Dear Iqra, I am writing this comment to let you know how wonderful heart and beautiful soul Allah has blessed you with. Your every vlog is so meaningful, the words and topics you choose to talk about are very insightful and relatable to full extent. Alhamdulillah I came across your channel to gain a different perspective and wisdom in a way. I truly appreciate your hardwork, enthusiasm and clarity of mind. May Allah SWT bestow His choicest blessings on you, Ameen Love & Hugs Your revert sister in Deen from India ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words. May Allah make ease for you in this new path of life. May Allah brings lots of barakah n khair in your life ameeen. Your comment made my day ❤️
These four things should be Deal Breaker: 1. Physical Abuse 2. Substance Abuse (drugs, alcoholism etc) 3. Extra Marital Affair 4. Haram money Baqi sab maslay solve hojatay hein
Meri shadi ko 15 sal hone wale hain mashaallah ❤️ or hamare relationship me aaj v wahi respect or muhabbat hai...... Mere husband ne mujhe shadi k bad ek bat kahi ki jis tarah miyan biwi ka mohabbat band darwaza k ander hota hai waise hi larai jhagra v band darwaza k ander hi hona chahiye...is cheez ko aaj tk main follow kr rhi hoon...
Im sorry but if husband is a cheater?? I couldn’t do it anymore, i tried to save my marriage for ten years, but his cheatings never stopped, i had to ask for divorce, my marriage was effecting me and my children mentally, i had to quit, but Allah knows i tried my best.
I completely agree with you... Meri mother in law ne bhot choti choti baato pe bhot matter create Kiya. Somehow I adjust the things for one month... But some matter was exgraatte alot by my mother in law... And I spoke to my family and their family members... Matters to kuch solve hue ni .. balki ek hi mahene me hum dono husband wife k bich itni duriya badh gai .. k baate ab ego pe aagai .. ek mahena shadi rahi...8 mahene mai apni maike me rahi....or uske baad meri talaq ho gai.... Dekha Jaye to Baat shayad kuch bhi ni hoti .agar mai or mere husband samaj paate... Q k doosro ko bata k to baat... Talaq pe hi pohch gai... Khair ...Jo hua usse maine bhi yahi sabak liya hai... K husband and wife k beech kabhi koi teesra nahi aana chahiye....unki khud ki aulaad bhi ni... Dua kijye ....k Allah Tahla muje bhi sabar de.... Or hamare partners ko humare haq me behtar farmaye. Ameen
But a woman is helpless, when husband shares every small thing with his parents, and act innocent in front of u...commitment shall be from both the sides....one side this advice doesn't work
I agree with not complaining about small issues with people/family.. but Many people use the “don’t discuss our issues with family” as a way to continue abusing their spouse. If you are feeling overwhelmed by your relationship with your spouse and your body is screaming at you telling you that something is wrong and it’s not simply “not all marital disputes” please tell family and get them involved. It’s not just about physical abuse. Some people will neglect their duties or even withhold affection to control the relationship/you. This is abuse and overtime will chip away at your self esteem. The longer you accept it and keep silent the harder it will be to make a change. It’s okay to inform family of things that are driving you crazy/breaking your heart/will, and they can offer you a place to stay so the other spouse learns it is not acceptable and hopefully fixes up.
What will one do when u are the only one to communicate n the other one doesn't give a damn....it's easy to say when ur spouse atleast listens to u.....
I’m totally agree but mere husband har cheez me apni sisters ko involve karte the or mai khud tak rakhti thi is waja se humara reshta kabhi bhi teek nahi ho paya and we parted aways
Appreciating and very matured wife ...Allah apko Khush rakhy...Meri bhi shadi hny wali coming soon...InshAllah apny Jo Jo batain ki hy agar insan ispy Amal kry to waqai BHT sary fasad khtm ho jy ...very nice...life me aj aik new advice mili hy aik bari behn ki taraf say....thanks GOD bless you...
5 years ago,I had a really bad argument with my husband which led to series of other arguments which nearly led to our seperation. The worst thing was that our parents and the entire family got involved. Some said it was my fault ,some said it was his. Everyonw tried to mend our relationship. Everyone was too desperate to make us a happy couple. Noone gave us space ,no one really knew how to help a couple who wants to part ways. The pressure, the opinions ,the constant nagging left us in a very difficult position. Everything escalated really quickly to a worse state. The troubles we had between each other started to feel too small compared to the troubles our family gave us. Me and my husband ended up together only because we had to endure too much pressure from family. We both were super traumatized. The trauma of all the drama that was caused due to family's involvement still lingers in my heart. Since then we never tell anything to our family.we both have been emotionally shut.no matter how big the problem is ,we sort it out together no matter how long it takes.
I really liked this topic of yours, i was married at a young age but i knew the value of friendship and asked my husband to be my friend first and then my husband kyunki friend jaisa bhi ho apko acha lgta hai lekin husband/ wife se ek expectation ho jati hai aur waisa na hone par bura lgta hai. I hav been through though times but never ever i let others know about my jhagda and even if husband started to speaking out loud i used silence and sabr. Today is the day that my husband is supportive in every thing even my mother in law prefers living with me rather than her own daughter because of behaviour issues. All thanks to Allah. Dear Iqra u r guiding people with your beautiful words may Allah bless you always. Each and every topic was covered beautifully Masha Allah. Lots of love to you💕
Me and My husbnd also 2 different personalities bt this tip is amazing k baat apni khud tk rkhni chahye ghar walon ko batani ni chahye koi b baat you hv share amazing thoughtful suggestions really need of every couple
Iqra apiya. Allhumdullilah allhumdullilah me bi esy hi krti ai hu and 10 years ho gay hen but sakoooooooon hy life me. Ye BAAT muje mery husband ne kahi thi walimy k bad ❤❤❤ AP ne re mind krva diya muje Mera function ❤❤❤ thankssssss❤
Very good advice Respect sb se phly ha husband wife ma r ye boundaries ap dno ne hi set krne ha Married life is so beautiful But bht afsoos hota ha jb log is pakeeza rista ko khrab krte ha Sb parents ko apne beta ho ya bete un ko before marriage hi ye sb cheeze skhane chaye
Communication is the key Ek dosray se baat karen, ek dosray ki expectations pochen , apni similarities or differences k oper baat karen Dont assume or think usko pata hona chahiye , jub tak ap khud nahi baten ge Agr baat nahi ho pa rahi aur larai shuru ho jati hy tou I would advise k ohr ghar se bahr baat karen kisi park mai , beach pe, chai pe jahan ap ird gird moujood logo ki waja se apne emotions control kar saken Apni larai ussi waqt end karne ki Koshish karen aur ek dosray se khafa ho k na soyen subha utha k issue aur bada lagne lagta hy aur ghussa aur b barh jata hy Shuru ka Kuch Time baat karne se b larai hoti hy lekin phr aisi adat parti hy k laraiyan hona hi khatam hojati hy aur srf discussion karne hi solution mil jata hy Haftay mai ek dafa ek ghanta kum se kum zaror nikalen srf apne rishtay k baray mai baat karne k liye
Hi! that’s great advice you gave out. I’d like to add though, please stop stereotyping women as ‘zara ziada emotional’ creatures. Yes we’ve been told this, but it’s actually a very hateful way of invalidating women. If you take a closer look at reality, it’s mostly men who lose control over their emotions and get verbally, and even physically abusive. Aap ne sunay hon ge qissay, jidhar ‘ghussay mein aa ke’ aik aadmi ne aurat ko talaaq ki dhamki di, aur talaaq bhi de di. It’s mostly, 90% of the time, men who are so emotional that they end up ruining their marriages in the heat of the moment. And by saying things like ‘women are just more emotional creatures’ - you are taking away men’s needs to hold themselves accountable for how they are actually the ones who are far more emotional. It’s men who show extreme road rage in traffic, who get extremely angry if someone overtakes them on the road, who throw a fit if the waiter gets their order wrong. ‘aadmi tou phir hotay hain thoray ghussay ke taiz’ is what is used to excuse them. you have a great platform, please use it to help women understand that it’s not their job to single-handedly save their marriage.
Couldn't agree more on the fact that others can not forget and forgive like spouses can. Also, I want to add to the point to the deal breakers list. it's not just the physical abuse. Emotional abuse is a real thing our family had a realtion with a person with narcissistic personality to be specific he was a covert type.... Nobody in the world would believe that such a good person treated you like that, so... any kind of abuse is a deal breaker and requires 3rd party involvement for sure asap.
A true bond is where both have respect for each other and takes their points to consideration. Male ego should not exist and that's great that u and ur husband both agree equally on each other's opinions. That's how every couple must work as a team
Mashallah bohaaat acha topic n bohaaat hi achi realistic approach to resolve the issues between husband and wife iqra sis you did the justice with the topic Allah aap ka Hami o Nasir ho aur sub husband wife ko aisa hi khubsurat rishta rakhna chahiay Allah hamesha khush o abaad rakhay aap dono ko Ameen
My husband is lier. I tried to safe my marriage for 2 years. But marriage life was deteriorating day by day. Affecting my mental health as well. Now seperated with having my 8 month daughter in hand
Asalamualaikum wrwb Very good advice, Alhumdullilah married for 24 years and I have always done this and my husband too. We never shared anything What's happening at home with anyone and Alhumdullilah all the relationships with in-laws were always happy and everyone respects us as a loving couple.Alhumdullilah❤❤
Thank you so much dear api iqra ap ny deeply baty share ki myri life ma be bohat problem the or hai inshAllah ma apny husband K sath mil k zindagi ko bahtar bano ge inshAllah plz pray for me every one ❤❤❤❤❤
Jo sari batein aspne batayi sahi hain. Emotional intelligence bhi hona zaruri hai. Lekin ek baat ka dhyan rakhna zaruri hai ki, abuse ko samjhen. Not just physical abuse emotional and psychological abuse ko bhi. Abuser ko bahut faida hota hai agar aap apni baat kisi se nahi batate. To abuse ko kabhi na chupayen.
At least your husband listens to you and doesn't complain his mom anything MashaAllah. Any advice for such husbands jo apni maa ko sab kuch bata ker biwi ko bully kerwatry han.
What about husband who has this habit of complaining to his mother and sister about issues of his wife ? Initially he himself took promise not to involve others and now breaking his own promise every other day. He never admits his mistake, rather blames his wife for breaking his promises.
Jazakallah for this wonderful message.. i just went through very hard time of my marriage. Lekin Alhumdulilah aub all good scene hai. I would like to mention yea jo kisi sy share na karnay ka kaha hai na bohat best baat bole hai. Exactly jitnay loog involve hotay hain outna he mushkil hojata hai sort out karna. Please remember me and my family in duas. Thank you.
Dis is so true.. evn am married for more dan 6 years now.. evry single word of yours i can relate.. my thoughts are same as yours.. and alhamdulillah till today i never involve anyone in btwn us..my sil's always thought v never fight.. but one day i told dem dat its common to fight but v keep in btwn us nly.. and I live in a joint family.. nd Dil halka karne ki baat you should talk to allah cry in sujood.. Dil halka hojayega..
Best advice..... Allah hm sab behno ke liye aasaani kare Apart from topic...koi v garam chiz plastic m na dala kare bhut bhut zyada harmful effects hote h health pe..
Aslamualikum appi jazakallah kahir for shering this big tip because meri shadi abi nai hui hai but inahallah jald honewali hai aur muje kafi help melige is video say allah ne apko zariya banke mere pass behja es video say may allah bless you appi ❤
Alhumdullilah i have watched this video before my marrige...even as a teenager .... am going to get married soon and In Shaa Allah i will take care of those thing❣❣
Mri b same ap jesi situation ha mra b aisy hi 2 sal nikah raha mre husband b uk or mjy b shadi k bad pta chala k mai ne jesa unhe 2 sal mai samja wesy to wo bilkul b nai... Or ap samj sakti hn is taklef ho jab aisy hota ha... Allah tala mre liye b asaniya paida kary or jesy Allah tala ne apko himmat di mjy b mily ameen.. Bht achy sy ap apni shadi ko manage kr rahi hn
Omg same was with me . Mery husband USA rehty h r Mera visa m kafi problems rhi so after 5y Mera visa laga but yaha aa kr Mjy totally different insan mila . AGR m kisi ko kch btaun to koi believe hi nh kr skta reality Kia h . Ub bs beti ki wajah s yaha reh rahi hmm . I was a working lady r always kehna yaha aa kr prhna job krna etc r yaha aa kr bat hi nh suntay . I can’t say a single word Jo m chahti hmm and this leading me towards depression and anxiety
Apki videos sy bht kuch seekhny ko milthaa hy bht soothing voice hy nd barhen dil ko chooti hain kafi din sy apky video ka intzar tha Or aj bht seekhny ko mila aj yahi topic chahye tha mjy need thi aise advice k
Sister rozana 4 qul ayatul kursi or nazer ki ayat parth ker khud par or husband par tasavur me dam kren or paani par dam ker k khud bhi piyen or husband ko bhi pilaayen isse bhi lartaayi jhagertey kam hottey hn likin husband ko btayen nahi k paani dam walla he Normal paani me mix ker den
Maine aaj yonhi screen par aa rahi video open ki aur iqra ki bat bilkul ❤dil par jakar lagi aur maine subscribe kia channel and ek k bad ek kai videos dekhi Pure heart, Allah ki Naik bandi jise Allah ne in salahiyato se is liye Nawaza hai k wo logon k kuch kaam aa jaaye aur wo aaa bhi rahi hai❤ Allah Hamesha khush rakhe Aur Dunia Aakhirat dono jagha kamyab kare ❤Love from Saudi Arabia❤
I agree with you Aapi mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah bs mazeed alfaz nhi Jo kahu Kam h very good vlog 😊
Pehli nar mene kisi se sahi salah suni h kitni suljhi hui batein..mera bhi yahi mann h bilkul apki trah ..nahi to logo ko share kro to wo bus attitude dikhana sikhate he ghar ko yodna sikhate hen or badtamizi krna sikhate h ki tum ese kro nhi to samne wala apko chhota samjhega kamzor samjhega😢😢😢😢sad reality of our society 😢😢allah apko khush rakhe dear
AOA api main itna kho g thi vlog main mjy pata nai chla kab khatam ho gya vlog main or sunna chahati thi ap ny jo bat btai hai wo kamal hai 100% kam ki bat hai thanku so much .....thanku so much again...I am Atiqa Afzal
This is one of the most beautiful videos and lessons I heard today . I've seen this same situation in our house too. Unfortunately people take everything personally and they feel only they are right others aren't. Larkion ko he zayada sacrifice and compromise karna parta hai Chup rehna parta hai .
Such me bohot accha laga sun k me bhi married woman hu mashallah aap ki advice ko yaad rakhugi inshallah follow bhi karugi humare beech me bhi bohot zada ladai hue chodne tak ki hogye thi but jab se mujhe beti atata ki hai Allah ne alhumdulilah plz dua me yaad rakhe thank you so much ❤❤
Very well said 👏. And you know the facts you said about settling between couples internally on their own without involving 3rd party ------ 100 percent correct. When i got married, like you i soon understood that there would be so many issues between us although it was love marriage. Moreover, we work in same organization. But fortunately my husband and me sat down and promised ourselves that we would talk or discuss between us Without involving any other person. Iqra, this year in July , we would celebrate 25th years of marriage which has many ( secret) 😂 larai jhagre but still we are called by our relatives and friends as """"" jam sandwich couple """". God bless you and your husband 😊
اقراء جی ایسا لگ رہا ہے یہ تو میں بول رہی ہوں یہ میری سوچ ہے ۔ میں ایسی ہوں اپنی باتیں جھگڑے نوک جوک کوئی بھی کسی کو نہ بتاتی ہوں نہ ظاہر کرتی ہوں ۔نہ کیے کبھی ۔۔ اور بہت سچ بات ہے شادی سے پہلے دس بھی منگیتر سے بات کر لیں لیکن جب جائیں گئی ویسا نہیں پائیں گئی جو ہوتے وہ اور شادی کرکے روپ سامنے جو آتا ناں 😢
This video is very helpful💯 and mai bhi ghar me sabse choti hun and Maine Apne bhai behnon k dekha hai nd mujhe ab bacche kaise paalna hai wo bhi samajh aa gayi hai kaafi had tak,Alhamdullillah ❤I just hope jab bhi I get married ,I try to give my best for the sake of Allah ,aur Apne jo bataya Bahut helpful hai ❤
What about agar larka bilkul b kharch na deta ho ulta depend karny lagay, har baat apni ammi aur behan ko bata kar ulti seedhi batien milkar karen.....musalsal character assassination ho sath na dien bilkul b apny parents aur siblings k sath mil kar target karty hn.... Phir
Asalamalikum mujhe app ki har video buhat buhat pasand atti hai app day buhat motivation multi hai aur aj tu app nay hi hi kaha so sab say main abhi guzari hon kash Appi yehvideo pehlay ajati tu main ye sab pehlay sekh sakti but abhi bhi dair nai hoi app ki ik baat bilkul sahi hai hum sab women’s ko apni fight apnay tak hi rakhna chaye aur ussay jitna jaldi ho khatam kardena chaye👍
Walaikum salaam Apa my Name is Iqraa too from South Africa 🇿🇦 hubby Pakistani. Glad I found ur channel been binging for the past 2 days love and appreciate ur content and ur storytelling skills 😊 making marriage work really is a two way thing but men don't make any efforts and accept when they need professional help which makes things extremely difficult but in sha Allah will keep on trying
Love the point of view and detailed rationale behind it. Something me and my husband agreed on in the initial stage of our relationship. We wanted to build a healthy relationship with good communication. It helped us so much to resolve issues by ourselves.
Great advice. Not married yet but this makes soo much sense why issues are getting worse in our society nowadays... great comparision that if we can resolve and cover things that happens between our parents or siblings, then we should also accept the same for our spouse and react the same unless something is too bad n unbearable.
Darood Ibrahim daily 313times aur 4qul sures fatiha ayatul 70times subha shaam padhne se husband and wife me koi na itefaqi nahi aati padh k k dekhe please
Alhamdulillah...Mine are love marriage... I am a Malaysian Pakistani and my husband are Pakistani...I'm so lucky to have such a loving, caring and supportive husband...we don't lived in family's house, we lived separately and that's why we are happy. I think the important thing is husband and wife have to communicate and do not tell to the 3rd person about your family's problems because it will make it worst. Mashallah we have been married for 25 years and have 3 son's. My advice do not tell your problem to others... It is better talk to your spouse.
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Dear Iqra, I am writing this comment to let you know how wonderful heart and beautiful soul Allah has blessed you with. Your every vlog is so meaningful, the words and topics you choose to talk about are very insightful and relatable to full extent. Alhamdulillah I came across your channel to gain a different perspective and wisdom in a way. I truly appreciate your hardwork, enthusiasm and clarity of mind.
May Allah SWT bestow His choicest blessings on you, Ameen
Love & Hugs
Your revert sister in Deen from India
❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words. May Allah make ease for you in this new path of life. May Allah brings lots of barakah n khair in your life ameeen.
Your comment made my day ❤️
Reallyyyy she is owsmmmmm woman mashallah...
Welcome to the religion of peace kajal
Ap boht acha bolti han
Such a pure lady May Allah bless you always ❤❤❤
These four things should be Deal Breaker:
1. Physical Abuse
2. Substance Abuse (drugs, alcoholism etc)
3. Extra Marital Affair
4. Haram money
Baqi sab maslay solve hojatay hein
Emotional abuse too sister. I agree with you
Meri shadi ko 15 sal hone wale hain mashaallah ❤️ or hamare relationship me aaj v wahi respect or muhabbat hai......
Mere husband ne mujhe shadi k bad ek bat kahi ki jis tarah miyan biwi ka mohabbat band darwaza k ander hota hai waise hi larai jhagra v band darwaza k ander hi hona chahiye...is cheez ko aaj tk main follow kr rhi hoon...
So true. Masha Allah ❤️
Im sorry but if husband is a cheater?? I couldn’t do it anymore, i tried to save my marriage for ten years, but his cheatings never stopped, i had to ask for divorce, my marriage was effecting me and my children mentally, i had to quit, but Allah knows i tried my best.
If husband is a cheater then what should a wife do?
How r u managing ur finances? Are ur parents supportive? Do ur children get bullied because of having a single parent?
I can feel your pain 😢
Same here sister. Ive been through the same.
Same here...but Allah pak ne Lambi Rassi di hai easy husband's ko so wait and watch agy kia hashar hota hai inka
I completely agree with you... Meri mother in law ne bhot choti choti baato pe bhot matter create Kiya. Somehow I adjust the things for one month... But some matter was exgraatte alot by my mother in law... And I spoke to my family and their family members... Matters to kuch solve hue ni .. balki ek hi mahene me hum dono husband wife k bich itni duriya badh gai .. k baate ab ego pe aagai .. ek mahena shadi rahi...8 mahene mai apni maike me rahi....or uske baad meri talaq ho gai.... Dekha Jaye to Baat shayad kuch bhi ni hoti .agar mai or mere husband samaj paate... Q k doosro ko bata k to baat... Talaq pe hi pohch gai...
Khair ...Jo hua usse maine bhi yahi sabak liya hai... K husband and wife k beech kabhi koi teesra nahi aana chahiye....unki khud ki aulaad bhi ni...
Dua kijye ....k Allah Tahla muje bhi sabar de.... Or hamare partners ko humare haq me behtar farmaye. Ameen
But a woman is helpless, when husband shares every small thing with his parents, and act innocent in front of u...commitment shall be from both the sides....one side this advice doesn't work
You are right sister
Allah pak sb ki jorian salamat rakhy...Allah pak mery husband ka saya hmesha mery sr p slamat rakhy...mjy bht dar lgta hy kyun k main bht kam aqal hun
Me too😊
This video is a therapy. I am going through a fight with my husband. Seems like Allah sent this video to me as a message
Same here
I agree with not complaining about small issues with people/family.. but Many people use the “don’t discuss our issues with family” as a way to continue abusing their spouse. If you are feeling overwhelmed by your relationship with your spouse and your body is screaming at you telling you that something is wrong and it’s not simply “not all marital disputes” please tell family and get them involved. It’s not just about physical abuse. Some people will neglect their duties or even withhold affection to control the relationship/you. This is abuse and overtime will chip away at your self esteem. The longer you accept it and keep silent the harder it will be to make a change. It’s okay to inform family of things that are driving you crazy/breaking your heart/will, and they can offer you a place to stay so the other spouse learns it is not acceptable and hopefully fixes up.
What will one do when u are the only one to communicate n the other one doesn't give a damn....it's easy to say when ur spouse atleast listens to u.....
MashaAllah such wisdom. Golden rules of marriage survival. ❤
Can’t agree any better than you
I’m totally agree but mere husband har cheez me apni sisters ko involve karte the or mai khud tak rakhti thi is waja se humara reshta kabhi bhi teek nahi ho paya and we parted aways
Appreciating and very matured wife ...Allah apko Khush rakhy...Meri bhi shadi hny wali coming soon...InshAllah apny Jo Jo batain ki hy agar insan ispy Amal kry to waqai BHT sary fasad khtm ho jy ...very nice...life me aj aik new advice mili hy aik bari behn ki taraf say....thanks GOD bless you...
5 years ago,I had a really bad argument with my husband which led to series of other arguments which nearly led to our seperation.
The worst thing was that our parents and the entire family got involved. Some said it was my fault ,some said it was his. Everyonw tried to mend our relationship. Everyone was too desperate to make us a happy couple. Noone gave us space ,no one really knew how to help a couple who wants to part ways.
The pressure, the opinions ,the constant nagging left us in a very difficult position.
Everything escalated really quickly to a worse state.
The troubles we had between each other started to feel too small compared to the troubles our family gave us.
Me and my husband ended up together only because we had to endure too much pressure from family. We both were super traumatized.
The trauma of all the drama that was caused due to family's involvement still lingers in my heart.
Since then we never tell anything to our family.we both have been emotionally shut.no matter how big the problem is ,we sort it out together no matter how long it takes.
I really liked this topic of yours, i was married at a young age but i knew the value of friendship and asked my husband to be my friend first and then my husband kyunki friend jaisa bhi ho apko acha lgta hai lekin husband/ wife se ek expectation ho jati hai aur waisa na hone par bura lgta hai. I hav been through though times but never ever i let others know about my jhagda and even if husband started to speaking out loud i used silence and sabr. Today is the day that my husband is supportive in every thing even my mother in law prefers living with me rather than her own daughter because of behaviour issues. All thanks to Allah. Dear Iqra u r guiding people with your beautiful words may Allah bless you always. Each and every topic was covered beautifully Masha Allah. Lots of love to you💕
Thats exactly what we r doing since 4 years.. jo b hy apas mie sought out krien .. thats a good advice❤
Me and My husbnd also 2 different personalities bt this tip is amazing k baat apni khud tk rkhni chahye ghar walon ko batani ni chahye koi b baat
you hv share amazing thoughtful suggestions really need of every couple
بالکل ٹھیک شاباش بہت سمجھدار بچی ہو اللہ تعالی میری بیٹیوں کے نصیبی اچھے کرے اور تم جتنا سمجھدار بنائیں
If husband and wife follow the principles and guidelines in Islam the marriage would be a blessing. Very good blog.
Iqra apiya. Allhumdullilah allhumdullilah me bi esy hi krti ai hu and 10 years ho gay hen but sakoooooooon hy life me. Ye BAAT muje mery husband ne kahi thi walimy k bad ❤❤❤ AP ne re mind krva diya muje Mera function ❤❤❤ thankssssss❤
Very good advice
Respect sb se phly ha husband wife ma r ye boundaries ap dno ne hi set krne ha
Married life is so beautiful
But bht afsoos hota ha jb log is pakeeza rista ko khrab krte ha
Sb parents ko apne beta ho ya bete un ko before marriage hi ye sb cheeze skhane chaye
Communication is the key
Ek dosray se baat karen, ek dosray ki expectations pochen , apni similarities or differences k oper baat karen
Dont assume or think usko pata hona chahiye , jub tak ap khud nahi baten ge
Agr baat nahi ho pa rahi aur larai shuru ho jati hy tou I would advise k ohr ghar se bahr baat karen kisi park mai , beach pe, chai pe jahan ap ird gird moujood logo ki waja se apne emotions control kar saken
Apni larai ussi waqt end karne ki Koshish karen aur ek dosray se khafa ho k na soyen subha utha k issue aur bada lagne lagta hy aur ghussa aur b barh jata hy
Shuru ka Kuch Time baat karne se b larai hoti hy lekin phr aisi adat parti hy k laraiyan hona hi khatam hojati hy aur srf discussion karne hi solution mil jata hy
Haftay mai ek dafa ek ghanta kum se kum zaror nikalen srf apne rishtay k baray mai baat karne k liye
Hi! that’s great advice you gave out. I’d like to add though, please stop stereotyping women as ‘zara ziada emotional’ creatures.
Yes we’ve been told this, but it’s actually a very hateful way of invalidating women. If you take a closer look at reality, it’s mostly men who lose control over their emotions and get verbally, and even physically abusive.
Aap ne sunay hon ge qissay, jidhar ‘ghussay mein aa ke’ aik aadmi ne aurat ko talaaq ki dhamki di, aur talaaq bhi de di.
It’s mostly, 90% of the time, men who are so emotional that they end up ruining their marriages in the heat of the moment.
And by saying things like ‘women are just more emotional creatures’ - you are taking away men’s needs to hold themselves accountable for how they are actually the ones who are far more emotional.
It’s men who show extreme road rage in traffic, who get extremely angry if someone overtakes them on the road, who throw a fit if the waiter gets their order wrong.
‘aadmi tou phir hotay hain thoray ghussay ke taiz’ is what is used to excuse them.
you have a great platform, please use it to help women understand that it’s not their job to single-handedly save their marriage.
Boht achi baat ki hai aap ne bus humen ye baten late samjh aati hain.. I wish unmarried larkiyan is ko seekhen aur Amal kreyn
Couldn't agree more on the fact that others can not forget and forgive like spouses can.
Also, I want to add to the point to the deal breakers list. it's not just the physical abuse. Emotional abuse is a real thing our family had a realtion with a person with narcissistic personality to be specific he was a covert type.... Nobody in the world would believe that such a good person treated you like that, so... any kind of abuse is a deal breaker and requires 3rd party involvement for sure asap.
بہت زیادہ اچھی باتیں بتائی ہیں آپ نے اللہ تعالیٰ آپ اور سب کے لئے آسانیاں پیدا کریں آمین ثم آمین
A true bond is where both have respect for each other and takes their points to consideration. Male ego should not exist and that's great that u and ur husband both agree equally on each other's opinions. That's how every couple must work as a team
Thnks for giving wonderful advise .. allah mjhe b itni smjh de ki shadi k bd m gltiya na kru or mre hone wle husbnd b ameen
Ye batain mjhy bht km umer m bht achi trhan smjh achuki thi
Mashallah bohaaat acha topic n bohaaat hi achi realistic approach to resolve the issues between husband and wife iqra sis you did the justice with the topic Allah aap ka Hami o Nasir ho aur sub husband wife ko aisa hi khubsurat rishta rakhna chahiay Allah hamesha khush o abaad rakhay aap dono ko Ameen
Randomly ye video samny aii i am not even married but found this video helpful ❤very wise advices 🫶🏻stay blessed
My husband is lier. I tried to safe my marriage for 2 years. But marriage life was deteriorating day by day. Affecting my mental health as well. Now seperated with having my 8 month daughter in hand
Asalamualaikum wrwb
Very good advice, Alhumdullilah married for 24 years and I have always done this and my husband too. We never shared anything What's happening at home with anyone and Alhumdullilah all the relationships with in-laws were always happy and everyone respects us as a loving couple.Alhumdullilah❤❤
Alhamdulillah me and my husband have same thoughts👍🏻
Dear Iqra
I have seen only 2 of your vlogs ,watching this vlog made me happy to see such wonderful people like you still exist. May Allah bless you.
Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you so much dear api iqra ap ny deeply baty share ki myri life ma be bohat problem the or hai inshAllah ma apny husband K sath mil k zindagi ko bahtar bano ge inshAllah plz pray for me every one ❤❤❤❤❤
All words are 100% said truth... sacchi aapne sab sahi kaha.. totally agree with u
ماشاءاللہ اللہ تعالیٰ تمہیں نظر بد سے محفوظ رکھے آ مین بہت سمجھ دار بیٹی ہو بالکل حقیقت پر مبنی vlog ہے
Ameen ❤️
Bahot bahetarin bat batai❤👌👌
Meri shadi ko 3 month hue hain or apk is vlog say muje kafi help mili h jazakALLAH Kafi cheeze samaj main ai h
Jo sari batein aspne batayi sahi hain. Emotional intelligence bhi hona zaruri hai. Lekin ek baat ka dhyan rakhna zaruri hai ki, abuse ko samjhen. Not just physical abuse emotional and psychological abuse ko bhi. Abuser ko bahut faida hota hai agar aap apni baat kisi se nahi batate. To abuse ko kabhi na chupayen.
ما شاء الله
Ese hi achchi knowledge dete hai ❤
At least your husband listens to you and doesn't complain his mom anything MashaAllah.
Any advice for such husbands jo apni maa ko sab kuch bata ker biwi ko bully kerwatry han.
Iqra ap boht achi baty krti ha Jin ko sun kr motivation milti ha. Please please please zada vlogs share Kia kra . Apki baty Sunna bht achi lgti ha
What about husband who has this habit of complaining to his mother and sister about issues of his wife ? Initially he himself took promise not to involve others and now breaking his own promise every other day. He never admits his mistake, rather blames his wife for breaking his promises.
Then that guy is at fault...no need to involve 3rd party
ماشاءاللہ ماشاءاللہ اللّٰہ تعالیٰ ہر ایک بیٹی کو ایسی سمجھ عطا کردے آمین ثم آمین
Jazakallah for this wonderful message.. i just went through very hard time of my marriage. Lekin Alhumdulilah aub all good scene hai. I would like to mention yea jo kisi sy share na karnay ka kaha hai na bohat best baat bole hai. Exactly jitnay loog involve hotay hain outna he mushkil hojata hai sort out karna. Please remember me and my family in duas.
Thank you.
Dis is so true.. evn am married for more dan 6 years now.. evry single word of yours i can relate.. my thoughts are same as yours.. and alhamdulillah till today i never involve anyone in btwn us..my sil's always thought v never fight.. but one day i told dem dat its common to fight but v keep in btwn us nly.. and I live in a joint family.. nd Dil halka karne ki baat you should talk to allah cry in sujood.. Dil halka hojayega..
Best advice..... Allah hm sab behno ke liye aasaani kare
Apart from topic...koi v garam chiz plastic m na dala kare bhut bhut zyada harmful effects hote h health pe..
Bohat achi sharing,keep inspiring us...❤❤
Aslamualikum appi jazakallah kahir for shering this big tip because meri shadi abi nai hui hai but inahallah jald honewali hai aur muje kafi help melige is video say allah ne apko zariya banke mere pass behja es video say may allah bless you appi ❤
How intelligent you are, every single word you said is in our experience, very well explained. MashaAllah you are very good girl. Well brought up.
Itni pyari baten ❤subscribe to karna hi padega😊
MashaAllah ap bht positive hain❤, Yah best video hai...litterly is me bht se asi cheezin hain Jo me ny experience ki hain...
Ache ar suche log allaha ko bi pasand hain yar too good ☺️
Aslamo alaykum masha allah par bahot intzar kiya aapke vilog ka muje bahot pashnad hai aapke vilog ❤
7 months into marriage i totally agree with you. I wish every couple is told this beforehand
May Allah brings lots of happiness in this new chapter of your life ❤️
Alhumdullilah i have watched this video before my marrige...even as a teenager .... am going to get married soon and In Shaa Allah i will take care of those thing❣❣
Really i like ur positive haabit sister nd meri shadi ko 4saal hogy hyn but sometimes main bh asa he krti hon but ab nahe karungi
This is so amazing sister you covered everything! Pray Allah give us the ability to practice and may it be sadqa jariya for you. Ameen
Mri b same ap jesi situation ha mra b aisy hi 2 sal nikah raha mre husband b uk or mjy b shadi k bad pta chala k mai ne jesa unhe 2 sal mai samja wesy to wo bilkul b nai... Or ap samj sakti hn is taklef ho jab aisy hota ha... Allah tala mre liye b asaniya paida kary or jesy Allah tala ne apko himmat di mjy b mily ameen.. Bht achy sy ap apni shadi ko manage kr rahi hn
Omg same was with me . Mery husband USA rehty h r Mera visa m kafi problems rhi so after 5y Mera visa laga but yaha aa kr Mjy totally different insan mila . AGR m kisi ko kch btaun to koi believe hi nh kr skta reality Kia h . Ub bs beti ki wajah s yaha reh rahi hmm . I was a working lady r always kehna yaha aa kr prhna job krna etc r yaha aa kr bat hi nh suntay . I can’t say a single word Jo m chahti hmm and this leading me towards depression and anxiety
ketni piyari baatein ki hai apne .. ketna deep sochti ho ap .. very good advices .. thanks alot !
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This vlog caught my eye and all you said is 110% true
ma sha Allah bht achi bt Hai same meri b yhi soch Hai me b aisa krti bht achi advice Hai kindly sb lrkian goar kijiye GA faida hoga in sha Allah
I agree never involve third person
Apki videos sy bht kuch seekhny ko milthaa hy bht soothing voice hy nd barhen dil ko chooti hain kafi din sy apky video ka intzar tha
Or aj bht seekhny ko mila aj yahi topic chahye tha mjy need thi aise advice k
Thank you ❤️
Sister rozana 4 qul ayatul kursi or nazer ki ayat parth ker khud par or husband par tasavur me dam kren or paani par dam ker k khud bhi piyen or husband ko bhi pilaayen isse bhi lartaayi jhagertey kam hottey hn likin husband ko btayen nahi k paani dam walla he Normal paani me mix ker den
Maine aaj yonhi screen par aa rahi video open ki aur iqra ki bat bilkul ❤dil par jakar lagi aur maine subscribe kia channel and ek k bad ek kai videos dekhi
Pure heart, Allah ki Naik bandi jise Allah ne in salahiyato se is liye Nawaza hai k wo logon k kuch kaam aa jaaye aur wo aaa bhi rahi hai❤ Allah Hamesha khush rakhe
Aur Dunia Aakhirat dono jagha kamyab kare
❤Love from Saudi Arabia❤
Cheating is no no. Children will follow their father.so no bad example for them
Very nice topic and good advice hamesha dua karna chahiye Kay sabr ki taufeeq rahe
Marriage is a teamwork both there's no mean for only single person saving it
Mashallah jazakilahu khairan, itni kam Umar me itni samajhdari ki batein meri choti behan dil khush ho gaya alhamdulilah ❤
I exposed my silly problem to everyone and now damaged life
I agree with you Aapi mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah mashallah bs mazeed alfaz nhi Jo kahu Kam h very good vlog 😊
Jazak Allah for your love ❤️
Pehli nar mene kisi se sahi salah suni h kitni suljhi hui batein..mera bhi yahi mann h bilkul apki trah ..nahi to logo ko share kro to wo bus attitude dikhana sikhate he ghar ko yodna sikhate hen or badtamizi krna sikhate h ki tum ese kro nhi to samne wala apko chhota samjhega kamzor samjhega😢😢😢😢sad reality of our society 😢😢allah apko khush rakhe dear
BHT itminaan Mila hai apki BAAT sunke.... JazakAllah ❤
AOA api main itna kho g thi vlog main mjy pata nai chla kab khatam ho gya vlog main or sunna chahati thi ap ny jo bat btai hai wo kamal hai 100% kam ki bat hai thanku so much .....thanku so much again...I am Atiqa Afzal
This is one of the most beautiful videos and lessons I heard today .
I've seen this same situation in our house too. Unfortunately people take everything personally and they feel only they are right others aren't. Larkion ko he zayada sacrifice and compromise karna parta hai
Chup rehna parta hai .
Finally some sensible content...really appreciate ur dil ki baat series...keep it up❤
My pleasure 😊
Extremely satisfying content. Waqae Dil ki Baatain he krti hain ap api ❤❤ May Allah Pak ease your all hurdles of life. (Ameen)
Ameen ❤️
💯 agree I got married to my first cousin from dad side we were both 19 t❤ we just celebrated our 28 wedding anniversary last month 🎉
That is awesome! Masha Allah ❤️
Such me bohot accha laga sun k me bhi married woman hu mashallah aap ki advice ko yaad rakhugi inshallah follow bhi karugi humare beech me bhi bohot zada ladai hue chodne tak ki hogye thi but jab se mujhe beti atata ki hai Allah ne alhumdulilah plz dua me yaad rakhe thank you so much ❤❤
Bht achi baat ki ha ap ne , well done, bt again it is difficult in joint family to hide issues, room ki baat room se bahr khud hi chali jati ha
Very well said 👏.
And you know the facts you said about settling between couples internally on their own without involving 3rd party ------ 100 percent correct.
When i got married, like you i soon understood that there would be so many issues between us although it was love marriage. Moreover, we work in same organization. But fortunately my husband and me sat down and promised ourselves that we would talk or discuss between us Without involving any other person.
Iqra, this year in July , we would celebrate 25th years of marriage which has many ( secret) 😂 larai jhagre but still we are called by our relatives and friends as """"" jam sandwich couple """".
God bless you and your husband 😊
اقراء جی ایسا لگ رہا ہے یہ تو میں بول رہی ہوں یہ میری سوچ ہے ۔ میں ایسی ہوں اپنی باتیں جھگڑے نوک جوک کوئی بھی کسی کو نہ بتاتی ہوں نہ ظاہر کرتی ہوں ۔نہ کیے کبھی ۔۔ اور بہت سچ بات ہے شادی سے پہلے دس بھی منگیتر سے بات کر لیں لیکن جب جائیں گئی ویسا نہیں پائیں گئی جو ہوتے وہ اور شادی کرکے روپ سامنے جو آتا ناں 😢
Zbrdas dear iqra dil jeet liya sab khuch bilkul perfect bola hai ❤
I appriciate your way of thinking. Mashallah nice advice❤.
This video is very helpful💯 and mai bhi ghar me sabse choti hun and Maine Apne bhai behnon k dekha hai nd mujhe ab bacche kaise paalna hai wo bhi samajh aa gayi hai kaafi had tak,Alhamdullillah ❤I just hope jab bhi I get married ,I try to give my best for the sake of Allah ,aur Apne jo bataya Bahut helpful hai ❤
Assalamualaikum iqra ji
Aap ki sonch bahut positive h
Allah tala aap ko bahut khush rakhey😊mashallah
Thank you ❤️
dil sy thnx apki videos min bht shok sy dekhti hun learn alottttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt mashallah
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What about agar larka bilkul b kharch na deta ho ulta depend karny lagay, har baat apni ammi aur behan ko bata kar ulti seedhi batien milkar karen.....musalsal character assassination ho sath na dien bilkul b apny parents aur siblings k sath mil kar target karty hn.... Phir
Asalamalikum mujhe app ki har video buhat buhat pasand atti hai app day buhat motivation multi hai aur aj tu app nay hi hi kaha so sab say main abhi guzari hon kash Appi yehvideo pehlay ajati tu main ye sab pehlay sekh sakti but abhi bhi dair nai hoi app ki ik baat bilkul sahi hai hum sab women’s ko apni fight apnay tak hi rakhna chaye aur ussay jitna jaldi ho khatam kardena chaye👍
Walaikum Asalam and jazak Allah ❤️
Walaikum salaam Apa my Name is Iqraa too from South Africa 🇿🇦 hubby Pakistani. Glad I found ur channel been binging for the past 2 days love and appreciate ur content and ur storytelling skills 😊 making marriage work really is a two way thing but men don't make any efforts and accept when they need professional help which makes things extremely difficult but in sha Allah will keep on trying
Very Important message and much beautifully expressed.Jazzak Allahun Khairan.
I like your video itra. First time I c your vlog.
And you are absolutely right .
Love the point of view and detailed rationale behind it. Something me and my husband agreed on in the initial stage of our relationship. We wanted to build a healthy relationship with good communication. It helped us so much to resolve issues by ourselves.
Relationship psychologist se consult krna chahiye ek dosre ki personality ko samjhne k liye, aagar aap afford kr sakte hain
Great advice. Not married yet but this makes soo much sense why issues are getting worse in our society nowadays... great comparision that if we can resolve and cover things that happens between our parents or siblings, then we should also accept the same for our spouse and react the same unless something is too bad n unbearable.
Darood Ibrahim daily 313times aur 4qul sures fatiha ayatul 70times subha shaam padhne se husband and wife me koi na itefaqi nahi aati padh k k dekhe please
Alhamdulillah...Mine are love marriage... I am a Malaysian Pakistani and my husband are Pakistani...I'm so lucky to have such a loving, caring and supportive husband...we don't lived in family's house, we lived separately and that's why we are happy. I think the important thing is husband and wife have to communicate and do not tell to the 3rd person about your family's problems because it will make it worst. Mashallah we have been married for 25 years and have 3 son's. My advice do not tell your problem to others... It is better talk to your spouse.