The best advice given to me is that if you and another person did wrong to each other and neither of you are too proud to apologize, the best thing to do is apologize 1st. If the other person didn't apologize for doing wrong to you even after you apologized 1st then that person is not the person you need to be hanging around with. Therefore, you need to keep your distance from that person and move on. Believe it or not, that person will come around and wonder why you avoid him or her and only then they'll apologize. Why I know this? Because I had even the most stubborn people come to me and apologized to me even years after the incident. Distance is a powerful weapon! Quote "A person apologizes because they value their relationship or friendship over their pride".
This is exactly what I’d been searching for. I needed to apologize because #1 I know I the pain being mistreated and #2 the guilt of hurting someone I once loved have me a moral injury. They didn’t turn back around. Neither apologizing nor forgiving. But now I’m able to finally let them go.
What I have learn from taking the lead to apologize is the fact it some how transfer all the guilt from you. Now whether or not the person will accept your apology is not your business so long you did apologize properly. There is no word above I am sorry that you can tell someone, some people see your apologies as weakness, but that is the bravest thing to do and makes you strong. Remember some people after apologizing to them, they still treat you with the same resentment prior to you apologizing. But at least your conscience will be clear and that you did apologize and they did not accept it.
I have definitely taken the lead to apologize. In life, we make decisions that we can't take back. But giving sincere apologies right after the fact and reflecting on your actions allow the person who made the mistake to see the other person's viewing. Allows for better understanding and for making informed decisions that consider everyone's feelings. Even if the other person never forgives you. Just know that you have personally made strides to make better decisions that consider everyone's feelings. 💙❤💚💜💎🥰✝
I haven't apologize to something I did in the past because I'm scared of how our relationship will continue, Can trust be repaired or once you break it you can't repair it? What made me do what I did? Is my problem ridiculous? It was two years ago... Do they even care? Should I explain it or am I justifying my actions? How do I write an apology letter?
[ S p a c e ] I’m sadly in the same place as you rn. I think we just gotta put aside our pride and own up to our actions first before it’s too late and we let this drag on any longer. I wish you the best and just expect the worst in any situation.
I just apologized properly to a best friend I hurt deeply 6 years ago. I apologized then as well, but I was so emotional then so it wasn't proper. I wanted to leave her alone, and I needed to get over all the emotions, but now, when I'm another person, I felt that I needed to do it. I even wrote in my apology that she doesn't need to answer. She read it 20 minutes later and that felt so good. Now she knows that I'm sorry and that I want the best for her. That is enough for me. It took me many years to get to this point, I needed to prove for myself that I'm a better person than I was, that I could forgive myself so that I didn't make my apology about me. So that it was a gift to her.
Dr. Gordon, this is such a marvelous presentation and what a perfect moment to hear you during this COVID19 time. Your teaching is so clear and relatable. You bring us to the better angel of our nature and I thank you very much. Kindly, Mary Jane Hurley Brant
"I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry! There - I've apologized THREE times! What else do you want from me???" (for drinking too much and not remembering how verbally cruel he had been).
this is about james Ralph was his nickname and Northham see he just went from red to blue...then Bobby or Robert Mueller went from blue to red Robert Redfield CDC
The best advice given to me is that if you and another person did wrong to each other and neither of you are too proud to apologize, the best thing to do is apologize 1st. If the other person didn't apologize for doing wrong to you even after you apologized 1st then that person is not the person you need to be hanging around with. Therefore, you need to keep your distance from that person and move on. Believe it or not, that person will come around and wonder why you avoid him or her and only then they'll apologize. Why I know this? Because I had even the most stubborn people come to me and apologized to me even years after the incident. Distance is a powerful weapon!
Quote "A person apologizes because they value their relationship or friendship over their pride".
This is exactly what I’d been searching for. I needed to apologize because #1 I know I the pain being mistreated and #2 the guilt of hurting someone I once loved have me a moral injury. They didn’t turn back around. Neither apologizing nor forgiving. But now I’m able to finally let them go.
Thank you
What I have learn from taking the lead to apologize is the fact it some how transfer all the guilt from you. Now whether or not the person will accept your apology is not your business so long you did apologize properly. There is no word above I am sorry that you can tell someone, some people see your apologies as weakness, but that is the bravest thing to do and makes you strong.
Remember some people after apologizing to them, they still treat you with the same resentment prior to you apologizing. But at least your conscience will be clear and that you did apologize and they did not accept it.
"Saying sorry doesn't always mean your addmiting your wrong, It just mean's you value your relationship more than being right."
This is so essential to bridging & strengthening human relationships and bonds. Thank you for this.
I needed to hear this. It takes ALOT of heart to be truly sorry and to acknowledge what you are truly sorry for.
I have definitely taken the lead to apologize. In life, we make decisions that we can't take back. But giving sincere apologies right after the fact and reflecting on your actions allow the person who made the mistake to see the other person's viewing. Allows for better understanding and for making informed decisions that consider everyone's feelings. Even if the other person never forgives you. Just know that you have personally made strides to make better decisions that consider everyone's feelings. 💙❤💚💜💎🥰✝
This is amazing information everyone can apply. Application is the word.
I 'm sure that forgiveness and meditation works to be happy.
😊 thank you...you give me confident 😊 to say sorry
i will say sorry to her , before it's too late
Emil Huang Good move hope it went well.
She killed him
I hope she have forgiven you.
I know what happens if you're late. 😢
Thank you for empowering me and giving me the courage to apologise to her.
How did it go?
I dont know why but i cant stop crying while i was watching this😟
Sorry
I'm sorry for your pain...most humans can really leave a hurtful trail I'm so sorry sending you much peace
I had recently apologized to someone after a hate comment I had also made, and I STILL got hate for it
I don't know if my bestie will ever forgive me for what I did, but I'll never stop apologizing
It’s more about “Ideal apology components” or the method than its power or effectiveness.
I never except an apology from my partner. 10 years later still have not had one
this guy lives near me, ive been to the hosptial complex he works in. Crazy.
You don't get a a thumbs down, but 1.5 of 100. Yes, a reason is that we watched this.
The mindfulness book "30 Days to Stop Apologizing" by Harper Daniels is helpful.
Fantastic!!! Thank you!
It started slow...
Really good stuff though, glad I listened to the whole show.
Thank you
I haven't apologize to something I did in the past because I'm scared of how our relationship will continue, Can trust be repaired or once you break it you can't repair it? What made me do what I did? Is my problem ridiculous? It was two years ago... Do they even care? Should I explain it or am I justifying my actions? How do I write an apology letter?
[ S p a c e ] I’m sadly in the same place as you rn. I think we just gotta put aside our pride and own up to our actions first before it’s too late and we let this drag on any longer. I wish you the best and just expect the worst in any situation.
I just apologized properly to a best friend I hurt deeply 6 years ago. I apologized then as well, but I was so emotional then so it wasn't proper. I wanted to leave her alone, and I needed to get over all the emotions, but now, when I'm another person, I felt that I needed to do it. I even wrote in my apology that she doesn't need to answer. She read it 20 minutes later and that felt so good. Now she knows that I'm sorry and that I want the best for her. That is enough for me. It took me many years to get to this point, I needed to prove for myself that I'm a better person than I was, that I could forgive myself so that I didn't make my apology about me. So that it was a gift to her.
I love it... BOB!!
Raquel Landi
I needed this.
Thank you for this talk. Very helpful in my research.
This was great
4:22 since humans are flock animals this makes no sense.
I apologized and it just made him hate me more. I blocked his email.
Dr. Gordon, this is such a marvelous presentation and what a perfect moment to hear you during this COVID19 time. Your teaching is so clear and relatable. You bring us to the better angel of our nature and I thank you very much. Kindly, Mary Jane Hurley Brant
Is there a difference in asking for forgiveness and saying I’m sorry? Is it the same?
Definitely different. They are not the same.
Excellent
"I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry! There - I've apologized THREE times! What else do you want from me???" (for drinking too much and not remembering how verbally cruel he had been).
this is about james Ralph was his nickname and Northham see he just went from red to blue...then Bobby or Robert Mueller went from blue to red Robert Redfield CDC
Narcissists will criticize this video😂
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