One time I was in science class and we had a genetic project and we needed to show what genetics we got from our parents. I got home and just cried in my bed. I failed my project. I even told my teacher I was adopted and I failed that project. OH WELL IM SORRY IM ADOPTED
I’m adopted, and I love it! My parents fostered me since I was a infant, and my Dad was the one who convinced my mom to adopt me and my twin sister. Me and my Dad grew really close, he was my best friend, but he died at the age of 68 7 months ago when I had just turned 14. I am glad I meet him because of my adoption and I wouldn’t change a single thing :)
Gracie - my wife and I are adopting a 4 year old. We’re now 65, one thing we worry about a bit is how our daughter will feel having parents that are so much older than is common. How do you feel about being adopted by older than typical parents? We love our daughter very much and want to do our very best for her.
@@stevefisher182 as an adopted person my parents were 10 years older than all the other kids. All the other parents seemed to give them respect as they recognized them as older as well. My dad was always the smartest man in the room and my mom the wisest. It didn't matter at all I love them. Your kid will know nothing other than you are Mom. Good luck I was a little shit probably from some sort of issues. I will say discipline on adopted kids is counter productive they need to know you love them all the time so use it sparingly.
I am on a much desired quest to learn of my bio dad who I learned at age 57 wasn’t the man married to my bio mom. Long story short, they abandoned me at 4 1/2 months and two half sisters, 2, & 4 years. We were miraculously rescued and in my adoption records our bio mom named my bio dad ( a one night stand, or hookup as kids call it now.) PA is where bio dad was from, deceased, yet I need stories, a couple photos, ANYTHING to locate living relatives he has/had, so I can relax knowing medical history, and his life story. Our bio mom and all her family I easily found on my own and my two older half sisters. I loved my adopted family but they all are deceased without my newer research. Bio mom got pregnant soon after my birth and her husband kick her so hard she miscarried and had to be hospitalized. Her family refused to care for the 3 of us, and I was found under a bed wearing only a dish towel for a diaper, and dehydrated and dying from starvation. Two women found us and rescued us but called maternal grandfather to hurry to see me in hospital before I died. He got there wheelchair bound, and no one else. Only God truly saved my life that hot July day in 1950, the two women found us, and the hospital fed me with an eye dropper until I could safely keep fluids down and then was fostered by my adoptive family at one year old. We recently located an adopted girl by same bio mom born 14 years later!!!!! Who knows how many she had but had to surrender due to ignorance, smoker, alcoholic, and severe poverty?!?! I only need info help about the bio dad R. J. Widger ☹️ I already have a genealogist trying to find where and when he died, and a helpful relative still alive.
I was adopted when I was 7 and I'm 14 now! I was really scared when I was in care because I was constantly told nobody would want me and that's why I was in care but now I love my family so much and I have fairly bad anxiety because of my past but I would never have believed you if said that when I was younger!
That's sounds amazing. I'm thinking of adopting, I have two children and want to adopt two more. I hope my future kids feel the same way you did. Was it difficult adjusting at 7 to a new family?
And your anxiety might clear up, plenty of resources are now out there to help, including art of living which my dad used, he used to have horrible anxiety and now it's mostly cleared up, anyway, have a great everything 👍
Some of the most annoying and hurting things I've ever heard, as an adopted child, are: "Did you always know you are adopted?" - of course, I'm not some Disney character. I know some parents might lie, but in most cases it's pretty obvious if you are blood-related to your family or not, for example, my father's and mother's hair is black/brown, and their eyes are brown/slight blue, but my eyes are greenish-blue and my hair is strawberry blonde, so it's pretty easy to see. "Do you think your family is really your family?" - of course I do, they're the best things in the world for me. They're my family, and I love them. "Do you want to meet your bio parents?" - that question might depend on your situation. I for once, never want to meet my bio parents. I'm aware of the fact circumstances might have forced them to give me up, but I still feel abandoned. I don't hate them, but I've got my own family now, people who love me and care for me. My twin sister does want to meet our bio parents, so maybe she'll go through it. "You don't have any real parents" - I remember being told that in middle school, and I remember having fights with kids trying to convince them I'm really a part of my family. It's so annoying and hurtful when people say that, just because we don't share the same blood doesn't mean we're less of a parent and child. "How does it feel to be an adopted child?"- ... Aside from that, being adopted also gave me a really deep appreciation to my life. It's not necessarily a bad thing to be an adopted person. I don't care if people ask me questions about it, but sometimes people ask really stupid stuff If i'll ever want to start a family, I'm adopting. Take in someone who does not have anybody.
@@gracietollefson4594 yeah, though fortunately enough, within my country laws force parents to adopt twins together, it's a package. so sadly, she was doomed to be stuck with me for life lol.
delias hyparete Oh ok 😂 That’s good that they keep twins together! I was stuck with my twin because I was fostered with my twin sister and my foster Dad couldn’t let any of us go 😂
Im adopted since born. Its hard but life must go on. In the near future i am willing to adopt a child to give him/her love. Being an adopted person its hard, but remember, many people will say that YOU ARE LUCKY ! Sometimes we feel uncomfortable by hearing that When someone say that to you Just answer those persons. I am not lucky! I am blessed to have my adoptive parents Be strong like a mountain. Be calm like a sea. Be smart Be kind Be courageous And be grateful. One thing! If someone say to you that you are worthless or whatsoever just replied i am worthy like you coz we all have our own purpose in life. My purpose is to give Love and received their love.
My wife was adopted and she wanted to know who her biological parents were. After years of searching she discovered she had a sister. You guys should have seen the glow on her face when she found out ..... similar to seeing a deaf person hear sound for the first time in their life. It was humbling for me to see such joy.
@@inspirationalshanae5129 Shanique, my sincerest hope is they reunite and experience the joy I felt for my wife. What a remarkable site to behold. It’ll make tears well up in your eyes.
We are going to adopt and I just want my future child to know that we prayed for him and we love him. We will try our best to be good parents and raise him into a loving home. We may not be perfect, but hope he understands that as much as he is perplexed with the realities, we are too. We are also scared of his fears and feelings. Parents aren't perfect, we are scared too. But this is a journey we will take together and we will always choose to love him, hope he grows to love us too.
If I ever adopt a child , I would love for them to know I’ll always love them , care about them , and that I’ll always have their back on everything as if they were my biological child because they mean the world to me and I will always be there when they need me .
You are a good person but you're missing something. It's not about YOU. It's about the adoptee. They may be distraught, inconsolable, difficult, petulant, criminal, fighting back, hard to relate to. This happens. Be wary. It's not about you: it's about them. Love doesn't fix it. Just warning you.
I'm adopted with my twin brother and this video really dosen't talk about how being adopted really feels.. yet i'm still gonna adopt cause me and my kids will both know what's up!!
Opps Endless it feels like your apart of a family but you still have boundaries.. and when people at school know your adopted the questions they ask are the same and it makes you feel uncomfortable and annoyed.
Thanks so much for sharing how it feels. Have you spoken to your adoptive parents about this? I would love to adopt and want to know as much as possible about making my future child feel like there are no boundaries.
Me and my twin are adopted she’s a little special ed so she doesn’t rlly think much about our biological mom but I do all the time and I can’t without breaking down-
@@oppsendless3814 our “adoptive parents” are just our parents. I don’t speak for every adoptee, but most of us find this quite offensive. The people that raised us deserve the same recognition as someone who raised their biological child. Personally, I refer to them as my parents (adopted and raised me) and my biological parents (birthed me).
You guys ever feel connected to other people who are adopted? Like you hear someone you know in school is adopted and then you go to them like “me too bro”. Or that just me?
Im adopted from my grandma on my birth fathers side, im so lucky to have her. My grandma not only adopted me but also my older sister. She saved me from blood poisoning when i was a couple months and i also had alot of conditions of witch that could lead to death. So im really proud to see that there are others who our being proud of being adopt. although for some it may be hard or frustrating but no matter what it is never our fault.
Me too, I'm not adopted, but I understand the feeling of neglectful parents, my aunt basically raised me, so I've always wanted to help make someone's life better, rather than have my own kids.
I want to be adopted by a lovely and caring family. By people who respect me. I'm 12 and I want to ask my biological dad if he could give me for adoption. He will say no , but I'm tired of my mom saying she will kill me, coming to me with a knife on her hand and putting her hand above me saying she will kill me. IM TIRED MOM! im tired.
Mary Lee I’m so sorry this is happening to you, it shouldn’t be happening at all. Your mother should NOT do that it’s not okay. Next time she does it call 911 and call child protective services whenever
My niece is adopted by my eldest sister, but she died almost 7 years now I stopped working after she died and decided to take care of my adopted niece, I was so attached to her now I love her so much ❤️ she's now 7 years old and we're asian I'm searching of what's adopted kids feeling and stuff I wanna be a good mother to her ❤️ I'm married now and we planned to adopt her as my own daughter ❤️
I'm looking for video about adoption bc we want to adopt a child and i was so worried about how the children feel about being adopted.thank you for comments all the people who are adopted put here.it made me feel happy to know that its gonna be okay
I am 31 yrs old, and I just recently discovered that I was adopted. It is not even my adoptive parents who told me. All my known relatives specially on my moms side treats me differently all my life. My mom died and all her siblings hated me. It is really hard for me as now I know the reason why. I dont know how to deal what I am feeling now.
I am adopted but i really hate my family.They doesn't even know what i likes.And i really not feel save around them.I don't really trust them and because of them i have trouble to trust people around me. I still remember the first day they adopted me when i'm 4 years old.I not really happy at that time cause i'm not know i was adopted. But they never treat me as their daughter,eventhough they not said it but i can feel it. My childhood should have a happy moment but not.I really want to run but i don't know where to go.But now i'm almost 17 and next year i'm going to university.And i'm promise myself that when i'm grow up,i will move out and not to see their again Ps:sorry for my bad english and grammar also
I definitely knew I was adopted at a young like 7years old! I love my parents that adopted me and im Asian but i consider myself Itialian like my Family! I love my big family, im #6 of 8!! I got bullied for being adopted then through out life I was bullied! Even my last job my manger he would bullied not just me but 4 others but love picking on me the most and he would tell others he like making me mad on purpose!! I wished my parents now gave me a chance to go therapy to deal with all this! It's been a heck of a journey but I'm trying to change myself!! I love my family to death and could never thank them enough, but dislike why I had to be adopted but God has a plane for everyone so this mine!
I’m so sorry to hear this… you are amazing, beautiful and loved by God no matter what you’ve had to endure in life.. if no one has told you that they loved you recently know that I love you and most importantly, God loves you! 💜
They love you as an individual, that is priceless, as a biological daughter I feel bad, they love their offspring, not me, they had me on a whim like all the other children. Originally my parents planned to adopt because they couldn't conceive, but then they had my brother and because of that they they left two children with the illusion of having a family; I am definitely going to adopt instead of having biological children, I want a child to feel that I love them, not because they are of my blood but because I love who they are.
@TheyJust callMe My adopted family isn't perfect and there are some things I wish they would have done differently and there were times when they neglected me Emotionally Because they had 8 kids! Since I was bullied, they didn't do much about it even though they knew what was happening, There were times I felt like they loved their Biological l Kids a lot more than their 4 adopted kids! But besides that They did all right it could have been worse and my mom was going through cancer and so there are times where I understood why they neglected me! But I also Never had an attached bond towards!
It is better to refer to an individual who comes into their families through adoption as just that - we built our family through adoption. Or a child can say I was adopted at birth or whenever but not I am adopted. Adoption is your birth story or an event not a description of who you are. Important to distinguish for healthy identity formation.
I'm 22 and my parents doesn't know I know I'm adopted and my relatives are being a jerk. Asking me if I know already and asking if they're my parents. Like dude it's a sensitive topic. It's my life. Also, they're talking behind our back about this. I don't know. i feel sad and worthless because of that.
Hi, I want to adopt an older child. I do have kids but I always wanted a big(ger) family. I wonder if the child will feel like part of the family or just look at me like some sort of eternal babysitter? Also, will the existence of biological children make it harder for an adopted kid to feel wanted and loved?
Hello, Thank you for getting in touch. Please contact our Families that Last team on 0300 456 2656 or at familiesthatlastteam@afteradoption.org.uk. Our friendly team will be able to answer your questions about adoption. We also hold regular Exploring Adoption events in Manchester, Liverpool & Birmingham. www.afteradoption.org.uk/i-am-thinking-about-adopting/events/
Elise Adamenko Thanks 😊 I sure hope I'm up to the task. I would hate for him/her to resent me for it later. I keep asking myself why I want to do this. It's like wanting to get pregnant - there isn't a really good logical reason/answer to that question either. It just feels right I guess.
@@hakunamatata1352 Don't adopt, it's child abuse, & mother abuse. It's inhumane, regardless of the lies your made to think about other people taking other people's children being ok. Biggest trauma in the world to both real mother & her baby.
@@DavinaFaerie Yes, I agree (isn't that ironic?) There are so many cases where a little help to mum would have enabled her to keep and raise her child/children. But there are kids who don't have anyone in this world. Kids, who upon adoption would be gaining and not losing. That is the kind of adoption I would be comfortable with, if that makes sense.
I’am adopted, and my adoption was a closed one💔. I only know my birth moms first name..it’s Jennifer and that’s it🥺. As I get older the more..I feel like I don’t belong in my adopted parents family..because my sister(half sister) and I are not blood related. It’s sad knowing my REAL family is out there somewhere🥺. I look out my bedroom window with tears in my eyes...and say don’t forget about me and I love you guys🧡. I love my adopted parents don’t get me wrong...but I want to know my REAL BLOOD parents 🖤.
It's not to offend...nah', forget if you're really stupid, I'm a biological daughter and I couldn't be more disconnected from my family, it's just blood, appreciate what you have; family are the ones that loves you, not the ones that just fucked to conceive you and only share genetics with you.
I was fostered at 5 and adopted at 12. I can't help feeling that the true essence of myself was altered due to the change in my upbringing, for good or bad. I truly believe that genetically we are born with certain aspects of our nature. I'm in my fifties now and have grandchildren and I would hate to change who they are for good or bad.
What about children left by drug addicts and alcoholics? Is it terrible that they can now grow into respectable people instead of addicts like their parents? Why changing their "essence" for the better is a bad thing? Adopted kids are almost always left by disruptive families with severe issues. Their "true essence" was never bright and healthy
I always wondered to hear about people’s experience in families that have both a birth child and an adopted child. Anyone can share their experience? I’m interested in the perspective of anyone in that family. The parents’ and either child’s. To the parents; did you ever feel pressure of making it clear to the children or even outsiders that you love both kids equally? Did you actually feel the same way about both? Did you catch yourself being more “unfair” to your birth child in an effort to compensate for the fact that the adopted kid might need more proof of love? From the birth child’s perspective; how was it for you? To the adopted child: how was it for you? Did you feel like you needed more proof from your parents? Did you feel less loved or did you fear that they loved you less? Did you sometimes question whether their actions were legitimate or in an effort to prove to you they had no favorites? I’m sorry if this is too blunt or gets insulting in any way. I’m genuinely concerned. I am able to have kids but want to adopt. My wife surely also wants to go through at least one pregnancy also. But I’ve always felt a calling to adopt one of the many kids that suffer in this world. I’ve also considered adopting siblings (3 max). I want my wife also to experience pregnancy and giving birth as she wants.
I don't know if you already have children but...don't have biological children, it's selfish and the worst thing you can do. ruclips.net/video/hJ_8fw6-S8A/видео.html
I have been fostered ever since I was 11 months. I still am. In fact, this year's August 30, we celebrated me being a part of my foster family for 14 years! Wow! Well... I wasn't really that into celebrating due to the thought that I missed my parents. Visits are usually about one to two up to five times a year. Because of this pandemic, I only saw my annoying older siblings (who I love so much) and my very funny mama and papi twice to pay my respects to my oldest sister who died last year plus one more time on new years. I was so excited for new years because it was the time when I got to feel what it's like to stay at their house, sleep in my family's arms, know what it's like to be in their care, and make more memories than we usually do. I came home sad that I wouldn't be able to see tham again (maybe like another year or so) but happy that I got the chance to see them. It was a life-changing experience! I want to thank the both of my moms, my dad, and siblings for being there whenever I need and want it. I was able to relate to this vid so much. I was like 'EXACTLY! So trueeeeee...' (lol). I recommend showing this vid to people who want to adopt just so you can understand our thoughts from time to time. You know times when you tell your parents 'I hate you!' but you mean 'I love you'? Tell you what... most of us don't have parents to tell that to. The moral I have learned through my whole life of growing up would be grateful for your parents, for your family in particular. Be grateful for the love you have, may that be one person or just yourself. Though you are never alone, we tend to feel that sometimes and .I.T. _.I.S._.O.K..
Lol. I remember getting bullied for being a foster while I was grade 2. The boy said "Ha! I recall that your parents can't take care of you that's why they gave you way and let you be fostered by someone else." I was kind of a loner because I was bullied through all of my elementary years. (Though... I did have my teachers to support me and be my friend and lunch mate along with another girl who I befriended with.) The teacher sitting next to me helping me understand what I need to do for my assignment then said to the boy... "Hey! You take that back or I tell the principal." My friend giggled knowing that he was dead meat sooner or later. HAHAHAHA! That's when I said... "At least my parents had a choice and chose me while your parents... ha! They have no choice! They're stuck with you!" I ended up giggling thinking of how cool I sounded. My teacher looked at me surprised since she knew I wasn't the type to defend myself and stand up for myself. After that, I ended being the talk of my teachers and even the principal! I dunno what happened to him after I moved from that school because of the bully overload but I am sure that am so hella glad to be out of that school with hell-like classmates. (I'm laughing as I'm writing this. It's so funny for me! WaHAhAHaAaAAa!)
@@mariancosio2868 im so sorry for what happened to you but if youre adopted that means your current parents actually wanted you and love you meanwhile the people who bullied you might be a mistake. so dont be sad
I don't love my purchasers. I love my real family and my real identity. and when my purchasers couldn't rewrite my identity to suite their purposes they revealed how much they never loved me. They revealed all of the anger and disappointment, and rage at me that they had put all this time effort and love into this child that dosent exist years before I was ever born. Today is the day I lost my mother forever. Today is the day I became alone, today is the day who I was became wrong, today I was born 42 years ago. If you want to tell me how ungrateful I am go back in time and stop my creation into this fraud that suited everyones desires but mine, my original legal father and my paternal grandmother.
I'm only 17 right now but I want to adopt later in life. I'm open to just about anyone I can afford to take care of regardless of age, past, medical issues, etc. I really want him/her/them to feel comfortable and loved so I'm trying to learn as much as possible in the years before I start looking. Is there anything I should know before adopting (I'm not going to until I'm at least out of college and have a stable job but I still want to learn so I know what to expect)
At the time im writing this I'm 13 and I found out I'm adopted . I really got suicidal because I thought something is wrong with because my old family let me and forgot I even exist
There is nothing wrong with you. Sadly some people are not ready to be parents and can’t support a child no matter how perfect the child is. I’m sure your old family loves you and so does your current family.
I am adopted is everyone else here adopted as well. My family is my family but for some reason I feel as an outsider from my family bcuz me and bother are adoption and my other non blood related brother are adopted tho we are treated and loved the same by everyone I still think about sometimes how it’s kinda weird to call them my family if we aren’t blood?
Maybe my daughters are the exception but my adopted daughters are so much like our own kids that we don't think about adopting. Our daughters are so close you would think they were biological sisters. Adoption is a personal issue not to be shoved on RUclips.
I never meet a adopted child but I not right that we asked them questions about it ( you know what I mean) . You and i can't imagine our life full of those questions . I mean they are not different than any other children like us who are not adopted they also have parents like us who loves them so be little sincere ... I know when we see a adopted child we show sympathy but it more harm than good sometimes just treat than normally ... Don't ask them questions out of curiosity just be there friends and they will tell you everything if that want to .... 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂
I was adopted at 8 months old and have two older sisters and my adoption parents even compare me to my biological mother saying that I’m worse than her at having relationships and “sleep” with anyone who shows me the slightest bit of attention, why can’t they understand that not everyone is perfect?
@@syedatasneemtowhid8149 Hi there, Yes I know and I am strong about this. I now have a loving boyfriend and he means the world to me. I intend to spend the rest of my life with this man as he has made me the happiest I’ve ever been.
I feel like my "parents" never wanted me I often think they think it was a mistake, I understand it tho were nothing alike, I never thought of them as my parents bc they never treated me like thier son.
I'm adopted but not in a food family n my brother is in care somewhere else n my adopted parents hate me but they don't realise that its actually hard for us
elle 123 Buttery I’m so sorry. Just hang in there try to find some healthy adults around you that u can confide in or get support from. ❤️u deserve love ❤️
Hi Robert, As adoptive parents in the UK in most cases you do not receive any money. Foster carers do receive money. There is sometimes an adoption support fund which will pay for things like therapy but this would not go to your parents. It gets paid directly to whoever is providing the service. Hope this helps.
@@katehunt6556 I wish you would do an episode on that aspect of things. I've seen some BBC material on fostering and adoption and honestly it left me confused as to what one would be getting oneself into. I understand you guys are trying to deter heartless moneygrabbers but the way the fostersystem is being presented... either it is really, really broken or the presentation of it is very subpar.
I'm a different race from the rest of my family and I've dealt with comments about it my whole life. My cousin once told me my "real" Grandma was on the other side of the world. My family (white) has made comments on my darker skin (I'm Asian- from Kazakhstan) and it made me feel different and not part of the family.
@@KarmaBulatovna no there is a word for everything: races have animals, Humans not since the Neanderthals went extinct. the race theory was refuted a long time ago If you want to say that someone is from another ethnicity you can say that they are from another ethnicity, or that they have different origins. Can I ask you where are you from? Why in Italy We would never say that someone with a different skin color is of another race, we would feel ridiculous
To be honest I actually want to adopt a three-year-old I just don't know what age I do and that is amazing I don't want to adopt someone instead of getting a girlfriend and having kids I just feel like I'm not ready for it and I probably never will but I probably might have a girlfriend but for now I'll just stick to a doctor in so I know what to do
Adoption is a joy for the adopting parents, but a trauma for the child. It's simply unnatural. If the child and adopting family can establish a loving bond that is fantastic. But it remains the case that the adopted child has to come to grips with a very unnatural event in their past. It only makes matters worse when society tells them to be grateful.
But what do we do with these abandoned children then? People are against abortion but then dont care what happens after they are born. It would be amazing if all people would be rrsponsible enought to use protection to avoid unplanned pregnancies but this will never happen. So what do we do? Im adopted so thats why I ask.
@@salut510 This is part of the "mystery of evil." Adoption is an imperfect solution. But we have to recognize there are problems associated with it. Perhaps we can find ways to help with the problems. E.g., Open adoptions may be made mandatory. Or psychological assistance for the trauma that is finally acknowledged. Clearly, it is worse to ignore the abandoned children. And you are right to point out the hypocrisy of so-called pro-lifers. They are mostly control freaks. In America, at the moment there are 140,000 kids in foster care that are free to be adopted. Most of them won't be and the statistics aren't kind regarding their future. Evil as it is, abortion doesn't result in the tragedy of Romania's communist dictator Ceausescu. He abolished abortion for 30 years, the West learned of the kids in the orphanages in the late 80s. I don't have a solution. But kids born into lousy situations are human and we need to support them as much as possible. The solution starts with honesty. (My beloved children are adopted. And I have done everything possible for them to develop insight and self esteem.)
I can see both sides but yes if someone took you in and raised you, treated you right, the least you can do is be grateful. They could’ve been the kids aging out with no one there for them.
@@malayaanderson8222 Every person deals with their past differently. The emotions are complex for an adopted person. I don't want society to put pressure on them to feel grateful. They have enough to work out for themselves. Hopefully they feel love to the people that extended their hearts to them.
@@malayaanderson8222 please don't adopt a child. Save yourself the shock of having to deal with a real human being, instead of a machine that you can program to celebrate your saviorhood.
@@Ann23Robz Don't adopt, it's child abuse, & mother abuse. It's inhumane, regardless of the lies your made to think about other people taking other people's children being ok. Biggest trauma in the world to both real mother & her baby.
Thank you for your concern. I am fully aware of the trauma of adoption. I wish we lived in a world where adoption does not exist but unfortunately it does exist. Love from South Africa @@DavinaFaerie
I am a victim of my babies being kidnapped at birth by the Australian government for the forced adoption industry. Adoptions only happen because it's a multi billion dollar industry, & all children are really kidnapped & come from the corrupted cps, docs, facs, is the truth. I am a young 100% innocent mother of government kidnappings & forced adoption based on lies because people pay for this service.
If I was adopting I would want to see the teen outside to talk and make sheer thy transition to be happy and I want to throw a party and have them get to know the family and have them trust me little bye little I don’t want to rush thair decision of saying yes to be adopted I would sit them down and have good foods and a loving atmosphere to ask them do you fell good about our family do you fell safe and welcomed and do you fell any pressure joining our family if thy say thy Enjoy me and whom ever I am with and thy can say I am happy with you i Enjoy you I think we have a good family bond ahead I will hand them the pappers and ask them do you want to be adopted if thy say yes I would hug them and be overjoyed
Amy Lewis But many people do have step-families. (I mean, they have more than their mum and dad's families because of their parents' new relationships). So adoptees shouldn't have to feel singled out just because of that? (I'm just guessing here, sorry)
Private adoption and international adoption need you to shell out huge savings to adopt. For public adoption, it is free. But any adoption, process is very complex
Shannen Canton no it wouldn’t be ok because you are withholding information from the child about their history and where they came from. When they get older and if they find out which eventually sooner or later they will, however they do, they will most likely question if everything in their life was just a big lie. And they will resent their parents for not telling them. Being adopted is nothing to be ashamed of. But I would highly not recommend to withhold that type of information from an adopted child
@@alessiasimmen9410 I agree 100%. My parents didn't tell me my dad wasn't my bio dad until I was 8 years old and they were in the middle of a divorce. I was angry, confused, and resentful. Make it a part of their story from the beginning. I tell my son that Daddy met us when he was 10 months old. He is 3. They are smarter and more resilient than you think. Also, if it's just a normal part of your family from the beginning adoption doesn't feel like a dirty word.
Meadow Rae I’m sorry you weren’t told right away. But you are completely correct to make it apart of their story from the beginning. My parents told my sister and I we were adopted when we were little and that’s all we’ve ever known. As you grow up you learn more about what being adopted is but I’m so proud to be adopted. Obviously though I can’t speak for what it is like to be adopted as a child because I was a baby.
I dont want to hear how “I was adopted when I was born and its hard” try getting shoveled around foster homes, group homes, institutions to then get adopted at 14 and abandoned a year later. Then going into the world at 15 by yourself with nobody.
Just because some may have it harder does NOT mean that you get to invalidate others feelings and hardships of their own. I was adopted at birth, I do not know my birth family, I am a difrent race from my parents, My birth parents where black, garufina, mayan, hispanic, so much that I don't know what I am. I am not saying I have it worse then kids in your sitchuation, but I have it pretty bad. I am sorry for all your losses but the goal is to love all not tell people to tone down their feelings becouse you went through worse. Everyone has their ups and downs. But if someone has more downs does not mean others arent aloud to have feeling about their downs too. I'm just saying bilittling other's stories and feelings is not a way to fell better about yours. Just because you may have some worse times does not mean others can't have their own struggles of their own.
I'm sure this won't be a popular comment but I need to speak my mind: Adoption is a really bad decision for all involved. Some people may think they are better off being adopted (and physically that can be true, but mentally and spiritually it is always a bad thing) and the people who adopt the kid may think they have done the child and the world a big favour, but I think those people are delusional. This is not the solution to the problem of parent-less children. The spirit of the child desires it's REAL parents, not fake parents. You can give your money to a charity or orphanage and help these children to live well, but when you pretend to be their mother or father all you do is confuse the child, confuse yourself, and confuse any other children you have. People don't say hurtful things to adopted children - they say truthful things that hurt. The truth is what hurts. The truth is that these people who adopt children are looking to virtue signal or pay a debt they feel they owe for having been adopted themselves or to relieve the guilt they feel for having so much when others have so little: none of these reasons change the fact that you can't magically turn yourself into the parent of a child just by buying it food and clothes. I know it's a very popular idea right now that genes don't matter: that men can be women; and women, men; and blacks, white and all sorts of other nonsense, but a man in a dress is not a woman anymore than a guy who buys you things and allows you to stay at his house is your father. Eating grass doesn't make you a cow.
Stfu I have family members that are older than my parents that were adopted, because there parents died or where not there for them. Even animals adopt like tf is your point, you're delusional parents are the ones that raise not the ones that give birth. I have met so many people who where alone and wished they belonged to certain families even if they knew they were adopted because they love the people that care for them and help them on this journey of life.
One time I was in science class and we had a genetic project and we needed to show what genetics we got from our parents. I got home and just cried in my bed. I failed my project. I even told my teacher I was adopted and I failed that project. OH WELL IM SORRY IM ADOPTED
thats unfair its literally not even your fault that you're adopted! >:/
What! That’s completely unfair. You should speak to the principal!
Literally same dude whenever we do projects like with genetics I'm always like uhhh
I’m sorry you went through this 💔
I'm so sorry that happened, that is totally unfair on your part
I’m adopted, and I love it! My parents fostered me since I was a infant, and my Dad was the one who convinced my mom to adopt me and my twin sister. Me and my Dad grew really close, he was my best friend, but he died at the age of 68 7 months ago when I had just turned 14. I am glad I meet him because of my adoption and I wouldn’t change a single thing :)
Gracie - my wife and I are adopting a 4 year old. We’re now 65, one thing we worry about a bit is how our daughter will feel having parents that are so much older than is common. How do you feel about being adopted by older than typical parents? We love our daughter very much and want to do our very best for her.
@@stevefisher182 as an adopted person my parents were 10 years older than all the other kids. All the other parents seemed to give them respect as they recognized them as older as well. My dad was always the smartest man in the room and my mom the wisest. It didn't matter at all I love them. Your kid will know nothing other than you are Mom. Good luck I was a little shit probably from some sort of issues. I will say discipline on adopted kids is counter productive they need to know you love them all the time so use it sparingly.
I am on a much desired quest to learn of my bio dad who I learned at age 57 wasn’t the man married to my bio mom. Long story short, they abandoned me at 4 1/2 months and two half sisters, 2, & 4 years. We were miraculously rescued and in my adoption records our bio mom named my bio dad ( a one night stand, or hookup as kids call it now.) PA is where bio dad was from, deceased, yet I need stories, a couple photos, ANYTHING to locate living relatives he has/had, so I can relax knowing medical history, and his life story. Our bio mom and all her family I easily found on my own and my two older half sisters. I loved my adopted family but they all are deceased without my newer research. Bio mom got pregnant soon after my birth and her husband kick her so hard she miscarried and had to be hospitalized. Her family refused to care for the 3 of us, and I was found under a bed wearing only a dish towel for a diaper, and dehydrated and dying from starvation. Two women found us and rescued us but called maternal grandfather to hurry to see me in hospital before I died. He got there wheelchair bound, and no one else. Only God truly saved my life that hot July day in 1950, the two women found us, and the hospital fed me with an eye dropper until I could safely keep fluids down and then was fostered by my adoptive family at one year old. We recently located an adopted girl by same bio mom born 14 years later!!!!! Who knows how many she had but had to surrender due to ignorance, smoker, alcoholic, and severe poverty?!?! I only need info help about the bio dad R. J. Widger ☹️
I already have a genealogist trying to find where and when he died, and a helpful relative still alive.
I am all in favor of adoption. I can't be a parent but I wish my parents had adopted a child or two SO I WOULD HAVE SIBLINGS!
I was adopted when I was 7 and I'm 14 now! I was really scared when I was in care because I was constantly told nobody would want me and that's why I was in care but now I love my family so much and I have fairly bad anxiety because of my past but I would never have believed you if said that when I was younger!
Amy Lewis l LLP
That's sounds amazing. I'm thinking of adopting, I have two children and want to adopt two more. I hope my future kids feel the same way you did. Was it difficult adjusting at 7 to a new family?
The fuck told you what? Wowwww I'm mad now. Sweetie you deserve care and love and everything. The people who told you that are just assholes 💢💢💢.
I know it’s been 3 years since you commented this but I hope your mental health is doing better and im glad you’ve found a place to call home ❤️
And your anxiety might clear up, plenty of resources are now out there to help, including art of living which my dad used, he used to have horrible anxiety and now it's mostly cleared up, anyway, have a great everything 👍
Some of the most annoying and hurting things I've ever heard, as an adopted child, are:
"Did you always know you are adopted?" - of course, I'm not some Disney character. I know some parents might lie, but in most cases it's pretty obvious if you are blood-related to your family or not, for example, my father's and mother's hair is black/brown, and their eyes are brown/slight blue, but my eyes are greenish-blue and my hair is strawberry blonde, so it's pretty easy to see.
"Do you think your family is really your family?" - of course I do, they're the best things in the world for me. They're my family, and I love them.
"Do you want to meet your bio parents?" - that question might depend on your situation. I for once, never want to meet my bio parents. I'm aware of the fact circumstances might have forced them to give me up, but I still feel abandoned. I don't hate them, but I've got my own family now, people who love me and care for me. My twin sister does want to meet our bio parents, so maybe she'll go through it.
"You don't have any real parents" - I remember being told that in middle school, and I remember having fights with kids trying to convince them I'm really a part of my family. It's so annoying and hurtful when people say that, just because we don't share the same blood doesn't mean we're less of a parent and child.
"How does it feel to be an adopted child?"- ...
Aside from that, being adopted also gave me a really deep appreciation to my life. It's not necessarily a bad thing to be an adopted person.
I don't care if people ask me questions about it, but sometimes people ask really stupid stuff
If i'll ever want to start a family, I'm adopting. Take in someone who does not have anybody.
I’m adopted and I have a twin to. It’s very rare for twins to be adopted with each other :)
@@gracietollefson4594 yeah, though fortunately enough, within my country laws force parents to adopt twins together, it's a package. so sadly, she was doomed to be stuck with me for life lol.
delias hyparete Oh ok 😂 That’s good that they keep twins together! I was stuck with my twin because I was fostered with my twin sister and my foster Dad couldn’t let any of us go 😂
painite
Yay! Less population growth! Someone with a brain!
painite captured my feelings exactly
Anyone wanting to adopt ?
Ashifa Hossain me
me
I am 13 but when i grow up i really want to adopt i don't want to be married i just want a child that i will raise her as my daughter
When i am older. I want to adopt because i was adopted aswell.
@@kateywinchcombe4327 aww that will be so cuteeeeee
Im adopted since born. Its hard but life must go on. In the near future i am willing to adopt a child to give him/her love.
Being an adopted person its hard, but remember, many people will say that YOU ARE LUCKY ! Sometimes we feel uncomfortable by hearing that When someone say that to you Just answer those persons. I am not lucky!
I am blessed to have my adoptive parents
Be strong like a mountain.
Be calm like a sea.
Be smart
Be kind
Be courageous
And be grateful.
One thing! If someone say to you that you are worthless or whatsoever just replied i am worthy like you coz we all have our own purpose in life. My purpose is to give Love and received their love.
Both of us have same goals Same way dud
Good luck
My wife was adopted and she wanted to know who her biological parents were. After years of searching she discovered she had a sister. You guys should have seen the glow on her face when she found out ..... similar to seeing a deaf person hear sound for the first time in their life. It was humbling for me to see such joy.
I placed my infant daughter for adoption and my 8 yr old daughter hopes to be reunited in the future.
@@inspirationalshanae5129 Shanique, my sincerest hope is they reunite and experience the joy I felt for my wife. What a remarkable site to behold. It’ll make tears well up in your eyes.
I have a brother out there! But my chances of knowing him is extremely slim but I wish I could find him
@inspirationalshanae5129 if I may pry, what was the circumstances for putting her up for adoption?
We are going to adopt and I just want my future child to know that we prayed for him and we love him. We will try our best to be good parents and raise him into a loving home. We may not be perfect, but hope he understands that as much as he is perplexed with the realities, we are too. We are also scared of his fears and feelings. Parents aren't perfect, we are scared too. But this is a journey we will take together and we will always choose to love him, hope he grows to love us too.
If I ever adopt a child , I would love for them to know I’ll always love them , care about them , and that I’ll always have their back on everything as if they were my biological child because they mean the world to me and I will always be there when they need me .
You are a good person but you're missing something. It's not about YOU. It's about the adoptee. They may be distraught, inconsolable, difficult, petulant, criminal, fighting back, hard to relate to. This happens. Be wary. It's not about you: it's about them. Love doesn't fix it. Just warning you.
I am adopted tooo
Same
Me too
Sad.
Why the food talkin?
@@XAEzl what food? Lol
I'm adopted with my twin brother and this video really dosen't talk about how being adopted really feels.. yet i'm still gonna adopt cause me and my kids will both know what's up!!
How does it feel?
Opps Endless it feels like your apart of a family but you still have boundaries.. and when people at school know your adopted the questions they ask are the same and it makes you feel uncomfortable and annoyed.
Thanks so much for sharing how it feels. Have you spoken to your adoptive parents about this? I would love to adopt and want to know as much as possible about making my future child feel like there are no boundaries.
Me and my twin are adopted she’s a little special ed so she doesn’t rlly think much about our biological mom but I do all the time and I can’t without breaking down-
@@oppsendless3814 our “adoptive parents” are just our parents. I don’t speak for every adoptee, but most of us find this quite offensive. The people that raised us deserve the same recognition as someone who raised their biological child. Personally, I refer to them as my parents (adopted and raised me) and my biological parents (birthed me).
I wish my foster "parents" knew this before adopting me. At least, now, it can help future kids.
You guys ever feel connected to other people who are adopted? Like you hear someone you know in school is adopted and then you go to them like “me too bro”. Or that just me?
nope not just you. :(
Nope
Im 15 now , i dont want to marry but i want a daughter and a son when im 25
sammmeee
Me too
Niggaman 9000 please adopt
I want to do the same
Samee
Im adopted from my grandma on my birth fathers side, im so lucky to have her. My grandma not only adopted me but also my older sister. She saved me from blood poisoning when i was a couple months and i also had alot of conditions of witch that could lead to death. So im really proud to see that there are others who our being proud of being adopt. although for some it may be hard or frustrating but no matter what it is never our fault.
I want to adopt when I'm older
Me too, I'm not adopted, but I understand the feeling of neglectful parents, my aunt basically raised me, so I've always wanted to help make someone's life better, rather than have my own kids.
I want to be adopted by a lovely and caring family. By people who respect me. I'm 12 and I want to ask my biological dad if he could give me for adoption. He will say no , but I'm tired of my mom saying she will kill me, coming to me with a knife on her hand and putting her hand above me saying she will kill me. IM TIRED MOM! im tired.
Mary Lee I’m so sorry this is happening to you, it shouldn’t be happening at all. Your mother should NOT do that it’s not okay. Next time she does it call 911 and call child protective services whenever
I want to adopt you. I am so sorry
Wtfa you need to call the police
It's been 2 years are u still with ur mom and dad
Sweetie call immediately the police
My niece is adopted by my eldest sister, but she died almost 7 years now
I stopped working after she died and decided to take care of my adopted niece,
I was so attached to her now I love her so much ❤️ she's now 7 years old and we're asian
I'm searching of what's adopted kids feeling and stuff
I wanna be a good mother to her ❤️
I'm married now and we planned to adopt her as my own daughter ❤️
I'm looking for video about adoption bc we want to adopt a child and i was so worried about how the children feel about being adopted.thank you for comments all the people who are adopted put here.it made me feel happy to know that its gonna be okay
I am 31 yrs old, and I just recently discovered that I was adopted. It is not even my adoptive parents who told me. All my known relatives specially on my moms side treats me differently all my life. My mom died and all her siblings hated me. It is really hard for me as now I know the reason why. I dont know how to deal what I am feeling now.
Oh im so sorry Joshua. Im adopted as well but Ive never had issues. I really hope you can heal.
Send them to hell.
I'm adopted
Nba Mix that's cool
Nba Mix no you're gay
I am adopted but i really hate my family.They doesn't even know what i likes.And i really not feel save around them.I don't really trust them and because of them i have trouble to trust people around me.
I still remember the first day they adopted me when i'm 4 years old.I not really happy at that time cause i'm not know i was adopted.
But they never treat me as their daughter,eventhough they not said it but i can feel it.
My childhood should have a happy moment but not.I really want to run but i don't know where to go.But now i'm almost 17 and next year i'm going to university.And i'm promise myself that when i'm grow up,i will move out and not to see their again
Ps:sorry for my bad english and grammar also
I definitely knew I was adopted at a young like 7years old! I love my parents that adopted me and im Asian but i consider myself Itialian like my Family! I love my big family, im #6 of 8!! I got bullied for being adopted then through out life I was bullied! Even my last job my manger he would bullied not just me but 4 others but love picking on me the most and he would tell others he like making me mad on purpose!! I wished my parents now gave me a chance to go therapy to deal with all this! It's been a heck of a journey but I'm trying to change myself!! I love my family to death and could never thank them enough, but dislike why I had to be adopted but God has a plane for everyone so this mine!
I’m so sorry to hear this… you are amazing, beautiful and loved by God no matter what you’ve had to endure in life.. if no one has told you that they loved you recently know that I love you and most importantly, God loves you! 💜
@@dianishamitchell 💚💚💚💚💚 right back at you!
They love you as an individual, that is priceless, as a biological daughter I feel bad, they love their offspring, not me, they had me on a whim like all the other children. Originally my parents planned to adopt because they couldn't conceive, but then they had my brother and because of that they they left two children with the illusion of having a family; I am definitely going to adopt instead of having biological children, I want a child to feel that I love them, not because they are of my blood but because I love who they are.
@TheyJust callMe My adopted family isn't perfect and there are some things I wish they would have done differently and there were times when they neglected me Emotionally Because they had 8 kids! Since I was bullied, they didn't do much about it even though they knew what was happening, There were times I felt like they loved their Biological l
Kids a lot more than their 4 adopted kids! But besides that They did all right it could have been worse and my mom was going through cancer and so there are times where I understood why they neglected me! But I also Never had an attached bond towards!
It is better to refer to an individual who comes into their families through adoption as just that - we built our family through adoption. Or a child can say I was adopted at birth or whenever but not I am adopted. Adoption is your birth story or an event not a description of who you are. Important to distinguish for healthy identity formation.
Thank you for making this! As an adoptee I understand completely.
I'm 22 and my parents doesn't know I know I'm adopted and my relatives are being a jerk. Asking me if I know already and asking if they're my parents. Like dude it's a sensitive topic. It's my life. Also, they're talking behind our back about this. I don't know. i feel sad and worthless because of that.
It's always the relatives🙂
Don't they probably don't understand because how old u are they think u wouldn't care or they just don't understand.
@@marjoridp7112 i think they just want to make fun with me. this was a year ago and wooow they still do this hahaha
You are special and God made you for a great purpose. You are worth everything. Cheer up. Sending hugs❤
Thank you. As an adopted person I appreciate this.
Hi, I want to adopt an older child. I do have kids but I always wanted a big(ger) family. I wonder if the child will feel like part of the family or just look at me like some sort of eternal babysitter?
Also, will the existence of biological children make it harder for an adopted kid to feel wanted and loved?
Hello, Thank you for getting in touch. Please contact our Families that Last team on 0300 456 2656 or at familiesthatlastteam@afteradoption.org.uk. Our friendly team will be able to answer your questions about adoption. We also hold regular Exploring Adoption events in Manchester, Liverpool & Birmingham. www.afteradoption.org.uk/i-am-thinking-about-adopting/events/
Elise Adamenko Thanks 😊 I sure hope I'm up to the task. I would hate for him/her to resent me for it later. I keep asking myself why I want to do this. It's like wanting to get pregnant - there isn't a really good logical reason/answer to that question either. It just feels right I guess.
Jenny Johnsson please don’t adopt
@@hakunamatata1352 Don't adopt, it's child abuse, & mother abuse.
It's inhumane, regardless of the lies your made to think about other people taking other people's children being ok.
Biggest trauma in the world to both real mother & her baby.
@@DavinaFaerie Yes, I agree (isn't that ironic?) There are so many cases where a little help to mum would have enabled her to keep and raise her child/children. But there are kids who don't have anyone in this world. Kids, who upon adoption would be gaining and not losing. That is the kind of adoption I would be comfortable with, if that makes sense.
I’am adopted, and my adoption was a closed one💔. I only know my birth moms first name..it’s Jennifer and that’s it🥺. As I get older the more..I feel like I don’t belong in my adopted parents family..because my sister(half sister) and I are not blood related. It’s sad knowing my REAL family is out there somewhere🥺. I look out my bedroom window with tears in my eyes...and say don’t forget about me and I love you guys🧡. I love my adopted parents don’t get me wrong...but I want to know my REAL BLOOD parents 🖤.
blood doesn't equal real. remember that.
Same💔😔❤(I'm 13) but we have to be strong
and never forget lives goes on
Ungrateful
@@remoir6273 I’m sorry but who asked you? Oh wait no one did😅👏🏽
It's not to offend...nah', forget if you're really stupid, I'm a biological daughter and I couldn't be more disconnected from my family, it's just blood, appreciate what you have; family are the ones that loves you, not the ones that just fucked to conceive you and only share genetics with you.
whErE aRe yOur rEal pArEnts
I was fostered at 5 and adopted at 12. I can't help feeling that the true essence of myself was altered due to the change in my upbringing, for good or bad. I truly believe that genetically we are born with certain aspects of our nature. I'm in my fifties now and have grandchildren and I would hate to change who they are for good or bad.
What about children left by drug addicts and alcoholics? Is it terrible that they can now grow into respectable people instead of addicts like their parents? Why changing their "essence" for the better is a bad thing? Adopted kids are almost always left by disruptive families with severe issues. Their "true essence" was never bright and healthy
God bless you for making this channel ❤️
I always wondered to hear about people’s experience in families that have both a birth child and an adopted child. Anyone can share their experience? I’m interested in the perspective of anyone in that family. The parents’ and either child’s. To the parents; did you ever feel pressure of making it clear to the children or even outsiders that you love both kids equally? Did you actually feel the same way about both? Did you catch yourself being more “unfair” to your birth child in an effort to compensate for the fact that the adopted kid might need more proof of love? From the birth child’s perspective; how was it for you? To the adopted child: how was it for you? Did you feel like you needed more proof from your parents? Did you feel less loved or did you fear that they loved you less? Did you sometimes question whether their actions were legitimate or in an effort to prove to you they had no favorites?
I’m sorry if this is too blunt or gets insulting in any way. I’m genuinely concerned. I am able to have kids but want to adopt. My wife surely also wants to go through at least one pregnancy also. But I’ve always felt a calling to adopt one of the many kids that suffer in this world. I’ve also considered adopting siblings (3 max). I want my wife also to experience pregnancy and giving birth as she wants.
I am curious about these things too
I don't know if you already have children but...don't have biological children, it's selfish and the worst thing you can do.
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I have been fostered ever since I was 11 months. I still am. In fact, this year's August 30, we celebrated me being a part of my foster family for 14 years! Wow! Well... I wasn't really that into celebrating due to the thought that I missed my parents. Visits are usually about one to two up to five times a year. Because of this pandemic, I only saw my annoying older siblings (who I love so much) and my very funny mama and papi twice to pay my respects to my oldest sister who died last year plus one more time on new years. I was so excited for new years because it was the time when I got to feel what it's like to stay at their house, sleep in my family's arms, know what it's like to be in their care, and make more memories than we usually do. I came home sad that I wouldn't be able to see tham again (maybe like another year or so) but happy that I got the chance to see them. It was a life-changing experience! I want to thank the both of my moms, my dad, and siblings for being there whenever I need and want it. I was able to relate to this vid so much. I was like 'EXACTLY! So trueeeeee...' (lol). I recommend showing this vid to people who want to adopt just so you can understand our thoughts from time to time. You know times when you tell your parents 'I hate you!' but you mean 'I love you'? Tell you what... most of us don't have parents to tell that to. The moral I have learned through my whole life of growing up would be grateful for your parents, for your family in particular. Be grateful for the love you have, may that be one person or just yourself. Though you are never alone, we tend to feel that sometimes and .I.T. _.I.S._.O.K..
Lol. I remember getting bullied for being a foster while I was grade 2. The boy said "Ha! I recall that your parents can't take care of you that's why they gave you way and let you be fostered by someone else." I was kind of a loner because I was bullied through all of my elementary years. (Though... I did have my teachers to support me and be my friend and lunch mate along with another girl who I befriended with.) The teacher sitting next to me helping me understand what I need to do for my assignment then said to the boy... "Hey! You take that back or I tell the principal." My friend giggled knowing that he was dead meat sooner or later. HAHAHAHA! That's when I said... "At least my parents had a choice and chose me while your parents... ha! They have no choice! They're stuck with you!" I ended up giggling thinking of how cool I sounded. My teacher looked at me surprised since she knew I wasn't the type to defend myself and stand up for myself. After that, I ended being the talk of my teachers and even the principal! I dunno what happened to him after I moved from that school because of the bully overload but I am sure that am so hella glad to be out of that school with hell-like classmates. (I'm laughing as I'm writing this. It's so funny for me! WaHAhAHaAaAAa!)
@@mariancosio2868 im so sorry for what happened to you but if youre adopted that means your current parents actually wanted you and love you meanwhile the people who bullied you might be a mistake. so dont be sad
I don't love my purchasers. I love my real family and my real identity. and when my purchasers couldn't rewrite my identity to suite their purposes they revealed how much they never loved me. They revealed all of the anger and disappointment, and rage at me that they had put all this time effort and love into this child that dosent exist years before I was ever born. Today is the day I lost my mother forever. Today is the day I became alone, today is the day who I was became wrong, today I was born 42 years ago. If you want to tell me how ungrateful I am go back in time and stop my creation into this fraud that suited everyones desires but mine, my original legal father and my paternal grandmother.
I'm adopted :) any one else ?
I'm only 17 right now but I want to adopt later in life. I'm open to just about anyone I can afford to take care of regardless of age, past, medical issues, etc. I really want him/her/them to feel comfortable and loved so I'm trying to learn as much as possible in the years before I start looking. Is there anything I should know before adopting (I'm not going to until I'm at least out of college and have a stable job but I still want to learn so I know what to expect)
When they say : who are your REAL parents?
At the time im writing this I'm 13 and I found out I'm adopted . I really got suicidal because I thought something is wrong with because my old family let me and forgot I even exist
Lis Shala, don't be.. You are full of life and don't forget you are the sunshine for your family.
There is nothing wrong with you. Sadly some people are not ready to be parents and can’t support a child no matter how perfect the child is. I’m sure your old family loves you and so does your current family.
But what if you were adopted as a baby?
I was adpoted, then put in foster care at 10 years old.
I'm upset that I don't know the exact date when I was born
I am adopted is everyone else here adopted as well. My family is my family but for some reason I feel as an outsider from my family bcuz me and bother are adoption and my other non blood related brother are adopted tho we are treated and loved the same by everyone I still think about sometimes how it’s kinda weird to call them my family if we aren’t blood?
My dad adopted me when I was three. I was from my mom's previous marriage. I can relate to this feeling, especially with my dad's extended family.
I’ve been fostering for a little while, usually closer or younger than my kids age. Hopefully I can adopt one day since I’ve started the process.
Does it change things when the adopting family has multiple family members who were adopted? (In my case, their aunts and grandma)
Maybe my daughters are the exception but my adopted daughters are so much like our own kids that we don't think about adopting. Our daughters are so close you would think they were biological sisters. Adoption is a personal issue not to be shoved on RUclips.
I never meet a adopted child but I not right that we asked them questions about it ( you know what I mean) . You and i can't imagine our life full of those questions . I mean they are not different than any other children like us who are not adopted they also have parents like us who loves them so be little sincere ... I know when we see a adopted child we show sympathy but it more harm than good sometimes just treat than normally ... Don't ask them questions out of curiosity just be there friends and they will tell you everything if that want to ....
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I was adopted at 8 months old and have two older sisters and my adoption parents even compare me to my biological mother saying that I’m worse than her at having relationships and “sleep” with anyone who shows me the slightest bit of attention, why can’t they understand that not everyone is perfect?
Very rude to say. My older sis is adopted and the aunt she lived with gossip about birth mom. People need to know negative words hurt
Sad but you are strong enough to get over this. You don't always need to be perfect, just stay strong.
@@syedatasneemtowhid8149 Hi there, Yes I know and I am strong about this. I now have a loving boyfriend and he means the world to me. I intend to spend the rest of my life with this man as he has made me the happiest I’ve ever been.
I feel like my "parents" never wanted me I often think they think it was a mistake, I understand it tho were nothing alike, I never thought of them as my parents bc they never treated me like thier son.
I want to get adopted.
I was adopted when I was 6 and now I’m 17
I'm a sister to my loved adopted sister!
Thank you for this!!
I had texas toast earlier.
Nice
Actually my friend is adopted I feel bad for her. And I’m adopted too.
I just search this up when I had a dream when I searched how to know your adopted in a baby boss office
My mom was 60+ years old and i'm still 11 yrs old and i think i'm adopted☹️
I'm adopted but not in a food family n my brother is in care somewhere else n my adopted parents hate me but they don't realise that its actually hard for us
elle 123 Buttery I’m so sorry. Just hang in there try to find some healthy adults around you that u can confide in or get support from. ❤️u deserve love ❤️
Looks like this is a adopt support youtube channel.
Can i adopt the range 20 to 25yo people that didnt adopted when there young?
I was adopted... but I got separated from my brother..
Yesterday was my 15 birthday I want to know if my new parents recieve money for adopting me and my brother (uk)
Hi Robert,
As adoptive parents in the UK in most cases you do not receive any money. Foster carers do receive money.
There is sometimes an adoption support fund which will pay for things like therapy but this would not go to your parents. It gets paid directly to whoever is providing the service. Hope this helps.
@@katehunt6556 I wish you would do an episode on that aspect of things. I've seen some BBC material on fostering and adoption and honestly it left me confused as to what one would be getting oneself into. I understand you guys are trying to deter heartless moneygrabbers but the way the fostersystem is being presented... either it is really, really broken or the presentation of it is very subpar.
I'm a different race from the rest of my family and I've dealt with comments about it my whole life. My cousin once told me my "real" Grandma was on the other side of the world. My family (white) has made comments on my darker skin (I'm Asian- from Kazakhstan) and it made me feel different and not part of the family.
I can kinda relate I'm African American mixed with something else idk. And my family is Italian and Irish so we're pretty different lil
our species has only one race
@@jasmineperry387 are you one of those people who say they're "colorblind" and don't see color? Do you want me to say 'category' or something
@@randomname1875 yeah and everyone knows you're adopted just by looking at you, it's kinda uncomfortable
@@KarmaBulatovna no there is a word for everything: races have animals, Humans not since the Neanderthals went extinct. the race theory was refuted a long time ago If you want to say that someone is from another ethnicity you can say that they are from another ethnicity, or that they have different origins. Can I ask you where are you from? Why in Italy We would never say that someone with a different skin color is of another race, we would feel ridiculous
why does everyone seem so positive about beinh adopted? i feel so sad....
@@SandyKayD I hope your life gets better
My mum says in not adopted but I don’t look like anyone in my family and I found proof to and she won’t admit it
Any update?
I'm adopted too.. And now I'm in nowhere I'm lost
Im adopted my mom teasing me "go back to your real momm"" its hurt lol😃
that is not ok at all
Thats horrible!
Be, no pressure here, You have been wanted. If a bit late to party.
To be honest I actually want to adopt a three-year-old I just don't know what age I do and that is amazing I don't want to adopt someone instead of getting a girlfriend and having kids I just feel like I'm not ready for it and I probably never will but I probably might have a girlfriend but for now I'll just stick to a doctor in so I know what to do
What is this accent? Irish? I'm curious to know.
@Clementine's Thigh Gap iris
Adoption is a joy for the adopting parents, but a trauma for the child. It's simply unnatural. If the child and adopting family can establish a loving bond that is fantastic. But it remains the case that the adopted child has to come to grips with a very unnatural event in their past. It only makes matters worse when society tells them to be grateful.
But what do we do with these abandoned children then? People are against abortion but then dont care what happens after they are born. It would be amazing if all people would be rrsponsible enought to use protection to avoid unplanned pregnancies but this will never happen. So what do we do? Im adopted so thats why I ask.
@@salut510 This is part of the "mystery of evil." Adoption is an imperfect solution. But we have to recognize there are problems associated with it. Perhaps we can find ways to help with the problems. E.g., Open adoptions may be made mandatory. Or psychological assistance for the trauma that is finally acknowledged. Clearly, it is worse to ignore the abandoned children. And you are right to point out the hypocrisy of so-called pro-lifers. They are mostly control freaks. In America, at the moment there are 140,000 kids in foster care that are free to be adopted. Most of them won't be and the statistics aren't kind regarding their future. Evil as it is, abortion doesn't result in the tragedy of Romania's communist dictator Ceausescu. He abolished abortion for 30 years, the West learned of the kids in the orphanages in the late 80s. I don't have a solution. But kids born into lousy situations are human and we need to support them as much as possible. The solution starts with honesty. (My beloved children are adopted. And I have done everything possible for them to develop insight and self esteem.)
I can see both sides but yes if someone took you in and raised you, treated you right, the least you can do is be grateful.
They could’ve been the kids aging out with no one there for them.
@@malayaanderson8222 Every person deals with their past differently. The emotions are complex for an adopted person. I don't want society to put pressure on them to feel grateful. They have enough to work out for themselves. Hopefully they feel love to the people that extended their hearts to them.
@@malayaanderson8222 please don't adopt a child. Save yourself the shock of having to deal with a real human being, instead of a machine that you can program to celebrate your saviorhood.
I want to adopt A child when I'm in the age of 26
I’m 26 and in the waiting phase of adoption :)
@@Ann23Robz Don't adopt, it's child abuse, & mother abuse.
It's inhumane, regardless of the lies your made to think about other people taking other people's children being ok.
Biggest trauma in the world to both real mother & her baby.
Thank you for your concern. I am fully aware of the trauma of adoption. I wish we lived in a world where adoption does not exist but unfortunately it does exist. Love from South Africa @@DavinaFaerie
I am a victim of my babies being kidnapped at birth by the Australian government for the forced adoption industry.
Adoptions only happen because it's a multi billion dollar industry, & all children are really kidnapped & come from the corrupted cps, docs, facs, is the truth.
I am a young 100% innocent mother of government kidnappings & forced adoption based on lies because people pay for this service.
@@DavinaFaerie The only reason why the goverment would take your kid is because you are a horrible parent and unfit to raise a child
i want to be adopted from my current family, their abusive and mean i hate them
Why create another baby when there are kids already waiting for a home?
I am adopted and i don't live with the same race with other people around me so it's very hard for me
I could imagine being in a ton of different homes would be more so.
I am lucky that nobody adopt me
I want to marry, but to adopt kids.
No, we do NOT all love our “new families”. Speak for yourself.
Since I'm asian, I've never been adopted before
I am adopted....I got to know it....I am 12 year old...and very sad
I have a bike too
she said:loockie me
If I was adopting I would want to see the teen outside to talk and make sheer thy transition to be happy and I want to throw a party and have them get to know the family and have them trust me little bye little I don’t want to rush thair decision of saying yes to be adopted I would sit them down and have good foods and a loving atmosphere to ask them do you fell good about our family do you fell safe and welcomed and do you fell any pressure joining our family if thy say thy Enjoy me and whom ever I am with and thy can say I am happy with you i Enjoy you I think we have a good family bond ahead I will hand them the pappers and ask them do you want to be adopted if thy say yes I would hug them and be overjoyed
At least im not alone
I am really sorry that I am adopted
I wish that I was adopted. It's too boring in orphanages...
Today I know I am adopted.😞 sad day for me.
What she language??
I'm adopting
My mother just adopted my little sister
I hate when people say so have you met your parents
Me: bitch not all people are adopted at negative 9
Yes me
Adoption three
i feel like im adopted
what
What does being adopted feel like?
I never met my real parents, all I know is that my mom's name is Rebecca and dads name is Mark I think
Does anyone feel nervous about how they're going to tell their future kids why they have 3 families??
Amy Lewis But many people do have step-families. (I mean, they have more than their mum and dad's families because of their parents' new relationships). So adoptees shouldn't have to feel singled out just because of that? (I'm just guessing here, sorry)
I wanna adopt so I can train my kid to be an assassin
Are you for real? Adopting is almost always morally wrong. It's all about the money honey.
I am curious, why you say so?
Not sure what you mean about the money? In the UK adoptive parents are not paid
Private adoption and international adoption need you to shell out huge savings to adopt. For public adoption, it is free. But any adoption, process is very complex
Is it ok not to tell anyone at all even the child themself that they're adopted?
Shannen Canton no it wouldn’t be ok because you are withholding information from the child about their history and where they came from. When they get older and if they find out which eventually sooner or later they will, however they do, they will most likely question if everything in their life was just a big lie. And they will resent their parents for not telling them. Being adopted is nothing to be ashamed of. But I would highly not recommend to withhold that type of information from an adopted child
@@alessiasimmen9410 I agree 100%. My parents didn't tell me my dad wasn't my bio dad until I was 8 years old and they were in the middle of a divorce. I was angry, confused, and resentful. Make it a part of their story from the beginning. I tell my son that Daddy met us when he was 10 months old. He is 3. They are smarter and more resilient than you think. Also, if it's just a normal part of your family from the beginning adoption doesn't feel like a dirty word.
Meadow Rae I’m sorry you weren’t told right away. But you are completely correct to make it apart of their story from the beginning. My parents told my sister and I we were adopted when we were little and that’s all we’ve ever known. As you grow up you learn more about what being adopted is but I’m so proud to be adopted. Obviously though I can’t speak for what it is like to be adopted as a child because I was a baby.
I dont want to hear how “I was adopted when I was born and its hard” try getting shoveled around foster homes, group homes, institutions to then get adopted at 14 and abandoned a year later. Then going into the world at 15 by yourself with nobody.
Just because some may have it harder does NOT mean that you get to invalidate others feelings and hardships of their own. I was adopted at birth, I do not know my birth family, I am a difrent race from my parents, My birth parents where black, garufina, mayan, hispanic, so much that I don't know what I am. I am not saying I have it worse then kids in your sitchuation, but I have it pretty bad. I am sorry for all your losses but the goal is to love all not tell people to tone down their feelings becouse you went through worse. Everyone has their ups and downs. But if someone has more downs does not mean others arent aloud to have feeling about their downs too. I'm just saying bilittling other's stories and feelings is not a way to fell better about yours. Just because you may have some worse times does not mean others can't have their own struggles of their own.
I'm sure this won't be a popular comment but I need to speak my mind: Adoption is a really bad decision for all involved. Some people may think they are better off being adopted (and physically that can be true, but mentally and spiritually it is always a bad thing) and the people who adopt the kid may think they have done the child and the world a big favour, but I think those people are delusional. This is not the solution to the problem of parent-less children. The spirit of the child desires it's REAL parents, not fake parents. You can give your money to a charity or orphanage and help these children to live well, but when you pretend to be their mother or father all you do is confuse the child, confuse yourself, and confuse any other children you have. People don't say hurtful things to adopted children - they say truthful things that hurt. The truth is what hurts. The truth is that these people who adopt children are looking to virtue signal or pay a debt they feel they owe for having been adopted themselves or to relieve the guilt they feel for having so much when others have so little: none of these reasons change the fact that you can't magically turn yourself into the parent of a child just by buying it food and clothes. I know it's a very popular idea right now that genes don't matter: that men can be women; and women, men; and blacks, white and all sorts of other nonsense, but a man in a dress is not a woman anymore than a guy who buys you things and allows you to stay at his house is your father. Eating grass doesn't make you a cow.
Stfu I have family members that are older than my parents that were adopted, because there parents died or where not there for them. Even animals adopt like tf is your point, you're delusional parents are the ones that raise not the ones that give birth. I have met so many people who where alone and wished they belonged to certain families even if they knew they were adopted because they love the people that care for them and help them on this journey of life.