9 Dating Tips I Wish I’d Known Sooner
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Don't date anyone you wouldn't hire as an employee. And don't have babies with anyone who you wouldn't trust to raise the children without you. 👈
Great advice❤ really simple but effective
Another tip: Check out the family. People have no idea that when they marry someone, they marry the whole dysfunctional family.
Is this comment a joke? Whom among us wants a spouse to be comparable to an employee?! Give me a break...marriage and relationships are nothing like that...at all, not even a little. Holy hell. I wish you well, but please know your perspective is on the extreme end of the spectrum. Honesty, I wish you the best and hope you succeed in life. Be generous to your partner, we all fight through it together.
Don't sleep with someone you're not prepared to have a child with.
Yes I'm advocating waiting months, if not years. Stop bringing children into the world that won't have a loving mother and father househould. The older I get the more I realise the only true privilege in life is growing up in a loving enviroment.
@@LGHTSPD675 Trustworthiness is the most-important thing in any relationship. If you don't understand that, you will have a lot of pain in your life. Good luck.
I heard advice from an old person once, she said don't just ask if you are attracted to someone or love them, ask "does my heart feel safe with this person?" that really resonated
Life and success is never safe. Risk is inevitable.
@@martynobs6970 The worse your intuition is, the more likely it will be risk. I can not recall ever really being wrong about people opon first impression
I fell for someone like this. He also fell for me. But he already has a a long-term girlfriend so no happy ending for us. We can't even be friends. It hurts, honestly. Reality sucks.
My dating tip: *Do NOT move in together* unless it's end game!
You gotta ask yourself, "Do I still want to be with this person in ten years?" If the answer is, "I have no idea" or "Actually... probably not." Then do NOT move in together!
And ladies, he also needs to be answering yes to that question! We can convince ourselves that he will want to commit to eventually, but men are either in or out. They either want to wife you up, or they're just using you as their bed companion while they "figure themselves out." There's really very little in between on that.
Sleeping with someone already forms a soul tie, and honestly, it's best saved for marriage. Moving in together forms additional ties, so if they're not the one you'll probably stay in that relationship for too long because of the logistocs of hacing to find a new place (possibly wasting YEARS of your life) and it will take very long to get over it because you were living in a quasi-marriage situation so breaking up becomes almost as rough as a divorce. Do NOT move in together until its end game!!
Great advice.
From my experience - this is solid advice. I know because I haven't followed it. I've gotten away with it for the most part but we all know (multiple) who are living horror stories because they didn't get away with it.
Well said!
I have a 26 year old niece living with a guy in the state where she and he grew up and his career is such that he is never moving (insurance and investment sales), and she has been living with him for 2 years and is always talking about moving elsewhere to 'check somewhere else out'. She obviously has no plans to stay with him and I know this because I talk to her sister all the time so she knows what this niece says. It blows my mind how selfish people are and he is very supportive and tolerant of her as she is very shallow and brings little to the table except her looks. She is my niece! Ugh!
Try deciding going celibate for a year. If it brings you closer than ever then that’s a special and different breed of relationship ❤❤❤ strangely we’re even more in love than ever
1. Health
2. Money
3. Education
4. Practice Boundaries
5. Write down the qualities of your desirable partner.
6. Listen to your Intuition
7. Don't sleep around
8. Places to look for partner ex: Church
9. Improve yourself
10. You can always divorce
@@jutublizardBest tip
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10 Remember that we’re a grandchildren optimising species. We don’t just choose the parents we want for our children or who our children is going to be, but also the morals and standards our children is going to bring to their children.
Im a Christian, and I'm sorry, I don't agree with looking for neither a husband nor a wife in a church. They just don't fabricate spouses like before anymore.
Great advice! Agree with everything except the Christian men part! As a Christian woman I am ashamed to say but many pretend to be good guys then try to take advantage. So go to church, but also sports leagues, meetups, other groups and practice discernment. Don’t trust men from the church any more than other men, vet everyone and practice strong boundaries and discernment.
100%
@@mikhailayep and policeman!
Wolves often sneak into environments rich with naive prey.
Being Christian definitely involves that discernment-
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Never settle for a ho-hum relationship.
Find someone who is absolutely crazy about you and that alone will completely eliminate a whole host of other issues and insure bliss.
But what if they are crazy about you but you are not about them? Is it worth the risk of not finding that again?
They are saved for a drunken night
@@r4lfxd
If they’re not good enough for your daughter “Hypothetically” then they’re not good enough for you
Make friends with them first. Don’t date someone you don’t actually enjoy spending time with
How the hell should that work?
I either meet a Woman and its kind clear we are not going to be just friends.
I met my husband almost 8 years ago. On our first date, I felt like I met my best friend. We talked for hours and I just felt the most genuine connection. I also felt he was an honest man. We have 4 kids and he’s the best father. I didn’t get one bad vibe from him. ❤
@@faithbasedliving9391That’s awesome. I hope that happens for me someday 😌🙏
Educate yourself on the dark triad personality traits, spot the red flags early on and work on your own baggage.
Learn how to stand on your own two feet. Partners and friends come and go and sadly your family wont be around forever but the constant is you.
Great point my friend 😊
Looking more attractive is truly a great dating advice that you won't hear most people give on the internet.
Yeah, looks are not the end all-be all but it IS something.
Rich advice from a plastic surgery addict.
Even her fellow conservative commentator, the beautiful Lauren Chen, made a video about the importance of attracting the male gaze, @@2001bop .
And she never had plastic surgery. (At least none that is obvious or she admits to).
Blackpill is real
"The bar has never been set so low to be wanted." I feel attacked and encouraged at the same time lol
Same😂but I think she meant it in an encouraging” you can do it😼” typa way
Thank you for aiming me toward Carnivore...it has practically been a miracle for my health and well-being
The worst thing about doing carnivore is people around you telling you it's not healthy 😂. Either doctors, colleagues, dietists, coaches... Rarely people understand what exactly this is about. I can tell you the same. Been doing it for over 7 months now and it's life changing!
7 years and getting better every year!
Yall carnivore is really bad for your health the meat is very inflammatory and the fats highly toxic you'll find thus out in time sadly..
@@terraflow__bryanburdo4547 7 years is really impressive! How has it been for you? Any disadvantages? How's your calcium levels? What kind of carnivore diet are you doing?
She’s really got me considering doing it I’m chronically ill and I haven’t been able to find a solution. I’m just coming off being vegan for four years. That did nothing.
"The bar has never been so low to be wanted" LOL! HARD TRUTH
Dont know about that. Money is what people want these days, i think thats the biggest problem for most men, hence low self esteem and all the problems that come from this. p/s sorry for my english.
If I made myself as attractive as possible I’d be rollin in it
Idk if its where I live. But I'm and great shape and it really does seem to help all that much. I feel overqualified for literally every woman I match with on apps
True for women. For men, it's never been so high. Hypergamy + internet equals woman funnelling themselves into the same man. It's just nature on steroids, but it sucks for most men.
That line was chuckle worthy! 😂
The hard part is that once you've achieved many things in life and are genuinely happy with yourself, the drive to pursue a romantic partner diminishes. At least, that's where I am right now. It's been challenging to find the motivation to seek a relationship, and even what you find attractive in a partner changes.
Exactly where I’m at too
I would say this is a phase/chapter for many people, rather than a consequence of achieving things and being happy on your own. I’m here too. But over time, natural healthy desires for partnership can arise. I’m feeling this slowly develop. But yeah, there’s certainly not the desperate urgency to find someone anymore. Thank God!
@@jennypiLet’s find out where it leads
@@khyaamhaqueYes, let’s. "The whole is more than the sum of its parts."
I'm in a similar boat: I'm almost 40 and divorced with two kids, and I've realized that I've gotten much, much pickier, and I want much more specific things. She would need to be a good mother, most of all, and physical attraction is almost of no concern.
Also, "find someone to make you a Christian"? No freaking thank you, I'd like to stay sane and good.
It's amazing that her first tips are for you to first take care of yourself (health, money, safety) and only then go out and look for someone.
Gotta bring something to the table.
Being broke/sick/ugly is a poor starting point
Men- “It doesn’t matter what you look like as a dude… Get fit, women will want you.”
I mean short form version and not 100% accurate but pretty accurate
Just get rich instead 😂
To put it in numbers… If you look like you care for yourself, you can definitely go from a 4 to a decent 7 or even 8.
When I’m in a bad time and place, I look worse. Girls look at me and look away.
But when I shave every day, put on some new shirt instead of the 5y old one.. I get a whole lot more looks, smiles and talks with randoms. Easy equation, really. Don’t lie to yourself.
I have seen men with pretty bad looks, like actually poor hygiene and grooming and bad looking clothes, get girls. It really hasn't ever matter what dudes look like, the bar is so low
@@trishakhalid891 That better include a big cash flow because if you're just wealthy, you won't be after you're drained dry in a couple years.
"For guys, it doesn't matter what you look like. Hit the gym. Get fit. Get muscular. Girls will want you." Huh??? Also, don't go to church to meet guys. Some of the craziest dudes I've met have been active church goers.
This.
If you are a fit guy it can make up for a lot of less desirable traits like baldness, short stature, lack of handsomeness. That’s what she means.
Good advice. Thanks!
You mentioned you'd do a video at some point about surgeries and beauty procedures/tips you've done for yourself ; would be interesting to see that!
I agree! Especially with this botox between the eyebrows. I have this mark from focusing and thinking too much. You Mikhaila did this and you look so light and you said as well that you are less prone to worry. I would like to do the same appointment and inject botox to see and experience the results myself.
100%!! I’m not putting it off I’ve just been swamped - aiming for mid July
@@mikhaila I would appreciate if You would elaborate more about this exact procedure benefits you noticed :)
@@mikhaila cool, looking forward to it!
Women do not need to wear makeup to get a date. There's men who don't like makeup and women who apply it so poorly it makes them less attractive. It comes down to personal preference.
5. A long time ago I heard about studies that looked at peoples lists of the mate they were looking for. They often end up with people NOT like the list they had. Would have been nice to see stats on how long they stay together compared to how well they matched their list.
Don’t date anyone who drinks every day even a glass of wine, it typically leads into more drinking
That was fab advice ❤
I'm all for discussing the things that are really important to you very, very early on. That way you get rid of anyone who is not serious, and talking about the deal breakers before you're fully invested ❤
Good advice! Could be life saving for some.
More so than going to the gym I would say find an activity that you love! It will make you look great with time but gym muscles sometimes are a big no for me...
I do disagree on one thing though - the idea of going to church to find a spouse when you're not a christian. I would always encourage people to go to church, that's great! As a christian though, a christian who does reflect those morals wouldn't look for a non-christian to marry because the most important thing... Christ!
Marry who you fall in love with, we are called to live in peace and don’t be unequally yolked with unbelievers, yes;do you know who you fall in love with no, does the Word describe that this will happen and that marriage will bring extra troubles already, yes; the Bible would even go as far as to describe how we shouldn’t buy as if we own anymore because the things as they are are falling away already;
but yeah the grass is always greener on the other side lol; in a perfect world everything would be perfect
An atheist met a Christian and they became friends, the friendship turned into a special bond because the atheist saw what God’s love is all about because of their friend who loved as Jesus loved. The atheist wanted to know more about God and more about Jesus and so there began a journey of learning and a bond that last eternity because once an atheist became a believer.
It all started with looking for a partner in life, because someone took a chance and said, Although I am an atheist, I want to go to church to find a good and loving, kind person… I say it’s one of the best advice that has ever been spoken about where to find a spouse. I love her. She is amazing and sweet.
It started before that, learning about Jesus, @@lizaj3339
Loved it! Short and to the point.
Tip no 10 - you'll only find someone by accident. It doesn't matter what you do or where you'll go. So it's not worth to put any effort or attention to it at all.
Tip no 11 - never listen to married people. They have no clue how they got "lucky"
Be the person people want to be with. First step.
Well I've got multiple qualities that women should find attractive.
But I live in the McSuburbs. There's no girls here, it's all gray heads & families with young kids.
Basically the advice we’ve given our kids. I wrote a list of what I was wanting/praying for in a husband…25+ years married and 5 kids later…yes, God answers prayer! ☝️🙌💗
Great advice! Thank you
Loose the make up. Most guys don't like it especially if overdone
Oh the amount of time guys were unhappy with me on the one day I didn't wear my makeup.
Why then do I always get rejected by girls that wear no make-up, but why do I attract the make-up and tatted girls, the girls that I don’t want, because I find them unstable for a relationship. I don’t even like them and try to ignore them
Yes, if overdone but guys do like a made-up girl.
That was well said thx for the vid
Great advice!
"the bar has never been so low to be wanted" so true lol
I’m a woman who definitely wants a man to put effort in their appearance. This is subjective but women not caring about looks is cap! We care!
Thanks for the advice Mikayla best advice
Mikhaila, this is not related to dating, but related to meat eating, I read in the philosophy book "The Will to Power" by Nietzsche that a meat oriented diet is one of the best medicines against modern ideas, against pessimism, nihilism, and the hedonist culture. He also says that eating meat is better than a diet based on grains, on Thus Spoke Zarathustra
Whow, thanks for this information
Great video!!! please more of this
“The bar has never been so low to be wanted” 😂
Great tips!! Thanks for making this video 😊
This is so great! Thank you so much! Greetings from Mexico 💚 "listen to your intuition" I need to remember this!
Very good list!
Great advice, Mikhaila! Guidelines that everyone should follow!
Great list mikhaila!!
Thank you for this ❤
Girl you're so real for this. Thank you!
Figure your values/dealbreakers too! Saves a lot of time/energy/heartbreak!
Good advice, can't disagree with any really. Especially trust your instincts, if you get a weird or bad vibe, leave, Now!
Writing down what you want is a good tip. However, there is a next step. What does the man you described want in a woman?
Heres the dating tip I wish I had in my 20s.
1.) Dont.
🙄 I mean I do wish I hadn’t dated certain people. But it also led me to learn invaluable information about relationships and myself. I find it hard to believe choosing to not date at all would’ve put me/most others in a better position on a personal level and with relationship skills.
Bingo lol
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Well, no woman wants a guy who throws a pity party for himself.
You are 100% correct if you aren't healthy that says a lot about your self worth.
yes yes I agree you gotta be able to take care of yourself being healthy, fresh and clean from inside out really helps... some of these comments are hilarious though 😹
The perfect woman doesn't exi...
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This is true.
I really need to know Mikhalia's workout routine. She is slender and toned, and looking fire
Eat meat and sleep well is the most important.
It’s crazy but it’s 100% the lion diet. I just started doing some light workouts in the last few months but it’s really diet
Her botox game is craaaazy
I NEED to know what brand top you have. That's super cute!
Very helpful advice. God bless you and your family! I’m thinking about going to church for the first time in my life (besides the occasional Christmas and Easter with family in the past). I wasn’t raised religious but it’s becoming clearer how important this Christian foundation is for me personally and in a relationship. I am so grateful to have this understanding now and to move forward with Christ.
"Christian men, they've got good moral." Excuse me? I once was close with a Christian (Protestant) guy that seemed to be pretty devout. He talked about God and Christianity and all that, and kept using his religion as an excuse to not commit-even though he was the one who took interest in me. I came from a different religious family background, and I am not religious myself, and he knew that from the start and he was the one who made all the first moves, just to eventually back off by saying, "We have different religion." It was also quite hypocritical of him to keep using religion as his shield when, in fact, he had done sexual activities-which he was the first one to initiate doing so-with me (which I'm sure Christian must be also strict when it comes to adultery).
Making out right after church, excessive masturbation, talking about Christianity, and using his religion as his excuse not to commit? Oh, come on. You've got to be kidding me.
'The bar has never been so low to be wanted' lol so sad yet so true
Your parents have done a hell of a job!
Your workout and diet are obviously working. It's very apparent.
"The bar has never been so low to be wanted." LOL this is what I love about Mikhaila. She says hard hitting truths that no one is willing to say, and while some people sensitive people might think it's too much, you can tell she means well.
My advice to go on lots of dates from online. You learn quickly what you like/don’t like, how to small talk, and that genuine connection is more important than looks.
"Gross on a soul level" is a new expression that fits perfectly
I love how realistic this is!!
Well done
Hair on point :)
❤ I keep falling in love with this woman more and more! ... Lol... seriously though...she has great advice here!
I would say for the fit aspect… I don’t think it’s the physical appearance as much but it shows that you can be committed to something even if it’s hard. Your able to commit to a workout routine that some days are difficult but you still try
I love you Mikhaila
Been waiting!
Bravo!
Great message. Apologies for referencing your pops in the crude vernacular of "a famous Canuck" who spoke the loudest on my behalf (stage craft or not) for the layman discretionary purposes.
I saw many men and women go to church specifically to get married ...but that's kind of dishonest
I so wish I’d had this type of information when I was young
Love you Mik ❤
Hey Mikhaila
Just seen an episode of Jordan. 👍
All of these are pretty good. Except #8, stay away from churches or any other religious entities! And cops/ military men, too! The horror stories I could tell you all. Be safe out there ladies!
I've visited multiple churches recently & didn't see any girls I wanted to hit on. It's all gray haired people & families with young kids.
Agreed, people like you have nothing to offer
WAITING
I’m Hindu, I won’t be going to a church looking for people to marry, but I do appreciate Christian values.
Mikhaila, was that Alexander Skaarsgard with you in the pick for the video?
This actually all one needs
Number 6 is so true in my experience 😂
Here’s my tip: DON’T DATE
It’s a big waste of time, energy, and money.
Live alone rest of your life then? Thats boring
That's what guys usually say to discourage other dudes from getting out there, these dudes don't like competition
As Morgan Freeman once said, "Don't Chase women, they'll chase you." I guess this can go both ways as long as you make yourself desirable.
Thank you Mikhaila for giving us just the tip. I wish I could do the same for you.
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At 2:26. Any decent man wants a woman with a low body count.
Yo, I went broke as hell but I did carnivore for 2 or 3 days and my gi problems I'd been having daily for nearly 5 years.... RESOLVED... I'm in minor discomfort... this diet is the realest and I thank you forever
Diet, exercise and sleep help to keep our minds healthy to love better.
Contraceptive pill make us crazy (from Mikhaila past podcasts)
If the peterson academy had a dating app 🎉
Healing yourself from the past is important before you start dating again
If that were the case we'd be extinct because nobody is truly healed.
There's the saying we don't get over the pain, we just get used to it.
for me, what was discussed in this video are essential things of life, normal, but it seems that it has reached such a destructive point that normal things seem to some or most people to be out of the ordinary..
You're almost there, it's close. You said "fix your diet first". This is an act of self-love. What you meant to say was, 'search for a relationship, when your glass is all full, so that you aren't a co-dependent half-full pair of glasses trying to come together which often ends in disaster.
Tip 1: Be really really really ridiculously good looking 😂
You could look like Adam from Ragnarok but if you don't have millions of dollars, no girl wants to touch you with a 10 foot pole.
The way the world is today, I would say the most important thing to look for is someone of strong character who will RESPECT you. If you find a person that actually listens to you, does what they say they will do, can admit when they are wrong in an argument, communicates well, asks you about your day, and genuinely cares about your well-being... that is GOLD. We all want the head-over-heels thing but that is as rare as finding Unicorn today. Also, 'head over heels' without RESPECT doesn't mean anything
Number one mistake I made in my younger life is dating guy I thought were into me as much as I was into them and giving myself up to them only to be rejected later. If you like someone dont give yourself away. You might have whole world of feelings for them but it may not be mutual. I projected my own feelings onto the guys a lot. Since I liked some of them a lot I thought they liked me just as much. But most the guys I was with they treated me very nicely. So thats one thing I do like that I didnt date an asshole. I had one abusive ex but the rest were good bf material but just not for me
i go insane when i dont sleep
Everyone does. The difference is... They dont realize that they are
“The bar has never been so low to be wanted.” I’m gonna use that 😊👍🏻 but I’ll let the peeps know you are the owner🎈
I use no make up and don’t miss it. I don’t agree with the make up part.