Story 4: So, they ALL heard OP trapped inside a room, did absolutely nothing about it and were smug about it? Major fire hazard aside, that clinic is begging for a lawsuit...
Nobody wanted to deal with it because in their eyes it's "not their problem" that the door sticks so OP should make it their problem by calling the fire marshall! Seeing this level of gross negligence at a doctor's office is scary since doctors are the one profession paid to give a damn about the survival of their patients! If their patients are hurt or die because of something as stupid as a doorknob jamming that is career-ending for the practice and any doctor associated with it! The facilities are falling apart and the wait time for *scheduled* appointments is 45 mins? Yeah, I would have gone somewhere else by now and left a bad review on any sight that would let me...
I mean, what do they do when the doctor goes in there? Confidentiality would require she shut the door during exams, so if she gets stuck will the receptionists still be all smug? How stupid!
"What's that? a door that is *KNOWN* for locking people inside... of a clinic?!" **Says the most excited Fire Marshal given the clear cut case of a fire safety violation**
Story 4: So they just ignored you? They knew the door was broken and that a patient was in there, but they didn't care until it got too annoying? On top of it being a fire hazard what if you were having some sort of medical emergency? How often do they just ignore people for over an hour because they just don't feel like dealing with them then look at them funny when you're the one who should be pissed. Oh OP most definitely need to report them to the fire Marshals and anyone else who can put a stop to this behavior.
Exactly! How is that not a fire hazard? Or if OP was having a medical emergency? Or a panic attack about being confined? Or any number of other things? Not the least of which could be false imprisonment. They knew the door knob was broken and there was no way to willingly leave the room and they're just ...what? ... fine with it??
Agreed, it makes you wonder what other violations that building has if their doors wont open from the inside, sounds like a fire hazard AND a major OSHA violation to boot. That staff also acted very unprofessional to poor OP.
Also how stupid of the neighbor to not realize his kid doesn't have a monopoly on the name? What if OP had a 6 year old daughter named Charlotte? Would he still demand a name change? Would he change his kid's name? LOL Dude is not the brightest bulb...
I'm very claustrophobic, and all my drs know. Those little rooms are suffocating small to me. You put me in a room and lock me in its bad. But they heard him try to get out and did nothing? Idiots would be getting a visit from the fire marshal. I can feel my blood pressure going up just thinking about it. Elevators are my second worst fear. Geez
I’m curious to know if stepdaughter’s father was even in the picture? OP didn’t say. I know it’s easy to assume that her dad is not around, however OPs “dad’s” mindset is unhealthy.
Fourth story, time for a new doctor honestly. They knew for some time, they got angry at you for being locked in a door and asking to be let out, all while never actually getting to you? Why bother going back?
I was thinking the same thing. Also if I respect you enough to be on time you should respect me enough to see me promptly. Years ago, we had a clinic covered by my insurance that had a check in time of 15 minutes before your appointment. Most times you were done BEFORE your scheduled time. Miss those days.
Agreed, I work at a GP clinic and I would be embarrassed if a patient waited almost an hour AND was locked in the room. Also, Rslash makes a good point about it being a safety hazard
I also think OP should report the place because of the door and that an entire staff of people heard OP ask for help and their response was “we heard but felt like your actions were uncalled for”. As RSlash and others commented, this is a safety hazard. What if OPs bladder was bad and needed to pee? What if OP was claustrophobic?
As someone who suffers from claustrophobia from time to time, the idea of not being able to get out of any room is absolutely horrifying. And I have opened exam room doors when doctors are very behind just because I didn’t think I could breathe anymore (windowless rooms). For them to have a lock that they know is broken and to continue using it is absolutely reprehensible.
That door has a long list of issues it could cause the clinic, especially with how they react to the door being stuck and I hope it does cause problems for them! It is a hazard on so many levels and their nonchalant attitude about it is concerning.
My father did the same thing when our family friend and her son moved in for a while. He was my age. They'd go out together all the time and I'd watch them leave, waiting for an invite that never came. I always thought my father just didn't really like kids. It turns out he just really didn't like girls. He came in one day boasting that he'd just given the paperboy 20 dollars for Christmas. This was after my 10th or 11th year on earth with zero birthday or Christmas presents from him.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Something similar happened with my stepfather. Once his "own" child was born, he completely dropped my sister, who he was not the bio dad of. The youngest became incredibly spoilt and both my sisters can not get along at all because the younger one instigates. Hope you cut off that sperm donor and found better people to be around.
Story 3: the roommate definitely was taking jabs at OP with her comments. Thinking from a mean girl's perspective, she was probably jealous of OP & felt superior over the fact that she atlease grew up in the UK vs USA. So when op stated the reality of things btw them, she couldn't handle it & broke down.
Yeah absolutely insane to call her disgusting for literally just being a kid when she literally told him she heard all of those deeply hurtful things. Like he didn't even acknowledge any of that and just made her the problem instead
@@some_haqr On about a dad who was a huge jackass and then had the nerve to be upset when his daughter gave him what he wanted: less of her. What kid wouldn't be upset to over hear their dad saying that shit...much less a kid who'd lost their mom!?
Good on you for insisting that OP call the fire marshal. Very dangerous to have a patient in a room they can't get out of in an emergency. And I would seriously consider lodging a complaint about the staff to your doctor, and if the doc is meh about it, find a new one. Also, I don't schedule my appointments too close together for this reason.
It did sound like the doctors appointment were scheduled first, and the dentist one was an emergency one, aka not planned ahead of time, so it's not like they were intentionally put close together tho. It can happen. 45mins between the appointments subtracting travel time should have been enough if the doctor was on time. It's a bit infuriating that the doctor can refuse you if you're even 5 mins late, but theres absolutely no consecuences if they don't come see you in a timely manner
Toddlers are known for their cleverness and deception. They are also escape artists. My cousin youngest daughter when she was two thought she was being sneaky and took off with my cousin's Carmel Frappuccino. My cousin later noticed and her daughter giggle with amusement.
@@Yumi_Jay So the dad could be worried that the kid will love the same name doggy next door and that she will use all her energy to try to get to it all day every day.
If the parents are completely clueless, then it could happen. Parents in my area nap with their toddlers completely unattended and doors open to let in fresh air lmao.
I'm a Brit and the story about the Yank living in the UK and their British roommate bashing the US is dumb. The UK also has a obesity epidemic, not as bad as the US yet, but ours is due to the HUGE rise in the popularity of prioritising fast food over home cooking, due to time constraints and/or laziness of too many people. We had parents passing their kids McDonalds through school fencing when the school were forced to start serving healthier meals a few years back for F*cks sake!
yeah, all N. American and European countries suffer from obesity issues (maybe others too). i think the only thing that separates US is the way they are accommodating overweight people by for e.g. implementing mobility aids etc. and that makes them stand out from other countries.
@@janew5550 What separates the US is how high the sugar content in their food is. They have started to sell US confectionery in the UK and it has twice to upwards to four times the sugar content ours does. US fast food companies had to alter their recipe's to be able to sell their food here (cutting down the salt, fat and sugar content). There are countless videos of Yanks trying McDonalds in Europe and saying how different (good) it tastes. I haven't tried original recipe McDonalds, so I can't tell if this is true of Influencer's trying to get clicks
I had the exact same situation happen to me in high school as the last story. Popular senior cheerleader would not stfu about how hot this guy is and she can’t wait for the game Friday and she’s getting new nails tonight and blah blah blah. LOUD AS HECK! In the middle of the classroom to her friend two rows over with me in between. I was failing chemistry and really wanted to hear so I could fix my grade so after 15 minutes of this and the teacher half heartedly “Anna please hush” a few times and I lost it. The entire class was in a sort of stunned silence for 30 seconds then the teacher just said “moving on.”
I feel like this is different. A cheerleader dominating class time is one thing. I have a suspicion the “class clown” was more like the class weirdo and they’re trying to make it sound like Mia didn’t just kidney punch a kid with social issues.
Story 2: what is with the new neighbor, who hasn't even introduced himself, automatically assuming malice about his kid's name??? How would OP have possibly known it?
Yeah, I think it's weird (and stupid) that he didn't ask OP if they had someone named Charlotte in their home. We had neighbors a block over who had three family members with our names. And these are not common super names: Think Hazel, Pierre and Angela as opposed to Jennifer, John and Mary. We always thought it was funny.
@@ScooterBond1970Oh, yeah, dude’s a definite type. I remember spotting that brand of bull back in high school. One particular dude brought it to my attention… he wasn’t even that big or strong. Just a regular guy. But he was the kind that if some other guy bumped into him he’d jump back like a cat trying to look bigger and yell, “YOU WANNA STEP OUTSIDE?!?” I remember him doing that once in the lobby at a dance and everyone, including the guy he was yelling at, just staring for a second in universal confusion. Then a few people telling him to calm down, the room was crowded, blah blah. And of course he decided to be the bigger man and let it go. LOL, sure, bro.
Story 3: Mate, don't go constantly insulting everyone and everything if you don't want to get insulted too. Don't dish it out if you can't take it. Like, she called Americans stupid, fat, and other crap, but then she gets called fat ONCE and she breaks down. Kinda like a lot of people featured in FatLogic
I woulda clapped back asking about Britain's chronic dental issues, see if it's her poking fun or being a rude nationalist. Honestly, the vibes I got are that she's exactly the kind of British person that makes me consider the very phrase "British people" an oxymoron.
@@hiroshi7025 I’m 5’7/110lbs female and I’m American so how is fat an American frame? lol someone’s bitter. Did America hurt your feewings? I’ll spank ‘em for you
@@dividewalker5673that is very true I think they might also have genetically bad teeth but we don’t get dental here in America either unless we pay for it ourselves so idk
Hospital story: That hospital is just ASKING for a lawsuit. Doing nothing about a busted door while a patient is stuck on the other side of it is a lawsuit waiting to happen. NTA, but please call the fire marshal.
Last story: as someone related to a teacher, they are basically powerless to deal with students here in Australia. I aint surprised that kid did that and got away with it
As a teacher in Australia, this is fairly true. And that's ignoring class sizes and underlying special needs. I know he meant well, RSlash's comment about the teacher made me sigh a little.
For the final story, it is too often that teachers and instructors are required to use gentle methods to curb this behavior, however, with small kids this goes as well as you can imagine. Sometimes the school will have resources to have additional aids to help manage these behaviors but often this is limited. Because the teacher has to get through the material for the students so that they don't get fired for "incompetence" because of bad testing averages, etc. It just sucks all around. The teacher isn't a babysitter or able to be 1 on 1 with 15-30 kids 100% of the time (ironically its just plain math).
@@codywhitfield4553 but it can also lead to one-up-manship, if going for the "ignore it method". Trying to test where the absolute limit is or just how much can be tolerated.
@laumanneal it's also a timing thing. If the class is supposed to be quiet and listening or working then yes correct the behavior. If its just a free time then it's a different story.
@@sourisvoleur4854They haven’t outgrown attention seeking behavior, though. What they have done is reach an age where something like Mia said can be catastrophic, so I think they’re both brats.
Story two, if theres any doorbell cam footage of that interaction, save it. If you dont have a camera overlooking where your dog is likely to be, get some. From the sheer number of stories ive seen of people poisoning their neighbor's dogs or otherwise hurting them, i wont put anything past anybody.
That second story gives me legit "Welcome to Night City!" vibes... OP's being pestered by a no-name jock all because the gonk is worried their infant daughter will run like a lemming to his house at the sound of her name? And why? Because her name is the same as OP's dog and that jock is apparently powerless to stop any of this? To me, his intentions are clear. "YOU'RE the problem because I want there to be a problem."
The comment that one person made in story 2 about getting a second dog and naming it after the neighbor's wife reminded me of a petty revenge story I heard ages ago. A guy gets into a bitter divorce and ends up living next door to his ex. The guy gets a female dog and names it after the ex, and all so that whenever he called her in after potty breaks, he'd be able to yell "EX-NAME, YOU B*TCH!!!"
There is no way to act in an adult way when you lose a parent regardless of the age. So yeah he is a bad father and I would say the same if it was the mother who acted the same way.
You know what about the first story? Going no contact is an option, but why not add some salt in the wound? Everytime he would try to contact op, she should call him by his first name and not the dad title.
Or refer to him as “stepsister’s stepdad”. It sounds like OP basically did cut all contact but her chromosomal contributor found out she did something through the grapevine. I hope OP is getting therapy if possible.
Re: the last story: there's recorded evidence of the teacher doing what she can to stop Mia, which really just amounts to verbal redirects that Mia ignores, knowing nothing can be done to her. The teacher isn't at fault the administration that isn't backing her is. But the story recently had a minor update. _OTHER PARENTS_ were pissed that OP's daughter was sent to the principal and asked for an apology. With the mounting parental outrage, the administration insists that 'new policies' will be enacted to discipline disruptive students, but OP doesn't yet know what that means.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 That Mia's antics are preventing others from enjoying school? She _is_ preventing others from enjoying school. No one wants to waste 8-9 hours of their day because of someone else's BS and then still be held responsible for the material you didn't get to learn as a result of it.
@@ifoundhisjams4075the truth hurts sometimes. Maybe now Mia will realize she’s not the darling center of attention she thinks she is and actually start behaving.
@@melissaconnellyjones2622her words were extreme tho. Saying things like this is why no one wants to be friends with you is really shitty. We don’t know if that kid has any other issues like neurodivergency.
Story 5: I’m a teacher and one of the most annoying parts of my job IS the class clown. In some classes they are loud so it is easy to kick them out when they disturb other students’ learning. However, the worst class clowns are the clever ones. The ones that do annoying things behind the teachers’ backs. We KNOW they are doing something but we can’t catch them. It is SO aggravating. I had this scenario happen where the class clown was whispering AWFUL things so only the six or so classmates around him could hear. While some giggled, another kid snapped. I turned to see one of my most quiet students standing up and yelling “Shut up! Shut the fuck up! You are a horrible person!” Let me tell you, the room went quiet and the class clown looked like a deer in the headlights. I took the quiet student into the hallway and asked what was said. It was sexist, homophobic, just awful. I sent that quiet student to our counselor and then pulled a kid I trusted into the hallway to tell me what they heard. Exact same comments were repeated and I nailed the class clown to the wall. He was OSS for a week. Apparently he thought LGBTQIA jokes were great, he found out quickly that the school administration did not agree nor did our state laws. The worst part, his parents were not complacent. They were grounding him, taking his phone, and more. He just was awful in behavior and being a class clown made him so much worse.
OK but this girl didn't do none of that, they could've just sent her out since she was just dancing and singing. And u can tell this class clown isnt malicious cuz she didn't cuss Mia out, she just cried. Mia didn't need to say all of that nobody likes u thing.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 the point is, a student snapped. That only happens when the behavior is repeated and distracting. Trust me, I’m not saying OPs kid wasn’t harsh, she was, but distractions can be very hard for some learners. I have had to accommodate kids who have a hard time completing work in large classes due to the ambient noise. I don’t want to “blame” anyone because the class clown could just be untreated ADHD, OPs daughter could be OCD, and the teacher might be stuck with an abnormally large class where it is hard to manage all the kids.
Absolutely adore that doctors will refuse to see you if you’re five minutes late to your appointment, but then show up 45 minutes late like it’s nothing :)
OP2: The nerve of some people. We had a German Shepherd named Gunther that we got shortly after we moved into a new house. There was a kid a few houses down with the same name. Everyone thought it was funny. So NTA and be ready to call the police if this harassment persists.
The Charlotte story reminded me of when I worked as a receptionist for a doctor's office. I called and asked if I had reached someone who could speak for "Amy." The lady blew up about how would I know about her daughter's name and why on earth would I need to speak to a minor. After a minute or so of being called a pedo, stalker and every other cruel name, she paused for a moment, giving me time to very calmly continue. "This is "Dr, Bob's" office reminding the guardian of "Amy" of her appointment tomorrow at 2." Her tune drastically changed, and the apologies that came next was almost tearful.
With the last story while it was a bit rude of her to say "that's why no one likes you" I do agree that they shouldn't be that disruptive. In school, I was the kind of person who can't focus if there's too much noise. I've tried to block it out but I can't. And sadly I had some rude classmates I had to deal with.
Also, according to an update this had been a weekly or more often occurrence for 6 months, with at least 10 other parents complaining about the same kid making disruptions.
Omg imagine hating your child just because she wasn't willing to so easily replace there mother as he was, op you're nta your dad is a major jerk and I'd tell him to go "enjoy his new family then *his first name*"
There was absolutely nothing to show that he hates his daughter? What should the dad do never move on and be sad just to make the entitled daughter happy? He already waited 3 years before deciding to be happy again by the way you talk about it you would think it was 3 days later. The kid got jealous that there was another kid in the house that was taking attention away from the daughter. Why do you think the dad said that to his best mate ? That he hopes she grows distant when she is a teenager like literally every teenager on the planet does. The daughter was being a selfish entitled brat that couldn't stand her dad spending time with other kids so she purposely stopped spending time with him to hurt him but it ended up back firing in her face because the dad realised his step daughter is a better person and more fun to spend time with then his own daughter. She literally said her life was perfect until her mom died so she clearly didn't have a bad dad then. She's found out what happens when you are insufferable to be around.
@@bonghittaz1502 Nothing to show that he hates his daughter? He cussed her out when she told him about her feelings! Do you really think even after 3 years that a 11 year old girl would get over her moms death?? You're really delousional, if you think that. The right way her dad could have handled this is to spend time with both girls, help them to form a sister relationship with one another. Not to neglect his own daughter for the sake of his stepdaughter. He never even noticed that OP was pulling away from him until his stepdaughter didn't want to spend as much time anymore.
The irony in the first story that the 'dad' hoped OP would hit the 'teenager who doesn't want their parent around' phase, and it hit the kid they *wanted* to spend time with instead. Karma, thou art a funny wench.
Story 2: My cousin had a dog who had a similar name to my classmate back in the 6 or 7th grade. Bro was so mad at me when she heard it; I was like 'I didn't even name the dog, my cousin did'. She was offended like I gave a damn about how she felt. We were not even friends for real mxm. She did get teased for a while which I felt bad but she wanted to take it out on me
Story 2: why would he immediately assume you know that girl's name? They only just moved in and wasn't he outside with his daughter shouldn't have seen you were talking to your dog? You don't just go up to a stranger and demand they do anything with their lives that doesn't concern you, the next time he thinks he's being intimidating ask him if he wants to fight you or f*** you since he's staring at you like it supposed to mean something. Rude a-hole.
@@thetruth1223and who will walk OP down the aisle? He just wants to “play dad” and now that his favorite toy wants distance, he thinks he can grab OP out from the bottom of the dusty attic and all will be well.
@lorilancaster5917 straight facts.. " why did you ask your boyfriend/ fiance dad to walk you down the aisle I am your father young lady I am not a narcissist I totally am self aware"..
There was an update on the last story: Update 1: So, some stuff has happened since it posted this, it got out what my daughter did to the other parents, and they have sent me email receipts of how many times they tried to get the school to do something about Mia. Most of the parents are pissed Ava had to go to the principals.
The principal has sent an email about conduct in the classroom and a new policy that if kids disrupt a class, they will be taking action. Don’t know what that means yet.
It likely just means that they acknowledge that the parents are upset and are sent a notice informing them they will do a reworded version of what they’ve been doing.
OP #1 should have a frank discussion with her step sister. Getting that close to his step daughter and excluding his own sends up more than a few red flags.
I bet the doctor was late or was absent and they were desperately trying to find someone to fill in so they could keep the money. Also not only was it a massive fire hazard, they were also committing a felony but holding OP hostage. If OP does make that call, several medical licenses are going to be stripped away.
Last story: agree, shouldn't have course but not wrong for anything else, I'm all for the class clown they usually bring a bit of fun to school but if it's not fun and just annoying and distracting then someone needs to tell them, at most I would just tell my daughter not to curse like that in class and maybe grab the teacher mostly as a formality because the teacher can stop it without getting punished.
“I will admit you did stoop to her level…” Nope. No such thing. Stop it. It’s not stopping to her level, it’s returning the same energy. She started it. NEVER apologize for ending it.
Story 3, OP is completely right. It’s one thing for the roommate to disagree with the general politics of America provided she was actually factual and empathetic…and that she was actually able to see the problem in our own country (I’m from London too) since it’s messy here too…I’m pretty sure there are a few countries that could wail on both of us pretty fairly 😂 don’t throw stones in glass houses
The last story, Op's kid made a child cry publicly by insulting her. She needs an apology. There was so many better ways to handle that, agreed not from a child, but that child was still a bully.
She wasn’t. Mia has been making class a nightmare for 5 months without stopping What the daughter did wasn’t bullying, it was breaking and lashing out at someone who’s been intentionally disrupting class And she was right, Mia was making class not fun and her behavior will make it so no one will like her
Room Door story: NTA. Not only is this completely unprofessional, but it's a fire hazard as RSlash said. OP probably would've been justified to break down the door as it could be viewed as wrongful imprisonment. Not really any benefit on staying on good terms with this place if they won't even see OP.
I'm imagining being that kid in the last story, having to listen to some annoying brat dance and sing while I'm desperately trying to focus, and all I know is that at a certain point, I'm going to get overstimulated, and that means that I have 3 options: have a full meltdown in class (never. I would rather die), leave, or tell her off, and I'm going to get in trouble no matter what, so I might as well tell that obnoxious ahole to stfu. She did the best thing she could do for that kid, honestly.
There was a story where a divorcing couple had a large lot. So they agreed the husband would build a new home on the other end of the property. Once he moved in, he got a female dog, and named it after his ex-wife. So his ex got to hear "Name, you b***h, quit digging in the flowers!" "Name, you b***h, quit (urinating) on the porch!" The ex of course sued, but lost. The dog was legally registered with that name, and she was female.
For the last story, (speaking as a teacher myself) the teacher probably has tried many times to control the behavior to no avail. Sometimes the kids need to hear it from their peers for stuff to change.
I work in education as well. It is challenging to control the behavior and having it coming from a fellow student should be the wake up call for the Class Clown to realize that there is a time to learn (in the classroom) and there is a time to act out (either at recess, between classes, or in that time in the classroom before the next class starts).
Story 4: Also write a review online explaining everything and how spiteful the nasty nurses were, and change to a different doctor. People always expect nurses to be angelic people, but in my experience most of them are just bullies who enjoy having power over the vulnerable and infirm. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if they have deliberately not fixed the door issue just to mess with patients, for their own entertainment.
Sounds like in his mindset, he wasn’t abusing OP. He just thought OP and her emotions were like a doll he can keep in a closet for him to play with only when he wants. OP gave him a much needed reality check he’s to ignorant to deposit.
Room door story: call a safety inspector on them bcz that is very much a lawsuit waiting to happen, actually ask a lawyer some questions bcz they also held you against your will in a way after that and if you can file a lawsuit do that then call the safety inspector bcz it doesn’t seem they care about their patients
The daughter should apologize. Not because she was wrong for expressing that she would like the girl to shut up, but for the way she did it. It would be one thing if she just said “can you shut the f up?” But she went much further than that. There was no need to tell the poor girl that nobody liked her and that she was the reason nobody likes school.
The doctor’s office story- why didn’t OP cause a scene about them locking her in the room? I would’ve been LOUD. “You all HEARD ME KNOCKING AND CHOSE TO LEAVE ME LOCKED IN THAT F’N OFFICE FOR 45 MINUTES?!” I would’ve gone full-on Karen- managers everywhere. Lol! And yes - I would let them know to expect the fire Marshall.
Final Story - Op should encourage Mia to apologize, but only for the "nobody likes you/school because of you" portion of her outburst, but double down on telling the girl to "sit down and STFU". This way the clown and her mother can't use mia's rudeness as an excuse not to address their own inappropriate behavior. Besides, Two wrongs don't make a right anyway, just an ESH.
BTW, Mia was at this for five months. So this wasn’t some sudden rude outburst. Mia HAS been causing msxhiol to be not fun and has made kids not like her and I say OP’s daughter and OP are NTA
So let me get this straight with Story 4: the doctors office has extreme attendance policies against patients but neglects their own attendance. They have a known health-&-safety-hazard door and they don't warn the patient, prop it open while the patient is waiting or rush to said patient when they start making it clear they want and/or need to be let out? Absolutely take this to the police. What if you were in medical distress? What if there was a fire in the building and you were TRAPPED by that door? I guarantee you not ONE of the staff members would have paused to think 'oh yeah, this one door that always breaks and can't open from the inside has a patient behind it. better let them out too!' They MIGHT remember once they're outside- MIGHT. And /maybe/ they'd even say something to the emergency responders so you can be rescued. Unlikely, though, they'd probably keep hush to minimize the trouble they'd be in with ignorance of the dangerous situation. Either way; OP needs to report that safety violation at that office.
Lol my uncle accidentally named his puppy the same nickname we used for my sis. 29 years later, same sis named her daughter the same nickname we use for our dog. I just call my dog by her whole name or her other nickname when they're over.
What people don’t get about classroom management is that many of the kids who are acting out have 504 plans or IEPs with concrete rules about dealing with their specific behaviors. The teachers can be fantastic but have their hands tied by a bunch of BS paperwork that parents and admin put in place barring certain kids from being disciplined in the classroom. “Planned ignoring” is often the first required step in these horribly behaved kids’ discipline plans. It isn’t always the teacher and she doesn’t necessarily “suck” at her job based on this snippet of a story.
Hi, IEP student here (former, at least). Some of those students, like myself, needed those behavior plans. I need a safety net because I had mental issues (Autism umbrella, though dyspraxia doesn’t really fit the mental part) in order to keep up with my classmates, and I needed unlimited access to the bathroom, but I was never a disruptive kid. It’s not the 504 plans, it’s the parenting or what’s going on in Mia’s home.
5th story: I don't fault OP's daughter the slightest. I moved around a lot as a kid, so I went to several different schools, and I realized that 9/10 times the "class clown" is just an asshole. Their idea of a joke is to be as annoying as possible at all times and make class miserable for everyone. One such "class clown" climbed a book case and started throwing pencils at people. And several of my classmates for some reason found that hilarious. I know damn well that if I had done that, nobody would have laughed. But this guy got a pass for some reason. Some of the "class clowns" I encountered just used the title as an excuse to bully the less popular kids "as a joke". I only met one class clown that was actually funny, in a way that wasn't disruptive, and wasn't just mean to people. One. Frankly, I think the "class clown" in this story got off easy with what OP's daughter said.
I think 1. Ur too harsh if OP had just stopped at stfu I could agree with u but the rest of what she said was very mean 2. Ur projecting this girl did not do nothing to harm any of the other children, teacher should've sent her out the class or call her parents. THey both got in trouble.
I have been the butt of others like this before, and it's not fun. I'm just genuinely trying to have fun when I'm caught off guard by someone being so cruel and mean. There are nicer ways to get someone who is genuinely having fun to tone it down. She wasn't harming anyone, and it sounded like she want disrupting much.
@@ifoundhisjams4075Read the update, literally all other parents are supporting OP, and have already mentioned that they've sent countless complaints to the school about Mia disrupting their children! I bet the principal is railing her mother... Or in the best case... Black mailing the principal with something. Because Mia is more Menace than Dennis.
I'm not so sure about that. Judging from what the daughter said to her, I'm kind of wondering if maybe she's neurodivergent and was acting out. If I had to guess, I would say that the mom's use of the word "class clown" is code for "that weird girl that people avoid talking to." The reason I say this was because I was that kind of kid when I was at that age, and while my disruptive behavior should have been corrected, being told by other kids that "no one likes you" is the kind of shit that stays with you and really messes with your self-confidence.
Doctor office story: Only 1.5/5? Really? Then endangered lives by using that room for their patients. At minimum, 4/5 because of the number of people they've likely seen, but 5/5 if any children were trapped in there.
In the dog story, if I was the neighbor, I probably would have the same initial reaction, but as soon as I found out the truth of the situation I would very much go hard in the opposite direction, asking if it would be okay for me and the daughter to come visit the dog that had the same name as her. Honestly, I might have ended up being just as annoying, but in another way.
Last Story: OP needs to get her daughter to apologize for what her daughter said. First she cussed the girl out. Where'd she learned that? Then she said that no one liked the girl. That is cruel and not necessarily true. Her daughter could have said that the girl needed to sit down and pay attention like the rest of the class but she didn't have to add all that extra venom. Also, sounds like the girl has ADHD and needs to be put in a classroom that can handle her outbursts.
In the last story there's been an update. After hearing about the incident, other parents contacted OP with proof that the "class clown" had been disruptive for (iirc) 5 months. The teacher had been trying to get her to behave that day and she wasn't listening. Again! That's when OP's daughter snapped. So the group of parents are probably going to move forward to demand action from the school.
its the fact they HEARD OP knocking on the door trying to leave. Bro SAY SOMETHING dont just stand there when you CLEARLY hear a patent in distress! What if op was having a heart attack, stroke, asthma attack and couldn't speak for whatever reason??? Even if its annoying that a patent decides to leave after they check in, they have every right too, they technically were holding op hostage and if he did call the fire dept op would have every right too.
Story 3: I have to call out something, there is a legal professor who intentionally uses multiple choice tests, do you know why? Because you can't get partial credit by just writing some BS answer, you HAVE to know the material well to pass the final test. And in my experience, very few tests were multiple choice, they were usually hybrid(Both written and choice based answers).
... "You HAVE to know"? Why? Literally why would you believe that? Do tou also believe every Lotto winner can see into the future? The problem with multiple choice is that the Correct Answer MUST already be on the Test. And just as much as random people can win the lottery, any kid can get a 100% in multiple choice with 0 knowledge about the topic. Only if the correct answer ins't available anywhere in the test, including the questions, descriptions and answers of all other questions, THAN a kid MUST know the answer to get 100%
@@Robin93k Do you want to know the reason he did this, because to many students would give 'half right' answers that allowed them to pass the class, but then would fail the bar exam. He literally switched to this system, particularly for the final exam, because it reduced the students who passed his class on borderline luck, yet it also increased the number of students who would go on to pass the bar exam. He's teaching future Lawyers/Paralegals, they need to be fully aware there is no bullshitting your way through a question, you have to definitively right if you want to go places. You are talking about getting a 100%, I am talking about getting enough points to pass. There is a distinct difference. If you have 10 questions each worth 10 points, and you 5 questions right and 5 questions with partial answers on a written test. You get a C grade. But if you answer questions at random and get 6 questions right on a multiple choice, you get a D grade, which is failing in the US. Mind you, 70% or above in Britain is an A. So the US has much stricter margins of error for their tests as well. Multiple choice tests in Britain wouldn't work because the passing grade is as low as 40%.(At least from what I can gather)
First story: Eff him. What a horrible, evil person. Hopefully OP will send him the link to the AITA page, so he can read the completely independent and unbiased verdict from everyone telling him what an absolutely sh!tty and disgusting "father" he is, then go totally no contact with him.
I feel for the daughter in the last story. When i was in high school i was in color guard (the flags during a marching band performance). We were told to take our rifles home to practice. This is a solid piece of wood wrapped in white tape. You can’t mistake it for a real gun. I was fine all day until i got to spanish class were a kid who routinely bullied me told the teacher i had a gun. She called me to the front i showed it to her and she told me to sit back down. She went back to the hall because teachers were required to be in the hall during passing period. He mouthed under his breath, "I guess she doesn't care if I (him) die." I told hom to shut the f*** up because this was years of dealing with him and the popular crowd. The tracher had just happened to come back in and I got a write up and was sent to the office. On the way to the office I called my mom and while i was talking to the school cop (because cursing in school is punishable by a $500 fine and a citation from the cop) my mom arrived and told them they're lucky it's all I said because these kids had been bullying me for years and no one at the school had done anything. She checked me out and took me for lunch after that. The other kid never got in trouble for anything and i was blamed by the assistant principal because why didn't i take my equipment for a school team to his office until the end of the day. So no, the mom was in the right and i wouldn't make the kid apologize either.
I hate people who disrupt class. Because of those kinds of idiots we fell behind in bio and didn’t get to dissect. I was also annoyed at the teacher who would entertain their bull. But you can’t really tell a student to shut up without a parent being up an arms. Wish they’d be up arms about disciplining their evil spawn.
For being locked in the room, in addition to the fire marshal, OP should also contact the police. Since they knew she was in there and wanted out, but they intentionally kept her there, that's false imprisonment in most places.
For the last story, the only thing her daughter did was use profanity, but everyone has their breaking point and it was one curse, so it can be forgiven. Students have a right to a peaceful, nondisrupted education. If adults are not going to uphold that right by repremanding class clowns and other disruptive students, students have a right to call that behavior out. If she has to make an apology, my ideal one would be "I'm not sorry for what I said, I'm sorry for how I said it.".
students also have a right to not be told that nobody likes them (id argue that thats borderline bullying). both kids suck. the disruptive one and ops kid just straight up being mean. two wrongs dont make a right.
i'm not saying I agree with what was said or how, i'm just saying, again, that if adults will not withhold the right to a peaceful education, the students that come to school to learn have the right to stand up for their studies.
As someone who was always told "no one likes you" in school, this story really hurt me and I do think the daughter should apologize for saying that :(@FrogAtPond
@@meowmeow2634yeah. I don’t think it’s nessicarily bad that a kid told another kid to be quiet, but to say that and then have no repercussions? Crazy take.
The door story I was thinking what happened if there was a fire, I bet no one would’ve come for OP and they definitely should call the fire department about it
For the last story, bear in mind 2 things. 1) Some schools have cursing written into their handbook as a detention or suspension worthy offense. So I would caution OP to read her daughter's school handbook. 2) While it's none of OP's business, the other daughter may actually have Autism and/or ADHD, and if it is something that has actually been diagnosed and the school knows about, this may be why the teacher does nothing when the other child sings or dances in class.
The door doesn’t work, they’ve know. About it for weeks or months, and don’t feel it fixed? Yeah, that’s an easy lawsuit for major negligence and fire code violations
Last story I'm gonna say Mia's owed an apology for being told 'nobody likes you', that is a bit harsh and probably said to hurt. It is, however, absolutely fair that OP's daughter told her to shut up. Sometimes the disruptive student cannot be controlled by adult interference, and as a member of any group (class, adult hobby, movie goers, restaurant patron, whatever) you ARE allowed to let your peers know 'you are being disruptive, would you keep it down as I can't concentrate in this noise'.
Honestly story 1: OP's dad's got a point, if he was talking about an ADULT feeling the way they did, The fact OP felt that way AS A CHILD and HE never did anything to discourage those thoughts IS HIS FAULT
the doctor story, op could have had an heart attack or a seizure or ANYTHING for that matter and died since they did not react too the distress of Op's knocking. report the clinic too a medical board since they actively ignored a possible medical emergency.
Last story had an update OP isn't the first one to complain about the kid, but the school isn't doing anything about it. this is less a case of a few, and more 'a lot of us'
Story 1: for the record know that's not the normal thing for parents to help for, usually they want to spend my time with teenagers because they want them to build a social life but still do spend time with them. He doesn't get to be mad that you gave him what he wanted as an emotional child, so much of your life with changing at such a young age but he cared more about himself then he did for you, now he can't figure out why that bit him in the butt years later and would rather blame you than be a half decent man. Screw him, he doesn't deserve you.
I was also an annoying class clown, but I'd stop when my classmates told me to stop. There's putting someone in their place and being downright mean. And what Mia said after the stfu was really mean and the other girl didn't deserve that.
Last story: I understand where the daughter is coming from completely. Class clowns in my experience are funny to most of the class, but to students who just want to get their work done peacefully, they're just a**holes.
I mean she could've stopped at stfu? U don't think what miss girl said was even a little mean, they both got in trouble and I think saying no one likes u to the other kid took it way too far
Finally a comment with reason!@@ifoundhisjams4075 Everyone here is trying to villanize and justify bullying a girl who was singing in class? Why take it to insults by not just OP's child, but a grown ass adult man too because again, someone was noisy during class. Grow up everyone else. That was too far.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 right???? im surprised how nobody has said anything about what ops daughter said. this could have been a learning experience to teach ops daughter that you dont say shit like that to other people but instead she didnt get "punished" for what she said, probably making her believe its okay to bully people. this recent "if they go low we go lower" mentality is honestly concerning.
@@ifoundhisjams4075they both got sent to the office, the post didn’t say they both got in trouble. And since her behavior is a regular occurrence I sincerely doubt she has EVER faced punishment for it. Why is it fine for her to constantly disrupt and disrespect both the teacher and other students who are trying to learn? The comment may have been harsh, but that girl needed a reality check and no one else was willing to do it.
Third story: not only is OP’s roommate a hypocrite but she is literally a rich person in the audience laughing at the prisoners about to be executed in the gallows
She's not in the audience... She's next in line, but too stupid to see where she's heading... Basically in Germany the rule to differentiate northern Europeans is: Baltics dress like Onions in the cold. Scandinavians don't dress much at all in the cold. Brits are too fat to feel the cold.
Story 4: That is 100% on the office to fix, if not the office the building owner/management company. That is one of two terrible situations: 1, patient takes the opportunity to ransack and steal from the whole room, or two there's an emergency and the patient is TRAPPED in that room. Then it's on the office, the building owner and management to compensate. Not to mention the possible legal issues that could come from the more than just the mentioned issues above. Medical offices should not have doors with locks for patient rooms ever (and if a door gets stuck it shouldn't be a room that is used until it's fixed.) OP needs to find a new doctor's office, call the fire marshal and their insurance to report that.
The Doctor's Office Story OP shouldn't be embarrassed. They should be contacting the authorities about being involuntarily held against their will and the Medical Board for their pathetic ethics at that disgusting Doctor's Office. YES CALL THE FIRE MARSHALL!!!!!!!! CALL THE STATE MEDICAL BOARD ABOUT THEIR BEHAVIOR!!!! IT'S A LITERAL SAFETY ISSUE!!!!
As someone who works in medical my god do I wish we had a five minute policy. I feel like our doctor is constantly running 45 minutes behind because we're constantly seeing people who are 20 minutes late. It's so stupid because it punishes people who are being punctual to appease people who don't give a s*** about anybody else. On the patient side of things, if that happened to me I probably wouldn't ever come back
Story 1: I, ever the skeptic, don’t quite trust OP’s story. I mean, it may be the truth, but to me, it sounds like she left some stuff out to make her sound better/like the victim. She outright admitted that she was jealous that her dad was trying to bond with his stepdaughter (unlike so many stepparents that just treat their stepkids like trash) She hated that there were other people in her dad’s life that he cared about besides her. Now, I do understand to an extent that she would be a bit possessive because he’s the only parent she had left, but it’s not like so many of these other stories where he just ran out and got married 6 months later. So like how long were he and stepmom together before getting married? Were the kids introduced to each other? Where was the stepdaughter’s dad? Was he dead too? Were there times when dad would try and spend time with OP but she rebuffed him because she hated the fact that he had another daughter? Did OP act like a complete brat and even though the dad tried, she wasn’t having any of it? (I mean, was dad supposed to stay single for the rest of his life?) This is all quite possible and remember: we are only getting one side of the story. And I’m not trying to blame OP for how things went down with her dad. I’m just naturally skeptical anyway. If everything really did happen the way OP described, that really sucks. But I honestly do question her story.
4th story. Well that place commited a crime forced confinement, apart from what Rslash says too. Sounds like a lawsuit is VERY much on the table in my view (unless they see sense and opting to pay you for it...(yes the lawsuit wouldn't result in a major payout... but the PR for the doctors office would be devestating. 5th Story: NAITA, and Principal should just go "mia you acted disorderly detention for X days/weeks. OP: Next time just tell the teacher if he/she don't shut Mia down come to me will you?"
Story 4: So, they ALL heard OP trapped inside a room, did absolutely nothing about it and were smug about it?
Major fire hazard aside, that clinic is begging for a lawsuit...
Step 1: find a new doctor Step 2: Call the fire marshall Step 3: Post about the experience on review site.
@@fdm2155 straight facts ...
From reading the comments as I listen, I assumed it would be douchebag friends trapping someone in a room, but a clinic?! Yep, fire service.
@@fdm2155 Step 4: Have a lawyer at the ready.
Nobody wanted to deal with it because in their eyes it's "not their problem" that the door sticks so OP should make it their problem by calling the fire marshall! Seeing this level of gross negligence at a doctor's office is scary since doctors are the one profession paid to give a damn about the survival of their patients! If their patients are hurt or die because of something as stupid as a doorknob jamming that is career-ending for the practice and any doctor associated with it! The facilities are falling apart and the wait time for *scheduled* appointments is 45 mins? Yeah, I would have gone somewhere else by now and left a bad review on any sight that would let me...
That medical clinic definitely needs a visit from the Fire Marshall if they have patient room doors that won't open from the inside.
I mean, what do they do when the doctor goes in there? Confidentiality would require she shut the door during exams, so if she gets stuck will the receptionists still be all smug? How stupid!
I 100% agree! I was thinking the same thing!
"What's that? a door that is *KNOWN* for locking people inside... of a clinic?!" **Says the most excited Fire Marshal given the clear cut case of a fire safety violation**
Story 4: So they just ignored you? They knew the door was broken and that a patient was in there, but they didn't care until it got too annoying? On top of it being a fire hazard what if you were having some sort of medical emergency? How often do they just ignore people for over an hour because they just don't feel like dealing with them then look at them funny when you're the one who should be pissed. Oh OP most definitely need to report them to the fire Marshals and anyone else who can put a stop to this behavior.
Exactly! How is that not a fire hazard? Or if OP was having a medical emergency? Or a panic attack about being confined? Or any number of other things? Not the least of which could be false imprisonment. They knew the door knob was broken and there was no way to willingly leave the room and they're just ...what? ... fine with it??
Agreed, it makes you wonder what other violations that building has if their doors wont open from the inside, sounds like a fire hazard AND a major OSHA violation to boot. That staff also acted very unprofessional to poor OP.
Also how stupid of the neighbor to not realize his kid doesn't have a monopoly on the name? What if OP had a 6 year old daughter named Charlotte? Would he still demand a name change? Would he change his kid's name? LOL Dude is not the brightest bulb...
I'm very claustrophobic, and all my drs know. Those little rooms are suffocating small to me.
You put me in a room and lock me in its bad.
But they heard him try to get out and did nothing? Idiots would be getting a visit from the fire marshal.
I can feel my blood pressure going up just thinking about it.
Elevators are my second worst fear. Geez
Yeah I'm tempted to make a reddit just to find that story and urge OP to do so
"Step daughter deserves a chance at a dad" "and I don't?"
I’m curious to know if stepdaughter’s father was even in the picture? OP didn’t say. I know it’s easy to assume that her dad is not around, however OPs “dad’s” mindset is unhealthy.
God that breaks my heart..........every child deserves a father in their life to love them and to teach them about the morals of life
Fourth story, time for a new doctor honestly. They knew for some time, they got angry at you for being locked in a door and asking to be let out, all while never actually getting to you? Why bother going back?
I was thinking the same thing. Also if I respect you enough to be on time you should respect me enough to see me promptly. Years ago, we had a clinic covered by my insurance that had a check in time of 15 minutes before your appointment. Most times you were done BEFORE your scheduled time. Miss those days.
Agreed, I work at a GP clinic and I would be embarrassed if a patient waited almost an hour AND was locked in the room. Also, Rslash makes a good point about it being a safety hazard
I also think OP should report the place because of the door and that an entire staff of people heard OP ask for help and their response was “we heard but felt like your actions were uncalled for”. As RSlash and others commented, this is a safety hazard. What if OPs bladder was bad and needed to pee? What if OP was claustrophobic?
@lorilancaster5917 what if op was having a medical emergency? That's intentional manslaughter if op passed away.
And I'd wager that if the lock on that room is messed up there are definitely other fire hazards there OP hasn't seen as well
As someone who suffers from claustrophobia from time to time, the idea of not being able to get out of any room is absolutely horrifying. And I have opened exam room doors when doctors are very behind just because I didn’t think I could breathe anymore (windowless rooms). For them to have a lock that they know is broken and to continue using it is absolutely reprehensible.
That door has a long list of issues it could cause the clinic, especially with how they react to the door being stuck and I hope it does cause problems for them! It is a hazard on so many levels and their nonchalant attitude about it is concerning.
I was actually thinking about people who suffer from claustrophobia who would get stuck in a room like that. Phobias are no joke!
@@Artretha there’s a reason I’d never go to one of those escape rooms! 😳😫
My father did the same thing when our family friend and her son moved in for a while. He was my age. They'd go out together all the time and I'd watch them leave, waiting for an invite that never came. I always thought my father just didn't really like kids. It turns out he just really didn't like girls. He came in one day boasting that he'd just given the paperboy 20 dollars for Christmas. This was after my 10th or 11th year on earth with zero birthday or Christmas presents from him.
That's awful. So what happened later on?
That’s horrible, I hope you found some people who do appreciate you
I'm so sorry to hear that. Something similar happened with my stepfather. Once his "own" child was born, he completely dropped my sister, who he was not the bio dad of. The youngest became incredibly spoilt and both my sisters can not get along at all because the younger one instigates. Hope you cut off that sperm donor and found better people to be around.
WOW!! 😞 What a sack of shit! I'm so sorry that happened to you 💔 I hope you're doing ok
Sorry you put up with that. Your father is an arse.
I hope you have nothing else to do with him now.
Story 3: the roommate definitely was taking jabs at OP with her comments. Thinking from a mean girl's perspective, she was probably jealous of OP & felt superior over the fact that she atlease grew up in the UK vs USA. So when op stated the reality of things btw them, she couldn't handle it & broke down.
First Story, OP is NTA, what he said is so nasty and he isn't a dad, he is a dude who donated life essence so you could live
Yeah absolutely insane to call her disgusting for literally just being a kid when she literally told him she heard all of those deeply hurtful things. Like he didn't even acknowledge any of that and just made her the problem instead
@@some_haqr On about a dad who was a huge jackass and then had the nerve to be upset when his daughter gave him what he wanted: less of her. What kid wouldn't be upset to over hear their dad saying that shit...much less a kid who'd lost their mom!?
@@some_haqrClearly you don't know what you're talking about
@@some_haqr hi op ex father....
@rundata she was a kid who lost her mum... and her dad too by the sounds of it. He said he didn't want her around.. so she wasn't around. Simples
Good on you for insisting that OP call the fire marshal. Very dangerous to have a patient in a room they can't get out of in an emergency. And I would seriously consider lodging a complaint about the staff to your doctor, and if the doc is meh about it, find a new one. Also, I don't schedule my appointments too close together for this reason.
It did sound like the doctors appointment were scheduled first, and the dentist one was an emergency one, aka not planned ahead of time, so it's not like they were intentionally put close together tho. It can happen. 45mins between the appointments subtracting travel time should have been enough if the doctor was on time. It's a bit infuriating that the doctor can refuse you if you're even 5 mins late, but theres absolutely no consecuences if they don't come see you in a timely manner
Wait... How is a 2 yr old gonna run out of the house into another person's home cuz her name got called?
Bad parenting mostly
Toddlers are known for their cleverness and deception. They are also escape artists.
My cousin youngest daughter when she was two thought she was being sneaky and took off with my cousin's Carmel Frappuccino. My cousin later noticed and her daughter giggle with amusement.
@@rochie4865yeah I see her running just to get away from her crazy dad.
@@Yumi_Jay So the dad could be worried that the kid will love the same name doggy next door and that she will use all her energy to try to get to it all day every day.
If the parents are completely clueless, then it could happen.
Parents in my area nap with their toddlers completely unattended and doors open to let in fresh air lmao.
I'm a Brit and the story about the Yank living in the UK and their British roommate bashing the US is dumb. The UK also has a obesity epidemic, not as bad as the US yet, but ours is due to the HUGE rise in the popularity of prioritising fast food over home cooking, due to time constraints and/or laziness of too many people. We had parents passing their kids McDonalds through school fencing when the school were forced to start serving healthier meals a few years back for F*cks sake!
yeah, all N. American and European countries suffer from obesity issues (maybe others too). i think the only thing that separates US is the way they are accommodating overweight people by for e.g. implementing mobility aids etc. and that makes them stand out from other countries.
Also, people think that the US is the fattest country in the world but it actually isn't. It's not even in the top 10. Lmao
@@happythecat3141 I think the US is the 14th or 15th fattest country
@@janew5550 What separates the US is how high the sugar content in their food is. They have started to sell US confectionery in the UK and it has twice to upwards to four times the sugar content ours does. US fast food companies had to alter their recipe's to be able to sell their food here (cutting down the salt, fat and sugar content). There are countless videos of Yanks trying McDonalds in Europe and saying how different (good) it tastes. I haven't tried original recipe McDonalds, so I can't tell if this is true of Influencer's trying to get clicks
Yes, years ago it was an American problem, but in more recent years it's largely a wealthy country problem.
I had the exact same situation happen to me in high school as the last story. Popular senior cheerleader would not stfu about how hot this guy is and she can’t wait for the game Friday and she’s getting new nails tonight and blah blah blah. LOUD AS HECK! In the middle of the classroom to her friend two rows over with me in between. I was failing chemistry and really wanted to hear so I could fix my grade so after 15 minutes of this and the teacher half heartedly “Anna please hush” a few times and I lost it. The entire class was in a sort of stunned silence for 30 seconds then the teacher just said “moving on.”
I so hope that guy shut Anna down
I feel like this is different. A cheerleader dominating class time is one thing. I have a suspicion the “class clown” was more like the class weirdo and they’re trying to make it sound like Mia didn’t just kidney punch a kid with social issues.
Story 2: what is with the new neighbor, who hasn't even introduced himself, automatically assuming malice about his kid's name??? How would OP have possibly known it?
Yeah, I think it's weird (and stupid) that he didn't ask OP if they had someone named Charlotte in their home. We had neighbors a block over who had three family members with our names. And these are not common super names: Think Hazel, Pierre and Angela as opposed to Jennifer, John and Mary. We always thought it was funny.
Dude sounds like a chadbro on a power trip.
@@ScooterBond1970Oh, yeah, dude’s a definite type. I remember spotting that brand of bull back in high school. One particular dude brought it to my attention… he wasn’t even that big or strong. Just a regular guy. But he was the kind that if some other guy bumped into him he’d jump back like a cat trying to look bigger and yell, “YOU WANNA STEP OUTSIDE?!?” I remember him doing that once in the lobby at a dance and everyone, including the guy he was yelling at, just staring for a second in universal confusion. Then a few people telling him to calm down, the room was crowded, blah blah. And of course he decided to be the bigger man and let it go. LOL, sure, bro.
Story 3: Mate, don't go constantly insulting everyone and everything if you don't want to get insulted too. Don't dish it out if you can't take it.
Like, she called Americans stupid, fat, and other crap, but then she gets called fat ONCE and she breaks down. Kinda like a lot of people featured in FatLogic
Hey at least she can do American-passing, she got the frame for it.
Kinda normal for British people, at least in the South-East. Luckily, the quarter Irish in me gives me some sense
I woulda clapped back asking about Britain's chronic dental issues, see if it's her poking fun or being a rude nationalist. Honestly, the vibes I got are that she's exactly the kind of British person that makes me consider the very phrase "British people" an oxymoron.
@@hiroshi7025 I’m 5’7/110lbs female and I’m American so how is fat an American frame? lol someone’s bitter. Did America hurt your feewings? I’ll spank ‘em for you
@@dividewalker5673that is very true I think they might also have genetically bad teeth but we don’t get dental here in America either unless we pay for it ourselves so idk
Hospital story: That hospital is just ASKING for a lawsuit. Doing nothing about a busted door while a patient is stuck on the other side of it is a lawsuit waiting to happen. NTA, but please call the fire marshal.
Last story: as someone related to a teacher, they are basically powerless to deal with students here in Australia. I aint surprised that kid did that and got away with it
I thought they both got in trouble
@@ifoundhisjams4075 it just says they were both sent to the principal, and it was only after the swear. So she presumably got away scott free
The daughter in the story was nasty.
In America, a lot of the time it's just that the teacher/school just doesn't care enough.
As a teacher in Australia, this is fairly true. And that's ignoring class sizes and underlying special needs. I know he meant well, RSlash's comment about the teacher made me sigh a little.
For the final story, it is too often that teachers and instructors are required to use gentle methods to curb this behavior, however, with small kids this goes as well as you can imagine. Sometimes the school will have resources to have additional aids to help manage these behaviors but often this is limited. Because the teacher has to get through the material for the students so that they don't get fired for "incompetence" because of bad testing averages, etc. It just sucks all around. The teacher isn't a babysitter or able to be 1 on 1 with 15-30 kids 100% of the time (ironically its just plain math).
I agree. Also that's attention seeking behavior. So giving that student the attention actually makes It worse. Being a teacher is a hard balance.
@@codywhitfield4553 but it can also lead to one-up-manship, if going for the "ignore it method". Trying to test where the absolute limit is or just how much can be tolerated.
@laumanneal it's also a timing thing. If the class is supposed to be quiet and listening or working then yes correct the behavior. If its just a free time then it's a different story.
14 year olds aren't small kids.
@@sourisvoleur4854They haven’t outgrown attention seeking behavior, though. What they have done is reach an age where something like Mia said can be catastrophic, so I think they’re both brats.
Story two, if theres any doorbell cam footage of that interaction, save it. If you dont have a camera overlooking where your dog is likely to be, get some. From the sheer number of stories ive seen of people poisoning their neighbor's dogs or otherwise hurting them, i wont put anything past anybody.
Thank you! OP shouldn’t take this matter casually because he sounds unhinged.
the neighbor should change his daughter's name
One must be stupid to name his dog Charlotte.
@@Thecommentator-hc1fz one must be stupid to name his child your name
That second story gives me legit "Welcome to Night City!" vibes...
OP's being pestered by a no-name jock all because the gonk is worried their infant daughter will run like a lemming to his house at the sound of her name?
And why? Because her name is the same as OP's dog and that jock is apparently powerless to stop any of this?
To me, his intentions are clear.
"YOU'RE the problem because I want there to be a problem."
The comment that one person made in story 2 about getting a second dog and naming it after the neighbor's wife reminded me of a petty revenge story I heard ages ago.
A guy gets into a bitter divorce and ends up living next door to his ex. The guy gets a female dog and names it after the ex, and all so that whenever he called her in after potty breaks, he'd be able to yell "EX-NAME, YOU B*TCH!!!"
By that logic he’s using his dog to vent his resentment towards his Ex.
There is no way to act in an adult way when you lose a parent regardless of the age. So yeah he is a bad father and I would say the same if it was the mother who acted the same way.
The adult way is any reasonable way such as crying, shutting down, being upset, etc as long as you don’t use it as an excuse to be a jerk
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 yea as long as not using it as an excuse. There are people that do it
Also, it seems that agreeing with whatever daddy dearest likes his reality to be is the only "adult way" he recognizes.
You know what about the first story? Going no contact is an option, but why not add some salt in the wound? Everytime he would try to contact op, she should call him by his first name and not the dad title.
Doesn't always work. I haven't called my father Dad since 2007 and he still hasn't noticed.
@@winterdemon1 damn I’m sorry.. forget him then. If he doesn’t care then he doesn’t even deserve to be your dad
Or refer to him as “stepsister’s stepdad”. It sounds like OP basically did cut all contact but her chromosomal contributor found out she did something through the grapevine. I hope OP is getting therapy if possible.
@starquaked oh he indeed doesn't deserve it. He sees me as the son he never wanted and somehow he's the victim.
@@winterdemon1 of course he is who else would he blame. It’s better to not even have a father than to have a shitty one
Re: the last story: there's recorded evidence of the teacher doing what she can to stop Mia, which really just amounts to verbal redirects that Mia ignores, knowing nothing can be done to her. The teacher isn't at fault the administration that isn't backing her is.
But the story recently had a minor update. _OTHER PARENTS_ were pissed that OP's daughter was sent to the principal and asked for an apology. With the mounting parental outrage, the administration insists that 'new policies' will be enacted to discipline disruptive students, but OP doesn't yet know what that means.
So everyone's just gonna ignore the last part of her statement.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 That Mia's antics are preventing others from enjoying school? She _is_ preventing others from enjoying school. No one wants to waste 8-9 hours of their day because of someone else's BS and then still be held responsible for the material you didn't get to learn as a result of it.
@@ifoundhisjams4075the truth hurts sometimes. Maybe now Mia will realize she’s not the darling center of attention she thinks she is and actually start behaving.
At this point, Mia’s parents should just home school her.
@@melissaconnellyjones2622her words were extreme tho. Saying things like this is why no one wants to be friends with you is really shitty. We don’t know if that kid has any other issues like neurodivergency.
Story 5: I’m a teacher and one of the most annoying parts of my job IS the class clown. In some classes they are loud so it is easy to kick them out when they disturb other students’ learning. However, the worst class clowns are the clever ones. The ones that do annoying things behind the teachers’ backs. We KNOW they are doing something but we can’t catch them. It is SO aggravating. I had this scenario happen where the class clown was whispering AWFUL things so only the six or so classmates around him could hear. While some giggled, another kid snapped. I turned to see one of my most quiet students standing up and yelling “Shut up! Shut the fuck up! You are a horrible person!” Let me tell you, the room went quiet and the class clown looked like a deer in the headlights. I took the quiet student into the hallway and asked what was said. It was sexist, homophobic, just awful. I sent that quiet student to our counselor and then pulled a kid I trusted into the hallway to tell me what they heard. Exact same comments were repeated and I nailed the class clown to the wall. He was OSS for a week. Apparently he thought LGBTQIA jokes were great, he found out quickly that the school administration did not agree nor did our state laws. The worst part, his parents were not complacent. They were grounding him, taking his phone, and more. He just was awful in behavior and being a class clown made him so much worse.
OK but this girl didn't do none of that, they could've just sent her out since she was just dancing and singing. And u can tell this class clown isnt malicious cuz she didn't cuss Mia out, she just cried. Mia didn't need to say all of that nobody likes u thing.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 the point is, a student snapped. That only happens when the behavior is repeated and distracting. Trust me, I’m not saying OPs kid wasn’t harsh, she was, but distractions can be very hard for some learners. I have had to accommodate kids who have a hard time completing work in large classes due to the ambient noise. I don’t want to “blame” anyone because the class clown could just be untreated ADHD, OPs daughter could be OCD, and the teacher might be stuck with an abnormally large class where it is hard to manage all the kids.
Absolutely adore that doctors will refuse to see you if you’re five minutes late to your appointment, but then show up 45 minutes late like it’s nothing :)
OP2: The nerve of some people. We had a German Shepherd named Gunther that we got shortly after we moved into a new house. There was a kid a few houses down with the same name. Everyone thought it was funny. So NTA and be ready to call the police if this harassment persists.
The op in the doctor story needs to call the fire Marshal, that's a huge fire hazard.
The Charlotte story reminded me of when I worked as a receptionist for a doctor's office.
I called and asked if I had reached someone who could speak for "Amy."
The lady blew up about how would I know about her daughter's name and why on earth would I need to speak to a minor.
After a minute or so of being called a pedo, stalker and every other cruel name, she paused for a moment, giving me time to very calmly continue.
"This is "Dr, Bob's" office reminding the guardian of "Amy" of her appointment tomorrow at 2."
Her tune drastically changed, and the apologies that came next was almost tearful.
With the last story while it was a bit rude of her to say "that's why no one likes you" I do agree that they shouldn't be that disruptive. In school, I was the kind of person who can't focus if there's too much noise. I've tried to block it out but I can't. And sadly I had some rude classmates I had to deal with.
Also, according to an update this had been a weekly or more often occurrence for 6 months, with at least 10 other parents complaining about the same kid making disruptions.
Op needs to call the inspectors for her town, the clinic is in breach of a fire hazard, they have to get that door fixed.
Omg imagine hating your child just because she wasn't willing to so easily replace there mother as he was, op you're nta your dad is a major jerk and I'd tell him to go "enjoy his new family then *his first name*"
There was absolutely nothing to show that he hates his daughter? What should the dad do never move on and be sad just to make the entitled daughter happy? He already waited 3 years before deciding to be happy again by the way you talk about it you would think it was 3 days later. The kid got jealous that there was another kid in the house that was taking attention away from the daughter. Why do you think the dad said that to his best mate ? That he hopes she grows distant when she is a teenager like literally every teenager on the planet does. The daughter was being a selfish entitled brat that couldn't stand her dad spending time with other kids so she purposely stopped spending time with him to hurt him but it ended up back firing in her face because the dad realised his step daughter is a better person and more fun to spend time with then his own daughter. She literally said her life was perfect until her mom died so she clearly didn't have a bad dad then. She's found out what happens when you are insufferable to be around.
@bonghittaz1502 wow you are an abuser never have kids ok
@@bonghittaz1502
Nothing to show that he hates his daughter? He cussed her out when she told him about her feelings! Do you really think even after 3 years that a 11 year old girl would get over her moms death?? You're really delousional, if you think that.
The right way her dad could have handled this is to spend time with both girls, help them to form a sister relationship with one another. Not to neglect his own daughter for the sake of his stepdaughter.
He never even noticed that OP was pulling away from him until his stepdaughter didn't want to spend as much time anymore.
The irony in the first story that the 'dad' hoped OP would hit the 'teenager who doesn't want their parent around' phase, and it hit the kid they *wanted* to spend time with instead.
Karma, thou art a funny wench.
Story 2: My cousin had a dog who had a similar name to my classmate back in the 6 or 7th grade. Bro was so mad at me when she heard it; I was like 'I didn't even name the dog, my cousin did'. She was offended like I gave a damn about how she felt. We were not even friends for real mxm. She did get teased for a while which I felt bad but she wanted to take it out on me
Story 2: why would he immediately assume you know that girl's name? They only just moved in and wasn't he outside with his daughter shouldn't have seen you were talking to your dog? You don't just go up to a stranger and demand they do anything with their lives that doesn't concern you, the next time he thinks he's being intimidating ask him if he wants to fight you or f*** you since he's staring at you like it supposed to mean something. Rude a-hole.
Story 1: OP’s dad said he wanted her to lose interest in him, well he got what he wanted so what is he complaining about?
He can't get a kidney from her since she pulled away from him so that's one reason....
@@thetruth1223and who will walk OP down the aisle? He just wants to “play dad” and now that his favorite toy wants distance, he thinks he can grab OP out from the bottom of the dusty attic and all will be well.
@lorilancaster5917 straight facts.. " why did you ask your boyfriend/ fiance dad to walk you down the aisle I am your father young lady I am not a narcissist I totally am self aware"..
That his preferred child also lost interest and his backup child isn't playing ball.
There was an update on the last story:
Update 1: So, some stuff has happened since it posted this, it got out what my daughter did to the other parents, and they have sent me email receipts of how many times they tried to get the school to do something about Mia. Most of the parents are pissed Ava had to go to the principals.
The principal has sent an email about conduct in the classroom and a new policy that if kids disrupt a class, they will be taking action. Don’t know what that means yet.
It likely just means that they acknowledge that the parents are upset and are sent a notice informing them they will do a reworded version of what they’ve been doing.
OP #1 should have a frank discussion with her step sister. Getting that close to his step daughter and excluding his own sends up more than a few red flags.
I bet the doctor was late or was absent and they were desperately trying to find someone to fill in so they could keep the money. Also not only was it a massive fire hazard, they were also committing a felony but holding OP hostage. If OP does make that call, several medical licenses are going to be stripped away.
And OP may need to inform his insurance since they likely still billed them for a checkup that didn’t take place.
Last story: agree, shouldn't have course but not wrong for anything else, I'm all for the class clown they usually bring a bit of fun to school but if it's not fun and just annoying and distracting then someone needs to tell them, at most I would just tell my daughter not to curse like that in class and maybe grab the teacher mostly as a formality because the teacher can stop it without getting punished.
“I will admit you did stoop to her level…” Nope. No such thing. Stop it. It’s not stopping to her level, it’s returning the same energy. She started it. NEVER apologize for ending it.
Story 3, OP is completely right. It’s one thing for the roommate to disagree with the general politics of America provided she was actually factual and empathetic…and that she was actually able to see the problem in our own country (I’m from London too) since it’s messy here too…I’m pretty sure there are a few countries that could wail on both of us pretty fairly 😂 don’t throw stones in glass houses
The last story, Op's kid made a child cry publicly by insulting her. She needs an apology. There was so many better ways to handle that, agreed not from a child, but that child was still a bully.
She wasn’t. Mia has been making class a nightmare for 5 months without stopping
What the daughter did wasn’t bullying, it was breaking and lashing out at someone who’s been intentionally disrupting class
And she was right, Mia was making class not fun and her behavior will make it so no one will like her
Room Door story: NTA. Not only is this completely unprofessional, but it's a fire hazard as RSlash said. OP probably would've been justified to break down the door as it could be viewed as wrongful imprisonment. Not really any benefit on staying on good terms with this place if they won't even see OP.
The clinic has kidnapped her. They may have not meant to do anything malicious but she was still held against her will. She should have called 911
I'm imagining being that kid in the last story, having to listen to some annoying brat dance and sing while I'm desperately trying to focus, and all I know is that at a certain point, I'm going to get overstimulated, and that means that I have 3 options: have a full meltdown in class (never. I would rather die), leave, or tell her off, and I'm going to get in trouble no matter what, so I might as well tell that obnoxious ahole to stfu. She did the best thing she could do for that kid, honestly.
There was a story where a divorcing couple had a large lot. So they agreed the husband would build a new home on the other end of the property. Once he moved in, he got a female dog, and named it after his ex-wife. So his ex got to hear "Name, you b***h, quit digging in the flowers!" "Name, you b***h, quit (urinating) on the porch!" The ex of course sued, but lost. The dog was legally registered with that name, and she was female.
For the last story, (speaking as a teacher myself) the teacher probably has tried many times to control the behavior to no avail. Sometimes the kids need to hear it from their peers for stuff to change.
Golly I'm glad you said this. I'm a teacher as well, and we have no idea if they've sought support and not gotten it
I work in education as well. It is challenging to control the behavior and having it coming from a fellow student should be the wake up call for the Class Clown to realize that there is a time to learn (in the classroom) and there is a time to act out (either at recess, between classes, or in that time in the classroom before the next class starts).
Story 4: Also write a review online explaining everything and how spiteful the nasty nurses were, and change to a different doctor. People always expect nurses to be angelic people, but in my experience most of them are just bullies who enjoy having power over the vulnerable and infirm. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if they have deliberately not fixed the door issue just to mess with patients, for their own entertainment.
The “dad” in the first story is just upset he can’t emotionally abuse OP anymore
Sounds like in his mindset, he wasn’t abusing OP. He just thought OP and her emotions were like a doll he can keep in a closet for him to play with only when he wants. OP gave him a much needed reality check he’s to ignorant to deposit.
@@lorilancaster5917Abusers don’t think it’s abuse
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 which I meant when I said in his mindset
Room door story: call a safety inspector on them bcz that is very much a lawsuit waiting to happen, actually ask a lawyer some questions bcz they also held you against your will in a way after that and if you can file a lawsuit do that then call the safety inspector bcz it doesn’t seem they care about their patients
The daughter should apologize. Not because she was wrong for expressing that she would like the girl to shut up, but for the way she did it.
It would be one thing if she just said “can you shut the f up?” But she went much further than that. There was no need to tell the poor girl that nobody liked her and that she was the reason nobody likes school.
The doctor’s office story- why didn’t OP cause a scene about them locking her in the room? I would’ve been LOUD. “You all HEARD ME KNOCKING AND CHOSE TO LEAVE ME LOCKED IN THAT F’N OFFICE FOR 45 MINUTES?!” I would’ve gone full-on Karen- managers everywhere. Lol! And yes - I would let them know to expect the fire Marshall.
"You don't have the right to talk about my body?!"
"But you're allowed to talk about the bodies of all American citizens?"
*2nd Story:* I can't wait to hear more about this angry dad on Entitled Parents. 🙄
Final Story - Op should encourage Mia to apologize, but only for the "nobody likes you/school because of you" portion of her outburst, but double down on telling the girl to "sit down and STFU". This way the clown and her mother can't use mia's rudeness as an excuse not to address their own inappropriate behavior. Besides,
Two wrongs don't make a right anyway, just an ESH.
BTW, Mia was at this for five months. So this wasn’t some sudden rude outburst.
Mia HAS been causing msxhiol to be not fun and has made kids not like her and I say OP’s daughter and OP are NTA
So let me get this straight with Story 4: the doctors office has extreme attendance policies against patients but neglects their own attendance. They have a known health-&-safety-hazard door and they don't warn the patient, prop it open while the patient is waiting or rush to said patient when they start making it clear they want and/or need to be let out? Absolutely take this to the police. What if you were in medical distress? What if there was a fire in the building and you were TRAPPED by that door? I guarantee you not ONE of the staff members would have paused to think 'oh yeah, this one door that always breaks and can't open from the inside has a patient behind it. better let them out too!' They MIGHT remember once they're outside- MIGHT. And /maybe/ they'd even say something to the emergency responders so you can be rescued. Unlikely, though, they'd probably keep hush to minimize the trouble they'd be in with ignorance of the dangerous situation. Either way; OP needs to report that safety violation at that office.
Lol my uncle accidentally named his puppy the same nickname we used for my sis. 29 years later, same sis named her daughter the same nickname we use for our dog. I just call my dog by her whole name or her other nickname when they're over.
The neighbor one I would wave at him with a special finger happily saying hey neighbor come on charlotte there's bad juju out here
What people don’t get about classroom management is that many of the kids who are acting out have 504 plans or IEPs with concrete rules about dealing with their specific behaviors. The teachers can be fantastic but have their hands tied by a bunch of BS paperwork that parents and admin put in place barring certain kids from being disciplined in the classroom. “Planned ignoring” is often the first required step in these horribly behaved kids’ discipline plans. It isn’t always the teacher and she doesn’t necessarily “suck” at her job based on this snippet of a story.
Hi, IEP student here (former, at least). Some of those students, like myself, needed those behavior plans. I need a safety net because I had mental issues (Autism umbrella, though dyspraxia doesn’t really fit the mental part) in order to keep up with my classmates, and I needed unlimited access to the bathroom, but I was never a disruptive kid. It’s not the 504 plans, it’s the parenting or what’s going on in Mia’s home.
5th story: I don't fault OP's daughter the slightest. I moved around a lot as a kid, so I went to several different schools, and I realized that 9/10 times the "class clown" is just an asshole. Their idea of a joke is to be as annoying as possible at all times and make class miserable for everyone. One such "class clown" climbed a book case and started throwing pencils at people. And several of my classmates for some reason found that hilarious. I know damn well that if I had done that, nobody would have laughed. But this guy got a pass for some reason.
Some of the "class clowns" I encountered just used the title as an excuse to bully the less popular kids "as a joke".
I only met one class clown that was actually funny, in a way that wasn't disruptive, and wasn't just mean to people. One.
Frankly, I think the "class clown" in this story got off easy with what OP's daughter said.
I think 1. Ur too harsh if OP had just stopped at stfu I could agree with u but the rest of what she said was very mean 2. Ur projecting this girl did not do nothing to harm any of the other children, teacher should've sent her out the class or call her parents. THey both got in trouble.
I can agree with this whole heartedly just stopping at stfu would have sufficed
I have been the butt of others like this before, and it's not fun. I'm just genuinely trying to have fun when I'm caught off guard by someone being so cruel and mean. There are nicer ways to get someone who is genuinely having fun to tone it down. She wasn't harming anyone, and it sounded like she want disrupting much.
@@ifoundhisjams4075Read the update, literally all other parents are supporting OP, and have already mentioned that they've sent countless complaints to the school about Mia disrupting their children!
I bet the principal is railing her mother...
Or in the best case... Black mailing the principal with something. Because Mia is more Menace than Dennis.
Mia should apologize for disrupting the class, THEN the daughter should apologize for not being polite.
Ava should only apologize for taking actions that the school should’ve enforced.
I'm not so sure about that. Judging from what the daughter said to her, I'm kind of wondering if maybe she's neurodivergent and was acting out. If I had to guess, I would say that the mom's use of the word "class clown" is code for "that weird girl that people avoid talking to." The reason I say this was because I was that kind of kid when I was at that age, and while my disruptive behavior should have been corrected, being told by other kids that "no one likes you" is the kind of shit that stays with you and really messes with your self-confidence.
Doctor office story: Only 1.5/5? Really? Then endangered lives by using that room for their patients. At minimum, 4/5 because of the number of people they've likely seen, but 5/5 if any children were trapped in there.
In the dog story, if I was the neighbor, I probably would have the same initial reaction, but as soon as I found out the truth of the situation I would very much go hard in the opposite direction, asking if it would be okay for me and the daughter to come visit the dog that had the same name as her. Honestly, I might have ended up being just as annoying, but in another way.
I wonder if neighbor knows their a book about a spider who has his daughter’s name? And a RUclips content creator? Character from Sex in the City?
Last Story: OP needs to get her daughter to apologize for what her daughter said. First she cussed the girl out. Where'd she learned that? Then she said that no one liked the girl. That is cruel and not necessarily true. Her daughter could have said that the girl needed to sit down and pay attention like the rest of the class but she didn't have to add all that extra venom. Also, sounds like the girl has ADHD and needs to be put in a classroom that can handle her outbursts.
In the last story there's been an update. After hearing about the incident, other parents contacted OP with proof that the "class clown" had been disruptive for (iirc) 5 months. The teacher had been trying to get her to behave that day and she wasn't listening. Again! That's when OP's daughter snapped.
So the group of parents are probably going to move forward to demand action from the school.
its the fact they HEARD OP knocking on the door trying to leave. Bro SAY SOMETHING dont just stand there when you CLEARLY hear a patent in distress! What if op was having a heart attack, stroke, asthma attack and couldn't speak for whatever reason??? Even if its annoying that a patent decides to leave after they check in, they have every right too, they technically were holding op hostage and if he did call the fire dept op would have every right too.
Story 3: I have to call out something, there is a legal professor who intentionally uses multiple choice tests, do you know why? Because you can't get partial credit by just writing some BS answer, you HAVE to know the material well to pass the final test. And in my experience, very few tests were multiple choice, they were usually hybrid(Both written and choice based answers).
And also with the mass number of students, having the tests multiple choice likely means Scantron pages making the grading easier.
... "You HAVE to know"?
Why? Literally why would you believe that?
Do tou also believe every Lotto winner can see into the future?
The problem with multiple choice is that the Correct Answer MUST already be on the Test.
And just as much as random people can win the lottery, any kid can get a 100% in multiple choice with 0 knowledge about the topic.
Only if the correct answer ins't available anywhere in the test, including the questions, descriptions and answers of all other questions, THAN a kid MUST know the answer to get 100%
@@Robin93k Do you want to know the reason he did this, because to many students would give 'half right' answers that allowed them to pass the class, but then would fail the bar exam.
He literally switched to this system, particularly for the final exam, because it reduced the students who passed his class on borderline luck, yet it also increased the number of students who would go on to pass the bar exam.
He's teaching future Lawyers/Paralegals, they need to be fully aware there is no bullshitting your way through a question, you have to definitively right if you want to go places.
You are talking about getting a 100%, I am talking about getting enough points to pass. There is a distinct difference.
If you have 10 questions each worth 10 points, and you 5 questions right and 5 questions with partial answers on a written test. You get a C grade. But if you answer questions at random and get 6 questions right on a multiple choice, you get a D grade, which is failing in the US.
Mind you, 70% or above in Britain is an A. So the US has much stricter margins of error for their tests as well. Multiple choice tests in Britain wouldn't work because the passing grade is as low as 40%.(At least from what I can gather)
First story: Eff him. What a horrible, evil person. Hopefully OP will send him the link to the AITA page, so he can read the completely independent and unbiased verdict from everyone telling him what an absolutely sh!tty and disgusting "father" he is, then go totally no contact with him.
You know the father will just deny the responses and bash the op for posting “private stuff” online
I feel for the daughter in the last story. When i was in high school i was in color guard (the flags during a marching band performance). We were told to take our rifles home to practice. This is a solid piece of wood wrapped in white tape. You can’t mistake it for a real gun. I was fine all day until i got to spanish class were a kid who routinely bullied me told the teacher i had a gun. She called me to the front i showed it to her and she told me to sit back down. She went back to the hall because teachers were required to be in the hall during passing period. He mouthed under his breath, "I guess she doesn't care if I (him) die." I told hom to shut the f*** up because this was years of dealing with him and the popular crowd. The tracher had just happened to come back in and I got a write up and was sent to the office. On the way to the office I called my mom and while i was talking to the school cop (because cursing in school is punishable by a $500 fine and a citation from the cop) my mom arrived and told them they're lucky it's all I said because these kids had been bullying me for years and no one at the school had done anything. She checked me out and took me for lunch after that. The other kid never got in trouble for anything and i was blamed by the assistant principal because why didn't i take my equipment for a school team to his office until the end of the day.
So no, the mom was in the right and i wouldn't make the kid apologize either.
I hate people who disrupt class. Because of those kinds of idiots we fell behind in bio and didn’t get to dissect. I was also annoyed at the teacher who would entertain their bull. But you can’t really tell a student to shut up without a parent being up an arms. Wish they’d be up arms about disciplining their evil spawn.
Dad in 1st story "grow up"
Daughter should have said "i did, and then moved on. Go back to the daughter you wanted"
For being locked in the room, in addition to the fire marshal, OP should also contact the police. Since they knew she was in there and wanted out, but they intentionally kept her there, that's false imprisonment in most places.
For the last story, the only thing her daughter did was use profanity, but everyone has their breaking point and it was one curse, so it can be forgiven. Students have a right to a peaceful, nondisrupted education. If adults are not going to uphold that right by repremanding class clowns and other disruptive students, students have a right to call that behavior out. If she has to make an apology, my ideal one would be "I'm not sorry for what I said, I'm sorry for how I said it.".
students also have a right to not be told that nobody likes them (id argue that thats borderline bullying). both kids suck. the disruptive one and ops kid just straight up being mean. two wrongs dont make a right.
i'm not saying I agree with what was said or how, i'm just saying, again, that if adults will not withhold the right to a peaceful education, the students that come to school to learn have the right to stand up for their studies.
@@FrogAtPond Found the loser class clown
As someone who was always told "no one likes you" in school, this story really hurt me and I do think the daughter should apologize for saying that :(@FrogAtPond
@@meowmeow2634yeah. I don’t think it’s nessicarily bad that a kid told another kid to be quiet, but to say that and then have no repercussions? Crazy take.
The door story I was thinking what happened if there was a fire, I bet no one would’ve come for OP and they definitely should call the fire department about it
For the last story, bear in mind 2 things.
1) Some schools have cursing written into their handbook as a detention or suspension worthy offense. So I would caution OP to read her daughter's school handbook.
2) While it's none of OP's business, the other daughter may actually have Autism and/or ADHD, and if it is something that has actually been diagnosed and the school knows about, this may be why the teacher does nothing when the other child sings or dances in class.
Sometimes a situation requires pettiness.
The door doesn’t work, they’ve know. About it for weeks or months, and don’t feel it fixed? Yeah, that’s an easy lawsuit for major negligence and fire code violations
Last story I'm gonna say Mia's owed an apology for being told 'nobody likes you', that is a bit harsh and probably said to hurt. It is, however, absolutely fair that OP's daughter told her to shut up. Sometimes the disruptive student cannot be controlled by adult interference, and as a member of any group (class, adult hobby, movie goers, restaurant patron, whatever) you ARE allowed to let your peers know 'you are being disruptive, would you keep it down as I can't concentrate in this noise'.
Story 2: He should spend more time parenting his daughter and less time worrying about his neighbors dogs name. 😂
"Every parent feels like that."
I don't. I want to keep my kids close.
Honestly story 1:
OP's dad's got a point, if he was talking about an ADULT feeling the way they did, The fact OP felt that way AS A CHILD and HE never did anything to discourage those thoughts IS HIS FAULT
the doctor story, op could have had an heart attack or a seizure or ANYTHING for that matter and died since they did not react too the distress of Op's knocking. report the clinic too a medical board since they actively ignored a possible medical emergency.
Last story had an update
OP isn't the first one to complain about the kid, but the school isn't doing anything about it. this is less a case of a few, and more 'a lot of us'
If I was op in the clinic I would have just called the cops told them I was being held there against my will and to bring the fire marshal
Story 1: for the record know that's not the normal thing for parents to help for, usually they want to spend my time with teenagers because they want them to build a social life but still do spend time with them. He doesn't get to be mad that you gave him what he wanted as an emotional child, so much of your life with changing at such a young age but he cared more about himself then he did for you, now he can't figure out why that bit him in the butt years later and would rather blame you than be a half decent man. Screw him, he doesn't deserve you.
14:07 I was that loud annoying class clown. A classmate put me in my place the same way. I learned my lesson and straighten up a bit after that. NTA
I was also an annoying class clown, but I'd stop when my classmates told me to stop. There's putting someone in their place and being downright mean. And what Mia said after the stfu was really mean and the other girl didn't deserve that.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 you're right, but sometimes that toughness/mean way to say it is what they need to hear sadly
6:53 That'd be insulting to the chihuahua.
Last story: I understand where the daughter is coming from completely. Class clowns in my experience are funny to most of the class, but to students who just want to get their work done peacefully, they're just a**holes.
I mean she could've stopped at stfu? U don't think what miss girl said was even a little mean, they both got in trouble and I think saying no one likes u to the other kid took it way too far
Finally a comment with reason!@@ifoundhisjams4075
Everyone here is trying to villanize and justify bullying a girl who was singing in class? Why take it to insults by not just OP's child, but a grown ass adult man too because again, someone was noisy during class. Grow up everyone else. That was too far.
It's annoying, yes, but that's still an extreme response.
@@ifoundhisjams4075 right???? im surprised how nobody has said anything about what ops daughter said. this could have been a learning experience to teach ops daughter that you dont say shit like that to other people but instead she didnt get "punished" for what she said, probably making her believe its okay to bully people. this recent "if they go low we go lower" mentality is honestly concerning.
@@ifoundhisjams4075they both got sent to the office, the post didn’t say they both got in trouble. And since her behavior is a regular occurrence I sincerely doubt she has EVER faced punishment for it. Why is it fine for her to constantly disrupt and disrespect both the teacher and other students who are trying to learn? The comment may have been harsh, but that girl needed a reality check and no one else was willing to do it.
Third story: not only is OP’s roommate a hypocrite but she is literally a rich person in the audience laughing at the prisoners about to be executed in the gallows
She's not in the audience...
She's next in line, but too stupid to see where she's heading...
Basically in Germany the rule to differentiate northern Europeans is:
Baltics dress like Onions in the cold.
Scandinavians don't dress much at all in the cold.
Brits are too fat to feel the cold.
Story 4: That is 100% on the office to fix, if not the office the building owner/management company. That is one of two terrible situations: 1, patient takes the opportunity to ransack and steal from the whole room, or two there's an emergency and the patient is TRAPPED in that room. Then it's on the office, the building owner and management to compensate. Not to mention the possible legal issues that could come from the more than just the mentioned issues above. Medical offices should not have doors with locks for patient rooms ever (and if a door gets stuck it shouldn't be a room that is used until it's fixed.) OP needs to find a new doctor's office, call the fire marshal and their insurance to report that.
Story 1:NTA,Pepole,don't ask questions that you can't handle the answers of (this is ignoring the very story which is very messed up)
Story 3: OP is just defending America from enemy's foreign and domestic. The harbor needs some tea.
As a Charlotte, I would love to have grown up with a dog named the same ❤ NTA
Report that doctor for the door thing. Yeah, like rSlash says, fire Marshall. Someone could EASILY die because of that door knob
The Doctor's Office Story OP shouldn't be embarrassed. They should be contacting the authorities about being involuntarily held against their will and the Medical Board for their pathetic ethics at that disgusting Doctor's Office. YES CALL THE FIRE MARSHALL!!!!!!!! CALL THE STATE MEDICAL BOARD ABOUT THEIR BEHAVIOR!!!! IT'S A LITERAL SAFETY ISSUE!!!!
If I'd been stuck in a room I'd be banging on the door. Don't lock me in a room, especially if they don't have windows.
If what Ava did was rude, Mia is also rude for disrupting the other students. Rudeness was simply met with rudeness
As someone who works in medical my god do I wish we had a five minute policy. I feel like our doctor is constantly running 45 minutes behind because we're constantly seeing people who are 20 minutes late. It's so stupid because it punishes people who are being punctual to appease people who don't give a s*** about anybody else. On the patient side of things, if that happened to me I probably wouldn't ever come back
I really hope rslash does a update on the first story.
Story 1: I, ever the skeptic, don’t quite trust OP’s story. I mean, it may be the truth, but to me, it sounds like she left some stuff out to make her sound better/like the victim. She outright admitted that she was jealous that her dad was trying to bond with his stepdaughter (unlike so many stepparents that just treat their stepkids like trash) She hated that there were other people in her dad’s life that he cared about besides her. Now, I do understand to an extent that she would be a bit possessive because he’s the only parent she had left, but it’s not like so many of these other stories where he just ran out and got married 6 months later. So like how long were he and stepmom together before getting married? Were the kids introduced to each other? Where was the stepdaughter’s dad? Was he dead too? Were there times when dad would try and spend time with OP but she rebuffed him because she hated the fact that he had another daughter? Did OP act like a complete brat and even though the dad tried, she wasn’t having any of it? (I mean, was dad supposed to stay single for the rest of his life?) This is all quite possible and remember: we are only getting one side of the story.
And I’m not trying to blame OP for how things went down with her dad. I’m just naturally skeptical anyway. If everything really did happen the way OP described, that really sucks. But I honestly do question her story.
4th story. Well that place commited a crime forced confinement, apart from what Rslash says too. Sounds like a lawsuit is VERY much on the table in my view (unless they see sense and opting to pay you for it...(yes the lawsuit wouldn't result in a major payout... but the PR for the doctors office would be devestating.
5th Story: NAITA, and Principal should just go "mia you acted disorderly detention for X days/weeks. OP: Next time just tell the teacher if he/she don't shut Mia down come to me will you?"