Olivia Gatwood - Alternate Universe in Which I Am Unfazed by the Men Who Do Not Love Me
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
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"The man tells me he does not love me, and he does not love me. The man tells me who he is and I LISTEN. I have so much beautiful time."
Bro. That was personal.
This part hit me HARD 😭💗🌻
I've memorized most of her poems from listening so many times. These lines just popped in my head, while I was chilling in the bath, so that's why I'm back here again.
@@pearlythobz can you tell me what it means to you? I am a little perplexed by this line
That’s my favorite part, too
"the boy doesnt ask if he can choke me so i pretend to die while he's doing it" ASDFGHJKL ME
I actually screamed... imma do this now
Deaddddd
Tee Hee Hee attractive man can get away with abuse tee hee hee so deep
@@nuclearpugg literally women
@@nuclearpugg ...what?
Honestly this poem slayed the shit out of me, every girl/ woman needs to hear this. It's okay if he doesn't text back or he doesn't seem into you, you don't need him, life will go on without him and you have so much time and potential to do other things besides wait by the phone
asseater007 so trueee
It's funny I should find such a comment and video after realizing that. I am a dude - stating what is more than clear, based on my picture - But, I found myself also waiting for that person to reply and to give me the "full on" attention. Guess what, I wound up being multi-tasked. Learned my lesson. Moved on. I'm posting this here, so you know that it happens with guys too, hell, we are all human.
The thing is I've never actually felt that way. I've never been attracted to anyone so I don't care if I get let down by some kid I'm never gonna see again
asseater007 it will. Life will surely go on without him. Them. But it's so difficult to forget.
Thank you. I needed to hear this right now 😢
That subtle change from calling the boy a man. Just, wow. It may mean she respects the opinions of the man in the end, and that she is no longer fazed enough to label the man a "boy" just because he doesn't love her. It is a reflection of her being a woman, being mature- being unfazed, by the end of the poem.
HikariNo Yami OR... it’s symbolic that a MAN will tell you when he doesn’t love you.
@@vernishapolite2999 yes, thank you! the others are boys because they behave immaturely, the man doesn’t waste her time and is honest with her the way an adult would be
That bit with the hours and her ending. It sounds like maturity and compassion, for other men and women around her. Breaking the cycle and saving herself some god damn time.
That's a lovely and wise observation. And remember, no matter what someone might say to try and degrade you, you're lovely, but you also don't need anyone's affirmation. You do you girl.
Truth. ❤
"left from the other universe are hours and hours of waiting for him to kiss me - but here they are just hours"
"The boy doesn't ask if he can choke me, so i pretend to die while he's doing it " Omg this GIRLLLLLLLL
I am getting “here they are just hours” tattooed on my arm this weekend, and I can’t wait to have this constant reminder. I love this poem more than anything ❤️
Isabella Danusiar girl, I’m thinking of getting that tattooed as well. I’d love to see what you done with it!
Hey, can anyone explain what it exactly means?
A lot like Magic she’s saying that in this universe, she’s spent hours waiting for guys to kiss her, to text her back. In that alternate universe (“here”), they are just hours. Not spent waiting for a boy, but just time passing
Hi Isabella, I've been wanting to get the same tattooed. Can I see yours?
Simran M Hey! Yes of course let me figure out how to add a photo
"A boy said he didn't believe in labels so I embroidered the word 'chauvinist' on the back of his favorite coat."
Yes, girl! I love you!
Genesis Barrow what does this mean?
Don't Read Me Like This a chauvinist is someone showing extreme or exaggerated patriotism in something
chauvinist means sexist
So, basically The President of The United States.
Thank you for explaining the meaning of chauvinist people, but I still don't understand why the boy who didn't believe in labels (which is a good thing I guess?) was referred to as one.
I cannot count the number of times I have watched and listened to this poem. It is because I cannot count the number of times I have hurt over men who makes me feel fazed despite putting an unfazed front. This poem reminds me to be strong but at the same time hopeful.
THIS IS SOO COOL!!! the part about “being very phased”. because it’s like, all of that “revenge” stuff is still being phased, just in a different way. so in the alternate universe she moves on.
what the hell? score! I found a person with a heart and brain who gets it!!!! whoo. do you have any idea how many sphincter holes in the comments section I scrambled down to find you?👋
@@bettyemachetetmi5005 same here!!
Well actually in the alternative universe she IS fazed. It’s this universe that she moves on.
I don't get it
A person in my life recently decided I wasn't worth his time anymore and pushed me completely out of his life and every time I feel like crying, I watch this video and listen to these words. I am no longer fazed. I am so much more than what he made of me and my time is worth so much more than waiting for him to change. There are people who will never love me, and maybe even hate me, but it is not worth my time anymore.
TheBabyAw23 👏👏👏 go you xx
💕
I went through the same thing...stay strong ..love😍.
❤️
People get really upset when you realize this and try to put u back in the kitchen. However I'm reaching for a casket now. Sad for women. ✌💖😭
I’m getting a tattoo from this poem! It has helped me so much in the 8 months since I caught my husband cheating, gambling away our entire savings, ignoring our children, and drinking like a fish.
I spent way too long waiting for him to change and to see my worth. I needed strength and this is where I found it.
I can’t decide between “here, they are just hours” or “I have so much beautiful time”
Go with I have so much beautiful time 💕
Wishing you so much beautiful time to come!Your strength is inspiring❤️
planning on getting “i have so much beautiful time” but man i’m really considering “here they are just hours” now
Every time I notice myself getting lost in a relationship or depending too much on someone else’s company, I come back to this poem. Every time it reminds me to focus on myself and stop putting other people’s feelings above my own.
"the boy says period sex is disgusting and I slaughter a goat in his living room."
"...and here, they are just hours."... This poem never ceases to leave me speechless.
oh olivia. This poem has blessed me in more ways than you could ever acknowledge. For the last week ive been waiting as he slowly replies or waiting until he opens my text; realising if this man truly loved me I wouldn't have to wait.
I realise this. And whilst he does not text back I finished my art project in which id been delaying for months, gorgeous and delicate. a sculpture I have created using this precious time.
The man tells me he does not love me. And he does not love me. The man tells me who he is. and I listen- I have so much beautiful time.
I come back to this poem again and again because there’s something very important about reminding myself that I must make time for myself, not just relationships
4 years later and i'm still obsessed with this poem. At first i didn't put it in practice and wasted all my time in men who didn't love me. But now i think i'm genuinely starting to be unfazed by men
I come back to these poems every year and they make whole new sense to me every time.
"and I listen" Powerful words that will resonate from now on!
notice how she uses the difference between man and boy. She talks about the boys who constantly care about appearances, but the man who is in touch with his feelings.
“And here, they are just hours” damn I have chills - again -
when i was younger and i heard this for the first time i thought it was a tad brash, maybe over the top. i didn’t understand. now that i’m a few years older i get it. i know what she’s said and it’s now one of my favourite poems ever
This is so beautiful.
The way she referred the boy she loved initially as just a boy, who doesn't know how to be vocal about his own feelings.The way she refer the way he do the surface compliments like the hair, or sex pleasures.
But eventually when she fall in love with the man,
Who is vocal about his feelings towards her and the way he took hours even before touching her.Because he doesn't wanna hurt her by not reciprocating her love towards her.
And when finally he confronted her about his exact feelings,
She isn't angry about it so doesn't burn the photos or begged him to stay.
Cause she loved the truth that alleviated that the beautiful man she loved, doesn't love her back.
Ahh beautiful poem💕
Looking back, it turns out I discovered this video about a week after it was posted. At the moment I was about to graduate high school and the poem changed my life. It has stayed with me into almost the end of college and I will always, always appreciate its truth and it’s beauty
It's release day for Olivia's book, New American Best Friend!!! Get this poem and a lot more including "Ode to My Bitch Face" and "Manic Pixie Dream Girl": bit.ly/olivianabf
That's awesome. Her poems are really good. My favorite is ode to the women on long island
That's also in the book :)
That's great! She's one of my favorites along with Rachel Wiley and Neil Hilborn
These people inspire me to write my own poetry. Thank you for being a great channel
Assuming you mean Backpedal? It is indeed in the book!
I loved my ex so much, and he didn't love me back, not one bit. He needed me to straighten up his life, and once I saved him and fixed him, he just... He just fucking left me. For over a year I pleaded, BEGGED him to give me what I needed: affection, sweet words, respect, to not leave me alone at all turns.
But in the end, ours was a tale of me praying, giving him everything he needed and wanted, and he gave me NOTHING in return.
The worst part is that after everything that happened, if he came to me tomorrow begging for my love I just couldn't do it, I can never go back. I resent him way too much for that. I want to want it, but I just don't. I held this love in me that was the brightest, most selfless feeling I ever knew... And now it's dead, and I have to live with that. And I hate that I don't even hate him, I just look at him now and I'm mad at myself, for letting him use me for so long while that hope he would one day love me back, beyond the hollow words that he forced himself to grit out, kept me beside him.
"The man tells me he does not love me, and he does not love me. The man tells me who he is and I LISTEN. I have so much beautiful time".
How do I get myself to stand there and present my poetry? Ahh my dream
Ahh mine too!
this poem healed me
4 years later and it still hits just as hard if not harder.
Yeah, she's a real one.
I love her. She is my favorite poet. I can't really express that in a simpler way.
the last couple lines .... wisdom beyond your years, my lady, wisdom that this boy, older than you, have just learned recently and you worded it beautifully. Thank You !
Hey, I did not quite get this poem. Could you explain your favourite parts to me?
This is just my interpretation, but at the beginning of the poem she's listing out how her alternate universe self would react to boys and men basically telling her how to be ladylike or attractive - by not caring, even rebelling. Which says that in this reality, she does care
The middle part about her mom, her mom is telling her that "Unfazed" doesn't mean caring about what men thinks and taking vengeance.
Toward the end, the several last line, she is explaining how being "Unfazed" not caring, means you don't try to hold on to a man that wants to leave you, you don't bargain, you don't question, you accept that "I don't love you" means "I don't love you" and you look at him for who he really is, who he says he is, not your ideal of him.
the ending really speaks to me, because I've only been able to let go of my ex recently, after I accept that they don't love me, don't find me attractive, and never will, no matter what I do; and I had to look at them for who they really are, who they identify as, instead for my ideals of them.
Thien Thuan Tran thank you for sharing this helped me work through the words in my own way :^)
This has been one of my favorite written poems for years now and this is the first time I’ve seen it spoken. It’s not how I read it, but so incredible both ways. Thank you!!
clicked on the notif as soon as i saw olivia's name
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i will thank you!
This is my favorite poem. Everytime I come back to this to remind myself of who I am. I love this ❤️
Olivia truly NEVER misses a beat. She is unlike any other and I am utterly obsessed and in love with her poems. She is a gift!!
The man tells me who he is
And I listen.
I have so much beautiful time.
❤️
MORE PEOPLE NEED TO HEAR THIS
I don't care if I'm not a female it's too true
good writing doesn't have genital or gender.❤
no
one of my all time favorite poems ever ever
«a boy said he liked my hair the other way, so I shaved my head instead of my pussy»
always coming back for this line. goddamn.
I really needed these words!
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The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.- Elie Wiesel
This poem blew me away.
"I have so much beautiful time." This is the words! 👏
i come back to this poem again and again,everytime struck by her words. I have so much beautiful time
I cry every time I watch this
I had to google the word "Chauvanist" and as my eyes took in the words I felt my mouth smile and I hadn't even told it to
That ending blew me away.
This is all kinds of amazing.
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I love this poem so much! It my favourite, every word is so powerful, ever line can stand on its own and evoke so much feeling and is so relatable. This poem is ingrained in my memory and I live by the beautiful words spoken in the sense that I have so much beautiful time, here they are just hours, hours of not waiting for some to love me, hours to constructively work on myself, hours to experience life and share it with loved ones, hours to get to know people with out wanting them to love me or pursue me in a romantic sense, learning from experience and moments with people pushing back the desire of love that can not be reciprocal. Loving life and everyone on my journey while being a rebel and living to the beat of my own drum. This poem has inspired me to live authenticity and freely without questioning love that people cant give me, but giving myself all the love I need.
I love revengeful poetry ❤️
The best!
So true and beautiful. A lesson to learn. How to tell your heart to accept another person’s free will.
Powerful and beautiful.
I'm obsessed with Olivia Gatwood. She's sucessfully written words that every young girl/woman needs to hear. That's fucking talent.
Always loved the last words of this poem. Think I may get them tattooed one day.
Best poem I've heard since Rudy Francisco
We're putting out Rudy's first full-length book later this year too!
Button Poetry can't wait 😍
Button Poetry YES YES
i love the sound of her voice and how she reads
Your words are powerful! Don't ever stop using them in this manner.
"my mother calls it 'being very phased'" - we might have the same mother 😅
In all seriousness, anger is an antidote to sadness that exists outside of you. Healthy, productive, beautiful anger ❤️
gosh, i fancy olivia so much.
this is my favorite. poem.
I pressed like before hearing it just because of the title
comedy and poetry love it
Wow, I absolutely love Olivia.
"here they are just hours"
👏
I'm shook.
Oh wow. How powerful is that.
I love this poem so much, it's just amazing. Speaks to me on so many levels
First time listening to American poetry. And what a poet and poetry I picked. Its funny everything is same at the core. India or US same story.
I always come back to this
i love her poetry so much omggggg
I love this more than words can describe
She began by calling him a boy but at the end, she referred to him as a man. Can someone tell me the significance behind that?
I don't think they are all the same person, Joulene.
I took it as she didn’t find him significant enough to refer to him as “the” boy because that means he’s one, ya know? And as calling him a boy or a man she is showing that he is no longer significant to her. (Really hard to explain, sorry)
It means she respects the opinions of the man in the end, and that she is no longer fazed enough to label the man a "boy" just because he doesn't love her. It is a reflect of her being a woman by the end of the poem.
@@digitalmojave In this poem, the boys and men are really just one big concept: "those who do not love me" and how they evolve in her perception from boy to man
@@solarprogeny6736 It is also a nod to how as a girl she conflates self-worth with adoration and she eventually learns that she is more than just what men think of her. A hard lesson to learn, unfortunately.
Major snaps. Love you Olivia!
“here they are just hours” 🥺
this one gets me every single time
I love her poetry and her performance and passion ahhh
same
she's so incredible ahhhhh
I love this girl. I am sixty but I want to grow up and be her!
in ten years I would be honored to grow up half as badass and wise as you here❤
@Reb Doomer Geez Louise, lighten up! It is okay to compliment a nice performance.
This is great
Glad you enjoyed it :) Make sure to check out her book! It's officially released today: bit.ly/olivianabf
She reminds me so much of Fiona from shameless
...and LISTEN...I have so much beautiful time
I listen to this to remind myself to not text him
The one about CHOKING
Olivia!! I love your poems so much!! I can't wait till my next pay so I can buy your book!
oh, wow.
I wish I would have heard this five years ago. Wonderful words!!
Needed this
Needed your icon
Alternate Universe in Which I Am Unfazed by the Men Who Do Not Love Me by Fall Out Boy
Whyyyyyy...why are you sooooo amazing?!
This was so so good, i loved it the words and the way she spoke the poem
I love her poetry!!
good poem - thank you
2019 thank you.I needed to hear this!
YASSS QUEEN
AS YOU SHOULD
I needed this... Thank you 💖
I am here!
fasiha riaz good, stay here, and keep on being here
by which I mean, take care of yourself
Just beautiful
and here, they are just hours. wow.