The problem is almost always expectations. Surrender your expectations and begin to serve the other person. Digging your heels in will lead to disappointment, bitterness, and eventually, contempt. And that is death to a marriage.
My wife doesn't pay attention to me when I try to meet her emotional needs. I desperately want connection with her, but she simply doesn't care about having any with me. She just sticks her face in phone and ignores me. I wait on her hand and foot and she doesn't appreciate any of it. And believe me, I've had the "what can I do to make it better" talk with her many, many times. Her answer? "Just get over it. I'm happy without sex, you can learn to live without it too." Being a "servant" means being a miserable doormat if you're with someone who isn't interested in doing the same for you. I would have left years ago if not for my son, but I can't go on like this anymore.
I m so tired of my marriage is making me miserable i was fighting for years for it... In every way possible... I tried everything i known i searched for more.... But everytime i try to speak to him he says i want to fight with him... It s so consuming... Anything i do it s not enough for him he is a perfectionist... I try harder... To do everything as good as i can but he s never satisfied... He always sees the bad in me.. Insults me... It s so hard and i am exhausted... I already had support from prayer group from my church... Counseling is out of choice for him... He s an unbeliever.. Not wanting to get involved with church.. Nor psycholog ori anything.... I feel like i m destroying myself and i don t feel wanted, apreciated... Always rejected when i try to connect with him... He says i m searching for reasons to fight..
Could you guys please do a series on "married but separated,". There's not enough Christian content about this and what a blessing it would be for my family and I'm sure other marriages to hear this.
I love you guys, you help me so much. Thank you Dave & Ashley!! I really think about all of the topics that you speak about all the time. ❤👍😘 Thank you so much!! xoxox
I was told her dad will always be her number one man and she’ll never put another man before her parents, sex isn’t important and flirting is only for new couples. I’d like our daughter to sleep in her own bed and, for whatever reason, she’s in our bed every night. That just paves the path for how the rest of our pattern is. I want to put my wife back on a pedestal and lavish her with the love I promised and readily want to give her. What’s the point of being married if you can’t make your spouse feel like a queen? But when your needs are neglected long enough; it slowly dissolves your ability to do those things and it’s replaced with resentment and loneliness. I watch my wife muster up time and energy for anything but us and I’m told that I’m punishing our family because it hurts me the way it does. We went to a wedding where we heard the bride and groom vow to make each other the first priority, etc, etc and I just get more depressed when I hear other people get the idea. I continue to pray and hang onto the hope that G-d will heel us, but I get more discouraged every time I hear, watch or read something that says how to have a healthy marriage (or something similar) for the opposite to be done at home. I’m wondering if she just needs an unhealthy relationship with me. We were sitting at a dinner table and her grandfather asked her if our daughter slept in our bed and two other questions that were related to parenting and she lied to him right in front of me on all 3 issues. I really don’t understand what is going on in our life. I got married to earn the world for our family and I’ve just been beat down to the point I just exist. What hurts the most is that I get blamed for why things are this way until someone else (counselor, pastor, etc.) hears the actual truth and tell her about is my needs are important and not getting met. It’s in one ear and out the other. What is going on here? It’s driving me absolutely nuts and breaking my heart at the same time. I couldn’t get myself up to dance and have a good time at the wedding because seeing her cut loose with anyone but me really shows me that everything else really is more important. She doesn’t understand that when you set the marriage dynamics up to be nothing more than roommates; we wind up not having the type of relationship where you dance together. I just don’t understand. I really don’t understand. My love tank is empty and your message doesn’t change a thing for us. How can someone listen to what you guys say, do the opposite and then blame the person they are neglecting for the issue that arises from that neglect? I mean there is absolutely no intimacy at all in our marriage and so at the wedding I see my wife in a Congo line with her hands on some strangers hips and a huge smile and all I could do was wonder how it would feel to be touched by her like that. I feel like a grain of sand and I just want to cry. I don’t have the energy, resources or desire to put into this type of marriage anymore. I love my wife and I was dead serious those vows I made. I’m told well you’re losing her because you act like this or that, but nobody cares what’s going on to bring out these emotions. I’m all alone in this. Google “help for hurting men” and watch how many women’s help groups pop up. Google “husband hurt in sexless marriage” and watch how many pop up for women suffering from the husbands. I have almost debilitating stomach issues and I’m on medication and diet, but my wife doesn’t seem to think our dysfunctional life is a part of that issue. What do I do? I don’t want to break apart our family, but continuing down this path is doing more than breaking it up.
Marriage is so hard. It has its ups and downs and can be frustrating when you feel like you are not getting through to the person you most care about. I don't have answers for you. But I will be praying for you and your spouse. God Bless.
What do you do when you are the only spouse that is meeting the needs of the other... for years now... How can I make him see that I have different needs than him.... well besides pray.
Very much so, needs aren’t being met. Ashley, once a month is right because of the lack of emotional needs NOT being met. He doesn’t get making her feel beautiful, complimenting, making her feel sexy. To top that off it causes low self esteem. He doesn’t understand serving her emotional needs. How do you get them to understand, we’ve established the 5 love languages and yet he’s still not getting it.
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The problem is almost always expectations. Surrender your expectations and begin to serve the other person. Digging your heels in will lead to disappointment, bitterness, and eventually, contempt. And that is death to a marriage.
I enjoy listening to you two & to Jimmy & Karen Evans. Keep up the great work & sharing the important lessons in marriage.
My wife doesn't pay attention to me when I try to meet her emotional needs. I desperately want connection with her, but she simply doesn't care about having any with me. She just sticks her face in phone and ignores me. I wait on her hand and foot and she doesn't appreciate any of it. And believe me, I've had the "what can I do to make it better" talk with her many, many times. Her answer? "Just get over it. I'm happy without sex, you can learn to live without it too."
Being a "servant" means being a miserable doormat if you're with someone who isn't interested in doing the same for you. I would have left years ago if not for my son, but I can't go on like this anymore.
I m so tired of my marriage is making me miserable i was fighting for years for it... In every way possible... I tried everything i known i searched for more.... But everytime i try to speak to him he says i want to fight with him... It s so consuming... Anything i do it s not enough for him he is a perfectionist... I try harder... To do everything as good as i can but he s never satisfied... He always sees the bad in me.. Insults me... It s so hard and i am exhausted... I already had support from prayer group from my church... Counseling is out of choice for him... He s an unbeliever.. Not wanting to get involved with church.. Nor psycholog ori anything....
I feel like i m destroying myself and i don t feel wanted, apreciated... Always rejected when i try to connect with him... He says i m searching for reasons to fight..
Could you guys please do a series on "married but separated,". There's not enough Christian content about this and what a blessing it would be for my family and I'm sure other marriages to hear this.
I love you guys, you help me so much. Thank you Dave & Ashley!! I really think about all of the topics that you speak about all the time. ❤👍😘 Thank you so much!! xoxox
When verbal abuse is there. Don't want intimacy at all with my husband
I was told her dad will always be her number one man and she’ll never put another man before her parents, sex isn’t important and flirting is only for new couples. I’d like our daughter to sleep in her own bed and, for whatever reason, she’s in our bed every night. That just paves the path for how the rest of our pattern is. I want to put my wife back on a pedestal and lavish her with the love I promised and readily want to give her. What’s the point of being married if you can’t make your spouse feel like a queen? But when your needs are neglected long enough; it slowly dissolves your ability to do those things and it’s replaced with resentment and loneliness. I watch my wife muster up time and energy for anything but us and I’m told that I’m punishing our family because it hurts me the way it does. We went to a wedding where we heard the bride and groom vow to make each other the first priority, etc, etc and I just get more depressed when I hear other people get the idea. I continue to pray and hang onto the hope that G-d will heel us, but I get more discouraged every time I hear, watch or read something that says how to have a healthy marriage (or something similar) for the opposite to be done at home. I’m wondering if she just needs an unhealthy relationship with me. We were sitting at a dinner table and her grandfather asked her if our daughter slept in our bed and two other questions that were related to parenting and she lied to him right in front of me on all 3 issues. I really don’t understand what is going on in our life. I got married to earn the world for our family and I’ve just been beat down to the point I just exist. What hurts the most is that I get blamed for why things are this way until someone else (counselor, pastor, etc.) hears the actual truth and tell her about is my needs are important and not getting met. It’s in one ear and out the other. What is going on here? It’s driving me absolutely nuts and breaking my heart at the same time. I couldn’t get myself up to dance and have a good time at the wedding because seeing her cut loose with anyone but me really shows me that everything else really is more important. She doesn’t understand that when you set the marriage dynamics up to be nothing more than roommates; we wind up not having the type of relationship where you dance together. I just don’t understand. I really don’t understand. My love tank is empty and your message doesn’t change a thing for us. How can someone listen to what you guys say, do the opposite and then blame the person they are neglecting for the issue that arises from that neglect? I mean there is absolutely no intimacy at all in our marriage and so at the wedding I see my wife in a Congo line with her hands on some strangers hips and a huge smile and all I could do was wonder how it would feel to be touched by her like that. I feel like a grain of sand and I just want to cry. I don’t have the energy, resources or desire to put into this type of marriage anymore. I love my wife and I was dead serious those vows I made. I’m told well you’re losing her because you act like this or that, but nobody cares what’s going on to bring out these emotions. I’m all alone in this. Google “help for hurting men” and watch how many women’s help groups pop up. Google “husband hurt in sexless marriage” and watch how many pop up for women suffering from the husbands. I have almost debilitating stomach issues and I’m on medication and diet, but my wife doesn’t seem to think our dysfunctional life is a part of that issue. What do I do? I don’t want to break apart our family, but continuing down this path is doing more than breaking it up.
Marriage is so hard. It has its ups and downs and can be frustrating when you feel like you are not getting through to the person you most care about. I don't have answers for you. But I will be praying for you and your spouse. God Bless.
Maybe she married you just for a baby? She might never have had good intentions
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@@gaburiaroq6350 considering some details it may be. I’m just working on me these days and G-d will work in his timing for what I do from here.
What do you do when you are the only spouse that is meeting the needs of the other... for years now... How can I make him see that I have different needs than him.... well besides pray.
Jesus is Lord 🙏
Very much so, needs aren’t being met. Ashley, once a month is right because of the lack of emotional needs NOT being met. He doesn’t get making her feel beautiful, complimenting, making her feel sexy. To top that off it causes low self esteem. He doesn’t understand serving her emotional needs. How do you get them to understand, we’ve established the 5 love languages and yet he’s still not getting it.
I love you guys, such a cute couple