened to you. I was sporty and fit as a young person, too- I won all sorts of trophies and medals- but was also bullied at home for being 'fat'! It makes you feel like you're the crazy one.
I watch my calorie intake and workout 5-6 days a week. I've actually found lifting weights is a good way to channel my anger into.
Good stuff!
-Cara@TeamFairy
You’re a gem, thanks for this video. Praying for your success along with all of ours. ❤
Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy
Im sure this is true but also, this channel has really already helped me get myself together to lose 50 pounds this past year, and sort out my health generally, just by clearing my head of the things that were keeping me in a bad place, and handing me back the keys to my own life
That is so inspiring, thanks for sharing!
-Cara@TeamFairy
love this - thank you so so much!! as someone w ADHD, it’s equally as helpful ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
I got disreglated this morning, in a sad and upsetting way. I wanted to cry. When I got home, I reached for food. I am overweight. I realized I was disreglated and needed a different plan. Your video is right on time.
Sending you encouragement. Beautiful awareness. - Ashley, Team Fairy
this topic is on time. thank you, Anna 🌺✨
It’s the dopamine. That’s why the cigarettes make it easier to not binge eat etc. Foods with refined carbs (sugar/flour) give us the dopamine too. I quit smoking about 4 months ago and have been eating too much of the sugar stuff lately, compulsively, and I’ve noticed I also have the same cigarette craving feelings. I’ve heard of BLE before and it seems to work for those of us with extra layers to our relationship to food.
Anna, the plan you mention did originally help me, too, but the overlooked thing is that it doesn’t help people in the long term to keep it off unless they can keep it up for years. It’s so hard because it really is induces a lot of shame when I couldn’t keep the weight off, way too restrictive. It wasn’t something that I could do in the long run or wanted to do for life. I do feel like sugar and flour are dysregulating, though. Just saying my own experience-it made me a whole lot worse following this.
THANK YOU. I just watched her video on eating and everything she said about BLE set off alarm bells for me - the creator may be a neuroscientist, but it doesn’t appear to be anything other than a shiny new crash diet/eating disorder. Any diet that has no room for leeway is not sustainable - no wonder people gain the weight back! It’s also generally not good to lose weight super quickly, as that can lead to health issues (a friend of mine actually experienced this recently). 1200 calories is not sustainable or reasonable for any adult!
Thank you for helping us😊
Thanks for watching! -Calista@TeamFairy
I feel like you are talking right to me today!
All I can say is thank you for this 🥺🙌😭
Thanks for listening! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you for talking about this and keeping it real.
Thanks for watching :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I did BLE in 2018-19 and lost 40 pounds and when covid hit I thought well if I'm gonna die I want a brownie first. So I gained it all back and have just not been able to jump back in. Today I asked the universe for a sign and here you are on my TV telling me about BLE. Dammit! Headed over there to sign up. Thank you for being my sign. I have no accountability partners. This is hard.
Sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I'm down 8 pounds and today is my Day 19. I'm sticking with it and it feels great!
I've been eating this way for a few months. I have lost some weight but I still feel fat. In my youth, my father told me I was fat and my mother told me to suck in my gut. Sugar therapy was my go to;; icing, ice cream, chocolate and baking, I loved it all. Now I have none of it. But I did find sugar free chocolate chips. I do have one handful a day and I can stick with that along with a handful of pecans. I don't even put sugar or honey in my tea. I do feel better for this. It's hard not to turn to food when I'm disregulated. I have found other strategies, I guess I'm getting to know myself. I just wish my voice in my head putting myself down would stop.
Those mean voices in the head take some work to get rid of :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
I know when, where and why I had my first babyhood trauma. I was between 3 or 4 years old and my father would hit, spank me for not eating all the food put before me. I’m talking about pulling my panties down putting me across his lap and spanking the crap out of me. This behavior was repeated all my growing years. After I was to big for his lap, then the belt would be used next. And worst of all my mother was a lousy cook. No one rescued me from his abuse. I remember my mother beating us like Hebrew Slaves. So I ate to please my father whether hungry or not. I learned to get rid of food without anyone noticing. I raked my plate of food behind the radiator. Being overweight as a child I told my father how the kids at school called me fat.
And my father said:
“All your fat belongs to me.” I wasn’t a person I was his property.
During puberty I intentionally kept weight on because of the male attention that I was receiving. I was afraid of that attention; and didn’t know how to protect myself from unwanted admiration. I used food for all the wrong reasons, mainly sweets, pastries, candy 🍭 ice cream. I would be rewarded with food or punished by food. Food was my enemy for many, many years. Plus I was bulimic.
Go figure. 😑
That's really horrific! I am so sorry someone did this to you; especially the people that were supposed to love & protect you. I am familiar with the belt, so I know how much it hurts emotionally besides physically. I hope you know that none of this was ever deserved and that you are amazing for being on a channel like this, trying to do the work besides such a difficult start. Sending lots of good thoughts your way!
I was skinny my whole life until the doctors began medicating me at age 20. I ballooned after they put me on Asendin, which made me sleep most of the day away. I have struggled off and on with weight ever since.
The odd thing is, my body has two opposite reactions to stress. Sometimes I binge and crave sugary foods. Other times food sounds completely unappealing and I've been known to rapidly lose 50 pounds or more. I also have ADHD and anxiety in addition to PTSD so perhaps that explains the occasional differences. When my anxiety and ADHD get triggered in addition to my PTSD I tend to lose my appetite and pace or exercise or do long walks to self-comfort.
I'm currently down probably at least 50 pounds since my father passed away almost two years ago, and I have been struggling without a home since. This is the second time I've lost that much weight without actively trying due to stressful life situations.
I went from two extremes in about 2 years. All started at the start of covid. I was sick for several months and became emaciated. Then I healed and went back to a normal weight. Then I went through a traumatic event and developed depression. Once I had depression the weight kept on creeping up gradually until I got to the point where I looked at myself in the mirror and said to myself, "I've let myself go." While I lost about 50 lbs before through diet change a lone, I would come to find trying to lose weight now with the depression would be much harder. I've started and then stopped a new diet so many times, but I plan to make the change for good this time. Eating all of this junk food is not worth it because all it's made me do is feel sluggish all the time.
Sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
I grew up with a narcissistic sociopath for a mother, and got married to escape the situation. Things were fine for a lot of years, then suddenly I found myself going through a divorce to escape a marriage that had become violent, and going through menopause at the same time. Within 9 months of signing the divorce papers, I'd gained 90 lb; my psyche was not going to let me anywhere near men ever again. I still have no desire to be in a relationship because men are dangerous. But I've got to lose the weight or I'm going to wind up diabetic with heart problems, and I don't have a family to take care of me!
Depression brings stress. Stress increases cortisol, the stress hormone!
I have the opposite problem, I find myself having a lot of anxiety around eating and consequently I don’t eat. Then I lose weight and I’m already a petite girl. So I really can’t afford to lose weight because I don’t have reserves. Then I start to feel light headed and dizzy on a daily basis. This happens for months at a time.
Exactly.
the thimbnail of this video is the GOAT. power to us!!!
That's right!!! :) - Ashley, Team Fairy
I've had success in FAA food addicts anonymous in recovery from 318lbs to 157 and now my healthy 175
Amazing! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Maybe we are looking for that feeling that we got addicted: Disappointed in ourselves. It’s familiar. It’s how we used to make our caretakers. It’s sort of safe place to be because it’s familiar and even there was abuse we survived.
I'm two months into no flour and no added sugar life right now, and I've lost 2 inches off my waist
I registered for the free webinar Thursday night 🥰
Yay! Hope you get as much out of it as I have.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you, me too 🥰
I started BLE just last month! I've done it before in the 2000s (just didn't eat any flour or sugar, BLE want an official thing yet). I'm so excited for these videos! I hope there might be a promo code coming to become a BLE member?
That's great! There are links below my BLE video (and I've got two more coming out on Friday and Sunday), and these are to webinars Susan is offering, and I'm sure at the end the option to become a members will be offered. THIS link, however, is to a series of videos you can access right away, and the option to be a member is at the end of the video list: tuneclick.brightlineeating.com/aff_c?offer_id=13&aff_id=1117
I signed up with BLE today.
I am happy to watch this video and will be researching the doctor that you are recommending. However, if someone has an underactive thyroid, like myself, it's not as easy as limiting sugar and flour. I have Hashimoto's and it's extremely difficult to lose even one pound. My husband sees what I eat every single day and he cannot believe how difficult it is for me. He is always saying how it's so unfair lol!
Eating is often a "binging" habbit we use to avoid emotions instead of facing them. It's a coping mechanism really. Everyone has those instincts, not just people with anxiety disorders. The trick is to substitute your anxiety related binging habits for something more healthy. There are tons of binges, books, drugs (including legal stuff), TV, food, sleep, exercise.... anything to take your mind off things really. Now ideally you learn to face and deal with those emotions as they come and disentangle the bad learnings you made around traumas but that's not always the right timing. In those time snacking on let's say celeri instead of sugar and fat helps in the mean time.
1200 cals a day is really restrictive and not something I believe is healthy and maintainable long term, I know once you reach your ideal weight more cal introduced. I can understand the breaking sugar and flour craving/addiction part. I find for myself extreme restrictions put me in a position of failure. It also feels like some of the trauma from my childhood. Rather than being kind to my body, eating more proteins, veggies etc to assist me with having cravings, drinking more water and getting joyful movement.