I wil tel u my perspective am a monther of a 6 yr old girl child .. i got pregnant again and went for abortion, many judged me for my action but I have my own struggle and justification for it .. my daughter is a very healthy normal child ,still from time of birth she keeps falling sick minimum 1 time a month and medicine, doctor hospital you jus can't avoid.. it's super stressful, and those days literally i don't sleep.. initially i thought it's jus my kid ,then i slowly started to observing other parents in my child's class and other children till age 7 every mom goes through this ,if it's jus one child it's much easier. Mom's with 2 kids really are in absolute stress about child's health... And then coming to schooling it's become soo expensive and many families 2 of them shld work to manage family and wen there is no attention of atleast one parent most kids are uncontrollable and they constantly have some problem and ultimately it's the mom who has to be blamed .. is she a robot ??? And I hate this supermom tag where ppl say wow she works take care of family and kids .. do u knkw how difficult and stressful? My granny had 7 daughters and my mom has 3 daughters but they wer not like us they wer super chilled we went to govt aided school and college.. but now the peers and other stuffs are super demanding... I advise my sisters not to get married and live happily, and my cousins who are married not to have kids .. really doesn't worth and this world isn't that good ,no good water ,no good air ,all are polluted including ppl i feel unborn kids are the luckiest 🙏 jus be happy and leave this world.. many species extinct and human shld cos we are the most deadliest among all ...earth is better off without us 🙏
I don't have children. I am married for 15 years . I am happy. My husband and I have full freedom . We are spending for ourselves. No bond with children. In future, so many diseases are coming. Future kids are vulnerable to many diseases. I can't worry about my kids if I have one. I was also insulted by my friends, relatives and inlaws. They didn't tell my husband impotent but called me "Maladi" I took treatment for 2 years to conceive and ended up with side effects. With all these health issues, I decided not to have any child. Because I am Allergic to medicines. Now I am 43, my husband 49. We are living our life together with no commitments.
I got married last year and I am 27 now and I am about to become a father in October 2022...I work in IT sector and I don't see my child as a burden and I am really excited to see my child and raise him/her like a friend
Great topic. But I am curious to know why you did not mention husbands taking equal responsibility for the child. I have lived in US for several years and have seen educated, qualified and professional couples where if the child soils the diaper, husband just calls out loud to the wife "anga paapru diaper change pannu" and the girl acts like a keyed toy and runs to change the diapers!!! Why cant he do it !!! Isnt that his child too?? And in families where Dads do take their part of their responsibility they must do it in secrecy (without the bouy's parents knowung anything about it) because the in laws start cribbing "kuzhandhaiaya en paiyan dhaan paathukaran. Paavam avan. Aval paaru onnum seiyaradhu illai" !!
I feel that the most important reason behind not wanting a baby is the responsibility that comes with motherhood. Women are expected to take care of everything that the baby requires along with household chores and job responsibilities. Before having a baby they would have worked 12 hours a day to balance work and household but after having a baby this becomes a 24/7 work where they have to stay awake during the nights to care for the baby as well as during the day to do regular chores. Apart from mom's guilt we are also made to feel guilty when our husband does some chore for us even if it is only on a single occasion. This is especially very common in India where people either make fun of men who do household chores or look down upon them. Also, the society always blames the mother for not bringing up the child in a certain way. Even in developed countries men do not concern themselves with taking care of kids. Raising a child is a collective responsibility of both the parents and men should start to recognise this. On the other hand, I also believe that expecting the grandparents to take care of the children is quite irrational. It will obviously give them joy to take care of the kid for a short while but giving them the entire responsibility of caring for a child is taxing. Remember, they had their turn to raise their own children and at their age they need more rest than this additional responsibility. Nowadays kids tend to grow up with the grandparents and spend the vacation with their parents which is just the opposite of how it should be. When women get support from their husbands, have flexible working hours, can avail better childcare services and when people appreciate that mothers also humans and have a life of their own, women will not say no to having a child.
All the points you have mentioned are true. Also as a part of the society we must not ask anyone about their pregnancy It is totally their personal matter If anyone plans not to have baby, people are not letting them live in peace. They keep on advising and torturing to have baby
Yes!! And these days it's shocking to see young people are asked to bear child with donor eggs by most of the doctors and young couples are giving up to peer pressure...
When the spouse is not having a good companionship how can a woman think of giving a birth...what will happen to the life of a baby which is born to such a couple?
Exactly, they don't help or they don't respect motherhood. Then why should we get pregnant. We are together because to rectify the first mistake( first child).
இந்த மனப்பான்மை 40 வருடங்களுக்கு முன் எனக்கு த்தோன்றியிருந்தால் நான் இன்று மனதளவில் இவ்வளவு பாதிக்கப்பட்டு இருக்க மாட்டேன்.மரணவலி போன்ற பிரசவ வேதனை. அதைவிட பெரியவலி வயதான பின் பிள்ளைகளின் உதாசீனம்.இந்த ஞானோதயம் அப்போ து வரவில்லை.நீங்கள் என்னை நிந்தித்தாலும் பரவாயில்லை.தனிமையில் வாடும் எங்களைப்பற்றியும் ஒரு பதிவு போடுங்கள்.புண்ணியமாகப்போகும்.
Thangal pillaigalai IT velai/veli naadu anupirundhal thirumbi vara sollungal... Thangal kuzhandhaigalin kashta nashtangalai purindhu kollungal adhai etru kollungal... Unga pillaigal and marumagal kitta EGO vendam🙏... Ungalukum marumagalukkum karuthu veru paadu irundhal adhu en endru sindhiyungal... Marumagalin karuthukaluku sevi saayungal... Thangalukku matru karuthu irundhal adhai koori uraiyadungal... Thinikka vendam... Meeriyum veru paadu irundhal adhai etru kollungal... Koodi vaalndhal Kodi nanmai uruvukku meeriya agambaavamum, suya thevai mattumana sindhanaigalum thanimaiku kondu sethu vidum... Please Adjust Accept Accommodate (for all gen of people not just specific to younger or older gen)... Peran petriyinarudan Kuzhanthaigalundan koodi vilaiyaadungal... Kootu Sandhosham than mukkiyam adhai meeri veredhuvum mukkiyamalla... Suya Sandhosham tharkaarigamanadhu
Great topic, I am working in IT sector. Even I had dilemma when I rejoined after my maternity leave, still I tried alot but I couldn't manage I quit. Fortunately I got offer for part-time job in my domain. Now I am happy with my job and kid. All companies can offer part time job for married women.
Hi Sir, one of the reason that I felt is working hours in office should be optimised , like in govt it is 8 hrs and private it s min 10 hrs expectation and again for travelling office it takes 2-3 hrs in case of metropolitan cities. So almost 12 hrs we are spending for working and vry few hrs we are at home and few hrs sleep. Working hours should be optimised for women as we are meant to take all responsibilities at home too. It should be atleast brought down to 6 hrs with same pay at both govt and private.
People think that in govt offices, the work is less. In central govt PSU, the work pressure is at par with corporate Cos and in few of the offices, 6 days work make the life miserable. Unlike IT cos, no wfh option too in the PSUs, this puts lot of hardship foe working mothers
So true Sir. I am successfully progressing in my career from last 12 years and motherhood is not a burden because of my wonderful husband who equally shares the house chores and child responsibility and now we are planning to have our second child.
Excellent call out. I really want you to mention about the post partum depression after child birth, extreme mood swings , for a women it is really very difficult to handle it , specially ppl around her , husband or in laws should be educated . Ppl who live in abroad , who are working and no support it is been nightmare for them to think about second child.
Sir, now a days schools timing so stress for kids.. lot of starting morning 7 and evening upto 5 or 5.30..for higher secondary level...so please talk about that sir...saturday also school ..full working days...
Worth watching. Im not able to find ur mail id anywhere. So im writing my view here. Men must be taught to take care of the child and his wife during and after pregnancy and to share household chores so that women are not into postpartum depression or that mom guilt. Women are made to think and act that mother is the only responsible person of the child which made women to think " i dnt need a baby" which needs to be addressed.
I thought world population should come down.. because exploitation of earth, ie . Water soil and animals, deforestation and many. Thank God now god is balancing humans vs the environment. Rightly said govt. Has to take initiative. But they are the first corrupted person... So will be the country...eg, US selling military arms to other nation and spoiling the world peace. Insisting other nation to vote in their favour..but they say they democratic but actually they are dictators... Non sense peoples..
12:52 literally busted into laughter when you correctly read our minds. As a 90s kids we are marching towards our goals now & friends like me opt for successful career-developement as the key for marriage life
Growing up of a child should be balanced emotionally financially etc. 95 percent only women r fighting single handedly to see their family well fare. I decided long back not to have a child because of above reasons. Being single is torcher but I m not torchring any one else. Both life's have pros and cons.
Thankyou for understanding women's problem without exaggerating her feelings into guilt.You conveyed everything very clearly.Many people are not living their own lives.They will regret in future for living for others.Many women are not even able to say what their heart thinks.Thanks so much for this beautiful video.The man who allows her to speak everything from her heart without making her guilt is the real man.Thankyou for giving knowledge to others through this video.The good thing is you spoke about self esteem.
Good and must topic....I lost my carrier because of my household chores eventhough iam very much interested in my practice..I was unable to balance my kids and carrier...nowadays it's not easy to bring up kids..there r too many burdens for kids and we parents especially mother is in need to help the kid ..
Reason that i have seen recently 1. Late marriage 2. Need sometime after late marriage to enjoy the privacy and be happy with husband leading to IVF 3. Nuclear families 4. Woman after marriage are still treated badly. Only the below points like Status, education, good salary are determining the respect for woman in society. 5. Peace for woman during pregnancy and post delivery. 6. Many parents have started fearing due to educational fees/lifestyle taken for each kid. 7. Body shaming 8. Family politics creating stress for woman 9. Many woman also do not know hoe to raise infants due to neuclear families facing difficulties/issues in raising 10. Parenting comes with happiness and lots of responsibilities along with sleepless nights and physical stress (not many wants to even address it).
Hats off to you Sir for discussing this topic. Tears just rolled when you were talking about mom's guilt. The guilt which I will carry throughout my life........
Same here.. the pain I undergo is unexplainable.. still running with 2kids .. IT job... Home loan.. old parent care etc... every year I think I should quit for my kids.. but still running
Hello sir .. you missed a most important point , i would like to mention. First the partner must take equal responsibility, home is not a resting place for a men, this should be quoted. Men wants his partner to earn, cook, pack, clean, give birth so and soo.. men don't take care of their kids because that are 'earning, working' , and wat a women are doing? don't know wat to say. Men and parents mind set should be changed. Else nothing is gonna happen. Why have you missed these statements sir ?
Exactly said sir. I am working in IT sector... My performance rating had been reduced due to second delivery eventhough I worked hard in my pregnancy... This makes me to feel very worst
I'm a working women with 3 children. Just joined back with my 7 months old baby girl. I'm proud and grateful for all the supportive strengths around me.
Excellently rendered speech. A must need of the hour topic. correct vishwa. I'm millinium women. I have a son but we (my hubby and me) decided not to have our 2nd baby just becoz my in laws don't want come to the city and help us. They didn't do that for my son. So I ended my excellent career and decided to stay with my son. Engaluku innoru kulandhai pethukanum nu asai irundhalum, my husband orutharoda salary la oru city la engala la innoru baby afford panna mudiyala... romba vedhanaya iruku...
The same was happening here. Both parents want both of us to earn good and want to have 2 childern . I decided to take care of my kid and drop off from my career and dreams. I felt like being a millinium women is a 'curse', very bad to say this.
india உடைய population ferlity rate பத்தி எல்லாம் கவலைப் படுவதற்கு ஒன்றுமே இல்லை... அதை அசைக்கக்கூட முடியாது... சொல்லப்போனால் மக்கள் தொகை என்பது நம் நாட்டில் மிகப்பெரிய அசவுகரியம் தான். ஒரு VAO post ku 1.6 லட்சம் பேர் TNPSC exam எழுதுகிறார்கள்.. மக்கள் தொகையின் மூலம் ஏற்படும் அசவுகரியம் பற்றி புரிந்துகொள்ள இதையும் விட எடுத்துக்காட்டு வேறு ஒன்று தேவையில்லை.. ஆரோக்கியமான வழியில் மக்கள்தொகையை கட்டுப்படுத்த வேண்டிய கட்டாயத்தில் நாம் இருக்கிறோம் என்பதை மறந்து விட வேண்டாம்.. 🙏🏻
Hmmm main reason to choose childfree is "No worries abt children in every stage of its life. Starting from physical health.. mental health. Studies.. thn finding a desired job.. desired partner. Calm nd peaceful relationship.. his wrk progress. Etc etc".. plus if we hv kids . We bring them up..nd eventually keep expecting them to take care of us during old age.. some children may not b in a situation to take care of parents - financial.. . Personal..health reasons etc.. But old parents get disappointed if kids can't take care of them.. 99% children has to undergo many struggles in their life as parents undergo. Why to produce a child nd make it undergo all the struggles in life and consequently parents too get worried looking at children's struggle. Enuff of this giving birth nd making them struggle.
My personal observations. In our generation we mostly obeyed our parents,in-laws etc and most of us never thought even one bit as to what would perhaps be future difficulties of having children.but now women and couple are more aware. Bringing up children seems difficult in today's times.They seem to go astray easily due to external influences which can't be fully controlled by parents. All this combined with other aspects like economic situation, seeing around that children don't support their parents physically emotionally and or financially at old age.,which makes the couple question as to what really is the purpose of having children.
Better to stop karma transmission from generation to generation. If we are struggling for the unknown sins and the sins committed by our ancestors, then better to put an end to chid birth. Why should we create new life just to make their life suffer in such world where war and hatred are becoming new normal. I have kids and iam bringing them up with lots of fear and confusions. It doesn't mean iam not courageous. But atleast we are getting such fearful thoughts while coming across so many horrible moments happening around us......above all why to live in such maya
Kalyanam aana moonaavadu maasame good news kettu torture panravanga aged parents aa irundaalum sari relatives aa irundaalum sari neighbours o friends o irundaalum sari, avanga DAAN kuzhandaya paathukanum, mother and child's medical, child's educational selavu pannanum oru sattam varattum. Thaana ellaarum vaaya moodeetruppaanga. Aprom retired life, VRS life ellaathayum kondaadattum. Force panni kalyanam pannikavum, kuzhandai pethukkavum vecha avangalum force panni daan kuzhandaya paathukka veppaanga. It is clearly stated in the video to help the mother to take care of the baby and there you go. Some people here are commenting to make her feel guilty for seeking her parent's help in doing the same and there are likes for such thinking 🤦🏻♀ Inda nonsense ku daan kalyanam kuzhandai vedaam nu mudivu panraanga nu inda video ve potrukkaaru, ada purinjukkaama marubadiyum modallende aarambikkiraanga. Don't aged parents have a life na? They do, and so do the youngsters who choose not to have kids. Appo pethukka solli old parents um ivangala force panna koodaadu. They should be allowed to choose when they are capable of taking care of the baby themselves or affording a trustworthy babysitter. If they have no help, they have the right to choose not to have a baby too. Toxic glorification of age as an excuse. Kodumai da saami! They are anyway at home and can definitely contribute if THEY want a grandchild badly.
குழந்தையின்மை தற்போது அதிகரித்து விட்டது. இதற்கு பின்னால் மெடிக்கல் மாபியாக்களின் செயல்பாடு எதுவும் உள்ளதா ? 🤔🙄🧐 அது குறித்து ஒரு தகவல் கிடைக்குமா ? விஷ்வா சார்....
We are child free couple... Nanum en husband um kozhantha pethukalanu complaint panravanga thitravanga Naanga irukom support panrom nu oru naalum solala... Thita mattum thaan seiyaraanga... They are the selfish people not us ... Naanga rendu perum one yr ku lacks la tax katrom... But we don't use gov hospital, school bcz of poor quality... Tax payers ku priority illa mariyadha illa... Enga tax la mathavanga gov facilities use panraanga adhoda nanga again hospital ku school ku lacks la selavu pananum... Mathavanga selavum enga mela enga selavum enga mela... Apram kolandha pethuka time , energy, money enga irukum...
In a land of 150 crore ppl with lots of struggles, competitions, jobless young graduates, unethical govt why do women's bear kids and make them struggle throughout their life.. childless is really a good thought for some ppl who is not ready for it.. Best decision 👏 👌 let the population reduce, let the nature survive, let the pollution gets down and this world really needs space to breath good air now... so women now it's all in your hands.. U have every right to decide whether to become mom or not...
Yes why make children suffer in this world We ourselves are struggling to make a living in this world we are not getting enough resources already. facing water scarcity and unemployment problems
Yes, but no one seems to understand this. Especially in India we are pressurized to give birth even when we are not ready for it. And most of the men consider it as some prestige issue because they are questioned whether they are fertile or not.
Very good topic and great explanation. Please educate men's to equally carry out the responsibility of women. Men's ego is another reason women avoiding kids.
Super sir...good explanation...but I am married..9 yrs completed..but I have no kids..naa romba virumuren kulandhai Pethukanum nu..from my marriage day till now ...oru naal kuda Naanga baby vendam nu nanaikala....baby vendam nu thalli podanum Ella..romba aasaya eruku..but I have no kids past 9 yrs....naraya treatment eduthu tu endha use um Ella. Eppo we wont take any treatment..i trust my god..news paakkumbodhu drainage la pothar la street dust bin la kulandhai erundhuchu nu news paakkumbodhu romba aluven..andha kulandhai ellam Enakku vandhu parandhu erukka kudadha...naa Nalla pathu valarthiruppen....vendam nu solravangalukku dhan kulandhai pirakkudhu...engala Madiri venum nu nanaikiravangalukku kadavul en sir kulandhai kudukka maattraru....thank you sir
Hello sir great content, foundation itself is the problem in India. Equal sharing of household work and responsibilities is something that is seen as an insult to Malehood even today among the educated communities itself. Boy is the prince and woman his slave concept somehow pops in the in law's head , result is a mess, being a millenial woman I see this happening to my friends. The guy who is willing to share is also brainwashed that's the pathetic part of the story, dowry system adds fuel to this, adapting to the changing environment is something only very few guys understand and only their houses turn out to be homes. Guys really have a lot to work on, after all societal mess is something that has to be treated in early stage that's why millenial woman choose to be childfree
Rightly said. Men doesn’t share the household work and waking up throughout the night for the baby is a big thing and family doesn’t support in such things causes postpartum depression after pregnancy for women.
Exactly... This society is adding burden to only women....Now a days without job no one will consider u as a human...so as a women we sacrifice everything.,.....
Dheivamey nandri :) atleast u came forward to talk about young mothers current situation in our country..as you said gvt should take action sir..otherwise same situation remains unchangable in our country..
Sir even tried to pregnancy there is more health issues.... Hospitals,tablets,pressure of surrounds, all changed the mindset...to that we have some problem in body...we losting our confidence too... Bayam matum dha iruku..which now I'm Facing...
Wonderful topic . Mom guilt is very true , I have been through that . Raising a child these days is no simple task . It takes lot of energy and help . Unless men and family help a woman , it’s not going to be easy . Women must be financially independent so I don’t blame women at all here .
Many couples are longing to have babies but it is not happening for them, due to many reasons like life style changes, food etc. It is not that they opt not to have a baby. Another reason, many couples lead their marries life like a tight rope walking, with a fear it might break any time. So they don't want to take the risk of having a baby, which might complicate the issue, in case they resort to divorce at a later date. Thirdly, in general today's kids are afraid to take up any commitment and want to lead a carefree life. Their vision about life is different from what the previous generation had. They want to do lot of traveling and seeing places. Having a child may be a hindrance for all this.
Perfectly said..I am a mother of 2 kids working in IT field.. As u stated, after this pandemic, IT companies are literally treating the employees as slaves.. i work for 13-14 hrs everyday, Govt should definitely interfere and regularize this..Thank u for this wonderful vdo..
@@CristianoPrabhu resigning or continuing my job would be my decision.. even if I resign, someone else will come to tat position and they will also be get treated in the same way..Its not only me, most of the IT employees suffer this..
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Excellent Vishwa!!! 👏 Need of the hour topic!!! You have done lot of spade work for this work apparently!!! Every nuance covered well!!! Fact that 90s kids don't believe in marriage and even if married, they don't want to have kids. Pre marital counseling can be one of the possible solutions.
Not only 1 year I would personally say ,if it's possible it's better for the kids especially when both parents are working to be under their grand parents care till they finish school Emotional security that they have someone who would care for them all the time ,some one with whom they can share their happenings at school etc gives more happiness, and self confidence to children that they are not alone ,courage to share bad things if any .It shapes them better than those who are not able to have grand parents with them as children Thats my personal view
@@anonymozanonymouz9323 I have come across many daughterinlaws who treat their inlaws as burden even for a day and not ready to share sometime to enquire about their welfare ..how can they expect them to take care of their children...Old parents have to take care of their health exploit them and not taking burden of these families and spoiling their health. They will simply exploit them and ignore them when they are not well...
@@sss29933 very true.agree.Infact it seems in today's time most of the issues that aged people come through daughter-in-laws not respecting them.,but treating them as maids.. Especially from what I have seen they don't seem to get along with mother-in-laws .,more than father-in laws. Situation it seems is worst for those in laws who are dependent financially on children without pension or savings etc. Anyways let me clarify that i was writing only from couples point of view as to why they dont wish to have children. Thanks for your reply.
@@anonymozanonymouz9323 Everybody has their own responsibility..let them take care...What one gives only return to them..Not only daughterinlaws even many daughters try to.sqeeze their mothers.help without caring about their mom's health and trying to enjoy their lives...They treat their mom as bonded labour
Very well explained in all perspectives. Rather than privatizing schools, hospitals, they should be government run and affordable to everyone, as it could solve one's financial burden. Despite the taxes are high in developed countries, they do provide education and medical facilities for free to some extent.
I'm a mother of 4 year son. Even if my son becomes ill or if we falls down. We r responsible. Raising a child is very tough. You are always answerable. It's a big responsibility which they want to take. I totally agree. Till now I'm very cautious some one should not point out to me what we're you doing when your son fell down or if he is not eating properly. Always they will ask questions to mother. Rest others r dead.
I think all th working location should have a dedicated school and sports facilities. It will allow the parents drop kids at same location and allow them to work without worry. 6 hrs school and 1 hr of home work and 2 hrs of arts and sports activities.
What u r saying is correct, just think how much struggle parents have to make a child grow for almost 21 years. What do they get in return. Nowadays it's just nothing and that's the reason for increase in old age homes. It's better not to have kids at all now. Let the fertility rate go to 0.5 and than let's think. Till then let people be happy with the decision they take. End of the day life is too short, let individuals take their own decision, why impose. What's the point in raising kids when there is of no use at old age.
Today's children are so self oriented and they don't have any moral obligation to take care of their parents even if both are financially sound. So what's the use of going through the hurdles of bringing up a child is also a major reason for not having a child.
S anna true. I m working in banking sector. Having a girl child brought up by my mother. now I need one more kid but no support from family and society. Day care kandipa venum for working women
ஹலோ விஷ்வா எப்படி இருக்கீங்க இன்றைய பதிவு கவலை தரக்கூடியது அதேசமயத்தில் யோசிக்கவும் வைக்கிறது. நீங்களே இந்த பிரச்சனைக்கு தீர்வுகளையும் அழகா சொல்லிட்டீங்க. எல்லா வற்றை யும் விட இந்த கால கணவன் மனைவி இருவருக்குமே நமக்கு குழந்தைகள் வேணும் அப்படி ங்கற ஆசையும் இருக்கனும். கமிட்மென்டே வேணாம்னு நினைக்க கூடாது. இன்னும் சில பேர்கள் நாம இந்த உலகில் பிறந்து கஷ்டப்படுவது போறாதா(சுற்றுச்சூழல், பொருளாதார, ஆரோக்கியம்) என்று யோசித்து குழந்தை வேணாம்னு முடிவெடுக்கின்றனர்.
Can you pls talk about price hike of common stuff eg.lemon , other veggies fruits used by common ppl. It's not only bcz of fuel price hike, it's about over exporting and making it in a demand, inturn Indian resources are supplied else where and making us unhealthy and Malnutrition society ahead in future.. pls discuss about this.. 1. Over exporting and demand in own country, 2. Farmers not paid enough, business ppl will procure cheaply from them and will either sell thru apps such as Big basket, Jiomart, Amazon, Big bazaar or else they will export all First quality products abroad and will make us live with 2nd ND 3rd cheap quality stuffs within our country. This will inturn make every good thing expensive and too luxurious for common ppl, make big business ppl richer and poor becomes poorer and unhealthier.. 3. Future mothers will become malnutritioned and inturn babies too..and the society ahead - unhealthy, hospitalization 4. Indians are again made as slaves for cheap employment to make export good stuffs to other rich countries and let's stay unhealthy and poorer forever. 5. All this happening bcoz of dirty politicians, big Business ppl so on...
The guilt of a working mother is really a very relevant topic to discuss..I will surely share experiences on this soon..Thank for enlightening and glorifying motherhood..a great thought❤
Great topic!! From watching you as a handsome hunk in nice serials.. , majorly KB sir’s…, and then missing you.., you disappearing suddenly from the silver screen.., it’s so happy to see you discuss important social issues…and so nice to know the facts!! Wonderful flow..-Your narration .., speech is so captivating..makes us listen…as it is a mix of facts and speech.. thank you so much.. You would have made a great lawyer..!!🙂I feel.. And this topic in specific.. even Elon Musk has mentioned that population reduction is a big worry.. So thanks again for this being as an eye opener.. My view is.. as Sadhguru and other ppl say.. bringing up a child is a 20 yr project.. thanks for bringing up the ‘mom guilt’ feel also.. mainly.. So all these .., the responsibility and commitment scares all people.. But yes.., an important social concern. Best wishes!!and thank you.. 🙏🙏
As said economy and responsibility are challenges but then providing protection and bringing up especially girl children is the biggest stress and the biggest challenges.. Even me preferring not to have a child. We can't see them struggling
Enoda neraiya friends oru baby matum podhum inonu manage pana mudiyathu ngra situation la irukanga. 1) finance - school fees medical ithulam manage pananum na konjam amount venum nu first baby yae kuda thali podurom 2) pathuka aal ila 3) kolanthaiya vida money than important ah nu ovaru nalum ovaruthanga pesurathu , baby small ah thapi panalum amma va matum point Pani blame panurathu 4) oru family la 5 peru irukanga adhula Iruka 3 men yentha work um seiya matanga antha veetu ponnu little princes so avangalum sriya matanga full responsibility mother-in-law and daughter-in-law mela vilurathu Going forward , child venamu konjam perum, child venum nenachalum fertility issues la konjam perum ,unhealthy baby oda konjam perum irupanga To do: 1) good food habit and lifestyle follow pananum 2) Namma night shift Iruka job avoid pananum 3) office work 8 hours Iruka job matum yelarum select pananum 4) maternity leave 2 years achum irukanum 5) men woman ku help pananum, child growth is not only woman responsibility 6) woman blame Pani avangalae stress avae vachiruka kudathu 7) mobile phone use panurathu kammi pananum, babies ku screening time romba kamiya kudakanum 8) exercise pananum or yoga So many things to follow otherwise welcome to unhealthy society
தேவையான சமயத்தில் மிக மிக அவசியமான பதிவு.வேலைக்குச் செல்லும் பெண்களுக்கான ஆலோசனையாக மட்டுமே வழங்கியிருக்கிறீர்கள்.குடும்பங்களுக்கே நிறைய ஆலோசனைகள் தேவை.
Sema 👌 .....IT companies la child care centers aramicha ena ??? Mom guilt um varathu....mom adikadi baby ah pathuklam ....feed panlam.... Even schools n clgs la kooda start panlam ....for teachers n professors who are having babies...
M.sc b.ed padicha ponnu enaku therinji 5000 sambalathuku velaiku poranga. Ipdilam finance nilama iruntha epdi kolantha pethu avangala valaka mudium. Epdi Padika vaika mudium. Financial situation is one of the main reason to avoid babies.
Tamilnadu la govt lab technician ku 8000 salary. Adhum 50km to 250 km kum apuram irukure place ku poi work pananum. Perusa govt job nu solranga ana padiche padipukum seira work load kum thagundhe salary koduthadhane
சார் உங்களின் இந்த ஆராய்ச்சி தொகுப்பை பாராட்ட வார்த்தைகளே இல்லை…. ஒவ்வொரு வார்த்தையும் உண்மை ஆணாக இருந்து இவை அனைத்தையும் புரிந்து பேசுவது சிறப்பு. இறுதியில் கூறிய முடிவு அதைவிட சிறப்பு… ஜெர்மனியில் ஆராய்ச்சி படிப்பற்கு விண்ணப்பிக்க பார்த்தபொழுது அதில் குழந்தைகள் பராமரிப்பும் , நேரத்தை நாம் நிர்ணயித்து வேலை செய்து கொள்ளலாம் அதாவது எப்ப வேணா வேலை செய் குறிப்பிட்ட நேரத்தில் வேலைமுடிந்மால் சரி என்பது போன்று இருப்பதை பார்த்து நான் அடைந்த மகிழ்ச்சிக்கு அளவேயில்லை… பெண்ணாக என்னையறியாமல் மகிழ்கிறேன் என்றால் இது போன்ற சலுகைகள் மிக மிக அத்தியாவசியம் . அமெரிக்காவில் ஆண்,பெண் இருவருமே வேலைக்கு இடையில் குழந்தைகளை அழைத்துவர செல்லலாம் சகஜம் நம் ஊரில் மேலதிகாரி சொல்றானோ இல்லையோ கூட இருக்கவங்க கொலைக்குற்றம் என்பார்கள் … நான் அமெரிக்காவில் வசிக்கிறேன் இங்கு குழந்தைகளை ஆசையுடன் வளர்க்குறார்கள் பாரமாக நினைப்பதில்லை காரணம் சூழ்நிலைகள் கைக்குழந்தைகளைக்கூட எடுத்துக்கொண்டு வெளியில் செல்லலாம் அத்தியாவசிய தேவைகளை கூச்சமாக பார்ப்பதில்லை நம் ஊரில் குழந்தைகளை விட்டு விட்டுதான் வெளியில் செல்வார்கள் இல்லையெனில் வீட்டிலேயே முடங்கிவிடுகிறோம் அதைவிட்டால் சுற்றத்தார் அப்படி வெளிய போக சொல்லுதா என்பார்கள்…. குறைந்தபட்சம் பெண்களின் மனது இன்னொரு பெண்ணிண் மேல் குறைந்தபட்சம் பொறாமை சுயநலம் தவிர்த்தல் பெரிய மாற்றங்களை உண்டாக்கும் மகன் தாயின் சொற்களைத்தான் முதலில் கேட்டு பழக ஆரம்பிக்கிறான் . இங்கு நான் எங்கு என்னை முறையாக அறிமுகப்படுத்த(அலுவலக) நேரிட்டாலும் am a dependent H4 visa தாக்கத்தில் am dependent என்று சொல்வதுண்டு மறுமுனையில் பேசக்கூடிய பெண்மணி u r not dependent You are wife என்று சொல்வார்கள். நம் பெண்கள் அடுத்த பெண் வீட்டில் அடிமையாக மட்டுமே இருக்க வேண்டும் என்று நினைக்கின்றனர்(மெத்த படித்த பெண்கள் உட்பட) எப்படி சார் சமுதாயம் மாறும் ???? படிப்பு ஏட்டு சுரக்காய் சம்பாதிக்கும் கருவியாக மட்டுமே உள்ளதே!!!!! நன்றி சார்
Your point about timing is so true. My husband works from morning 10 to night 10 often extending to 12. I quit my job to take care of him and his aging parents. In today’s age women can either work or have a kid. It’s so hard for us when we want both! 🥲
Income tax, property tax increase, GST, school fees, Toll, Sewage and water tax(even when you don't have water or sewage connection), petrol price, yellam increase agum. Salary mattum increase aga matingudhu 😂
It might be a great propaganda in western countries, where women are well secured by law, and police system. But in india , these kind of securities are something unimaginable for a women. They might have to face approaching male for sex , every where starting from neighbour hood , office, shops etc..etc... SO they have to consider a good male life partner, in order to safe guard themselves from this evil society..
Superb sir,you've discusses excellent topic...Very awesome hats off to your responsibility...More than you acted in serial this show is more intresting to watch& think ..also motto to do next..
Nanga oru baby pothumnu decide pannitom but enaku second baby venumnu thonukitae iruku...but husband ku virupam ila financial issue plus paathuka aal ila nu dan ipdi oru mudivu..
Bestest video sir👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Great concept to be discussed in current situation 🙃 the final solutions for the problems faced by current new gen mom's are to the point💯
Actually this is an extremely important topic. This is exactly what middle class couple are going through. Ippo ellam edhaiyume afford panna mudiyaradhu illa. Idhula kolandha porandha enna pannuvom nu beedhila ukandhutu irukom anna.. Society um summa irukadhu.. Kandipa we cannot afford to raise a child amongst all these hurdles. Idhula global warming Vera bayamburuthudhu. All the climatic changes and stuff paakum podhu human race survive aaguma nu I seriously doubt. Ipadi patta ulagathuku oru kolandhaiya kondu varave bayama iruku.
Vishwa sir why can’t the society accept that I can only support my daughter to fulfill her desire for motherhood.I am 55 years old who has faced so many problems in life since I got married.So now slowly with the children growing up and moving out into their independent lives,I have just now started living my life for myself.So now with the arrival of grandchildren am I expected to write off another 10 or 15 years of my life to my grandchildren’s upbringing?So when will ever I live for myself?Has God created me for only to care for my kids and grandchildren?Is it a sin if I say that for once I want to live for myself 😢🤔
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எங்க ஊர்ல நிறைய பேருக்கு 3 - 4 குழந்தைகள்
I wil tel u my perspective am a monther of a 6 yr old girl child .. i got pregnant again and went for abortion, many judged me for my action but I have my own struggle and justification for it .. my daughter is a very healthy normal child ,still from time of birth she keeps falling sick minimum 1 time a month and medicine, doctor hospital you jus can't avoid.. it's super stressful, and those days literally i don't sleep.. initially i thought it's jus my kid ,then i slowly started to observing other parents in my child's class and other children till age 7 every mom goes through this ,if it's jus one child it's much easier. Mom's with 2 kids really are in absolute stress about child's health... And then coming to schooling it's become soo expensive and many families 2 of them shld work to manage family and wen there is no attention of atleast one parent most kids are uncontrollable and they constantly have some problem and ultimately it's the mom who has to be blamed .. is she a robot ??? And I hate this supermom tag where ppl say wow she works take care of family and kids .. do u knkw how difficult and stressful? My granny had 7 daughters and my mom has 3 daughters but they wer not like us they wer super chilled we went to govt aided school and college.. but now the peers and other stuffs are super demanding... I advise my sisters not to get married and live happily, and my cousins who are married not to have kids .. really doesn't worth and this world isn't that good ,no good water ,no good air ,all are polluted including ppl i feel unborn kids are the luckiest 🙏 jus be happy and leave this world.. many species extinct and human shld cos we are the most deadliest among all ...earth is better off without us 🙏
Well said dr
Very true
Absolutely right sister.....
Super
It's OK everone is deadliest among all means you have to come out of stress life should have all these struggles 🤧
I don't have children. I am married for 15 years . I am happy. My husband and I have full freedom .
We are spending for ourselves. No bond with children. In future, so many diseases are coming. Future kids are vulnerable to many diseases. I can't worry about my kids if I have one.
I was also insulted by my friends, relatives and inlaws. They didn't tell my husband impotent but called me "Maladi"
I took treatment for 2 years to conceive and ended up with side effects. With all these health issues, I decided not to have any child. Because I am Allergic to medicines. Now I am 43, my husband 49. We are living our life together with no commitments.
I got married last year and I am 27 now and I am about to become a father in October 2022...I work in IT sector and I don't see my child as a burden and I am really excited to see my child and raise him/her like a friend
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Superb. I like the clarity in your thoughts maha Lakshmi mam. have a wonderful life ahead !!
Same here
Actually u guys are blessed
Great topic. But I am curious to know why you did not mention husbands taking equal responsibility for the child. I have lived in US for several years and have seen educated, qualified and professional couples where if the child soils the diaper, husband just calls out loud to the wife "anga paapru diaper change pannu" and the girl acts like a keyed toy and runs to change the diapers!!! Why cant he do it !!! Isnt that his child too?? And in families where Dads do take their part of their responsibility they must do it in secrecy (without the bouy's parents knowung anything about it) because the in laws start cribbing "kuzhandhaiaya en paiyan dhaan paathukaran. Paavam avan. Aval paaru onnum seiyaradhu illai" !!
I feel that the most important reason behind not wanting a baby is the responsibility that comes with motherhood. Women are expected to take care of everything that the baby requires along with household chores and job responsibilities. Before having a baby they would have worked 12 hours a day to balance work and household but after having a baby this becomes a 24/7 work where they have to stay awake during the nights to care for the baby as well as during the day to do regular chores. Apart from mom's guilt we are also made to feel guilty when our husband does some chore for us even if it is only on a single occasion. This is especially very common in India where people either make fun of men who do household chores or look down upon them.
Also, the society always blames the mother for not bringing up the child in a certain way. Even in developed countries men do not concern themselves with taking care of kids. Raising a child is a collective responsibility of both the parents and men should start to recognise this.
On the other hand, I also believe that expecting the grandparents to take care of the children is quite irrational. It will obviously give them joy to take care of the kid for a short while but giving them the entire responsibility of caring for a child is taxing. Remember, they had their turn to raise their own children and at their age they need more rest than this additional responsibility. Nowadays kids tend to grow up with the grandparents and spend the vacation with their parents which is just the opposite of how it should be.
When women get support from their husbands, have flexible working hours, can avail better childcare services and when people appreciate that mothers also humans and have a life of their own, women will not say no to having a child.
Very true
Well said👏👏
All the points you have mentioned are true. Also as a part of the society we must not ask anyone about their pregnancy
It is totally their personal matter
If anyone plans not to have baby, people are not letting them live in peace.
They keep on advising and torturing to have baby
Yes!! And these days it's shocking to see young people are asked to bear child with donor eggs by most of the doctors and young couples are giving up to peer pressure...
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When the spouse is not having a good companionship how can a woman think of giving a birth...what will happen to the life of a baby which is born to such a couple?
Exactly, they don't help or they don't respect motherhood.
Then why should we get pregnant. We are together because to rectify the first mistake( first child).
இந்த மனப்பான்மை 40 வருடங்களுக்கு முன் எனக்கு த்தோன்றியிருந்தால் நான் இன்று மனதளவில் இவ்வளவு பாதிக்கப்பட்டு இருக்க மாட்டேன்.மரணவலி போன்ற பிரசவ வேதனை. அதைவிட பெரியவலி வயதான பின் பிள்ளைகளின் உதாசீனம்.இந்த ஞானோதயம் அப்போ து வரவில்லை.நீங்கள் என்னை நிந்தித்தாலும் பரவாயில்லை.தனிமையில் வாடும் எங்களைப்பற்றியும் ஒரு பதிவு போடுங்கள்.புண்ணியமாகப்போகும்.
தாங்கள் சொல்வது முற்றிலும் உண்மை
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உங்களை ஏன் நிந்திக்கவேண்டும் உங்கள் வார்த்தைகள் என மனதில் பாரத்தை ஏற்றிவிட்டது அம்மா கடவுள் உங்களுக்கு நிம்மதி தர பிரத்திக்கிறேன்
வருந்தவேண்டா...
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Thangal pillaigalai IT velai/veli naadu anupirundhal thirumbi vara sollungal... Thangal kuzhandhaigalin kashta nashtangalai purindhu kollungal adhai etru kollungal... Unga pillaigal and marumagal kitta EGO vendam🙏... Ungalukum marumagalukkum karuthu veru paadu irundhal adhu en endru sindhiyungal... Marumagalin karuthukaluku sevi saayungal... Thangalukku matru karuthu irundhal adhai koori uraiyadungal... Thinikka vendam... Meeriyum veru paadu irundhal adhai etru kollungal... Koodi vaalndhal Kodi nanmai uruvukku meeriya agambaavamum, suya thevai mattumana sindhanaigalum thanimaiku kondu sethu vidum... Please Adjust Accept Accommodate (for all gen of people not just specific to younger or older gen)... Peran petriyinarudan Kuzhanthaigalundan koodi vilaiyaadungal... Kootu Sandhosham than mukkiyam adhai meeri veredhuvum mukkiyamalla... Suya Sandhosham tharkaarigamanadhu
Great topic, I am working in IT sector. Even I had dilemma when I rejoined after my maternity leave, still I tried alot but I couldn't manage I quit. Fortunately I got offer for part-time job in my domain. Now I am happy with my job and kid. All companies can offer part time job for married women.
படிப்பு என்பது சுமையாக இல்லாமல் சுகமாக இருந்தால்தான் குழந்தைகள் ஆரோக்கியமான குழந்தைகளாக வெளியே வருவார்கள்..
Hi Sir, one of the reason that I felt is working hours in office should be optimised , like in govt it is 8 hrs and private it s min 10 hrs expectation and again for travelling office it takes 2-3 hrs in case of metropolitan cities. So almost 12 hrs we are spending for working and vry few hrs we are at home and few hrs sleep. Working hours should be optimised for women as we are meant to take all responsibilities at home too. It should be atleast brought down to 6 hrs with same pay at both govt and private.
People think that in govt offices, the work is less. In central govt PSU, the work pressure is at par with corporate Cos and in few of the offices, 6 days work make the life miserable. Unlike IT cos, no wfh option too in the PSUs, this puts lot of hardship foe working mothers
So true Sir. I am successfully progressing in my career from last 12 years and motherhood is not a burden because of my wonderful husband who equally shares the house chores and child responsibility and now we are planning to have our second child.
Excellent call out. I really want you to mention about the post partum depression after child birth, extreme mood swings , for a women it is really very difficult to handle it , specially ppl around her , husband or in laws should be educated . Ppl who live in abroad , who are working and no support it is been nightmare for them to think about second child.
You do very good research on any topic . You deserve more subscriptions than other youtubers who give fake food reviews and present trending news
fake food reviews and fake marketing ...true that bro .
Wow great one!
You had read working mothers minds very well.. Many mothers resign due to guilt feeling and psychological issues.. Very true!
Sir, now a days schools timing so stress for kids.. lot of starting morning 7 and evening upto 5 or 5.30..for higher secondary level...so please talk about that sir...saturday also school ..full working days...
True true want changes schooling time.. otherwise it will raise stress ton kids.
@@saraswathikannan4175 yes
Try home schooling .. check on RUclips
Worth watching. Im not able to find ur mail id anywhere. So im writing my view here. Men must be taught to take care of the child and his wife during and after pregnancy and to share household chores so that women are not into postpartum depression or that mom guilt. Women are made to think and act that mother is the only responsible person of the child which made women to think " i dnt need a baby" which needs to be addressed.
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Nowadays, people saying depression again and again which create artificial depression 🤷🏻♂️
@@MohanRaj-rv6gw postpartum depression in not an artificial one. It has come to light in recent years.
@@dhivyas8286 I didn’t say anything about postpartum depression.
I thought world population should come down.. because exploitation of earth, ie . Water soil and animals, deforestation and many. Thank God now god is balancing humans vs the environment. Rightly said govt. Has to take initiative. But they are the first corrupted person... So will be the country...eg, US selling military arms to other nation and spoiling the world peace. Insisting other nation to vote in their favour..but they say they democratic but actually they are dictators... Non sense peoples..
12:52 literally busted into laughter when you correctly read our minds. As a 90s kids we are marching towards our goals now & friends like me opt for successful career-developement as the key for marriage life
I almost pushed the child bearing decision for my career..
Exactly true 😂😂😂
Growing up of a child should be balanced emotionally financially etc. 95 percent only women r fighting single handedly to see their family well fare. I decided long back not to have a child because of above reasons. Being single is torcher but I m not torchring any one else. Both life's have pros and cons.
Thankyou for understanding women's problem without exaggerating her feelings into guilt.You conveyed everything very clearly.Many people are not living their own lives.They will regret in future for living for others.Many women are not even able to say what their heart thinks.Thanks so much for this beautiful video.The man who allows her to speak everything from her heart without making her guilt is the real man.Thankyou for giving knowledge to others through this video.The good thing is you spoke about self esteem.
Good and must topic....I lost my carrier because of my household chores eventhough iam very much interested in my practice..I was unable to balance my kids and carrier...nowadays it's not easy to bring up kids..there r too many burdens for kids and we parents especially mother is in need to help the kid ..
Reason that i have seen recently
1. Late marriage
2. Need sometime after late marriage to enjoy the privacy and be happy with husband leading to IVF
3. Nuclear families
4. Woman after marriage are still treated badly. Only the below points like Status, education, good salary are determining the respect for woman in society.
5. Peace for woman during pregnancy and post delivery.
6. Many parents have started fearing due to educational fees/lifestyle taken for each kid.
7. Body shaming
8. Family politics creating stress for woman
9. Many woman also do not know hoe to raise infants due to neuclear families facing difficulties/issues in raising
10. Parenting comes with happiness and lots of responsibilities along with sleepless nights and physical stress (not many wants to even address it).
Excellent 👌👌👌 correct a sonninga
Well said mam....
Hats off to you Sir for discussing this topic. Tears just rolled when you were talking about mom's guilt. The guilt which I will carry throughout my life........
Same here
Same here
Same here.. the pain I undergo is unexplainable.. still running with 2kids .. IT job... Home loan.. old parent care etc... every year I think I should quit for my kids.. but still running
Hello sir .. you missed a most important point , i would like to mention. First the partner must take equal responsibility, home is not a resting place for a men, this should be quoted. Men wants his partner to earn, cook, pack, clean, give birth so and soo.. men don't take care of their kids because that are 'earning, working' , and wat a women are doing? don't know wat to say. Men and parents mind set should be changed. Else nothing is gonna happen. Why have you missed these statements sir ?
Exactly
You are 100% correct ,, the change should start from our home . 👍
Yeah well said
Well said. Exactly 👍
Vishwa, pls console by ur reply
Exactly said sir. I am working in IT sector... My performance rating had been reduced due to second delivery eventhough I worked hard in my pregnancy... This makes me to feel very worst
Tech m?
I'm a working women with 3 children. Just joined back with my 7 months old baby girl. I'm proud and grateful for all the supportive strengths around me.
Do you have twins?
Woww woman.... Go a head! Really great👍👏
How do u manage? Any tips ? M struggling
Excellently rendered speech. A must need of the hour topic. correct vishwa. I'm millinium women. I have a son but we (my hubby and me) decided not to have our 2nd baby just becoz my in laws don't want come to the city and help us. They didn't do that for my son. So I ended my excellent career and decided to stay with my son. Engaluku innoru kulandhai pethukanum nu asai irundhalum, my husband orutharoda salary la oru city la engala la innoru baby afford panna mudiyala... romba vedhanaya iruku...
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Me too same problem
The same was happening here. Both parents want both of us to earn good and want to have 2 childern . I decided to take care of my kid and drop off from my career and dreams. I felt like being a millinium women is a 'curse', very bad to say this.
india உடைய population ferlity rate பத்தி எல்லாம் கவலைப் படுவதற்கு ஒன்றுமே இல்லை... அதை அசைக்கக்கூட முடியாது... சொல்லப்போனால் மக்கள் தொகை என்பது நம் நாட்டில் மிகப்பெரிய அசவுகரியம் தான்.
ஒரு VAO post ku 1.6 லட்சம் பேர் TNPSC exam எழுதுகிறார்கள்.. மக்கள் தொகையின் மூலம் ஏற்படும் அசவுகரியம் பற்றி புரிந்துகொள்ள இதையும் விட எடுத்துக்காட்டு வேறு ஒன்று தேவையில்லை.. ஆரோக்கியமான வழியில் மக்கள்தொகையை கட்டுப்படுத்த வேண்டிய கட்டாயத்தில் நாம் இருக்கிறோம் என்பதை மறந்து விட வேண்டாம்.. 🙏🏻
159999 முட்டாள்கள் அரசாங்க வேலைகள் மட்டுமே தங்கள் மேசைக்கு உணவை கொண்டு வர முடியும் என்று நினைக்கிறார்கள்
@@RPR1978 இருக்கலாம் அன்பரே.. 😊
Northla no birth control in villages
செயற்கை முறையில் குழந்தை பெற்றுக் கொள்வதற்கு ஆகும் செலவுகள் மூலம் பொருளாதார சிக்கல் ஏற்பட்டு விடுமோ என்ற பயமும் ஒரு காரணம்.
Thank u sir. Atleast ur the person who can think and speak about women's complications in day to day life. Ur wife was so blessed
Hmmm main reason to choose childfree is "No worries abt children in every stage of its life. Starting from physical health.. mental health. Studies.. thn finding a desired job.. desired partner. Calm nd peaceful relationship.. his wrk progress. Etc etc".. plus if we hv kids . We bring them up..nd eventually keep expecting them to take care of us during old age.. some children may not b in a situation to take care of parents - financial.. . Personal..health reasons etc.. But old parents get disappointed if kids can't take care of them.. 99% children has to undergo many struggles in their life as parents undergo. Why to produce a child nd make it undergo all the struggles in life and consequently parents too get worried looking at children's struggle. Enuff of this giving birth nd making them struggle.
Well said
@DS Many people may not agree but your point is exactly what the situation is now
I totally agree with your thought
My personal observations.
In our generation we mostly obeyed our parents,in-laws etc and most of us never thought even one bit as to what would perhaps be future difficulties of having children.but now women and couple are more aware.
Bringing up children seems difficult in today's times.They seem to go astray easily due to external influences which can't be fully controlled by parents.
All this combined with other aspects like economic situation, seeing around that children don't support their parents physically emotionally and or financially at old age.,which makes the couple question as to what really is the purpose of having children.
Better to stop karma transmission from generation to generation. If we are struggling for the unknown sins and the sins committed by our ancestors, then better to put an end to chid birth. Why should we create new life just to make their life suffer in such world where war and hatred are becoming new normal. I have kids and iam bringing them up with lots of fear and confusions. It doesn't mean iam not courageous. But atleast we are getting such fearful thoughts while coming across so many horrible moments happening around us......above all why to live in such maya
well said
Excellent coverage of facts and figures. Hats off to Vishwa for touching the topic untouched by others till today
Kalyanam aana moonaavadu maasame good news kettu torture panravanga aged parents aa irundaalum sari relatives aa irundaalum sari neighbours o friends o irundaalum sari, avanga DAAN kuzhandaya paathukanum, mother and child's medical, child's educational selavu pannanum oru sattam varattum. Thaana ellaarum vaaya moodeetruppaanga. Aprom retired life, VRS life ellaathayum kondaadattum. Force panni kalyanam pannikavum, kuzhandai pethukkavum vecha avangalum force panni daan kuzhandaya paathukka veppaanga. It is clearly stated in the video to help the mother to take care of the baby and there you go. Some people here are commenting to make her feel guilty for seeking her parent's help in doing the same and there are likes for such thinking 🤦🏻♀ Inda nonsense ku daan kalyanam kuzhandai vedaam nu mudivu panraanga nu inda video ve potrukkaaru, ada purinjukkaama marubadiyum modallende aarambikkiraanga.
Don't aged parents have a life na? They do, and so do the youngsters who choose not to have kids. Appo pethukka solli old parents um ivangala force panna koodaadu. They should be allowed to choose when they are capable of taking care of the baby themselves or affording a trustworthy babysitter. If they have no help, they have the right to choose not to have a baby too.
Toxic glorification of age as an excuse. Kodumai da saami! They are anyway at home and can definitely contribute if THEY want a grandchild badly.
💯 appreciate and stand by your comment
@@hepzirose Thank you
Absolutely without makeup ! Awesome Vishwa 💯🙌 I stand with you.
குழந்தையின்மை தற்போது அதிகரித்து விட்டது.
இதற்கு பின்னால் மெடிக்கல் மாபியாக்களின் செயல்பாடு எதுவும் உள்ளதா ? 🤔🙄🧐 அது குறித்து ஒரு தகவல் கிடைக்குமா ? விஷ்வா சார்....
Yes, you have raised a correct question. 👌
True .... packet milk and coffee consuming ladies get ovary cyst so this affects reproduction system. Majority unmarried girls were affected.
@@Manisha33m OMG
கண்டிப்பாக உள்ளது என்ன சந்தேகம்?
No doubt, but need research based evidence to understand the cause of the issue.
We are child free couple... Nanum en husband um kozhantha pethukalanu complaint panravanga thitravanga Naanga irukom support panrom nu oru naalum solala... Thita mattum thaan seiyaraanga... They are the selfish people not us ... Naanga rendu perum one yr ku lacks la tax katrom... But we don't use gov hospital, school bcz of poor quality... Tax payers ku priority illa mariyadha illa... Enga tax la mathavanga gov facilities use panraanga adhoda nanga again hospital ku school ku lacks la selavu pananum... Mathavanga selavum enga mela enga selavum enga mela... Apram kolandha pethuka time , energy, money enga irukum...
Purely non-judgemental. Maintain the same balanced state Sir. Glad to be enlightened. Thankyou.
In a land of 150 crore ppl with lots of struggles, competitions, jobless young graduates, unethical govt why do women's bear kids and make them struggle throughout their life.. childless is really a good thought for some ppl who is not ready for it.. Best decision 👏 👌 let the population reduce, let the nature survive, let the pollution gets down and this world really needs space to breath good air now... so women now it's all in your hands.. U have every right to decide whether to become mom or not...
Yes why make children suffer in this world
We ourselves are struggling to make a living in this world we are not getting enough resources already. facing water scarcity and unemployment problems
Yes, but no one seems to understand this. Especially in India we are pressurized to give birth even when we are not ready for it. And most of the men consider it as some prestige issue because they are questioned whether they are fertile or not.
@@anniepriyanka5428 exactly
@@anniepriyanka5428 true , ppl also bully who have a single child
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Very good topic and great explanation.
Please educate men's to equally carry out the responsibility of women. Men's ego is another reason women avoiding kids.
Working mothers feelings/issues are shared exactly... looking forward for the solutions
Super sir...good explanation...but I am married..9 yrs completed..but I have no kids..naa romba virumuren kulandhai Pethukanum nu..from my marriage day till now ...oru naal kuda Naanga baby vendam nu nanaikala....baby vendam nu thalli podanum Ella..romba aasaya eruku..but I have no kids past 9 yrs....naraya treatment eduthu tu endha use um Ella. Eppo we wont take any treatment..i trust my god..news paakkumbodhu drainage la pothar la street dust bin la kulandhai erundhuchu nu news paakkumbodhu romba aluven..andha kulandhai ellam Enakku vandhu parandhu erukka kudadha...naa Nalla pathu valarthiruppen....vendam nu solravangalukku dhan kulandhai pirakkudhu...engala Madiri venum nu nanaikiravangalukku kadavul en sir kulandhai kudukka maattraru....thank you sir
Ipa innum development aachu sis laproscopy pani parunga niraiya peruku ok aaguthu just try cost um Kami tha and next month iui pana irukka 99percent chance iruku...enakum 7years kalichu tha baby poranthuchu...udamba cool ah vechukonga don't worry
You will definitely blessed with beautiful babies
Hello sir great content, foundation itself is the problem in India. Equal sharing of household work and responsibilities is something that is seen as an insult to Malehood even today among the educated communities itself. Boy is the prince and woman his slave concept somehow pops in the in law's head , result is a mess, being a millenial woman I see this happening to my friends. The guy who is willing to share is also brainwashed that's the pathetic part of the story, dowry system adds fuel to this, adapting to the changing environment is something only very few guys understand and only their houses turn out to be homes. Guys really have a lot to work on, after all societal mess is something that has to be treated in early stage that's why millenial woman choose to be childfree
Rightly said. Men doesn’t share the household work and waking up throughout the night for the baby is a big thing and family doesn’t support in such things causes postpartum depression after pregnancy for women.
Well said
Exactly... This society is adding burden to only women....Now a days without job no one will consider u as a human...so as a women we sacrifice everything.,.....
@@BitcoinRonnie Why don't women discuss all these matters before marriage? Why not prioritise these as your needs and marry someone like that.
@@akshayprakash3722 you are 100%right I appropriate that but the question is how many men are true to their words???? I wonder
Dheivamey nandri :) atleast u came forward to talk about young mothers current situation in our country..as you said gvt should take action sir..otherwise same situation remains unchangable in our country..
Sir even tried to pregnancy there is more health issues.... Hospitals,tablets,pressure of surrounds, all changed the mindset...to that we have some problem in body...we losting our confidence too... Bayam matum dha iruku..which now I'm Facing...
U also forget to say how married men can help equally at home by taking care of household chores and kids...
Wonderful topic . Mom guilt is very true , I have been through that . Raising a child these days is no simple task . It takes lot of energy and help . Unless men and family help a woman , it’s not going to be easy . Women must be financially independent so I don’t blame women at all here .
Many couples are longing to have babies but it is not happening for them, due to many reasons like life style changes, food etc. It is not that they opt not to have a baby. Another reason, many couples lead their marries life like a tight rope walking, with a fear it might break any time. So they don't want to take the risk of having a baby, which might complicate the issue, in case they resort to divorce at a later date. Thirdly, in general today's kids are afraid to take up any commitment and want to lead a carefree life. Their vision about life is different from what the previous generation had. They want to do lot of traveling and seeing places. Having a child may be a hindrance for all this.
Perfectly said..I am a mother of 2 kids working in IT field.. As u stated, after this pandemic, IT companies are literally treating the employees as slaves.. i work for 13-14 hrs everyday, Govt should definitely interfere and regularize this..Thank u for this wonderful vdo..
Resign
@@CristianoPrabhu resigning or continuing my job would be my decision.. even if I resign, someone else will come to tat position and they will also be get treated in the same way..Its not only me, most of the IT employees suffer this..
True mam , my husband works from home.14 hours a day
Sir....natural cometic Vs synthetic cosmetics edhu naladhunu solunga sir.....natural epudi sinus patient la use panradhunu solunga sir...like shikakai la use panna mudila...so ..please synthetic cosmetics la neraya products iruku adhoda makeup ah kalatunga sir
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@@OrangeF5 okay
உங்கள் தகவல் சிறப்பு வாழ்த்துக்கள்.உங்கள் எண்ணம் செயலுக்கு வர இறைவன் அருள் செய்யட்டும்.🙏
Excellent Vishwa!!! 👏 Need of the hour topic!!! You have done lot of spade work for this work apparently!!! Every nuance covered well!!! Fact that 90s kids don't believe in marriage and even if married, they don't want to have kids. Pre marital counseling can be one of the possible solutions.
Support from parents from both family is required for them from the earlier stage of pregnancy till raising the baby atleast to 1 year old ..
Not only 1 year
I would personally say ,if it's possible it's better for the kids especially when both parents are working to be under their grand parents care till they finish school
Emotional security that they have someone who would care for them all the time ,some one with whom they can share their happenings at school etc gives more happiness, and self confidence to children that they are not alone ,courage to share bad things if any
.It shapes them better than those who are not able to have grand parents with them as children
Thats my personal view
@@anonymozanonymouz9323 I have come across many daughterinlaws who treat their inlaws as burden even for a day and not ready to share sometime to enquire about their welfare ..how can they expect them to take care of their children...Old parents have to take care of their health exploit them and not taking burden of these families and spoiling their health. They will simply exploit them and ignore them when they are not well...
@@sss29933 very true.agree.Infact it seems in today's time most of the issues that aged people come through daughter-in-laws not respecting them.,but treating them as maids..
Especially from what I have seen they don't seem to get along with mother-in-laws .,more than father-in laws.
Situation it seems is worst for those in laws who are dependent financially on children without pension or savings etc.
Anyways let me clarify that i was writing only from couples point of view as to why they dont wish to have children.
Thanks for your reply.
@@anonymozanonymouz9323 Everybody has their own responsibility..let them take care...What one gives only return to them..Not only daughterinlaws even many daughters try to.sqeeze their mothers.help without caring about their mom's health and trying to enjoy their lives...They treat their mom as bonded labour
@@sss29933 very true.
Much needed content for the current situation sir. Much appreciated 👍
Very well explained in all perspectives. Rather than privatizing schools, hospitals, they should be government run and affordable to everyone, as it could solve one's financial burden. Despite the taxes are high in developed countries, they do provide education and medical facilities for free to some extent.
Conceptkulla oralavu vandhu adha pathi comment panna orey person neenga dhan sir. Mathavanga comments paatha siripa varudhu. Understanding husband kaikudukum uravugal nu TV serial kadha maari expectionoda comment pandranga. Idhula onnu rendu funny feminist vera 😄
@@jayakumaras6057 Thank you sir 😊
I'm a mother of 4 year son. Even if my son becomes ill or if we falls down. We r responsible. Raising a child is very tough. You are always answerable. It's a big responsibility which they want to take. I totally agree. Till now I'm very cautious some one should not point out to me what we're you doing when your son fell down or if he is not eating properly. Always they will ask questions to mother. Rest others r dead.
Am really surprising to watch your videos.. much appreciated to bring such topics ❤️❤️❤️ This should be shared maximum 😇
Whatever u said is 100 percent true. After my kid's birth I resumed my work after 8 years.
I think all th working location should have a dedicated school and sports facilities. It will allow the parents drop kids at same location and allow them to work without worry. 6 hrs school and 1 hr of home work and 2 hrs of arts and sports activities.
What u r saying is correct, just think how much struggle parents have to make a child grow for almost 21 years. What do they get in return. Nowadays it's just nothing and that's the reason for increase in old age homes. It's better not to have kids at all now. Let the fertility rate go to 0.5 and than let's think. Till then let people be happy with the decision they take. End of the day life is too short, let individuals take their own decision, why impose. What's the point in raising kids when there is of no use at old age.
Today's children are so self oriented and they don't have any moral obligation to take care of their parents even if both are financially sound. So what's the use of going through the hurdles of bringing up a child is also a major reason for not having a child.
S anna true. I m working in banking sector. Having a girl child brought up by my mother. now I need one more kid but no support from family and society. Day care kandipa venum for working women
Sir, I am 29 yes old and diagnosed diabetes. It's my unhealthy lifestyle and food habit only. Please talk about it. Cure and some ideas
I trust u
Very good subject இது நாமும்...அரசாங்கமும்...யோசிக்கவேண்டிய விசயம்👍👍
ஹலோ விஷ்வா எப்படி இருக்கீங்க இன்றைய பதிவு கவலை தரக்கூடியது அதேசமயத்தில் யோசிக்கவும் வைக்கிறது. நீங்களே இந்த பிரச்சனைக்கு தீர்வுகளையும் அழகா சொல்லிட்டீங்க. எல்லா வற்றை யும் விட இந்த கால கணவன் மனைவி இருவருக்குமே நமக்கு குழந்தைகள் வேணும் அப்படி ங்கற ஆசையும் இருக்கனும். கமிட்மென்டே வேணாம்னு நினைக்க கூடாது. இன்னும் சில பேர்கள் நாம இந்த உலகில் பிறந்து கஷ்டப்படுவது போறாதா(சுற்றுச்சூழல், பொருளாதார, ஆரோக்கியம்) என்று யோசித்து குழந்தை வேணாம்னு முடிவெடுக்கின்றனர்.
Super information sir
Sir in IT , the job which is done by 2 or 3 persons, they are giving to 1 person. Day by day prices are increasing it can be vegetables, fruits etc
Sad reality everone facing everyday 😬
I love his voice and accent. Also, not just mothers but fathers also have to take care of children during work.
Sir can you tell ways for cooling our body organically in this summer ( basic home made ) it can be very short also
Family support and dividing responsibilities will help women to balance family and carrier
Can you pls talk about price hike of common stuff eg.lemon , other veggies fruits used by common ppl. It's not only bcz of fuel price hike, it's about over exporting and making it in a demand, inturn Indian resources are supplied else where and making us unhealthy and Malnutrition society ahead in future.. pls discuss about this..
1. Over exporting and demand in own country,
2. Farmers not paid enough, business ppl will procure cheaply from them and will either sell thru apps such as Big basket, Jiomart, Amazon, Big bazaar or else they will export all First quality products abroad and will make us live with 2nd ND 3rd cheap quality stuffs within our country. This will inturn make every good thing expensive and too luxurious for common ppl, make big business ppl richer and poor becomes poorer and unhealthier..
3. Future mothers will become malnutritioned and inturn babies too..and the society ahead - unhealthy, hospitalization
4. Indians are again made as slaves for cheap employment to make export good stuffs to other rich countries and let's stay unhealthy and poorer forever.
5. All this happening bcoz of dirty politicians, big Business ppl so on...
The guilt of a working mother is really a very relevant topic to discuss..I will surely share experiences on this soon..Thank for enlightening and glorifying motherhood..a great thought❤
Most of the men are not taking any responsibility about the child and house hold work, so women deside one child is enough.
Yeah that's really true
Great topic!! From watching you as a handsome hunk in nice serials.. , majorly KB sir’s…, and then missing you.., you disappearing suddenly from the silver screen.., it’s so happy to see you discuss important social issues…and so nice to know the facts!! Wonderful flow..-Your narration .., speech is so captivating..makes us listen…as it is a mix of facts and speech.. thank you so much.. You would have made a great lawyer..!!🙂I feel.. And this topic in specific.. even Elon Musk has mentioned that population reduction is a big worry.. So thanks again for this being as an eye opener..
My view is.. as Sadhguru and other ppl say.. bringing up a child is a 20 yr project.. thanks for bringing up the ‘mom guilt’ feel also.. mainly.. So all these .., the responsibility and commitment scares all people.. But yes.., an important social concern.
Best wishes!!and thank you.. 🙏🙏
Absolutely correct sir
As said economy and responsibility are challenges but then providing protection and bringing up especially girl children is the biggest stress and the biggest challenges.. Even me preferring not to have a child. We can't see them struggling
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Enoda neraiya friends oru baby matum podhum inonu manage pana mudiyathu ngra situation la irukanga.
1) finance - school fees medical ithulam manage pananum na konjam amount venum nu first baby yae kuda thali podurom
2) pathuka aal ila
3) kolanthaiya vida money than important ah nu ovaru nalum ovaruthanga pesurathu , baby small ah thapi panalum amma va matum point Pani blame panurathu
4) oru family la 5 peru irukanga adhula Iruka 3 men yentha work um seiya matanga antha veetu ponnu little princes so avangalum sriya matanga full responsibility mother-in-law and daughter-in-law mela vilurathu
Going forward , child venamu konjam perum, child venum nenachalum fertility issues la konjam perum ,unhealthy baby oda konjam perum irupanga
To do:
1) good food habit and lifestyle follow pananum
2) Namma night shift Iruka job avoid pananum
3) office work 8 hours Iruka job matum yelarum select pananum
4) maternity leave 2 years achum irukanum
5) men woman ku help pananum, child growth is not only woman responsibility
6) woman blame Pani avangalae stress avae vachiruka kudathu
7) mobile phone use panurathu kammi pananum, babies ku screening time romba kamiya kudakanum
8) exercise pananum or yoga
So many things to follow otherwise welcome to unhealthy society
தேவையான சமயத்தில் மிக மிக அவசியமான பதிவு.வேலைக்குச் செல்லும் பெண்களுக்கான ஆலோசனையாக மட்டுமே வழங்கியிருக்கிறீர்கள்.குடும்பங்களுக்கே நிறைய ஆலோசனைகள் தேவை.
Awesome topic. Explained Every nuances very well. Atleast schools and hospitals shd be governmentised all over india.
If done so, what's the job for our corrupt politicians? They're minting our money with this two karpaga vrikshas.
Sema 👌 .....IT companies la child care centers aramicha ena ??? Mom guilt um varathu....mom adikadi baby ah pathuklam ....feed panlam.... Even schools n clgs la kooda start panlam ....for teachers n professors who are having babies...
M.sc b.ed padicha ponnu enaku therinji 5000 sambalathuku velaiku poranga. Ipdilam finance nilama iruntha epdi kolantha pethu avangala valaka mudium. Epdi Padika vaika mudium. Financial situation is one of the main reason to avoid babies.
Tamilnadu la govt lab technician ku 8000 salary. Adhum 50km to 250 km kum apuram irukure place ku poi work pananum. Perusa govt job nu solranga ana padiche padipukum seira work load kum thagundhe salary koduthadhane
What you are telling is 100per correct . Iam facing all this to raise a child as a working women... Atlast we are criticised imperfect in both sides😢
சார் உங்களின் இந்த ஆராய்ச்சி தொகுப்பை பாராட்ட வார்த்தைகளே இல்லை…. ஒவ்வொரு வார்த்தையும் உண்மை ஆணாக இருந்து இவை அனைத்தையும் புரிந்து பேசுவது சிறப்பு. இறுதியில் கூறிய முடிவு அதைவிட சிறப்பு… ஜெர்மனியில் ஆராய்ச்சி படிப்பற்கு விண்ணப்பிக்க பார்த்தபொழுது அதில் குழந்தைகள் பராமரிப்பும் , நேரத்தை நாம் நிர்ணயித்து வேலை செய்து கொள்ளலாம் அதாவது எப்ப வேணா வேலை செய் குறிப்பிட்ட நேரத்தில் வேலைமுடிந்மால் சரி என்பது போன்று இருப்பதை பார்த்து நான் அடைந்த மகிழ்ச்சிக்கு அளவேயில்லை… பெண்ணாக என்னையறியாமல் மகிழ்கிறேன் என்றால் இது போன்ற சலுகைகள் மிக மிக அத்தியாவசியம் . அமெரிக்காவில் ஆண்,பெண் இருவருமே வேலைக்கு இடையில் குழந்தைகளை அழைத்துவர செல்லலாம் சகஜம் நம் ஊரில் மேலதிகாரி சொல்றானோ இல்லையோ கூட இருக்கவங்க கொலைக்குற்றம் என்பார்கள் … நான் அமெரிக்காவில் வசிக்கிறேன் இங்கு குழந்தைகளை ஆசையுடன் வளர்க்குறார்கள் பாரமாக நினைப்பதில்லை காரணம் சூழ்நிலைகள் கைக்குழந்தைகளைக்கூட எடுத்துக்கொண்டு வெளியில் செல்லலாம் அத்தியாவசிய தேவைகளை கூச்சமாக பார்ப்பதில்லை நம் ஊரில் குழந்தைகளை விட்டு விட்டுதான் வெளியில் செல்வார்கள் இல்லையெனில் வீட்டிலேயே முடங்கிவிடுகிறோம் அதைவிட்டால் சுற்றத்தார் அப்படி வெளிய போக சொல்லுதா என்பார்கள்…. குறைந்தபட்சம் பெண்களின் மனது இன்னொரு பெண்ணிண் மேல் குறைந்தபட்சம் பொறாமை சுயநலம் தவிர்த்தல் பெரிய மாற்றங்களை உண்டாக்கும் மகன் தாயின் சொற்களைத்தான் முதலில் கேட்டு பழக ஆரம்பிக்கிறான் . இங்கு நான் எங்கு என்னை முறையாக அறிமுகப்படுத்த(அலுவலக) நேரிட்டாலும் am a dependent H4 visa தாக்கத்தில் am dependent என்று சொல்வதுண்டு மறுமுனையில் பேசக்கூடிய பெண்மணி u r not dependent You are wife என்று சொல்வார்கள். நம் பெண்கள் அடுத்த பெண் வீட்டில் அடிமையாக மட்டுமே இருக்க வேண்டும் என்று நினைக்கின்றனர்(மெத்த படித்த பெண்கள் உட்பட) எப்படி சார் சமுதாயம் மாறும் ???? படிப்பு ஏட்டு சுரக்காய் சம்பாதிக்கும் கருவியாக மட்டுமே உள்ளதே!!!!! நன்றி சார்
Your point about timing is so true. My husband works from morning 10 to night 10 often extending to 12. I quit my job to take care of him and his aging parents. In today’s age women can either work or have a kid. It’s so hard for us when we want both! 🥲
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Income tax, property tax increase, GST, school fees, Toll, Sewage and water tax(even when you don't have water or sewage connection), petrol price, yellam increase agum. Salary mattum increase aga matingudhu 😂
Hello sir Inga yarum pedhukaga mattanu Solla baby Illa adhukagaa envlow tha pengal treatment endukaruthuanu veruthu poi thaa irukom
நல்ல தலைப்பு.நிறைய தகவல்கள்..superb
No marriage no sex single life sounds great it really helps women empowerment
It might be a great propaganda in western countries, where women are well secured by law, and police system. But in india , these kind of securities are something unimaginable for a women. They might have to face approaching male for sex , every where starting from neighbour hood , office, shops etc..etc...
SO they have to consider a good male life partner, in order to safe guard themselves from this evil society..
Superb sir,you've discusses excellent topic...Very awesome hats off to your responsibility...More than you acted in serial this show is more intresting to watch& think ..also motto to do next..
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Very good topic. Thank you brother for your post and also submitted excellent solutions for an explanation of the basic need to have a baby.
Very helpful & good points,
Nanga oru baby pothumnu decide pannitom but enaku second baby venumnu thonukitae iruku...but husband ku virupam ila financial issue plus paathuka aal ila nu dan ipdi oru mudivu..
Neraiya pengalku baby chances kamiya iruku,orina serkai,and thirunagai ya marathu ithellam kuda 1ru vishayam bro
Ponnu kedaikama mrrg aagamy ,thirunambiya marathu,intrest illatha pengal ,foodkuda baby chance ilama aaga oru Karanam thang bro
Bestest video sir👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Great concept to be discussed in current situation 🙃 the final solutions for the problems faced by current new gen mom's are to the point💯
Anna, have you researched the data of Muslim Population in India?
And it was steadily Growing
good to see somebody is noticing such things ...
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Actually this is an extremely important topic. This is exactly what middle class couple are going through. Ippo ellam edhaiyume afford panna mudiyaradhu illa. Idhula kolandha porandha enna pannuvom nu beedhila ukandhutu irukom anna.. Society um summa irukadhu.. Kandipa we cannot afford to raise a child amongst all these hurdles. Idhula global warming Vera bayamburuthudhu. All the climatic changes and stuff paakum podhu human race survive aaguma nu I seriously doubt. Ipadi patta ulagathuku oru kolandhaiya kondu varave bayama iruku.
Child care and education should be affordable to all..
Creche facility with affordable cost is very important
very thoughtful of speech. But will it ever happen?
Vishwa sir why can’t the society accept that I can only support my daughter to fulfill her desire for motherhood.I am 55 years old who has faced so many problems in life since I got married.So now slowly with the children growing up and moving out into their independent lives,I have just now started living my life for myself.So now with the arrival of grandchildren am I expected to write off another 10 or 15 years of my life to my grandchildren’s upbringing?So when will ever I live for myself?Has God created me for only to care for my kids and grandchildren?Is it a sin if I say that for once I want to live for myself 😢🤔
16:35 my life sir. Thank you for addressing this issue.