“You’re DUMB” - Rude Girl Said To Me - Here's What I Said To Her
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I was out on the town, in Austin Texas when a friend of a friend said something I said was dumb.
What's the best way to handle this? Do I need to control the frame? Agree with her? Ignore her?
In this video we'll go over a common mistake I see people make and I'll tell you how and why I handled the interaction they way I did.
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5:03 "You're the good mood blimp man."
Thanks "Barron the Blimp". That made my day
Yeah, I would definitely use that opportunity to have the person explain why it was so special to them and verbally prod them to express themselves while giving them a dopamine hit with positive interactions. Love your content brother!
Life is all about cultivating happiness and calm, good advice! However people do try to crush good moods....glad you totally adressed it
The "that's kinda cheesy" line was perfect!
“Your mom thought I was pretty dope last night”
I would have said "Are you challenging to a pizza tournament?"
Are you challenging me to a dance off.? 😆
Great video as usual,Baron! Your videos are always on point ;)
No emotional reactivity is a great LIFE RULE :)
Israel-Did-9/11 Absolutely!!! Great comment
I would love to hear your take on Ivanka Trump and Jim Acosta of CNN incident?
Ha ha....it was funny. His high school days all over again.
Ivanka, pure class act
Jim Acosta?😂😂😂😂
Ivanka destroyed the human tool bag Acosta. Most of us know Jim Acosta is a cia plant. Anderson Cooper interned at the CIA as well then changed majors to journalism. Ppl need to watch the hearings from back in the day where the cia was asked if they had ppl working in media and they responded "we can answer that in a executive session" which was code for YES we sure do. Turns out they have cia ops producing movies, tv shows, all promoting a certain agenda.
Good mood blimp man!! ❤️
"May be kinda cheesy" lol
This video was very intriguing and the best part for me was when you spoke with regard to getting the people around you to associate yourself with positivity and happiness; pick your adjective.
This is something I have employed in daily interactions; furthermore, what you speak of takes a large amount of discipline and self-reflection. Personally, nothing makes my day shine more than meeting a person walking around like a human garbage truck and by the end of our brief encounter, if I can get that person smiling before they leave - this is the zenith of joy for myself; also, the potential domino effect of positivity to spread from there.
Subsequently, not receiving the negativity emitting from the individual winds up being the the test of tests.
If you can get a person to go from a melancholy, or even a general neutral mood, to smile upon merely being in your presence, then this effect has been achieved.
You will generally receive what you reflect.
I have not heard a person speak as eloquently on this subject, and I do appreciate the time you put in to help guide individuals to a better understanding of their social encounters and how to successfully navigate those little gems of time.
Peace, keep it up.
This guy is exactly right, he knows what hes talking about.👍
I feel so good forecasting most of your techniques automatically. But still, always great advice and unknown tips!
I’m a big fan of your content and it has indeed helped me in my personal life especially the videos where others attempt to put social pressure on you. The other day I was out with a group of people and this girl walked up to my friend and asked in front of everyone, “I bet a lot of girls want to have sex with you.” He responds by simply laughing it off and I was wondering what is a guy supposed to say to something like that not only to relieve the social pressure of that moment but to also leave the door open for an opportunity because this girl was clearly into him?
The bearing the blimp man! LOL! I love it. I thought you said, "Baron the Blimp." Me (to myself): "That's not his name, is it? He's not even fat."
Barron, you’re so right about the benefits of lowering the bar and just enjoying the ride. Your positive energy is contagious! But we men almost need to accept ourselves before we can reach the Advanced levels... there’s a certain kind of self acceptance that is so hard for men to find... but you sure are kicking ass in empowering men! Greetings from San Antonio! 🤓
It's easy to acquiesce in the pizza discussion because the topic doesn't matter. But when the topic does matter, and you're discussing/debating with someone with whom you disagree, then your strategy will have to change because you can't begin by conceding their point.
Brilliant stuff, Charisma M.!
"Good mood blimp man." Lol
Tastes is subjective. If you're a confident person, you really should not need affirmation that what you like is good and/or valid. If you're confident in yourself and your likes and dislikes, things like this; especially from a stranger, shouldn't shake you.
"You're wrong. That pizza place sucks!"
"Oh yeah?....What's up with your spot? Go on, convince me Pizza wizard ;) (said playfully)"
"blah blah blah..."
"Oh you're team deep dish... YOU PEOPLE I SWEAR ;) (Said playfully)"
"blah blah blah..."
"Ok, when are you taking me out to this A+ Pizza spot ;)... (Said playfully)"
... Negativity defused, and boom new friend and or date.
Flip it back on them.. So are you on commission trying to sell this pizza place to me (with a smile)
This is spot on 👌🏼
Good insights.
You are literally the first „charisma“ guy I‘ve ever seen who made me laugh and is charismatic himself. First time it actually makes sense
"When did you last eat there?" She replies a few weeks ago, then I'd say "Cool. I stopped going there a few months ago after that rodent infestation that shut them down" LOL
Nice you said almost exactly what I thought.
I don't know if you say this anywhere, but most often a lady can avoid conflict with more ease than a gentleman can.
Strange, I have really never thought about "the purpose of socialization". Sharing ideas and trying to get closer to the truth of reality, sure, but purposely trying to create a positive environment? I thought that either that happened or it didn't mostly based on things like chemistry. I never considered that I had much control over the situation. Everything kind of feels predetermined to me.
Your content is really sharp and I enjoy it. Keep going!
She didn't actually call him "dumb". So that's click bait.
Never has a pizza disagreement been so intricately analyzed.
Bird in Flight 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love your name!!!!! I can be “frozen bird” then we would need a third person to join us and name themselves “fighting bird”
So, Mr. Charisma Matrix, just curious, are you talking about Home Slice Pizza? Nice video, by the way.
Who the hell would care if someone says their favorite pizza place is the best? Butt hurt? Why? I never heard of a dopey bear.
I'm not sure where I am on that scale. If someone says they like theirs better, I'm usually be like, "ok, so you like it better". I'm not butt hurt and I have no need to convince them to like mine. (It actually annoys me if someone would do that.) Although I don't have that good mood blimp thing yet. I assume that's amateur. I'm glad I'm aware of it now though.
I've had similar disagreements happen about wataburger vs. In and out, and as a Texan, it's hard for me to back down hahaha.
I like to reply with "well, everyone is entitled to their own opinion......
Even if it's wrong :)"
It usually gets a laugh
Really good
Good job Big Red
What if the guy is passive aggressive
naveen naveen In my humble opinion you remain strong and professional in that scenario. If he was actually aggressive is when you make a move. Passive aggressive just means he’s a chicken to be active aggressive.
What if a bunch of people adds up with this guy in same situation as him along him.
I never argue over opinions..cuz mine is always right
Imagine a bear on a blimp. Lol🤣🤣
I would straight up call the guy out on it. "There you go, keep elevating yourself to get laid. " Then ask the girl why that's her favorite pizza before he has a chance to respond
This video was so awesome! 😂
I don’t know. I’d rather agree with her and say, “You’re right. That IS the best pizza joint. You know the 2nd best pizza joint in the world, This place!
Pizza Art in Burnaby BC!.... crust made with naan bread you wont be disapointed =)
All that matters to girls is building up and adding to the fun. Challenging or commanding girls also works.
I use tonality all the time. Humor can deflect a lot.
You look in good shape
You became pure marking...
relationship over.
So we all should manipulate people just for the sake of love?
I would bring down the volume just a bit or my phone is waaaayy to loud.
I really like your videos- this one just seems a little loud and aggressive for a date.
If I've tried the pizza already and I still think mines better I might poke at them and say like "naw your taste buds are messed up" more just to mess with them cuz I'm not really picky about pizza anyway.
Me: Barron
Barron: Barron the blimp
Me: Barron the blimp
Ppl say stuff like that all the time, it’s no big deal....I wouldn’t have a second thought about someone saying that...she was probably trying to flirt with you.
Ginger teddy bear 🧸
I would just ignore someone who said this...
And I bet you're talkin bout via 313 pizza... shit is good
👍🏽
Also if you're in Austin let's fuckin go out man! Promise we'll show you a great night as long as you don't mind having the time of your life... We'll be out all weekend starting tonight
I love you buddy. Love all your insights and content. In no way am I disagreeing with how you chose to approach this scenario, tho, I might react a lil differently, myself. If I really believed that my pizza place was the best, then I may have playful argued how she doesn't know pizza if she doesn't love my pizza place. Smiling the whole time, explaining all of the unique distinguishing features and flavors that stand out. I wouldn't be doing it with an intent to maintain the dominant frame, I'd just be doing it bcuz I'm being playful and I truly believe that it's the best pizza. I'd be playfully challenging her to a dual bcuz she challenged me. Whoever has the stronger belief and makes the stronger case wins. Tho, I'd naturally pull back if I could see that she was taking it differently and wasn't playing along with me.
Long time subscriber, btw. Thanks for the great advice through the years.
I have a feeling that you are not wearing pants....
aphiwe mndela LOLOL
And what about a situation when the attack is not against the object (or person) of your devotion (like the pizza), but against you (your knowledge/integrity).
Example of what once happened to me:
-A (me) talking to B: I don’t think singer “X” has any talent, he simply has the charm of youth
-C butting in A-B’s conversation: oh yeah? How well do you sing? Have you had any music education? What do you know about singing or playing an instrument? Do you have the years of training he has? And blah, blah, blah....
A (thinking to myself): you little C*nt, you don’t even know me or my past, you could be talking to a music professor and not even know it...
but of course I didn’t say anything because everything I was thinking was simply too logic
because it was reality to begin with, but I was so surprised at and annoyed with her reaction that if I said anything it was going to show I gave too much importance to the inappropriateness of her comment. So, how should I have handled it? I went back to talking to B, but I still don’t think I handled that situation the right way because I believe the frustration still showed on my face.
You could looked at her, acknolowdge her comment from The side over your shoulder with an fake smile or real, like she is a cute Child then turn your full body to your friend. Or you could reply with an question back - why did that upset or annoy you? Anything throwing it back to her (its her issue, not about you)
You need to develop your emotionell intellegence from what you discribed in your story :)
Anti dote oh wow!!! Thank you! Doing that would have been superb! I wish I had thought of that on the spot. I’ll remember what you said, though; hopefully I won’t have to apply it, but I know a similar situation will pop up again simply because that’s life. Your second point is absolutely true, and trust me, I’m working on that... more like struggling as I work on it! Anyway, Thanks for your words!
@@alphanotmale1847 From a psycology perspective you will encounter that again beacuse when you learn to respond like that it become a part of your attitude and people wont cross you like that less later.. or you will be happy that it cross you beacuse you know how to make the situation to your favour
Anti dote exactly!
What!? Theres another pizza place in Austin? Lets try that then!
Don C wait up! I wanna jump on this blimp
👍
I would tell her to buy me a slice and I’ll make that determination
Logic doesn't matter aaaand now I know nothing
The pizza place is Fricanos in holland michigan..best pizza
I misinterpret: "Thanks!"
"oh cool!"
I like that one.
All i have to say is ny pizza in naples is the best pizza
But don't you worry about those Fokkers coming down on you shooting your blimp? You should always lower the blimp when enemies are near by!
What is the pizza place in Austin was it on east side
Via 313
Where did Barron go? He hasn't made a video in a long time.
So what did he say?
find david sasina on youtube he has a message for you all.
Kids pretend to play scenario all the time
Me: best pizza really? This is my proposal, we will go next week and try both pizzas. After you made your mind, the other week, you will try my napolitan pizza at home with my log oven that can reach 600 Celsius. You will instantly fall in love...With the pizza I mean.. (just to clarify)
Of course, the not so hot girl who happens to have a crash on you immediately says :yeah let's all try your pizza, and you end up cooking for 20 people and your house is a mess...
you look hot without the beard!
This guy thinks way to much. It's just a damn pizza.
Is your knowledge a tool for understanding people? Or is it to be in a constant defensive behavior?
Okay Baron thank s for info but i would also like to know when someone calls you: you are idiot. Thats kindo of a click bait cus there isnt a real insult going. You try to teach subtle little things before you teach important big things like how to deal with real insults, etc.
"That's cheezy" no pun was probably intended but that made me laugh. You said that in the video.
Idea is in point but your examples were cheesy. Ahhhhhh
You’re not showing up on my feed anymore. Your name isn’t auto filling either, just FYI
I have to say it now... Your neck beard line is too low!
I'm finishing the video now that I've said it haha
Can't unsee now
Slightly. But well trimmed
That's actually where it should be, but he should grow it out to a couple inches.
@@stephenshelton4267 I was thinking of the side of the neck line, it's a bit too low, it should follow his jaw line.
yeah the side is just a tad too low
Say, “didn’t ask, plus you’re female”
Clark Whitefield 😂😂😂
Yikesss
😂
Frame control 101: When she tries to place you in a frame that sets you in a negative light, don’t take it seriously. Respond to it playfully.
Man, is it color correction stuff or you spent several hours in a pool before shooting this video so your lips become that blue?