"YOU HAVE TO WAIT!" - What I said to the FedEx guy when he told me to wait
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Our ability to handle situation where what we want is at odds with what other people want is a very important skill.
If you don't have it, you may get pushed around and always get the short end of the stick.
In this video, Barron will walk you through a situation he was in with a delivery guy and talk you through his thought processes that were used to arrive at his decision about how to handle it.
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I always start with a gentle “will you help me?” People for the most part want to feel helpful so I use that a lot in a situation like that one. “Will you help me please? I’m running late for a meeting and really need my package to get my job done.” It works most of the time and then I always offer a sincere “thank you for your help it means a lot”
I'm an Early Childhood teacher and can honestly vouch that this definitely works on under fives lol They love to feel helpful the little cuties
Kathy Shifflett -Ageed that works for me too
Yaaaay, finally some classic format of the video lessons 😀thank you coach Barron 💚
Long time comin'!
Say: "I have COVID man, you might want to get out of my way for a minute."
Lamo that works 😂😂
That made me laugh out loud
@Dingle Barry If he's that bright. Next time you go out into the public look at the sheeple around you.
@Dingle Barry I totally agree.
So stay home
Just found this channel. You and I are very much alike, speaking loudly with confidence is everything. You left out the fact that your build/stature is a variable that gets taken into consideration as well. You look like you have a strong build/tall dude, some others aren't so lucky unfortunately. Great video!
I would’ve told him that I was running late for a meeting and if he wouldn’t mind if I just grabbed it and go. If you are respectful and cordial usually the mailman will let you jump in.
Nah. All delivery guys feel unappreciated so when they get a chance of being important and having a power over someone, when they have your package, they won't let go of it. They'll use it and by being polite you're playing into their game. You gotta show them you're not someone whom they can mess with. The whole point of charisma matrix is to teach you how to be more confident and you gotta realize that you've got to be assertive to shine out confidence around you.
@@ZEROTOHERO0100 with that approach, you have to butter them up first and then try to persuade them to side with you.
You can't just play the beta card and ask for his compassion.
You have to prime them and then sell them.
Well I'm not saying that may way of handling it would work 100%. It really is maybe 40-50% but it's a badass move and it's making you a high status/alpha and that's what this channel is trying to teach you on how to become alpha, high status, confident and assertive. Your way is more casual way of what most people would do. But you don't wanna be like the others. You want to be more than them. Because that's why you came to this channel to learn this stuff
Martin you are clearly not an alpha
@@ZEROTOHERO0100 Politeness is more important than making yourself look like an alpha. Manners maketh man
What would you have done if he'd said: No I won't let you. You'll have to wait.
Buffalo Man: then cough twice, get closer and tell him your waiting on your COVID test results!! Take your mail and say hey my test results, then open when your walking away (stay quiet)
Thanks for the videos! Super interesting and I started watching just for fun, but am learning new things!
Never thought of it that way and it actually makes sense. Very much appreciate it. Thanks for the knowledge.
Such good stuff man. This is life changing!
Awesome video, this is going to help with me asserting myself and boost my confidence.
Good deal.
So neat I just discovered your videos and I have been to Prison where before I wasn’t at all assertive about my rights and it’s through that ordeal that I learned how to be more confident and it’s one of the best outcomes from my time through that. I like your videos not because I need to learn to be confident but I love different views that I can incorporate to make me a better husband, son, and friend.
great video, please do more videos on this topic!!
My response to mailman before I continue with video:
"Hey man. I'm headed to a meeting that starts in just a few moments. I really need an item from my mailbox that is crucial for this meeting . Can you please do me this one favor and let me get what I need?"
UPDATE: I finished the video. Ok. You have the better way to handle it.
BRILLIANT !! I 'm with you !
Comfortable being assertive, I like that.
You held ur emotions back and was patient
I actually like these videos much more then the “analyzing” ones you do frequently. Here you are giving good practical advise and instruction, while the “analyzing” while humorous are not always applicable.
But what if after you said “I’m Jumpin in, I’m next” he says “no fr you really gotta wait”
Opi-Rage LOL...and he would dominate that ham! He’d slap every. single. slice. He’d cut the cheese so hard. He’d exert his assertiveness to a frothy over-exertion on that damn ham sammich!
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose He'd bite his lip on the first bite of the sandwich.
Time is money and money is time.
Both parties find a way to operate and go about their way.
I use to be a people pleaser and it would just cause me to dislike myself. I always got myself into situations that made me unhappy and I knew it was my own fault for not having a backbone.
Remember too that it’s not a personality trait because when you try to be more assertive with people that viewed you as a pushover they’ll start acting as if you should ' stay in your lane’ don’t take this either - I’m in the same situation we can do it girl 💪
That really sucks. I'm glad you're finding your voice. Being a people pleaser not only makes you not value yourself as much as you'd like but also it makes you lose faith in people and start to dislike people in general. I saw this on a T-shirt once..."I used to like people, but people ruined it." Keep building that confidence and charisma. You'll find your relationships with people will soar. I was a pushover up until 4 years ago when I found this channel. The more you practice, the easier it becomes. Soon, people will value you and people don't mess with you. Your confidence will in turn boost your self-esteem. You'll look at people in a new light. You'll walk away from situations feeling great about yourself. I no longer hate people. The good-natured, light-hearted banter is fun now and I find myself actually laughing more in life and genuinely having a good time with people. Keep practicing. You're getting there. :-)
Skoben2000 this is amazing, do you think people are a little scared of you or just don’t mess because they think ur cool also I’d like to contact you
Hey Barron, really appreciate all your videos they are a great help! I'm guessing you work as an attorney or something as you're so well spoken
Cheers man, thanks for the kind words.
The Charisma Matrix I’m curious; please share with us your Non-RUclips profession. Thank You!
Yeah it might just be 90seconds, but he will be thinking that he will be delayed by 90seconds EVERY time someone comes along to get their mail
it really works our for me get my ex back..
I can help you out..
text me on WhatsApp for directive..
Yes, what you tell us is definitely good way to handle the situation. On the contrary, if one were to say nothing and just let the other person take 20 minutes to finish what he has to do while making oneself late, then this is the sort of passive behavior that, done often enough, chews off one's personal self-esteem. But the way you recommend is neither passive nor aggressive but simply assertive. I like how you demonstrate specific situations with specific way/s to handle it, including exactly what one might say or do. This gives good understanding and confidence to apply what you suggest.
You have the best sound quality.
You keep mentioning "exerting yourself". I believe you mean "asserting yourself".
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” - Inigo Montoya,
Hey guys, he’s using the word correctly. Fact check me 😉
Someone told me once that you should be careful when publicly correcting someone else's grammar, because unless you are a grammar expert, it will backfire as soon as you make a grammar mistake yourself - people notice these things. The same principle applies to correcting someone on his use of words. In an attempt to make someone else feel stupid for using the wrong word and yourself smarter, you revealed the opposite. If you are not sure if a word is valid or not, then look it up in a dictionary before embarrassing yourself when attempting to humiliate someone else.
The point of all that bantering: "Exert" is a completely valid word to use in the context it was being used for. "Assert" might have worked too. But that is the thing about vocabulary choices, it is up to us which word we choose.
@@lisadee7923 You are correct.
I think he means to jog in place while talking to the Fed Ex guy.
If you really need a package before meeting a deadline get special rush delivery, because if you push them they may comply, but give you spiteful payback down the road in the way of trashing, stealing damaging or incredibly misplacing a future package so it's way late. That's why I don't shmooze with the post man/ woman and wait till they leave to go the community mailbox to get my mail and I'm always nice to the Amazon/fed ex/ UPS people because I don't want to give them any reason to dislike me and F me down the road. Sometimes you have to play the game to win the game.
It's sad to see you're living in fear and buying into they can hurt me narrative.
@@thirtyeight4558 It's not fear. It common sense and being in survival mode realizing we are surrounded by a lot of evil a holes including delivery people. I've been here now nearly five years and have not met any of my postal delivery people and never will. It also saves me in the way of Christmas tips. I have nothing to prove to myself or anyone else that I'm a big tough guy by putting pressure on the delivery person for me to be next. A lot of delivery people will tell you no and there's nothing you can do about it as they can have you arrested for interfering with the their job as there are federal laws that protect them. It's not living in fear, it's protecting my mail and packages from stuff you can't see or do anything about in the long run. Getting my stuff on time and undamaged is more important than my ego. Waiting also develops patience.
zachparade you just like a spineless beta. Im my opinion
Rough seas is an understatement. I've been under some mile high tsunamis, metaphorically. But I'm getting better at, definitely taking your advice and asserting myself more.
I don't disagree with your decision. I would do the same myself. But I can se that the logic, from the delivery guy's perspective : it's not about the 90 seconds you take up of his time. It's about the potential of running in to 10-20-30- guys on the same situation within a workday. That ads up to hours, where he is prohibited from doing his job. Am I wrong?
You’re not wrong but you’re not right it really depends on the situation but I like your comment because I’m also a driver for FedEx
it's not as simple as saying "it's a minute and a half out of his day verses 20 minutes out of mine". You have to remember that this delivery guy could well encounter a situation like this every day!
Charisma education aside, this man is very chill
Hi, I found out that my walking affects my confidence. Can you make video on that.
Thanks.
Depends if you are a pretty girl, FedEx guy will surely say no problem. Get it?? Your appearance is also very important.
That's a FedEx driver just trying to flex himself, I fix one of it's rivals' lockers as part of my work. There's a huge difference between when IT accesses a locker and when a driver does, and usually I'm still able to stop what I'm doing and allow customer pick or drop off packages, if it's just one person.
Just a quick off topic question to ask the community that shares my mentors.
When someone sees you with a new tool, gadget, garment, shoes accessory etc and the first thing they ask is “how much did that cost?” Does that suggest low value? I feel like it does and inside I make a negative judgement but I can’t articulate why…
Agreed. I wouldn’t even have given him a minute
Barron, your videos are awesome and your advice is invaluable. This is literally the only time I've disagreed with you :-). Your move tells the mail man you think he's lower status than you, but he's literally the dude bringing you your goodies every day. There was also a risk that he could have said, "Sir, that truck is federal property and you could be charged with willful obstruction and delay of the passage of mail if you jump in there." That was risky, and I admire your confidence, but there might be hidden costs down the line. I use high status neutral tonality with my mail man combined with friendly gestures (learned this from you). In hot weather I tell him to stay hydrated and I ALWAYS use his name when I talk to him. Upon meeting my mail man for the first time I asked him his name. His name's Todd. Now when I see him, it's, "Hey Todd, how's is going man?" At Christmas I give him a $25 gift card to Starbucks. Dude I'm Todd's favorite customer.
Do the red table Will Smith interview...I believe ppl can learn something from this.
What's that ? Explain please
You jumping in and I'm PUNCHING YOU OUT!!!
Barron, I love your shit. Do you have any advice for dealing with clients who take up too much of your valuable time waffling on on the phone?
#0 He is representing FedEx and you are the customer. Because he's in uniform, his behavior is more cautious because he's more at risk if you happen to be the person to call the manager or whatever. This is the baseline
#1 Always agree. "You have to wait" => "I understand man..."
#2 Explain the situation "...There's a really important package that I need for a meeting I'm heading to and I'm running a little late as it is, you've know how that goes..." (relate the situation)
#3 Assert. "..so I'm going to grab it real quick, thank you for understanding"
The above is a bit wordy to lay out the full context for this comment explanation, and it can be shortened in real life. So long as you dont come across as an entitled "i'm mr important, get out of my way", things should be fine
Most people are reasonable if they understand why you're asking for something.
And the same goes for making sure you're understanding what they are saying also (the agreement, "I understand")
Ryan Lelek I disagree most ppl are emotionally impulsive and take any grain of salt as a threat to there ego or cred
No one bosses me. I'd ignore him.
as a fedex driver, i always let people get their stuff from lockers while im loading them, it’s gonna take them a minute max. plus it opens an extra slot for the lockers. i honestly don’t even know why he wanted you to wait
I delivered for years, everyone is expected something important as soon as they see us. I would of took my break. Lol
I work for ups and I understand what these delivery men/ women go through. There are real pressures on them to get done at a certain time. With that said if I’m the driver I’m going to try and accommodate the customer. It wouldn’t delay his day much at all. That particular driver may have had either a bad day OR he’s just a prick.
it really works our for me get my ex back.
I can help you out..
text me on WhatsApp for directive..
While I don't live in a high rise, I am fortunate enough to have my own residence. On the days when I don't have big mail, I have taken time out to say hello to the postman on his motorbike, introduce myself and ask his name and his background.
At Christmas time I gave him a six pack of beer and at Easter, some chocolate Easter eggs.
I've never had an issue with my mail.
Is it bribery or just being thoughtful?
I'm hoping it is the latter.
I would start with, "Hey, you look like a reasonable guy..." then I'd kindly let him know I was in a hurry and would appreciate a little help. Most people will instinctively WANT TO APPEAR as they are indeed "a reasonable guy". It works, try it.
If it's just me and not a lineup I remind them that it will take me a lot less time to do it than for us to talk about me doing it.
Lmao- for some reason at the start of this video I thought *your package was still on the mail truck....I was thinking, "no, actually I wouldn't help myself to the back of a mailman's truck" lmao.
But, if it were already in my mail box, hell yay- he can keep doing what he's gotta do...
Reminds me of the video you made about the bread in Panera where you put the bakery guy in his place for how he treated you and the elderly woman. If the guy doesn't want to accommodate you I would use the advice from that video.
Hey man, I hope you reply to me on this.
My groceries are going to be boxed and when the worker came in, he told me he is going to get a box to box my groceries. When he came back, he boxed the customer's groceries next to me, I was surprised and told him, "hey, why are you boxing that first?".
What could you have said if you were in my situation? Thank you.
I'm just a little confused at the process. It sounds a little like my bank of mailboxes for the USPS where the entire back opens up so the guy has access to the boxes. I would think that either a legal or insurance thing would require they finish uninterrupted once they start, but the subject line of the video says this is FedEx.
Sounds like he has to open each individual box with a combo
First off, I will avoid USPS WHENEVER possible.
But this happened with me recently and I assigned the worker a task after agreeing and it went fine.
"You can't touch anything while it's open sir..."
"Yes, that's a good rule. Could you grab that one (*points*) for me please?"
Bingo.
The rule is they can't be interrupted sure, and that makes total sense. Taking someone else's mail is a crime and they have 20+ mailboxes opened all at once. One mistake when you're in a hurry, and you grab the wrong mail because it's not labeled (not saying you but we all know some idiot would grab the wrong mail). You may have different results based on what USPS work you get. If they are really sour, understand they are likely grasping to the very little power they have left in life. USPS is not fun and home life may not be good. In that case, I'd just be thankful to not be in their shoes and wish them a good day because it really isn't worth it. Pick your battles
It depends on the situation. In this case, it seems like what you did was ok. However, if you materially disrupt and interfere with a USPS worker, that could be considered a felony. 18 U.S. Code.
Dean Albertson Thank you for sharing that law; I didn’t know about it. I was hoping that at some point he would encourage people to show appreciation to the postal and delivery workers who have trudged through the pandemic and quarantines. The good ones deserve far more credit and gratitude (it’s possible the bad ones gave up on humanity after encountering too much entitled, dismissive treatment).
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose You are absolutely right. Showing appreciation always helps, when appropriate. Don't blow smoke of course. When they do something nice, it's good to recognize. One dropped off my packages by my door which is very far from the mail room. She probably did it because it couldn't fit in a locker but that doesn't really matter. When I bumped into her, I told here I noticed and really appreciated it
Ryan Lelek Thank you. What you did probably meant a great deal to her, since nearly everyone takes them for granted. You’re right about the appropriate manner; nobody likes smoke, um, blown, 🌬🍩 . 😏
Me Me Me. I I I. It is only your point of view that matters. So you think your job, your meeting, your day is way more important than his. Good on ya mate! What you are talking about is not asserting yourself. It is bulldozing someone into doing what "You Want", "You Need". Pushing the MAILMAN around. Yeah... that's how you "Assert Yourself". You Showed Him Alright.
It doesn't sound like a very Charismatic Approach. More like "How not to try to be Charismatic".
Seriously, unless you need your mail because of its immediate importance for your meeting or you could of just as easily picked it up on your way back from lunch, or had someone else pick it up for you. And even then you could have gone about it a different way.
Here's the thing. You have the ability to create good experiences for yourself and make someone else's day a little better just by coming in contact with you. You clearly feel good about the way you reacted to that situation but and that's why you made a video about how you handled it. What you really should be asking yourself is, "Is What I did warranted because I had made it all about me and my benefit, or did I just push someone around and made their day and their job crappier than it probably already is"?
I bet that guy walked away not thinking or feeling the best about his experience with you.
Instead of comparing any situation and your response to it from the point of view "What would happen in court"? Perhaps you could remind yourself that you are a human being and that everyone else around you is also a human being and your time is not more important than anyone else's. Regardless of what their role at work is.
From this outlook you have just shared, You are what I aspire not to be when dealing with anyone. Sure you might have been faced with your own pressures that day, but you do not know his daily pressures. Food for thought. A little mutual respect would have gone a longe way.
PS. You obviously know nothing about the law. It does not evaluate things based on logic or fairness.
I agree with you, I'd have done the same.
When are you gonna start filming or recording your actual conversations?
I'd say I got to get something for my meeting, help me out. He'd help me out definitely.
Hey Barron, I definitely think you did the right thing in that situation. I probably would have done the same thing too, depending on the Fed Ex drivers tone and attitude. It sounds like he was a little snarky with you unjustly, so I think just based on that, he loses his free pass. Now had he been totally friendly and and free of attitude, I may have been more apt to come back later. But given the time crunch you were on, you had little choice either way.
Oh, and I still think of your cake pop story years later every time I see them at Starbucks!
I have social anxiety I'd waited unfortunately. I don't leave the house much for this reason. Had it since at least middle school but didn't see a doctor till 27 or so when everything started getting really bad. Always been shy or at least what my parents said I was. It was at the point that I would have to he made to go in a restaurant and once I was in I wouldn't get up for anything. Many times I had to go to the bathroom but wouldn't get up and go by myself so I'd hold it. Many times I stayed in the car when my parents went inside to eat. School sucked because I wouldn't ask for help or ask if I had a question which effected my learning unfortunately. This literally has effected all my life in a negative way. Now 34 and still have it unfortunately and I said before I don't leave much. I seen a therapist for years but really didn't help much. Was told I have to go to Walmart by myself and go inside or ride around town by myself. Plan on getting my windows tinted as dark as I can get them since I feel like I'm being looked at when driving. I think I can get them darker then normal for medical reasons.
yeah makes sense . He had to go to and from his van to the mail boxes so when he comes back you just say like I´m mailbox number seven ; Im Mr ....Marchant , let me pick up my parcel , sign it off then you can go back to unloading the rest . ? Thanks etc .
I'm gonna help
i would have screamed at the top of lungs till my voice became shrill at him. if that didnt work i would become real nervous and huff and puff and wave my fist at him. i would then get in his face and and make fun of him and threaten him. if it still didnt work i start to cry like a baby and tell him my life story and make him feel sorry for me and beg for the package.
You reeeeeaally stretched this video longer than it should have been.
Your future child will have a greater advantage in life.
You are a super likeable guy. Would love to hang out with you!.
I would just come back later..
That was my thought also, but then he claimed he “needed it” for his “meeting.” Shrug?
Assert yourself when nessisary. This was wrong. They have a schedule and policies to prevent theft and they could get fired. You don't alpha dog everyone just because you need something. Empathy and respect is key. There's a fine line.
I would have ignored him all together jumped in and gotten my package without saying anything to him and if I am in his way he can wait.
Idk why you need to explain this to most people because I always do stuff like that. I am always assertive and when I'm told to wait I don't wait. I was told to wait by the mailman one time, I said yeah that ain't happening he looked at me with a stupid face and I got my mail and left. Simple as that. While I was leaving with my mail I passed 4 people standing there waiting. They need to watch this video.
What a badass you are, we're all impressed!
You got lucky. I'd have told him my situation and asked if I could jump in. If you did that while I was working I might have said no because you didn't ask and then you might of had a confrontation...but no big deal, it worked cause he was a chump sometimes you gotta know your man.
Wao!
I would say I will take one minute to check my box then you can resume, I need the item in there for a meeting I’m going to ...
They should have a lock mechanism so you wouldn't be able to "jump in" until they're finished... flawed design I guess
🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️MAHALO!!🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️
Ok, if you really need it _for_ the work meeting go ahead, but if it's a private delivery you are just being a self entitled-jerk. That courier is on a tight schedule and imagine if he had people trying to cut in several times at every delivery stop.
what a poor move....your not the only one to interrupt him that day....making the working mans job impossible
I don't think he's saying be a douche and interrupt people all the time but as he explained in the video he did the math and came to the conclusion that it was a less of a convenience for the postman for him to take a minute or two to grab his package which may have set him back without having it... i think its important to point out that he didnt even waste the guys time even more by trying to explain... but kept it short and simple... and at the end... the guy agreed... if he said no... and Baron still pushed on... then that would be a different conversation...
Can you do the Candace Owens & Marc Lamont Hill interview?
Oh if your wondering humans do not have a dominance structure, just personalities. Also wolves don’t either.
His job is waiting, not mine. So sorry, but he has to wait.
My words. Big man, I NEVER cut you but today I have to get my package, I have a meeting I can't be late to. Appreciate it. He says No you wait, Thanks I appreciate it and get my package. He'll get over it. I guarantee it.
Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. You can be nice about it but I would say excuse man I goota get in. Sorry
Great! Now do one about how black people should deal with bossy cops- can’t be a pushover right?
You forgot to say the magic word.
i would immediately make a rapport comment, showing him I understand how busy he is. Then I would tell him I'm about to shit my pants and can I get my package before i poop on the floor. then see how it goes from there..
it really works our for me get my ex back..
I can help you out..
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Kiss him on the neck. Tell him "no worries. You're a hero". Pat him on the butt, grab my mail and run out the door screaming "CONFIDENCE!!!"
Insist on helping him since you're in a rush
Assertively, in a calm and matter-of-fact manner, I would respond with a statement and not a question.
"I'm picking up my delivery real quick"
A statement. If the person loading the mailboxes is already running behind, their decision in response is going to be made quickly. Either choosing to relinquish access to my mailbox or to stand firm in their initial statement, that I 'must' wait, they will most likely choose the route that does not lead to a conflict. Especially if already running behind in their workday.
If I had not made a statement assertively, and had asked, "well can I just get my mail real quick?", I would've automatically handed an authoritative position to the person loading the mailboxes.
Initially I heard the person's statement, their position is now made known to me. When responding directly and assertively, I can make it apparent that I am not responding, in any way, to their statement but making my own statement of fact.
The individual may become agitated, pouty and may even make a remark under their breath, this is not important in the moment as I am getting my mail, the desired outcome.
Practice, preparedness and experiences in social situations goes a long way towards reinforcing assertiveness skillsets. It is also important to learn to keep emotions in check, reflecting the perceived emotional state of the person loading the mailboxes and reacting in kind to their emotion, instead of my goal, would probably be the most combustive situation.
Thanks for your post, they're very enjoyable, interesting and undoubtedly helps others navigate the strange waters of various interactions with other Humans. 😉
Smyd Stab Your summation is excellent.
Bethsabée Sheba Newrose, thank you, I am glad you enjoyed the read.
Imma gonna play this video out loud while watching him unload the things, it takes 6+ mins to show him respect as I waited n’ to see the result sooner or later. Acting awkwardly mimic the hey imma gonna jump in to see if he got sense of humour and idk...never tried tho.
This world is full of bullies I was raised in an orphanage on my life no I didn't I did not get bloated I took up for myself as everyone should see if people start taking up for themselves they don't have to be physical unless they just have to I never started the damn thing I would walk away if I could but if I couldn't you going to know I've been there no one will believe me no one now you can write that down for the books but I guess that's how people should view their self worth because you let them they will run over you and they will lie to you and they will do whatever they can to make you feel bad but they're the ones that's making the mistake not you you do the right thing you take care of you
My microphone messed up I was talking about people bullying other people you can read between the lines
In my opinion a real alpha will not even think if he should ask or not. He's gonna do everything is terms of his favors. Who let the dog out?
I probably would have offered to help speed him up. A 20 minute job turns into 10 minutes for both of us.
No way. He could get into a looot of trouble for that.
20 mins of your time, assuming your package will be the last one. I will just wait hopefully he puts mine next and avoid the confrontation.
I'd of told him to get the f*** out of my way...
I would do the same as you, if he said know, explain my thinking, If he still says no then start to be really annoying, Start the "I might have Covid" cough, No way will he want to work with you doing that for 20 Minutes. Might even give a good old cough as I initially walk up saves the whole discussion. Or say "I think I just saw someone get in your van"
Think you should have asked. The paramount consideration in any interaction is consent vs force, so my thinking here would be: I'll let this jerk be free, since *I, too,* want to be free.
Do we have to explain ourselves…? I have to take a package to a meeting n can’t b late? Or that’s being a pushover?
So you decided to have a packaged delivered right before a meeting and somehow this is the delivery guys fault?
The mail could have been delayed. Businesses also often plan things at the last minute. I prefer having “buffer time” myself, but sometimes this “big opportunity” (pays big) comes up and the client wants you to jump through hoops because they are paying big
Like you don't have your own extremely self-centered agenda: Me me me with the me memes. In the long run, you will have the rough seas.
if i need something quickly i dont order from amazon or anything online. problem solved. that guy is going to break your stuff next time
Guy: Wait , Not done yet
You: Ok...Can I get your help? (wait for answer)
Guy: Ok
You: Great, my issue is I need to leave in the next 2 minutes for my next appointment
and I got the message about the package for that appointment is in my box now
Can I interrupt you for few seconds and then I will get out your way and we both can continue with our business
Thank you (sir/ mam) I appreciate it
Have a great day!
👍 Good thinking, but here are some tips!
1. Try being more concise. The longer the explanation, the more it sounds like a big deal
2. Try asking in a way that requires a "No," answer. Instead of "can I interrupt you," try "Would it be asking too much to ..."
That's how I might've handled It, but Mr. Cruz had the best answer
@@jimbojackson4045 @Multimedia Guy - Both good approaches!
I think fedex forgot you were the customer and he was the service. No customer service.