If You're INSECURE & Trying To Seek VALIDATION From Others - WATCH THIS | Jay Shetty
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Catch yourself seeking validation, interrupt that thought pattern and replace it by giving yourself that validation you were seeking from others. Retraining your thought processes changes them over time.
Great advice!! Thanks:)
This is what I have been doing it's working, but there's time you will pack peddle than you do it again. Nothing is done in perfection you just keep the momentum going.
Thanks for that
Aleluya!
What if you're dead? Then it's not up to you. You can't self validate that doesn't save you
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thanks I needed this. ❤✌
@@cybernetics0 he lied to you
@@astalavista5328 uhm...what?? I don't understand
@@cybernetics0 he posts the same everywhere he just wants you to visit his channel
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Finding your passion isn't just about careers and money. it's about finding your authentic self. The one you've buried beneath other people's needs.🙏🏽🖤💫
Very true
YOU SEEK VALIDATION FOR THINGS YOU THINK YOU ARE NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Powerful
The steps of insecurity:-
*Comparison,
*Compensation,
*Competition,
*Compulsion,
*Condemnation,
*Control.
true!!
I'm unconsciously comparing myself to others for no reason, I really need to stop.
@@shigesan4516same
I use to seek validation from others, because I always felt my parents were too busy, and not emotional involved....no hugs from them or any encouragement and praise.... I have learnt to be happy within myself now.... Whilst I was looking for validation, very often these people used me.....I came to realise that I need to do what makes me happy....tough lesson to learn. I have a lovely husband and children myself.... 💖💖
I'm sorry to hear this dear u must have hard past parents love are so important to feel secured I too feel insecure and develop unhealthy attachment towards people who nice to me.... They left me it cheezy... I wish ki i became more self acceptance
Thank you for letting me know there's hope
Friends....I am a Christian so commenting from that world view. Not trying to evangelize anyone. The coolest thing for me here is the bible teaches this very thing. We were built for service and the model for effective masculine leadership is that of the servant leader! I am 57 and have only been a follower of Jesus for about 20yrs. Made a lot of mistakes in my previous life. I've never been more fulfilled and satisfied. Worth investigating if you are drifting through life. Jesus was the thing I was looking for....and didn't realize it.
If you feel like giving up. Just remember: quitting will not take you closer to your goal. Push yourself up.
I was close to quitting today. Thank you
Thank u
@@jilarysalgado7483 🙏
Thank you☺️💗
@@monnasasani6415 🙏
Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness!
~❤️Nat
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Bless you lovely soul!
From one child of God to the other!
Much lovee !! its the only way to go ❤
I’m so glad that everybody is nobody to me so their validation means nothing😍🥳🧚🏾♀️ A compliment is nice but it doesn’t matter because only my opinion of me matters.
Thanks Jay for your amazing content... To anyone who's reading this I wish you lots of love and positive vibes... May your doubts be replaced by certainty, your confusion by clarity, your sadness by happiness... Stay happy and blessed always 😇😇😇
"The only way a Culture Succeeds if Everyone Wants to Serve Everyone else" Love that, Service & Humanity go hand in hand
So I was just scrolling down in my newsfeed and this pop up, I click immediately because I know I needed to hear this!
Video title has nothing to do with the actual content
Exactly
Very inspiring, everyone should listen to this.
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I watched this!! It was a Great conversation!! And it resonates to my situation so much ❤️❤️❤️. Thanks for an amazing conversation!
I'm sorry, this just feels like it's actually about how his mother just wasn't enough...As a kid he didn't feel man enough because he didn't believe his mother was enough to teach him stuff. It's really sad
Its painful to see so many people being selfish to people who were helpful to them
I just went through this with a friend of 15 years. I was always there for them in whatever way they needed and genuinely loved and cared for them as a person. They discarded me like I was nothing when they no longer needed me. It’s been so hard for me to accept fully and let go and most importantly, find forgiveness (for me, not for them) so I can move on with my life. You are right that it’s very painful to see and experience.
Ik no one's gonna read this....but still sharing...
I am a confused teen..not sure about my career,all messed up, with poor concentration, overthinking issues..I am insecured as hell(So I didn't put my name:) ..even 2-3 years back I used to laugh with my FRIENDS(who now became strangers, they are kinda jealous and hate me pretty much). I used to chill at school...but Now I sit alone (sometimes doing my hw or sum reading, when everyone chatting outside in groups...) noone ever comes to talk to me if I don't go first..
*I used to be a good student, but now after pandemic I got addicted to phone and my grades dropped, so the friends who once flattered me, now don't even care to talk to me.. My looks are average, I never wear makeup..(ever, not even at parties).[..ac.I don't attend parties but even if I have to...I just sit at a corner..when everyone of my age grp is dancing.],I just want the real friends w whom I can share my heart out, (whom I never had actually)the so called frnds around me make me feel worthless , they talk to me nicely only when they need sth from me😞 and my self esteem is literally O, the relatives suck.... I used to be a happy,carefree kid...but now...I cry every night, ...I don't know what's wrong w me.I am ashamed of who I am....I am in this freaking loop of pathetic days...We often talk about being confident in social sites, even if we are not! In virtual media you got everyone's back, but at the end of the day, its only you, alone, with lots of possibilities, hopes, sorrows, worries, joys and a mindset which can make or break you into pieces
@@mtuz8356 thanks for ur kind words. I hope your mental health gets better too, and u get the best out of life. I feel like I just don't have any will left to try, it just sucks.I can somehow imagine how horrible things are gonna be when I get older, if I don't change now, but still I can't do anything. Also love is shit, everyone leaves us alone in the world, when their purpose is fulfilled. I pretend I don't care about anyone, but in reality I do, that's funny tho. Whatever... trying is the only way left, so.
@@mtuz8356 Thanks for spending your valuable time in replying a stranger,it means a lot. I sometimes try to love myself when I am having an alone time, but when I see someone not so attractive being bold and herself infront of judgemental people, tbh, I am scared.As I always look for approval by people.But I never change and do these mistakes repeatedly.Fomo is sth that's on my brain 24 x 7. Bt From now on will try hard to be myself and accept myself (Tho Ik I will fail, but whatever I'll try my best)
@@mtuz8356 That's great, but I guess hobbies are sth I really lack. Before, I did painting (it's mediocre but I was kind of okay w it), singing {that was okay okay type), played badminton(which was pretty decent), but I am pretty much lazy to purse new hobbies. All I do shortly after waking up is opening whatsapp (no one messages tho, w/o a few imp things) and then insta and yt, and scroll through my phone allow day,even tho there's nothing new in it, and then going to coaching classes where I have to face harrasment and ignorence from everyone . The thought of being productive is a broken promise for me. end up feeling shitty, comparing myself to others. Whenever Someone talks to me nicely (when they hv sum purpose),and I avoid, then I feel guilty throughout the day for behaving rudely w that person, and feel more shitty, worthless.
But if I change someday, I'll remember this kindness for sure.
@@mtuz8356 thanks. It'sbeen almost 9 days, and I am being the shittiest person on Earth. Today sum guy in my class laughed around w me, and I am home now, still thinking about the small talks w him and others. Ik they don't care about me, and already forgot it, but I am so into the gatherings, that I forgot not to be around toxic people. Such an emotional fool I am😂😩 whenever I am at home, I practice to be myself and not to give a shit, but as soon as I leave home, I totally forget everything and mingle w them 🥺
@@mtuz8356 I meant the guys whom I talked tomorrow w, they are not toxic, but careless and all, but I am in general into the gatherings w toxic people😂😂ik I sound like an idiot tho, mind my broken English
Content was irrelevant to the title 😐
You know, growing up, I used to really struggle with trying to fit in with the cool, popular crowd at school. I'd bend over backwards to be part of those "wonderful" friend groups, thinking that would make me cool by association. And when I entered the workforce, I fell into the same trap - laser-focusing on becoming the perfect candidate that employers wanted, rather than staying true to who I really was. 🤔😵💫
But I've since realized that the more I chased after values and personas that weren't authentically mine - essentially becoming a people-pleaser - the more insecure and uncomfortable I felt in my own skin. It's such a delicate balance, trying to honor both society's expectations and your own personal principles. But I've learned that the key is to really invest in developing your intrinsic self-worth and inner growth.
The more I've worked on becoming the best version of myself, the more confident I've become. Like the more I embrace my authentic self, the more good things and opportunities seem to gravitate towards me. It's like I've become a magnet for positivity. That's when i realize "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."🙏❤🔥💯
His dad was emotionally absent. Same thing with mine. Came from a good family but that one element can cause havoc in adulthood. I struggle with confidence in doing anything new. My dad didn't talk much to me but I knew he was always watching and judging. I feel like everyone is doing to same thing today. Its Debilitating.
You know what Confidence Is? Stop trying be your natural self .
I just realized this is part of what eats at me. And at the least exacorbates the concern and worry around job and earning, and fixing and knowing.... The "roles" we have created for ourselves do not actually serve us as humans or as spiritual beings.
There is nothing like a mother's love,
and nuturing. They speak life into
her children with the ups and down
in life. The sarifice they make
for their children and the love
is amazing.
Thank you Jay for sharing.
so amazing
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ”
― Simone Weil
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜
Thank you to Jay Shetty’s Mom for raising such a beautiful human being 💗💗💗💗💗
Sounds like ur mum was pretty amazing and inspiring.
Was told not to start my RUclips channel on self-development by someone I thought would support me. Did it anyway! To anyone working towards their dreams, don't give up. Keep on going!
Same here! It happened to me before I published my comic, people told me not to try. I did it anyway, and got money from it. We just need to do what we passionate about^^
Subscribed ❤
How did your choice go?
Totally admirable and this teaches a lot.
i was fired by a woman for being too fat as a boyfriend option. but another woman liked chubby men and asked me out so she wanted to hire me instead of fire me
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He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems
Some people are blessed with knowledge. Like Jay Shetty. An asset to humanity
Wow, thanks for sharing and being so open. I experienced this as well and it really affected me. It's common to be bullied in middle school and people just hide it.
A gente só imita,quem a gente admira. Interessante!! :)
I usually always relate to people that you interviewed I’m so thankful you shared such a relatable story with us. 🙏🏽
I was also bullied all my life and I have always felt insecure........
Relate to you
Jay is amazing. A real model for young men and women
Needed to hear this, thank you 💙💙
Great video Jay, but I feel like people just over analyze their situation now a days which just makes things worse.
You are so blessed to have a mom who was there. My mom was there but not present. I am a mom I never had but still struggling with so much. Ty JY. Just me again
When I watch your motivational videos it makes my day better thanks for that everyone should listen to this video
Hey all, my dad passed away couple months ago from covid he also was fighting colon cancer. Im trying save his beautiful car from greedy bank. If any of has ability or interest in helping i set up GoFundMe save my dads car. Its cool if u can't help, i had to try. RUclips wouldn't let me link it. 🕊️💙
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He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems
Doctor Wilson is a great spell caster who can help you in solving all your problems
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I love this and I love you Jay!💛 thank you for making a difference everyday!
Yes difference because his knowledge is gain by learned ancient wisdom.not modern even he is sharing in modern days.
Everyone seeks validation. Why would spending your whole life being called worthless and ugly make you happy? Why would spending your whole life being called useful and beautiful not make you happy?
I grew up being 5 feet 2 in height adult man! I have been shorter than average all my life. Their is more women same height as me than average men
I don’t even want to see the start of 2023 😤😤
Childhood memories are always memorable and beautiful
Nice Video, I always thought why would I need others validation, I myself approve I am good but still I had insecurities flowing in , But after following meditation and diverting the energy to doing productive things than unnecessary overthinking and depression , I feel a lot better , I suggest you doing the same .
I'm disappointed in this one ...this is just cultural wiring that we are taught to think.. Mom's and dad's have no particular role.. we are just wired this way
love it!!! Whoever is reading this, I'm sending you magic, empowerment, and belief in yourself. May all of your dreams come to you NOW!!! xoxo Milana :)))
Not coming from jealousy but pure surprise that a guy who sells false narrative of being a monk where in Hindu culture there is no such concept is being given weight with what 1 month of trial experience which also pretty sure he did it with an intention of making a career out of it
im insecure because people are literally trying to replace me harm me or kill me because im their competition
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Thanks.
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🙇🏿♀️🙅🏿♀️🙅🏿♀️What it means if I’m not jealous of things in general or materialistic things or someone’s career I only get heated and very jealous of that SP that I see or date at that moment! I don’t want to feel that Feeling! I know self love and self worth is important and it might be a key ! but every other person who can potentially be my SPs type it’s like an enemy to me it’s danger alert to my brain ! I really wish I wouldn’t care at all ! I hate that I have this feeling it’s uncontrollable and so heated I wish I could fix it once and for all
Both parents were not there when growing up. watched my cousins having their parents being there for them. Eventually, I shut myself up and just accepted it.
Hey, thanks for sharing. How are you doing now?
Yeah fuck that...I'm ready to go. There's no change to be made and who I am now is NOT good enough for my fellow men or women. I'm done. There's no energy left.
Hi Jay and everyone on here, validation from others can be a difficult habit to break for so many people right? We all have insecurities - but it's how we cope with them and what we do about them that really counts. It's interesting to hear about your background Jay and the life you have now... its inspiring
I agree with you, it's how we cope...
You are enough, you are cool ,you are a real man a man that cares that is hard to find . Thank you for helping us x
Thank you for that!
your book just got translated in persian\farsi in my country and im so proud of you , i just saw the book a couple of months ago ,was reading something else already so i didnt buy it but you are amazing just wanted to say that
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I was in the same difficulties before he helped me few days ago okay....
Contact Dr Wilson🏃🏃
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He really help me that why I am referring him to you.i advice you seek his help now
Thanks.
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My issue is not that I don’t know that other people matter. My issue is that I feel I don’t matter. My girl left me a week ago. And I am realizing how cling on to her memory, because I am so scared of not have her love anymore because I don’t see why and how other people would ever love me again like she once did.
Wow….this hits so hard. For different reasons, but with the same outcome. Strong=feminine and masculine = fear. Fear yet what I pursued. Validation. I have been service focused my life as well, but sometimes, maybe frequently, as a sacrifice of self. Bless you all for your journey!
This is a great life lesson for all of us men.
Second
Much easier said that done
Ask an ugly person what he goes through everyday
being born beautiful is the best priveledge one can have today ...! It is like playing GTA on a cheat code for your whole life
Yes totally
Hi Jay, I’m not clear at how you answered the question to the title of the video- how to not care about how others think. Would you be able to concisely tell me in a couple of sentences or a quick paraphrase? Thanks!
Bullied at school for my weight and my skin colour , I didn't have any love at home my mum rejected me and my dad was so angry and moody all the time and was very strict, dismissive...I had nobody...how do I fix that
I remember I was 16 looking for attention in older woman because I was raised by my mother .No male figure nothing in my life just feelings now I know why they call it beta Male
Seriously it touches my heart that my tears come out from my eyes😭😭
Will Smith ought to control his emotions, probably get some advice for his broken relationship
Very annoying when the background music started, I turned off the video immediately.
Having a good father correlates to boys self esteem
✊🏽😇 This video should also change others lives too!
Mr Jay Shetty
Please how can I contact you.
Something just happened, and I listened to this recording.
I'm 50. When I tell you my story, it might sound excessive, and it'll all be 100% true
I hardly ever feel good enough
First🥇
This channel just does wonders for my mental health. Any other channels like jay shetty out there that you can recommend?
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This video is not much of what it seems from the title. Not much related to the title.
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I was in the same difficulties before he helped me few days ago okay....
Contact Dr Wilson🏃🏃
Doctor Wilson is a great spell caster who can help you in solving all your problems
Message him on whatsapp 🖕🖕
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I'm generally confident about myself. However, there is this one specific person whom I have such an unhealthy attachment for. This person has so many red flags. He's disappointed me before (ghosted me). After love bombing me and making it seem like I could trust him again, he started pulling away. All the things that I normally would just say, "to hell with you" and be able to walk away easily. In fact, I generally am the person who doesn't attach easily. But with him I am so unhealthily attached. Why? Please help. For every time that I'm obsessing over him, which is every second, I am hating myself and trying to detach.
Talk to anshukha sharma Ranbir Kapoor Ankit bansal neeti mittal Varun Dhawan don't talk to me
Im trying to help my beautiful, amazing, perfect husband to realise his own worth as a man. He is the most important person in my world and my best friend. But telling him that doesn't make it so, in his mind, or fix all of his problems. I love you Timothy, and you are enough ❤️ ♥️ ❤
Everybody wants to feel they have value. People don't want to hang around with the ugly people who drive the old cars. They want to hang around with the pretty, rich people because then they connect with it. However, no matter what you achieve in this world, it will all be lost over time. There is no way you can have real lasting value if you think you are the body.
But you do have real value. Your real value is that you are a shining, eternal spark of the Supreme Lord. You are the child and friend of the wealthiest, wisest, most beautiful living being, the Supreme Lord Himself. You, the spirit soul, can never be cut into pieces, burned by fire, moistened by water, withered by wind, broken. Ancient wisdom quote: “Some describe the spirit soul as amazing, while others, even after hearing about the spirit soul, cannot understand it at all.”
I love u I feel like you are part of my family thank you for doing this ❤
Abraham put God first, family second. We do this and we no longer " clingy " . Putting God first is key to all great relationships. Read scripture and stay close to faith community.
today i subscribed bcoz i am enlightened by you jay guru ji 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Your mother 7n your life is a good thing. Created you and inw you need to reach the opposite's complemented each other so being with your mother to make your boyishness stand out as appropriate time. If your father were there the whole time it would be redundant because he's already showing the masculine principle
Amazing wow!...
Is it possible past life regression at present my mom leave why see bad sinariya mom is going to suiside and I see rejected some one and he revenge and spoil life like bad is it true in past life regression. That's I can't success and personal life
I too think i am just asking for validation like i am 19 now and don know what path to choose .up to age of 18 i have scored good in my academics but now i don know what to do i easily get convience by others whether it is a human or a character of any series, like this is the ideal thing to do it feels like i don know myself i don know what i want and it is making me feel a useless sh*t.
I know you know better now Jay Shetty absolutely love you
Its all about him!! Dont watch this if you are mad
Thank you Jay, for being so transparent and frank , it's so beautiful , helps me to connect the dots in my life as well
So I was looking ahead to see what why we're insecure or not what a purpose was I would say that number one I'm the first thing of playing pressure tonight I feel pressure to be in my own well I think I should be on my own I would be happier it's just working really hard and then my kids just I don't know what's going to happen when I work a full-time job and then my kids too....
I just want to let go of this self sabotage and compulsive feeling of not being good enough idk why please I just wanna be my self, I keep feeling insecurity I wanna set my mind, body and soul free
Gratidão por compartilhar conosco.
Need to get rid of the background music. Seems like an infomercial otherwise.
Good for you mate, some of us didn’t have mothers at all. We had to figure it out ourselves. Without Jesus we wouldn’t be here.
Thank you for sharing! I’ve been needing this ❤
Hate the background music...what he has to say is more than that. He literally can stand alone.
Some people are blessed with knowledge. Like Jay Shetty. An asset to humanity
That part about not being seen and man or woman 🧡 at the end of the day we are consciousness 🧡
Great speech ever