GRANDMA TELLS US WHY SHE GOT MARRIED

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  • Our Mom said being in love was not the goal or objective when she got married. And maybe that’s why it has lasted now for almost 59 years! I’m still not there yet. I love LOVE and been wanting to be in love since I was 5 years old. Lol. True story.
    But listen to the ending when she be telling on herself but not telling on herself!!!!! 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️❤️❤️❤️ #convoswithcarrie #everyonesfavoritegrandma #wcw

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  • @anpuarcturus
    @anpuarcturus 7 месяцев назад +2162

    An elderly woman told me that she got married when she was 17 and the man was 26. He asked her to marry him. She married him to get away from the south during The Great Migration. She did not love her husband in the beginning but grew to love him. That lady just turned 94 this month.

    • @antoinettedaniels158
      @antoinettedaniels158 7 месяцев назад +93

      I married at 17 n my husband was 27 I had love him to bits he was my first for everything

    • @pick7387
      @pick7387 7 месяцев назад +49

      I agree with her better you just love or grow to love them because peo falls out of love and when it's gone good for those who love their partner they don't leave just still live their lives together instead of seperstion.

    • @gallen2101
      @gallen2101 7 месяцев назад +3

    • @anpuarcturus
      @anpuarcturus 7 месяцев назад +12

      @antoinettedaniels158 that is awesome, and I am happy for both of you 😃 ❤️

    • @anpuarcturus
      @anpuarcturus 7 месяцев назад +42

      @pick7387 From my experience, people would not fall out of love if the love was genuine in the beginning. Most of us aren't prepared for life as children and have to learn the hard way, sometimes going back 5 generations. Long talks, long walks, without intimacy, and spending no money on each other in the beginning will let one know what they are dealing with soon, especially these days.

  • @ritarichardson6635
    @ritarichardson6635 7 месяцев назад +734

    In other words, just cause you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen 😂 😂😂

    • @DaPhlyymamee
      @DaPhlyymamee 7 месяцев назад +12

      That part!

    • @omphilemoerane2569
      @omphilemoerane2569 7 месяцев назад +2

      Yeah they weren't show offs like the young people today that be engaging in foreplay in front of children.

    • @handsthatmake
      @handsthatmake 7 месяцев назад +33

      Cause one thing. Parents during her time they didn't let their children see or know any of their business conversations and all that. A child stayed in a child's place. Eyes didn't sell everything like today. O lord have mercy

    • @lkofie6670
      @lkofie6670 7 месяцев назад +5

      Thank you... it takes nothing away from the marriage or love for one another.

    • @Lookdownhereiam
      @Lookdownhereiam 7 месяцев назад +1

      And if we don’t with each other we could find others for that stuff. 😅

  • @reignrobinson7951
    @reignrobinson7951 7 месяцев назад +1386

    Let grandma eat first before she choke... she chowing down!😅

    • @thasfun
      @thasfun 7 месяцев назад +56

      I thought the same thing ❤

    • @Tonia828
      @Tonia828 7 месяцев назад +34

      Don't talk to much while you're eating/chewing food.

    • @hereforthecomments9676
      @hereforthecomments9676 7 месяцев назад +53

      Ya this was straight up gross, too bad because I wanted to listen but the eating sounds were tooooo much.

    • @africanqueenmo
      @africanqueenmo 7 месяцев назад

      She's an old woman cut her some slack ​@@hereforthecomments9676

    • @IDChannel24
      @IDChannel24 7 месяцев назад +13

      @@hereforthecomments9676I was thinking the same😮

  • @Godsgirl405
    @Godsgirl405 7 месяцев назад +1023

    Don’t ask momma no questions if your heart ain’t prepared for the unfiltered truth because she’s going to give it to you every single time! Love her! 😆🩷

  • @MzVedaborntoJudah
    @MzVedaborntoJudah 7 месяцев назад +1321

    Mama does not mince her words…she says what she means and means what she says! I certainly respect that! ❤️

    • @marylynch951
      @marylynch951 7 месяцев назад +14

      Yes this is the reason I love her ❤❤❤

    • @Bklyn112
      @Bklyn112 7 месяцев назад +21

      You all better stop asking her these questions because she's going to give you answers that you may not be ready to hear! I love her for telling the truth. Nothing much has changed when it comes to relationships except that women have more choices and some men, mostly those who come up wanting, are mad about that!

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 7 месяцев назад +3

      Real truth. We were raised to marry and not shack. Be married when you have one child, and be over 35. Live alone and live. Do not have babies for they will eliminate you and the family.

    • @disebolekhu6098
      @disebolekhu6098 7 месяцев назад

      ❤❤❤

    • @Invisible11
      @Invisible11 7 месяцев назад +2

      She Be slow Dancing 💃🏾 🕺🏿 Not With Pops Though 🤣🤣

  • @uncommonfavor674
    @uncommonfavor674 7 месяцев назад +452

    Mama is absolutely right. Hearts and flowers fade. Real Love is caring and committed. It’s romantic but not overly so.

    • @katrinab7657
      @katrinab7657 7 месяцев назад +40

      Right. It can be romantic, but not *just* romantic. At some point, bills have to get paid, the roof leaks, and someone will get sick.
      😍😘🥰😍 Fades fast when life gets real, if the love isn't real.

    • @mrsleep0000
      @mrsleep0000 7 месяцев назад +10

      Romance doesn't pay the bills and get the kids to school on time...

  • @bten-pow2095
    @bten-pow2095 7 месяцев назад +559

    This is real stuff. I love grandma. She tells you the real profound elements of a relationship.

    • @Dwan1881
      @Dwan1881 7 месяцев назад +4

      absolutely

    • @skeetstation97
      @skeetstation97 7 месяцев назад +9

      Yes n not the fairytale these young ladies want to force upon young men 😂

    • @lkofie6670
      @lkofie6670 7 месяцев назад +8

      EXACTLY... and in the raw. Not a whole lot of fluff and "romanticizing" things.

    • @stevionaustin
      @stevionaustin 7 месяцев назад +1

      Of HER relationship.. this isn’t everybody’s truth

  • @anitalanier9014
    @anitalanier9014 7 месяцев назад +242

    YOU CAN TELL SHE WAS VERY PRETTY IN HER YOUNGER DAYS. SHE'S AN ATTRACTIVE OLDER LADY NOW, WITH MORE SENSE THEN ANY YOUNG PERSON NOWADAYS !!!
    I LOVE HER LOGICS.
    SHE. BRIGHT AND INTELLIGENT. I LOVE THIS APP. YOU HAVE A FAN HERE!!!
    THANK YOU FOR SHARING ❤

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +20

      Idk, that seems kinda sad to me. I'm in love with my wife, I have been since high school, we been together 23 years this year. Just because someone is old, doesn't mean they are wise fam.
      That's her experience, not everybody's experience, so you have to take everything with a grain of salt. A husband being in love with a wife and vice versa does exist.

    • @deemaverick987
      @deemaverick987 7 месяцев назад +8

      Yes, she was and is. She does not think she is, though. She has very high tone features. Sought after features.
      Very attractive woman.

    • @annettelyles975
      @annettelyles975 4 месяца назад

      Yes, Yes and Yes! I love the gems that this beautiful Matriarch shares! Please keep them coming! God bless💕🙏🏾🎊😍

    • @nalahbaer8290
      @nalahbaer8290 3 месяца назад

      ​@@deemaverick987what are high tone features?

  • @olivia9408
    @olivia9408 7 месяцев назад +155

    Just because you didnt see them slow dance dont mean they never did 😂😂😂

  • @faithwalkz
    @faithwalkz 7 месяцев назад +195

    I did the same thing.I married without being in love."In love" is a high.When the high comes down ,you're in shock and disappointed about reality..I was sober when i got married.Just reality.

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +8

      I think you mean mania is a high, love is a lot more than that. I'm 100% in love with my wife, been together 23 years this year. It would really hurt my wife's feelings if I told her I wasn't in love with her.

    • @DatDyme980
      @DatDyme980 7 месяцев назад +20

      ​​​​@@adim00lahWell that's you and your wife. Some understand it other ways. "In love" in the context she used it is the same as infatuation to me. I'd much rather my man see it the way that she stated was better. She said what she meant not, what you meant. #BalancedReality

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@DatDyme980 Love is not infatuation. She said she don't care if her spouse cheats, that would not be okay with me, if that's okay with you, then do you. I'm not having no thot for a wife.

    • @DatDyme980
      @DatDyme980 7 месяцев назад +8

      @@adim00lah You must be new to RUclips or not read well. The reference was to the comment above this thread. "In love" in the context she used it is in fact, INFATUATION. The rest of your point doesn't apply. It sounds like you can't respect others views. You and your wife can "do y'all" and stop applying your preferences to others.

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +8

      @@DatDyme980 You seem really angry, who hurt you?
      I did not disrespect this woman at all, nor tell her she needed to apply my preferences to her life. I corrected what she said that what she's describing in fact is not love, you even did the same thing, by saying she described infatuation, so did you disrespect her too?
      Infatuation is actually the opposite of love, because infatuation is about how the person makes you feel, where as love is about how the other person feels. Infatuation is selfish; it's all about you and your feelings, love is altruistic. Infatuation is delusional, love is about reality.
      When you truly love a person, you aren't blind to the person's flaws like with mania / infatuation. Mania is a drug, that's why so many people break up, and find new people constantly, they chasing that high. That is not love sis, I'm sorry.
      A lot of stalkers actually have problems with infatuation. If they loved the person, they would leave them alone, but an infatuated person's primary focus is their feelings, not the other person.
      You have a blessed day and thank you for the comment.

  • @barbarababcock8959
    @barbarababcock8959 7 месяцев назад +434

    Im 62 been married 44 years but she is so right its better to love and care then being in love

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +43

      Wow, that's sad, I been with my wife 23 years, and I love the shit outta her, she's the only woman I ever been intimate with. I couldn't imagine being married to someone I'm not in love with, that's weird.
      But I can't judge if it works for you guys, then so be it.

    • @tropicalprincess16
      @tropicalprincess16 7 месяцев назад +21

      @@adim00lahcompletely agree. I’d rather not get married if I’m not in love with

    • @TEWMUCH
      @TEWMUCH 7 месяцев назад +20

      I just dont understand why being "in love" doesn't include "loving and caring".

    • @user-pi2st1un5k
      @user-pi2st1un5k 7 месяцев назад +3

      Good for you.. to each it’s own. Buddy you got a good one. Hold on to that love❤️ Stay bless and keep sharing good times together

    • @shanchan8247
      @shanchan8247 7 месяцев назад +27

      ​@@TEWMUCHWhen they say 'being in love' they really mean the passion/sexual tension and excitement. That's different than the loving & caring part that includes consideration, loyalty and devotion.

  • @canthony9335
    @canthony9335 7 месяцев назад +201

    If we would listen to our elders boy😮 My husband and I weren't in love when we married. Can I say we fell in love during our marriage. That’s one of the better decisions I ever made.

    • @TheAAdele05
      @TheAAdele05 7 месяцев назад +10

      So true. Love grows over time and living awhile with that person. You have to see them in all kind of situations before true love develops. Infatuation- that's a different story.

    • @Bucephalus84
      @Bucephalus84 7 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@TheAAdele05infatuation just equals physical attraction. Which is very important in the beginning. It's like the bait a fisherman would place on his 🪝. It isn't the most important thing after a period of time but will to a large degree remain important.

    • @majormarketing6552
      @majormarketing6552 7 месяцев назад +4

      Women and men love differently

    • @robcubed9557
      @robcubed9557 7 месяцев назад +3

      My family is from South Asia and my grandparents had an arranged marriage. Same for a lot of their friends.
      They had the same idea, love grows over time.

    • @TheAAdele05
      @TheAAdele05 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@Bucephalus84 It doesn’t just equal physical attraction, but, infatuation also can be in the form of liking someone for their position (a doctor, lawyer , celebrity, model or someone in sports fields. Yes, it’s a shallow type of attraction.

  • @kerronsmith899
    @kerronsmith899 7 месяцев назад +611

    I love her answer about LOVING SOMEBODY. MAMA IS DAMN RIGHT. DONT LOVE TOO DEEP😂

    • @goldiegold7824
      @goldiegold7824 7 месяцев назад +36

      Grandma right love to deep get your feeing hurt.just love you can overcome what ever they do.alway remember that.

    • @carrolllinda2519
      @carrolllinda2519 7 месяцев назад +10

      Absolutely

    • @thumbsaloft
      @thumbsaloft 7 месяцев назад +24

      Some of the craziest mess I've ever heard!
      You think that's the way GOD tells a man to love his wife or a wife to love her husband!
      Here's GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS not TOTALLY WRONG PEOPLE'S OPINION...
      Ephesians 5: 25 -Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church!
      Christ loves the church with all HIS HEART, MIND, BODY, and SOUL so MEN are to love their wives very deeply.
      Here's what GOD tells the wife...
      Ephesians 5: 22 - Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
      So very few LISTEN TO or OBEY GOD and that's why most marriages don't work. Not asking GOD for a husband or wife and then going out there and getting someone GOD had nothing to do with!
      So stop spreading misinformation.

    • @crystalbrame7886
      @crystalbrame7886 7 месяцев назад +30

      ​@@thumbsaloftGet Over Yourself At The End Of The Day What She Said Was HER OPINION!! She Did What Worked For Her!! Not Once Did She Give Instruction Telling Anyone Do This Follow What I Did She's Not Spreading Misinformation You Just Have Poor Comprehension Skills!! So Busy Thumpin Your Bible You Missed A Scripture!! Matthew 7: 1-5 SMH 🙄

    • @marcellamiller7808
      @marcellamiller7808 7 месяцев назад +22

      @@thumbsaloftGod told the man to love and the woman to submit - not to love . I’m just saying 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @carrolllinda2519
    @carrolllinda2519 7 месяцев назад +132

    Love the elders. They will tell you how it is, and not what you want to hear. Listen to them. They can help you take the rose colored glasses off.❤

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +2

      Just because someone is old, doesn't mean they are wise. I'm in love with my wife of 23 years. It's sad to hear so many women have given up on true love.

    • @miraiedits
      @miraiedits 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@adim00lah Well sadly if you consider the math, it's not really possible for every single person to meet "the one". When you consider that most people want to find someone within their age group or a few years older/younger, locally.
      First you need to consider how most men are not physically attractive (since they don't typically dress to look good, they don't typically groom themselves to look good, or workout, or watch their diet, or do any skin care). Then you need to consider that not everyone is straight, or healthy enough to date (or interested in it). After you rule all of them out, you need to look at the ones remaining. Now you have to rule out the players, who know they are good looking and can sleep around. Out of the ones who remain, who actually are attractive and who is looking for marriage, you need to rule out all the ones who never worked on themselves, who never learned to have mature conversations about their own flaws and needs in life. You also need to rule out the ones with "bad" or incompatible personalities (which includes the people who do not share your values or future plans).
      The very small group who remain will then be the target of a lot of women, who will be competing with each other for those men. In other words, most women will have to either stay single or "settle", for a man they care about, but whom they may not be particularly attracted to in a physical sense. This is very common for women to do eventually, they will care for the man, even love him, like this old lady was talking about. But she may never really feel that physically attracted to him or be particularly "in love" with him.
      Now before men attack me; I can only speak from a woman's experience and point of view, since I never attempted to date women. I'm sure men will have their own experiences and things to say about women too.

    • @maybeitsyou1317
      @maybeitsyou1317 7 месяцев назад

      Meanwhile young ladies following your advice hang on for "The one" then life passes them by and they end up with 7 cats instead of a husband. No different for men honestly, but with men we can still attract potential suitor even when we are old. We can still be fertile. Women are on the clock and advice like yours ruines lives. If you HAPPEN To find the one? Great good for you, but don't waste your life waiting for it. Terrible advice.
      Your very first statement here applies to what your saying perfectly. @@adim00lah

  • @jochosen3969
    @jochosen3969 7 месяцев назад +113

    I like how honest she is.

    • @marylynch951
      @marylynch951 7 месяцев назад +3

      👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @user-oe1vb6hf5j
    @user-oe1vb6hf5j 7 месяцев назад +29

    Grandmom is right! Being in love blinds us oppose to just loving someone. When we love someone our eyes are wide open. Take it from me, I’ve been married for 42 years.

  • @deborahwilliams5332
    @deborahwilliams5332 7 месяцев назад +300

    Grandma is on to something! It is better to love than to have what is known as being “in love”. Typically being “in love” is associated with a feeling. Real love can have a good feeling but involves a much deeper connection associated with commitment, compromise, forgiveness, and the ability to stick to the relationship in the absence of those dreamy, “I”m in love” feelings that come and go like the wind.

    • @gallen2101
      @gallen2101 7 месяцев назад +7

      Exactly

    • @samuelpapa6250
      @samuelpapa6250 7 месяцев назад +5

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @thatbemefool
      @thatbemefool 7 месяцев назад +18

      It’s called DOPAMINE! The feeling is fleeting…similar to drugs. It’s a real thing.

    • @MikaelaSimone
      @MikaelaSimone 7 месяцев назад +3

      Lol I agree with granny

    • @clove8220
      @clove8220 7 месяцев назад

      Truly

  • @EJBZ1
    @EJBZ1 7 месяцев назад +48

    This is one way to avoid that sick heartbreak you feel when one of you loves more than the other. 💔

    • @symptomoftheuniverse4149
      @symptomoftheuniverse4149 7 месяцев назад +1

      I don’t think it is intentional, it happens .

    • @AKHWJ3ST
      @AKHWJ3ST 5 месяцев назад

      In a relationship, one person always loves the other more than they receive.

    • @symptomoftheuniverse4149
      @symptomoftheuniverse4149 5 месяцев назад

      @@AKHWJ3ST Always? No not true what a stupid comment

  • @letitiaabuckley7968
    @letitiaabuckley7968 7 месяцев назад +112

    Ms. Carrie has that wisdom that could impact lot's of young women. Thank you Ms.Carrie, can't be better till you know better

  • @taurahelms3068
    @taurahelms3068 7 месяцев назад +90

    I love her advice. Being "in love" is a fairy tale. When you realize that the person is flawed, you fall apart because you were too caught in the fantasy. To love someone means that you have respect enough to know that they are flawed. No one is infallible.

    • @sherrylynn3304
      @sherrylynn3304 7 месяцев назад

      Absolutely! One of black womens biggest flaws is that we hunger for the illusion of romance to the point that we ignore red flags.

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah 7 месяцев назад +12

      Love isn't a fantasy. I'm in love with my wife, we been together 23 years. She doesn't have to be perfect for me to be in love with her. The only person that's perfect is God, and I'm not in love with God, even though I do love God.

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 7 месяцев назад +5

      @@adim00lah Beautiful! I am in love with someone, have been for over a decade, and love him.. I love him just the way he is, and he likewise. We had our flaws when we met. We still do. With time, we have worked on them, and learned from them. Wishing you and your wife much happiness now, and for many years to come.😊❤

    • @sundae6969
      @sundae6969 7 месяцев назад +3

      But everyone has flaws. No one is perfect. If everyone felt the way you did, no one would be happy in their relationship

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@sundae6969 ❤

  • @DK-qj7cr
    @DK-qj7cr 7 месяцев назад +124

    Granny is ‘savage’…and I am here for it☝🏽👍🏽😩😂🤣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @kaycee5469
      @kaycee5469 7 месяцев назад +4

      Is she not..... I will pay to go sit and listen to her doing a 30 or 40 minutes seminar and by the way what she said is absolutely true it cuts down on the fantasy of what your marriage is going to be like

    • @leonardrichards9079
      @leonardrichards9079 7 месяцев назад +1

      Grand ma ain't on code !
      I love it .

    • @DK-qj7cr
      @DK-qj7cr 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@leonardrichards9079 I know that’s right 😩😩☝🏽

  • @goofygirl1311
    @goofygirl1311 7 месяцев назад +10

    She is so sweet. Sometimes practical marriages between compatible people last longer than the marriages made between two people head over heels in love.

  • @sharonshropshire4151
    @sharonshropshire4151 7 месяцев назад +53

    I love her honesty and straight forward answers. She's a beautiful lady ❤

  • @idaburns9450
    @idaburns9450 7 месяцев назад +83

    Granny is so profound. I like the philosophy of loving someone but not necessarily being in love. This will save you a lot of headaches. ❤❤❤

    • @user-pi2st1un5k
      @user-pi2st1un5k 7 месяцев назад +3

      This young lady is free of stress!
      She never worried if he cheated or not…
      I love her for that honest response..

    • @mjey1
      @mjey1 7 месяцев назад +3

      It's marrying for sustainable love, it's not marrying for lust or toxic love that isnt based on true compatibility

  • @yvettedecarlo5294
    @yvettedecarlo5294 7 месяцев назад +74

    ❤❤❤❤this lady is so special! Thank you guys for sharing her with us

  • @jwilliamcosby
    @jwilliamcosby 7 месяцев назад +34

    I'm with her. All I wanna do is listen. The elders have the key to open up countless doors of wisdom. Screw social media and modern advice. Give me my old school information. Sending love to your mom. Keep holding her close.

    • @drenee6164
      @drenee6164 7 месяцев назад +4

      I totally agree, and often think the same thing. Wisdom and advice that's unfiltered, straightforward, thought-provoking and practical.

  • @cassandrathetruth9095
    @cassandrathetruth9095 7 месяцев назад +47

    She explained how I felt better than i could.. thank you for sharing that honestly and plainly💞🙌⚘️

  • @avagrego3195
    @avagrego3195 7 месяцев назад +6

    Everyone needs a grandma like this - she’s full of wisdom. “In love” is just hormones.

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney 7 месяцев назад +2

      And a lot.of Hollywood programming, don't forget. Too bad it's women more susceptible to it than men.

  • @michaelnunyabusiness4655
    @michaelnunyabusiness4655 7 месяцев назад +6

    She speaking the truth on leaving the in love part alone. And being content with loving. Being in love with a person is hell on the heart.

  • @dawnwalton1099
    @dawnwalton1099 7 месяцев назад +81

    My grandma told me not too marry a man that I loved for the same reasons this grandma said. My grandma said that if a man knows you love him the challenge is over for him but if you don’t love him the chase is still on because he hasn’t captured you. He’ll still pursue you. And when a man cheats and you don’t love him you know that you have options too. My grandparents were together til death do you part . I didn’t listen to her and married someone I loved . Needless to say it didn’t work.

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 7 месяцев назад +9

      That's YOUR problem!

    • @dawnwalton1099
      @dawnwalton1099 7 месяцев назад +17

      @@victoriasegall3404 you are sooo right. And your opinion is yours

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 7 месяцев назад +10

      @@dawnwalton1099 Of course I'm right! And no, it is not MY opinion, it is MANY people's opinion. Get it RIGHT! Your marriage didn't flop because you married someone you loved. It was because it just didn't work out. That's all. Your grandmother married and stayed married because in those days, women HAD TO! You married and stayed with your husband 'til death do you part out of necessity. So did my grandmothers, and guess what, hun? They were MISERABLE! They were cheated on something awful, and one of them even caught an std! This platform is 100% CRAPOLA! Life without love is ZERO, and I would rather die than grow old without it. I said what I said.

    • @dawnwalton1099
      @dawnwalton1099 7 месяцев назад

      @@victoriasegall3404 ok so your one of those. Looking for conflict Have a great night.

    • @dawnwalton1099
      @dawnwalton1099 7 месяцев назад +25

      @@victoriasegall3404 oh your just looking for conflict. Not worth my time. Have a good night.

  • @sheiabrown5642
    @sheiabrown5642 7 месяцев назад +26

    You can learn a lot from our elders she is the real deal love her so much🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰🥰❤️❤️

  • @user-nb3kq6hs4g
    @user-nb3kq6hs4g 7 месяцев назад +5

    Grandma speaks the truth! Loving a man means you apply principles and love yourself with boundaries. I love her.

  • @ciphercodetv1741
    @ciphercodetv1741 7 месяцев назад +44

    I love Mrs.Carrie and I love that you guys are capturing these moments and conversations. Beautiful for the great grand kids

  • @TickityBoo70
    @TickityBoo70 7 месяцев назад +8

    Very wise words indeed! Loving someone is a stronger force than being “in love” because it grows and matures with the relationship.

  • @iriswilliams2266
    @iriswilliams2266 7 месяцев назад +44

    I AM A MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER, AND YOUR GRANDMA IS SO HONEST THAT SHE IS FUNNY...I WONDER DO SHE REALIZE JUST HOW FUNNY SHE REALLY IS ..I LOVE THIS LADY, WE COULD BE FRIENDS INDEED!!!

  • @sandracaballero6101
    @sandracaballero6101 7 месяцев назад +10

    🤣 I’ve “slowed danced, with other people before” I love her may god bless her with much more

  • @desertrose_lovesnm
    @desertrose_lovesnm 7 месяцев назад +9

    Omg she is me. I 100% agree! The one's you overly love turns into a fatal attraction. Better to be with someone who isn't toxic or bring the toxic out of you. It makes the home environment more peaceful.

  • @gallen2101
    @gallen2101 7 месяцев назад +26

    She is absolutely right. When you love someone, jealousy is gone out the window

  • @lilianasaba9846
    @lilianasaba9846 7 месяцев назад +16

    Love is a feeling & feelings change. You need solid reasons. She is right.

  • @charger2dagame
    @charger2dagame 7 месяцев назад +7

    Sounds like mother didn’t approach her marriage like the Disney fairytale movies portray.
    Simply put two people came together and said let’s figure this ish out. Love it!

  • @sheilacape4794
    @sheilacape4794 7 месяцев назад +7

    Loving someone and being in love with someone is what makes a difference in how you get along! One brings happiness, the other don't! Sweet honest woman, there's not many of these you see today! May God shower her with blessings and His grace! Thank you, this got me going this morning!

  • @cocoad.9378
    @cocoad.9378 7 месяцев назад +6

    I so love grandmother, she is as real as they come. Her face expression speaks before she does.

  • @SS-in1ts
    @SS-in1ts 7 месяцев назад +5

    She’s not addicted to the highs of love. That’s why she looks great in her old age, she is peace.

  • @dglorious1269
    @dglorious1269 7 месяцев назад +17

    She's so wise and blunt hehe. 😅 If you didn't (and I did) experience a grandma like her, you have surely missed out. 🥰 My grandparents were married over 30 years, had there ups and downs, and were a "hoot" as they say lol. 😅 And I used to question her like that too, she was so funny. Miss her so much. 💔

  • @tomaradoss3420
    @tomaradoss3420 7 месяцев назад +9

    She is a blessing to my soul! Oh my goodness!!!! Y’all have a whole diamond mine.
    This is the same conclusion I’ve come to, in my life. I don’t want to be in love! I want companionship , with someone that is agreeable, meaning that we have things in common, and settle disagreements without yelling and insults. On the same page.
    I refuse to let someone live in my mind .
    Only Jesus!

  • @lkofie6670
    @lkofie6670 7 месяцев назад +3

    You see, I know exactly what she's saying. People put too much weight on being "in love" versus loving a person which carries the most weight. Being "in love" is fleeting... it's just a feeling of the moment. When you love someone the feeling doesn't leave as easily or quickly as being "in love." Actually loving someone is a gradual process... a process of learning and understanding a person and eventually caring about a person as well as how the person treats you and care about you.

  • @tabithasmith179
    @tabithasmith179 7 месяцев назад +22

    A lot of women didn’t really love back then just got Marry because their friends were doing it and grew to love their mates. My mom said the same, she marry my dad because all their friends were getting marrying.

    • @misfitdess3222
      @misfitdess3222 7 месяцев назад +6

      All that romantic stuff is definitely a scam. Damn, i wish more of these older women put younger women on game. Society is pushing something very unnatural which is romance.

    • @candyxoxo19
      @candyxoxo19 7 месяцев назад +4

      That’s why hardly anyone is married. Everyone looking for models so they can feel chemistry and confuse it with 💕 love

    • @susantosi695
      @susantosi695 7 месяцев назад +1

      Mine too…she didnt want to go to school, so she decided to get married…ha

    • @user-pi2st1un5k
      @user-pi2st1un5k 7 месяцев назад

      I agree..

  • @eugeniaskelley5194
    @eugeniaskelley5194 7 месяцев назад +5

    This lady has a lot of wisdom. I respect your mom.

  • @k.t7527
    @k.t7527 7 месяцев назад +4

    She kept it 💯 marriage ain’t nothing more than a safety net cold 🥶 game 😂😂

  • @shalom9128
    @shalom9128 7 месяцев назад +4

    She’s so authentic. I love this woman’s honesty, strength and self assurance!

  • @TinRoofVintage
    @TinRoofVintage 7 месяцев назад +3

    I love her ... "he said 'let's get married,' I said okay." 😄🌹❤️🌹🙏🏽

  • @lindarobinson1511
    @lindarobinson1511 7 месяцев назад +26

    She is so sweet 😊

  • @Bxgent1988
    @Bxgent1988 7 месяцев назад +23

    4 years ago I was dating a women with same situation. We dated a year and she wanted marriage and kids and I too but not with her. Anyways, long story short, I loved her but I was not in love with her. She was not my person, my soul mate, you could feel that. Those are things that you cannot hide from. Anyways one day I asked her, why do you love me? The answer that I got back wasn’t the answer that I was looking for. She said, I love you because you buy me flowers and treat me good and respect me. Now, ladies there is thousands of dudes that can buy you flowers, treat you good and respect you. My question is, what is the difference between that dude and me? Nothing. I could be replace just as easy as that dude in seconds because there’s no bond there. There’s no real love there. Anyways we broke up and she ended up with another guy, prego and engaged and I told her I was genuinely happy for her. When we ended relationship we ended on good terms so there was no hate or envy or bad baggage there. Moral of the story is that could’ve ended badly if we had got married and brought kids into this world without no love.

    • @pengefeza2563
      @pengefeza2563 7 месяцев назад +2

      How can you sleep with someone you are not in love with ?
      So you were hypocrite in the that relationship.
      What a shame you have used her for your sexual desire.

    • @Bxgent1988
      @Bxgent1988 7 месяцев назад

      @@pengefeza2563 I didn’t anyone in fact we both did not love each other. We traveled a lot. Did a lot of things together but it was mention to me how we truly felt about each other later on. It wasn’t the soul mate type of love for both of us.

    • @pengefeza2563
      @pengefeza2563 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@Bxgent1988How can you sleep with someone who is not your soul mate?
      Who gave you that permission to try on women like foods?

    • @lkofie6670
      @lkofie6670 7 месяцев назад +1

      Uhhhh, honestly, I'm not sure I get what you're saying or where you're going in regards to "love" and "in love" and not "liking the response she gave" for loving you. I mean, what were you expecting her to say? Were you expecting some "romantic"/"in-love" reaction? But frankly, the reasons she gave is exactly how a woman would love a man... how he cares for her, how he respects her, how he treats her compared to what she had experienced prior, and who he is as a man as well... I mean, why else would a woman love a man she's with? To say "Oh you make my world go round, you're the air that I breathe, you're my everything, you're my soul mate..." is romanticized "in-love" talk and emotion. Is that what you were anticipating? The moment THAT "in-love" feeling goes away for a woman, then suddenly, she's bored, and what you'll be hearing next instead is "you don't give her that spark anymore." Yet in comparison, love sustains during the ups and downs of life.

    • @Bxgent1988
      @Bxgent1988 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@lkofie6670 that’s not love. So if your friends buy you flowers are they in love with you? Exactly. Love is feeling, not a thing you cant just grab and place it on any person you choose to be with. If it was that easy the whole world would be married with kids. You don’t get to choose who you love but you do get to choose who you want to be with.

  • @bonitab7881
    @bonitab7881 7 месяцев назад +20

    I approve her message 🖐🏾💯🎯 You can love a person without being in love with them, because when you're in love you tend to wanna keep a close eye on them and that could cause friction for sure 😉🥴👌🏽 I'd rather love than be in love at this point in my life because it's less pressure and definitely less problems. 😉☺️👌🏽

  • @epieg07
    @epieg07 7 месяцев назад +2

    Your mama speaks the truth, first there should always be respect for one another and honesty, once you have that then that’s what what being in love and loving someone is.

  • @patclough
    @patclough 7 месяцев назад +12

    So very true. You're so lucky, Mama is incredible

  • @shawno66
    @shawno66 7 месяцев назад +2

    Life's reality lesson is to "love the one you marry".
    It was like that through the centuries.
    Poets came up with "marry the one you love".
    This lady is wise.

  • @Chacha355
    @Chacha355 7 месяцев назад +11

    And let me add this. It's always better when the man is head over heels in love with the woman. The man needs to love you more than you do him

    • @aahmonddelite690
      @aahmonddelite690 7 месяцев назад +2

      Why?

    • @Chacha355
      @Chacha355 7 месяцев назад

      @@aahmonddelite690
      Why do you think

    • @aahmonddelite690
      @aahmonddelite690 7 месяцев назад

      @@Chacha355 I don't know...

    • @choosethisday5429
      @choosethisday5429 7 месяцев назад +3

      I agree. I've experienced loving a man more than he loves me. The respect and intimacy is not there on his end. He will take advantage of and use the love. He basically sees you as being at his beck & call. It sucks.

    • @Chacha355
      @Chacha355 7 месяцев назад

      @@aahmonddelite690
      See @choosethisday's response below.

  • @tammysammy4302
    @tammysammy4302 7 месяцев назад +2

    This is one of the most honest responses to date in reference to marriage

  • @sheilasherman6163
    @sheilasherman6163 7 месяцев назад +5

    I love how you interact with your Mom,She is so full of Wisdom and is very honest with her answers, Love over a great deal of time keep you here healthy 🙏🙏 Able to respect and respond yesssss. This will definitely help someone else.❤❤

  • @jilladams3183
    @jilladams3183 7 месяцев назад +9

    I love Mom so much!! She keeps it real 😂👍🏽🌟🙏🏽💐

  • @sandralloyd8477
    @sandralloyd8477 7 месяцев назад +7

    I LOVE her! 😊 ❤ She brining so much to this platform. I enjoy the videos and all she shares with viewers. 🥰

  • @michaeldebree4870
    @michaeldebree4870 7 месяцев назад +1

    Please let this lady write a book with life lessons!!! This lady is the coolest women I have ever seen

  • @nfenitic8888
    @nfenitic8888 7 месяцев назад +7

    This sweet lady sounds like she read the 5 love languages. Not being in love doesn’t stop slow dancing & other romantic gestures or activities. It’s just that emotional intelligent people overstand that they can take a relationship or leave it. Still enjoying the beauty of the relationship without worrying & caring if this person is being faithful. It’s a beautiful place to be! 🔥

    • @gaylahall2880
      @gaylahall2880 7 месяцев назад +2

      I agree with your assessment of this conversation 💯. Having a strong peaceful mind and soul within yourself in any circumstances will make you feel more secure in your relationship with your partner. And, that is more valuable than silver and gold…. 😔

  • @Fallout777
    @Fallout777 7 месяцев назад +1

    We need more women like this in the world. Straight forward and uncomplicated.

  • @ladonnafuller732
    @ladonnafuller732 7 месяцев назад +5

    She’s Is So Beautiful Skin Is Just Glowing ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Mom Is Straight With Her Answers

  • @joshuacox1559
    @joshuacox1559 7 месяцев назад +2

    I definitely believe in “growing to love each other” over falling in love.

  • @deborahparker420
    @deborahparker420 7 месяцев назад +5

    Love Ms Carrie , she is serious and gets to the point . Shes right dont love too deep !!!!😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

  • @bunnydrop1438
    @bunnydrop1438 7 месяцев назад +2

    I really like this woman. She speaks to make you feel everything is common sense. Love her wisdom and style.

  • @MovementMusicMemories
    @MovementMusicMemories 7 месяцев назад +5

    I just LOVE your Mom. Wish I could know her. Thank you so much for sharing....

  • @rgee5176
    @rgee5176 7 месяцев назад +1

    I love her. No nonsense, truthful, and beautiful.

  • @sasbridgecloserstudent
    @sasbridgecloserstudent 7 месяцев назад +3

    That is wisdom: It is better to be with someone you love and not because you are in love.

  • @valeriewynn8589
    @valeriewynn8589 7 месяцев назад +2

    I am "SO PLEASED AS PUNCH" to experience the TRUTH this "DEAR MOTHER" exudes and portrays.....O' I just love this TRUTH 😅 🎉

  • @lindarobinson1511
    @lindarobinson1511 7 месяцев назад +11

    Iove the way your family takes care of you god bless

  • @tashamac7300
    @tashamac7300 7 месяцев назад +1

    Protect this woman at all costs 😂😂😂😂 the most honest response

  • @sheriroberts55
    @sheriroberts55 7 месяцев назад +5

    She’s very straightforward.

  • @justsid
    @justsid 7 месяцев назад +1

    I love how she answers the question by opening up with a question to confirm the question that was asked.

  • @mrme9517
    @mrme9517 7 месяцев назад +3

    THE THUMBNAIL IS GOING TO MAKE ME GET A OATMEAL CREAM PIE LOL 😅😅 PS LET HER ENJOY HER MEAL 😂😂

  • @silkqueen8498
    @silkqueen8498 7 месяцев назад +1

    Grandma is a ride or die! She is not pressed nor worried about the rest!❤ I love that in her... And she looks fabulous! I approve this MESSAGE!❤😊😊😊

  • @lindawatson4782
    @lindawatson4782 7 месяцев назад +6

    This is my girl don’t you just Love her I been looking 👀 for you miss you 🙏🏽🥰🤚🏾🌹🦋

  • @Whatever_Happy_People
    @Whatever_Happy_People 7 месяцев назад +1

    Wise lady, valuable message,she knew men even at 17. I like this lady.

  • @lasparklecovington1238
    @lasparklecovington1238 7 месяцев назад +8

    She is so precious ❤

  • @danaysiaturner529
    @danaysiaturner529 7 месяцев назад +1

    This woman is so beautiful. She has no problem telling the truth. She is so adorable. She's trying to answer questions and enjoy her food at the same time.

  • @yodittsegay1036
    @yodittsegay1036 7 месяцев назад +5

    😂🤣😂I loooove her. she makes my day every time.♥️😘♥️

  • @gdmofo
    @gdmofo 6 месяцев назад

    My mother is 94 in 2024 I could sit and listen to your mother what a wonderful woman search wisdom and such a treasure bless her heart

  • @jeanniewilliams3402
    @jeanniewilliams3402 7 месяцев назад +6

    She’s so real love it ❤😂😂😂

  • @gailedmonds3389
    @gailedmonds3389 7 месяцев назад +1

    This is so real I love her even if you are or was in love and got married after a few years you feel like this . Tell it as it is Grandma. !!! I love you❤

  • @marylynch951
    @marylynch951 7 месяцев назад +4

    Hi Grandma you make me laugh
    I love you honesty
    May God continue protecting you and your family ❤❤❤

  • @blaknbeauty1
    @blaknbeauty1 7 месяцев назад +1

    Ohhhhhhh my goodness. Mrs. Momma Said something so profound that we can all learn from. She said, "she wasn't in love but loved him, because that way she wouldn't worry about him cheating". That waa profound there. Wowwwwww. That makes a whole lot of sense.

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 7 месяцев назад +5

    I've been married to my wonderful husband for 40 years. Was I "In love"? No. I loved him, but wasn't googoo-eyed. I married him because he was responsible, reliable, honest, and with integrity and intelligence. Best decision I ever made. I love and appreciate him more than anything.

  • @rosajohnson5212
    @rosajohnson5212 7 месяцев назад +12

    Cause we were both old. Wisdom.

    • @jayrobinson3556
      @jayrobinson3556 7 месяцев назад +3

      Lol, she tells it like it TI is

    • @rosajohnson5212
      @rosajohnson5212 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@jayrobinson3556 😂😂😂 Yes, she does!😂😂😂😂

  • @jennifergaudern1147
    @jennifergaudern1147 7 месяцев назад +2

    I love grandma so much!! Mukbang and advice all at once!! Seriously the best!!

  • @drinabooboo
    @drinabooboo 7 месяцев назад +4

    Granny is right. Been with my daughter's father 12 years and we never been "in love" but love our daughter more than ourselves.

  • @virginiawright5280
    @virginiawright5280 7 месяцев назад +1

    This queen is truly a treasure. I never had the pleasugrandmother's either of my grandmothers.🥰🥰🥰

  • @bten-pow2095
    @bten-pow2095 7 месяцев назад +7

    So so true. The truth is the truth.

  • @dauseanadoingme3824
    @dauseanadoingme3824 6 месяцев назад

    The blessing of having a grandmother with wisdom is a beautiful thing. Cheerish and always remember the things she tells you. Your life will go a lot smoother

  • @user-kr5nr8mw5c
    @user-kr5nr8mw5c 7 месяцев назад +6

    Ty for sharing she's a special woman...lulu nyc

  • @dianedunbar1805
    @dianedunbar1805 7 месяцев назад +1

    Mrs. Carrie is so real and assured of the things in life to the point that her heart is always guarded to what may come. She is straight up.

  • @anitammims9384
    @anitammims9384 7 месяцев назад +3

    Wise words. Wish I had learned this early in life. Love her wisdom on life and love ❤❤

  • @robingordon5044
    @robingordon5044 7 месяцев назад +1

    😂😂😂😂 she cracks me off. She said she married because they both were old.😮😂😂😂 Granny keeps it real. That part! I love this lady.❤