Living on my own for the first time (no partner, no roommate or anything) starting at 26 is what started the downward spiral into burnout that eventually led me to realizing that I most likely am autistic at 30. I still live alone (alone as you can be with 4 dogs), but now I'm at least in the process of getting diagnosed.
@@quigli does not happen to you that you want to do too much but at the end your mind is so overwhelmed and unfocused plenty of thoughts and external stimulus mixed up and at the end you get so burnout that you don’t make anything… then you would feel guilty and lost..?
@@quigli watching a couple of your vids and seeing how you express yourself… you actually reminded me myself 😂😂 in a few words: I’m sure you’re Asperger.
I’m in my 50’s and never been married, always preferred my own space, and even though I’m working and paying my own bills I’m kinda lonely. I have family and they visit often. My issue is I have yet to meet a fellow aspie who would love and cherish me but promise to NEVER move in with me!😜
@@mollyjane4628 exactly! Except for family who can't help me, just calling regularly. I notice that people who does videos are in couple, have children. And I wonder who do they live with someone. And where are the single aspies!! 😊
There is hope out there! Be honest with anyone and you may well find someone just like you who wants to love you but not live with you! Aspies don't need to be alone (all the time) of they don't want to
I live independently in my own house. Due to very long waiting lists for care here in Belgium and me being labeled "high functioning" I officially only have somebody for 2 hours every 1.5 weeks to talk and help me organise, but she goes above and beyond to help me do some chores around the house while talking and often stays for 3+ hours. I'm very lucky she's so passionate about helping people. I also get help from my dad in the garden, but I really hope I don't have to wait too long anymore before I get somebody to help in the household at least once a week because it's hard for me to keep up with it, it seems so much to keep track of and my physical health doesn't help either.
@@Logan69420 Hi, thanks for asking! It was if the gods heard my prayers (as a figure of speech, not meant to offend people of any religion or something): after years of waiting I finally got updates about the waiting lists shortly after my post. I got assigned an annual budget to pay for people helping me at home or elsewhere. This allows me to afford the person who already came every +-1.5 weeks to come weekly on a fixed moment, which gives me a bit of structure I naturally don't seek but does help me. It also allows me to afford someone to come help me with my household chores, which should start at the beginning of 2022, I also asked to have them come on a fixed moment of the week. My father still helps me, this budget allows me to officially hire him. We figured out how much my dad is allowed to earn in a year without losing (part of) his already small retirement pension or paying lots of taxes and made a schedule around that, plus I can now pay him for the fuel he needs to get here or do stuff with me, which makes me feel a lot better about it. I am also allowed to use a fraction of that budget to spend on other things than people helping me, but still have something to do with my disabilities. F.e. If I had a really stressful period of all kinds of things happening one after the other or at the same time, I can use that part of the budget to buy tickets for me and somebody I want to take with me to go to a zoo/reserve/amusement park/... to relax, with that part of the budget of this year I bought a second hand dishwashing machine and a second hand wheelchair (my physical disabilities aren't "bad enough to need one", but navigating my own way through busy places overstimulates me, a wheelchair allows me to leave that up to the person who is with me without them having to say "over there" constantly, plus most people give you a bit of space when you're in a wheelchair).
Hi! I’ve been living alone since I was 27. But I was diagnosed in 2020 at 39. It’s been a learning curve, but I’m slowly getting there regarding what works for me. I could never live other people because of their habits and noise etc.
Living alone was a very hard and long transition for me. It took about 6 months before my apartment was even fully moved in because I spent so much time still staying at my mom and grandpa's houses. I had a lot of anxiety being in an unfamiliar environment and I really struggled with things like hygiene, chores/cleanliness and managing my time properly. I also struggled with the fact that I didn't (still don't) know how to drive and I had to get used to being on the bus more. Now, though, I love living alone because I get to control my own environment, have a safe place to decompress and be by myself, and I have far less melt downs and better sleep since my environment is more quiet and predictable.
I’m turning 18 and am self diagnosed as autistic with adhd honestly can’t wait to live independent since godamn i love being alone and having nobody to bother me and can listen to music&sing as much as i want without ppl telling me i am obsessed and finally owning a cat. Like i don’t have many support needs though but i do have trouble with Keeping things organized and doing chores especially since my career choice is a deep passion of mine and most times i start studying for it and forget about anything else A dream would be to get as rich as i can so i can hire a housekeeper😂
I like to live independently. I like time to myself, even when I'm with my parents I often spend time by myself. What I sometimes have trouble with is staying on top of the things to keep in order - cleaning, cooking etc - simply because I get distracted and before I know it, I've spent several hours focusing on the computer and then it's late and I'm hungry! I try and do some strategies such as setting alarms for myself to do essentials, plan the day in advance, things like that. I "fall down the rabbit hole" less now and it's more manageable when I do.
I can't wait for the day I can live on my own again, living with parents as an adult is such a challenge, because they still try to infantilize you, treat you like a kid, and be controlling at times. When i was away in college, it was a breath of fresh air, no parents controlling me infantilizing me, and I could be free and true to myself. I can set up my own routine without them interfering it. I do well living independently, i make my own schedule, appointments, do what i want to do, eat what i want, and focus on myself. Im good with cooking, paying bills, cleaning, so it won't be as bad.
I don't know if yourll see this but I currently live in a mental health supported house and in talks to going into independent living so this video was great to see. if you've ever lived on your own how did you cope with the change of environments? if not ignore I've watched you for some time and I am newly diagnosed and watching your videos have helped me so much with learning it's okay to be me. so thank you ❤️
Awesome! I typically listen to breathing meditations, on RUclips but can't always get signal so that tool is perfect. I love living by myself because I'm so sensitive to other's and find it difficult to concentrate on what I'm doing when people are around.
Hey 👋🏼 Dan, from Texas 🤠 came across your channel and immediately subscribed. I have a stepson that is high functioning autistic. Your videos are full of great info. Thanks 😊
Thanks for doing this, I work with adults on the spectrum and it's really useful to have this kind of input from someone who has ASC. While I have personal experience of autism and know a reasonable amount it I'm NT, so having this from the inside out helps me support people better.
Has anyone had any experience with carers where the help you receive becomes less and less effective due to isolation. I often find myself in a downward spiral of isolating too much and not being able to push myself to leave the house. I feel like carers wouldn’t be able to assist with this. I hope someone can educate me in this sense. I’m so grateful for this channel ❤️
Thanks Dan, really interesting video and not soemthing often covered. Myself and my partner are both on the spectrum and we live together but apart. It's great. We do sometimes think we could do with some kind of housekeeper/carer/cook/paperwork person/cleaner just to help us on those days when everything is too much. In some ways we do these tasks for each other though which is nice
I'm almost in my 30s and deal with aspergers and this was a question I had a long time ago. The thought that one day I'll move out on my own or with my girlfriend and away from my parents does terrify me, I tell my girlfriend all the time, there are several things in this world that I just dont know how to do. They werent ever taught to me. I.e. updating your drivers license eith your most recent address on it, where exactly do I pay my bills if they arnt online. All these things. It's truly terrifying to me. So Dan, thanks for this video! It has helped a little eith putting my mind more at ease with independent living with aspergers. Not 100% sure if we have all those provided help programs here in the U.S. but it's definitely something to look into.
I'm High Functioning Autistic, I got married towards the end of last year and we are about to buy a camper and try to find some land of our own to live off grid. We're both pretty excited about it. I'd like to live like the pioneers, build our own home and such. I've lived at home way too long. My wife sees how mean my mother is towards me. From videos I've seen on RUclips it shows kinder parents that try to be more understanding but not my mother. So we're going to find somewhere for just us two. So here in Kentucky, going to try to find some place that has at least a well for water then we are going to get solar panels. Too hard to live on what I get each month to rent some place. My wife's house was destroyed by EF-4 tornado not too long ago, in the next county over. But she's getting money back, so we are going yo use that to move else-where... I can't hardly wait. Then I won't have a negative minded mother around restricting me and making me think I can't do this or that. Maybe my Schizoid personality will go away to, I'm hoping. I use to be a very positive minded person, but after years of negativity then I became negative minded. I don't like the negativity on a constant.
i have a question- i have this thingy (i forgot what its called-) and it says on it i wont be able to like alone, but im prett high functioning. If my mum let me do things by myself I’ll be fine doing things but she doesnt (im 16) and i really want ro live with my best friend in the future but im scared i wont be able to
In Australia those sort of supports are now organised through NDIS, the process to get approved is a lot of paperwork and red tape and even after you are approved they do reviews of it - usually to see if they can reduce the amount of funding that they are giving you
Hi I live in Australia and i have been living independently for 11 years and support after our NDIS (National Disability Insurance Scheme) i have had support (for 5 years) to help clean my flat, to go shopping, to help socalise with friends.
I live in a home for the elderly and disabled. I don’t get care or anything but the amount I spend is very affordable. Before I moved I lived in a house with two other people.
This whistle tool sounds interesting but I get way too obsessed with my breathing and can go weeks feeling like I can't catch a deep breath sometimes hyperventilating not sure it'd work for me Edit: I think this would work for someone I know tho I think I'll add it to my Christmas list thanks for the recommendation
My dad met them through a conference in Cornwallis about disabled people. Everyone from all over Nova Scotia went to the conference and that’s where my dad met Steve he got me into community living. Steve’s retired now, so I feel like my days in me living or somewhat numbered but I’m still here.
I've been independently housed for many years, some issues here and there. Now, I'm gonna lose everything I've worked for. My services have collaped due to covid 19, accommodations I once had are ignored, my distress is treated as hostilities even when I've support staff involved saying no, that's not aggression. At this point I've given in, self efficacy, whats that. My dog is 11, kidneys are failing. I can just hope she goes faster than my housing. I promised she'd never be homeless but she's all I have. My own health issues are......digressing. Why did everyone say that learning these skills will empower, enable and enrich my experience with people and their systems. It's a lie, I could've done something else with years of effort. Thanks for the video. I was hopeful for a minute. Take great care
I'm looking to live independently in Texas in The USA & I'm torn between three options 1. Live in a Supported Living Arrangement, I think here it's called an Assisted Living Center, I don't know what all they can help me manage and My Mom thinks that I'd be too restrictive for me because she thinks that just people with severe Intellectual Disability live in those arrangements or 2. I could live in a Low-Income Apartment with a Docent I think here it's called a Home Care Aide checking up on My Once or Twice a Day, or I could get and/ or train an Autism\ Psychiatric Service Dog to help aide in making sure that I am safe, but I don't think I can live totally unaided, alone, by myself.
I'm currently independent living... have been for nearly 7 years but I have multipul disabilities and hospital raised a safe guarding concern at the start of this year... ive only just been assigned a social worker to try and sort out carers! They seem to have the attitude of ive lived independently for 7 years so why should they give me help now! Xx
That whistle thing IS SIXTY FIVE FCKING QUID DAN. You’re talking to people that typically have trouble keeping a job..... no wonder you gave them a GLOWING review. They paid handsomely for it, eh!
Dan, you and I have the same nose shape, even the cleft down the middle. Just wanted to point that out! Anyway, I live alone and “function “ in the scary big world but I’m lonely. I commented on someone else’s comment that I’d love to meet and fall in love with a fellow Aspie and NEVER live together.
This is sooo helpful! The only thing is that the title is a little bit misleading, if it were me I would make the title something like different types of independent living care or make this a 2 parter, the second part going in detail about what it’s like to live on your own as an autistic but overall great video
My whole family just irritates me so much (dw i still like them) and I’m excited that i get to move but honestly really scared since i have to cook and pay my own bills and i have no idea how to do any of that
I would love to live independently however I get constant burnout from working. and having house chores on top of this sounds honestly terrifying. does anyone have any advice for this? or can relate etc. thank you
Recently discovering I may have ASD, very glad I found your channel. Random question if you have ime, but do you ever get stuck in what I call "hyperbolic hypotheticals"? I have a tendency to overthink a situation and analyze things to where I imagine numerous outcomes to it with the majority being negative in nature.
Yes! Just 20 minutes ago I gave myself a panic attack imaging what I’d do if my house caught on fire and I had to check my pockets to see if my keys were there...the keys were for the car, I’d get my pets in the car and then... or no- I should call the fire department first...”where’s my phone...” I had to take a big breath and redirect my brain. I do this kind of crap to myself with different types of panic inducing scenarios every day.
I’m with Metro community living Isaiah worker only five times a week for one hour, so I’m pretty independent but I was curious what would pop out I typed in RUclips?
Hi you could live independently. Do you have a Care/ support plan. If not you can request one first. As it will help identify any support your entitled to. And you can apply to your local council or housing association. You could then if you had any support needs arrange for a personal assistant to support you. Go to your local government website for your local social care team.
I often wonder how can a aspie live with someone, have kids... How do they meet, when do they tell about asperger, how make them understand we need to be alone and in silence a little time every day. I had some relationships, but I had to get medication because my level of anxiety get to the roof, and then stop the relationship after 2 or 3 months. I have 53 and comorbidities, so I know how I could deal with this. I notice a lot of vlogers have a partner, even children. Maybe you could make a video about those things, it would be great. Thank you.
i grew up with house helper who cook, clean, do laundry and accompany to do groceries and i really miss it because now i really have a hard time keeping up with all the hpuse chores. my ex's mother she always feel sick so she always has someone to accompany her to the hospital and take care of her needs and clean her hpuse at the same time. in other words i'm used to the idea of having help arpund the hpuse. it's not new to me and if i can just afford i will hire one. but of course not all maids are honest and good and it's actually hatd to gind one who is trustworthy. a lot of people don't realize this but maids and,or carers offer such the big help to the community so it's really annoying when some people abuse thrm and treat them like shit.
Hello from Aussie Down Under!! My name is Victoria and I am 20. I have Aspergers and ADD and maybe a mild case of OCD (it hasn’t been diagnosed). My question to you is: did you watch Elon Musk’s confession that he has Aspergers on the SNL show? Have a great day!! I love watching your videos!!
Jen from rebranding autism stays at a really cool housing facility. she gets her own house and everything but also has staff. my son is almost 8 I hope if he chooses to live alone when he gets of age that they have some type of place like that here in Oklahoma. it's awesome where she lives but it's in Florida
I was hoping to find advice for people who are trying to live alone and don't have access to services like this, but this is still useful advice for plenty of people, I'm sure. ❤️ I don't even know how to get access to someone who can diagnose me, the free services around here (Tennessee, USA) are mainly focused on just treating depression and anxiety. I don't feel that helping people with autism or ADHD is a priority here. 😕 I'll still look at your resources, but I'm not hopeful.
I would have to admit I am scared about independent living due to the fact that I forget everything all the time and some things don't seem to go right at times (yeah I'm autistic forgot to say)
exercise is best , that can be taken away from you ,they may think its a weapon indepentent living you dont have a choice ,live or die thats the choice ! CARE what CARE
I currently receive a waiver called the family support waiver and I get only two hours a day and it’s all state funded here in Indiana and I live in Indianapolis United States and they basically would come in and can help with certain things each day for only two hours a day my wife receives the CIH waiver of community integration him habilitation waiver and she would normally get eight hours a day but they pushed her down to four hours a day by the water by the provider that we are getting rid of and I seriously would like to get more hours for both of us to get the proper help at all that we need and as of July I will be tested for autism professionally and if I have it which I’m quite sure I do that I will need extra assistance and help with things
What about people with ASD which are capable of working but still suffer the same difficulties but manage to mask this,at the cost of their health and happiness,I always knew that I was different from childhood,it was when I got into my early 40s and basically had a nervous breakdown that it was discovered that I had ASD,after this diagnosis I was offered zero help when I was referred to Hampshire autism,when your an adult they don’t want to know you.
I had 4 walls but could not manage with bills and budgeting after spending 3 years living on the road. A family relative as I called him as I a child Uncle Jonesy whilst expecting my first child got in touch with another family member who had a farm after I was facing been thrown out of flat as I was not coping with bills and noise my uncle got me a static and I lived on the family farm off-grid growing my own living and working the land happy times. Then that family member pass way suddenly and Me and children got put back into 4 walls and again with no plan or support same thing but this time in large amount of debt and ex partner found me again and life hell then a cousin got in touch with aunt and me and 3 children moved onto another off-grid site and life is more balanced and becoming more debt free but I have some support from family I have left and children are grown and doing well in their next stage of life. Each person is different and have different needs but it is hard to find the right support when you have a society saying you are not disabled or NAS saying you not autistic enough. Being a single mum and trying to juggle children work and my own needs is a challenage and it does not get any easier as you get older I did not relise until my cousin Lisa said that I am coming more of reclose and less time out. I just enjoy peace and watching the birds and my animals on the holding. My other cousin is dragging me to autism meeting next week and already feeling sick and dreading it. Despite being trader and in enviroment where I am with people I just do not mix or talk except thanking a customer I just in corner of my gazbo and take customer money. I cannot get any support whilst in market places when an retired gentlemen is not there he make sure I have a drink as I do not remember to drink and make sure I eat as I do not remember I need to eat or doing clearance. Also I am deaf in one ear and losing hearing in the other. I am just struggling to find any kind of support and I have tried some of these places.
Hey I’m here because I really really want advice on this, it has taken me over a year to get a proper autism diagnosis because we can’t afford private so I was put on a waiting list, keep in mind I have had to mask my issues for years and my whole life I have just known I’m autistic, and they told me they don’t think I have autism because of some stupid reasons And also tried to put all of my symptoms on my ADHD I’m just finding it really hard to deal with knowing I’m autistic but no one listening to me :( what do i do or what can I do?
I've never heard about something like this in my country. Can you describe the person that can need such help? Is this person able to work or not? Can you tell more about examples of people on different levels of the spectrum, how they live may look like?
Am I the only one who saw the Simpson’s clip...twice...in this video? Or, am I just the only one to have found it’s being there bizarre and confusing? Or, was it NOT actually here, and I can now rest assured that I am legitimately certifiable?
Hey! While editing this with my headphones on full blast (to make sure I have good voice levels), Dan dropped something on his desk. Through my headphones, it was so very loud! Hurt my ears.
@@ReverenXero congratulations and thanks for rubbing that in. I only realised I’m autistic in the last few months and I’m 42 and chronically ill with multiple things. On the other hand, not having children is the one biggest thing somebody can do towards reducing the climate emergency.. So.. you’re welcome.
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Living alone is better than living with people you constantly argue and disagree with.
That is very true
Yes! In that position myself. Needing somewhere ot live asap where i can form and control my environment how i need it.
Damn right I’m about done having dumb arguments with my mother
Sooo true
Living on my own for the first time (no partner, no roommate or anything) starting at 26 is what started the downward spiral into burnout that eventually led me to realizing that I most likely am autistic at 30. I still live alone (alone as you can be with 4 dogs), but now I'm at least in the process of getting diagnosed.
How did you get burnout??
Unfocused?
@@elcanaldelmacaco2243 I was just trying to do too much. I overextended myself for a long period of time.
@@quigli does not happen to you that you want to do too much but at the end your mind is so overwhelmed and unfocused plenty of thoughts and external stimulus mixed up and at the end you get so burnout that you don’t make anything… then you would feel guilty and lost..?
@@quigli watching a couple of your vids and seeing how you express yourself… you actually reminded me myself 😂😂 in a few words: I’m sure you’re Asperger.
Bro I am autistic and I actually live alone I can actually manage living on my own and living alone most of the time I feel like an outsider at times
I don't blame you as an autistic individual myself I feel like an outsider most times too
When you have Aspergers you prefer to live alone but have family close by
I’m in my 50’s and never been married, always preferred my own space, and even though I’m working and paying my own bills I’m kinda lonely. I have family and they visit often. My issue is I have yet to meet a fellow aspie who would love and cherish me but promise to NEVER move in with me!😜
@@mollyjane4628 exactly! Except for family who can't help me, just calling regularly. I notice that people who does videos are in couple, have children. And I wonder who do they live with someone. And where are the single aspies!! 😊
There is hope out there! Be honest with anyone and you may well find someone just like you who wants to love you but not live with you! Aspies don't need to be alone (all the time) of they don't want to
@@Sky-Child thank you
I'm with a filipina I discovered as an aspie foreign women just.make me feel more comfortable I'm treated like a person
I live independently in my own house. Due to very long waiting lists for care here in Belgium and me being labeled "high functioning" I officially only have somebody for 2 hours every 1.5 weeks to talk and help me organise, but she goes above and beyond to help me do some chores around the house while talking and often stays for 3+ hours. I'm very lucky she's so passionate about helping people. I also get help from my dad in the garden, but I really hope I don't have to wait too long anymore before I get somebody to help in the household at least once a week because it's hard for me to keep up with it, it seems so much to keep track of and my physical health doesn't help either.
Hope you doing ok
@@Logan69420 Hi, thanks for asking!
It was if the gods heard my prayers (as a figure of speech, not meant to offend people of any religion or something): after years of waiting I finally got updates about the waiting lists shortly after my post.
I got assigned an annual budget to pay for people helping me at home or elsewhere. This allows me to afford the person who already came every +-1.5 weeks to come weekly on a fixed moment, which gives me a bit of structure I naturally don't seek but does help me. It also allows me to afford someone to come help me with my household chores, which should start at the beginning of 2022, I also asked to have them come on a fixed moment of the week.
My father still helps me, this budget allows me to officially hire him. We figured out how much my dad is allowed to earn in a year without losing (part of) his already small retirement pension or paying lots of taxes and made a schedule around that, plus I can now pay him for the fuel he needs to get here or do stuff with me, which makes me feel a lot better about it.
I am also allowed to use a fraction of that budget to spend on other things than people helping me, but still have something to do with my disabilities. F.e. If I had a really stressful period of all kinds of things happening one after the other or at the same time, I can use that part of the budget to buy tickets for me and somebody I want to take with me to go to a zoo/reserve/amusement park/... to relax, with that part of the budget of this year I bought a second hand dishwashing machine and a second hand wheelchair (my physical disabilities aren't "bad enough to need one", but navigating my own way through busy places overstimulates me, a wheelchair allows me to leave that up to the person who is with me without them having to say "over there" constantly, plus most people give you a bit of space when you're in a wheelchair).
@@Candisa wow! so glad it all worked out 😊
Hi! I’ve been living alone since I was 27. But I was diagnosed in 2020 at 39. It’s been a learning curve, but I’m slowly getting there regarding what works for me. I could never live other people because of their habits and noise etc.
Living alone was a very hard and long transition for me. It took about 6 months before my apartment was even fully moved in because I spent so much time still staying at my mom and grandpa's houses. I had a lot of anxiety being in an unfamiliar environment and I really struggled with things like hygiene, chores/cleanliness and managing my time properly. I also struggled with the fact that I didn't (still don't) know how to drive and I had to get used to being on the bus more. Now, though, I love living alone because I get to control my own environment, have a safe place to decompress and be by myself, and I have far less melt downs and better sleep since my environment is more quiet and predictable.
I’m turning 18 and am self diagnosed as autistic with adhd honestly can’t wait to live independent since godamn i love being alone and having nobody to bother me and can listen to music&sing as much as i want without ppl telling me i am obsessed and finally owning a cat. Like i don’t have many support needs though but i do have trouble with Keeping things organized and doing chores especially since my career choice is a deep passion of mine and most times i start studying for it and forget about anything else
A dream would be to get as rich as i can so i can hire a housekeeper😂
Who else inhaled
when he said "you inhale" and inhaled...i did..idk why.😂
I like to live independently. I like time to myself, even when I'm with my parents I often spend time by myself. What I sometimes have trouble with is staying on top of the things to keep in order - cleaning, cooking etc - simply because I get distracted and before I know it, I've spent several hours focusing on the computer and then it's late and I'm hungry! I try and do some strategies such as setting alarms for myself to do essentials, plan the day in advance, things like that. I "fall down the rabbit hole" less now and it's more manageable when I do.
Same for me
I can't wait for the day I can live on my own again, living with parents as an adult is such a challenge, because they still try to infantilize you, treat you like a kid, and be controlling at times. When i was away in college, it was a breath of fresh air, no parents controlling me infantilizing me, and I could be free and true to myself. I can set up my own routine without them interfering it. I do well living independently, i make my own schedule, appointments, do what i want to do, eat what i want, and focus on myself. Im good with cooking, paying bills, cleaning, so it won't be as bad.
Bro you just summarized my experience.
Living alone and rejection sensitive dysphoria, during a pandemic. Really feels like I'm a feral animal who can't communicate with society at all.
Your channel is my favorite channel to learn about Neuro-diverse issues/resources, etc..
Thank you!
I don't know if yourll see this but I currently live in a mental health supported house and in talks to going into independent living so this video was great to see. if you've ever lived on your own how did you cope with the change of environments? if not ignore I've watched you for some time and I am newly diagnosed and watching your videos have helped me so much with learning it's okay to be me. so thank you ❤️
Awesome! I typically listen to breathing meditations, on RUclips but can't always get signal so that tool is perfect. I love living by myself because I'm so sensitive to other's and find it difficult to concentrate on what I'm doing when people are around.
Hey 👋🏼 Dan, from Texas 🤠 came across your channel and immediately subscribed. I have a stepson that is high functioning autistic. Your videos are full of great info. Thanks 😊
Thanks for doing this, I work with adults on the spectrum and it's really useful to have this kind of input from someone who has ASC. While I have personal experience of autism and know a reasonable amount it I'm NT, so having this from the inside out helps me support people better.
Has anyone had any experience with carers where the help you receive becomes less and less effective due to isolation. I often find myself in a downward spiral of isolating too much and not being able to push myself to leave the house. I feel like carers wouldn’t be able to assist with this. I hope someone can educate me in this sense. I’m so grateful for this channel ❤️
Thanks Dan, really interesting video and not soemthing often covered. Myself and my partner are both on the spectrum and we live together but apart. It's great. We do sometimes think we could do with some kind of housekeeper/carer/cook/paperwork person/cleaner just to help us on those days when everything is too much. In some ways we do these tasks for each other though which is nice
I'm almost in my 30s and deal with aspergers and this was a question I had a long time ago. The thought that one day I'll move out on my own or with my girlfriend and away from my parents does terrify me, I tell my girlfriend all the time, there are several things in this world that I just dont know how to do. They werent ever taught to me. I.e. updating your drivers license eith your most recent address on it, where exactly do I pay my bills if they arnt online. All these things. It's truly terrifying to me. So Dan, thanks for this video! It has helped a little eith putting my mind more at ease with independent living with aspergers. Not 100% sure if we have all those provided help programs here in the U.S. but it's definitely something to look into.
I'm High Functioning Autistic, I got married towards the end of last year and we are about to buy a camper and try to find some land of our own to live off grid.
We're both pretty excited about it. I'd like to live like the pioneers, build our own home and such. I've lived at home way too long. My wife sees how mean my mother is towards me. From videos I've seen on RUclips it shows kinder parents that try to be more understanding but not my mother. So we're going to find somewhere for just us two. So here in Kentucky, going to try to find some place that has at least a well for water then we are going to get solar panels. Too hard to live on what I get each month to rent some place. My wife's house was destroyed by EF-4 tornado not too long ago, in the next county over. But she's getting money back, so we are going yo use that to move else-where... I can't hardly wait. Then I won't have a negative minded mother around restricting me and making me think I can't do this or that. Maybe my Schizoid personality will go away to, I'm hoping. I use to be a very positive minded person, but after years of negativity then I became negative minded. I don't like the negativity on a constant.
same, on my own trying to do the same thing with a similar parental situation. Good luck to you and I hope thing have turned out well for you
i have a question- i have this thingy (i forgot what its called-) and it says on it i wont be able to like alone, but im prett high functioning. If my mum let me do things by myself I’ll be fine doing things but she doesnt (im 16) and i really want ro live with my best friend in the future but im scared i wont be able to
Metro community living is supportive living. I love it I don’t wanna be in a group home where I’m constantly controlled all the time.
I am really proud of you Dan. You have handled yourself with asd so well. You are an isnpiration to all
In Australia those sort of supports are now organised through NDIS, the process to get approved is a lot of paperwork and red tape and even after you are approved they do reviews of it - usually to see if they can reduce the amount of funding that they are giving you
thanks for video i am autistic i am looking to be indepently in my own place
Hi
I live in Australia and i have been living independently for 11 years and support after our NDIS (National Disability Insurance Scheme) i have had support (for 5 years) to help clean my flat, to go shopping, to help socalise with friends.
I live in a home for the elderly and disabled. I don’t get care or anything but the amount I spend is very affordable. Before I moved I lived in a house with two other people.
Do you share facilities?
This whistle tool sounds interesting but I get way too obsessed with my breathing and can go weeks feeling like I can't catch a deep breath sometimes hyperventilating not sure it'd work for me
Edit: I think this would work for someone I know tho I think I'll add it to my Christmas list thanks for the recommendation
My dad met them through a conference in Cornwallis about disabled people. Everyone from all over Nova Scotia went to the conference and that’s where my dad met Steve he got me into community living. Steve’s retired now, so I feel like my days in me living or somewhat numbered but I’m still here.
I've been independently housed for many years, some issues here and there. Now, I'm gonna lose everything I've worked for. My services have collaped due to covid 19, accommodations I once had are ignored, my distress is treated as hostilities even when I've support staff involved saying no, that's not aggression. At this point I've given in, self efficacy, whats that. My dog is 11, kidneys are failing. I can just hope she goes faster than my housing. I promised she'd never be homeless but she's all I have.
My own health issues are......digressing.
Why did everyone say that learning these skills will empower, enable and enrich my experience with people and their systems. It's a lie, I could've done something else with years of effort.
Thanks for the video. I was hopeful for a minute.
Take great care
Why are you losing your housing? What happened exactly?
Im sorry this is happening to you. What area do you live in. Just support will depend on area you are from.
I'm looking to live independently in Texas in The USA & I'm torn between three options 1. Live in a Supported Living Arrangement, I think here it's called an Assisted Living Center, I don't know what all they can help me manage and My Mom thinks that I'd be too restrictive for me because she thinks that just people with severe Intellectual Disability live in those arrangements or 2. I could live in a Low-Income Apartment with a Docent I think here it's called a Home Care Aide checking up on My Once or Twice a Day, or I could get and/ or train an Autism\ Psychiatric Service Dog to help aide in making sure that I am safe, but I don't think I can live totally unaided, alone, by myself.
Love your videos Dan! Really Helpful to see a glimpse of adulthood of my child.
I'm currently independent living... have been for nearly 7 years but I have multipul disabilities and hospital raised a safe guarding concern at the start of this year... ive only just been assigned a social worker to try and sort out carers! They seem to have the attitude of ive lived independently for 7 years so why should they give me help now! Xx
That whistle thing IS SIXTY FIVE FCKING QUID DAN.
You’re talking to people that typically have trouble keeping a job.....
no wonder you gave them a GLOWING review. They paid handsomely for it, eh!
@Simon Simoney Live, Laugh, Love….. 😂😂
Dan, you and I have the same nose shape, even the cleft down the middle. Just wanted to point that out! Anyway, I live alone and “function “ in the scary big world but I’m lonely. I commented on someone else’s comment that I’d love to meet and fall in love with a fellow Aspie and NEVER live together.
Love your videos man! 😄🙏🏻
This is sooo helpful! The only thing is that the title is a little bit misleading, if it were me I would make the title something like different types of independent living care or make this a 2 parter, the second part going in detail about what it’s like to live on your own as an autistic but overall great video
I need to know about finding housing for an adult who has autism and can’t live alone.
My whole family just irritates me so much (dw i still like them) and I’m excited that i get to move but honestly really scared since i have to cook and pay my own bills and i have no idea how to do any of that
I would love to live independently however I get constant burnout from working. and having house chores on top of this sounds honestly terrifying. does anyone have any advice for this? or can relate etc. thank you
We have the same name! I relate so much !
Recently discovering I may have ASD, very glad I found your channel. Random question if you have ime, but do you ever get stuck in what I call "hyperbolic hypotheticals"?
I have a tendency to overthink a situation and analyze things to where I imagine numerous outcomes to it with the majority being negative in nature.
Yes! Just 20 minutes ago I gave myself a panic attack imaging what I’d do if my house caught on fire and I had to check my pockets to see if my keys were there...the keys were for the car, I’d get my pets in the car and then... or no- I should call the fire department first...”where’s my phone...” I had to take a big breath and redirect my brain. I do this kind of crap to myself with different types of panic inducing scenarios every day.
@@mollyjane4628 I hope you understand my meaning when I say I'm glad to find out I"m not alone with overthinking.
I’m with Metro community living Isaiah worker only five times a week for one hour, so I’m pretty independent but I was curious what would pop out I typed in RUclips?
I’m 19 and autistic and my moms kicking me out soon. I really don’t wanna live in a group home so I’m trying to find a cheap place to go-
Hi you could live independently. Do you have a Care/ support plan. If not you can request one first. As it will help identify any support your entitled to. And you can apply to your local council or housing association. You could then if you had any support needs arrange for a personal assistant to support you. Go to your local government website for your local social care team.
u r the only ones i can watch without speeding up :)
OK Dan. That's fine for you. We live in the U.S. The UK seems much better about this than the U.S.
I often wonder how can a aspie live with someone, have kids... How do they meet, when do they tell about asperger, how make them understand we need to be alone and in silence a little time every day. I had some relationships, but I had to get medication because my level of anxiety get to the roof, and then stop the relationship after 2 or 3 months.
I have 53 and comorbidities, so I know how I could deal with this. I notice a lot of vlogers have a partner, even children. Maybe you could make a video about those things, it would be great. Thank you.
i grew up with house helper who cook, clean, do laundry and accompany to do groceries and i really miss it because now i really have a hard time keeping up with all the hpuse chores. my ex's mother she always feel
sick so she always has someone to accompany her to the hospital and take care of her needs and clean her hpuse at the same time. in other words i'm used to the idea of having help arpund the hpuse. it's not new to me and if i can just afford i will hire one. but of course not all maids are honest and good and it's actually hatd to gind one who is trustworthy.
a lot of people don't realize this but maids and,or carers offer such the big help to the community so it's really annoying when some people abuse thrm and treat them like shit.
Hello from Aussie Down Under!! My name is Victoria and I am 20. I have Aspergers and ADD and maybe a mild case of OCD (it hasn’t been diagnosed). My question to you is: did you watch Elon Musk’s confession that he has Aspergers on the SNL show?
Have a great day!! I love watching your videos!!
Jen from rebranding autism stays at a really cool housing facility. she gets her own house and everything but also has staff. my son is almost 8 I hope if he chooses to live alone when he gets of age that they have some type of place like that here in Oklahoma. it's awesome where she lives but it's in Florida
i want to live by myself what should i do
I was hoping to find advice for people who are trying to live alone and don't have access to services like this, but this is still useful advice for plenty of people, I'm sure. ❤️ I don't even know how to get access to someone who can diagnose me, the free services around here (Tennessee, USA) are mainly focused on just treating depression and anxiety. I don't feel that helping people with autism or ADHD is a priority here. 😕 I'll still look at your resources, but I'm not hopeful.
I have Autism and l'm am scared living on my own
I would have to admit I am scared about independent living due to the fact that I forget everything all the time and some things don't seem to go right at times (yeah I'm autistic forgot to say)
Would it be common for high functioning autistic men to live alone?
Id say yes its more common in my experience but as unique we all are there's no set rule, depends on each of our needs.
And of course, they always threaten me with a group home, but they never do
exercise is best , that can be taken away from you ,they may think its a weapon indepentent living you dont have a choice ,live or die thats the choice ! CARE what CARE
What do you mean?
....Get a labrador care-the best care you'll ever have!
Can you do a video on tips for autistics who are actually living by themselves?
I currently receive a waiver called the family support waiver and I get only two hours a day and it’s all state funded here in Indiana and I live in Indianapolis United States and they basically would come in and can help with certain things each day for only two hours a day my wife receives the CIH waiver of community integration him habilitation waiver and she would normally get eight hours a day but they pushed her down to four hours a day by the water by the provider that we are getting rid of and I seriously would like to get more hours for both of us to get the proper help at all that we need and as of July I will be tested for autism professionally and if I have it which I’m quite sure I do that I will need extra assistance and help with things
500th like way to go dude ☺
Stella wasn’t for my dad, Peter Wyman I would never gotten into community living Halifax
Bookmark 1:50
I’m autistic and looking into getting my own place
What about people with ASD which are capable of working but still suffer the same difficulties but manage to mask this,at the cost of their health and happiness,I always knew that I was different from childhood,it was when I got into my early 40s and basically had a nervous breakdown that it was discovered that I had ASD,after this diagnosis I was offered zero help when I was referred to Hampshire autism,when your an adult they don’t want to know you.
I had 4 walls but could not manage with bills and budgeting after spending 3 years living on the road. A family relative as I called him as I a child Uncle Jonesy whilst expecting my first child got in touch with another family member who had a farm after I was facing been thrown out of flat as I was not coping with bills and noise my uncle got me a static and I lived on the family farm off-grid growing my own living and working the land happy times. Then that family member pass way suddenly and Me and children got put back into 4 walls and again with no plan or support same thing but this time in large amount of debt and ex partner found me again and life hell then a cousin got in touch with aunt and me and 3 children moved onto another off-grid site and life is more balanced and becoming more debt free but I have some support from family I have left and children are grown and doing well in their next stage of life. Each person is different and have different needs but it is hard to find the right support when you have a society saying you are not disabled or NAS saying you not autistic enough. Being a single mum and trying to juggle children work and my own needs is a challenage and it does not get any easier as you get older I did not relise until my cousin Lisa said that I am coming more of reclose and less time out. I just enjoy peace and watching the birds and my animals on the holding. My other cousin is dragging me to autism meeting next week and already feeling sick and dreading it. Despite being trader and in enviroment where I am with people I just do not mix or talk except thanking a customer I just in corner of my gazbo and take customer money. I cannot get any support whilst in market places when an retired gentlemen is not there he make sure I have a drink as I do not remember to drink and make sure I eat as I do not remember I need to eat or doing clearance. Also I am deaf in one ear and losing hearing in the other. I am just struggling to find any kind of support and I have tried some of these places.
Dan, do you have a driver's license? Do you want, need or like to drive?
Hey I’m here because I really really want advice on this, it has taken me over a year to get a proper autism diagnosis because we can’t afford private so I was put on a waiting list, keep in mind I have had to mask my issues for years and my whole life I have just known I’m autistic, and they told me they don’t think I have autism because of some stupid reasons And also tried to put all of my symptoms on my ADHD I’m just finding it really hard to deal with knowing I’m autistic but no one listening to me :( what do i do or what can I do?
I've never heard about something like this in my country. Can you describe the person that can need such help? Is this person able to work or not? Can you tell more about examples of people on different levels of the spectrum, how they live may look like?
Two days ago I was diagnosed with social communication disorder but I don’t think it was a good diagnosed l think I am aspergers
That intro! 😅😜😂
Hello aspie life
Haha
@@TheAspieWorld hello bro
Hey Jeremy! How’s it going? 😄
* dabs *
Hello
I can’t live alone
This is for surviving with autism.
I’m sorry for putting this in this chat I need to bottle it up I’m sorry
I’m running away
Notifications gang 😊
Am I the only one who saw the Simpson’s clip...twice...in this video? Or, am I just the only one to have found it’s being there bizarre and confusing? Or, was it NOT actually here, and I can now rest assured that I am legitimately certifiable?
Hey! While editing this with my headphones on full blast (to make sure I have good voice levels), Dan dropped something on his desk. Through my headphones, it was so very loud! Hurt my ears.
@@alexwattsblog1406 Oh! Lol. I am so glad you told me. This would have bothered me forever otherwise! 😂
I know I thought I was going crazy
Yo
You talk so fast can you slow down please
I’m autism mum. I need a power for help my son
Great experience doc, you are a God'sent dr odija on RUclips, keep up the good work, I am completely free from HIV .
Useless apparatus… Marketing these days is unbelievable
Honestly, I think we are better off alone.
Definitely not everyone. Many autistic people need support, some more than others.
Doesn’t bode well for for having a family though eh. Gutted.
@@ascgazz I already have kids :)
@@ReverenXero congratulations and thanks for rubbing that in.
I only realised I’m autistic in the last few months and I’m 42 and chronically ill with multiple things.
On the other hand, not having children is the one biggest thing somebody can do towards reducing the climate emergency..
So.. you’re welcome.
Oh my frigging ears 😆 🤣
I wanna die
Holy.. rambling. I'm out
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