I’m 81, have not had a formal diagnosis, but accidentally came across your podcast and boom💥 I realised why my life has been so difficult at times. Wish I’d realised it before, but better late than never…😢
I was 61, and knowing allows you to let go of the shame and understand why your life was such a complicated mess. It's very bitter sweet, if I'd known, imagine how different everything would have been. This particular video is so good as it's real people talking about how they used to feel, the changes they're making, how it works, and the reality it's not nor ever has been your fault. So much of this resonates with me.
It’s just crazy to me that people can have such successful careers, hobbies and healthy relationships. I can’t even get out of bed most days. Doing things I genuinely like is a full blown battle
It’s what I was like before burnout- running on adrenaline .. I don’t have that energy anymore. I’m resting now and not sure I even want the drive back, it was exhausting
About 5 years ago, Lack of attention caused the loss of a job I had worked toward for years. ADHD turned on Full Blast while I was away at training. I came back to work, to my new, exciting job, and hit a wall. It was an unexplainable struggle for me to do the job and I failed horribly. Now I know ADHD is why I couldn't remember, couldn't focus, couldn't follow directions. I had to step down or be removed from my position. I faced a $12K pay cut but was ultimately spared that fate and only lost $3K. I was shattered and ashamed. Recently, thinking my meds would help this time, I applied for a different position. I had to step down again because of lack of attention to detail. ADHD .... I have no words.
Same. I believe that a community might exist that I could fit in with, but I struggle with believing that I'll ever actually find it. Life feels like being adrift in the middle of an ocean and scanning the horizon in the hopes of spotting an island refuge (while hoping I'll be able to reach it if I do spot it).
Oh yes the instant friendships … I went to Asda the other day for Christmas cards .. got totally distracted by the 8 pence Christmas veg and got chatting to a woman .. we bonded over our daughters who are both at Uni and both ( weirdly ) going to Switzerland for Christmas and we walked out together having a great chat .. I then went to Aldi and told a woman very loudly that she looked “ BLOODY FABULOUS” which apparently made her day .. I actually loved that day ❤
Love your story Bex..thank you for sharing it, lucky people you chatted with ❤. I recognise your experiences as also very close to moments from my life. Moving to know there's someone like me out there, if that makes sense. Thank you for being you.
Wow I so needed to hear this. I am gradually coming out of the shock of being ADHD at 78 years old. Wow if only I had known...........Oh well up and at em and continue on with my creative life with a renewed outlook. Ps I have passed it on to my daughter and we have an agreement that no judgements or blaming allowed just awareness and patience. It is actually working. Thanks you for this amazing session xx
The trouble is some of us have had people close to us pick gapping holes in everything we say or do. Unfortunately for me that happens to be my own mother (and my father whose now passed). She even berated me for not grieving the right way when her dog died despite me trying to keep it together so I could support her. She even moved village, away from me, after I was assaulted from an attempted rape, because I was too ‘needy’ of support. I have no measure of ‘normal’ after years of this.
Yes, that's the question / answer I was waiting for around 42:50 As a late diagnosed, usually agoraphobic, but also a lead singer! No panic attacks or dis - ease on stage; my disregulation is about all the pre-logistics and not about the actual presentation/ show / engaging. 'Phoenix' answer is brilliant
For the woman in blue. You are me. During the pandemic I thought to order 2 cases of toilet paper from a restaurant supply store, changed my mind, and ordered only 1 case. Upon delivery, the doorbell rang 12 times and the pissed off UPS guy brought upstairs TWELVE cases of toilet paper which filled my apartment. Too expensive to ship it back, I gave toilet paper away to my friends and neighbors for months. I still have a few rolls....
Love your podcast! And this was another great one! One thing that stood out to me, especially because you interview so many accomplished people, it would be great to hear more conversation around supports, not just like accommodations, but actually support people have found for themselves to help them accomplish their goals, like delegating tasks, building a team to support you, or other creative ways to get support if you are just starting out building a business or writing a book, or doing whatever big goal you have. Or even if you are just trying to make it day to day with small tasks etc. it would be great to hear ways to find support, like they did talk about body doubling and that’s very helpful! Things like that! Thank you!!
Alex, thank you. I am getting my ADHD assessment at the moment. I/m a 57 year old woman who used to be a writer and so many other things. I was prescribed meds for depression years ago and I caught your show a few months ago. Having thought that ADHD was the "active, hyper little boy syndrome " all these decades I am now wiser and have met "my People". Thanks and I appreciate what you are doing .
Fabulous discussion... and wonderfully lacking overuse of ADHD jargon... just five emotionally mature adults with excellent communication skills... thank you.
I love, love, love the room is TARDIS blue, 'olden times' keeps coming up, and these fabulous women are sharing with me/us that we're okay. I often feel alone in a crowd because I don't see the crowd through what's happening in my head. I wonder if others with ADHD find the chaos and storm in their head actually calming when the 'outside' is so incredibly scary. Sometimes 2 hours in my car outside my house is the best place (alone, quiet, clean . . .). I appreciate your channel so much. Everyone you've had on has offered value. That's rare.
Also late diagnosed ADHD Loved this. Agree about the blue. A very Merry Christmas to you and yours. I have chosen to be alone for this one. It is not from the lack of invites, I just can't do the stress. Love being alone and just having a bacon butty.
Thankfully I have dodged the drinking and/or drug bullet. I was warned since I was young about the family tendency for alcoholism. My mom told me lots of stories about how she and her family suffered and struggled while she grew up because of her father's drinking problems. The my oldest sibling got hooked on drugs around 12 or 13 and has struggled with them ever since. I have other issues... I haven't gotten through life unscathed, but at least I don't have those two.... I'll take any wins I can get. My partner is extremely supportive and understanding, but he still struggles to understand why I don't like going to church with him. I struggle to "manage my mouth" if I hear anything that ticks me off, and my anxiety is AWFUL while there. I do try to go with him during really important dates like Christmas Eve or when he himself is doing a talk... so I hide in the back near the sound station (a friend of ours manages it) and I either have a notebook to write or draw in or I bring some crocheting... I'm still anxious but I can at least make it through.
Thanks Shappi for explaining how to teach people to treat you better by treating yourself better. By the way, listening to the five of you speak your truth is like listening the my life the last 60 years ... wonderful :)
Thank you thank you thank you for sharing your stories. I find great comfort knowing that there are others out there, with their own challenges, doing good in the world. ❤
What an amazing episode and conversation ❤ thank you for gathering such wonderful people.. hearing from fellow scatterbrains that are objectively successful gives me courage to try and accomplish more in my life stop hiding away in fear of falling ❤
@ She is! I did, Alex. That’s how I discovered her. Brilliant interview! Well done to you both! 🙌✨ I’ve since bought Stacey’s audiobook which I’m really enjoying and have pre - ordered yours. I’m so glad that I discovered you and your podcast this year. You have a way of explaining things that make everything click and fall into place. From the serious topics to the quirky. I finally understand my lifelong aversion to big spoons and love of stationary! 😆 Happy new year, Alex! I hope that 2025 is kind to you 💚✨
Alex, this was so lovely and brilliant. Thank you! When you or your team have a moment, would you post the ladies' IG handles, please? I couldn't find them all. Continued abundance to you and everyone in this community!
When we had family get togethers with my husband’s family, the goodbyes always took an absolute eternity. Why they couldn’t just say goodbye and go was a mystery to me, and it was also agony due to my frustration and knowing I could have literally been at home in bed by the time we actually left. I felt extreme rage inside but never said anything. I don’t like parties these days but if I do go I am definitely employing the French exit and just slipping away. Since my recent diagnosis I’ve decided my people pleasing days are over 😂
I love your podcast!! I am starting to understand myself better than I ever have. It is a journey so I'll be right here listening, thank you!! Question: I don't take stimulants. I am curious if the Stasis offers benefits without a stimulant. I've recently come off an antidepressant (I did an 8 month wean off). I'm 61 and now take no prescriptions, only vitamins, minerals and supplements. I'd like to keep it that way, if possible. It would be nice to find a natural product to help with focus, emotional regulation, and anxiety. Thank you for all you give and do for so many!!
Me: thinking about how I can not stop wanting to comment about how many times his hands were moving while doing the intro for 90 seconds.... I'm so adhd 😂😂😂
Four times a year Alex m8 ... at least. That was gr8 and so, so necessary. Mix it up and get men and women of different ages, or get all women or men with a common theme to join you and we can glean so much from the comparison. Brilliant!!! P.S. Please ask people about their medication experiences. I only use herbs and diet, exercise, supplements ETC. Would love to learn more about what others have discovered. Thank you.
Always thought it was bipolar OCD and social anxiety... Cuz that's what they said. Both my boys and one other talk like me, can't focus but can sometimes aka hyperfocus just like I do. Hereditary so mine came late after everything fell apart but it's a relief in a weird way
I have a suggestion to get rid of the table setting, the dishes, silverware, and table cloth. It's too much and stressful to see couldnt imagin sitting there having conversations. It does not seem fitting and pushes the guests away from a more comfortable arm placement and better engagement. A bare table with no center piece will do just fine. Please and thank you.
I wish there was a long form instructional talk from Alex aimed solely at helping the long suffering partners of those who struggle with ADHD ... I can't find anything in the list.
PLEASE HAVE DRINKS LADIES .. we all get dry mouth but we hear it on mega phone… I can’t cope with that sound . Love it all .. yes I too have . Can someone talk about adhd and hormones with dex meds while going thru menopause please. My body mind spirt are fucked.. And no one believes me!!! I’m about to be 51 . 50 turned life around and shoved it back up … Then spat out .. Now I can’t tell any of it.. 😢
I find the online projection of neurodiversity quite bizarre especially with celebrity advocates involved. There's an irony in it as it seems to be about not fitting in while also striving to fit in. The widening of criteria and the online focus on those with fewer barriers risks leaving those with greater support needs unheard and potentially in time forgotten as we move toward a mainstream, palatable version of neurodiversity. I'm not looking for a fight just understanding-though it feels like everyone and anyone could be considered ND. Is that the point?
I’m 81, have not had a formal diagnosis, but accidentally came across your podcast and boom💥 I realised why my life has been so difficult at times. Wish I’d realised it before, but better late than never…😢
🤕 me too
Im hoping i still have time to have some peace and happiness
And hopefully make some peace with the past.
I was 61, and knowing allows you to let go of the shame and understand why your life was such a complicated mess. It's very bitter sweet, if I'd known, imagine how different everything would have been. This particular video is so good as it's real people talking about how they used to feel, the changes they're making, how it works, and the reality it's not nor ever has been your fault. So much of this resonates with me.
@ljc3484
You will, I promise, it wasn't your fault!
Yes I have just written above I am 78 and have just been told. Wow we are lucky to have this wonderful DHD Chatter Podcast
I'm so pleased you found the podcast, Sarah 💚
It’s just crazy to me that people can have such successful careers, hobbies and healthy relationships. I can’t even get out of bed most days. Doing things I genuinely like is a full blown battle
I’m the same and always wonder how they can function like that
Ditto
It’s what I was like before burnout- running on adrenaline .. I don’t have that energy anymore. I’m resting now and not sure I even want the drive back, it was exhausting
Been there. Exercise helps. Like even a walk….i know it’s annoying advice but walking really does help
@@hannahlang4703 with burnout?
About 5 years ago, Lack of attention caused the loss of a job I had worked toward for years. ADHD turned on Full Blast while I was away at training. I came back to work, to my new, exciting job, and hit a wall. It was an unexplainable struggle for me to do the job and I failed horribly. Now I know ADHD is why I couldn't remember, couldn't focus, couldn't follow directions. I had to step down or be removed from my position. I faced a $12K pay cut but was ultimately spared that fate and only lost $3K. I was shattered and ashamed. Recently, thinking my meds would help this time, I applied for a different position. I had to step down again because of lack of attention to detail. ADHD .... I have no words.
I wish I had a community of women like this in my life. I feel like nobody understands, and I have no one to talk about it with.
Same. I believe that a community might exist that I could fit in with, but I struggle with believing that I'll ever actually find it. Life feels like being adrift in the middle of an ocean and scanning the horizon in the hopes of spotting an island refuge (while hoping I'll be able to reach it if I do spot it).
Me too :)
Oh yes the instant friendships … I went to Asda the other day for Christmas cards .. got totally distracted by the 8 pence Christmas veg and got chatting to a woman .. we bonded over our daughters who are both at Uni and both ( weirdly ) going to Switzerland for Christmas and we walked out together having a great chat .. I then went to Aldi and told a woman very loudly that she looked “ BLOODY FABULOUS” which apparently made her day .. I actually loved that day ❤
I love this story, Bex!
It is wonderful that you can do that. I am going to take a leaf out of your book and not hold back on genuine compliments to others.
Love your story Bex..thank you for sharing it, lucky people you chatted with ❤. I recognise your experiences as also very close to moments from my life. Moving to know there's someone like me out there, if that makes sense. Thank you for being you.
I regularly get the urge to yell at people when I think they look good. I try to suppress it sometimes but it's a really strong urge to do so 😅
Wow I so needed to hear this. I am gradually coming out of the shock of being ADHD at 78 years old. Wow if only I had known...........Oh well up and at em and continue on with my creative life with a renewed outlook. Ps I have passed it on to my daughter and we have an agreement that no judgements or blaming allowed just awareness and patience. It is actually working. Thanks you for this amazing session xx
Welcome to the club! 💚
That's so heartwarming to read. xx
Alex, you are so brilliant and necessary. So glad you survived the alcohol.
Thank you! 💚
The trouble is some of us have had people close to us pick gapping holes in everything we say or do. Unfortunately for me that happens to be my own mother (and my father whose now passed). She even berated me for not grieving the right way when her dog died despite me trying to keep it together so I could support her. She even moved village, away from me, after I was assaulted from an attempted rape, because I was too ‘needy’ of support. I have no measure of ‘normal’ after years of this.
Yes, that's the question / answer I was waiting for around 42:50
As a late diagnosed, usually agoraphobic, but also a lead singer! No panic attacks or
dis - ease on stage; my disregulation is about all the pre-logistics and not about the actual presentation/ show / engaging. 'Phoenix' answer is brilliant
Same here.
I love this Podcast. Thank you Alex! This episode, wow, such a gift. Feeling very emotional.
For the woman in blue. You are me. During the pandemic I thought to order 2 cases of toilet paper from a restaurant supply store, changed my mind, and ordered only 1 case. Upon delivery, the doorbell rang 12 times and the pissed off UPS guy brought upstairs TWELVE cases of toilet paper which filled my apartment. Too expensive to ship it back, I gave toilet paper away to my friends and neighbors for months. I still have a few rolls....
Love your podcast! And this was another great one! One thing that stood out to me, especially because you interview so many accomplished people, it would be great to hear more conversation around supports, not just like accommodations, but actually support people have found for themselves to help them accomplish their goals, like delegating tasks, building a team to support you, or other creative ways to get support if you are just starting out building a business or writing a book, or doing whatever big goal you have. Or even if you are just trying to make it day to day with small tasks etc. it would be great to hear ways to find support, like they did talk about body doubling and that’s very helpful! Things like that! Thank you!!
This sounds like an amazing idea, lots of these conversations coming in 2025 💚
Thank you for getting sober and being fabulous! ❤
Alex, did you just say "caffeinated squirrels" at 14:58? That is now my new favourite phrase! ♥
Yes, that's what I said 🤣
Alex, thank you. I am getting my ADHD assessment at the moment. I/m a 57 year old woman who used to be a writer and so many other things. I was prescribed meds for depression years ago and I caught your show a few months ago. Having thought that ADHD was the "active, hyper little boy syndrome " all these decades I am now wiser and have met "my People". Thanks and I appreciate what you are doing .
Fabulous discussion... and wonderfully lacking overuse of ADHD jargon... just five emotionally mature adults with excellent communication skills... thank you.
I love, love, love the room is TARDIS blue, 'olden times' keeps coming up, and these fabulous women are sharing with me/us that we're okay. I often feel alone in a crowd because I don't see the crowd through what's happening in my head. I wonder if others with ADHD find the chaos and storm in their head actually calming when the 'outside' is so incredibly scary. Sometimes 2 hours in my car outside my house is the best place (alone, quiet, clean . . .). I appreciate your channel so much. Everyone you've had on has offered value. That's rare.
Also late diagnosed ADHD Loved this. Agree about the blue. A very Merry Christmas to you and yours. I have chosen to be alone for this one. It is not from the lack of invites, I just can't do the stress. Love being alone and just having a bacon butty.
Curiosity and Fear can not exist at the same time ❤ this is really helpful! Really cool, thank you! ❤
LOVED this ❤ thank you ladies and Alex x
What a wonderful conversation.
I love all these women and Alex. I know it's tough but you're all there together sharing your presence with all of us.
Kat , Ellie and Shappi I have all your books and they’ve been so helpful to me ❤ Thankyou all x
Merry Christmas & all the best for 2025,looking forward to viewing more content around Autism & ADHD.
Merry Christmas!
Thankfully I have dodged the drinking and/or drug bullet. I was warned since I was young about the family tendency for alcoholism. My mom told me lots of stories about how she and her family suffered and struggled while she grew up because of her father's drinking problems. The my oldest sibling got hooked on drugs around 12 or 13 and has struggled with them ever since. I have other issues... I haven't gotten through life unscathed, but at least I don't have those two.... I'll take any wins I can get.
My partner is extremely supportive and understanding, but he still struggles to understand why I don't like going to church with him. I struggle to "manage my mouth" if I hear anything that ticks me off, and my anxiety is AWFUL while there. I do try to go with him during really important dates like Christmas Eve or when he himself is doing a talk... so I hide in the back near the sound station (a friend of ours manages it) and I either have a notebook to write or draw in or I bring some crocheting... I'm still anxious but I can at least make it through.
Thanks Shappi for explaining how to teach people to treat you better by treating yourself better.
By the way, listening to the five of you speak your truth is like listening the my life the last 60 years ... wonderful :)
Good insight into patterns & coping strat's ( needed to bring awareness to ADHD in woman. ) Thanks ADHD Chatter Podcast & Guest's
I adore you Alex Partridge. Tyvm for this and all of your videos and information about adhd and helpful tips. Thanks to the panel.
Such a smooth execution! Do you plan to share a behind-the-scenes look at how this was made?
Incredible conversation ❤I feel heard.
Bloody brilliant again thank you Alex, thank you guests...I had lightbulb moments and feeling seen and validated from each of you :)
Love all these women. Thank for sharing and for the laughter and solidarity cringes!! Xxx
Thank you thank you thank you for sharing your stories. I find great comfort knowing that there are others out there, with their own challenges, doing good in the world. ❤
What an amazing episode and conversation ❤ thank you for gathering such wonderful people.. hearing from fellow scatterbrains that are objectively successful gives me courage to try and accomplish more in my life stop hiding away in fear of falling ❤
I really, really loved this one, Thank you!!! ♥♥♥
Loved this! I’d love to see more of Stacey in future episodes. I really appreciate her honesty, vulnerability and humour🙏💜
She's brilliant! Did you watch her first interview with me?
@ She is! I did, Alex. That’s how I discovered her. Brilliant interview! Well done to you both! 🙌✨ I’ve since bought Stacey’s audiobook which I’m really enjoying and have pre - ordered yours. I’m so glad that I discovered you and your podcast this year. You have a way of explaining things that make everything click and fall into place. From the serious topics to the quirky. I finally understand my lifelong aversion to big spoons and love of stationary! 😆 Happy new year, Alex! I hope that 2025 is kind to you 💚✨
Fabulous podcast Alex. What a brilliant concept having a chat around the dinner table……thankyou 🤗 Merry Christmas 🎄
So love this four-way conversation good idea look forward to more
When you have multiple neurodivergent conditions and no career it sucks
This is so lovely.
Alex, this was so lovely and brilliant. Thank you! When you or your team have a moment, would you post the ladies' IG handles, please? I couldn't find them all. Continued abundance to you and everyone in this community!
When we had family get togethers with my husband’s family, the goodbyes always took an absolute eternity. Why they couldn’t just say goodbye and go was a mystery to me, and it was also agony due to my frustration and knowing I could have literally been at home in bed by the time we actually left. I felt extreme rage inside but never said anything. I don’t like parties these days but if I do go I am definitely employing the French exit and just slipping away. Since my recent diagnosis I’ve decided my people pleasing days are over 😂
I love your podcast!! I am starting to understand myself better than I ever have. It is a journey so I'll be right here listening, thank you!! Question: I don't take stimulants. I am curious if the Stasis offers benefits without a stimulant. I've recently come off an antidepressant (I did an 8 month wean off). I'm 61 and now take no prescriptions, only vitamins, minerals and supplements. I'd like to keep it that way, if possible. It would be nice to find a natural product to help with focus, emotional regulation, and anxiety. Thank you for all you give and do for so many!!
Just what i needed to hear. Non apologetic. I feel like that now. This makes me happy
I think it is the success is despite the adhd not because of it. The can't is from the comorbidities depression anxiety RSD.
Where is this blue fidget cube from ? Would love that in my hand right now
It looks like a NeeDoh fidget cube. They are squishy but always make a cube again.
Me: thinking about how I can not stop wanting to comment about how many times his hands were moving while doing the intro for 90 seconds.... I'm so adhd 😂😂😂
Yea sorry about that! 😂
@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast it's all good.... I forgot it even bothered me😉
Yeah me too😂😂
I actually over-obsess in pre-planning before implementing. Is this also a symptom of ADHD?
Four times a year Alex m8 ... at least. That was gr8 and so, so necessary. Mix it up and get men and women of different ages,
or get all women or men with a common theme to join you and we can glean so much from the comparison. Brilliant!!!
P.S. Please ask people about their medication experiences. I only use herbs and diet, exercise, supplements ETC. Would love to learn more about what others have discovered.
Thank you.
Love this Alex ❤
Thank you 🎉
I’m so grateful for this! I can’t wait
So much of what yall have said resonated with me. Thank you!
😂 that‘s what Mom always said to! She just forgot the Pill, so my brother and me followed our Sister! 😂😂😂
I thought you were saying temu the china app lol
Same 🤦🏻♀️
Amazing stuff here even for men ADHD ers 😊
My mate calls me Arthur Knight 😂
( half a night )
I’m sober and I just cannot cope with socials now it’s just too much
Always thought it was bipolar OCD and social anxiety... Cuz that's what they said. Both my boys and one other talk like me, can't focus but can sometimes aka hyperfocus just like I do. Hereditary so mine came late after everything fell apart but it's a relief in a weird way
French exit for the win 🥇
Failed 32s in I'm walking listing doing three things at once!
I have a suggestion to get rid of the table setting, the dishes, silverware, and table cloth. It's too much and stressful to see couldnt imagin sitting there having conversations. It does not seem fitting and pushes the guests away from a more comfortable arm placement and better engagement. A bare table with no center piece will do just fine. Please and thank you.
I wish there was a long form instructional talk from Alex aimed solely at helping the long suffering partners of those who struggle with ADHD ... I can't find anything in the list.
Alex the host looks like a young Peter Davidson from Dr Who.
PLEASE HAVE DRINKS LADIES .. we all get dry mouth but we hear it on mega phone… I can’t cope with that sound .
Love it all .. yes I too have .
Can someone talk about adhd and hormones with dex meds while going thru menopause please.
My body mind spirt are fucked..
And no one believes me!!!
I’m about to be 51 . 50 turned life around and shoved it back up …
Then spat out
..
Now I can’t tell any of it.. 😢
I find the online projection of neurodiversity quite bizarre especially with celebrity advocates involved. There's an irony in it as it seems to be about not fitting in while also striving to fit in. The widening of criteria and the online focus on those with fewer barriers risks leaving those with greater support needs unheard and potentially in time forgotten as we move toward a mainstream, palatable version of neurodiversity. I'm not looking for a fight just understanding-though it feels like everyone and anyone could be considered ND. Is that the point?
I thought you promote the other App that starts with T but with e and u 😂
I was also nesrly diagnosed with borderline 😔
A bit too formal for my brains 😅 the setup but all 👍
All but one of my children were inattentive or impulsively conceived. I love them but 😅
It seems like I need to be diagnosed , to be accepted as I am. I do not like that.
Such narcs 😂