Being “good at things” works extremely well with women, intellect is a huge turn on for them… But its important to remember to let her know about these things you’re good at sparingly. Like little easter eggs. You want to keep her guessing what else you have in your wizard hat surprising her when the opportunities present themselves
And in my opinion, his view on flirting and building direct status dynamics in the interaction with a specific girl, is something that destroys all the red pill/black bs.
I usually capture the spider and release them outside ... to show my caring side to the girl ... even though I know domesticated spiders only has 5% odds of surviving out side. "Thanks little buddy" ... then release the spider! I also pretend and tease the girl with spider when I capture it.
I speak Spanish fluently…if women hear me speak Spanish to a friend or ordering food I can almost feel them add attraction points to me. They have to already have attraction but this skill bumps me ahead a lot.
Quick question for Todd. I have never been in a relationship and have only had sex once. I work in a field that is almost all men so I do not meet women there. I can meet them at bars, basically. I saw your video that said that self improvement takes too long and that I should just game. I spent 2 yrs fashion maxxing and that definitely got me more girls that want to dance with me or try to get me to start a conversation with them when I am at certain bars. But do I need to learn to dance or can I do bar game without knowing how to dance? I am a complete non-dancer. It will take me even more time to get good enough at dancing but I want to know if the time invested is worth it or is there a way around having to do that?
@@lint8391 I don't know how to do that. And does that involve having to dance with them? Should I spend 6 months to a year on learning dance moves from RUclips channels?
@@tastybrownie7448 You should work with whatever you've got today. Don't put off going out, breaking the ice with and interacting with women. As that's just procrastinating. With you in this case using a lack of dancing skills as a poor excuse to procrastinate. How do you stop taking yourself soooo seriously? The way I did it was to take a zoomed out look at my life and to think logically about my place in the history of the universe. It was a great way to release a lot of the stupid worries I had built up inside me. Embrace failures and disasters and at least make it that you're having as many laughs and enjoyment as you can as you're having setbacks.
@@tastybrownie7448 I know you don't know how to flirt bro but you need to learn that's it. I know lots of guys that don't dance but know how to flirt and get alot of girls. So instead of spending months learning how to dance spend months learning how to flirt.
It’s all perception even your competence people will treat you right off the bat based off how you look and first impressions are key because everyone’s brain is always trying to prove itself right in the impression it first received. That means if you’re ugly or weird or socially unacceptable you have no chance. If you look really good or are really tall you have many options. Especially in today’s dating world. Personality is second once initial attraction is formed. There are very few cases where personality triumphs a girl first. Be self aware and make corrections to yourself
@@INSPAINWisdomnope. If you were rich and attractive you were most likely attractive for just about your entire life. When you look attractive you’re use to a special type of treatment by others and because of that a chunk of your personality is developed based off others perceptions. Confidence stems from what you know to be true about yourself you can say it’s subjective yeah but you can say just about anything is subjective. But where is the average middle ground to what we know is true. If you’re ugly you are treated like shit so maybe you’ll be nicer to everyone to get some sort of compensation it depends on how you can manage yourself. Every dude on here is gonna choose attraction first just like a lot of women. Best way to view the single world is as if you and every other man is a dog and we are all in a dog park and the women are the dog owners lol
@@markschwartz7725 1 women don't want to be dog owners they want to be the dog that is owned that is when they are most happy. 2 not all hot and rich guys are good at social skills and being funny and witty and flirting cause not all of em had a childhood like you described and experiences to reinforce confidence 3 I have seen loads of ugly but funny and socially savvy guys get beautiful girls. 4 your look on reality is warped and you need to get out in the real world and see what reality really is. So many rich hot guys getting nothing and so many fat ugly but fun guys getting everything go out and see. And don't tell me you have never seen a fat ugly guy with a hot girl I've seen it loads of times so many times. You don't have to be hot or rich bro. There are other ways to be attractive and get girls.
id be at 8 at this time. been working out for half a decade, actively compete in MMA tournaments & got my own biz. working on my acne & fashion more thoroughly the next 6 months. once that's fixed ill be up to 10.
I'm a great speller and punctuator and I know the strict definition of pH and can tell you who it was who first used the word 'interaction'. This combination has not served me particularly well.
As a guy who's spent years building a top 5% physique, has gone out regularly to practice game, flirting and social skills in order to develop a confident, charismatic personality, spent the time to befriend the people at the bars I frequent, and has developed a good sense of style and appearance, yet somehow STILL gets no interest from women, I wish he'd do a video on guys like me. And yes, I fully acknowledge that what I'm saying sounds impossible and must only happen to only the most unlucky of guys, but I assure you, we do exist.
Do you think there's a chance you're giving off bad vibes to women? Meaning that your assessment of your confidence and charisma with women may not be as accurate as you think?
maybe you feel entitled to them. Then instead of just enjoying the interaction you think you deserve certains outcomes and that can be view as forced by women. I'm just speculating though. Good luck bro
That can be a sign of a more deeper underlying issue. See yourself in others. Are you a bad person? No. Then assume they are a good person too. See the best in everyone and in yourself. Remember it's not you vs the world. It's you AND the world. You are the world and the world is you. You are a very necessary part of the whole.
Yes, this is one thing that Todd's channel lacks -- how to lead the sexual experience and provide the woman with an orgasm every time. Search for this information on the web. It is out there. It is a dance that you can learn. It is amazing how pliable women are in the bedroom. The bedroom is the one place they want you to take charge.
@@isaaclosh8082 Would you recommend exploring escorts? It has been a pretty long time for me, and I never had tons of sex to begin with, so I never made lots of progress in the actual skill of having sex. This was cause I was deeply insecure/broken in my 20's while I was more sexually active, so I was just always a terrible lay, uncoordinated, not fit, not comfortable naked, etc. Now I'm far more fit than ever, much more coordinated/capable of thinking about my partner due to 1 decade~ of meditation daily, but I lack the experience for sure.
You don't have to tell a woman about your past. Talk to yourself and remind yourself you are bad MF. How can anyone else believe it if you don't believe it?
I just moved to a new town so I’m starting from scratch here. I feel like a 6 at the moment based on the social feedback I’m getting lol. I’m focusing on these areas daily should have massive improvement in 90 days
I can confirm that playing an instrument (a cool one like the guitar/piano/sax etc. Women don't get hot for euphonium players) does the trick. I'm a middle aged bloke playing guitar and singing in a band. I'm tall and fit, but I'm also pretty old. But when I play Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol, there isn't a dry seat in the house.
As a legit "hair guy", let me tell you this...if someone has ever said to you "you got your hair cut"...that means you waited too long. It's almost an insult to your grooming protocol. Nobody should notice you got a hair cut except you. The drastic change in look from 60 days with no hair cut to then suddenly a fresh fade and trim is too much at once. You will never have a consistent style to build around. For me, I have a short mens fade and average to med length hair on top. The top gets scissored 1x a moth. But the fade is high maintenance and needs attention every two weeks min, pref every ten days to stay on point. If not my neck gets furry and my fade is no longer a fade. It's stuck in this middle ground of "just being hair"... If you are running a skin fade or .5 (clipper) or shorter fade I have bad news for you, that is NOT a low maintenance hair style because it's short. It's a HIGH maintenance style because it's short. For many reasons I can go on about this. So, pick your hair style wisely. A short fade is high maintenance, now low. He she says "nice hair cut"...its too late. You waited too long. Nobody should notice you got a hair cut. The lowest maintenance hair I ever had was my long hair at age 30. I would get s clean up every 60 days. Long Hair - low Maint Short Hair - high Maint
Short hair (buzz cut whole head to 1mm of hair) is literally zero maintenance. Get a haircut every two weeks and you are set. It takes a minute to wash it and minute and a half to get it dry.
Facts. If someone sees that you just had a haircut, it can come off as been cringe and socially awkward. Gents, the best thing you can learn is to cut your own hair. Remember if you screw it up, you can always shave it all off, it will grow back. Practice makes perfect. Once you get it right, you will be able to trim and maintain your hair like your facial hair whenever you want and for free (more money for the date) . Best part is that you can style your hair how you want every day or just before a date for a nice clean look. Takes me 10 min with a clipper
Better still go on hikes/long walks, and leave you phone at home/or in the car. Not only will you give your legs and body some much needed oomph, connecting with nature will do wonders for your aura. Quality women will soon begin to notice you
Being spontaneous and trying to take girls home the same night have become significantly more risky these days. I am going to play it safe, even if I may not get the girl in the end. It's just too risky and your money is going to go way too fast.
I travel for photography with a pro level camera. So travel and photography I can talk for weeks about. Most ladies don't like travel or photography sadly because It's childish and immature interest I'm always told.
@@bearclaw5115 I’ve learned quite the opposite. Washington DC ladies don’t like to travel more than 30 minutes for literally anything. The same ladies really don’t like to travel or photography.
@@animestarlord9021 WRONG LADIES. I call BS. Change your circle of influence. Or MOVE. And Even in as city and business like as DC, there is no way "most" women don't like to travel, You are fooling yourself yourself, my man. Photograpphy is a different thing, but that, you do for YOU, not for HER. Not to impress. That does not have to be a Key to your dating skills.
How is the guy supposed to flirt if it's unknown whether the woman likes him or not? Because he'll quickly be labeled "creepy" if he tries and she doesn't find him attractive.
Be friendly, crack a joke, make an astute observation. None of that can be construed as creepy. Flirting doesn't have to be overtly sexual just start having fun talking to people. Some respond, some don't. Don't have an agenda other than fun. You'll be fine!
So what bro we all gunna die anyways. Wing it. You can't get better at something by never trying. Only failing repeatedly and learning from those mistakes. as hard as it can be mentally to take that blow you gotta figure how to have that slf confidence to not let it drown you in depression
You simply put EFFORT into LEARNING how to know when a women likes you or not, and if it's for real or fake/tease. It's a SKILL, Learn it. Plenty of videos on it. Body Language secrets by Don Steel is an oldie but a goodie, as a basic starter. Learn along those lines, Women give signals when they like a man. Mos men are shotty at picking up those signals. Learn how to. IT's that simple. Learn.
As a pickup artist, I can validate all that Todd has advised is spot on correct. Confidence is key. Free tip: Walk into a lingerie store and admire the lingerie, don't be shy. Check for sizes, prices etc. Wait for a woman to approach you, they usually like to ask, " So who's the lucky girl?" from here you can play on how you gonna respond, I would respond back saying " you are" . [wink]
I have been fine tuning for years. I have been "faking it" for years. I CAN'T FICKING COLD APPROACH. Went out with that my intention. Perfect opportunity. Girl walking towards me on opposite side of aisle with only product separating us. Had a great opening line in my head. BUT COULDN'T DO IT. I AM SO FRUSTRATED. I know what to do. Compliment, vibe, connect. I know it's ficking ok if she's not interested for whatever reason. I 'know it's ok if it turns out I'm not interested. I know I have lots to offer. I know I have more to offer than a lot of if not most other men. BUT I STILL CAN'T DO IT
Baby steps. Make "opening comments" to people you happen to be near. If you're standing near someone and it's raining, deadpan, "Beautiful weather." Practice doing that at every opportunity. Game is simply networking with escalation. Learn how to network. I recommend an old book called "Dig Your Well, Before You're Thirsty". Your first approaches should just be approaches. Do the approach and leave. For example, approach a woman and say, "That's a great outfit. You know sometimes women put together a great outfit like yours, and no one takes the time to complement them, even though everyone thinks that they look great. So, I just wanted you to know that this outfit looks great." Then walk away. You just made an approach. Finally, when you start approaching women and going beyond just the approach, choose women whom you feel are not very attractive. You will feel less nervous with these women, because you literally do not care how they respond. In fact, when you start dating, date women to whom you are not strongly attracted. It will make you appear very confident, because you literally do not care what they think of you. Ninety percent of the time your approach should be non-sexual, just mildly friendly and platonic. Just a networking approach.
@@brookvalley907 Thanks for the input. I get you about baby steps. The somewhat odd thing is I have had to approach strangers on the street for work and that I have no issue with. As much as I don't want to admit it, it freaks me out to cold approach - are they too young? Will my work find out I'm approaching girls - possibly ones that are underage (which of course I wouldn't act on but just the rumor.. I live in a small place) ? Will they look at me appraisingly and then vanish into a store which happened the one of very few times I approached? Will I come across too meekly because I don't want to be rejected? AHH. Baby steps. Focus right. I know what I have to do. I just hope I can convince myself in the moment to f cking do it. I did do the baby step thing - ask the time or similar - years ago and my ego is telling me I should be well past this but.. yes a compliment and moving is on is at least a step in the right direction.
@@globalcat exactly right. You have formulated the situation perfectly. That is half the battle. Be as patient with yourself as you would be with somebody else in your situation. One thing you might try is going to a nearby larger city where few people know you, and just practice the approach and complement exorcise or some other short encounter.
this guys advice isnt necessarily wrong but its shit. For example no one has to learn to flirting, flirting naturally occurs when two ppl who like eachother chat, if a guy wants to flirt with a girl hes gona have to get good looking so shes turned on, same as getting confident, hot guys are confident because women love them, the love from women makes the guy happy and confident, he gets love from them coz hes hot, so you dont have to fake confident, u need to get hot then girls will flirt and love him and then his ego will inflate and hel be a confidant man
Get good looking my arse! Assuming you have a reasonable BMI, chances are your looks are easily good enough for success with women. It's complete bollocks that flirting naturally occur when 2 people like each other. What's far more likely to happen for most men is that they get tongue-tied or go into interview mode, or go into creepy-cringey mode when presented with a woman they're attracted to. There's plenty of hot guys that aren't confident with women. Especially the women they're most attracted to. Happiness should be self generated. I'm happy regardless of whether I'm in a relationship or not. Confidence? Better to be competent with women than confident. Following Todd's advice is a great way to become competent with women.
It is. Game is just networking with sexual escalation, and networking is the most vital skill in building a career. It you learn how to approach and talk with almost anyone about almost anything, you will have an amazing career, and an amazing sex life.
@drewg7441 It doesn't with 80 % of girls as long as you are about average looking..... There are the 20 % of girls who do care a lot about looks but they are a minority in my experience...
@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Social skills are MUCH more important than looks for a guy... The small minority of women who do prioritize looks on a guy tend to have personality disorders in most cases in my observation...
If a person's identity is to be a fat, unathletic, , lacking in social, skills addicted to a screen slob, you should be looking to improve yourself for you, and the side affect of that is that you become sexier to women
"The dose makes the poison" is a fundamental concept in toxicology that means any substance can be toxic if taken in a large enough quantity. Toxic women can be fun, it you don't take too big a dose.
Lifting heavy weights isn’t great for the long run. Focusing on time under tension is IMO modern body building. Your joints will thank you when you’re 60 😉
Yes, excellent reply. Do not lift heavy weights. Lift most weights 10-15 reps with two left in the tank. Rely on time under tension. That's how you build and maintain muscle without injury. (I'm over 70. Been lifting for 50 years.)
My sex appeal is a 9 right now. Cut off sugar completely to improve my facial, my vitality, cognitive ability and my physique (abs are ripped as ever! Face looks youthful as fuck!)
Being “good at things” works extremely well with women, intellect is a huge turn on for them… But its important to remember to let her know about these things you’re good at sparingly. Like little easter eggs. You want to keep her guessing what else you have in your wizard hat surprising her when the opportunities present themselves
Going to a good dermatologist long term has been huge for me, and getting my jeans tailored was a recent big win.
Teeth are massive. Ive been flossing more
Hair, hollow cheeks (lean bfp), height boosting
@@JJsProductionx Yeah, been considering a pro whitening even though my teeth aren't bad.
The 13 minute mark is what makes Todd not only the smartest dating coach but one of the smartest people on RUclips
And in my opinion, his view on flirting and building direct status dynamics in the interaction with a specific girl, is something that destroys all the red pill/black bs.
@@CorneliusMagnusI doubt he destroys the older coaches who started this Neil Strauss, mystery, David d Angelo Ross Jeffries
What are earth are you talking about, this is guy is a clown lol
@@logicbomb8977you're taking the time to comment on his video so obviously you don't
@@McKCM405 that makes no sense
Your videos keep getting better and better. Keep up the good work. From Lenny, your oldest client
Me placing ukuleles around my home
No spiders were hurt or harmed during the making of this video.
I usually capture the spider and release them outside ... to show my caring side to the girl ... even though I know domesticated spiders only has 5% odds of surviving out side. "Thanks little buddy" ... then release the spider! I also pretend and tease the girl with spider when I capture it.
this format really suits me
I speak Spanish fluently…if women hear me speak Spanish to a friend or ordering food I can almost feel them add attraction points to me. They have to already have attraction but this skill bumps me ahead a lot.
I’m actually sexier than I thought
Hey Todd, thank you for helping us understand women better!
liking the new trim dude
Quick question for Todd. I have never been in a relationship and have only had sex once. I work in a field that is almost all men so I do not meet women there. I can meet them at bars, basically. I saw your video that said that self improvement takes too long and that I should just game. I spent 2 yrs fashion maxxing and that definitely got me more girls that want to dance with me or try to get me to start a conversation with them when I am at certain bars. But do I need to learn to dance or can I do bar game without knowing how to dance? I am a complete non-dancer. It will take me even more time to get good enough at dancing but I want to know if the time invested is worth it or is there a way around having to do that?
Stop being perfectionist! Stop taking yourself and your life sooooo seriously.
Chill out, have fun, interact with women in a fun, flirty, teasing way.
@@lint8391 I don't know how to do that. And does that involve having to dance with them? Should I spend 6 months to a year on learning dance moves from RUclips channels?
@@tastybrownie7448 You should work with whatever you've got today.
Don't put off going out, breaking the ice with and interacting with women. As that's just procrastinating. With you in this case using a lack of dancing skills as a poor excuse to procrastinate.
How do you stop taking yourself soooo seriously?
The way I did it was to take a zoomed out look at my life and to think logically about my place in the history of the universe.
It was a great way to release a lot of the stupid worries I had built up inside me.
Embrace failures and disasters and at least make it that you're having as many laughs and enjoyment as you can as you're having setbacks.
@@tastybrownie7448 I know you don't know how to flirt bro but you need to learn that's it. I know lots of guys that don't dance but know how to flirt and get alot of girls. So instead of spending months learning how to dance spend months learning how to flirt.
Bro used maxxing lingo on a pua channel unironically 😆
One of the best and helpful videos out there
Thank god for saving us todd i recommend all my friends to look you up for dating advice
Yes, I have recommended Todd to others. It is great to know that his channel has everything they need to know to do well in dating.
It’s all perception even your competence people will treat you right off the bat based off how you look and first impressions are key because everyone’s brain is always trying to prove itself right in the impression it first received. That means if you’re ugly or weird or socially unacceptable you have no chance. If you look really good or are really tall you have many options. Especially in today’s dating world. Personality is second once initial attraction is formed. There are very few cases where personality triumphs a girl first. Be self aware and make corrections to yourself
Wrong. You can be as rich and good looking as you want if your nervous and don't know how to flirt you are fucked.
@@INSPAINWisdomnope. If you were rich and attractive you were most likely attractive for just about your entire life. When you look attractive you’re use to a special type of treatment by others and because of that a chunk of your personality is developed based off others perceptions. Confidence stems from what you know to be true about yourself you can say it’s subjective yeah but you can say just about anything is subjective. But where is the average middle ground to what we know is true. If you’re ugly you are treated like shit so maybe you’ll be nicer to everyone to get some sort of compensation it depends on how you can manage yourself. Every dude on here is gonna choose attraction first just like a lot of women. Best way to view the single world is as if you and every other man is a dog and we are all in a dog park and the women are the dog owners lol
@@markschwartz7725 1 women don't want to be dog owners they want to be the dog that is owned that is when they are most happy. 2 not all hot and rich guys are good at social skills and being funny and witty and flirting cause not all of em had a childhood like you described and experiences to reinforce confidence 3 I have seen loads of ugly but funny and socially savvy guys get beautiful girls. 4 your look on reality is warped and you need to get out in the real world and see what reality really is. So many rich hot guys getting nothing and so many fat ugly but fun guys getting everything go out and see. And don't tell me you have never seen a fat ugly guy with a hot girl I've seen it loads of times so many times. You don't have to be hot or rich bro. There are other ways to be attractive and get girls.
id be at 8 at this time. been working out for half a decade, actively compete in MMA tournaments & got my own biz.
working on my acne & fashion more thoroughly the next 6 months. once that's fixed ill be up to 10.
I'm a great speller and punctuator and I know the strict definition of pH and can tell you who it was who first used the word 'interaction'. This combination has not served me particularly well.
Stop going out of your way to be weird and things will get much better for you.
@@bearclaw5115 I only do it on here, b. Very sound advice, though, that I'd've done well to follow as a kid. All best.
As a guy who's spent years building a top 5% physique, has gone out regularly to practice game, flirting and social skills in order to develop a confident, charismatic personality, spent the time to befriend the people at the bars I frequent, and has developed a good sense of style and appearance, yet somehow STILL gets no interest from women, I wish he'd do a video on guys like me.
And yes, I fully acknowledge that what I'm saying sounds impossible and must only happen to only the most unlucky of guys, but I assure you, we do exist.
Maybe you come across as a try hard? Maybe need to tone it down just a little and have a natural no fucks attitude
Do you think there's a chance you're giving off bad vibes to women? Meaning that your assessment of your confidence and charisma with women may not be as accurate as you think?
maybe you feel entitled to them. Then instead of just enjoying the interaction you think you deserve certains outcomes and that can be view as forced by women. I'm just speculating though. Good luck bro
No one is keeping it real with you😶🧬
Probably the name.
Todd the only problem I've ever had was an avoidant personality. Trusting a stranger enough to let them in terrifies me. Whats the solution to that?
Therapy
@@eliteguard_x Therapy is talking to someone with no solutions for $150 an hour
That can be a sign of a more deeper underlying issue. See yourself in others. Are you a bad person? No. Then assume they are a good person too. See the best in everyone and in yourself. Remember it's not you vs the world. It's you AND the world. You are the world and the world is you. You are a very necessary part of the whole.
Go find the attachment style youtube channels and explore for solutions.
Very comprehensive advice and meaningful.
Todd V had a glow up
Todd is so good at game he makes men feel sexy
How do you get comfortable having sex if you have low sexual experience and are nearing middle age?
Yes, this is one thing that Todd's channel lacks -- how to lead the sexual experience and provide the woman with an orgasm every time. Search for this information on the web. It is out there. It is a dance that you can learn. It is amazing how pliable women are in the bedroom. The bedroom is the one place they want you to take charge.
Confidence my man, and if you have to fake it til you make it do so
@@isaaclosh8082 Would you recommend exploring escorts? It has been a pretty long time for me, and I never had tons of sex to begin with, so I never made lots of progress in the actual skill of having sex. This was cause I was deeply insecure/broken in my 20's while I was more sexually active, so I was just always a terrible lay, uncoordinated, not fit, not comfortable naked, etc. Now I'm far more fit than ever, much more coordinated/capable of thinking about my partner due to 1 decade~ of meditation daily, but I lack the experience for sure.
You don't have to tell a woman about your past. Talk to yourself and remind yourself you are bad MF. How can anyone else believe it if you don't believe it?
Get yourself in good physical shape and just research works for women in bed
I just moved to a new town so I’m starting from scratch here. I feel like a 6 at the moment based on the social feedback I’m getting lol. I’m focusing on these areas daily should have massive improvement in 90 days
I can confirm that playing an instrument (a cool one like the guitar/piano/sax etc. Women don't get hot for euphonium players) does the trick. I'm a middle aged bloke playing guitar and singing in a band. I'm tall and fit, but I'm also pretty old. But when I play Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol, there isn't a dry seat in the house.
As a legit "hair guy", let me tell you this...if someone has ever said to you "you got your hair cut"...that means you waited too long. It's almost an insult to your grooming protocol. Nobody should notice you got a hair cut except you. The drastic change in look from 60 days with no hair cut to then suddenly a fresh fade and trim is too much at once. You will never have a consistent style to build around.
For me, I have a short mens fade and average to med length hair on top. The top gets scissored 1x a moth. But the fade is high maintenance and needs attention every two weeks min, pref every ten days to stay on point. If not my neck gets furry and my fade is no longer a fade. It's stuck in this middle ground of "just being hair"... If you are running a skin fade or .5 (clipper) or shorter fade I have bad news for you, that is NOT a low maintenance hair style because it's short. It's a HIGH maintenance style because it's short. For many reasons I can go on about this. So, pick your hair style wisely. A short fade is high maintenance, now low. He she says "nice hair cut"...its too late. You waited too long. Nobody should notice you got a hair cut.
The lowest maintenance hair I ever had was my long hair at age 30. I would get s clean up every 60 days.
Long Hair - low Maint
Short Hair - high Maint
Short hair (buzz cut whole head to 1mm of hair) is literally zero maintenance. Get a haircut every two weeks and you are set. It takes a minute to wash it and minute and a half to get it dry.
Excellent advice. I never thought about that before. If someone notices that you got a haircut, you waited to long. Excellent observation.
Good points.
Facts. If someone sees that you just had a haircut, it can come off as been cringe and socially awkward. Gents, the best thing you can learn is to cut your own hair. Remember if you screw it up, you can always shave it all off, it will grow back. Practice makes perfect. Once you get it right, you will be able to trim and maintain your hair like your facial hair whenever you want and for free (more money for the date) . Best part is that you can style your hair how you want every day or just before a date for a nice clean look. Takes me 10 min with a clipper
If the only thing between me and being successful with women was the frequency of my haircuts, I wouldn't be watching this video.
I'm a solid 5. Im.tall and muscular and not fat, but my abs are not visible and I'm also old. I'm 60
Step one- win the lottery.
You can practice your walk by using the treadmill
Better still go on hikes/long walks, and leave you phone at home/or in the car. Not only will you give your legs and body some much needed oomph, connecting with nature will do wonders for your aura. Quality women will soon begin to notice you
U dont need to go to the gym to get lean. Eat less calories, eat more protein that fill u up
Being spontaneous and trying to take girls home the same night have become significantly more risky these days. I am going to play it safe, even if I may not get the girl in the end. It's just too risky and your money is going to go way too fast.
I travel for photography with a pro level camera. So travel and photography I can talk for weeks about. Most ladies don't like travel or photography sadly because It's childish and immature interest I'm always told.
You're insane. Women love travel. Especially when you're paying for it!
@@bearclaw5115 I’ve learned quite the opposite. Washington DC ladies don’t like to travel more than 30 minutes for literally anything. The same ladies really don’t like to travel or photography.
@@animestarlord9021 WRONG LADIES. I call BS. Change your circle of influence. Or MOVE. And Even in as city and business like as DC, there is no way "most" women don't like to travel, You are fooling yourself yourself, my man. Photograpphy is a different thing, but that, you do for YOU, not for HER. Not to impress. That does not have to be a Key to your dating skills.
@@animestarlord9021 Women will almost certainly love your photography if you take amazing photos of her.
I have issues with my back, so have to swim everyday. Now I just have to smile)
Ofcourse I am gonna rate myself 10/10 specially after watching this video 😂
How is the guy supposed to flirt if it's unknown whether the woman likes him or not? Because he'll quickly be labeled "creepy" if he tries and she doesn't find him attractive.
Be friendly, crack a joke, make an astute observation. None of that can be construed as creepy. Flirting doesn't have to be overtly sexual just start having fun talking to people. Some respond, some don't. Don't have an agenda other than fun. You'll be fine!
So what bro we all gunna die anyways. Wing it. You can't get better at something by never trying. Only failing repeatedly and learning from those mistakes. as hard as it can be mentally to take that blow you gotta figure how to have that slf confidence to not let it drown you in depression
You simply put EFFORT into LEARNING how to know when a women likes you or not, and if it's for real or fake/tease. It's a SKILL, Learn it. Plenty of videos on it. Body Language secrets by Don Steel is an oldie but a goodie, as a basic starter. Learn along those lines, Women give signals when they like a man. Mos men are shotty at picking up those signals. Learn how to. IT's that simple. Learn.
Love you todd
Summary?
what about preselection
As a pickup artist, I can validate all that Todd has advised is spot on correct. Confidence is key. Free tip: Walk into a lingerie store and admire the lingerie, don't be shy. Check for sizes, prices etc. Wait for a woman to approach you, they usually like to ask, " So who's the lucky girl?" from here you can play on how you gonna respond, I would respond back saying " you are" . [wink]
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Am starting from a low base - so there's that.
Currently 2/10
I lack "rizz" as the kids are calling it because my confidence and inner game is shit.
It's ironic because looks wise I'm a 7 or 8
Watch inner game video by Todd v (sergio sorokonin)
I have been fine tuning for years. I have been "faking it" for years. I CAN'T FICKING COLD APPROACH. Went out with that my intention. Perfect opportunity. Girl walking towards me on opposite side of aisle with only product separating us. Had a great opening line in my head. BUT COULDN'T DO IT. I AM SO FRUSTRATED. I know what to do. Compliment, vibe, connect. I know it's ficking ok if she's not interested for whatever reason. I 'know it's ok if it turns out I'm not interested. I know I have lots to offer. I know I have more to offer than a lot of if not most other men. BUT I STILL CAN'T DO IT
Baby steps. Make "opening comments" to people you happen to be near. If you're standing near someone and it's raining, deadpan, "Beautiful weather." Practice doing that at every opportunity. Game is simply networking with escalation. Learn how to network. I recommend an old book called "Dig Your Well, Before You're Thirsty". Your first approaches should just be approaches. Do the approach and leave. For example, approach a woman and say, "That's a great outfit. You know sometimes women put together a great outfit like yours, and no one takes the time to complement them, even though everyone thinks that they look great. So, I just wanted you to know that this outfit looks great." Then walk away. You just made an approach. Finally, when you start approaching women and going beyond just the approach, choose women whom you feel are not very attractive. You will feel less nervous with these women, because you literally do not care how they respond. In fact, when you start dating, date women to whom you are not strongly attracted. It will make you appear very confident, because you literally do not care what they think of you. Ninety percent of the time your approach should be non-sexual, just mildly friendly and platonic. Just a networking approach.
@@brookvalley907 Thanks for the input. I get you about baby steps. The somewhat odd thing is I have had to approach strangers on the street for work and that I have no issue with. As much as I don't want to admit it, it freaks me out to cold approach - are they too young? Will my work find out I'm approaching girls - possibly ones that are underage (which of course I wouldn't act on but just the rumor.. I live in a small place) ? Will they look at me appraisingly and then vanish into a store which happened the one of very few times I approached? Will I come across too meekly because I don't want to be rejected? AHH. Baby steps. Focus right. I know what I have to do. I just hope I can convince myself in the moment to f cking do it. I did do the baby step thing - ask the time or similar - years ago and my ego is telling me I should be well past this but.. yes a compliment and moving is on is at least a step in the right direction.
@@globalcat exactly right. You have formulated the situation perfectly. That is half the battle. Be as patient with yourself as you would be with somebody else in your situation. One thing you might try is going to a nearby larger city where few people know you, and just practice the approach and complement exorcise or some other short encounter.
I invest in stocks but I’m not going to share that with a woman. I don’t ride motorcycles because they’re dangerous.
10 x 0 is still 0 thought Todd, advice for us then?
if you are not a crocodile you are not 0
++++ Social proof
We have the same haircut...i think its not the perfect...its 90s vibe haircut lol
View myself as an 8... see you in 6 months.
i bet yall some dudes here the risk taker advice and think gambling counts 🤣
Literally me
Let me guess. Just be confident
10 x 0 = 0
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best!!!
My sex appeal right now is a 9… I’ve been looks maxing and studying this for years
Happy for you, but you gotta work on your no-fab.. because what’s you just did is mental masturbation :P
It looks like a 6 to me. Don't put on a puesdo-gangster expression
@@samanglais post your picture
@@MrAdversarie why you defensive bro?
@@samanglais Nah bro... You have to take on your own unique look. Check out some other of Todd's videos about archetypes.
So, be Batman 🎉💪🏼🦇 lol
Invest in nice clothes, get a good hat, and turn into a brotha….lol
Don't ever say we came out of Africa again!
Timing too fire
awesome
I would say my sex appeal is 3/10.
ig my segs appeal 2/10
6/10 sex appeal
this guys advice isnt necessarily wrong but its shit. For example no one has to learn to flirting, flirting naturally occurs when two ppl who like eachother chat, if a guy wants to flirt with a girl hes gona have to get good looking so shes turned on, same as getting confident, hot guys are confident because women love them, the love from women makes the guy happy and confident, he gets love from them coz hes hot, so you dont have to fake confident, u need to get hot then girls will flirt and love him and then his ego will inflate and hel be a confidant man
Get good looking my arse! Assuming you have a reasonable BMI, chances are your looks are easily good enough for success with women.
It's complete bollocks that flirting naturally occur when 2 people like each other. What's far more likely to happen for most men is that they get tongue-tied or go into interview mode, or go into creepy-cringey mode when presented with a woman they're attracted to.
There's plenty of hot guys that aren't confident with women. Especially the women they're most attracted to.
Happiness should be self generated. I'm happy regardless of whether I'm in a relationship or not.
Confidence? Better to be competent with women than confident. Following Todd's advice is a great way to become competent with women.
7/10
9th grade 😊
Im 7
Money > Looks women are greedy AF 😂
You make it sound like building sex appeal is the same as building a career.
It is. Game is just networking with sexual escalation, and networking is the most vital skill in building a career. It you learn how to approach and talk with almost anyone about almost anything, you will have an amazing career, and an amazing sex life.
@@brookvalley907 that's too much work and sacrifice
@@brookvalley907 yeah, no thanks! I'm not that dedicated to procreate, it's too much effort for such a little reward.
It takes a lot of time and effort. That’s why a lot of guys don’t do it.
I’ve found they go hand in hand! It’s all marketing! Economic and Social marketing very closely related it’s all based on value.
6
I have zero sex appeal
So basically what your saying is to be a man
Stud
But looks don't matter
Definitely matter
Much of what Todd talked about was looks.
@drewg7441 It doesn't with 80 % of girls as long as you are about average looking..... There are the 20 % of girls who do care a lot about looks but they are a minority in my experience...
@@sonnykrulezzI agree. What most guys miss is that many Modells go out with confident broke guys with high social skills but a 3 or 4 in looks only…
@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Social skills are MUCH more important than looks for a guy... The small minority of women who do prioritize looks on a guy tend to have personality disorders in most cases in my observation...
You should shave the beard
Sex appeal 3
9.3 sex appeal
learn how to flirt
All dating videos are the same,the same info in every single one,gym blah blah blah
And I bet you still don't do any of the tips
But at the same time, dudes who don't have the discipline to do the stuff they say, keep making the same excuses. Blah blah blah...
what did you expect to find out? there is no magical secret 😂
@@KaizenWithRen yep i know yet these guys keep talking the same old crap
Tired looking Todd
Basically, lose all your identity for toxic women....
As someone who cold approaches, I find this: pathetic.
If a person's identity is to be a fat, unathletic, , lacking in social, skills addicted to a screen slob, you should be looking to improve yourself for you, and the side affect of that is that you become sexier to women
Cope
What good is your identity if it doesn't get you what you want?
"The dose makes the poison" is a fundamental concept in toxicology that means any substance can be toxic if taken in a large enough quantity. Toxic women can be fun, it you don't take too big a dose.
I'm a dancer. I walk past a lady. She's got wet pants.
You must have bumped into her drink.
Lifting heavy weights isn’t great for the long run. Focusing on time under tension is IMO modern body building. Your joints will thank you when you’re 60 😉
I am 60.
What do you suggest
Yes, excellent reply. Do not lift heavy weights. Lift most weights 10-15 reps with two left in the tank. Rely on time under tension. That's how you build and maintain muscle without injury. (I'm over 70. Been lifting for 50 years.)
Heavy is subjective. I think he what he means is to lift moderately heavy weights.
@@siniquezu he specifically said heavy without a modifier. Todd is incredibly articulate.
My sex appeal is a 9 right now. Cut off sugar completely to improve my facial, my vitality, cognitive ability and my physique (abs are ripped as ever! Face looks youthful as fuck!)
Without watching id say: dress better, get in shape, change your beard/hairstyle, do facial exercises.. as for the physical side goes..