My son used to joke (I was a single parent) that he knew what kind of day I had by the distance between the door and my bra. Closer to the door = bad day. If I walked in with it in my hand he just said "got it" and head out the back door.
If it's like work boots, I can understand why "when the bra's off, the bra's off". When I finally pull my work boots off, they are NOT going back on until I have to go to work the next day.
Phil, having worn both work boots (cork, steel toed logging boots) and bras, I can attest to the similarity in relief when they both come off. Off is off and they are not going back on until required at some distant time in the future.
@@lydiatheglimmermaid you've gotta try Ruby Ribbon's "bra replacing" camis & demiettes!! NO UNDERWIRES!! My DDDs haven't been in a traditional bra for nearly 2 years! SO much better for our breast health + super comfy😊 www.rubyribbon.com/brafreechick
She's right; once the bra is off, it is absolutely staying off. The reasoning: the bra goes on for task-oriented things. We put it on and start the day. We do the things, start some tasks, complete others, and expend a ton of energy doing all the things. Then, at the sweet end of the day the bra comes off, signifying an end to the responsibilities of the day. We don't need to see anyone else, other than the family we live with, we don't need to do anything else, we are done for the day. This is why it will not physiologically go back on; to put that thing back on would disrupt our psyche to the point of us imploding. And that's just messy. You guys are amazing!!! Love to you both!
Plus it's uncomfortable. I don't realize it's uncomfortable until I'm pulling it off and have that big sigh of relief. You can't force the girls back into that prison right after they've been freed!
After martial arts and you pull off the nut shield . . . . . Yeah, thats the closest i get to the feeling girls experience when the bra comes off . . . . . .
We watched this video with my husband and 11 year old daughter. I agreed that once it is off you are done. To which my husband commented "that is why I never wear a bra" and which my 11 yo responded, "why, do they not come in your size?". Being quarantined, we thought this was hysterical
Penn, Penn, Penn. You don't start that conversation with "I've got a yen for chicken wings, so how about if I pick up some chicken wings for supper?" You start with "Babe, it sounds like you had an absolutely hellish day. How about if I pick up something for supper so you don't have to cook tonight?"
I don't fall for it. Lol. I would be like, ooh, I'm picking the place? He would be silent like 'that didn't work,' and I would let him know I got dinner done. I would laugh, and say thanks though. I would probably suggest a good day for it that would happen to land after pay day. 😁
You two are funny! Yes even after 43 years we still argue…. And it’s always over stupid stuff. We have 4 kids and have been to hell and back through the years., but Jesus and laughter has gotten us through it. So keep Jesus and laughter in your lives❤️❤️❤️
I totally get it! You had *mentally* prepared dinner and *physically* you were "home for the night. You can't just SPRING, "Let's go out to dinner" on a mom at that point! 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, especially if it was a tiring day and you had worked up the energy - suddenly abandoning the task can make it feel like your efforts were wasted. That's frustrating and defeating. If the timing is right, though, getting the suggestion to just go out instead can feel like a holiday.
I love how real y’all are. My husband and I have a crap bucket. Once the fight is over, apologies have been said, and all is forgiven, the fight goes in the crap bucket to never be able to come out again. This helps us “stay in Cleveland” And no the bra cannot go back on once off. It would distort the rotation of Earth and then all kinds of mess would happen. It’s a public service really.
I feel like I need more information about this. Is there a physical representation of this bucket, and are there paper notes or something inside of it?
@@stephanieleon5970 A year late on the comment but I think it might still be useful in other situations. When it comes to self-help programs and methods and systems that people come up with to make things easier its good to give yourself the flexibility to tweak it to make it for you. If you need the physical symbolism of physically writing something down and then burning it than by all means do what works! I recently came across a method of decluttering that seemed great but when I started organizing my desk area I quicklu realized that Im a visual person. I need to see things and not have them tucked away in cute photo boxes and baskets. I decided to try using clear bins with lids and small clear craft boxes with adjustable compartments to sort my office supplies that usually ended up thrown all mixed up in a drawer or crammed so tight in a penholder cup that you couldnt get a pen out. Having everything completely concealed in a container made me feel lost and I felt like I was still using too much mental time and focus trying to memorize what each bin had in it because even though I labeled them i still had to read each label after days going to the same closets! Now that I switched to the clear containers I can easily see everything in the totes with a quick glance! So i guess what Im saying is: Just Do You Boo! Lol
I think he should have gotten the wings and brought them back to you as take out so you could have kept your bra off and everyone could have enjoyed the wings at home.
I told my husband about the video and explained the good advice of "staying in Cleveland". I then explained that your original fight was that dinner had been made & you wanted to go out for chicken wings. But it was the end of the day, the bra had come off. There was no going out after that! My husband just nodded and grinned. He said, "yup, no going anywhere when the bra comes off.". I was so proud of him for getting it!
So hilarious but totally true! Once the bra comes off the girls just can’t physically get back in the uncomfortable cage. Game over Penn! By that time the bra is off, the shoes are off, and we’re in comfy clothes. And once the rubbery, salt and salt chicken is defrosted....
I only wear nipple pastie if my shirt is see thru. IDGAF I don't like how bra's make me feel. Squished, restrained, hot and unhappy. If ppl have a problem it's their problem not mine!
I quit shaving my legs years ago because there’s no logical, scientific, or hygienic reason to do so. Armpits and chin are another story-doing the pits makes it easier to apply antiperspirant, and I refuse to go around with that effing perimenopause beard even with a mask on! (WTF is up with that beard, anyway?! I can live with the other side effects, although that weight gain one is still war for me. But turning into the Bearded Lady? Oh, HELL NO!)
Exactly! I started wearing True&Co bras during quarantine and now I don't even want to take them off at night. Life changed. I'm not a promoter for them, I just really had to share my life-changing success lol
Taking off the bra is a spiritual experience. The heavens open and angels start to sing.....but if it means i don't have to cook I'm throwing that baby back on. Lol....or ordering in.
I’ll do just about anything for chicken wings i don’t have to cook. I’ll just put on a heavy jacket in the winter or a lounge bra in the spring and summer, plus i don’t care at this point.
Totally, agree. If I don't have to cook I will do a lot to not have t do that. Maybe even plan on sex that night, if it means I don't have to cook. Okay, depends on the food on how extreme I am going.
I’m TOTALLY with Kim on this one, as I’m sure MOST women are. Once the bra comes off it does not go back on until the next day! No questions asked. It’s a done deal!!!!! 🤣
Although I am single, I immediately felt a kinship with Kim on this one. Having taken off my bra earlier in the evening has saved my diet soooooo many trips to the local convenience store for a snack. Literally the only thing between myself and a Snickers bar was the fact that I had already taken my bra off and wasn't about to put that puppy back on.
I love how good they do with these. Like how Kim would never say ANYTHING in that rubbery chicken rant, but they film a clip with her mouthing everything including the half minute of Penn just panicking and stuttering
I know I’m watching this years later, but I feel compelled to say: 100% fact - bra off requires a minimum 8 hour reset before bra back on. I’ll say to my husband in the evening: Are we doing anything, because if not, I’m taking my bra off. It is the end to all the day’s activity.
Why would you put the bra back on to run out and pick up food? That is literally why they invented hoodies. Edit: Sometimes I sing "I Want To Break Free"
I literally just took my bra off and clicked on this video. This video should be shown to couples before they get married or something. It could save a lot of arguments and misunderstandings. Lol oh I love you guys!!!
It’s so funny when Kim says “I ALREADY TOOK MY BRA OFF”!!!! And when Penn says “RUBBER CHICKEN WITH THE SALT AND PEPPER”!!😝😝thank you so much for making these vids, love you holderness fam
🤣 a few months after I met my fiance I had way too much to drink on an empty stomach, he has pictures of me with a couch pillow sleeping UNDERNEATH our clawfoot bathtub. He couldn't wake me, so he left me there lmao. I was stuck the next morning, I literally had to yell for him to help me and pull me out. Neither of us know how I got under there or how I got the pillow from downstairs lmao. The only thing I do remember from that night is a fire engine pulling up 2 houses down because of a fire my neighbors had that got too big. After my fiance got me out from under the tub he told me he was trying to help me get to the bed and gave me a shirt to sleep in and asked if I needed help getting my bra off. I said "No. I don't want to die." When he asked for an explanation I said "I'm too drunk. If the fire gets the house I won't be able to get my bra on fast and I'll die!" ......🤦♀️ I'm so damn lucky I didn't scare him away 🤣
Well, “let’s eat out tonight” are magic words for me. I’ve sometimes put a half-cooked dinner in the refrigerator when hubby asked me to eat out. And the bra problem is usually solved with “give me 15 minutes to take a quick shower” and a perfectly clean bra is put on after the shower. And off we go.
For one, thanks for sharing with us. But as for the argument: Imagine wearing a jockstrap with separate compartments, all the time you're out of the house. And what's in those compartments is heavy, so the constant weight digs the straps into you. And hurts your back. This is every day, all day that you're out of the house. You're done with the outside for the day, so you take it off. Sweet, sweet glorious freedom. The angels sing, you can relax for the rest of the night. And after starting to relax, you're suddenly asked to put the jockstrap back on, by someone who has no idea what it's like to wear the jockstrap all the time. The stupid jockstrap with the compartments and separation, straps that dig and wires that poke, that was such a relief to remove for the night. That jockstrap ain't going back on. Just bring the wings home. 🍗
Yes it's the LAW - Bra off & not going on again. If Penn really wanted to be spontaneous - he would have said "Kim pour yourself a glass of wine - I'm making dinner - so relax" then phoned in a wing order for pick up.
Bonbons! I’m a Gen X middle school English teacher. I tell my Gen Z students that if I ever get fired for my irreverent comments, then they shouldn’t worry about me. I would be living my best life: sitting on the couch, reading good books, and eating bonbons. That comment always sparked the whole “what is a bonbon” conversation.
I'll let you into a wee secret. I'm starting to see more and more, comfy pj wearing gals picking up the chicken wings for that easy night in. It's a thing, I tell you. Better than ugg boots.
My wife goes out in PJs but it does take a tad of coaxing and she only agrees if we're getting something she wants too, like pizza or the like. And there can't be any one else there but the cashier so we have to wait until it's past bedtime.
I love how down to earth you guys are! You always read, & respond to comments, and I for one really appreciate that you take the time to do so. When the bra comes off, it is not going back on. Kim, you ought to have Penn wear one for a day; with the oh so comfy underwire.
Great video showing you are real people, and understand that issues happen in a marriage and you have to find a way to "make it work". thanks for sharing.
@@sarahkleimeyer3792 Yeah, but since when does a woman have to wear a bra to go out in public? Not since the late 1960s... and how long ago is that? Ladies, just put on a baggy sweatshirt and go out anyway!
So funny. Thanks for being so transparent. Like the Cleveland analogy but disagree about the bra situation. Any excuse not to have to cook is worth putting it back on. However, I am contradicting myself based on what I did this evening. My husband offered to run out and pick up some food at a place nearby when he got home from work. I told him he didn’t have to. My reasoning is more like your other reasons: money and health. Always good to be able to laugh at your disagreements later! Good example of that!
I like the "stay in Cleveland" advice. I guess I'm one of those rare male commenters on this channel, so I don't have any direct experience with the topic at hand. However, one of my first jobs was bagging groceries, which involved standing on a cement floor (covered by a very thin layer of carpet) for hours at a time. When I got done with a shift at that job, there was something very satisfying (and necessary) about taking off my shoes, leaning back in a recliner and putting my feet up. So I *might* have a slight idea of the feelings involved in the subject of the argument in this video. Maybe.
Sarah Withrow I wear nursing bras, and I am in my 50s, lol. Soft material, no hooks, no wires. Lots of Facebook ads for bras claiming to be “comfy” but I have not tried any of them. But their sales has caused sales at Victoria Secret to plummet in the last couple of years.
@@rachelnewey3049 Not true. If your bra is not comfortable then you are wearing the wrong bra/wrong size for that bra style. My view on bras changed dramatically after I was professionally fitted and learned that I don't wear the same size in every brand. Not sure why that shocked me since the same is true for jeans and shoes.
@@debbipriz, that is true for you but personally, I have had REALLY bad bras and I can not find one that is truelly comfortable, so for me, it feels like a comfy bra is a myth
My definition of a healthy marriage, as a therapist, is that if you wake re up most mornings happy you didn't put the pillow over their face, you are good. If that is 4 of 7 days thus week, that is MOST DAYS. Most arguments/fights aid in growth in the relationship. Much love.
OMG..... Kim you need to inform Penn, that the fabric/plastic/wires/spandex/etc.....that going into making a good "bra" is also for supporting women's anatomy that feeds children, and brace the sweet little heads as they rest. They do get pretty heavy on their own accord, so "bras" are worn to aid in lifting, cradling, equalizing balance of our natural body's centerness. To "take off" that vital piece of garment, is like punching the time clock to go home for the night. The "restricting, lifting , and warm, piece of our wardrobe that let's our body's "natural" body curve through like, but once it's off, it's like having a cold beer, or taking a personal bath for an hour with no interruptions. So to be cut loose from the grips within the production of this important part of our lives.
Hmmm, it's a whole new world. Thanks for the bra insight. I will incorporate this into premarital counseling. "Stay in Cleveland." Great way to put it. "No daisy chaining" is the phrase I use. Same, same.
haha I laughed so hard when he said it was super easy to take a bra off and put one back on. I usually feel like I'm starting ww3 just to get that thing on. haha
Dude, you keep going for arguments in which you have no chance of winning. Bring the wings home, but make her watch the ballgame while you eat. "We could have gone out, but the bra was off for the day. Pass the ranch, will ya?"
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s true, once the bra is off, there’s no putting it back on. The “Stay in Cleveland” idea is a total paradigm shift for me. Thank you, I think you just changed my life. Love you guys!
It’s crazy people thought you guys wouldn’t argue. All long term relationships have those days. You didn’t mislead anyone. You guys look like you are always having fun & enjoying life. Keep laughing, keep loving & forgiving one another & keep making your light hearted videos. Kim, I agree, once the unhooking is complete, there is no turning back.
Literally, this morning: My wife says, "I'm going to have to put on a bra." [pouty face] I say, "I don't understand. Is wearing a bra really that bad?" [seriously seeking to understand this] "Yes" [end of conversation]
It's not the putting pants back on. The male equivalent is "I just sat down." or "I just got my beer." Of course its also an introvert thing: once I've gotten comfortable, don't bother me. also, the chicken. as the cook in my house, that meal is prepared before before the chicken is defrosted! hehehe. but yes, a happy functional family has fights. edit: Men "But the game is on!"
kristen hughes To the women who don’t understand - if you don’t want to wear a bra . . . don’t. I see similar arguments about how uncomfortable women’s shoes are. What kind of idiot would wear heels that make her feet hurt just because she thinks they look nicer than comfortable shoes? Well, apparently there are lots of women who do exactly that. I’m so glad a married a sensible woman.
@@mirkopolyak3592 shoes are a whole other problem. I can't find comfortable shoes. Designers seem to think womens feet are shaped like a ruler instead of a triangle. I sometimes find tennis shoes in the men's area for the width, but ty they are too big. Heels have nothing to do with it....
@@kathyault3244 I apparently have alien feet, because trying to find shoes that fit is a nightmare. If you haven't yet tried shoes made for diabetic people, they might work; those are the most comfy shoes I have--they're made to stretch for swollen feet. Propet sneakers (they're my diabetic shoe go-to brand) come in double wide, which is awesome. Merrell brand shoes in wide are great when I need something more structured. Hope that helps 💙😁 I've been disabled for a dozen years, so the past year of Covid quarantine is my normal life. I learned to adjust for comfort long ago. 😉
I work from home so NEVER have to deal with those devilish contraptions unless I go out. I weigh whether or not to do things based on “is it worth putting on a bra for?” If not, I stay home and my girls stay free. 😂
"stay in Cleveland" that was good advice. I gotta do this with my husband & try my best not to derail when the conversation touches a nerve. Thanks guys, I've learned something today :-) "Stay in Cleveland."
I have to say, I've never seen a woman take her bra out of her jeans before. Women are amazing. Also, do more videos where you speak in each other's voices.
Wish I would’ve known how to explain the stay in Cleveland method when I would bring up Cleveland and an argument would travel all over the place. I’d forget about Cleveland and wish I was in a completely different country by the end of it. If I get a chance to be in another relationship I will hold this treasured advice! 😂
Yes it’s a fact once bra is off it doesn’t go back on until the next day BECAUSE a bra can be taken off without taking off other clothing BUT it is practically IMPOSSIBLE to put one on without taking off a shirt and or the other layers on top of said bra💥
I have successfully put a bra on with a fired long sleeve shirt. It is extremely hard but my room gets to cold in the winter that I would rather struggle for 10 minutes than take my shirt off and be cold for 30 seconds.
Interesting point. Never thought of that. It is DEF more of a pain in the a** to put a bra on, than to take off.🤔 All I know is the relief and immediate comfort I feel, once that bra is off, and the girls are free.😋 And if I’ve also already switched to wearing pants with an elastic waist, game over - staying-in mode has been engaged.
After 20 years of marriage, my wife and I laughed about this video. I was enlightened about how after the bra is off... it doesn't go back on. All the conversation tangents were so us... To her meal planning and me wanting RIBS (instead of chicken wings) suddenly, to planning and finances, to me leaving pants all over the house. So fun and awesome... we laughed all the way through... Bottom line, Stay in Cleveland
Or just try his analogy article of clothing, he wore a jock strap all day, you know athletes do, I’m sure for them: when the boys are free, jock strap does not go back on. For anything
OMG I do the SAME thing!! 😂 Once that bra is off & ur home all comfy, there’s no going nowhere. Just had this same discussion last week with my husband lol Hilarious!
OMG, I remember when Jackie was First Lady and we all wore girdles with garter belts (even worse than bras) and then there were the very pointed toe high heels. Being female was a living hell!
My little brother would implore Mom to “take off your panty-hose, Mommy!” because he knew that once those babies were off, they were off and no one was going anywhere.
The bra...yah, when it comes off, that is decompression time. It is sacred. Don't mess with it, all you who harbor the Y-chromosome. I like how Kim got right to the point - totally unfiltered! That is a true introvert's code for "this has already been decided- not going out!"
When I was a size G, the first thing I did when I got home was rip that sucker off. And it was not going back on. Now I’m an A-B and I don’t put it back on , I just go without. 🤣🤣
😂😂😂 I’m literally crying!!!! My husband and I were dying watching this and laughing just as hard at the comments! We love you two! Keep em’ coming and blessings to your family!💗
So true! My response would be, you all go ahead and bring me back an order, cause I took my bra off. And bring me an order of those seasoned fries too! 😆 Also, I love that you let your pastor speak into your marriage. So good!
Just discovered you guys and I am enjoying everything SO MUCH! It's great to know a cool, interesting person who functions thru their ADHD. All my best wishes to your family.
When she said I already took my bra off...EVERY WOMAN UNDERSTOOD
100% and Kim is 100% correct, once it's off it does not come back on
@@Nikki2806YUP
Absolutely
My son used to joke (I was a single parent) that he knew what kind of day I had by the distance between the door and my bra. Closer to the door = bad day. If I walked in with it in my hand he just said "got it" and head out the back door.
Yes! This is accurate!
If it's like work boots, I can understand why "when the bra's off, the bra's off". When I finally pull my work boots off, they are NOT going back on until I have to go to work the next day.
Amen brother
That's exactly it. My feet swell all day. It's hard to put boots back on in the same day.
Phil, having worn both work boots (cork, steel toed logging boots) and bras, I can attest to the similarity in relief when they both come off. Off is off and they are not going back on until required at some distant time in the future.
That honestly sounds really similar, as someone who used to wear wired bras before quarantine.
@@lydiatheglimmermaid you've gotta try Ruby Ribbon's "bra replacing" camis & demiettes!! NO UNDERWIRES!! My DDDs haven't been in a traditional bra for nearly 2 years! SO much better for our breast health + super comfy😊
www.rubyribbon.com/brafreechick
She's right; once the bra is off, it is absolutely staying off. The reasoning: the bra goes on for task-oriented things. We put it on and start the day. We do the things, start some tasks, complete others, and expend a ton of energy doing all the things. Then, at the sweet end of the day the bra comes off, signifying an end to the responsibilities of the day. We don't need to see anyone else, other than the family we live with, we don't need to do anything else, we are done for the day. This is why it will not physiologically go back on; to put that thing back on would disrupt our psyche to the point of us imploding. And that's just messy.
You guys are amazing!!! Love to you both!
This is so accurate and the best explanation I’ve ever heard!So right!!!!
This is my thought about sweatpants
Plus it's uncomfortable. I don't realize it's uncomfortable until I'm pulling it off and have that big sigh of relief. You can't force the girls back into that prison right after they've been freed!
I especially love how Penn is voiced by Kim and Kim is voiced by Penn. It's so awesome.
It was the best part!!
I like how good at that they were! Arguments notwithstanding, they are really in tune with each other. You can see it in their other videos as well.
You might like Drunk History!! Funny as heck too :)
@@kathybrady4033 Oh, man, both of them doing an episode of Drunk History together would be HILARIOUS.
This is totally the best
It's girl code, once the bra is off, it's off. If men wore a jockstrap everyday they would understand, "when its off,it's off."
When it’s off, it’s off
Yes, girl! So true!
After martial arts and you pull off the nut shield . . . . . Yeah, thats the closest i get to the feeling girls experience when the bra comes off . . . . . .
It's true it's really true
YASS GIRL this is so true
We watched this video with my husband and 11 year old daughter. I agreed that once it is off you are done. To which my husband commented "that is why I never wear a bra" and which my 11 yo responded, "why, do they not come in your size?". Being quarantined, we thought this was hysterical
It so is though!
Lol
It is hilarious.
omg
Crack me up
Penn, Penn, Penn.
You don't start that conversation with "I've got a yen for chicken wings, so how about if I pick up some chicken wings for supper?" You start with "Babe, it sounds like you had an absolutely hellish day. How about if I pick up something for supper so you don't have to cook tonight?"
And she says but I already defrosted the chicken
I don't fall for it. Lol. I would be like, ooh, I'm picking the place? He would be silent like 'that didn't work,' and I would let him know I got dinner done. I would laugh, and say thanks though. I would probably suggest a good day for it that would happen to land after pay day. 😁
Amen
My husband starts like that,” you had a busy day, let’s go out and eat” mind you I was not busy I was home eating ice pops and watching tv haha….!
You two are funny! Yes even after 43 years we still argue…. And it’s always over stupid stuff. We have 4 kids and have been to hell and back through the years., but Jesus and laughter has gotten us through it. So keep Jesus and laughter in your lives❤️❤️❤️
I totally get it! You had *mentally* prepared dinner and *physically* you were "home for the night. You can't just SPRING, "Let's go out to dinner" on a mom at that point! 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, especially if it was a tiring day and you had worked up the energy - suddenly abandoning the task can make it feel like your efforts were wasted. That's frustrating and defeating. If the timing is right, though, getting the suggestion to just go out instead can feel like a holiday.
I love how real y’all are. My husband and I have a crap bucket. Once the fight is over, apologies have been said, and all is forgiven, the fight goes in the crap bucket to never be able to come out again. This helps us “stay in Cleveland”
And no the bra cannot go back on once off. It would distort the rotation of Earth and then all kinds of mess would happen. It’s a public service really.
💞 I think yours is my favorite comment so far.💞
Same I like this alot🥰🥰
I feel like I need more information about this. Is there a physical representation of this bucket, and are there paper notes or something inside of it?
You are super funny!
@@stephanieleon5970 A year late on the comment but I think it might still be useful in other situations. When it comes to self-help programs and methods and systems that people come up with to make things easier its good to give yourself the flexibility to tweak it to make it for you. If you need the physical symbolism of physically writing something down and then burning it than by all means do what works! I recently came across a method of decluttering that seemed great but when I started organizing my desk area I quicklu realized that Im a visual person. I need to see things and not have them tucked away in cute photo boxes and baskets. I decided to try using clear bins with lids and small clear craft boxes with adjustable compartments to sort my office supplies that usually ended up thrown all mixed up in a drawer or crammed so tight in a penholder cup that you couldnt get a pen out. Having everything completely concealed in a container made me feel lost and I felt like I was still using too much mental time and focus trying to memorize what each bin had in it because even though I labeled them i still had to read each label after days going to the same closets! Now that I switched to the clear containers I can easily see everything in the totes with a quick glance! So i guess what Im saying is:
Just Do You Boo! Lol
I think he should have gotten the wings and brought them back to you as take out so you could have kept your bra off and everyone could have enjoyed the wings at home.
LITERALLY.
That’s what I was thinking!!
That’s pretty genius
Yes, win win!
DUH!!!
I told my husband about the video and explained the good advice of "staying in Cleveland". I then explained that your original fight was that dinner had been made & you wanted to go out for chicken wings. But it was the end of the day, the bra had come off. There was no going out after that! My husband just nodded and grinned. He said, "yup, no going anywhere when the bra comes off.". I was so proud of him for getting it!
August 2020---what's a "bra"? And what's this "go out to dinner" stuff?
Haha! 👏
What is a planned schedule for the week?
Erin McKenna October 2020---what is word friend hi
Oct 2020: We all live in PJs.
Funny, made me smile.
So hilarious but totally true! Once the bra comes off the girls just can’t physically get back in the uncomfortable cage. Game over Penn! By that time the bra is off, the shoes are off, and we’re in comfy clothes. And once the rubbery, salt and salt chicken is defrosted....
Soooo true
Kathryn Hodgson lol so true
Kathryn Hodgson t
So true
Exactly correct. The only thing I WILL do is a drive thru at that point. That puppy is not going back on. Lol
Penn, two years later and a pandemic. I haven't worn a bra in 2 months and I don't know if it'll ever go back on.
I wear a bra if im in public. At home I leave it off
@@user-GodisReal the lines are getting pretty blurred for me now a days and I'm not sorry lol
Lol, same! Post pandemic the bra stays off. No going back.
I only wear nipple pastie if my shirt is see thru. IDGAF I don't like how bra's make me feel. Squished, restrained, hot and unhappy. If ppl have a problem it's their problem not mine!
😁😊😄🤣👏 yes girl
The “Stay in Cleveland” thing is good stuff.
Bras, high heels and makeup are over now that I’ve had a taste of Covid freedom. :)
And shaving!
@@mstiles3121 preach!
I quit shaving my legs years ago because there’s no logical, scientific, or hygienic reason to do so. Armpits and chin are another story-doing the pits makes it easier to apply antiperspirant, and I refuse to go around with that effing perimenopause beard even with a mask on! (WTF is up with that beard, anyway?! I can live with the other side effects, although that weight gain one is still war for me. But turning into the Bearded Lady? Oh, HELL NO!)
@@dragondancer1814 Right! WTH is up with that? I’m 40 and it’s begun! Lol
Exactly! I started wearing True&Co bras during quarantine and now I don't even want to take them off at night. Life changed. I'm not a promoter for them, I just really had to share my life-changing success lol
Taking off the bra is a spiritual experience. The heavens open and angels start to sing.....but if it means i don't have to cook I'm throwing that baby back on. Lol....or ordering in.
thats what hoodies are for ;)
I’ll do just about anything for chicken wings i don’t have to cook. I’ll just put on a heavy jacket in the winter or a lounge bra in the spring and summer, plus i don’t care at this point.
s henke 😂
Totally, agree. If I don't have to cook I will do a lot to not have t do that. Maybe even plan on sex that night, if it means I don't have to cook. Okay, depends on the food on how extreme I am going.
Nice compromise!
I’m TOTALLY with Kim on this one, as I’m sure MOST women are. Once the bra comes off it does not go back on until the next day! No questions asked. It’s a done deal!!!!! 🤣
Lori Nevel yep
Exactly
Nope. I don't have to cook, I'll put it back on or we're getting take-out!
Although I am single, I immediately felt a kinship with Kim on this one. Having taken off my bra earlier in the evening has saved my diet soooooo many trips to the local convenience store for a snack. Literally the only thing between myself and a Snickers bar was the fact that I had already taken my bra off and wasn't about to put that puppy back on.
I love how good they do with these. Like how Kim would never say ANYTHING in that rubbery chicken rant, but they film a clip with her mouthing everything including the half minute of Penn just panicking and stuttering
I know I’m watching this years later, but I feel compelled to say: 100% fact - bra off requires a minimum 8 hour reset before bra back on. I’ll say to my husband in the evening: Are we doing anything, because if not, I’m taking my bra off. It is the end to all the day’s activity.
Greaaaaat advise. We can totally relate to the "stay in Cleveland". What a great Pastor.
Why would you put the bra back on to run out and pick up food? That is literally why they invented hoodies.
Edit: Sometimes I sing "I Want To Break Free"
because I live where it's 110 degrees for four months :(
Oh my gosh YESSSS
This is why I love the fall!
Maybe she doesn't use the drive-through. She'd rather walk-in.
the bra CAN go back on, but ONLY with super human effort. My daughter and I were laughing to tears watching you pop off bras...still dying!
I literally just took my bra off and clicked on this video. This video should be shown to couples before they get married or something. It could save a lot of arguments and misunderstandings. Lol oh I love you guys!!!
I know this video was a while ago, but sammeee
Love women out off the cage!!!! Super sexy
Amen! This video could save marriages and lives! 🤣
It’s so funny when Kim says “I ALREADY TOOK MY BRA OFF”!!!! And when Penn says “RUBBER CHICKEN WITH THE SALT AND PEPPER”!!😝😝thank you so much for making these vids, love you holderness fam
yassssssss
Ally's Vidz you are so funny
Haha he said "salt and it salt" lol not pepper which made it all that much more funny
Thanks for correcting me, now it’s funnier!!
House is on fire -- "we gotta evacuate!" "sorry, already took my bra off" 😂
🤣 a few months after I met my fiance I had way too much to drink on an empty stomach, he has pictures of me with a couch pillow sleeping UNDERNEATH our clawfoot bathtub. He couldn't wake me, so he left me there lmao. I was stuck the next morning, I literally had to yell for him to help me and pull me out. Neither of us know how I got under there or how I got the pillow from downstairs lmao. The only thing I do remember from that night is a fire engine pulling up 2 houses down because of a fire my neighbors had that got too big. After my fiance got me out from under the tub he told me he was trying to help me get to the bed and gave me a shirt to sleep in and asked if I needed help getting my bra off. I said "No. I don't want to die." When he asked for an explanation I said "I'm too drunk. If the fire gets the house I won't be able to get my bra on fast and I'll die!" ......🤦♀️ I'm so damn lucky I didn't scare him away 🤣
@@Delicate_Disaster haaaaaaa XD
Thats true
@@Delicate_Disaster you found your keeper. Good on ya.
@@Delicate_Disaster Oh my GOSH girl that ending is gold 😂😂😂
Well, “let’s eat out tonight” are magic words for me. I’ve sometimes put a half-cooked dinner in the refrigerator when hubby asked me to eat out. And the bra problem is usually solved with “give me 15 minutes to take a quick shower” and a perfectly clean bra is put on after the shower. And off we go.
Same here, the bra cannot come back on, but Im always up for dining out.
For one, thanks for sharing with us.
But as for the argument: Imagine wearing a jockstrap with separate compartments, all the time you're out of the house. And what's in those compartments is heavy, so the constant weight digs the straps into you. And hurts your back. This is every day, all day that you're out of the house.
You're done with the outside for the day, so you take it off. Sweet, sweet glorious freedom. The angels sing, you can relax for the rest of the night.
And after starting to relax, you're suddenly asked to put the jockstrap back on, by someone who has no idea what it's like to wear the jockstrap all the time. The stupid jockstrap with the compartments and separation, straps that dig and wires that poke, that was such a relief to remove for the night.
That jockstrap ain't going back on. Just bring the wings home. 🍗
Absolutely well said.
The angels sing...😂😇
Must be like wearing a shoulder holster all day.
Ahahahaaaaa “separate compartments” makes it so much worse 🤣. Because you can’t have “uni-balls,” people would be weirded out.
Very well said! 👏👏
Yes it's the LAW - Bra off & not going on again. If Penn really wanted to be spontaneous - he would have said "Kim pour yourself a glass of wine - I'm making dinner - so relax" then phoned in a wing order for pick up.
You got a point. But it sounds like he just wanted to stay out of the house a little longer.
It is by woman law, once the bra comes off, it’s off
Penn, you hear that?
ADVENTURES: SMOOTH... 😏
But she already started dinner/had a dinner plan
"I've already taken off my bra" Valid Argument for all time....infinity.
I show this to my mom and she responded " you know what I don't blame her if your bra is off then it ain't goin back on for nothing."
I love this!! It is sooo hilarious to see u act out each other’s words - and in black and white. This is great!!!
My wife's grandma told us "Only argue naked" ...let's just say that helps end things quickly.
WHAT?!!? :P LOL!!
Chillllllllll
😂 great tip!
@@Mushroom321- glad I could help advise you :)
That is amazing lol
Bonbons! I’m a Gen X middle school English teacher. I tell my Gen Z students that if I ever get fired for my irreverent comments, then they shouldn’t worry about me. I would be living my best life: sitting on the couch, reading good books, and eating bonbons. That comment always sparked the whole “what is a bonbon” conversation.
Kim: "I took my bra off."
Me: Makes sense. Penn, you lost this one my guy. 😂 love you both.
It's true about the bra and also pants apply. Once I'm in pj pants, not leaving!
Once the elastic waistband is on... I can't change clothes.
Me neither ! Well unless sweats can be applied to the situation lol
I'll let you into a wee secret. I'm starting to see more and more, comfy pj wearing gals picking up the chicken wings for that easy night in. It's a thing, I tell you. Better than ugg boots.
My wife goes out in PJs but it does take a tad of coaxing and she only agrees if we're getting something she wants too, like pizza or the like. And there can't be any one else there but the cashier so we have to wait until it's past bedtime.
LOL- Amen...... So true! 🤣😂😁😅
I love how down to earth you guys are! You always read, & respond to comments, and I for one really appreciate that you take the time to do so.
When the bra comes off, it is not going back on. Kim, you ought to have Penn wear one for a day; with the oh so comfy underwire.
This really made me laugh. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told my husband that I can’t go out to eat because I already took my bra off.😂
Great video showing you are real people, and understand that issues happen in a marriage and you have to find a way to "make it work". thanks for sharing.
In the old days when men wore ties, when it comes off, it stays off for the night.
But they could still go out in public without their tie. My dad took his off on the way to the car! Not too many women are going to do that!
@@sarahkleimeyer3792
If there are any, please introduce me to her.
thats true
My husband keeps his tie until he goes to sleep. He's retiring next year and he's been wearing a tie every day since he was about 10...
@@sarahkleimeyer3792 Yeah, but since when does a woman have to wear a bra to go out in public? Not since the late 1960s... and how long ago is that? Ladies, just put on a baggy sweatshirt and go out anyway!
Plot twist Kim has Penn wear a bra for a week for the next couples try.
Agree! PENN needs a BRA CHALLENGE!! 💕🤪😂💕🤪😂💕👏
Omg yes! With horrible under wire! 😂
@@5Irishsun30 That breaks right in the worst time where it can be dealt with for at least an hour.
So funny. Thanks for being so transparent. Like the Cleveland analogy but disagree about the bra situation. Any excuse not to have to cook is worth putting it back on. However, I am contradicting myself based on what I did this evening. My husband offered to run out and pick up some food at a place nearby when he got home from work. I told him he didn’t have to. My reasoning is more like your other reasons: money and health.
Always good to be able to laugh at your disagreements later! Good example of that!
Very much agree and not only with the horrible underwire also some implant trials so that Penn can understand the weight it puts on our shoulders
I went a week without a bra for a week after surgery. I wore my father's Hawaiian UT shirt all week. I could actually breath!
You have made the past two year so much more bearable. I laughed out loud at the bra story. Absolute truth!
You need to plan spontaneity, every married person knows that
LOL. "It's a law of nature."
It totally is.
"Biologically impossible."
Also true.
And why are the pants always in weird places? Here too!
It's a law!
Holderness Family Vlogs LOL! It must be. I know I’ve been trying to make counter laws and proclamations for years about hampers with no luck at all!
This is the first video I've ever seen on your channel, and it makes me feel much better about my marriage.
I like the "stay in Cleveland" advice. I guess I'm one of those rare male commenters on this channel, so I don't have any direct experience with the topic at hand. However, one of my first jobs was bagging groceries, which involved standing on a cement floor (covered by a very thin layer of carpet) for hours at a time. When I got done with a shift at that job, there was something very satisfying (and necessary) about taking off my shoes, leaning back in a recliner and putting my feet up. So I *might* have a slight idea of the feelings involved in the subject of the argument in this video. Maybe.
This argument probably explains why “comfy” bras are in and “sexy” aka Victoria Secret are out. Their sales are plummeting
There's such thing as a comfy bra?
Sarah Withrow I wear nursing bras, and I am in my 50s, lol. Soft material, no hooks, no wires. Lots of Facebook ads for bras claiming to be “comfy” but I have not tried any of them. But their sales has caused sales at Victoria Secret to plummet in the last couple of years.
A comfy bra is a myth
@@rachelnewey3049 Not true. If your bra is not comfortable then you are wearing the wrong bra/wrong size for that bra style. My view on bras changed dramatically after I was professionally fitted and learned that I don't wear the same size in every brand. Not sure why that shocked me since the same is true for jeans and shoes.
@@debbipriz, that is true for you but personally, I have had REALLY bad bras and I can not find one that is truelly comfortable, so for me, it feels like a comfy bra is a myth
Holy cow! I fell in the floor when you were taking your bra off all those different ways! 😂🤣😂
My definition of a healthy marriage, as a therapist, is that if you wake re up most mornings happy you didn't put the pillow over their face, you are good. If that is 4 of 7 days thus week, that is MOST DAYS.
Most arguments/fights aid in growth in the relationship. Much love.
I love when they imitate each other
OMG..... Kim you need to inform Penn, that the fabric/plastic/wires/spandex/etc.....that going into making a good "bra" is also for supporting women's anatomy that feeds children, and brace the sweet little heads as they rest. They do get pretty heavy on their own accord, so "bras" are worn to aid in lifting, cradling, equalizing balance of our natural body's centerness. To "take off" that vital piece of garment, is like punching the time clock to go home for the night. The "restricting, lifting , and warm, piece of our wardrobe that let's our body's "natural" body curve through like, but once it's off, it's like having a cold beer, or taking a personal bath for an hour with no interruptions. So to be cut loose from the grips within the production of this important part of our lives.
Hmmm, it's a whole new world. Thanks for the bra insight. I will incorporate this into premarital counseling.
"Stay in Cleveland." Great way to put it. "No daisy chaining" is the phrase I use. Same, same.
Not a chance that thing’s going back on, once it’s off I’m in for the night, period.
There's an old saying "Bra's sure grow wonderful tomatoes" 🍅🍅 😂
haha I laughed so hard when he said it was super easy to take a bra off and put one back on. I usually feel like I'm starting ww3 just to get that thing on. haha
Dude, you keep going for arguments in which you have no chance of winning. Bring the wings home, but make her watch the ballgame while you eat. "We could have gone out, but the bra was off for the day. Pass the ranch, will ya?"
You have skills, and will go far ObiWan.
This would be perfect!! How did you know the only viable solution?? Lol
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
SO BRUCE, YOU'RE PLANNING TO BE SINGLE, A WHILE THEN... 😏
Bruce Wallace 😂
Omg she is SO CORRECT 🤣🤣🤣🤣, but for sure "stay in Cleveland"
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s true, once the bra is off, there’s no putting it back on. The “Stay in Cleveland” idea is a total paradigm shift for me. Thank you, I think you just changed my life. Love you guys!
I feel you. When you have taken off the Bra that means a woman ain't goin nowhere!!!
Penn, you should watch 'Guys Wear Bras For a Week' on The Try Guys channel to get a better understanding why we ain't puttin' the bra back on. 😂
Yes
He did end up wearing a bra in a Mother's day vid. It was hilarious 😂
@@cameronzemail yeah, I saw it. :)
better to experience than to watch
It’s crazy people thought you guys wouldn’t argue. All long term relationships have those days. You didn’t mislead anyone. You guys look like you are always having fun & enjoying life. Keep laughing, keep loving & forgiving one another & keep making your light hearted videos.
Kim, I agree, once the unhooking is complete, there is no turning back.
This was a very funny video with the voice over of Penn's voice. Well done.
Literally, this morning: My wife says, "I'm going to have to put on a bra." [pouty face] I say, "I don't understand. Is wearing a bra really that bad?" [seriously seeking to understand this]
"Yes" [end of conversation]
Because it is. Try wearing a chest corset (they make them for men too) each day for a week. You'll see.
@@krisHippo Remember the Seinfeld episode about the "mansiere"?
People really need to stop wearing underwire bras! I wear bras without an underwire and they're so comfortable I don't feel the need to take them off.
Yes, it is THAT bad
Yes
It's not the putting pants back on. The male equivalent is "I just sat down." or "I just got my beer." Of course its also an introvert thing: once I've gotten comfortable, don't bother me. also, the chicken. as the cook in my house, that meal is prepared before before the chicken is defrosted! hehehe. but yes, a happy functional family has fights. edit: Men "But the game is on!"
All very good points. Introverts unite!
Holderness Family Vlogs haha yes!! Unite! In our homes where it’s warm and cozy!😁❤️
Separately
I JUST SAT DOWN DRIVES ME NUTS
Don’t sit down. Ask for further instructions.
I love how you had your voices to either face.....GENIUS and hilarious😂
To the men who don't understand I challenge you: wear a jockstrap & a cup 12 hours a day for 7 days straight.
kristen hughes To the women who don’t understand - if you don’t want to wear a bra . . . don’t.
I see similar arguments about how uncomfortable women’s shoes are. What kind of idiot would wear heels that make her feet hurt just because she thinks they look nicer than comfortable shoes? Well, apparently there are lots of women who do exactly that.
I’m so glad a married a sensible woman.
I love all thes MEN MANSPLAINING bras to us women as if they have ever been a victim of humiliation by other males for not wearing a bra
@@mirkopolyak3592 shoes are a whole other problem. I can't find comfortable shoes. Designers seem to think womens feet are shaped like a ruler instead of a triangle. I sometimes find tennis shoes in the men's area for the width, but ty they are too big. Heels have nothing to do with it....
@@kathyault3244 I apparently have alien feet, because trying to find shoes that fit is a nightmare. If you haven't yet tried shoes made for diabetic people, they might work; those are the most comfy shoes I have--they're made to stretch for swollen feet. Propet sneakers (they're my diabetic shoe go-to brand) come in double wide, which is awesome. Merrell brand shoes in wide are great when I need something more structured. Hope that helps 💙😁 I've been disabled for a dozen years, so the past year of Covid quarantine is my normal life. I learned to adjust for comfort long ago. 😉
A bra is equivalent to a medieval torture devise.
Once you escape, you wont willingly put yourself back in that horrid contraption!
Best comment ever
When my wife and I argue we continue the argument until one of us remembers I was wrong... :)
One would think this would teach you to realize it faster each time. :)
I love the honesty of these videos. Thanks for sharing your family experiences with us.
Definitely a law of nature!!! If the bra has come off… the day is done!!!
I work from home so NEVER have to deal with those devilish contraptions unless I go out. I weigh whether or not to do things based on “is it worth putting on a bra for?” If not, I stay home and my girls stay free. 😂
"stay in Cleveland" that was good advice. I gotta do this with my husband & try my best not to derail when the conversation touches a nerve. Thanks guys, I've learned something today :-)
"Stay in Cleveland."
Lol...I thought "Stay in Cleveland" had something to do with the bra.😂
I have to say, I've never seen a woman take her bra out of her jeans before. Women are amazing. Also, do more videos where you speak in each other's voices.
That's only if we accidentally put it in the dryer because it was stuck hiding in the jeans during the wash. 😂😂😂
Wish I would’ve known how to explain the stay in Cleveland method when I would bring up Cleveland and an argument would travel all over the place. I’d forget about Cleveland and wish I was in a completely different country by the end of it. If I get a chance to be in another relationship I will hold this treasured advice! 😂
Yes it’s a fact once bra is off it doesn’t go back on until the next day BECAUSE a bra can be taken off without taking off other clothing BUT it is practically IMPOSSIBLE to put one on without taking off a shirt and or the other layers on top of said bra💥
I have successfully put a bra on with a fired long sleeve shirt. It is extremely hard but my room gets to cold in the winter that I would rather struggle for 10 minutes than take my shirt off and be cold for 30 seconds.
Interesting point. Never thought of that. It is DEF more of a pain in the a** to put a bra on, than to take off.🤔
All I know is the relief and immediate comfort I feel, once that bra is off, and the girls are free.😋 And if I’ve also already switched to wearing pants with an elastic waist, game over - staying-in mode has been engaged.
Wow this was hysterical, yet somehow therapeutic
After 20 years of marriage, my wife and I laughed about this video. I was enlightened about how after the bra is off... it doesn't go back on. All the conversation tangents were so us... To her meal planning and me wanting RIBS (instead of chicken wings) suddenly, to planning and finances, to me leaving pants all over the house. So fun and awesome... we laughed all the way through... Bottom line, Stay in Cleveland
I agree as soon as my bra comes off it stays off. Men need to try wearing them. Not comfortable.
I feel like this is a challenge for Penn. Stay tuned.
Holderness Family Vlogs YES omg
Or just try his analogy article of clothing, he wore a jock strap all day, you know athletes do, I’m sure for them: when the boys are free, jock strap does not go back on. For anything
Once the bras off its off. Norm as soon as Im home lol. The one fantastic thing about isolation. That and your videos. They're keeping me sane xx
The bra off for the day is a law of nature. Kim is 100% right on this.
I wear wireless bra tops, they r super comfy 😊
Me, too. IF I have to go back out, after I’ve taken my bra off. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
What's the wifi password for that wireless bra?
@@garyherndon4722 This reply? UNDERRATED!
Facts
Me too! I gave up on those horrible wire bras! I was tried of having them sound off when I went through security! 😂
I agree with once the bra is off...its off.... however, there are always hoodies.
Agreed! For just beer and wings, good enough!
I was thinking ski vest! And I'm usually the one that always wants to eat out; my husband is the one that gripes about it being expensive. :)
I literally was just about to say, "Wear an oversized sweatshirt. Problem solved." Haha!
Freeboobing...it's why they created flannel and fleece.
The only reason I like cooler weather is NO BRA and HOODIES!
"biologically impossible"... dubious! "It's a law of nature" - questionable! And yet "I already took my bra off" is the mic drop for almost all women.
I say, once the bra is off, it stays off. Love watching your video's. they are so hilarious. Much love you both & all your family,.
OMG I do the SAME thing!! 😂
Once that bra is off & ur home all comfy, there’s no going nowhere.
Just had this same discussion last week with my husband lol
Hilarious!
Btw I live near Cleveland, so we’re twice screwed over lol
You guys are my favorite family. Thank you for helping us all get though this time 😊
I will forever remember that advice of STAY IN CLEVELAND. You guys are so fun :0)
Anytime I don’t have to cook I’m down!! Save the chicken for tomorrow. Lol
OMG, I remember when Jackie was First Lady and we all wore girdles with garter belts (even worse than bras) and then there were the very pointed toe high heels. Being female was a living hell!
My little brother would implore Mom to “take off your panty-hose, Mommy!” because he knew that once those babies were off, they were off and no one was going anywhere.
The bra...yah, when it comes off, that is decompression time. It is sacred. Don't mess with it, all you who harbor the Y-chromosome. I like how Kim got right to the point - totally unfiltered! That is a true introvert's code for "this has already been decided- not going out!"
When I was a size G, the first thing I did when I got home was rip that sucker off. And it was not going back on. Now I’m an A-B and I don’t put it back on , I just go without. 🤣🤣
😂😂😂 I’m literally crying!!!! My husband and I were dying watching this and laughing just as hard at the comments! We love you two! Keep em’ coming and blessings to your family!💗
I get it - I'm married with three girls - I don't have a choice but to live by that rule. 🤣
So true! My response would be, you all go ahead and bring me back an order, cause I took my bra off. And bring me an order of those seasoned fries too! 😆
Also, I love that you let your pastor speak into your marriage. So good!
Just discovered you guys and I am enjoying everything SO MUCH! It's great to know a cool, interesting person who functions thru their ADHD. All my best wishes to your family.
My wife puts her bra back on all the time but our pastor / marriage counselor say all arguments should result in a win win or a lose lose
Is the lose/lose like a compromise both people don't like much?
Yes girl! Once the bra comes OFF... THAT'S IT!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣