Why Distant Women Are So Alluring

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  • Опубликовано: 25 окт 2024

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  • @mariaaaa1128
    @mariaaaa1128 Год назад +1476

    I'm naturally very distant and quiet because of my introversion, it's interesting to see ppl fill the gaps in their own ways, some would think you're otherworldly and some would deem you arrogant

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +125

      I have noticed that leaving things up to interpretation can cause some issues unfortunately haha. But I guess if someone gets it, then they get it. Best to try and not worry about everyone else.

    • @x_xchrystal
      @x_xchrystal 7 месяцев назад +98

      Those people that deem you arrogant are projecting their insecurities onto you, they have to fill the silence and when you leave the room they say you’re arrogant or you don’t like them, but really they are projecting their own feeling about their own loudness onto you. They can’t figure you out and it frustrates them because they over share and leave nothing about themselves to the imagination. I personally love introverted people ❤️ the mystery is so fun

    • @JulianStewart-pf6lh
      @JulianStewart-pf6lh 4 месяца назад +5

      True.

    • @DD-kv5uu
      @DD-kv5uu 3 месяца назад +5

      Worded it out so well. There's literally no in between!

    • @jinhub2175
      @jinhub2175 3 месяца назад +14

      Same here. The amount of people that have called me arrogant is insane

  • @iamaliveyoucantstopnow
    @iamaliveyoucantstopnow 4 месяца назад +871

    alluring for emotionally unavailable folks.

    • @metamorphosis9871
      @metamorphosis9871 4 месяца назад +17

      Real

    • @Ulxshn7l
      @Ulxshn7l 4 месяца назад +3

      Emotionally unavailable? You mean they’re already in relationships? Can you explain more please? 😂

    • @psychowolf99
      @psychowolf99 4 месяца назад +74

      She’s talking about art and aesthetics not how to catch a man

    • @TiffyAlwaysBlissy
      @TiffyAlwaysBlissy 3 месяца назад +6

      @@Ulxshn7lSome people are not emotionally mature. If you have further interest on the topic many people speak on emotional maturity/intelligence across the internet- and I encourage you to look into the topic independently. ☺️

    • @tiwiogunye
      @tiwiogunye 3 месяца назад +3

      LMFAO

  • @sofitocyn100
    @sofitocyn100 9 месяцев назад +529

    I have always attracted for my seemingly distant demeanor. Men believe I am mysterious, independent, quiet. They find me alluring, enticing. The issue is that I can be very warm once I take an interest in a man. I am very friendly, funny, playful - childish and sweet. Some men I've found love this contrast, between my two sides, but some are, I believe, a bit put off. They just looked for something else or imagined I was something else and get disappointed.
    Good video as always. Your videos are always so interesting. You look great with this hair shade and outfit.

    • @IceHun9032
      @IceHun9032 6 месяцев назад +67

      omg! that's soo me. in the beggining i usually come off as very distant, but when i start to be comfortable i tend to be very open, bubbly and playful - and this turns a lot of people off in dating situations when they eventually find out am not the "idea" or "enigma" they thought i would forever be
      what to do 🤷‍♀️

    • @DD-kv5uu
      @DD-kv5uu 3 месяца назад +1

      This!

    • @coracaopoderoso6049
      @coracaopoderoso6049 3 месяца назад +18

      I understand you so well and that was the thing that hurted me the most while being envolved with someone. Nowadays I chose to just be alone, I believe I'm the only one who can truly love myself for who I am entirely. Thank you for your comment.

    • @nini-gu3vs
      @nini-gu3vs 3 месяца назад +4

      wait, i can relate so well with this. i mostly somehow act mysterious with people i have just met or in general i don't have interest in but i become super playful once i find them attractive in any sense.

    • @somethingsomewhere8428
      @somethingsomewhere8428 3 месяца назад +2

      I can relate so much with this.

  • @savanahb3637
    @savanahb3637 4 месяца назад +427

    im a distant woman but people dont find me alluring they think i dislike them

    • @Anjjj-101-
      @Anjjj-101- 3 месяца назад +8

      Self awareness is key

    • @reemkannin500
      @reemkannin500 3 месяца назад +7

      how do you carry yourself? the non verbal demeanor would make a big difference I'd say. but of course the "the disliking" can simply just show you how everyone thinks differently

  • @MuseSunflower
    @MuseSunflower Год назад +355

    I went to the park today and decided to leave my phone in the car.
    I had two random men walk up to me and start chatting with me. They were so curious about why I was there and wanting to get to know me
    I’m amused because being approached in public never happens 😅 presence, soaking in your surroundings and being in your own little world definitely does something to your energy. It’s intriguing and draws people in ❤❤

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +46

      you become like a black hole that people are sucked into haha

    • @LOVEBABY138
      @LOVEBABY138 4 месяца назад +15

      Sometimes it's refreshing when there is no appointment or work ahead, I had the best talks with strangers but also be cautious as there are many people who just waste your time. Watch out for them and espically for the ones who don't respect your personal space.

    • @danabattisto7634
      @danabattisto7634 4 месяца назад

      Women in black

  • @jinellesok9088
    @jinellesok9088 Год назад +250

    I tend to be very distant and quiet, my family hates me for it lol

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +19

      are they very extroverted I'm assuming?

    • @jinellesok9088
      @jinellesok9088 Год назад +30

      @@HeavenSentHoneyYup, so I get the privilege of being the black sheep haha

    • @topshotta5678
      @topshotta5678 4 месяца назад +8

      Same same

    • @beiramilagros622
      @beiramilagros622 4 месяца назад +6

      Me too. You are not alone

    • @valleyofthedolls
      @valleyofthedolls 4 месяца назад +8

      same, i feel like everyone around me don’t wanna approach to me bc of the way i am, this make me feel so lonely but i don’t know how to change this

  • @afoxcatartvideos4877
    @afoxcatartvideos4877 3 месяца назад +173

    I love being quiet. When I speak, I speak my mind and all secrets. I rather be quite

    • @Z0MBiiK1TTY
      @Z0MBiiK1TTY 2 месяца назад

      lmao this is so real

  • @Lalaland099
    @Lalaland099 Год назад +89

    You're so wise. I'm happy you're on RUclips. Femininity truly is superior in power- It's 'magical'. Great video

  • @nunubiabia
    @nunubiabia Год назад +50

    I love this incorporation of art history

  • @kimmie__kim
    @kimmie__kim Год назад +158

    Being distant and mysterious is more acceptable depending on who you are and where you are, it's quite comical. Whenever I'm with loved ones and we come across individuals who are alone and spacing out, I immediately wonder about their lives and what they're thinking, and they immediately conclude that those people are mentally ill and/or on drugs. "Distant" individuals can be seen as a threat to some people, especially if they're not conventionally attractive. It breaks my heart that the people around me draw those kinds of conclusions, but I understand where they're coming from slightly.

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +33

      Yeah. The practice of not letting other's negative perceptions affect you requires superhuman strength sometimes..

  • @Tobzzzz_
    @Tobzzzz_ 2 месяца назад +16

    People feel sooo uncomfortable when you’re quiet. It’s easier to see people’s insecurities that way 😅

  • @queenmandieiii4523
    @queenmandieiii4523 Год назад +140

    To be this type of woman is a quest of mine…

  • @SftCrmnLluminals
    @SftCrmnLluminals 3 месяца назад +101

    I feel like it is pretty subjective...I have always been quiet and distant person, and most ppl have claimed that their first impression of me was this "rude", "cold" and "asocial" person...

    • @plutofaraway9052
      @plutofaraway9052 3 месяца назад +1

      Samee

    • @shoegaz
      @shoegaz 3 месяца назад +11

      i think it really depends on your attractiveness. haha 🥲 but i agree with this video

    • @SftCrmnLluminals
      @SftCrmnLluminals 3 месяца назад +5

      @shoegaz ...ive had most ppl approach me through a mutual friend becuz they were scared of asking for my social/number directly like😭😭 so I dont think attractiveness is the problem ig
      also, i just realized that most of these ppl who thought i was "asocial" or "cold" are the same ppl who would overstep my boundaries🤢🤮

    • @planetjoi
      @planetjoi 2 месяца назад

      My problem. I’ve been called cold a few times & it’s been a major set back in saying.

  • @ummitsjewels7954
    @ummitsjewels7954 3 месяца назад +67

    im dissociating

  • @carlaconce
    @carlaconce Год назад +19

    i love your art history videos

  • @hm-od5zp
    @hm-od5zp 4 месяца назад +58

    I’m a distant person and the only friends I’ve ever made were the ones I had to talk to first or approach myself… otherwise I don’t think anyone would’ve ever tried talking to me which I don’t mind at all. I’m a VERY choosy person and extremely independent sociably as I get anxiety from interacting with people and I’m usually quiet and have nothing to say ever… I zone out a lot and deadpan stare and freeze when in public because it’s super overstimulating.

  • @IivingdeadgirIl
    @IivingdeadgirIl 3 месяца назад +26

    Im personally quiet, shy, anti-social and observant. Personally, no one in my daily life has been interested/attracted to that, I think more people think i’m more out of it or unfriendly. I never knew it was alluring, I just sit there and stare. I don’t make an effort to talk to anyone or bond with people.

    • @bluraine7739
      @bluraine7739 2 месяца назад +6

      Same. Tbh there's different kinds of asocial and only one that's attractive lmao
      Like I was always just nervous and zoned out 100%
      Then there's the quiet people that are self confident and don't need to prove their worth by being super social which is attractive

    • @IivingdeadgirIl
      @IivingdeadgirIl 2 месяца назад +2

      @@bluraine7739 Yeah, im definitely the first. I’m awkward and dry when someone tries to make a conversation with me and all I do is observe. I don’t openly talk to people and stay in my own circle😭 also pretty sure my resting face looks unfriendly so that adds to it

    • @Estherawe444
      @Estherawe444 2 месяца назад +2

      Yes this is me as well. I’ve been told that my resting face looks angry and I look like I don’t want to talk. When in reality I have raging anxiety and it feels impossible to fit in and create connections

    • @maria_____.
      @maria_____. 2 месяца назад +1

      Same. It has never served me, people generally assume I'm arrogant or not interested in them, I genuinely don't think anyone has been attracted to me because of it lol

    • @AyaTimberlake
      @AyaTimberlake 2 месяца назад

      Fuck I wish I was like that... I have to talk... I can not stop talking... I wish i was that quiet

  • @justagirl4rl
    @justagirl4rl Год назад +27

    Can you do a series on how to be more mysterious especially in this modern world. Kind of like the one you did with how to be a ethereal

    • @User_91505
      @User_91505 Год назад +5

      She made a video on “how to disappear” witch was really helpful, I recommend you watch it!

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +9

      I suppose I could expand a bit on that video..

  • @badgalyaya2303
    @badgalyaya2303 Год назад +40

    The subject matter of this video made me think of Daphne from White Lotus season 2. There are multiple scenes where you really have to rely on her gaze to understand what's going on but you never fully know what she's thinking. And a lot of times she's smiling and staring off but in a tourist way. Or so you think. You're caught off guard later on in the show because at critical moments in the show, what she's saying is cryptic as fuck but just deceivingly simple at the same time. It's fully unexpected because she's introduced as a surface-level trophy wife. She also is quoted saying she feels bad for men.

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +13

      The secrets of trophy wives...what a novel that would make.

  • @Scorpiomajesty777
    @Scorpiomajesty777 2 месяца назад +4

    I feel like this also applies to princess stories and folklore or movies of how there’s a beautiful princess in a far away land or trapped in high tower where one must defeat a beast after a great journey just in hopes to secure her. The distance the mystery the challenge it sets the woman high on a pedestal and therefore makes her this prize that is worth going through great difficulties for.

  • @QueenBookLeo
    @QueenBookLeo 4 месяца назад +13

    I loved the depth of this video. Especially how you used ART to describe the divine. Now you have me curious about ART History.

  • @sherrilynnnelson703
    @sherrilynnnelson703 4 месяца назад +31

    A direct gaze is a challenge most men can't handle 😅

    • @alfredrivera4895
      @alfredrivera4895 4 месяца назад +1

      most men are made of soymilk. They lack the structural stability of real protein.

  • @abis4064
    @abis4064 Год назад +63

    I agree that women overshare too much and feel a compulsion to connect through this, which I find hard to relate to but this was a good reminder to be true to myself & keep it classy lol. also, I am always captivated by your nails. are they real? are they acrylics? what nail polish do you use? of course if you wanna keep them shrouded in mystery I respect it ;) xxx

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +13

      And shrouded in mystery they will remain, but I'm sure I have divulged at some point in the comments section of some other video.

    • @no_guarantees
      @no_guarantees 4 месяца назад +2

      Attention vs ambiguity

    • @LM.312
      @LM.312 4 месяца назад +10

      I love how wholesome that last sentence was bc usually people feel so entitled to know other people’s business or else they cry “gatekeeper” lol, I guess it’s refreshing to see someone not make a big deal over whether someone shares or not

  • @dayinibatrisyia5424
    @dayinibatrisyia5424 Год назад +8

    It's an enigma so intriguing

  • @bellewv
    @bellewv 3 месяца назад +21

    I've always been like this since I was a child and I blamed myself a lot for not being extremely communicative and fun. I didn't know anyone found that attractive lol

  • @rubyfaust2175
    @rubyfaust2175 Год назад +10

    I would love some more of these, this is so well made, and so interesting.

  • @Lovely_life888
    @Lovely_life888 4 месяца назад +10

    Not to be a weirdo, but your beauty is like the sun; so bright, it's almost blinding.. You possess the beauty that could make a grown man cry... But your physical is only the cherry on top of such a stimulating & curious mind! 🌸
    You are truly a gift from the heavens. 🕊️
    Thank you for the reminder to not allow the world to distract from the beauty & fragility of the present moment. So fleetingly does time pass.

  • @sushiroll7419
    @sushiroll7419 4 месяца назад +42

    So thats why i always felt dehumanized in a weird way when people called my mysterious.

    • @Estherawe444
      @Estherawe444 2 месяца назад +6

      Omg u just explained exactly how I feel but I couldn’t figure out the word. I always felt dehumanized whenever ppl would call me quiet. It would feel as if something was wrong with me and I was different from others.

  • @lola_interrupted
    @lola_interrupted 4 месяца назад +5

    I have never felt more inspired in my life.
    It's my second video I watch from your channel and believe it or not, I am taking notes. You seriously should write a book please consider it.

  • @MuseSunflower
    @MuseSunflower Год назад +13

    Thank you for the exquisite video ❤❤❤

  • @averyhugstrees
    @averyhugstrees 2 дня назад

    I love this video!!!! People have always asked me what I’m thinking about or that they want to walk around inside my brain. I love to just stare out at the water and my friends have taken so many pictures of me doing this and Ive always wondered why

  • @Theyarefulloffear
    @Theyarefulloffear 2 месяца назад +6

    As a distant woman I'd like to think this is how I come across in real life but I can only wish
    Also to be honest this probably works a lot better when you are already conventionally attractive

  • @blobymcblobface
    @blobymcblobface 4 месяца назад +13

    Maybe she's only perfect BECAUSE she's far away...

  • @___t510
    @___t510 9 месяцев назад +4

    I would LOVE a video on how you research. It’s almost an art form all its own to you it seems. ❤ Also, a tour of where you create your art. I am so tired of tidy little Pinterest art studios. We need to see trashy elegance.

  • @NormieNeko
    @NormieNeko 4 месяца назад +9

    I am conflicting. I am extremely distant and quiet in person, but I overshare online. I don't have a history of posting more than the super occasional video, but I have written many short and long texts over the years about my thoughts and personal views. Overall, I think I'm just off-putting to many people because I'm seen as depressed or stuck up in person, but I'm controversial, annoying, and overwhelming in my online persona.
    Honestly, I think video footage would help balance out who I seem to be online, but I don't think I'll change my persona in real-life at this point. I'm also afraid of filming myself because I'm more awkward and dorky than alluring, sensual, or wise.
    I think people can generally understand when you're antisocial or autistic in nature vs introverted or private. They're very different. Still, being physically attractive will give off different vibes, and I know that sounds superficial, but it's true. Unattractive quiet people are weird or non-existent. Attractive quiet people are alluring or stuck up.
    I know guys deal with this problem more, with the creep loser (negative) vs hot lonewolf (positive). Women will receive more of the boring wallflower (negative) vs b*tch or rebel enigma (still negative, lol, or positive).

    • @salvatore.M77
      @salvatore.M77 4 месяца назад

      I totally agree with you, the subject is controversial and there’s a dark side to it. Sadly, Not every distant person is alluring or mysterious, you could be seen in many many ways

    • @SftCrmnLluminals
      @SftCrmnLluminals 3 месяца назад

      literally me😭

  • @ibetudkmahnameb4114
    @ibetudkmahnameb4114 3 месяца назад +2

    You have such scorpio energy about you. You are not trendy yet you're so intriguing, the way you talk is seductive and beautiful in a different way, you're very beautiful just differently, you're unlike many out there

  • @lilianaayendeOfficial
    @lilianaayendeOfficial Год назад +18

    Have you ever considered writing a book, or a Ted Talk? I’ll buy whatever you sell. Best thing in youtube.

  • @victoriazapolska6282
    @victoriazapolska6282 3 месяца назад +1

    the message in this video is literally heaven sent honey

  • @destinyema2373
    @destinyema2373 2 месяца назад

    Great video! I’d love a video of you explaining why you love being a woman. I agree so much, and the way you word things is so poetic

  • @nso5625
    @nso5625 Год назад +9

    You always look great but you look especially beautiful in this video, girl 😍😍

  • @juliawildstar
    @juliawildstar Месяц назад +1

    Them:
    "What is she thinking?"
    Me:
    "H-O-T-T-O-G-O you can take me hot to goooo"

  • @sess486
    @sess486 2 месяца назад

    Your words. So true! Divine demeanor indeed. I feel like this was me today at work because I was high and digesting everything around me in such a calm deep way. it was cool. I noticed people watching from my peripheral as if wondering too. What is she thinking? Very cool resonance with finding this video!

  • @Maggit-xo
    @Maggit-xo Месяц назад

    I’ve been in relationships where my independence and free-spirited nature was seen as a threat. -.-
    But as I mature I learn to harness it - I’m alternative and I take care of my appearance and I love dressing up, doing my makeup and dolling myself up because it makes me feel good, and I love the attention I get.
    Men find me alluring because of my introversion and silence, stoic facial expression, and of course, I believe distance is alluring to men.

  • @groovywitch1955
    @groovywitch1955 Год назад +9

    Would you ever consider writing a book? It would be my most prized possession😊💓
    I love your videos so so much :)

    • @HeavenSentHoney
      @HeavenSentHoney  Год назад +8

      Things are in the works!

    • @groovywitch1955
      @groovywitch1955 Год назад

      @@HeavenSentHoney So excited!!
      Wishing you so much success❤️❤️❤️

  • @sr-si5fs
    @sr-si5fs Год назад +4

    Youre incredible.

  • @eclecticd9953
    @eclecticd9953 3 месяца назад +1

    Earlier today I felt the need to withdraw from my colleagues, and I think they might have taken it personal. To be honest I have been quite busy the past few days and felt really tired. If I can’t take a nap in the middle of the day some silence and solitude usually helps me recenter myself.

  • @sherrilynnnelson703
    @sherrilynnnelson703 4 месяца назад +3

    The problem is, you can't *plan* to be found to be truly enigmatic by gazing into the distance... It has to happen spontaneously (and without you even knowing it) for it to be genuine ❤😅 it's a paradox just as ultimate beauty itself is ultimately unattainable 😂🎉❤ what a relief imo 😅

  • @salvatore.M77
    @salvatore.M77 4 месяца назад +2

    Thank you sweet darling ❤ you make me feel energised and more balanced as a woman.
    It’s a pretty peculiar thing if we get to the heart of the matter, and I see here in this video you did more than a great job by connecting art with real life. But Why a child likes surprises (most children)? Why humans like mystery? Why mystery is associated with women ? More than a man. Maybe another video to address these questions, darling?
    I think mystery in a woman gets too to how she is clothed, adding the elements of mystery by veiling parts of your body and not fully showing out is too alluring. Mystery gets to the information we share with others.

  • @Roberta_bernardon
    @Roberta_bernardon Месяц назад

    Real about Carl Jung “Introverted Feeling”, it says a lot.

  • @JestineJ
    @JestineJ 2 месяца назад +1

    I am becoming her and I’m entirely proud.

  • @angiep5514
    @angiep5514 3 месяца назад +10

    I'm a distant woman however others see me as off putting. Oh well

  • @WatashiAtsuko123
    @WatashiAtsuko123 Год назад +9

    LOOOVVVEEEE this video 😍😍 when I think about an alluring distant woman Monica Bellucci comes to mind.

    • @DD-kv5uu
      @DD-kv5uu 3 месяца назад

      Perfect example!

  • @sherrilynnnelson703
    @sherrilynnnelson703 4 месяца назад +1

    In my experience, humor steps in and makes things ridiculous just at the crucial moment when everything else seems perfect 🃏🤣😭🎭

  • @SarviaBuhay
    @SarviaBuhay 2 месяца назад

    and now i am obsessed with you

  • @rg.1111
    @rg.1111 2 месяца назад

    I feel like this video describes me. I understand now much better why I get that attention even when I am just sitting by myself wondering about life

  • @rubyfaust2175
    @rubyfaust2175 Год назад +4

    love love love luvvvvvv

  • @Julia-sk7kd
    @Julia-sk7kd 3 месяца назад +1

    carl jung kind of talks about this subject, or something adjacent, is called “introverted feeling”

  • @jasepop7733
    @jasepop7733 2 месяца назад

    A lot of people, even family members dislike me for the way I am. I’ve been trying to change but I can’t fake it

  • @suzypie11
    @suzypie11 4 месяца назад +2

    I recently discovered your channel
    And I absolutely love your vibe
    Every video has given me something wonderful ❤

  • @Maurima-z9w
    @Maurima-z9w 4 месяца назад +1

    That's called mysterious female archetype!

  • @bonitas.7106
    @bonitas.7106 2 месяца назад

    She probably isnot thinking just resting herself.❤❤❤

  • @TheMotherOfBambi
    @TheMotherOfBambi 2 месяца назад +1

    I love minding my own business and im very private and men loove to interpret that as if i'm waiting for them to pay attention to me. Just leave me tf alone 😭

  • @xixian8157
    @xixian8157 2 месяца назад

    phenomenal content ❤

  • @sofiabowen9447
    @sofiabowen9447 2 месяца назад

    Woooow the title!!!

  • @maddyG7414
    @maddyG7414 3 месяца назад

    I’ve always been a quiet introvert living in my own world, but I have to say, it was only alluring to men when I became more physically attractive. That’s just my experience.

  • @nawal10
    @nawal10 2 месяца назад +1

    My bank manager tried to hit on me (always stared and acted weird the sec I entered) but I always stood afar and never spoke besides a hi. So he approached me one day and asked "are u antisocial?" 😂.

  • @Kirillwitchy
    @Kirillwitchy 8 дней назад

    Great channel

  • @philmccollough4437
    @philmccollough4437 3 месяца назад

    Wow she's Beautiful great blue eyes

  • @HowardARoark
    @HowardARoark 2 месяца назад

    She could be thinking about what shoes will go with her new dress. But seriously she holds to a high standard and only a certain kind of guy will capture her interest. So much is said in silence, perhaps the most important things.

  • @طائر-و6ظ
    @طائر-و6ظ 2 месяца назад

    God, you are sooo beautiful!!

  • @empyria-voice
    @empyria-voice 6 месяцев назад +1

    So good!!

  • @JulianStewart-pf6lh
    @JulianStewart-pf6lh 4 месяца назад

    As I man I tell you you're spot on!

  • @voguexperimental
    @voguexperimental 4 месяца назад

    You are one GORGEOUS woman, wow

  • @otap1887
    @otap1887 2 месяца назад

    no wonder i attract nobody... im the one gets attracted because i could never be distant to other people.

  • @karlaaguilar7444
    @karlaaguilar7444 4 месяца назад +1

    I tried this today and I immediately started to get stared at wtf

  • @jalvarez8851
    @jalvarez8851 2 месяца назад

    I’m this way people think I’m rude

  • @brandontherun8637
    @brandontherun8637 4 месяца назад +1

    They aren’t. Many people are rude and self centered today… those are the divorces of tomorrow

  • @tanjant45
    @tanjant45 3 месяца назад +10

    idk if i am distant or its just autism

    • @anyway5655
      @anyway5655 3 месяца назад +2

      Or antisocial

    • @Bubbles-od2tv
      @Bubbles-od2tv 2 месяца назад

      Autism doesn't present like what she described.

    • @tanjant45
      @tanjant45 2 месяца назад

      @@Bubbles-od2tv ik that i was trying to say if my "being distant" is caused by the autism if that makes sense

  • @VoicesForVictims
    @VoicesForVictims 4 месяца назад +1

    I love your profile name.

  • @Sarathesweetestgirleverseen
    @Sarathesweetestgirleverseen 9 месяцев назад

    Oh that’s me😭

  • @miladydewinter8551
    @miladydewinter8551 4 месяца назад +6

    INFJ normality

  • @sn0wangel04
    @sn0wangel04 2 месяца назад +2

    You don’t have to change yourself just to fit into what other people find alluring i’m so sick of this. Women don’t have to change every 2 seconds just to fit the latest alluring THING aesthetic how to get a man yada yada.

  • @lunamoth6
    @lunamoth6 Год назад +32

    You are my Andrew tate.

  • @jenn1738
    @jenn1738 3 месяца назад +2

    only works if you are pretty btw 😂

  • @Chris-hp2gg
    @Chris-hp2gg 4 месяца назад +2

    The more we know, the less we know.😂

  • @zoooejenkins
    @zoooejenkins 2 месяца назад +1

    You look like a Russian supermodel

  • @IgnaciaMMuñoz
    @IgnaciaMMuñoz 4 месяца назад

    I L❤VE YOUR CONTENT

  • @MissRed1036
    @MissRed1036 4 месяца назад

    Brilliant 👏👏👏👏👏🙏❤️🙏🌹🥰

  • @RebeccaasianJewrly
    @RebeccaasianJewrly 3 месяца назад

    We seem fakely rude and had endured evilness at his old age.

  • @MsLoila
    @MsLoila Год назад +16

    Untrue. People just assume you are snobbish and make a whole lot of projections onto you. And people would never consider your "feelings" because you never express them. You are just supposed to fulfill a fantasy.

    • @lilianaayendeOfficial
      @lilianaayendeOfficial Год назад +32

      On the contrary. With men, with friends, witching the corporate world, if you express all the time and are completely approachable your opinion isn’t validated as much however if you are mainly quiet, keep to yourself respectfully and are kind, when you open your mouth everyone listens because they know you don’t speak just to speak, they are interested in what you have to say.

    • @esoterca
      @esoterca 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@lilianaayendeOfficialexactly this!

    • @sofitocyn100
      @sofitocyn100 7 месяцев назад +7

      I think you are both right. When I act distant and mysterious (because I am genuinely not comfortable yet) half of the people around me will find me magnetic and interesting and the other half will find it hard to relate and bond with me and probably will find me snobbish and not fun. And people usually want to be around fun people.

    • @anarcougly
      @anarcougly 5 месяцев назад

      People dont care about your feelings whether you express them or not.

  • @suzysara3786
    @suzysara3786 Месяц назад

    but im a yapper

  • @busisiwesewela2718
    @busisiwesewela2718 2 месяца назад

    you look like mona lisa

  • @StarOnTheWater
    @StarOnTheWater 4 месяца назад +6

    It's only alluring as long as you're hot.

  • @allens_exist
    @allens_exist 2 месяца назад

    Idk abt alluring anyone, i just be dissociating these days. Interesting essay though

  • @ray5293
    @ray5293 3 месяца назад +6

    maybe stop revolving your life around the male gaze and actually start living it. free of those rules & barriers, trust me you’ll live to regret not doing so

  • @McLovin-ko3ff
    @McLovin-ko3ff Месяц назад

    LOL try being that while not hot 😂

  • @kanishkabhandari7181
    @kanishkabhandari7181 2 месяца назад

    A distant woman may be alluring but it's actually the jolly one that men actually go for.

  • @alfredrivera4895
    @alfredrivera4895 4 месяца назад +3

    And after a little digging you find that there is nothing there after all. lol

    • @Bubbles-od2tv
      @Bubbles-od2tv 2 месяца назад

      Yeah, you can't fake this sort of thing, it's just baked into your personality.

  • @Eilat404
    @Eilat404 3 месяца назад

    when you're hot this works otherwise lol ......

  • @genestone4951
    @genestone4951 4 месяца назад

    A man may be wondering what is she thinking, when he should be wondering IF she is thinking.