Things Not To Say To Someone With OCD
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- Опубликовано: 1 янв 2018
- If there's one thing that people with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder don't want to hear, it's 'oh i'm a little bit OCD too'. Yet that's not the only annoying statement people with the condition are on the receiving end of…
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Saying, “I’m so OCD about (insert something).” Is the equivalent of saying, “I’m so diabetes about breakfast.”
Just don’t do it
I'm so diabetes about breakfast 😂😂😂 oh my God thank you for that comparison!
OCD and Me! “I’m so depression about homework”
"I'm so ODD about my sleep"
THANK YOU SO MUCH I HATE WHEN PEOPLE USE OCD SO LOOSELY
I don’t have OCD but I’m just really sensitive when people use such serious mental/emotional/physical conditions so carelessly without putting any thought into it
OCD and Me! I actually have Type One Diabetes...and no none of it was my fault, my immune system attcked my pancreas and I was rushed to the ER.
There is a difference between being OCD and a perfectionist. They are not the same thing.
A perfectionist wants to fix a room a ocd person has to fix that room
the gaming doggo no
Everyone needs to know this basic knowledge
@@thegamingdoggo9519 I couldn't of said it better myself.
the gaming doggo i feel like it’s more like a perfectionist wants to clean their room while a person with ocd has to clean their room in a certain order or else something will happen
Someone: *”oh, I’m a little bit OCD”*
Me: “There’s a special place in hell for you”
Lol reminds me if lucifer
I love this lmao
OCD is not being a perfectionist, it is having intrusive thoughts (obsessions) that cause you to do rituals (compulsions). if you don't have intrusive thoughts, and just do things for cleanliness you do NOT have ocd
kitty fairy very true. I have ocd and this is a perfect def
Scy Nebu well this person named kitty fairy is extremely correct. I have ocd and I can confirm this
you can have both
M AR give me other examples and I might be able to figure out what it is
my mother has ocd and she washes her hands constantly just to make sure they are clean so you are not correct in that sense, maybe you should have explained it better
I have OCD and I'm probably one of the messiest people you'll ever come across. It literally has nothing to do with being clean or organized and it really gets under my skin at how ignorant people actually are about the disorder.
Creative Freak Ditto (I have ocd and I'm a hoarder)
Hahah I’m exactly the same 😂 mine is usually on everyday tasks so I can’t do anything at all without it happening (write, walk through doors, look at things, swallow, get into bed, ect) without having these really extreme intrusive thoughts. However my rooms always a mess because of this because I can’t always put things away and I get anxiety not keeping stuff 😂
Creative Freak ikr like I’m so disorganized and everyone else who doesn’t know the struggle will say oh I’m so OCD or something just cause they organized their binder or something or wash hands only once
I'm the same my ocd is checking.. when it was bad it took around two hours to leave the house as I had to check every handle, window, tap and switch multiple times... being clean and tidy is nothing to do with mine I shower and wash the normal amount of times... id say my house is pretty messy not dirty but I have stuff everywhere and it doesn't bother me.
Totally agree! I have symmetry OCD but I'm messy af!!
Only real OCD lads know the struggle of standing in one spot for an hour touching a door knob or wall trying to get the right feel so you can move on...
TheDenzelEffect I do that ever night
Ugh, even thinking about it makes me wanna do it!
I do that A LOT I SWEAR and everyone gets SO ANNOYED but my best friend is used to it and just waits for me😂
Init, with my OCD I 'can't' step on lines and one time my friend carried me across a hallway because it would have been impossible to avoid the lines, true friendship.
I used to open and close doors until the click felt right and didn’t click on the same time a negative intrusive thought came through my mind.
Things to say to someone who has OCD: "are there things I should avoid so I don't set off your anxiety?"
Yes!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!
Exactly!
Omg if only
That should be a question included in every first date. ...And any friendship. God that would be amazing in reducing the feelings of isolation OCD can sometimes cause.
Yes
OCD isn’t a verb, so don’t use it in that way.
Don't you mean adjective...?
@@johno4521 well it isn't that either
I'm sure you mean adjective
Nobody Cares haha *i’M gOnnA oCd*
@@Hazyla me
“all numbers piss me off” new tattoo idea
Lotte Tikka i saw your comment as soon as soon as he said that
Lotte Tikka me @ my maths teacher
honestly thooo
Dyscalculia
Lotte Tikka it is such an odd sentence by itself but honestly one of the most relatable things I’ve heard
I had a friend in middle school who had OCD. No one would ever talk to him. They all treated him like he was a freak. I was the only person who ever talked to him, and he was an amazing person. He was incredibly smart and kind. He fostered many animals, built and coded computers with ridiculously complex software and functions, and he got As in every class he took. He was a great guy, and people judged him just for that.
It's so wrong.
That’s awful
Good on you
Olivia D'Angelo Thank you for being his friend, not in a ‘you’re such a selfless hero for being friends with him’ kind of way, just thank you for taking the time to get to know him and see what an amazing person he was. People who don’t have OCD often have no idea the hell we go through and usually alone. So it warms my heart to know he had someone there who appreciated him for who he was. Xxx
A lot of ppl who have ocd are incredibly inteligent
It's so kind of you.Being an OCD patient I also used to face those things. I suffered from the disease for 13years continuously. But the disease taught me to separate best and worst people besides this disease made me tough & strong which is a positive thing for me. OCD introduced me with my inner qualities too. For more than 3years I'm leading a normal life without any type of medication and I see OCD now as my opportunity. Obsession is the other name of "Curiosity+Stubbornness" combinedly which is essential for learning new things. I have learned to manipulate the power of OCD whenever needed.
I’ve been diagnosed with OCD since I was five years old, it’s been literally life-ruining. People have all these assumptions it’s about being clean, or orderly, or just uptight. No, it’s awful, disturbing intrusive thoughts that are so shameful you’ve never told anyone in your life, and then mind-numbing, sometimes painful rituals just done in the hope it will keep the Bad away. Even if you don’t believe it, better safe than sorry. It’s not necessarily about numbers, or washing hands, or being neat. It’s constant fear and shame and worry.
Yes, this! I have OCD and it's about disgusting crappy intrusive thoughts that I don't dare tell even to my nearest loved ones. I could care less about tidiness and washing my hands.
Couldn't have said it better :)
THANK YOU . Wish they had more representation of this in the video!
your comment really is really motivating. i am trying to do my own channel now and you gave me some positive things to think about. thank you
can we appreciate the fact that this video is 5:55?
its actually 1 minute off I'm afraid
TheChargingCow One minute and 11 seconds actually
This post has 55 likes, so I won't like it but I want you to know the I liked it
Thank you. Thank you for telling me this
Hogwarts and 9990k veiws
I hate how people without OCD have turned it into a verb. If u do not have a diagnosis of it from a doctor, don't say u do.
Penelope Views THANK YOU
Exactly!
sorry to be a pain, but wouldn't it be an adjective?
Yeah, it’s been turned into an adjective, not a verb.
THANK YOU AMENNN
The way that guy says "It's hell"... Jesus Christ look at his eyes. That man knows hell
I got my ancestry DNA results and I'm 25% OCD
Yeah that's as ridiculous as saying I'm a little OCD
@@daverd6434You don't measure it mate, that was the joke
@@daverd6434 Katelyn was making fun of the people who say "I'm a little bit ocd"
@@daverd6434 pls don't wish that upon someone.
@@Bangtanlicious-ev3sn i dont know what happened obviously it was a joke, i deleted my comments. should i excuse myself becacuse crybabys like you got offended? naaaaaa .... and my wish became true when tons of people developed mind illness during lockdown because of covid. you pretend to be very smart, why dont you share with us your academic background?
I feel like the non-germ/order OCD types never get talked about... Like pure O, obsessions about hurting someone or someone hurting you etc.
Felt this
Omfg the rage. "Oh I washed my hands one time too, I'm so OCD".
TheChickenRiceBowl ikr
That worries me
People that post these comments are women in my perspective 😶
I’m a germaphobe, and a lot of this shit goes hand and hand. I have a textural problem, and someone will ask me to grab something or tell me to touch something to see if I’ll freak out about it, and it’s so ridiculous. And when I do ‘freak out’ I start to have convulsions and cry, I start frantically wiping my hands on my shirt and people tell me I’m dramatic and freaky. It’s super rude and annoying.
Jellybee Oh my god I've never met anyone with OCD and textural problems too.
Might be a sensory processing disorder?
Honestly the textural part sounds like OCD though. A lot of that does. I'm similar. I have textures that make me throw up on contact.
I'd recommend seeing a therapist on that. It really does sound like you might have actual OCD.
When I'm asked to touch something I have to know what it is. Textures kinds freak me out and do you ever get that horrid feeling in your teeth if you touch like a painted picture or paint in general. Just anything. I'm really fussy over food because of textures and I don't know if this is what you are saying but I'm sharin anyways. Just to be clear I am not saying I got OCD because that's completely different.
I have problems with texture as well! I hate paper and chalk it’s nice to know that I’m not weird and there are others like me
The most annoying part for me about having OCD is that people assume I don't just because I'm such a slob. My OCD is really related to my GAD so it's more of a ritualistic way that I avoid my triggers, and messiness is not one of my triggers.
It's also annoying when people say they're OCD when they're not because I can never tell if that's a way for them to further a discussion about OCD because they also have it. In that case we can talk about our OCD and our experience, but when someone just means they're a neat freak it's terrible. I hate that people self diagnose and minimize ACTUAL OCD
@@fg14311 yes I agree. It makes it a lot harder forpeople with OCD to talk about it
Faith G me too. I was diagnosed professionally by a therapist and one of my family members was like “you don’t have ocd-“ because i’m a slob. that has nothing to do with my type of ocd
@@marisa9317 exactly! I have trichotillomania, a type of ocd where I pull out my hairs do to anxiety. Nothing in that has anything to do with cleaning or being a perfectionist!!!
Hey sister, I have dermotillomania, where I pick at my skin to help my anxiety. I’m not a perfectionist, there is something wrong with me!
me: “i have ocd.”
someone: “yeah, i’m ocd too!”
me(in my head): “YOU CANT BE OCD”
me(out loud): “cool!”
Samez. Only I say, "Really? Ya sure?"
Sameeeeeeeeeee goddamn it man
goddamn- the “cool!” is just truthfully hurts and too real
my brother has very intense and very severe ocd and i hate having to clarify to people that no, they're not "ocd" for needing their cup to be in the centre of their tray. and i hate when people say "i'm ocd!" you can't BE ocd, you have ocd - it's a disorder.
olivia I have it it’s awful it takes over my whole life
I’ve definitely improved on my OCD and it’s not as controlling as it used to be but I just want to SNAP on people when they do this shit like « NO! You haven’t been trapped in the kitchen because you can’t stop locking 1 f’ing door!!! It’s 1AM Sally you think I wanna be standing in one spot for an hour ?! » I really try to just breathe when people start on like this
I do this but I don't have ocd. Well my mum says I don't
Yeah when ever people talk about how OCD they are when my little brother has it too and he's only 13 and he's struggled with wanting to kill him self for years because he can't get the thought out of his mind, or other bad thoughts and he thinks it makes him a bad person(even though he wouldn't hurt a fly)
It makes as much sense as saying "I am depression"
'Im so OCD' is the single most irritating thing as someone who actually has OCD.
i don’t even have OCD yet it still annoys me when people say it
I say that sometimes because I genuinely think I may have it. It's easier to use that phrase than to admit I have to self harm if they do a specific action that triggers it.
Why are you protective over your ocd just because youve been diagnosed. Its like youre butthurt that someone else feels like they have ocd
Rubin Bramich not even remotely that. If you watch the video. It’s when people say it for every little thing when they tidy up like they straighten a pen and are like ‘I’m so OCD’
It’s nothing to do with diagnosis it’s to do with people using it as a throw away comment when OCD is actually a very tough thing to go through and deal with on a day to day basis
ESmart yeh i agree with that when they say it about something dumb
My sister has OCD and whenever someone in schools like “ugh im so OCD about that” I get very frustrated but never want to say anything to them
PLEASE do say something to them. I'm constantly having to tell people its not okay to say "I'm so ocd" and explain what ocd actually is
I have OCD and tourettes and it's living hell because when organise things my tics mess it up
Wow, that must be tough to have both, I have bad aniexty and depression and I find somtimes I twitch n tick when I'm having a rough period, not sure if they are related but the last few years this has happened, might be a reaction to my aniexty not sure?
I'm in the video, blue shirt :)
All the best
@@sammullett17 yeah it will be a nervous tic
SAME HERE!!!!
I have tourettes too it sucks.
Same! Comorbidities are the worst.
OH MY GOD. I was diagnosed with severe OCD and I've heard all this shit. My heart goes out to my fellow peeps that live with it every day, we're all incredibly strong ✌✌.
ThisUsedToBeACharacterAccount peace dude ✌️
The fullstop at the end of the sentence speaks to me. It triggers me when there isn't a fullstop, exclamation or question mark at the end of a sentence, Jesus Christ.
ThisUsedToBeACharacterAccount I haven’t been diagnosed with OCD, I don’t think I have it, but I do sometimes get a feeling I believe is similar, like when I don’t do something when my brain tells me to do something, even when it’s a dumb thought like go back a couple seconds in the video, I get physically uncomfortable. It might have something to do with my asbergers. Anyway, I feel your pain
Cheers to you!
I'm glad they touched on intrusive thoughts, since you can't see it a lot of people believe it's not real but it's very real for the sufferers, we perform rituals to help remove the anxiety we get from these thoughts but they always come back it's a viscous cycle.
Teal Aztec couldn't agree more.
I have intrusion thoughts but they're not connected to cleaning or rituals.I just suffer through them.Wish they showed more of this side because people only see OCD as cleaning etc.But glad it was covered nonetheless.
Teal Aztec I often have intrusive thoughts when I'm around other people, like "You could pull her hair" or "You could step really hard on his foot", but I've never acted upon them. And then there are those thoughts I have to think over and over again for minutes on end, just repeating sentences or concepts in my head. I'm planning to go to a doctor to see about those things, but I have no idea what it could be except OCD. What do you categorize as intrusive thoughts? (If I messed anything up, I'm sorry. My English's a little bit rusty)
Teal Aztec yessss!!!!! 👏👏👏
When I first had intrusive thoughts when I was teen, and they terrified me. I had a few obessions and compulsions with my anxiety disorder. I still have minor issues with food contamination. It can take over your life.
Something that pisses me off to no end and something that I've had both family members and "professionals" say to me:
"Well everyone's a little OCD "
But everyone *is* a little OCD why does that piss u off? 😂
@@DP-mv7ph no everyone likes things a little organised ocd is needing to do things a certain way or it becomes extremely uncomfortable
@@DP-mv7ph no everyone is a little bit perfectionist not OCD saying evreyone is a little bit OCD is like saying evreyone is alittle bit dead, you either have it or you dont .
😷😤😤😤😤😤
@@DP-mv7ph Does *everybody* have Intrusive Thoughts. You probably have *no* idea what it's like
‘i love that top your wearing i’ve got OCD btw’ that man had me in creases🤣
i have diagnosed OCD and JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A CLEAN HOUSE AND WANT SOMETHING CLEAN DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN SAY "omg i'm so OCD haha" BECAUSE YOU DON'T. IT WOULD BE GREAT IF THAT'S WHAT OCD WAS BUT IT IS NOT. imagine having the most horrible anxiety over the smallest thing, something not in a right position, or you need to wash your hands. you literally obsess over something so small and it's so frustrating. if my OCD were what you think it is, my room wouldn't be an actual disaster
frooyah I agree. I have emetophobia, which has developed into compulsive hand washing because I'm so terrified of getting sick.
I agree so much! My room is a mess but that doesn’t mean I don’t have OCD
frooyah My house is slightly messy and I'm unorganized. It has nothing to do with organization for me. I have really bad intrusive thoughts. Mine has nothing to do with cleaning or being neat. That isn't all that OCD is. It has so many variations and you are absolutely correct.
What about a series on what TO say?
Sarah F ooooo awesome idea! 😄
Sarah F because these days you can’t say anything without being considered as offensive
why do you have to say anything lol
Sarah F do you really need a series on how to just be a decent human lol
jkfdkjjd so, you?
I have a kind of uncommon form of OCD that doesn't have much of the physical side but is pretty much all intrusive thoughts. Whenever I hear any person saying that they're "so OCD" a shard separates from my soul and gets punted by imaginary me into a nearby brick wall
“I’m so OCD” will definitely be one I’m not OCD I’m just a perfectionist and I know how annoying it is for people who actually have OCD when people say that
I deal with horrible OSD (intrusive thoughts and tiring routines plus tics), so to hear people say "I'm so OCD" I'm like you have nooo idea.....it's a vile thing to deal with. It's not just the cleaning part of OCD y'all, it's much much bigger.
I agree.
Ik it’s awful I am told “no your not” I’m like REALLY
I so agree some people just can't understand That! It is so much more. I hope people will understand a bit more about OCD now that they have watched the video xx
winwins lines I have the same exact thing as you have. Some days it’s worse and I’ve missed school cuz I just can’t do anything until I counteract the intrusive thought or do the ritual until it feels right. I’m glad I found someone who isn’t just “I need to always wash my hands” 🤣
I have OCD and it takes over my life at times.
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you are not alone out there
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"So if I move this does it bother you?"
No mate. It's probably more likely to bother the camera person or who ever set it up that's it's not in the center if the frame any more
me trying to conquer my OCD: *Stands completly still in one spot fighting with my thoughts instead of moving*
it honestly took a year of that until I was able to calm down a LOOOTTT like it's still bad but like it's normal now
I have diagnosed ocd and I’ve never talked to people or listen to people who have it too. Thank you 💛
Eliza the Writer // me too❤️ x
Eliza the Writer you should!! As someone with OCD it really helps..
Eliza the Writer you should!! As someone with OCD it really helps..
Hi Eliza the Writer. I am looking for a person with OCD to interview for a drama school project. Would you be interested in talking about your experiences, coping mechanisms and misconceptions? please contact me if you are. My email is barbaramariafbp@gmail.com
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ugh when people say I'm OCD about this and that, it drives me up the wall as well. a friend of mine knows I have OCD but she now feels like she wants to be OCD like because she wants to seem different or have quirks, I just don't understand why people who don't have OCD or any other mental illness, WANTS to seem like they do, I suffer with other mental illnesses as well, and I can't stand it. having mental illnesses isn't a fad!!
I admit I say that phrase because it's easier to explain without going into too much detail about why something triggers it. Plus it's awkward because I haven't been diagnosed.
I agree with KoshVader with the fact that I too say that,as well. Everybody experiences OCD or any kind of mental illness(es)differently. Mine is also hard to explain because it is debatable on whether what I have is considered in the OCD realm,impulse control disorder,body dysmorphic disorder or all of thee above.
RaeStalgia I don't understand... Body dysmorphic disorder has nothing to do with OCD or compulsive control disorder? No offense, just wondering x
None taken.I thought it had something to do with trichotillomania and dermatillomania which is what I have. I may have read about those conditions wrongly in Wikipedia. Anyways, I learn something new everyday. My bad.
RaeStalgia so have you actually been diagnosed with those? Just curious
people need to learn with ocd and perfectionism are COMPLETELY different things
What’s really frustrating is when you tell people you have OCD and they don’t believe you because it’s a term everyone uses!
Do “Things not to say to someone with anxiety or social anxiety” pls
"why are you so shy" and "but why dont you just talk??"
dude, chill out.
Oh, everyone gets nervous.
You need to grow up.
"Everyone gets nervous sometimes" 😤😤
"Stop overreacting!"
"It's not that big of a deal"
Oh my god, this is perfect. I hate telling people I have OCD because it always results in someone saying "oh me too, I have to have my money go the same way". NOOOOOOO. You don't have OCD, you have peculiarities.
And that one girl has the same number thing as me! I like even numbers except 6. And multiples of 5.
Omg I thought I was the only one with a thing about the number 6. I'm the same, with the multiples of 5 or even numbers except for 6.
Ik it’s so ANNOYING
With my OCD I'm ok with just random numbers at the moment it's 1, 6, 10, 15, 16, 20, 25. But it changes pretty often and I hate having to explain to people why I do things a certain way and one of my teachers does things to trigger it intentionally and is really disrespectful about it.
My ❤ for our ocd family.
I have been diagnosed with OCD, and I do the weirdest things! I'm a bit obsessed with even numbers, the number five, or seventeen.
I cannot have the volume on TV to be an odd number if it isn't a five multiple otherwise start feeling *horrible!* I don't even know why!
I have to eat my food in a certain order, and while I am chewing on my food, I start organizing my food by size, color, or shape.
I have to pick up my fork first. I could be going to eat a bit of soup, but if I have a fork, I have to pick it up, set it down, and then grab a spoon and start eating.
I have to tap on a door after I close it.
While a video is loading, I have to be *completely still.* I cannot be moving or anything or I get anxious for some reason.
Every time I take six steps I have to blink.
*Those are just the ones I consider weird, so*
*don't judge me please.*
No juding here
SAMEEEE
Sorry for replying twice my ocd kicked in (im really sorry)
For me the worst part of OCD is what I call the “Phantom touch”. Pretty sure you will understand since you have ocd too.
I can never eat my food unless I pray first and make sure people eat before I do. Cause when I eat first or don't pray, I feel like i'm doing something horrible.
I have OCD and legitimately have intrusive thoughts and have anxiety questioning my diagnosis. Even when I have two doctors who have given me the diagnosis. OCD is not just being particular or anal. This video has hit it on the head.
Same exact thing with me.
Yeah, I've actually found that a lot of people with OCD actually get intrusive thoughts about the disorder itself. I spent like two/three months in denial when I was diagnosed because I felt like I wasn't "sick enough". It's kinda crazy how literally nothing is off limits when it comes to mental illness.
@@CaptainScenemo I was recently diagnosed and despite the fact that in retrospect I realized that behaviors that are habitual to me are not normal and obey the OCD, I'm still thinking daily after a month if I'm not really forcing me the compulsions.
Ps: Sorry for my english.
“I’m a bit OCD.”
“I’m sooo OCD!”
Why does everyone say this? Do people not know that OCD is a mental illness?
No, they don't. I just recently learned it was myself.
nah they really dont i didnt even know it was until i realized it was what i had
Right !? It’s not something you make fun of.
As a person with OCD I agree with the "I'M so ocd." Phrase. If you don't have it, please, please, please, *please* *DO NOT* say that you do. Some of my worst obsessions are stereotypes but, it's *NOT* FUNNY. I check many times for locked doors, checked closets. Numbers are actually not "always even." Three is an avoided number, and 2 is close to 3. Basically *don't say you have a mental disorder if you don't, it is not cool.*
I have ocd and for me it’s germs that bother me I hate when my friends look in my locker and say : “wow for someone with ocd your locker is very messy” because it may not look organized but for me it is.People assume if they are organized they have ocd so they say they have ocd all the time but they don’t .Even my health teacher gave an awful explanation of it if you don’t understand something then don’t teach it to impressionable kids it’s just sad to see that a thirty year old woman can’t even try to understand a serious problem.Even though I know It doesn’t matter what age people are they don’t understand regardless but it’s especially hard when your in middle school and everyone’s all touchy-feely.
Kaylie grace i’m sorry :(. my ocd is all about germs too. The other things don’t bother me at all, but mine only happens at night, when im getting in bed. I cant open doorknobs with my hands, cuz theyre “dirty”. I have to wear socks to bed cause my feet are dirty. I have to wash my hands after being on my phone before bed because my hands are now dirty. It’s taking over my life and it’s awful
Mines about germs too it’s terrible it’s hard
It’s also taking over my life aswell I do hate it
I have it bad about germs too, but not in the way most people have it, for instance people tell me you're ocd yet you work with babies, and well what I say it's that their little germs don't bother me, in fact that's not the type of germs I worry or obsess about...my fear and concern and anxiety is directly related to any microscopic little bug or insect...I can't do pets, the outdoors and or just any floor or bench or space...I can't just use or wear someone else's things...I have a fear that if I use someone else's hair brush per say that I'll get a skin infection. So my worries and concerns are bot related to anyone else but me...the fear that something will happen to me!!
same! my ocd is about germs and also a bit about organization: i touched my phone, i’ll have to wash my hands now because they’re dirty. i’ve been out my house, i’ll have to change into freshly washed clothes because i’m dirty. i’ve touched something outside, i’ll have to shower again because what if the germs spreaded. it bothers me so much and i’ve had it since my childhood.
Please could you do things not to say to people with an anxiety disorder!
But OCD is an anxiety disorder.... jk I know what you mean XD
"Calm down"
"It's nothing to worry about"
"Think about something else"
@@sophiatalksmusic3588
“stop worrying”
“Dont be anxious”
“Why are you anxious?”
“What have you got to worry about?”
“Relax”
“Get on with it”
“Take some pills or something”
@@umbre04If I had a nickel for every time I heard that…
Do ADHD
PLEASE DO!
I think people with ADD could join the same video!
I would love this. As someone with diagnosed ADHD for most of my life this would be great.
LLooper Games ehhhh I have to disagree with you on that one. I struggle with ADHD and my sister struggles with ADD. Our school lives were drastically different because she couldn't pay attention and I couldn't pay attention *and* sit still. People with ADD will just zone out and have a really hard time paying attention to things and people with ADHD can go to jail or worse because of their compulsions.
A compulsion that I have is to steal things. It's extremely common in people with ADHD. A difference between ADD and ADHD is a person with ADD will think "I could steal this but I'm not going to because it's wrong" and then a person with ADHD won't even think before stealing something. And if they do think, they'll rationalize it.
This is such a long response to what you said and sorry about that but I just feel as though for the most part, ADD and ADHD should be classified as two separate things.
(I hope you didn't take this response negatively. I just wanted to throw in my two cents)
hhansanfranz no need to explain ADD and ADHD cuz I have ADD and my brother has ADHD, but why I said that I cuz I feel they wouldn't want to make a video separately on both, and since I think they might go for a video on ADHD, I'd rather have them throw in a few people with ADD in it than none at all
I FREAKIN KNOW. One day at computer class I told my friend that I had OCD. And what did she say? “Oh yeah I do too yeah I always like things clean.” Sufdvsyaycrgsvdgbdvdydbdyeytgrgrttt 💀
0:17 She's clearly never hear of Pure-O OCD. Whoops.
Just a suggestion: I think a "things not to say to someone who has/had an eating disorder" would be a great one bc there's SO MUCH stigma around that and it pisses me off so much.
Definitely.
Can you do one on "Things Not to say to someone who is in an Interracial relationship or interracial couples?" 😊😊
Cassie Nat or in 20 years one on what not to say to two white or two black couples!
OCD runs in my family. I have it along with my mom and grandmother, and my great grandmother when she was alive. It can feel like you're going crazy sometimes, but treatment with medication and just talking about it has made me a much happier person. I used to cry a lot and have regular panic attacks, begging to just be normal. After being clinically diagnosed and realizing that I had a chemical imbalance in my brain that resulted in OCD, generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, and depression, I learned to accept myself. All I can say is that there is light at the end of the tunnel, never give up on yourself, the only person standing in my way was me.
Literally I can relate to this video so much. I haven't been officially diagnosed, and I know claiming to have OCD without having it is one of the biggest pet peeves for people with it, but the part where they describe that weird voice in the back of your head, the feeling like you are a danger to people you know, being unable to get horrible thoughts out of your head...I feel that way all the time.
3:00 I do that exact thing too with multiples of 4 and 8 lol.
It sucks if your parents don’t talk about mental health and don’t want you to talk about it. Or they don’t even realize anxiety and depression is real so when they see me doing my compulsions, they just yell at me to stop being weird
When ppl say they think they're a little OCD, they actually mean OCPD. OCD is an anxiety order where you do something compusively in order to get rid of your anxiety. OCPD is a personality disorder where you like things a certain way, perfectionist about certain things, inflexible, stubborn, and maybe have a tendency to hoard
Jade Nguyen this is very generous lol
Forgive me if I’m wrong but I think OCPD is slightly different. I think it’s very similar to OCD in many ways but the distinguishing feature is that people with OCPD don’t know that they’re being irrational in their actions. I don’t know though, it’s been a long time since I last read up on it
Beccabokka Nah. My sister had OCD and I have OCPD. I know it's irrational, but I still do it 🤷 You can also have both at the same time, kinda like Monica from Friends
I have some OCPD
Oh you hate having something lopsided i guess you hace ocpd. Everyone has things that bug them. That doesn't make you one of the 2
“I love that top you’re wearing! I have OCD, by the way” SMOOTH 😂😂
My son has severe ocd. I have early onset Alzheimer’s. It is like the perfect storm. He gets physically angry if I forget his rules. I love him with all my heart but the ocd has turned our family into a chaotic mess. Everybody tiptoeing in case something is set in the wrong place. There is a huge list of places we can go, say or touch ( eg mailbox, McDonald’s, use only the one car). I won’t be around to see what happens but I am worried sick.
Hi i hope you guys are doing better!!
I’ve had OCD my whole life I’ve searched through RUclips to find good videos about it and this is the best one yet
Things not to say to introverts
I'm an introvert and I just don't want anybody to say anything to me at all
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"Hi"
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“Things not to say to people with eating disorders” PLEASE
Yes
please!!!!!
Simply Amber "things not to say to someone recovering/struggling from/with an eating disorder"
PLEASE
Simply Amber that’s gonna be a sad video cause most of them will be in denial and say they’re fine when they actually need help
I was diagnosed with OCD (and ADD) around the age of 10, and I can relate to many of the things discussed in the video (intrusive thoughts, particular ways of doing things). It's not as simple as just hand-washing/germaphobia or organization, and it's so great to hear from others who have it.
ok but there was this dude on twitter who was like "i heard of a medical condition called ocd"
and then guess what? he goes "hahaha! your kids will cure it for you"
and had a picture of his shoes all over the floor
and im like kakznMMsksnnsns
so i go "wow hahaha a real mental illness that does not center solely on organizing your ugly *ss shoes is SO funny" and told him a mess doesn't cure anything.
like! i was shaking with anger! if you have ocd and you see someone saying these things don't be afraid to kick their butt! and if you don't have ocd it's simple! don't say you have it because you prefer a clean room! aAAAAAHHHH!
like i wasn't able to come to terms with my diagnosis of ocd for a while because i thought it was merely an obsession with cleanliness and GOD was i wrong! there's over ten types (fourteen i think). and each of those types are equally as devastating as the last.
when most ppl portray ocd they forget all about the anxiety/fear that comes along with it. it's a package deal.
when saying "I'm so OCD", here's some words you could replace OCD with:
--clean
--meticulous
--detailed
and so many more! use a thesaurus! get educated! educate others! the more you eradicate stigma the less silly you'll look and feel! kick butt y'all!
What not to say to someone with PTSD.
This 👆👌
Vietnam War
Unfortunately, there are many recent wars around the world and even at "home" that cause PTSD
Kenna R. YES PLEASE DO THIS
LoL x Just about to but
"vietnam..."
I have an anxiety disorder, and when it gets really bad, I get OCD symptoms. It's horrible swinging between being only a little anxious, to horrible intrusive thoughts, cleaning and straightening things and washing my hands with bleach. It's horrid being so anxious that suddenly your brain is telling you your two year old niece will die if you don't clean the ceiling three times a day, then the next day, your brain is fine with you staying in bed all day
OCD is an Anxiety Disorder
You might have OCD
I've been trying to find out stuff. And I'm so hapoy to see this comment! Not that anxiety is a great thing. It's terrible and I'm sorry to hear that. But I have similar or same stuff somtimes. And it's just so nice to know that I'm not alone and insane. Have a good day! Giving you my hugs!
your comment really is really motivating. i am trying to do my own channel now and you gave me some positive things to think about. thank you
“i’m so OCD” no you’re not. you like keeping tidy. i have to lock and unlock the door until it feels like it locked properly. i’m late to functions and meetings because of my rituals. i do most things in threes, skip twelve and keep going to 18, and that causes problems. i hate the trivialization of a mental illness that has truly almost killed me.
Yeah I hate it when people say OCD just a cleaning disorder if that was the case it would be called obsessive cleaning disorder rather than obessive compulsive disorder also It offends me when people say I'm a little OCD
Things not to say to someone with a chronic illness!!!!! Please I’ve struggled with many chronic illnesses my entire life!!!!!
some guy I meant I’ve been diagnosed with them my entire life sorry for the confusion!
Things like, "I hope you get better soon", "but you don't look ill" and "I want to be home and watch Netflix all day to."
some guy unless they find a cure. I got cured from a chronic illness, but then a couple years later got another chronic illness, life ain't fair.
Chronic "invisible" illnesses too would be interesting to see in a video
some guy no because you can get a chronic illness later on in your life 😊
I remember when my OCD started, I was 12 years old, and it began with an awful thought mingled with an awful feeling that I now know is anxiety. I tried to do something to satisfy the thought, so that maybe then the anxiety would go away. But then it gave way to another thought. Suddenly my entire world became my enemy, and I was subject to it. If I was putting a spoon in the drawer, I was afraid I wouldn’t put it in just right, and even if I tried to walk away from it, the thought of it was still there. I would begin to think something bad would happen to me. And to my family. So after everyone was in bed, I’d go pull the spoon out of the drawer and put it back in, over and over. Then it became a numbers thing. The spoon had to go in and out an even number of times. All the while I’m frustrated and crying, dying inside. I was like this most of the day (walking through doors just right, then backing up to “redo it”...seriously dozens of rituals and triggers). I’d finally get to bed and have a panic attack knowing I was facing another day of this. Knowing that if I didn’t get the rituals right, I’d never be able to stop thinking about them. Every thought I had seemed cursed. I prayed every day, begging God to take this from me. After 10 months of this, one morning, God gave me my breakthrough. I woke up once again with the ritual of getting both my feet on the floor at the exact same time. It always took some time to get it right. But I finally thought this: Maybe if I can just jump out of bed and run downstairs to the shower, I will forget about it, and if I can forget about it, completely, for 5 minutes, then maybe I can forget about it for an hour, a day, a year, forever. So I did it. I remember trying not to think about it in the shower (and failing), but when I got back upstairs and felt the anxiety and the obsessive thoughts and the compulsion to get in bed and put both feet on the floor over and over and over, I said this to myself: maybe you can just do it later. Suddenly the anxiety wasn’t as strong. I gave myself an out, just a small one. I took off for school and did that whenever the intrusive thoughts came in. I realized something...I had too many obsessions to even remember which rituals I had walked away from. By the afternoon I realized I had genuinely forgotten about my morning ritual. My first big win. Suddenly I realized that I didn’t have to be subjected to this. I could fight it, and win. Hope sprang eternal. The next 2 days were miraculous. Any time the thoughts and obsessions came on, I knew what to do. Eventually they were reduced to nothing. And my anxiety left with it. I never knew what any of it was (my family just called it “Patrick’s Problems”), but I found out years later that it was OCD. I wish I could write more about it, but just wanted to share a little bit. Be strong, God is Love.
Patrick King So happy that you were able to conquer this! Congratulations.
congrats dude , btw this is unrelated but you seem to have a talent in writing I mean you have a really interesting way if story telling you could write a book 💟
Stylish Loser that’s really nice of you to say, glad you enjoyed it!
You definitely have a talent for writing! Great story and beautifully written as well.
That's awesome :)
Thank you for making this video. I live with OCD, and it's comforting to hear other people talk about struggles that I have. It makes me feel less alone, because I usually try to hide my OCD from most people. When I've tried to explain it to people they still didn't understand. This video is comforting. It's important for people to know that OCD isn't a fun quirk. It's a disease.
I have actually been DIAGNOSED WITH OCD, but when I tell anyone that they get pissy and say stuff like, "You can't say that people are actually struggling With real OCD!" TF
The thing about ocd is that it isn't always "my pens have to be in a straight line" or "if something isn't perfectly balanced I get upset" It's usually having to do Something until it feels just right. It's having to repeat or stop an action to feel okay. Plus ocd brings intrusive thoughts and feelings of intense anxiety and fear. It's different for everyone but that's how it is for me. Ocd is no joke, it freaking sucks :(
Gwen Davies exactly, there are people who perform compulsions to relieve intrusive thoughts and people who perform compulsions to relieve sensations. i've had both, though the intrusive thoughts are practically gone and i dont perform compulsions for them if they pop up. the sensations though i have absolutely no control over. i've gotta say, the intrusive thoughts are so so so so so much easier to use CBT with and the meds. sensations CBT doesnt do jack shit, and its so annoying. the sensations are truly the hardest to deal with, because you cant ignore sensation like you can a thought. i have the feeling of wrongness and doing something til its right, then i also have physical feelings. like, i have "contamination" (not really what it is, its a mix of rightness and what ima say next) and i get a pressure on the contaminated area of my skin that feels like someone is touching it, or i have my hand on something, or like its covered in something, and i needa wash my hands until i feel right and until the sensations of pressure etc have gone, they only go away with soap and water.
I’m the same. Mine manifests when I’m typing. I don’t like the way that certain letters look, so I have to make space for them and then fill them in when I’m finished with whatever I’m working on. It makes me physically uncomfortable if I type the letters that bother me out. Try writing a 30+ page paper when you hate to use certain letters. 😓
The intrusive thoughts definitively suck, especially when it accompanies checking behaviors. Ugh.
"Does this bother you?"
Yes now put it back.
I hate this I will go out of my way to stop moving things
I was diagnosed when I was ten. 7 years later, I still struggle sometimes-my hands are cracked right now from over washing. This is the first time I’ve seen people I can actually relate to, people who can understand. Thank you for this.
this vid is so true and relatable!! i hate it when people say things like “oh that is making me so ocd” because thats not what ocd is. wanting to have something organized is NOT what ocd is
One thing that's particularly fun with OCD is the fact that you get anxiety about having OCD.
"Okay, I know I have OCD. I have been formally diagnosed with OCD. I do many things that point to OCD. But I'm really not sure if I have OCD."
acegirlinastraightworld THAT WAS ME FOR SO LONG. you get so worried that you were misdiagnosed or its """all in your head""" (which it is but like that its not a disorder) and you think youre just being silly and ridiculous and doing it for attention. it takes a while to finally come to terms that you arent a walking lie and this is real.
Oh my gosh I didn’t know anyone else had that problem
I had no idea other people with OCD felt this too this is so weird
I was going diagnosed a month ago and that’s what’s going through my mind now 24/7
trinthetrex hahaha I wish my OCD could like, delete itself if it thinks it isn’t real aye
Let’s be clear OCD is not strictly fear of contamination. Great video though!
Yep! And often people don't understand that even when germophobia is present, it can lead to an *avoidance* of cleaning tasks. So you get people who tell messy or cleaning-avoidant obsessive-compulsives that they must be wrong. Probably while simultaneously thinking liking their pictures to hang straight on the wall makes them "so OCD".
I’m really glad you’ve made this because people need to understand what it’s actually like to have ocd and it’s really frustrating hearing people say they have “ocd” when in reality they’re just a perfectionist
Woah! I’ve never heard or known anyone who actually got the “if I don’t do this -right- something bad will happen” thing happen with them. I thought I was crazy
Tyler WantsToBeACreator This isn't talked about enough but it's actually the most common form of OCD (according to my doctor).
Yeah, if I were to describe the feeling. It would be pure terror, frustration, and dread. It can make you cry sometimes and physically make it hard to breathe. (Like when you are stressed, sad or afraid and you can't breathe right)
Firas Ajeel Exactly! As a child I had to put on clothes a certain way in a certain order, and I would redo it if it wasn’t “good enough” or turning on faucets and stuff like that
@@tylerwantstobeacreator9936 Haha good to know there are others like me out there, I am abit traumatized by the whole issue now though, medication helps with the urges but not with the trauma.
I have OCD and anxiety and I have to put things on even numbers and do things an even amount of times, but you wouldn’t know unless you knew me personally.
Just Us I have ocd and I do the same thing but with the numbers 5 and 0. It sucks ass
I always hear about odd or even, mine are 0, 1, 3s, and 5s. And 35 is my OCD's favorite number
But the volume for this has to be a 0 or a 5 number
Illegal Empire 25 is my ocd number lol
things not to say to insomniacs!!!
I hate having ismonia, it's so annoying because you're trying to sleep and your body's just like,we don't do that here
The guy in the suit is the CEO with OCD that every wattpad book talks about.... appearance wise that is.
Nikki blue what does that mean? I’m not getting the reference :)
cockfacejackeye like you know Wattpad? Every CEO who has OCD in any book is kind of like the guy in the suit
"I love that top you're wearing I've got OCD by the way." * pokerface *
OCD is so diverse. There are situations that it is helpful and others in which it is harmful. I am diagnosed with autism and OCD. The material parts for me are good but the mental parts or pure o is quite scary and made me want to die. If you have ptsd along with OCD that can be a nightmare. Yoga, exercise, breathing, chanting, nature and minimalism are helpful for me. No one talks about pure o and that is a very big part that no one can see but its terrible to experience. Is much rather manipulate material objects than fantasize about sex and violence hard core. Its so bad that you can no longer tell the difference between fantasy and reality. It can cause a lot of paranoia.
I have actually been diagnosed with both OCD and autism myself. Due to the combination, I obsessive pick at my own scabs/skin, and now I have a ton of scars. I normally feel sick to my stomach after I do so, but I can't just 'control it,' like people say I should. I'm sick of people saying that OCD is about keeping things clean, when that is what a normal person should do.
I'm so happy about this video! What she said at the beginning about being 'obsessive compulsive disorder' is so true!!! It's so annoying. I don't know why people would want to claim to have a disorder they don't anyway. I'm particular about certain things and people say I'm 'so OCD' as if that would be a death sentence if it were true, yet they say it about themselves like it's a trophy they carry 😡😡
Can relate to a lot of these heh. I feel sorry for anyone having to go through this. Maybe my story can help, as can hearing other peoples story. Im very grateful my ocd is reduced from full on compulsions to a quite managable Pure-O (basically only compulsions in your head) and I'm still working hard on fighting it! And I am very proud to say I stopped taking meds for around 2 years now. Recently I have been noticing moments of "silence in my head" that people with OCD may recognize. For me they seem to be increasing in frequency and length which is very comforting and motivating! To anyone struggling with this: therapy works wonders and so can certain meds.
I like this BUT I am severely debilitated , bedridden due to OCD which has had me on a drip because of starvation- and my OCD has very little to do with the things that even these people describe. I wouldn't be able to dress or leave the house. Even mental health professionals are all too often unaware of just how diverse and unthinkable the ways in which ocd can manifest can be. Hence I can't access treatment and wish for death every day.
Hi Abby, I hope you are doing better now and I promise that it WILL get better soon. Hugs.
Abby Warden that sounds terrible, i’m sorry you have to go through that. Mine is all about germs, it’s frustrating to hear about all the people with idk how to say it like the type where they have to flip light switches and stuff? Mine is like I have to wear socks to bed, I can’t open doorknobs with my hands, I have to wash my hands multiple times before bed etc
I have that kind of OCD. It’s a living hell. I wish I had the cleaning one, then at least my room would be clean. Instead I have to not step on cracks in the sidewalk and if I do step on it with my other foot as well, make sure that both windows are open to the same inch of space, and my personal favorite.....COUNT EVERY DAMN STEP THAT I TAKE! ITS HELL!
Abby, I’m so glad you’re still here. Your strength and courage to live every day is a blessing to this world.
Totally agree, it makes me a little sad not to see any person with a different type of OCD in this kind of videos. What about violent thoughts Ocd? Sexual thoughts Ocd? Sexuality Ocd? Etc.
"Things Not To Say To Someone With Depression?" or "Things Not To Say To Someone With CFS/ME"?
Aninja
May I ask what CFS/ME is?
Chronic Fatigue Syndrom
I hope they do those because I have both. For CFS one would be "you slept in so late, why would you need a nap already"?, and for my depression my twin brother keeps telling me "just change your outlook on life, be more positive"
same, the worst is "oh, I'm a little tired too" or "but life is so beautiful"
I have CFS, and I hate it when people are like "Why are you so lazy", "You've not done anything, why are you tired?". Oh my god!!! If only they knew what it's like!!!
Thank you for making this
THANK YOU GO FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!
“Things Not to Say to Someone With DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder)” please!!!
Rin Lalin yesss I’ve got that!!
Yesssss
yes pls
Yesss.
This needs to happen.
what not to say to someone with social anxiety
How about "BOO!"
lol
non of the guests will come to the studio lol
YES
especially ordering your own food😩
YES I NEED IT
AAAHHH a video that makes me feel seen!! OCD isn't fun, it's not all about being a neat freak, it's not a quirky thing
It can go from "oh I feel the urge to colour code these items" to "if I don't shower every day with a specific scrubbing pattern I will scratch my skin off and die"
I genuinely wish more people were open to conversation with me or just be a lil more understanding :))
It really helped me meeting others with OCD and talk about our problems, it made me feel less alone with my problems, my best wishes to everyone out there with OCD I still have it but I try and keep my head up
Omg even numbers and multiples of 5 is the only volume i ever have on the tv
Mine has to be 26 nothing else lol
Same. I do settle for double of the same number e.g. 33, I absolutely love multiples of 10 though.
I like 10s or 5s and then 47 just really randomly
I usually eat my food when it's hot because if I miss a number ending in 0 or 5 I always wait until the next one. It pisses me off otherwise lol
Me and my brother both have OCD only even numbers it's so cliche but it's just nice
I'd love to see a video about what not to say to women who've experienced pregnancy loss. Believe me so many people say so many fucked up things when it happens. 'It's okay, you're young,' 'What happened?,' 'This is why you shouldn't tell anyone until it's safer to,' 'Just try again,' 'It could have been worse,' 'At least it happened sooner,' 'It's time to get over it,' You can't miss what you didn't have,' 'When are you trying again?' It sucks. It would be cool to hear the different stories from a lady about 4 or so weeks, one just after 12 weeks like I was, one after 20 weeks, and one almost 40 weeks. Maybe one that had an anembryonic pregnancy, and maybe another with a ectopic pregnancy.
your comment really is really motivating. i am trying to do my own channel now and you gave me some positive things to think about. thank you
I really wish people would understand that there’s no “standard” for OCD. It’s not always about cleaning. My room is 9/10 in disarray but that’s partly because it soothes me. However, I cannot ignore when my mind is saying I need to wash my hands. Or rituals, such as locking my car 4 times, then a 5 second break, and another 3 times. Sometimes, OCD is totally unrelated to either. And that’s okay. There’s no face to ocd. There’s no “I’m ocd because my job makes me wash my hands before leaving the restroom”
your comment really is really motivating. i am trying to do my own channel now and you gave me some positive things to think about. thank you
I’m over my ocd now but hearing this even after having it makes me feel comforted because it confirms that I wasn’t alone in my thoughts and/or actions :)
It’s so annoying when I hear others say they have it just because the like to organize only one time. I have OCD. I use to obsessively wash hands obsess over health every day and google symptoms and get intrusive thoughts. I still get intrusive thoughts every now and then.
It’s an actual disorder not something people should go around saying they have it unless they’ve been diagnosed. People need to do research and learn what the disorder is and about the different types and ways it can affect a person before claiming they have it. If your that concerned or feel like your life is being consumed by it I advise you to see a counselor I saw one and it helped so much
It's not always easy to get diagnosed. I say I have it because I have almost every symptom and it has almost driven me to suicide several times. I think it's safe to assume I have it.