According to the info available on the Internet, D. Wade’s net worth is FOUR times the amount of hers, and he makes her annual salary every four months. You mean to tell me that after this plus him having a whole outside baby on her she’s opening her wallet for HALF? The math is way the hell off. Couldn’t be me!
She looks good to be 10 yrs. older but she has to be concerned that she’s going to run out of ways to stay relevant in that marriage. As men age, a large number tend to want young women.
She knew what she was doing...she wanted to put him on blast...she said I have more responibilities for my money and I have anxiety....she wanted to let the world know her husband is a dusty
She's speaking like she makes $50k a year and he makes $30k. That strain in her voice is overwhelming. This should NOT be her story!!! SHAME on D. Wade‼️
Gabriel Union always gave me CONTROL ISSUES vibes. I really think she do this 50/50 thing because she does not want to give up any control. She wants to be in charge at all costs. I do not think Dwayne Wade makes her work I think it is something she puts on herself . She STRESSING her self out.
Gabby is 50 & has been working for a long time. She’s exhausted & wants to rest in her feminity so this seems like a cry for help to me. She wanted the internet to drag her husband lol. It’s sad because although she’s beautiful & talented I feel like she settled for him.
This would only be fair if they made about the same amount but he makes wayy more than her. He is saving money while she is LOSING MONEY and overworking herself. If your partner makes wayy more than you, DON’T split the bills in half.
Its giving "I do not trust men". And esp since this very same man cheated, had a baby on the side explains it. IMO. She cannot and does not trust this man to be a provider and protect her energy.
Shawty smart tho, she waited for this moment. I’ve always felt later she was gonna play get back. Let’s see how much longer they survive and if she’ll take him to the cleaners as payback 😂
I cannot stop laughing. There’s no way in hell I would’ve admitted this. Poor baby must’ve been needing to vent to SOMEBODY sheesh. Imagine going 50/50 with a husband, let alone a NBA player husband whose one of the highest paid in the NBA. Gabby girl get a grip. This is embarrassing
@@annadenise8902 Sis wasn’t living in huts 🛖 🛖though. That’s a bit far fetched to say, if she constantly documents her home visits to Gabon. Travel a little more love 😅
@@dreamylotus_3589 No ma’am she lived in a hut once upon a time. Go look at her history …she spoke about it. Travel doesn’t have anything to do with it 😂😂😂
The Black Tax is fascinating to me. While I couldn't live in the lap of luxury while the rest of my family struggled, I refuse to be stressed and work myself to death trying to make money so other grown people can eat. If it ever gets to that point, them people are on their own! 🙅🏾♀️🤣
it's double taxation ,from your neighbor that never worked a day in their life but laughs at you when you walk pass to and from pushing a double shift so that he can continue to receive his food stamps , from your tax returns to your immediate family that somehow makes you feel guilty by passing passive comments ,truth be told if you are used to giving them when you have and u don't give it eats u up a lot,one of the easiest ways to overlook the pity is when you give without reciprocity,then u reach a level of "enough is enough "
If you keep providing for family members, it doesnt give them any drive to push themselves to make it! You dont own nobody nothing, even your mother, and nobody owns you nothing! You can help your mother once in a while, but the rest is on their own!!!
I'm truly speechless. That man is worth $170 million.....absolutely tf not! She should have kept this to herself because this is embarrassing and shameful on so many levels!! SMH!!
Honestly, I feel for her. She admitted she’s battled limiting beliefs, thus manifesting this into her life. I pray she begins seeing the abundance that is within and around her.
So last week lawyer and media personality Eboni Williams says she won’t date a bus driver unless he owns the bus. Meaning she wants a successful rich man. This week it’s Actress Gabrielle Union saying she has the successful rich man and still pays 50/50!!!! Anyone else feeling trolled right now? 😮
A guy just asked what is wrong with "Modern women" in the comments section of a video where BlueFace is criticizing and scolding Chrisean Rock about saying she will utilize a nanny on the road to help with the baby. The commenter states: "Women should be at home raising the children, what is wrong with modern women?" My reply is: How can women be traditional if most of the modern men aren't traditional today? 🤔 Traditional women didn't pay 50/50. I used this example of D.Wade & Gabby. The same men who accuse her of being masculine are now joyous she goes half, even though they preach "Traditionalism" , & traditionally men paid all bills. Make it make sense. Furthermore, they criticize independent women who don't rely on men to pay anything, & ALSO criticize hypergamous women who want provider men (traditional women are hypergamous women) again someone, make it make sense. THIS IS THE TWILIGHT ZONE.
Gabrielle has always had this underlying masculina, bone hard strong energy. Their relationship respectfully never made sense to many, but it is theirs! If they enjoy it, by all means let it work for them. By the way, Gabby who did that ponytail girl 😣
I believe that the black tax or the need to be the breadwinner for the family is very much true and is a pressure for the black women. I am an international student from Uganda and I work on campus on top of managing my studies. I send money back home occasionally because I know they need it. And while I know I want to do this and love to see that I am helping my dad take care of the family, the responsibility is sometimes overbearing because I have the pressure to be perfect. If I don't make it, my family won't. Sadly this has caused me several mental health issues that stop me from thriving in my 20s and going after what I truly want.
You can't pour from an empty cup. Give them to the Creator and your father and live your life. If you make something of yourself and you have extra, then go back. Speaking from experience.
@@nanyongajacklinepeace7625 You know I would seriously ask you to do some soul searching about that word "owe". One of the horrible byproducts of capitalism and poverty in African nations is we are mixed up. We think men are the prize and children are born to take care of parents. But is that true? Do you REALLY owe them? They had you not the other way around. In fact they should celebrate whatever better opportunity you have. Sometimes we keep ourselves in the conditioning. But we can say no. It's just lonely and uncomfortable at first. One of the greatest things Chloe says is men are loyal to themselves first. I think we should practice the same.
The worse thing that happened to these celebrities is social media and their inability to keep their mouths shut about their personal business. Ugh! Tacky!
One thing about it , if you’re not my mom or grandma, I’m not struggling to take care of nobody and even then my mom can live with me. It’s not that much money needed in the world. Girl you should be stacking all of your money and paying for only so much. Even if you don’t want to give up control , he still should be paying all household and vehicle bills
Social media is ruining women celebs imo. They don't know the art of privacy. I liked it better when they sold us a likable image and we would let our imagination paint them in a high regard.
@Lou Wil I'm not big on celebrity culture. But do you see how Kerry Washinton does interviews, but if they ask her about her kids or husband,she literally says what SHE WANTS to be out there. She doesn't answer the question,she doesn't say much about them. I don't understand why ppl like Gab,Jada & Caresha Golden Showers feel the need to share certain things about their personal lives,celebrity or not,it's giving no class,smdh. Yes I'm judging them even though I don't know them personally 😅
I feel she is so masculine with those animated gestures. It’s absolutely two men in that house! She should be more private about her business. And, yes, unfortunately, black women often have an unfair obligation to financially support family and others when they have the bag. This is a wonderful video discussion and this topic needs revisiting more openly and frequently, as it can have a negative impact on a woman’s financial security and independence if she’s not careful. Thank you for this very important topic!
Remember ladies Gabby is MASCULINE so no surprise. I’m sure she prefers it this way. She tries so hard to show she doesn’t need a man that seems to be acting like one. Instead of OVERSHARING she should invest in a good therapist and keep those parts of her life private.
I feel like this shows how financially insecure she is in her marriage. Which kind of makes sense due to her being the breadwinner in her first marriage and having to pay all the bills.
Ok here is my opinion on this: I think this is partially her way getting him back for having another child out of wedlock and is low key trying to humiliate him, as she knows how important reputation is in their world.
I don’t think he cares. No one in society holds the man accountable. Look how he treated his children’s mother. This right here is embarrassing her. We’re all clutching our pearls saying “Gabrielle NOOOOO” it’s shocking and embarrassing. It actually makes me feel sad that she’s not being treated like the princess or the Queen .
@@louwil67 I agree with him not caring as men aren't held accountability. As far as being treated like a queen, she had to settle. In their world and at her age who else was she gona marry? Beautiful woman but she has always had this masculine energy and mean girl spirit.
I don't have kids: I'm not marrying a millionaire and paying half the bills for his mansion & luxury cars, sorry. I'll stay in my 1 bed apt & let him pay his own bills, but I wish Gabby & her man the Best
Exactly wow jada really messed up by doing that red table talk interview wow! she should have stayed quiet and it would have all died down instead of making her husband look like a fool for the world to see!
Hmm, interesting, years ago D Wade said in an interview with Ellen that Gabby was the boss in their household. He said he was 5th in line as far as leadership and the family dog was before him.
Don't know if we will ever live to see the shift in our lifetime...from Black Women's collective low to non-existent self esteem...to a collective mentality of feeling WORTHY of provision...
Wow! She is married to a man that makes 3 times more than her and still stressed about money?!? In the interview, she does seems like she is in distress and asking for help, in a passive way.
When I first heard the clip I thought she was purposely exposing him.. I think it’s what you said, she’s tired of 50/50 and doesn’t know how to make the change in her marriage
I agree with you Chloe. She needs to keep her mouth shut. She knows exactly what she’s doing. Maybe she thinks this is the way for her to stay relevant.
The more I hear and learn about Gabrielle Union, I lost all respect for her. She and Dewayne Wade aren't couples goals. She gives off low self esteem, desperate to be a wife energy. Years ago she said she was a "mean girl." But she seems like a very vindictive, resentful energy. Even though Wade is a multimillionaire, why was she so pressed to marry him?? Especially because she was childless and relatively successful in her own right. I'd rather be single that be in a 50 50 romantic relationship. Especially with a mam more financially secure than myself. I also don't agree with being an ATM for family members. Abled bodied people need to earn their own money!!
Hi Chloé. Once more, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I believe going 50/50 with your husband out-earning you is not a great idea. In my 5 years of marriage, I have used my income to assist my husband in the upkeep of the house, such as home decorations, buying kitchen and bathroom supplies, saving for the kids college tuition, doing groceries, hosting family and friends parties at home, and putting gas in the car. He pays the bills and mortgage. We both are victims of black tax, so we always communicate with each other whenever a family or friend needs financial assistance.
I wonder if she said this on purpose for clout, to pay those bills. Its a very trendy subject, and like other trendy social subjects, they are cashing in.
But the jokes on her. Wade knows he can screw multiple chicks and she STILL gonna be there paying the water bill that he uses to wash off the smell after visiting his concubines 😂
Wow! She's beautiful, successful, well paid and well connected. She was cheated on and comfortable with how he took custody of his children from his first wife, who supported him when he had nothing. Chile, what was she thinking? Everything, everyone wants and is told that they have to have, she has and still,....🙅🏽♀ Truth, maybe it is a cry for help
His networth is $170 million and her own is $40 million… she’s cheating herself for agreeing to pay half of the bills, especially after he made a whole baby outside…. It’s a no for me!
She strikes me as very calculated and vindictive. I think she’s mad at him and wants to publicly shame him. She doesn’t care if it makes her look like nut 😩
How is it different? In what way? She look like she needs help. And fast. Sis wants to have time to relax without worrying that she will lose everything. That’s the same feeling my cousin juju have that make 12.00 a hour and don’t have no man😂
I remember she used to pay allll the bills in her first marriage, so she might think 50/50 was a level up to her and sounded great. Maybe she didn’t think as far as to want a provider man that takes care of her coming from that. She also had more movies coming out frequently earlier in their relationship, so it might’ve been easier to handle the bills then, but situations change, and she definitely shouldn’t be in the “hustle mentality” with her husband!
Isame happen to me, went from paying everything with first hubby, to 50/50 with partner. After that with communities like this and level up groups, I realized that was a total con job too. Now I'm at the other end...provider men only!
They are just a prime example that money doesn't solve everything. It didn't heal her or make her exempt from being a masculina and it didn't make him a high quality man.
PTSD or Her Husbands character can't be %100 trusted... The prenup must be Strong and she knows he won't be leaving her Anything... I hate this for her.. She finally deserves to live in her Feminine Softness and she's still hustling like No Tomorrow. Also is D.Wade a Generous Man? He could be Rich and Stingy😔
Gabrielle Union mentioned before that because she was the breadwinner, she thought she could cheat. Maybe now she thinks no one should be breadwinner so neither of them have the "power to cheat"?🤔
Thanks Chloe for speaking on it. The households she's running is her family as well. Thats toxic. It makes me sad. I feel she missed out on experiencing pregnancy because she had to work.
I was lil miss feminist and totally okay with 50/50 and now I'm in a 50/50 marriage and so stressed. I'm 31 and partially in a caregiver role to my sick mom AND working full time. And my husband is coasting in his career and hasn't done anything meaningful to level up his career in our 6 years of marriage. I'm so frustrated and confused what to do.
So Gabrielle states “in other households we have to support” does that mean they pay 50/50 to their main household! But they have other “households” with family members/parents or dependents that they financially support! Like Gabrielle pays for her own family etc like 100% it seems like a lot of pressure on Gabrielle’s shoulders, if her husband literally gives her little to none support with her “financial responsibilities” 😮💨
I don't understand why they wouldn't pool their resources. I wouldn't feel comfortable as a man with my wife struggling. I think she had a vulnerable moment due to exhaustion.
Imagine going 50/50 with a man who embarrassed you repeatedly and a multi-millionaire 🤢 She literally is to pretty to settle for a rich dusty! Give me the Savannah James pampered wife package please & thank you🤲🏿
Since she was the provider in her last relationship I really wonder why she didn't decide to go straight to the opposite end and be provided for this time.
Maybe she thought if she was provided for, she’d be cheated on as she felt justified in doing in her previous marriage. Maybe for her not providing = not having a say in the relationship, something that is just unbearable if she likes to take charge.
I think problem for her is the psychological and emotional weight of the Black Tax. Versus her chosen relationship dynamic. She loves being in a controlled, masculine position. That is who she is. Especially based on what she shared in her first marriage.
I think she should have kept their financial arrangement to herself. Maybe she said it to show how loyal she is to the marriage. 🤷🏾♀️. What I can detect and I might be wrong is that she does not trust him to be the man and wants control and he does not respect her as his good thing. Why would a man who makes 3x more than his wife be okay with splitting the cost? Something is off with that.
Who goes on national television as a high profile wife/actress to tell the world this. Especially as sensitive as this topic is amongst the black community. She’s good for over sharing the WRONG things.
She have done and tolerated a lot of vile things only to end up a married roommate? I know women w/ husbands making less than 100k/yr who does not do 50/50. The man takes care of all household expenses at a minimum.
Gabrielle is the husband in her marriage. She had previously stated that Dwayne was irresponsible with money and they had separate bank accounts. Subconsciously , she does not consider him as a provider. She is constantly thinking and planning out how to make more money which is very masculine and very stressful. This is going to take a toll on her physically and I feel eventually she will grow resentful of Dwayne.
I believe it's RIDICULOUS to support extended family. That issue should have been vetted BEFORE the marriage. As well as this 50/50 conversation. The outside baby should have been the beginning of the divorce; but this is her life and not mine.
I'm glad she told the world because it continually shows the world who her husband is - and maybe she can listen in on these conversations and grow in time.
I cannot imagine being married to a whole man and still stressed about money.
Especially a multi millionaire basketball player! 🤣😂🤣😂
The struggle is real 😮
@@serenas5411 💯💯💯💯
@@serenas5411 Like how can HE even allow that? Please.
Life can cause stress about money whether you have a provider or not. Just another perspective.
His broke baby momma he cheated with hasn’t had a job in over a decade. Pays for nothing. and gabby going 50/50z crazy
😭😭😭
That’s what you call karma 🤷🏽♀️
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Translation: That sidechick is earned her investment.
So you 50/50 stressed over money to a rich man and he cheating too. Nope absolutely not. Ma'am you are a pretty mule
According to the info available on the Internet, D. Wade’s net worth is FOUR times the amount of hers, and he makes her annual salary every four months. You mean to tell me that after this plus him having a whole outside baby on her she’s opening her wallet for HALF? The math is way the hell off. Couldn’t be me!
💯 The math ain't mathing!
Ridiculous 😮😮😮
They lying
And admitted to eatting his butt…….
Im sad for her.
That’s not a marriage. That’s a roommate!
Worse she's helping to pay for chirrens and alimony.
@Oshun this is what happens when you chase a MAN and go from a side chick to eating his butt and all this other nonsense
Why is a high class women like Gabrielle Union with a dusty like him!!
No, it's a marriage. Just because you don't like it, it doesn't mean they're not married.
I think Gabrielle being with a man about 10yrs younger is significant to note here too.
10 years younger??? 😲 You have said everything that needed to be said with this statement!
She looks good to be 10 yrs. older but she has to be concerned that she’s going to run out of ways to stay relevant in that marriage. As men age, a large number tend to want young women.
Yup, I was thinking the same thing.
Yep but he was in his early 30s and previously married seems like he should have been grown enough 🤣
Oh I forgot about that!!
She should’ve kept that to herself. It’s one thing for us to think you’re fool but you don’t have to open your mouth and prove it. Girl bye!
She knew what she was doing...she wanted to put him on blast...she said I have more responibilities for my money and I have anxiety....she wanted to let the world know her husband is a dusty
@@PanAfricanist only thing worse than a dusty is a rich dusty!
😂😂😂
She continues to embarrass the whole family at this point. Girl STFU her and Jada.
😂🤣😂🤣..oh lord hammercy!
She's speaking like she makes $50k a year and he makes $30k. That strain in her voice is overwhelming. This should NOT be her story!!! SHAME on D. Wade‼️
Gabriel Union always gave me CONTROL ISSUES vibes. I really think she do this 50/50 thing because she does not want to give up any control. She wants to be in charge at all costs. I do not think Dwayne Wade makes her work I think it is something she puts on herself . She STRESSING her self out.
💯👏🏼 I agree
Yep her previous marriage she admitted she cheated because she was the breadwinner
Definitely!
I agree! 💯💯
@@naiya.nicole__ he was already cheating before she started cheating since she was the bread winner
So you mean to tell me she eats boomkack, accepted a side baby, and splits bills??? Something about this just doesn’t sit well with me
Chileeeee 🗣️💀
BOOMKACK?! 😂😂😂
I am dying at this comment, but it’s so true!!
These comments are taking me out💀😂
She don’t like herself Chile smfh 🙈🥲
I can't comprehend how she's married to such a wealthy man, yet is still going 50/50 on bills?!!! It doesn’t stack up to me.
They lying. Gabby just trying to stay relevant
@AgeOfAquarius … that’s because she’s not really paying no 50/50 … that just her ego ying-yanging … lol
@@iamme7664 💯
@Sharon Lee I think He has a hefty Debt ...with "The Other Family" She could of achieve More with a LOVING PROVIDER!
@@Chloeeezyyy well that true
Gabby is 50 & has been working for a long time. She’s exhausted & wants to rest in her feminity so this seems like a cry for help to me. She wanted the internet to drag her husband lol. It’s sad because although she’s beautiful & talented I feel like she settled for him.
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I got that too. She is really showing how unhappy she is
Yup! That's exactly the vibe I got from her. Like what use is that man to her?
Honestly her energy looks like she wouldn’t allow a provider to do his thing,just my opinion.
Yh
I watch her and other actresses and to be honest, a lot of them are very independent and masculine
That part!
I was thinking this when watching other videos yesterday. She will not allow the man to provide.
that lady Tabitha fits into this category too. I was watching her and her husband the other day and it’s giving homie vibes 😩Yikes!!!!
This would only be fair if they made about the same amount but he makes wayy more than her. He is saving money while she is LOSING MONEY and overworking herself. If your partner makes wayy more than you, DON’T split the bills in half.
@@michaelputin3960 only if the man is wearing the skirt. 💅🏾
@@michaelputin3960then make more and provide.
@@lumintalocke7724yeah, biologically we're already at disadvantage. It's never 50/50 if you can bear and raise his children.
@@michaelputin3960 Great Question.
😂😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾tell 'em sis!
Its giving "I do not trust men". And esp since this very same man cheated, had a baby on the side explains it. IMO.
She cannot and does not trust this man to be a provider and protect her energy.
Can't blame her. She can't even trust him to protect his own and her health cause he doesn't have the decency to put on a condom when he cheats
I bet she got a Plan B in place too.
Definite lack of trust and respect on both sides.
She might not trust him but even if I don't trust I'm gonna let him take care of me and save my money I'm not about to be his roommate
Side eye….. Something about this interview. It’s giving Jada energy, pick me energy and my husband ain’t shit energy all in one 😒
This ☝️
Shawty smart tho, she waited for this moment. I’ve always felt later she was gonna play get back. Let’s see how much longer they survive and if she’ll take him to the cleaners as payback 😂
😂😂😂
@@annadenise8902 👀💯❗️
Yes!
She married a princess and I am side-eyeing the guy. He is the feminine one and she's treating him like the prize.
I cannot stop laughing. There’s no way in hell I would’ve admitted this. Poor baby must’ve been needing to vent to SOMEBODY sheesh. Imagine going 50/50 with a husband, let alone a NBA player husband whose one of the highest paid in the NBA.
Gabby girl get a grip. This is embarrassing
There is no way in hell I would be going 50/50.
Ludacris’ wife would never! 💅🏽 He takes care of both his family and her whole family!
Exactly! Look at her tho…her demeanor and presence reeks feminine and not doing a thang. And she’s BEAUTIFUL also.❤️
@@annadenise8902 That’s true but remember, baby girl was in medical school when she met him. Guess she decided this was an easier life.
@@annadenise8902 Sis wasn’t living in huts 🛖 🛖though. That’s a bit far fetched to say, if she constantly documents her home visits to Gabon. Travel a little more love 😅
@@dreamylotus_3589 No ma’am she lived in a hut once upon a time. Go look at her history …she spoke about it. Travel doesn’t have anything to do with it 😂😂😂
@@annadenise8902 I guess 🤷🏾♀️
There are more beautiful women out there that do this than you could ever imagine, sadly.
The Black Tax is fascinating to me. While I couldn't live in the lap of luxury while the rest of my family struggled, I refuse to be stressed and work myself to death trying to make money so other grown people can eat. If it ever gets to that point, them people are on their own! 🙅🏾♀️🤣
it's double taxation ,from your neighbor that never worked a day in their life but laughs at you when you walk pass to and from pushing a double shift so that he can continue to receive his food stamps , from your tax returns to your immediate family that somehow makes you feel guilty by passing passive comments ,truth be told if you are used to giving them when you have and u don't give it eats u up a lot,one of the easiest ways to overlook the pity is when you give without reciprocity,then u reach a level of "enough is enough "
If you keep providing for family members, it doesnt give them any drive to push themselves to make it! You dont own nobody nothing, even your mother, and nobody owns you nothing! You can help your mother once in a while, but the rest is on their own!!!
Facts. Maybe I can point you towards a job or sum, but the rest is up to you.
I'm truly speechless. That man is worth $170 million.....absolutely tf not! She should have kept this to herself because this is embarrassing and shameful on so many levels!! SMH!!
Yes it is... And she told world she eats his .....
Honestly, I feel for her. She admitted she’s battled limiting beliefs, thus manifesting this into her life. I pray she begins seeing the abundance that is within and around her.
So last week lawyer and media personality Eboni Williams says she won’t date a bus driver unless he owns the bus. Meaning she wants a successful rich man. This week it’s Actress Gabrielle Union saying she has the successful rich man and still pays 50/50!!!! Anyone else feeling trolled right now? 😮
😂😂😂
And watch who the black community berated and harrassed vs who the Kangs defended...very telling
You can either be single or settle in most cases 😂😂😂
I’ll stay single thanks.
Going 50/ 50 with that extra baby Is crazy
I thank her. A man who is not providing should be exposed
A guy just asked what is wrong with "Modern women" in the comments section of a video where BlueFace is criticizing and scolding Chrisean Rock about saying she will utilize a nanny on the road to help with the baby.
The commenter states: "Women should be at home raising the children, what is wrong with modern women?"
My reply is: How can women be traditional if most of the modern men aren't traditional today? 🤔
Traditional women didn't pay 50/50. I used this example of D.Wade & Gabby. The same men who accuse her of being masculine are now joyous she goes half, even though they preach "Traditionalism" , & traditionally men paid all bills. Make it make sense.
Furthermore, they criticize independent women who don't rely on men to pay anything, & ALSO criticize hypergamous women who want provider men (traditional women are hypergamous women) again someone, make it make sense. THIS IS THE TWILIGHT ZONE.
Gabrielle has always had this underlying masculina, bone hard strong energy. Their relationship respectfully never made sense to many, but it is theirs! If they enjoy it, by all means let it work for them. By the way, Gabby who did that ponytail girl 😣
I looked at her and thought to myself something looked off. You're so right. It's the ponytail!!!!
She’s a “former” mean girl. She admitted to it and I think that’s what we’re picking up on.
@@GoldSkye indeed.
Deff agree
I believe that the black tax or the need to be the breadwinner for the family is very much true and is a pressure for the black women. I am an international student from Uganda and I work on campus on top of managing my studies. I send money back home occasionally because I know they need it. And while I know I want to do this and love to see that I am helping my dad take care of the family, the responsibility is sometimes overbearing because I have the pressure to be perfect. If I don't make it, my family won't. Sadly this has caused me several mental health issues that stop me from thriving in my 20s and going after what I truly want.
You can't pour from an empty cup. Give them to the Creator and your father and live your life. If you make something of yourself and you have extra, then go back.
Speaking from experience.
Thank you for this. I will try, even though it's difficult knowing that I owe my family in a way. I will work towards choosing myself.
@@nanyongajacklinepeace7625 You know I would seriously ask you to do some soul searching about that word "owe". One of the horrible byproducts of capitalism and poverty in African nations is we are mixed up. We think men are the prize and children are born to take care of parents. But is that true? Do you REALLY owe them? They had you not the other way around. In fact they should celebrate whatever better opportunity you have.
Sometimes we keep ourselves in the conditioning. But we can say no. It's just lonely and uncomfortable at first. One of the greatest things Chloe says is men are loyal to themselves first. I think we should practice the same.
The worse thing that happened to these celebrities is social media and their inability to keep their mouths shut about their personal business. Ugh!
Tacky!
One thing about it , if you’re not my mom or grandma, I’m not struggling to take care of nobody and even then my mom can live with me. It’s not that much money needed in the world. Girl you should be stacking all of your money and paying for only so much. Even if you don’t want to give up control , he still should be paying all household and vehicle bills
Social media is ruining women celebs imo. They don't know the art of privacy. I liked it better when they sold us a likable image and we would let our imagination paint them in a high regard.
I agree. Makes me sad. We shouldn’t know all of this. 😢
Me too
@Lou Wil I'm not big on celebrity culture. But do you see how Kerry Washinton does interviews, but if they ask her about her kids or husband,she literally says what SHE WANTS to be out there. She doesn't answer the question,she doesn't say much about them. I don't understand why ppl like Gab,Jada & Caresha Golden Showers feel the need to share certain things about their personal lives,celebrity or not,it's giving no class,smdh.
Yes I'm judging them even though I don't know them personally 😅
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I feel she is so masculine with those
animated gestures. It’s absolutely two men in that house! She should be more private about her business. And, yes, unfortunately, black women often have an unfair obligation to financially support family and others when they have the bag. This is a wonderful video discussion and this topic needs revisiting more openly and frequently, as it can have a negative impact on a woman’s financial security and independence if she’s not careful. Thank you for this very important topic!
😂😂😂😂 2 MEN in that house
@Kia M. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She has always been masculine. And has a mean girl spirit.
Well she admitted to eating his bum and probably peggs him so you're not wrong
This is our curse. I refuse to go 50/50, it goes against my morals.
Initially 50/50 maybe by choice.. but now you can see her facial expressions shes definitely over it and crying out for help.
She needs to discuss this with her man then because she chose it
Remember ladies Gabby is MASCULINE so no surprise. I’m sure she prefers it this way. She tries so hard to show she doesn’t need a man that seems to be acting like one. Instead of OVERSHARING she should invest in a good therapist and keep those parts of her life private.
She certainly painted herself in a corner in this situation.
Bingo!
She will wake up soon!!!
DWade is the feminine in the relationship. That’s always been very apparent to me. 🥴
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I feel like this shows how financially insecure she is in her marriage. Which kind of makes sense due to her being the breadwinner in her first marriage and having to pay all the bills.
Are her relatives expecting her to care for them? If so it’s not right.
It sounds like that might be the case
Ok here is my opinion on this: I think this is partially her way getting him back for having another child out of wedlock and is low key trying to humiliate him, as she knows how important reputation is in their world.
I don’t think he cares. No one in society holds the man accountable. Look how he treated his children’s mother. This right here is embarrassing her. We’re all clutching our pearls saying “Gabrielle NOOOOO” it’s shocking and embarrassing. It actually makes me feel sad that she’s not being treated like the princess or the Queen .
@@louwil67 I agree with him not caring as men aren't held accountability. As far as being treated like a queen, she had to settle. In their world and at her age who else was she gona marry? Beautiful woman but she has always had this masculine energy and mean girl spirit.
I don't have kids: I'm not marrying a millionaire and paying half the bills for his mansion & luxury cars, sorry. I'll stay in my 1 bed apt & let him pay his own bills, but I wish Gabby & her man the Best
I didn't care for this couple before and I like them even less now. Heck no.
She ain’t learn nothing from Jada 🤦🏾♀️. Jada literally ruined her marriage and reputation of her family by talking too much.
SAY THAT!!!
Exactly wow jada really messed up by doing that red table talk interview wow! she should have stayed quiet and it would have all died down instead of making her husband look like a fool for the world to see!
Hmm, interesting, years ago D Wade said in an interview with Ellen that Gabby was the boss in their household. He said he was 5th in line as far as leadership and the family dog was before him.
Lol wow! 😆 😂😅
Don't know if we will ever live to see the shift in our lifetime...from Black Women's collective low to non-existent self esteem...to a collective mentality of feeling WORTHY of provision...
Wow! She is married to a man that makes 3 times more than her and still stressed about money?!? In the interview, she does seems like she is in distress and asking for help, in a passive way.
COVID caused a big dip in finances for actors. They should have a backup career to be honest. Wade may not be doing as well as we THINK.
@@annadenise8902Agreed!
If she doesn’t trust him. She should be stacking her coin while living off he’s 🤷🏽♀️
When I first heard the clip I thought she was purposely exposing him.. I think it’s what you said, she’s tired of 50/50 and doesn’t know how to make the change in her marriage
I agree with you Chloe. She needs to keep her mouth shut. She knows exactly what she’s doing. Maybe she thinks this is the way for her to stay relevant.
The more I hear and learn about Gabrielle Union, I lost all respect for her. She and Dewayne Wade aren't couples goals. She gives off low self esteem, desperate to be a wife energy. Years ago she said she was a "mean girl." But she seems like a very vindictive, resentful energy. Even though Wade is a multimillionaire, why was she so pressed to marry him?? Especially because she was childless and relatively successful in her own right.
I'd rather be single that be in a 50 50 romantic relationship. Especially with a mam more financially secure than myself. I also don't agree with being an ATM for family members. Abled bodied people need to earn their own money!!
Absolutely Not, Chloe, Nope, No way, Hell No, No Ma'am...Excuse Me Mrs. Wade..I really wish she would not have said that..
And to imagine, she “stole” him from his ex wife and got sued for it only to get this for her troubles. Sounds like karma.
Courtneyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SAY LESS!!!!!! #TRUTH
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Hi Chloé.
Once more, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic.
I believe going 50/50 with your husband out-earning you is not a great idea.
In my 5 years of marriage, I have used my income to assist my husband in the upkeep of the house, such as home decorations, buying kitchen and bathroom supplies, saving for the kids college tuition, doing groceries, hosting family and friends parties at home, and putting gas in the car. He pays the bills and mortgage.
We both are victims of black tax, so we always communicate with each other whenever a family or friend needs financial assistance.
I wonder if she said this on purpose for clout, to pay those bills. Its a very trendy subject, and like other trendy social subjects, they are cashing in.
But the jokes on her. Wade knows he can screw multiple chicks and she STILL gonna be there paying the water bill that he uses to wash off the smell after visiting his concubines 😂
Leave it to a rich Capricorn to STILL be stingy 😂😂😂
That part!!! I said that in my comment as well! Disgusting.
Wow! She's beautiful, successful, well paid and well connected. She was cheated on and comfortable with how he took custody of his children from his first wife, who supported him when he had nothing. Chile, what was she thinking? Everything, everyone wants and is told that they have to have, she has and still,....🙅🏽♀ Truth, maybe it is a cry for help
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Feminity is a real art…masculinas rich or poor sadly lose in Life ….
She got more benefits and less embarrassment being a side chick. Let her pay 50/50 for thinking she was an upgrade.
His networth is $170 million and her own is $40 million… she’s cheating herself for agreeing to pay half of the bills, especially after he made a whole baby outside…. It’s a no for me!
Baby, these 🥷 ninjas looking sorrier & sorrier by the day! 😩😂Jeezus Cricket!
She strikes me as very calculated and vindictive. I think she’s mad at him and wants to publicly shame him. She doesn’t care if it makes her look like nut 😩
But she should know the bc is more like to Shane her for being a dummy than him for being a dusty
Dark Scorpio energy!
Agree
I really would like to know "how much is half"
I don’t think she’s stressing about a damn thing. Money falling out their asses. Their 50/50 is not our 50/50
How is it different? In what way? She look like she needs help. And fast. Sis wants to have time to relax without worrying that she will lose everything. That’s the same feeling my cousin juju have that make 12.00 a hour and don’t have no man😂
When Chloe pins you to show the world an example of ignorance.
never doing it again
@@lmusima3275 That part.
@@lmusima3275 100%
Aint no way i would ever be doing all this for a man, eating bootie and paying half? Gtfoh✋
I remember she used to pay allll the bills in her first marriage, so she might think 50/50 was a level up to her and sounded great. Maybe she didn’t think as far as to want a provider man that takes care of her coming from that. She also had more movies coming out frequently earlier in their relationship, so it might’ve been easier to handle the bills then, but situations change, and she definitely shouldn’t be in the “hustle mentality” with her husband!
She still supports her ex husband
Isame happen to me, went from paying everything with first hubby, to 50/50 with partner. After that with communities like this and level up groups, I realized that was a total con job too. Now I'm at the other end...provider men only!
A wife should never pay 50/50. Women do a lot of unseen work. While you do laundry he plays video games. 50/50 is not 50/50. Let him pay the bills.
They are just a prime example that money doesn't solve everything. It didn't heal her or make her exempt from being a masculina and it didn't make him a high quality man.
Girl! That hit!
Gab is in the masculine role and Dwayne is...well you know.
PTSD or Her Husbands character can't be %100 trusted... The prenup must be Strong and she knows he won't be leaving her Anything... I hate this for her.. She finally deserves to live in her Feminine Softness and she's still hustling like No Tomorrow. Also is D.Wade a Generous Man? He could be Rich and Stingy😔
Most Capricorn men aren't. Unfortunately.
Gabrielle Union mentioned before that because she was the breadwinner, she thought she could cheat. Maybe now she thinks no one should be breadwinner so neither of them have the "power to cheat"?🤔
She better not she’s lovey lady and I’d be upset knowing someone treats her this way
I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't say that to deter other women from trying to get with him. She strikes me as a slick one.
Or another man...u are correct
I was waiting on this video on Gabrielle because I knew it was coming lol !!
Thanks Chloe for speaking on it. The households she's running is her family as well. Thats toxic. It makes me sad. I feel she missed out on experiencing pregnancy because she had to work.
I agree. She’s been working hard for decades and it took a toll. 😢
She cant carry baby
In my personal opinion, I think she married him out of desperation now she is getting tired of carrying the load of 50/50.
Lord as soon as i saw this I thought about you Chloé! Thanks for weighing in on this!
I was lil miss feminist and totally okay with 50/50 and now I'm in a 50/50 marriage and so stressed. I'm 31 and partially in a caregiver role to my sick mom AND working full time. And my husband is coasting in his career and hasn't done anything meaningful to level up his career in our 6 years of marriage. I'm so frustrated and confused what to do.
@@jamalj8660 how would I be worse off? I'm already doing half and more...
@@jamalj8660lol this is weird. It’s not too late to start over and do better
So Gabrielle states “in other households we have to support” does that mean they pay 50/50 to their main household! But they have other “households” with family members/parents or dependents that they financially support! Like Gabrielle pays for her own family etc like 100% it seems like a lot of pressure on Gabrielle’s shoulders, if her husband literally gives her little to none support with her “financial responsibilities” 😮💨
If you're so desperate to have a man that you'll accept him and his break baby then nah, I'm not surprised!
I don't understand why they wouldn't pool their resources. I wouldn't feel comfortable as a man with my wife struggling. I think she had a vulnerable moment due to exhaustion.
I’m just guessing. But Gabby may be the “come up” for extended family. She knows she may have to kick some folks off the dole if she slows up.
Imagine going 50/50 with a man who embarrassed you repeatedly and a multi-millionaire 🤢 She literally is to pretty to settle for a rich dusty! Give me the Savannah James pampered wife package please & thank you🤲🏿
Since she was the provider in her last relationship I really wonder why she didn't decide to go straight to the opposite end and be provided for this time.
Maybe she thought if she was provided for, she’d be cheated on as she felt justified in doing in her previous marriage. Maybe for her not providing = not having a say in the relationship, something that is just unbearable if she likes to take charge.
@@Wonderer888 Your right. That's exactly what it is.
She’s also paying spousal support to her ex
definitely a cry for help! its like a patient talking to a therapist
He doesn’t want her
I think problem for her is the psychological and emotional weight of the Black Tax. Versus her chosen relationship dynamic. She loves being in a controlled, masculine position. That is who she is. Especially based on what she shared in her first marriage.
Listening to her speak about this ...
You would think she was a single mom on section 8, fighting for shifts at Popeyes
I think she should have kept their financial arrangement to herself. Maybe she said it to show how loyal she is to the marriage. 🤷🏾♀️. What I can detect and I might be wrong is that she does not trust him to be the man and wants control and he does not respect her as his good thing. Why would a man who makes 3x more than his wife be okay with splitting the cost? Something is off with that.
Who goes on national television as a high profile wife/actress to tell the world this. Especially as sensitive as this topic is amongst the black community. She’s good for over sharing the WRONG things.
She have done and tolerated a lot of vile things only to end up a married roommate? I know women w/ husbands making less than 100k/yr who does not do 50/50. The man takes care of all household expenses at a minimum.
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Gabrielle is the husband in her marriage. She had previously stated that Dwayne was irresponsible with money and they had separate bank accounts. Subconsciously , she does not consider him as a provider. She is constantly thinking and planning out how to make more money which is very masculine and very stressful. This is going to take a toll on her physically and I feel eventually she will grow resentful of Dwayne.
That was a STRONG hello to the ear hustlers today, lol.
For a moment there I thought you were talking about the other gabby but glad i was wrong
That “side baby” mama ain’t going 50/50. Her bills paid in full, at least.
I believe it's RIDICULOUS to support extended family. That issue should have been vetted BEFORE the marriage. As well as this 50/50 conversation. The outside baby should have been the beginning of the divorce; but this is her life and not mine.
I can work all I want but I’m still not going 50/50.
I'm glad she told the world because it continually shows the world who her husband is - and maybe she can listen in on these conversations and grow in time.
Its gving" Terry" from SOUL FOOD! My wife introduced me to that Film!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASEEEE do a video on the Black tax!
Just when these 2 couldn't be more of a joke! His ex wife & side baby momma got the last laugh 🤣🤦🏽♀️