1) karma for him 2) just run away, and go nc karma will get them in the future 3) dont feel bad becuase you dont feel love, you dont "hate" her like how you dont "love" her either and you raised you decent amount and kept her fed and happy, you didnt want the kid and was forced to and she deserved to be loved by a mother and keeping her in a loveless family isnt healthy so this is probably fr the best
Story 3: That’s rough. Hopefully therapy helps her to form some kind of motherly bond with Abby. Good on Mark for stepping up and being there. I hope we get a happy update
You know, while i think OP is a deadbeat, mark is well over half the problem. She should have given up parental rights when Abby was a baby so she wouldn't have hurt her. Leaving her now is going to mess her up royally, and OP would be bad for doing it (even though it might be the least bad thing because of how much might it would hurt the child if she stays). Mark however is clearly being manipulative. From pressuring her to keep the child, to trying to convince her to MARRY YOU after just being FWB, and then telling A CHILD "Mommy is leaving you because she doesn't love you" before any plans were set in stone. I need to be clear: Op is an awful person for leaving her kid. She should have aborted, or she should have left when she was a baby so the child wouldn't be impacted. Currently shes in a cross roads where the only possibility of a 100% good solution would be therapy, and thats a maybe. Staying while hating your child would be far worse than leaving if therapy doesn't work, but still its awful. But Mark is absolutely not helping. You aren't gonna get a happy family out of this dude, you are co parents. Stop trying to manipulate her into staying. Because if she truly hates her kid, and it cant be fixed, you will hurt the kid
I feel bad for Abby and Op. Mark and his family should never have guilted and pressured Op into having a kid. Now everyone’s suffering all because Mark was desperate at playing “happy family” at Ops expense. Even going as far as to manipulate Abby for their twisted crap. Sadly kids internalize things that were said to them even the negative ones.
There's no reason to feel sorry for the OP. She's a person who knew she never wanted children but did nothing to prevent herself from getting pregnant. Another case of sympathy being wasted on someone who doesn't deserve it
@@enwarrior8163 I don't know. OP did mention that the boys in the family could do anything. It was their right. So it's not the US. I've heard of countries with this type of higherarchy. I don't remember the name.
Story 1: The paternity test does not make him an AH. Everything else does. Women need to realize men should be entitled to a paternity test, and women are out of line to be offended by it. You'll never understand a man's perspective, no matter how much you think you do.
The only victim in story 3 is the child. Her paternal family is manipulating her... her mother needs serious therapy because her lack of connection is likely psychological... and she was a grown adult when she got pregnant. If she wanted to be child free, she should have walked away from the relationship. She wasn't a groomed child, or a woman manipulated by a man in a position in of power... she made a stupid decision that is now damaging an innocent child. They all suck and the child is suffering
Story 3: you're a horrible mother, you shouldn't have ever gotten pregnant, you're right that this is your hell of your own making But you're not a bad person
I’m not sure what’s wrong with you people but Op in story 3 did the right thing. She knows she isn’t going to be a good mother so she is doing what is best for BOTH of them.
Ummm… no? A deadbeat parent is a parent who claims parenthood of a child but does nothing to help raise the child or just runs away leaving the other holding the bag all confused.
Both men and women would be deadbeats. But if she was going to abandon the child anyway, better to do it before she had 5 years with OP in her life as a mother and then rip that away. Both options make OP a horrible person, but she chose the extra cruel one.
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Story 3: telling a child something like that so blatantly without considering consequences is actually type of manipulation
1) karma for him
2) just run away, and go nc karma will get them in the future
3) dont feel bad becuase you dont feel love, you dont "hate" her like how you dont "love" her either and you raised you decent amount and kept her fed and happy, you didnt want the kid and was forced to and she deserved to be loved by a mother and keeping her in a loveless family isnt healthy so this is probably fr the best
Story 3: That’s rough. Hopefully therapy helps her to form some kind of motherly bond with Abby. Good on Mark for stepping up and being there. I hope we get a happy update
You know, while i think OP is a deadbeat, mark is well over half the problem.
She should have given up parental rights when Abby was a baby so she wouldn't have hurt her. Leaving her now is going to mess her up royally, and OP would be bad for doing it (even though it might be the least bad thing because of how much might it would hurt the child if she stays). Mark however is clearly being manipulative. From pressuring her to keep the child, to trying to convince her to MARRY YOU after just being FWB, and then telling A CHILD "Mommy is leaving you because she doesn't love you" before any plans were set in stone.
I need to be clear: Op is an awful person for leaving her kid. She should have aborted, or she should have left when she was a baby so the child wouldn't be impacted. Currently shes in a cross roads where the only possibility of a 100% good solution would be therapy, and thats a maybe. Staying while hating your child would be far worse than leaving if therapy doesn't work, but still its awful. But Mark is absolutely not helping. You aren't gonna get a happy family out of this dude, you are co parents. Stop trying to manipulate her into staying. Because if she truly hates her kid, and it cant be fixed, you will hurt the kid
I remember commenting on OP3 saying how someone should call CPS and the police, this is downright criminal behavior.
Abby deserves better.
I feel bad for Abby and Op. Mark and his family should never have guilted and pressured Op into having a kid. Now everyone’s suffering all because Mark was desperate at playing “happy family” at Ops expense. Even going as far as to manipulate Abby for their twisted crap. Sadly kids internalize things that were said to them even the negative ones.
You know she's a grown woman and had a voice and she could have said no.
I'm not buying this victim BS
There's no reason to feel sorry for the OP. She's a person who knew she never wanted children but did nothing to prevent herself from getting pregnant. Another case of sympathy being wasted on someone who doesn't deserve it
The kid was already there. Saying a child would be better off dead is messed up.
@@juliearmfield2634 i frankly think both of them suck and that little girl deserved better
@@att6484 why do you think the dad sucks?
Story 2: That whole situation is way past F'd. OP isn't going to make it to 18.
What sort of country let's this happened? Disgusting.
@@enwarrior8163 I don't know. OP did mention that the boys in the family could do anything. It was their right. So it's not the US. I've heard of countries with this type of higherarchy. I don't remember the name.
He needs to tell the police
I think only country with Police call sign 911 IS the us
Abby deserves a better family all around, she is gotng to be scared for life.
Walk away from the child you are toxic for her. Hopefully mark will find a good woman who can love his child
Story 1: The paternity test does not make him an AH. Everything else does. Women need to realize men should be entitled to a paternity test, and women are out of line to be offended by it. You'll never understand a man's perspective, no matter how much you think you do.
Poor Abby. God bless her.
I hope OP can get her sh together. Cause Abby deserves better
The only victim in story 3 is the child. Her paternal family is manipulating her... her mother needs serious therapy because her lack of connection is likely psychological... and she was a grown adult when she got pregnant. If she wanted to be child free, she should have walked away from the relationship. She wasn't a groomed child, or a woman manipulated by a man in a position in of power... she made a stupid decision that is now damaging an innocent child.
They all suck and the child is suffering
Op should look for therapy. I feel bad for both op and especially Abby she is just 5 and a good kid.she doesn't deserve it and same for op.
The op of the last story seems to have postpartum depression that needs to be treated
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Story 3: you're a horrible mother, you shouldn't have ever gotten pregnant, you're right that this is your hell of your own making
But you're not a bad person
She absolutely is a bad person.
Can't find story 2 on reddit. Was it deleted or was there a typo here?
I’m not sure what’s wrong with you people but Op in story 3 did the right thing. She knows she isn’t going to be a good mother so she is doing what is best for BOTH of them.
Doing the right thing in her case would've been be not having unprotected sex with Mark in the first place
The right thing would have been to surrender custody immediately after birth, not after being in the child's life as a mother for 5 years.
You basically tell the entire story in the titles.
Just to avoid making the title clickbait and less confusing😅😅
@@SecretVoices25thank you i appreciate the honesty.
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Amazing. She wanted to give up her parental rights and it's 'for the best', but if he wanted to, then commenters would be calling him a deadbeat.
Do you expected something different from the misandrist of reddit?
Ummm… no? A deadbeat parent is a parent who claims parenthood of a child but does nothing to help raise the child or just runs away leaving the other holding the bag all confused.
Both men and women would be deadbeats. But if she was going to abandon the child anyway, better to do it before she had 5 years with OP in her life as a mother and then rip that away. Both options make OP a horrible person, but she chose the extra cruel one.
SS3- OP was weak, if you didn't want kids or to be with him shouldn't have said anything.
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