My parents taught us social skills, as JP is describing. Knowing how to behave socially has benefited us our whole life. I feel sorry for kids/young people who don't know, because nobody has taught them. It causes awkwardness and misunderstanding.
@@kcc879It’s supposed to be taught at home. Children don’t have the perspective to be making up the difference for kids who lack that home training. They, rightly so, should be focused on developing socially with other healthy and properly socialized children.
People can do whatever they want so we’re gonna end up with a lot of people that don’t know how to do things they NEED to do , you can have 6 kids work part time spend all ur money on useless stuff sit at home and do absolutely nothing all in the name of mind your business I can do what I want , it’s actually terrible the temptation and dopamine the internet and technology is bringing, it used to happen before too but it’s so much more widespread ajd it’s not just an extreme it’s a spectrum even half decent families are failing their children
that's the problem isn't it? Parents my age aren't teaching their kids these basics at home, where they should be taught. I 100% agree. Schools have taken on so much that we've moved away from just teaching to covering gaps from negligent parenting. @@hellaspoicey2280
@emmyakints2023 A friend of mine has a policy with his daughters: when someone comes into the house, you greet them and, if necessary, introduce yourself. Stay a couple of minutes and then go away if you want to, but never sulk around the house like a ghost when there is a visitor - it's weird and awkward. This simple rule has resulted in two of the most charming young women I have met in a long time.
My dad made me practice this before I went to kindergarten. I made lots of friends. I still find it easy to make friends as an adult, which many people seem to complain about. I simply can’t relate. It’s very important for your whole life. You’ll miss out on a lot if you don’t develop these skills. The earlier, the better. The things you don’t develop as child will hold back your development as a teen. The things you don’t develop as a teen will hold you back in your 20’s. The things you don’t develop in your 20’s will hold you back in your 30’s. The things you don’t develop… you get the picture. Puts you at a real disadvantage by having to always play catch up. The earlier you accept reality and do start to play catch up, the better. If you’re in your 20’s and can’t pass a high school fitness test, then you know where to start. Start developing those things you missed in the previous decade. You won’t regret it.
When I was younger my father and his friend made sure I knew how to shake a hand. I had received an award and gave a "dead fish tail" handshake, so they spent an afternoon playfully making me learn how to shake hands like a man. I'm 41 now, and a couple of decades into a career in the CAF. I still think about that experience when I meet someone new, and am grateful for the training. Two older men having a laugh taught me how to be a man, and I suspect they only half knew what was happening.
Kristan, Kosbee, Thank God. And thank that father of yours and his friend. I never had that and it would've helped at 10 years old. Though I got addicted to pornography I wish I stopped way before I got out of highschool. Now I'm in a worse place than when I was in 9th grade because it's been 3 years since graduation withought me having a job . But now I'm free. I'm gonna do greatly now I firmly know that I'm capable of stopping bad habits masturbating immoral anything sinful. Jesus Christ is King 👑. Everything Good comes from him. All evil comes from "The enemy" "The Adversary" "The devil " "The Satan" he has many titles but perhaps his name is or was "Lucifer" anything he does is perversion and evil is a perversion of what Satan has done to the good Christ has created, Satan Corrupted. Now I'll do that to my brother. I'll shake his hand and I'm 21. Better than being 41. I'm grateful to even the ungrateful and unforgiving and bastardful people in my life or not in my life. I'll still smile. Amen. Dammit. NEVER GIVE UP!, FOR GOD IS MY ULTIMATE MOTIVATION WHICH IS ENDLESS MOTIVATION. My wife isn't my motivation. But it's my duty to her to protect her. And I don't yet have a wife but it's as if I already do/have/had/was/is/are in my grasp possession in my life around me and in me the memories I have of the woman from 9th grade who's now an adult as I am time to move forward no looking back to past sins.
The point about fear and incentives is so essential. Fear utterly cripples you once you have it, so you have to learn how to function before you ever develop any such social fear. Trying to overcome it after the fact is a million times harder.
Survivors of extreme childhood violence need to learn this. If your parents repeatedly beat you into unconsciousness and always told you that you don't deserve to exist, you quickly learn to avoid people. A handshake is extremely dangerous as the other person could attack you with their free hand We survivors learnt from a young age that most people will despise us anyway, so we like to keep our distance. Handshakes are really only for people who grew up in safety. Those of us with lifelong brain damage from childhood violence would prefer to avoid them.
My daddy used to send me into the gas station at about 4 to Pay for his gas, he’d be in the car waiting on me, lol. Some people might think that’s crazy but it Taught me how to socialize , also we always had to order our Own food at restaurants …. Baby talk was outlawed after about 3
As a classroom teacher I love the work by dr kagan from the US teaching kids cooperative learning how to get along how to praise how to work as a team etc I’ve tried to introduce this in my classrooms and my schools don’t like it thinking it’s all games and not “learning” so I get in trouble and can’t implement it but this will address these basic skills needed period.
Yes! Such good info! I wanna be like you when I’m aware enough to be able to contribute to helping teach life disciplines, that will improve peeps lives and continue to grow together with less suffering. Thank you.
Reminds me that I somehow almost always manage to forget to say my name when introducing myself. I smile and try to remember name and face of the other person and only later I remember I didn't tell the other person what my name is... 😅
I was thought this since very young age, hand shake, eye contact tell me a lot when meeting people. I particularly dislike lame hand shake . Working with children and I am making sure but the time they start nursery around age 2-3 they know their manners. It says a lot about person. Thank you for the great reminder
Many comments saying their father taught this to them... No one ever even hinted something like this to me, the worst part is I am VERY shy and my social skills suck to this day
Learn how to shake hands. Firm grip. Eye contact. Ask "what's your name?" Say yours. Don't look away. Learn to mean it. Say "how are you doing?" Get expert at it.
JP is right. The amount of times I've shaken someone's hand... And their hand is just weak, feeble and limp in my hand! Come on people, you can do better than that!
My dad taught me calling off the bike ride after my neighbour's daugher pulled her bike out each time.. poor girl had to park in again everytime 😂 my dad and neighbour had their differences
this brings one thing to mind that what if males that cant talk to females are actually incomoetent at talking to other males also. so id say the real solution is to first start talking to more males then move to talking to females with males as wingmen then go all out solo.
I got to meet Chris and James while they were on tour in America. I am still berating myself at my poor introduction of myself to James. He asked me what I do for work and I spoke to him in acronyms like a complete asshole forgetting that he is not from America and wouldn't know what those acronyms remotely mean. Oof. Nerves really do turn you into an idiot.
i do whatever i want, I do not give a damn about what you think. You people always think yourself superior to others, again there will be deadly consequences.
@@xxstormxx56 There's no one in here imposing their values on you. If not giving a fuck and doing what you want is part of your persona, then you need to not make it a big deal when interacting with people. Doesnt mean youre going to interact with more people than you want to, or ones you dont want to. Youre really blowing this up for some psychological reasons you gotta take a look at. People on the internet can't take care of you friend so please take care of yourself.
My parents taught us social skills, as JP is describing. Knowing how to behave socially has benefited us our whole life. I feel sorry for kids/young people who don't know, because nobody has taught them. It causes awkwardness and misunderstanding.
True however the kids at school have no interest in learning these skills either
@@kcc879It’s supposed to be taught at home.
Children don’t have the perspective to be making up the difference for kids who lack that home training.
They, rightly so, should be focused on developing socially with other healthy and properly socialized children.
People can do whatever they want so we’re gonna end up with a lot of people that don’t know how to do things they NEED to do , you can have 6 kids work part time spend all ur money on useless stuff sit at home and do absolutely nothing all in the name of mind your business I can do what I want , it’s actually terrible the temptation and dopamine the internet and technology is bringing, it used to happen before too but it’s so much more widespread ajd it’s not just an extreme it’s a spectrum even half decent families are failing their children
that's the problem isn't it? Parents my age aren't teaching their kids these basics at home, where they should be taught. I 100% agree. Schools have taken on so much that we've moved away from just teaching to covering gaps from negligent parenting. @@hellaspoicey2280
@@kcc879School doesn't teach such stuff
My dad ran drills with my brother and I growing up. And it's benefited me for decades. ❤
My dad did the same with I.
Same here. It’s been massively helpful in meeting potential guests for my show.
I'll train myself with my younger ones on them from now on
@emmyakints2023 A friend of mine has a policy with his daughters: when someone comes into the house, you greet them and, if necessary, introduce yourself. Stay a couple of minutes and then go away if you want to, but never sulk around the house like a ghost when there is a visitor - it's weird and awkward. This simple rule has resulted in two of the most charming young women I have met in a long time.
I will make it my mission to raise my 1 1/2 year old to stand up right. Shake hands, look people in the eye and speak decisive and consise.
My dad made me practice this before I went to kindergarten. I made lots of friends. I still find it easy to make friends as an adult, which many people seem to complain about. I simply can’t relate.
It’s very important for your whole life.
You’ll miss out on a lot if you don’t develop these skills. The earlier, the better.
The things you don’t develop as child will hold back your development as a teen. The things you don’t develop as a teen will hold you back in your 20’s. The things you don’t develop in your 20’s will hold you back in your 30’s. The things you don’t develop… you get the picture.
Puts you at a real disadvantage by having to always play catch up.
The earlier you accept reality and do start to play catch up, the better.
If you’re in your 20’s and can’t pass a high school fitness test, then you know where to start.
Start developing those things you missed in the previous decade. You won’t regret it.
On point!
Well said!
When I was younger my father and his friend made sure I knew how to shake a hand. I had received an award and gave a "dead fish tail" handshake, so they spent an afternoon playfully making me learn how to shake hands like a man.
I'm 41 now, and a couple of decades into a career in the CAF. I still think about that experience when I meet someone new, and am grateful for the training. Two older men having a laugh taught me how to be a man, and I suspect they only half knew what was happening.
Kristan, Kosbee, Thank God. And thank that father of yours and his friend. I never had that and it would've helped at 10 years old. Though I got addicted to pornography I wish I stopped way before I got out of highschool. Now I'm in a worse place than when I was in 9th grade because it's been 3 years since graduation withought me having a job . But now I'm free. I'm gonna do greatly now I firmly know that I'm capable of stopping bad habits masturbating immoral anything sinful. Jesus Christ is King 👑. Everything Good comes from him. All evil comes from "The enemy" "The Adversary" "The devil " "The Satan" he has many titles but perhaps his name is or was "Lucifer" anything he does is perversion and evil is a perversion of what Satan has done to the good Christ has created, Satan Corrupted. Now I'll do that to my brother. I'll shake his hand and I'm 21. Better than being 41. I'm grateful to even the ungrateful and unforgiving and bastardful people in my life or not in my life. I'll still smile. Amen. Dammit. NEVER GIVE UP!, FOR GOD IS MY ULTIMATE MOTIVATION WHICH IS ENDLESS MOTIVATION. My wife isn't my motivation. But it's my duty to her to protect her. And I don't yet have a wife but it's as if I already do/have/had/was/is/are in my grasp possession in my life around me and in me the memories I have of the woman from 9th grade who's now an adult as I am time to move forward no looking back to past sins.
@Manuel-6 cool story bro.
The point about fear and incentives is so essential. Fear utterly cripples you once you have it, so you have to learn how to function before you ever develop any such social fear. Trying to overcome it after the fact is a million times harder.
So important to go over the basics from time to time.
Survivors of extreme childhood violence need to learn this. If your parents repeatedly beat you into unconsciousness and always told you that you don't deserve to exist, you quickly learn to avoid people. A handshake is extremely dangerous as the other person could attack you with their free hand We survivors learnt from a young age that most people will despise us anyway, so we like to keep our distance.
Handshakes are really only for people who grew up in safety. Those of us with lifelong brain damage from childhood violence would prefer to avoid them.
Wow, you ok there? I hope you're ok.
So sorry for your experience of that 😔
Sounds horrible indeed, I’m sorry. And I recognise this (mostly overcome) pattern in myself as well. Took me quite some effort to open up.
Sure, but avoiding them only further puts you into a corner.
At some point we need to face our dragons, find the hero within
Most Excellent Mr. Peterson✌️
The prank hand buzzer is great for handshake intros - it breaks the ice. A good one can be bought at your local novelty store.
Can't describe in words, How pleasant it is to hear ❤️❤️
My daddy used to send me into the gas station at about 4 to
Pay for his gas, he’d be in the car waiting on me, lol. Some people might think that’s crazy but it
Taught me how to socialize , also we always had to order our
Own food at restaurants …. Baby talk was outlawed after about 3
:)
As a classroom teacher I love the work by dr kagan from the US teaching kids cooperative learning how to get along how to praise how to work as a team etc I’ve tried to introduce this in my classrooms and my schools don’t like it thinking it’s all games and not “learning” so I get in trouble and can’t implement it but this will address these basic skills needed period.
That’s amazing! I hope you’re school smartens up
I don't need a four year degree and 15years teaching experience. I'm simply told what to teach and how to teach it. @@threatened2024
Yes! Such good info! I wanna be like you when I’m aware enough to be able to contribute to helping teach life disciplines, that will improve peeps lives and continue to grow together with less suffering. Thank you.
I learnt this years ago! Thank you for the reminder
Reminds me that I somehow almost always manage to forget to say my name when introducing myself. I smile and try to remember name and face of the other person and only later I remember I didn't tell the other person what my name is... 😅
JP looking good in that Yoshikage Kira fit damn😂
I will be forever grateful to Dr. Peterson.
IM GRATEFUL TO AND TO THE BASTARDS WHO HATE ME IM GRATEFUL AND MORE TO GOD AMEN!
Can't believe I haven't known this song earlier!!
Nice work man!!
Something that takes a lifetime for most men to understand
Theres a lot of basics that parents never teach their kids. They think kids naturally learn that or learn it in school.
I love this Doctor !!! I think that lack of personality is lack of soul idk
I was thought this since very young age, hand shake, eye contact tell me a lot when meeting people. I particularly dislike lame hand shake . Working with children and I am making sure but the time they start nursery around age 2-3 they know their manners. It says a lot about person. Thank you for the great reminder
And most importantly shed a tear or two.
Amen❤
Many comments saying their father taught this to them... No one ever even hinted something like this to me, the worst part is I am VERY shy and my social skills suck to this day
Learn how to shake hands. Firm grip. Eye contact. Ask "what's your name?" Say yours. Don't look away. Learn to mean it. Say "how are you doing?" Get expert at it.
JP is right. The amount of times I've shaken someone's hand... And their hand is just weak, feeble and limp in my hand! Come on people, you can do better than that!
Oye. Im positively flabbergasted at such a brazen display of storytelling.
I never learned that and I'm 40. I'm screwed. 😢
very expiring i have never thought of that thank you mr peterson🙏
My dad taught me calling off the bike ride after my neighbour's daugher pulled her bike out each time.. poor girl had to park in again everytime 😂 my dad and neighbour had their differences
He put the Joker fit
I still struggle with this with random women at 33. Now other folks it’s not so hard
I never thought of how you can be bad at introducing yourself.
Great now I am terrified of being bad at it and probably going to become bad at it 😂
this brings one thing to mind that what if males that cant talk to females are actually incomoetent at talking to other males also.
so id say the real solution is to first start talking to more males then move to talking to females with males as wingmen then go all out solo.
wow...nice
My guy dressed like Willy Wonka
dressed like yoshikage kira
Neither of them are dressed anything like wonka lol
I think he overestimates what clients expect. Being too formal and confident can intimidate a lot of clients who are already overwhelmed.
Bob Vance, Vance refrigeration
Introducing myself to a couple people, easy. Introducing myself to a whole group of people, very difficult
Look at them one by one not as a group.
@@JordanBPeterson I'll take that on board. Thank you, Lord Jordan
I got to meet Chris and James while they were on tour in America. I am still berating myself at my poor introduction of myself to James. He asked me what I do for work and I spoke to him in acronyms like a complete asshole forgetting that he is not from America and wouldn't know what those acronyms remotely mean. Oof. Nerves really do turn you into an idiot.
Give'em Hell!
-Jordan Peterson
There are people that dont know how to shake hands?!?!?
Nobody has teached me
So what do you do with someone who has autism…?
Wait, parents "teach" their kids social skills?
Good ones do.
yes, along with manners and looking across both side of the road before crossing it.
Is there a professional for this? I can do it but a professional could do it better than me, I’d assume
JP dressed like the joker 😂
well, my parents tried. in the end i just dislike most people.
Insert self-congratulatory comment here.
His not wrong!!!! First impressions unfortunately can make or brake another human being!
I love my social skills.
😂
What do you mean by Jordon ???
What do you mean by Peterson???
Rivhcard Dawkins somehow finds this hard to understand....
And about 50,000 other dunce fannies
Why is he dressed like the joker😂
Looks fly AF honestly, love his outfits.
Why shake hands, why screw? Is anyone obligated to accept a person that can not stand in the front of the eyes?
What a waste of time
Nah. Do the opposite
And only THEN, can you start your training to become an incel icon.
🤣🤣🤣
No doubt
Cuz nothing cries incel more than developing social skills and suggesting finding a way to be productive in society.
i do whatever i want, I do not give a damn about what you think. You people always think yourself superior to others, again there will be deadly consequences.
You okay bud?
Someone wasn't breastfed.
I'm not sure who you're talking to, but if you don't give a damn about what they think, why are you initiating a conversation with them?
@@douglas31415i didnt but they did. Do not impose values on people. or perish.
@@xxstormxx56 There's no one in here imposing their values on you. If not giving a fuck and doing what you want is part of your persona, then you need to not make it a big deal when interacting with people. Doesnt mean youre going to interact with more people than you want to, or ones you dont want to. Youre really blowing this up for some psychological reasons you gotta take a look at. People on the internet can't take care of you friend so please take care of yourself.